by Danielle Loveless
I recall being a very playful and joyful child, always wanting to have fun and play games, and anything could be made into a game. I also remember that something happened to this. I started to feel very sad, and I was confused as to why the rest of my family or world wasn’t the fun that I knew. I spent many hours laying under or in my bed crying for no reason other than ‘it hurts’. This crying went on until I was about 15 – then I toughened up to be an adult and do what everyone else was doing, to get on with life. I succeeded in everything possible in life – sports, school, boys, parties, alcohol, body image, the lot. I thought this was it and for nearly seven or eight years I never cried again. But that was it, I NEVER cried, not once, and I was very closed and unaffectionate. I never hugged people or felt comfortable when others hugged me. Instead I coped by partying very hard and working just as hard.
In my early 20’s I had a ‘quarter-life crisis’ – basically I had enough. I left my long-term relationship, took time off from my PhD, sold my house and moved. Within about a month I bumped into one man who was different. He was an accountant, and when I met him he hugged me. Later when I asked out of politeness how he was, he told me he was resting a lot, crying most evenings and getting used to a big change that had happened in his life. I was shocked that this stranger had honestly told me what was going on, and something so sensitive and personal. I knew in this moment that this guy was different. At the time I did not know that this man had been having Esoteric Healing and attending Universal Medicine courses for about 2-3 years.
At this point I was inspired to go deeper and look within. I was somewhat fearful of what I would find, and I cried and cried and cried for nearly 4-6 months. I cried about all the things in life that I did not understand, why others were also so unhappy underneath their smiles, why work seemed fake and no one wanted to do it, and why there was distance or separation in my family and friends even though we appeared to get along. I now realise the hurt that I felt deepest was that I felt this distance and separation in all of humanity – this still hurts now.
Seven years have now passed and I still often feel sad about how life seems around me, and I let myself cry. However, I now have some simple tools to deal with the deep hurts so they don’t get on top of me, but also so I don’t bury them down deep. I thank Universal Medicine for sharing with me these tools. For example, I now see that although life may not always feel very lovely, joyful or fun, I can connect to this lovely joy and fun on my inside (because I am this), and I don’t need the world to be this back to play with me. I understand that underneath another’s hardness they are lovely and playful just like me, but sometimes people reject this because of their own hurts about why others were not this lovely and joyful with them as a child.
So is life a set up? That we don’t get met in the loveliness we are as a child, because our parents have their own hurts, so we then feel hurt, bury our hurt and then can’t meet our own children for the loveliness that they are, and so on and so on. It felt like a set up for me until that accountant came along and met me from that loveliness that he chose for himself, so I had a moment to feel that I am still this. Yes, a complete stranger allowed me to open up and connect within, just because he had allowed himself to do the same. So someone must have done the same with him and someone before that person also, and so on and so on – the way life can truly be set up.
So I had my first profound healing and inner-connection at my accountant’s! Isn’t this saying something to how life is currently set up? It wasn’t any spiritual group, no church, no psychologist and not even in ten years of university. If there is any story to be told about the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, this is the true one. Serge is one of very few people I know who meet absolutely everyone equally from this lovely and amazing place, to another’s loveliness. He does this with absolute consistency and commitment to love for humanity, allowing people to feel they are the same. I thank him deeply for re-starting this cycle. I also thank my accountant who continues to do an amazing job with my tax with a warm and open heart.
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
I think many of us walk around in a state of anxiety, stress or depression because of what we see and feel in the world, and we medicate ourselves from there in any number of ways. Re-allowing ourselves to feel again is key to achieving a new kind of acceptance of life – an acceptance that supports us to live with commitment and purpose, knowing that who we are and the quality we live in and with is exactly what will make a difference in the world.
What a beautiful meeting with the accountant. Many would say it was purely ‘chance’ that brought you to his door but I’m feeling there’s more to it than that. When the soul’s ready, the way forward will be given to us.
Great point Jennifer. The irony of this illusion is that in not being honesty with each other, we are actually living a lie.. and who in all honesty loves being lied to. Hence the greatest hurt in this case is in our dishonesty. The more we are honest with ourselves the more we bring honesty and openness to our relationships, offering greater opportunities to explore, connect and deepen our relationship with love and truth. For it is here that we feel the freedom to be who we really are.
You so beautifully illustrate that the world which confirms us in the truest sense, is the world within us. Through our connection to our essence we are forever reflected the truth of who we are and guided to live the love we are born to live. And when we live this way for ourselves, from our hearts, we naturally shine the light of who we are, our true way of being for others to be touched and inspired by.
