The Gorgeousness Of It All: Falling In Love With Myself, Others and The World

by Dianne Trussell

My own relationships have increasingly blossomed and deepened as I apply in my life the simple things Serge Benhayon applies in his and shares with others, for the sake of humanity.

I used to keep people at a distance, unaware that I was protecting myself from being hurt. I was nervous, over-sensitive, and had to get away from people just to recuperate my energy. I actually did not like people in general, and very few people seemed to understand me. My own company, and that of animals and plants, made sense and I could rest and feel ‘normal’ when alone with nature.

You know how we tend to judge people at first sight? Well it’s very hard not to, as the mind always jumps in based on what we see and on how we’ve been hurt in the past, before we can think or feel anything else. We really may not want to judge, and may not even be aware of our own ‘faults’ that are noticeable to others.

One day out on my morning walk I realised that something had shifted in me. Along came a man walking his dog. Both were overweight and seemed very miserable and closed, not wanting to interact with anyone in the street. However, that’s not what I perceived first. To my joy, I first felt them as two fellow beings full of love. It was then that I saw their pain and sadness, and last of all, the physical expression of it in the condition of their bodies. It was like the dawn of a new era for me, a small beginning of the end of judging others, and of truly seeing them as beautiful equals. I felt in love with everything as I walked: the people, the trees, the houses, even the stones of the road. And I knew it was the love in me that enables me to see love all around. It’s so gorgeous, I wish everyone on Earth could feel this way!

People may say, oh yeah but if you have problems you can’t feel like that. However I’m going through lots of quite intense problems in my life: loss of job and business income, debt, having to move house repeatedly, nearly three years of illness, the deaths of friends, serious illness in my family – many people might believe it impossible to feel joyful and loving in these circumstances. And yet I do. And much less worried or frustrated than I’ve ever been before, even when the problems were smaller. I often don’t manage to hold my connection to the love inside me, but I’m making progress and others see it.

People who are also struggling with overwhelming challenges want to know how come I’m sailing joyfully through mine, because everything else they’ve tried is not helping and they are on the brink of nervous breakdown, bankruptcy, suicide, whatever. And in that way, I can help them not by making choices for them or trying to solve their problems, but by continuing to be the ‘new’ me and sharing simply what I do. And it makes a difference for them too.

I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make, a way that increasingly leaves them free to be or do whatever, without feeling myself reacting and wanting to change them. I can spend lovely time with them in which we can open to each other and feel loved, trusted and supported. I can love and hug and hang out with my ex-partners without any ‘stuff’ in the way, without attachment, sexual undertones, reservations, or disrespect to their current partners. I can even strike up a friendly, open conversation with a total stranger, which is something I was never able to do. I’m beginning to see the real gorgeousness of people beneath their outer appearances and choices, that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it. And it’s changed me to know that.

Before, if people were being disrespectful or abusive towards me I would suffer in silence, afraid to say anything for fear of creating more conflict, but now I will speak up and say clearly how I am feeling, without anger, resentment or fear. I will no longer knowingly allow harm to myself from other people’s unhealthy behaviour and choices. Not only is this healthier for me, it gives them my honesty, which they can use to look at themselves if they so choose. Without being ‘called on their stuff’ and hearing the truth, they will go on hurting themselves and others and that’s not good for them either. I was ‘called on my stuff’ and although it can be very uncomfortable and never-ending, it’s worth it to see and feel and know the truth. No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.

Critics could say this is all in my head, but even though I have a long way to go in my unfolding, I consistently receive feedback from people saying that I’ve changed in lovely ways: that I am calm, present, gentle, have a quiet authority that people listen to, that whatever it is, they want it too, that what I’m sharing is very timely, that it helped them get on a new track and see things in a new more positive and more responsible way, and so on.

For example, Mum had not seen me for nine months and I went interstate to care for her after major surgery. Unsolicited she said one day: “There’s something different about you. There’s a calmness, grace and gentleness to all your movements. What have you been doing, how is that happening?” And now she too has begun to make self-loving choices in her food, exercise, sleep, housework and relating. My housemate said yesterday: “I can see you’re doing really well, your commitment to yourself is working. You are so quiet, calm and gentle. You’re a great example for me to have around.” And my close friend of 40 years’ duration, said to me: “You are putting something different out into the world. Something healing…”

I share these things not to ‘beat my own drum’ but to give you examples of how making self-loving choices can shine out and let other people see that they can do it too. This is a central message of what Serge Benhayon presents, and I now have ample personal experience of it in action in my own life. I would never want to go back to the way I was. Thanks Serge, and thanks also to your wonderful family for being such shining examples of what you present!

