by Vicky Cooke, Customer Service Advisor, London, UK
With all the lies and ill-allegations made towards Serge Benhayon, the Universal Medicine Team and many of us recently, I have noticed something. When I was younger and something didn’t feel right, I used to say it didn’t feel right. An example would be listening to the news and politicians talking, and thinking that sounds like a load of crap, saying this to my parents, and wondering why people who to me only felt like they were in it for themselves, seemed to be deciding our fate. Why was it just up to these few people, when clearly all the decisions and actions they were taking and making didn’t seem to be for all, or improving anything?
As the years went by I stopped questioning and started accepting. Feeling that I didn’t matter, that one voice doesn’t count, that everyday people cannot make a change and we had to let others decide our fate and just get on with it. Only recently have I come to deeply realise that by just accepting this, not only did I give up on life – I also buried my voice of reason and questioning deep within and let it be silenced.
Currently in my life I have a reference point where I can look at where I am now, to how I was a few years ago and go wow (!), I have changed a lot – for the better.
Recently I had to move out of the flat I was renting, and move in with my parents. This felt like an opportunity to give myself a bit of space, a stop and a breather to feel what is truly right for me moving forward with my life, and it felt like the most supportive thing for me to do.
This was where I could see how much I have changed.
Before meeting Serge Benhayon and attending courses and workshops, I had moved back with my parents some years ago. I was stroppy, blaming them for my life, frustrated and definitely not taking responsibility for my life and how I had lived it. I also felt lost. I was not sure about where I was going or what I was going to do for a living. In fact I didn’t even speak with them when I was living with them – how crappy was that!
So now… this time being with them, I really appreciate them for just being who they are. It feels really supportive to be able to stay with them and just give myself a bit of time. I am certainly not blaming them for my life. I no longer feel frustrated or lost; in fact I feel really lovely – so much clearer and much more joy-full. I have an understanding that how I live every day affects the next day. This makes such sense, and I wish I knew this or was taught this at school. I know how I can support myself whilst I am staying with them – even if I don’t know where I am going to be living next, or what I am going to be doing. My focus is on how I can support myself with food (that is a massive learning in itself), with sleep, and so many other tools I have been given and learnt. And I am starting to take responsibility for my life and all the choices that I make – even though there are still times when I can feel I don’t want to do this because it’s more comfortable to get away with not taking responsibility. This doesn’t feel lovely for me, it just feels that I am not listening to what I know feels true.
So it’s really beautiful for me to see this and confirm how much I have changed, which again is something I would not have felt able to truly do for myself in the past. And it feels fab, really great to see and feel this within myself compared to how I was – I felt pretty yucky back then. There is still a lot to learn and possibly change, but it is a massive improvement, and the learning and changing part just feels like a natural progression and unfolding instead of a drive that says I have to be better.
I recently read a blog that said ‘There was very little in life that was reflecting back to me that how I was living my life was not true.’
This really resonated with me and I could feel the deep appreciation in me that what Serge Benhayon has been presenting over the years is amazing and so needed. It is consistent, simple, true (I can definitely feel that), and it makes sense. It feels like it is everything I wanted to be taught and learn when growing up as a kid, but no-one in my life could teach me.
So it’s true – Serge is amazing and so are we.
Spot on Elizabeth – it is so important to stop, take stock and appreciate who we are and what we bring and the changes we have made that have allowed us to reclaim our power.
There are still so many areas in my life where I have not taken responsibility, and there are so many areas in life where I have now taken responsibility. The more I claim back these areas, the more it highlights what is needed next and also supports in the pull to continue.
Vicky, you talked about how we can just be quiet and stop the questioning and simply accept that this is how it is and that there is nothing we can do about it…This is something I too am familiar with having done, and yet this is embracing the mass consciousness that envelops those who give their power away in this way. To reclaim that power is a process and can be painful at times as we extricate ourselves from the web, and yet it is an incredibly freeing experience and well worth it. I am not here talking about an anarchist approach nor a fight back with belligerance, arrogance or attitude, but rather a simple re-claiming of the power that we hold and then expressing that with the enormity of the love that we are so that it is delivered with deep care and respect and honouring of self and all.
We know when something does not sit right, and when we are younger we are generally more honest in expressing these things. But over time we may learn that this is not socially correct or that this or that could offend another (even if this is not at all our intent or the way we have said something), and so we learn to shut down our true expression. But this over time is a very damaging experience for us – to not express how we feel can impact us in more ways than we realise.
So many people can attest to what you have shared Vicky that meeting Serge Benhayon was a turning point in our life and now when we look back as you have done we can see the difference in our life style. What Serge Benhayon presents is consistent, simple and also repetitive, Serge Benhayon can say the same thing in a myriad of different ways I feel this is to breakdown the structure of this arrogant part of ourselves that we call the spirit so that it is completely exposed in the mind games it plays and controls us by.
Thanks Vicky for sharing all your changes, I have also made many wonderful changes to my life inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, but I can also feel today how much more self love there is and self care on offer still. It’s like I have turned a page and opened up a new awareness of the next steps to take even deeper loving care of myself.
Thank you Vicky, and may I add that as we unfold as students we become responsible for deepening our understanding that our true parents are God and the Stars, which is taking us back to true responsibility.
Wow. This is true change. How often do we think we have changed when we are in a different job/living arrangement etc. but really what happened was we just uprooted ourselves from one place and replanted in another and nothing about or in us changed.
Returning to a place with which we have established an emotional relationship is a great opportunity to realize to what extent we are trapped in a pattern of movement or we had moved forward from it.
There comes a moment where we can feel indeed that we are stuck in a movement we have been repeating for a very very long time, that needs shifting around.
Gorgeous to read all your appreciation for your parents, for yourselves and the changes you made, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. Feels like building a platform from which more growth and deepening of love can unfold.
Deep inside each of us is the reference point that is talked of in this article. Our innate knowing of what is true and not, is there. Whether we feel and honour it depends on how hard we have worked to silence it. Therefore we all have the choice every day to stop the hard work and begin to allow it to again be felt and followed.
There are only few things as the magnificence of returning to a point we already went through it and realize how much things have changed for good.
That is big for many people, to let go of the judgement that you have towards your parents and to let it go and just accept them and not blame them for your life but accept the choices you made and learn from them. So often people can move through life still carrying the baggage of hurts from their childhood.
Yesterday, whilst writing about my life, I had cause to reflect on how I have changed over the past 7 years – since first meeting Serge Benhayon. It is very simple really but deeply profound. I have learned to love myself more. The most obvious impact of this is in my relationships with others – which are now more harmonious than they have ever been. I find that this is because, when I love myself more, I no longer need the other person to be anything for me – I am not seeking love from them – and can hence just allow them to be as they choose. The philosophies of Serge Benhayon are clearly working in my life and in the lives of many others I know. And we would all welcome greater harmony in our lives wouldn’t we?
Staying in the cycle of blaming others for our own choices as adults feeds the vicious cycle all the more.
Agreed and can’t wait for this day Doug ✨
Vicky you bring up a really valuable point here, understanding that how we live every day affects how we live the next day and so on. I was in my 40’s when I met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, where I was presented with the idea that energy and our choices affects our everyday lives, which made total sense to me, what really surprised me was here I am at 40+ learning a really valuable lesson, and I had to ask myself why are we not teaching this at school, because if we were we would be far better equipped for living our lives.
