Love Does Not Impose

by Nicola Lessing, Tweed, NSW, Australia

One of the things I have been learning over the last years is the magic of not imposing.

Many people talk about their experience of first meeting Serge Benhayon and how transformational that was. They express how they re-connected to themselves, and talk about the love that Serge is.

It struck me that in reading all of these blogs, someone who had not met Serge might imagine that he has some sort of imposing presence.

Strangely enough, the opposite is the case. Serge Benhayon is the one person who can walk up right behind me and I do not feel him coming. If you saw him in a room full of people or in a supermarket, he looks like an ordinary bloke.

At events he is often the person filling up the water containers, picking up rubbish, putting out the chairs – doing whatever is needed.

In fact, it is the very absence of any imposing energy that is so extraordinary. Normally, we all impose on each other whether we realise it or not. We usually want something from another person, or even ourselves; whether it be a response, recognition, for them or us to ‘get it’ or behave in a different way, or whatever.

None of these things come into play with Serge.

159 thoughts on “Love Does Not Impose

  1. It’s such a great reminder of how we impose. It comes in so many ways we see as normal such as expectations, disappointments, wanting or needing things, placing people into our pictures… the list could go on and on. We don’t have much of a connection to the stillness within ourselves so the noise of how life ‘should be’ intrudes, and in that we don’t truly love and appreciate each other for who we are because we are so busy imposing on each other to be how we want. We have lost that richness of adoring each other simply for being who we are.

  2. Serge Benhayon is just this
    “If you saw him in a room full of people or in a supermarket, he looks like an ordinary bloke.”
    He is so ordinary you would just pass him by without a glance, but ask him anything, any question and he knows the answer and that is what is so extraordinary about him. Serge Benhayon is living a model of life that is able to tap into a form of intelligence that is so different from the rehashed, regurgitated so called intelligence we know, we look up to the world of academia but they are all relying on someone else’s knowledge and who’s to say its the truth? For example I was listening to someone talk about the so called philosophers and quite frankly I was astounded that their ideas had not only been published but were being used as foundational work on Philosophy? We have allowed this to happen because we have not discerned the energy the books were written in. If we discern energy we cannot be fooled because we can feel the lie.

  3. “Normally, we all impose on each other whether we realise it or not. We usually want something from another person, or even ourselves; whether it be a response, recognition, for them or us to ‘get it’ or behave in a different way, or whatever.” What a powerful statement about the ways we impose, even if it is subtle it still has an effect. Ultimately by being fully ourselves, our love, harmony and stillness, we can be with others without imposing on them. We don’t need anything from another when we are the everything the soul is.

  4. Yes, many people impose on another without being consciously aware that that is what they are doing, ‘we all impose on each other whether we realise it or not. We usually want something from another person, or even ourselves; whether it be a response, recognition, for them or us to ‘get it’ or behave in a different way, or whatever.’

  5. “we all impose on each other whether we realise it or not.” I’ve really noticed this more and more from having had the experience of zero imposition from Serge Benhayon and now others. It starts to become visible when there is a contrast to observe.

  6. Amazing Nicola, beautifully shared, and may I add that when we are allowing of our-selves to deepen their is a Deep-Humble-Appreciate-Ness of the Life we can all share as a Living-ness of our essences. As our reflection is the greatest form of communication.

    1. I agree with you Greg when you say that our reflection is the greatest form of communication.
      I often have people I know say to me I don’t know what it is that you are doing but whatever it is keep doing it. Or, because of you I feel I can make changes in my life that are more self caring. The secret ingredient if there is one is to love and deeply respect myself and that is what people can feel the depth of care I now have for myself that having let go of my self abusive ways. If I can do it anyone can.

  7. I was once asked if Serge has a lot of charisma. The question was a little loaded to be honest – but rather than respond as I was ‘expected to’, I felt the truth of the matter. ‘No, he doesn’t’ I said. And that is true. Serge does not use charisma to persuade anyone of anything. He offers those who are willing to hear him, his understanding of what is true. But there is absolutely no imposition, no attempt to convince or persuade. Whether what he says is accepted or not, is entirely the choice of the listener.

    1. So True Richard, the deep humble-ness that is simply felt by everyone Serge Benhayon meets and this is an amazing power that will be understood one day for the Truth of what reflecting Love is!!

  8. I love the fact that we can just do whatever is needed. Mind you, this is not something being accepted in life. Life is all about recognition—if you are this level or role you can or cannot do certain things…it is really quite absurd. It is like as are asked to not be ourselves because of who the world thinks we are, so the world can be more comfortable and not evolve. If someone appears out of the norm—such as Serge or a mother who doesn’t impose, a teacher who doesn’t dump his/her emotions on the students, someone who can accept and not judge etc, these people stand out and reacted against when we do not feel and appreciate what the absolute gold they are reflecting for us on offer.

    1. I am realising that when we react, we generally react to the images we have created in our heads rather than what is truly before us. if we knew the truth of who or what is before us there is nothing to react to.

      1. I agree Richard it as though we are giving ourselves permission to be children again. As children we can feel everything it is as natural as breathing. I was observing a baby as someone walked up to it and the baby waved its arm as though to push the person away but they didn’t take any notice and went right up into the babies space which I felt was very imposing as it was clear that the baby had put it’s arm out to ward off the energy that was approaching. Babies feel energy first as they grow up this ability is crushed by a society that has based it self on the physicality of life before energy. If we went back to feeling energy as we all can then we would not allow our selves to be fooled by the niceties of society.

  9. Love-holds-us all as equals and does set boundaries with the understanding that Loving discipline with an awareness that the ramifications or consequences of not living with the Love that is our-essence.

  10. Serge’s love is a beholding love, one that holds us in equalness with not one once of any imposition whatever, we are held by love and in the love we truly are and come from.

  11. We come to see that love is lived in our body and that first and foremost it comes from our movements. We can feel that it is never in the way we look or make ourselves to be.. As we can be oh so normal, but truly living an absolute gloriously love filled life. Based on movement, not any outer appearance. That to me is the greatest joy — alchemy, a movement that is way more grand than our eyes can see or clock.

  12. In allowing another to be in the space of where they are in life is an honouring of the flow of the universe.

    1. I’ve learned that sometimes people can see this as uncaring as it’s so common to impose on another and not let them feel the space they are in. But being allowed the space to feel the space (pun intended) this is one of the greatest ways to heal.

  13. I’ve often watched Serge Benhayon and have observed his quiet unassuming way in the way he moves. He does not need acceptance or recognition which is what many of us look for as he knows to the very particles of his body who he is.

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