The erroneous focus of recent media on the high percentage of women attending Universal Medicine has been so eloquently dispelled in previous posts but it does beg the question, “So where are all the Men?”.
As a man who has chosen to test the teachings of Universal Medicine for himself, rather than relying on the second hand views of others, I found one thing incredibly confronting… Love as I knew it, was totally back to front.
I grew up being shown that men were the providers, the fathers with all the answers, the handymen, the compliant husbands, the ‘blokey’ mates, the wine appreciators and so it went on.
Meeting Serge Benhayon turned this on its head. I was asked to explore the possibility that there was more to me than being the provider, the father, the husband, the good son, the mate. I was shown ways to build a relationship with myself (not my hurts, but myself). I saw other men (including Serge) building a relationship with themselves that did not rely on ‘warrior painting’ or ‘drum beating’.
The most confronting part about exploring what true love could feel like in my body, was acknowledging (and feeling) the possibility that under all the bravado, alcohol, DIY mania was a deeper part of me that was tender, gentle and lovely.
I had spent years covering up that tenderness for fear of what society could and has done. While I had convinced myself that to feel tender was a sign of weakness, the truth was it was something I craved more than anything else. I wanted it from my father, my wife, the world… but no one else could give it to me. I had to give myself permission to feel it, because it lives within me.
I am still exploring all of this and my relationships at work, with my family, my wife and myself are changing but only for the better. I don’t live that tenderness all the time and I still slip into some of the roles… but I live with deep appreciation for what has been presented by Universal Medicine – but also completely understand why it’s easier for some ‘blokes’ to throw stones rather than explore the amazing beings that they are.
By Joel Levin
Men in Livingness
107 thoughts on “So Where are All the Men?”
Life is truly an endless learning – opportunities abound…but how many of them do we take?
From a young age we get given roles to play – anything and everything that takes us away from just being who we are in our simplicity and glory. At first it feels like a game and we know what we are doing, and then we get ensconced in it, sucked in and we forget that it is a role. Then one day when we learn the true truth, there comes the process of extricating ourselves, sometimes painfully so…to return to what we always held within and knew was the real deal. Serge Benhayon is one of the first I know of to have done this and to have inspired so many others to have done the same too….This is a phenomenal job and I hold the deepest appreciation for this and so much more of what he brings, for the extrication process is just the beginning.
There is a vast part of us that remains there in waiting till such time that we are ready and curious to build a relationship with it again. I say ‘again’, because one time we had that relationship and it was a given, but then we turned away from it to adopt the hardness to fit into the world, and now it is about re-establising that relationship again when we so choose to make it part of our lives again and transform the way we live and breath. To live and breath from and of the stars.
I love your honesty and suspect this is true for many more people than yourself Joel, ‘I had convinced myself that to feel tender was a sign of weakness, the truth was it was something I craved more than anything else.’
There are some women that are choosing to throw stones as well. Universal Medicine isn’t appealing based on gender. The presentations speak to the part of us that knows there’s more to life than is currently accepted and that part of us is beyond our gender.
There is something I really love of attending Universal Medicine workshops and it is observing and feeling the quality everyone emanates. In the case of men, it’s a joy to witness such transparency, vulnerability, tenderness and decency they live and share. In truth, there’s no great difference about what I feel from women. The thing is that this is not so common (yet) in the world, but everytime I love to confirm the deep equalness there is between all of us and the richness we bring to each other with the reflection of our unique qualities.
Gosh when we ponder to a lower vibe than we know to be true we can feel awful and not in place. This shows us that we can not drop ourselves lower than the truth we know and feel at that very time. Meaning that when we do we feel the effect it has on our body and being – that is definately not good for our health!
As men we join a way of moving in life that is on the air. It dictates to us the way forward. The only problem is that this way does not bring us forward, but keeps us moving in the same place constantly; a place where we do not belong.
I love that you say you chose to test what you were hearing “rather than relying on the second hand views of others”. It is a constant development and deepening. Having said that it is not OK if you don’t find that you feel better or there are things you don’t understand, to hurl mud, vilify and abuse. Just walk away!
