The Benefits of Esoteric Breast Massage

by Lucy Dahill

I have received many Esoteric Breast Massages (EBMs) in the last few years. At first I went because I had been educated in the benefits of breast massage from a physiological point of view, though what I came to feel was so much bigger than that. The support I have received from the EBMs, the practitioners and subsequently the Esoteric Women’s Presentations has been incredible.

When I came to feel a connection with my breasts, emotional issues that I had forgotten or thought were past and finished with started to come into my thoughts during the sessions. The practitioner kept everything very simple and supported me to understand my own body, in that the emotion I was experiencing was simply energy moving in the body.  My breasts have fed three children and they were quite ’empty’ physically but also they felt drained… It took a long while to reconnect with them, to not feel let down by their size, to not feel ashamed of their emptiness. After each EBM I would feel the size they truly were, they did not physically grow but I could get a sense of their true size. I had been having quite a few issues with cysts, the doctor had said there was nothing I could do, he said it was something I would have to live with for the rest of my fertile life and I would have to take great care during menopause. The woman who did my ultrasound said one of the earlier clients that day had chosen to keep her cyst because it gave her a larger cup size. I was not ok with this being ‘normal’ and if I had been distracted by size I would be denying what my body was sharing with me in the first place. It isn’t normal to have a lump in your breast. It is your body’s way of saying – hey, I am having trouble keeping the flow going.

For me it was my early warning sign and I felt to approach my healing plan no differently to if I had a cancerous tumour. I decided to massage myself as well as have regular Esoteric Breast Massages and to introduce more gentle and nurturing routines for myself. To be open to seeing if there were perhaps things that I did that were not as nurturing to myself as they could be. I found that there were and as I chose to make more nurturing choices part of my day to day living, each month the lumps reduced in size. I continue to have regular scans and was told I could now go to annual checks again. I still have a few lumps and I feel them as a communication from my body that something is out of balance, rather than something to avoid or be scared of. I love that my body is always talking to me.

I may not know what the next step in self-nurturing is, but I didn’t know what the first step was not so long ago, so I just choose to be open to feeling, and I know my body will find a way to show me.

128 thoughts on “The Benefits of Esoteric Breast Massage

  1. So many women have lost connection to their bodies and can miss the divinity and sacredness that we all hold, the Esoteric Breast Massage is a deeply healing and honouring of women in every way and allow the space for us to re-connect and to embrace this quality again.

  2. Esoteric Breast Massages are a support for me to begin to accept myself & my body as that of a woman, and to help treat myself in a way that is loving, nurturing & supportive of who I truly am.

  3. I have no direct experience of either EMB or of having breasts but I feel sure that not feeling connected to any part of our bodies will lead to a problem of one sort or another. Most of us live in disconnection to our bodies preferring to be in our heads all the time and this leads to disharmony in our bodies, which develops into illness if left unaddressed.

  4. i love the gentleness of this blog Lucy and the lovely way you reminded yourself that the place to begin made itself known and so the next step will also arise as needed in the choices to continue to loving yourself.

  5. In the hustle and bustle of today’s world we women have got so lost that true nurturing is like a foreign land to far too many of us – and this is something we all need to collectively correct together by supporting and inspiring each other to bring back to life both true care and then, true nurturing.

  6. Lucy I appreciated your attitude to nurturing, that just as you did at the beginning learning to self nurture, now when it comes to finding a way to deepen your nurturing you rely on your body – nurturing cannot be prescribed to us. I must say my mouth was agape at the woman’s comment to keep her cyst because it added to her bra cup size – wow, we place the image we want of ourselves and how we look as more important than our health.

  7. Our bodies are so divine in every way and are working 24/7 to keep us functioning so beautifully, so the least we could do is nurture and care for them like we would a very small child, or something truly precious. Either way our bodies are truly worth every moment spend lovingly with them.

  8. I love the way you write Lucy and I also the appreciate the approach you have taken to deal with what your body letting you know it needs. I know for myself that I have overlooked and therefore abuse my body in so many ways for such long periods of time in the past that it is necessary to slowly rebuild the trust and the relationship I have with myself and my body . . . as you have so clearly demonstrated that you are doing here. I often say to the young take care of your body as every choice to override what your body is telling you now comes back to bite you as you age.

  9. We need to register how so much in the world seems intentionally designed to remove us from the true connection to our bodies and to our essence, and how much we have played along with this and allowed the world to be so. Once we choose to reconnect and live the sacredness we are all naturally from, we can restore that naturally within the world and with each other.

  10. I can only relate to the specifics of that this article is saying. I have seen in my own body, ‘things’ happening as a message, guide or warning of something needing to change. Even down to the smallest pain or ache there is something for us to read in what is going on. I love the openness and light way this article presents what is a serious and possibly scary experience. It’s not playing it down but more saying that like everything, read the message, make the change and be open to what is next.

  11. Self-nurturing is something we do not talk about. Often if we do we think it is about holidays, shopping trips, chocolate and spa days….this is not it, it is free, totally supportive and very sustainable, it just takes a different approach to how we treat our body. I am learning this myself, I used to give myself treats, this is not sustainable and not very supportive, I am changing and offering myself great care everyday and being very loving with myself, this is a nurturing way that really reconnects us and brings a quality of contentment in life like no other.

  12. This is a modality that helped me understand how beautiful it is to look after and deeply nurture myself and how my body is so very worth it. It is beautiful to become alive in ones body again from the inside out and to feel truly content in my own body.

  13. How lovely to develop this nurturing and caring relationship with the body and honour its innate wisdom.

  14. The Esoteric Breast Massage is a true blessing for women to not only support on a physiological level but to bring old hurts and buried issues to the surface so that they can be healed.

  15. The power behind words when we correctly use them is very great, and to then use them in a way that empowers people is grand. As we can use them equally to take people down. It is time to show the world – where words can truly be used for.

  16. I love what you share Lucy about simply being open to what the body has to share. If we stay open in a way that marvels at the wonder of this information and innate intelligence rather than caught in the mind about worrying, so much more is revealed as to the original step that might have prompted the requirement of a sign. Appreciating our part of our well-being coupled with great medical advice and support we are able to approach healing responsibly.

  17. I had a breast screening yesterday and although the woman I saw was doing her best to be gentle and clear I came away feeling that I had been treated less than the amazing precious woman that I know myself to be. As everything is a reflection it caused me to question the care that I had been taking in my life generally and how I had been nurturing myself and I could see that I could be so much more tender and delicate with myself than I am currently being. It also made me appreciate the levels of care and respect that I have come to thus far. The biggest thing was for me to realise how tense I had become as the machine was about to squash my breast. I had already decided it was going to be awful before anything happened. This guardedness I have been carrying around with me in life. This morning I decided to do a 10 minute Gentle Breath Meditation and I could feel the tension melting and my body surrendering.

  18. Thank you, Lucy. It was great to read your blog this morning – it made me realise how I have got used to having lumps in my breasts. I do have regular scans, but I can feel how I have normalized them being there. My initial reaction to finding them was one of fear and I had a few biopsy to be told they were benign but as you say the fact that they are there are telling me something is off – whether how I used to live or how I am living, there are things that don’t have to be there – “I am having trouble keeping the flow going” – I love how you have said this, and how this has pulled me out of my complacency.

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