The Busy Practicalities of Daily Life: Responding with Simplicity, Love & Joy

by Sharon Gavioli, R.N, Childbirth Educator, Brisbane

My everyday life revolves around all the necessary practical tasks to ensure my family functions smoothly. I have children to care for, a household to run and a paid job that I love, as well as making time for my relationships.

I am also a student of Universal Medicine. I have been regularly attending workshops by Universal Medicine and esoteric healing sessions and from what I have learnt, I now know that how I go about my everyday tasks is a choice that can either feel in my body as simply lovely, or as incredibly stressful.

Before coming to this understanding, I always felt very stressed in my life. There never seemed enough time and it often felt like someone was demanding something from me. More often than not, I was actually resenting having so much to do. This would result in me always looking forward to something that would give me a break from what I viewed as mundane and boring. That ‘something’ would be staying up, watching TV late, a Lindt chocolate with some chips on the side or looking forward to my next outing.

Today, I am still quite busy but I have changed. More often than not, I can feel more present with what I am doing and not getting ahead of myself thinking of all the things that need to be done. This change has come about through my commitment to developing a deeper love and appreciation of myself. This love has allowed me to be gentler with myself and to trust that life can flow without me always having to control every aspect of it. There is now a greater contentment in all I do, so even doing the dishes can be a lovely experience that I actually enjoy and not something that I have to rush through so I can get my break.

My previous pattern of feeling resentful about always having more to do, stopped me from embracing the simplicity of allowing myself to be truly present in what I was doing. This change in my approach continues to develop often by me catching the frustration and resentment when I start to feel it arising in me. When I can catch it, I just allow myself to feel that my body is holding tension and to then make a choice, knowing that my own resistance to what I am actually doing is what makes the jobs feel boring or mundane. I suppose I could say that I now feel more responsible for my own choices in how I choose to respond to the practical requirements of life.

Some days I still feel the pressure of having too many things to do creeping in and continue to catch myself when I get caught in this old pattern. But the late TV watching and Lindt chocolate fixes are long gone. More importantly, I spend very little time looking forward to an event that will bring that reprieve I so desperately felt I deserved. I know this experience of feeling the pressure of having too much to do is something that many people can relate to. For me, it has been amazing and life-changing to know there is another way.

So my life continues as business as usual, but with a much deeper awareness of how my choices can allow me to feel simplicity and joy in all I do. This simplicity has not only benefited me but also my family. When I make the choice to embrace all I do with simplicity and joy, there seems to be a domino effect that enables my family to get on board with me at times. None of this would have been possible without my choice to embrace the understandings presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for which I am forever grateful!

225 thoughts on “The Busy Practicalities of Daily Life: Responding with Simplicity, Love & Joy

  1. Awesome Sharon. The drive I can feel I go into to get things done can be intense; but coming to the understanding that all tasks can be a joy is one of the most incredible life changing events in my life. To pay the same amount of attention, commitment and dedication to ALL tasks and feel a simplicity, flow and joy in them is so much fun. I love hanging out the washing, cleaning the house – they are moments now in which I can commit to more deeply connect with myself. To eradicate resentment and the looking forward to an event as a reward is revelation for most people to hear.

    1. Yes Gina and Sharon thank you for reminding me “to pay the same amount of attention, commitment and dedication to ALL tasks” in our busy life. Why give more importance to some areas and barely acknowledge others when life is the sum of all its parts?

  2. ‘…not getting ahead of myself thinking of all the things that need to be done’. This is key to unlocking overwhelm because when we do get ahead of ourselves, we see all that has yet to be completed and go into varying degrees of panic about how, when and where we’ll get it all done. We put a cloud over whatever we’re doing in the moment by berating ourselves for what has yet to be done. What if instead we simply focused on the task in hand, whatever it was, giving it our all by being our all with it, not distracted by the thought of our remaining to-do list, instead of using our minds to beat ourselves up over something that’ll get done anyway, whatever mood we choose to approach it in.

