by Dianne Trussell
My own relationships have increasingly blossomed and deepened as I apply in my life the simple things Serge Benhayon applies in his and shares with others, for the sake of humanity.
I used to keep people at a distance, unaware that I was protecting myself from being hurt. I was nervous, over-sensitive, and had to get away from people just to recuperate my energy. I actually did not like people in general, and very few people seemed to understand me. My own company, and that of animals and plants, made sense and I could rest and feel ‘normal’ when alone with nature.
You know how we tend to judge people at first sight? Well it’s very hard not to, as the mind always jumps in based on what we see and on how we’ve been hurt in the past, before we can think or feel anything else. We really may not want to judge, and may not even be aware of our own ‘faults’ that are noticeable to others.
One day out on my morning walk I realised that something had shifted in me. Along came a man walking his dog. Both were overweight and seemed very miserable and closed, not wanting to interact with anyone in the street. However, that’s not what I perceived first. To my joy, I first felt them as two fellow beings full of love. It was then that I saw their pain and sadness, and last of all, the physical expression of it in the condition of their bodies. It was like the dawn of a new era for me, a small beginning of the end of judging others, and of truly seeing them as beautiful equals. I felt in love with everything as I walked: the people, the trees, the houses, even the stones of the road. And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around. It’s so gorgeous, I wish everyone on Earth could feel this way!
People may say, oh yeah but if you have problems you can’t feel like that. However I’m going through lots of quite intense problems in my life: loss of job and business income, debt, having to move house repeatedly, nearly three years of illness, the deaths of friends, serious illness in my family – many people might believe it impossible to feel joyful and loving in these circumstances. And yet I do. And much less worried or frustrated than I’ve ever been before, even when the problems were smaller. I often don’t manage to hold my connection to the love inside me, but I’m making progress and others see it.
People who are also struggling with overwhelming challenges want to know how come I’m sailing joyfully through mine, because everything else they’ve tried is not helping and they are on the brink of nervous breakdown, bankruptcy, suicide, whatever. And in that way, I can help them not by making choices for them or trying to solve their problems, but by continuing to be the ‘new’ me and sharing simply what I do. And it makes a difference for them too.
I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make, a way that increasingly leaves them free to be or do whatever, without feeling myself reacting and wanting to change them. I can spend lovely time with them in which we can open to each other and feel loved, trusted and supported. I can love and hug and hang out with my ex-partners without any ‘stuff’ in the way, without attachment, sexual undertones, reservations, or disrespect to their current partners. I can even strike up a friendly, open conversation with a total stranger, which is something I was never able to do. I’m beginning to see the real gorgeousness of people beneath their outer appearances and choices, that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it. And it’s changed me to know that.
Before, if people were being disrespectful or abusive towards me I would suffer in silence, afraid to say anything for fear of creating more conflict, but now I will speak up and say clearly how I am feeling, without anger, resentment or fear. I will no longer knowingly allow harm to myself from other people’s unhealthy behaviour and choices. Not only is this healthier for me, it gives them my honesty, which they can use to look at themselves if they so choose. Without being ‘called on their stuff’ and hearing the truth, they will go on hurting themselves and others and that’s not good for them either. I was ‘called on my stuff’ and although it can be very uncomfortable and never-ending, it’s worth it to see and feel and know the truth. No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.
Critics could say this is all in my head, but even though I have a long way to go in my unfolding, I consistently receive feedback from people saying that I’ve changed in lovely ways: that I am calm, present, gentle, have a quiet authority that people listen to, that whatever it is, they want it too, that what I’m sharing is very timely, that it helped them get on a new track and see things in a new more positive and more responsible way, and so on.
For example, Mum had not seen me for nine months and I went interstate to care for her after major surgery. Unsolicited she said one day: “There’s something different about you. There’s a calmness, grace and gentleness to all your movements. What have you been doing, how is that happening?” And now she too has begun to make self-loving choices in her food, exercise, sleep, housework and relating. My housemate said yesterday: “I can see you’re doing really well, your commitment to yourself is working. You are so quiet, calm and gentle. You’re a great example for me to have around.” And my close friend of 40 years’ duration, said to me: “You are putting something different out into the world. Something healing…”
I share these things not to ‘beat my own drum’ but to give you examples of how making self-loving choices can shine out and let other people see that they can do it too. This is a central message of what Serge Benhayon presents, and I now have ample personal experience of it in action in my own life. I would never want to go back to the way I was. Thanks Serge, and thanks also to your wonderful family for being such shining examples of what you present!
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“No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.” – This is a great point, and sometimes if we can see that what another is doing is not supportive, then it can lie as our responsibility to speak up about this, not in a judgemental or critical way but in a way to calls the person’s attention to what they are doing so that this offers them an opportunity to change. This is not a ‘fun’ job to have, but in the end it is a job that requires one to hold the other in and with so much love so that one can support with living in a way that brings even more love.
I still have a tendency to see people first for their layers, rather than connecting deeply to their essence first and foremost. This is something I would like to change – like Dianne has shared in this blog, there is a deep joy when we connect first to the essence of a person and though I have experienced this, I have trouble applying this in my day to day life. A work in progress for me – and I love the inspiration and the reminder of this!
Dianne, thank you for your awesome sharing! I love how you are showing that despite all the awful things that can happen in life, there is still the perception we hold and the connection to love that really matters the most – this is actually the transforming ingredient. For we cannot control what happens in life, but we can change the way we choose to see things and connect to the love within.
I came back to this blog because people make a valid point when they say
“Oh yeah but if you have problems you can’t feel like that.”
And I believe this to be an honest statement because from my own personal experience when we get hurt by other people or events in life we do not realise that this changes the way we move. So we could be moving in a discordant way for years not realising that we are actually moving in the quality of our hurts so therefore when we are in the mud all we see is the mud. It does take someone who is not in the mud to come along and question why we are there. And for me Serge Benhayon does this very well he has amazing insight when it comes to understanding the flow of energy and how it impacts our every move.
This is beautifully expressed Dianne
” that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it.”
That is the essence of what Serge Benhayon presents on and it is very humbling to reconnect back to our hearts and rediscover what we have been missing all these lifetimes.
“We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.” Thanks Dianne, I appreciated reading of your experiencing learning to share how you feel, I’ve noticed if I don’t it’s like the expression is trapped in me and causes me to feel discombobulated. Avoiding potential conflict sounds great, but we are actually avoiding potential healing and evolution for ourselves and others.
It is lovely to read of some of the changes that have been happening in your life as a consequence of what Serge Benhayon has shared for all; and, you choosing a new way of living, ‘now I will speak up and say clearly how I am feeling, without anger, resentment or fear. I will no longer knowingly allow harm to myself from other people’s unhealthy behaviour and choices.’
I have known Serge Benhayon for a while now and he does keep things very simple and what he presents seems to me to be the same thing said in very many different ways, which is to reconnect back to the love that is within ourselves first and from that the world will naturally change.
We can tell from our current way of life that we haven’t tried this way of living en mass but those of us that are having a go are making huge changes to themselves their families, friends and work colleagues people are feeling the change. So we could say there is a quiet revolution going on this is how the world can change by changing ourselves first.
Being able to see the love at the heart of another person before the exterior js a huge and healing step. For me it signals a growing love for yourself.
Great point Fiona – I mentioned in an earlier comment that I still struggle to see the other person’s essence first and foremost, but the reality is that this then reveals that I do not see myself first in my essence either. So this is the part for me to work on first. Meet myself first for who I am then for the rest…
Seeing others as my absolute equal being, full of love whatever their appearance/behaviour/choice may be – I have not been able to do that. Judgment and reaction has been pretty much my default response in life and I kept wondering what can I do to become non-judging, loving person. And what I have realised is that that question itself comes from the place of ‘I am not that therefore I have to figure out, work hard and try hard at it to become that’ – but the thing is if I am spending most of my waking moments in not breathing and in connection with my true essence, how can I expect me to magically be able to love and accept everyone equally? So it really is simple, I just need to keep coming back to me and connect, nothing else matters.
Beautiful Dianne, I can say only yes I fully agree. These are testimonials of The Way of The Livingness also to me known as living by Soul and from deep within. Thank you for sharing so beautifully and humble what your path has been so far, letting us know that it is possible and that we are not perfect and we do not need to be.
My understanding of what Serge Benhayon presents is that we are far more than we give ourselves credit for. We are in fact Gods living in an ungodly manner. By accepting the lies we have fallen so far away from who we truly are that we are actually unrecognizable as Gods. We have fallen in love with our ability to create and be individual; we constantly look outside of ourselves to others to gauge our standing within society. Thankfully Serge Benhayon and his family live in such a way that gives us all everyday practical examples of what it is like to live as a God in an ungodly world.
Beautifully expressed and shared Mary.
Protecting yourself is like having antibiotics, it helps with the bad but it also wipes out the good and you get to experience to have no feet on the ground.
“You are putting something different out into the world. Something healing…” – that is inspiration Diane, no question, and something for us all to learn from as we consider our own movements.
Great to read this again Dianne, it’s a beautiful point to come to in life when we can recognise in all the true and loving being underneath the pain, hurts, and lifestyle choices that cover up the essence of the person. As we make our way back through the hurts to our essence we can begin to understand where everyone else is at through understanding ourselves.
Its never about the events that happen on life, but how we approach them. But more to the point, how we are with ourselves as we walk through them?
So beautifully said Jennifer – no matter what happens in life, the one thing we do have a choice about is how we are in that situation (in reaction or perhaps in response) and allowing ourselves the full understanding of the situation which holds a blessing and allows for deep deep understanding of this all.
That we can meet others and see them from the inside out is something I don’t always do, but when I do it’s very different and I feel very open to them and we just let each other be, so reading this today I’m reminded that life is about seeing that inner gorgeousness in others regardless of what’s going on with them and that each of us can do this no matter what. It really takes blame and being a victim out of the equation for our relating to others.
