I attended a Universal Medicine event called The Glory Workshop in Lennox Head in December 2012. Serge Benhayon had talked about glory in his presentations before and it had always seemed somewhat out of reach as a state of being that I could aspire to, let alone sustain on a daily basis.
It turned out to be all very simple and practical. The main ingredient as presented on the day is open and honest communication with others; my willingness to express to another or others what I am truly feeling. So when telling somebody that they look lovely, I can now let myself feel the depth of what I have felt and really want to communicate to that person and possibly say something like, “I have noticed how much care you take with how you dress and how lovely you always look, and it lights up my day”.
What’s the difference, you may ask? Well, I am one of those people whose eyes well up with tears whenever I see or notice something truly caring or loving, whether that be on TV or in the movies. It has always puzzled me and I now know that it is all the unexpressed potential expressions that I have not ever expressed, stuck in my throat and creating havoc in my body. Havoc? Yes, all the things I want to say, all the things I always wished I could say, don’t just disappear into thin air – they actually stay in me and get stuck there, and it makes me buy more tissues, having to pull them out in the most inopportune moments! And just in case you wonder, honest expression also includes telling my boss something like, “I am doing my best here and whether right or wrong, I do not deserve to be treated like this. And I don’t actually work any better or faster when I am bullied, quite the contrary”. Ouch – let’s see how we go with that one.
But what is more important? Keeping it all bottled up inside and affecting my body in many ways, as not only presented by Universal Medicine but also by the field of Psychoneuroimmunology*, or expressing, making a few mistakes on the way if needed – and getting on with it? A no-brainer, me feels.
by Gabriele Conrad, Goonellabah, Australia
[*Note: “Psychoneuroimmunology refers to the study of the interactions among behavioral, neural and endocrine, and immune functions.” Reference: http://ilarjournal.oxfordjournals.org/content/39/1/27.full].
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Burying those words we felt to say but didn’t it is no surprise that we get weepy sometimes, like a gentle volcano erupting when it can no longer hold back the pressure.
Precisely Gabriele – a no-brainer. I have been exploring this and am discovering how far more honoring it is when we say ‘yes’ to expressing what we feel from our bodies and being, as we are honouring the truth in that moment not only for us but equally so for the other. For when we don’t we do slip into our minds leading us and feeding us any and every reason for us to not express. So it is a ‘no-brainer’ indeed, as our heart and Soul truly do say it all.
I did express to another how I was feeling ( which I had been holding back) and it felt amazing and very freeing…. I felt expanded and at the same time was a lovely confirmation of how much I have healed in the way of not feeling safe to express.
That’s such a great confirmation – and it doesn’t then matter what the response or reaction might be as long as we have expressed what needed to be expressed, free of emotion and without attachment to a specific outcome.
Yes Gabriele, it was free of emotion which I just realised on reading your reply. What a huge turn around for me as I was always ruled and controlled by my emotions. There was no outcome and I wasn’t disappointed because I had given myself the space to express what I felt to express, and that felt great. However, a few days on I have gone into the ‘what if’ I had done this or that differently, what if I had expressed sooner, what if I had let the other in, we may still be together…. I know I have to let this go and just appreciate that I did in the end express!
Yes, self-doubt is another hurdle; it is a sneaky energy, designed to make sure we don’t enjoy what we are doing, let alone appreciate ourselves.
‘The main ingredient as presented on the day is open and honest communication with others; my willingness to express to another or others what I am truly feeling’. This is pure gold and a perfect timely reminder for me today as I have been holding back expressing how I have been feeling to another!
For years I kept everything bottle up inside me which became my pattern. So over the years and no surprise I came to a bottle neck, my body could not contain any more unexpressed feelings and had to create an illness for me to stop the momentum I was in, release the bottle neck and create space for me to make different choices to consistently self-care and self nurture which would allow me to feel safe to begin expressing my feelings.
Because everything is energy before it is matter, our unexpressed feelings do not go away but provide the breeding ground for illness and disease.
We’ve created a society where we have lost the meaning of expressing ourselves and being real. To feel glorious is to be open to being absolutely honest. It is great to confirm how much You know love – that is the Glory!
“Keeping it all bottled up inside and affecting my body in many ways, or expressing, making a few mistakes on the way if needed – and getting on with it?” – I have been trying out the expressing and making mistakes option at varying degrees and what I am realising is it is my reaction to others’ reaction that makes my learning attempts as mistakes and see myself as wrong.
It has taken me a while to put “glory” and “expression” together. For much of my life as far as I was concerned, I was just talking. I certainly didn’t realise the power of what I was saying, that it could either be harming or healing the person I was speaking to, and as for those words unspoken, I simply presumed that they dissolved into thin air. Attending presentations by Serge Benhayon soon woke me up to the truth of our expression; that it harms or heals, those words don’t go away, and whatever and however I express it is my responsibility as to the consequences.
… which reminds me of another of Serge Benhayon’s teachings, i.e. that “nothing is nothing”. In fact, everything matters and everything is the end result of and leaves an energetic trail. And it is up to us what quality we choose, whether that be in our expression or anything else for that matter.
thanks for reminding me of why expression is important. I can see its no wonder that I get tired when I carry so much unexpressed tension and emotions in my body from not saying what is needed to be said.
I’m now re learning not only to express but what is the energy I am in when expressing and how am I feeling when I say it. As there are times in the past when I have said something and wished it had gone un said as it was said with an intent to hurt the other person so what was said was in bitterness. Now I am much more aware of what I am saying and to speak in a non harming way that brings an understanding to both parties.
A beautiful reminder Gabriele of the power of expression and how deeply healing this is for all. Serge Benhayon has always presented on ‘Expression is everything’ and I have only just begun to feel the magic and evolution on offer when we choose this.
We may find we feel quite clumsy when we start to really express how we feel, and we may stumble and even fall at times, but every step is so absolutely worthwhile as the more we practice the simpler it becomes.
Expression is key, as what is unexpressed is there to be felt by all, and it impacts everywhere – I feel both the freedom and the responsibility in this, in how we are in our lives. And best of all to express with the understanding that there is no perfection we are learning each and every one of us.
It’s been a while since I have read this Gabriele, and I have realised just how much more I now express of how I feel (which is often my joyful appreciation of others), and how it has contributed to how well I now feel – true expression is great for our health and wellbeing. I also feel so much more contented in myself as I have said what is there to share, and expressed my love for myself and others. I find that each time I express it supports me to stay connected to me.
If I had been raised to understand that “all the things I want to say, all the things I always wished I could say, don’t just disappear into thin air – they actually stay in me and get stuck there”, I am very sure that my life, and my health, would have been very different than it was for the vast majority of my life.. It simply makes sense when you come to understand that everything is energy that words are energy too, therefore if they are held back in any way the energy gets stored in our body and more often than not expressed at a late date in a most inappropriate way.
Reading this you have conveyed the liberation on offer when we express ourselves. Not expressing is like keeping ourselves in a prison cell. Simple statements of how we feel are all that takes to set us free.
I agree Nikki. And it is beautiful to feel that the liberation on offer through our expression is not just for us, but for the other to also feel the liberation that truth offers.
Well said. Truth expressed is true freedom.
The power of expressing what you feel cannot be underestimated in its ability to deliver to another exactly what they need to hear to support them… it is like a package to be delivered for them that you do not own… it is almost a crime to deny them it and what it may offer them.
