286 thoughts on “The Dangling Carrots”

1. Raegan, here’s another “dangling carrot” for me, “I will start to enjoy myself at work when I know more”. Boy does that play out constantly when working in systems, a constant set up to make you feel this way. Or when someone knows more/better, they are placed on a pedestal and there’s this force/energy that plays out in bettering people. Whilst people are the ones in supporting that system or their goals, it’s how it is done that matters.

   I observe constantly the abuse in systems at the same time the accolades that run besides each other. So when this “dangling carrot” is offered, people seldom run towards them as they can see they aren’t meaningful.

   When we know the truth behind these things, we receive life very much differently.

2. I can recall growing up on making unachievable goals and never getting there and to this day, people are still encouraged to write goals that are acronym’d as being smart, achievable, realistic and what ever words that are fancy and attractive. Achieving goals seems like hard work.

   What if we could live our lives not knowing what the next brings? What if we could live our lives and we are equipped with the next, it is unfathomable or hard to comprehend.

   This is how life can be lived if we are willing to go there, by removing the tick list, the goals, just live by how the body signals to us and feeling what is required next. Wouldn’t life be simpler then?

   1. We are bought up to reach goals or milestones. As a baby grows, it has milestones to reach, and when it doesn’t, it’s referred to specialists because there’s something wrong with it. What if we allowed a baby to reach its own milestones instead of a system’s and with the right loving support, it will do what it needs to do.

      There’s more to life we need to learn about and it’s certainly not found in goals…

3. Lovely to hear where you are whilst writing this blog, ‘I have actually learnt to stop, feel, and express in a loving and joyful way. I do this by connecting with me first, listening to me first, and expressing from there. I have found a voice, a voice that is so loving and gentle, yet strong and empowered.’

4. I can so relate to the carrots and also how when I stop, connect and feel my way through life the carrots aren’t as tempting because the clarity that comes with feeling my way through life already brings me assurance. I don’t have to reach an endpoint to feel content, I can feel that on the way.

5. Motivation and drive is celebrated in our current society and world – achieving goals and setting new ones constantly is the game that keeps us super busy. But this is not the same as having a purpose – a purpose that the activity that you do naturally carries with it, regardless of the outcome. Motivation and purpose are two completely different things where the former relies upon goals and external pushes and drives and the latter comes from within and has no drive and no push but simply a backing and a knowing that there is a deeper purpose and outplay to all that unfolds. How magical is this difference?

   1. I feel tired, complicated and selfish when I read the words ‘motivated’ and ‘drive’. Now ‘purpose’ has a different feel to it. It’s not about you or me, it’s about everyone and everybody, now that feels settling.

6. The dangling carrot, or the goals that we constantly put upon ourselves is a common theme that I feel most of us can relate to. It is the list of do’s and don’ts as well as the things we are distracted to chase so as not to feel what is happening in the moment. Learning to ignore the carrots and letting go of the self impositions as well as societal impositions is a process but well worth going through, for as Raegan has shared, there is much to uncover underneath that drive to strive that is part of this voice calling out for us to listen and heed.

7. Learning to listen to that inner voice is not selfish, but rather self-full and cares for self and others equally so.

8. We pursue all these things outside to try and fix ourselves, ‘I was forever looking for solutions to ‘fix’ myself – naturopaths, homeopaths, acupuncturists, chiropractors, psychics: you name it, I went to it, always looking for someone to give me answers.’ None of these solutions work, they are just like a band aid.

9. Receiving a bucket list or a wish list can never be in our true interest as when we re-connect to our essences we have so much and more of anything that could come from a projected list.

10. And the message we get from the world is that having carrots dangling is about having a purpose, being ambitious and something to aspire to, and it is rather deeply ingrained in us, I find. The carrots these days can come in completely different shapes and colours.

11. When we first start to stop, like in any detox, the things that present themselves and how we feel in our body can be quite uncomfortable, the important part is to not despise it nor not wanting to feel it but to observe and allow ourselves to feel what is there and particularly the underlying truth that we know. Our body will do the rest for us.

    1. Esther I love how you have compared this to a detox – this is so true because when we first stop drinking or smoking for example, we can often feel worse afterwards because all the underlying toxins are finally allowed to come out and be released. So it is too with cutting out or back on the goals and drive, as it then exposes the unrest that lies within – and so it is easy to fall back to old habits to not have to feel what we have felt.

12. Reading through your blog again today I can feel more clearly the difference between the ongoing chase of the dangling carrots (which is so often promoted by that terrible self degrading thinking), and the purpose of each day just being about self love and self care. It’s such a different approach. The first degrades our self worth further, and the second self loving approach builds our self worth.

13. I find with the dangling carrots that when you do reach them there is no feeling of completion. You are instantly back chasing a carrot again. Perhaps this is why we put off or set unachievable goals so we don’t expose for ourselves that the carrots we chase are not the answers in life.

    1. Spot on Fiona, there is never a point of completion – the goal posts keep moving all the time and there is never a point of rest. This is exactly set up so that we do not stop and rest. For if we were to stop and rest this is when we would feel how the body felt and we would then have the choice to make a change.

    2. Yes Fiona L, its a bit like a hamster on a wheel going round and round…

14. Accepting where we are and appreciating what we have has a settling effect on our bodies and is felt by everyone we meet.

    1. So True Kehinde, our appreciation of what their is on offer when we see the connection of another and all they bring has a ripple effect on everyone.

15. Oh, how many must do’s and should do’s are part of our everyday language? It is only when you bring a focus to hearing them that you get a glimpse of dangling carrots being our normal.

16. We keep pursuing what we think we need next but are being blind to what we have and most importantly what we bring in any move that we do simply by being who we are.

17. When you link an outcome from an action without reading your current movements (those that will bring you there), hence assessing whether they will deliver what you expect, most likely you will not get what you expect to. A future outcome must be linked to your current pattern of movement.

18. To live deeply connected to our bodies, to listen to and honour what they present to us, that is living wisdom and is life changing, for without that connection how can we be who we are in the world.

    1. true yet if we don’t have a concept of who we are any more because we have lived the need and the dangling carrots for so long, we don’t actually clock we are not ourselves. That is where the reflection from others, wherever it comes from, is a gentle call home.

       1. Absolutely Lucy once re-connected as our reflection is our greatest from of communication and thus allowing us to see straight through any put-on job to sway us away from that deep connection to our essences.

19. When I realised I could go at my own rhythm in life rather than dance to the worlds tune it was a big life changing moment too.

    1. Yes and that one is felt in all of your movements thereafter.

    2. Yes Andrew, and there’s a deeply felt self honouring that comes with this. To be in the world and not of the world certainly changes our quality of life.

20. I like the picture of the dangling carrot, it shows how much we go by ‘what is next’ in the sense of ‘what is my next goal’, thus always pursuing something to feel complete but never feeling settled within ourselves.

    1. Chasing after achievements and focusing on something outside of ourselves perpetuates the cycle of living disconnected to ourselves, and being unaware of the beauty within.

21. Those voices I realised loved nothing about me, they were like my biggest enemy and were the least supportive thing in my life. I could very much relate to this, “Living like this meant I wasn’t able to really connect with myself, let alone others around me.”, living in drive, comparison, self-abuse and self-hatred already seperates us from our essence so connecting with others truly was near impossible. This is an awesome practical blog that clearly shows we can choose anytime to re-connect and stop the merry-go-round.

22. Revisiting this today I can remember all the ‘I just have to’ the ‘I just need to’ and the ‘I have just got to’ conversations I have had with myself for how I am going to stop feeling anxious. I don’t do it so much any more because my body loves me so much it will not tolerate it but, goodness me, the memory is still raw and the potential to slip back still there.

23. It’s a bit scary how those nagging voices in our head drive us on and on, must do this, got to do that before we tell ourselves that we can settle. The particular bit it draws my attention to is that the voice never lets you get there.. always something else to do on top of that, and so we can never actually settle. However the absolute opposite is the true way – to settle first and then step into the doing. It changes everything both how it feels and the quality it’s done in.

    1. You have reminded me to not fight the settlement, because if I do I have not completely clocked the deep layer of drive that has become normal. If I embrace the settle first then everything I commit to from that place will have a deeper quality.

24. Whenever I catch myself leaping forward in time or to the destination on long car journeys, I bring myself back to the present and me. Telling my self ‘I’m here, not there yet ” keeps me present in the here and now and quietens anxiety.

25. The allure of the dangling carrot is not so tempting once you have had a taste of living from the essence within you.

26. Elizabeth, that is quite an art and very well done!

27. Carrots are great when we want to keep busy or when we want to induce a particular emotion in us and, above all, they give us identification, but they are so much less than love or truth.

28. I have had the same realisation that when the negative thoughts come back it’s simply because I’ve disconnected from the essence of me in my inner heart. Living with those negative voices is truly awful, so self destructive, whereas the connection to my soul through my inner heart offers a beautiful stillness and joy, and a feeling of being held in my own love.

29. Those voices in our head can make us do all sorts of things at the expense of our bodies… The voice in my head was always telling me I was not good enough, which meant I was always searching out there in the new agey stuff for courses that would improve my life -which never happened. When I met Serge Benhayon, I stopped the searching, as I felt everything he presented I already knew but was just not living yet. With more awareness I made the shift from living out of my head to being in my body and listening to all it had to tell me. My life these days is very spacious and very simple, and I have so much more time to give to myself.

    1. We really have to question why any organism would try to harm or destroy itself by its very own thinking – the only explanation I have ever come across that makes sense is the difference between spirit and soul, and what the source of the energy of each of these represents.