So important the point you make here Danielle that we need to deal with our hurts and not bury them but from a place where we can observe them and not let them overpower or overwhelm us.
So true Danielle, it seems life is a set-up but that we can choose to be the one who breaks the cycle of being hurt and shut-down by healing and letting go the past. You are a living example of exactly that thank you!
This article speaks very loudly into the how we are effects others category. At a point where you were asking questions along walked someone who answered them with more then words. It broke further what was already being broken down. This article is a guide on how to make a change at any point in your life if it’s needed. I mean why at times when we seemingly have everything are we still feeling underwhelmed with life. If you look around a lot of people are like this and we have the never ending, ‘when I get this it will be better’ and then it never is and so another thing takes it’s place and we start chasing that instead. When will we stop is up to you but like in this article I stopped or was stopped and at first was forced but now choosing to look at why even the smallest thing doesn’t flow or feel great. It’s not true to say ‘life goes on without us’ because life is here for us. It’s not here for us to get things done in the sense we do them now but more, life is here for us to open up to more then just what is seen physically. The first part of this is to ask why?, why after doing xyz don’t I feel great and then pause to see the answer. Like in this article, when you start to ask questions life presents you with the next part of an answer.
By you allowing this joy and fun to naturally be there you are giving other people permission to feel and be the joy they too are, ‘I now see that although life may not always feel very lovely, joyful or fun, I can connect to this lovely joy and fun on my inside (because I am this), and I don’t need the world to be this back to play with me.’ It is lovely to feel this in another.
Life does seem to be a repeated setup, that happens generation after generation. We are all born with such openness joy and knowing of our connection to everything in the universe. We then lose it as we grow up, bombarded by energy that does not match or confirm what we feel. We then raise children with our hurts and given up-ness and the cycle repeats again. We need to be the ones who create a break in this loop and support the next generations to hold onto the preciousness they have as kids.
When we are truly met we reconnect with our own inner being. Serge Benhayon is an inspiration and role model for us all to share the beauty of truly meeting ourselves and each other without judgement.
Yes I too remember how sad I felt when nobody wanted to play with me when I was a child. When I was older, I had my happy moments, but it was not until I met Serge Benhayon that true joy re-entered my life. Now at 60, my life is full of joy and playfulness which is my true essence.
It is so beautiful when we can let go of our protection and allow ourselves to be fully transparent and open with another and how healing this is to others and offers the space for a deeper connection.
This is the ripple effect that can change the whole world. We all remember one teacher, one person who truly connected with us, and how life-transforming this can be – and equally we have the potential to connect and open up to everyone we meet. If the world continues to operate from its seeming hurts, then we have a world guarded and protected, and in individualism – and this is what can be so devastating to feel if we too hold the same.
What I love about your sharing Danielle is how these people that came into your life i.e your accountant and Serge Benhayon, offered you inspiration for change and new choices and that is super cool. Thank you.
There is a great moment in your blog Danielle, when you decided to stop crying and to join the world of adults, who just get on with life. This is very exposing of the choices that most of us tend to make in following the role models that we have, even if we can see the sometimes loveless path that this can lead to.
One person can inspire us to challenge our norm and see life in a new light. What is important to note is that we can all be sources of inspiration equally for each other and once we wise up to this fact just like domino’s this set-up of life can fall.
That was a happy end story, thanks Danielle – crazy it is how we “fade away” when we grow up, even though it’s quite unnecessary. I know I have but I also know that it’s still in there, it just needs to be set free.
Sometimes it does indeed seem like life is a set-up – bringing either the allures of riches and success, or misery, struggle, poverty and drama – but that none of it is offering the opportunity to truly connect to ourselves and to be free to live from a place that feels true within. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine we now have the tools to hold steady in the drivers seat – we may not be able to control what goes on around us, but we can have absolute mastery of how we are to live with it.
As we are all love inside it makes sense that everybody equally is able to express this love, to the best of their ability in the moment. And yes, it hurts that we as a society and humanity hold back to express who we truly are in such a big manner. I too did cry about it. Till I realized I can change something here. I can choose to learn again to express the love we all are and so make a difference. This will inspire others to discover their love again and maybe also to express again. Every one of us is needed. We need each other as reflection. To take this job, this responsibility is calling me out of the bed and brings purpose into my life. This is my new chosen set-up.
“I can connect to this lovely joy and fun on my inside (because I am this), and I don’t need the world to be this back to play with me.”
