Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much. I’ve always been a bit shy and I had no circle of friends like everyone else around me seemed to have. I thought I was just not fitting in, too boring for others to be interested in me, so I gave up trying and settled for isolating myself more and more. I can see now how I got trapped in a mindset of anger, blame and judgement.
First, I blamed my parents for my perceived inadequacy – wasn’t it their genes and the way they brought me up that had produced this lacking person that I was? Then I blamed everybody else for not loving and liking me as I was – turning it all around. Now something was wrong with the world, not with me, and I could feel angry instead of sad. Finally, I blamed God for creating this whole mess where there is this good but helpless me, surrounded by a loveless, hard world.
It was no surprise that when I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in. I could not really believe that he loved me, always wondering what it was about me that he felt attracted to. For a long time I thought that he must simply be too lazy to go out and make the effort to find somebody better than me. Maybe he had the same lack of self-worth as me? At the same time, I adored him, every little bit of him, and I never stopped loving him to this day. But why couldn’t I believe that he loved ME? I obviously had some issues with love, and with particularly the way I saw myself.
On one hand, I craved love and felt that I deserved it: on the other hand I had so much self-doubt as to whether I was lovable by anyone.
I was filled with so many ideas, wishes and concepts about love. I wanted it to be given to me, someone had to come and fill me up with it.
I had no love for myself.
And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either – what a dilemma!
After many years of living, or rather hanging on like this, unsuccessfully trying many kinds of conventional and spiritual healing therapies to sort out my unresolved issues and emotions, I landed with Universal Medicine. There I started healing sessions with an esoteric psychologist, which was supported with other esoteric hands on healing modalities to address the tensions and contractions in my body. And what unfolded in me with this is nothing short of a miracle.
After the initial working through my anger and resistance to feel the deeper layers of sadness and self-neglect, I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being; no more blaming of the world, my parents or God. This was hard at first, but also turned out to be a great relief. I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.
Then it was time to look at the issue of not feeling lovable. I could readily give a list of reasons why I wasn’t up to scratch, but the list of the opposite, why I deserved love, was surprisingly much longer. And strangely it was more uncomfortable to express that list than the negative, self-criticising one.
So I got some homework to do – to look into a mirror every day and tell myself that I love myself. Sounds easy enough, but it wasn’t. It was quite confronting to feel the initial embarrassment, the squirming and trying to get away when I said “I love myself” or “I love you” to my face in the mirror. But I persisted and gradually I could accept that I am deserving of being loved. Looking deeply and openly into my own eyes I could see and feel that I am actually really full of love. The more I allowed that to be, the more this love expressed through my eyes, it just kept growing and flowing, so much that I sometimes freak out a bit and had to look away.
It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.
The effect of this daily ‘exercise’ was that I discovered what love really is.
First, I realised and accepted that I can and do love myself in full, unconditionally. Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone. And I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else. As within, so without – it shines in and through everybody and everything equally, without judgement or measuring.
I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally. In fact, we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally. When we fully accept and surrender to that endless unconditional love that we feel deep inside, we simply are love and see that in truth there is only love.
It took a while to fully integrate my newly discovered self-love into my daily life due to my stubbornly habitual, self-doubting thought patterns. Occasionally I still get caught in them today, but the depth of love as an almost tangible foundation in my body has been steadily growing with the support of the Universal Medicine philosophical teachings and healing modalities.
And as I expand in my awareness of myself and life around me, I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally. It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody. It’s up to us to allow it, feel it and live it at any moment. Then this love will guide our movements and actions and this will bring harmony into our lives, our relationships and affect everybody around us in a healing way.
There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love. I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.
By Regina Perlwitz, committed student of Universal Love and Truth
Related Reading:
Expressing Love – I Love You
Why are we so Afraid to Truly be Loved?
Accepting All of You
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
“After the initial working through my anger and resistance to feel the deeper layers of sadness and self-neglect, I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being; no more blaming of the world, my parents or God.”
When we get to this stage in self healing, miracles happen as we start to open up and accept ourselves as the absolute love that we are. It’s impossible to hang onto this feeling that fills our whole body, it has to be shared with everyone and why wouldn’t we want to share, as this feeling of contentment replaces the unsettlement we all felt and suppressed.
We are love, ‘I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else.’ Gorgeous.
This blog is a beautiful sharing of returning to love, ‘I realised and accepted that I can and do love myself in full, unconditionally. Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone.’
The simplicity and profoundness of what you share is beautifully disarming. Disarming of all the pictures of what is required for love to be available. I love the realisation that love is endless, unstoppable and always there.
Regina there’s some gold statements here that are supportive for me and no doubt for others. Who would have thought that looking in the mirror, whether looking into your own eyes or saying those words, “I love you”, could simply make a difference to one’s life. And in that life can simply turn around and we can love others. I have done that from time to time and it is beautiful when we love another as the conditions of who you let in and who you don’t, fall away.
Love has no conditions, it is unconditional and it is for the all. We need more of this and the world could be a different place.
“It was no surprise that when I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in. I could not really believe that he loved me”, this Regina, was exactly what I was feeling with my partner and for me it took many years to finally let it in that He really loved me just being me. What a joy to finally let go of the struggle of wanting to be loved, when I had it all the time. Now today it is our celebration point within our relationship. As you say letting in our own self love is the beginning of it all.
This is an appreciation point when I too have a partner who simply adores me and still stands by me. I can feel a depth of love that is so deep that it feels ancient.
This blog is a huge offering to others about not only loving ourselves but loving others too. Yes definitely something to celebrate about.
Thank you Regina, what a beautiful time I have had reading your blog about love. “And I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else.” You have reminded me of how love is always there within me, endlessly there, and to come back to it as a foundation more.
It is the word ‘well’ that really gets me. It represents the unfathomable, endless depth of love that is available always.
Stepping back into Love opens us to the most natural ways of living and thus Love becomes a part of our Living ways or Livingness that opens the door to our universal connected-ness.
Recently I felt overwhelmed by the amount of love I could feel from others. Then I connected to myself and the overwhelm dropped – “this love is my natural inner essence”
The most beautiful thing to feel with love is that there is no doing nor trying in love – there is only the deep surrender to what we know to be true and already lying within us.
It is one thing to love and adore another, but completely different to let oneself love and adore oneself. This is something for us all to learn to allow into our lives.
Absolutely, to learn to love and adore ourselves is an important relationship to build, maintain, and deepen.
This has been a huge learning and acceptance for me Henrietta, and has taken many years to unpick, to let go of all the reasons why I was unable to love myself. Reconnecting back to God, to actually allow that warm and deep knowing to flow through my body again, to let go of the self bashing is the greatest gift I have given myself. Which in turn affects everyone as they can also feel what it is like to allow the flow of the universe back into my life, as we are not islands, we are all connected, everyone feels everything thing all of the time.
Interesting how we can accept criticism towards us so much more easily than accepting love. And this seems to be a universal phenomena.
It does seem to be a universal phenomena, why is it so much harder to accept true love into our lives than to accept a criticism?
True appreciation is expansion both for the giver and the receiver (that’s if the receiver allows themselves to truely receive the appreciation and not deflect it in some way).
Love is tangible, it is actually very specific and easy to feel when it’s there and whether or not it gets consciously acknowledged by those who are feeling it, it is acknowledged and registered by the body every time it is felt.
And it doesn’t ever stop. Love keeps on becoming grander and grander versions of itself. How utterly extraordinary is that. Once upon a time I though that life was a bit of a hard slog, painful and difficult, confusing and testing but it’s not, it’s none of those things unless that’s how we make it to be. We can and will all eventually choose life to be love and what a day that’ll be when we do!
I look forward to that day immensely Alexis, and in the meantime, ‘I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally. ‘
Even though love is the very stuff that we’re made of, as human beings stuck in the confines of the mind, we have no idea whatsoever as to what love truly is. I could say that it’s grand beyond measure, I could say that it’s infinite in it’s beauty and depth and still I would be saying absolutely nothing at all about love. Love defies description, it’s as simple as that.
Definitely a little bit of a dilemma! ‘And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either – what a dilemma!’ And on reflection what I was feeling was how many of us in the world do this .. not even with a partners love but just craving love and yet not letting true love, or more, surrendering to the true love within!
What a great sharing Vicky as Love has such wide reaching values that the surrender keeps on expanding as does our Within-ness, Inner-most-hearts, Essences, Souls / Esoteric.
Sharing your re-connection with the love of the inner-heart invites other hearts to beat to the rhythm of Divine love.
Gosh a dilemma indeed that I am sure many know, craving love yet not actually letting it in when its truly there! The irony is it lies within, it never left us rather we left it so when we allow ourselves to re-connect with this then of course everything around us changes as well ✨
I Love it when miracles happen ✨
Me too 🥰
I soooo know or rather knew this one ‘First, I blamed my parents for my perceived inadequacy – wasn’t it their genes and the way they brought me up that had produced this lacking person that I was?’ Blaming everyone around us for how we feel yet do we ever consider that through choice and responsibility we have the power to change and be and live who we truly are. However, in order to do this it sure helps to have people around you that are living and reflecting this way and it was not until I had this, through Universal Medicine, that I could then spot the blaming and being a victim and start to claim responsibility and make different choices. Since then I have never looked back and it has been and continues to be pretty amazing ✨ This also highlights the huge responsibility we have as parents and adults in bringing up and supporting the younger generation to make loving choices in their life that supports them now and into their future.
Well said Vicky – it is so easy to blame another and in the process we are simply not wanting to take responsibility for our part in anything.
Regina I have learnt that love is nothing like I thought or told it was. Most of us know ‘love’ as an emotion we write about it, make films, sing songs and it is all about emotional love. When actually true/ real love doesn’t have a drop of emotion in it. So somewhere in the history of man we have fallen hook line and sinker for something that bares no resemblance to the truth. This doesn’t surprise me because we have settled for less and accepted the less as being the all that is.
Yes, the true meaning of love has been corrupted, love is simply a beholding light, see Unipedmedia – Truth in Words, for the true meaning of love.
https://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/truth-in-words/change-the-meaning-of-love-and-see-what-happens.html
I agree Shirley-Ann and ‘everyday’ can be broken down into ‘every moment’, as love becomes a moment by moment choice.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love. I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love”. Regina this really is the key isn’t it. Love is actually all there is but we have woven an absolute matrix of ‘what is not love’ and stuck it over the top and in the process we’ve lost sight of love. And the dismantling of the ‘what is not matrix’ has been and continues to be an ongoing process for me, one that has been supported immeasurably by Universal Medicine.
Alexis I totally and utterly agree with you- I have also been totally supported by Universal Medicine to keep looking and working on my issues around God, love, lack of self worth – my list is long. And I could have given up years ago, but the truth can never be denied and will always bubble up to the surface which means that in the future the full truth and understanding of what Universal Medicine presents will be known to everyone and everyone will be guided by the principles of love.
Regina this is so beautiful I simply had to repeat it “First, I realised and accepted that I can and do love myself in full, unconditionally. Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone. And I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else. As within, so without – it shines in and through everybody and everything equally, without judgement or measuring”.
I believe that the majority of us have so many misconceptions about love we have fallen for the what is not love rather than what is true love, to the point where it is possible that we have given up on love and accepted the corrupted version because may be we feel we don’t really deserve true love that is for others not for us? This can then allow jealousy and comparison into the mix of the self worth issues so is it any wonder we are so messed up over the four letter word?
To see the grand nature of love and all it brings is worth the commitment to developing the qualities in our life.
“I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally. It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody” When I connect to this Regina what you are talking about here I know I am connected to the all.
“… we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally.” I have found it quite astounding how much my world has changed and continues to do so as I deepen my love for myself.
Beautifully said Jstewart51, it is an incremental process to deepen our love for self but each step is indeed an astounding one.
Love is a choice available for all. These days I’m becoming more aware about the thoughts and ideas, the ideals and expectations around this topic that I had and how much have conditioned me in my life. All of this is a whole package of information that feels too heavy and restricitive to live with.
Now the more I surrender to the fact that love is my natural state of being the more I know from inside what really it’s about. Far different from what I thought or expected, greater indeed, a quality that we all can live. I feel that adjusting to this new relationship with love is starting a completely different relationship with myself. I’m opening up to the possibility of bringing in to my everyday life the intimacy and loving care I’ve ever expected from outside, how grand and precious is that.
We are continuously saturated by thoughts, ideas, beliefs, pictures projections on how we want life to be, should be. It’s an onslaught that constantly pours through us. How to find a way that allows all that to pass without sticking to anything in our bodies is to be like a fish in water and not get wet. I have heard this expression mentioned many times and now I can fully understand what it means. The more we refocus and surrender to the energy of love which equally flows though us we can feel the intimacy and sacredness of pure love, once felt it is something that one remembers and then all our attention is caught by the precious feeling that wells up in our body. It is not something we can grab from the outside it blossoms from within.
Thank you Regina, I so needed to read this today, there is a lot for me to ponder on as there were so many gems of wisdom here throughout the blog. I’m going to do the mirror exercise as I have dropped away from my self love, and I do know from experience that when I love and adore me the love then flows to others.
Yes, a great idea, I have tried the mirror exercise before, but have not found it easy – probably indicating that it would be a beneficial exercise for myself.
“I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally” – yes that’s also the key to leadership Regina i.e. from the quality of us, everything flows and everything is experienced.
After seeing and feeling so much sadness and self doubt in myself for so long Universal Medicine has helped me discover that it truly is as simple as just making the choice to come back to the love I am and we all are…
It turns out that as large and overwhelming as I felt my hurts to be, the Love that I am (and that is equally available to everyone) is much, much greater.
This it the Universal Medicine that Serge Benhayon has been sharing and presenting for us all.
Totally agree Jo Elmer I’m also discovering the love that I am is greater than anything I have felt in this life time. I would not have come to this understanding on my own. I had the support of Universal Medicine and the Benhayon family to thank. Bizarrely, I was so busy concentrating and justifying my hurts, saying but look at this, and this, and what about that, all the negatives I had taken on as me. Universal Medicine kept reminding me but you come from love, you are love, your particles belong to the grandness and spectacular preciousness that is love and at last I can feel from within that what I have been denying is in fact true and it’s not just me we are all the same and just like the old me everyone seems to be in deep denial of something we all want to belong to which is universal love.
Experiencing the ever greater depths of love that we can hold ourselves in, and hence all others equally eliminates all the prisons of judgement, expectation, justice/injustice, right/wrong, and the major hurts that inevitably arise from these that serve to perpetuate the cycle.
How ever far we may have strayed, the very instance we connect to the love deep inside us we are back and in the moments that follow we can choose to develop and deepen with that or not.
“So I got some homework to do – to look into a mirror every day and tell myself that I love myself.” This is the best homework that I have ever seems and so worth doing.
It’s important to observe our reflection for it not only shows the reality of our choices (which most do not want to admit or see) but it also reveals deeper layers of how truly amazing we actually are.
Love is so much more than we can think!
… And when we acknowledge ‘how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love’ we get to see and experience the world in a very different way.
‘so I gave up trying and settled for isolating myself more and more. I can see now how I got trapped in a mindset of anger, blame and judgement.’ What a great example that when we withdraw from ourselves we are susceptible to such emotion.
“Love is so much more than I thought it was” – agree, love’s infinity is something to love deeply.
‘Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone.’ Once we get this then life simply flows with the Magic of God.
There is no greater or lesser love than the love we naturally are, so we have a choice to live in connection with that or not.
It is a coming home to be held in the truth of love though it might take a while to fully accept it.
Love isn’t something to be accepted as such, it is something to be embraced. Love is something to be relished, to submerge ourselves in, to totally surrender to. Let’s gorge ourselves on the stuff, we’ve been without it for far too long.
I have 2 kids both at very different life stages. And I’m seeing how for one of them – love is boundaries and discipline. I would not have thought this was loving in the past but this is exactly what is needed.
So cool to dismantle the pictures we have about love and come back to the simplicity of it being what truly serves for all of our learning and evolution.
HM I love the clarity and precision of what you have shared. We have such a notion of love being a rather gooey substance, of doey eyes and swoonful emotions but it’s not. It can be purposeful direct and even cutting if that’s what’s needed.
‘It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.’ I find that people in the street, strangers I’ve not met before will respond with a smile, a true meeting of essence, regardless of who they are, age, gender, race, it is a lovely feeling inside that emanates to the outside world.
Great to read this today as I can see how I was reacting to an email earlier on in that old way of anger blame and judgement..I feel I might have some prejudice about this person and their profession and until I clear this I will not be able to work with them.
“….this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally. It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody” – when I understood about energy and that it flows through me; a body; a person, I realised how much I had been living my life unaware and in blindness. The awareness of energy brings awareness of life through the sight of oneself.
Sometimes we just distract ourselves by complicating things when in fact it is all very simple ❤️
The only way we will feel love and loved is through connecting to the love that we are already from the inside. If we cannot feel that love that resides within, then it is far more harder to feel the love that holds us by another.
Yes when we cut ourselves off from the eternal fountain of love we are lost and in that lost and empty state, we can be cruel and abusive towards ourselves and others.
Funny that how we are made of love, love is our essence, it is where we are from, and yet we can doubt that or forget it!
It’s doesn’t matter how stuck we think we are, coming back to love is so much easier to connect to than we think it is.
I love what you have shared Regina as I too am now aware of what Love truly is and where in truth it comes from.