I’ve shared a similar experience in the way my attitude towards my life has changed dramatically since attending workshops and courses run by Universal Medicine. Essentially, I have been reminded that I am responsible for my self, my family, friends, colleagues etc are not responsible for my reactions, behaviours, self esteem, drama etc. Consequences are a result of choices, choices I make…good or bad. I can choose to learn from them, or keep repeating them over and over. Self responsibility has unlocked a lot for me. I can get on with life without wasting time wallowing in what could have been.
So relatable! I have experienced a very similar thing. Since attending courses and workshops with Universal Medicine, I have taken absolute control and responsibility of my life. I can see so clearly when I want to go into blame mode, which I know now is simply an attempt to pass the buck.
When life around us doesn’t reflect what we know to be true – which is that we are loving beings, then there is a doubt that creeps in about what we innately know and what we see so many people living as normal. But what if, as babies, as children, we knew more than the adults living around us because we were more connected to the source? What if we were the reminder of the truth the adults had forgotten about and we walked away from that and joined them because we doubted our value versus their value?
Great example Lucy – and so we get to understand the importance of living what we know to be true even if everyone else around us says this is not the case. We cannot let ourselves be convinced nor our truth to be diluted to just fit in… for this is a sacrifice that serves no one.
‘I have an understanding that how I live every day affects the next day. This makes such sense, and I wish I knew this or was taught this at school.’ Now that we know and can feel the truth of this it is our responsibility to share this with the world.
Now that would be a different class room Mary, that would worth the visit. Adding to what you have shared we could also learn that we are responsible for our-thoughts and thus our-expression with the understanding of the energy they come with.
Vicky it’s so amazing what you have shared about the change in your family relationships, and how this has come about from self care and taking responsibility for yourself. I have also experienced a lot of very positive changes in my relationships since studying with Universal Medicine and in some cases I thought that these situations would never change. One of the big changes is my relationship to myself and this is truly my foundation for all relationships. I am so much more loving with myself now, and I have cleared many personal hurts and traumas out of my body with the Universal Medicine therapies, so these things are now not impacting on my relationships. I feel responsible for supplying my own love now (by being love, a work in progress!) which means I’m free to enjoy me and others without so many expectations getting in the way. Taking great care of myself now also means I’m able to be me without so much moodiness from having a depleted body.
It is beautiful to feel the powerful marker that develops, of what love feels like, when we begin to support ourselves with love through everything we do in our lives, as we come to understand that one aspect of our lives impacts every aspect. Along with the empowerment that is felt from being guided by knowing of what feels true from within we begin to really live who we are.
Those reflections in our lives are very important – they give us an idea that perhaps what we consider is normal is not normal, and just as we spoke up as a child, so can we do again as an adult.
Great to have the confirmation you had, ‘it’s really beautiful for me to see this and confirm how much I have changed, which again is something I would not have felt able to truly do for myself in the past. And it feels fab, really great to see and feel this within myself compared to how I was’.
What a great opportunity to go back and re-imprint living with your parents, very beautiful, and also how you are now bringing responsibility to your life ‘I am starting to take responsibility for my life and all the choices that I make’.
Going back to live with your parents has provided a great opportunity to take stock and appreciate how far you’ve come – you are committed to life and willing to express and connect and not blame others for your (imagined) misfortune. Life is simple when we get to this point and it keeps forever deepening and gets more amazing.
yes and the beautifull thing is the learning and unfolding never stops it just keeps on going
Life is amazing in what it offers back in reflection through others and nature around us. I find it revelatory in understanding what is going on for me. When there is no one around so to speak I know I live under a cycle and constellations that are with me to initiate my being and beingness. What is next then is what I know will work simply and directly.
Looking at how the world is today, and how it has kept repeating the same mistakes over and over throughout the history, sometimes it feels impossible how we as a race of beings can ever truly change. But your sharing makes me realise how much I too have been able to learn and see my age-old patterns and started introducing little changes to the way I am – it may look insignificant from outside, but like you, learning about self-responsibility has given me a totally different taste in experiencing life itself – so if I was able to dislodge my stubbornness even a millimeter, so can everyone else. Just like I am taking my time, so will they – and start accepting and living the amazingness of who we truly are.
When we understand that how we live today affects tomorrow, it becomes easier to take responsibility for all our choices….there is no-one to blame especially not our parents.
How many of us stopped questioning as children because the answers coming back at us made very little, and sometimes no sense; and with the innate knowing we had, we could also feel the lies that we were often fed. Eventually we stop questioning, instead accepting the perceived wisdom of others and so began to live a life that was so much less than it could have been. Today we have Serge Benhayon with us, a man who encourages us to question, to always discern and who is supporting to so many to “change the reference point in our lives” to one that is always loving and truthful.
I love the point you make Ingrid, Serge Benhayon always encourages us to question, to question everything. I know that I have grown in myself so much since then. How silly is it that we need to be reminded that it is OK to question, to disagree, to get to know ourselves and not settle for something that doesn’t feel right. Freedom!
A gorgeous blog Vicky and a great reminder of the importance of taking stock and appreciating all the different choices you have made and the amazing impact this has had on your life. The more we acknowledge and confirm these changes we can then embody this appreciation and deepen the relationship with ourselves and others even more.
I haven’t been a great one for appreciating myself, so for me it has been amazing to feel reference points where I cannot deny to myself how far I have come and how much I have changed. These markers have supported me to bring appreciation of myself more into my daily life which then in itself deepens the marker I then know to be my new ‘normal’.
Reading this again especially with what is going on in the world and what has recently gone on with the UK and America this still stands true, the fact that why do we put the countries fate in one person’s hand, it just does not make any sense at all. We are all in this together. ‘An example would be listening to the news and politicians talking, and thinking that sounds like a load of crap, saying this to my parents, and wondering why people who to me only felt like they were in it for themselves, seemed to be deciding our fate. Why was it just up to these few people, when clearly all the decisions and actions they were taking and making didn’t seem to be for all, or improving anything? It is not about becoming an activist either but about making the changes that we want to see through how we live and our relationships with everyone and being consistent with this, something Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine continually reflect to me.
So true Vicky, and as we reflect the same energy we become responsible to live the Truth of our essences as our reflections are our greatest form of communication.
Blaming others for the situation I am in and feeling a victim has been a big one for me. It is only very recent that I have been able to see that there may be a way out of a situation by simply choosing to not create drama’s as excuses to not commit to life. Also letting go of the image of the need to involve others thinking I cannot do without them, another trap I may have put myself into to delay committing to life. It is certainly worth exploring and observing every time we blame another for the situation we find ourselves in.
So true Caroline, it is a change of perspective and brings more responsibility, more accountability but also more influence over our outcomes. If we are emotional and bring drama into our lives then we are at the mercy of wherever the emotional stormy seas take us. We can never feel truly prepared for life and therefore live with a level of anxiety that is crippling.
I agree Vicky that everything that Serge teaches is something I would have love to have known growing up. It is quite amazing to see one man inspire thousands of people in the way Serge Benhayon has. Truly inspirational.
