by Matilda (UK)
There are those simple realisations that change everything.
The other day I noticed that I have a habit: at the end of every day I clear out my handbag – I file receipts, gather up change, tidy and restore to order… there is pleasure, comfort and deep satisfaction in this activity.
SO I wondered… why not live in every moment with this same attention and commitment so that there is nothing to ‘correct’, to ‘clear out’ at the end of the day?
I came to realise that if I am not choosing to be all that I am in every moment (no perfection required or expected), then I am allowing the chaos of life to sneak into the driver’s seat and steer me into the chaos.
It is the application of the urgency of being present in every precious moment, without the anxiousness about time rushing past, that changes everything.
174 thoughts on “A Handbag & Life: How to Live in the Moment”
“I came to realise that if I am not choosing to be all that I am in every moment (no perfection required or expected), then I am allowing the chaos of life to sneak into the driver’s seat and steer me into the chaos”. I like this simple yet powerful statement. Keeping things simple, means less or no chaos. Then things don’t get stuck anywhere and everywhere, otherwise we live in that energy and it comes in our every day livingness.
The detail is in everything, including a handbag…
Life changing little pill of wisdom
The thing I have to be careful of with my handbag is not so much the lack of organisation but more the fact that I seem to be prepared for every occasion. This may not appear to be such a bad thing, and is not, but it does mean that my handbag is a little weighed down with lots of stuff (small box of tissues and wipes, keys, wallet, diary, phone, sunglasses, small bag with some wipes for glasses, spare period pads, lipstick and eye liner, and a small pencil case which also has the computer chargers etc). So I am certainly well prepared, but my bag is not light to carry! This is something for me to work on…
Yes, considering I’m not a mother, I used to carry everything but the kitchen sink, for that just in case event. When we keep the simplicity of everything, then we have everything we need, it is that simple…
Clearing clutter and other things as we go can be very supportive and means that we are then forever ready for the next thing that comes our way. Of course there are times when we allow things to build but this is a way of showing us that we are allowing things to bog us down for whatever reasons – and this is not a criticism as such but rather an observation that shows what energies we have perhaps allowed to interfere with us and the clear way forwards.
Matilda – a short but super powerful blog that really says it all, and how much does this one single sentence reveal about how we can go about things in a way that supports us all: “It is the application of the urgency of being present in every precious moment, without the anxiousness about time rushing past, that changes everything.”
“I am allowing the chaos of life to sneak into the driver’s seat and steer me into the chaos.” I have really been seeing this when I allow a wobble way from my essence, that other energy seems to sweep in and begin steering me towards decisions that are not loving for me with outcomes that result in more stress. It literally is like watching someone else in the driver seat when my love is not present and being moved from.
I like what you share here Matilda, yes choosing to be all that we are in every moment is super important, ‘I came to realise that if I am not choosing to be all that I am in every moment (no perfection required or expected), then I am allowing the chaos of life to sneak into the driver’s seat and steer me into the chaos.’
Thank you for this super supportive reminder to clear out the corners of my life where I still allow clutter to distract and unsettle me.
Thank you Matilda, as what I feel you have shared opens us to having much more space in our day to complete all our tasks.
I love that you called it a ‘habit’. There’s so much to appreciate in what we already do so naturally every day. And in clocking and appreciating, we give it even more power.
I love the simplicity shared here, that to live from our essence means we are able to end our day in a clear way, instead of having many situations to look at and ‘tidy up’ – or carry into our next day.
Thank you Melinda I agree, that when we have completion in our day the feeling of being complete adds so much to a deep repose-full sleep.
And so our movements in our awakening deepen us into that evening so we can even have a deeper repose that night. This to me is the snowball affect that we can build as a foundation of deepening our connection to our essences.
Yes, having the day complete, ‘so that there is nothing to ‘correct’, to ‘clear out’ at the end of the day?’, feels great and makes so much sense.
There is something very supportive about completing tasks such as your example Matilda. I can look at the fact if I don’t take receipts out of my pocket and store or bin them it’s an unnecessary clutter in my life. It’s a small example but we can have a habit of fobbing off this ‘small thing’ and that ‘small thing’ and they all build up around us.
I can really appreciate the simplicity of this blog as it shows me that life can be so easy when we just give it that little more attention and focus. It shows me too that all the ‘difficulties’ I experience in life are actual of my own making.
I might just start with clearing our my handbag at the end of each and every day and see how that feels. I have no doubt I will love the feeling as it feels so great every time I do clear it out but if I did it on a daily basis I would feel less overwhelmed and far less on the back foot.
Learning to clear out what we have allowed in is part of the process of learning to live in a way that it is less and less what we have to clear until such time that this is unnecessary.
We have to be clear of the rubbish that got stuck to us from living the false life to what we should live from our nature.
I can feel that I do know the difference between a sense of completion and leaving things unfinished, if not disordered. It’s a short blog but the idea of being more responsible and completing things (in a feeling sense not a doing one) is very supportive.
Well said Melinda – and I find that if I leave things incomplete then it does seem to weigh me down and drain me until such time that it is all completed.
“It is the application of the urgency of being present in every precious moment, without the anxiousness about time rushing past, that changes everything.” Mistakes would not be mistakes or a bad choice but a deep profound revelatory learning.
