Being True to Myself: Taking Responsibility for my own Choices

by Trish Mazur, Marine Charter Co-ordinator, Gold Coast, Australia

I would personally like to thank Serge Benhayon (and all the Universal Medicine practitioners).

Reading statements like Serge Benhayon is ‘anti-exercise’ or ‘anti-mainstream medicine’ just does not correspond with the experience I have had with Serge and Universal Medicine (UniMed) at all.

Firstly, Serge doesn’t tell me what to do or think (sometimes I wish he did – but that wouldn’t be me deciding what is right for me!): neither does he say Western medicine is bad – far from it. What he has made me aware of is that I have responsibility for my own health and way of living. Combine that with Western medicine, and the way I see it, I have the best of both worlds.

Yes, when I first attended a Universal Medicine workshop, I admit I thought “No way is this for me”. Why? Because I was presented the truth… and we all know that the truth isn’t always nice to hear.

I didn’t want to hear, for example, the possibility that the alcohol and drugs I used recreationally were to numb my feelings and take the edge off life. I wasn’t ready to ask myself why I needed to take the edge off life. It didn’t suit me, and I didn’t want to face that possibility, so I carried on living the way I was living until I could no longer pretend it was OK. I had to face what I knew deep down was true, and that what Serge had presented all along ­– without judgment, criticism or pressure – was true for me.

When I met my partner, he too drank and used recreational drugs. I had to decide for myself whether or not I was going to accept that in my life. When I realised I didn’t want that in my life, yes, our relationship nearly finished: but years later we are still together – not because of Serge Benhayon or Universal Medicine, but because of the choices my partner and I made for ourselves in our own lives.

After all, how can you blame anyone else for your own choices? If you do, isn’t that just being irresponsible, a way of reacting to the outcomes of choices that haven’t turned out to be in your favour?

It’s been claimed by some that Serge Benhayon is anti-exercise – another false accusation, which is far from the truth. My partner and I live, and have always lived active lives, including surfing, which my partner has in common with Serge and his amazing sons Michael Benhayon and Curtis Benhayon.

It’s been said also Serge Benhayon is anti-mainstream medicine. But recently my partner had knee surgery. Serge and all the other Universal Medicine practitioners he had been seeing for healing sessions were (and always have been) pro the surgery, and are now providing him with supportive treatments, which are helping the healing process.

Similarly, I have never, ever in my five years of going to Universal Medicine heard Serge Benhayon (or anyone else for that matter) claim that they can or will heal breast cancer, or any other illness.

Science is wonderful but doesn’t however provide the full picture. We have all read the newspapers, or listened to health professionals; and still I am sure that most, if not all of us have heard contradictory messages.

We need to take responsibility now for our own way of living, not wait for someone to rescue us. I have found there is a knowing inside us that we have disconnected from. For example, we get advised by one lot of health professionals on what to eat; then it seems like the next day we hear something different. Wouldn’t it be simpler if we just tuned into what was right for us?

In my experience Serge has always avoided telling people what to eat – all he presents is to listen to your body and feel what is right for you, and you’ll get to know what you need and what is right for you. I find this changes all the time according to what my body needs, and it will be different for everyone – hence my partner and I don’t eat the same things at all times. It’s really just common sense, isn’t it?

To me it is simple – how can taking responsibility for one’s own choices, health and way of living, be harmful to you or anyone else for that matter? Taking responsibility is about being truthful. Truth is one of the biggest things missing in society, and unfortunately in the recent media articles as well. To me, as the media has the power to touch and reach so, so many people, it has one of the biggest responsibilities to represent truth.  Maybe one day, truth in the media will be a consistent part of life.

Again, I am eternally grateful to Serge Benhayon and all his family for inspiring me and so many others to be true to ourselves, as well as having the courage and integrity to do what I couldn’t do until I heard Serge’s presentations – to be true to myself, no matter what.

286 thoughts on “Being True to Myself: Taking Responsibility for my own Choices

  1. “To me it is simple – how can taking responsibility for one’s own choices, health and way of living, be harmful to you or anyone else for that matter? Taking responsibility is about being truthful. ” Yes, and being truthful is so very much needed in our world so we can come back, step by step, to a truer way of being.

