Love was always an important subject in my life, because I’ve been missing it so much. I’ve always been a bit shy and I had no circle of friends like everyone else around me seemed to have. I thought I was just not fitting in, too boring for others to be interested in me, so I gave up trying and settled for isolating myself more and more. I can see now how I got trapped in a mindset of anger, blame and judgement.
First, I blamed my parents for my perceived inadequacy – wasn’t it their genes and the way they brought me up that had produced this lacking person that I was? Then I blamed everybody else for not loving and liking me as I was – turning it all around. Now something was wrong with the world, not with me, and I could feel angry instead of sad. Finally, I blamed God for creating this whole mess where there is this good but helpless me, surrounded by a loveless, hard world.
It was no surprise that when I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in. I could not really believe that he loved me, always wondering what it was about me that he felt attracted to. For a long time I thought that he must simply be too lazy to go out and make the effort to find somebody better than me. Maybe he had the same lack of self-worth as me? At the same time, I adored him, every little bit of him, and I never stopped loving him to this day. But why couldn’t I believe that he loved ME? I obviously had some issues with love, and with particularly the way I saw myself.
On one hand, I craved love and felt that I deserved it: on the other hand I had so much self-doubt as to whether I was lovable by anyone.
I was filled with so many ideas, wishes and concepts about love. I wanted it to be given to me, someone had to come and fill me up with it.
I had no love for myself.
And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either – what a dilemma!
After many years of living, or rather hanging on like this, unsuccessfully trying many kinds of conventional and spiritual healing therapies to sort out my unresolved issues and emotions, I landed with Universal Medicine. There I started healing sessions with an esoteric psychologist, which was supported with other esoteric hands on healing modalities to address the tensions and contractions in my body. And what unfolded in me with this is nothing short of a miracle.
After the initial working through my anger and resistance to feel the deeper layers of sadness and self-neglect, I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being; no more blaming of the world, my parents or God. This was hard at first, but also turned out to be a great relief. I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.
Then it was time to look at the issue of not feeling lovable. I could readily give a list of reasons why I wasn’t up to scratch, but the list of the opposite, why I deserved love, was surprisingly much longer. And strangely it was more uncomfortable to express that list than the negative, self-criticising one.
So I got some homework to do – to look into a mirror every day and tell myself that I love myself. Sounds easy enough, but it wasn’t. It was quite confronting to feel the initial embarrassment, the squirming and trying to get away when I said “I love myself” or “I love you” to my face in the mirror. But I persisted and gradually I could accept that I am deserving of being loved. Looking deeply and openly into my own eyes I could see and feel that I am actually really full of love. The more I allowed that to be, the more this love expressed through my eyes, it just kept growing and flowing, so much that I sometimes freak out a bit and had to look away.
It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.
The effect of this daily ‘exercise’ was that I discovered what love really is.
First, I realised and accepted that I can and do love myself in full, unconditionally. Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone. And I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else. As within, so without – it shines in and through everybody and everything equally, without judgement or measuring.
I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally. In fact, we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally. When we fully accept and surrender to that endless unconditional love that we feel deep inside, we simply are love and see that in truth there is only love.
It took a while to fully integrate my newly discovered self-love into my daily life due to my stubbornly habitual, self-doubting thought patterns. Occasionally I still get caught in them today, but the depth of love as an almost tangible foundation in my body has been steadily growing with the support of the Universal Medicine philosophical teachings and healing modalities.
And as I expand in my awareness of myself and life around me, I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally. It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody. It’s up to us to allow it, feel it and live it at any moment. Then this love will guide our movements and actions and this will bring harmony into our lives, our relationships and affect everybody around us in a healing way.
There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love. I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.
By Regina Perlwitz, committed student of Universal Love and Truth
Related Reading:
Expressing Love – I Love You
Why are we so Afraid to Truly be Loved?
Accepting All of You
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
“After the initial working through my anger and resistance to feel the deeper layers of sadness and self-neglect, I started to accept that nobody but myself was responsible for my state of being; no more blaming of the world, my parents or God.”