Acknowledging and appreciating the changes one has made is so confirming and supports one to make yet further loving choices and so the unfoldment never ceases.
Having the awareness to observe our own behaviours without bias with clarity is an amazing tool to direct one’s life.
I agree Luke, who are we to judge either ourselves or others? Judging gets us nowhere!
Onelife makes so much sense. We all know, if you poison yourself with alcohol one day, you’ll be feeling the effects for a few days after. So why have we not put two and two together and realised that everything counts? How we put ourselves to bed, what food we eat, how we have expressed, how we have loved ourselves and others all has an effect on our next days and lives. Putting the dots together, it feels gorgeous and very responsible to claim back Onelife and know that each moment affects the next.
I had a moment of appreciation for Serge Benhayon the other day and the true love that he is whilst speaking with a colleague. When talking about Christmas I was shared with her a part of my life where I did not speak with my family for 2 years, in fact they did not even know where I was .. I cut all ties with them completely. It was during a healing session I had with Serge that this came to a head to be healed without me even consciously wanting it to be …. I was very stubborn. I was talking about something else and Serge shared with me that living without my family was like living half a life and even though at the time (due to stubbornness and wanting to be ‘independent’) on some level I did not want to hear this I knew in my body what he said was true, also my tears told me this. It was after this healing session with Serge that I took steps to get back in touch with my family and now I have the best relationship with them than I ever have had before and appreciate and love them dearly for who they are. I also appreciate that since writing this blog I now have another reference point to how much I have evolved from where I am now to where I was when I wrote this … so much has unfolded, grown and evolved within my life it is truly amazing. Life is forever flowing, healing and evolving when we allow it to be.
Vicky you are such a gorgeous human being, everything you share comes with 100% you, it’s real, honest and melts my heart. You share yourself so fully which is healing for everyone and feels beautiful. Your words here about your family and the healing with Serge are also amazing, this comment in itself would make a great blog to share more widely. I’m sure many people could relate to cutting others (not just family) out of their lives. Your story also exposes the lies in the media that Serge breaks up families. I also noticed in your blog how much the support of Universal Medicine has changed your overall relationship with your family, it’s an enormous healing you have been through and everything you have shared is very relatable. There is something very awesome here to share further about healing family relationships if you feel to!
It is gorgeous to return to a place where you can truly take stock of and feel how far you have come through the choices you have made. The power of listening to yourself and what feels true cannot be underestimated.
Gosh this is beautiful to read again Vicky. I can also say my relationships now are much more loving and harmonious because of the same things Serge Benhayon has taught me through his Universal Medicine workshops and presentations. You talked about the comfort of getting out of responsibility and how this doesn’t work for you anymore. I used to also think that getting out of things was a highly prized goal at times, yet what I have learned is that responsibility is something that truly supports me, and indeed it feels lovely because I am ” listening to what I know feels true.”
Reconnecting to who we are really makes all the difference to our lives and the joy, love and harmony we can bring into the world.
‘As the years went by I stopped questioning and started accepting’ – this is a pivotal point Vicky, and something I can totally relate to. There is a point where we start accepting what is normal, rather than continuing to question it and that is the reason that the world is allowed to be in the state its got itself into.
Our markers in life always change sometimes for better, sometimes for worse but when we truly stop and are willing to be honest with ourselves in reflecting on them this is when the healing begins. This is when we may start to understand EVERYTHING is a choice that WE make. If we allow it, it is also when we give ourselves permission to feel all the love that we are and where we are truly from. Since I wrote this my life has unfolded in an incredibly beautifull way from my job to my new home, my relationship with myself and my relationship with others and I am expressing more than ever before, no longer a silent or surpressed voice. What I love about Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is that they are a constant reminder that life is not about ourselves and what we want, it is about every single person, community, society, humanity, and committment to that. It is about the all.
A basic ‘Life’ subject at school would be awesome – not just about healthy eating and exercise, but energy and the quality of energy we live our lives in. Even the simple knowledge, like you said Vicky, about our current day affecting the next is a huge subject in itself and once spoken of many can relate and understand because they have probably experienced the reality of this fact. School would be so much more real and enjoyable with some some practical life skills involved and the acknowledgement that everything is energetic and we can feel it all the time.
Rachel you have just reminded me of something else that was a huge revelation to me which was how our periods reflect the month and how we have been living!!!! I never learnt this as well and thought my periods were completely out of my control. There is so much that we need to learn and be taught just as the pure basics of living and life that we are not currently taught.
It’s wonderful to have these solid markers of our journey within, how much we have changed and the true and loving person we are becoming. By taking the space to feel this we allow appreciation to wash over our foundation to strengthen it so we can continue developing the love in our body and for all.
Thank you Vicky for sharing your appreciation of the changes that have come into your life and the beautiful reflection your parents are receiving from you.
“I have an understanding that how I live every day affects the next day.” Vicky that made so much sense to me and I am wondering why this is not what we all know and do – imagine the world – most of us would be naturally responsible for our lives! I am sure the world would be less complicated and hard.
I don’t think we confirm enough just how much we’ve changed and just how far we’ve come when we step forward with responsibility – thanks for the super sweet reminder. I’m going to take some time to really appreciate and confirm myself today 🙂
For me also Serge presented a simple way of living that I have experimented with and found to be life-changing. We all need positive role models and for me he has been like a steady heart beat, repeating the same simple messages in many different ways, and maintaining a steady consistent presence as a lived example that how he lives actually works. I too appreciate Serge and the changes that I have made that contribute the wonderful sense of well-being that I now experience.
It’s huge to come to the understanding that as adults we have nothing to blame our parents for. Every experience is about learning about ourselves, about others and taking responsibility for all of our choices.
Vicky this is a beautiful sharing of your journey and growth to the point you are now taking responsibility for yourself and your decisions. Appreciating what you have in your family is a great point too.
Yes, it is lovely to read of the changes in how you are Vicky, and the responsibility and appreciation that is now in your life, ‘what Serge Benhayon has been presenting over the years is amazing and so needed. It is consistent, simple, true (I can definitely feel that), and it makes sense.’
‘I have an understanding that how I live every day affects the next day. This makes such sense, and I wish I knew this or was taught this at school.’ So true Vicky .
Vicky it was lovely to read how the relationship with yourself has changed from feeling powerless to supporting yourself and taking responsibility. I can relate to feeling that I am now in my own corner, supporting me, and because I am looking after me better, I am in a place where I can offer more support to others.
I love those points of reflection when we ‘repeat’ something we have done before and get to see how much we have changed. It is in these moments that I really bubble up with appreciation for all the work I have done with Universal Medicine and for all the people that have inspired and supported me along the way.
Vicky I love how moving in with your parents has been a completely different experience, when we take responsibility we are able to see and feel so much more not only about ourselves but also how our actions affect others too.
Thanks for your blog Vicky, I remember in my 20’s having a real interest in politics and the choices we could make on our future, but how this passion for discussing societal issues would get eroded away by that feeling that the corruption, lies, deceit and overall dishonesty that prevails in politics made it pointless, futile even to try and affect it with my voice. I am now understanding that we can and do affect it, and that it is never right to give up on our voice, even in these challenging times as it is needed that those who are willing to see beyond their own self interest are speaking louder and clearer than ever, to expose the systems and leaders who do not have such integrity in the way they are working.