       1. Yes, stopping and asking where those thoughts come from and considering the possibility there is something at play that we have not given enough credence to is worth putting on the table when so much else is failing to explain it.

30. One of the biggest ‘carrots’ I have used is the elusive completion of the to do list.. i.e. If I can just get everything done, then I’ll be able to relax and have enough space to do other things. It’s such an illusion that keeps us on the treadmill of relentless doing, and maintaining the momentum of over-activity followed by exhaustion, and then over-activity again to catch up. Breaking this cycle is possible when we’re prepared to get real and honest and listen to our bodies, and live according to what they tell us, feeling what’s needed in each moment instead of blindly and rigidly following our to do list.

    1. Our ‘to do’ list varies and can be broken into tasks that are conscious and subconscious. We have the conscious ones that we write down but then there are the subconscious ones that we don’t always realise are there but cause constant tension as our body registers them. These ones are like, I must be married by this age, have children by then, have a successful career by this time, have explored the world by the time I die etc and etc. As you say honesty is key to drawing these out and letting them go.

31. Yes, those dangling carrots create a great deal of anxiety and nervous tension in our bodies which totally overrides whatever our body may be trying to reveal to us. However there are only so many dangling carrots our bodies will put up with before it shows us loud and clear that chasing them will no longer work!

32. This was gorgeous to read Raegan how you have let go of the dangling carrots and learned to listen to your own inner voice that has your best interests at heart. Listening to our body takes some time and practice but the more we do it, the better we feel and the easier life seems to flow. The carrots seem to fall away or become less important as we build practical self care and self love into the everyday foundation of our lives.

    1. Carrots become less appetising when we are already satisfied with what we already have within us.

33. One of the most amazing things that Universal Medicine has shown me is that there is a big difference between the messages that come from my mind and the messages that come from my heart. They have a completely different intention and quality and very different outcome in terms of my health and wellbeing.

34. I was struck by the way you describe how noisy those voices are when you decide to not drown out or deaden the way you are feeling. I know them well, the disquiet, uncomfortable reflections of what is actually going on and the choice that is just there to just eat that food, or drink, or check out and anaesthatise the feeling away. However, when we stick with the feeling, it tells us the truth, it teaches us and guides us to a healing and a truth – and the other side…. more love, and a relationship with God!

35. Walking after dangling carrots is the best guarantee of living a life in outward mood and finding alibis permanently not to connect inwardly.

36. The lure of dangling carrots can come at us from all angles of our life and can be both unrelenting and very very enticing but nonetheless just and you shared Raegan they will always leave us dangling, dissatisfied and craving more.

37. A timely read for me. Dangling carrots have been featuring quite a bit in my life, particularly the one ‘I just need some time off to rest and get myself together’. Great to be reminded of the abusiveness and irresponsibility of them.

38. We like to make our problem important and complicated and big, but the answer is often very simple and practical and everyday ordinary.

    1. So true Fumiyo, it is our head that likes to create all the drama and complication, which produces lots of emotions which are exhausting…. we each have all the answers within, and can access this wisdom or guidance by being present in our bodies, and honouring all they communicate.

39. I love this, all the dangling carrots that promise us something in our head when we achieve them, yet the truth is that every dangling carrot takes us further away from our true connection, the more we work on ourselves the more we realise that everything comes from within, and there is no need for dangling carrots, because we already have everything.

40. What’s great about this Blog is that it shows that it is not just about stopping those obvious self abusive behaviours that damage our health but about digging deeper as to why those behaviours are there in the first place. What are they covering up underneath?

41. The dangling carrots feel like all the must do’s and should do’s of life, everyone else’s expectations rather than honouring the impulse that comes from the body that is perfect for you and what you are here to offer life. An outward imposing inward from the world if you like, rather than an inward expressing outward to the world.

42. Reagan thankyou, it’s a very relatable story you have shared. We are so held by pictures of how life could be, it’s almost as if we have turned life itself into a big advert and we are chasing after something and we believe this thing will deliver. When we get there the satisfaction is only temporary. Our outer achievements can never quench what we truly long for, as all we have ever wanted is waiting patiently inside us. And it’s so simple, it’s just our true, loving selves.

43. Reagan thankyou, it’s a very relatable story you have shared. We are so held by pictures of how life could be, it’s almost as if we have turned life itself into a big advert and we are chasing after something and we believe this thing will deliver. When we get there the saitisfsction is only temporary. Our outer achievements can never quench what we truly long for, as all we have ever wanted is waiting patiently inside us. And it’s so simple, it’s just our true, loving selves.

44. “I have found a voice, a voice that is so loving and gentle, yet strong and empowered.”
    How vastly different from the barrage from the old voice in your head. My experience is the strong, Gentle and empowered voice has always been present, it just was drowned out by the other.

45. As women we can be so unhappy with ourselves and want/need to prove that we are worth it by doing everything we can to get recognition on some level. Letting that go, enjoying who we are and valuing ourselves without the need for external confirmation is where we need to go, but it takes time to drop everything we have been running with for so long.

46. Greener pastures and dangling carrots are a thing of the past once we reconnect to our innateness and start to live life from there. And out go hope, beliefs and eventually even the images we have of how life should be as well. A new and true definition of freedom is here called for, based on and informed by this livingness.

47. I attempted to read every spiritual book too… But I rarely got past the first chapter no matter how much I tried, and I certainly never felt connected to myself. Enter Serge Benhayon and in a few short minutes of the Gentle Breath Meditation, everything had changed, forever.

    1. Spiritual books are like weight loss diets, the fact they don’t work is often reflected back onto the user/reader as the one being the failure, adding to the self beat-up, but it’s actually the diets and the spiritual books that don’t work.

48. Sometimes if you catch up with a dangling carrot it doesn’t taste as good as you thought it would. When we are constantly chasing that certain something outside of ourselves we never get there but when we stop and feel that all the inner beauty and love is already there within us we discover the truth of who we are.

49. I know these dangling carrots very well…. and I’ve observed of late how they can get ever so sneaky, and dangle ever so lightly almost as if they’re not really there, while I find myself snooping along to a distraction of some kind or another. Looking at Social Media posts when the intention was to sit down and do something else, browsing on the internet, browsing in a shop. Filling up time with ‘stuff’ instead of being purposeful in every moment as we are meant to be. The carrot lurks around, maybe not so colourful and grand in appearance these days, but I’m looking out for it just the same…

50. When we live in absence of knowing that who we are within is already everything, we live in search of things, lifestyles and activities that will supposedly deliver a sense fulfilment, even if it is fleeting, anything will do. The search is incessant as there is no substitute to living in connection to our essence within, our inner-knowing as you have beautifully shared Raegan, through which we are always guided to live a life that honors who we already are.

51. Putting ourselves under constant expectation creates so much anxiety within us, and our relationship with the subtle things such as our expectations, drives, goals, pictures of how life should be reveal a lot oboist what we have taken on life to mean and what is running us. To let go of these feels amazing as you’ve shared Regen, and letting go doesn’t mean having nothing, or has to be replaced by something that is our essence.

52. The eternal chase in the world, ‘who am I’ and ‘what is all this about’. I remember being asked and then hit with these questions a number of times during life. It’s at these points you would try and put your life on a different course as what you had been doing obviously wasn’t ‘it’. This would work for a time only to come back to what seemed like a different point and yet it had the same questions or feeling again and so around and around we would go. This became a life and you learnt to cope with this as how it was, you didn’t accept it but just played out the ups and downs that seemed to keep coming. Then at a point the questions didn’t come again and you set forward on a path that supported you to see the answers. Answers that were in fact there all along just hidden. That point was reflected into your view by Universal Medicine, not telling you the answer to those questions but turning you back so you could see them clearly yourself.

53. As I was reading this I was reflecting on the dangling carrots I have placed, one in front of the other over time. And whilst, I too have realised that this actually doesn’t achieve what we think it will achieve, and I’m less concerned about ‘getting something’, I would be dishonest if I said those carrots were completely gone. For me, they just look different now, less material if you like, closer to home. For example the ways in which I take care of myself, are often for an outcome, not because I’m simply worth the care and effort, instead, it’s for the sake of sorting out medical ailments. Sure it’s important to look after yourself in order to help the body clear any illness and disease, but when that is the focus, instead of the focus being that we are already everything first and deserve to take care of ourselves, then, we again find ourselves ‘trying’ to reach a goal, an outcome.

54. What Raegan has presented here is a paradigm change, one from being thrust along on life’s treadmill to one where each of us takes our life in hand and makes it if the love we each hold within.

55. I love how you call out these voices that are not the real us – voices that reverberate loudly in our heads when we have disconnected from our own true voice, which as you say is very practical and simple to access, when we make our lives about self-love and love before anything else.

56. Having ‘a dangling carrot’ is a distraction from taking responsibility and committing to what is required in the moment. It is living in two times – the now and the future – and therefore not fully present in the moment.

57. “Yes, the voice I now listen to is ME!!” This is very inspiring. To live more embracing and appreciative of ourselves is life changing.

58. The old dangling carrot, I know this one all to well. It’s the treadmill we’ve turned on and pretend we can’t find the off switch. I still have moments where I discover that I’ve dangled another for me to catch. The more we live from our inner most the less we dangle the carrot, for we feel the truth that we are already all we need to be we just need to learn to live it in all we do.

    1. ‘The more we live from our innermost the less we dangle for the carrot’, your words are fully of wisdom Kim, very well said.

59. I so resonate with what you say Raegan. And irony of ironies, a difficult one for me now is learning how to set aside the goal of ‘getting somewhere’ with my personal development – the very thing that has helped me set aside the other ‘dangling carrots’ that have populated so much of the rest of my life! Just goes to show there are always deeper layers to uncover as we get clearer about the dynamics of our lives.