When we get to this stage in self healing, miracles happen as we start to open up and accept ourselves as the absolute love that we are. It’s impossible to hang onto this feeling that fills our whole body, it has to be shared with everyone and why wouldn’t we want to share, as this feeling of contentment replaces the unsettlement we all felt and suppressed.
This blog is a beautiful sharing of returning to love, ‘I realised and accepted that I can and do love myself in full, unconditionally. Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone.’
The simplicity and profoundness of what you share is beautifully disarming. Disarming of all the pictures of what is required for love to be available. I love the realisation that love is endless, unstoppable and always there.
Regina there’s some gold statements here that are supportive for me and no doubt for others. Who would have thought that looking in the mirror, whether looking into your own eyes or saying those words, “I love you”, could simply make a difference to one’s life. And in that life can simply turn around and we can love others. I have done that from time to time and it is beautiful when we love another as the conditions of who you let in and who you don’t, fall away.
Love has no conditions, it is unconditional and it is for the all. We need more of this and the world could be a different place.
“It was no surprise that when I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in. I could not really believe that he loved me”, this Regina, was exactly what I was feeling with my partner and for me it took many years to finally let it in that He really loved me just being me. What a joy to finally let go of the struggle of wanting to be loved, when I had it all the time. Now today it is our celebration point within our relationship. As you say letting in our own self love is the beginning of it all.
This is an appreciation point when I too have a partner who simply adores me and still stands by me. I can feel a depth of love that is so deep that it feels ancient.
This blog is a huge offering to others about not only loving ourselves but loving others too. Yes definitely something to celebrate about.
Thank you Regina, what a beautiful time I have had reading your blog about love. “And I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else.” You have reminded me of how love is always there within me, endlessly there, and to come back to it as a foundation more.
It is the word ‘well’ that really gets me. It represents the unfathomable, endless depth of love that is available always.
Stepping back into Love opens us to the most natural ways of living and thus Love becomes a part of our Living ways or Livingness that opens the door to our universal connected-ness.
Recently I felt overwhelmed by the amount of love I could feel from others. Then I connected to myself and the overwhelm dropped – “this love is my natural inner essence”
The most beautiful thing to feel with love is that there is no doing nor trying in love – there is only the deep surrender to what we know to be true and already lying within us.
It is one thing to love and adore another, but completely different to let oneself love and adore oneself. This is something for us all to learn to allow into our lives.
Absolutely, to learn to love and adore ourselves is an important relationship to build, maintain, and deepen.
This has been a huge learning and acceptance for me Henrietta, and has taken many years to unpick, to let go of all the reasons why I was unable to love myself. Reconnecting back to God, to actually allow that warm and deep knowing to flow through my body again, to let go of the self bashing is the greatest gift I have given myself. Which in turn affects everyone as they can also feel what it is like to allow the flow of the universe back into my life, as we are not islands, we are all connected, everyone feels everything thing all of the time.
Interesting how we can accept criticism towards us so much more easily than accepting love. And this seems to be a universal phenomena.
It does seem to be a universal phenomena, why is it so much harder to accept true love into our lives than to accept a criticism?
True appreciation is expansion both for the giver and the receiver (that’s if the receiver allows themselves to truely receive the appreciation and not deflect it in some way).
Love is tangible, it is actually very specific and easy to feel when it’s there and whether or not it gets consciously acknowledged by those who are feeling it, it is acknowledged and registered by the body every time it is felt.
And it doesn’t ever stop. Love keeps on becoming grander and grander versions of itself. How utterly extraordinary is that. Once upon a time I though that life was a bit of a hard slog, painful and difficult, confusing and testing but it’s not, it’s none of those things unless that’s how we make it to be. We can and will all eventually choose life to be love and what a day that’ll be when we do!