    1. So true Cathy, when I get ahead of myself and think about all that needs to be done in the day, I am already anxious before I even set out and I cannot really focus on what I am doing, taking twice as long.

      1. I have also experienced this so often. Anxiety of not getting enough things done keeps us from doing things so that we end up in not having enough things done. We are running around in circles so often…

    2. This is a good point you make Cathy, as I often find myself feeling like there is too much to do and something has to give, especially at work. But as you have pointed out the mood we approach things with, makes a huge difference to how the task is completed and if we are not feeling resentment then the task is completed simply and efficiently.

  3. Thank you Sharon for sharing your ‘deeper awareness of how my choices can allow me to feel simplicity and joy in all I do’. It is inspiring to be reminded that I always have a choice to go into overwhelm or not and that even though I have got up later than planned this morning I can trust that if I stay present with each task I will get done what I need to before leaving for work. Prior to attending Universal Medicine presentations I would have shot out of bed and started rushing around like a headless chicken and been bumping into things and generally getting frustrated with myself and this would impact everyone around me. The joy that I now get from lovingly looking after my home and doing all the others tasks that I once put in the ‘boring and mundane’ pile does not require me to be forever seeking the escape of a reward as a compensation. Being present allows me to appreciate me being in the flow of life.

  4. Getting ahead of ourselves makes it really hard enjoying the moment we are in as there will always be the thoughts about what is to come next and the anticipation, expectation, excitement, anxiousness.. that comes with it. So to practice to be more present is something really relaxing and enjoyable, there is no rush, no stress just that moment to be and enjoy.

    1. I agree Esther and the beauty of this is that we allow for all that is possible. Divinity emanates around us and within us all of the time – keeping things simple and staying in the moment means we are surrendering to, appreciating and confirming God’s Plan.

    2. I agree Esther, what gets me is: Who would have thought that just being and enjoying life could turn out to be such a difficult thing to do? It only works if we change the quality and movement we are in.

  5. Coming to the understanding that connecting to ourself, and being present in all that we do helps make our life so much more enjoyable without the need of a reprieve at the end of the day, it is truly satisfying.

  6. Thank you, Sharon. Reading your post, I got to feel how I still have a pattern of controlling busy-ness by hardening my body, thinking I have to do everything myself, and there is not enough time. Great to be reminded of a very simple choice to just connect with myself first.

  7. When we support ourselves we naturally support all those around us, and allow them to feel inspired to make honouring choices for themselves too.

  8. “This love has allowed me to be gentler with myself and to trust that life can flow without me always having to control every aspect of it.” This to me is key to letting go of the doing, if I trust that there is a flow to life and trying to control it or make things happen doesn’t work, makes life so much easier and the stress and tension in my body fall away as I let go of the need to control how I think or want life to be.

  9. This blog is a great reminder of looking at the energy in which we are doing things, especially when there is really a lot to do. The sentence “My previous pattern of feeling resentful about always having more to do, stopped me from embracing the simplicity of allowing myself to be truly present in what I was doing.” is just amazing! I will take this into my week…

  10. Today I realised I had gone into the old pattern of putting pressure on myself to get everything done. Letting go of this unloving behaviour feels as a lot of space in my body and tells me how exhausting it is to work in that energy, it is never about the doing but about the quality we bring where ever we go.

    1. So true, Annelies, doing things under pressure feels like we forget about the truth and connection of the moment, not honoring us and the just now constellated situation that is always a part of the universal expression. Wow – everything I do, down to the smallest thing is a universal expression, that radiates into the Universe… of course it is about the quality and not the ‘what’ to do.

  11. It is wonderful to give ourselves a ‘stop moment’ and recognise when those familiar old patterns of behaviour (feeling the pressure) start to emerge and try to take hold once again. For me this has been a big step in stopping anxiousness taking over and running the show by slowing down, not rushing and enjoying the task/job at hand. What a beautiful recipe for living life by ‘having a much deeper awareness of how your choices can allow you to feel the simplicity and joy in all that you do’.

