The words are within us but we often don’t know that. Until there comes a time when the ability to express is realised, we rely on others to bring together what it is we would like to say. Choosing the ‘right’ Birthday card, Mother’s Day card, Sympathy card – one that reflects what you want to say, the truth that you hold within but can’t get the words out. This has been my life, relying on others to say what I wanted to say!
So much going on inside my body but feeling there is no avenue in which to say it or express it and sitting in continual judgment of what I might say and how that will be received. I would not even consider putting it down on paper!
Of course this is one of the harsh judgments I have held of myself for such a long time, spending too much time trying to get it right, phrasing what I have to say, trying to get it ‘just right’ and not even entertaining the possibility that I might have something amazing to offer.
Lack of self-worth felt like a huge barrier to overcome, but only as huge as I allowed it to be. It was a barrier that I believed was real and that kept me from expressing outwardly but also stopped others from expressing their truth to me.
This was my life, living with a focus on getting it right and living by standards not set up by me but by the world as it was around me. Being good, being nice, and being caring was nothing but an airtight seal that allowed things to fester inside me: it blocked the connection and interaction I deeply craved and what I really felt inside and wanted to express. I came to realise that condemning myself for the choices I have made in my life serves no purpose for the life I am living now.
I used to live to be in control of everything happening around me because I believed that this would keep me safe, and keep safe those around me that I felt responsible for.
Chewing away at life in bite-size pieces in the days when my children were small, was what kept the door open while I waited for my life to begin. I was waiting for the love deep inside me to be met and recognised by others around me.
Little did I know then that I could choose at any moment to be that Love. I could choose to recognise the amazing being I was and am today, and feel the richness held within me.
Little did I know that all I had to do was to start to say what I felt inside to others, to let out the words and to not allow the fear of being rejected, losing loved ones or being attacked hold me back from expressing my truth.
The moment I started to claim this truth within myself was the moment the relationships around me started to blossom. The deeply felt truth, confirmation, and the richness of what I had capped in myself and others started to unfold.
It was the moment that the lid came off the jar that being good, being nice and being caring could be seen for what they were – a pretense and a barrier to truly connecting with myself and with others. A story created to stop me from being all that I am.
Choosing to hide and hold back had meant missing out on the amazing love and joy that is in, and around, me.
Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express. The unfolding Grace that I am now experiencing and living every day is the substance of Miracles. As the fruit starts to ripen and the words start to find their way out, what impulses forth is the most amazing joy – I love being exposed, I love being out there for all to see.
Written with Deep Appreciation of the Living Way that Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family have shared with us all – an open, loving and solid template on which to bring our tender unfolding to the world.
By Christine Hogan, Bendigo
Further Reading:
Learning to Express Our Feelings – Part 1
The Simplicity of True Expression: Inspired by Serge Benhayon
Truth – Expressing in Full
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
‘I came to realise that condemning myself for the choices I have made in my life serves no purpose for the life I am living now.’ When we can get to this level of self awareness then I feel that we can move on from our self condemning ways with the understanding that it is not us that is doing the condemning but our mind that is being fed these thoughts from a pool of energy that we have been tapping into. This energy that wants to keep us small and insignificant because then it has control over us is absolutely disgusting.
Christine I also share your appreciation of Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family. They have shown the world that there is another way to live where it is actually okay to show tenderness and delicateness; these are not the negative words that we have all come to associate with them. But very powerful words as they bring us back to the truth of who we are.
“I could choose to recognise the amazing being I was and am today, and feel the richness held within me.” Beautiful choice.
Great to call this out, this is quite big in our world today, ‘ Being good, being nice, and being caring was nothing but an airtight seal that allowed things to fester inside me: it blocked the connection and interaction I deeply craved and what I really felt inside and wanted to express.’
From time to time I still struggle with this, finding the right words, when really it isn’t about that. It is about you expressing you, and it is that simple and keeping it simple too, we tend to get in the way and add complications.
I’m embarking on some higher studies so it will be interesting how my expression changes as I am more relaxed about it then when I studied a few years ago, going into drive and having to pass. This forced expression is a false expression, whereby the intellect wants to rule, and by who’s rule is another can of worms.