“People who are also struggling with overwhelming challenges want to know how come I’m sailing joyfully through mine, because everything else they’ve tried is not helping….” The Ageless Wisdom has so much for us, wherever we are in life.
Wanting to change others is a ‘big thing’! Your blog is a testimonial of changing yourself by making self loving choices and the impact this has on everyone around you.
This line stood out for me ‘My own company, and that of animals and plants, made sense and I could rest and feel ‘normal’ when alone with nature.’ Nature is a great reflection to us, plants and animals come in all different shapes and sizes, and they don’t judge one another either, there is always a sense of calm walking through a park or woodland and how lovely it is to notice everything around us, which allows us to see how easy it is to co-exist with each other.
Love is abundant when we connect with it within. We can only feel love when we know it for ourselves it can not be given, taken etc it must be known.
Retreating into nature could be a great ‘go to’ resource to bring you back to yourself. Yet, it would never help you to advance because advancing is sharing with the world what is natural to you. When you start feeling that there is something beautiful you have to offer to people, and you go there, this brings a huge shift in your life.
How do we ever get on the front foot by withdrawing? A retreat works when it prepares you for the next big step up, but never when we use it to withdraw (which robs the world of your unique and precious expression).
Your sharing of how through self-loving care of oneself brings joy for oneself and others is deeply inspiring. Thank you.
‘…And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around. It’s so gorgeous…’ This is gorgeous Dianne! The more we open up to the love within ourselves the more we can see it in another.
“…that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it.” – If we could all just live by this principle it would go a long way towards ending the judgement and protection between people that stops us from connecting and growing together as we are designed to do. After reading this blog I could feel just how much I still hold back from this connection and am ready to let go of that way, as Dianne’s sharing has been super inspiring.
It really does start with that first, loving yourself consistently and not judging yourself but accepting yourself as you are. This then allows you to have the foundation to hold all others the same.
The living example of love is the strongest one we can ever be and receive
I used to keep people at arms length and always wondered why I felt lonely. It seems to me that most people who keep people away actually want the opposite.
Backing off and withdrawing from people and the world is a common reaction to feeling hurt and super sensitive but it is not how we heal our hurts or even protect ourselves.
When we all choose to see and feel beyond the external layers we protect ourselves with to the essence and potential we all hold equally within, we will both transform and grow our relationships and lives exponentially.
I’ve been giving myself a hard time for being judgemental on myself and others and yet reading this stopped me – I DO regularly see the beauty in people more than ever before, whereas in the past I would see only judgement or criticism. There’s always more layers to peel away but it was lovely to read this and reflect on where I am at.
Leigh it’s great to recognise this and then allow ourselves to keep deepening the ability to see the beauty in others. Even though we all carry protection, hurts, and behaviours that don’t reflect our true being we can see the true essence of each person underneath it all.
Thank you Dianne for a beautiful sharing, the power of our livingness is reflected far and wide for others to see and feel .
It is such a beautiful thing to start to see people for who they truly are and not for the behaviour they put out or how they are with us. It is the understanding we all are deeply longing for, that we are not what we do but we just are beautiful inside underneath that all, we just don’t always choose to express this.
We all crave to be met and once we have had that reflection in our life, we can be reflecting to others that there is another way to live.
It was great to read this Dianne and reflect on my own journey. I used to always want space and a break from people. If I’d been out in the world for the day I looked forward to the solace and retreat of my own home. But shutting off from the world and keeping people out did nothing for me. Things have changed over the last few years and I am now far more open to people and this is forever deepening. There is a fulfilment we get from being open that is quite glorious.
‘Everyone has a loving heart and just needs to rediscover it.’ What a joyfull way to view people and the world. Thankyou Dianne.
For years before meeting Serge Benhayon I tried to “love myself”. I tried many ways, many course, my partner used to accuse me of not being able to love myself. Within 10 minutes of the Gentle Breath Meditation, I had the key, which was a simple and yet profound connection with the inner me.
Judging people at first sight, it so happens and I can feel how through vision I have been allowing hurt from the past experience to come in a way of receiving and appreciating people for who they are in their essence, only to repeat the pattern.
I love the reflection of your self loving choices, Diane. No matter what is happening all around us, it is a choice we can all make. All these tiny moments are very precious and build to huge grandness within and around us all.
The more I connect to the grandness within me the worse it feels to try and make the world around me grand first then I’ll step into life. It doesn’t work that way around, it’s an inside out job.
Thanks for reflecting such loving choices and sharing them. I always appreciate the bright shinning star of anothers essence rippling out as it opens up for permission for us to choose this for ourselves, as in your example. They may seem like tiny bits in the moment but they add up to the whole of the universe. Moments of choices are worthy of great notation.
If anything I am finding that it is the ‘tiny’ moments that hold the most grandness rather than the moments we have deemed in human life to be grand. Even walking past someone in the street in our sparkle can change a persons life.
Yes I agree -the power and love behind true sparkle can heal the world and is so very worth appreciating.
Thank you Dianne. The world needs living examples of a different way to be in the world because if we do not see it reflected anywhere then we do not know that there is a different way to live life that is far more loving and supportive for everyone.
If one person, you Dianne, can bring such inspiring changes to your life and as a result shine brightly for all those around you, just imagine how the world would change if thousands of us did exactly the same. It’s like the proverbial pebble when dropped into the pond causes a ripple that flows on out touching all in its path; we can all be that pebble simply by choosing to make more self-loving and self-honouring choices and offering that reflection to others.
Thank you Dianne. It seems that joy is not dependent upon the circumstances of our lives, but can be chosen as a way of being every day. How wonderful.
What I have come to learn I that we have always affected those around us. It is very beautiful to feel that affect is healing.
My Mum and I now have a relationship that could never have happened before my time with Universal Medicine. She has also commented on how I am different. This is nothing short of a miracle for me.
Oh believe me I would never like to go back to the way I was in the past, for my life was full of struggle, and complication and I also kept people at a safe distance afraid they would hurt me. I too have changed beyond belief, which is daily confirmed as all my relationships have improved and I love to be with people and I love to share so much more of me – now in the past I would hold back the love that I am.
‘And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around’. And all we have to do is let go of those hurts and behaviours and loveless choices that do not support the expression of the love that we are.
My heart is glowing after reading this beautiful and healing blog, it feels like I have been sitting beside a warm glowing fire, that has invited me to let go of any worries, stress or tension, and that all I have to do is love myself and in doing so, my life can flow.
What you have described is a miracle. But this type of miracle is within us all and your story is a wonderful example of how everything can be healed.
“There’s something different about you. There’s a calmness, grace and gentleness to all your movements. What have you been doing, how is that happening?” People notice the integrity you are living and how this has changed you in every way, how amazing your mother has observed your movements and felt inspired by the quality of your being.
If life is not taken personally we can see ourselves very clearly for who we are from taking that step back from it all being about us. We can see how certain choices led to where we find ourselves today. This also allows us to see others from a more observational point of view. When we look from the heart we see everything and everyone in the light of the heart. I loved reading this blog Dianne as it reminds me to look at life through the eyes of the heart.
It is amazing to move in a way that does not take all of our problems on board. It is not about minimising them. It is simply not allowing them to pollute our way of moving.
This was a joy to read Dianne and it just goes to show how life is a reflection of how we are feeling.
People cant help but notice joy, and its so true that despite having serious issues going on in your life it’s still possible to be joyful.
“I share these things not to ‘beat my own drum’ but to give you examples of how making self-loving choices can shine out and let other people see that they can do it too.” And that is the beauty about the Ageless Wisdom, it is for all and has always been and though it is grand and limitless in what it brings it is never too much but allows us to take the steps we need to take.
To discover that how people feel and look is only second to the grandness that everyone is and represents is very freeing. Not accepting what they present as the what it is, holding them in the grandness they are and reflecting back the grandness we are is the only real way to really allow them to return to a grander version of themselves.
Establish love for oneself is the first step to truly loving another.
It is very difficult if not impossible to gain a true understanding of the world whilst one remains protected in any way shape or form, for that protection will always affect the way you perceive life.
So true Adam, it is like seeing the world through filtered lens and fooling ourselves into thinking that what we see is the only reality and the whole truth when it not. The only form of true visibility in all of the miasma is the honesty and eventually the whole hearted truth our bodies constantly inform us with. Some may say this is about being healthy and looking after it, but then again what does it mean to be ‘healthy’ these days. We have more diets than we do true answers, more food fads than clothing trends and all claiming to be the ‘one’ and true solution for our needs. The fact is ALL of these come from our minds reacting to the world and thinking, yes thinking, we need to eat this or that because of our gut feeling of hunger or craving. If we truly are still in ourselves and our body and feel from observation of what we see first, one will see that often the hunger or rather craving in most cases is not the truth of the body at all, but rather a reaction to what we have felt which gives us a urge to seek something we know will numb and dull our awareness of it.
A great line Dianne, “I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make”. It’s a great distinction to make, that we are not our choices or behaviours, that we are all equal in essence and that essence is love. Whether we live it or not love is who we are.
Yes Dianne, it is so important to be love and feel this for self first, otherwise we get caught in old patterns of wanting to please others, not feeling enough and the anxiousness that goes with this.
It’s true it’s how you live, not about beating your drum, preaching and telling. Words mean nothing through a body that doesn’t live the truth.
It is so true Dianne, if we don’t connect and feel the love within ourselves first, we will not see it in truth in others. But when we do, it turns the world upside down, in a true sense.
“It was like the dawn of a new era for me, a small beginning of the end of judging others, and of truly seeing them as beautiful equals.” It is indeed like ‘the dawn of a new era’ when the critical gaze fades and the heart starts to beat the drums and leads us through our life. It is so worth investing in ourselves with tender care and love as this love we feel in and for ourselves will embrace everybody else and lets us start seeing with our hearts again.