The reference point of my life has also changed since meeting Serge Benhayon and joining the student body of Universal Medicine – feeling truth and connection back to what I know to be true is undeniable and can be supported by me in the activities of how I choose to live – no matter where that may be. It is easy to blame others, for me it is far more liberating to take responsibility and live with that connection. Back to where we all came from as children and knew what mattered. Truth and Love 🙂
Absolutely beautiful Vicky, thank you for your honesty and openness in sharing how your life has changed. The pivotal influence and inspiration of Serge Benhayon and the way he lives, what he presents and the extraordinary Universal Medicine Therapies that support this process enormously are worth every word of the accolades you offer. The fact it has awakened your own awareness, understanding and connection to truth and love, is testimony to it’s genuineness.
Vicky I love watching you expand, you like many other students of The Way of The Livingness have embraced what has been offered and in doing so become a light for others. Super inspiring Thank you.
When change presents itself in our lives like your moving out of your rented flat back to live with your parents, it is often our attitude that determines if we see it as a learning opportunity or not, and when we do often we learn so much about ourselves and how much we have changed, which can then be deeply appreciated.
I have an understanding that how I live every day affects the next day’, indeed Vicky, every single choice we make affects our next choice, every move we make affects the next move, and how we live today affects tomorrow, thus it can be said, that we create our future… we create where we are moving to next.
I can so relate to staying with parents and not even speaking to them. I spent a period of time when I blamed all my life struggle and personality defects on them, and my attitude and behaviour was just horrendous, so I can really appreciate the magnitude when you say “I know how I can support myself whilst I am staying with them – even if I don’t know where I am going to be living next, or what I am going to be doing” and that you appreciate your parents. This really is huge. Before Universal Medicine, all the self-development things that I tried pointed out where my issues might have originated from, but I never really learnt to come back to myself and take responsibility from that place.
I was also someone that knew right from wrong and had a path ahead that I knew to be true, but something in me changed where I started to go with the flow, which often didn’t support me and I lost me in it all. Now I’m on the path again but it’s the unquestioning knowing I am rebuilding.
I have also recently been looking back at my life and the many changes I have made since attending my first Universal Medicine workshop in 2012. I was so shut down and unable to feel any worth in myself, now I am back interacting more with people, and genuinely feel joy as a part of every day. I can also speak up and say what’s true for me, when in the past I would not be able to do this. There are too many points to share of the changes I have made, suffice to say Universal Medicine has had a profound and very positive impact on my life!
When we realise there is no one to blame and we are responsible for the way our life turns out, then we have the choice and responsibility to appreciate the lessons being presented to be healed and what a brilliant opportunity to reimprint your relationship with yourself and your parents Vicky.
Serge Benhayon inspires me to continuously change my reference point and continue to expand from point to point. This is very unlike most of society that not only doesn’t inspire true growth and development and instead inspires comfort in everything it advertises and reflects. This is the uniqueness of Serge Benhayon, who has stepped out of rhexomfirr and constantly asks himself to expand. Not from a push or a drive to be better, but instead from a knowing that he is more.
I have never been one to take instruction, to put in simply I always considered myself to be a rebel. I really didn’t like seeing people that followed gurus or put people or religion above themselves, so when I first met Serge Benhayon assuming he might be my Mums guru I was pleasantly surprised. Serge is a man that dedicates his life to remind people that we are all equal, all connect and all have an important part to play. I am blessed to have met a person who has this quality of dedication to humanity. I can feel your equal appreciation in this article for the responsibility that was reflected through the way Serge lives woke you up from the blame game we have all been a-party to at one time or another.
Serge Benhayon has indeed given us a reference point to be able to see truth and to come back to knowing that the way we felt about life was true and we never should have over ridden this. It is such a relief to know that what we feel is true and that the way we reason can be interfered with. Coming back to the truth of feeling is awesome.
A beautiful realisation Vicky of all the choices you have made and continue to make that you can appreciate the loveliness of who you are and share with us all.
Vicky this is a huge blog, and I recognised how we stop our voices being heard when we give in to the norms we see around which we know are not true – you take it to another level though in highlighting that in this give up we rob others and wider society of our knowing and I can feel the depth and responsibility we all carry to speak up and allow others to hear our voices of common sense and reason. The give up has been an abdication of responsibility and it doesn’t change anything. So thank you for writing this blog so honestly with real tenderness and lack of judgement – it touched me deeply this morning.
“There is still a lot to learn and possibly change, but it is a massive improvement, and the learning and changing part just feels like a natural progression and unfolding instead of a drive that says I have to be better.” I am 67 years of age and fast approaching 68 and I am enjoying life more now than ever before. I love life and all the wonderful opportunities (majority good, but also the bad and the ugly) that it brings in an endless supply daily.
I love this blog Vicky – I can relate to so much of what you have shared and it feels so healing to look back and appreciate how much I have changed since becoming a student of Universal Medicine. “So it’s true – Serge is amazing and so are we.” Absolutely!
Many would relate to your sharing Vicky! I remember feeling that one voice didn’t make any difference and so held back my opinions , part of this was that as a young woman I didn’t consider my feelings were valued by my family so why would others be any different! It has taken a great many years and the connection to the work of Serge Benhayon and the Ancient Wisdom to realise every voice counts, and we are all equally qualified to speak up and share with all, the wisdom within.
I wonder how your parents have reacted to the more loving you Vicky. I have a friend who’s mother in law used to say that you knew when your kids were about to leave home because all of a sudden they get nice to live with. You must be really confusing yours.
The most wonderful thing about the teachings of Universal Medicine is that we come back to ourselves. We remember the wisdom we had before we were imposed upon and we let go of the layers of learned stuff holding us back. It is a most beautiful lightness and so full of love.
It is absolutely beautiful to sometimes look back and appreciate the changes we made in our life, and truly feel that were we are at at this moment is enough, which makes us able to fully prepare for what is next and allows us to be free and open in whatever will come our way. Life in truth can’t be controlled, it can only be lived.
I love how you say you would have liked to be taught and have learned all that which is presented by Serge Benhayon as a child. This shows how much we do know love and truth and that this knowing never goes away.
There is so much support for us to embrace the loveliness of who we are and to really understand responsibility. It definitely makes us much nicer to live with.
“……what Serge Benhayon has been presenting over the years is amazing and so needed. It is consistent, simple, true (I can definitely feel that), and it makes sense. It feels like it is everything I wanted to be taught and learn when growing up as a kid, but no-one in my life could teach me.” I agree VIcky and feel grateful that there are teachers and parents in the Unimed community who now can pass on this amazing information and show by reflecting the way they live out to their world – as we all can. We now all have a responsibility to do so – as our world is becoming more troubled every day.
A beautiful blog to read Vicky, thank you. So much of what you have expressed I can relate to especially I had the belief that my voice does not matter. With the support, love and teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I am learning to speak up and express my truth thus feeling more me.
It is really interesting, when we have things that happen to us that we don’t like, to ask ourselves what our part in this has been. It is so worth taking responsibility for what we let into our lives even just if it was feeling that we were not worth it. Life is so much more joyful when we take responsibility. I used to feel like life was just pushing me around and now I never feel like that.