Within us all is a natural ability to express, and that is our soul and essence coming through and that is the next level of expression my body is going to when it is ready.
Our expressions change over time and I love its unfoldment, enjoy the journey of discovering you.
I can understand this to a certain extent, being on an expression program is a great antidote, ‘spending too much time trying to get it right, phrasing what I have to say, trying to get it ‘just right’ and not even entertaining the possibility that I might have something amazing to offer.’
It’s nowhere near as scary or worse case scenario to express how we feel that the mind would have us believe. If anything it’s the complete opposite, there’s no fireworks but a lovely sense of settlement within as I am not inside disturbed with fears/worries/wants/regrets/blah.
It is the lack of self worth, self love, and judgement of ourselves that can get in the way of us expressing, ‘ sitting in continual judgment of what I might say and how that will be received.’
True energetic appreciation brings so much to our lives and becomes the glue that holds us from one glorious connection to that next moment of living the True glory of who we are. So living in a deep-humble-appreciate-ive-ness maintains a connection to our essences.
Greg we need to go there more, because when we appreciate more, more is offered, it is the antidote to self worth, fear, regrets etc that keep us separated and away from our true expressions.
Absolutely, bring in more appreciation consistently to our lives.
Shushila I guess the opposite to appreciation is when we condemn ourselves, relearning that these feelings of condemnation are given to us as you say is part of the game to keep us in the separation away from who we truly are and that means our true expression.
Being good and nice is something I too can relate to – and it does stop our natural expression from coming out. Letting go of this facade or pretense is a fast track to our true connection.
So many children are fed being good and nice when they are young, they are just some of the words that stunt our naturalness. Words can be used as weapons of mass destruction and the words good and nice are just that.
Thank you Christine – our expression is never ending and there is in fact so much to express. But this can only be expressed when we are connected to our essence for this is the true source of our expression.
Christine it’s so true what you share, when we let go of being nice, or holding back how we truly feel in other ways, the realness of our expression offers a greater richness to develop in our relationships. This was also a pivotal line for me “I was waiting for the love deep inside me to be met and recognised by others.” It opened me up to realising this is what everyone is wanting and when we place expectations or demands on others we miss this opportunity to meet someone in their essence.
I love the way you have equated it to a ripening fruit. We simply have to plant seeds of quality and nurture the body so that what comes from it is from a seed of love, not a seed of hurt and hence protection.
When we say what we feel to say in the moment, however clunky that may be is far more respectful than holding it back and building resentment and bitterness.
“I could choose to recognise the amazing being I was and am today” This had me melt in my seat.
We can choose to be the love and amazing being we truly are, ‘ I could choose to recognise the amazing being I was and am today, and feel the richness held within me.’
Our expression is super important, if we hold back we confirm to others it’s ok to hold back, and likewise when we express we give space for others to equally express as well.
Expressing what is true for us, in full, ‘all I had to do was to start to say what I felt inside to others, to let out the words and to not allow the fear of being rejected, losing loved ones or being attacked hold me back from expressing my truth.’
Lorraine I was asked recently why I didn’t eat something and I replied because the particular food they were referring to was dry, tasteless and looked like rubber and I couldn’t see the point of eating it. A member of my family who was eating this food said to me don’t hold back in your expression Mary, meaning that what I had said wasn’t welcome. Sometimes we do not want to hear the truth and will attempt to silence the truth. We see this happening everyday in our society, we would rather hear lies than the truth because then we can live so called ‘comfortable’ lives, which are not comfortable at all because we cannot quell the restlessness we are all feeling because we avoid the truth.
I was with a family of five children recently and noticed that the youngest, about three years old, said very little. It didn’t take long to figure out why, as all the other children were speaking for him. It got me to wondering how this will affect him as he grows older – will he continue to expect someone else to express for him so choosing to stay silent and in doing so holding back his unique expression?
From my experience of being the youngest in the family of five it does have an affect because I wasn’t listened to and I didn’t feel heard within the family growing up this has impacted the way I have lived my life negatively until I met Serge Benhayon and started to change my life around.
So often we wait for others to love us back before we are willing to open up and be love, but this form of love then is not true love is it, because it comes with conditions? So, I love how you shared here Christine that we can just be love at any moment, unconditionally and therefore why wait and why hold back?