What a beautiful transformation and as I read I can resonate with it very strongly, maybe not all but the core fact that I too blamed, I didn’t want to take responsibility for my choices and what I felt. When we do start to admit, be honest and feel our part and make different choices then it really doest become natural to love ourselves because you can start to feel it within as a truth.
I’m going through the experience myself of what it is to let people in – and what I am only seeing now is the mask I had on that kept the world out and made people think I was fine. It’s a big game we play to not let out who we really are.
‘ I had no love for myself.And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in ‘. So true Regina, We can’t truly receive Love if we don’t know it in our own body first.
I know the feeling of not feeling lovable very well and at times this comes back like a tidle wave. These days though, I realize that this is not true and that all this is reflecting to me is how my relationship with myself has been in the days leading up to it.
“It took a while to fully integrate my newly discovered self-love into my daily life due to my stubbornly habitual, self-doubting thought patterns.” Have you noticed that just when we think we have cleared a pattern another layer comes up to say ‘great, thanks for clearing that out of the way, because there is a little speck more to clear out and it is knocking you off balance more than you realise?’. This reality has stopped me seeing my learning as a linear experience.
‘I had no love for myself.’ I think this is something we can all relate to. Growing up and looking out at the world I hated how loveless it was, but it never occurred to me that I was contributing to this by being loveless with myself.
Love just is. Very beautiful to feel how simplicity returns when we reconnect with love and simply says yes to it.
What is within shines out – thank you for that reminder.
I love the way you have shared with us your journey – once we start loving ourselves and have a marker in our body of what that feels like we can, when we are feeling out of sorts, come back to it at any time, this is the beauty of our awareness and love.
‘ I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.’ This is an amazing process. I find that I need to be super honest with myself because I like to hide where I can sometimes keep blaming the world or God so as to avoid my part in what’s gone on. Blame is an excuse to continue recreating situations that basically harm, rather than stepping into my power and clearing the mess and working inline with divinity.
Before I learnt about the Ageless Wisdom and The Way of The Livingness I thought I knew what love was. However, I was deeply mistaken and have discovered it ‘is so much more than I thought it was’ – level of truth, integrity, strength, harmony, joy and much more than I ever imagined.
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – yes, Love is everything.
‘It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.’ This is undeniable! I’d heard the eyes are a person’s window to the soul before but I have seen it in many people eyes who let through divinity and it is glorious!
What if we choose our parents and what we get reflected in our childhood is exactly what we once did, so that we can grow out of it and choose differently? If we keep ourselves constantly in reaction in how we grew up, the chance to change this cycle is very unlikely.
Reaction of any kind prevents us from evolving because it is a ‘stuck state’. When we go into reaction we are in emotion and emotions are a state of turmoil, there is no clarity in them. It’s like we’re thrashing around on the spot. If we can have enough distance for us to firstly be aware that we have gone into reaction then we can gain more clarity and awareness and those things support us to gain even more distance and insight into what’s going on, so that eventually we free ourselves up from that particular pattern of reaction. And then we move onto the next thing that we go into reaction about, and so it goes until we don’t go into reaction about anything.
‘too boring for others to be interested in me’ This has been a very familiar thought for me too but why do we get these thoughts? How important is it to become aware we have a choice of what kind of thoughts we let in, to what source do we align, love or not love? By all means it is obvious we are already comparing ourselves with others from a very young age and distract ourselves to not feel the power of love that is inside us.
That is just it, they are patterns from young that we have not addressed or put a stop to. As adults we have a different brain to process what hurt us when we were young and we would do well to consider the illogical beliefs we still subscribe to.
Absolute certainty that Life is here to remind me that I’m so much love and every situation is there to allow me to live this deeper how deeply amazing and precious.
‘And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either.’ I can relate to this my whole life- when I felt people did love me I tried to pretend it wasn’t good enough, they weren’t perfect enough and I had an excuse to continue my search. I didn’t want to feel, is this as good as it got? Which was actually the emptiness of disconnection I had with myself and had nothing to do with them. I love the homework you gave yourself and feel how wonderful for me to start with this myself. To love myself no matter what I see in my reflection. What a wonderful way to stay present through any self-critique and stand firm. If I never back away from love then I am not at the mercy of me needing others to love me no matter what, which is what I have demanded all my life but never given to myself.
“When I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in”. Its only much later in life that I am realising that this is the way it works. We need to love ourselves to be able to accept love from others and the expectation that others are responsible for making us feel loved is a setup that is doomed to fail. When we don’t love ourselves, any love we receive bounces off or quickly pours out of us like a bucket with holes.
Love is so much more than I thought it was too – I grew up thinking that it was possible for abuse to be intermingled with love, and that love was this spectacular thing you only had with one or two people – it was directional and you needed another person to have it, not an actual quality within you that can be unfolded and developed and can actually pour out of you in every direction.
Truth is we are here to learn to ‘be love’, for when we are not love, we are not ourselves.
Although I absolutely agree there is a contradiction in we have to “learn to be love”. We are great geniuses in being love because that is our origin. We have to let go of the grand avoidances to express all that we are.
Acceptance is a powerful medicine, in that when we accept ourselves and our imperfections, we have the potential to accept our very own amazingness and divineness, and when we do, the sky is the limit.
That is why I now love mirrors so much simply to have that reflection back of my lovely movements, but too the genuine love that naturally emanates from my whole being. At times it is good to have the reflection back as it is a confirmation of who we truly are what ever mood we might have allowed to come in.
Thank you Regina, and as we reconnect with who we truly are, love shines out of our eye, and our very being and this is what is needed in the world.
Love – indeed the antidote to failure, judgement or punishment.
Instead of trying to find a solution for situations when we feel strangled by one or all of these emotional states coming back to love is key to expose their falsity and set us free from their grip on us.
The moment we connect to love in a heated situation the whole situation looses its intensity. It is so easy, but so hard at the same time if you are hooked in by the discussion and its game of right and wrong, which is nothing but destructive and entertaining the part in you, that does not want to evolve.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” In love we allow space for another to be who they are and to be where they are at without compromising ourselves in any way.
This is so supportive Regina, to remember “There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” It is pure love, 100%.
Pure love, I love this sharing and your last words I can feel how much this is actually true for you in your body and its deeply inspiring.
How indeed can we let the love and care in from others when we do not connect with and live the love that we are first.
Love is so much more – and such a different quality- to what I thought it was. I used to think love = being the nicest person in the world, pleasing everyone, doing what everyone else wanted me to do … and a lot of emotion to top it all. To discover that love is none of those things but a quality that can be lived and expressed from moment to moment, a way of being that holds everyone as an absolute equal and as the person they truly are, is a quite magical unfolding. And very real and practical.
As someone wrote ‘love is simple’, and that it is. Not so easy at times is to get out of the way what is not love, essentially the Self that seeks rather recognition, but love. With every bit of self we let go we gain back more of the love that just is. Interesting point is that we need to truly self-love and care for ourselves before and while we let go of self to become more of the love that we already are but is clouded by self – perhaps a conundrum for the mind, not so for the one living it.
It takes a constant choice and commitment to change something. But it can be simple when we change our movements because that can make the difference between it being a constant struggle or a beautiful constant deepening.
“…all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.” Remembering to do this is key. It is when we forget that we beome so disconnected from the love that is a constant and always available to us.
I love what you share here how when we expanded our love for ourself and life we cannot but be aware of how the endless supply of love inside ourselves is not from us and also it is there to share with everyone and never to keep it to ourselves.
Love is simple and can start with me!
To me that is the best ever homework we could ever get – to look in the mirror ever day and to tell yourself that you love you.
Whenever we blame ourselves or others for the way things are, we are in fact pushing love away. Being open to take responsibility for how we feel, where our life is at is a loving way to approach life. This is a beautiful example of how you have transformed from blame to pure love and an amazing example of how you have done this Regina and this shows us what is possible.
The importance knowing and living of love is so much more than i thought it was is so true and is the reality of love in every moment being who we are and what we are made of is so beautiful and empowering to really embrace for oneself and hence everyone. Love is in the air and in the way we move and anything less is not love and we know it.
Discovering that love is an energy, is energy, and by choosing to express with that energy has changed my life so much as I also discovered that in so, so many aspects of life I had not been expressing from or with love.
No matter how long or how far away we choose to go, when we turn around, Love is never far away. This is beautifully said Regina, Love is always here, waiting for us to return.
Yes, this is so true Gill and great to highlight this part because so many people in the world have given up on themselves and their connection to love.
That is my observation too Chan Ly. And the most saddening aspect to me is that they resign them self from the possibility that there is love while from my understanding of life I do know we are all love to begin with.
Probably because we are not used to it and doubt, questioning and judgment seem to work well in other areas of life. You are right, they don’t work when it comes to love, once it is clear what is love and what is not.
Love was an important part of my life because I ignored it so much – except in my relationship with my partner where it was paramount. I had no idea how important love was outside that area.
This is what is so precious about the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, of having sessions and doing the training courses and other workshops and the Retreats too – we get to feel what true love is, maybe for the first time in our conscious life this time round….and we remember. Reconnecting to the love that we are in essence means that we never really have an excuse not to be it. We become responsible, we recognise energetic integrity and begin to feel our way growing in awareness and the quality of our participation in life.
We don’t need to learn to love; we simply need to let out the love that we are.
When I am connected with my love with me I simply love everyone. It is a lived experience and feels so wide and spacious- I simply love it. Interesting to look at, why we are not choosing this all the time then?!
“It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.” What a great proof, that it is never about how our eyes look, but what energy they emanate. We respond to energy first before we get seduced by any look. How much are we open to receive or how much do we solely look out.
When we realise our own Love within, it becomes so evident to see that it is …”a universal source that is the same in everybody…” Love is harmless and beholding, and this is what human beings so naturally are. Anything that is not harmless is obvious – it can’t not but stand out and be felt.
We are all missing true love, we have an understanding of love when we are children as it is naturally part of who we are; we however are not encouraged to foster, grow and deepen our love quite the opposite in fact. So that by the time we reach adulthood we have lost our connection and in our emptiness instead look out into the world for that which resides hidden by hurts within us.
The more we love and accept ourselves, drop in humbleness and deepen in awareness, it doesn’t matter so much when others do not like us. Expect to stand out and not be liked when it is Truth that we move in.
We are currently living in a world where truth is often not welcomed, so it makes sense that people who do not wish to align to truth will be disturbed by someone who moves in absolute truth and exposing all the untruths in the world.
There is a common tendency to blame either others or ourselves if we don’t have love in our lives. Why? Could it be simply because we don’t know, or rather don’t remember, that we all are in truth Love, that it is in fact who we are in essence? Starting out as pure bundles of love when we are born, as soon as we start to develop self-consciousness we quickly learn to put layers of self-doubt and judgment on ourselves for not being what the outside world expects us to be, and from there on we are striving to be the opposite of what we truly are, which is simply – Love.
It does become a dilemma of desperately wanting love and also rejecting it simultaneously and shows the mess we can create Regina from how we have been living. We can feel how much we miss love, but put so many conditions on to it, whereas instead, allowing love to simply be in our lives for ourselves and everyone is the key.
The love within is all we have ever wanted.
And who knew… it was there all along.
Thank you Regina, yes the traditional concept and pictures of love are as flat as a pancake when I feel, know and hear you speak of the forever beholding, universal love.
It does become a dilemma of desperately wanting love and also rejecting it simultaneously and shows the mess we can create Regina from how we have been living. We can feel how much we miss it, but put so many condtions on to it, whereas instead, allowing love to simply be in our lives for ourselves and everyone is the key.
So true – emotional love is not where its at. Beautifully expressed Gill – thankyou.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love. ” So true Regina. Appreciation – of self and others – is key.
I used to believe that love was just an aspect of life, even though an important one. I now know that to live life in full then life is love and love is life.
That’s beautifully said Jonathan. And we are love.
We have put so many conditions on love all the while love just is unencumbered by the restrictions we apply to it.
We are sold such an emotional, needy picture of love… when true love has no need, no emotion, no judgment or punishment… true love just is – a quality that once felt is never forgotten.
We have so, so much to learn from one another’s honesty … I wonder how many other people in the world have walked a very similar path to yours Regina… millions at a guess, which doesn’t make each of our journeys any less as every one will have their own unique flavour.
“Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much.” This really sums up the world today and all that is going on and the very rejection of it in ourselves. A great sharing and understanding of accepting and living our love in every moment and saying no to what is not love graciously.
Yes, once we start to love ourselves again we cannot but love everyone else, as we can feel the divinity in every particle which re-connects our bodies to our common origin.
Yes learning to love ourselves first is key – yet this is rarely reflected in society today.
We are the gateway to love. And far from being some mystical or mythical line this sentence is the absolute nuts and bolts of the truth about how to access love.
Yes, and when we start to love ourselves, what is discovered is that there is always more love to deepen inwards to – There is always more love … to embody, to express and live with, infinitely so!… Love is a perpetual movement.
I am learning that true love is the key. If I go into judgment and critiscm of others then this feels cold and there is a separation. If I hold myself and others in love then this feels warm, natural and connecting.
So true Rebecca every time I judge another I realise that I have already held a judgment on myself as better or less than.
Very true jennym and every time we do that we lose our connection to love and all that brings.
This is such a Shame that we live with such a lack of self worth; ‘I thought I was just not fitting in, too boring for others to be interested in me,’ I also used to think that there was something wrong with me – that I just wasn’t up to scratch. And I know many others who live with this crippling lack of self-worth too. I have changed a lot in the few years and now now know my qualities and live with self-worth and confidence. This has been a real turnaround and happened since I have been looking after myself more and being more gentle with myself.
Although our lack of self worth stems almost solely from ourselves it is also unfortunately enhanced by others. We treat each other incredibly poorly we really do. Our mistreatment of others has an almost unquantifiable range. It can take so many different forms, for example physical bullying, silently ignoring another, ostracising someone from a group, putting another down, shaming or embarrassing someone, blaming another, gossiping, even the raise of an eyebrow can bring on self doubt. But as Regina has demonstrated, once we return to the rock solid love that we all are then we are unshakable because we know who we are and we know who everybody else is too. Atrocious behaviour should never be tolerated but we also have to understand that that person, in that moment is choosing not to be the love that we all are.
The eyes are the window to our soul and shows if we have been living this or not.
When we stop feeling in full we end up with a reduced down version of the all. You can’t moderate what you are willing to accept and expect to feel full.
I find looking in the mirror really supportive, it reminds me of my true beauty and sweetness and if I’m tired or am in reaction then it is very clear to see, looking in the mirror is a great reflection of how I really am – the key I find is to not be critical but to allow myself to see the beauty.
Regina – this is beautiful; ‘all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.’ If I feel disconnected and that I am in reaction or being judgmental about myself or others, then it feels key to come back to love, knowing that it will be there and that it is our natural way of being with ourselves and others.
“if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally…” In addition, when we feel our own body of love, you can’t help but see that every body are equal and originally a body of love first before any behaviour or personality expression. When we see this, it brings understanding to relationships as well as dismantles reactions that disrupt and cause dynamics or issues in relationships.
Making life all about love for self and therefore for everyone is a foundation I am building and developing… it is a learning that I cannot ever stop in my unfolding of living what is true.
‘I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally.’ – Imagine the impact if this was taught at every home, school, workplace etc.
Guilt and blame often keep us away from feeling truth in the body, but love beholds us all, it supports us to feel completely different when we allow it.
The accepted ‘picture’ of love that we have in the world is a long way removed from that of ‘true love’, as true love would never allow humanity to reach the state of greed, disregard and dishonouring of one another that it is in today.
I love the fact that I am now able to appreciate the quality which I am able to bring into my life rather than just the function of it.
Learning not to beat ourselves up about something is challenging when it was something that has happened for years without even realising it. But stopping judging ourselves and then stopping judging others allows love to be felt instead.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” It is us who judge ourselves as failing or who punish ourselves.
I love your mirror ritual. A great exercise for exposing anything that is in the way of our love for ourselves.
And then we find that love is not an activity but a way of being that just needs the allowance to be lived.
We can become so delusional about life when we are not met with love and do not see it anywhere that finally we give up and succumb in its misery that Is shared by many people.
It is us that do turn our backs to God, it is never God who does that.
I went shopping with my friend Jenny Hayes who is a personal stylist, and with her support I got to see (and choose) clothes that brought more love through my eyes. It was a whole new way of choosing a quality in clothes that supported me to love me more.
Having a large circle of friends might look the part, but what really matters is the quality of each of the relationships in our lives as opposed to the number of friends or likes/messages on social media.
So true Susie… the number of friends/likes we have doesn’t compare to the depth and quality of those relationships. I would rather two or three relationships that are deeply honest and evolutionary than hundreds that are empty superficial niceties.
“love is so much more than i thought it was ” the extent of this is forever expanding and growing as we become more open and willing to feel and see this and allow it in with how we live, heal and move. A beautiful gift for ourselves and everyone.
Its so easy to blame everyone else for an inadequacy… rather than looking for the answer where it has always been, inside ourselves.
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – yes not the “hearts and flowers” we might expect, but instead a continual pulling up of anything and all hat is not of love aka truth.
It’s more but so much simpler too. Gosh how many complications we’ve created just to block Love’s absoluteness out.
What does ‘not being lovable’ actually mean? It doesn’t make sense as a term, and is an excuse used most commonly to justify pushing other people away.
‘Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was’ You know Regina love feels completely different than I thought it was, and yes it is so much more and out of this world really and yet when we are ready we can live the divine love we are coming from and return to the grandness we left behind when we wanted to create our own world, our own misery basically.