  2. It’s such a simple comment ‘at times me and my partner don’t eat the same things’. Out of convenience we tend to cook the same meal, and have the same expectation of what dinner or breakfast is going to be. But we are different, we have different things going on in life, need different food to support us. If we try to control our food or live within prescribed rules it all just comes out sideways…

  3. What Serge Benhayon teaches is self responsibility and to listen to our inner heart not the outer impositions. This is challenges the status quo whose intention is to let us believe we’re in control, whereas in fact it controls us, because we allow it.

  4. Yes as you share truth is something deeply missing in our world. We crave love, intimacy, harmony, warmth, joy, stillness in our days etc. We can say that by virtue of being honest and reflecting back on truth it naturally brings back all those values, right? So we can make a start by truly introducing truth again. I love that idea !

  5. Through listening to what our body needs and honouring that feeling we build an awareness and trust of what feels truly nurturing for us and what is not. The more we choose to take true responsibility the more we naturally empower ourselves to make supportive choices that consider not just ourselves but others too.

  6. One could say that these reports from the media are misunderstandings of what Serge Benhayon has been presenting. This could be viable however the reports report lies that are so far from the truth that it is not just a mere misunderstanding it has to be a complete resistance, judgement and pure criticism of Universal Medicine. And this only comes from one not wanting to take responsibility for their own choices in life.

  7. Anybody that wants to know more and understand the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine should go to the nearest planetarium, everything that Serge Benhayon has said about how humans are made up of the matter of the universe and how intelligent the universe is, far more intelligent than our human brain for example. We like to think we know, we like to think we have everything under our control that science rules. It only rules because it starts with the answer it wants first then applies the theory until it fits the answer. That is not how the universe works and how arrogant are we if we do not think or feel we are part of it.

  8. Brilliant to read this today and hear that this in particular ‘how can you blame anyone else for your own choices?’ when really as noted here, we don’t like the outcomes of those choices and we want to blame another rather than become deeply honest and truthful that how we’ve been has led us there. This is deeply uncomfortable and I’ve both reacted to this and now come to a place of observation that how things I’ve been feeling recently and haven’t liked has been as a result of my choices … a bit of a ‘suck eggs’ for sure but getting annoyed at others or even myself for this doesn’t address this, see where I am and the choices I’ve made and knowing that I can make a different one, that’s what changes everything.

  9. “After all, how can you blame anyone else for your own choices?” Accepting that how one is living and the state of wellbeing as a consequence of one’s choices is something most people do not wish to hear, yet that is exactly what Serge Benhayon presents. A painful truth to sometimes hear, however, if heeded it can be life changing and empowering.

  10. Being true to ones self is the corner stone to forming respectful relationships in life. Seemingly we live in a world where we sacrifice our selves for others, but honestly look at what quality of relationships this then fosters and we have the beginning of wondering if this paradigm is actually one to follow.

  11. It is through our connection with ourselves that we are able to discern what is true and what is not from the natural wisdom within our body that clearly communicates to us what is love and what is not so that we are always able to change our choices to support ourselves more lovingly.

  12. “How can you blame anyone else for your own choices?” This question is key, every choice we make is entirely down to us, how we’re feeling, what we’re thinking, what’s important to us at that moment, blaming someone else is to completely not take responsibility for ourselves and our actions.

      1. Yet somehow we like to pretend it wasn’t our choice, and it wasn’t our responsibility and that makes life incredibly complicated. Yet the moment we come back to our responsibility clarity is restored.

  13. Its so true Trish that Serge supports people to feel what is true for them. I have found Serge’s consistent and unwavering commitment to presenting the truth has certainly helped me enormously to reconnect to what I feel and to what’s true for me. It sometimes take a lot of honesty to get there but it’s a humbling and very worthwhile process returning to the truth within myself, and it’s a truth we all equally hold within.

    1. I totally agree, Melinda, and it has been my experience, too. Returning to the truth within myself is, as you say, very humbling yet so worthwhile.

  14. In a world where we deem it normal to look outside and get the answers it can be a challenge to accept that the responsibility over our life lies in our own hands and that we actually deep down know so many answers to our own questions.

  15. We are in the best position to know our body better than anyone and by deepening our connection and relationship with our body and its natural rhythm we are able to tune into our inner knowing that guides and supports us through life the more tender and caring we are with ourselves and discerning of what feels true or not by what our body is communicating, the more we are able to be and express our true selves.

  16. Thank you Trish, I appreciated what you shared about people being responsible for their own choices yet they may often blame others, unaware it seems that they brought themselves to where they are in life. Blame cuts us off from our responsibility which is in fact very disempowering.