Great question, why would we hold back something we love the most? Expressing who we are.
It is interesting revelation to come to.. Could it be that we have an issue accepting our beauty and responsibility.
Or, could it be Dana that others have an issue with the beauty and preciousness that we are and so thwart the expression by cutting them down. We do this all the time because we are jealous of the beauty that someone holds within them and we feel in ourselves that we haven’t been bothered to hold ourselves to that same standard of love, care or more.
Bendigo and its residents are lucky recipients of having you walking around the town in this amazing joy…
Gosh how many times have I wanted to express something to someone and choked on the words, or not been able to deliver what I really wanted to say. We are so conditioned from young to hold back our expression or protect ourselves from rejection or attack that when it comes to telling someone how much we love and appreciate and cherish them it’s like the words have to go through all these barriers we’ve put up and it doesn’t come out with the same massive love we feel.
“Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express”. Yes, when we gain this appreciation of oneself, one’s whole perspective of everything in life changes and hence our world.
When one lives by standards set by others one is victim to the vicissitudes of life, confirming one in the belief of a lack of self-worth. However, as Christine shares, when one claims one’s truth one starts ‘doing the world’ rather than being a victim to it.
“Little did I know then that I could choose at any moment to be that Love.” The gift of love that Serge Benhayon has shared with us all is to open up to the love that we already are.
“Choosing to hide and hold back had meant missing out on the amazing love and joy that is in, and around, me.” The more we hold back and protect ourselves the more distance there is between ourselves and others, through Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I have reconnected myself to the true love that I am, and as a result I have let go of the protection I once sought and now I am amazed by how beautiful life is.
Serge Benhayon has shown the world that there is a different way to live, that humanity is living the exact opposite to the way we could all be living if we listened to our bodies and not to our minds. When humanity can grasp that the body is just a vehicle of expression and that we do not think at all we are the recipient of what passes through us, then there will be a possibility to change. While we continue to run with the belief that we think, then we will be fed the same lies and nothing will change.
I have huge appreciation for an esoteric practitioner who supported me to express what I felt and not my head because I didn’t want to upset the reader. It took several attempts to get there, but once I fully expressed what needed to be said, I felt a huge sense of release and triggered a change that needed to happen. Today I cannot imagine expressing in any other way than honestly and from my heart. It changed my life and quality of all my relationships.
It all stems from self worth and value, with these two true self expression becomes part of us.
“Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express.” This really is the essence. Once we drop the baggage we’ve carried around with us for most of our lives, we liberate ourselves to walk lightly in life.
We think we’re doing ourselves a favour by being nice, polite and constantly monitoring what we say, but when we do this, it is in fact, very stifling and all of our relationships suffer because we don’t bring who we are, the depth and the beauty, to them. We present to others a surface veneer, a flat, monochrome version where there’s nothing to attack, but nothing to connect to, either. We can either skim about on the surface of life, never deepening lest we connect to something amazing and get attacked for it, or: go deeper, come what may – living with the joy of that connection and trusting and knowing that we can face whatever is there to deal with.
This is very much measured way of expressing: no one gets to know who we are, and we’ve yet to connect to the truth of who we are. It is powerful to be shown the way to true self expression and put to bed all attempts of trying to get it right and pleasing others.
Being nice, and good, is a controlled false way of being, ‘I used to live to be in control of everything happening around me because I believed that this would keep me safe, and keep safe those around me that I felt responsible for.’
‘Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express.’ That’s the way to go Christine and definitely something I can relate to in my own life, the more I let go of control, I accept and surrender what is coming and I appreciate what i bring in the whole that life is.
When we hold back from expressing out of fear of not getting it ‘right’ we do not give ourselves the opportunity to learn.
“Being good, being nice and being caring could be seen for what they were – a pretense and a barrier to truly connecting with myself and with others. A story created to stop me from being all that I am” – I recognise this so well, the pretense, that even had myself deceived for a very long time, thinking that I had to be a certain way, anything but just being myself, to be accepted, while not accepting that I already was it all along.
