No Doubt

Sometimes I am aware of how much I doubt myself. It is definitely not there all the time, but then something happens and it is like a tsunami of doubt enters my mind. I start to doubt my decisions, my choices and second-guess everything I have done. As it sounds, it is actually very exhausting!

So I ask myself, why do I doubt me? Why has this doubt been allowed to enter?

Well, the first answer that rushes in is that “You weren’t being present, so you made that choice without really feeling what was needed.” This answer can sometimes take me to the doldrums of guilt and self-abuse. Yep, this just compounds the problem, making me feel even worse and more exhausted!

Then enters the voice of reason that makes a story out of anything and everything. This includes lots of complicated excuses and justifications to sort out the problem that was seemingly created, although it wasn’t really a problem in the first place. Phew, yep, still exhausted.

By this point, I am so tired and actually wondering what happened to me. This is the aftermath of the tsunami of doubt.

Then I remember to take a moment to stop, feel my body, feel my breath and most importantly, appreciate how amazingly beautiful I am. It helps if I am in front of the mirror because I can actually take a moment to look at myself and appreciate the sparkle in my eyes and see the beauty that I am feeling.

If I get stuck on the fact that I made a ‘wrong choice’, I am taken out by the tsunami. But when I accept that each choice provides me with an opportunity for learning and developing then I can feel a deeper acceptance of myself. I am not perfect and making mistakes is a part of that, in that each mistake is an opportunity for learning.

Moreover, one person’s weaknesses are another’s strengths, so together we are each an important piece of the whole of humanity and if we appreciate each other we can work together in brotherhood without judgment or criticism.

I may do and say things that feel yucky sometimes, but all I have to do is feel without judgment how each choice affects my body and not go into the story of feeling bad or guilty about having made that choice.

I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.

By deeply appreciating who I am and the fact that all that I am blessed with in life is the result of my choices, I realise there is nothing to doubt and nothing to give myself a hard time about. There is just more to celebrate.

In celebration of the loving choices I have made and continue to make to my way of Livingness through the inspiration of the work of Serge Benhayon.

By Simone Lewis, BSc BTeach

Further Reading:
Who I Really Am
Who Am I?

959 thoughts on “No Doubt

  1. Hello Simone and from my experience what we give the most time and power too is the thing that we be there for us. So wonder, entertain, think and try and pull apart doubt then this is what is at your finger tips the next time you are questioned by something. As you are saying feel the doubt but also appreciate simply being you. There is no job, no reward or accolade needed for you to appreciate all you are. Some may say it sounds silly or a waste of time but the next time you trip what would you like to catch you? Doubt or appreciation? Then it is up to you what you live in every moment, keeping in mind what you live is the glove that will catch you, this is a guarantee.

  2. Self doubt. A common theme in my life. Although, truth be told, I’m slowly knock this bad habit out the window. How often I make a choice, then allow doubt to set in, only to be confirmed by my choice at a later date. This process has helped me realise that my initial feelings are generally spot on, and the doubt is simply a waste of time and most certainly draining of my energy.

    1. Elodie, I loved reading your comment this evening as I observe how I allow doubt to set in, change to accommodate and then in retrospect realise that what I had originally felt was spot on. No doubt is my theme for tomorrow.

  3. “I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.”
    This is so true, yet we have sayings like ‘you can’t teach an old dog new tricks’ that hinder this understanding. It is time to reveal to the world that we (every single one of us) are beauty and grace beyond belief. Accept that we don’t live this way, yet. So, therefore we are blessed with constant experiences for us to feel how far from our true beauty we live, that encourage us to return to it again. This is a direct gift from God to everyone of us, every day.

  4. “I may do and say things that feel yucky sometimes, but all I have to do is feel without judgment how each choice affects my body and not go into the story of feeling bad or guilty about having made that choice.”
    When in self-doubt this for me is so supportive, to further stop the tsunami what I have found supportive is to re-confirm to myself what does feel true, what has time and time again proven to be true to my body. Like my hands feel cold when going out in winter without gloves. Coming back to what the body knows builds whereas focusing on the doubt spirals. Thank you Simone.

  5. Finding my way in life has brought me to the same place, where my choice to learn from what life presents, which has allowed me to evolve to the next point of evolution without judging. Thank you Simone, moving on through my ups and downs in life has been smoothed out thanks to what I learnt from reading your blog. I have found that the sooner I catch myself in a way that is self-loving the easier it is too quiet-en my second-guessing.