Dianne, what a great sharing of how simple loving choices can make all the difference. And I love the approach you take meeting others, seeing the love within first and then see all that is around, it turns any judgements we may have on our heads, as we get to experience and feel that we are all one and the same underneath love.
Diane that was an awesome example of how we can support each other by being the change for all to see and feel. It’s our living way that creates the movement for others to deepen in their own lives.
There are pop songs about the world needing love. Dianne, your article demonstrates the truth of this proposition, and why and how love works as an agent for change… of the most positive and active kind.
What a gift it is to be able to see the divinity in another even if they can’t see it in themselves. it has changed my life, and how I see myself.
What a gift it is to see in someone what they cannot see themselves. I have had this happen to me and it has changed everything about my life.
Thank you for sharing Dianne this is amazing. We often focus on the negatives of life rather than the big picture and miracles that happen every day, and so gorgeous to hear how you’ve been lighting the way for others to do this and not contract away into their doubts.
Lovely what you share, when we can see past the misery and protection that is so obvious not he surface of life and feel the quality within another being. I enjoy this about my job and life, feeling the quality within another and myself, not just what we see.
It is so important to put something different out in the world, a way of life that is geared to resurrect ourselves to the godliness we are from. To live from this perspective, this source of life, is a beautiful way to live and as you shared Dianne, it is not only for our own benefit but also to share with the many people we meet on a daily basis and to give them the possibility for another perspective in life..
The day we meet someone who is closely reflecting to us as well as calling out stuff for us, and that we can closely and intimately do the same for them, is the day the heavens have confirmed well done for being love, so love will be reflected back. And this love is an unending deepening, which is is forever a deepening of love within and between us.
We feel immense joy when the deep unsettlement that we have lived with for so long is starting to be re-corrected, which is why calamities seem to happen but yet we still feel a deep deep joy.
I have always liked people but I was similar to you Dianne, feeling unsafe, not enough and exhausted from all the anxiousness and trying to be something I am not to please others. The key to being with people is to feel the love you are first and to feel the love everyone else is equally. We need to meet people seeing their divine, superhero underpants under the exterior clothing. Having love in your body and heart gives you this X-ray vision.
Shine like you do, isn’t that the message we can have for all of us. I mean I know there is life’s constant pressures and upsets but what if, as this article presents you acknowledge all that but equally hold who you are and don’t let that dominate. I mean life can’t be only a one way street, everything has a balance to it. This article allows us to let go of perfection, needing to do or being the same and allows us to speak freely on what we are seeing. As I’ve said we can’t just allow things to run down the same road, there is more to life then that. What if we can have anything and everything go on in our life and yet hold ourselves still to who we truly are? This alone would make a huge difference to not only your situation but to everything around you, this article is testament to that.
How very gorgeous Dianne that you have fallen in love with yourself; what you have shared here is inspirational, thank you.
I can relate with having used to keep people at a distance, thinking I was protecting myself from being hurt, I am now learning to open up and let people in and so see them in their truth.
Falling in love with ourselves is the best medicine we can have, It is never too late to start and the results are miraculous, as shown by your blog Dianne, People notice something different, something that feels real and tangible that offers a reflection for others to follow. We can never underestimate the power of true love and it is this that will turn our world around and bring the necessary changes.
You certainly are a shining example Diane for everyone to be inspired by – it is beautiful to feel the flow on effect your loving choices has had on others around you.
So often we search for the right words to say, but there is so much power in observing the actions of others and how they choose to live. When they speak their words are a confirmation of how they are living. Another typical scenario is when you get someone who says the right things, but does not actually practice what they preach. I know I have done that many a time. Then there is a mismatch and that can be felt.
It was interesting to read about how others have noticed the change in you Dianne. It confirms how sensitive we all are and can detect when things are different. What a turnaround you have made in your relationships. Its very inspiring to read, and I could sense the joy when you shared about the encounter with the man and his dog. You definitely have a greater level of understanding for yourself and others.
This gives me goosebumps “There’s a calmness, grace and gentleness to all your movements. What have you been doing, how is that happening?” And now she too has begun to make self-loving choices in her food, exercise, sleep, housework and relating. ” this is what true love and The Way of The Livingness is all about for me – it’s not about words, or telling people what to do – it is about how you live.That is what makes the true difference – much more than we can fathom at this moment in time and see.
Do we read life backward or forward, ie. do we see first the reduced version of a person, ourselves included, and then try to find the ‘heart of gold’ amid the repelling behaviour or do we first know and see the gold in each other and therefore can recognize what is not of one´s true making but a mere shell of hurts, protections and behaviours?
We have a choice how we approach and experience life. The same circumstances can be felt and seen very different depending on how I relate to myself and the people and events involved. And herein lays the potential to change the way we live and how as a consequence things unfold. We are more powerful than we might think.
It is the realness as a result of making choices and living them to the best of one´s ability that is reliable and something people can relate to, make their own mind and be inspired by if they so choose. That´s the way we can change our own life for the better and thus the world for and with everyone in full respect of free will.
Dianne you have really shown in your blog that your loving relationship with yourself, and knowing that you yourself are love in essence, has been the foundation for knowing all others the same way. Very inspiring.
Your experience shows the possibility of the fact that we all recognise the reflection of something that is true and so if we live to the best of our ability the truth of ourselves, it allows another by that reflection to sense the resonance of that same truth in themselves.
Yes indeed, “No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.” I have found that honesty to be more loving than playing to pictures and not saying when a behaviour is repetitively abusive to self or to others. The way we speak is a prime example. Just taking a day to listen to the way we speak to ourselves is an eye opener and certainly inspired me to be kinder. The on-flow effect on the way I spoke to others was an education I will never forget.
It is very true how we go through life protecting ourselves because we don’t want to get hurt. Although I have come a long way to feel confident (most of the time) in the company of people I still find myself in protection at times as I can feel the holding back and contraction in my body but observing myself when I feel hurt and react is helping me to let go and make changes so that I can be true to myself.
We are each divine deep at the core of our being. This divinity is the fiery spark of our true self, our Soul. Yet the way we live here on Earth is so far from the expression of this Godly love and light and instead we live shrouded in misery and division, seemingly unable to access this wisdom that comes from knowing our true origins. In order to arise out of such self-imposed wretchedness our task here is simply to see God first before we see anything else. That is, we must re-learn how to see the essence of who we each truly are and then read all that stands in the way of the expression of this. This is the key to a truly joyful life despite the circumstances we are in.
What simplicity. Thank you Liane
Falling in love with ourself is what lets us fall in love with everybody else.
What a beautiful reflection you offered your mother. It is purposeful to consider our reflections can either be healing and melodic, or discordant.
A great blog to reflect on .. as I go deeper the more is that I feel, the more responsibility I have to honour what I now know. To dishonour it is turning back on myself.
Thank you for the shining example you present Dianne. Your joyful quality can be felt in every word here. “I’m beginning to see the real gorgeousness of people beneath their outer appearances and choices, that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it. And it’s changed me to know that.” I loved this line because it is something I have experienced too. I appreciate being reminded that I see people including myself in a whole new way as a result of the presentations provided by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
When we beat to our own drum we reconnect to our own innate rhythm and it is so beautiful that others feel it.
This is so beautiful to read. A true joy.
It is in feeling exposed that we grow in self love, seeing in what we hurt ourselves brings an honesty and a responsibility to change it.
What wonderful feedback and confirmation of how, when we nurture ourselves, we actually leave space to give back to our friends, family, community and the world.
We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times. Yes, it can be but well worth it for the growth and the deepening with oneself that follows.
‘I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make, a way that increasingly leaves them free to be or do whatever, without feeling myself reacting and wanting to change them’ Oh dear, I got the reflection recently that I am still trying to change people, (however small that may be, it can be subtle) which feels yucky actually, and is such an old pattern of mine and also distracts me from the protection and the hardness in my body that is there for me to heal and clear. I have enough to do working on myself……let alone trying to change others!
The power of reflection is undeniable and a blessing to those who become inspired from your way of being and from seeing there is another to move through life.
Thanks Dianne – One thing I feel we are not talking about much is the difference in being emotional in Life and living Life feeling things and relating that way. To me there is a huge difference where being caught up in the business of Life is very draining but if we come back to a Place within ourselves we can see things in a very different light and look with clarity in our Eyes.
These words are deeply touching Dianne: “You are putting something different out into the world.”
That this has been felt by another, is a mark of another transformation already in process – and so we all have the capacity to inspire and return to such an innately connected, beautiful and true relationship with ourselves, God and the all. Love your sharings here, thank-you.
And thank-you Dianne, for being such a shining inspiration yourself. Every change in your relationships, and awareness of how you now perceive and feel others to be – i.e. the truth of their own hearts, first – is absolute gold.
The world deserves to know of such transformations – for not a single one is any ‘small thing’, not at all.
Beautiful Dianne – thank you. The words ‘new me’ really grabbed me in this blog. I can really feel how we can all make different choices and be the ‘new me’ too, every day. I have found starting each new day afresh a great help in doing this. It doesn’t always last the whole day – but then, when I catch myself – I can start again in that moment. So, like you, it is a work in progress, but a much more joy-full one than it once was.
It’s true – ‘no-one really wants to be hurtful to others’ – if we learn to stop and actually read what is going on in a situation, then we allow the possiblility of deeper understanding and instead of going into reaction we can allow the space for greater awareness to know what is at play.
Once we realise the level of protection we have, and that others feel it too, we realise we are creating our own prison and confirming to others the need to build their own fortress. I too am learning how to make the simple choices that help us to open up and truly let people in, and in that see everyone for who they truly are.