I agree – to not express is like cheating on another/others in a very subtle way, denying them an opportunity to learn and evolve.
Honest expression has been something over the last few years I am re-learning, and when I do express how freeing it feels in my body.
Thank you Gabriele, I know what you are saying when you well up with tears when you see something truly loving or caring, I have had the same thing happen to me and wondered what was going on, I have noticed of late that it doesn’t happen so often as my expression is opening up more.
Such a poignant sharing Gabriele, and you are right, those things we don’t express, all the joy that is there to be let out, and all the times when things don’t feel right for us, they add up, and they come out in other ways sooner or later. Better to start expressing how we fee now.
I started to bottle it all up as a teenager and can tell you it is not a pleasant thing to do, it all piles up inside and starts to play out in your head like a broken record. Thanks to Universal Medicine I am now, 30 years later! learning to express, which means to drop the nice facade and talk about what I feel and what keeps coming into my head.
I love this Gabriele, this short piece is bursting of expression. It makes so much sense to express everything that is there to express as it otherwise stays unexpressed bursting to come out any time.
Yes, and in the most inopportune moments and with an extra charge because it’s been bottled up. A recipe for potential disaster.
Gabriele your wrote: “. . . all the things I want to say, all the things I always wished I could say, don’t just disappear into thin air . . . ” That is so true as all that will stay in our bodies and will come out in the moments we really don’t want them to come up. It is healthier for the body that we learn to express more what is there to be said – it is indeed the best medicine ever!
Yes, we will invariably make mistakes but that’s how we learn, just like a toddler who is starting to walk.
I noticed that I hold back my expression to be safe, to not rock the boat. But – I do not feel very fulfilled or joyful all of the time, so what I buy me is just a status quo of ‘I know how this is’. By expressing what I see and feel I have to let go of what I did hold onto and go with the flow. You and I do not know what will happen when we express freely….this is scary as long as it is more important for me to be safe (in creation and the illusion of control) instead of surrender to the divinity I am belonging to, knowing I am held from my brothers and sisters.
Gabriele, I feel more open to expressing more of who I am these days, but your sharing opened my eyes even wider to the detrimental effects on our bodies bottling up expression has. To speak the truth (expression) is everything as Serge Benhayon has shared with us many times! An amazing blog thank you Gabriele.
Great to revisit this blog Gabriele. I am also learning and observing that the glory of expression is my willingness to be open and honest and to share my feelings. What I am finding is that the more I share of me, the more I let others in…. it is indeed a lovely process of trusting my feelings and what is there to be expressed is to be expressed, simple.
“my willingness to express to another or others what I am truly feeling.” Thank you Gabriele for an explanation of the welling up and tears that I experience and am so quick to brush away to hide my feelings.
I realize while reading your blog Gabriele, that I am better at expressing what I feel when it comes to confirming and appreciating others but not so great at expressing about not so great communication or behaviours between myself and others. It makes me realize the context where I have experienced hurtful comments have always been full of conflict and a generation of emotional exchanges which have often become explosive. To be able to read your words as follows, is very healing for me, “And just in case you wonder, honest expression also includes telling my boss something like, “I am doing my best here and whether right or wrong, I do not deserve to be treated like this. And I don’t actually work any better or faster when I am bullied, quite the contrary”.
We all have a choice – but how are we feeling and living when we make that choice? I know on ‘bad’ days my choice will be different to ‘good’ days. By the time we get to the fridge door, for example, we may have already decided to eat, and saying no with discipline works this once – but what about the next time? What will support us? Loving ourselves and making life about the quality we live in every day will affect our daily choices. ‘Everything is energy’ – Einstein – and ‘Everything is because of energy’ – Serge Benhayon.
Enormous pressure builds up when we don’t express what needs to be said, that is true. The question only is whether we allow ourselves to feel that and what impact it has on our health and how we are then in our interactions with other people.
Not holding back is definitely the way to go.
Everyone experiences a backlash on the body when something isn’t expressed when every part of you said yes to expressing it.
The abundance of choices we make every single day is astounding if we really understood what expression is in full.
Agreed, choices are being made every moment of every day and especially when seemingly not making a choice, we are still making a choice by virtue of the fact that we have chosen to not make a choice. And thus, everything counts and comes back to what a good friend addresses as “and what is this (choice or apparent non-choice) leading to?”
Agree, this opens up the discussion to realise that the meaning of a choice is so much broader than we have been taught.
A choice is in our breath, a choice is in the products we choose to buy and a choice is the direction we decide to drive home. We have to get to the microscopic meaning of how choices affect us in every inch of life.
Wow. All that unexpressed emotion stuck in the body, over how many years? Waiting for an opportune external catalyst to even begin to release it. A frightening prospect when we look back on all those moments we could’ve, should’ve, might’ve, didn’t, wouldn’t, couldn’t. Man size tissues, for sure… Thanks, Gabriele. Much food for thought.
… much food for thought and incentive to put in place those small steps that eventually lead to bigger steps.
Thank you Gabriele. I can absolutely relate to the welling of tears (yes, often out of proportion) when something is heartfelt and also the bluntly honest expression that definitely doesn’t win one any friends. My response to this has been to clam up and express less, further compounding the problem. I know now through attending Universal Medicine courses and listening to Serge Benhayon present, that the key is to keep expressing anyway and eventually the backlog will clear.
I agree, clamming up doesn’t work and is also very disturbing to our physiology; expression just takes practice and getting used to again. Children do it easily and offer the most amazing insights if they are not interfered with and after all, we were all children once.
I can so relate to this blog Gabriele, I feel like I have lived my whole life not saying all that I wanted to say or reducing it down to almost nothing, or saying it like I don’t mean it. I know what you mean about it getting stuck in your throat and stagnating in your body and as a result getting teary at awkward moments. We could all do with learning to loosen up our communication honestly.
That feels like a big dose of honest self-diagnosis, Bernard. And saying things in a way that undermines what we are trying to say is just another of the many tricks in the box.
It is awesome to see the correlation between tears and holding back our expression. I often feel like crying ‘for no reason’ and now I know that this is simply due to not expressing what I feel in full.
How come we are so afraid of making mistakes? We don’t expect a toddler to just get up and walk or start speaking in complete sentences, so why this expectation to get it right and be perfect?
You paint a clear picture here, Gabriele. This is gold -the unexpressed things I want to say don’t just vanish – like poison in the body, gas that bloats me for example.
So true – nothing just vanishes, and that is especially true for anything energetic as it can be so clearly felt in the body, if we care to be aware of it that is.
I felt while revisiting your blog Gabriele I am not yet embracing the abundance, the Glory that can be there in every moment of my life. Holding back my expression is the way to sabotage this feeling of all that I am. Your simple blog has a great message and inspires me to start my day with the intention to express all my Love.
I am noticing a similar thing Annelies. Although I can see that I have taken great strides forward in this area, I can still feel a slight resistance to the notion of ‘glory’. Reading your comment it makes sense to me that this is stemming from wanting to hide rather than allowing others to see me in all my glory. Yet the glory that is right there for me to embrace is such a powerful force. I can feel I am constantly moving closer and experiencing more moments of sheer joy and the glory associated with this way of living is then amplified. Thank you.
I am crying too harryjwhite and Gabrielle, perfect timing to re read your blog today. Expressing myself with all that I am is still work in progress but I am allowing myself making mistakes along the way and to be honest how holding back my expression actually feels in my body.