296 thoughts on “The Gorgeousness Of It All: Falling In Love With Myself, Others and The World

  1. I’m so inspired by reading this to be self-loving so that I too can walk down the street and notice love first and lovingly understand choices that may manifest themselves in another’s appearance. And all this whilst much outer turmoil takes place. Really highlights how false my thinking is when I’m saying to myself life will be better when…. Actually life is amazing now!

    1. Me too Karin. I love the way Dianne dispels any idea that the way she feels is dependant on outside factors. It shows we can all live the love she writes about here if we choose to.

  2. Truly beautiful to read, there is a deep sense of unity when we are in connection with ourself and the unconditional love that we have deep within for everyone, it is a choice we all can make.

  3. When we make self loving choices and truly nurture ourselves, we all put something different out into the world, and I have realised that these reflections can be so much more powerful than words….

  4. Once we realise the level of protection we have, and that others feel it too, we realise we are creating our own prison and confirming to others the need to build their own fortress. I too am learning how to make the simple choices that help us to open up and truly let people in, and in that see everyone for who they truly are.

    1. Yes, the fortresses we build around ourselves is the greatest fortress of them all! It is only when someone points this out that you can start to see the obvious – when we protect ourselves from being hurt, we set ourselves us to be more hurt because we close off to any love that could be right there. We simply confirm that we all need fortresses!

  5. It’s true – ‘no-one really wants to be hurtful to others’ – if we learn to stop and actually read what is going on in a situation, then we allow the possiblility of deeper understanding and instead of going into reaction we can allow the space for greater awareness to know what is at play.

  6. Beautiful Dianne – thank you. The words ‘new me’ really grabbed me in this blog. I can really feel how we can all make different choices and be the ‘new me’ too, every day. I have found starting each new day afresh a great help in doing this. It doesn’t always last the whole day – but then, when I catch myself – I can start again in that moment. So, like you, it is a work in progress, but a much more joy-full one than it once was.

  7. And thank-you Dianne, for being such a shining inspiration yourself. Every change in your relationships, and awareness of how you now perceive and feel others to be – i.e. the truth of their own hearts, first – is absolute gold.
    The world deserves to know of such transformations – for not a single one is any ‘small thing’, not at all.

  8. These words are deeply touching Dianne: “You are putting something different out into the world.”
    That this has been felt by another, is a mark of another transformation already in process – and so we all have the capacity to inspire and return to such an innately connected, beautiful and true relationship with ourselves, God and the all. Love your sharings here, thank-you.

  9. Thanks Dianne – One thing I feel we are not talking about much is the difference in being emotional in Life and living Life feeling things and relating that way. To me there is a huge difference where being caught up in the business of Life is very draining but if we come back to a Place within ourselves we can see things in a very different light and look with clarity in our Eyes.

  10. The power of reflection is undeniable and a blessing to those who become inspired from your way of being and from seeing there is another to move through life.

  11. That was a gorgeous moment to capture Dianne, when you realised that you had let go of your protection and could feel the essences of others rather than just seeing the misery the eyes were picking up. Suddenly you were alive and living as opposed to existing.

  12. ‘I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make, a way that increasingly leaves them free to be or do whatever, without feeling myself reacting and wanting to change them’ Oh dear, I got the reflection recently that I am still trying to change people, (however small that may be, it can be subtle) which feels yucky actually, and is such an old pattern of mine and also distracts me from the protection and the hardness in my body that is there for me to heal and clear. I have enough to do working on myself……let alone trying to change others!

  13. It is in feeling exposed that we grow in self love, seeing in what we hurt ourselves brings an honesty and a responsibility to change it.

  14. Thank you for the shining example you present Dianne. Your joyful quality can be felt in every word here. “I’m beginning to see the real gorgeousness of people beneath their outer appearances and choices, that everyone has a loving heart and just needs to re-discover it. And it’s changed me to know that.” I loved this line because it is something I have experienced too. I appreciate being reminded that I see people including myself in a whole new way as a result of the presentations provided by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

  15. We are each divine deep at the core of our being. This divinity is the fiery spark of our true self, our Soul. Yet the way we live here on Earth is so far from the expression of this Godly love and light and instead we live shrouded in misery and division, seemingly unable to access this wisdom that comes from knowing our true origins. In order to arise out of such self-imposed wretchedness our task here is simply to see God first before we see anything else. That is, we must re-learn how to see the essence of who we each truly are and then read all that stands in the way of the expression of this. This is the key to a truly joyful life despite the circumstances we are in.