  6. Thank you for exposing doubt and the many strategies we use to beat us up, that, in the end do nothing but distract us from being present an enjoying life.

  7. Simone your blog beautifully covers doubt, from my own experience I have found self-doubt to often be the start of a downward spiral as I dig myself in further and further rather than letting go, and not bashing myself up. I now know that self-doubt creeps in when I am not being present, so all I need to do is bring myself back to me.

  8. I agree there is no need for doubt at all in life, everyone makes mistakes and everyone has things to learn and there is a lot of beauty in that. Doubts bring us down and keep us down, instead of allowing us to see the valuable lessons on offer, that once mastered allow us to move forward in a whole new way.

  9. I love that our strengths are another person’s weaknesses and our weaknesses are anothers strengths. Thus it makes total sense to me to pool our resources and unite to make a much more solid union for all.

  10. “I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.” This is such an important point Simone – so many of us (were taught) that if we get things wrong we are bad or not good enough. To turn this into the fact we can learn from every situation and turn crises into opportunities is a gift for humanity.

  11. It is so easy to find ourselves In a bad head space and then compound it repeatedly until the self doubt lies at our foundation. It is gorgeous and deeply empowering however to know that we can stop that at anytime through taking a moment to breathe, feel our body and appreciate ourselves and in knowing that there is an understanding and a lesson to be learnt through every choice and experience.

  12. We pick and choose and with that let our mind run wild, instead of living life as a whole and learn to make choices that we deep down know are true to us.

  13. “I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.” I love this Simone – very well worth remembering. Giving ourselves a hard time over ‘wrong’ choices only compounds feeling bad about ourselves. The question to be asked is what energy am I in that leads me to make those poor choices?

  14. It’s seems quite a revelation when understanding there are no mistakes – simply an opportunity to learn.
    It makes me ask why we are so uptight about a mistake – even a small one. What is it in us that we don’t simply observe what has happened and gently consider ‘how’ and move on with a fresh approach? It seems we can be embedded with thoughts that make us wrong and doubt our selves in a way that is harmful and sets us off on the our next move based on feeling all this, which in my experience then brings more of the same.

  15. Beautifully shared Simone. It is a powerful and revealing question to ask of ourselves as to where and how did the doubt comes in. As with this we firstly are accepting responsibility for our choices, and secondly we are willing to come to a deeper sense of truth. I find this empowering as what is offered is the opportunity to heal and let go of that which is obstructing me to deepening my connection with Soul, so that I walk in the shine of my light within, knowing without a doubt that this is who I am. As you have wisely said here ‘…there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.’ – the opportunity to be more of who we truly are.

  16. Thank you for breaking down the ‘steps’ of what happens when we let doubt in. It will help to observe more when I have it happening myself.

  17. I had had the fond imagination that I had somehow eliminated doubt. But that in itself is a picture, a false picture of how things are. All energy, thought, emotion is constantly passing through all of us and so doubt is always floating through there waiting fore you to hook onto it . . . which I did a couple of days ago when I sent something I had written to someone. I got a reply which implied that I wasn’t writing from hierarchy, and I felt dimmed by this pronouncement. I clocked all that – my own dimming– and brought myself back to self-value, but wasn’t fully healed until i re-opened my article and its beautiful powerful energy beamed out at me. Only then did doubt leave! But had I immediately read the other person I could have come back a lot sooner. Why did I hang onto this doubt about something that was untrue? It is a reaction because I di dnot want to feel the competition of the other person of who I am very fond.

  18. An expose on doubt and its very nuisance, as in the end once having allowed doubt in there will be only more doubt to follow. So it does come back to letting go of this stream of doubt and return to ourselves, as you describe connecting back to our whole body instead of lingering on thoughts and let them dictate us.

  19. It is very interesting to notice exactly what it is that triggers doubt. Sometimes it can another doubting us or our work and this can be a vulnerable point to look at for both people in the conversation. It can be jealousy from another that triggers a dimming of our light, but then that is the very reaction that we ourselves have to clock and say no to. Where is our value as a Son of God? We can still look at our work and re-assess, but we do not need to go into doubt energetically. Backing oneself is one of the most powerful things on earth.

  20. This is so true “we are each an important piece of the whole of humanity”, and we each bring our uniqueness to the world. No matter what our differences are, where we live, how old we are or our gender, we all are a necessary part of the whole. How boring life would be if we were all the same?