  17. ‘Taking responsibility is about being truthful’ – yes.. nothing changes in our lives until we start getting more honest about the way we’re living, and whether the choices we’re making every day – from how we eat to how we work and when we sleep, how we are in relationship with ourselves and others.. it’s pretty endless when you start to consider all the millions of choices we make in each day – are really supporting us to be all of who we are, or not.

  18. I agree Trish, taking responsibility is about being truthful, firstly with ourselves, recognising that when something does not feel right in changing our lifestyle choices we change the outcome.

  19. ‘We need to take responsibility now for our own way of living, not wait for someone to rescue us.’ I agree that we all need to take responsibility for the way we are living, not only does it support us, it is a great reflection for others too.

  20. So many things have been said about Serge Benhayon that are far from truth. I have observed when we don’t want to hear what we are hearing, we conveniently bend it to suit our own agenda and at times even start to believe that that is what was said.

  21. This is great. I love that you have completely shattered every lie that has been written about Serge through your own experience. Just goes to show how much rubbish is made up for the sake of stirring up drama. It’s so simple when we take responsibility for ourselves, everything becomes so much simpler and allows us to work together as opposed to against each other.

  22. I love what you say here about Serge Benhayon, and I fully agree,”Serge doesn’t tell me what to do or think (sometimes I wish he did – but that wouldn’t be me deciding what is right for me!): neither does he say Western medicine is bad – far from it. What he has made me aware of is that I have responsibility for my own health and way of living. Combine that with Western medicine, and the way I see it, I have the best of both worlds.”

  23. You bring it back to what we all dearly have to come to and do, to take responsibility over our own life and every action and moment in it. We need to stop blaming others or circumstances as that will keep us stuck and repeating things, that we so clearly can see don’t work, over and over again.

  24. I love that you were able to be so honest about your reaction to UM presentations in the early days. We have all had our own version of this at some stage, getting pissed off that someone was saying the truth.
    It is a real shame that most Media outlets are unwilling to report anything of truth when it comes to Universal Medicine. It has however been an eye opener to make sure that I do not believe anything that I hear in the paper or on cheap TV for that matter.

  25. So beautifully said Trish. Serge has always placed an emphasis on the fact that Universal Medicine therapies are complementary to conventional medicine and his presentations have helped me to understand that I know my body better than anyone else and I am responsible for the state it is in.

  26. I agree Trish ‘taking responsibility is about being truthful’, in being more willing to be honest with ourselves we are able to start to discern with a deepening awareness how our choices affect us and everyone around us.

  27. We all know universal truth, and we all know that we can choose it or not. If you want to see truth love responsibility and commitment breathed and lived in every step then Serge Benhayon reflects that consistently.

  28. So many lies about Serge Benhayon have been perpetrated and spread by the media who irresponsibly have taken lies from a hate based website without checking whether there is any truth in them which of course there is not. For my part my response to such a media is I will not purchase your products because I am not interested in a media that isn’t interested in truth.

  29. ‘We need to take responsibility now for our own way of living, not wait for someone to rescue us.’ We are the only ones who can rescue us. We are the ones that have made and make choices every second of the day, how in earth could someone else be responsible for how and what we live.

  30. “We need to take responsibility now for our own way of living, not wait for someone to rescue us.” The media feeds on the disasters of human living and the occasional ‘hero to the rescue’ but avoids wherever possible the truth that we are all responsible for the choices we make as this would include the media taking responsibility for what and how they report on events.

  31. Practically all the statements and articles reported by media are an outright lie, completely contradicting and misrepresenting the truth of what is being presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. It is interesting to note that it seems that the truth is not really what we want to hear, as there are a countless number of living and written testimonials that evidently present the truth of The Way of The Livingness. Yet as you have shared, the truth is not always met with open arms, as with truth comes responsibility. And for us to accept responsibility we must embrace honesty. If we are willing to be honest with the way we are living, how we are really feeling in our bodies it is then we can welcome the truth, as at the end of the day it is only truth that will free us to be who we really are.

  32. “Wouldn’t it be simpler if we just tuned into what was right for us?” I agree Trish, this makes sense to me, who better than ourselves knows how we are feeling inside. When we are willing to take responsibility for our lifestyle choices we are able to initiate great change through coming back to and feeling our truth which is also deeply empowering.

  33. No advice in the world can make the changes we need, it is self-honesty and how willing we are to admit that some if not many things in life are not working that open us up to true change.

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