I look forward to that day immensely Alexis, and in the meantime, ‘I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally. ‘
Even though love is the very stuff that we’re made of, as human beings stuck in the confines of the mind, we have no idea whatsoever as to what love truly is. I could say that it’s grand beyond measure, I could say that it’s infinite in it’s beauty and depth and still I would be saying absolutely nothing at all about love. Love defies description, it’s as simple as that.
Definitely a little bit of a dilemma! ‘And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either – what a dilemma!’ And on reflection what I was feeling was how many of us in the world do this .. not even with a partners love but just craving love and yet not letting true love, or more, surrendering to the true love within!
What a great sharing Vicky as Love has such wide reaching values that the surrender keeps on expanding as does our Within-ness, Inner-most-hearts, Essences, Souls / Esoteric.
Sharing your re-connection with the love of the inner-heart invites other hearts to beat to the rhythm of Divine love.
Gosh a dilemma indeed that I am sure many know, craving love yet not actually letting it in when its truly there! The irony is it lies within, it never left us rather we left it so when we allow ourselves to re-connect with this then of course everything around us changes as well ✨
I Love it when miracles happen ✨
Me too 🥰
I soooo know or rather knew this one ‘First, I blamed my parents for my perceived inadequacy – wasn’t it their genes and the way they brought me up that had produced this lacking person that I was?’ Blaming everyone around us for how we feel yet do we ever consider that through choice and responsibility we have the power to change and be and live who we truly are. However, in order to do this it sure helps to have people around you that are living and reflecting this way and it was not until I had this, through Universal Medicine, that I could then spot the blaming and being a victim and start to claim responsibility and make different choices. Since then I have never looked back and it has been and continues to be pretty amazing ✨ This also highlights the huge responsibility we have as parents and adults in bringing up and supporting the younger generation to make loving choices in their life that supports them now and into their future.
Well said Vicky – it is so easy to blame another and in the process we are simply not wanting to take responsibility for our part in anything.
Regina I have learnt that love is nothing like I thought or told it was. Most of us know ‘love’ as an emotion we write about it, make films, sing songs and it is all about emotional love. When actually true/ real love doesn’t have a drop of emotion in it. So somewhere in the history of man we have fallen hook line and sinker for something that bares no resemblance to the truth. This doesn’t surprise me because we have settled for less and accepted the less as being the all that is.
Yes, the true meaning of love has been corrupted, love is simply a beholding light, see Unipedmedia – Truth in Words, for the true meaning of love.
https://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/truth-in-words/change-the-meaning-of-love-and-see-what-happens.html
I agree Shirley-Ann and ‘everyday’ can be broken down into ‘every moment’, as love becomes a moment by moment choice.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love. I can be lost in a state of despair, stuck in negative thinking or unpleasant external circumstances or feeling hurt by something, and all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love”. Regina this really is the key isn’t it. Love is actually all there is but we have woven an absolute matrix of ‘what is not love’ and stuck it over the top and in the process we’ve lost sight of love. And the dismantling of the ‘what is not matrix’ has been and continues to be an ongoing process for me, one that has been supported immeasurably by Universal Medicine.
Alexis I totally and utterly agree with you- I have also been totally supported by Universal Medicine to keep looking and working on my issues around God, love, lack of self worth – my list is long. And I could have given up years ago, but the truth can never be denied and will always bubble up to the surface which means that in the future the full truth and understanding of what Universal Medicine presents will be known to everyone and everyone will be guided by the principles of love.
Regina this is so beautiful I simply had to repeat it “First, I realised and accepted that I can and do love myself in full, unconditionally. Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone. And I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else. As within, so without – it shines in and through everybody and everything equally, without judgement or measuring”.
I believe that the majority of us have so many misconceptions about love we have fallen for the what is not love rather than what is true love, to the point where it is possible that we have given up on love and accepted the corrupted version because may be we feel we don’t really deserve true love that is for others not for us? This can then allow jealousy and comparison into the mix of the self worth issues so is it any wonder we are so messed up over the four letter word?
To see the grand nature of love and all it brings is worth the commitment to developing the qualities in our life.