A timely reminder that it is ourselves and no one else that is responsible for the joy or lack thereof that we feel. Thank you Danielle for so clearly exposing the set up and showing us that we each have the power within us to set things up in another and far more loving way.
Wow, initially upon reading this I would say I had no idea that opening up in this way can profoundly support another to open up too, but then I know this is so from how open and honest others have been around me that have inspired me to connect and be honest about what’s really going on for myself. Yest reading this has shown how much of myself I keep guarded and protected still – whether that’s sharing how amazing I feel or those days I have which aren’t so much fun.
Danielle you showed us that every single one of us can heal another just by being him or herself. Your story told us how worthy we really are – the only thing is we have to be more aware of it and then accept it.
This is an amazing story – that shows life is perfectly designed to bring us back to who we are 🙂
“Although life may not always feel very lovely, joyful or fun, I can connect to this lovely joy and fun on my inside (because I am this), and I don’t need the world to be this back to play with me” – this is such a great point. I have often thought that the way I feel about myself and my life was all because of everything and everyone around me and how loveless they were, and that would leave me totally powerless as there would be nothing I could do to change. Knowing myself as an essence that cannot be touched has been the most life-changing realization.
This is a great testimony of how we are all practitioners no matter in what profession we work. The eye opening support your accountant offered to you is priceless and no psychologist would have brought you near this experience, which was simply to live with an open heart and in absolute transparency.
Beautiful Danielle, we have a choice to live differently, to not choose the hurts but to live from our inner heart, observing the hurts and know that they are there to heal.
Danielle, thank you for another amazing blog, I hope you will continue writing. What your blog brought up for me was the lack of realness we seem to have in life, everyone pretending everything is ok yet underneath and behind closed doors we might feel utterly miserable. It’s like we are all part of a collective game, an arrangement that says “I won’t say if you won’t say” so without the true, raw honesty and all that we sensitively feel going unsaid there can’t be any real connection. I also have that hurt about “… why there was distance or separation in my family and friends even though we appeared to get along” and indeed in humanity at large, but I can see how I contribute to this by not truly being me and expressing what I truly feel. Thankyou for the insights and inspiration..
To say that something is not right in this world and to stop and say no more of this and not trudge on regardless is immense and a starting point for us all. As the way how we live is not and cannot be right when there is so much pressure, stress, overwhelm, hate, disease and so on which everybody is experiencing to a degree personally or indirectly on a daily basis. Your story shows how we can break through this cycle when we make life about connection and people, by simply sharing what is really going on instead of living in isolation towards another.
Wow I am so blessed to have discovered this blog today. I love the way you draw my attention to the true set up (divine design) and the false set up (most people call it ‘life’) that is designed to keep me entrapped in my hurts. Serge Benhayon consistently shows us what it means and how it looks and feels to align to what is true and I am intensely grateful for this incredible blessing that has changed me forever.
‘Yes, a complete stranger allowed me to open up and connect within, just because he had allowed himself to do the same.’ Isn’t it beautifully infectious when one person opens up, because we can’t help but let our guard down, even if it is only for a few seconds.
Great point Amanda Woodmansey. I’m positive that every time we hold and move our body in a truly open and honest way that this indirectly inspires many in every moment, because our movements are extremely powerful, so much more than words.
Beautiful Danielle. When a person opens up and shares with you the truth of how they are feeling it allows you to do the same. Your story is the same but different to so many people who have come across Serge Benhayon and felt the love and freedom of being truly met.
Yes very true Mary we all have our own intimate story or hurts to unfold and the more and more I open up and express the more I feel the power of understanding the details in full. Feeling the details helps me to truly unlock any hurts and not hang onto them, not dealing with them prevents me from just knowing the answer but still feeling upset or a sense of tension or turmoil within.
It is always a deeply saddening sight to bear witness to a child’s innocent joy and sparkle drop out of their body in a second, in reaction to a well-intentioned, protection-based parental rebuke, itself only a reaction to a hurt buried deep within the parent. A devastating rite of passage that quickly knocks the joy-full stuffing out of the next in line. If life is all a set up then isn’t the next question, ‘For what purpose?’ Why do we continually, unwittingly, but nonetheless collectively, arrive at a place where we’ve managed to put a stop to the joy we naturally are for each successive generation? What is truly going on here?
Great point Cathy. It only takes one person or one generation to change the cycle for the generations that follow. This is the power of claiming responsibility to be the one!
Absolutely flickchris the way it happened always reminds me how powerful each and every one of us are, and we don’t need to be a healer to inspire others to heal.