A beautiful and inspiring blog to re-visit Gabriele and be reminded that Glory is available to us always, and by simply expressing in full how this supports us to feel this more and more – a no brainer indeed.
I love this – thank you Gabriele. Beautiful inspiration to not hold back in our expression, at all, ever.
I love what you have shared here Gabriele – that Glory isn’t some unreachable state, but one which we feel very naturally when we express what we feel – this is so simple and I found that I have so much more to express when I let people in, deal with my hurts and let go of beliefs and ideals about how I ‘should’ be.. it is a truly liberated state that feels.. glorious!
Bottling up our thoughts and feelings instead of expressing them becomes very uncomfortable once there is awareness around the importance of expression. I can feel it in my body when I am holding back, and it feels absolutely terrible. If I choose to express what I am feeling in that moment, the overstimulated systems in my body settle down again and harmony is restored. It is quite extraordinary.
Bottling things up does feel like living inside a pressure cooker and everybody knows it; it is quite common that when we finally say something it comes out very charged and in a way that the other person cannot hear it because it is so loaded with emotions. The original issue thus turns into a monumental problem because of the delay and all the thoughts that have run amok in our head.
I love how you have shared both bottling up and expressing freely in the moment. This is beautifully described: “If I choose to express what I am feeling in that moment, the over stimulated systems in my body settle down again and harmony is restored. It is quite extraordinary.”
I have found this as well – the physiology settles easily when we express timely and from our truth whereas the pressure cooker scenario starts another cycle of raciness and agitation.
Agreed. What is love left unexpressed, is it still love? It is vital we express what we feel and who we are as by not doing so we are doing a great disservice to not only ourselves but all others as well. We need to have the courage to express our truth to help us all evolve.
Hmm, keeping our expression, and therefore our potential to feel our glory, bottled up is not a healthy choice for anyone. Lovely blog Gabriele.
This is enormous Gabriele, thank you. In the moment of not expressing what is there to be shared, I can feel how I’ve kidded myself that it passes once the moment is not taken, yet as you’ve clearly highlighted its not gone. It stays with us until the moment comes around again to offer us the opportunity to express again, only this time perhaps with more behind it.
It feels like every undelivered expression creates a pocket in the body that can attract emotions such as resentment and bitterness as well as ‘being nice’. This then makes it much more likely that we eventually explode rather than express or stay in limbo, forever dissatisfied with ‘our lot’, self-inflicted as it is.
Absolutely, the freedom of empty pockets or better still no need for them, is something I’m aspiring to feel every day.
Inner tension; a result of not expressing how we truly feel, this is a very powerful reminder of whats important in life. To share with others how we are going, how we are finding life, how we are building strength or what we are finding difficult. So important to have role models in our lives as well that are doing this. I really feel for the people that do not have many people in their life, and with no true role models.
oh my goodness, I am learning how to express wholeheartedly and it is indeed so glorious. I was sharing with a friend the other night just how much he means to me and HE got tears welling up in his eyes and he shared that he had never been appreciated like that before in his life. It was so amazing to share with him all the things that I see within him and all the beautiful qualities that I feel with being around him. It is truly truly glorious to express how we innately feel. And yes this also goes for speaking up when we are feeling things that are not so nice also.
Thats very true Gabriele and I haven’t ever thought of it that way before. I also had another experience yesterday where I was with a client of mine and I really felt to share all of the amazing qualities that I was feeling in her but I didn’t because it was a work ‘situation’ and wasn’t sure how she was going to feel about the comments. I contracted and doubted myself after having such an amazing knowing of how powerful true expression is. It is like I am worried that it is not going to come across in truth and it is going to come across as ‘fake’ or trying to please… but if it has the right intention.. to just speak what I am feeling then I am learning that this is genuine and comes from deep within the heart. No body can deny and not feel true expression from that place.
Great expression, Gabriele! What you share is the total opposite to what is reflected all around us – so many people holding back and not expressing what they feel. When we hold the truth inside it not only affects our bodies but everyone else loses out too.
So true Melinda, expressing the love that we are for each of us in our own unique way will build the loveliness in each of us such that we do not need any form of competition, jealousy or comparison any more because we are all fully content with ourselves in equality.
The moment I could truly feel that the words I want to say, but do not say, get stuck somewhere inside me, on top of other unspoken words – and this pile just keeps on growing if I continue to hold back – was one of those “oh wow” moments that instantly wake you up. It has taken a while, with much support from the presentations of Serge Benhayon and lots of inner reflection, to slowly learn to express all that I want to say, but as I began to feel the pain of holding back so very clearly, it became easier. Now I am loving the ease and the freedom of my expression – it is a truly glorious feeling.
That makes me wonder if one day it will be accepted, as suggested by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, that tension and emotional states in the body, which can be caused by a lack of expression, are the root of all illness and disease – once I opened to the fact that I have a responsibility here and stopped hiding behind the excuse of “this is just how it is”, I could really feel this!
the excuse of it being “just how it is” is a poisonous one. It’s something that needs to be broken as change will only occur through talking about how bad the ‘bad’ situations actually are.
It is a big concept Melinda…our lack of expression of those small things leading to bigger emotional outbursts that give relief but then do a whole heap of damage to us and people around us.
Bottling things up might have its place when you are making preserves and have an oversupply of produce, but it certainly has never worked for us humans because it doesn’t just go away, it needs to find its place in the body somewhere. And even if we don’t have the equipment yet to measure the fact, we can actually all feel it.
love this Gabriele, all those jars of sour pickles 🙂
… sour pickles fermenting and bubbling up as gases, causing havoc in the system – heartburn, hiccups, skin eruptions, itches, constriction in the throat, neck pan and so the list goes on.
Now thats a meal worth avoiding.
Thank you Gabriele, this is a very timely blog for me, as I have been struggling to open up and express, I have been into the nice most of my life, which is not true. Like you said what is left unexpressed is still left in the body. So time for me to open up and express more, and live in a much more open and honest way, sharing my love with others.
Well said and yes, nice doesn’t cut it at all as we have all discovered through the teachings of Universal Medicine as presented by Serge Benhayon. Nice actually feels very awful in the body and I have found that it is very dishonest and based on my fear of possibly being hurt or some other harm coming my way.
A no brainer indeed Gabriele. I definitely used to be the ‘keeping it all bottled up inside’ type before, which contributed to my excessive weight gain. These days, I can actually feel the harm in my body when I don’t express in full so expressing and making a few mistakes along the way pales in comparison to what it is doing to my body by not expressing.
Thank you for this confirmation, Tim. Everything points to the fact that bottling expression up and keeping it to ourselves is bad for our health and detrimental to our wellbeing.
We are taught to hold ourselves back and be nice, polite, put up with things if they aren’t too bad. What you are presenting here Gabriele is freedom, truth, actually saying how we feel. Thank you. Courses like this expression workshop with Universal Medicine are so needed in a world where we walk around holding so much of what is really going on for us inside.
You have a way with words Gabriele that I appreciate very much. What a beautiful blog, simple, short and sweet. Thank you.
A great reminder that ‘expression is everything’ and how damaging holding back can be on our body. Thanks Gabriele.
Gabriele, this is beautiful and very touching. As I contemplated all you wrote I felt sadness in me from all the times I wanted to speak up and express my love and my innocence, but I was too shy or self conscious, particularly as a teenager.