What if Fumiyo we come into this life ready to be deceived, what if we are the master craftsman and that we blame others for our woes and what happened to us, but actually we have orchestrated it all so that we do not represent or take responsibility for the fullness of who we are ?
Wow, I didn’t register how much lack of self-worth can block us from expressing and also block us from receiving expressions of truth. This is huge and thank you Christine for making it so clear and easy to understand.
And of course we are, all of us here, in the extraordinary process of letting our words just flow… Not constructed, or manufactured, or calibrated, just simply flowing from our inner heart.
Beautiful Cjames2012, we certainly are and this is a gorgeous process to embrace. When we express from our inner heart it is a joy to hear.
“Not constructed, or manufactured, or calibrated, just simply flowing from our inner heart.” This is a big one Chris to master and It took me a few decades to get there.
Knowing that you have to rely upon others to express, is more honest than expressing from ‘yourself’ without really EXPRESSING from YOURSELF.
Truth comes through us with no ownership.
“Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express. The unfolding Grace that I am now experiencing and living every day is the substance of Miracles.” this is the power of living from the divine love that lives within, bringing us back to who we truly are, divine sons of God.
Expressing our truth that we feel deep down is what brings us closer, anything else lets us just stray even further form the truth we know.
Nobody can say what is there for you to say because nobody except you can express exactly as you do.
Yes, so true, and it shows how we are all equally powerful and that nobody can tell us what to do or say.
Unless we let them and give our power away in which case that is our choice which actually makes what you say correct!
So true Nicola, even when we say exactly the same words as someone else, the quality and vibrations of all that we have lived are communicated through our voice.
Very true Chan, there must be some advanced mathematics in this!
Control is not safe at all and does not even work except to imprison us. It is so great to let it go. Not something I have fully done yet as it is a persistent beast that can be discovered lurking in many corners.
I am working on this too Nicola, and I find it helps to build trust within myself and then I am more likely to trust others, also to trust what I know, how I feel and what is delivered to me to be expressed. Trust helps me let go of control.
I feel there is a point where we even go beyond trust. When people speak about trust it often comes with some idea that they trust things will be ok whatever that means for them. There is a level where we simply surrender to God’s Will or the Divine Will or our Soul or whatever you want to call it – this allows for true power and is not a surrender in the bastardised version of that word!
Our expression is so needed in the world today, too many people are hiding and holding back and then everyone misses out on hearing the truth we can all bring.
How damaging it is to hold our expression back, not only to ourselves, but also the true expression of others and this affects every relationship in life.
“The moment I started to claim this truth within myself was the moment the relationships around me started to blossom. The deeply felt truth, confirmation, and the richness of what I had capped in myself and others started to unfold.”
We have mixed up “right” with Truth. This whole right thing and getting it right is harmful. What is truly right and healing is Truth. The more we understand that the more we and everyone else is released from the imprisonment of “right”.
The words reflect whatever we connect to whether that be truth or lies.
So true Nicola, and we can feel through ones expression how much truth they emanate and share with the world. What you’ve shared makes sense because what we choose to align to, truth or lies cannot be hidden as it comes through our expression.
Letting others speak for me was actually a very calculated and manipulative way to live, as I was constantly influencing others to my way of thinking so they would say what I wanted. Until I read this article just now I had not considered just how controlling it was to live this way. I am eternally grateful that this is no longer how I live.
I love the ease in which you share your journey with allowing the words (that have always been there) a voice.
Thank you, I can definitely relate to not speaking and relying on others to do so.
Whenever we hold back saying what needs to be said we all miss out of the depth of awareness that was on offer.
Thank you for expressing in words all that you are.
We make the harmful choices we make because we get something out of it – it helps a lot to be honest about what this is if we want out of this un-merry-go-round!
It is a forever unfolding back to where we come from and who we really are. When we were young we did not have a problem with expressing but we play a game now and that game of expression has become so familiar that it is our normal.
“Little did I know that all I had to do was to start to say what I felt inside to others, to let out the words and to not allow the fear of being rejected, losing loved ones or being attacked hold me back from expressing my truth.” I can relate to having this same fear as you have expressed Christine, one I am stepping out from and feeling the joy of knowing and expressing me, the world hasn’t fallen apart, and if others react when i speak my truth it is their choice, it is self loving for me to speak my truth and loving for others to hear it whether it is accepted or not. Thank you for an inspiring blog Christine.
