The Miracle of Me-You

Some years ago, in the course of my work in Oncology, I went to see a young person who had just had major surgery around the abdominal area. For some reason the skin had not been closed over the site and a large bandage was in place.

“Would you like to see?” said the young person enthusiastically, gently lifting back the bandage for a brief few seconds.

An astounding sight met me, particularly the colours and the beautiful symmetry of the working organs. There was a creamy white, a dark, rosy but shocking pink, a lavender brown and a mild, milky grey, all nestled together like pebbles that had fallen next to each other on a beach. So still, yet with a purpose towards the larger body, sustaining it to move, to laugh, to live.

As I looked, TRUTH sent a direct ‘snapshot’ from their body to mine: I will try to paint in words what I felt, and saw, in my body:

“Beauty… The Universe… Truth… Working… Here I am… Powerful… Vulnerable… Strong… Delicate… This is you… A Life’s Purpose!”

No words, only a snapshot, felt and understood. A profound and direct reflection for me, of me, to assimilate into my consciousness, and a privilege to see and to know: we are One.

At that time I had a busy, pressured life, focussed on ‘keeping all the plates spinning.’ No time to fully appreciate what I had just seen and felt, and continued to feel – the truth in my body. My self-worth was low, exhaustion near, even though I loved my job. Occasionally the wonderment of that moment, the Universality of it, would come back to me, calling me to consider more…

As I approached sixty years of age I felt the winds of change, in particular, that the pension age was going to be changed. Charitable funding had run out for my job and circumstances were making it difficult for me to continue. I began to plan for retirement. I had a calling to work with animals and studied Animal Healing, which involved volunteering to work with a Charity in Sri Lanka. On that trip I met a fellow student at this course who had what I thought at the time were some odd ways: getting up at 3.00am, going to bed before 9.00pm, no partying and quite particular in what he would eat. He suggested that our current training was missing some valuable information on self-care and recommended I read a book titled The Way It Is by Serge Benhayon.

I returned home to my life, which even in retirement was again ‘busy’. When I read this book it was like pieces of a puzzle slotting into place, and I began to ponder… my new style of being. I knew then I had come back to my home, the Universe. I became a Student of The Livingness, where I have been given confirmation of my words that describe the snapshot, the reflection I received, of our beautiful bodies. These words I knew already, but I need to hear them in different contexts and expression until I ‘get it.’ I knew them already, but laziness and hiding was my way.

Gradually I came to know that reading books and watching videos was not going to get me in touch with the living truth I had felt in my body that day. This truth has to be lived every day, every moment. Through nurturing my body and caring for it with tenderness and love, my awareness is starting to grow. Why has it taken me so long to accept and appreciate this truth, and myself? There are many reasons and distractions in place for us to not look at ourselves in the mirror with love and tenderness – to not appreciate ourselves, to not be with ourselves. We are conditioned to ‘leave ourselves’ in childhood, taught that it is selfish and arrogant to think of our own well-being before we attend to the needs of other people, and this continues until we exhaust ourselves by looking for love outside of us.

My journey continues, and gradually – through appreciation, tender care and self-acceptance – I am beginning to feel the beauty and love in my own body, taking time, sitting with me, being me. I have returned to work as a carer and personal assistant to people who need help with their own self-care, and my strong foundation of love lived every day means I can express this in my work and daily life, and in doing so I find there is more to learn in supporting them and then the feeling comes: “I do that for them, do I not love myself enough to do it for myself?” The answer is “yes, of course I do!” Now the people I work with and those who I meet in my living each day can see that this love is there inside themselves too.

With thanks and deep appreciation to Serge Benhayon and his family, my wider family and all humanity who constantly challenge me to ‘come out here and Love Us!’ – to stop hiding and to fully live life’s purpose.