60. I love this blog Raegan, it always helps me identify the carrots that I’m chasing. Giving myself permission to be in love with who I am right now feels so much more spacious and loving than setting goals.

61. We push and drive our bodies until they shout no more and bring a stop moment, whether that is an accident, an injury or some form of illness and disease, then we wonder what is going on. I am learning to go deeper with honouring and listening to my body, really feeling and understanding its messages, after a couple of stop moments.

62. It can be so exhausting chasing the unreachable goals that we set ourselves, which as you say stops us from being connected with ourselves too. Building a foundation of connecting to ourselves first, and honouring our inner connection is so much more loving.

63. Setting goals is a clever way to be hard on yourself. It’s an expectation that is not reality. It takes away the simplicity and natural flow that is already there. It makes it strenuous because what is set to reach is going against your body. This line I appreciate brings me back “I have found a voice, a voice that is so loving and gentle, yet strong and empowered.” If my voice is not that I know it is not me.

64. Ah those carrots! So glad I read this blog today because I have been chasing carrots for far too long. Your words remind me that I don’t need to get anywhere. I feel I can give myself full permission to simply appreciate where I am right now. Simply beautiful.

65. This is such a powerful sharing Raegan and a subject I can relate to very well. Having lived most of my life with the ‘dangling carrots’ and ‘the grass is always greener’ sort of attitude your blog brings an understanding as to how we create this in the first place. Seeking outside of myself for fulfillment became my ‘norm’ and the search for happiness lay in the ‘if only’s’ instead of dealing with the here and now and knowing I was enough. The greatest key for me was to begin to accept and appreciate myself in full and this supported me to connect and embrace my qualities within and then any need or desire on the outside began to naturally fall away.

66. A Celebration indeed Raegan! What a truly great, and honest sharing… The ‘treadmill’ you describe sounds as though it was being operated at break-neck speed. And yet, you realised that it was your call to stay on it, or step off and find your own way and rhythm in life – from the voice within you had so long overridden and denied.
    Love this – no doubt we can ALL relate to some degree!

67. “the voice I now listen to is ME!!” This is a very important aspect you bring to the fore here, to learn to listen to our inner truth and not let everything from the outside dominate us. It is a step by step process and something we need to remind ourselves of as we have created a world where perfection is the goal but not the loving quality we are with each other.

68. Making life about everything on the outside, i.e images, goals, wants, must-haves, leaves a very big gapping void within, which then drives the numbing and distraction away from ourselves even more. Thus, the cycle of filling the emptiness begins and continues until we realise that everything is already within and living that in everything we do is truly fulfilling.

69. It is so easy to get trapped with these ‘dangling carrots’, these goals and ideas outside of ourselves as our whole life on this planet is geared towards this way of existence. But what a difference it makes when we start to listen more to our bodies and our innate wisdom that comes with that connection and start to live life from the inside out.

70. Who are we without the dangling carrot? Most people would not know. It is not before we get to know who we are simply by being that we can let the carrot dangle until it´s rotten.

71. I can very much relate to this restlessness. I used to even think that it was not ok to be content with myself or with life, that I had to keep improving myself, striving for the more. So glad I too realised that that way of living was not only exhausting myself physically, but it was also driving me further away from the very core of what I was.

    1. Great point Fumiyo – I have definitely subscribed to this belief system too. The truth is, we know that we are grand beings living small lives, but, we can only return to the glorious beings we are by accepting ourselves as is.

72. As I read this blog I felt a sense of the essence that flows within us all and how precious it is. It does not save it’s harmoniousness for a select few but is available for everyone who choose to look within and return to a self-loving way of being. The game of pursuit takes us out of our essence and creates a goal or promise for some time in the future. But that ‘future’ can be now when we stop seeking and recognise that we have all that we need within us already.

73. I have not drunk any alcohol for 10 years, not a sip or a drop, my life has improved dramatically. Lately a few people that are very close to me have started drinking again and I have felt a great pull to join them, the voices calling out to drink again, it great to be able to jump on a blog like this for another read and be reminded that we all get those thoughts fed to us from time to time but it is how we respond to them that is important, not weather they are there or not.

74. Your story is profound Raegan for so very few people are able to get off the treadmill like you have let alone quell the voices that keep them there. How gorgeous that you have chosen to heal what stood in the way of you connecting to yourself and can now embrace the qualities that lie at the heart of you, so that there is no need to seek outside for anything.

75. I read this blog over a year ago, and I just stumbled across the comment I made back then. I talked about the fact that I liked to think I didn’t dangle carrots, but in fact I did and I was running my body and mind into the ground trying to achieve all sorts. I feel far less driven today than I did then. I still place expectations on myself that don’t really support me, but I am far more aware of how the drive creates the anxiety that creates the tension in my body that is felt through physical pain and emotional drain. The more I allow myself to feel it all, the more I am aware of it and can then make a different choice – depending on how stubborn I feel like being!

76. Living in connection to ourselves is such a game changer, no more chasing after all that the world sells to us as the panacea of all our woes. Nothing can ever fill the emptiness but our own true selves, and how beautiful and fulfilling it feels to be connected to ourselves.

77. Reading your blog Raegan makes me ponder on the possibility that goal setting is a way of shirking responsibility. As a goal never achieved let’s me believe that I am not good enough, or that I don’t deserve what I aspire to. Yet choosing to be responsible and maintain this responsibility as I live, doesn’t leave space for goals unachieved. It presents instead my steadiness that supports me as I make the next choice in my life.

78. Great blog Raegan for I am also very familiar with the dangling carrot syndrome characterised by the when I get… ‘it will’ or ‘I will’ be enough. But that’s the deceptive and illusionary thing about dangling carrots, whatever it is you want to come from an external source will be forever out of reach.

79. We use all the distractions that we have to keep running away from ourselves and as you share Raegan, when we first turn inwards we might have to face some ugly stuff, but we need to remember that what we are facing is merely the outer rim of what we have accumulated over life-times, the more we deal with the stuff that is covering up our precious self the more we can actually feel our true greatness and the glorious light that we are made of. That is why modalities like Chakra-puncture are so amazing, because they put us straight in contact with that inner most divinity, so that we have a taste and an experience and actually know that it is there and worth working through our stuff for.

80. This sounds so familiar Reagan and the interesting thing is that it is a great way to postpone life as there is always something that first needs to be achieved before I can really start.

81. I can so relate to the ‘Dangling Carrots’ – always out of reach so I would never feel that i was enough because I couldn’t achieve my (unrealistic) goals.I do still have some – like the ‘I will exercise every day’ one which gave me a wry smile of recognition when I saw one similar on Raegan’s list. It’s a perfect set-up for failure which then so often leads to self-loathing for not be able to live up to my own expectations. That and not exercising at all (in this case) which means nothing actually changes. It’s a comfortable yet excruciatingly painful place to exist in. It’s great to be exposing the deeper, more hidden versions of it so it no longer plays a part in life.

82. I can so relate to those “dangling carrots” and the out of control treadmill, and I can recall how absolutely exhausting living this way was. I nodded my way, as I would say many others did, through your carrot list, and I know that I could have added quite a few more, one being; I need to lose a certain amount of weight before a big event. Did that ever happen? – NO!, but the feeling of failure was sure evident with that particular carrot not being achieved, on more than one occasion. Carrot dangling is one past time that I have deleted from my life, and does it make a difference to the way I live? – It sure does!

83. Great title Raegan, ‘The Dangling Carrots’ hummm… I still occasionally choose this but learning to listen to my inner voice and trust what I feel more and more, this supports me to let go of the dangling carrot for sure. Also appreciating myself more and more hugely supports me in this too.

84. ‘I simplified my life, simplified how I dealt with things.’ Amazing to feel how simple life can be when we listen to the wisdom of our body. And the more we listen the more it will share the simple truth of living.

85. The energy we give voice to will sound out the loudest – is it love or is it not?

86. Great blog Reagan. You have just described how the world is set up to suck us in. Better homes and gardens, skinnier models, more relaxing holidays destinations, drinks that allow you to socialize better, better education and the one-up-man-ship that can bring etc. It is clearly all a big carrot posed in front of us all to make us feel we are not enough and we are never ever going to be enough. Hey I love the way you have cut the carrot down and tossed it on the compost and allowed your self to be, now this is the true love that we are all really looking for but could not see as the carrot was in our face!

87. Thank you Reagan for a great sharing, there is always the big IF in life and the way we live it, tricking us into trying to reach out to make life better. When we come to realise the truth, that we already are what we have been searching for,and by claiming this love in our bodies we are left with the choice to be, no IF’s needed at all.

88. “Dangling carrots, these unreachable goals, were how I drove my life, always keeping me on a treadmill – one that never seemed to stop and certainly didn’t slow down.” Who are not in the trap of this dangling carrots – is not nearly everybody. Therefore I love it that you so simply expose the truth underneath it Raegan.
    It is our choice now to change it or not.

89. What you are describing is basically what we learn in this world, that we have to become somebody and that we need to keep achieving, thus always having another goal in front of us. But as you unravel it keeps us unsatisfied and searching. But searching we do always in the outside as that is what we have been told and that is ‘how life is lived’, so I agree with you, thank God for Serge Benhayon who is living and thus showing us that there is another way, that we are already enough and have all the answers ‘within’ us and that with learning to care deeply for ourselves we are able to connect to this inner wisdom more and more.

90. It’s amazing how we can drive the body to illness and disease when we choose to override what it’s messages to us are and instead listen to the mind and the goals it has set for us.