Likewise what I know love to be today is so very different to what I was taught love was, sad really considering it was not one person that showed me what I came to understand love was before but our entire society that setups up love to be something from another rather than starting from within. The biggest scam out really for how can you be loved if everything is also thinking they need to be loved, and in that no one is being love?
Yes, Love is so much more than we realise… Once we start to self-love, we begin to recognise just how many moments there are in a day that are there to remind, reflect and therefore confirm us of the presence and quality of Love.
I love how you say that – “It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody. It’s up to us to allow it, feel it and live it at any moment.” – how Love is a quality that we can re-connect with from within ourself as it is constantly there flowing through us, the choice being whether we align with it or not…
And not some wishy washy concept, but a tangible feeling in the body where we can say ‘that’s it’ or notice its absence.
Yes I agree Simon that love is a decidedly ‘tangible feeling in the body’, although having said that love can neither be described or quantified.
Fiona I love the absolute practicality of what you have shared ‘Love is a quality that we can re-connect with from within ourself as it is constantly there flowing through us, the choice being whether we align with it or not…’.No pomp, no nonsense, no romantic fluff, just pure solid truth.
Blame is the enemy of love. If you find yourself pointing the finger at anyone else in any shape or form, you know you have just let your connection to truth slip inside.
Love is such a hackneyed expression that it seems to have lost all meaning to the truth of the word. To me love is a deeply nurturing respect that I hold myself in, so much so that if anything disturbs this way of being I have to call it out, within myself and others . I now understand what it means to treat myself as I would a new born baby with the utmost tenderness and care because those parts of us do not just disappear because we are grown up they are always with us to reconnect back to.
Its so true that if we are not loving with ourselves we won’t be open to love from others either.
I am learning so much about myself all thanks to the presentations and workshops of Serge Benhayon. The biggest learning was to first make friends with myself then start making self loving choices that over a period of time have developed in more loving choices this leads to an honouring that I will not accept less any more that I actually deserve to treat myself with more love and respect. This has a knock on affect towards other people I may meet because I also feel to honour them in the same way I honour myself and this actually is very beautiful to feel.
No matter the situation no matter the scenario we always always have a choice to connect to our Love inside. Anything less is just a choice to indulge in make believe issues and grime.
I love your clarity Joseph.
Love certainly is more than I thought too… In our society, the description of love is contained and capped compared to the stupendous ever-expanding spacious movement there is… and there’s more!
It is amazing what consistency and a willingness to heal can bring. Timely for me to read.
Yes, to blame God for how loveless our life has ended up is ludicrous, as we are held eternally in his loving embrace and do everything we can to ignore it. To let go of our hurts and stories and surrender to the love we are held in and come from, is the greatest homecoming.
It sure is Janet, it can be so easy to blame others and God for our woes but ultimately we are the creators of where we are at, we cannot blame anyone and can only look at our choices, our investments and our hurts – the more we let these go the more we can allow love fully into our lives.
“Homecoming”… what a beautiful way of looking at surrendering “to the love we are held in and come from…” Thank you for your inspiration Janet.
Being open to the truth of love that is there and letting go of the many pictures that we have made love to be.
“Love is so much more than i thought it was” So true and so huge to fathom and really accept what and who we are as this love is within us and all are cells and what we are made of and has been diminished and taken away from us by our very separation from ourselves and the love we are in the way we choose to live. A brilliant reflective sharing of love.
Love is a whole way of being, treating ourselves and others as precious tender beings, it is not a simple ‘I love you’ because those three words can be meaningless if they do not come from a full body feeling.
It is true that the quality that comes with our words and actions is so much more important than what we say or do.
The concept of being ‘filled up’ with love suggests that on our own we are empty, but what if this was not the case and we could feel completely content and wholesome even before interacting with someone else?
That is a great point Susie as it sets us up to continually be looking outside of ourselves to others, what then would happen if we reversed it like you have said and then bring this quaity and fullness of love to everyone we meet? The world would change.
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – understood when we allow ourselves to glimpse a tiny bit of the absolute greatness of who we truly are.
Appreciation sure does open the doors back to Heaven and everyone else, it is something we all could definitely do more of.
Love is something you either connect to in yourself or you don’t. It’s crazy to think that it’s anything to do with anyone else.
The incessant need to be right is so harmful as it continually pits us up against others and does not leave any room for love, we are ultimately here to learn and so the whole notion of right and wrong destroys this and keeps us set in our ways.
But this is what we are all indoctrinated with from very young… to seek love outside ourselves – from others/someone special to make us feel special. Until attending Universal Medicine presentations I fell for that one too… when in fact we are all special, all equally and innately full of love.
And yet most of the world thinks love has all to do with anyone else, hence the illusion and despair a lot of people are living in.
I love to re-read this Regina, it reminds us we are all worth appreciating ourselves. We all bring a unique quality of expression that may vary one from another, but we are all equal and deserving of love. The easy way out is to blame others and God for what we think we lack, but we don’t actually lack anything, we have it all within.
“Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much”. The fact that we are naturally very loving beings should mean that everyone misses love immensely, especially in this world where there appears to be a lack of love. But so many of us seem to give up on love, mostly because of the false and harmful versions of love that we are presented with as the real deal. Luckily the real quality of love is always there waiting for us to reclaim it – and it never gives up on us!
“and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love. ” Isn’t this just ridiculously amazing? It is something that is truly truly magnificent , and it does not matter who you are, or what you did, it is there for ALL of us ALL the time.
I now know what Love feels like in my body. And that is the most amazing, enriching quality, a feeling that does not allow me to harm myself or others in ways that I have so frequently done in the past, and allows me to feel an appreciation of myself and others that is growing and expanding all the time. Thank you to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, my life is expanding with absolute joy.
Thank you, Regina, for sharing with such honesty how you have re-discovered the joy of loving yourself. Without self-love, life is missing a dimension.
So true Shirley-Ann… being the love we are opens so many doors – the doors to others hearts.
Letting love in and letting love out is our natural way of being in life… how far have we strayed that this is largely unknown in todays society?
Without building a loving relationship with myself I am not open to love when it stands in front of me.
I love your blog Regina. “Looking deeply and openly into my own eyes I could see and feel that I am actually really full of love”. Just reading this sentence warms my heart, my whole body is expanding and a knowing that i am “full of Love” engulfs me.
If we truly make Love the study of our life, it wipes out the poison of wrong and right.
“I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being..” – acceptance is one of the most beautiful things for the grace in understanding it brings.
I have discovered that having no love for oneself is such a game to play as it gives us so many excuses as to why we cannot do such and such. It’s a game of holding back a choice we actively make on a subconscious level that keeps us in the individuality that we all seem to crave.
Sometimes we think it is easier blaming the world and others for our misery however it never works in the long term or allows us to really commit to life in an open and loving way.
It is true, and I have experienced this myself, where ‘love’ is sought because it is felt to be missing. And I find this to be a great part of human life: the fact that love is known and therefore it is known when it is missing.
When you share here that “First, I realised and accepted that I can and do love myself in full, unconditionally.” it is huge, to love oneself without any conditions – that is so unusual in this world but exactly what is needed in society. It would transform all our relationships from abuse to love as we would only allow ourselves to be treated in the way we treat ourselves.
It sure would David and is such a simple thing to do, something we can all do and its absolutely free!
“I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.” This is such an amazing and powerful truth. And when we actually commit to doing this it is so easy!
Never likely we blame the world for not loving us when we are looking for it on the outside and expecting it to look a certain way before we accept it. Then to find that we have love all along inside of us and that the version we have been chasing is only a poorly made copy.
Love is nothing to do with ‘attraction’ and all to do with openness and intimacy – any two people, regardless of their gender or whether they are friends, family, lovers etc, can have the most incredible love if they are open, transparent and willing to be all of who they are with each other in that relationship.
No guidelines, manuals of how to, papers or thesis but simple transparency to be yourself and respect another with this equalness!
“And as I expand in my awareness of myself and life around me, I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally.” When we can get to this deeper understanding it becomes very simple to allow this continual flow to course through us with the divine purpose it was designed for.
It is amazing how we can be so quick to blame others for not loving us when it is in fact us who are not loving ourselves. The more I appreciate and love myself the more I naturally feel love from others, even when someone maybe trying to argue with me about something I can still feel the love they are, they are just not choosing it at that moment so do not take it personally. It is a game changer and takes away the element of that person hurt me etc.. and brings it back solely to ourselves and the responsibility we each have to live the love we are regardless.
That’s it isn’t it James, basically the whole of life boils down to that, to being the love that we already are in as many moments as possible until such time as we have all mastered it and have merged back into the One United Body of God. My goodness me we’re a way off yet!
At times we can come to the point that we like to blame God for the mess we are facing in life. But we then always have to remember that it is actually us who are making the mess and God is just allowing it to be in his loving beholding, because he cannot else then respect the free will we al have as from universal order.
Beautiful. The deep settlement of the body felt in sleep is so reflective of how we have moved and expressed during the day. Is it full and complete?
Love has no picture. The return back to love could be the messiest process but during this time love could be deeply felt, so we keep going deeper, breaking down the fakeness, the accepted normality of disconnection, we are asking ourselves and each other that every moment needs to be felt and responded, communication is crucial. No niceness is needed.
‘It’s up to us to allow it, feel it and live it at any moment. Then this love will guide our movements and actions and this will bring harmony into our lives, our relationships and affect everybody around us in a healing way.’ – Beautifully explained – question is are we willing to allow it and more so, are we willing to take the responsibility that comes with living it?
We have no idea what Love is capable of until we let it out in full, and hence, let it in in full.
I agree Michael, i do not have an idea of what love truly is but what I can do is to live it to the best of my ability and to let it guide may way. And up to now I am not disappointed as I do feel full of appreciation for the reflection love brings to me in any moment, the reflection of what already lives deep within but only needs to be reactivated to live it once again.
Agreed Micheal and each bit of love that we allow in and out the more I realize how much more there is.
Very true Michael, I feel I am only touching the edges and can already feel the magnitude of it, but nowhere near fathoming the potential of its fullness.
Love a beautiful sharing offering the real appreciation and holding it offers us, is within us and who we are simply there and waiting to be accepted more and more as we surrender to it and is there to be forever evolving and growing within us.
Love is so much more and when we ask to feel more we are offered more and more – so keep asking and one will receive!
I agree infinite love, that holds us all, I feel it and I now it, and I am learning to surrender with it.
We know love is everything, so it is quite crazy that we shy away from it, for fear of loving ourselves. There is so need for any fear, only Love because it is already within us.
“…. as I expand in my awareness of myself and life around me, I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally.” The more love we feel inside the more we want to share and emanate the love to everyone, not keep it to ourselves, as you say Regina.
So true Sue and Regina, it is like it is way too much to keep inside to ourselves. Naturally the more we love ourselves we cannot not but show this deep love to everyone we meet. It is one of the many joys that the more we simply live the love we are the more everyone benefits.
Love is the only way to true change.
Anything else is merely but a change of hat or facade. Unless the underlying energy we are choosing changes, nothing changes apart from the scenery.
It’s amazing how awkward we get around love, even when true love is on offer. Maybe the missing of it creates such a tension that we can’t be at ease with it and most importantly ourselves. Whenever I find I can’t accept or express love I haver to go back to how loving I am willing to be with myself and if I will let others see that too.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” Such a great reminder for all of us.
Agreed Sandra it is everything. In love in the true sense there is no drama, no emotion just evolution.
“Looking deeply and openly into my own eyes I could see and feel that I am actually really full of love. The more I allowed that to be, the more this love expressed through my eyes”, a gorgeous sharing Regina, seeing and feeling the love that you are and that all of us are. I remember being told as a child to stop looking art myself in the mirror or I would become vain.
It is remarkable how the more we cease living in ways that are unloving, and the more we let our natural essence that would otherwise flow through us express, the deeper our understanding gets of what love actually is. And so true, the deeper you go with this understanding the more evident it becomes that what we keep defining as love, is nowhere even close to the exquisiteness that we keep discovering.
To get to a place where you feel settled within your own skin, not needing anyone or anything and be totally cool with that is a place that I would never of imagined myself to be. Sometimes I let thoughts take me out occasionally, however the feeling of Love and Joy in my body and presence is remarkable and I can feel how this is what I am bringing to other relationships in my life. Very precious indeed.
It’s that tangible foundation of love in our bodies that supports us in all that we do. If we ignore this we are back in our heads and lose that true connection not only with ourselves but with everyone else.
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – yes because love is everything.
Thank you Regina, for your open and honest story that teaches us so much!
We really do have many ideas and pictures on what love is and what it looks like, all of which is the opposite of what it truly is. Culturally it means different things in many area. But what are all these difference and is it love? Learning to Care, Nurture and love ourselves in every way is the first step to re-connecting to what the truth of love is. For its only then we can be that way with another. Its never static, always evolving.
We apply our ideas of mountains we have climbed, and medals we have won, to Love and they just don’t work. It’s a spherical quality of our being not a task.
We grow up thinking that loving yourselves is being selfish and that is what we are made to think, but in truth we have to love ourselves first before we can love anybody else because the love is in us to be expressed, not outside of us to be taken.
I love this Carmel, “love is in us to be expressed, not outside of us to be taken”. There is also something about letting people in too and what it is that they are sharing. I have found that really letting people in has been a process for me of letting my own love out. The more I let it out the more I allow in. Its a wonderful process to observe,
I love the reminder that love is a beholding energy that does not judge but simply is there for us to reconnect to whenever we choose.
In order to accept love from someone else we need to accept that we are love in essence and therefore very lovable and loving by nature.
That’s the thing really we are of and from love and we’re designed to express it, but it’s about us allowing it to be expressed through us, and the more we do the more we feel the love we all are.
‘I blamed God for creating this whole mess where there is this good but helpless me, surrounded by a loveless, hard world.’ – An amazing expose Regina – we are so stuck in the belief that ‘love’, whether it’s from God or our surroundings in general, should come and rescue us from our misery.
Very true – in retrospect my feeling is I was rather encouraged to dismiss myself (not pay attention to myself) rather than appreciating and truly caring about myself.
‘I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.’ – How different the world looks and how different we relate to the world, once we stop seeing ourselves as a victim OF the world.
“and it will be there”. The eternal love of God is reflected in the eternal support of Universal Medicine.
‘I was filled with so many ideas, wishes and concepts about love. I wanted it to be given to me, someone had to come and fill me up with it.’ – You have described very accurately what humanity at large believe love actually is, something to be delivered from outside us, to be given to us, particularly in return for the ‘love’ that we ourselves are ‘giving’ to others. We are lost in the ultimate conditional ‘love’.
Best homework in the world – to look into the mirror and take a moment to appreciate ourselves. Its not what I was taught when growing up and have studiously avoided that, and taking any time to appreciate myself which is bonkers when we think about it. How on earth are we going to get to know ourselves, let alone develop our self worth if we don’t look inward from time to time?
I agree Simon. Looking in a mirror – something I have avoided for a long time, with various forays and then a quick escape – is something very precious. Do we see what is really there – or what we want to see? Or are we quick to judge and not look beyond the surface?
On barren ground (in a loveless relationship with ourselves) there is little to no chance of us letting love in, even when it stands before us in all its glory. Building a loving relationship with ourselves, letting our own innate love out, makes for rich ground.
“Love is so much more than i thought it was “absolutely and something i have been learning also ‘all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love. ” So true.
“Love is so much more than I thought it was”… so true for we cannot think love – it is always there for us to connect to and then it emanates from deep within, from our essence, for all to see and feel and be inspired to be the love they are too.
We have bastardised love to be something we give and take, need and graciously offer or send…it is none of that, it is a state of being, a connection to the divine being we are and it is this that is explored, shared, expanded and deepened in true relationship.
When I truly surrender to love, a space opens up so wide that offers the most amazing constellations….I have always marvelled at the miracles that occur when I am that beautifully open, but simply, by virtue of that surrender, Universal Law is then allowed to constellate.
‘…the depth of love as an almost tangible foundation in my body has been steadily growing…’ – this is just what I needed to hear today – something to focus on and commit to knowing that it is an ever developing and deepening process.
If Love is so much more than we think, imagine what more life can be if we let Love in and out freely.
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – yes, vast, when you understand that love is universal truth; a love that is in forever expansion.
We should question more often: why is more easy to write the negative and self-critical thoughts about ourselves than what we appreciate about the precious qualities that we bring? It seems like we have been raised in a society where people feel not good enough to be loved and adored. We have to look for the approval, the confirmation from outside about what we already know deep down inside, that we are pure love and so grand from within.
We can be so fixated on our world being the result of others or external circumstances that we cannot or do not see the gem of pure love that lives within.
How true, we dismiss the absolute empowerment our innate love provides, and hence instead choose to be victims of the circumstances in life.
Just as we cannot accept love if we are not loving of ourselves so will we only accept abuse if we are that way to ourselves first, even if only in not holding ourselves in self-worth which is in itself abuse. What we accept and attract all comes from how we relate to ourselves first.
Thanks for pointing out this part of the equation Michael – how me move, how we live, is bound to be reflected back to us.
There is an endless supply of love and all we need to do is align to love and be a clear enough vessel so as it can come through us and, it is not for us to hold onto but to share with all so they too can be inspired to come back to love.
This is beautiful – ‘an endless supply of love’ no need to compete for it or be jealous or in comparison just to live it and allow it to flow.
Love is. It simply is. It does not decide anything to be good or bad, it does not judge, it does not criticize, it simply beholds and keeps reflecting what is within us all and simply needs to be let out through our expression (how we breath, how we stand, how we walk and talk and all the rest). This is the exquisite magnitude of what lies within us all.