Yes, the fortresses we build around ourselves is the greatest fortress of them all! It is only when someone points this out that you can start to see the obvious – when we protect ourselves from being hurt, we set ourselves us to be more hurt because we close off to any love that could be right there. We simply confirm that we all need fortresses!
No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. Such a powerful truth delivered in this sentence and really supports me to see the bigger picture with a difficult relationship…..
When we make self loving choices and truly nurture ourselves, we all put something different out into the world, and I have realised that these reflections can be so much more powerful than words….
Absolutely, the power of reflection is huge.
Truly beautiful to read, there is a deep sense of unity when we are in connection with ourself and the unconditional love that we have deep within for everyone, it is a choice we all can make.
Absolutely gorgeous. Thank you for sharing this, Dianne, and reminding me that self-love indeed goes a long way beyond self.
I’m so inspired by reading this to be self-loving so that I too can walk down the street and notice love first and lovingly understand choices that may manifest themselves in another’s appearance. And all this whilst much outer turmoil takes place. Really highlights how false my thinking is when I’m saying to myself life will be better when…. Actually life is amazing now!
Me too Karin. I love the way Dianne dispels any idea that the way she feels is dependant on outside factors. It shows we can all live the love she writes about here if we choose to.
It is about seeing the beauty that is in me and so all others. Making this commitment that is all that is needed, letting go of protecting is nothing but about this.
This is inspiring to read, feeling that the love inside me is giving me the opportunity of releasing the judgement I hold to others, and thus myself.
I totally agree Benkt, for judgment only invites disharmony and separation.
“I share these things not to ‘beat my own drum’ but to give you examples of how making self-loving choices can shine out and let other people see that they can do it too.” Thank you Dianne, this is what we need in this world, we need true change that is lived and not just talked.
I love reading this blog. It gives me such a clear view of the world and all those in it. Thank you Dianne.it is lovely to look out at everyone with fresh loving eyes. I am finding my relationships do not contain any friction as I give each person the focus and the grace of that moment. Knowing that each of us is love no matter what their current choices allows me to let go of any hurts and to be free of judging them.
Yes! To open up again is a joy! However our circumstances in life – nothing gets better through protection or judgement. But when I live with an openness to people and care for my relationships, be honest and committed everything is just how it is and a great point to learn and expand the expression of my anyway lovely being.
This blog is a beautiful example of you living what is presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. Just alone to be able to feel for yourself the simple truth that every person has a loving heart and be able to see as that first at foremost before seeing the result of them not being in connection is enormous as there is so much joy in this and a healing for everyone you meet.
Thank you Dianne for a beautiful sharing of the reflection given to others by your self loving choices, and the effect this had on those around us, deep within we are all love even though we don’t at present know it. Feeling this within all people we meet is truly a blessing.
You show Dianne how powerful how we are with ourselves because everyone around us feels and gets the reflection of this.
Thank you Dianne, this is a great sharing of the way we are constantly in service simply through our reflection of living life with respect and loving choices for our bodies, there is so much to appreciate when we stop and take stock of how far we have come and also our responsibility of living true to ourselves in a more consistent way.
Accepting ourselves for we truly are and not holding back allows us to feel and appreciate the love of others first before their actions and that is a hugemungous blessing for all as we bring understanding and space for others to just be.
Dianne your words are full of joy and simplicity and it is so easy to understand what you have changed in your life. Thank you for sharing it as it is such an inspiration for me.
Making loving choices not only benefits self it radiates out to everyone, that is service
Wow Dianne, I love this blog as it is oozing with your gorgeousness! It is testimony of all that you write about as it reminds me that I am also that love and also just how far I have come from the nervous, over-sensitive, protected being I once was. Thank you. It is always a joy to read your writing.
I got called on something pretty big in my life yesterday. It isn’t easy to hear but when we do hear what is being offered, there is an opening to greater and deeper humility and that is very much worth it. With humility, there is openness to feel the kind of awarenesses that you share here in your blog. Letting go of arrogance and judgement of others that blind us to their true nature – and of course our own – is truly worth exploring in my experience.
How very gorgeous Dianne Trussell – thank you. I find it very true that we judge people based on appearances first but agree that we can, if we choose to, see beyond this first impression to their deeper essence and this makes a profound difference to how we relate to and connect with others. It begins as you say with recognising this deeper essence in ourselves and then knowing it is the same in everyone else. And I so agree with you that we all have a loving heart and that no-one really wants to hurt another – but our own hurts pervert the love we innately have within and the expression that we would naturally share – and so dealing with our own hurts is key in letting this pain go and with it the unnatural expressions that we allow.
It’s incredible to think all these amazing changes came as a result of simply making everyday self-loving choices, but it is true. And it shows how that small piece missing can cause much havoc in the way we live and interact with the world.
What you share about judgement and it being fed directly from our unresolved hurts is so true. And hence the enormous responsibility we all have therefore to deal with our hurts and not to hold onto them. Because not only does judgement harm ourselves, it is very very damaging for another.
Dianne this was a beautiful blog to read, when we first feel love, whatever else is going on with another, regardless of if we know them or they are a stranger, we can dissolve many barriers simply by being love first, with no agenda no judgment and no comparison.
Dianne, thank you for sharing your growing love of yourself and others, truly it is an inspiration for me to read, so simply expressed and all this in face of life not being perfect and yet it is grand no matter what is coming across our path to complete and master along our way in life.
Thankyou Dianne, what came to me today reading your blog was the utter simplicity of self loving choices! It is simple, yet it can be fun (even if at times confronting) to make loving choices for ourselves, yet the effects on our own life are profound, as is the reflection others feel in how we live. What I appreciate today is a renewed sense of fun in exploring self love.
It is easy to feel in your words that you are not ‘banging your own drum’ here Dianne. There is a quiet dignity and authority in your words, of one who has come to know, understand and love herself no matter what is going on.
Dianne, If one person transforming themselves in the way you have and have the effects on others that you’ve shared, imagine what would happen if everyone experienced true healing and became healers simply by lovingly being themselves.
Once we heal our own hurts with tender loving care of self, what once seemed difficult or threatening becomes possible. Reconciling with family and ex-partners and rebuilding relationships with them is truly healing for all.
This blog is an absolute gem! Thank you Dianne. I love the example you gave of meeting the man and his dog. I have begun to see how naturally loving people are and it is awe inspiring to connect to the true quality of the people that grace my life.
Thank you Dianne your article is beautiful and shows us all the true beauty that living our lives can be, no matter what is happening in them.
Even though life can be tough, even with all that can happen and the illnesses we can suffer, if we are connected to ourselves and if we are present and feeling the love that we are, we can still feel the joy in this and the joy and love can be first…everything else comes after that.
I find it nothing short of truly amazing just how power-full the simple acts of self love and hence true love actually are.
Dianne it is so lovely to return to your sharing and brings a tear to my eyes as I can feel more of the connection in my life that you have shared too. Life is beautiful we just have to be open to it being so in our hearts.
Like you talking, to strangers was not my thing. I was afraid to show me and now I have conversations with everyone. I am not closed off anymore and the openness is very refreshing to experience myself and to see how this has a ripple effect on others is amazing to feel. And this occurs simply by connecting to my innerheart, where the love is that I am.
It is so true, when I remember really kind, loving people they are so beautiful, it exudes from the inside out.
‘We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times’ It’s only confronting when we’re wedded to the dishonesty we’re living or invested in a belief we’re following that isn’t truth. Sometimes it has to get to raw in order to wake us up out of our stupor.
To discover I love people has been a huge change in my life too, self loving choices has been and still are, the foundation to be able to really see the essence of everyone I encounter. When I feel frustrated again, an old habit now, I know I just have to come back to me and to feel what is there for me to heal. I don’t have to withdraw from life as I did before and I share your joy in this way of living Dianne, great sharing!
On reading this blog for the second time I cant help but feel how awesome it is to be making self care and responsible choices and this impacts everyone we come into contact with
A beautiful opening sentence that I also share, “My own relationships have increasingly blossomed and deepened as I apply in my life the simple things Serge Benhayon applies in his and shares with others, for the sake of humanity.” I have discovered that no one is a ‘complete stranger’ and that everyone is waiting to be met and if I choose to open the door then there is a loving connection for us both to enjoy and grow from.
This is very inspiring, making self loving choices creates the space to really let people in, and love others for all that they are without any judgement, I feel it is a beautiful thing to develop and create the basis for a true way of living.
“It was like the dawn of a new era for me, a small beginning of the end of judging others, and of truly seeing them as beautiful equals. I felt in love with everything as I walked: the people, the trees, the houses, even the stones of the road. And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around. It’s so gorgeous, I wish everyone on Earth could feel this way!” truly beautiful Dianne. One day everyone on earth will feel this way! Bring it on….
Truly beautiful Dianne on the power of love and the inspiration we offer others when we live this love that we naturally are.
Dianne the joy that you feel and share in your blog of when you first saw the man and his dog for the equal beings they are shows us that so much of the worlds suffering could be prevented by taking the responsibility to first connect and be with the love we are and then allow ourselves to feel the truth of each person, animal or situation we meet rather than see the image they try and present to cover up the joy that is natural but hidden inside.
Dianne to read your blog again is inspiring once again. Having been a “quiet” person all my life, I see how this is not sharing with the World who I am, nor my point of view. I understand now, having been connected to Universal Medicine for the past 8 years that it is important that we all open our hearts and share our Love and selves with others, to see the connection and oneness of all. This in turn inspires others to share themselves as well. It is wonderful that others close to you see your growth and express this to you. Thank you Dianne.
“You are putting something different out into the world. Something healing…” It is this knowing that we do affect the world around us in everything we choose to do and be that is very powerful for me. From this I understand that I am not insignificant, that my voice is equally as powerful as anyone else’s.
Yes Patricia, our voice is equally as powerful as anyone else’s and others are waiting to hear what we uniquely have to share.