91. I love how you describe this Raegan – ‘dangling carrots’ It’s so true and I have so say after reading your blog I did exactly the same thing. I had plans for everything. I became aware that I needed something to look forward to, because what would happen if I didn’t? What would happen to me in life if I wasn’t working towards something. What I look forward to everyday is being myself and enjoying the experience of being me. I have no real plans like I used to, to look forward to. I simply look forward to everyday and what it may bring.

92. Dangling carrots, I know them well. By attending to the details of what is in front of me and caring for myself my life has changed dramatically. When I do find myself in my head or judging myself or others it is a matter of coming back to myself and focusing on what is in front of me, giving it my full attention. It is a work in progress, but my life now is so different to when I was constantly in search of something elusive many years ago.

93. The detail in this blog is very powerful, you really dive right into why we choose to run on that tread mill so hard and for so long but you explore it all without an ounce of judgment and plenty of understanding.I think we can all relate to the dangling carrot situation its a very universal subject.

94. Inspiring to read the changes you’ve embraced and choosing to listen to your own voice. It is empowering when we trust what we feel. Letting go of the dangling carrots is actually easy because we place it in front of ourselves in the first place so we can easily discard it when we choose to.

95. Our body is an incredible marker for us and has very clear and loud conversations should we choose to listen. There is nothing outrageous, simply self care, tenderness and balance that when I am not listening gets forgotten.

96. Dangling Carrots as you put them Reagan have been pressures that I have put on myself at times too, only to feel disappointment at the lack of results. Having connected to Universal Medicine and the Presentations of Serge Benhayon of the Ancient Wisdom has been the most amazing and revealing experience of my life enabling me to see the truth of the pressures I have put on myself in the past.

97. It is intriguing to ponder on the fact that we do all know that the carrots we place in front are placed with the set up of us not achieving them in spite of the image of what is sold to us about ‘getting there’ so to speak. I know that for me when I have had these dangling carrots in my life that they come with a false image of what it would be like to ‘get them’ which prompts us to keep running towards them. Only to be set up with failure as either the carrot does not meet our expectations or we simply cannot ‘get there’ at all

98. Being hard on ourselves seems to be at epidemic proportions and it is not even needed. I have come to realise recently that being hard on myself is actually my own creation, and it is a choice. So I am choosing to say No to being hard on myself and instead saying Yes to being loving with myself. The change feels amazing, and the more I love myself the more obvious the hard voice becomes. There is no place for hardness anymore, only Love.

99. ‘being more gentle and loving with myself, which in turn created the space for me to be more gentle and loving with those around me’. This is what I discovered, because I was so hard on myself, I would be really hard to all others, which meant I had no true connection with others. However, as soon as I put self-care and self-nurture into my daily practice, and become more gentle and loving with myself, I found that I was more understanding and loving with others. Healing our hurts has huge benefits and turns our life around.

100. I had my own dangling carrots as I believe we all do…. I was an expert at ignoring my body and would push and drive my body to do more! Like yourself, I was only able to stop this momentum I was in when I attended courses by Serge Benhayon – that was when true healing began and I have observed how my life has transformed and now how much I can appreciate myself for all the big steps I have taken. I have so much more self-love, deepening every day.

101. The pictures we give ourselves as to how we could/should be always ensure to leave us feel we are not enough, and we will never be.

102. “Dangling carrots, these unreachable goals” that keep us on the treadmill of always trying to get somewhere, anywhere but where we are. Serge Benhayon presents a simple way to step off the treadmill of our existence with knowing that where we are is not it and we just have to return to where we have come from – love.

103. “As a result, I was living very much from my head and I wasn’t very conscious of my body. If I felt to do or say something – as in, felt it in my body as a kind of ‘knowing’ rather than just an idea – I would override it, instead opting for what my head told me. Living like this meant I wasn’t able to really connect with myself, let alone others around me.” Choosing to connect with my body – which does know – rather than my mind – which loves to play tricks – means I live more in the present moment. Thus fewer carrot-dangling opportunities.

104. A great description of the voices inside our heads that drive us even when we try to drown them out with the variety of avenues and outlets available to us for numbing and disregard. Carrot-dangling is just one of them and a process that has us perpetually hanging up new carrots to move towards – and there are always new carrots to be had. A plentiful supply of things that purport to silence the self-doubt and lack of self-worth that are the regular drivers behind our collection of past, present and future carrots. A nonsensical, energy-zapping way of living when looked at in this way.

105. Listening to that oh so honest inner voice not, the busy mind which constantly changes the ever increasing goal posts (dangling carrots) that can so easily stretch us in every but which way. Only if we allow that to be the case. A beautiful sharing Raegan thank you.

106. I had a conversation with guy at the fish n chip shop the other day, somehow we got onto the topic of how full on the voices in our heads are when we’ve decided the way we live needs to change, and that there seems to be so many things out there but no real support or tools that allow you to take hold of your own life and choices. This guy struck gold at the fish, thank you Serge Benhayon and to those involved with the Uni Med living. Absolutely priceless ..

107. Great blog Raegan – “Living like this meant I wasn’t able to really connect with myself, let alone others around me.” Like you have beautifully expressed until we connect with our own true voice and give power back to that we’re at the mercy of all the other voices.

108. This is an interesting take Reagan that behind the looking forward way of thinking were voices that were negative and self doubting and how through listening to your body you discovered your true voice that was very respectful and loving of yourself. You have offered great truth that the way back to love is through opening up and feeling and not trying to tackle those negative thoughts directly or analytically.

109. Reagan I feel that most of us have the dangling carrot issue thinking it is the way to speed up and get things done. But often they just sit there in front of us and just looking at them causes stress because they’re still there maybe years later! Lovely conclusion , listening to your own voice with joy.

110. I have become aware just recently that when I am stressed, upset or exhausted I no longer turn to sugar for comfort. I’m now turning to me and my self love and support from family, friends and Universal Medicine. I’m choosing a more gentle loving way to return back to me rather than go on a sugar expedition that can take me away from myself for weeks or even months. ‘The voice I now listen to is me’.

111. The dangling carrot, or better known as the ‘where would you like to be in 5 years time?’
     In truth how can we predict where we will be in 5 years time? We can’t even predict the weather accurately for the next day.

     I’m not saying we shouldn’t prepare for our future, for this is essential, however we should be invested in the quality of our life and not the details. For the details will work themselves out if the quality is correct.

     1. Such wise words from such a young man. If we live by these words Luke our lives will be very full of opportunities that we have created for our self and there will be no need to chase that carrot for we will know where we are going.

        1. Agree, because in truth the carrot has nothing to do with the future plan. It is there to distract us from the inner pain we are feeling in the present.

112. Dangling carrots is a very apt description of my stubbornness a times. Reagan, like you I was ruled by the idea of impossible achievements that would deliver me something I was lacking in my life … but of course they never did, I was just being driven by an energy inside me that would not let me rest and be. Being introduced to the gentle breath meditation and the fact that we are already enough has enabled me to put a stop to the most obvious carrots, though they can slip in at anytime when I lose connection to myself.

113. The practical tools that Serge Benhayon presents are simple and effective. As you say Reagan it is a consistent choice and focus to keep coming back to your self and break down the patterns and habits that keep you away from who we truly are.

114. A beautiful blog, with a beautiful conclusion, makes me laugh from joy. Enjoying the changes you have shared here and enjoying feeling it through your words – pure joy.

115. What an awesome blog Reagan, with sharing your experience of committing to cutting down the dangling carrots!! While walking last night I was going through all the things I wanted to get done over the weekend, (sort this out, have this meeting, write that email, iron, clean, cook, go to the gym etc. etc.) and then I stopped in my tracks and said to my husband, I’m just setting myself up every time I do that…. because the goals I set are so unrealistic I would need a month long weekend to complete them. So I’ve loved reading your blog today, as it confirms just how exhausting this is, and how much we miss out on feeling from our bodies and allowing playfulness into our days.

     1. I had the same experience today Aimee. I asked myself if there will be a day where I can just do what I feel like doing on the weekend. I told myself sure I’ll have time in the holidays. This is a pattern I have, I tell myself I will have this opportunity in the future and it never comes.

116. Just reading the title of this blog caused me to smile – I had a picture of a carrot dangling on a stick in front of a donkey trying to get it to move forward (as they can often be very stubborn) At that point realising that is just how it was for me. A stubbornness to not change old patterns of striving, driving and pushing myself to the limit, overwhelm and exhaustion sets in. As you share so beautifully Raegan those ‘dangling carrots those unreachable goals’. How that all changes when introducing listening to our bodies, connecting more deeply to ‘feeling’ and bringing in a self-loving programme that builds from the inside out. Gently so as we bring in and cement a foundation to base our lives on. Those ever busy thoughts start to take a back seat ride.

117. I have had many carrots dangling in front on my nose, going from one place to the other, always trying new things, thinking that there was this certain point where I had to arrive at and then everything would be all fine, great and I would be enlightned. Very tiring, I can tell you that, especially with all the travelling abroad as well. Since Universal Medicine these carrots slowly dissapeared and this creates a deeper sense of surrendering into the moment and knowing that there is nowhere to go as we are forever evolving.

118. Oh man the dangling carrots are exhausting and a total kill joy. I can relate to much of what you have shared here. Acceptance is a beautiful thing that allows the body to surrender and stops the drive and anxiousness.

119. Reagan your blog has reminded me of my own ‘dangling carrots’. My life was run by them until I started attending presentations by Serge Benhayon and l learning to connect with body. Now and again a carrot will resurface to be looked at, and this a great opportunity to heal. Thank you for the reminder.