There is so much more to men than we currently allow in our societies and we’re all a part of this, men and women, and to hear men exploring their tenderness and understanding that they are not just their roles but so much more is very inspiring and shows the truth of how deeply tender men in fact are.
It seems to be a big deal, this bravado aspect of men’s lives, and how beautiful to read about a man who is exploring other ways to be in the world besides conformity to the expected norms.
Someone who is willing to look outside the box and recognise how much more there is to life, and thus in this process gives permission to everyone else, man or woman, to explore like wise.
Thank you Joel. I too have an understanding of how it is a big step to consider how men have had to harden to cope with life and the pressure to fit in. However, there is no excuse to throw stones. The ‘manly’ thing to do, if there is such a thing, or perhaps we could say the decent, right and respectful thing to do when you don’t want to listen, is to walk away.
Joel I love how you talk about the belief that being tender as a man was a weakness, and how you have now discovered that there is a great call from within to honour the tenderness that you are, and from knowing men like yourself who have dared to connect and live from that tenderness I realise how wonderfully warm and gentle men truly are.
When the world has told men that they need to toughen up and everything presents this as their reality it takes a lot of bravery and strength to let go of this role and allow yourself to be free from that.
“While I had convinced myself that to feel tender was a sign of weakness, the truth was it was something I craved more than anything else.” I love your honesty Joel as this is also something very powerful and not weak. Thank you for exposing our cliché-ridden picture of a man – it is confronting but so much more worthwhile to see and feel a real man rather than all the pictures of him.
Yes I agree Ester, we are no different on the inside. It is time we stopped focusing on the outside and our genders and rather looked within at the willingness to discover a level of honesty and livingness that does not impose on another but instead takes responsibility for our own choices and life.
Men are by and large trapped in images of what does it mean to be a man. The images of what a man is, however, do not honor them. They are not true, but they are accepted as if they were. Once you become the image and life gets stabilized around this, it is not that easy to shake it out. That is why, for men what Universal Medicine offers is so confronting. The beauty of what is on offer, and the beauty a man embodies by virtue of the offer, changes everything though.
Thank you for that Eduardo. It is ground shaking to consider stepping outside the image that has, like a fortress, kept you ‘accepted’ and ‘normal’ in your family, with your friends, at work, in your community and society. Yet if that ‘accepted’ and ‘normal’ is making you sick, how is that smart, intelligent or to be championed? That is what we have an opportunity to consider now, thanks to Universal Medicine starting the conversation.
Joel, yes, we so have love back to front and it’s quite confronting when we see that. I’m struck by something you offer us here that it’s about building a relationship with ourselves, not with our hurts, and that’s so important as for aeons we’ve had relationships with ourselves and all others from those hurts, hence why our ideas of love are back to front; to have a relationship from the depth of us, the part that no matter what is untainted changes everything, and we begin to see we’re not those hurts we may have accumulated and that in fact we are these amazingly tender beautiful beings and we have always been this.
I totally agree Joel, to learn that ‘Love as I knew it, was totally back to front’ is very confronting indeed as the truth of love will always shake up our dodgy foundations that are based on emotional love.
Yes, ‘Love as I knew it, was totally back to front’, can be confronting at first, but it totally makes sense, since emotional love has never felt true.
A man has to give himself the permission to be tender and I am so glad you have done just that Joel.
The other thing that becomes evident when we do discover the love the can be found within is that this is our essence and is the same in both men and women. We are all tender, precious, love-able, gorgeous, Divine and spunky in our essence despite our gender, age, status or appearance..
It is very beautiful to feel and witness how true love, when embraced, reveals who we really are. Not always easy to admit that we have been fooled by ideals and belief, as it takes great courage to be honest about our loveless behaviours and how they truly make us feel. But the more we are willing to, the more we get to taste the freedom in being who we are, the richness of our Soul, and the more we realise that compromise is grossly overrated.