So to be in relationship with love there is no searching forth, simply a surrendering to what is already there.
When we choose to blame another, all we are choosing is to not take responsibility for ourselves and the love that we are. When we are in a habit of blaming rather than taking responsibility, this can be because we are not wanting to feel the underlying hurts that are there – the main hurt being the fact that we can step up to responsibility, know this and yet are not wanting to do it for whatever reason. The funny thing in all this is that whilst we resist taking responsibility, in reality, taking responsibility is incredibly freeing as it actually connects you more to who you are and your own love which frees you and feeds you back that much more.
Love was also very important to me. Yes also because I missed it but also because there is a commitment within to want to know what the truth of love is, and I deeply appreciate that through Unimed I have found what it is — it starts from loving myself.
We have been so far removed from who we in essence are that we now refer to our essence as ‘the so much more’ as before we get at least close to it, it is unimaginable to us.
We have been sold pictures in magazines about love but as usual, what we think something is, like love, it actually truly means something totally different. When we love ourselves unconditionally, we make a great start to understanding what love means. You could write a beautiful “Love is…” book Regina.
Good observation Doug. Letting go of the blame game is definitely one of the key steps to allowing and experiencing more love in your life.
There is such a wonderful feeling of abundance in this blog. You can really feel how when we allow ourselves to feel the love that is inside of us all and around us that it has no limits or boundaries and overflows out to everyone and everything we do. We then realise that whenever we miss love or claim it is not there it is not because it has got less or left us, but because we are choosing to restrict it or reduce its flow.
We keep adding 1+1 and hoping that it will equal 42. If we truly want life to change we have to put the right ingredients in – true presence, connection and Love.
Haha this is funny and very true Joseph
Love does not judge, it just is and only asks us to express through our being that what is needed to bring us all back to this same love in which we are are united as one.
If we are in comparison and judgement we can know that we have lost that connection to our innermost which is the same within us all and choose to reconnect.
There are many who could relate to one or all of the things to blame for the lack of love we experience in the world. As a child you know what love is and that you deserve it. How amazing would it be for kids to grow up with adults confirming that there is a lot that is not true love in the world, to accept that and discern the energy behind all that is not love?
God’s love is our love, equally so and the way to be in it is to surrender into our body.
Beautifully said Carolien… connect deeply with our bodies and all the love we could ever imagine, and so much more, is all there.
Beautifully expressed Carolien. By letting go of that which is outside of us we surrender to our body… it is all that is required.
Regina, my heart filled with joy as I read your beautiful words – ‘I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me’. These words so aptly describe the love that is innately within us all when we surrender to the call of our soul.
It is easy to blame others in clouding our parents for our perceived issues, however it is super powerful and healing to learn that we build our own normal and we can shift hurts through honesty and responsible living.
It goes to show how we create issues in our lives. There are no issues. There never has been and there never will be issues as they do not exist. It is us, our own making that brings issues into our lives. We are love, we come from love and will always be, LOVE.
So true Caroline, and with the awareness available today more and more people are starting to see that their issues are of their own making. Thanks to Serge Benhayon we now understand that we are not who we thought we are and starting to understand that we are vessels of energy that are either aligned to this love, or aligned to all else which is not.
‘After the initial working through my anger and resistance to feel the deeper layers of sadness and self-neglect, I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being;’ – it’s this level of honesty that we need to be prepared to get to, to be able to truly move forward in our lives, empowering ourselves to be able to feel and make the loving choices that truly support us.
“I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally…” This show how self acceptance is key to accepting and understanding to all relationships we encounter.
How do we begin to love ourselves unconditionally? For me it is finding small ways to appreciate myself and the qualities I bring. Catching any hint of self judgement and self deprecation and making space to honour everything I feel in my body, paying attention to every little thing that’s going on, whether it be a slight stomach ache, or a subtle feeling that something isn’t quite right. There is also allowing any feeling of joy to be felt. We can often focus so much on our misery we don’t notice that we are actually feeling OK.
I am going to put myself on this program of saying I love myself… will see how that unfolds!
In a way, we should do away with the word ‘love’ altogether because how on earth can you put a word to the indescribable and ever changing enormity that is love?
‘Now something was wrong with the world, not with me, and I could feel angry instead of sad.’ – What you are describing is so to the point. We are masters at pointing outwards and finding someone or something to blame for our own self-created struggle.
‘On one hand, I craved love and felt that I deserved it: on the other hand I had so much self-doubt as to whether I was lovable by anyone.’ I remember feeling like this. I would be in such self-doubt when I was in a relationship that it would take away the joy. I am now confident in myself and feel loveable – this has been a huge turnaround and makes being in a relationship so much more enjoyable.
‘Why do we spend so much time not being the love that we are?’ It is a great question to consider Regina, because we all crave love but ignore the fact that it is already all inside us. Definitely a ‘duh’ moment.
Because we’ve allowed ourselves to be conditioned to believe and accept that this is how life is ‘meant’ to be, without questioning. To live in this false way, we have disconnected from our innate source of wisdom and truth, so it’s understandable that we may feel lost, alone and unloved.
Love is who we are. No more, no less for it is simply the all that God is and thus all that we All are. Re-turning to this love is a joy unsurpassed by any temporal achievement. It is the quiet inner journey we all must one day walk for ourselves.
‘….but the list of why I deserved love was surprising longer’. That is something to reflect on, and remember when we are low or giving ourselves a tough time. A little bit of appreciation, and no matter what is happening, there is so much to appreciate in all of us… so much to love.
And God also does not judge as there is no right or wrong in his atma we all live in.
Our eyes are the mirror of the soul that never do not express what true love is. That’s why at times it is so hard to look someone in his or her eyes, but same with looking in the mirror, to our own eyes. As all eyes reflect that same essence, the essence of the soul that unconditionally reflects this true love all of the time.
You make it very clear to me Regina, that all that is not love is by our own making.
Agreed Nico – this does expose this and that perhaps we look outside of ourselves for love to not face this fact.
Yes I can understand that Michael, that we look outside because we are a little hesitant to face that amazing love that is already inside.
Why would we spend lifetimes not being who we all are, love! As you have said without; failure, judgement or punishment! Could it be someone else’s grand plan, to keep us small?
Absolutely Steve, which is why it is so important for us to use our innate clairsentience to consider life on an energetic level, to understand that with every force – there is an equal opposing force. Reading ‘energetically’ what is going on around us first, will allow us to know the truth.
These three words ‘issues with love’ sparks so much in me to want to question, discuss and heal. To me those three words are saying ‘I have an issue with the fact that I AM LOVE and WE ARE ALL LOVE yet no body seems to be aware of that or living it’. I’m sure many can relate.
I am sure too Rachael, and it seems so ridiculous that we are denying the one thing that we already are, and how much effort we are willing to put into it, but just realizing that is not enough. The workings of the spirit and energetic world around us need to be seen, understood and then dealt with.
Love is who we are and when we are ourselves, we are … love. Very simple and available with some practice.
‘Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much.’ – isn’t this the missing ingredient for us all – that feeling of a very key ‘part’ is missing. We search high and low trying to understand what it is and locate where is may be, when all along it’s nestled within. It’s our own self that we long for and the exquisite love that we are.
It can be as difficult to start expressing what we appreciate about ourselves as to say we love ourselves but once we do we start to feel just how much there is to appreciate and so the unfolding continues.
So interesting reading all the comments and how we know we create our own imprisonment, and yet we all also know what true love is.
And that means we know we are NOT choosing to live the love that we already innately are.
The Universal Medicine Healing Modalities are an essential part in my healing journey and on-going health care. Within every session my body has been treated with such deep and tender respect, a healing in itself, which in turn has supported me to open up and release old, entrenched hurts, habits and stubborn beliefs, unveiling my exquisite essence buried underneath. And the pure joy of it is, so many other people are having the same experience, bobbing back to life in all our sparkle and glory with this forever expanding science of healing.
“When we fully accept and surrender to that endless unconditional love that we feel deep inside, we simply are love and see that in truth there is only love.” This is beautiful and, when we feel love, our expression is always tender, whether it be our movements, our thoughts and how we speak, the tenderness is there and others can feel it.
Yes it sure is so much more then anything we have in our everyday lives, and even though my perception and experience of love is so much more then I at one time could fathom, I know there is even more to come as I unfold and surrender more and more to the essence of who I am.
“.. and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else” I am starting to feel and realize that the space around us is not empty or nothing, but that it is everything, everything we are an come from…all there, all around us, all of the time.
From presentations by Serge Benhayon – I am beginning to accept that we are all far greater than just the physical body that we are led to believe we are. The new normal way of Being is deepening in the return to love – a Love that is forever expanding, a living stillness and vastness of a living space that is the body of God, always holding us.
Yes indeed, expecting and needing the love of someone else to come and fill us up in fact imprisons us, because we are denying our own connection to the love within us, our soul and to God.
And when that person isn’t here anymore, it leaves us bereft, feeling like our world has come to an end, which in a sense it has as we have allowed ourselves to be so reliant on the other person that we can’t feel how amazing we already are, until we choose to re-connect and allow our own love to fill us up.
And that is constant, it never goes away or gets tarnished… accessible if only we take a moment to look there.
Same here Janet, it has changed everything the choice to love ourselves.
‘Then I blamed everybody else for not loving and liking me as I was – turning it all around.’ – I can very much relate to this, Regina. I remember feeling very judged by other women, because I didn’t drive the ‘right’ car, or wear the fashionable clothes. I felt very hurt that people could judge me without making any effort to get to know me. However, I was equally to blame as I was also judging them. Maybe, in truth, the judgment was coming from and for my self first and the hurt I was feeling was from my own insecurities and lack of appreciation for my gorgeous self.
A deeply beautiful sharing on love and that is is always there inside us all waiting to be connected to. It is sad to realise how much we can dismiss it in our lives from the inside and be critical of ourselves to such a large extent but also so beautiful to know the simplicity of allowing it to be expressed and felt that changes everything.
I so agree Tricia, I am very shocked at how critical I can be of myself – whenever the negativity starts, I know I have allowed in this destructive energy. These sorts of discussions are so important to remind us all that the choice is always there for us to re-connect to the love that we all are and immediately dispel the negative chatter that is simply not true.
How sad so many of us cannot look at ourselves in the mirror and feel the immense love and magnificence that we are. Instead we crouch small, wracked with insecurities fed by self doubt and judgment. Blogs like this show there is a way out of these self destructive patterns that take us out into the light.
I love the simplicity of how Regina stood in front of a mirror each day saying out loud ‘I love you’ – what a gorgeous and practical way to start freeing ourselves from these self destructive patterns that can hold us so tightly.
Yes Alison, often practical and simple movements can arrest age old patterns that have restricted us for years and life times.
Education has been corrupted, is barren and no longer serves the well-being of child or student but promotes mainly academic achievement. If the curriculum placed self care and love at its heart we would not have the catastrophic ill-health problems we have today. For example we learn that “Suicide is a leading cause of death in young men and women aged 20-34 in the UK” (i) A case of national wealth given greater priority than well-being of citizens.
(i)https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/suicidesintheunitedkingdom/2015registrations
Love is the one thing that will never stop expanding and just getting better and more awesome the more we truly commit to it.
Very true Kevmchardy, and it’s not as though we have to actually do anything, other than allow ourselves to feel and live the enormous love that is already there, within us all.
When we miss love in our lives we are really missing ourselves, as love is innately who we are. We can become masterful at creating all manner of ways to tell ourselves this is not so, but love won’t have that… it continues to behold and waits our return. Beautiful Regina.
Yes, this is a great and helpful description of love.
This blog beautifully highlights how we have a responsibility to deal with whatever gets in the way of this natural flow of love that moves through us… a beholding love for all.
Love, as is the Universe, is always in perpetual expansion, which makes me ponder on the fact that there is always more available in the way, and the how, we bring and imprint our everyday normal activities.
I had a beautiful girl come into work on the weekend and she drew a picture for the team with five balloons and the letters of LOVE in each balloon. Underneath she wrote ‘All for You’. Remarkable how we can be shown and be reminded of what’s truly available to us and we just need to say Yes.
The more I think about looking into the mirror and saying ‘I love you’ the more I squirm and I’m not sure why. It has always felt false to me so I’m not going to do it, but what I am learning is to feel myself from deep within, to appreciate that my body is talking to me 24/7 and that it is talking with love, because it is love. My head destroyed that love when it took on board that I am not worthy, that I am wrong in everything I do, a lie deeply ingrained thanks to the Catholic upbringing that I am now letting go of. My body, not my head is what knows.
The expression of Love in any True form is an amazing ability to have, as we have all in our society strayed so far from the True representation of Love that to Say-I-Love-Me can be very confronting as you have shared Regina! And what a great start to our day to re-confirm the Love that we can all claim and emanate, emit, expel, exude, excrete and reflect as an exact science that is developed at first from re-learning to Love-Me.
I am loving this blog Regina and the pull up it gives us to remember that love can be chosen in every moment, we don’t have to wait for anyone or anything – we have it all.
“It’s up to us to allow it, feel it and live it at any moment. Then this love will guide our movements and actions and this will bring harmony into our lives, our relationships and affect everybody around us in a healing way.” Beautiful said thank you Regina
‘I thought I was just not fitting in, too boring for others to be interested in me, so I gave up trying and settled for isolating myself more and more.’ I also had the feeling of just not fitting in but instead of isolating myself I started to play nice, and quickly worked out how to adopt the same ways as everyone else so as not to stand out. I feel we all have ways to do this until something wakes us up and offers us an opportunity to change.
We are taught that loving ourselves is arrogant, but that having negative thoughts about ourselves is a mental disorder… anyone else see the flaw here? 🤔
A great reminder that our love is always there, we just need to come back to it.
It is so crazy how we can reject the one thing that we long for the most, even when we are offered it on a plate.
Until I came across Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I had not even considered that I had a part to play in letting people in. I staunchly held the belief that if I can’t feel love between us it was simply up to the other person to try harder!
I appreciate each day how much my understanding of love has been transformed, from something very different to what it is now.
Of all the words in our language the word “love” seems to be the most misunderstood. Whist most people would declare that they know what love is the only unifying definition that I have every heard is how Serge Benhayon describes it and that it is that love is a beholding energy.
It feels such a bombshell when it suddenly dawns on us that we do not love ourselves enough, and the implications of this. It should be no surprise when partnerships don’t work out, or interactions with others are tricky, and all we need to do is not fix anything but love ourselves more.
Serge Benhayon has brought back the true meaning of love, and thank God he has literally because the relationship I have with myself and others is anything but love. We have allowed ourselves to be sold a lie and have accepted emotional love which from my own experience is extremely painful, full of self doubt, neediness, controlled and abusive. This way of being is so far removed for true love that I cannot even use the analogy of chalk and cheese.
Indeed Mary, before Serge Benhayon I was lost when it came to Love, today I am embraced by Love from the inside out.
It is a truly empowering moment when we resume the reins of responsibility and understand that the only person we are victim to is our selves. And then we have a choice to align to what we are naturally made of and come from, Love and begin to make choices that honour this inherent quality within us and within everyone, which the more we do, the more it removes the platforms for any other kind of behaviour to exist.
“Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much” – yes because it is the curriculum of our joy, no wonder we do miss this essentiality of our loved study.
“Love is so much more than I thought it was”. When I read this it resonated deeply within because I know how loveless and chaotic my life was before I had this understanding. The overcome the lie that tells us love is a commodity to be bought and sold and outside of us is evil. We are all love, it belongs to no one, but all of us together. We are nothing without the universal love that unifies us all.
Self judgement kills love.
I would say that self judgement is what takes place in the absence of love… After all, what can kill that which is already everything that was, is and will be?
‘self judgement is what takes place in the absence of love’ Beautifully expressed Michael and equally applies to all forms of judgement.
Love is a state of being, and not an action or a gesture. Love is who we are. And yet we struggle to sit with this as it is too simple, and we seek so often to make it an action rather than a being.
Learning to love ourselves is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and all those around us.
‘And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either – what a dilemma!’ – it is a dilemma that a great many of us find ourselves in, so what you share, Regina, is so very supportive. It’s imperative that every single person knows that we do not need to be living in this way, that there is another way that is already known to us, when we allow our selves to go there.
‘Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone.’ We try so hard to find love outside of ourselves and judge the world for not giving it to us and in doing so we are judging ourselves. In judgement there is no love.
The blame game destroys all our relationships – with others, with ourselves and with God… it is a way of not taking responsibility for our choices, but when we do simply take responsibility, our lives transform – as shared so beautifully here.
A break in the relationship cycle with a partner can be God’s way of supporting us to rebuild our relationship with self. To deeply connect inwardly is to find love within, setting a new inner foundation for ourselves and another should a new relationship be constellated.
What you say about it being easier to find reasons why you didn’t deserve love, rather than why you did is interesting. If we embrace the power that we are and have, then we have to accept the responsibility of what we then do with that. Whereas if we reject and dampen that power, we are then “free” to do as we please. I use the inverted commas because we are of course the exact opposite of free – we are imprisoned by our own indulgent choices.
“I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally. In fact, we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally.” This is a revelation that can singlehandedly change the world. I have felt this to be true for the greater part of my life and it is the reason why I chose to be single for a number of years to first focus on the relationship with myself.
Love it Regina, anecdotal evidence of the fact that the love we seek outside of us can and will be found within ourselves.
Carolien I agree fully, it certainly shows that everything we seek is there within us waiting to be embraced.