A beautiful example Dianne of leading by example. When we live the love that we are, others can not help but feel this and notice, they too are then inspired to also make changes.
‘I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make, a way that increasingly leaves them free to be or do whatever, without feeling myself reacting and wanting to change them.’
Beautifully said Dianne, when we truly love and care for ourselves. it opens the way to deepen our relationship with everyone, a healing takes place. We can be ourselves and allow others to be whatever they choose to be.
Dianne what you share will be revelation to many. How making self-loving choices really does change everything and the way we are. You show that when we get past judgment, we can feel, and connect to others as equals. I love your description of the overweight man and dog on the beach and two ways of seeing them. One way is to judge. The other, with deeper awareness, is to see and feel more of them and their story. In this way we connect to their essence, not their bodies. We can all learn from this.
“…You are putting something different out into the world…” That is truly wonderful Dianne.
Thank you Dianne for reminding me that we express in everything we do and thus reflect onto others. Your friend and mother saw and felt the love and commitment you have chosen for yourself. Is it not beautiful to see beyond the physical appearance of people and see them as equal to us all but having made different choices?
Living with the barriers that keep people out is one of the greatest illusions on earth, because with barriers we are not able to let our love out or let the love of others in. So everyone is trapped in these seemingly secure places, but these places are like cages of our own making, with each person in protection to not be hurt, but not realising that the greatest hurt is coming from inside of the cage the whole time.
In my experience living the love and joy that I am each day is 1 million times more amazing than the desire to be excited or happy as I would have used to seek. The simple reason is because love is simple, it is something that makes us feel fully met and an imprint that lasts all the time simply from within us whereas another else such as ‘happiness’ is all externally based and living of the reactions to situations.
“that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it. And it’s changed me to know that.” It changed me too Dianne. Once I was able to feel the love in my own body I was easily able to feel the love within another even though they could not feel it themselves. It allowed me to see people in a whole new light. Thanks to all the amazing Esoteric Practitioners, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for their support to feel this love in my body again.
This has been a life changer for me also – learning to love and care for myself – which has been the key to learning and seeing people for the love they really are together with learning to observe and accept their choices, just as I am learning to observe and take responsibility for my own.
Dianne I love this sharing of your journey back to love. I am re reading and finding so much more of what you share that I can take with me into my own changing and growing journey though life. As you mention seeing others first for the love that they are even if they are not aware of it. Just being truly our loving selves we can inspire change in others.
Super inspiring blog – thank you Dianne. This is still a work in progress for me but reading about your experiences touches me deeply as this is an issue which I am so aware of personally and which I would love to move past. It again feels like acceptance an appreciation offers the key.
Great point Marika, our willingness to let go of our hurts and to understand why people do what they do allows us to see the beauty within them well past their actions.
Great sharing Dianne, making self loving and caring choices in our lives allows us to appreciate the real beauty in ourselves and equally in others. I too have been deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon in seeing others not by what they do but for who they really are in their essence.
It is an amazing quality to see the best (love) within another person. It allows us to deflect from taking things personally and encourages us to walk in the other person’s shoes.
Creating understanding and respect
It is an amazing quality to see the best (love) within another person. It allows us to deflect from taking things personally and encourages us to walk in the other person’s shoes.
Creating understanding and respect.
Thank you for sharing your story Dianne. Hugely important. The understanding for the tumultuous and life shifting events occurring in your life was the key to your love and acceptance of of it, and seeing its true healing. Thank you for this inspiration, and to Serge Benhayon for blazing the way forward. For until I met him, I couldn’t see past my nose, and would blame the world for all that happened to me.
Gorgeous to read this today Dianne. And like you I too and finding that; ‘ I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make, a way that increasingly leaves them free to be or do whatever, without feeling myself reacting and wanting to change them’. This is huge for me as my old pattern has been to put others first, support and help them at the expense of myself, which always created tension in my body because I was neglecting myself – but no more of that old abusive behaviour.
A wonderful blog giving you permission to just be YOU and no longer holding back what you have to offer everyone in your life.
Amazing blog Dianne, thank you for sharing. What I love most about your blog is the fact that you didn’t try to impose your lifestyle and didn’t try to change anyone. Seeing you living it, is all they needed to make similar choices for themselves.
Yes, just Dianne’s offer by reflection has love written all over it. People sense what they are seeing and feeling and are inspired by it.
A beautiful sharing Dianne. I love your examples of the changes people have felt in you and the healing quality you’re bringing to the world – a power that we all have when we take responsibility for how we are with ourselves and others.
Dianne I felt your joy and lightness shining through this beautiful blog, it really is infectious.
I love this quote Dianne: “Everyone has a loving heart and just need to rediscover it”. Thank you for describing how to do this practically. To see people not for there emotions or what they are projecting on the outside but for the love they are underneath it all. I have found this works for me and I can connect to people on a deeper level.
This is an awesome testament to The Way of The Livingness. Once you live it you do not want to go back to the old ways.
What I have found is that there is a leap of faith. I put a few things I had learned into action and things improved. Then some more things changed. Gradually things that were not me or that didn’t support me fell away. Now I realise how I am mostly joyful. A bad day is rare and people are easier to love. My thoughts are so much more loving and there is so much further and deeper to go. These are profound changes that felt so natural.
Thank you Dianne for this gorgeous conversation.
Such radiance, love and genuine sharing here Dianne.
“I can help them not by making choices for them or trying to solve their problems, but by continuing to be the ‘new’ me and sharing simply what I do. And it makes a difference for them too” This is inspirational Dianne. Just being me – in the new way of life I have chosen – has meant people also comment on how I have changed, just by observing how I go about things and my presence. If they ask, I too share how this has come about.
To stand witness to the delight of ones true nature unfolding for all to be graced by, is a marvel worthy of its awe. You are one such Beauty Dianne thank you for letting it out.
A timely article about the power of making self-loving choices and “Falling in love with myself, others and the world”. Thank you for being the timely inspiration as I too am working on seeing “the real gorgeousness of people beneath their outer appearances and choices”. It makes sense that to see people for who they truly are, we need to have the clarity in ourselves to not look with hurts.
What I understand from reading this blog is that when we place more focus and attention to the love that we are, no matter our situation or our choices and no matter how heavy or crushing they may appear to be, none of that is greater than the love that we are. And that this is what heals all those pains we may have.
And to follow from this I can say I have experienced similar situations as you have shared here Dianne. When I do connect to the love within me all of lifes issues or the problems seem miles away. It’s like a distance between myself and the issue (for example if someone is worrying about something) and at the same time a clearer distinction between the issue and the person caught up in it. They are not the issue, they are love.
“To my joy, I first felt them as two fellow beings full of love. It was then that I saw their pain and sadness, and last of all, the physical expression of it in the condition of their bodies. It was like the dawn of a new era to me….”
It’s really beautiful to have you share this moment of awakening so specifically Dianne and the whole process of your unfolding. Thank you for a lovely blog.
Living and letting out our innate beauty is the most amazing gorgeousness that can be felt. I absolutely agree, Ariana! You just can´t resist- you are drawn towards someone, when they truly live who they are. No hairstyle could ever measure up to this. 🙂
Rereading your blog is fantastic- I love the appreciation of yourself in it . I too have a long path past me of not letting people truly in and not being a ” fan” of people in general. I now experience true joy and many magical moments, because of my opening up towards the others. I absolutely understand your felt claiming in you don´t want to ever go back. Me neither- it is too beautiful to be connected to everyone. 🙂
I could feel your joy Dianne when I read your blog. How truly amazing it is that when we start to express love in a non judgemental way that others around us can feel it too and they start to open up.
It’s inspiring to read about the changes in your life since you started making self loving choices. I love this sentence, “And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around.” Thanks Dianne.
A lot here to consider Dianne and very inspiring. One part in particular stood out for me and that was when you wrote about calling people out, you are right no one likes to be exposed for bad behaviour but how do we grow and make different choices if others are allowing us to stay in an old pattern. It’s easy to dismiss your bad behaviour if no one speaks up.
What a lovely way to now be Dianne. I like hearing about other people’s comments when they can feel the difference you make.
Your ability to hold everbody as equal is quite a remarkable attribute Dianne and making self loving choices also offers others you come into contact with a positive reflection.
Well said Joe, it is amazing when someone truly holds you as an equal without any competition, it allows you space to simply be yourself and express rather than trying to be anything or put on a show, something I know I have done.
Dianne, what a blessing I have received just from reading your blog. Thank you!
Dianne I love how simply and eloquently you have written about what is nothing short of a modern day miracle. The love and joy you feel for humanity, the changes you have made to your life – it is powerfully inspiring!
Yes you are a miracle Dianne, and at the same time you show that anyone can connect to the same joy and love in life. It’s beautiful and inspiring to hear how your day to day struggles are not barriers to knowing the love inside you and others. Thank you.
Awesome blog Dianne, you certainly inspire me to become more consistent and to be aware not to slip into judging someone by their appearance or their actions. To open my heart and allow myself to feel the love in people even if they may not express it but to always remind myself that it is there constantly. I am learning to connect and open up to every one I meet. Love how you changed your life around and are now connected to who you are and with everyone else. Those amazing comments are confirmations and also you are inspiring others to make loving choices too.
Dianne what a truly beautiful sharing. I can feel your absolute joy that shines through your words. I can say there are some things that I have done in the past such as being too afraid to stand up for myself, not always but often, just keeping the peace. When we realise that’s we are all the same and all love within, our love for humanity also grows along with the love for self.
There are so many gems in your blog Dianne, if we all lived in honour of your words here we would be living in a very different world – “I’m beginning to see the real gorgeousness of people beneath their outer appearances and choices, that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it. And it’s changed me to know that.” So true, as love is a place we can all meet in equality.
