Truth – Expressing in Full

Recently I had the opportunity to feel what it is like to not fully express my truth. I was in a situation where I had said part of what I felt to say, but I held back on what was there to be said in full. I held back because I was worried about how the other person might respond.

I thought it was my responsibility to not say too much, so the other person did not feel awkward about what was there to be said.

In holding back my full truth, I experienced a large amount of internal tension, confusion, a loss of confidence, and a feeling of frustration and anxiety. A lot of thoughts came up about what was right and wrong, such as:

  • Maybe what I have to say will upset the other person.
  • It may be confronting.
  • Is it my place to say anything?

In all of this I realised that the other person missed out on hearing my expression in full and instead got a watered down version of what I thought was best to say. So in the end we both missed out.

I missed out on expressing what was there to be shared and the insight this sharing could have brought us both. We both also missed out on the intimacy and fragility that arises between two people when they express their truth in full.

Is it possible that by holding back my expression, the other person then missed out on having the opportunity to connect to, and express in full what they felt to share?

I now have the understanding that it is so important to express in full so we can start the process of coming to a common understanding of the truth together, even if this may create some discomfort.

Although I know the truth, I have sometimes chosen to ignore it, or reacted when someone has exposed it to me. I now know, Truth is the same as Love. If I do not express in full, then the truth is I am not being loving with myself or another, and there is no sense in that.

In my experience, devastation comes from withholding the truth, no matter how innocent and well meaning it may be at the time.

I remember as a young child I was deeply hurt when I found out Santa Claus was not true. I felt that every adult in the world had lied to me; this made it hard for me to fully trust adults and what they told me

When not telling the truth there can appear to be a short term gain, such as not creating upset, which allows a more comforting scenario to play out – letting myself be liked rather than being the apparent bringer of upsetting news. The reason that short term gain is so short-lived is that the truth is always deeply felt, even if not consciously known.

I have come to a greater understanding of Love, truth and expression through the teachings of The Ageless Wisdom and The Hierarchy presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. These teachings have inspired much grace and beauty in my life.

 By Toni Steenson, Goonellabah, Australia

Further Reading:
Learning to Express Our Feelings – Part 1
Finding My voice Again
What happens When We Do Not Speak Up?

1,226 thoughts on “Truth – Expressing in Full

  1. When we are afraid of expressing our truth because we are afraid of the consequences, wait and see what the consequences will be when you don’t express. Short time on your body as this beautiful shows, but also long term, perhaps even years down the line. Just honestly observe these consequences, and ask again: “Is it worth to not express and hold back truth?”

  2. What I truly appreciate is how much we are able to express when we allow to drop any barrier and dare to go there and be raw and honest saying exactly what is there to share. I find it very strenghtning once you start doing so, it becomes your new marking point ( a point where you can come back to you, and after becomes your foundation). I big joy expressing is. And it enriches all of your relationships too !

  3. “I now know, Truth is the same as Love. If I do not express in full, then the truth is I am not being loving with myself or another, and there is no sense in that.” If one acknowledges and accepts this then expressing in full is easier because who does not want to be loving?

  4. “Truth is the same as Love” – absolutely, and one cannot happen without the other. ‘Truth’ cannot be heard when expressed without Love, only the imposition of righteousness gets felt. ‘Love’ without Truth stinks of the shallowness of falsity.

  5. This is a theme I seem to keep coming back to, and what I am getting now is that there still is this element of trying of getting my expression right, constant unconscious censoring of what I think I should say, to whom, when, how etc. But there are moments when expression just happens, and that’s really beautiful. Maybe if it is truly about love, and that is truly where I am at, the body is left to move without any interference, and what I would express is not for me to own, and how and when that happens is not for me to decide or control.

  6. true inspiration comes from feeling truth – than living it makes the love be felt and possible for others to live too. It is implementing that which is your felt inspiration.

  7. Thank you Toni.
    Reminding us again with the following quote; ‘In my experience, devastation comes from withholding the truth, no matter how innocent and well meaning it may be at the time.’
    How come we go and live in this way?

  8. We have accepted to live way beyond the truth we know deep inside, in other words we have accepted to live in constant disguises instead of the simplicity of our own being.

  9. When we express the truth we feel in full with each other we are saying ‘yes’ to deepening our relationship with love, that which we all deserve to be met with. Truth is not ours but for all to feel and know. When we know and feel it, it is our responsibility and far more honoring to reflect this in full regardless of the what the outcome might be.

  10. Just exactly what do we support when we don’t speak our truth? Could it be the lies, deceit, fake-ness and the multitude of empty so called connections we have in our life?

    1. Absolutely it does Leigh. When we hold back expressing truth we give permission for the momentum of lies to continue to circulate and be further embedded as ‘normal’.

  11. There is true grace in speaking our truth, for as others have done for us, we can do for another. Such openness provides a space for us all to simply be ourselves.

  12. ‘Is it possible that by holding back my expression, the other person then missed out on having the opportunity to connect to, and express in full what they felt to share?’ Yes absolutely Toni, when we hold back our expression nobody wins, therefore missing the opportunity to deepen their awareness and to evolve.

  13. When we only partially say what has to be said those listening can only get a partial understanding of what needs to be shared or learned.

  14. Re learning that true love is expressing all of you in full no matter what may comes back at you, or no matter what anther may feel is a massive claiming in one’s evolution. One claiming that I am continuously working on.

  15. “We both also missed out on the intimacy and fragility that arises between two people when they express their truth in full.” When we play nice we miss out on so much, when speaking our truth with honesty we offer each other a true relationship where we each are free to be and express from who we are.

  16. It’s almost like being bullied by the potential reaction or resistance that we can feel from another if we did speak up in full. I can remember putting this out to people, but secretly wanting them to call me out or share what I could feel they wanted to. Yes I have reacted and yes others do react but it is not up to us to hold back as it may be just confirming what they have also been denying is true deep down.

  17. The more I have expressed my truth, the more I become solid in expressing my truth, and the more I start to see and feel the benefit for all involved when truth is expressed.

  18. Thank you Toni, it’s an important topic because we are so strongly socialised to be polite, to not unsettle or disturb, and to “keep the peace”, when in actual fact we all deeply need the truth. I know for me when I don’t share the truth it stays inside me and the energy of that expression can go around and around in me because it hasn’t found its rightful exit – i.e. to be ex-pressed to another.

  19. This blog is music to my heart. “Truth is the same as Love”. I know this through and through, and on reflection I also know that all the times when I have thought people were not ready to hear the truth was because it was not delivered with love. Which means even if all the words were said, it was never the whole truth.

  20. “I now know, Truth is the same as Love.” When we hold back from expressing truth in full we invite misunderstanding and misinterpretation to creep in.

  21. It is fascinating to observe how an unspoken truth leads to a very known pattern of behavior that tries to cover up the incredible tension that we feel in the body. Over time we build more ways to avoid being fooled by ourselves.

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