Relationships – A Never Ending Journey

by Anne McRitchie, Chilcotts Grass, NSW

After many years of living together, with a love based entirely on mutual needs, my husband Greg and I found Serge Benhayon, attended our first Heart Chakra workshop and gradually embraced a way of living as presented by Universal Medicine. We reached a point where late last year I could truthfully write:

Now, ‘making love’ is a confirmation of the way we have been together during the day. But in truth, it is how we are in every moment of the day, not what we do. It is how we smile at each other, touch each other in passing, prepare a meal together or feel the other when they are not there. Unlike ‘having sex’, there is no beginning or end to ‘making love’. It is a feeling that is forever with you, and the physical act is a glorious and joy-full confirmation of our loving connection.”

At the time of writing the above I felt that we had somehow arrived at a place where our relationship was near perfect, despite the occasional little hiccup.

However this feeling was quite short lived once I connected to a new possibility: that relationships are not about getting to a ‘place’, however loving and joy-full that place may be, but are a never-ending journey, and we choose where and how we travel!

This possibility was confirmed to me at the Esoteric Healing Workshop Level 4 in the UK earlier this year. Having participated in it, I can now joyfully share that:

As there is no end to the love and glory we can re-connect to in our own bodies once we start to make loving choices, so too there is no end to the depth of love that can unfold between two people who are willing to see, first and foremost, that same love and glory in the other.

Those of us who were there with our partners worked together for an exercise based on ‘acceptance’. While doing the exercise, the person taking the ‘practitioner’ role placed their hands on their partner so as to feel a specific acceptance chakra (energy centre in the body) while asking “Do you accept me (name) as your husband / wife?”. So, when Greg was taking the practitioner role, he asked me “Do you accept me, Greg, as your husband?”.

We learned afterwards that many married couples immediately went into their entrenched patterns and some had to call a supervising practitioner to help moderate.

Greg and I did not entirely escape this! I felt that Greg had muddled up the question and was asking it in a confusing way and I told him so – as is my lingering pattern! We also called a supervisor over but they seemed to have yet another version of the question! However, we just moved through this distraction to give our attention to the question on offer and what it might reveal.

Once I had brought myself back to ‘me’ and truly felt the question in my body, I suddenly had amazing clarity about my husband. I re-connected to what I had described in my previous blog as, “…some inner-beauty deep within the other person that I could occasionally feel, even though they did not always allow that to be expressed”.

Before this workshop, this sense of inner-beauty I felt in my husband had been elusive, present only as a sense of there being ‘something more’. After the session it was now no longer elusive, but a certainty deep within my being: my husband was an amazing, loving and glorious being.

At the same time, I was also aware that this was not what I lived with twenty-four/seven! I lived with the outward expression, that is, my husband’s behaviours and choices which were not always honouring of this loving inner-being and instead on occasion came from emotions based on ideals and beliefs which had no foundation in truth. However, even this awareness could not dull or shake the glory I now saw in him.

A few days earlier, after a conversation with Serge Benhayon, I could feel as a truth in my own body that when we claim our glory and we live from that, we can look back at our issues and they seem like a thin red line – insignificant in the big scheme of things. Yet when we are in our issues, often wallowing there, our issues seem gigantic and on occasions, all consuming.

What the ‘acceptance’ exercise made me aware of was that the same principle applies when we are with our partners. If on occasions our partner’s expression, or way of being at a particular moment, is from other-than-love, if we focus on the ill-expression it can seem like a major stumbling block to a loving relationship and this can often lead us to see our partner and the ill-expression as one and the same.

In reality, our partner is still the loving being that we know them to be, but if in such situations we do not hold our loving inner connection, we can tend to identify our partner as the ill-expression.

Of course, as is so obvious, this holds true not just with our partners but with family, friends, acquaintances and indeed anyone and everyone we meet or interact with in any way, however fleeting. Imagine a world where we all saw another first from the same amazing–ness that we know we all come from.

In such a world there would be no foundation for petty arguments, crime, abuse, war, or conflict of any kind to exist.

It starts with each one of us, and for my part, it started with the inspiration of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine!

Related reading:
‘Sex’ Versus ‘Love’ – An Older Woman’s Perspective

573 thoughts on “Relationships – A Never Ending Journey

  1. “Unlike ‘having sex’, there is no beginning or end to ‘making love’.” This is such a joyful discovery as I found the love just deepens, expands and that ‘love’ is not exclusive to ‘sex’, which has resulted in love not being being exclusive to just to my wife but to everyone.