I too have held back for all those reasons and in doing so held back my beautiful expression. It was all about being accepted by those around me and therefore so very aware of not rocking the boat. What a damaging way to live, and there will be few who haven’t done so. But I, like you Jill, have learnt to speak up and ‘the world hasn’t fallen apart”!
Ingrid it’s interesting to observe that when we speak the truth how it can irritate and upset other people. For example I was attending a worldwide sales ‘TEAMS’ meeting which is a platform similar to Zoom. Someone on the call saw me as my camera was on and said you look amazing Mary and I replied thank you I am amazing and I heard someone say no humbleness there in a sneery voice, people just cannot cope with someone who actually feels awesome everyday and is not afraid to show the world. Have we got so used to being miserable that when someone is actually full of vitality it is not welcome?
The purity of what you written is phenomenal — as the expression of what we feel is always inside us, it is more that we have got used to hold it in and become silent..What I have come to feel is how much of that silence actually creates a tension and unease in the body, that does not serve us or others.
Trying to find the right words or say the right thing was like putting duct tape over my mouth, it was so stifling. The thing was that by holding something down that’s meant to be said resulted in lots of things erupting out in what you would say not the ‘right’ way. It’s like having one hand tied behind your back and trying to drive… yes, you can do it, but your body doesn’t feel fully solid and balanced doing it, and you start to make adjustments to make it work instead of simply using the two arms you have and not compromising.
Not expressing is a way to not really live, and allow other energies to enter. We have to express from the right source otherwise something else is expressing through us.
We are always expressing what is working through us I suspect as we are the receivers of energy not the source of it, so building an awareness with what the two sources feel like should be part and parcel of our education growing up.
Willem I feel what you are sharing is very profound
“Not expressing is a way to not really live, and allow other energies to enter.”
The first consideration is what is expressing through us can we tell the difference, or are we so used to expressing one energy that is all we know because it is so familiar. No one knew there was a difference until Serge Benhayon started talking about the two different energies over 20 years ago that woke everyone up to the realisation that there is more going on in life than we ever cared to imagine.
Being nice and being good are simply ways that we lie to ourselves and in turn to those around us; in these moments we are not being true. When we pretend to be something that we are not, or express in direct opposition to what we are feeling at a particular moment in time, our whole body feels it and it is a feeling that is actually foreign to who we truly are.
Anything expressed without love is just as damaging and as sharp as a outburst of emotional rage or anger. We just have become so desensitised from being aware of the fact.
How absolutely self empowering to begin to express what we are feeling within and how everything changes from that one choice. Thank you for sharing your story Christine – it is very inspiring to read.
“It was the moment that the lid came off the jar that being good, being nice and being caring could be seen for what they were – a pretense and a barrier to truly connecting with myself and with others. A story created to stop me from being all that I am”.
And equally self empowering to start bringing appreciation and acceptance to our lives, ‘Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express.’
Stephanie the same sentence caught my attention too
“It was the moment that the lid came off the jar that being good, being nice and being caring could be seen for what they were – a pretense and a barrier to truly connecting with myself and with others. A story created to stop me from being all that I am”.
We have created so many stories and justifications of why we are the way we are that we believe the stories we have been given. Our stories then give us an excuse for with drawing from life because we think life is too hard. These are the lies we are fed and believe because we think we think and that our thoughts belong to us because we thought them. This has to be the biggest lie of them all and one I’m still struggling to come to terms with because the feeling my thoughts belong to me is so entrenched but I’m sure I’m not alone in this lie of thinking.
I have found it so very healing just to express what I feel without having to worry how the other will receive it. The more I do this, a momentum builds that now I find that I easily express and in doing so my old habit of holding back from expressing what was true for me, just drops away.
‘Little did I know then that I could choose at any moment to be that Love. I could choose to recognise the amazing being I was and am today, and feel the richness held within me’. When we start to accept and care for ourselves, we reawaken the love that we are and have always been.