  12. Sharon what you present here has also been my experience, when I get caught up in looking at how much there is to do, I slip into overwhelm and that is when I start dropping into old patterns that are not supportive. When I concentrate on the one thing I am doing, it has its own natural flow, and then I am not exhausted when I move onto the next thing.

  13. Beautiful Sharon, I loved your words “the simplicity of allowing myself to be truly present with what I was doing” – when we choose to keep things simple, we can build a natural flow, quality and joy in our rhythm that allows the space to complete everything that needs to be done whilst staying present with ourselves.

  14. When we start to consolidate where we are at and allow a stop moment, we get to feel everything we may not have been aware of when we do things. Taking this awareness back into what we do can change things completely and therefore works with energy in allowing energy that is harming or healing to come through. This energy is then also felt by everyone around us weather they choose to be directly aware of it or not. Everyone and everything we do is connected. We are lying to ourselves if we think otherwise.

  15. I have found that when I feel there is so much to do and it is constant, and seems never ending that I can go into overwhelm, and this eventually leads to resentment, and has a knock on affect for everyone, including myself. Taking the time to stop, and take myself off the treadmill allows me to see more clearly where I am, and bring appreciation back into my life and in everything I do. It makes a huge difference and yet is so simple to do.

  16. A beautiful blog, Sharon, about the beauty of doing simple things with simplicity in life and every movement in connection with myself and what I am doing. Once a friend of me said while we were making the dishes and pondering about why we could feel this to be boring: these are my movements, how can I get bored from my own movements? This sentence stood out for me and still does today, when I feel a task to be boring or overwhelming, I remember our legendary dish washing and reconnect with my movements.

  17. The ‘not enough time’ bug has certainly had its grip on me for most of my life. What I am now working on developing is an acceptance that I can only do so much in a day and that in order for a quality sleep and a more consistent level of energy the next day, I need to let go of the urge to keep going to complete everything I want to get done. I am finding that things do eventually happen and that sometimes there is more to the picture than the narrow focus I had been holding. This bigger view emerges simply by me stepping back, allowing myself more space and staying connected through my body, rather than listening to my mind which is urging me to rush around and keep going at 100 miles an hour.

  18. A great sharing Sharon, I especially loved this line of yours -‘how my choices can allow me to feel simplicity and joy in all I do’. So true and having spent most of my life creating complications, I am now also learning to make choices that are simple and true and how my body feels much lighter and more energised when I choose this way.

  19. Thank you Sharon – “My previous pattern of feeling resentful about always having more to do, stopped me from embracing the simplicity of allowing myself to be truly present in what I was doing.” I have found that being present one task at a time brings the joy of being in the moment with them, it’s great when I remember this because the day flows in a beautiful rhythm.

  20. It can be so easy to slip into frustration and resentment if we get caught up in the ‘so much to do’ picture. I love what you share here Sharon and the simple steps you take to counter this. A timely reminder today.

  21. I love the clarity in this blog – that it’s your own resistance to what you’re doing that causes the stress and stops you just enjoying the task for what it is, when in fact the possibility exists for you to get the task done easily and move onto the next thing, if you choose to get yourself out of the way. Because we are capable of it all. It’s just that we expend energy in fretting, resisting, feeling hard done by, rather than simply being with something fully and coming away from it intact rather than depleted and resentful.

  22. What a beautiful revelation that being bored or not present can be felt as a tension in the body. That way it’s a supportive tool to feel into my body and look for tension whenever I feel stressed or bored or simply not present. Thanks Sharon.

  23. Great blog Sharon abut a topic that is very familiar to me. I really noted your comment about using self love and appreciation as a foundation for catching and changing the old patterns of busy-ness and control. What a support it is to know that if we stay observant, our bodies will actually tell us when we have gotten ahead of ourselves and that we need to stop/slow down and take a few deep breaths to catch what is going on.