  21. Thank you Simone I can so relate to the ‘tsunami of doubt’ which envelopes my mind once I allow it in and how overwhelming and exhausting this is. Re-connecting to my body is always the answer but so often I take many twists and turns before I come to this point – it’s like in the panic of feeling overwhelmed by the doubt I completely lose myself. I have lived for so long with ever present raciness that dropping into the stillness of just breathing and feeling my body is still a work in progress but once I go there I can feel the doubt recede and my inner knowing of what is the next move returns.

  22. I love the play on words in the title – we so often justify a comment by prefacing it with ‘No doubt you will agree that…’ when we are trying to get someone on our side. Saying No to doubt is something I am practising and what I am now recognising is how often I have hidden behind my feelings of doubting my own knowing so that I do not have to speak up when I feel something is wrong. Saying No to doubt is empowering and leaves no need for manipulating others.

  23. The ‘tsunami of doubt’ is a very apt image for what plays out when we do not live the fullness of our true self. Thus it is our lack of self worth that is the door through which doubt enters. From here we have no control as to the depth of the wave we are then drowned in.

    1. Well said Liane. From experience and great learning, I can say that this is bang on… “it is our lack of self worth that is the door through which doubt enters.”
      And so our relationship with our worth, the depth to which we truly value ourselves, is the key to sealing the door.

  24. A dear wise friend has often said, “Be curious, not critical”. I don’t remember all the time, for I too have felt the tsunami of self-doubt you write of, but more often than not I do and it’s been an amazing support.

  25. When we bring in doubt, it is often followed by complication, when we acknowledge the choices we make, we have the ability to change our next choice, and therefore not get caught up in the self-doubt, but accept that there was another choice open to us, a great learning each time we observe what happens.

  26. A breath of fresh air this morning Simone. Thank you so much for the reminder that we have 2 ways to approach our mistakes, this is a great reminder of that “I am not perfect and making mistakes is a part of that, in that each mistake is an opportunity for learning.”

  27. To keep returning to this truth, that ‘there is never a right or wrong’ is essential, for there is so much we have bought into in this world. that would have us ever enchained in the illusion that we are ‘good or bad’ and ‘right or wrong’ – seeking to keep us trapped in the throes of self-judgement, condemnation and even false-glorification… and thus away from the acceptance of the true light and love of the soul, which judges nought, and thus holds no one as more or less (inclusive of ourselves).

  28. ‘There is never a right or wrong; there is only learning’. Spot on Simone and a such a beautiful reminder of me today, letting go of right and wrong allows for us to accept life more and to be in the simplicity and flow of life instead of trying to control it and complicate it.

  29. Oh do I know that “tsunami of doubt” so well, a tsunami that throughout my life would regularly roll on in crushing me beneath its weight, leaving me exhausted and lacking in the minutest bit of trust in myself. It actually began to roll on in yesterday so reading this today has been very timely and very supportive. I have decided that next time, and I’m sure there may be a next time, I am going to take myself straight to the mirror as you do and looking into my gorgeous eyes remind my beautiful self that there is no such thing as perfection or a mistake just life lessons to be learned, or not.

  30. “I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.”. The first choice is which source of energy are we aligned to? When I am plagued with self-doubt, the more attention I give to it, the more it grows. Giving myself some appreciation and focussing on that enables me to move on, away from the doubt.

  31. I love how you present it Simone, ‘I hold the responsibility for feeling the effects of each choice and learning from it. In this way there is never a right or wrong; there is only learning.’ … it’s that simple, no drama, feel where our choices have taken us and learn from them, no perfection.

  32. ‘Then I remember to take a moment to stop, feel my body, feel my breath and most importantly, appreciate how amazingly beautiful I am. It helps if I am in front of the mirror because I can actually take a moment to look at myself and appreciate the sparkle in my eyes and see the beauty that I am feeling.’ I love how the mirror shares our beauty and it sure is a way to come back from crippling thought into our bodies and appreciate and confirm how awesome we are.

  33. Aaah the doubt train and it does indeed lead to a tsunami, and as you note here Simone, if we try and solve the ‘problems’ we miss the point (lots of experience in this one), it’s really as simple as coming back to us in the body and feeling how we feel and we drop the doubt. Solving what doubt raises is a trick of the mind and in fact keeps us locked into the doubt spiral – appreciation is the key here, to come back to simply appreciating us, and I love your suggestion to look in the mirror, catching our eye is indeed infectious and reminds us that we are amazing just as we are and any blip along the way is for us to learn from and take responsibility.