By C.M., Personal Assistant/Carer, Nottingham, England

Related Reading:
Self Care – ‘Walking the Talk’
The Changing Definition of Well-Being
Self-Care is not Selfish

307 thoughts on “The Miracle of Me-You

  1. I love working and plan to never to retire. Why would we retire from life when we have so much to share and enjoy – I am here until my last breath and beyond.

  2. “My journey continues, and gradually – through appreciation, tender care and self-acceptance – I am beginning to feel the beauty and love in my own body, taking time, sitting with me, being me.” Such simple steps C.M but very beautiful and absolutely confirming ones too.

  3. The fact that “we are One” is such a beautiful revelation to have, C.M., and it is inspiring to hear how this moment of truth had a ripple effect throughout your life and brought you back to the sense of universality and purpose in your relationship with yourself and the world around you.

  4. ‘to stop hiding and to fully live life’s purpose’ Beautiful and inspiring C.M. – this is simply all we ever need to do.

  5. What a wonderful story. It is hard to put into words those moments when you receive a universal download but you have captured the feeling very well. Often these moments are so profound and yet the message is so simple – I am finding this is the way of the universe and therefore needs to be my way to be in harmony with all that is.

    1. When I was 17 I had an accident where a pane of glass sliced deeply into the skin on my finger and I had to go to the hospital to be stitched up. As I was waiting to be stitched a nurse came in to spray some antiseptic on the wound. In that moment I was fascinated by the wound, looking beneath the skin to what was underneath but feeling very palpably that my body was a vehicle that there was so much more to me than my body, yet I felt very connected to it. I am not sure in that moment if I truly appreciated my body, being more inspired by the feeling that there was so much more than the physical body. Since then, however, I have stopped disregarding my body so much – respecting it so much more as a way to connect more deeply with the ‘more’ that I am. This blog has supported me to appreciate too the science and harmony of the body more and to respect it in just the same way as the ‘more’ – no less – equally so. Thank you.

      1. Thank you too, michelle819, for sharing your experience confirming the ‘so much more’ that our bodies show us.

  6. “I have returned to work as a carer and personal assistant to people who need help with their own self-care, and my strong foundation of love lived every day means I can express this in my work and daily life”. This is pure gold CM and showing the world how it is done….it is only when it is lived in our own bodies (not in perfection) can we truly offer it to someone else.

  7. The approach to self-care you share here – based on self-love – is an important one. How different our care of others is when we offer them this reflection and the fullness of our being. It is my feeling that the future of social care needs this foundation – a foundation that is truly supportive of both the carer and the cared for.

  8. “We are conditioned to ‘leave ourselves’ in childhood, taught that it is selfish and arrogant to think of our own well-being before we attend to the needs of other people, and this continues until we exhaust ourselves by looking for love outside of us.” This line stood out for me today as I could feel the importance of what here is being said. As from young we are taught to disconnect with ourselves and with that we are forced to live a life of exhaustion, a life where we will continuously seek for relief and to not feel that hurt we carry from living in this disconnection from our essence, that essence of which taking care for oneself is a natural and absolute normal expression..

  9. You could take any part of human anatomy and find that it is reflected by nature, and vice versa. The Egyptians were masters of this, and understood the body through it’s channels as learnt and observed by the River Nile.

    1. I would love to know more about this, Susie W. I have been musing over how the landscape we live in affects our lives, behaviour and how we express ourselves through our bodies.

  10. I still clearly recall the first time someone asked me what I do that is loving for myself – I cried. It was the start of the awareness of what it means to care, nurture and truly love myself and the loving delicious journey continues. It is a choice of a life-time.

  11. A life without purpose is a life missed. It’s like sitting in a dark room unaware that the sun is shining brightly.

  12. Such a beautiful reflection of living the love that we are through self care and offering this to others as a way they could choose also.

  13. How deeply we may appreciate that our body remains a loyal servant until our last breath, regardless if we have neglect it, negated its wisdom and abused it no end… forever our body provides us with feedback, wisdom and intel to navigate and truly live our lives.

