No Doubt

Sometimes I am aware of how much I doubt myself. It is definitely not there all the time, but then something happens and it is like a tsunami of doubt enters my mind. I start to doubt my decisions, my choices and second-guess everything I have done. As it sounds, it is actually very exhausting!

So I ask myself, why do I doubt me? Why has this doubt been allowed to enter?

Well, the first answer that rushes in is that “You weren’t being present, so you made that choice without really feeling what was needed.” This answer can sometimes take me to the doldrums of guilt and self-abuse. Yep, this just compounds the problem, making me feel even worse and more exhausted!

Then enters the voice of reason that makes a story out of anything and everything. This includes lots of complicated excuses and justifications to sort out the problem that was seemingly created, although it wasn’t really a problem in the first place. Phew, yep, still exhausted.

By this point, I am so tired and actually wondering what happened to me. This is the aftermath of the tsunami of doubt.

Then I remember to take a moment to stop, feel my body, feel my breath and most importantly, appreciate how amazingly beautiful I am. It helps if I am in front of the mirror because I can actually take a moment to look at myself and appreciate the sparkle in my eyes and see the beauty that I am feeling.

If I get stuck on the fact that I made a ‘wrong choice’, I am taken out by the tsunami. But when I accept that each choice provides me with an opportunity for learning and developing then I can feel a deeper acceptance of myself. I am not perfect and making mistakes is a part of that, in that each mistake is an opportunity for learning.

Moreover, one person’s weaknesses are another’s strengths, so together we are each an important piece of the whole of humanity and if we appreciate each other we can work together in brotherhood without judgment or criticism.

I may do and say things that feel yucky sometimes, but all I have to do is feel without judgment how each choice affects my body and not go into the story of feeling bad or guilty about having made that choice.

I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.

By deeply appreciating who I am and the fact that all that I am blessed with in life is the result of my choices, I realise there is nothing to doubt and nothing to give myself a hard time about. There is just more to celebrate.

In celebration of the loving choices I have made and continue to make to my way of Livingness through the inspiration of the work of Serge Benhayon.

By Simone Lewis, BSc BTeach

Further Reading:
Who I Really Am
Who Am I?

1,135 thoughts on “No Doubt

  1. Sometimes when we start to doubt decisions that we have made or things we have been inspired by we can completely negate the truth and power of our first feelings. We can then go into all sorts of excuses and justification, or as we see them, “reasons”, for changing our mind. If we grapple with this ourselves we can give up on ourselves so talking to a trusted friend or taking our “dilemma”, as it may have become, to a session with a practitioner can support us to come back to seeing things more clearly and reestablishing the deeper connection that we may have lost…..and it may even take more than one session!

  2. I simply love the fact that “one person’s weaknesses are another’s strengths, so together we are each an important piece of the “whole of humanity”. Allowing yourself to feel the truth of this statement immediately does away with judgment or jealousy of another and opens the doorway to being inspired instead. And it also offers us the opportunity to ask for support without feeling lesser than the other person and in turn offering support to someone who is open to be inspired by us. Yes, we are all part of the whole, and not the separate, isolated individual parts most of us has as lived for so long.

  3. “By deeply appreciating who I am and the fact that all that I am blessed with in life is the result of my choices, I realise there is nothing to doubt and nothing to give myself a hard time about. There is just more to celebrate.” Appreciation offers us so much, on so many levels. To build this into our day for ourselves and each other is probably one of the greatest gifts we can share with one another.

  4. There can be a huge ripple effect that follows allowing self-doubt in. It’s like one bad feeling leads to another, compounding the initial state of doubt. This is where we need to be onto any thoughts that are not self-loving, as they multiply like weeds in the garden of our mind.

  5. Doubt undermines us and all around; it leaves others feeling adrift and anything but safe and held as we oscillate between spurts of activity and withdrawal. The latter leaves a gap, a hole that can then be filled by anything that we have aligned to, whether we are aware of it or not.

  6. Thanks to the amazing teachings of the ageless wisdom, I now know if I have doubts come in to my mind that this is not me but rather something that I have allowed in to pollute the true me. So I have a choice, run with the doubts and indulge or say to myself, I know where you have come from and I am not entertaining you.

  7. Self-doubt is a science that is learnt in the classroom of life, and while lessons are taught in school about how to remember facts and work out equations, the practicalities of how to counter self-doubt with the science of self-love, adoration and cherishment seem to be getting missed.

  8. Doubts, complications and seriousness goes hand in hand, all comes from a particular energy to sabotage the natural flow of our true expression. Whereas deep knowing, simplicity and joy is always there, inside us.

    1. Doubt acts like a trip wire to stop us in our tracks and if possible, even throw us totally off course if not at least spawn a superfluous and deleterious to our health and wellbeing detour.

      1. You’ve pretty much summed up doubt in one wonderful sentence; what it does to us in the first instance and what it can do to us if it continues to be allowed to run riot in our mind, and body. One would think that the trip wire would be enough to ‘stop us in our tracks’ but somehow I feel that we have gotten so used to the trip that we just keep on spiralling into a deeper doubt-filled hole.