  24. “When I make the choice to embrace all I do with simplicity and joy, there seems to be a domino effect”.
    I found these words very powerful Sharon; there is no doubt that the energy and quality we are in, when performing every day tasks, has a huge effect on all around us.

  25. Keeping things simple by bringing our full presence to each task when it is in front of us enables us to hold ourselves in the steadiness of our body’s natural flow and rhythm, allowing the joy of being with ourselves to expand.

  26. I can appreciate and relate to what you’re sharing Sharon. I used to push and rush to get through all the things I didn’t really enjoy to get to something I enjoyed doing going into a cycle of exhaustion and relaxation. Now I realise that everything I do can be enjoyed when I’m connected to me and it’s a much more harmonious way of living.

  27. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have enabled me to understand that everything we do in life is of equal value.

    1. Yes Deborah, it is great to have that understanding, but then putting it into practice brings up every ideal and believe we have that prevents us from truly living in full and feeling all to be of equal value. I had to realize that there is a huge gap between that what I know is true and that what I am able to truly live.

      1. I have to agree with you Judith that the reality of the way we live is to rank things in order of importance according to how we perceive them to be rather than understanding that the three second conversation, or a smile we may share in passing with someone is of equal value to someone performing a life saving operation (exaggerated to make a point) or someone cleaning a home or office, for the way we are in everything we do affects the all.

      2. Yes, it is indeed quite hard, for example to not put more value on some chores, that we then like over chores that we don’t like. There are so many ideas ingrained in us what raises our value and what supposedly lessons our value, etc. This subject is endless.

  28. Simplicity, love and joy, how simple and inspiring is that. Thank you Sharon for so succinctly highlighting the power and wisdom of living these three divine words.

  29. Yes reading this blog I was nodding my head with what you share with us Sharon. In my own lived experiences that feeling of overwhelm of having ‘so much to do’ and resenting that fact. Then seeking the comforts of numbing out with food/films/ shopping etc – anything to just change the constant pressure of ‘having to do’. When all along I had a choice and a responsibility by just being more present without the need to control. The pressure I was applying to myself let alone the after effects this had on my growing family. So true Sharon what a difference by “committing to developing a deeper love and appreciation of myself” makes. The once believed constant chores are getting so much less as the joy of gently focusing on one job at a time takes away any pressures that previously were held in my body. Now my family appreciates that too.:)

  30. I have found it a revelation to understand the presentations of Serge Benhayon that it is not what I am doing but how I am with myself in anything I am doing. When I am love and loving I love everything I do because it is me being me doing it.

  31. “This change has come about through my commitment to developing a deeper love and appreciation of myself. This love has allowed me to be gentler with myself and to trust that life can flow without me always having to control every aspect of it.” I love this Sharon. Appreciating myself more has led – and is leading – to a greater acceptance and love of who I am and what I can offer. it is not what we do, but how we are – the quality – in which we do everything that is so important.

  32. So many people say they are ‘busy’ and this feels a bit like an excuse at times for not doing what needs to be done. It is true, we are busy but your experience shows that there is a deeper quality that we can live that is not what we would generally call ‘busy’ even though we are doing a lot. It shows that what we define as busy is often associated with stress, pressure and drive not just the amount we have to do.

    1. Yes a great point Joshua, it is true I often used to say I was ‘busy’ but really I was referring to the drive or ‘stress’ I had decided to do things in. Today I am actually far ‘busier’ but rarely do so in that energy, and rarely feel that I am busy in the same way I used to refer to it. The moment tension or stress kicks in though, the old familiar feeling of being ‘too busy’ is also there.