It’s true Rod we do all deep down feel it, that there’s something missing in life but we look outside of ourselves and think that we are the only ones so we better just get on with it to fit in. It’s actually quite sad that this is what is going on, but amazing that there are now other people inspiring another.
Yes draganabrown I still feel this hurt every day and I don’t feel it’s something that goes away, the hurt of seeing the separation in humanity, and how we are all relating with ourselves and with others. It’s pretty messy out there. With the connection with ourselves this hurt is not crippling because we know it is actually natural to feel hurt when we see a fellow brother struggling with life, because we know we all have the capacity to live with love, joy and harmony.
I’m amazed at the survival and protection behaviours we develop in our life Bernadette, even three years on I’m still seeing the finer details of how I go in to protection in various situations. I’m forever healing and unfolding this and letting me more out, it’s a lovely experience.
This is a great point Danielle to make in that there are always ‘finer details’ of how we can go into protection. I find it’s a forever evolving processing, not only ‘letting me more out’ as you have expressed but also ‘letting others in’!
Absolutely Angela, letting others in to see who I really am, and being willing to see others for what they really are beyond their choices, is crucial for living an open life that’s based on love and evolution.
Beautifully expressed Danielle, Serge Benhayon’s own openness has shown me by reflection that although life sets us up to be closed down, being open and honest is a great way to live.
Absolutely Sally, we can be empowered to feel that it doesn’t matter how life is around us, we always have a choice to what quality we choose, and whether we choose to not let the outer dictate, and instead connect to our inner and live from here.
“…a complete stranger allowed me to open up and connect within, just because he had allowed himself to do the same. So someone must have done the same with him and someone before that person also, and so on and so on – the way life can truly be set up.” A beautiful way to show there is a different set-up in life. Thankyou Danielle.
This is the set up of how life was truly meant to be, based on reflection of truth, and no less, allowing people the grace and space to just be themselves.
Yes the power of reflection is so strong that we don’t even need to try to do anything and just being ourselves reflects a lot to all. The more and more I appreciate the power of just being the more that is available to reflect to all.
The imprisonment of life is so very real for all. The crazy thing is that when we do see its there and do choose to break free we realize that not only did we had the key to get out all along but we Actually created the prison walls and bars that surrounded us.
It’s true Amanda I’m only just beginning to understand how much of a difference we make when living in connection to who we truly are. The world constellates around us in a way for all to benifit from. Also you can never predict or forward plan exactly what will happen and instead must trust in the knowing it is truly benifiting the all.
Danielle, it’s funny how we think growing up is about getting hard and getting on with it, and that somehow we have to loose that sensitivity, or hide it and not be true to what we feel. I know that’s how I’d seen it and that’s what I did, I became hard, determined that no-one could get me, or could see how much I truly felt, how much life hurt. And in that I missed everything, especially me, until I too came across Universal Medicine, and learned to get in touch once again with me and allow myself to be seen in this in the world, allowed myself to feel and deal with my hurts – it’s an on-going journey but one that I would not swap for anything; I now have me back and can show others that it is possible to be me in the world, that we all feel and that it’s key we honour and live acknowledging that.
It’s deeply inspiring beyond what we can imagine when we are being ourself. This shows others that not only can they also be themselves in life but that they are equally more powerful than anything in life trying to make them who they are no.
“So is life a set up? That we don’t get met in the loveliness we are as a child, because our parents have their own hurts, so we then feel hurt, bury our hurt and then can’t meet our own children for the loveliness that they are, and so on and so on.” So deep gratitude and appreciation for Serge Benhayon for standing up and showing us there is another way. When we are open and express how we truly feel with another, it gives them an opportunity to be real too. With the support of Universal Medicine practitioners I have been clearing my hurts – which feels amazing after – like you – so many years of sadness and crying.
Yes it feels the greatest sadness is that we are all the ones that created the set up for ourselves and for everyone.
The beauty and power of expression was evident when the accountant shared with you so openly Danielle. This is proof again for me that we affect so many people in everyday life and we never know when someone or something will trigger a profound change in us.
Absolutely Patricia, it highlights the irresponsibility or selfishness in holding back or hiding who we truly are or in constantly being focused on our own woes. Everyone misses out when we live like this.
Absolutely lindellparlour this very fact is often hidden from us, but should be more openly discussed with us as children. Deep down we all know this fact, we just need to be reminded so we can begin to open it up again.
Thank you Danielle for sharing this very honest article. When we are open and connect with another, we can inspire another to feel that openness within themselves, which inspires others that there is another way to be.
Imagine if all ‘peace keepers’ or protesters chose this way of being to inspire?