Again, i come back to the title of this blog, “Love is so much more than I thought it was” … and marvel at the fact that when you become still, you can feel there is such depth and infinity in love and how this quality is so beholding of you.
Beautiful Johanne… and so very true… “…when you become still, you can feel there is such depth and infinity in love and how this quality is so beholding of you.” It is absolutely delicious when we choose Love.
This quality is so held in the stillness and when we take moments to feel this we come to realise that it waits patiently for us to behold.
beautiful Johanne and yes the depth and deep warmth we can feel within ourselves when we connect to our stillness is worth marvelling over 🙂
Nailed it…“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” Super lovely to read this is simple and unquestionable this is how Love lived is, it holds us.
Love is infinite, it has no boundaries or limits – we are the Gate keepers, the ones who limit how much love we are capable of sharing and receiving. Therefore, the more we let go and allow ourselves to share from our love well within, the more expansive our love becomes.
True Love is so, so much more than we are sold it to be.
“Love is so much more than I thought it was”. Before I met Serge Benhayon I can feel I had no real concept of what love was and had just about given up on it, which is in effect was giving up on myself and God. The more I open myself up to love the more aware I am of what love is. Love is stupendous, it is what makes the world go around but first we have to connect to our own love that resides within and not try to demand or expect it from others.
Love is the fabric of the Universe, an energy that one day our scientific world will actually be able to identify, but a quality that we all inherently know within us, so the more we are encouraged to connect to and live, the more simply awesome life becomes.
So gorgeously expressed Rowena – Love is the fabric of the Universe and it is something we all inherently know within us!
Yes, this is a wonderfull statement, as you really get the sense and intimate awareness of how be-holding love is.
This highlights to me just how much self-judgement gets in the way of us living the love that we are for ourselves and for others.
Self-judgement is the perfect ice cream for the indulgent spirit.
Yes Otto as self judgement is full of self and the indulgent spirit thrives on self no matter what flavour it is served in.
For if is is self that is judging us then the spirit remains the master of ceremonies. But if we were to enter the court of God we would find no jury, no judge, no condemnation, no accusation – just the absolute beholding of the god that we are rather than the un-god we may be defending.
Very true, Michael, it’s actually quite shocking how brilliant we are at sabotaging our selves and, therefore, the potential of what we have to share with each other.
We are the living body of God (expansiveness beyond measure) and so have to ask ourselves would God limit himself for even a nano second with self-judgement? The only reason why we don’t realise that we are the consciousness of God is because we apply self limiting tactics like self-judgement constantly.
In order to self-judge, one must first identify with having a ‘self’ that can then be condemned. Let go of this and the ‘all that is’ is revealed to the all that you already are.
well said Liane, and it is for the sole purpose of this self that we have moved away from the love that we are.
With no self, any judgement that we allow toward ourselves, would be met with an absolute steadiness, confidence and knowing that these thoughts were coming from the outside; “Oh, I’m sorry, were you talking to me?”
With no self, there would be no judgement because there wouldn’t be anyone to judge, nor would there be anyone to do the judging.
“I had no love for myself. And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either – what a dilemma!” – yes, the more we love ourselves the more we get used to that same quality whoever it comes from.
Very true Sofia, and just as true is no-one can give us what we are not willing to give ourselves.
I’m not sure that I will ever truly understand what love is, as the enormity of it keeps expanding and so all any of us can ever hope to achieve is to understand what it just was.
If we do as much from love as we can, in any given moment we can’t go wrong or have a negative outcome so why do so many of us distance ourselves from the abundance of love that is on offer?
Love is to not be part of the reductionism of this creation we know as human life but hold within, breathe, walk and express where we come from and inevitably all return to – the unconditional love that breathed us forth.
All encompassing love….love that.
Love is more than any of us can “think”.
Love is so much more than what we think it is. It is not just two people having a hug and saying ‘I love you’ whether that be mother and child or a couple in love, it is a whole way of living and being, it surrounds us and flows through us, it is what we are made of and it is who we truly are.
Love is always there for us, but if we squash our awareness to hide from what hurts we loose connection to truth and Love too.
There is nowhere to hide other than in our own responsibility for every choice we have ever made.
‘I was filled with so many ideas, wishes and concepts about love. I wanted it to be given to me, someone had to come and fill me up with it.’ – As a society, we have dis-empowered ourselves, becoming puppets filled with so many ideals and beliefs that simply are not true, distracting us from feeling the truth of everything we already know – all we have to do is re-connect back with our very gorgeous selves. As you share Regina, the Universal Medicine modalities are a wonderful segway for us to feel how simple it is for this to happen.
Beautifully honest expression Regina which serves us all. To comprehend that love is our nature, is to awaken to the truth and then begin to live from this truth is our purpose. Looking in the mirror and feeling that love is a powerful start!
Yes, we have to deal with a lot of hindrances but it is still for us to deal with them. We can have help but the decision to deal with hindrances is ours.
If we don’t have love for ourselves we have rejected love and therefore can’t receive it either – we can only receive substitutes like emotional love.
We’ve learned as a society to equate love with emotion, need and doing things for others: it is measured by how much we do or ‘are there for’ others. But this is such a reduced version of what love is: an expansive, forever available energy that knows us inside out, confirms us and holds us in all that we are, and accepts nothing less than that.
I have been coming to realise more and more, what love really is. I had all these ideas, and I still do, of how I want another to love me, what I think I need but really, love is a beholding – you are truly loved when another sees you for all of who you are and accepts nothing less.
Love is everything we want, but everything we don’t let ourselves have. We do not love ourselves, and often we accept far less than love from others.
Very true and crazy when we stop, fight and resist the very thing we want most and crave in the world. For me it comes when I do not 1st love myself as then I cannot accept love from another. The moment I embrace myself and the love I am more than naturally I feel it from others. After all it is what we are all made from and so is natural, even though currently it may not seem to be this way in the world today. But that is an indictment on the human race and how lost we have become rather than love.
Also our understanding of love is so warped – we in truth want love, but our idea of love is emotional and leads to hurt and heart break, but true love is a beholding, it is always asking us to be more, where as so often now love is a word used to cover something that is actually abuse
Very true Rebecca, True love is beholding and holds us no matter who we are and what we are doing or have done, it never judges rather gives us the space to be who we are and also gives us a loving reminder when we have strayed.
I agree – and that is what is so beautiful. Without judgement and without criticism, true love still holds up totally responsible and accountable for our actions and their consequences.
And if it did not then it would not be love because it would be saying it is ok to be less than the love you are.So it is a beholding yet loving pull up which we often need so as to be reminded of the love that we are but have chosen to express less than that.
“It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.” – – Incredible, and depending on how much one holds back that expression of love, uncomfortable to see another’s shine.
There is the old cliché… “how can we love another when we don’t love ourselves” that is so true – if we are not full of the love we truly are then there is no love to reflect to another.
The pictures of love we are sold as children are fairy tales of red roses, and diamond rings , it is such an insult because love is who we all are on the inside.
All these pictures not only reduce us, they erase the divine quality of what love actually is.
Responsibility and empowerment need to be together. Without responsibility we can become wayward and power-happy and without empowerment we entertain things such as self-doubt or lack of self-worth.
It is the fact that love is always there, never runs out or pulls away that is so amazing and inspiring to let ourselves feel.
Love is always there, here and everywhere; just that at times we are absent.
Regina, I can so relate to what you are sharing here; ‘I could not really believe that he loved me, always wondering what it was about me that he felt attracted to.’ I used to feel this way, wondering what partners and friends saw in me. It makes me realise how much self doubt I used to have. The crazy thing is that many people feel like this, as if we are lacking something and not good enough. The truth is we all have amazing, unique qaulities and it is important to know and appreciate these and to love ourselves.
Some of us think we have to deserve love, be a certain way to get love, whereas in truth we are love and we all deserve true love and no lesser or emotional/romantic version of it.
“… look into a mirror every day and tell myself that I love myself” Such a simple exercise that exposes all the mental pictures we hold about our selves of how we should look and what we want to present to the world, as opposed to feeling and seeing the quality of love within us and truly appreciating this is who we really are.
It is very beautiful when we claim the beauty and love within ourselves for then we allow others to feel and sense the beauty within us and not only this but we embrace and welcome with open arms the love another has for us.
I remember being younger at school and desperately wanting to fit in and be accepted by others and the feeling of not being when I was more of myself. With this I could feel the need for something for outside of myself and that I had let go of the love for myself that i was born with. It feels so important that having returned to this now that we live this and in this awareness support other children and young people to stay connected to all they are.
Regina, you share so beautifully what is possible for us all, when we are open to saying ‘yes’, to the love that we already are.
However we are in our relationship with our self, this is how we are in our relationships with everyone else.
If we could all just get to the point of recognising that we alone are the makers of where we are at and understand the reason or forces behind why we don’t choose love, the world would start to shine like a sun.
We have reduced the meaning of love into no-thing at all, whereas the truth is, it is every-thing.
A favourite past-time if ours is to think that Love is a goal to be reached, when it’s always naturally there. All we need to do is stop running away from our quality.
Beautifully nailed Joseph. In negating the love that is within, the love that we think we are aiming for is that false needy kind of love that has no foundation in truth. We can remain trapped when its falseness is exposed because no one (except perhaps Universal Medicine) teaches that is within us all already. .
Our whole education and the world’s religions are designed to make us look for love outside of ourselves. it is within and all we have to do is allow it to be felt.
By all accounts, these two systems do a top job because by the time we are adults all we are left with are pictures of what love is and the emotional baggage we carry around. Then when we are told the version of love that we have held onto for so long is the imposter we doubt that we deserve the true love that is within us and in truth never left us.
What a beautiful turnaround this is – from being shut down to actually saying ‘I know what love is, I know it is a choice that starts with my willingness first and I know it can feel amazing’ – when we embrace this – and when we are prepared to see what we call in that is not love, then it is so simple, and we get to enjoy the gift that love is for ourselves and others.
Regina this is beautiful and a story that I and many others can so relate to.
Super crazy how we can crave love but push away the very thing that we are searching for.
When we’re down and out, we can source out our highest point of love and use this as an inspiration to bring us back. Whatever rituals, activities or relationships support this are things we should build a rhythm out of.
The conditions we put on others are the limitations we put on ourselves, thus we are holding back love in two ways at the same time, not letting it in and not letting it out to the degree that love wants and needs to be expressed to be the true expression for love to be what it is – and that is our process and return of restoring us back to the love that we come from, eliminating condition after condition until we become again unconditional.
The more I let people in and am open with them the more love I feel for myself and everyone else.
Amazing conformation Regina, and to Lovingly explore and expand on coming back to Love as there is an internal package of Loving-ness that always remains within and all we have to do is reconnect to that essence. So that when connected to our essence Love can be felt “flowing freely” through our bodies and all we have to do is reconnect to our essence, as “this love is my” our “natural inner essence,” so we can then work on our list of “why I deserved love,” and get on with deepening our “Pure Love.”
We do know the real deal when we find it – you have found the truth of love and now you are starting to live that and bring it to the world. Awesome.
So much more is on offer to us all than we can ever imagine, when we are open to true love.
Everyday I understand more about love, and everyday i release how far away i was living from love when I said to people that I loved them.
I have come to know love as a beholding energy that has no emotion in it, just warmth and an understanding of ourselves and others.
I’ve always known love, but because it was dismissed and ridiculed in me I decided to conform to an emotional love that fit in with everyone else.
There’s often a simple solution to what feels like a complex situation. In this case, as if so often, the solution is Love.
We still dwell on love being a precious moment when we can feel our preciousness throughout all of life. It’s a 24/7 consistency not a weekend workshop thing.
Love has no fluff. It is the most simple, clear and absolute expression on earth, and even one drop of poison in that crystal clear well, will contaminate its truth.
Yes ottobathurst, ‘Love has no fluff’, the expression of love is absolute, it is either love or it is not and cannot ever be somewhere ‘in between’. There are no pictures, beliefs or expectations, love just is and can be expressed or delivered in many ways.
We are not here to blame God for the mess we are in! And neither are we here to blame everyone else for the mess we are in! The mess we are in is of our own making and until we see and accept that we are a part of the mess and that we said ‘yes’ to it then we remain thick and foremost in the mess!
Very true Caroline, part of taking responsibility for the way we are living is accepting that we have said ‘yes’ to the mess that we have created – until we are able to do this, nothing can truly change as we will repeat the same pattern.
And once we have self-love in place as a true foundation the expansion of this is the constant refinement, for instance I am really starting to feel that I can no longer overeat as really don’t like what happens to my body when I do this. My body is basically telling me ‘you cannot do this anymore!’
We are so deeply loved by God and it is us who walked away from this love so it makes sense that a necessary component of our journey back to the Gods we immutably are requires us to open up to love again, within our selves and for each other. Universal Medicine is empowering us all to embrace the immensity of this power and grace once again.
As we all walk along this path together, re-tracing our steps back to where we came from, it’s living and sharing the love that we all are that will get us all there.
Being at the receiving end of Love and all that it offers is simply Divine. Without any judgement or imposition you are left to be you and held in all that we are as a reminder of our potential. So beautiful.
Regina like you I have had no love for myself for the greater part of this life and for quite a few lives before that. The self abuse I direct at myself feels very old. I am discovering for myself with the support of the Universal Medicine teachings and workshops that I had by my own free will put myself in a prison and thrown away the key. Then I blamed everyone else for the miserable life I was leading. This was a huge bitter pill to swallow, but once I had admitted to myself what I had done then there was no one to blame but me. Taking back the responsibility to love myself is very self-empowering and with every workshop and presentation I can feel the full strength of me returning.
When I’m feeling that despair, its time to put the shovel down, look up and be inspired / reminded of the fact that love is always there shining for us in every moment.
We don’t have to find a love that is broard just let go of making life small. Then this universality is naturally there.
I love this, Joseph – letting go of making life small and being open to the magic that is constantly there for us. I can feel how easy it is for us to close off from what is on offer, to retract into familiar patterns, when letting go, surrendering and letting life unfold around us offers the most magnificent treasures – allowing the potential of what is on offer to be activated and lived.
We are learning about love all the time and for me at the moment I am learning how to be more loving with myself and others by providing SPACE for understanding and awareness to grow. I beat myself up continuously and that is not love, so I am learning to appreciate what I CAN do instead of all the things I think I’m doing wrong – it is taking me YEARS to get beyond the Catholic idea of having to go to confession every week…
Appreciation is the absolute bedrock and foundation to moving forward, as in building a deeper connection, love and respect for ourselves. It’s difficult to go anywhere other than repeating the same small circle, if we’re always responding in the same way ie bringing ourselves down and berating ourselves for all of our perceived mistakes.
Most of us haven’t needed any outside forces to keep us small, we’ve been more than willing to fill the role ourselves. It took me a very long time to realise that the hand on my head, keeping me down, was my own.
Very true, Jane, it’s empowering, inspiring and very confirming to know that we are the ones who determine the quality of our life, not only in terms of how it affects us, but how it affects everyone else. It can certainly be confronting to realise the power that each of us holds, yet also very beautiful to know and understand how we can work together, by living in connection with each other we are always supporting and being supported.
‘I was filled with so many ideas, wishes and concepts about love. I wanted it to be given to me, someone had to come and fill me up with it.’ – you are not alone here, Regina, this is part of the misconception we have been fed about ‘love’ – that it is something we give to another. Maybe this is why we feel we must reserve our love for a special few, those most deserving, as we have a limited amount to give. The truth is, love is the sharing of the love we hold for ourselves first with everyone else, equally so. Love is limitless, it’s there for everyone.
This is a significant step on the path of return to truth and love – “I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being”.
This is also a significant step on the path to everything, “I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being”, because without it, all roads lead nowhere. We are the starting point to everywhere as well as the starting point to nowhere.
That is truly a miracle to truly feel love for yourself after such distain is remarkable. You did the work and healed this is very inspiring.
There is so much space with love, a holding space that allows another to get to their own unfolding in their own time.
This is worth considering “And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either – what a dilemma!” How much do we crave what we perceive not to have and presume it is out of our reach?
So many of us look in the mirror every day at least to clean our teeth and brush our hair. But how often do we truly look at ourselves in the eyes with love and appreciation? Yours is such a familiar story that most people can relate to. Thank you for sharing.
It is a really interesting question to ask someone loves you – what it is you believe they see in you, what it is you believe worthy of love because it reveals a lot about how we see ourselves.
It is such a ‘cop out’ to blame God for creating the whole mess how the world has become so hard and loveless, but as you say, Regina, we are all responsible for the state we are in, and returning to living love is the only way to return.
I LOVE Love and the miracles of living love ❤
A very relatable sharing, and bringing us back to the fact that the love we so crave is already there, within us, waiting to be reconnected to and let out and through!
What a glorious way to start the day and be part of a self-loving daily rhythm by either face time yourself and or looking “into a mirror every day and tell myself that I love myself.”
‘I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.’ We can swim around in the emotional soup of our own making for as long as we like, but the choice to connect only takes an instant and all that turmoil goes away in a moment should we choose it.
How insidious is the self-loathing the majority of us are drenched in… It repulses true love, not because we’re worthless but because we ourselves don’t think that we’re worth it.
The love of God is there within each and everyone of us just waiting for us to say ‘Hello’ and let it flow through us.
“Love is so much more…” Yes, Love is endless and then some more!
Letting another in and learning that we can trust others again is such a beautiful opportunity to grow and expand.
Inspired by this blog, it has been quite confronting to look in the mirror, to look in my eyes and say ‘I love you’ – I had no idea just how many judgments I had about myself!