Brilliant Matilda. Clearing and letting go so in each moment there is no build up to deal with at the end of the day… or week…. or year….or lifetime.
It is easy to let clutter build up around the house, a bit here and there. I love it when a shelf is clear but have noticed how every single horizontal surface in our house gets something put on it. I don’t have a lot of ornaments but I do have a lot of clutter. this delightfully short article is a great reminder to clear up and clear out more often.
Cleaning out the handbag is a great analogy for completing our day, that we can assess and heal every discrepancy energetically, appreciate the amazing moments, and as a result feel ordered and clear within ourselves.
Through our willingness to commit to our connection to who we are, to our love within, our focus on our purpose is clear, and all that is not of this truth has no chance of entering our lives.
When we commit to living purposefully it exposes the clutter that provides an opening for chaos to enter.
” It is the application of the urgency of being present in every precious moment, without the anxiousness about time rushing past, that changes everything. ”
Yes no time wasting
I love the simplicity with which you present something so significant and profound.
To be aware of what we say yes is key to eventually change it.
This is very inspiring. I love how you have clocked a quality to be appreciated in something that you do every day. And indeed, if it is worth appreciating, why not apply the same in other areas of our life.
Great blog. Yes, it is a continuous adjustment and with practice it gets simpler and simpler and more fun!
Restoring order in any activity we do at any time of the day is indeed a wonderful feeling.
Living in each moment where we’re fully present with what we’re doing actually creates more space, because we’re not trying to do two things at once (i.e. the activity we’re physically doing, while thinking about something else), which inevitably takes double the amount of time.
As you describe here, the clearing out of your purse at the end of the day feels very much like reviewing and completing the day.
Yes, a regular winding down activity at the end of the day can make it easier to end the day in harmony.
An inspiration to bring simplicity and order into everyday life and not choose to accumulate clutter in the dark recesses of our ‘handbag’ of existence.
I am sure that most of us know how easy it is to let “the chaos of life to sneak into the driver’s seat and steer me (us) into the chaos.” Well I for one definitely do and before you know it, you’re in the back seat wondering what happened and where life is taking you. How awesome it is though, to know that taking back the ‘driver’s seat’ is only one simple self-loving choice, one moment, away.
Love your wisdom here Matilda, the more we keep up to date the less distracted we become through anxiousness because we are already taking care of what’s next simply by being in the moment.
In every moment if we live the truth of who we are, that is no need to clear the what is not true as with every moment we are expanding the what is true, and creating space for more of who we really are to flow through and in to life. Thank you Matilda for the brilliant and wise reminder of how the simplicity of living what is true is what cuts out complication.
So true Matilda “if I am not choosing to be all that I am in every moment (no perfection required or expected), then I am allowing the chaos of life to sneak into the driver’s seat and steer me into the chaos.” This is so simple and I can see how it plays out in my life. Using the breath technique from the Gentle Breath Meditation throughout the day can really support me to be more consistently in connection to myself. I liked the symbol of the bag and purse – to end each day completing what we did and clearing out any energetic transactions which were not true.
That is interesting Matilda, and I came relate to this with regards to my car, as occasionally a wrapper will end up in there or a receipt, empty water bottle, and then I can feel the impact of these things being left behind and my own choices.
I love how you share this wisdom so simply here Matilda, and yes ‘It is the application of the urgency of being present in every precious moment’.
Great timing for me to read your blog Matilda. I have been noticing how I often allow the urgency of time pressures distract me from living moment to moment and appreciating the joy of being present with every movement and my choices. I am working on applying without perfect to ‘being present in every precious moment’ more and more.
I can relate Chan as I too have noticed how getting caught up in time pressures is a distraction from the surrender of being moved by the quality of our Soul, and trusting that these are the movements that know what is needed next.
Wise words Matilda – it’s the difference between taking that gentle breath (at the tip of the nose) for you, a breath God would take, or the hard breath of anxious of the busyness of life.
I do have days like that from time to time where I come home and there is nothing niggling or left over from my interactions. Everything feels complete.
A short and simple reminder to apply the same level of commitment and attention to detail to all areas of life – I know I avoid this at times and it feels sluggish in my body and I lack purpose when I don’t choose this.
Anna, this is certainly a wonderful support applying the level of attention to detail in all aspects of our life. It is of course confronting but in a good way to find areas or pockets that need to be more ‘loved up’.
Wisdom is so simple and it walks with us every day should we choose to befriend it.
It is a very beautiful thing you’ve shared here Matilda… the honouring of the way of ‘order’ that we do know we can live our lives in and by. My, how we can resist it, and wow – at how freeing it actually is as we embrace it.
It certainly is freeing to live every moment with ‘order’ and simplicity. I find if I attend to things as needed then I am left with feelings of spaciousness and not clutter, overwhelm and complications. To live simplicity I have found it does require a certain level of order and that freeing feeling is spaciousness.
Living in a way that deals with things, situations, issues, reactions etc. instantly makes for a very clear body at the end of the day.
The urgency without the anxiousness. The difference between being ahead of ourselves which creates anxiousness, or staying consciously present with ourselves so we feel every moment which then allows us to feel the Call (the urgency).
Well said Matilda… It is like having diligence without obsession… On the surface they can seem close, but really they are worlds apart.