The issue with the current construct of life is that it is built of systems that are designed to protect our hurts.
Imagine if we had education, political, health care and religious systems etc that were designed to inspire people to be truly open, be themselves and be vulnerable, systems that held people in love and allowed them to feel that it’s not only more than ok to come out, but it’s ok to be glorious!
Very true Danielle and something worth working towards. Day in and day out.
Thank you Danielle for this beautiful blog, it shows the power of love and how we can truly make a difference in the world, just by connecting back to that playful, joyful place inside that we have known when we were children.
Yes it’s rather crazy that the playful, joyful and powerful place inside never goes away and in fact we don’t need to do anything to re-bring it out – just stop everything that we are doing to not be or live this – which is actually our natural and innate way of living.
Danielle I love that your meeting with the accountant was so deeply healing. It is a great reminder that how we express ourselves affects others – it can inspire and ignite or not.
Yes it’s a reminder of how important it is to just be ourselves and that this could change another’s life without us even trying.
Re-reading this blog allows me to feel the responsibility we all play in how life is set up and that it is us who is truly setting it up.
It’s a turning point in life to allow ourselves to feel the long-term hurt or pain we’ve held onto from the separation we live in in society, even in our families. It’s an even greater turning point to rise up out of this and recognize we are the ones who can bring the change, and claim a different way.
It was very healing to read your sharing. Thank you, Danielle. I was just feeling the deep sadness this morning and took me a very long time to get myself out of bed, and slowly coming back to connect with myself by choice, I can see how life can sometimes be experienced as nothing but overwhelm when I don’t make that choice, and that is my power as well as my responsibility to do so.
This is beautiful Fumiyo, it’s such a healing to choose to deeply understand how much we influence the quality of our day and how we feel in our day and that if we are having a ‘down moment’ it’s because we’ve made choices to lead to this so in truth we have chosen this. Although this is an ouch moment, or sometimes hard to admit because it’s easier to blame things outside of us, it is actually a very empowering knowing, because it shows we have the power to come out of it!
Thank you Danielle for so simply and clearly presenting the possible set ups and cycles of life, ie, ” … someone must have done the same with him and someone before that … “. I can see that I’ve been holding back at work in sharing how I am and thus not offering a different and truer ‘set up’ of life to others, which will now change thanks to this new awareness, thank you again.
This is a great point Marian. We were only able to discover a true and loving way of living, because at least one person chose to live this with us, inspiring us of another way. So it only makes sense that once we have also developed this for ourselves, discovering the truth, that we also share this with others, so bit by bit everyone has the opportunity to see that there is a way to live that is deeply connected with ourselves, in our natural way, as we were as children.
Danielle, that spark you talk of is in us all and it’s so easy to forget it. I love that you were reminded of your spark at your accountant’s – it just shows love is everywhere and what you say about being that spark that is us, without wanting the world to play is key, that’s what changes everything for us all. One reminds another who reminds another and so on. We affect so much in all we do.
It’s so true monicag2 we all affect each other so much, even the smallest of details. This is each of our responsibility to not only connect to the spark but to express it in every little detail of who we are.
wow Danielle what an amazing and inspiring story. The loveliness is in you first and by connecting to that you then get to bring that out to the world. That is so lovely of you to say. It is quite hard sometimes to not get bogged down in the complexities of the world and all of the mistreatment and inhumane things that happen but we must not and there is no true way forward for anyone if we get swallowed up by the sadness we can feel by seeing where others are at.
This is so true Natasha “there is no true way forward for anyone if we get swallowed up by the sadness”. Instead we can take responsibility for our choices as individuals and as a society and begin to choose different.
I had not realised the extent of how much I was getting caught up with and in all the emotions that were around. Sadness, happiness, bitterness, resentment ~ there are so many that shape our experiences that inhibit us from truly opening and freely connecting with people.
When I was young and experienced this similar feeling to you Danielle, I didn’t understand what was happening. As an adult now, I could equate it to like when a child loses their parent in a shopping centre. The world became a very bumpy place and like I was all alone and needed to survive, and this was probably around the age of 5 or 6, it’s hard to remember the exact time but the memory of the loss is still very significant. As you say, if we connect to children and let them see and feel our connection, it confirms that this is real and this loveliness is in others too.
I remember a similar experience as a child. It was a feeling like my best friend was going away, a sad moment indeed.