Love is so much more than we could ever think it to be.
Aint that the truth – it’s been a path of the most exquisite discovery, confirmation and expansion as I have allowed my self to love who I am and share this with everyone else.
One of the remarkable things about life is that love is truth and truth is love – in many ways they are the same and if you live one of them you live the other and if you only want to choose one of them you miss out on both.
This shares so much Christoph, as we have to be accepting of the whole and its true value to appreciate that every aspect of the Love of God has to be equal otherwise we are missing every facet.
Yes there are actually 5 members of the Divine Soul family and they are Love, Truth, Stillness, Harmony and Joy and when you meet one you meet them all… and WOW what a magnificent family they are and they are our family and who we are too.
Taking responsibility for ourselves is the beginning of our return to Love.
Realising and accepting that we are deserving of being loved, and that in fact we are love, can be a big step for many of us in returning to the truth of who we are, but the deepening and expansion that comes with that is truly, as you say Regina, nothing short of a miracle.
Regina, this is really interesting; ‘I could readily give a list of reasons why I wasn’t up to scratch, but the list of the opposite, why I deserved love, was surprisingly much longer.’ Reading this makes me realise that we don’t focus on the our qualities and instead we focus on the negative things we think there are about ourselves. How beautiful to make a list of our qualities and the reasons we deserve love, it feel like this turns all of the self doubt and self critiscm around.
Self judgement becomes a barrier to self love as there can be no judgement in love, just understanding and holding.
Yes and what we say to ourselves we say to another and what we say to another – chances are we say to ourself two-fold because we are more aware of the nastiness of what we say to another but accept that kind of judgement of ourselves.
Reading this something came to me that a friend shared earlier in the week in that if we take one step towards love it takes many towards supporting us ✨ Love is always there it never left us! Love is within. It is we that have moved away from it so the moment we make movements back to it, it is there waiting to truly embrace us.
“I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.” And hence the journey back to who you are commences with the aid of such simple tools, quality of breath and tender movement, presence, appreciation and acceptance, lush ingredients that empower us to embrace our responsibility and the immensity of the Love we inherently are.
Coming back to love is the answer to all our woes, for it is easy to get nudged of that path and go down a route of none loving choices but love is always waiting with arms open when we decide to return.
Yes, the irony is we perceive love has ‘gone away’ … but it is us who have walked away from love. Love is always and forever present – we simply have to choose it. Note to self 😉
We are driven for most of our lives by a desperate need for love, having apparently ‘lost’ it. And it’s as though we would do anything for it- especially at the expense of ouselves and our bodies. But the love that we are in pursuit of is not the true love that we know deeply and inside-out. so we chase the false ideals of Love. Can we surrender to feeling the Love that we are naturally and inevitably part of, and that as you have expressed here Regina, is constantly flowing through us – not our to own, but to allow.
What a great wakeup call for all of us!
When we discover love within, we recognise this same love within every body too.
How cruel we can be to ourselves when we do not draw on and appreciate the well of love within us. If we don’t love ourselves we can doubt, self-criticise and think things like wondering what is wrong with a partner who loves us. It was great to read about the simple process of looking at yourself each day and saying I love you. We can see so much in our eyes and the enormous love we are has to shine through eventually.
Sometimes when we are down we feel so totally unlove-able that we don’t let anyone in, and returning to self love feels like an insurmountable task, but it is not impossible, with a few tender moves and gentle breath and honouring what we truly feel inside, we can dispel the lies and allow our love to be felt.
‘I was filled with so many ideas, wishes and concepts about love.’ we pursue a belief which we hold so highly and yet is not even on the same scale as the magnificence of the love we are from.
The more I open myself up to love the more I come to understand, feel and know it to be a flow of energy that passes through me and can never in truth be owned, controlled or manipulated, just surrendered to, so that what flows through us meets, greets and embraces all with the same steady, playful, light presence.
It is a very common ailment amongst the human race that we look out to the world we have created and feel the shock and the hurt that we have let such lovelessness and lawlessness to abound, but rather than dig deep and allow all the love within us to unfold and express back out into the world in order to change the landscape we live within, we instead hold back our love and in so doing, embed ourselves deeper into the mess we have created.
Yes, we all do this unconsciously but if we do it consciously – that does not strike me as a good idea as it is quite irresponsible.
Our True Love emanates from us as we hold our self in the true glory of Gods-Light, changing the reflection of “the landscape we live within” so we are imbued with true power.
Love is and can be our greatest teacher. It never judges rather always confirms who we are and accepts nothing lesser. The more I allow love to be my teacher the more I see how life can be and that it need not be the struggle we have made it to be.
So often we seek to blame another or others or God for our situation or issues or how we feel. And yet the greatest gift that we can give ourselves is to take responsibility for this and hence empower ourselves to make a change.
And this self empowerment comes from loving ourselves all the more!
Regina, thank you for a gorgeous and open sharing which I feel many of us can also relate to in terms of growing up and feeling a level of lack of self love and self worth. How beautiful to read on how you have turned this around for yourself and now can embrace so much more of the love that you are. This is an endless journey for us all, and the depth of love that we can access is indeed bottomless!
If love is all there is and equally is all we are, how diligent do we each need to be in denying that love, if we are able to live a whole life time without feeling true love? That’s a pretty dedicated commitment from us all,is it not?
The more we view life as a series of unrelated, compartmentalised segments, affecting individuals, the deeper we are in the illusion. Whereas the more we understand life to be the one body of love that it is, the closer to understanding the truth we are.
The forces that are invested in keeping us from the truth have some pretty basic strategies in place. One of those strategies is to corrupt our understanding of words to such an extent that it fundermentally changes the way we interpret and therefore carry out that word. Love is a prime example of this.
The love of God is all there is, all there has ever been and all there will ever be.
Love – the beginning, the path and what we are and will be in full once again….and then even more.
Love is the complete package!
Regina, this is really interesting; ‘I could readily give a list of reasons why I wasn’t up to scratch, but the list of the opposite, why I deserved love, was surprisingly much longer.’ I can feel how we so often focus on the negative and rarely talk about or appreciate our qualities.
‘And as I expand in my awareness of myself and life around me, I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally.’ – True. Love cannot be owned, it belongs to all equally.
Yes, we are all brainwashed into thinking love is something to search for the moment we learn to shut down our natural being and expression to conform with the outside world.
‘Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much.’ – A brilliant blog Regina and a subject that has the world in endless search for ‘The Love’, not knowing that we have limitless access to it on the the inside at any given time.
Being honest and exposing the fact that we are looking for someone to ‘fill us up’ with the love we don’t have for ourselves as you’ve shared is important, and a great step in reviewing our approach to relationships and how we are with the people in our lives.
It sure is a great point Susie and one we all need to consider especially if we are in or entering into a relationship, and this goes for friends as well. Are we being there bringing our all or are we there needing or wanting something from the other person?
When we have no love for ourselves we live in separation to all the love that surrounds us, which for me was the greatest hurt of all until I came across Serge Benhayon, who reminded me that I am from love and held within love at all times.
It is just the craziest thing of all when we all are equally love and yet most of us choose to be ignorant to what is there for us all. So thank you Regina for your story to show us what is there for us all who haven’t quite grasped it or for those on the wrong path completely.
And also a fantastic reminder for us all, that love is indeed at the core of each of us, regardless of what happens, regardless of our upbringing, and that it simply comes down to a choice for each of us to reach within and allow that love to blossom.
Misunderstanding the word love can spin us off course and ruin lives. This deeply revealing conversation offers a way out of the fog.
What I am seeing more and more is how we have been brought up with such a mangled version of love; the notion of it being a volume dial that we can turn up or down for various people, the notion of it being something that we can own, or that is unique and special between two people. There are so many ways that we have twisted it. There is nothing that we all want more than to live aligned with pure love, so we crave it, and of course we are never satiated because even if we think we have it in our lives, it isn’t the true version of love – quite the opposite in fact, in that anything that fosters individuality or tempers our connections depending on with whom we are, is in fact just deepening the separation.
I agree Otto we have made love .. or rather our version of love selective and not all inclusive 🌎
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” This is a very supportive marker; in that if ever we are feeling that judgement, or punishing ourselves as some kind of failure, then we know, very simply, that we need to deepen our love, for ourselves and for others.
This is beautiful Regina – however hard or tough things may appear to be, there is a constant and unwavering space that holds and surrounds us all, all of the time – the beholding love of God.
“all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love”.
It’s interesting how that feeling of ‘not having any friends’, which I can very much relate to, can feel so strong – yet, in truth, maybe it’s more a case of us not letting people in, keeping a distance and only allowing people to get so close, but not making ourselves open to receiving them in full and equally allowing others to feel all of us.
When we become aware that only ourselves are responsible for our own state of health, even though it may be uncomfortable, it gives us a choice in that moment. Do we stay the same or do we make changes? This is very powerful because even if we make a choice to stay the same, we know that we are choosing it.
Isn’t it quite incredible that we can be very comfortable listing all our failings, shortcomings, faults and misdemeanours with such ease but fail miserably when it comes to expressing the greater part of us, the magnificent qualities that we are imbued with?
Regina you have made it back to the starting point of every-thing. Love.
We are sold the romantic, emotional version of love – which we have all bought at some point in our lives… however to come back to the stupendous love residing within us all is simply a choice to walk a different path.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” What a contrast this is to what we are led to believe. How differently we would feel about ourselves and each other if this were taught to us from an early age.
Blaming others for our lives only succeeds in taking us around in never-ending circles… whereas taking responsibility for ourselves and our lives creates a stop, a moment or ten to review, reconsider, re-evaluate, to bring truth and understanding – and that is when our lives have potential to truly transform.
A beautiful sharing of love and the vastness and immensity of it that we are all part of and belong to in a world that does not acknowledge the truth of it and yet resides in us all as it is who we are and what we are made of .
When I first met Serge Benhayon and students of The Way of The Livingness, what stood out more than anything was the deep connection felt through their eyes. And those just eyes keep on emanating the
ever–deepening connection to their innermost heart.
“It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love”.
Love to you Regina. As! Pure love. Is!! The Love we all are and have an unquenchable thirst to return to. And upon return all practicalities are natural, normal, nurturing, nourishing, without the nostalgia as the depth of humbleness is inbuilt as there is neither an investment or any wanting, as you have shared “all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else.” And forever expanding. As Love is.
I have spent my whole life being angry at my parents for everything that I perceived was wrong in my life, then I blamed my then husband and more recently I was starting to judge and blame my new partner. The only person common in all of those experiences is me, therefore it makes sense that I am the one responsible for the misery. It was only when I started to love myself that my new partner came along to reflect that love and now I have to deepen it, I need to love and appreciate myself for the tender and precious woman I am, recognise the qualities in me that are love-able, and not beat myself up for anything. We have to stop being self critical, it serves no-one. Reconnecting to our sacredness is the key.
It’s amazing how we search for someone to blame for the fact that we chose to separate from our own love in order to search for it outside of ourselves but even more telling that when we find it, it only exposes the fact that we have left what was already there in the first place.
It is so easy to blame others for things that have been tricky in our lives, but when we understand we are the master for whatever outcome, we cannot blame anyone else for our woes. Our lives are our responsibility, however they turn out gives us so much learning.
We can throw any word around and make it what we want to make it. Love can mean abuse, it can mean adoration and it can mean I don’t care about you.
“Love is so much more than I thought it was…” is absolutely true
It is amazing how much life changes when we start to love ourselves. I experienced as well the feeling of having no friends and not fitting in, thinking everybody finds me weird and not interesting but I found that this all changed when I started to love myself more and actually open up to people. It is very much so that we create our own reality by how we are living and interacting with others. When we don’t feel like anyone likes us, because we don’t love ourselves and that is the thoughts we believe, we might not look like we want to connect with people (so people choose to leave us alone) which then again confirms to us we are indeed not lovable. And so it goes on. Untill we make a different choice.
“if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally” – Loving ourselves more inevitably means that our love is greater in our relationships too.
Very true, we can’t share our love with another if we are not feeling it for our selves first, as it isn’t there to share.
I agree ‘it is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.’ Our eyes can have an endless depth of love in it and a sparkle of joy for all to experience as it is in them too.
And it’s an absolute tragedy to see that the light has temporarily gone out of so many people’s eyes. Without the light of God, coursing through our bodies we are as empty as cicada shells.
Not only is love so much more one may imagine it also can show and be expressed in ways that we haven’t yet considered or actually don’t fit the images we have of love.
It’s been an enormous dis-service to humanity how we have allowed the word ‘love’ to be bastardised and reduced so much so that our perception of ‘love’ has lost it’s true meaning and essence and instead, has become more of a ‘commodity’ that we reserve for a ‘special few’.
We have all heard it said love is a funny thing and often found in places we never expected to find it! And, the most unexpected place is where it never left, within us.
This is an infinite view to consider. I have no idea where it goes, or what awaits us, but can definitely feel the truth of what you say Alex. We are perhaps just living the tiny flake of snow, on top of the pile of snow, on top of the tip of the iceberg!? I thank you for putting this majestic view into my body this morning.
I am learning that love isn’t always the ‘soft’ stuff, but it can be in the form of a pull up and hearing the truth which can often leave a feeling of discomfort if what is said is not accepted… but nevertheless, love it is.
An expression sometimes known as ‘tough love’. To feel something or observe a behaviour that is harming or disrespectful and stay silent, is not love. To speak up, express honestly and without expectation is love as it offers another opportunity to be more self aware.
Yes thats the thing…if we start to love ourselves, we can not but start to feel the love we have for everyone. With all of this there comes a huge responsibility…and empowerment, because we start to feel that we are all connected, that we are in fact one and so that everything we do has an impact to the all. It is the same when we hold back and play small and shy or if we play to be better – same same. This are just two sides of the same coin. The coin of untruth. The coin of separation. But when we connect deeper to ourselves and honour this connection by the way we live, we come to the point that we are all one and so – at the end – we love all if we start to love us for who we are. Self love – What a game changer! Not to underestimate.
What we have created still has us in its enthral, whether we play the lesser than or the better than card. And we are mostly very skilled at doing both, depending on the circumstances and our envisaged advantage.
I am now finding this a very strong fact, that I can either be in my love or not. How I live and move determines which I experience. And that which isn’t love will chastise me for not being the love that I am, but love doesn’t – it is just love.
I love what you share here about there being no judgement, recrimination, or criticism in love and that it is always there waiting for us to reconnect to it.
Not letting love in or out can lead to illness and disease, because we are not designed to live in isolation or in separation from the stupendous love that is within us and all around us.
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – this is so true when I came to realise and connect to the fact of love being [not a word, or a doing or assigned to sex/sexual activity] but an energy, a quality way of being that develops a true way of living that is from the soul.
My deep appreciation and love for the person I work for flows from my connection to the universal pool of love we are all part of.
I agree Regina. Love is so much more than I thought it was too, a far cry from the emotional romantic notions I used to hold. It is the energy of the Universe and we have yet to fully comprehend the depths of truth, integrity, wisdom, compassion, joy and harmony that the very fabric of our beings are made from.
When we convince our self, we have separated from ourselves; we think we have severed our connection to our body. Then we believe in our own manufactured fake news!
“It was no surprise that when I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in.” I know this one well. It took me four decades to understand why at aged eighteen I pushed away a tender young man who loved me dearly. Without love for ourselves we cannot recognise or receive it from another.
Pure love shines our light in every place; failure, judgement and punishment once resided!
‘I gave up trying and settled for isolating myself more and more. I can see now how I got trapped in a mindset of anger, blame and judgement.’ The is what happens in relationships, we give up, get angry and then refuse to talk about it so nothing gets resolved and we go round and round in circles in our heads getting nowhere. What I am learning in these circumstances is to change my movements, to allow my body to be tender, to move gently and to let go of the anger and blame and look instead at the reflection I am being offered.
It is interesting how the pattern of giving up and becoming insular has become the norm for most of us. Because of this we have kept circling in the same emotional soup. Along comes Universal Medicine which busts through all of that, teaching another way. I am so grateful to have had this reflection and to capitalise on the opportunity to really look at my choices. My life has changed so drastically as a result; whilst the challenges remain, my relationship to those challenges is altered.
Changing our movements is key to what we have accepted as normal behaviour, blaming others, getting angry and imposing on another what is wrong and right. When we move in a different and more loving way by feeling our body we have the choice to make a choice that may seem less familiar but will bring in another perspective.
These words inspire me … ” integrate my newly discovered self-love into my daily life …” to see how the small cogs of self-love, turn the next size wheel that in turn, turns the grander wheels that give traction to embody and emanate Love from the inside out.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” We are born with this inner knowing and for me it is very interesting that most of us lose this knowing during our childhood. So we ourselves are the ones who made our lives so complicated.
‘And as I expand in my awareness of myself and life around me, I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally.’ – I love the expansiveness of this statement, how it invites us to appreciate that we are all inter-connected and a part of so much more than we have ever realised.
‘I had no love for myself’ – I was pretty shocked when I discovered this for myself too. Yet, once I chose to re-connect back with me and allowed myself to feel the enormous love that was there, just waiting to be felt and shared, it was incredibly beautiful to appreciate how quickly and simply this all changed.
Gorgeous – so beautifully said Regina. Our capacity to scale life down to a place of mundanity and scarcity is a skill we have developed and can do without.
“Love is so much more than I thought it was” … such a simple statement but profound in its meaning.