Yes, I too feel the same. Very inspiring blog. I also love this part that you’ve highlighted. Feeling and knowing that we are all the same under our outer protective layer allows me to truly connected with people. I have always loved being around people and I am now learning to connect to them on a deeper level by me just being myself.
I agree Chan Ly, I read this sweet caption the other day that went… ‘just be yourself, everyone else is taken’. It made me smile and reminded me that in essence we will also be equal, but we all have our unique expressions which makes life so colourful.
It has also been my experience Dianne that when I hold a steady and loving foundation with me, by staying in connection with my body and how it feels, I am able to remain steady even in very challenging situations.
I have experienced this too. Sometimes I amaze myself as to how simple and easy it is to connect to my steadiness and strength when I am faced with challenging situations.
Beautiful and very inspiring to read the changes you have made Dianne, I can feel the joy you speak of in you and your writing.
I agree no one really wants to be hurtful of others, even though they may act in hurtful ways. We can only be as loving and accepting towards others as we are with ourselves. As you describe so well Dianne when we are not clouded by our own judgments and hurts we can bring a true understanding from the realisation that we are all equal in our essence.
I have also found it easier to be alone than connect with people. The judgement of others is the justification to stay protected and not let others in – a behaviour that I am now consciously eradicating through a commitment to being open and expressing love, no matter the circumstance.
You are an amazing example of the transformation possible through self care and love. It’s awesome to feel your love and openness to others and not holding them in judgment, which is a form of protection we use that we erroneously think doesn’t expose our hurts. It is our openness and being in our hearts that actually stops us being hurt by others, and also when we are totally open to others we are much better at feeling if the other is being abusive in their behaviour towards us. Thank you Dianna for showing us that love is the way.
I have always admired people who are open and easily have deep connections with other people but I look at them in awe and say to myself “I could never do that” it seemed so different like it was un achievable, I resigned myself to the fact that I have other talents and being a people person was not one of them. What a lie I was telling myself to justify how I was choosing to live. I have come to realize most peoples have something they put out to others so they don’t get too close. If Dianne can go from being shut down and isolated to being warm and inviting of others, we all can also. Self-love is a prerequisite; the rest is enjoying the journey.
Yes indeed it is there for everyone if they choose it. It is incredible how deeply lonely I have felt when I have been indulging in self pity. The moment I stopped I remember having people right there. I think I have been blessed in my life to have had very few…to no one… Around me who pandered to any petulant pity parties. To understand now about self love, well what a divine gift from heaven, and to think that self love is just the start of what is available… Now that is pretty extra-ordinary.
Like you Dianne I chose for many years to stay away from people and preferred my own company and my dog to that of other humans and would avoid social situations, crowds and work, but I can now see how living like that goes against our natural way of being and only causes more misery.
Since attending the courses run by Universal Medicine I can see that there is great healing by embracing humanity, as it gives you the opportunity to look at life through new eyes.
This is beautiful Dianne. It’s so true that when we stop judging ourselves and appreciate that we are love and come from this that we can see that all others do too.
its beautiful how we perceive the people around us does completely lay in our own hands, when we are truly loving to ourselves we can see this beauty in others as well.
The more we love ourselves, the more we can bring this love into the world. Every day is then a day of love making.
How quick and easy it is to judge and how swiftly our minds can be critical if we let them. It occurs to me on re-reading this blog just how little time or space we allow for ourselves to feel our own loving presence and preciousness and if we are not in regular contact with it in ourselves then how can we recognise it in others?
This is something I am learning too andrewmooney26, to make time and space for my own loving presence through regularly checking in with myself without the judgement I have long held. Appreciating me has opened the way for more appreciation and love of others as Dianne has so beautifully shared here.
Hear hear Dianne and thank you for sharing your blog which is an inspiration to all ,I too found people difficult , it was quite easy for me to be with nature and feel connected to the divinity that flows through it , how ever I too realised that same divinity flowed through me and every other person now connecting with people is an on going connection with God, how great is that.
I could feel the real loving beautiful heart of you shining through this article Dianne it was a true blessing to read.
I can so relate to what you share Dianne in that ‘the mind always jumps in based on what we see and on how we’ve been hurt in the past, before we can think or feel anything else’. From what I have observed this is also a thought pattern or ‘mind trap’ that plagues many many others in our present day society. However, I also totally agree with you ‘that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it’. Our hearts lay beneath the mind trap, lays buried below the thought patterns that can rule you if you let them. We all have a responsibility to inspire each other to release ourselves from the mind trap and re-discover our own true connection to our hearts. This was a very inspiring article. Thankyou Dianne.
Dianne – what a beautifull inspiring sharing of your transformation from avoiding being around people to falling in Love with them by first loving yourself truely and deeply.
Me too I went through a period where I experienced feeling too sensitive, was suffering from the hurt I felt everyone to be in and not being able to accept unloving choices of myself and others. As I’ve grown my awareness I understand that it’s only ways to mask the sensitivity everyone has and mask the pain of having closed our hearts and held our Love back.
Now I enjoy meeting people again with the openess and freshness of a child and feeling how everyone lightens and opens up again too when being met with the Love they are is a true blessing.
Thank you Dianne and Sarah, what an amazing transformation, what a blessing we have, to open enough to listen to then live a Livingness as presented by Serge Benhayon.
Yes, it’s truly amazing and a testimony to how much can change by only one person holding strong the Love we all are and come from so that others around can come back to themselves by re-connecting to this reflection of truth. Imagine how much the way we are with each other will change on a bigger scale here on earth when more and more people will be this reflecting points of light again – there’s so much joy to connect to and life becomes a much deeper purpose again.
Thank you Dianne and Sarah, the students of the Livingness share openly the love they are, holding their light for all to see and feel. Yes Serge Benhayon has Inspired the way for many people to share that same connection!
It is so true, when people come into contact with someone who has no judgement of them, they simply meet them for the first time. There is an openness to see who they are underneath anything exterior both emotional and physical, the connection is playful, and deeply felt by both parties.
How lovely to read about your self-loving choices and how you have changed your life, it is truly, and gently inspiring. It feels so amazing when we make different choices of how to be in the world. I was constantly judging others and this in turn was so hard on me and my body, and then I began to let go of judging myself and instead of putting the relentless hardness out into the world I could let myself be the true me – the one that is gentle and loving. This allows others to see the real me and they now feel free to allow me into their lives for as you say ‘everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it’ – I am so glad that I discovered mine!
I too have been caught judging people first, which capped my ability to ever see their beauty. It is a very hard and harsh way to live and it’s not recommended! Thing is, there is another way, I don’t have to be like this.
I loved reading the part when you felt love for the man and his dog first and then saw their pain, as this was exactly the conversation I was having with one of my daughters the night before – she was on the tube and opened her eyes to see that everyone was so very beautiful first and then she saw the exhaustion and frustration on their faces afterwards.
Mm, I agree Julie, I liked that bit too.. it takes it away from seeing only the bad in the world and brings a different perspective to others. Everything is a lot more beautiful when we are open to it.
Sounds like a great conversation to have with my daughter too, to see the beauty first, then the stuff layered on top and ask the question, ‘I wonder why?’ with no judgement, just a curiosity and willingness to understand why people choose what they do. I’d love to have been a teenager with friends like this.
Isn´t it amazing what effect we have we are often not aware of. Thank you for your lovely sharing – I can really feel you in it.
I agree Steffi – the impact we can have on others is huge and the best part is we can all do this independently of anyone else doing anything. .. it simply relies on a commitment to self-care and a commitment to being ourselves… How cool is that?!
Your love and joy can be felt when reading your blog, I feel inspired, thank you.
Diane I also love it when you say…
‘It was like the dawn of a new era for me, a small beginning of the end of judging others, and of truly seeing them as beautiful equals’
What a powerful way to observe others. In equal-ness, the judgment falls away and a deeper understanding takes place.
Thanks Dianne for reminding me of just how powerful it is when we are living with that deep commitment to ourselves and that we all are incredibly sensitive and preceptive beings and so people notice when we change whether they indicate it or not. And that by reflection and presence and example not lecturing or telling people, the world will slowly change as more and more people choose to live in this way.
This is so gorgeous Dianne – it’s really lovely to hear the way your friends and family are noticing the changes in you and have felt inspired to make changes in their life too.
I got goose bumps and tears reading your writing Dianne, Thank you for sharing your transformations and the impact this has had on the world around you. I find this statement particularly powerful “I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make,”. I love it and your glory.
So beautiful to return and re-read this lovely blog – so many gentle reminders are offered – and how simply we can all make a difference to each and every person we meet in our everyday livingness. Thank you Diane.
I loved reading how your commitment to connecting to the love inside you and expressing that in all you do and say, is so deeply appreciated by those around that they confirm back to you the power of the self-loving choices you have made for yourself, and the affect they have on others. So gorgeous.
Dianne, what amazing changes in you and your life. Very inspiring for us to read and to feel how you are in your life today. Beautiful!!
The power of self loving choices is a message that should be expressed everyday to everyone and you are really doing it. Beautiful.
It is so confirming when people that have known you for a long time can’t help notice, and also be inspired, by the way you are living. It’s uplifting simply to be around someone that is still, gentle and self loving. And I love that your mum clocked it too and has made changes in her life – that is awesome.
It is so inspiring to read your story Dianne and also to feel the total shift that you have made in your perspective on the world. I love your example of the man and his dog and it changes any challenging situation that we find ourselves in if we connect to our heart and see the other person for the love that they are and not the outer manifestations either physical or behavioural.
What awesome confirmation you received, all as a result of taking self care and self love deeper. There is joy in every single word Diane, which is testament to how the love you live with now can even be felt reading your blog through the computer screen! Love is palpable even in physical distance and in all the different modes we express in.