120. The voices I created have and still sometimes are affecting me deeply, I lose the connection with my body, and with that the true connection to all around. I feel those voices have made me feel isolated, in my own world. But now when listening more to that what is in me, it supports me to express and be open to the world, it is such a difference. That what I was creating was always worse than the real world is.

121. Great blog Raegan! Recognising the voices that come from, what I term my ‘good for nothing chatterbox’ is a liberating one, allowing for the true voice of ME to be heard. Giving the space to myself to feel what my body is informing me of all the time, leaves less and less an opening for that chatterbox to get its air time with me.

122. Beautiful Reagan and I feel that those who meet you and come into contact with you would feel the same. There is a vibrancy and lightness in you that is inspiring. There is a joy in the way you approach life and people.

123. Raegan thank you for your article, when we rely on the carrot, something to look forward to, we miss out so much on what is going on at the time, as we focus on the future and not the present.

     1. This is so true Sally. Thank you for breaking it down like this. The carrot does trick you into focusing on the future and taking you away from the present moment.

124. Awesome Raegan – thank you for showing that we don’t have to be at the mercy of our thoughts trying to run our bodies into the ground but to instead let our heart run the show for it considers the body first and foremost.

125. Really beautiful Raegan. I know I have many dangling carrots and always think about the ‘when I do this’ rather then the here and the now and enjoying that. what you’ve explained doesn’t happen overnight but is an awesome progress to be with along the way.

126. Thank you Raegan for that reminder. I tend to pretend I don’t dangle any carrots, but it’s a complete lie. I’m constantly trying to outdo myself and compare myself to what others have achieved. Always chasing the rainbow that simply doesn’t exist. It’s tiring and it actually hurts, physically my body is in constant discomfort from the tension I create ‘trying’ so much to reach goals.

     1. Well said Elodie. The trick is that we think we need to be on the treadmill chasing our goals and dreams when we do not need to in the first place. We simply need to re-connect to our inner-most

127. Thank you Danielle, I agree. This article is authored to absolutely, activist activating again, towards awareness of the truth and love ‘eternal’ that is there for all equally.

128. The dangling carrot is how many of us get through life. Without the goal there is no seeming purpose to what we do. This I am realising is a very horrible way to live as it is void of the simple joy of just being with ourselves and loving what we do.

     1. Great point Josh. That without goals we think we have no purpose or really meaning to get through life. I always use to hate when they asked what our goals where for life etc. I was just happy going about being me.

        1. The greatest purpose we could ever feel in life is to express all the love we truly are and not hold anything back

129. The dangling carrot is a strategy that so many of us use to keep us going, or ‘achieve our goals’ when in fact, going for something in this way rarely leads to lasting, longterm change because it doesn’t address the reason we need the carrot in the first place.

     1. Totally Katemaroney1. And for me the reason I chase the carrot is ……RECOGNITION. This acknowledgement from others feeds my need to stay afloat. It’s really unhealthy. I know there is another way, and I’m working on accepting I’m enough as I am without my checklist. It’s certainly a steep learning curve.

     2. It was exactly this rarely lasting longterm changes what made me giving up at some points in my life. Therefore addressing “the reason we need the carrot in the first place” was important because this changed my life at all. Addressing it was and is the best medicine ever!

130. Reagan what you have written here is very important and cannot be underestimated in it’s power, even living differently over the last few years I am constantly being asked to go deeper and can often find carrots waiting for me ahead. The anxiousness I feel these days is much more harmful a) because I know the choices are from my head and not my body and b) my body gets really affected by the things I choose. This article has brought a deeper awareness to the issue of living disconnected to the heart and soul of me.

131. Reagan great article. I can relate to a lot of those dangling carrots, how these carrots can create anxiousness in the body and keep us so much in the head and far away from our body. I recall I was so much in my head and never felt to stop and feel what my body was saying, and if I felt something I would numb it with food or drink or distraction. Now I know my body messages and the feelings are a true gift for me, a way for me to heal my own body, thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

132. On re-reading your blog again Reagan I can really relate to the constant drive and goal setting coming from a motivation of trying to please and satisfy that inner critical voice that was never satisfied and never thought it was enough. I also have put my body through a lot over the years on this endless quest. But I agree since discovering the presentations of Universal Medicine I have connected back to the fact that I am already more than enough before I actually do anything. This has been incredibly liberating and has been the best and only true answer for my internal critic that I have discovered in my life so far.

133. Through reading this I became aware of my own past inactivity, inertia, stagnation in life, through thinking that there would be some changes when this or that had occurred some time in the future. I was never ready or felt I had done enough to merit moving forward or taking a new step in life. I held myself back and berated myself for never being ready or prepared. My lack of self worth continuously meant I did not try new things or establish a foundation to build anything new on. Life has changed, I am building a business, I have been studying, I am changing career and so much more and I feel this is due to making a commit to nurture and support myself in a more true way. Over the last years a foundation of care and love has been built in my life and I have begun to honour an inner connection that I have often felt but denied or over rode. This connection offers clarity, true wisdom and is deeply supportive, no longer am I in fear or stagnation, the next step is already happening and I am ready for it.

     1. Samantha, I know what you speak of here, as reading Raegan’s blog today reminded me of how I’ve always held something out in front of me as a way to keep myself on the go, to push myself and yet in doing so I’ve not connected to and felt the deep tenderness in me. Your comment brought me pause as I considered that often in life that state of perpetual motion I’ve kept up has meant I have not built the foundation which allowed me to support me and build it to allow me to expand and explore my expression, and now I’m learning to see what I might do to support my evolution rather than stand outside feeling cut off from myself, the first step is that connection to me, and the next step I’m learning is to lovingly commit to me day by day.

        1. These two comments have really added to an already powerful blog, there are so many ways that we can deal with dangling carrots, never feeling we are good enough to achieve them therefore not really trying, and always striving to get there, blast through them to put up another dangling carrot never feeling satisfied with getti to the dangling carrots!! Neither are better or worse, just different versions of the same energy that comes from not connecting to ourselves first. Building a relationship with ourselves through self love and self nurturing means our paths in life become extensions of our expressions.

        2. Gosh Monica, that was beautiful to read, thank you. Your words have supported me to realise the power of appreciation, when we build a relationship to ourselves in connection to our essence, and then know and love all that we are. That appreciation is a constant connection to our inner qualities, we become precious to ourselves and in that we can deepen our care for ourselves. We are so strongly taught to look outside of ourselves, to chase after these outer goals, but they can only bring fleeting happiness, never the true joy of knowing and loving who we are, which is what we can then take into life no matter what we choose to do.

     2. Thank you Samantha, it’s very inspiring all you have shared, especially the foundation of love and care you have built for yourself, and in this your life is so supported it can’t help but expand. It’s so different to the dangling carrots we chase after, exhausting our body as we do so, desperate to feel some worth from outer achievements. It’s a completely different way to build our life. Our worth is in how we treat ourselves, and from that nurturing our lives can flow forth.

134. Thank you Raegan for spelling out so clearly the deep exhaustion brought on by forever chasing the unreachable goals that we set ourselves. Also the fact that ‘Living like this meant I wasn’t able to really connect with myself, let alone others around me.’ Caught in my ever decreasing circles of ‘dangling carrots’ was such a lonely existence that required a lot of distractions that only added to my exhaustion. It is such a relief to have been introduced to the simple and practical tools to connect to myself and thus to others through the presentations of Universal Medicine which has turned my life around and has given me the gift of living in the present not constantly looking ahead for some unattainable future time when my life will be sorted.

135. Wow Raegan, I never knew you were a drinker … your radiance and shine looks like you’ve lived a pure life! It seems to me that the work of Serge Benhayon has restored another true angel to us all.

136. I have been there and done this Reagan and it is exhausting. I may have achieved some things, but there are consequences to this lifestyle and it plays out in all sorts of ways.

     1. Absolutely Matthey, spot on. I have been cruising to from a to b , looking for this and for that, but in fact I was in the end always being asked to look and feel my responsibility. A big ouch at times, but I start to realize that feeling those ouch’es support me to actually better my life for true good, true responsibility, true fun! No dangling carports can handle that!

137. Raegan this is a very important article to write, what an amazing gift to humanity. Most of your examples are nearly the same as all the carrots I have used in my life, this proves that it is simply an energy not an actually individual wants or needs. I find it so interesting that so many of us have the same stories but if it warrant for people like you blogging about it we may feel isolated and alone in these things. Well expressed.

     1. How true Sarahraynebaldwin that it is an energy to keep us away from ourselves and also isolated from others. It is only by sharing like Raegan has this will be exposed and as you say this is ‘an amazing gift to humanity’.

     2. Reagan’s writing is indeed a gift to humanity sarahraynebaldwin, as it is so practical and what so many of us do… often without any stop moment to feel the affects of continually running after the carrots. So supportive to read of another way.

138. Reagan from reading your blog I became aware that one of my dangling carrots is the ‘to do’ list. If I don’t get everything ticked off I put pressure on myself. Learning to listen to my body and my inner voice is a work in progress still but when I do everything amazingly just happens and falls into place.

     1. Well said lindellparlour – I can relate to what you’ve shared about the ‘to do’ list… For many years this was a big focus for me and was never a list that was able to be completed (there was always more on the list!). It’s been a work in progress for me as well, learning to do what needs to be done but doing this by listening to my body first!

        1. I know the list that can never be completed in the time I have available for it so well lindellparlour and Angela Perin. It is one of the things that causes the feeling that I am not okay and have to work hard on myself. Listening to my body in all circumstances is definitely work in progress taking myself lovingly by the hand and stop the pressure cooker.