Beautifully said Carola, for once you really let yourself feel what is on offer from the Soul, truly deeply felt, there is nothing that can replace that or come close to replacing it. Once known, it is never forgotten and so we can begin the return increment by increment as we learn to shed the layers that hold us back.
Yes I also found that when I chose to test the teachings of Universal Medicine that “… Love as I knew it, was totally back to front” . . . and wasn’t love at all. I found that what I had called love was coming from a neediness, an expectation of another to give me what I would not give myself, an attachment, a comfort , a security , an emotional hook; but it was never love as love is not a thing to attain to, to get or to be given as we are love and only need to reconnect to our innermost essence to know this to be true..
Although the world is set up for men not to show how tender and sensitive they are, every day we’re being shown through the news and atrocities that are happening around the world that this is exactly what we need: more men standing tall in their tenderness, fully claiming it and not afraid to show it to the world.
How very inspiring Joel to give yourself permission and feel your own tenderness and sensitivity as a man, and we women love when men show how they too are just as gentle as we women. Everyone wins.
“I was shown ways to build a relationship with myself (not my hurts, but myself)” – this really stood out for me. Made me realise how much I have been engrossed in managing and maneuvering around what is not true – and I still do at times, instead of simply living what is true. Thank you, Joel.
Thank you Joel. An inspiration to all naturally tender men to choose to feel and share their tenderness with the world and inspire others to be equally inspired.
It is lovely to hear how you have embraced your natural tenderness, it is a joy to have tender men in the world.
What you share is beautiful Joel, ‘I had spent years covering up that tenderness for fear of what society could and has done. While I had convinced myself that to feel tender was a sign of weakness, the truth was it was something I craved more than anything else. I wanted it from my father, my wife, the world… but no one else could give it to me. I had to give myself permission to feel it, because it lives within me.’ Gorgeous.
It is so beautiful Joel to know men such as you and many others who are opening up to their tenderness and expressing this without holding back. To be around a man in their tenderness I never feel it’s a weakness in fact it is very powerful quality that supports me to drop into a deeper level of tenderness within myself.
What you write Joel resonates deeply with me too. I may be a woman, and a beautiful, delicate, sacred and sexy one at that (no more or less than every other woman), but I took on the same belief as you in that I thought I had to be like a man if I was going to ‘succeed’ in life. I rejected my naturally delicate and tender ways in favour of trying to live up to the beliefs I had of what a man was. It has been the reflection of men reclaiming their deep and natural tenderness that is supporting me to connect to mine. My husband is a daily reflection of tenderness and I now feel this within myself to. Now I have dropped the erroneous and harming beliefs I had of what it is to be a man in this world, I am also now able to feel the truth of being a woman, and so contribute to the growing reflection of sacredness there is in The Way of the Livingness.
It’s ironic that what we crave most we push away but when we begin to make changes within ourselves and feel that which we have been avoiding all along we realise it is possible to have true love in our lives.
Thank god for men like you Joel, leading the way and reminding us all what it means to truly be a man.
The more I honour and accept my tenderness the more it is honoured and accepted by others.
Many of the roles and societal expectations we have lived with in the past can be very ingrained both within us and in the world around us and so often rear their heads from time to time even when we thought we had worked through them – we all experience this from time to time just as you share Joel. But we must never forget we are imperfect human beings and as such simply always need to see the opportunity to learn and grow from the imperfections from both ourselves and others equally.
Everyone has a choice to choose what they wish to, however, to try and push ideals through dishonest media is a ploy that many are waking up to.
I guess for a man it takes a little step more to explore their feelings and tender being, not because they are less of it but because they have been told that it makes them less manly, and also because women have become extremely tough nowadays, so how to ‘survive’ as a man being tender if the women are so hard.
Yes and I have to cringe a little and say it can be confronting to see a man willing to be more sensitive and aware of our connection to that sensitivity when, as a woman, I have not been prepared to consider that as a strength in myself. I imagine it would be confronting for men when women, who are not ready to embrace a more gentle quality within themselves, reject the man for holding steady in what he knows to be true.