“I realise more and more that this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally. It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody” When I connect to this Regina what you are talking about here I know I am connected to the all.
“… we can only know true love by loving ourselves completely and unconditionally.” I have found it quite astounding how much my world has changed and continues to do so as I deepen my love for myself.
Beautifully said Jstewart51, it is an incremental process to deepen our love for self but each step is indeed an astounding one.
Love is a choice available for all. These days I’m becoming more aware about the thoughts and ideas, the ideals and expectations around this topic that I had and how much have conditioned me in my life. All of this is a whole package of information that feels too heavy and restricitive to live with.
Now the more I surrender to the fact that love is my natural state of being the more I know from inside what really it’s about. Far different from what I thought or expected, greater indeed, a quality that we all can live. I feel that adjusting to this new relationship with love is starting a completely different relationship with myself. I’m opening up to the possibility of bringing in to my everyday life the intimacy and loving care I’ve ever expected from outside, how grand and precious is that.
We are continuously saturated by thoughts, ideas, beliefs, pictures projections on how we want life to be, should be. It’s an onslaught that constantly pours through us. How to find a way that allows all that to pass without sticking to anything in our bodies is to be like a fish in water and not get wet. I have heard this expression mentioned many times and now I can fully understand what it means. The more we refocus and surrender to the energy of love which equally flows though us we can feel the intimacy and sacredness of pure love, once felt it is something that one remembers and then all our attention is caught by the precious feeling that wells up in our body. It is not something we can grab from the outside it blossoms from within.
Thank you Regina, I so needed to read this today, there is a lot for me to ponder on as there were so many gems of wisdom here throughout the blog. I’m going to do the mirror exercise as I have dropped away from my self love, and I do know from experience that when I love and adore me the love then flows to others.
Yes, a great idea, I have tried the mirror exercise before, but have not found it easy – probably indicating that it would be a beneficial exercise for myself.
What supported me deeply to get more towards truly Loving people was letting them in my heart no matter how they behave.
They don t even need to be trustful just all is needed is my openess which Can be felt in the chest where rest our inner heart.
“I realised that if we truly love ourselves completely, we cannot help but love everybody equally” – yes that’s also the key to leadership Regina i.e. from the quality of us, everything flows and everything is experienced.
After seeing and feeling so much sadness and self doubt in myself for so long Universal Medicine has helped me discover that it truly is as simple as just making the choice to come back to the love I am and we all are…
It turns out that as large and overwhelming as I felt my hurts to be, the Love that I am (and that is equally available to everyone) is much, much greater.
This it the Universal Medicine that Serge Benhayon has been sharing and presenting for us all.
Totally agree Jo Elmer I’m also discovering the love that I am is greater than anything I have felt in this life time. I would not have come to this understanding on my own. I had the support of Universal Medicine and the Benhayon family to thank. Bizarrely, I was so busy concentrating and justifying my hurts, saying but look at this, and this, and what about that, all the negatives I had taken on as me. Universal Medicine kept reminding me but you come from love, you are love, your particles belong to the grandness and spectacular preciousness that is love and at last I can feel from within that what I have been denying is in fact true and it’s not just me we are all the same and just like the old me everyone seems to be in deep denial of something we all want to belong to which is universal love.
Experiencing the ever greater depths of love that we can hold ourselves in, and hence all others equally eliminates all the prisons of judgement, expectation, justice/injustice, right/wrong, and the major hurts that inevitably arise from these that serve to perpetuate the cycle.
How ever far we may have strayed, the very instance we connect to the love deep inside us we are back and in the moments that follow we can choose to develop and deepen with that or not.
“So I got some homework to do – to look into a mirror every day and tell myself that I love myself.” This is the best homework that I have ever seems and so worth doing.
It’s important to observe our reflection for it not only shows the reality of our choices (which most do not want to admit or see) but it also reveals deeper layers of how truly amazing we actually are.
Love is so much more than we can think!
… And when we acknowledge ‘how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love’ we get to see and experience the world in a very different way.