  16. It is very true how we go through life protecting ourselves because we don’t want to get hurt. Although I have come a long way to feel confident (most of the time) in the company of people I still find myself in protection at times as I can feel the holding back and contraction in my body but observing myself when I feel hurt and react is helping me to let go and make changes so that I can be true to myself.

  17. Yes indeed, “No-one REALLY wants to be hurtful to others. We all need honesty and truth in order to grow, even if it’s confronting at times.” I have found that honesty to be more loving than playing to pictures and not saying when a behaviour is repetitively abusive to self or to others. The way we speak is a prime example. Just taking a day to listen to the way we speak to ourselves is an eye opener and certainly inspired me to be kinder. The on-flow effect on the way I spoke to others was an education I will never forget.

  18. Your experience shows the possibility of the fact that we all recognise the reflection of something that is true and so if we live to the best of our ability the truth of ourselves, it allows another by that reflection to sense the resonance of that same truth in themselves.

  19. Dianne you have really shown in your blog that your loving relationship with yourself, and knowing that you yourself are love in essence, has been the foundation for knowing all others the same way. Very inspiring.

  20. It is the realness as a result of making choices and living them to the best of one´s ability that is reliable and something people can relate to, make their own mind and be inspired by if they so choose. That´s the way we can change our own life for the better and thus the world for and with everyone in full respect of free will.

  21. We have a choice how we approach and experience life. The same circumstances can be felt and seen very different depending on how I relate to myself and the people and events involved. And herein lays the potential to change the way we live and how as a consequence things unfold. We are more powerful than we might think.

  22. Do we read life backward or forward, ie. do we see first the reduced version of a person, ourselves included, and then try to find the ‘heart of gold’ amid the repelling behaviour or do we first know and see the gold in each other and therefore can recognize what is not of one´s true making but a mere shell of hurts, protections and behaviours?

  23. This gives me goosebumps “There’s a calmness, grace and gentleness to all your movements. What have you been doing, how is that happening?” And now she too has begun to make self-loving choices in her food, exercise, sleep, housework and relating. ” this is what true love and The Way of The Livingness is all about for me – it’s not about words, or telling people what to do – it is about how you live.That is what makes the true difference – much more than we can fathom at this moment in time and see.

  24. It was interesting to read about how others have noticed the change in you Dianne. It confirms how sensitive we all are and can detect when things are different. What a turnaround you have made in your relationships. Its very inspiring to read, and I could sense the joy when you shared about the encounter with the man and his dog. You definitely have a greater level of understanding for yourself and others.

  25. So often we search for the right words to say, but there is so much power in observing the actions of others and how they choose to live. When they speak their words are a confirmation of how they are living. Another typical scenario is when you get someone who says the right things, but does not actually practice what they preach. I know I have done that many a time. Then there is a mismatch and that can be felt.

  26. You certainly are a shining example Diane for everyone to be inspired by – it is beautiful to feel the flow on effect your loving choices has had on others around you.

  27. Falling in love with ourselves is the best medicine we can have, It is never too late to start and the results are miraculous, as shown by your blog Dianne, People notice something different, something that feels real and tangible that offers a reflection for others to follow. We can never underestimate the power of true love and it is this that will turn our world around and bring the necessary changes.

  28. I can relate with having used to keep people at a distance, thinking I was protecting myself from being hurt, I am now learning to open up and let people in and so see them in their truth.

  29. How very gorgeous Dianne that you have fallen in love with yourself; what you have shared here is inspirational, thank you.

  30. Shine like you do, isn’t that the message we can have for all of us. I mean I know there is life’s constant pressures and upsets but what if, as this article presents you acknowledge all that but equally hold who you are and don’t let that dominate. I mean life can’t be only a one way street, everything has a balance to it. This article allows us to let go of perfection, needing to do or being the same and allows us to speak freely on what we are seeing. As I’ve said we can’t just allow things to run down the same road, there is more to life then that. What if we can have anything and everything go on in our life and yet hold ourselves still to who we truly are? This alone would make a huge difference to not only your situation but to everything around you, this article is testament to that.

