No Doubt

Sometimes I am aware of how much I doubt myself. It is definitely not there all the time, but then something happens and it is like a tsunami of doubt enters my mind. I start to doubt my decisions, my choices and second-guess everything I have done. As it sounds, it is actually very exhausting!

So I ask myself, why do I doubt me? Why has this doubt been allowed to enter?

Well, the first answer that rushes in is that “You weren’t being present, so you made that choice without really feeling what was needed.” This answer can sometimes take me to the doldrums of guilt and self-abuse. Yep, this just compounds the problem, making me feel even worse and more exhausted!

Then enters the voice of reason that makes a story out of anything and everything. This includes lots of complicated excuses and justifications to sort out the problem that was seemingly created, although it wasn’t really a problem in the first place. Phew, yep, still exhausted.

By this point, I am so tired and actually wondering what happened to me. This is the aftermath of the tsunami of doubt.

Then I remember to take a moment to stop, feel my body, feel my breath and most importantly, appreciate how amazingly beautiful I am. It helps if I am in front of the mirror because I can actually take a moment to look at myself and appreciate the sparkle in my eyes and see the beauty that I am feeling.

If I get stuck on the fact that I made a ‘wrong choice’, I am taken out by the tsunami. But when I accept that each choice provides me with an opportunity for learning and developing then I can feel a deeper acceptance of myself. I am not perfect and making mistakes is a part of that, in that each mistake is an opportunity for learning.

Moreover, one person’s weaknesses are another’s strengths, so together we are each an important piece of the whole of humanity and if we appreciate each other we can work together in brotherhood without judgment or criticism.

I may do and say things that feel yucky sometimes, but all I have to do is feel without judgment how each choice affects my body and not go into the story of feeling bad or guilty about having made that choice.

I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.

By deeply appreciating who I am and the fact that all that I am blessed with in life is the result of my choices, I realise there is nothing to doubt and nothing to give myself a hard time about. There is just more to celebrate.

In celebration of the loving choices I have made and continue to make to my way of Livingness through the inspiration of the work of Serge Benhayon.

By Simone Lewis, BSc BTeach

Further Reading:
Who I Really Am
Who Am I?

1,015 thoughts on “No Doubt

  1. Without ‘doubt’ we are left to feel the magnitude of who we are and thus the responsibility that comes with reflecting this to the world so that all others know they are also of this truth and beauty.

    1. Which is why ‘doubt’ becomes the sneaky friend really – it’s a sure get-out clause from accepting this responsibility. That’s the vested interest in belittling ourselves and others – as uncomfortable and awful that this is, it’s a deliberate go-to pattern to not bring the magnificence we truly are to the world at large consistently, in the knowing that the world needs this reflection to remember they are this as well.

  2. When we change our movement, doubt can come in and try to undermine us. When we stay in the movement of appreciation and the knowing that we all make mistakes and that they are there to learn from, then doubt has no chance.

    1. I had a moment this week where I moved in a way that was less and didn’t listen to what I really felt to do, what ensued then was a barrage of any thing and every thing that supported the less and tried to keep it that way. That is when I stopped and went this is not real and I could see that I wasn’t appreciating myself.

  3. There is a new tool in my toolbox which is called surrender. In the face of whatever life throws at me, and whatever doubts I have about a way forward, I know that surrender is needed, and through that willingness I know there is a bigger plan, and it will show itself.

  4. It was great to read this blog, perfect timing. Having made some choices I was going in to a little self doubt. But by reading this, I have come back to my body and appreciated the beauty that I am and connected back to my breath. Knowing that every choice is an opportunity and learning.

  5. “So I ask myself, why do I doubt me? Why has this doubt been allowed to enter? Well, the first answer that rushes in is that “You weren’t being present, so you made that choice without really feeling what was needed.” ” This is so spot on, when we make a choice in a rush without feeling and connecting to our body, we are going to make choices where the foundation is not solid. I have experienced this many times in the past.

  6. For every piece we let go of more space of who we are returns (we become free of the ill-ward-ways and thoughts we once had created).. So step by step we make more way to whole-way return to the grandness of who we are.. A source of energy truly.

  7. Absolutely, appreciation is such an amazing tool to bring into our lives, ‘By deeply appreciating who I am and the fact that all that I am blessed with in life is the result of my choices, I realise there is nothing to doubt and nothing to give myself a hard time about. There is just more to celebrate.’

  8. Doubt often creeps in when I am not appreciating myself or trust what I feel. It is through our thoughts that doubt enters but when I connect to what I feel in my body this is a powerful way to connect to my true expression.

  9. “That each choice provides me with an opportunity for learning and developing”. I think I’d like to see this emblazoned in the sky every day for every one. A reminder to us all that we are forever students – students of life, students of ourselves, and students of humanity.

  10. Reading this I really felt the importance of being present in all that we do as if we are not in lets in many things including doubt. Also amazing that in the past when you have doubted yourself you have stopped, stood in the mirror looked into you eyes and remembered just how beautifull you are. For many when in doubt this is the last thing we want to do .. so truly inspirational and a great reflection for us all.