I do not know the ‘old’ Dianne, but the new one. I know for a fact that you are a very beautiful human being endowed with amazing qualities that you choose to share with others with generosity. It is beautiful to surrender to our own beauty and see the world through eyes that see beauty first and foremost.
It’s very refreshing reading your words Dianne, they feel expansive, light and joyful. A living testimony that there is a life within life that can be lived if we allow room for it by being in a way that allows the room for it.
Diane I really love your blog. Yesterday at the shops I was very tense drawn into overdoing things and being in drama because of the huge amount of things going on in my life right now. After finally getting sick of myself I just stopped and paused to look at all the wonderful people milling about the car park. By connecting to my heart I then naturally felt the loveliness of every single person around me, and it actually calmed and centred my whole body. It’s very nourishing to feel that love and loveliness in everyone, as our bodies just love truth.
Thank you Melinda for sharing your choice to connect to your heart and thus feel the loveliness of every single person. It is great to be reminded that we have that choice in every single moment of our day.
Thank you Dianne for sharing your experience. When you shared the first time out walking and you felt the love of the other person and their dog first and then everything else came after – the tender awakening was so clear. It has had a powerful affect on me and I am aware now of how I allow the judgement to slip in first before opening to the essence of others around me. This realisation is one of those beautiful miracles that come our way when we are open to receiving them, Thank you.
We are Love. Connecting to this first and foremost is a starting point, that Serge Benhayon presented in my life. But he doesn’t stop there. He also calls out the Truth, wherever it is not lived. What a divine natural process, that I am blessed to be part of.
Very inspired to read how your judgment of people has shifted, and your ability to love people has overtaken. Beautiful.
I love this Dianne. It is so true that the simple yet powerful act of self love can truly change lives, not just our own but others too. As you say ‘ …..examples of how making self-loving choices can shine out and let other people see that they can do it too.’
Wow, Deanne. The unfoldment of you is there for me to feel, so too everyone else. This, I feel, is a huge inspiration to me and lots of others.
A truly Beautiful blog Dianne, I have also experienced that letting people in makes a huge difference in my life.
This is a beautiful sharing of how when we are connected with our love, we have the inner strength to deal with our life’s challenges.
Loved every word Dianne, and could relate to much of what you have shared!
This was a confirming joy to read 😃
“You are putting something different out into the world. Something healing…” What a beautiful confirmation of your loving way of living life. And I can say I am enjoying every presentation of you no matter what the subject is, you really shine and bring a lot of joy!
Very joy-full to read. Our own self-love can shine and help others to see that it is truly possible to live that harmonious way from inside. And I agree to what Alex says above!
This amazing feeling in yourself is even serving others.. such a natural joy…
This is a truly gorgeous blog Dianne. If we were all able to feel that we all were just ‘beings full of love’ first, we would have a lot more understanding in the way we relate to one another. I love how you have expressed how you began ‘to see the real gorgeousness of people beneath their outer appearances and choices, that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it.’ This is such a beautiful and powerful message, one that needs to be shared over and over again. Thank you for sharing your gorgeousness with the world.
Dianne, your unfolding journey is inspiring. I love how you described the new era when you met the man and his dog and felt the love in them and how you felt that love for the trees, houses and stones. Simply by connecting to the magic inside, you could feel it around you.
Your joy of being connected again to yourself, love and others is contagious and just as you say is an inspiration to everyone. And as great as it is for oneself to feel like that it is even more amazing that it actually is not for self. That is a conundrum for my self-centered mind but a simple natural truth for my heart and a wondrous experience every time.
Beautifully said Alex! When we look with our heart we can see through the protections and disguises and meet the real being that is hiding (more or less) inside every human being. And as Dianne so lovingly shares, it is then when we realize that we are all connected.
Dianne, your beautifully expressed blog, really highlights what so many of us are finding now with their own choices to self love and self care, that the ripple effect of those choices and the inspiration that comes from that is revelatory.
Dianne such a beautiful and inspiring blog. It’s so awesome to read how you have opened your heart to yourself first and how you’re now seeing the love flowing out and coming back to you, what a gorgeous rhythm to be in 🙂
Gorgeous blog Dianne, it’s lovely to read how when we open up to life and let people in, how very simple and joyful life becomes.
Thank you Dianne for your beautiful blog and the changes you have made in your life by opening up to people and the love that you are and have for them. I too have shut myself away from people in the past, but now thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I am little by little opening up to my own love and thereby finding my love for people.
Gorgeous article Dianne. I so relate to what you are saying and feel very inspired by the changes that you have made very naturally in your own life. I have also noticed that I am less likely to jump to any conclusion about people, but I still notice how I hold back with certain situations or with certain people. I know that is is for me to look at “what is going on for me that I am doing this?”. The joyful approach that you have in discovering these moments in your life is very precious and something that we can all learn from.
Thank you Dianne for the beauty-full expression in your blog – I felt a real connection understanding and hearing all that you were saying in your words and feel it to be an article I would like to read over and over again – reminding me of the truth of joy held within its’ content. I feel I would like to express my appreciation for your insight-full scientifically based presentations with Serge Benhayon at the Universal Medicine presentations also. I feel I receive another perspective to understanding the simplicity that true life and living can be for us all.
A beautiful reminder of the joy in the world and how that joy is reflected to everyone around you simply but being joyful.
So beautifully expressed Dianne – It is like a weight being lifted off my shoulders when I realised that I did not have to take on other peoples life’s choices. Gently working with my unfoldment and as you said “let other people see that they can do it too” Awesome.
‘And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around.’ Diane what a beautiful blog about developing self loving choices and feeling the difference in how we live in the world.
Thank you Diana, for being a living inspiration, for staying open towards yourself (instead of saying: that is just the way I am) and for the love that emanates from your blog.
Yesterday on my way to giving a workshop I could feel the joy inside me: I can love these people to bits all day long! So freeing to allow all the love I am to simply be and love each and everyone equally.
Wow, this is so beautiful to read Dianne, ‘I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make, a way that increasingly leaves them free to be or do whatever, without feeling myself reacting and wanting to change them,’ this is great for me to read, I still have attachments to people changing and it feels so lovely to read how you have let go of this and how it allows people to be free, thank you, very inspiring words.
Thank you Diane, for showing how the world could work and how we if we open up and don’t judge we can have beautiful relationships with everyone. I can feel it’s about observing, and not letting the first thoughts about a person influence the way you connect with them.
It is beautiful to read how your developing love for yourself has allowed you to open up and let the world in and a great reminder that every single being is love first and foremost.
Great point Carolien, sometimes it is easier to see the problem or the action before seeing the person presented before us, and indeed the love that they are, first and foremost.
So lovely to re-visit your blog Dianne. I was struck by the beautiful comment your friend made. ‘You are putting something different out into the world …. Something healing’ what a beautiful confirmation of the loving choices you are making and that all is felt by all. Everything is everything, nothing is nothing.
Well shared Dianne, you are very inspiring and it’s no wonder you have comments like that being made. It’s amazing that you can be feeling your lovely self while all those problems are going on, I know there are a lot of people, including myself at some stages where it feels like that’s impossible. Clearly, from your experience it is definitely possible for anyone!
Lovely bog Dianne, I also love people and I love to see through the outer shell people put on and see the beauty inside that is always there. Like you I am able to do that because I can see the beauty in myself since I have been working on letting go of all negative thoughts and beliefs I held about myself. I agree how amazing would it be if everyone would be able to live like that!
I absolutely love what you write here Dianne. I have had glimpses of being in love with myself too, although at the time I didn’t realise that was what I was feeling, and the only way to describe it was “being in love with myself and everything”. When I was feeling like that I also didn’t need anyone or anything, I was enough. I have also had a feeling of being “bigger than me”, what an amazing feeling that was, and that it definitely had an affect on others too. And it is like you say, you want everyone to feel it because it is in them too. I can’t always hold onto this feeling but I know it has not gone anywhere, it is still there just waiting for me to re-connect to it. All this is thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine presenting to me the truth of who I am and how to re-connect to the love inside of me, and the more I love myself the more I feel love for others and they feel it too, isn’t that what it’s all about? spreading the love!
I love how you have explained how our minds jump in and judge people, even though we don’t really want to be thinking those things. It really makes sense how you have to love, care and appreciate yourself first to be able to see that in others, and how naturally the judgements stop popping in.
Thank you Diane for presenting how the self-loving choices we make in our life are like the stone we cast into the pond where we can easily see the ripples travel in all directions tenfold times including back to us.
Dianne, well said, ‘No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times’. When things get hard it can be easy to lash out at others but that does not help anyone, as we know ‘everyone has a loving heart’ we just have to allow ourselves to be open and loving with others.
‘everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it. And it’s changed me to know that.’
Me too Dianne, big time. [and I include me in those who need to (and am) re-discovering it]
Lovely blog, I related to how much I felt you are appreciating the ‘blossoming’ that has happened within you and also in your relationships. Appreciation of ourselves and others is such a vital part of not hanging on to old habits and behaviours. I am learning that life can be so much more joyful and loving if I choose to connect with the inner stillness that is eternally available – I am learning to appreciate.
Dianne,
I have had glimpses of this and it feels so true. For me, I know this is the answer to how we can deal differently with each other and all the trouble we are in…
You say “I first felt them as two fellow beings full of love. It was then that I saw their pain and sadness, and last of all, the physical expression of it in the condition of their bodies.”
This is how I want to live; this makes sense to me for how we can live the love that I know we are and by doing so, remind others of the same loving truth.
I love how you express Dianne. It is so refreshing, I feel like I have just had a wash. Thank you.