What is it about us as a race of human-beings that we withhold the richness of the inner heart you speak of from ourselves? This makes no sense to me but we all do it. Seemingly preferring instead to seek this richness from someone else, who is also in denial of this richness that is within us yet we run a million miles from it?
It is great to know that we always can grow and learn and are not stuck in a ‘I just can’t express’ ideal forever because we think that’s ‘just us’.
This is wonderful to read Christine, I still stumble at times with my expression but it is so much more expanded from what it was. It feels great to be more open and accepting and honest even if it can be sometimes uncomfortable. The feedback is most often more openness from the other person too because there is not the confusion that is created when we do hold back.
When we come to understand that “Choosing to hide and hold back” who we naturally are not only affects the person we are with but also ourselves we are finally at the point in our lives when we are able to appreciate the power of our expression. Every word we speak and every movement we make comes with everything we are feeling at that moment in time and can be felt by the receiver, therefore we have a huge responsibility as to the way we express in every moment.
Taking the lid off the jar can seem like a big jolt. But we can open it slightly and it doesn’t take long to realise how glorious it feels to have it fully off and to no longer be contained within a jar!
Each of us bring a particular color, texture and flavor to what we express. Nothing replaces it even if you can fully appreciate what came through the expression of another one, if you can feel the truth contained therein.
‘spending too much time trying to get it right, phrasing what I have to say, trying to get it ‘just right’ and not even entertaining the possibility that I might have something amazing to offer.’ I can relate to this Christine, it made me quite indecisive which then made me frustrated on myself as I knew deep down the truth instead of what I chose the ‘right and wrong’ out of fear of making mistakes.
A very clear exposure on the truth of being nice and good and how lethal it is in blocking our true expression. “Being good, being nice, and being caring was nothing but an airtight seal that allowed things to fester inside me: it blocked the connection and interaction I deeply craved and what I really felt inside and wanted to express”.
Wow Christine this is incredible , what a terrible spell to have yourself under . But no more as can been seen by this beautiful writing and expression , thank you for the god news.
Gorgeous to read how your life and you have unfolded, ‘Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express. The unfolding Grace that I am now experiencing and living every day is the substance of Miracles.’
I wonder how many of us are just watching life pass us by and waiting for it to start? When all we have to do to live it is not hold back any more and express ourselves. Sure it can be challenging at first but it’s like any other muscle in the body – as we exercise it we become stronger. Nothing to lose in my view so why not give it a go?
We can think everything will be fine and safe if we control all around us, what an illusion, we can never really control all around us. I am learning to surrender and trust more and more, to connect with my body and be guided from its innate wisdom.
Great to call and expose this very common pattern, ‘ Being good, being nice, and being caring was nothing but an airtight seal that allowed things to fester inside me: it blocked the connection and interaction I deeply craved and what I really felt inside and wanted to express.’ It feels so lovely for me personally to have let go, and probably more letting go still needed of this old false way of behaving.
‘It was the moment that the lid came off the jar that being good, being nice and being caring could be seen for what they were – a pretense and a barrier to truly connecting with myself and with others. A story created to stop me from being all that I am.’ Beautifully expressed and something I can relate to, how we avoid our true expression to protect ourselves and not live our graceful power.
Lack of self worth limits us in so many areas, and, as you show here having not felt what you wanted to express was more than enough, ‘trying to get it ‘just right’ and not even entertaining the possibility that I might have something amazing to offer.’
I can so relate to what you have shared Christine, about your past of the being good nice etc for me I felt imprisoned in a box. I am coming to experience these words in my life now also “Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express. ” as I learn to deepen my love and tenderness for my self, how I express is changing to be much more open and honest.
“Choosing to hide and hold back had meant missing out on the amazing love and joy that is in, and around, me.” Good call Christine and one I can so relate to. Holding back can be so exhausting. Feeling freedom to express and be our natural selves is liberating – and not just for ourselves,
It’s crazy that we have to re-learn what we came into the world already knowing. When we were babies, and even young children, we did not apologies for how we felt, we simply screamed it or spoke it or cried it. It was all there.
Letting our true selves out, the only way to live with true freedom. Otherwise we are in constant reaction to the world around us, cowering or fighting but either way still controlled by what is going on outside of us.