It’s an amazing point you make, that where does the unsaid go? If it stays in the body then there is even more impetus to let it out. (And what happens to the body by not saying it?). How different may life be for all if we had never held back our expression, and what opportunities have been missed by not expressing? We may have held everyone back.
I feel that we do indeed hold everyone back because expression is not just about expressing as such, but also about supporting each other to share in the expression and then build on that.
Great point here Gabriele, I am discovering that it is equally important to express both for yourself and to also support others in their expression because all of this makes up the whole. Serge once said to me “Sarah when you hold back, I am less” and it took quite a while to work out what he meant by that. But I am starting to get it now because when we all hold back and don’t express ourselves, the space gets filled with other ‘stuff’ thats not true. And also that it is all of our unique expression that helps us gain understanding of each other and the world and one voice speaks, and another can add to that and so on and so on.
Yes, as Serge Benhayon says “expression is everything”. When we express in full we feel our own glory. What I am realising as I write this, is yes it can be that simple.
Love it Gabriele, I can feel the glory in sharing everything you feel to share with another, a glory because the love you express outwardly for the other is something that also comes back to you and confirms that grandness you are. Best two-way communication there is!
Gabriele, I have immensely enjoyed re-reading your blog and broadening my understanding of ‘glory’ as I have always found I would feel a bit awkward at the use of the word. However, as I read your blog I felt I could embrace ‘glory’ in all its meanings as I continue to develop true expression via allowing love to naturally flow in and out of me.
I agree, it is all rather simple and very practical – as is the Ageless Wisdom.
Gabriele it so interesting to read about your experience of welling up in tears at inopportune moments. I had never quite connected this to what I had not expressed but this makes perfect sense to me. Time for more true expression of what I am feeling for sure.
Gabrielle this feels like it is written for me – I love what you have shared as I have held back also and I feel the pain of doing so – that is changing with my commitment to me now and the difference is awesome. Expression is everything I have come to realise just how big that statement is.
Wow Gabrielle, a truly beautiful expression… with no unexpressed potential. A pleasure to read and a powerful reminder of not holding back saying what we truly feel.
Another beautiful Gabriele blog! I loved the clarity in it that when you say to someone how you feel about them not only is it good for your body but also that it allows you to feel the depth of what you have felt. Thank you!
And the glorious thing is…there is so much glory around, just waiting to be expressed.
Gabriele, I found your blog a timely encouragement to put aside the doubts and confidence issues and open myself up more to feel and express what is going on. Thank you!
Yes Helen, to give ourselves permission to make some mistakes along the way and to just do it! Say what we feel – what is there to be said otherwise it becomes a bottleneck in your body with it exploding at inopportune moments! I’ve had a few of those when I’ve gone – wow that was a strong (and strange) reaction to something quite small. It is all so connected – much more that we really think.
This is a great post Gabriele, and I’ve really got to feel and appreciate the difference here in what you were saying when words are spoken and although are completely true, they only go to first base. But that when we truly express what those words are to us just as you’ve written the example about the “brightening up my day” , this feels, or has so much depth…that it reaches fourth base. And beyond.
Yes this is so true so many observations and hurts I have taken on have been bottled up in my body, so you get strange responses to scenes in movies and also to triggers in daily life. Through Universal Medicine I have found voice to express many of the things bottled up and have left workshops feeling different – not relief, but actually truly different, so I am more present with myself from then on. It has felt like true change and it hasn’t been a process of struggle but more like fun and enjoyment!
Not only fun and enjoyment but simple as well – and it all makes so much sense.
Awesome Gabriele, I love this blog. It just makes so much sense… when I express myself in full there is absolutely a feeling of glory that floods my body. When I hold back, it is as though my body contracts and feels tense.
Hi brooke, The reality of holding back and feeling contraction, tension and also a lack of intimacy. The level of intimacy that we can have when we allow the expression gates to flood open is incredible. We have the power to be so intimate with so many people and make it normal as it is normal. Love is beautiful and intimate and expression is the start of forming amazingly exquisite relationship! It is so powerful!
I love the glory of expression. Our expression is so important. The more I express the more I realize and feel in my body where I hold back. It is like there is a domino effect with new layers of expression being addressed. It really is a lot of fun, very empowering and resulting in an expansive feeling in my body to simply express what I feel.
A no-brainer: what lovely expression. I could feel how much you sparkle while reading this. You’ve set something free in you with the workshop that you then brought through your blog – and that is appreciation of the all! To my feeling it’s an honoring of each and every person, starting with the self and expressing from that love. Very beautiful.
Not only does expressing feel lovely to hear for the other person ( if it is a compliment e.g. ) but the more important part is, that it feels lovely in me. I know, of course, moments, where I hold back and it feels awful in my body. It interrupts a natural flow within me.. thank you for sharing this and reminding me of the importance of expressing all the time.
Great article Gabriele as it exposes the importance of us expressing in every moment – otherwise it becomes held in the body. Something I too am learning to do more.
Lovely to read your blog again Gabriele – and I feel I needed it to re-confirm something as I read another blog and that was about holding back! I am now aware that my body feels tight and uncomfortable when I hold back on saying what I truly feel. It’s as though the words become twisted up inside my body. Also, when I express fully I feel vital and alive.
It is so interesting in how far we have trained ourselves to hold back what we truly feel and only express after callibrating and feeling safe. Letting out what we truly feel will suddenly make one realize what valuable contributions we can bring to every moment in life.
This had been my pattern my whole life Michael to hold back my expression and only express after callibrating and feeling safe, which I have been working on a lot. And wow does it feeling amazing to express what is there to express and not hold back, which yes, does come with the realization; ‘what valuable contributions we can bring to every moment in life’, and to everyone we meet or have an exchange with however small that exchange is, from strangers to our families, colleagues and friends.
Yes, however big or small the contribution and how short or long the exchange might be really doesn’t matter at all; the important thing is that we don’t hold back and express what is there to be expressed.
How liberating it is to express with the acceptance of myself that I might make mistakes. Then expression becomes playful. I found out it gives a freedom because there are no wrongs or rights. Just expressing what is inside of me, regardless of how the other might react.
I agree Caroline, so often I used to and still do catch myself at times holding back from saying what I am feeling just in case it may not be the ‘right’ thing to say. Knowing there are “no rights or wrongs” allows me to relax a lot more and takes away the tension of trying to please everyone by doing or saying the ‘right’ thing!
Reading through the blog comments is such a confirmation of what you have written Gabriele. Look at what can happen when we express and say what we we feel and not hold it in our bodies…the magic of god. People connect to it in their own way and then can share their own experience, or just enjoy yours. Expression can allow so much to happen. It is a no-brainer indeed.
I Agree Karoline, I find it is my willingness to commit to live with a level of presence in my body that allows me to honour the level of sensitivity in my body and not question it so it is easier to express whatever that may be.
Aaaaah the simplicity of this blog… How we bottle the unspoken in our bodies, expression is such a powerful way of living, yet for many of us to express what is truly going on or what were feeling is not so easy… But it can become easier and easier if we choose to commit to this and our bodies also get a healing and start to support us… And the joy level goes up a million notches!
Great article Gabriele. You’ve really made clear what being in one’s glory really means. Doesn’t sound too scary, I think I can give this a crack a little more often!
