My Questions were Finally Answered

by Terri-Anne Connors, Melbourne, Victoria

I am thirty-six years of age and some would say I have already lived through more significant life events than most people have lived in their entire lives. I could write pages on a number of deeply painful and nothing less than traumatic events that have occurred in my life, either directly to me, a member of my immediate family or a close friend: from death, murder, rape, suicide, illness, disease, drug and alcohol abuse to physical and emotional abuse.

As I experienced each one of these events they were not the most difficult things for me to deal with in my life. Yes they were at the time very painful and extremely sad, but it is my experience when the big events like these happen, we inevitably find an inner strength. A strength that cannot be likened to anything else – it is a knowing that you will get through, that you are being looked after, that there is a reason for everything and that much will be learnt from it. It is also my experience that when the big stuff happens people check in on you, they rally around, including strangers. The generosity and care from people is deeply touching and reinforces your will to go on. It is after the shock wears off and you start to get back to everyday life that it becomes difficult.

What I needed help with was much simpler, the questions I needed answered were about the everyday things:

  • How to get a good night sleep so I didn’t wake feeling like I hadn’t slept at all.
  • How to eat in a way so that I didn’t feel heavy, tired and craving more food, especially food that contained sugar and were high in carbohydrates.
  • How to exercise without hurting myself and wanting to give up after a couple of days.
  • How to finish a full day of work without feeling exhausted and drained.
  • How to be responsible without taking on the burdens of others; knowing the difference between what could truly help another and what actually didn’t help at all.
  • How to speak up about what is wrong in the world without fear of retribution, even when retribution came.
  • How to deal with work colleagues, family and friends who sometimes lie and betray my trust.
  • How to watch while those same people say and do things that clearly hurt themselves and others, including me.
  • How to be a woman, to transition from being a girl innocent to the world and still honour that fragility while becoming a responsible adult.
  • How to choose to not want to have children and still feel like a whole woman.
  • How to stop the constant barrage of subtle but negative undermining thoughts towards myself.
  • How to trust that you don’t have to have a tertiary education, be the most qualified or the oldest in the room to be intelligent or have a worthwhile contribution.

It was these everyday things that challenged me more than those big, painful and traumatic events.

I genuinely did go looking for answers. I have always had the ability to ask questions and understand things well beyond my education or age and experience – one would say I was discerning. But how does that help when you live in a world that discourages that? When we are taught not to question, especially of those who are leaders, experts in their fields and in positions of authority or power. Nothing I tried, read and attended worked – the many books, groups and courses both religious and spiritual, personal trainers, diets, financial advisors or business ideas. I would start a book and not finish it because although there were some valid points, most of it did not actually help. I would attend sessions with a counselor, a psychologist or group therapy, but went away no better off and inevitably returning to the confusion that led me there in the first place. I even tried to go back to Church – I was raised as a Catholic, but again none of it really answered my questions. None of it helped with the day-to-day things and I always came back to: there had to be more to life, there had to be a reason for the suffering and why life could not be simpler.

Serge Benhayon was the first person who actually listened to me and understood where I was coming from. It was Serge who recognised in me that inner knowing and inner strength. He could see through the frustration and the confusion. Serge was the first person who genuinely cared for me and what I had to share. Not what clever things he could tell me, or how he could help me to be a ‘better person’ or what he thought was wrong with me. He always, mostly confirmed what I knew was right and wrong. Serge knew I was discerning and was not put off by that, but rather he encouraged it. It was Serge who showed me it was the inner strength and knowing which was worth encouraging and talking about, that THAT is who I am – that it is not the details and events of my life which defined me. Serge showed me that all that was important was for me to continue to nurture and develop my inner strength and my inner knowing by learning how to best deal with the everyday life things and how that would support me to develop those inner qualities.

There are two very important things about Serge Benhayon’s presentations that greatly inspired me:

  1. Everything is energy – therefore everything is because of energy, and
  2. We all have a personality, a spirit and a soul.

For me, once I understood those two things in full, everything else could be explained. That is what I had been missing and the fact that nothing and no one had encouraged me to nurture my inner qualities and support me to deal with the everyday life things. That is what I needed help with. This explained the suffering, and why life was not simpler. I don’t know of a better way to live than how I am living now based on all of what Serge has inspired and encouraged in me.