  34. This illustrates clearly how we complicate things but that there is always a way straight back to simplicity.

  35. Doubt does seem like a snowball rolling downhill. One moment there can be no doubt, but the minute you let it in and entertain doubting thoughts, its like inviting gate crashers to your party! The only way I know how to correct this is to stop whatever I am thinking or doing, change the way my body is configured and consciously choose to be and move with me again

  36. I too am changing my response when I get things wrong or stuff up. Now its no longer about berating myself but seeing how there is always an opportunity to learn. Its easy to appreciate yourself when things are going great, but when they are not, these are the times when I feel its most important to be loving and gentle with myself.

  37. Doubt is certainly exhausting. The more aware I can be of how something feels in my body and the exact quality of energy it has, the more I can simplify and choose to let go of it without necessarily trying to “heal” or remedy it somehow. Doubt feels very heavy and dark and like a huge weight over me. I would much prefer the natural lightness of my being.

  38. Self doubt tells us that we are very much caught up in identification and judegements of right and wrong. It is great to nominate this and stay open to learning what live is presenting to us.

  39. We don’t live in a world where mistakes are seen as a way to learn and to grow, at least I have not been taught in this way. I had taken on the ideas about being right or wrong and lived in a way to be right and to not make mistakes and had trouble to admit I could be wrong. All this would go on in my mind without feeling the truth of who I am in my body. The focus in this process is all about me instead of feeling I know who I am and responsible for, not appreciating this is an opening for self doubt to come in.

  40. I was so used to go for the perfection but also experienced that I was never able to fulfil and too, that it was after all not required at all.

  41. I love the fact that you don’t give yourself a hard time but instead see this as a lesson you can learn from if you choose to .. very cool.

  42. We are not defined by our errors, nor our choices… we remain magnificently divine regardless.
    It is well worth observing the way in which we live life and making the necessary adjustments to return to our true expression.

  43. A great perspective it is to see that life offers us the opportunity for learning rather than focusing on the right or wrongness of our choices.

  44. Absolutely – every moment offers us more learning about ourselves, others and life and is therefore to be appreciated in full.

  45. This is an important article, you talk about giving yourself the space to learn from life’s experiences and I can see how this builds self-worth, how it brings value to your choices – whatever the outcomes – because there is always a learning which is our great ally in this life – to be able to learn.

  46. I may do and say things that feel yucky sometimes, but all I have to do is feel without judgment how each choice affects my body and not go into the story of feeling bad or guilty about having made that choice. This is great advice Simone, and makes it so much simpler to come back to truth and the body this way.

  47. If self doubt is a result of lack of connection and presence then it is only another choice to reconnect and back ourselves.

  48. I was going to lead with ‘how funny it is that’ and I realise it’s not that funny that we don’t always see ourselves as students of life. We are placing ourselves under the constant pressure of knowing, being perfect and not making mistakes and so when something happens that doesn’t feel that great or we hit a small road block we turn on ourselves with critical eyes. There is truly no such things as mistakes, only things we grow awareness from and I know from where we as people currently stand it’s a long shot but if we start to hold this alone in our awareness things will change for all of us. Next time you perceive something has ‘gone wrong’ watch how you treat yourself and if you are giving yourself a hard time then maybe just take the time to stop, stop and settle your mind and body and feel. Then simply go back to what you were doing and don’t give it another thought. We can never change the world in our heads it’s going to take a living approach to bring true change and in this way to truly stop and feel is that living change.

  49. Will call on doubt the moment we feel our full power and then shy away from it. It is a method we employ to not live with absolute authority, hence the choice to go into doubt so we can play less than this and therefore seemingly avoid the responsibility that comes with it.

    1. Yes Liane it is the easiest way to sabotage ourselves and avoid the power and joy that we would otherwise feel. A power and joy that are inextricably linked with responsibility.

  50. Having the belief that everything is either right or wrong for me was definitely a religious thing from the past and would take me into doubt around what I’m actually feeling and into judging, is that right? And in moving through life with this belief, there is no connection to the body and its deep inner wisdom, and definitely no connection to your own truth or power. Right and wrong only serves to disconnect and divide.

  51. It is interesting how much doubt can get in the way – and I find it comes along when I am not appreciating myself and what I bring. Doubt can be a big block to whatever is next and we can make it about ourselves instead of getting ourselves out the way for what is needed.

  52. This is a great reminder that when we are connected to ourselves, there is no opening for doubt to enter. We can easily return to ourselves in any moment and put a stop to the ill-flow.