This is so beautiful, I love the last words of understanding. As that so signifies the caring nature of a man, everyone is seen for who they are. It is something new that we rediscover that men are the total opposite of what they have learned from young onwards. I can feel the tenderness, but it takes time to allow it to blossom.
I love how open and willing you are to share your experience of the world and of the work you are doing on yourself, Joel. You write for so many men in this piece; it is not only very inspiring and very uplifting it has humour and warmth that makes your writing a pleasure to read .
It is gorgeous to read of someone prepared to let go of the roles and facades and choose to live the tenderness they are even though it is a quality not truly embraced by men in the world. The world needs men like you to show others the way back to living who they truly are and to live how they truly feel to, expressing this even when outside of the current norm.
Great call Joel – we men are truly tender and delicate. Great to say it and great to claim it so that we can allow ourselves to feel once again. Underneath that armour many of us have taken on is a very precious being that can feel and sense everything.
And here they are, the men! Tender, lovingly and powerful men, who start to consider to express who they are. Interesting that the media does like they are not there at all. Must be very confronting for them to meet this men, men like you Joel.
True Sandra – being confronted with someone who is living in honour of their natural tenderness and divinity highlights where we are not. This can be so painful for some that they try to destroy the reflection rather than have to feel the pain deep within.
Until we embrace a way of living for ourselves, or worse live it and then deny it, we can only watch and live in a constant tension of what we are consistently choosing not to live for ourselves.
Thank God for Serge Benhayon and the many men who live in a way that expresses and honours their sensitivity and love- it is a real blessing as a woman to meet and experience men like this.
It is so beautiful to read your blog Joel about connecting to the deep tenderness that lives within you and not being afraid to show it, men can be as deeply tender as any woman, and it is this tenderness that opens hearts.
I love how you share your reality was completely normal to you until someone came into your life and showed you, by lived example, that it doesn’t need to be that way, that there is a more loving way to be. This ‘way’ includes you loving the tender, gentle and caring you as well as supporting and being part of the family.
“Love as I knew it, was totally back to front.” To realise this is huge, as there are so many pictures that feed us what love is and we pick the ones we like but, what if all these pictures have nothing to do with what true love is.
“While I had convinced myself that to feel tender was a sign of weakness, the truth was it was something I craved more than anything else.” Joel I love your honesty – you are a role model for so many other men. Thank you for not holding back your tenderness – I am sure that you are not the only man carving it more than anything else.
And we all – women an men – are craving for the tender men in expression. When I first heard the men sing from their tender bodies and express as a group in love and delicateness – I cried and cried. It is like I was waiting for the men to come back as who they truly are for lifetimes! What a joy to get them back! Thank you Joel!
Another beautiful and transforming element of the fact that there are more men reconnecting to their inner tenderness and sweetness without the roles is that now many women are seeing how to treat a man with respect, love and gentleness. This is also something that as a society we need to look at is how because men often do front with the roles, toughness and bravado that that doesn’t mean that is who they are or that they should be confirmed by that.
Anything that encourages a man to explore more of who he is and reconnect to his tenderness and once again celebrate his sensitivity should be and needs to be studied, as we are all blessed by this.
I have been on dating sites recently and it has been amazing to interact with more men. It is interesting how they think they need to be a certain way and also what women have put onto them. It is always beautiful when a man lets his guard down and stops trying to impress or put out an image and starts to show you more of his sensitivity- this is something that is very lovely to experience. I have also seen men who don’t want to do this and it limits the interaction and is a way of playing games.
Other men may be throwing stones… but secretly watching how it is done and wanting to be more of the men they are too. I completely see men in a whole new light (true light) since meeting Serge Benhayon, and many many gentle-men at Universal Medicine presentations. I now see past the bravado’s, staunch roles and attitudes, which in truth are just an outer crust covering a warm, loving and universal centre.
The many men who are students of Universal Medicine and are inspired by Serge Benhayon to share their tenderness and true love have allowed me to see and feel this same tenderness and inner true love in every man I meet.
There is more to being a man than what we have been currently shown. Men could actually be more of men if they took some inspiration from the women.