‘so I gave up trying and settled for isolating myself more and more. I can see now how I got trapped in a mindset of anger, blame and judgement.’ What a great example that when we withdraw from ourselves we are susceptible to such emotion.
“Love is so much more than I thought it was” – agree, love’s infinity is something to love deeply.
‘Then I felt that this love is my natural inner essence, a state of being that is and was always there, and that it needs no input from outside, no confirmation or justification from anyone.’ Once we get this then life simply flows with the Magic of God.
There is no greater or lesser love than the love we naturally are, so we have a choice to live in connection with that or not.
I think we all blamed others for our missery. We looked for the love from others And if they didn’t we gave that the excuse to dive in the comfort of the emotions.
Then we all one day realize it is not them but us, ourselves that is here to bring that love:
We are love, ‘I felt that this love is like a well that just keeps flowing endlessly, filling myself, my body, and it is the same love that fills the space around me, encompassing everything and everybody else.’ Gorgeous.
It is a coming home to be held in the truth of love though it might take a while to fully accept it.
Love isn’t something to be accepted as such, it is something to be embraced. Love is something to be relished, to submerge ourselves in, to totally surrender to. Let’s gorge ourselves on the stuff, we’ve been without it for far too long.
I have 2 kids both at very different life stages. And I’m seeing how for one of them – love is boundaries and discipline. I would not have thought this was loving in the past but this is exactly what is needed.
So cool to dismantle the pictures we have about love and come back to the simplicity of it being what truly serves for all of our learning and evolution.
HM I love the clarity and precision of what you have shared. We have such a notion of love being a rather gooey substance, of doey eyes and swoonful emotions but it’s not. It can be purposeful direct and even cutting if that’s what’s needed.
‘It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.’ I find that people in the street, strangers I’ve not met before will respond with a smile, a true meeting of essence, regardless of who they are, age, gender, race, it is a lovely feeling inside that emanates to the outside world.
Great to read this today as I can see how I was reacting to an email earlier on in that old way of anger blame and judgement..I feel I might have some prejudice about this person and their profession and until I clear this I will not be able to work with them.
“….this endless supply of love that I feel inside is not from and for me personally. It rather flows through me, coming from a universal source that is the same in everybody” – when I understood about energy and that it flows through me; a body; a person, I realised how much I had been living my life unaware and in blindness. The awareness of energy brings awareness of life through the sight of oneself.
Sometimes we just distract ourselves by complicating things when in fact it is all very simple ❤️
The only way we will feel love and loved is through connecting to the love that we are already from the inside. If we cannot feel that love that resides within, then it is far more harder to feel the love that holds us by another.
Yes when we cut ourselves off from the eternal fountain of love we are lost and in that lost and empty state, we can be cruel and abusive towards ourselves and others.
Funny that how we are made of love, love is our essence, it is where we are from, and yet we can doubt that or forget it!
It’s doesn’t matter how stuck we think we are, coming back to love is so much easier to connect to than we think it is.
I love what you have shared Regina as I too am now aware of what Love truly is and where in truth it comes from.
What a beautiful transformation and as I read I can resonate with it very strongly, maybe not all but the core fact that I too blamed, I didn’t want to take responsibility for my choices and what I felt. When we do start to admit, be honest and feel our part and make different choices then it really doest become natural to love ourselves because you can start to feel it within as a truth.
I’m going through the experience myself of what it is to let people in – and what I am only seeing now is the mask I had on that kept the world out and made people think I was fine. It’s a big game we play to not let out who we really are.
‘ I had no love for myself.And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in ‘. So true Regina, We can’t truly receive Love if we don’t know it in our own body first.
I know the feeling of not feeling lovable very well and at times this comes back like a tidle wave. These days though, I realize that this is not true and that all this is reflecting to me is how my relationship with myself has been in the days leading up to it.