  53. Thank goodness you take a moment to stop the exhausting process, and to come back to your body and feel your body, ‘a moment to stop, feel my body, feel my breath and most importantly, appreciate how amazingly beautiful I am. It helps if I am in front of the mirror because I can actually take a moment to look at myself and appreciate the sparkle in my eyes and see the beauty that I am feeling.’

  54. Reading your blog made me remember that really recently I seemed to be self-doubting myself all the time .. but this has stopped. On asking myself why this had stopped without me realising it what came to me was going to the gym! This has nothing to do with the gym or exercise but instead committing to me and life and supporting my body. In making this small step it in turn has helped me to shut the doors on self-doubt. If we are not truly with ourselves than it leaves a gap for another energy to enter which can be in the form of self-doubt. Foods that we each such as sugar can leave a gap for this to happen as well.

  55. Beautifully said Simone take the criticism and analysing out of choices and feel into what can be learnt and what different choices to be made. Nothing is ever gained from the blame game inwardly or outwardly. However bringing observation and more understanding to our choices allows for the possibility of change and taking more responsibility in life.

  56. Appreciation of you and who you are in your body confirms that there is a you, a soul within that body, and with that there can be no doubt of who you are.

    1. Sure Heather, when we notice there is some doubt in us we actually have a marker that we have lost the connection with our body otherwise, doubt would have no ground to stand on and would even not be in our dictionary.

  57. Confirming who we are and appreciating our divine quality and true beauty will absolutely allow no opening for doubt and untrue thoughts to enter.

  58. Simone, this is so confirming and allowing us all to feel beyond our choices and to feel that we are beautiful and that we need to celebrate ourselves all the time.
    Communicated to us: ‘I may do and say things that feel yucky sometimes, but all I have to do is feel without judgment how each choice affects my body and not go into the story of feeling bad or guilty about having made that choice.’
    That is the absolute key. Time to apply. Beautiful.

  59. Totally agree that judgement never helps – not on ourselves nor others, it just gets in the way of us appreciating what there is for us to see as a result of any choice we’ve made and with that having greater clarity on the choices we make from then on…

  60. Sometimes it’s easy to connect to truth and no doubt exists, but other times when we have doubt perhaps we haven’t connected with the truth or have been attached to what we want something to be.

  61. Awesome Simone, choosing to doubt ourselves is indeed very exhausting. Learning to trust what we feel and embrace every one of our choices as an opportunity to learn feels so expansive. Also, when we trust what we feel it becomes harder to doubt ourselves.

  62. Any time I’m doubting myself, I’m draining myself at the same time, wasting energy while I try to fix and work out the problem in my head – but actually all I’m doing is circulating the same foggy thoughts and not getting anywhere. Every time I have a problem in my head, I just need to go for a walk, focus on my movements and get back into my body so that there’s space between me and my thoughts, instantly putting the ‘problem’ into perspective so that it’s not even a problem anymore.

  63. Thanks Simone, great timing for me to read this again, I appreciated your words on understanding that everything is a learning, particularly from how a decision or situation feels in the body, and from there move on, no guilt or other negative emotions needed.

  64. If we understand that there are no coincidences then there can be no doubt, because everything is a learning. We can be open to this in all what we do and understand that our choices support our learnings.

  65. This blog perfectly captures the downward spiral that happens as a result of letting doubt in. Once we are on that slide there is only a one-way ride but luckily we can short circuit the ride by stopping and coming back to our body.

  66. ‘…I can actually take a moment to look at myself and appreciate the sparkle in my eyes and see the beauty that I am feeling.’ I’m learning just how important appreciation is. Appreciating quells not only doubt but any unwanted thoughts. If they start coming in, I know there’s something I’m not appreciating – in myself, another or a situation.

  67. Actually allowing myself to make mistakes is so freeing and makes me so more ‘normal’, really me compared to holding on to what I am not by for instance to comply to the image of perfection.

  68. The sooner I make contact with the feeling in my body the shorter the period of abuse and self doubt. There is a knowing there of exactly what is happening, no question. The alternative I find is wanting to go numb and hope that the problem goes away and I have a million different strategies for that all of which have failed me.

  69. ‘Then enters the voice of reason that makes a story out of anything and everything.’ If we are able to observe this voice and connect to our body we actually stop identifying with what is not us and as you say enters us. Truth is in us and always there and its wisdom is found in the body.

  70. When we doubt ourselves it is just exposing the moments and movements we have been in and as you share can be changed just by simply coming back to our body and re-imprinting our movements. Great reminder!

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