     2. ho hum, yes the to-do list! What a driver. I find the list is a great way to remind myself of what needs to be done but I have let go of when it all needs to be done as everything finds its way to the top at some stage. My key is to ensure I allow space in my day for that check in with myself to ensure I have not raced down a rabbit hole or three, avoiding the simplest things that are a higher priority.

139. “Yes, the voice I now listen to is ME!!” – love it, Raegan! The incessant voices of self-doubt are one of the most crippling things we do ‘to ourselves’. I also used to be a victim of my own dangling carrots, and the feeling of never being able to catch up, like running a race with a handicap. With Serge Benhayon’s patient example, I’m beginning to leave that way of living behind!

     1. I have had very similar experiences but I like how you say “I’m beginning to leave that way of living behind!” Dianne, as it is a process. Its not like you wake up one day and the voice/thoughts are gone. You simply have a mark to know the real you and therefor recognise them as an occasional visitor that has no permission to enter. A work in progress but soon those crazy voices won’t bother knocking cause they will get the picture that they are never let in and give up.

140. Raegan your experience of the dangling carrots is one I feel many of us can relate to. It’s truly incredible all that you have been able to change in your life by giving up the striving and trying and making it about feeling and connecting to what’s inside of you.

141. Thank you, Raegan. Your list of dangling carrots is really great, they all point to anywhere but present and I can see how we set ourselves up for never feeling good enough, while not giving ourselves a chance to get to know the grandness of what we truly are.

142. I too spent some years distracted by what I thought I needed to do to be successful in the world, because that is what got people to like me. Since attending Universal Medicine I have re-connected to a part of me that only cares about truth, and that part is my body. It brings me joy now that I have made self loving choices and decided that this life is going to be full of things that I chose because they feel true.

143. Setting unrealistic goals keeps us on a momentum that stops us feeling the hurt and pain that is actually driving the momentum. It’s a crazy ‘treadmill’ peddled by unhappiness that thinks it’ll find reprieve once we’ve achieved the next goal – but you climb one mountain peak and another higher one appears out of the mist, and so it goes on until something stops you. Often it’s an illness or an accident, or for some, the realization that we are making unhealthy choices and that we can make different choices is what changes this behavior. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine many people are seeing how they are caught in this momentum and that they can choose to get off this treadmill.

144. Investment in the dangling carrots we place in front of ourselves – what a crazy game. It is great to see it for what it is and begin to live from the inside, from our body and our feelings rather than the constant chatter from the mind.

145. This is such an enormous change Reagan and I know it well. In the spin of the thousand loud voices and information, I once wrote it all down to explain to a friend what I was thinking. They were stunned. It was ridiculous and exhausting to go on like that.
     All this has gone and my thoughts are positive and calm since studying the teachings of Serge Benhayon and putting some simple things into practise. It is truly amazing how much more love I feel for myself and others.

146. Appreciation is an important step in the foundation of self worth and an essential building block towards the next choice, whatever that may be.

147. To choose to live one’s life without being a slave to the ‘dangling carrots’ is one mean feat. I have personally struggled with this for my entire life and it will pop up every now and again, but the difference between then and now is, I now know that I am enough just as me and even if I did or did not reach that goal, I know that fact will never change.

     1. Kate, you’ve said it – ‘knowing that I am enough’ gets rid of any need to achieve a goal, for I can be more by being me in full and that does not require any doing.

148. I could so relate to the dangling carrots and have myself experienced several decades chasing them! Thank goodness for the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, through whom I have been able to become aware of how exhausting it is chasing these carrots, and how much time and energy is invested in this pursuit. I’m working on no more dangling carrots for me!

     1. Yes, Angela, it is exhausting ‘chasing these carrots’ and the horrible thing is that it’s the energy of the momentum itself that fuels us so we often do not realise how exhausted we really are until we get burnt out.

149. What we fail to do when we are forever following the dangling carrot, which is such a good analogy, and one that I know very well. is to actually be where we are right now. Appreciate what skills and talents we do have, what we are able to do as a member of society and really use those in service. The chasing carrot syndrome is fueled by our lack of self worth and commitment to being in service, which makes us feel worthless and forever needing something to indicate that we are worthwhile, a valuable member of society. But that can just come from being who we are and doing what we do.

150. ‘Yes, the voice I now listen to is ME!!’, Awesome, so simple and yet so powerful.

151. Dear Raegan, reading your blog is such an important and powerful reminder for me to just stop, be, accept where I’m at and appreciate how far I have come. The constant striving and feeling I need to be somewhere else, achieve this or that before I can just be, is so self-defeating. Thank you Raegan for spelling the out the mechanism of the dangling carrot so clearly. I love feeling complete in myself, here and now, rather then giving in to those voices. My own true voice is always loving.

152. Reading this blog I am reminded of the fact that I have used the carrot and the stick to drive myself in the past towards some goal or outcome outside of me that would bring me the contentment and happiness I so craved (don’t we all crave this?) meanwhile missing the giant elephant in the room that all I had to do was choose to live in a way that put my body, my feelings and not my head first.

153. I wonder how many other people have these voices in their heads dangling carrots that set unrealistic goals and think it is normal? I can put two hands up to the fact that that was my normal. What surprised me was now indignant the voices were that I might choose to not put quite so much attention their way and instead divert my focus to my body. A body, I might add, which had been waiting patiently, without imposing, for me to realise it always offers a great conversation and very wise advice on pretty much any subject of the dangling carrot variety…

154. Great carrot analogy! I never considered those unreachable goals as dangling carrots, but its a great way to describe them, brings it very much back to basics and how absurd they are. Reading your blog I realized that I actually still put out some dangling carrots, in a very different way now, not so obvious, but still dangling…. Thank you for this great reminder!

155. A beautiful Blog Raegan – Carrots are huge and so widely promoted within society. Rewarding ourselves and working for rewards is something that is reinforced from childhood.

     1. So true Kate and Raegan, and all the carrots do is rob us from living in and enjoying the presence.

156. No carrots anymore, that sounds familiar. It happens sooner or later on the path of self love, doesn’t it?

157. This is absolutely gorgeous Raegan. You write with the strength, power and authority of a woman who knows herself inside out. This is a wonderful confidence to have and an absolute joy to read!

158. Awesome post Ragaen! The dangling carrot sydrome is an epidemic, that’s for sure! How identical our lists are, as I’m sure it is for many others. I think it’s so funny how different we all think we are, but really, we all have the same goal driven ideals. We can all be equally ridiculous about ourselves. It’s awesome to feel people choosing to step out of that though. I’ve certainly still got a few carrots placed around me, but I’m more aware of them these days, and am able to push them out of the way more often. They are persistent little things I tell you!

159. I remember those ‘dangling carrots’, and every time finding something else to dangle a carrot over. Never being satisfied and always looking for something else to fulfil that empty feeling. Now I know that the fulfilment comes from within and not from the outside in.

160. I love your blog Raegan and can so relate to your treadmill of life complete with the unrelenting ‘dangling of the unreachable carrots’ in front of you, teasing and continually motivating you to be and have more…. totally absurd when the truth is we are all enough just by being who we are, imperfections and all.

161. I love this Raegan. The world teaches us to ‘dangle carrots’, to forever strive to be better, to be more. What it does not tell us is that there is a high price to pay for this way of life as you experienced.

162. ‘Dangling carrots’ is an interesting description of the process of planning goals ahead and imagining that life will be okay when those goals are achieved. It reminded me of how I often used to live almost ahead of myself, predicting, gauging, guessing what the outcomes might be, believing that the right moment will come for me to do such and such activity. That moment often did not come because I did not at have the self worth or confidence to undertake the plans and activities.There is something about living ahead of yourself or waiting for something to change that does not support our present day. Learning to be in the present has altered how I experience life. I feel much more content and confident to work on activities that are supporting my life and yes I often do complete them.

163. Thank you Reagan for such an inspiring blog, your last words leave me smiling,”I have found a voice, a voice so loving and gentle, yet strong and empowered . Yes, the voice I now listen to is Me” truly beautiful.

164. Great blog Raegan, it seems all too common this ‘dangling carrot’ syndrome – I’ve seen it in myself and many others as well, that feeling that once something is achieved then, and only then, will I be ‘happy’! So beautiful that you now stop and listen to the true you rather than those other voices which are not you!

165. What an amazing treasure you have found finding your inner voice and connecting to the lovely woman you are Raegan.

166. “Dangling carrots” Smiling as I read this title of your awesome journey Raegan. when we find a more gentle self loving way to be with ourselves and taking back responsibility for our own healing as you share with us “which does not happen over night” that is such a great point – there are no quick fixes – but gently in our every day livingness to tune in and be very honest with ourselves where we are truly at and how we feel – that racy feeling becomes obvious or in my case it is anxiousness that soon kicks in if I step back on that ‘treadmill’. A beautiful sharing thank you.

167. Thank you Raegan for the analogy of the dangling carrot. Perfect description of how I lived my life (and occasionally still do). Listening to the quiet voice that is truly me is a delight and far less exhausting.

168. I often hear people say that it’s good to have a goal, and that you get more done if you push yourself. Also that saying, if you want something done, ask a busy person. All compounding a busy, hard way of being. We are so blessed to have been shown another way through the books and talks by Serge Benhayon. I am so grateful to be aware of how buying into the busyness of the world kept me from being present with myself. It is so lovely to be able to make that choice.

169. I am so familiar with those sorts of dangling carrots! it’s such an unfulfilling way to live, trying to bring the outside in. You miss out on knowing what you feel and know and can bring from inside out.

