Settled

by Dr Rachel Hall, Holistic Dentist, Brisbane

No matter what I was doing, be it working, reading, walking, swimming, resting, chatting with friends or trying to get to sleep, my body always felt agitated or shaky and my mind would be in a whirl, spinning with constant chatter.

I never felt at rest, there was always a tension and a sense of having to get on with the next thing. That there was more to do, better things to achieve, one more hurdle, goal or milestone to hit and then I could rest, be at ease and achieve a sense of completion. But when I reached that goal there was another and another and another to strive for. My restlessness built and built until my body felt wired and my mind could hold several conversations simultaneously without my being even really involved in them.

I needed coffee to get me going in the morning and then several more to make it through the day. And then to help me sleep a couple of beers or a glass of wine or two or three… but usually the whole bottle. When this wasn’t enough I’d work harder and longer than my colleagues, cycle to work, run or swim at lunch time and go to the gym on my way home. I just could not stop – I was in perpetual motion, spinning out of control. I felt like a Newtonian flywheel; the faster I went the more momentum I gathered so I could just keep going. I was the woman who could defy Newton’s first law of motion: an object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted on by an unbalanced force. How ironic, as looking back I was that unbalanced force driving myself faster and harder.

I viewed this way of life as my being ambitious, driven, productive and a bit of a ‘go getter’. At first it was a good thing; it got me through high school and University, from one job to a better one and even to opening my own dental practice. It spurred me to travel, meet new people, try different things and emigrate to start a new life. But I never felt at peace, rested or able to take a break. Nothing helped stem the feeling of being restless and going at a million miles an hour on the inside. I tried long soaks in a hot bath, walks on the beach, yoga, meditation, massage, visualisation techniques, Chi Qong, New Age Music, self-help books, the works… but nothing helped. In fact most of these things made me more uptight, on edge and wound up.

A friend of mine gave me a flyer about a Universal Medicine heart chakra workshop – a whole group was going and would I like to come. Now this wasn’t really my thing, I was cynical about hippy trippy new agey stuff – none of that crap worked in my opinion – but when my friend explained it might help me relax I relented and said I’d give it a go.

I listened to this guy Serge Benhayon talk about some stuff, most of which went over my head and decided when the tea break came I was out of there. I didn’t feel relaxed at all, I needed to bolt, the chatter in my head was full steam ahead and I couldn’t sit still.

I became very aware of how completely unsettled I was and realised that this was how I felt every moment of every day, but here in this room with 50-60 other people I had no way of avoiding what was going on in my body.

Serge explained we were going to do a simple meditation. I closed my eyes and breathed gently through my nose. As I did so, something in me changed, the chatter in my head faded away to a quiet whisper and for the first time since I was a little girl I felt settled.

Settled: “to discontinue moving and come to rest in one place”.

That place of rest, the place where I felt settled was inside me; it had been there all the time, I had simply lost my way.

383 thoughts on “Settled

  1. It is a great trick of the world to keep us thinking that we need to live outside ourselves – always striving to be/get more, but in truth it all resides within us and the ‘trick’ is to connect to that and live it….and as you show it here Rachel, it is only a breath away.

  2. We often favour the highs and lows of life until we realise how temporary they are, and how they always leave us feeling lacking and wanting more. Feeling settled within ourselves offers us a depth of contentment that is self sustaining and relies on nothing from the outside.

  3. We have a world epidemic the vast majority of us are avoiding our bodies, hence the need for coffee, sugar, alcohol, drugs, extreme sports, gaming etc. These are all designed to stop us from feeling what’s truly going on in our bodies. Our bodies only way of letting us know that there is something wrong is through illness and disease so to me it make complete sense that Illness and disease is also on epidemic levels in our society. What is it going to take for the vast majority of us to wake up and start to take notice?

  4. This is so relatable Rachel as for so long nothing I tried would bring ease to the unsettlement that simmered constantly underneath the surface regardless of how much I achieved in life or tried to numb the feeling. The only thing that has stood the test of time and has offer true settlement has been my ongoing development with and deepening in my connection to my essence which began with my first ever introduction to Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine presentations and the Gentle Breath Meditation. I have not looked back and this way of life and being is one that was instantly and strangely familiar but is now simply very natural and empowering.

  5. We are able to stop, but don’t want to stop for we don’t want to feel the consequences of our choices and take responsibility for them. The actual No we are saying is to our soul and this addiction to motion fosters the control that our spirit wants so it can stay individual and in charge.

  6. Our soul is true settlement, the moment we are in constant motion we are saying No to us. The greatest pain we choose to have: being disconnect to our universal connection that knows no time and drive but moments and settlements through expansion.

  7. The way you described your way of living applies to so many people nowadays. Today at our supervision coach group we shared what we observe with our clients and we mentioned exactly this: the not being able to stop and constant being in motion without any settlement in the body. How important are tools like the Gentle Breath or Esoteric Yoga for us to find our way back to ourselves and the stillness that is inside of us.

    1. The moment we stop we feel our choices, which we avoid at all costs, as they expose how much we have chosen to go against of who we truly are, which is the ultimate and grandest pain of all of us.

  8. Yes being settled is being totally with that place within. Who would think you do not have to go anywhere to settle .. breath gently feeling the cool breeze at the tip of the nose and feel that stillness within.

  9. We often think we have to do something outside of ourselves when we feel unsettled but that is actually contra to what we simply need to do and that is re-connect with ourselves. The Gentle Breath Meditation is a great way to do this as are gentle exercises and Esoteric Yoga.

  10. We are always going to feel tension in life. That is a fact. Simply because we are not from this plane of life and are far far grander so we are always going to feel the tug of evolution. It is how we choose to react of respond that defines the consistency and settledness we can feel within.

  11. ‘Settled: “to discontinue moving and come to rest in one place”.That place of rest, the place where I felt settled was inside me; it had been there all the time, I had simply lost my way.’ How many of mankind has lost their way choosing to be racy, creating complications and trying to solve them but with never a true answer and thus not allowing this settlement to occur.

  12. True settlement within our body is just a choice away. Choosing to breathe gently, as in practising the Gentle Breath Meditation, which Serge Benhayon has so lovingly shared with us, paves the way in bringing us back to our inner heart where the love that we are which is the love we all come from resides. This is where we come home to true settlement.

  13. We are taught that everything that brings happiness is outside of ourselves, there couldn’t be a bigger lie as everything that brings a true feeling of settlement, joy and love is inside ourselves.

    1. Yes well said Melinda. Once we realise the lie for what it is the unfolding path of empowerment and liberation begins. This has been the message to humanity throughout the ages from many world teachers, to turn within for all that we truly seek as it is here that the power of who we are is realised.

  14. Settlement in us is nothing that is given it is a choice to connect to our body – the greatest anchor you can have in life.

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