Acknowledging that “Being good, being nice, and being caring” is but a form of protection out of fear of rejection and to hide the feeling of lack of self-worth is the first step to dismantling the wall that is actually the cause which results in one being rejected as it prevents openness and connection with another.
I find if I have to think too hard about what I’m going to say, then something isn’t right. I have also had moments where what needed to be said just came out without any pre-planning whatsoever. Then there are the times when I feel something is there to be said but I hold back.
Trusting myself and what I felt and then wanted to share was very hard for me at times particularly growing up. For me there is a feeling of valuing one self and allowing the space to express and allowing others this courtesy to shows a deep level of respect and I find conversations are much more open and intimate in these moments. The words are always just there when we are connected to ourselves and then express from this connection.
“Little did I know then that I could choose at any moment to be that Love”. How amazing is it that we are always free to make this choice, the choice to be who we naturally are. That we don’t is simply showing us how many invisible barriers we have placed in love’s way.
I usually had the same feeling of needing the external approval before I trust in what I had to say. This is a very unloving choice that has disempowered and disconnected myself from my inner knowing for long time.
By honouring my body and appreciating myself first, I’m recovering the clarity to listen within me what I have to express and how to do it. In fact, without self-judgements I’m realising that it’s something very simple. I just have to allow it to be.
‘I came to realise that condemning myself for the choices I have made in my life serves no purpose for the life I am living now.’ We are not the sinners the church wants us to believe we are, full of guilt and shame. Yes, we have to be honest and responsible for the choices made but then get on with living in a way we know is true.
Everyone’s voice is important and needed if this world is to change to be the loving place it could be.
That is so true and one day we will all know that and it will come to pass
‘Little did I know then that I could choose at any moment to be that Love.’ That love is always there within us, just waiting to be connected to.
This is truly ‘good medicine’ Christine. Holding back creates an enormous pressure within the body which can feel like a dam being filled to the brim and only one more drop (stress from lack of expression) in danger of breaking open and causing havoc with a major flood being let loose (emotions) on the surrounding area (other people). Very harming for all.
“Little did I know that all I had to do was to start to say what I felt inside to others, to let out the words and to not allow the fear of being rejected, losing loved ones or being attacked hold me back from expressing my truth”.
If we do not express then we will never grow – for in expression is great re-discovery and learning of ourselves and others.
‘Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express’. Mine too Christine and the more I express and share myself the more natural it becomes to express without any fuss, or need from the other.
In line with what is being share in this blog I know that I always found myself not being able to write or to express myself in speaking, as that just being a singularity of me and in that I gave that quality to be with others, something I had to accept and live with. But in the recent years i have found that I have something to say from the deep pool of love my heart is and since then my writing is amazing and my way of expressing in speech is with that a quality and very important to not hold back for bringing this to the world.
This is gorgeous Christine and something I have experienced in my own life as very true also – ‘Accepting, surrendering and appreciating me have changed my world, my words and the way I express.’
You’ve certainly found your words Christine! What an inspiration you are for all of us who shy away from being our true selves.
And the most wonderful thing is… If we simply start to listen to our body, the body will lead the way and find the words for us… This really is an extraordinary feeling and can be experienced by everyone.
I have spent a lot of time trying to get it just right in what I wish to express, and in this trying, the right words do not come. I live a simple life and am a student of The Way of the Livingness presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, and thus have learned to respect and care for my body. Thus I can feel so much more from my body, but do not express it! What I am learning is that I do not have to ‘try’, for my body is communicating everything and I just have to allow myself to open my mouth and express!
Jacqmcfadden04 a while back I had a session with a practitioner and for the last 10-15 minutes of the session there was nothing to say verbally however our bodies were in complete union with each other and this felt electrifying it was as though our bodies were communicating but not with words. Is it possible that in the future speech will not be necessary because our bodies will be communicating on a vibrational level where the speech is not required?
‘Little did I know that all I had to do was to start to say what I felt inside to others, to let out the words and to not allow the fear of being rejected, losing loved ones or being attacked hold me back from expressing my truth’. I so relate to this and is still a work in progress for me just to express my feelings……but I can feel the harm and the tension it causes in my body when I do not express especially with a recent experience.