  11. Perspective plays a big part in how we learn through life. If we are open to making mistakes and see those mistakes as moments to learn then we won’t sweat the small stuff. If we see mistakes as an ‘end of the world’ sort of thing and have such a high investment in getting stuff right, then we are done for…

  12. Reading this I thought of a puzzle and how each piece has it’s spot within the whole and the puzzle can’t be completed without all the pieces together… it’s the same when it comes to us working and living together. If we appreciate each others qualities then all the pieces fall into place without any effort and harmoniously, but if comparison and doubt creeps in then pieces go missing and gaps appear instead of a stable foundation.

  13. Simone, this is beautiful; ‘when I accept that each choice provides me with an opportunity for learning and developing then I can feel a deeper acceptance of myself.’ This is a great way to be in life, rather than us thinking we are ‘wrong’ and being hard on ourselves, this would stop all the self critique and instead we see our mistakes as an opps and something to learn from, we are then able to move on and be ready to deal with our next life lesson.

  14. I find it is really supportive to not focus on the doubt and the details of what I am thinking but understand that I made a shift, consciously or not, that allowed the doubt to come in. Then I can make a shift back to me and the steadiness within me.

  15. Powerful – saying that we are the gatekeepers of truth and we allow the doubts, which are falsities, to enter. We are often tested in unstable times as those doubts are offered, but remember we are stronger — we are the gatekeepers and we have the strength to say no to any of them.

  16. Doubt is there when I know I’ve not been present leading up to an event. Connecting with myself at the last minute is tricky when the anxiety has kicked in so then it’s about just being there for myself even if I’m feeling very uncomfortable! What I’m discovering is that my being present now connects me with truth and doubt evaporates quicker than ever before.

  17. When we see any choice as a moment of learning we not only open up to a deeper understanding of the mechanics of who we are but also that of all others. We then have the opportunity to see the potential for true evolvement and there is no doubt of the power this then holds for us all.

  18. Doubt is a compression in the body that doesn’t allow us to feel any space within ourselves or between us and the moment/s we are doubting. It’s a complete set up because if we can sense the space within and around us, we are able to observe our choices with understanding instead of having no space to see clearly what we have chosen that we are now doubting.

  19. Doubt is indeed the enemy we let into our minds (our whole body equally so, as when it comes in it is an energy coming through our whole body), and we are the gatekeepers that either allow that in or not. But the truly profound teaching is that not one doubt is ever true. So we are better to keep them out and work on our appreciation instead. Now that is a truly enrichment to our life instead.

  20. “So I ask myself, why do I doubt me? Why has this doubt been allowed to enter?” – great questions Simone.. there is no doubt that i do doubt myself .. though there is also no doubt too that when i move, walk in a way that’s connected, with self-presence that the energy of doubt no longer enters because instead there is ‘confirmation’ being walked or moved in my body to bring self-confidence. Change the movement to change the quality of thought.

  21. Doubt is already ready to knock on the door. Whether we allow it in or not is dependent on the way we move: – walk, talk and think about ourselves and others. . . correct our movement by appreciating all that we are in full and the door stays locked.

  22. Giving ourselves a hard time about choices we have made is a sure way to spoil what may otherwise be a gorgeous and enjoyable day. Sure – we have alot to learn, but we need not get bogged down in this process.

  23. Once we clock, understand and really experience what it’s like to have no doubt it’s like discovering shoes for the first time – who would go and walk on really rough sharp nasty ground when there is the opportunity to just glide over it?

  24. In truth doubt does not exist, it is something we create and go into when we don’t want to feel ourselves what is going on, be responsible it that way for what we have chosen and why. It also is a delay of claiming what we feel is true in the face of many people choosing what is not true.

  25. Doubt used to linger for a long time in my body and as a result anxiety and tension then followed not to far behind leaving me feeling exhausted and sometimes even sick. I appreciate just how far I have come to move in a way that not only allows me space to understand why doubt creeps in but also how important it is to live via our bodies and the wisdom and learning we have available to us always and with this there is then no room for doubt only appreciation and growth.

  26. Appreciating that a ‘mistake is an opportunity to learn and to see it as such, that there is no right or wrong just what it is, is incredible empowering.

  27. “By deeply appreciating who I am and the fact that all that I am blessed with in life is the result of my choices, I realise there is nothing to doubt and nothing to give myself a hard time about. There is just more to celebrate.” Wow this really leaves giving ourselves a hard time nowhere to go. Life really can be this simple!

  28. It’s amazing how much of a difference it makes if I am fully present in what I’m doing – it helps me to re-gather or to bring my all to the moment, and there is a true settlement in that which helps to stop doubt from getting in. I do still doubt myself at times but I know that bringing my awareness back to my whole body and the quality in which I’m moving or engaging with another really helps me to come back to myself and let the doubt go.

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