  9. If we look at life and see it as learning then there is never any excuse or justification for beating or bashing ourselves up. Interestingly I was pondering on this yesterday, feeling and understanding it more deeply in my body building on the foundation of love I am setting for myself so that any abuse that enters becomes a thing of the past.

  10. Simone, I love this; ‘then I remember to take a moment to stop, feel my body, feel my breath and most importantly, appreciate how amazingly beautiful I am.’ What you are sharing is so beautiful and simple.

  11. Doubt is like acid, slowly corroding everything there is to appreciate about ourselves, life and others. It can be like a continual stream of self-talk that is taken for ‘normal’, as the way it is – when it does not have to be the way it is at all.

  12. ‘There is never a right and wrong only learning’ I have found yet life is not just much simpler but also far more enjoyable when we approach it like this without the blame of getting things wrong and making mistakes.

  13. If we indulge doubt in any way shape or form we are creating a downward spiral that takes us away from the simplicity of the truth of who we are.

  14. You cannot doubt ourselves often, if we do not start with a no doubt. In other words, you need a certainty in order to doubt yourself. Only a certainty about you allows you to create a situation whereby you feel there are uncertainties.

  15. What I have realised in the last few days is for self doubt to enter there has to be a gap within the body that enables this, the more we close and tighten the gaps through our movements and way of living the less things like self doubt can enter.

  16. There is a whole lifestyle, a way of living that leads to the self doubt… that way of living leads us to numb ourselves so we can’t feel so clearly what is there to be felt… a ridiculous set up that leads naturally to self doubt.

  17. Key for me is to feel when something feels true or not in my body, when I do not allow myself to feel or avoid to feel the difference it is an opening for doubt, like you describe thoughts take over and I loose my connection with my body and become a ‘walking head’. Being aware and appreciate my feelings whatever they are, is going forwards with all of me.

  18. So do we allow the wobble, or go to the learning.. knowing that we do have a foundation to fall back on and we are imperfectly learning to be more. Or do we doubt and worry if we are ever going to ‘get it’? Always we have choices.

  19. Appreciation is a very important building block in our lives, one that knocks self-doubt into touch. And the thing with appreciation is that it offers us the space to open ourselves up in the world, rather than live in the contraction of the effects of doubt.

  20. Getting caught in that right/wrong thing is so exhausting. And what I can feel is how trying to be right is a cheap way out when we avoid responsibility for the choices we make, which only gives a momentary relief and does not settle or confirm us in truth we deeply know inside, so we become prone to doubt.

    1. You sure can Rik and I have found the same thing. When we honour and accept what we are observing and seeing the more everything makes sense and the less we get caught up in things and so the simpler life becomes. The wishy-washy doubt, the should I, shouldn’t I conversations with others or in our heads no longer are given any time. And then as you say we see things before they happen to give us an opportunity to be more of the love we are, so we do not have to wait for a disaster to occur.

  21. When we feel guilty for a choice we have made, we block ourselves from going deeper and being honest with ourselves as to why we made the choice.

    1. So true Alison, and we end end up going further away from the love we are with the self-bashing. And suddenly something minor becomes blown out of all proportion and seems unsurmountable.

  22. Giving ourselves the grace to learn and be a student of life totally wipes out the foundation we are used to standing on that feeds us the self doubt. Accepting that we are here to learn and return to our innate being that is connect to and knows the all is a shedding process of what is not of this. Learning along the way what is not our innate beauty is what lays the foundation to be all of this beauty.

  23. It only takes one moment of allowing a smidgen of doubt to sneak in to open the flood gates and the tsunami of doubt rolls on in. And after the tsunami comes and goes we are left with the tiredness and the wondering of what just happened. These days I am able, most of the time, to grab that first seed of doubt and knowing it’s actually not me stops the tsunami in its tracks. Then I take a moment to ask why that thought came in the first place; and there’s always a ready answer.

  24. Sometimes what I thought was self doubt was just a part of me holding back and not wanting to commit to life. A part of me wanted to hide for it thought it was safer than coming out and interacting with others….for fear of things going wrong or not going well. From this I can see that I had an idea already about how I wanted things to be even if it were as simple as for them to be harmonious. At that time I was separating from the love that I am and not allowing myself to be fully in my body, both feet on the ground, expressing in absolute honesty, being love and open to love.

  25. I have the feeling we are so used to doubt that we are often not even aware of the moments of doubt we have. Isn’t it in the end any moment where we do not stand a hundred percent beside ourself knowing and living the fullness and grandness that we are?

  26. I have discovered that my making little choices and building a routine based on those choices I start to feel a difference in my body, those choices then become part of my rhythm. My rhythm is part of my foundation so when I have a wobble I can feel my foundation holding me…it might be the bit that notices something didn’t feel so good. It really is simply love building on love.

    1. Yes.. there’s a simplicity involved with dealing and healing any of our so called issues- it means staying present and connected to what we can feel, and knowing that our thoughts, reactions and doubts are not us. When we’re connected to our soul we don’t feel any of that stuff. Just a solid simplicity and absolute knowing of who we are.

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