As a gorgeous woman who is developing a relationship with herself, it is a miracle to read writing but even better yet to see the living choices of men also developing an equally gorgeous relationship with themselves. A moment of feeling such beauty (discovering this blog) is enough to bring me to my next step of developing with myself deeper, and deeper still. There is no greater joy than to return to the truth of ourselves together as men and women.
Absolutely Adele, lets the ‘joy’ of unity or brotherhood return to us all!
Hi Joel, this blog has certainly dated as I see it has been written some time ago. There is now a growing number of very tender, loving men who are leading the way relating to each other in ways that once would have been unheard of. In fact the Universal Medicine men’s group is an inspiration to us women we can see the huge change it has fostered in the relationships between the men. We see how supportive, encouraging, tender and loving they now are with each other, a far cry from the usual competition playing out when men get together.
So true Kathleen, there are men who are truly inspirational in how they are living, showing that strength and tenderness can be delivered in equal measure.
Yes Joel these qualities in a man really melt a woman’s heart.
Hear hear Kathleen and Joel, I agree, men and women in the Livingness are in their true power!
Dear tender loving and sensitive being Joel. A huge thank you and deep appreciation for your inspiring blog in which express so beauty-fully and whole-heartedly from your lived experience to share these innate qualities that men naturally are, yet so often bury so deeply within for being seen as less than what society’s ideals and beliefs hold men to.
Thanks Joel, having met you and other men who have taken the steps to build a tender, loving relationship with themselves, I can say that I very much appreciate the beauty that is so evident when you walk, talk and generally interact with others. Not only is this encouraging other men to do the same but I also find it slows me down and reminds me to nurture the same qualities within myself.
Thank you for sharing JL, it is beautiful when men express their tenderness – it supports other men to also allow this.
Yes Anna, it’s not only men developing these tender relationships with themselves that is powerful (life changing in fact!) but when they begin to develop these relationships with others (men ‘and’ women), well all I can say is ‘wow’, look out!
Really beautiful JL. you have exposed some of the roles that have been imposed on men within society so well here. I loved how you were honest about the fact that underneath it all, all men crave tenderness and love, and what came to mind for me was we are all born as tender, loving beings. When is it that we decide that male babies should grow and become hard men? Why do we allow girls and women the right to express their feelings but leave the boys and men to have to fend for themselves? It simply does not make sense. It is so amazing to see that men like yourself and the many others inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine are challenging these beliefs. Thank you for embracing the true you!
Awesome JL. Men escaping the clutches of the ‘bravado, alcohol appreciation and the DIY mania,’ and learning to express their divine tenderness just like you is exactly what the world needs. I say go for it!
‘I had spent years covering up that tenderness for fear of what society could and has done. While I had convinced myself that to feel tender was a sign of weakness, the truth was it was something I craved more than anything else.’
To me, it is obvious that all men crave this tenderness, no matter how big and burly they may seem on the outside, I can see how sensitive they are underneath, it is like it is a natural part of being a man. When I have experienced men showing the tender side of them selves, it actually comes across as a strength, and much more powerful than those many obvious behaviours that try to give the impression of being a strong man.
Beautiful blog by a beauty-Full man. I enjoyed reading the comments also. Sadly I was a woman who bought into the ‘tough man’ ideal hook, line and sinker, however, I am pleased to say that as I allow myself to soften, open and feel and live the real me more and more I am now loving and appreciating the growing (in both number and depth) tenderness in the men in my life!
Thank you Jl for sharing your story, so much has been put on men to be anything other than who they truly are. It is truly beautiful when men can feel and express the tenderness that resides within.
Thank you for sharing the unfolding of you returning to your tenderness. It is beautiful to feel and an inspiration to other men to explore theirs.
I do sometimes feel sad about the fact that so few man allow true tender connections. Even in the gay scene it is rarely seen and it’s quickly just about sex or neediness. Being around Serge Benhayon and all the other most beautiful men, I meet at Universal Medicine events, is like charging my batteries with real connection. I take this into my daily life and share it with everybody.