When we are born we are amazing, when we are adults we are amazing, however through the systems, conformity and pressures in life we are steered off course to bury everything that we feel to be very natural.
That simple, benign phrase, ‘how I live every day affects the next day’ looks simple enough and can muster a ‘Yeah, and…?’ from an undiscerning skim-read. But if we stop and see it as a deep truth presented in dehydrated form which on adding water reveals the enormity of its contents about responsibility, then it’s suddenly becomes a jaw-dropping expression of truth in its implications for the way we conduct ourselves moment to moment.
Cathy, you adding water to this has taken it to a whole other level. Thank you.
Cathy I love your comment, it asks us to go deeper, to consider what exactly it means in how we live, that each moment affects the next and affects the all. We are that stone thrown into a pond, each expression ripples out and affects far and wide.
One big aspect for me that has really changed since starting to attend Universal Medicine courses and events is learning to stop blaming myself and being super critical when things go wrong. I am much more able to stand back and look at what is happening to learn from it and so be able to change track in the future. I am able to see that I am always going to be a student of my life so it’s OK if I make mistakes because there will be more opportunities to work on things as life goes on. I am now able to look back and see how each thing is a building block for the next and so on. This gives me the space to appreciate myself much more.
Countless times I have heard the phrase ‘it is like it is, one person alone can’t change things anyway…’ – I never felt it to be true. But it was not until meeting Serge Benhayon that I got a lived reference point for what one man actually is capable of. Having love as his ally he has brought love into the homes of thousands. And it has only just begun.
I know there is areas in my life where I am very responsible and others areas where I have had blinkers on preferring to stay in the comfort, which begins to feel very uncomfortable and keeps me stuck. It feels very empowering when I can honestly look at the areas where I lack responsibility and begin to shift out of the comfort I am hiding in, my body feels much lighter and there is more energy to support me to make these loving changes.
Vicky I loved reading your blog, and how you have made different choices and now feel very differently about living with your parents this time round. Where you write “And I am starting to take responsibility for my life and all the choices that I make – even though there are still times when I can feel I don’t want to do this because it’s more comfortable to get away with not taking responsibility.” I so agree that when we don’t take that responsibility for ourselves we do it because it’s more comfortable not to.
Hi Sally, I am beginning to feel this more and more in my body .. how not taking responsibility is just sitting in comfort. It really does not feel nice but what is great about feeling this and having this awareness is now I know it is something to change and clear from my body for good.
How beautiful to take the time to confirm and appreciate how you have changed Vicky and thank you for sharing this with us. I have recently come to a deeper level of appreciation of where I am at and how far I have come and this is changing everything for me because I am choosing to not beat myself up for any mistakes/slips. I felt you summed it up so well when you said ‘the learning and changing part just feels like a natural progression and unfolding instead of a drive that says I have to be better’. It takes the trying out of life and allows for expansion.
“It feels like it is everything I wanted to be taught and learn when growing up as a kid, but no-one in my life could teach me.”
I relate to this line Vicky, and I appreciate that I still have many years of learning and growing, and thanks to Serge Benhayon for bringing us the Ancient Wisdom – truth, love, philosophy, psychology, religion, as well as all the modalities and practical ways to live in such a way that we can love our future.
“I also buried my voice of reason and questioning deep within and let it be silenced.” working our way out from the silence and back into an expression from our innate loveliness results in gorgeous blogs like yours Vicky, thank you for this inspiring sharing.
Appreciation of myself is for me key to making self-loving choices, building a body of love. Some years ago, through the presentations of Serge Benhayon, I learned that appreciating myself was something I was not used to do, as I was not grown up like that. My growing up was about being obeyant to my parents and other adults in my life, such as teachers, parents of my friends, shopkeepers, the barber, my neighbors, the priest of the catholic church etc. and absolutely not about appreciating myself for who I naturally was. What I learned form appreciating myself was that it gives me an inner strength, the power of being connected with something very supportive and loving from deep within and is deepening every time I do appreciate myself or somebody else. What I also learned is that when I started with appreciating myself is that it felt like something that I had to do it on a regular basis, I had to consciously work on it every moment of the day so to say. Now I notice that the self-appreciation has become a natural way of expressing myself on any moment of the day. From this self-appreciation I now also can appreciate other people around me and see them for who the truly are and what they are giving to the world, something I was not able to do in the past.
This is beautiful what you have shared Nico. Appreciation is something we are not taught or guided to do for ourselves, but true appreciation of ourselves is very much needed as is building a relationship with ourselves; something which I am currently seeing many young people do not have. The very idea of consciously working on my relationship with me was something that never occurred to me until presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. Now I can see the importance of this and how it is to be something that is constantly lovingly worked on and nurtured. If at first we have a steady, loving and honouring relationship with ourselves then everything else around us will flourish.
It is amazing how self-appreciation flourishes and allows for greater appreciation of others and acceptance of us all being on our own paths in life.
Being mature and responsible is definitely not boring, it sets us free to be who we are. What a confirmation of this when you stayed with your parents. Thanks for sharing Vicky.
It Is great to have opportunities in life where we are given the chance to take stock and appreciate how far we have come as a result of the choices that we have made, it allows us to create more space to deepen our intimacy with others.
It is important to stop and appreciate, like you have done so Vicky, how far we have come when we can note these kinds of changes in ourselves and in light of our experiences with the world, as children and growing up etc.
When we stop questioning and challenging what is not true we effectively ignore and disregard the truth. When we disregard the truth this allows untruths to become our accepted and normal way. This is as you say Vicky – giving up. The mentality of giving up on ourselves and others creates a mess, and all messes eventually need to be cleared. We can never give up on truth. All our voices do indeed count and collectively are very powerful. By each of us committing to claiming and expressing the truth the ripple effect is felt by all. This in turn inspires others to do the same… then they inspire others to do the same and so on….
Totally agree that the reflection Serge Benhayon (and now many others) has offered is a gift beyond words, but absolutely apparent when we see the changes in our lives that results from taking responsibility for our daily choices.
Sometimes we need to feel how yucky life can be when we drop responsibility and not take care of ourselves. This way we have a reference point and a point of reflection to gauge where we are at. We have to feel it for ourselves, in our body as a marker and a level that we just don’t fall below. Then we are responsible for raising the bar.
Beautiful, Vicky. I feel very touched by your sharing. I had lived away (in many senses) from my parents for many years, and I made a u-turn a few years ago. I had already felt a change in me but was never sure of what it would be like to get closer to them. It is an on-going journey for me, and it is really confirming to catch a moment where I can feel a mutual appreciation and love that has no attachment or needs, and what I am learning now is to express that in full.
What a great opportunity you had Vicky, to move back in with your parents and to see and feel how you have changed. I have also found that when I take responsibility for my life there is no need to blame and criticise, we are all interconnected and us living responsibly allows others to be inspired.
A great blog Vicky, I can relate to what you share here. What Serge Benhayon presents and lives makes sense and truly works and supports everyone equally. I agree Serge is amazing and so are we – a beautiful reminder for us all.
Vicky, I can so relate to hearing politicians and clearly feeling the corruption and lack of integrity and truth. I would feel hopeless – that it is an impossible situation and nothing that I can change as one small voice.