Absolutely Matthew as children I don’t feel we really understood what we were feeling, and in fact I don’t think many adults ever did back then either. I was just constantly upset and everyone would tell me to stop being a winger or cry baby, but I didn’t understand why I was so upset. Now looking back I can see that it was because I was leaving the connected, playful and aware life that I knew, my relationship with my inner self, to fit in with others and how everyone else is living. Knowing this now I can choose to come back to this way of living and also inspire other children to feel how they can keep the connection with their lovely selves and be with this in life.
Danielle what you have written shows me how powerful we are when we speak our truth and allow ourselves to be open and fragile, as your accountant was, and as you allowed yourself – to feel the sadness. I too thank Serge Benhayon for showing us that life doesn’t have to be like this, that we can heal from our past hurts, and live with vitality and joy as our companions. How powerful we are when we make loving choices. Thank you for reminding me of the responsibility we carry for ourselves and others.
Universal Medicine has helped me to understand that the greatest hurt is hanging onto what we feel hurt about. So it’s not so much feeling the situation again that hurts, it’s the fact that we hold a hurt about it in our body, until we look at it from understanding and caring eyes and feel what was really going on, and release it from our body. The more and more I connect to this the easier and more natural this comes – and it is deeply joyful and releasing to let go of things that I didn’t understand clearly as a child.
Great blog Danielle, we have a cycle of losing ourselves as we grow up, yet each and every one of us has an opportunity to break out of that cycle to a loving and full-filling life, which is lived from the inside out rather than the outside in.
Life is a set up to not feel the beauty and playfulness we are, but we can choose every second differently as you beautifully describe with your encounter with your accountant. It is not about techniques and modalities to manage life it is all about just being in life and living this and inspiring other people to be this too.
Your honesty and openness is so beautiful her Danielle, and so gorgeous that you allowed yourself to feel! Wow that’s a huge feat for many, but through that you were able to feel the truth and this brought you back home – to you.
Thank you Danielle for openly sharing your story , your willingness to open up to your great beauty and love is an inspiration.
I loved the openness in your blog Danielle
My daughter is constant reflection of playfulness and I have to stop and remind myself that it is ok to play whilst working and completing a task. Otherwise I am simply perpetuating the same cycle and squashing her innate playfulness and loveliness! She is the perfect medicine for me in my daily life to remind me of my essence.
This is lovely to consider that connecting and being playful with a child who is expressing in their playfulness is “medicine for me in my daily life to remind me of my essence”. It’s beautiful to feel that being playful is a reminder of who we truly are on the inside.
I find this too with my daughter’s. Although they are in their late teens and beyond, they are a constant reminder to me of the natural joy that is within us all, and that all I need to do is make the choice to connect to this.
I find it fascinating to observe the generations of people around us. I recall as a child looking at adults and thinking they were strange, wondering why they stress so much and wondering why they are so uncomfortable in life and with themselves. When I asked an adult why they were the way they were one day as a young girl they said to me, wait until you are my age and you will understand. Looking at the generations I now see that we start out light, playful and quite free, but over time ‘life’ begins to wear on us. Well it’s not actually life, but it’s everything that we choose to take on from life, we become more and more loaded with stuff until it is more and more difficult to be our truly gorgeous and playful self. Kids and teenagers are not yet as loaded as most adults and elderly, which is why they are an inspiration to observe.
I am reminded yet again Danielle while reading your blog of how powerful our reflection is to others when we live and offer the simplicity of openness to love. Thank you.
Danielle as you say life can be a set up, either one that confirms us in our contraction, lack of self worth and rejection ..or.. one that meets us for all of who we are and with that reignites the fire within. Let the fire spread one meeting at a time!
Great blog Danielle, we seem to be set up to stay in the hurts that we feel, never addressing it until someone else shows us what it is like when we don’t let our lives be run by those hurts. When I first met Serge Benhayon I met a man who was humble, full of love and most of all saw in me that I was equally so deep down inside.
Life can definitely feel like a set up when the rhythm of our true beat is missing from our steps and what has been replaced is an auto pilot mode of operandi. I love the fact that no matter what the flight path we may have been on the inner beat never stops but remains awaiting us to hear and feel once again.
At my first workshop with Serge Benhayon it didn’t take me long to realise that he was: “just reminding us of something we already know”. If was the most wonderful feeling of coming home; a feeling I had been waiting for, for a very long time.
Yes I agree Ingrid, it was the first time ever anyone had presented to me on a topic in a way where they were saying “I’m not the expert, you are, you know it all”. This is how extremely humble Serge Benhayon is but also that he acknowledges that he does not own the information he shares, we all do.
Danielle, this is such a lovely blog. I really enjoyed reading it, and thank you for your honesty; it’s very inspiring in so many ways; to have a cry if need be, to express openly with anybody, no matter who they seem to be; we all crave that true connection and honesty from that equality.