It is such a shame we make our men tough, providers, the ones who have to be strong and unable to show how they really feel. You are breaking through a big societal wrong here JL, of course men should be able to feel their feelings.. how can they not!? This is an inspiring read.
It’s beautiful that you have reconnected to the loving, tenderness you naturally are, and feel able to express and live it more and more in your daily life.
Totally agree with you, discovering our inner qualities and their innate beauty and connecting to them, is as amazing as shocking because it is such a contrast to how we have chosen to live. The truth is that being a man offers any of us a catalogue of ‘places’ where to safely hide from ourselves without even stopping to consider what are we truly doing.
Awesome blog, JL. I have been blessed to live with a gentle, loving man that has also attended Universal Medicine presentations and has been inspired to connect to that tenderness within, rather than fight it. I have observed how the world does not make it easy for men to let go of their roles and toughness and most men find it very confronting when others do so. But wow does it need more men like you to show them that it won’t all fall apart if they let down their guards.
The deep appreciation you have for Universal Medicine and the understanding you are now exploring of the love and tenderness you naturally are is gorgeous, and just beautiful to read.
This is beautiful to read – men are so amazingly tender and delicate too! It’s crazy the amount of effort we put into being something that we are not naturally meant to be.
“The most confronting part about exploring what true love could feel like in my body, was acknowledging (and feeling) the possibility that under all the bravado, alcohol, DIY mania was a deeper part of me that was tender, gentle and lovely.” I appreciate this quote as a woman who was once very hard and distant with others who craved to be more close and open. I can feel how my body has become so much more gentle and open through building a true relationship with myself and learning to express from this place. This is a very tender and open blog and it is gorgeous to share in this expression from a tender and open man.
JL, your tenderness is palpable through the words of you blog. Thank you for sharing this.
Throwing stones is just another one of those things that blokes do, whereas real men find the words to be able to express deeply what they are feeling, and share that with others. Exactly like you JL in this blog.
Thank you Joel and Simon, I agree, blokes prefer the “throwing of stones”, which reminds me of the old saying, “sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.” As Joel presents, “I found one thing incredibly confronting… Love as I knew it, was totally back to front.” The use of words and phrases are “back to front” in lots of cases, the same can be said about this very old saying, we actually hurt more and it is felt more deeply when words are used against us!
Hi JL, thanks for expressing so beautifully the changes you feel. When I was younger I ran a million miles from a man who was gentle and tender, feeling more comfortable with ones who had lost this as they didn’t ask me to be more gentle or loving of myself, let alone them. It is heartening to hear that men like you are choosing that for yourselves – even after years of being asked not to be by women like me (in the past). 🙂
So beautiful JL. I have known many men who are tender, and gentle, but are not yet willing to let go and live that tenderness. It is very inspiring to read the words of a man who is doing that. It is a blessing to women, and all men to know that there is another way to be in the world. Thank you.
Hi JL, reading your post reflected to me my husband who just like yourself is exploring his relationship with himself. It’s beautiful to watch him becoming more and more gentle and not holding on to the ‘latin macho’ picture he grow up with. It’s very inspiring to see him taking care of himself, choosing to use a trolley instead of carrying a heavy bag on his back, having tea breaks in the afternoon, wearing a scarf when it’s a bit chilly, being careful with what he eats… It all reflects back on the way he is with myself and with other people, a more attentive and understanding man.
Great comment – There is nothing sexier than a man who takes care of himself!
As another man doing this work, one of the very nicest things is the complete equality of everybody regardless of their gender, age or anything else. This actually makes a big difference in practice.
Almost everywhere else I know where men and women meet or do something together, there either is a hierarchy or people are reacting to the potential of a hierarchy. It is at least for my age group (50+) very rare to be in a mixed-gender group where everybody is completely equal and there is no need or desire to change this.
It is awesome to hear men claiming their tenderness and standing up for their right to feel tender in such a ‘hardened’ society in which we live in.