“I now know that it is all the unexpressed potential expressions that I have not ever expressed, stuck in my throat and creating havoc in my body. Havoc? Yes, all the things I want to say, all the things I always wished I could say, don’t just disappear into thin air – they actually stay in me and get stuck there, and it makes me buy more tissues, having to pull them out in the most inopportune moments! And just in case you wonder, honest expression also includes telling my boss something like, “I am doing my best here and whether right or wrong, I do not deserve to be treated like this. And I don’t actually work any better or faster when I am bullied, quite the contrary”. Ouch – let’s see how we go with that one – I can feel how I hold back my expression, thank you for this article Gabriele. If I express what is there to be expressed in the moment, I can avoid the havoc in my body you speak of.
Gabriele, I have found your blog supportive as I am developing my confidence to genuinely express myself. Knowing that I am expressing myself in each and every moment and checking what I am actually expressing is a huge responsibility. But as you say, it’s a ‘no brainer’ because expression also offers such a wonderful opportunity to deepen my communication with everyone around me.
It’s so true Gabriele that we often hold back our expression even when we have something lovely to say. I often find myself unable to express in a challenging situation like the one you have mentioned with your boss, but expressing appreciation of someone is also an area we can expand on.
Absolutely, it is not just the ‘hard’ to express things but also the seemingly easy ones; but I have noticed that the latter can be just as challenging at first, a strange kind of verbal constipation that can bring up some anxiousness, a feeling of embarrassment and a sense of uncertainty.
This is gorgeous Gabriele and as you say a no brainer. When we express truly how we feel even in a confronting situation such as with our boss it is truly empowering and a true service to ourselves and the other — because when we express how we are feeling it gives them the opportunity to check in with themselves as well. And underneath all the roles and pressure we take on, we’re all the same — tender gorgeous human beings who long to be met for who we truly are. When we express our truth we meet ourselves and bring that same glorious expression to others as well.
That is so true – we all have a deep longing to be truly met and honestly spoken to, no matter how rough the exterior or how belligerent the stance might be. We do ourselves and all others a huge disservice by not expressing what it is that needs to be said.
Cool blog Gabriele, I remember this workshop and it was a refreshing one that really opened up so much loving expression within my family and naturally that flows out to others. I am glad to be reminded of it actually so that I can bring this to all people, depending on what the person in front of me needs to hear.
It is remarkable how you always depict the obvious in such a funny way, that people can easily relate to, Gabriele! So the ‘Glory’ is not something that we can perhaps reach some day in the future after lots of work? It can be a simple day- to- day expression? As Serge Benhayon would probably say: Something worth pondering on.
Gabriele I love your article and what you reveal about those unsaid feelings and thoughts getting stuck in the body potentially creating havoc at a later date. This is a great reminder for me to express.
Thanks Gabriele. That word ‘glory’ brings up a few issues for me, so it’s great that you have brought it up and taken the mystery out of it. I’m connecting with the belief that glory is associated with making oneself somehow better than others, somehow ‘super-human’ and that anyone who claims themself to be glorious is somehow arrogant and ‘high and mighty’. It is truly wonderful to read your explanation of what ‘glory’ means, to express fully, share deeply and support one-another in honesty.
I like this comment Paul. The word ‘glory’ does have many connotations but to have it brought back to its true essence so simply by Gabriele is a wonderful gift.
Gorgeous blog, Gabrielle. I also have attended a Glory Workshop, which was truly inspiring. As I recall my thoughts about it at this time the thing that most comes to mind for me is the importance to focus on appreciation of ourselves rather than beating ourselves up. That by acknowledging, expressing and living from that appreciation we increasingly live from our glory. I feel you capture this beautifully.
I used to let things bottle up and then I would explode and it would all come out like a burst of anger and frustration and that was no one elses fault but my own for holding it all in and letting it fester. (even thought at the time I would have probably blamed them and not wanted to take responsibility).
What I have learned from presentations by Serge Benhayon, the Glory workshop and what I have really discovered for myself is that I have always found expressing quite easy and natural to me, but as a young girl I would often present things to people and they would react. I didn’t like how they reacted and I was told enough times to just keep those thoughts to myself. It got to the point where I realised that if I wanted people to like me, I better just keep it to myself.
So years went by with me not expressing and the effect it had on my body was huge. I now feel so much freedom from giving myself permission to express no matter how another responds. I am still developing this and sometimes I get it wrong, and that is okay, as I am learning and am not perfect. It is so lovely to just say what I feel instead of say what I think another wants to hear.
I too Rosie, used to bottle things up and even rehearse what I was actually going to say to my partner at the time when there was something really rubbing me the wrong way. I couldn’t actually address it at the time and then would bash myself up for not speaking up. Then I would get frustrated when I would say what I wanted to say later down the track, but then their response was not what I wanted to hear as they had probably moved on and I was still stuck on an old has-been issue. A totally ridiculous way of coping, avoiding speaking up at the time, and putting myself through unnecessary anxiety and stress, all because I didn’t feel worthy of speaking up and honoring how I felt at the time. Now I am learning more and more to speak up at the time, even if it does at times feel a little uncomfortable and clumsy.
I have also bought many tissues. There has been so much kept inside and unexpressed for most people I suspect.
Feels like expressing can happen in stages, for instance I used to be like a little pocket rocket, bottle everything up then boom a total melt down, to the waterfall effect which was great no ducking for cover and learning to speak about how I felt but with reservation, to now a more free flowing expression is beginning to happen its no where near perfect which makes it so much fun because there’s no right or wrong.
I now understand the importance of truly expressing and the liberating effect it has on my body.
Great article Gabriele. I know that stuck in the throat, bottling it up feeling very well, words unsaid held in my body. I am learning to express them now, thanks to Universal Medicine, and my body is really saying thank you.
Brilliant Gabriele, and of course Serge Benhayon for presenting with simplicity yet again, so much that offers a tremendous difference in our lives, if we so choose.
Expression held back – well I can vouch for this being an ever-evolving process… At times, I realise that there are areas in life where my expression feels to have been long held back, and there is a delicacy and trust with myself required to feel more deeply as to what is there, that it may be shared with another. One of the most beautiful experiences in life is to be met by another who allows for such deeper expression to come forth, without judgement or impatience… teaching me to do my best to hold others in the same loving way.
From Serge Benhayon I have learnt that unhindered and full expression is what is natural for us all.
I find it true that many things stay in my body that I do not express. Sometimes it can happen straight away -I feel a tension in my throat or head. Likewise, when I do just express what I feel in the moment, it has felt quite amazing in my body; and perhaps glory, as Gabriele mentions, is simply this sustained practice, which becomes more and more playful and natural. The other thing to comment is that when I have the intention of expressing knowing that I am a loving human being, it always comes out right!
A truly inspiring blog. Thank you, Gabriele.
Thank you Gabriele, the Glory of Expression is indeed very simple and it is a grace for everybody we meet, including ourselves. All the things we feel in life need our attention and expression to even the tiniest detail and we must not bottle them up as being something of less value to us, since this will cause stress in our body that eventually will find itself a way out to release it in an uncontrolled way.
In the past I had this belief that my expression had to be perfect so with all this pressure there was lots of holding back from me 🙂 There was so much tension in my body as a result of this. What I am finding though is the more I simply give myself permission to say what I feel my body feels free and open. Each time this occurs I stop to appreciate that I have allowed myself to voice how I feel. Thank you Gabriele for this beautiful blog and thank you Serge Benhayon for presenting the truth on expression.