Just goes to show, one person can make a difference…. one person living from their innermost,their heart can have a profound effect on another. Thank you for sharing Danielle.
Such a great true story Danielle! I love it every time I read it!
Amazing to think that our hurts are like dominoes having a knock on effect on each other and keeping everyone in the same misery and pain. It only takes one person to rise above their hurts and actually put love and humanity first to start a love chain reaction which has the power to change the world.
…. ‘A quarter life crisis’ – I love it! I also love the truth and openness from which you write. Awesome blog Danielle,
Beautiful, Danielle. It is the truth and the love within which touches us deeply isn’t it? And it is understandable that one can cry for so long, sensing what is truly going on in the world. That is something that needs to be said. To highlight the chance for true reflection! Thank you.*
Awesome blog, Danielle. Showing how important it is to stay open in life, we never know where we encounter ‘love and truth’. Also for you, me and everyone to realize how much we offer by simply living our lives. The women sitting next to me in the train right now was touched by us connecting and there are constant options for this.
Thank you for sharing your openness Danielle – the warmth of your heart comes through your every word.
I love that all these changes came about by someone basically being honest with you. How often do we say what we really feel? How often do we just say what we think the other person wants to hear, or do we even really consider the question and feel for ourselves the answer? Being honest opens up the opportunity to be aware and to change naturally.
So true Laura, expressing honesty in how we are feeling brings more awareness to ourselves and to those around us and change happens naturally.
I agree jacqmcfadden04 and Laura, I have experienced many times by expressing what I felt in the moment it was exactly what the other person needed to hear. This is also a great learning process for me, confirming that I can trust what I feel and express it.
Danielle I appreciate when you share. “I spent many hours laying under or in my bed crying for no reason other than ‘it hurts’.” that was a familiar feeling to me as a child and has reminded me of my sensitivity yet not knowing how to cope with all that I felt. It makes me consider how many other children (and now adults) also felt this way? And why is it that we allow the next generation to go through what so many other generations have gone through and been hurt by?
I love what you share. Connecting to our own loveliness within, allows another to do the same – so beautiful!
The sadness you described I always covered my whole life… Now letting out what I truly feel and showing this, changed my life and my relationship with me. I am super playful and full of joy, but to escape the sadness that lies underneath (because of aspects you shared) is no solution for me anymore. Now my joy is even more pure and real, because I am ready to feel everything, all the time !
It was wonderful to read the impact a person ( such as your accountant) can have on others by being who they truly are in their connection. Such connections can be life changing. Thank you Danielle for your sharing.
Thank you Danielle for sharing how such a beautiful and simple ‘true connection’ can change a person’s life. An honest reflection – very powerful.
It was really beautiful to read your story Danielle. It really touched me hearing how you went from all those tears to finding a connection underneath the sadness and confusion that life can evoke, to find the lovliness and playfulness inside. There is no doubt that the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is beyond extraordinary in the many ways it touches peoples’ lives.
I agree Sam, I love hearing people’s life changing stories. There are so many other stories all of slightly different flavours too but just as amazing!
So it seems there are two set ups! One in which I am met, the other in which I am missed out. Obviously everyone wants to be met. No one really wants the other version. Yet most of us live the other version. Mmhh… Thank God I was provided with the tools to choose the version I truly want. And thanks to Serge Benhayon who presents them through Universal Medicine.
Beautiful Danielle. I just love the image of the accountant that disarming you with his tenderness. It must have been very disconcerting!
What a great joy to read your blog Danielle. I love what your share: “I can connect to this lovely joy and fun on my inside (because I am this), and I don’t need the world to be this back to play with me.” Isn’t it funny that we all have this joy that means every single person on earth!!!! The sad thing is that we have forgotten this. So thank you Danielle for being also a new starting point with your amazing blog so that every single person can choose to re-connect to this joy inside of them.
This is an incredible testament to the strength of taking the time to be the true us. We only need to see it once to feel there is another way, and this can be life changing, and so the cycle can continue.
This is so true jenny hayes we do only need to see it once, and we recognise it right away, whether we admit it or not. It may take us time to acknowledge that we’ve seen it and to embrace it as a possibility for us, but eventually we all will.
It is amazing how healing we are, just like your accountant, when we can be open and real in our love with people.. no guards or pretence.
True Annie, It is all about being and sharing our true self and letting people in.