I now understand that by not feeling all the yuckiness that is there to feel allows it to continue unchecked. I do not need to change the world single handedly, but I can choose to not to bury my head in the sand and ignore all the corruption. I can also take responsibility for the way I live and for my integrity and intention in everything I think, do and say.
Vicky, so much of what you share has also been my experience. That deep confusion when watching politicians ramble on, knowing all that was being said was complete and utter rubbish, whilst also feeling that my feelings on the matter were completely pointless, because how the hell was I going to be able to improve the governments lack of responsibility issue?
But with a little more understanding around what my personal responsibility is in life, I still know I can’t change politics, but I can absolutely make a difference by just being who I naturally am, which will allow others to choose the same. The more we are all living our true selves, the less room there is for nonsense. It’s a slow process, but a possible one.
Love the way that through the love and commitment towards yourself and life Vicky, you have found such ease and harmony within and also within your family. Feels that the accepting of yourself through making wiser choices, has allowed for there to be acceptance within your family too.
So beautiful and powerful and deeply loving Vicky. You share the simplicity of life and how we are agents of change and the beauty of taking responsibility.
‘This doesn’t feel lovely for me, it just feels that I am not listening to what I know feels true.’ I love this sentence Vicky, to me it says it all. There are so many things that we do that do not feel good but we keep doing them because we do not want to change what we know we need to change.
‘So it’s true – Serge is amazing and so are we.’ love it
Thank you Vicky, I really loved your blog, the reference point was a reminder to me, to look back at where I have come from and where I am now. I am gradually finding my forgotten self, and the love that has always lived within. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Yes Vicki we are indeed amazing. The tools given to us by Serge Benhayon are so simple and yet so powerful and when applied to my life, this life of mine keeps unfolding for the better. I am truly thankful for Universal Medicine and the blogs that open my eyes and my heart to so many aspects of life.
“There is still a lot to learn and possibly change, but it is a massive improvement, and the learning and changing part just feels like a natural progression and unfolding instead of a drive that says I have to be better.” These words are so wise Vicky, unfolding feels so much more gentle than trying to change. I too love all the tools that Serge Benhayon has presented to us that support us to unfold more of who we really are.
Vicky I can relate to feeling and knowing that the world and how people behaved didn’t make sense, but instead of questioning it and asking people how they really felt and really thought things could work, I stayed silent, thought the world to be crazy and gave up. Only over the last years through the presentations and reflections of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have I slowly claimed myself back, that I matter and my voice counts, and that in fact I not only matter but that my contribution is absolutely needed for the all, as is everybody else’s, and that by holding myself back it is like a puzzle piece that is missing from the big picture that we as a whole of humanity are.
That is so true what you say, every single person is part of the puzzle, matters and are needed for the bigger plan; and everyone’s voice does count, we all just need to express more and not stay silent.
Fabulous blog Vicky, I always find when someone is very real and very much themselves in their written expression it is a very healing experience for me. I agree, there is certainly a comfort in getting away with not taking responsibility, I did that a lot as a teen and it still comes up. I hope you will keep writing.
Jane what a great command and the following part got me: “every voice counts – we simply have to choose to claim what we know, and express it.” That is so true!!!! Your are then completely filled up with yourself and nothing can stop you and that is so inspiring for the rest of the world that they can’t hold back to be touched by you.
This is awesome Vicky, thank you so much for sharing your journey. It’s amazing how when we are reflected back another way of living we can then start making different choices that can truly support us.
So true Melissa, and this being said..”Only recently have I come to deeply realise that by just accepting this, not only did I give up on life – I also buried my voice of reason and questioning deep within and let it be silenced.” I realise there are areas in my life I too have silenced myself, and dumbed down my power to keep the peace and hide myself.
What a wonderful example of what can happen when we make a choice to change “the reference point in our life; that we do have a choice to live life in a different way; that nothing has to stay the same; and we do have a powerful voice with which to speak and be heard – and yes Vicki, I agree, we are all amazing!
Great to read Vicky how you have come from frustration and blaming your parents to appreciate them for who they are. A huge healing for yourself and your parents equally. I love what you shared that the learning and changing part just feels like a natural progression and unfolding instead of a drive to be better. I have the same feeling when we allow ourselves to be honest and let go of what does not support us we will naturally be love more and more.
Thank you for reflecting how loving it is to appreciate ourselves. And how appreciation builds a deeper love within and confirms all the loving choices that we have made in honour of our connection to the beautiful tender love that we are.
Taking responsibility for ourselves and our self made lives is so empowering. I love how practical the teachings of Universal Medicine are and agree with the sentiment ‘There was very little in life that was reflecting back to me that how I was living my life was not true.’
Such a well written blog… thank you. Family issues are a touchy subject for most and reading about your willingness now to be with your parents and connect with them from once never wanting to talk to them is a miracle in itself and I think there are many who could read this blog and ask questions like; how did you get there? what have you learnt? what have you done?. It’s just amazing the change.
A wonderful blog Vicky. It’s lovely to read about the changes in you and your relationships since taking responsibility for your choices, and being loving and honouring of your body. Inspirational.
Vicky, it’s such a joy to read this blog and feel how you’ve taken charge of you, spoken up, and taken responsibility for how you are and then all this change and no more blame. What freedom, it’s actually the key to life, to live the quality that is us first and from there everything else takes care of itself.
I recognize what you write that ‘there was so little in life that was reflecting to you how you were living your life was not true.’Than life goes on, even though deep down there is this feeling of something is not right here’. That was my feeling for a long time seeing and listening to people around me. What a great pleasure to meet and hear Serge talk. I realize that one voice, just one voice, can make the difference to no reflection at all and of having a reflection to my life and how I was living. From then on I now have a reference point to feel for myself what it true and what not in my life and make different choices.
As children we question everything – why things are the way they are and who says so, we see the ridiculous in life and naturally speak up when it doesn’t feel right…and then like you did, at some point we just start accepting – like the answers don’t offer us the truth we are seeking and we just resign to life being as it is…the ’well that’s just life’ mentality. What Serge has offered us is an understanding of life and of ourselves, a reminder to question and not just blindly accept, and inspiration to make loving choices for ourselves and then appreciate them deeply as we take responsibility for our lives, like you are so beautifully doing. It is just gorgeous to hear of the profound changes that have been unfolding in your life and the awareness you have, a true pleasure to read.
Vicky, love this blog! You are so grown up! Learning to support ourselves and taking responsibility for doing it consistently is simply massive. It is about focusing on you and your choices and stop focusing on ‘what the others are doing or not to you’. And a resounding ‘yes’ to what Serge Benhayon presents is amazing.
Vicki your choice to live with your parents again and be totally different with them is truly remarkable. It’s a real testament to everything you have reconnected to with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Awesome blog Vicky. As I read I could feel how I made the same choices as you – I often felt the absurdity of how things were in life, but as no-one else seemed to feel this way – I gave up on them. I thought that one voice didn’t matter and worse still, that there was something wrong with me. It feels to me that I made a very clear decision to give up, check out, and accept life for what it was – to allow other people to make decisions for me and determine my fate. Over the last few years I’ve made so many changes in my life to take responsibility for my self that have improved my self and quality of life enormously… but as I read I could really feel the absolute importance of me expressing the truth of everything I feel. We have all been ‘jibbed’ so to speak and now I know another way, I have a responsibility to share that with others. Thank you for speaking your truth and inspiring me to do the same.