A great question here Gabriele mefeels:
“But what is more important? Keeping it all bottled up inside and affecting my body in many ways, as not only presented by Universal Medicine but also by the field of Psychoneuroimmunology, or expressing, making a few mistakes on the way if needed – and getting on with it? A no-brainer, mefeels.”
Thank you Gabriele,
I have aways wondered why the tears come when there is no real reason. Things felt and not said bottling up inside explains a lot. It makes sense to me. and now that I am aware of if it, every time I do speak up it helps clear the backlog.
Very clear and practical Gabriel, and I also attended the glory workshop in the Uk. I can so easily relate having this deep ingrained habit of holding back my expression, how many times I have wished I could have said this or that, and stood up for myself after the meeting or situation… I still catch myself holding back, but am more aware of this and try to be more playful with my expression, which is much easier when I stay connected with myself…
Beautiful Gabriel, I too spend quite a lot on tissues because I have not expressed myself fully. Thank you for expressing yourself here, so that I too feel inspired to fully express what I feel, and when I do, it is such a joy. And you are correct, there are times when it does not come out in quite the loving way I would like it to, but I am learning. As you say, these words and feelings do not just evaporate, they stay trapped in our bodies until we let them out. Far better to express them straight away, even the ‘bossy’ ones, so that they don’t moulder and cause problems in our bodies.
I was just trying to find an answer to a not- so- pleasant email I received, when I came across your blog. Now I know what to write, thanks Gabriele – what an inspiration and encouragement for me to express more, in spite of all my fears, tears , excuses etc.
Considering that possibility of tears welling up when I am moved by an expression of love being connected to unexpressed communication about what I have appreciated in the past, I started to consider all the other physical reactions that happen automatically. I am very aware that I sometimes witness in myself, and in others, a reaction to some situation or another that is ‘way over the top’ that surprises everyone. It is clear that these situations are examples of “it all being bottled up inside” of communications that might have been very simple, that could have been delivered with love, whatever its content.
Yes, I am one of those whose eyes well up with the simple sense and feel of beauty around me and within another. I can totally relate to holding this expression back, or diluting it down a bit so I don’t sound too lovely, crazy when I can feel that diluting is already holding back and even more crazy when both I and whomever I am expressing to also misses out on my full expression. I love the way you have written this article so delicately and simply and a couple of years after the workshop you have mentioned, it is still offering such a lovely sharing to all who read it now.
Thank you Gabriele. I so enjoyed reading your blog and can feel how much I still get stuck with expressing myself fully and how this then feels in my body – as opposed to the expansiveness I feel when I do express fully. It feels like expression is something that can be forever deepening if we choose it.
I really love your blog on glory and expression. Thank you for sharing and expressing so simply, beautifully and honestly. I can so relate to the welling-up too, learning that there is a lot more for me to express. And to call out what doesn’t feel true, without reaction, is just as important and honouring of ourselves and honouring of everybody else. It really is simple, thank you Gabriele and everybody for your comments too.
I have been learning so much about expression recently. It is an “open and honest communication with others; my willingness to express to another or others what I am truly feeling”. I have been able to express the more positive aspects easily, but now am learning to express when things don’t feel right as well. Deep appreciation for all in Universal Medicine.
Love this blog, Gabriele and I agree with what you write:
‘But what is more important? Keeping it all bottled up inside and affecting my body in many ways, as not only presented by Universal Medicine but also by the field of Psychoneuroimmunology, or expressing, making a few mistakes on the way if needed – and getting on with it? A no-brainer, mefeels.’
Recently, I experienced how my painful sort-of frozen shoulder ‘melted /softened’ and felt painless after I expressed clearly to another how I wanted to be treated. I had never felt the connection between expressing and the affect on my body that clear before. A big confirmation to keep expressing.
“I had never felt the connection between expressing and the affect on my body that clear before”. Wow Monika, what a confirmation indeed….a super example of how painful it is for our bodies when we hold back and do not express.
That’s amazing Monika — a great example of how our bodies naturally want to express truth and when we stifle our expression, our bodies suffer.
Yes Monika I am also beginning to understand Psychoneuroimmunology as presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I feel it’s a very important part of my healing.
Lovely blog on letting out your expressing Gabriele. Not only is it healthier to say what’s felt to be said but it also helps the other person (even the boss) to hear it too. There’s something to be said for expressing fully, I know as a recipient it would feel so much more gorgeous and confirming to be told “I have noticed how much care you take with how you dress and how lovely you always look, and it lights up my day” as opposed to the oh so often offered “you look nice”. We’d feel the world to be a different place with this type of full expression between each other.
Wow Gabriele, that I missed your blog when it first came out. I have got such a aha! feeling. My whole body starts singing, yes that’s why those tears are there when someoone is expressing not only in movies but also when I want to express myself in full, the tears are/were in the way of my loving expression. It always felt so weak, now I am claiming myself more, I feel I can express more freely but I am learning every moment. Thank you for this awesome, simple message!
A very timely read for myself. Often there are so many things I want to say or do and I don’t almost every time. It makes sense that when I feel something I know what to say but mostly I find myself trying and repeating over and over in my head a scripted conversation of what I will say. Why am I giving more focus and attention to a script that needs to be constantly repeated in my head, tweaked so that it must be perfect over what I feel that is more solid and consistent each time I feel it? What would happen if I did just say how I felt? Have I ever appreciated how I feel after expressing how I actually feel? Rather than the feeling of relief I get from getting the script finally out of my head.
I can so relate Leigh – to allow myself to express in whatever way the words want to come out at the time not being so concerned how it may sound rather than how it feels. This way I surprise myself with what I am saying and the beauty that is expressed. I know the feeling when I hold myself back too and the repetition of thoughts in my head that then follows.
Gabriele, this is such a lovely concise blog and a timely read as this sentence is a similar conversation to the one I need to have. “I am doing my best here and whether right or wrong, I do not deserve to be treated like this. And I don’t actually work any better or faster when I am bullied, quite the contrary”.
And the greatest thing is that it does not actually matter what the response is – by far the most important thing is to express truly and honestly in the moment how something feels. The spaciousness and ease that follow are so worth it.
As you put it Gabriele, it makes so much sense, where does all that we feel to say, yet do not say go?….. into the body. And then there must be all that stuff that we would want to say, if we but stopped for a moment, rather than distracting ourselves, all that stuff that we did not even register that we wanted or needed to say. That must be in there too, maybe even deeper and some of it comes out as you have shared through tears, but I guess some of it may come out in a different way, say through a seemingly unexplainable burst of annoyance, or snapping at someone. Wow, this gives me a lot to think about, and also explains so much.
Such a gorgeous blog and a joy to read again, Gabriele. I can really relate to all those bottled up feelings that I hold inside and as you say ‘play havoc’ with my body and block any true expression from within. With the support of the Expression Program presented by Simone Benhayon, I am learning to let go of my old inhibitions and to truly express from my heart – and when I do it feels wonderful – like an amazing release that allows my body to expand and open up to the world.
A revelatory article, expression is something I have always struggled with, and I can feel how much it holds and eats away in my body when I don’t say what I have there to say. Without expressing it is impossible to hold any steadiness and this feels crucial to well-being.