This so beautiful Danielle and can relate to what you have shared. From feelings you mentioned as a child, crying ‘a lot’ as a kid, not understanding why! Shutting down and getting on with it, not letting people in and then being introduced to Universal Medicine and life changing around as a result.
Yes being involved with Universal Medicine has been life changing and supported me to deal with all of these hurts and answer the ‘why’s’ that I had as a child.
I really enjoyed what you shared Danielle, I loved your honesty and how relatable your experience is.
Thank you for your sharing Danielle, it is very inspiring to read how you turned your life around and how it all started with your accountant being honest and open with you. I agree with this line, so beautifully said –
“Serge is one of very few people I know who meet absolutely everyone equally from this lovely and amazing place, to another’s loveliness. He does this with absolute consistency and commitment to love for humanity, allowing people to feel they are the same. I thank him deeply for re-starting this cycle.”
This highlighted for me that how we are and what we do has an impact on others…You never know when something you say to another might be exactly what they need to hear to open up a change.
What a fantastic blog, I related to so much of it. I really enjoyed this quote: “Yes, a complete stranger allowed me to open up and connect within, just because he had allowed himself to do the same. So someone must have done the same with him and someone before that person also, and so on and so on – the way life can truly be set up.” This is how change occurs, being willing to be open with another and sharing what we feel with another, just lovely – thank you.
I agree with you Samantha, this is how change occurs, not by being perfect and always saying the right thing, the high wisdom, but being willing to be open with one another and sharing what we feel, we let others in and they feel it, that can stay forever. In the same way that we felt that from someone else.
I love this juliamanbos, it’s self self accepting and empowering to know we don’t have to try be perfect or be anything and in fact it’s just being ourselves where ever we are at that is the power!
“Serge is one of very few people I know who meets absolutely everyone equally from this lovely and amazing place, to another’s loveliness. He does this with absolute consistency and commitment to love for humanity, allowing people to feel they are the same. I thank him deeply for re-starting this cycle.” So true and eloquently expressed. Gorgeous story, demonstrating so graphically that all, can be the One. Danielle, thank you for sharing.
And it does not matter what that person does for a living – for Danielle to be inspired by her accountant seemed so unlikely, until I connected to the fact that he was simply communicating his experience, so of course it would touch her deeply.
Absolutely Simon. And I feel prompted to share here, that since first reading this blog, and commenting on it, I have also had two profoundly life changing moments with my accountant (no joke).
You are correct. It matters naught what we do or where we are, we all have the opportunity to connect with another honestly and truthfully, from the depth and ease of who we are. Who knows how and when such inspiration as Danielle experienced may happen? In a world where so many are guarded, and inner pain is so often harboured and hidden within, the light of another’s truth is the greatest blessing…
What you’ve shared here simonewilliams8 and Victoria is the responsibility we all have to be ourselves in full, share and not hold back from being seen, in every moment. This is true power and true healing that will inspire us all back to who we truly are.
That stage where you stopped feeling the hurt, and ’embraced’ life at the expense of actually feeling what was going on – me too. And I wonder how many others, if not everyone, have experienced something similar? Thanks for sharing this Danielle – its given me another nudge in the right direction; to feel what is actually going on.
Yes Simon, same here, this is such a beautiful reminder to keep feeling what is going on; to have a cry when needed; and to share myself more openly with others and to allow that connection with people, no matter what profession we or they are in. It’s not about what we do; it’s about who we are – and we are all made of the same stuff, so we all understand the same language from our hearts.
Danielle this is a great story, what is amazing is that for so many of us, myself included, life did not make sense and it certainly hurt yet to be inspired by your accountant is so unusual and against the stereotypes we often have. It also shows that it doesn’t matter what we do as being honest and who we are is what is most needed.
Absolutely David, it’s proof that we are all equally powerful and important and can be inspiring people everywhere any time, if we just be ourselves and let people in.
It is so beautiful to read how you took the opportunity offered by your accountant to open up and feel your hurts/pain and those of humanity and get beyond that to the true joy that is forever in our essence.
I love how the person who you felt your first profound moment with was with your accountant – and not in church, or a spiritual group, or at uni or a psychologist – this is definitely saying something about the way the world is!
That’s so true Meg, most people go to a guru, or book, or self help program, or church when they are seeking inspiration or looking for change. The whole time it could be in your mechanic, or hair dresser or the lady at the checkout – and we can be these people sharing another way.
A great observation of how the world seems to be set up… but at the same time thank you for reminding me that Clark Kents exist in the world and that these Super men and Super women are just ordinary people, and can be anyone. Thanks for sharing, Danielle.
Immensely so sweet and delicately written.