170. Wow Raegan what a joy to read your amazing blog. I have to admit that I myself know life exactly what you describe in the following sentence: “The more anxious I became about achieving things, the faster the treadmill would go… so I would then have to go faster to keep up.” Is it not funny that so many people are trapped in this behavior??? I absolutely appreciate what you revealed in your truthful blog Raegan – Thank you.

171. It has been inspirational to read about changes in your life Raegan and it was done “..by connecting with me first, listening to me first, and expressing from that.” Beautiful.

172. I can totally relate to this and see it in many others also. It makes me wonder why we allow this in our community, from a very young age? Why are we not taught or shown another way?

173. Awesome blog Raegan, I can definitely relate to it on so many levels. I like your example of the dangling carrot. Very inspiring to read how you’ve changed your life around. I have also learnt to stop, feel, and express in a loving and joyful way recently. It has taken a while for me to get to this stage of really living in a loving, tender and supportive way. I have been taking my time to reach where I am now because I was delaying what I already knew I should have been doing. Now that I have experienced what it’s like to feel connect, amazing and empowered through my loving choices, I cannot see why I would choose anything else. This has been inspired by Serge Benhayon and everyone I have met at Universal Medicine. I am deeply grateful and blessed.

174. My experience is when you have one of these dangling carrots, your concern is never in what is going on at the present but to look forward to something in the future. In doing this, we miss so much!! I did it once with a little band that people buy in Brasil, in Bahia. My only concern was when will it break (because you ask three wishes). The funny thing is that it takes so long that it is almost impossible to remember what did you ask. The whole thing is ridiculous.

175. Brilliant post Reagan. I can totally relate to chasing those dangling carrots and ‘the list’… It was always never enough even when some of the goals were achieved. It is so beautiful to feel how you have found another way through stopping, feeling, expressing your joyful and loving self. And that living this way you have found your true voice ‘that is so loving and gentle, yet strong and empowered.’ You are a beautiful inspiration – thank you.

176. I just loved your last paragraph – how you have found your true voice is just so inspirational. A gorgeous sharing.

177. Thank you Raegan – I can so relate to what you have shared with us all. Little did I know at the time when I felt like a pressure cooker about to blow that all I had to do was literally be still and gently breath or slow down my walk and really feel each and every step. Amazing.

     1. To stop, slow down to be still, connect to our gentle breath and to be ourselves, I agree is absolutely amazing. So simple. I have experienced in the past that it wasn’t so easy when I was feeling the pressure that I have created. It seems to take a lot of effort to change my momentum but when I was willing to stop, feel and reconnect, it changes everything.

178. Raegan, great blog, and yes I know those dangling carrots of which you speak, it really perpetuates the idea of us never being enough and constantly looking out there and searching for that magic pill or silver bullet. It keeps us away from the very thing that does know, us, that internal essence that is within the heart of all of us, never tainted, always there ready and waiting.

179. Raegan, I am glad that you have chosen to listen to the empowered beauty of YOU over the imposed Comparison, judgment, self-doubt, and self-hatred that just does not belong in anyone.

180. Yes focusing on what lies ahead is exhausting.
     Since I have been stopping and truly connecting to who I am … life sure has changed.
     Thank you Raegan for sharing. You are inspirational.

181. Reagan What you have actually done is to become the carrot itself !

182. Such a great blog Reagan. I know the dangling carrots very well! ‘If I have reached that goal than I will start and enjoy my life.’ was a (and sometimes still is) common thought of me. I experienced that I would never do it as there would be always a new goal to reach before I would allow myself to enjoy life and myself. I found, with the support of the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, that I can choose to live and enjoy my life now, and that is not done through reaching goals but through living lovingly with me every moment, without perfection. I am learning this every day and am amazed by my deeply loving voice I now listen to more regularly.

     1. Lieke, what you say is such a good reminder for me too. I can still get caught in leaving it out there, in the near future, when this and when that….rather than claiming what I am and what I have learnt to this moment, and to enjoy and appreciate where I am right now. I’m allowing myself to feel that acceptance and love for myself right now and it feels so much more loving and true. There isn’t anywhere I have to reach before I’m ‘good enough’ or before I deserve to be loving with myself.

183. Reagan, you are living testament of someone committing to healing and reconnecting to the love that you are. You know you are on the right track when those voices that used to be loud and controlling are now but mere whispers and are gentle signs of honouring the connection within yourself .

184. Love it Raegan, as this is a story I can so relate to, always trying to get to the next thing, reaching out then feeling I had fallen far short or to set myself up with a new set of goals to reach. Only recently have I really begun to feel how much I have always competed with myself in life – inside, things felt pressured, as I tried to complete my plans/goals within a certain time. What I am finding is the more I stop, really stop and connect to how I feel in the moment, I can stop the race. It feels the more we feel our true selves that we can really begin to live.

185. Hi Reagan, thank you for your blog. We so often put such unbelievable pressure on ourselves. It almost feels like we stand outside of our bodies and assess the damage that needs repairing, like our cars, kick a tyre or two but do we check our own oil (heart) pump .Do we need a carrot or do we stop chasing the doing and start being.

     1. By chasing the doing we in fact limit ourselves because in the being we could be much, much more than we can ever imagine….

        1. i agree Sandra when we jump off the endless conveyer belt of ‘do this, get that’ and find that gorgeous space of being, we need less, but are more.

     2. To stop chasing goals and live in connection to myself and appreciating my life eliminates stress for me. It is funny how all the stress I have ever experienced is self created. It is empowering to know I can change my old way of living to now be fully connected and loving.

186. The foundation of not feeling enough is perfect fertile ground for those dangling carrots. Through Serge Benhayons work I’ve begun to reconnect to my inner self, that one’s not just enough but quite amazing. When I feel this reconnection the belief of not feeling I’m enough seems like the greatest lie and biggest dupe ever told, yet I still get caught out by it. It’s like the whole world is set up to tell us this lie even supporting us to love it with its many products and services. For me Serge Benhayon is the only person I’ve met saying the opposite, living the opposite and helping others live from this amazing place inside us all.

187. Hi Raegan, such an awesome blog. I can relate to the long list of unreachable goals, I lived like this for many years – constantly feeling not ‘good’ enough. When I chose to connect to myself and listen I too was able to make choices for myself that were more loving and supportive – it was then easy to let go of the long lists.

188. Raegan thank you for pointing out the futility of goals other than to know ourselves through self-awareness.

189. I love this blog and can relate to every single thing you say. I was an inveterate carrot dangler, but also a master of the stick.
     Yes I had a multitude of goals to achieve…always just impossible enough to keep me on perpetual edge.
     And to help keep me moving I knew how to apply the stick…beating myself along with those voices in my head saying “not good enough”, “what on earth is wrong with you” and so many more that are too nasty to print.
     It is no way to live, in fact it is not life at all. Just existence.
     And those carrots? Well they are not so worthwhile when they are finally grasped.
     With time and enough lived experience we all come to see that. Rather than heralding burn out and giving up, it can become a time of deep inward reflection and a return to stillness. And how beautiful to not wait until it becomes so dire.
     Let this blog inspire everyone to re-develop their self awareness and turn to their inner knowing, well before they become worn about by the relentless carrot chase.

190. I can relate to what you have written Raegan. I used to live life constantly on the go and my body and mind never seemed to stop because there was always the next thing to do, achieve etc. Since attending Universal Medicine workshops, I have been steadily chipping away at the anchors that hold this behaviour and thinking in place and feel so much healthier and happier as a result.

191. I like the analogy of the dangling carrots, I only recently realised that I set myself up for failure by putting such high expectations on myself and thinking that things need to be done in a certain way. So there is no chance of getting the carrot…

192. The dangling carrots have become much more subtle and refined – this has been a timely reminder to stay vigilant and aware of every little thing.

193. You described it very well with the ‘dangling carrot’ in front of you. I know this from my old belief of what I wanted to achieve in life and how I put myself under pressure, as if I must prove something to someone that I can make it there. Realizing more and more what an illusion this was, and that I was losing quality in what I was doing, got me to wake up. It is ridiculous under what circumstances we put our body whilst being under this pressure. Connecting to being enough in everything that I do, and appreciating the glory in my work, has let me put down the dangling carrot more and more, and I am looking forward to becoming even more relaxed in everything that I do.

194. From dangling illusionary carrots to apple pips of clear truth, your story is inspiring Raegan for those who want to honestly deal with issues of anxiety and stress of living and owned by a check-listed-life.

195. Crazy that we can be so busy and doing all of the time, thinking we would do everything possible but avoiding to do the one thing that gives us what we actually long for – to take responsibility, stop and feel, listening to the body and simply being ourselves again.
     And yes, it can be very uncomfortable to be honest and feel some of the stuff we have gathered inside, the momentum of disregard and emotional pain, but it is not as bad as we may fear and doesn´t take long to also feel again the place inside where we know who we truly are and can just be.

196. I know the dangling carrots and how they can seduce me to look outside instead of being still and feel me. A great synonym of our goal orientated way of living in the temporal world. How refreshing it is to just stop and feel instead of reacting to the dangling carrots.

197. Thank you Raegan for voicing your story on this blog. I know the treadmills and ‘dangling carrots’ in life too, and it is so great to have them disappear by simply connecting to my inner-heart and allowing my life to be led by it.

198. Yes Raegan I can relate to what you say, checklists are creators of anxiety and keep us in constant carrot-dangling anxiousness and busyness that feels absolutely awful even antagonistic in the body. How freeing when stop that chattering noise of doing, accomplishing and fixing, to just accepting and being – to feel the balance of our innate stillness.