  14. What an amazingly profound experience for you to be able to look into the inner body of another and from what you felt know so very deeply that “we are One”. We can look at another from the outside and what we see at first glance is someone who is very different from us and we often judge them from this place of difference, but peel back our skin and we suddenly are all the same; an equality that flows from the inside out.

    1. So true Ingrid. It seems much of life is coloured with ideals and beliefs that we are often not even conscious of, which tells us we are different and separate. Yet when we manage to break out of the stupour (accidents, shock and in this a case a literal close up look at someone’s inner organs seem to do the trick) we have the opportunity to connect to a far greater awareness of the oneness and the universality that we are all a part of.

  15. When we treat each other with decency and respect we develop connection which enables us to love each other. For this to happen we need to deepen our own self respect, connection and love first.

  16. I have definitely had many a times the experience of feeling the entire universe through my own body, connecting to it deeply, but never have I had the chance to look into the organs the way you have described here. It’s inspiring and it is giving me an even deeper appreciation of the perfect harmony and symphony that our bodies are always responding to and calling us back to.

  17. “Through nurturing my body and caring for it with tenderness and love, my awareness is starting to grow.” what a beautiful sharing CM and so real and true very inspiring and something we would all love to feel and know as part of our everyday living way naturally.

  18. Isn’t it true that in a moments connection to ourselves or another, the entire universe is with us, un-ending understanding, wisdom and divinity forever offered.

  19. It has taken me some time to put delicate, sensitive, tender and strong and powerful in the same sentence or even in the same context in my life as for years I believed them to be opposites, but the human body is constantly reflecting to us all the fact that there is great strength in delicateness and fragility.

  20. “There are many reasons and distractions in place for us to not look at ourselves in the mirror with love and tenderness – to not appreciate ourselves, to not be with ourselves.” It is so true and it makes me wonder how normal I have found that nobody worries much about the fact that it is the case almost every woman picks herself apart in front of the mirror instead of truly adoring herself. Yet this should be one of our greatest worries as if we are not in harmony with ourselves, how can we be in harmony with others?

  21. As you have shared CM, ‘I am beginning to feel the beauty and love in my own body,’ and may I add that our bodies are a remarkable vessel that shares so much when it is allowed to because of the self-loving ways we bring to it. Before self-loving for me came a gentleness that starts from learning the Gentle Breath Meditation. For more on the GENTLE BREATH MEDITATION go to;
    http://www.unimedliving.com/search?keyword=gentle+breath+meditation

  22. Living what we know is the most joyous thing, and we don’t have to know everything before we start to live purposefully, in fact, as we commit to living life with awareness, we discover that what we know is a lot more than we imagine and it all keeps deepening, but only when we start to truly live.

  23. I love how you say that you take equal care of your own body and well-being as you do for those whom you care for; love is spherical and so it makes sense that it wouldn’t leave anybody out of the equation!

  24. The body is a great reminder of the power of delicateness. If you take a microscope to the body and look in detail, we are so delicate.

  25. Amazing how much in our lives can change when we begin to bring gentleness into our movement and expression, and then deepening this further yet. It can transform things hugely and in very beautiful ways!

  26. ‘reading books and watching videos was not going to get me in touch with the living truth I had felt in my body that day. This truth has to be lived every day, every moment. ‘ True C.M, the body is our vehicle of expression and we can express divinely from our living truth.

  27. The instant feeling-seeing experience of understanding energetic imprints and communication is fascinating. The mind cannot explain it but the knowing is absolute anyway; knowing without knowledge.

  28. We live our lives creating ripple effects depending on what it is we are choosing to align to, so the more we say yes to the love that we are the more we can reflect this to others and inspire them to live in a way that is to true for their nature within.

  29. Focusing on being present in our body is indeed key to returning to the truth we deeply know and expressing this forth in every moment.

  30. A moment to stop and deeply appreciate our beautiful and miraculous bodies is a moment well spent, thank you.

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