“It took a while to fully integrate my newly discovered self-love into my daily life due to my stubbornly habitual, self-doubting thought patterns.” Have you noticed that just when we think we have cleared a pattern another layer comes up to say ‘great, thanks for clearing that out of the way, because there is a little speck more to clear out and it is knocking you off balance more than you realise?’. This reality has stopped me seeing my learning as a linear experience.
‘I had no love for myself.’ I think this is something we can all relate to. Growing up and looking out at the world I hated how loveless it was, but it never occurred to me that I was contributing to this by being loveless with myself.
Love just is. Very beautiful to feel how simplicity returns when we reconnect with love and simply says yes to it.
What is within shines out – thank you for that reminder.
I love the way you have shared with us your journey – once we start loving ourselves and have a marker in our body of what that feels like we can, when we are feeling out of sorts, come back to it at any time, this is the beauty of our awareness and love.
‘ I started to claim my power back, step by step, no more being the helpless victim of the world, other people or outside circumstances.’ This is an amazing process. I find that I need to be super honest with myself because I like to hide where I can sometimes keep blaming the world or God so as to avoid my part in what’s gone on. Blame is an excuse to continue recreating situations that basically harm, rather than stepping into my power and clearing the mess and working inline with divinity.
Our eyes can shine love when we start to observe life by receiving images rather than looking at things. This way we surrender to our heart.
Before I learnt about the Ageless Wisdom and The Way of The Livingness I thought I knew what love was. However, I was deeply mistaken and have discovered it ‘is so much more than I thought it was’ – level of truth, integrity, strength, harmony, joy and much more than I ever imagined.
“Love is so Much More than I Thought it Was” – yes, Love is everything.
‘It is incredible how much our eyes can shine and overflow with the expression of love.’ This is undeniable! I’d heard the eyes are a person’s window to the soul before but I have seen it in many people eyes who let through divinity and it is glorious!
What if we choose our parents and what we get reflected in our childhood is exactly what we once did, so that we can grow out of it and choose differently? If we keep ourselves constantly in reaction in how we grew up, the chance to change this cycle is very unlikely.
Reaction of any kind prevents us from evolving because it is a ‘stuck state’. When we go into reaction we are in emotion and emotions are a state of turmoil, there is no clarity in them. It’s like we’re thrashing around on the spot. If we can have enough distance for us to firstly be aware that we have gone into reaction then we can gain more clarity and awareness and those things support us to gain even more distance and insight into what’s going on, so that eventually we free ourselves up from that particular pattern of reaction. And then we move onto the next thing that we go into reaction about, and so it goes until we don’t go into reaction about anything.
‘too boring for others to be interested in me’ This has been a very familiar thought for me too but why do we get these thoughts? How important is it to become aware we have a choice of what kind of thoughts we let in, to what source do we align, love or not love? By all means it is obvious we are already comparing ourselves with others from a very young age and distract ourselves to not feel the power of love that is inside us.
That is just it, they are patterns from young that we have not addressed or put a stop to. As adults we have a different brain to process what hurt us when we were young and we would do well to consider the illogical beliefs we still subscribe to.
Absolute certainty that Life is here to remind me that I’m so much love and every situation is there to allow me to live this deeper how deeply amazing and precious.
‘And no matter how much I craved for it, I couldn’t let my partner’s love in either.’ I can relate to this my whole life- when I felt people did love me I tried to pretend it wasn’t good enough, they weren’t perfect enough and I had an excuse to continue my search. I didn’t want to feel, is this as good as it got? Which was actually the emptiness of disconnection I had with myself and had nothing to do with them. I love the homework you gave yourself and feel how wonderful for me to start with this myself. To love myself no matter what I see in my reflection. What a wonderful way to stay present through any self-critique and stand firm. If I never back away from love then I am not at the mercy of me needing others to love me no matter what, which is what I have demanded all my life but never given to myself.
“When I later actually had a partner that loved me, I could not let him in”. Its only much later in life that I am realising that this is the way it works. We need to love ourselves to be able to accept love from others and the expectation that others are responsible for making us feel loved is a setup that is doomed to fail. When we don’t love ourselves, any love we receive bounces off or quickly pours out of us like a bucket with holes.