199. Great blog! It’s very true – it’s easy to always being looking ahead to better times, ie the grass is greener syndrome, rather than making every single second of every single moment count. After all, all these seconds and moments make up what we call the overall sum of our lives!

200. Yes, those dangling carrots, are indeed a thing of looking outside ourselves and thoughts about how you should be. And not what you are or feel in your body that you are. I can feel them a lot in my daily life, everything that I think I will need to be something I am not, will bring me out of myself, but when I then feel who I truly am I know I don’t have to be that.

201. Yes, those dangling carrots, are indeed a thing of looking outside ourselves and thoughts about how you should be. And not what you are or feel in your body that you are.

202. I can relate very much here to these dangling carrots and the never ending treadmill of driving myself chasing these goals always in the belief that somehow what I did would make me feel complete. I still get caught in this trap sometimes but I have learnt more recently that if I stop and connect to my body and just be me, the need to set these goals disappears.

203. When we search outside of ourselves for the answers or things to make us feel good we are satisfied for a moment, but they never seem enough and that feeling of emptiness or that there is more soon returns for us to then go in search of the next shiny object that seems like it will deliver us what it is to be fulfilled. After years of driving myself, and striving and trying to be more, do more, have more, I felt completely lost and devastated that what I thought would make me happy simple left me flat and dejected. It was only after and through the work of Serge Benhayon that I realised what I was looking for was inside me all along – me and my own love. Once I could connect to this, those carrots didn’t look so tasty after all.

204. Thank you Reagan. It seems to once again to come back to the living in the moment and not looking way out in front of ourselves. I often find myself ruminating on the past or thinking about what the future could hold or I would like it to hold. I am much more aware of when I do this now and bring myself back to the moment.

205. Hi Raegan, opting for what my head tells me is so very familiar, a game I’ve played all my life and still do play! Overriding the wisdom the body shares with me in favour of knowledge laced with ideals and beliefs. A crazy way to behave and harming to myself and everyone around me. Thankfully at least I recognise now this is a game I play so I can catch myself as I’m about to throw the dice and choose differently!

206. I love reading your article Raegan, I get something different from it each time, thank you.

     1. I agree Natalie, I also get something different another perspective each time I read Raegans article. I used to always chase carrots, with thoughts of when I have this or have ticked this box I will be complete and can then stop. But then when I did that there was always at least another carrot, if not more, waiting for me to strive towards. It is extremely freeing to stop chasing the carrot(s) and actually let my body stop, rest and be content with where I am. Then when the carrots come up I now do not find myself chasing them so much as I can feel the raciness and anxiousness levels building in my body when I do and so realise that something isn’t quite right.

207. Dangling carrots is a great description – I can really relate to it! And also how very practical and simple the tools are that Serge Benhayon presents to help people re-connect back with themselves.

208. Over the past few years, being supported by many from Universal Medicine, I am starting to see that chasing those carrots is not normal. Before I never questioned it, that was life and that was that. Now I am starting to feel that when I am in that rushing and panic to achieve a million things at once (or so it appears at the time) that something is wrong. I may not know what at the time but from experiencing and seeing in others a different way to live, I have started to question ‘my life’.

209. How many carrots we actually put in front of ourselves is actually pretty astounding, you have given some great examples which only begins the list we compile on a daily basis. When we realise this is not necessary and we only need listen to our own bodies in each and every moment we give ourselves permission to truly enjoy life.

210. This really reminds me of how we put conditions on life and on ourselves to be better, to improve, to be perfect rather than to stop and cherish what we have. This drive to be better, thinner, happier surely comes from a self-loathing or a lack of self-worth, a discontentment with how we are at that present moment, which exposes it to not be a true way of life. It is great to hear you broke this cycle by introducing love for yourself.

211. Isn’t it great when we let the carrots drop! I discovered space and to allow things to unfold rather than chasing them. Oh joy.

212. Perfect piece of writing for me to read today Raegan. I got caught up in deleting emails. I could feel I needed to stop and I listened to my head over-ride that feeling with thoughts of “i’ll just get to that number”. Thank you for outing the dangling carrots.

213. Thank you Reagan, I have followed dangling carrots and have completely gone off track and can very much relate to what you have written here. It is beautiful to feel how those voices have lost their power in you and I celebrate with you in, “I have actually learnt to stop, feel and express in a loving and joyful way. I do this by by connecting with me first, listening to me first, and expressing from there. I have found a voice, a voice that is so loving and gentle yet strong and empowered. Yes, the voice I now listen to is me.”

214. I can relate to having my fair share of carrots and it is exhausting trying to keep up with them. Thank you Raegan.

215. It can be so easy to be hard on ourselves and not accept where we are in our life. I certainly have a fair few dangling carrots to look at. Thanks Raegan.

216. Isn’t it incredible how we can make ourselves so constantly busy, so we don’t actually stop and listen to our bodies.
     Certainly a pattern I was very much caught in. And when going 100 mile an hr, I would feel guilty to rest.
     But actually – that effects the quality I bring to other people, not just me!
     It makes so much sense now.

217. Hi Raegan, I love the analogy of the dangling carrots, thanks for sharing.

218. Thank you Reagan. I can so relate to the dangling of carrots and things ahead thinking when I have that or reach that everything will be fine/great. In all of that I never then look at what’s happening now. For me it’s normally an anxiousness I feel and then think when I have x or y situation the anxiousness will somehow go!

219. Thank you Reagan for sharing, as I read your words I could totally relate to everything you are saying, but it was the first time I have felt the fact that I am on a treadmill. Until now I hadn’t realised that this behaviour was something I have done/am doing. What I got a sense of, for myself, is that all the goals I have are based on what I can do, not who I am. I think I can now understand why I hate sitting still and doing nothing! Your sentence “it has taken honesty and the ability to take responsibility for myself and my own healing..” is very true, and I have found by being honest and responsible for my own life I find more steadiness and less anxiousness within everyday.

220. Rae – love this, love you!

221. That was beautiful, Reagan, I really connected with your “dangling carrots” and the drive away from myself that kept me on the treadmill – and then to find a beautiful way that is simple and self-loving.

222. Thanks Raegan for sharing your story. I’ve never really thought about the dangling carrot but now that I do, I realise that I still have some dangling carrots of my own. I will ponder on those and see what is revealed for me. I am so inspired by your willingness to share, which gives me a great reflection.

223. Thank you Raegan for talking about unachievable goals and self-doubt voices. These are issues that have been driving me crazy and reading this great piece helps me see how these behaviours just set us up to keep us from feeling the amazingness of who we really are.

224. This sounds overly familiar! I find that even now that my awareness and my ability to listen to me have increased, I still at times get that ‘dangling carrots’ feeling.

225. Beautifully and simply expressed Raegan. I can feel the joy that is you now! Thank you for sharing.

     I love your last paragraph – “I don’t live my life by looking at the dangling carrots anymore. I have actually learnt to stop, feel, and express in a loving and joyful way. I do this by connecting with me first, listening to me first, and expressing from there. I have found a voice, a voice that is so loving and gentle, yet strong and empowered. Yes, the voice I now listen to is ME!!”

     1. Yes the voice I now listen to is ME! The voice is never telling complex stories, it gives me simplicity in every way.

226. Yes I also remember how I was fooled by the ‘dangling carrots” I created – anything would do for a distraction, so I didn’t see my choices. Then the pain and discomfort became so loud I had to look at my choices and thankfully I had the support from Universal Medicine and fellow students when exploring this new way of being. Thank you Raegan for the opportunity to reflect on this, while sharing with you.

227. Raegan, your blog’s title really drew me in… I wondered what I was going to be reading about for a moment! And when I read your post I recalled how many of those dangling carrots I used to reach out for. There’s a couple still there and your article illustrated how futile that approach to life is.

     It’s time to release those remaining carrots and grate them into a lunchtime salad.

     1. Rod, what to do if one doesn’t eat carrots. 😉

        1. Dangling carrots have no calories.

228. Raegan, it was awesome reading how you have changed from living a very driven lifestyle with that loud and ever-nagging voice giving the orders, to listening to your own true voice ‘that is so loving and gentle, yet strong and empowered’. Lovely you now have time and space to savour each and every moment of your life.

     1. A ‘voice’ that ‘doesn’t say much’….from what you write Mary, I can feel it’s power and presence. I too, have heard that quiet, harmonious, sometimes silent voice that comes when we still the mind and body, and it feels so good. I am going to remember what you have written here, and the feeling of that other voice when the voice of doubt and criticism is in overdrive in my head.

229. Raegan, awesome, so well said, so honest and true for you – amazing how much I can feel you in this as if you were right here next to me.

230. Raegan, I love how you say that the voice you are now listening to is ‘me’. You have written about this in such a clear way that enables the reader to see from ‘above’ (as it were), how by returning to you all those other voices just don’t have the space and the energy to dominate, and so they just fade away. That is so empowering and inspiring.

     We don’t need a tribe of donkeys out there to eat up all the dangling carrots – we can just come back to the rich reality that we are and that does it!

231. Raegan, I can totally relate to the “dangling carrots” that try to disturb us from feeling content. It is a term I have always used with myself. 🙂 I really enjoyed reading your blog. Thank you.

     1. I can relate to the dangling of carrots as well Abby, it is like there is always something or someone wanting us to move onto the next thing, or to do better and in doing so never stop to appreciate what we have done or are doing. For me the lack of feeling content brings with it an anxiousness, that I am not enough or I could be doing more.

232. I love the title of the article and love even more that the dangling carrots no longer exist the way they did before.

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