Yes Ariana, the more we cut ourselves some slack, the more easy it is to express and be open. The more we build love in ourselves, the more love we have to share. So simple.
I love what you say here Gabriele “the main ingredient is to stay open and honest in your communication with others”. To say what I truly feel in the moment and not hold back has got easier and easier and I do not feel lumps in my throat anymore so I know there is a direct link – which is what PNI (Psychoneuroimmunology) is talking about.
I am finding that my life has got easier by expressing what I truly feel and not holding back and above all my body is not holding tension for the “not saying it as it is”.
Thank you Serge Benhayon for presenting that it is ok to speak the Truth. It is simple and it makes sense. It has been life changing for me.
Yes, and it feels great to embrace true expression : just expressing the truth as we feel it, with no attachment/pre-empting of the outcome of that expression, or of how others will respond to it. This way of expressing also feels great in the body – less tension, everything more flowing and natural.
As a fellow “well-up with tears whenever…” I thought I was alone on that – but obviously not. I so appreciate your honesty and forthrightness to enable to have an understanding of why this has been so.
Wow – bottling up how we truly feel – and then having the body release in an over-emotional episode makes so much sense to me.
I used to write down what I was truly feeling in a diary, my true feelings were hidden away within the diary – never to be expressed anywhere else.
And then – like you – give me one movie or song about unrequited love and I’d need a box of tissues to go with it.
I never really considered that maybe this was because of what I was truly concealing. To me this is a truly amazing offering and only makes me more aware of the importance of not holding back.
What I love about this blog Gabriele, is the simplicity and love you share with. I love expressing how I feel, honestly, something I am doing more and more each day, but reading this blog has allowed me to feel the absolute joy that can be had and felt when we allow ourselves to really feel and share all there is that is there to be expressed, and not worry.
I am too.
I really enjoy reading your blogs, Gabriele and this one is no exception. You share your wisdom and lived experiences, on the important aspects of life, in a very clear and lighthearted way. Thank you.
It is very clear and lighthearted.
“Watered down expression serves no one ….” Thanks for this reminder, Golnaz. Great blog, Gabriele. As someone who can give ‘positive’ expression, but finds difficulty with the calling out of more negative energy, this article is very supportive. Thankyou.
A glorious blog, Gabriele – I could really feel it when you said ‘It has always puzzled me and I now know that it is all the unexpressed potential expressions that I have not ever expressed, stuck in my throat and creating havoc in my body.’ It so lovely to be able to get in touch with all these blocked feelings and to start to unravel the ‘havoc’ in my body and to begin to feel just what is going on.
I can feel more and more the difference between when I allow myself to communicate or express something in full as compared to when I hold back. Thanks Gabrielle for a beautifully clear and lighthearted sharing.
Gabriele you have shared something with us which has the potential to change communication, holding it in and filling my body with the unexpressed or letting it out even if I get it wrong – I know which I choose! It’s all very simple really.
Thank you, Gabriele, for expressing so simply the impact on the body if we do not express our feelings. What a change it would make to humanity if this was generally accepted and implemented. Articles like this, which are simple and direct need to be constantly in the public arena.
Beautiful blog Gabrielle. The more I allow myself to express in full and to honestly communicate in full the fuller my life and all life is and this is glorious. So simple.
Thank you Gabriele for this inspiring and ‘always timely’ blog as Serge Benhayon presents ‘expression is everything’. I am enjoying expressing more fully now than ever before, it is still work in progress – at least they are not being stored up in my body as they used to be.
Such a beautiful blog, Gabriele, and so helpful to read first thing in the morning as I go into the day. You have made it so clear about the stored up feelings that have never been fully expressed that well up at other inappropriate times. I hadn’t quite understood that link before, but now I have a wonderful marker and an inspiration to speak how I am truly feeling. I realise that I often feel those tears when I see people being tender with each other, and so now I know it is because I haven’t allowed myself to be tender with myself and others.
I remember reading this article and have revisited it. I totally love the simplicity of it. Since my first reading I have been working on my expression, but when I feel myself welling up during a movie then I know there’s more to express!
Beautiful, Gabriele. As I read your article, I have a real sense of the Glory Workshop as presented by Serge Benhayon. I love your attention to detail – just lovely.
Love this Gabriele! As you have shared too, the point of expressing is super important as anything thats not said, but I have felt to, stays in my body – it doesn’t just disappear. When I first heard this it brought a whole other level of understanding and this blog reconfirms this. Thank you.
Awesome blog Gabriele, I can also relate to the welling up, when there is something truly beautiful to express and on occasions what I want to say gets watered down and something totally different comes out of my mouth. Sometimes I have owned up to the person and then tell them what I really wanted to say, because in that instance I realised I have short changed them. So thank you for the explanation. I do feel inspired to keep practising and not worry about getting it wrong.
Hi Gabriele, like Henrietta making that link with the welling up and unexpressed potential expressions, is so obvious now you have expressed it here! I too have been exploring just saying it, making a few mistakes and getting on with it, it is so freeing to express without all this measurement of what I should say, or how will they react, just express and see what happens next. Like all the good things in life it is pretty simple!
I love this piece, how many times have I censored my appreciation of the incredible beauty I see, too many, and now I understand that horrible feeling left in my body. Thank you Gabriele.
Beauty-full Gabriele – I was touched by this being a fellow weller upper. So expression here I am – let the fun begin.
Gabriele, thank you for the ‘aha!’ moment you just offered me. I too am a fellow ‘weller-up-er’ and much appreciated the insight you offered and the reminder to keep letting out what I so often keep in. For a while now I have been practicing expressing more and more, and each time it feels so freeing – but somehow I had never connected the eyes welling-up with tears as the ‘unexpressed potential expressions’ and holding back. Of course I can still keep practicing more letting it all out… Thank you from the depth of my being!
Beautiful, deep, aha moment comment Henrietta… and by the sound of it – a few more trees saved. 😉
Well, the simplicity of your explanation about expressing with glory is super helpful Gabriele. I can relate to being one that cries at the drop of a hat when witnessing a caring gesture or true expression of love, and I feel like I have almost used that tendency as something to be proud of… like “Oh, well at least I’m a sensitive guy and can cry”. This is true – but I now see how I have been holding back my whole truth and am looking forward to letting it all out!
Thank you Gabriele for your blog – and everyone for your comments. I have heard for sometime that “it’s all about expression” and just recently I had a session with Sara Williams dealing with ‘expression’ – and wow, at last the penny seems to have dropped. It just feels so gorgeous when I can let out what I really feel. No wonder Serge has to repeat things so many times!
Mefeels you ‘smashed’ it Gabriele. 🙂
And it also sounds the forests will be booming – with less trees being cut down to make tissues. 😉 Glorious!
I love the environmental angle, Dragana – and there I thought I’d better go and buy shares in a tissue company (not likely!).
Brilliant Gabriele – and so clearly annunciated!
Expressing what we have truly connected to… I’m with you – thank you for writing about this. The more I allow this to happen, the more my relationships flow with respect and harmony, and feel supportive and healthy.
Yes, thank you Gabriele for expressing it so clearly and simply. I am refining this art and it is so obviously felt in my body when I don’t express fully and in the moment it is felt… A great reminder.
Thank you Gabriele, beautifully expressed. You say the presentation turned out to “be all very simple and practical”. I have regularly found that what Serge presents is so very simple, practical and gloriously life changing.