  33. I have found that when I am not in the moment and present with the job in hand, overwhelm can creep in and the end result of this is usually exhaustion. When I find myself in this situation, what really supports me is to stop and deeply appreciate myself. A work in progress for me at the moment is to be observant and to catch myself as soon as my mind wanders, and to bring it back to being present with what my body is doing and not allow the exhaustion to occur, in the first place.

  34. Sharon I can completely relate to your sharing. My life has always been busy and I too for many years was resentful and looked for the next moment out. I would turn to wine and snacks. I never knew there was any other way out. But there was and when I came to understand there is another way, I started to look at my choices I was making and how I was caught in the doing, it was no surprised how my life was. Now having made more time to connect with myself and be present in what I do, not getting caught up in all the things I have to do I am no longer looking for out moments. I still have a very busy life, but I enjoy my days. A completely new way of living by honouring myself first.

  35. Gosh, what a timely read! Just being reminded that we can make choices simple is like hearing it for the first time. It’s all too easy to get caught up in the list of ‘to do’s. It’s constant, it’s never going away, but we do have a choice in how we approach it! For example right now, I could continue reading blogs online or I make the call and get ready for my next appointment now which would mean I would not be rushing out the door. It’s simple. Just choose.

  36. ‘…knowing that my own resistance to what I am actually doing is what makes the jobs feel boring or mundane…’ This is the ultimate in responsibility. Understanding that the task itself is not actually the problem, that it’s the tension in our bodies that allow us to think that the problem is outside of us.
    I have to be honest and say this makes perfect sense to me, but I also recognise that these patterns we create are extremely old and ingrained, and turning them around feels like quite the challenge. A very worthwhile one at that, but none the less, a real commitment to oneself is required here.

  37. “When I make the choice to embrace all I do with simplicity and joy, there seems to be a domino effect that enables my family to get on board with me at times. ” I have noticed this too, with family, friends and work colleagues. It is beautiful to experience the simplicity and jiy amongst everyone.

  38. This is all so true, the clarity and simplicity that is available by simply slowing down our mind and surrendering to feeling and living from our body is enormous. It’s about discovering a gentle and deeply connected way of being in our life and doing everything we do. It’s not about doing less or resting more, in fact we actually end up doing more and leading less test when we deepen the quality of our surrender and connection with our body in what we do.

  39. With the support of Universal Medicine my days have now also begun to change. They used to be divided up into chores, work, free time for me etc, and sometimes with a lot of resistance for what “had to be done” in each segment. Now my day is becoming one continuous connection with me and how lovely that feels, meaning there is no difference between work, chores at home, or free time – just me in life.

  40. Reacting and feeling resentful or being overwhelmed for always having more to do stops us from being present and in connection with the joyful and loving quality we are able to hold with ourselves and bring to everything we do.

  41. Sharon, i can relate to seeking comfort things when life feels out of control or just too busy. I usually do this when i have not been as self loving with myself as I could be and then seek something from outside. I do this less now but am aware that it still occasionally pops up. I am so much more aware now.

  42. The way we respond to the practical requirements of life really makes or breaks our lives and how we feel about everything. If we take responsibility for the quality we complete our tasks in and work on staying present and focused and committed – life feels amazing – and so do our bodies at the end of the day.

  43. “When I can catch it, I just allow myself to feel that my body is holding tension and to then make a choice, knowing that my own resistance to what I am actually doing is what makes the jobs feel boring or mundane.” I love this. It is not the task at hand that is boring or mundane it is because we have an image of this task to be boring and mundane and then we resist doing it and with that make it very exhausting to do. It is like stepping on the break while our body has a natural flow to continue in its movements – thus the exhaustion, we basically stop our body (a vehicle in movement) from its natural flow.

  44. Sharon I love what you have shared: “. . . I just allow myself to feel that my body is holding tension and to then make a choice, knowing that my own resistance to what I am actually doing is what makes the jobs feel boring or mundane.” For me this is gold as it gave me a deeper understanding that I can chose how I feel while I was doing all the “everyday things” – I am the one who is responsible for how I feel – how empowering is that!