Love is so much more than I thought it was too – I grew up thinking that it was possible for abuse to be intermingled with love, and that love was this spectacular thing you only had with one or two people – it was directional and you needed another person to have it, not an actual quality within you that can be unfolded and developed and can actually pour out of you in every direction.
Truth is we are here to learn to ‘be love’, for when we are not love, we are not ourselves.
Although I absolutely agree there is a contradiction in we have to “learn to be love”. We are great geniuses in being love because that is our origin. We have to let go of the grand avoidances to express all that we are.
Acceptance is a powerful medicine, in that when we accept ourselves and our imperfections, we have the potential to accept our very own amazingness and divineness, and when we do, the sky is the limit.
That is why I now love mirrors so much simply to have that reflection back of my lovely movements, but too the genuine love that naturally emanates from my whole being. At times it is good to have the reflection back as it is a confirmation of who we truly are what ever mood we might have allowed to come in.
Thank you Regina, and as we reconnect with who we truly are, love shines out of our eye, and our very being and this is what is needed in the world.
Love – indeed the antidote to failure, judgement or punishment.
Instead of trying to find a solution for situations when we feel strangled by one or all of these emotional states coming back to love is key to expose their falsity and set us free from their grip on us.
The moment we connect to love in a heated situation the whole situation looses its intensity. It is so easy, but so hard at the same time if you are hooked in by the discussion and its game of right and wrong, which is nothing but destructive and entertaining the part in you, that does not want to evolve.
“There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” In love we allow space for another to be who they are and to be where they are at without compromising ourselves in any way.
This is so supportive Regina, to remember “There is no failure, never a judgement or punishment in love.” It is pure love, 100%.
Pure love, I love this sharing and your last words I can feel how much this is actually true for you in your body and its deeply inspiring.
When in the basis of our life, our childhood, we are not met in love it is hard to get used to it when we are adults.
Like it was for me when I met Serge Benhayon.
I felt the truth but to let in the love is a proces.
This way I also get used more to open up to my own partner to have true intimacy. This I was avoiding in all previous relations.
How indeed can we let the love and care in from others when we do not connect with and live the love that we are first.
Love is so much more – and such a different quality- to what I thought it was. I used to think love = being the nicest person in the world, pleasing everyone, doing what everyone else wanted me to do … and a lot of emotion to top it all. To discover that love is none of those things but a quality that can be lived and expressed from moment to moment, a way of being that holds everyone as an absolute equal and as the person they truly are, is a quite magical unfolding. And very real and practical.
As someone wrote ‘love is simple’, and that it is. Not so easy at times is to get out of the way what is not love, essentially the Self that seeks rather recognition, but love. With every bit of self we let go we gain back more of the love that just is. Interesting point is that we need to truly self-love and care for ourselves before and while we let go of self to become more of the love that we already are but is clouded by self – perhaps a conundrum for the mind, not so for the one living it.
It takes a constant choice and commitment to change something. But it can be simple when we change our movements because that can make the difference between it being a constant struggle or a beautiful constant deepening.
“…all I need to do is remember and come back to love, allow it and feel it – and it will be there, unchanged and forever holding me and everybody else. Pure love.” Remembering to do this is key. It is when we forget that we beome so disconnected from the love that is a constant and always available to us.
I love what you share here how when we expanded our love for ourself and life we cannot but be aware of how the endless supply of love inside ourselves is not from us and also it is there to share with everyone and never to keep it to ourselves.
Love is simple and can start with me!
To me that is the best ever homework we could ever get – to look in the mirror ever day and to tell yourself that you love you.
Whenever we blame ourselves or others for the way things are, we are in fact pushing love away. Being open to take responsibility for how we feel, where our life is at is a loving way to approach life. This is a beautiful example of how you have transformed from blame to pure love and an amazing example of how you have done this Regina and this shows us what is possible.