Me too Jane, it also gives us the opportunity to give things a go rather than holding back in case we may be wrong. And when we do give something a go and mess it up there is so much we can learn from it if we choose to see that we have not failed and so ultimately we come back even stronger, otherwise we just beat ourselves up and nothing changes!
“I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.” A necessary journey for all of us… no more blame or shame but taking responsibility for ourselves and our lives, the choices we have made and the choices we can make for true and lasting transformation.
A great reminder in that we can always come back to love.
So many of us go through life expecting others to make us feel loved, not being that open to receiving care and adoration even if it does arrive and pretty poor at really loving ourselves. It is great that you have shared your journey through turning these around, together with your observations and insights. A great reflection that there is another way and the possible steps we could also use to similarly support ourselves as we explore.
This is so lovely, Regina – ‘Looking deeply and openly into my own eyes I could see and feel that I am actually really full of love.’ What a wonderful revelation to have, showing us that it is never too late to fall in love, even with ourselves.
Yes very lovely and this is a great thing to do for many times when I feel lost or struggling – I look into my eyes and I am reminded of who I really am and the love that we all are inside.
I am finding there is a world of difference between being critical and observing what is and expressing what is, however good or bad, with love. The first one is very satisfying but the second one can lead to a transformation of myself or others.
I have never felt like I fitted in and in many ways still don’t but what I’m learning is that fitting in is not all it’s cracked up to be, I’m starting instead to love me imperfections and all.
Fiona the freedom in what you share here is worth all the gold in the world. Loving oneself instead of fitting into society.
Love love love this. And totally melted when I read this – “Looking deeply and openly into my own eyes I could see and feel that I am actually really full of love” as you write this not only for you but as a reminder to all of us that we too are actually full of love.
Whatever we think or imagine love to be, it will not ever be able to capture the unboundedness love is; we only can forever grow back into and become it again and then even more. That´s the nature of evolution.
The inner pain that people live with is truly shocking and an indictment on our society and family values. Thank goodness for Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon supporting us all to reconnect to the love we are.
What matters is how much we love ourselves, it does not matter how much our partner adores us if we are in constant self-disregard and abusive thoughts are going off the Richter scale. Through making small steps in truly loving ourselves, and accepting where we are at, who we are, what we do etc. we can open up to another and accept their level of love towards us – regardless of whether they are in love with us, or they despise us.
It was a moment in my life that I knew it would never be the same again. Where I felt what Love truly was and this was on a Universal Medicine course where Serge Benhayon shared a technique that supports connection with Love. I was speechless, I felt like jelly and fuzzy all over and my heart felt like I was going to explode. Ever since I have known Love is a connection to our true origins and living with this on a daily basis to the best of my ability is magnificent. In a world that is Loveless we need to be the ugly duckling and choose the Love that we all are equally.
Think Love is emotional between two people? Then let your heart open your eyes to the power of Love that lies within us all.
There is a consciousness about love that we expect another to fill. The expectation and need is that someone will come along and make us feel great about ourselves. I remember a conversation I had years ago with my boyfriend at the time, who I absolutely adored and loved to the bone, that the love I had for him would never be enough because it couldn’t fill the hole within him. He agreed to this and said I could never love him enough. So, if don’t take the responsibility to love ourselves and give ourselves everything we are craving then that’s a huge expectation and imposition on another. It’s no wonder so many relationships break down.
Looking at our eyes in the mirror shows us where we are at. If we are not ‘at home’ so to speak it will show and we then have a choice to dwell there in that emptiness or allow ourselves to surrender to the love that we are and through this connection what is reflected back to us in the mirror is love – we align to love and it is in us.
That is true and after a while we can simply feel in our body where we are at and make adjustments whenever needed.
“I had no love for myself.” This is something very powerful you say here, as in these few words lies a whole humanities’ dilemma. We do not love ourselves and thus are constantly on the go to get this love that we so deeply yearn for but ironically deny ourselves at the same time and thus live forever chasing what is right inside of us and simply needs to be lived.
Yes, Regina, when we connect back to the ‘endless supply of love’ within us and all around us, there can be no doubt that we are a part of God.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” This sentence needs to be nailed up in every classroom around the world. Love simply embraces our divinity and has no space for anything less.
When we do not love ourselves it is so easy to feel unloved and unwanted by others believing there is something is wrong with us for that to be happening. The only thing that is ‘wrong’ is that we are not accepting that we are already everything we need in our unique glorious true essence and it is but to love, cherish and appreciate that.
As we grow we are fed many pictures of what love is and make demands on others to fulfil those pictures.
Such a simple exercise Regina, to look at yourself in the mirror each day and express your own love for yourself, but as you say, it can be so confronting especially to start with. I have done this on occasions, but am also inspired to make a committment to doing this daily. Thank you.
Hear! Hear! Regina and Sandra, a rhythm that feels so supportive. And who better to ask for a reflection of Love? Then when we consider our own Love and can Love in our own reflection and Live in that refection-full-ness then this has to be what others are also getting as a reflection.
To me we are surrounded by a loveless world and we are all missing true love, not the emotional love that we read about in books or listen to on the radio. For example I was in a situation recently where it was impossible not to hear the songs being played via the radio and one of the songs played was dripping with emotion I could feel the hooking energy that wanted the listener to indulge in. It actually felt a very poisonous song and not so long ago I would have been completely hooked by the energy. Thankfully I have been supported to understand and know true love and this does not come with an ounce of hooking energy but actually leaves space in the body.
“I had no love for myself” – yes, to understand that when we have degrees of trouble allowing another person in to really, truly, deeply love us, and those degrees being a measure of how much, great or little we love ourselves first, is a massive healing study of ourselves. To love ourselves is our door opener in receiving love from another, and for us to love back through that same one door.
This feels like a double paradigm shift as we enter and re-enter the same door, which deepens our Love?
“It was no surprise that when I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in.” It’s super simple and very logical – most of us are in a closed room and if we don’t open the door and let ourselves out, then no-one else can get in.
Thank you for that invitation of appreciation.
Thank you Regina, I really enjoyed your honest and open way of sharing yourself and your life. The fact that we can’t look in the mirror and naturally feel our love for ourselves says a lot about where our society is today, and that love is not yet part of our priorities and values, nor is it recognised as the essence of who we are.
When we doubt that others love us, it is because we haven’t loved ourselves first to feel what love means in the body. And yet knowing love is an important subject in our lives because we miss it, is the most awesome opportunity to get to re-learn and re-live love.
Wise words, it is only when we love ourselves that we appreciate life. We all want it, we come from it, we are it and yet we often – like nearly all the time look for it in others and not build it in ourselves. An amazing gift from Serge to support us to re-connect to the love in us.
I am learning about being love all the time, especially in situations where I feel challenged, looking at the reflections each constellation offers, learning to avoid an emotional reaction and being able to deal with reactions to my expression. For me my movements make a difference, as soon as I feel tense, I remind myself to be tender in my touch. That helps to dispel my mood and restore my inner connection.
Love is who we are and we can either live in a way that deeply honours this or live in a way that completely rejects it.
‘Finally, I blamed God for creating this whole mess where there is this good but helpless me, surrounded by a loveless, hard world.’
I lived this as a reality growing up. I rallied against responsibility. I didn’t believe I was love or could love, so hidden I was from my own essence that is this always. And I believed the myth that I was defecto which only goes to show me how powerful I, like everyone else, is. How can a loving being whose essence is love, manage to get themselves to believe otherwise?! This completely debunks any victim mentality. God didn’t make us anything less than Him.
‘I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.’ – such a beautiful reminder and confirmation of the fact that we all have immediate access to love, always. It’s a choice that we are constantly making through our movements. Whenever we feel a shift away from love, we know we can just as easily change our movements and come back to love.
When we play ‘victim’ of society we put ourselves constantly on the back foot, when we are actually worth so much more than letting issues and problems roll over us.
So true, Richard – we become needy, reliant on the other person to ‘complete’ us, which is an enormous imposition and it creates a relationship which is not ‘true’, in the sense that there are demands and expectations that ‘need’ to be met, rather than an appreciation and honouring of each other with the love each person holds for themselves first.
‘Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much.’ – I feel we can all relate to this statement, Regina, as we relentlessly search outside our selves for that which lies within. Nothing can ever fill the emptiness we feel from our dis-connection from our beautiful self. The choice is always there for us to re-connect and feel the enormous well of love that we hold within, that has always been there and always will be.
Love is so much more than we think it is … because our minds are limited in their thinking, whereas our hearts are pure love and limitless.
A beauty-full sharing of a journey of love… from believing ‘no love’ to realising we are each one of us full of love – and always have been.
I love that the truth of love is – “unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.”
What or who do we see when we look in the mirror? Our daily reflection of choices.
We have made it so unusual to claim the fact that we love ourselves that we have even developed language to mock others like ‘they love themselves’ or ‘they’re up themselves’ when our natural way is to be love and to express this in all we do.
It’s a great point Michael. Furious at our own un-loving choices, we then take this out on our brothers.
Loving who we are is accepting the love we are from. The deeper we take this the more we see that everyone else around us is the same. Therefore we do not need to seek that which we already are.
The journey towards deep inner self love is truly remarkable and when we arrive there it is almost unimaginable to have had any other relationship with ourself.
It’s a weird contradiction, how we can crave love from others, and when we get it, can’t accept it. Learning what it is to love ourselves, to know ourselves inside out, no matter what we might have said or done, is a life-long learning and forever-evolving relationship.
Very true Doug and Bryony, it is a contradiction but when put like this in its simplicity it makes sense.
This is something everyone can work on, deepening our love for ourselves. We really are worthy of love and what a great realisation you came to, Regina, that when we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally.
Thank you Gill for your comment. In terms of self love when we begin loving ourselves there can be a lot that comes up around whether we are worthy or deserving of love, but as we return to our essence and discover love is who we are, looking back it seems quite strange to ask the same question now which is more like “Am I worthy to be the love that I am, i.e., be me?” It’s a huge process returning to love.
So much gets communicated through our eyes. No matter how closed up you are- your eyes will always tell the truth.
What a suppression of our divine qualities to live a life in self- neglect. Only through how we move we can get out of this false belief, that only purpose is, to keep our power in the closet. Saying Yes to you equals saying Yes to life. I am pretty sure your commitment to life did change also to a stronger foundation ?!
I love how love naturally inspires and ignites another’s sonship energy within. It’s power-full! It’s not found in our societal and communal systems and unfortunately I do not experience it in many corporate environments where most of my work has been. You know, every time I choose to bring it, bring the volume of love I know and feel, it is there and it is physically felt in my body and it resonates in my voice as I speak. The thing is, and this is great to ‘wonder about’ and with my own intent right here, to confirm this volume and know it is always there to bring… What is even greater we are One with this Love.
The nature of coping and managing life, requires that we pull in unnatural behaviours and patterns that serve as a protection; in turn the sadness and frustration of this self created separation/withdrawal allows us to blame the outer imposts for our own inner emptiness.
I like this – blame the Polyfilla for not filling the crack in the wall, rather than looking at what caused the crack.
It’s so much easier to blame someone else as then we avoid taking responsibility for how we have been living. This is what we are really resisting, as when we go there, we realise that so many, if not all of our choices have been based on lies – on false ideals and beliefs that we have been conditioned to believe which have led us to live in a way that is very far removed from the glory of who we truly are. Yet, until we are honest enough to feel this truth, nothing can change.
You are right – nothing truly at the root of it all changes. But, what we fall for are the superficial changes of better.
Inspired by your sharing here Regina I have started looking in the mirror every day and saying ‘I love you’ to my reflection… I have to say it has been very revealing and exposing – but great at the same time.
I have been inspired to do the same thing and explore how it feels.
Mmm it is a great one as if we are not willing to 1st fully love ourselves and our reflection how can we love another and also how can we truly let another love us.
Me too, sounds like an easy thing to do but as you say Paula it has been revealing and I will need some time yet to really grasp it and be able to embrace the love that I know is just waiting there for me to accept.
When I am drawn to look deeply into my own eyes, I do not see me as an individual, I feel the fathomless depth of us all.
Thank you Paula, Regina and all who have commented. I will also experiment with this. What I can immediately feel is that it will also expose where else in life we freely bandy around the word ‘love’ without it having a true connection behind it.
If I cannot say ‘I love you’ to me in the mirror from the depth of my soul then how can I possibly tell another I love them? If I cannot feel the love for me first then I am trying to fool or convince another (and myself) thinking I love them. The words ‘I love you’ have to come from my body for the absolute love to be true.
We are so mislead by the belief that love comes from outside us… when there is a limitless well already deep within us, waiting for us to re-connect to.
The notion of what love is, is one of the main culprits in keeping us away from what love truly is.
Isn’t it interesting how we can make the concept of love so insular and yet in truth, it is so vast and beholding?
This is a beautiful and honest journey you describe here, that we all can be on, a journey back to ourselves that is so very worth a life long commitment.
How many countries in this world? How many mountains, towns and schools? How many books, romantic films and series? We look everywhere in all of these, yet the whole time we have what we need in our heart.
How many lifetimes have we spent running away from something we can never lose, the love within us?
What a gorgeous transformation and resurrection of yourself Regina. No matter what someone has experienced or what their situation in life is, we all have an amazing potential to unfold something grand and amazing within.
Love never goes anywhere it is us that choose to separate from it. Thank you for sharing your commitment to exploring and deepening the love that you have for yourself and reflecting that out to all.
It’s a big game changer the day we realise that the real issue lies with how much we love our selves and how much we let other people love us, as opposed to thinking that the world owes us something by way of an apology for our internal stubbornness and self loathing.
First you have to let yourself out to eventually let someone in. How much we avoid the fact to be loved shows how much strategies we have to actually cap the expression of our own. I can share, that I don´t like false love. Which is understandable, but it should never stop me from expressing my love. That is the more challenging part- staying open and loving as you are, no matter what the outside is confronting you with.
A daily routine of looking in the mirror and telling ourselves how much we love ourselves sounds like a great exercise to do. I will definitely give it a go.
“In fact, we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally.” So true, there is no greater foundation from which to ‘know true love’.
“I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being”. Perhaps the most significant step of building a solid foundation for true healing.
Regina, thank you for sharing, I can very much relate to the fact when you say that ‘It was no surprise that when I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in’. I know this has been the case for both myself and my partners and many other people I know. It is something we all want yet when it comes along dismiss it, question it, doubt it because could it be true that we have everything we have ever dreamed of and wanted right before us? And as you say we have to 1st deeply love, cherish and adore ourselves otherwise how can we bring the same quality to another?
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – the greatest discovery for me was realising that what I thought was love (for all my life until my 30’s) was in fact not love at all but instead pure emotion or an emotional love which was full of entanglement, condition, exchange and proving through “doing” and that the love was meant just for family, friends or the person you’re in a relationship with. From aged 32 and thanks to the teachings of Universal Medicine, understanding and experiencing first hand that true love is universal, that it is an observation and beholding of all in equalness to oneself has brought the deepest healing. This love is eternal.
I appreciate the honesty you express Regina as it is very supportive for everyone to consider where they are when it comes to the word love.
Very often it is from a young age that we get to feel whether the love we hold in our young bodies is accepted or rejected by our family. If it is rejected that sets up all sorts of ideals and beliefs which we unconsciously buy into that can actually destroy our lives as you say there is so much self doubt. How crushed are we when we question if anyone can find us lovable! If our family didn’t love us unconditionally then who could?
Our childhood years are so crucial in setting the standards of a life lived. I can see so clearly where we slip up as a society in that we do not cherish our children but seemingly crush them instead.
Love is unlimited, unconditional, inclusive and available to everyone at any moment by choice. No effort needed, just a re-connection to our true nature.
“and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else.” As the world takes us round and round offering us endless opportunities to learn, as we spin around in our own bubbles of issues, patterns and emotions, it is inspiring to ponder this ‘axis of stillness’.
Regina you have so beautifully shared your return to love in simple and practical ways. We have been given so many pictures of what love looks like, all of them false, as love will never be a picture, today for me it is a feeling of completeness and oneness and acceptance.
I love your honest sharing about your turn around from blaming everyone and everything else to your acceptance that nobody was responsible for your state of being, not the world, your parents or God. From there any change can begin and are we on our way back to being who we truly are: innate divine beings.
‘… I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being’ – once we get to this place, the healing can truly begin.
It was such a joy to read your awesome blog Regina . . . what an inspiration you are! I could feel your love in every word you have written. “As within, so without – it (love) shines in and through everybody and everything equally, without judgement or measuring.” Let the world shine every day a bit more . . .
And all others of all ages too. I visit people in an old age home and there is such emptiness, almost everybody there has given up on themselves to the point that they are simply not there anymore. But sometimes, when I look into their eyes, a light comes up, if only for a moment.
Nobody ever told me that love is there inside of me, before I meet Serge Benhayon, it just never entered the normal consciousness.
Thank you Regina, your article was very supportive to offer others an opportunity to explore how to love themselves again. Funny that we need to do that as essentially we are made of love. It’s the pictures and pressures that life impose on us that override the natural feeling of self-love.
Loving ourselves unconditionally to me means no self judgement or criticism and paying attention to absolutely everything I feel. It means expressing with a deep honesty and not holding back for any reason, not pandering to anyone else’s needs or being anxious about what anyone else might think or feel as a result of my expression. Simply being all of me.
Whenever I’m looking to blame someone else, this is a big red flag for me to look at what it is I’m resisting taking responsibility for. Whatever hurt I am feeling, there is always a part that I have played in the situation and this is where the healing balm lies, in our willingness to see this and learn from it.