“It feels like it is everything I wanted to be taught and learn when growing up as a kid, but no-one in my life could teach me” – gorgeous. This is also how I feel about the teachings of Universal Medicine. The teachings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have inspired me deeply to become more self-loving, responsible and true to myself. And it’s true that when we grow up, we think that because our voice is not liked, or doesn’t want to be heard sometimes, that it isn’t needed – but it IS needed.
Such a great point you raise Vicky. I can so relate as when I read it, it resonates deeply with me that I was a very questioning little boy myself who just accepted life and now am so so appreciative of the choices I am making to return back to living that truth once again.
Thanks Vicky. Growing up I felt an enormous tension in my body and with the world and I realise now, after many years studying with Universal Medicine and Serge Bemhayon, that I knew what living a true life was but I wasn’t living it. I had sold out to the way of living that everyone around me was in. This caused the tension. It is great to be able to understand this and now choose to live a life with an ever growing amount of truth. I remember the day I attended my first Universal Medicine workshop I walked out relieved and the tension had dissipated significantly. My reference point had indeed been changed forever.
Hi Vicky, I really enjoyed reading about your experience as it highlighted for me the importance of really appreciating ourselves and the changes we have made. While not in perfection I too can feel and see that what Universal medicine and Serge Benhayon have presented offers us all the opportunity to really feel for ourselves again. I feel I am much more aware of my body and my choices and am willing to take more responsibility for the way I live. Appreciating this creates a new foundation or platform from which to live and I know no matter the way I choose to live it is up to me to feel the truth for myself.
Hi Vicky, I thought the same and blamed not only my parents and our circumstances but lots of other things outside me as life went on as well, never actually taking responsibility for my own choices. Like you all that has changed and blame is no longer my master. I now see my parents for the lovely people they truly are and deeply treasure them. All of my relationships have changed as I have become more open and accepting and aware. As it has been for you, it is Serge and the work he presents that I have to thank for my ‘re-education’ and reintroduction to a more loving way of living.
Vicky, you wrote ” I have an understanding that how I live every day affects the next day”. I would add every moment of the day is coloured by what went previously. We do have a voice, and we can affect change even if in very small ways. I think this is one of the great teaching of Universal Medicine.
Vicky, I relate to your saying “Currently in my life I have a reference point”. This is one of the most useful tools I have learned from Universal Medicine. Now I have a marker of how good it feels to be truthful with myself. Admittedly I do not yet live with this lovely feeling every hour of the day but when I become aware of straying away I can recapture it by reconnecting with myself.
Love this blog Vicky, and I absolutely agree – Serge Benhayon is a deeply AMAZING, and profoundly inspiring man! And, we are all such deeply AMAZING beings 🙂
I also feel that in being a student of Universal Medicine, I have found the true education I was always seeking, having been acutely aware of so many inconsistencies in the education and ‘authoritative stances’ of others whilst growing up (also very much experienced as a grown up) too.
I love that you have claimed this ‘reference point’, marking such significant changes in your attitude to life, your parents, yourself… with no need, nor expectation to be perfect, but rather in such claimed deep appreciation of where you now find yourself. This is most definitely worthy of celebrating, and in a blog to boot!
There is so much to relate to in what you have shared, and I feel very similarly, in no longer holding my parents in any blame, nor need for them to be any other way in order for ‘me’ to be ok in life. This is a powerful realisation in itself, one reached through steady inner work and awareness. Again, to celebrate deeply.
Thank-you for such a joyful piece of writing.
Hi Vicky, you have made some pretty important points about speaking up when things dont feel right and also about taking responsibility for your own life without blaming others.
What you say about how you felt and expressed so clearly when you were younger reminded me of listening to a young person I know speaking the other day, so clear and no hiding, exactly what he felt.
That’s really cool Vicky! What Serge Benhayon presents is so simple. I mean, the difference between blaming your parents for your life’s choices and taking responsibility for your choices is huge. How can anyone argue with that? You’re leading the way! Carry on!
Thanks Vicky, I had not considered it till now, but I was the same as a younger child. I used to say things as I saw them and as they were. Then, as I got older, I started toning down what I saw and what I said in order to be polite, to not offend, and I was taught to do this by family and society in order to make me a ‘better person’. But what a true loss it actually is for all of society that we choose to foster in our children a culture of choosing politeness over honesty. We would learn so much more from each other were this not the case.
This is really important Adam, just how many of us loose our innate and natural way of expressing and calling out what we could see or feel. It cannot be like this anymore. We have a responsibility now to hold the space where the younger generation NEVER loose this.
of course the other side of the coin is that we don’t hold back calling things out, but we do so in reaction, in anger – which pretty much sums up the nature of every activist movement in the world. We can only truly call out something when we have moved beyond its ability to affect us – and the only way we can learn to do that is not to personalise all of the abuse and evil that invariably comes our way in life. Human beings are not inherently abusive or evil. But through their loss of connection, they can behave in that way. And so, when we call out abuse, we call out the behaviour, but in doing so we are not condemning the individual responsible, but rather calling them to a higher expression of their own truth.
Same for me Vicky… when you say, “It feels like it is everything I wanted to be taught and learn when growing up as a kid, but no-one in my life could teach me.” How lovely to get the opportunity now and pass this incredible gift onto others.
Susan this is so true, what I have benefitted from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicines teachings, presentations and modalities are not just for me or a few others, these are to be shared with everyone so we can all evolve equally.
I felt the same way as you Vicky, that my voice would be lost in the enormity of the world so there was little point in using it. I now know my voice does count and it feels fantastic to start using it.
It’s easy to think that our voice doesn’t matter, that it won’t make a difference but as you say Vicky this just ends in giving up and disconnecting from what we are feeling and know to be true.
Hi Vicky, I relate so much to the idea you have expressed about a changing reference point in life and how this supports us to truly be ourselves in all our endeavours. Thank-you.
Thank you Vicky. I really relate to the one voice doesn’t count and I don’t matter, this was my belief too. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have shown me differently and more and more I am now speaking my truth, bringing me back into the world.
Beautiful, heartfelt and deeply sincere expression. Thank you for sharing how we can change by taking responsibility. ” I have an understanding that how I live every day affects the next day” is such a powerful and empowering understanding.
I agree Jonathan, understanding what our bodies are reflecting back to us on the way we have been living supports us to live a completely different way.
A great blog expressing where true responsibility lies – within ourselves. I blamed my parents for many years for not loving me the way I felt that they should, imposing upon them to be someone who they were not, rather than allowing myself to see that they actually did the best job they could. And no, it was not the full package, but what is in life? All of us have stuff to work through and deal with. In the end I realised that I was not taking responsibility for my half in the equation – that I was holding back my love for my parents out of some misshapen belief that they had to meet some illustrious standard of my own making – crazy.
That is such a key point Adam, taking responsibility for our part of the equation, we’re quick to jump at the other but in doing so we dismiss our part and also dis-empower ourselves; the one thing we can address is us and how we are and when we do, as Vicky shows here, it changes everything. So really we set ourselves up until we stop and see that we don’t have to and then miracles happen, and suddenly there is space for something different.