  45. When I get overwhelmed I am starting to feel and see that by focusing on loads of other moments and panicing about them distracts me from the quality I can bring into this moment right now. Overwhelm for me is not something I am a victim of but in full choice about.

  46. It could be funny if it would not be so horrible: the idea of that it is possible to control lead us to try it – what ends up in overwhelming and exhaustion or giving up. Two sides of a coin we did create and which would not exist if we would not feed it.

  47. Thank you Sharon for sharing your experience that many I am sure feel the same. I for one am so used to being busy planning all the things I have to do and getting ahead of myself and going into anxiety about getting it all done. These days life is so much easier when I stay present with my lovely self in the moment – life then becomes simple and joyful.

  48. When I have been trying to control everything, of course I end up exhausted then there is resentment and I feel like everyone wants a part of me. But this is what I have just created for myself, to be needed… such a vicious cycle until I catch myself and pull it up. I find once I do and start focusing again on simplicity, everything flows, I have more time it seems and I am no longer tired.

  49. Having that quality in Everything that you do is absolutely amazing – for me, I put the same effort into stacking the shelves at work as any other deemed ‘more important’ task. The result: True contentment of a days work!

  50. The simplicity of how to be in all of life comes through this blog so well. So it feels very true and beyond the words is a powerful message to all about the illusion we take on that allows us to grind down our natural joy and vitality. How we meet ourselves as amazing in the detail of our daily lives is how we come back home.

  51. I find that the more I think I have to do, and therefore the more stressed I become, the less I am able to actually do as the anxiety is so high in my body that I can barely function well enough to focus on what needs to be done. Whereas if I focus just on my body and what I am doing at the time I’m doing it, I don’t go spiralling off into what needs to be done next or after that or after that……and so I stay fully present, centred and clear about the task in hand.

  52. This feeling resentful for all we have to do has been a pattern that creeps in for me to, I have a radar for neediness and mostly it is highlighted by our dog! It is a constant choice on my part to take responsibility for what I am doing and ensuring I am doing it with a free choice and heart or not at all.

  53. It is interesting how we set us up. We run busy lives based on an image of the way our movements have to be in order to perform as we need and get things done. Since the image kills us we then need either our reward moment or our time out moment. Everything is configured by choice so we do not have ‘time in’.

  54. It is a profound game-changer Sharon I agree to bring our focus and commitment to the quality we do everything we do in. Very little will bring about a greater all round improvement to our health and wellbeing… of which you are perfect testimony to.

  55. Continuing to deepen our awareness allows us to have an ever expanding life where everything is clearer and more understandable. Staying present with myself in the midst of bad feeling from others requires more self regard, care and nurturing of myself in the moment, every moment. Thank you for inspiring this deepening of awareness in me this morning.

  56. I know if that I do anything in resentment then life stops flowing and everything becomes more difficult. It may not seem like anything significant and yet thoughts of resentment stop the simplicity of love and joy flowing through my life. I am catching the thoughts more and more and this allows the love to flow again. I loved reading this line Sharon it is a great reminder for me as I go into my day.”This change has come about through my commitment to developing a deeper love and appreciation of myself. This love has allowed me to be gentler with myself and to trust that life can flow without me always having to control every aspect of it.”

  57. There is a world of difference between when we are engaged with what we are doing, happy to serve in whatever way we can realising that this life is not about us… vs when its all about what we can get out of a situation. Its that self interest that causes much of the stress as we try and control and manipulate the world to deliver what we want rather than feeling the flow of what is happening.

  58. It is gorgeous to come to an understanding of yourself that you can now approach the pressures of life with an awareness that provides you an opportunity to choose in which quality to move from there…. catching anything that stands in the way of you responding with a love and simplicity that lets you flow through life rather than be controlled by it.