Wow, Dianne I really loved feeling that wonderful graciousness you now so clearly live with despite whatever difficulties there may be in your life. It’s that joyful simplicity of feeling the love within first before the outer signs that are not that love, I am most impressed by, too. And though Serge Benhayon and his family, along with the whole Universal Medicine team present this consistently, it was something I had connected to long ago and lived quite naturally until I forgot somehow! My self-love did not keep up with the challenges I faced post-2000, and exhaustion and a giving up on life soon followed…..I thank God for the dedication and work of Serge Benhayon which has supported me to return back to a way of living that is truly meaningful. I appreciate how far you have come, Dianne and your story inspires me also.
Great sharing Dianne, and this process is forever deepening, isn’t that even more amazing? Every time I think, Oh I never felt better, more joyful, more love and harmony in my life, it deepens and grows and takes my breath away. I can feel there is more love for yourself, the wonders of science and people when I see how you share about it. I love how you wrote: ‘No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.’ We are all the same and we all simply want love and we desperately need to be offered reflections of how to live that. Thank you for your inspiration.
I really love your blog Dianne, I can feel your ‘gorgeousness’ by reading it – as you say ‘I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around. It’s so gorgeous, I wish everyone on Earth could feel this way!’. It is so magical when we feel these moments of connection to ourselves and how judgement falls away as we truly connect to another. This is the most beautiful way that we can connect – when we connect to anothers essence rather than focussing on the outside of who we, and they are.
Dianne, your words are truly inspiring as anyone that reads them can feel your commitment to being yourself and opening yourself up to others. I used to look to Nature as an escape from the hurts of the world or as a way to come back to feeling calm and centered. What I realize now is how I used nature as a crutch, and instead of escaping into it, all I needed to do was open myself up to people and start taking care of myself more deeply. You definitely showed in this blog how simple it is to begin a consistent life of self-loving actions that then allowed you to see the same love in other people, thus eliminating any need to escape in the first place! I take this blog with me to further my connection with myself and out to the world. Thank you Dianne.
What a great confirmation from those closest to you, I love the phrasing from your friend of “what you are putting out in the world” Dianne. That’s a great way to look at it.
This is inspiring to read how you are with yourself and others now Dianne.
Having seen your presentations it is hard to imagine you as you describe yourself before, not enjoying the company of people as you have such an open way about you now. What a positive change you describe.
I must say Dianne that the love for everything that you express here is truly inspiring!
I love this blog, Dianne. I can relate very much to the protected version of being with others in the past, and then the life-changing shift in being open again to love. Your joy is felt with every word, and the simple changes you made are clearly presented for all to be inspired by.
Dear Diane, I only know you through your presentations on the webcast and you are pure grace. The way you are is infinitely inspiring and healing. With the help of the teachings, courses and workshops offered by Serge Benhayon I, too, can now say that I love EVERYBODY because, as you so beautifully express, there is a loving heart under the hurt they carry. Thank you.
And thank you Dianne for the changes you have made in the way you live and see others. Your gorgeous joy for life shines off the page.
Gorgeous words, thanks Dianne. Especially inspiring that you are seeing these things whilst going through quite intense problems.
I had to come back and read your beautiful blog again Dianne, the title alone is so uplifting, what a lovely day to start my morning….the gorgeousness of it all.
You are such an inspiration Dianne, just by reading your blog I felt the same as the people who are around you. Inspired.
Hello Dianne, I think that it is highly significant that your mother noticed a
real difference in you and decided to adopt changes herself. Such is the
power of Universal Medicine’s teachings.
I too have noticed that through making changes to the way I live, it affects the others around me. This happens without me having to tell anyone what to do or how to be. Your blog Diane and all the comments confirm when we make more self loving choices, everything around us changes too.
So gracefully and lovingly expressed. I have read your blog a few times Dianne and as I do I can feel a real stillness in the tempo of your words. It’s beautiful.
I really loved this blog Dianne – I can so relate to what you have said.
It is awesome to truly feel open and loving, just the other day I shared a smile then a wave of pure connection with a women on the other side of the street, a stranger but not at all, all in one. And then immediately I turned and another women was walking towards me all closed and hard I smiled but didn’t wave – she would have thought I was a nutter, but I noted how in nano second I changed to protect myself from what was coming my way! What a great exposé, it is easy to be open hearted with those that are open but the real stuff is being open and loving when those are not. This is a great article in exploring this Dianne, and I am taking away the fact that it all lies in self loving choices the more you truly love yourself without judgement to the past or choices that may counter to that you can stay open to all. It’s pretty awesome medicine.
Thank you Dianne, as always your expression is wonderfully clear, concise, deeply loving and appreciating. I feel the truth of it throughout and can relate to your experiences on a daily basis, too. Thank you for sharing.
This is truly beautiful, healing and inspirational, Dianne. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I agree Sarah. So healing to read and feel.
Thank you Dianne for sharing how the closer we all get to returning to who we have have always been…it opens up a view of the rest of the world that we had chosen not to see for so many years.
This is a lovely blog Dianne. It’s incredible to hear how making self loving choices has completely turned your attitude to life around, and how others have begun to notice the change and I’m sure have been inspired to try it themselves!
Thank you Dianne, I find it inspiring to read how in all the situations throughout your life you are expressing the truly genuine and very real person that you are.
EVERYONE HAS A LOVING HEART.. I Love your blog Dianne Trussell and your style of writing. I recently saw you presenting and this was the second time and at the end you said was there anything else and I called out – “yes write a book”.
You really have changed and your story here is inspiring. I too have seen great change in my mother since I attend every hospital visit with her and spend quality time supporting her with no hidden agenda. She now reminds me that she no longer bangs the doors when she closes them and she folds her washing gently and her food has changed and going to bed early works!
All this from being the real me – just like you Dianne we are making a difference and as Julie Matson says in her comment ‘I will definitely come back for another read’.
Hello Dianne, your blog is truly inspirational! Made all the more so by you being a scholar and therefore by definition someone who thinks a lot. There is a great lesson here for all of us ‘worriers’, who are constantly concerned about the daily financial challenges etc… I particularly like your opening image of the overweight man and is overweight dog. Isn’t it funny how people often resemble their dogs, as if they are sharing or projecting, their feelings upon their pet?
Hi Dianne, I loved the part when you realised you had not judged the man and his dog first but felt love and then saw the misery. I can recognise how quick the judgement jumps in and even the slightest thought seems bigger these days, whereas in the past I would not have noticed. I will definietly come back for another read. Thank you.
I love how you are claiming and enjoying the beautiful you Dianne, appreciating all that you bring to the world. I have seen your presentations and they are simply amazing, I love to hear you talk and I enjoy your writing, more please you have much to offer us all.
This is true Alison, Dianne has an amazing way of expressing that shows how science of life is all encompassing.
Thank you for your sharing your unfolding journey. It is inspirational to read how a simple action of making self loving choices brings changes for ourself as well as flowing out to, and having an effect on, others. I too have experienced changes once I began applying this simple, though sometimes challenging, principle to life, as presented by Serge Benhayon. I love what you say here “No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.” Thank you, Dianne.
Dianne how lovely to hear how all the trying to solve others’ problems, finding the ‘right’ thing to say and other so called social skills, just melts away when we accept that being who we truly are is the greatest gift we can bring to the world……… and ourselves.
Thanks Dianne. A great observation – “And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around.” Gorgeous.
Thank you Dianne for sharing the gorgeousness of you and impact the changes you have made has had on you and everyone you come into contact with. Truly inspirational.
An inspirational article that shows that ‘love is all we need’.
Thanks Dianne for sharing your experience of unfolding into who you truly are and how you can see that truth in others, just beautiful.
Gorgeous Diane so beautiful to appreciate and celebrate the changes in your life and your relationships. I could acutely feel how these changes reach way beyond self and extend to brotherhood and touch everyone around you. True healing. Thank you.
I love your blog and the simple truthful way you express your evolution. Especially regarding your change from judgement to seeing first their loving heart. Also a great reminder for me, when you say: I can help them not by making choices for them or trying to solve their problems, but by continuing to be the ‘new’ me and sharing simply what I do. And it makes a difference for them too.
It feels lovely that you are claiming all those little but significant changes that bring more love to everyone! Thank you Dianne
Since writing that, the gorgeousness goes on! In the times when I feel most connected to myself, most loving, most still, it’s wonderful to observe how strangers respond. Walking along the beach for example, I’ll meet someone’s eyes, and instead of the abrupt, ‘friendly’ but actually closed ‘G’morning’ that I used to get, now people absolutely GLOW back at me. Their eyes and their smiles are brim-full of the love they feel inside, and the recognition that we are both that, and that we are “all in this together”. No words needed. Even the dogs have changed! Just delicious!
Wouldn’t it be incredible if we could all look past appearances and get to sense what people are really like on the inside first without all the judgements and preconceived ideas. The World would be a much better place if we could see people in the way that Dianne does.
I agree Rachel, it feels lovely when we are able to just accept and simply love others, and how equally awesome it must and does feel to be at that receiving end.
Dianne you are putting something different out into world, that it’s healing in nature goes against the tide of much of humanity…. Worth beatting a drum about for sure. Thank you.
I love how you have shared your journey within – Thank You.
Thank you Dianne for sharing your experience and the changes you and others have noticed through making more self-loving choices.
Dianne I loved reading this, its very inspiring and I too have had those moments where I truly feel love for ALL and it is so amazing I have a long way to go to making those moments a consistent way of living but having touched it want it and commit to doing all those self loving things to assist in that being a reality. I also love your actual examples of what people are noticing about you. Like I said very inspiring.
Imagine a world where everyone saw the love in another first? Instead of judgement there would be inspiration and appreciation. Thank you Dianne for shining.
Dianne your words are beautiful, thank you for sharing your inspiring way with us, you have shared both the simplicity and the love of your choices, very powerfull.
Thank you Dianne, as you say… it is gorgeous. I particularly found myself connecting with how often we stay silent when things are spoken that hurt ourselves or another and by reading and hearing how you now speak up I can see it it is a support for both sides. Thank you.