  2. It is a gift to see the beauty in another and it is something we can all learn to be, all it takes is a willingness and dedication to be loving with ourselves and apply it to our daily living.

  3. This is very needed – to hold each other with absolute love, understanding and acceptance and not as an ill behaviour, expression or choice.

  4. Reading this made me wonder how I might call perfecting a role-play in a relationship as deepening a relationship, and I might think ‘we are getting on’ as there are fewer hiccups. Such an inspiring sharing, Anne. Thank you.

  5. Yes very beautiful Anne, when I am feeling down the last thing I want is someone who is going to see me as down and not see me the beautiful amazing woman that I am underneath. It is a great realisation to also realise other people feel just the same as you and me so it is our responsibility to see them as that amazing being they are whatever is going on to the best of our abilities.

  6. When we develop a relationship with our bodies we begin to understand that be intimate with another is to move and hold ourselves in a way that creates transparency for another to see all of who we are.

  7. I love the thought that relationships are a never-ending journey, we have so much to learn and discover together, gosh they’d be so dull if there was ever an end point.

  8. Re reading this blog today, what stood out for me is that ‘when we claim our glory and we live from that, we can look back at our issues and they seem like a thin red line – insignificant in the big scheme of things. Yet when we are in our issues, often wallowing there, our issues seem gigantic and on occasions, all consuming.’ So very true and something I have experienced a lot recently.

  9. When I am able to see the preciousness and beauty in my husband I now know its because I have first been willing to see it in me.

  10. Yes we are a long way away from always seeing others in their essence, that part of them that is who they truly are. We instead look at all the behaviours that are not them. This creates a lot of tension and complication, so it is key to first see and feel ourselves in that essence, the love that we are, then we can see that in another.

  11. ‘Unlike ‘having sex’, there is no beginning or end to ‘making love’.’ This statement, and your description Anne, completely changes the way we think about sex. Actually, it throws sex out the window and replaces it with something far more beautiful and enduring – and ‘every day’. Yes, the potential is that we can make love 24/7, and if there is a culmination of that love that results in the physical expression we call ‘sex’, well, that’s just the icing on the cake. But it’s not ‘the cake’!

  12. “Unlike sex, there is no beginning or end to making love”. This made me smile Anne, as it feel like a beautiful way to be in connection with your partner. It also takes all the pressure off that one moment, as every moment before and after physically making love is just as important. This constant commitment feels like how true love and respect can grow.

  13. This is beautiful Anne, thank you for sharing. We can get stuck on behaviours, either own own, or another’s. But that is just the outer shell. When we connect to what lies inside, it is much easier to see the behaviours for what they are.

  14. This would be awesome, a great start to building brotherhood, ‘Imagine a world where we all saw another first from the same amazing–ness that we know we all come from.’

  15. Claiming our love and glory as who we are is an important process, and this helps other ‘problems’ or issues pale into insignificance, ‘when we claim our glory and we live from that, we can look back at our issues and they seem like a thin red line – insignificant in the big scheme of things.’ Absolutely.

  16. I too during an Sacred Esoteric Healing L4 course felt the essence of me and another. I fell ‘in love’ with my partner. An amazing experience I will never forget but I will continue to claim that feeling in me so it becomes me all-the-time.

  17. Relationships have so much to offer – a depth of beauty that is so solid. Thank you for your sharing Anne, and for showing how we can miss out on the essence of someone if we make it all about the doing.

  18. An incredible blog Anne. Often we don’t truly appreciate people until they are gone. It is a huge tragedy that many don’t let themselves feel their own beauty let alone not allowing themselves to truly connect to the gorgeousness of another.

  19. The absolute honouring of another in any relationship allows a relationship to evolve to a deeper level, constantly finding a deeper level of love than before.

  20. I am so grateful for what I have learnt at Universal Medicine workshops.
    We have so much to share with one and other, when I think of all the friendships I have made and the deepening of my own relationship I feel super super blessed.

  21. To search for a loving relationship can be like the search for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, only to find that the pot is a never ending well of gold that just keeps of getting deeper as you allow more and more of it to permeate throughout your life, in every situation with every person – love is absolute.

  22. Anne – it is so true that a relationship cannot be about getting somewhere. It is truly about asking whats next and committing to an ever-deepening way of being in relationships.

  23. Feeling love in the body is not an end point, but an ever developing relationship within and from that with others.

  24. Thank you Anne, this was very supportive to read again today. It’s such an important topic to look at partner relationships and understand the difference between the beautiful being we know they are, and their behaviours born from unloving choices. As I see this in another, it’s also an opportunity to understand myself and my own choices as well.

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