Thank you Vicky, a great reminder that we can choose to speak out, and we can choose to be responsible for all our actions and the way we take care of ourselves, and we can change the way we feel about our parents, and then a funny thing happens – the criticism fades away as we appreciate who we are and what we bring.
Yes Vicky, you are amazing and so is Serge Benhayon. I love how you approach something that could be controversial like going back to living with your parents in such a loving way, giving yourself some time and choosing to develop and refine the way you eat, sleep and care for yourself and how that affects the way you are with your parents. It seems like because you take more responsibility for your life, and not blame them, you can be yourself and express more acceptance and love to them. Great learning.
Great point Vicky. We all have this inner knowing or wisdom or intelligence which is not learnt but comes from the heart. When we are young we don’t question it we just know it to be true, but at some point we look around us and we can’t see anyone else living from the heart and so we start to doubt and question ourselves. All of the reflections we are getting back from the world as you say are saying the opposite. And usually we start to shut down our inner wisdom or our light as a result. How amazing is it then to experience a reflection from another which confirms our inner wisdom and tells us we are not alone and we are not wrong? And how amazing that once re-ignited this inner wisdom can be nurtured and grown and then shared with others so they too are inspired to turn their lights inner wisdom back on too?
Top blog Vicky Cooke and I agree I wish I had someone teaching me and reflecting to me at school that there was another simple way to live without struggle and that self responsibility has to be at the heart of our living way.
I love what you say at the beginning about how you stopped questioning and started accepting thinking that your one voice did not count and now you know it does matter.
I too stopped the questioning because it just all felt so overwhelming. I was getting obsessed with re-cycling, landfill sites and dumping on our planet. It is only after meeting Serge Benhayon and attending the Universal Medicine presentations and workshops that I have a deeper understanding about my part in life and my contribution to the earth.
Gone are the days of being addicted and fanatical about ‘silly’ things. My days start with taking full responsibility for all my choices and to live without harming myself and others to the best of my ability, without the need for perfection.
Thanks for your blog, Vicky. I had gone through most of my life feeling that my voice didn’t matter but Serge Benhayon has inspired me to know that each voice is as equal as all others and that we do make a difference. After all these years it feels great to share my expression and not wonder if what I had to say was good enough.
I love the markers you describe, Vicky, the two episodes you spent time in your parents’ home. I have noticed that with my children in the past, when they both at different times came back and stayed with me for about eight weeks twice, that the second time was very different from the first. But this happened purely because of having experienced more of life and being older, whereas now, when they come and visit me, we are all consciously working with our relationship together, and that is something quite different from before and has meant our relationships are changing and deepening to a new dimension.
Thanks Vicky for sharing, this is one of those blogs of which practically everyone can relate to in some way or another. I can certainly relate to not appreciating my parents when I was a teenager and blamed them for my troubles, even though I was not acting out outwardly and went within myself (which is the same thing) I was still punishing them. I have now come to realise that they were doing the best for me that they knew how, considering how they were brought up also.
Thanks Vicky for sharing your honesty with us. I can really feel the joy of taking responsibility for ourselves and how much better this feels than blaming others.
Like you Vicky I too grew up not having a reference point to confirm my feelings. Growing up and going into early adulthood feeling disempowered and blaming the world for my woes. This blog got me wondering and looking back from where I am now, I am a COMPLETELY different person now. And through the presentations of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and the student body I am inspired to know and claim for myself that I can be my own parent and confirm and support that my feelings are real and do hold weight in the world. My choices to be aware of what I feel more and more and remaining open to feeling is so worth it for my health, vitality and ability to be open with all others.
Beautifully said Leigh, ‘that I can be my own parent and confirm and support that my feelings are real and do hold weight in the world’ that they surely do.
That’s gorgeous Leigh, it is definitely worth celebrating and appreciating how far you have come, and yes I agree we can be our own parent to ourselves : )
That’s the thing Leigh no matter where we’ve been or how it’s been, we can be our own parents now and take responsibility for us, how we feel and being honest about this. Thanks for sharing this gem.
” the changing and learning part just feels like a natural progression and unfolding instead of a desire that says I have to do better.”
It is beautiful to see how you are unfolding Vicky, naturally so, and now enjoying a completely different job and still living with and appreciating your parents as you do.
You are an inspiration. Thank you.
Thank you Vicky for your honesty and what a great marker and opportunity for appreciation of your choices when returning to your parents. Awesome!
So lovely to feel that you are able to not only accept your parents and yourself but to also appreciate them …..and I love how you say ” the changing and learning part just feels like a natural progression and unfolding instead of a desire that says I have to do better.”
That line is gold Elaine and Vicky, that changing is a natural progression not about having to do better, that is a paradigm shift, it’s what evolution is, and until I read this today I didn’t fully understand that, so thank you.
Thank you Vicky for your very honest blog. I , too, as a teenager and a young woman used to blame my parents for a lot of what was happening to me. Now, time has passed and I have changed so much since those days. Taking responsibility for my life instead of blaming others is the key and I feel it is very liberating.
Yes, at some point in my life I gave up on the world and on me. I did not realize it at the time but it was a life altering thing.
With support from Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and my Universal Medicine Practitioner, I have accepted that I did give up, felt the pain, and am now moving on. I am now working at not holding back, and expressing myself, knowing that I do make a difference in the world! We can all make a difference, just by expressing our truth.
Great to hear your voice Vicky, that DOES matter!
Thanks Jane, you rock. 🙂
Vicky, thanks so much for your great blog. I could especially relate to what you said about giving up on speaking about on what is going on in the world. Like you, I spoke up a lot when younger and then at a certain point the enormity of the grossness, ‘injustice’, appalling-ness of the goings on in the world seemed to get so big, that I felt there was nothing I could ‘do’ that would make a difference. Thank heavens Serge’s presentations have helped us to see that we can ‘be’ and we can ‘speak’ and it does make a difference.
Vicky, what a great blog. I loved your self honesty.
Thank you Vicky. Great to hear your voice!
And yes, it is amazing how much the relationship to our parents can change if we are willing to take responsibility for our own lives. I share the same experience. I used to feel hurt and was abusive towards my mother every time I met her – now this behavior has completely stopped, simply by me taking responsibility for my actions and my expressions – making me more loving and understanding.
Hi Judith, thanks you for your comment – it is really inspiring to read. I am currently learning about expression and how I can now choose to express what I feel in a loving way; it is sometimes challenging but also something I really need to learn how to do.
Hi Vicki, thanks for this. I have made a similar journey with my parents – I went from completely blaming them to actually letting go and letting them be. It’s so liberating to just let go.
And so wonderful to reclaim the power back in your life… to know that much of the quality of it, actually comes from the way we choose to live it! How awesome is that!
Hi Felicity – it was really good to read your comment. I felt myself reading “And so wonderful to reclaim the power back in your life… to know that much of the quality of it, actually comes from the way we choose to live it! How awesome is that!” over and over again. It is awesome and your comment was really inspiring – thank you.
Hi Felicity, I feel like what you have shared here is so amazing as your blog too Vicki. To ‘let go’ and just allow all others to be is simple the only way to. It is the only way to feel free within ourselves and drop all the irresponsibility and blame we shove onto others, especially our parents.