Of course there is room for improvement in some areas, but from where I stand now there has been a significant shift in my overall well-being and in my day-to-day living. I am still asking questions, still being discerning, but up until and including now, the time spent with Serge Benhayon is the only time my questions got answered.

361 thoughts on “My Questions were Finally Answered

  1. Its the apparently small things that we easily brush aside, but they are actually the daily choices we make that add up to how we are living. I have been working on speaking up rather than holding back. Its a life long pattern I am slowly changing and it feels very empowering.

  2. How easy it is to hand ourselves over to the external, temporal world that then defines and moulds us to who we think and believe we are, when in fact, this is far from the truth. A return to the essence within is to have no need of losing ourselves or wanting recognition from others ever again. Serge Benhayon’s presentations have also truly supported and inspired me to make different choices and return to the truth of who I Am, just as you describe Terri-Anne.
    “It was Serge who showed me it was the inner strength and knowing which was worth encouraging and talking about, that THAT is who I am – that it is not the details and events of my life which defined me”.

  3. I cannot appreciate and fathom enough of the impact of this man and the amazing inspiration he has been for so many. Serge Benhayon has seeded forth in so many the truth of what this world is truly about and how an amazing life is possible with Love and responsibility

  4. I really relate to this article, because I could do the drama or the big stuff, step up and get through it because that what had to happen, and I had experienced things that felt tricky and always made sure I did not collapse but gather myself together and yet the everyday choices where not of the same quality. I have a been altering my everyday choices, because for me this is the majority of my life, how I wake, eat, walk , talk, these details matter to the whole experience life, having support with them through healing etc are deeply effective and can alter habits and patterns that do not support us. One would be that I used to say up and watch TV until late, no more is this the case because I am connected to my body more and I feel it does not support it, these details matter.

  5. I agree it is our inner qualities that are worth connecting to and developing, ‘was for me to continue to nurture and develop my inner strength and my inner knowing by learning how to best deal with the everyday life things and how that would support me to develop those inner qualities.’

  6. Absolutely, we all need to have the understanding of this, ‘There are two very important things about Serge Benhayon’s presentations that greatly inspired me: Everything is energy – therefore everything is because of energy, and We all have a personality, a spirit and a soul.’ These two facts help explain much about our current life.

  7. Asking questions about life, even though the process may be challenging is much more supportive than having no questions because we either have succumbed to comfort and do not choose to feel all the lovelessness and ugliness that do not make sense in life, or we have chosen to be disempowered by life and withdraw.

  8. I too had so many of your “How to” questions throughout my life but as I wasn’t someone who felt confident asking questions of any sort most of them remained un-asked and of course un-answered. It was not until I, like you, came to presentations of Serge Benhayon that many of these questions began to be answered not just by Serge, but by me as he supported me to begin to understand life and my place in it. And today I am finally asking questions and getting some amazing answers!

  9. Love the ‘how to’s’ Terri-Anne – very familiar! This is really about being our true selves in the world.

  10. Serge has introduced that ..”Everything is energy – therefore everything is because of energy, and
    We all have a personality, a spirit and a soul.’ These essential tools for true living.

  11. It’s the everyday support, the simple everyday understanding that we need and in fact it’s what I needed and now grow from. As the article is saying the big ups and downs were explained and would pass, you wouldn’t truly understand but it was more the little questions everyday that remained unanswered., these supposed little things were the key. Once I started to understand these then life as a whole began to take more shape. Before this understanding I was like a cork in the ocean and at times you were under. Simple living qualities that you didn’t need learn but more return to became the dedication and when things felt too big, you simply returned to them as this is your everyday. Universal Medicine didn’t provide the answers but just supported you to turn back to what had already been said, I was already feeling it but just couldn’t grasp it and this has been the truest support for me to make sense of the feelings that were already there.

  12. ‘It was these everyday things that challenged me more than those big, painful and traumatic events.’ I can agree with that, Terri-Anne. What I’m feeling too is it’s the mastery of the everyday things that give us the fortitude for the other: the foundation of self-love that holds us steady when the storm comes.

  13. ‘Everything is energy – therefore everything is because of energy, and We all have a personality, a spirit and a soul.’ Agreed Terri Anne – the awareness that Serge Benhayon brings is earth shatteringly profound, and the real and necessary game changer.

  14. Listening to the presentations of the Ageless Wisdom by Serge Benhayon has shown me a way to understand all that goes on in life and hold The Way of The Livingness as a way to be in the world.

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