  59. I also used to have that busy time thing which has changed substantially since I have understood how life is about reconnecting to the everything we already are and the living and expression of that and not about going anywhere or getting or achieving anything. Therefore, the joy is in every moment.

  60. “I now know that how I go about my everyday tasks is a choice that can either feel in my body as simply lovely, or as incredibly stressful.” A great reminder Sharon, the key is knowing we always have a choice to come from a reaction and be at the mercy of life or respond to what is needed from a steadiness of connection with ourselves.

  61. Thanks for sharing Sharon. The outside of life may look very much the same, yet when we move from a deeper awareness and connection with ourselves the quality is very different. The simple things in life can be very joyful.

  62. ‘When I make the choice to embrace all I do with simplicity and joy, there seems to be a domino effect that enables my family to get on board with me at times.’ Love how you call this a domino effect and how it enables your family to get on board. I still marvel at how people can turn around, from being really angry or depressed when we stay absolutely steady with ourselves and with them, responding with love, keeping it simple and allowing joy to remain in our hearts.

  63. I really love this. And it’s so timely as I am preparing myself for the very busy period ahead of me. Life is practical and there will always be things to do, and it is not what I tell myself in my head, but the way I have been living up to that point that determines how I would experience what is ahead of me.

  64. ‘I can feel more present with what I am doing and not getting ahead of myself thinking of all the things that need to be done.’ Everyday I bring myself back from stressed tension to feeling each step as I walk or how I open a door. It’s been a pattern to go into overwhelm. I was an expert; even when there wasn’t much to be completed I could stress myself out by compiling tasks in my head all on top of each other to crush me. I’m now wondering if I’m so good at this perhaps I am a master at spacing things out. Funnily enough everything that needs being done gets done. Perhaps I can put myself on a programme of trust. That I know the order of what needs to be done and can trust myself and my rhythm so can drop the stress and simply be throughout my day, accepting that some projects may take longer than my ideal but living with this.

  65. Gorgeous and so true. Being with me in everything I do brings a simple joy-fullness to even the most mundane of tasks. The missing link was never ‘Lindt Chocolate or chips’ – but my connection to me.

  66. ‘ When I make the choice to embrace all I do with simplicity and joy, there seems to be a domino effect that enables my family to get on board with me at times.’ So true Sharon.

  67. “My previous pattern of feeling resentful about always having more to do, stopped me from embracing the simplicity of allowing myself to be truly present in what I was doing” I can relate to this Sharon, getting resentful for having too much to do but the crazy thing was that I was the one putting pressure on myself and then getting frustrated that I had too much to do and no time to do it all, so rushing from one thing to another trying to be ahead of myself all the time. This was not loving or supportive for myself or anyone else and they could feel my frustration and resentment that often inadvertently got directed towards them.

  68. I use to also live like when will the day come when I get a break, having felt my life was always busy. Now I am still busy, but how I approach my days are very different. I have more awareness in the choices I make and my presences with what I am doing, that I get through more and no longer feel the pressure I use to. I get what I can completed in the day and the rest goes onto the next day. This is also more loving and supportive.

  69. Trusting that life still flows without us controlling every aspect of it..it feels lovely to start to let go of the control, to trust more, and to open up. With this comes a letting go of perfectionism too – we just do what needs to be done, without the need for it to be perfect, which allows things to flow with much more simplicity and ease.

  70. Very relatable indeed Sharon. No doubt you have so much with which you could expand upon here – how your relationships and communications have changed with those around you, for example. When we are not exerting/allowing enormous pressure to be placed upon ourselves unduly, we are far, far more considerate and understanding of others.

  71. I wonder to myself, what if in the avoidance of certain tasks I am using frustration to avoid that I can bring love to every task and joyfully approach any aspect of life?

  72. I can so relate to this “When I make the choice to embrace all I do with simplicity and joy, there seems to be a domino effect that enables my family to get on board with me at times. ” My family have changed there way of living just through looking and feeling how I am living.