  31. I have always liked people but I was similar to you Dianne, feeling unsafe, not enough and exhausted from all the anxiousness and trying to be something I am not to please others. The key to being with people is to feel the love you are first and to feel the love everyone else is equally. We need to meet people seeing their divine, superhero underpants under the exterior clothing. Having love in your body and heart gives you this X-ray vision.

  32. We feel immense joy when the deep unsettlement that we have lived with for so long is starting to be re-corrected, which is why calamities seem to happen but yet we still feel a deep deep joy.

  33. The day we meet someone who is closely reflecting to us as well as calling out stuff for us, and that we can closely and intimately do the same for them, is the day the heavens have confirmed well done for being love, so love will be reflected back. And this love is an unending deepening, which is is forever a deepening of love within and between us.

  34. It is so important to put something different out in the world, a way of life that is geared to resurrect ourselves to the godliness we are from. To live from this perspective, this source of life, is a beautiful way to live and as you shared Dianne, it is not only for our own benefit but also to share with the many people we meet on a daily basis and to give them the possibility for another perspective in life..

  35. Lovely what you share, when we can see past the misery and protection that is so obvious not he surface of life and feel the quality within another being. I enjoy this about my job and life, feeling the quality within another and myself, not just what we see.

  36. Thank you for sharing Dianne this is amazing. We often focus on the negatives of life rather than the big picture and miracles that happen every day, and so gorgeous to hear how you’ve been lighting the way for others to do this and not contract away into their doubts.

  37. What a gift it is to see in someone what they cannot see themselves. I have had this happen to me and it has changed everything about my life.

  38. What a gift it is to be able to see the divinity in another even if they can’t see it in themselves. it has changed my life, and how I see myself.

  39. There are pop songs about the world needing love. Dianne, your article demonstrates the truth of this proposition, and why and how love works as an agent for change… of the most positive and active kind.

  40. Diane that was an awesome example of how we can support each other by being the change for all to see and feel. It’s our living way that creates the movement for others to deepen in their own lives.

  41. Dianne, what a great sharing of how simple loving choices can make all the difference. And I love the approach you take meeting others, seeing the love within first and then see all that is around, it turns any judgements we may have on our heads, as we get to experience and feel that we are all one and the same underneath love.

  42. “It was like the dawn of a new era for me, a small beginning of the end of judging others, and of truly seeing them as beautiful equals.” It is indeed like ‘the dawn of a new era’ when the critical gaze fades and the heart starts to beat the drums and leads us through our life. It is so worth investing in ourselves with tender care and love as this love we feel in and for ourselves will embrace everybody else and lets us start seeing with our hearts again.

  43. It is so true Dianne, if we don’t connect and feel the love within ourselves first, we will not see it in truth in others. But when we do, it turns the world upside down, in a true sense.

  44. It’s true it’s how you live, not about beating your drum, preaching and telling. Words mean nothing through a body that doesn’t live the truth.

  45. Yes Dianne, it is so important to be love and feel this for self first, otherwise we get caught in old patterns of wanting to please others, not feeling enough and the anxiousness that goes with this.

    1. Wanting to please others is a trap I fell into for most of my life. It prevents one from expressing their truth and therefore from really living the life that is there to be lived.

  46. A great line Dianne, “I now find that I can love my family, ex-partners, friends and workmates in a new way beyond all the personal choices they and I make”. It’s a great distinction to make, that we are not our choices or behaviours, that we are all equal in essence and that essence is love. Whether we live it or not love is who we are.

  47. It is very difficult if not impossible to gain a true understanding of the world whilst one remains protected in any way shape or form, for that protection will always affect the way you perceive life.

    1. So true Adam, it is like seeing the world through filtered lens and fooling ourselves into thinking that what we see is the only reality and the whole truth when it not. The only form of true visibility in all of the miasma is the honesty and eventually the whole hearted truth our bodies constantly inform us with. Some may say this is about being healthy and looking after it, but then again what does it mean to be ‘healthy’ these days. We have more diets than we do true answers, more food fads than clothing trends and all claiming to be the ‘one’ and true solution for our needs. The fact is ALL of these come from our minds reacting to the world and thinking, yes thinking, we need to eat this or that because of our gut feeling of hunger or craving. If we truly are still in ourselves and our body and feel from observation of what we see first, one will see that often the hunger or rather craving in most cases is not the truth of the body at all, but rather a reaction to what we have felt which gives us a urge to seek something we know will numb and dull our awareness of it.

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