JL what you wrote is beautiful. I see that gentleness and tenderness naturally in my son who is only 5. If the world had more men who felt comfortable expressing their softer side then young boys would feel safe knowing that is normal and wouldn’t have to change to fit in to a world that asks them to be hard and tough and unemotional. Women want their men to be sensitive but women too have forgotten how to be tender and gentle. So who is going to be there as role models for our children if we don’t become the change that we want to see?
JL, thank you for speaking so eloquently. It is truly, beautiful, lovely to find and express this inner tenderness that we have been bought up to suppress.
JL, I have fallen in love with you ;)! – just as you’ve fallen in love with being you. You have expressed wonderfully what it means to be a beautiful tender man. I have also loved feeling my husband become more gentle, tender and loving and comfortable in his own skin as he discovers the amazingness that he is.
Dear JL or dare I call you Mr. Tenderness 😉 for you so gently expressed.
I was on a bus with my older brother (52) a few hours ago and we talked about my son (16). By the way, my brother has never attended any Universal Medicine presentations and couldn’t even answer what esoteric was! To paint an even better picture, he grew up in former Yugoslavia – mega macho environment where football and beer are at the core being of almost every single man. But I know my brother to be deep down super sensitive and tender too, it is just that he had never been encouraged to express that. Anyway, he turned to me and said that my son had the most beautiful soul (I didn’t think this word was in his vocabulary!) and that he is so super gentle (which he is). However, he added that although he truly LOVES that about my son, he was at the same time concerned because, and I quote: The world as we know it today is very cruel and he is worried that my son might get hurt if his tenderness is so apparent! I put my hand on my brother’s shoulder and said that the world needs more men expressing their tenderness and delicateness since it is that which will inspire changes into the world.
Then I come home and read your post… Thank you for expressing in the way that is so hard for so many men, and my bro is one of them.
Thank you Dragana, your sharing brought tears to my eyes. I love what your brother expressed and how you responded. Your response brought the tears as I felt the love in which you confirmed your brother’s own tenderness exposing his own protection as he sought to protect your son whilst bringing the future to him at the same time. Simply beautiful.
So inspiring JL. I too have the honour of witnessing a man discovering just how gorgeous and beautiful he is and as a woman, I am learning to make way for everything he is. Thanks to UM, gone is the woman who could do it all and better than a bloke! Now she is fully appreciating the amazingness of a man connecting to his love and what he has to offer the world. Keep it up JL, keep getting more beautiful.
I have been deeply touched by these writings, they show how needed Universal Medicine truly is and that it is in fact very important that Serge Benhayon continues to present and share his experiences so that other men can have a opportunity to change their life like Serge has.
I agree Amina, this inspiration is so needed. This particular part of the blog touched me: ‘I had spent years covering up that tenderness for fear of what society could and has done.’ This made me feel sad to be part of a world that has made someone (or many many people) afraid to show who they are. Thank heavens we are beginning to change that.
Thanks for the article JL, it’s true as, and speaking as a woman who has dated and held in regard all the (‘men’) roles you described, deep down women do actually enjoy and prefer to be with a man who is and shows tenderness towards them, treats and holds them in this way, and equally there is nothing more amazing in seeing a guy who is this way with himself. There is depth in this relationship that is true love.
Another beautiful real man who knows who he is!
Awesome reminder that we are all learning to appreciate ourselves as beings of love. As a man who has chosen to find the true love that resides within, it is amazing how controlled we are to blindly follow the roles that have no love in them. Going about our ‘man business’ in a cloud of hurt that has to be constantly avoided at all costs, to not show this vulnerability, fragility and tenderness. The ongoing emptiness has helped shape a world of no love for anyone let alone self. It is time for all men to allow themselves to feel the truth of who they are and claim it. Love for all is not just a saying for women but for ‘ALL’.
Your comment touched that raw spot of mine once again, of how easy it is to disappear into that cloud of hurt and then do everything I can to avoid it. So true Lee, and it has had such a detrimental impact on the world. It’s well over time to make a change, both personally and collectively.
I get to live with a man who has also involved himself with Universal Medicine and I know he loves the relationship he is developing with himself but I absolutely love the tender, graceful and very loving man I am with