  73. ‘This change has come about through my commitment to developing a deeper love and appreciation of myself.’ So true Sharon this is key to not only deepening the relationship and love with ourselves but the amazing ripple effect that supports and strengthens all of our relationships.

  74. A beautiful blog to read thank you Sharon; such a gentle reminder to live life simply in love, truth and joy. What you have expressed here particularly resonated with me this morning;
    “This change has come about through my commitment to developing a deeper love and appreciation of myself. This love has allowed me to be gentler with myself and to trust that life can flow without me always having to control every aspect of it”.

  75. Spot on, appreciating what we do instead of seeing it as a chore is what creates the space to do it joyfully.

  76. We have a choice to go through life stressed, and we have a choice to go through life in presence. Even if we have not experienced what life in presence is, we can all testify that it is not such a good choice to go through life stressed, isn’t that true? For myself, if something like being stressful obviously does not work, it feels necessary to not continue in it! What if there is another way?

  77. “When I make the choice to embrace all I do with simplicity and joy, there seems to be a domino effect that enables my family to get on board with me at times.” It just shows the responsibility we have in making sure we embrace life with simplicity lightness and joy and live this in every aspect of our life, When we do everyone can feel it and as you say Sharon there is a domino effect as others align to what they can feel and know to be true.

  78. Someone once told me that only boring people are bored. I was indignant at the time because I found most of life boring and mundane. Now I can see there was truth is what was being presented to me. We create our own reality but the truth is more amazing than anything we can create. If we make our life about truth it is anything but boring.

  79. Hear hear Sharon! Thanks to the understandings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I have a more committed way of being honest and responsible. This brings a union to self that is priceless no matter what you do!

  80. I really see how filling up our day so that we push ourselves into a busyness and overwhelm affects our whole way of living, feeds our lack of connection with ourselves and everyone around us so that we react to life in general rather than feeling the steadiness that conscious presence brings and the natural joy in being ourselves.

  81. It feels to me that things are classed as ‘mundane’ because we are not aware when we do them, we are simply not present and with our body.

  82. Thanks Sharon, it’s such an important topic, how we deal with the practicalities of life as it’s a big part of our every day. Boy do I know this line “…how I go about my everyday tasks is a choice that can either feel in my body as simply lovely, or as incredibly stressful.” When we make the connection to ourselves and our qualities our central focus in all we do it changes everything, it is life from the inside out, not the outside in.

  83. I love that you have developed a deeper love and appreciation of yourself and this has helped you to be more
    present with what you do, ‘ I can feel more present with what I am doing and not getting ahead of myself thinking of all the things that need to be done.’

  84. How great that you now have a greater contentment and joy in all you do, ‘by me catching the frustration and resentment when I start to feel it arising in me. When I can catch it, I just allow myself to feel that my body is holding tension and to then make a choice, knowing that my own resistance to what I am actually doing is what makes the jobs feel boring or mundane.’ Lovely how you have a deeper awareness of how your choices can allow you to feel the simplicity and joy in all you do.

  85. When I read this blog it reminded me of how I am at work, overwhelmed, tense and I look forward to my days off – it is something I still haven’t mastered yet. But Sharon you have shared a few tips that I will use to keep reminding myself and these were the gems:
    * Feeling more present with what I am doing
    * Not getting a head of myself thinking of all the things I have to do
    * Committed to developing a deeper love and appreciation of myself
    * Catching the frustration and resentment
    * To feel the body holding tension and make a choice
    * Feel more responsible for my own choices in how I choose to respond to the practical requirements of life
    * Continue to watch myself when caught in old patterns
    * A much deeper awareness of how choices can allow to feel simplicity and joy in all I do

  86. Freeing ourselves from old patterns is the most enlightening thing we can do for ourselves and the space these have taken up in our body and mind suddenly becomes so real and the love and joy can then flood into those otherwise empty spaces and we feel a greater fullness of ourselves.

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