You also say “all the things I want to say, all the things I always wished I could say, don’t just disappear into thin air – they actually stay in me and get stuck there” – this is a HUGE revelation and in my experience so very true.
Beautifully shared Gabriele… the ripple affect of expressing what is felt, is contagious – what I have been keeping inside to myself is free to be, what a joy it is…
Thank you Gabriele – this is so honest, clear and really helpful. This helps me to come back to how simple our glory is in our day to day lives of just saying what we are feeling. I know my body hardens and hurts if I don’t say what I feel, and I have felt that in others too. This supports me in that it’s not about getting my expressing right or wrong – i’ts just about being as honest as I can and how that supports others too. I’m on your page – it is a “no brainer”!!!
It is so clear Kate, thank you for expressing that, and it does just allow us the simplicity of coming back to our glory, saying how we feel and allowing ourselves the freedom to express all we feel. I know when I don’t that I can often go round and round in my head, replaying what I really felt to say, then in comes the tension, hurt and angst of having unexpressed feelings in my body; whereas when I share all that’s there to be felt, I never feel or even go back to the conversation or moment again, unless it’s a moment to appreciate.
Gylrae, I love what you have shared here. I also feel that we don’t ever need to go back and replay things in the past, unless it’s to appreciate where we have been and come from and to perhaps celebrate our new awareness or development. Who needs the tension (or self-judgement) on ourselves by looking at what was not expressed when we already have the very next moment presented to express… whatever is next.
I really enjoyed your article Gabriele… such a beautiful reminder to express what we feel and not to hold back! What a blessing these blogs are!
Thank you Gabriele.
Thank you for this glorious expression Gabrielle – this is really supporting me with my own self expression.
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Gabriele, thank you for so simply describing a topic that has such a profound impact on all of our lives. I appreciate the practical examples offered on both ends of the spectrum, confirming something that is loving in the first, and calling out something that is not loving in the second – both reflecting the whole of what there is to say.
I am learning the difference between communicating ‘a part’ rather than ‘the whole’ in my relationships.
When confirming something, the whole communication, such as your first example, adds a depth and connection that is completely missed when I am lazy and offer a partial communication, such as just saying “you look nice”.
When calling out something, I find that there is a moment when I feel it and I know it is not loving – I either know I need to register it and simply move on, or I know there is something for me to say or act on – I am connected to the whole picture and have an opportunity to feel what it is and communicate it. I find this ‘whole’ communication may result in people reacting or not, but it nonetheless adds a depth and connection – after all it is laden with the energy of ‘Love calling out what is not Loving’. But often I hesitate and start to doubt and strategise: how will they respond, what words should I avoid, maybe now is not the right time, and so on… and the communication ends up being a fragment of what it originally was – it is now laden with the energy of all my doubts, fears, insecurities, control and judgements that moulded the communication from the original whole, to what it has ended up! Result? Even if there is a change, it does not feel loving and there is a horrible feeling in my body. No wonder I hate communicating in these circumstances.
Thank you for this reminder of how watered down expression serves no one and creates havoc in our bodies – and in contrast – how inspiring an expression can be when delivered in fullness, simply as we feel it from our inner heart, where all is held in equal Love.
Thank you Golnaz, and Gabriele, for exploring this topic which I have struggled with all my life and am only now starting to express more fully in a loving way. In the past I have often spoken out about something I felt was not right but my anxiety has meant I have expressed it rather harshly with predictably not good results. I can also relate to hesitating and doubting myself and this leading to unclear/incomplete communication. Through recognising the impact on my body I feel inspired to express fully in the moment and not hold back.
Awesome article Gabriele – I loved it. Thank YOU for expressing it so!
A no-brainer! Glorious Gabriele.
Beautifully said, Gabriele. I was brought up on the credo ‘not to hold back if what you want to say to someone is nice, but if it isn’t, keep your mouth closed’. It’s been great advice up to a point, but overlooked the times things needed to be called out for what they were, when they were unloving. Actually it all boiled down to my interpretation as to what ‘wasn’t nice’. I am now also aware of how the pattern to ‘not rock the boat’ and ‘keep the peace’ (as I was also advised to follow), has ruled my life for so long. Thanks to how Serge Benhayon has inspired me to take a good long look at these patterns.
Absolutely Judy, no point whatsoever to let ourselves say something that is mean or judgmental, gossip or something inappropriate. But when it comes to saying what needs to be said to bring truth and love to a situation, this I’m practicing. I’m getting the knack and when I call out something that’s not loving (in a loving way), it feels so great in the body, really easy to say and freeing.
Very true, Judy. I have had the ‘don’t hold back the nice’ and apart from extreme cases, ‘hold back anything that might upset anyone’. As you say, that all boils down to my interpretation of what ‘isn’t nice’ and also what the other person interprets ‘isn’t nice’ – while as I have been finding out when I speak from my heart, it has nothing to do with nice or not nice, it is ‘loving’ – it holds me and the other person as equal Sons of God and honours both of us to the ‘nth’ degree. And as Rosanna says, “it feels so great in the body, really easy to say and freeing.”
Gabriele I know I want to express more and my body is crying out for it, but I struggle with the part involving your example with “the boss”, but now reading your expression and how beautifully you expressed I feel I can give it ago. Thank you for sharing this with me.
Love how you have expressed this Gabriele, and the sentence “I have noticed how much care you take with how you dress and how lovely you always look, and it lights up my day”, is what I would like to express to you.
It is true Mary, everything Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine present is simple and practical in so many ways, when I hear him present it feels so normal, natural and like something I have known in my body for a very long time. I too have found that we are so used to complicating our life, and when simplicity is presented and felt it simply feels amazing, there can be no denying that.
Thank you Gabriele in expressing so very clearly, practically and simply how expression and communication play a major part in us being glorious. I have certainly held this type of expression back in the past and no longer want my body affected by what it is that I do not say.
Gabriele, I felt to express that you are a truly beautiful person. I love the way you have limitless time to help another with understanding something. No box of tissues for me!
You are so right about communication and thank you for the reminder.
Thank you Gabriele, this post has helped me immensely.
Thank you of this reminder Gabriele – I was also present at the Glory Workshop and I must say it feels much better to express in full what I truly mean, rather than just brushing it off with a mini statement that actually does not even express what I truly felt.
I agree Toni it feels so much better to express exactly what I am feeling in full rather than just a mini-statement which doesn’t really relate to how I am, and certainly does not connect with the other person. One of the things I love about the way Serge Benhayon presents is how he makes things really simple and practical, so we can implement them in our lives – and when we do I can attest to the fact, as many others can, that they are life changers.
Oh, Gabriele, how lovely! As a fellow weller-up, I too am learning to express the fullness of what I feel. Mostly this is love, and sometimes it is not. I am finding it is causing some havoc on the outside as well now, but it takes so much effort not to express that I shall keep practising. And how can we be perfect in expression without a little practice?
I am familiar with that fur ball, Mary. I know the things that make me ‘well up’ and wonder why these things touch me so deeply. After reading Gabrielle’s post, I feel it’s time to find out.
This is well expressed Anne. The fumbling and learning along the way is part of it for us all.
I love what you write above Anne, about learning to express the fullness of what you feel and it mostly being love. My experience is the same: there is so much love for people that wants to come out and be expressed! And it makes such a difference in how my body feels when I allow myself to say it. And it is also work in progress.