‘It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody’. So beautiful Regina and so powerful. It is all up to us to make the choices that allow the love that is already there to flow through.
‘I thought I was just not fitting in, too boring for others to be interested in me, so I gave up trying and settled for isolating myself more and more.’ – I celebrate your honesty, Regina – you show how easily we can give up on ourselves – we’ve all been there in one way or another – feeling like we’re the mis-fit, when in truth it’s just that we’ve chosen to separate from our gorgeous selves, so we can’t feel how amazing we actually are.
If I’m honest I have always felt like a misfit and this pretty much nails the reason why, so there really aren’t any excuses anymore.
“It’s up to us to allow it, feel it and live it at any moment.” – It’s genuinely empowering to realise this and dissolves any blame towards others when we appreciate our own part in whether we connect with love or not…
It sure is, knowing that in each and every moment it is up to us to choose how essentially we are feeling. No one else is ever to blame – it is a game changer yet also makes life so much simpler when we know that we have created everything that has led us up to this moment and like it or not have always had a choice in it. Nothing ever just happens by chance.
So true Fiona, this puts us right back in the driving seat, a game changing invitation to claim all of who we naturally are.
Brilliant Richard, this is exactly my understanding of love too. Also, this explains when we try to own love, personalise it and seek it, it is no longer love.
Gorgeous to read about your reconnection to love. You make it so clear that blaming anyone is never the answer because where we are at this moment in time all comes back to the choices we have made. It relates to how much love we are willing to live and to let in and out.
It’s in us, and when we begin to truly understand and connect to this, we open up a magic in us that allows us to feel any hurts we may have from a place of knowing first we are love and the more we live that love the more we feel the love we are and it ripples out and out.
I’ve got some homework to do, I love the exercise you committed to and what it exposed. You have shared with so much honesty that it is very easy to relate to.
This is it really ‘I had no love for myself’. In that I have so been where you have been .. blaming parents, blaming everyone else, blaming life, blaming everything but never ever did I truly stop and feel what my relationship was like with me, what were the choices I made in life, why did I make these choices and why was I choosing so many unloving things yet in a desperation to be loved!. Why did I not have any love for myself and how could I start to love myself? On meeting Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I can honestly say that is when things truly changed. That was when the word STOP was spoken to me and as uncomfortable as it was I started to feel my life and all the choices I had made and I started make more self-loving choices. So the key is to first love ourselves, really, deeply, with every cell in our body and this is what we need to teach and support our younger generation with.
Yes being offered the opportunity to explore all the unloving ways that I had been treating myself was a wake up call to commit to make more self loving choices and reflecting that out to others.
An exquisite love story. Thank you Regina, I am sure many can relate to what you share. I know I do.
A blog I can very much relate too – it seems to be all too simple to call in a complication or a resistance to the fact that we are so full of love. This is a really profound sharing as it shows that this common state of humanity can indeed be let go of.
“How do you spell Love?” – Piglet. “You don’t spell it. you feel it.” – Pooh
Love that quote and the blog reminds of this. Love is innate within us all and if we are void of it – then who/what are we creating ourselves to be?
I love the quote as well Michael – it is so simple. Yet so often we go into our heads thinking we need to analyse it we miss the very thing that is right in front of us.
I agree James, but I would say that we do not ‘miss’ it. In truth, we 𝘢𝘷𝘰𝘪𝘥 it.
Very true Michael because we cannot miss something we already have, just are choosing not to see it so are avoiding it.
The love in this blog is palpable and while reading allowed me to feel the love in my body and the areas in which I resist love. It’s like everything in our lives, if we can’t accept something that is loving then we aren’t seeing that we are the same love within ourselves.
It is only when we start getting to know what love truly is that we realize that we don´t know yet what it truly is, i.e. that we cannot yet fully comprehend the unlimited vastness of the unconditional divine love we are returning to.
And yet we use the word in the most flippant and unclaimed ways – a very specific choice which, I feel, enables us to thus avoid the truth of what is on offer and the truth of what we are not living; chuck the word around so that it loses its power and calling – and then I won’t feel so bad that I’m not living it. But these are all just games we play, tricks of the mind, indulgences…the body knows love and the body knows when we are not living it. The state of the world’s health and vitality is proof of this.
Yes, that’s what we are dealing with – a life that is rather an existence that needs to be resuscitated like a heart that stopped beating, ie. reconnecting to and activating the love within to be expressed and lived in the world.
I like the resuscitated heart analogy. I have been pondering the same for the last couple of weeks and have seen it like a computer – you can either keep trying to make the old way work, by cleaning up the hard drive, trying to filter out the viruses, re-charge the battery, etc…basically trying to make the old systems/tools/movements make your life better….or you can just simply download the new operating system, embrace the love on offer and get on with it – with no spinning wheel to slow you down or allow delay!
Knowing, understanding and actually feeling, on a very cellular, bodily way, what love is, has totally changed things for me. We all know it, have experienced it- that steady and deep sense of contentment, joy and expansion, where nothing else in that moment is needed, and we feel completely whole. Nothing to go out and get, nothing to prove that we are worthy of: love is in us all, equally so, all of the time- even when we forget it or doubt that it’s there.
These words are very supportive at the moment: ‘There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.’ If any of these words come up, I know this doesn’t come from love and my soul would never speak to me like that.
How beautiful when we realise that the love we crave most is inside us all along and we can love ourselves deeply.
And with that love everyone else deeply too…
With love everything is everything, without everything lacks the one thing that makes it the everything.
Which is why, irrespective of whatever you go to, to fill in the gaps, to make yourself feel complete, we never do – until the day we allow love to be the boss. It’s a crazy wild-goose chase with the answer just sitting, patiently, inside of us all, waiting for us to get ourselves out the way, stop, connect and see how simple it is.
An amazing unfolding Regina and one that highlights the huge changes that can occur in our relationship with ourselves and those around us when we start accepting and living the love that we are.
Love indeed is far grander than I ever thought it was, in fact I never appreciated that as a kid I was already everything, I was already full of love and lived this love and joy – i see this in my daughter today, and yet I lost that feeling of love thinking also I needed someone to give it to me. Only when I re-found it in myself did I also feel at ease and at one with life, myself and love.
It is the most freeing journey starting to discover and living the love that we are. Nothing can ever be grander in the outside than us ourselves. For me the most relaxing and still state I can be as a human being ever.
Yes, and that is the crazy part, that we have made love about need and giving and receiving, all the while it is innately ours and it needs in truth nothing.
I love what you say here Richard, the warmth of the sun is for us all. You give a very tangible example how individuality is not our true making. How can we live in a universe where nothing is just for someone or something but where everything harmonises for the all.
I can very much relate to not loving myself and hence not feeling worth being loved and thus going against this love that was on offer.
Me too, an adoring man is hard to handle when this brings up all your lack of self-worth issues and when the empowerment that is actually on offer feels as too much responsibility to accept.
Yes, and the beauty of it is that it simple shows us where we create issues, simply being shown fully how very worth and beautiful we are.
What a great sharing about Self-Love and how this transforms our relationship with ourselves and the relationships we have with others.
Yes it all starts with self love and a connection with and appreciation of who we are and all our qualities.
We always blame other people in relationships rather than stopping and looking at ourselves first.
It’s crazy that we’ve gotten to a place as a humanity where loving ourselves is a foreign concept, and something we intensely struggle with, to see through our ‘faults’. Deeply appreciating who we are is SO important and so is seeing that our ‘faults’ are not what make us, us.
It is even like people look at you like you‘d be an alien, when you only talk about self love. My experience is, that people feel ashamed to admit that they love certain qualities about themselves. Like it is taboo to actually being friends with yourself. We should talk constantly about how amazing we are with each other and pull each other up if we are not behaving that way…
“Love is so much more than I thought it was” … especially when it is offered so beautifully as this… it brings a quality that forever transforms our lives.
Absolutely gorgeous and so very inspiring Regina… I can so relate to looking in the mirror, however I havent persisted with it so this is something to pick up and continue once again… thank you.
Something that was so normal and natural for us to do as children. It is pure joy to see a little girl or boy dancing and swinging around looking at themselves in the mirror and smiling at what they see.
What holds us eternally, only does so, if we also hold it.
The power we have and the equalness there is.
To finally come to understand that the life I was living was the life I had constructed by my choices, and that no one else was responsible for the mess I considered my life to be in, was nothing short of life-changing in many ways. It was a huge stop moment offering me an unencumbered overview of my life and how my choices had impacted on it, so destructively at times. But once I also understood that beating myself up for these choices was not going to change anything, I was finally able to bring the missing and very healing ingredient to my life, and that was love.
What if this doesn’t just apply to Love – but all of life? And we can’t understand with our head what’s truly going on? Then surely the correct way to carry on is to consider there’s way more at play than we can ever know and let our heart feel the true way ahead.
It takes dedication to make our body move in a different way so we don’t continue to feed the self doubt thoughts that might have dominated our head for a long time, but you have shared how it is so worth it.
This is so true, Regina – “we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally.” Thank you for sharing the processing of falling in love with yourself and thereby the whole of humanity.
And there you can see, a true Love story is very unexciting, but very still and consistent and asks reconfirmation all of the time. Like every other relationship also.
Janet, Regina as hard as it can be to accept this at first, it is an absolute fact that is it our willingness to explore loving ourself first that allows us to have a full life of love.
A beautiful example of how we can through our own belligerence, choose to deny the love of God that flows through all of us by our self created thoughts, ideals and negative beliefs. And you are living evidence Regina of how the Esoteric Healing modalities of Universal Medicine empower us to dig deep within our selves to un-root the ill behaviours that plug this awesome love and allow it free rein in the world. What a Joy!
There is nothing more liberating and powerful than true love and nothing more disempowering than the emotional bastardised version.
Once we stop blaming the world and others and learn to love ourselves, life becomes so much more beautiful and joyful.
Hear, hear Jstewart51, our world is currently running on blame and seriously lacking in responsibility and love. No wonder we are seeing such a deep level of disharmony, abuse, and disregard in the world.
‘There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.’ I feel that this is how we defeat ourselves, by constantly judging and criticising and abusing ourselves. I don’t think I could do the facing myself in the mirror thing but I do know how love can shine out of people’s eyes because I’ve witnessed it. I don’t love myself hugely but I am letting love in bit by bit, overcoming low self worth isn’t an overnight thing, but allowing myself to feel deep inside my body is what helps.
It makes sense that if we drip feed hate and discontent towards ourselves, then we will feel unloved and unlovable, and likewise if we make an effort to love ourselves this will have a knock on effect of how we feel about ourselves and others. It’s quite simple really.
I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.
Its so beautiful to reclaim the drivers seat, to re-claim, re-learn and appreciate day by day that everything that you already are is more than enough.
Having a deep lack of self-worth and not able to accept love when it comes, or a disbelief in the fact that it has come, is probably a very common experience for many. To discover the love inside and to connect to the deeper universal aspect of it shifts our whole relationship with ourselves, those around us and those we may never meet.
We are as you say Regina bombarded with so many ideas and beliefs from others from young that our senses seem to get warped and distorted and we lose the sense of who we are and look outside of ourselves for love. We are never told or encouraged to know that true love resides in us always and until we make contact with it in full we can actually never truly love another.
To transcend from expecting love from others to accepting the love we already are is a miracle and removes the constant strain and stigma of feeling unworthy. To know that love is who we are changes our whole way of being in life.
‘all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.’ A beautiful sharing, thank you.
“I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from or for me personally.” Quite a realisation, when we are so used to making ourselves the centre of every thing and every feeling that we have.
Thank you so much for sharing this Regina, I had a situation yesterday that put me into a downward spiral and has been effecting everything since so this was rather timely and reminded me that the simple solution was to come back to love.
Yes it is that simple!!!
A beautiful post Regina, charting your journey from not loving yourself to a complete acceptance and appreciation of all that you are – what a transformation true love can bring.
Regina, this is really helpful, thank you; ‘I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there.’
Regina, what a story about love found through understanding that was kickstarted by the simple looking into the mirror to see yourself. Love being the observation that it is.
Regina, what an amazing turnaround in your life; from lacking in confidence to truly loving yourself and others. You are an amazing role model.
It is beautiful the way that you have described love as coming from a universal source, so that it is not something that we can own or control, it simply is what it is, and the key being to distinguish from which source that sense of love is coming from – the purity of Divine Truth, or the Manifestations of our Minds that seek to create truth without the real truth being sought.
This is so deeply honest and beautiful, and I could really feel why I would retract from accepting true love completely and utterly as something that I am, as well as everyone – that’s because I won’t be able to know me as I have always done.
Isn’t it nuts how much comfort we take in knowing ourselves as who we are not rather than who we are aka Love!
The perception we hold of love is influenced by the way we have lived our lives, our cultural backgrounds or through what we’ve learned from a textbook. Regardless of that, regardless of how much we’ve read, how deeply we are intertwined in the culture where we were born, or how traumatic our upbringing was the heart will always recognise pure love the moment it stands in front of it.
Love is like our feet! We can try and run away from them, ignore their existence and mistreat them but is something we can never separate ourselves from!
Love it Steve. It is quite simply who we are, what we are made of and where we are from. I am so pleased to have been reminded of that whilst I still had time to feel it for myself 🙂
When I take responsibility for everything that happens to me in my life, it is then impossible to blame. Moments of blame I can be made aware of but I know I cannot go into this old way of being as it is simply not true.
‘It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody. It’s up to us to allow it, feel it and live it at any moment.’ – very beautiful sharing of how love is there for us all, it’s just up to us to connect with it, live with it and share it will be like breathing.
Amazing sharing Regina, love is everything but without self-love there is no access point, and what you have expressed here will help all those including myself who have self-worth issues that love is what we are and where we are from.
You expressed that really clearly – self-love is the access point. Without it we can only get a glimpse of love when we see it, and will most likely put our expectations and ideas on it straight away.
And when we are in and from love there are no issues; there cannot be any issues for the love we have for ourselves is too great to allow any issues in… I simply respond in love.
What a turnaround it has been – from lacking love of self and blaming parents, genes and God to accepting responsibility and the choices you had made to get you to where you were then. Responsibility sets us free and the yoke of victimhood is no longer.
Thank you Regina for sharing so beautifully and honestly about your journey back to self love and understanding .
Your story is so great because it exposes that many of us suffer the same and it is as you have explained the development of self love and self worth that are the bridge back to balance and expansion of more love .
Very true Regina. We can’t stop the love from heavens cominh through us. We can only choose to hold back expressing it out, which in fact, is not our right to, and through this process we bear the consequences to learn it’s not worth it, for we are all shining love waiting to remember that within us and see the reflections around to touch upon our own truth.
Yes, how awesome, we might be used only to hear from others what is important and what we have to do but we can give ourselves homework to work on things we feel are important too like to build a loving relationship with ourselves.
This is very lovely to read. Learning to love myself is something I’m opening up to. When I consider it’s me getting in the way I see how it’s me who can stop getting in the way and start being responsible. ‘I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally’- This is wonderful – we are always connected to the all and how actually there is nothing I need to create or conjure up, it’s all already there waiting to be let through.
Yes the endless supply of love is not from us AND also it IS us so we need to claim that too. We are that. Love is who we are, love is where we come from and love is where we are returning to… and in using the word Love it is not what we think it is or the bastardised version we sing and talk about but a Divine vibrational quality of the Soul.
Once I felt that vibration all through my body, there was no other way than to claim it, as there simply was no room for anything else. I feel blessed that I felt that, for there is no room for doubt anymore, even when I sometimes let the lesser vibrations in for a while. Thanks to looking so deeply into my eyes.
Yes and there is no end or limit to that depth!
We fixate on getting flowers or a Valentine’s Day card, when we could so easily receive the whole world.
Love is the essence of who we are and as such it cannot ever be dismantled or damaged. However, our access to it can be eroded by the poison of self-doubt and its partner in crime – lack of self-worth.
Living Love like you have shared Regina, is truly amazing and this is great what you have shared, and may I add that for most before we get to self-loving ways we had to start with gentleness as is presented with The Gentle Breath Meditation by Serge Benhayon.
‘I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally. In fact, we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally.’ – so true, Regina – this exposes the falsity in how society conditions us to feel about ‘love’, that it is something we keep for the select few that we let into our hearts. Making it something exclusive, when in fact it’s our natural way of being together.
Gorgeous blog Regina, what you’ve shared is very relatable, honest and inspiring. Our world has a false version of love that keeps some of us forever chasing it but when we understand that true love is constantly flowing through us and all we have to do is connect to it, this changes everything. Love is not personal or just reserved for a special few, love is for ALL.
“this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally” – This is gorgeous. Love isn’t an insular thing and when you allow yourself to feel it in full it’s impossible to restrict, not express it or contract.
There are Words of Wisdom from your lived experiencence are shared on the blog Regina.
“all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.”
I remember putting love secondary to awareness. That didn’t work – awareness only grows with love, otherwise it is in danger of being simply cold.
Nothing is more important or has takes precedence before love.
This is ace what you are sharing here Christoph. It is the love that gives us that understanding, wisdom and deeper awareness. Without that we are looking and seeing…but our eyes are blinkered and our hearts are closed by judgement, our own issues, ideals and emotions; so we may notice stuff, but we are not fully aware.
What an exquisite blog of self discovery and the enormous love that you are, that we all are. I can very much relate to a lot of what you share here, Regina – especially how we can thwart ourselves through our resistance to stop, feel and deeply appreciate the gorgeousness of who we truly are, and in our hurt, we twist things around and blame others for how we feel.