Acceptance – A Choice Present in Every Moment

by Adrienne Ryan, Brisbane, Australia

When it comes to the nitty-gritty of daily life, I’ve been discovering that acceptance is a choice we have that is present in every moment and with even the smallest awareness of this choice, the grandest love opens up.

I used to think of acceptance as something reserved for obvious things like accepting invitations, offers or requests, but presentations by Universal Medicine (UniMed) and Serge Benhayon inspired me to pull back the curtains on acceptance and I began to see that there was much more at play.

For example, when…

  • I complete a task at work and it has gone so smoothly and effortlessly that I feel like I have not ‘worked’ on it all.

I can accept this and say: YES how great am I, if that was simple, what more could I do?

Or I can reject it with a dose of doubt or self loathing: you’re obviously not working hard enough, you better check it, something must be wrong, things are never that easy. You’re nothing special, a monkey could do that.

  • I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed.

I can accept this and say, YES – let’s go for it.

Or I can reject it by recounting my shortfalls, mistakes, all the not-good-enough, shameful, guilty things that prove I’m not that good yet and I need to try harder to make myself better and more… acceptable.

This is how
I accept or reject the love I am,
every moment, every day.

It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection – each choice I make turns on one of these taps and I end up swimming in the awfulness of doubt and abuse OR the silk of my knowing it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it – now, as I am ­­– and living in a way that honours that precious wisdom.

As I allow myself to become more acquainted with acceptance, I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not.

The more I accept the love within
the more love within there is to accept.

Like in the examples above, present in every moment – no matter how it might be disguised – is the same singular invitation, presented over and over again: to accept or reject the love I innately and incorruptibly am – and that we all are, equally. To accept this love, to say YES – that is me, is to allow the ever-unfolding, ever expanding, mighty, without end or diminishment, Way of Love to be.

Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

198 thoughts on “Acceptance – A Choice Present in Every Moment

  1. Adrienne, your simplicity of expressing acceptance, have given me the opportunity to review how I have been understanding acceptance in such a narrow view. It is a reminder that it is a moment to moment acceptance of what life presents to us on a daily basis.

  2. Thank you Adrienne, this is such simple but powerful wisdom to live by, and it places the power back into our own hands for how we feel in life by observing whether we accept or reject ourselves.

  3. Great reminder to start the day with, Adrienne. It is so simple, but the importance of accepting is overlooked. It is also a way of appreciating, and if we don’t do that regularly, our self-critical part will fill up the space when acceptance and appreciation is not applied.

    1. That is so true also of how we are with others, our criticism is there when we do not appreciate those around us.

  4. ‘to accept or reject the love I innately and incorruptibly am – and that we all are, equally’ Thank you Adrienne, for reminding us that the invitation is never not there, but is constant. We either accept the invitations or we reject them. I enjoyed reading your description of the ways that we can see the completion of a task and the choice in that moment to accept or reject. I could really relate and really see the simplicity of that choice.

  5. “The more I accept the love within
    the more love within there is to accept.”
    Acceptance is precious and wise indeed, and so powerful in its ability to wipe away our self-loathing.

  6. What a great learning presented so simply here to understand that the more we choose to connect to and express from the truth of how we feel from our body, the more we accept and honour ourselves and value our true worth.

  7. We are held by such great care when we accept that love not always comes in the way we expect it to come. We are always supported to choose from the tap of our own knowing and live from our innate wisdom inside.

  8. I can so relate to that ‘even a monkey can do’ thinking. Those thoughts are so poisonous. It feels like accepting myself first as the love that I am, the magnificence of it, needs to be founded before I can accept the peripherals of whatever happens as the result of my actions.

    1. And the manifestation of the love you are is so present in you life Fumiyo. Could it be that because it doesn’t come with the stimulation of a high we don’t recognize this?

  9. Yes, this is something to be conscious about, thank you Adrienne, as it is like you describe so easy in every moment to to fall for the doubt and complication.

  10. Such beauty and wisdom in this blog Adrienne, this line is gold and something I will enjoy taking into my day with me ‘The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.’

  11. ‘Or I can reject it by recounting my shortfalls, mistakes, all the not-good-enough, shameful, guilty things that prove I’m not that good yet and I need to try harder to make myself better and more… acceptable….This is how I accept or reject the love I am, every moment, every day.’ The power of accepting ourselves in every moment is that we accept the love that we are, everyone’s divinity. This shows that acceptance is no small, lightweight player, but a power filled tool/ modality.

  12. ‘I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed.’ I was listening to my friend talking about being pulled on a sleigh in the snow by 12 husky dogs. His sleigh was going slower and the guide knew how to even up the speeds of the sleighs just by changing one of the dogs in the pack. Bringing a different dog into that pack changed the whole thing. He said that each dog brought something different to the pack – whether it was steadiness, leadership, team work, speed etc. We can find ourselves in so many situations where we feel so different to everyone – and that is just what is needed – our equality and the uniqueness of what we can offer in quality at that moment.

  13. ‘I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed.’ When I read this it made me feel how much what we bring is the very thing that is needed in every situation, and I feel I understand the importance of us being ourselves more and more. It’s not just to ease the tension of not being ourselves that we hold in our bodies (which is huge in itself) but it is because we bring something that no one else can and that is why being ourselves is so needed.

  14. Berating ourselves for our imperfections instead of appreciating and learning from them is one of the greatest tricks in human life to master. But once we are aware of and can accept this fact we can make huge shifts in how we understand and care for ourselves and others.

  15. Acceptance is a double edge sword. On the one hand, there is the most conscious act of acceptance which may open up space. On the other hand, there is the acceptance of energy grabbing us and bringing us down in the name of whatever. There is a lot in this word.

  16. When I accepted a certain situation recently ( which I had created), this allowed me to respond and not react which is a deeply ingrained and very old pattern of mine – going into reaction. Now I have a new marker and more awareness. When I react, I give my power away, when I respond, I am claiming my power and my knowing that I am more than enough to deal with whatever life presents to me! And that feels amazing.

  17. That self doubt absolutely loves to rear it’s head on the daily. More and more I’m noticing how effortless life can be, whether at work or anywhere and yet there is still an ingrained belief system that if it’s not hard, it’s not working, or if there is no struggle, then you mustn’t be doing it right. It’s a very big thing to crack, but I’m slowly chipping away at it.

    1. After reading your comment Elodie, I got the awareness of just how effortless life can be and is… but having chosen struggle and complication all my life, now and then this still creeps in, which really throws me out, and is a great sign that I am out, so then it is back to keeping things simple, and all becomes clear again. Like you I am also craving out a new way of being and living.

  18. ‘I allow myself to become more acquainted with acceptance, I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not’. Now that’s called talking plain and simple, taking responsibility.

  19. I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed. Very wise, we all matter and everyone equally has the power to return and walk the path back to Soul – what differs is our journey and the pace we choose to travel.

  20. “knowing it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it” and the more we accept the love that we are the more we come to appreciate an equal love in others.

  21. I love the simplicity you present here, there is a choice in very moment, to stay with truth and simplicity or to go into the many stories of creation and complication.

  22. “Everything in life comes from what I choose to accept or not.” Love what you have highlighted here Adrienne, we can choose to be more of the love we are in each moment when we are willing to commit to connecting to and accepting the truth we feel from our body rather than letting our mind take control.

  23. “The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.” This is the exquisite truth. I know because I have discovered and felt it to be true myself.

  24. I indeed observe that the things I do great I take for granted, when I feel great and feel that love inside my self I take it is as normal, while when something goes wrong I tend to get critical on myself. Not acceptable:-)

  25. In accepting the love we are in every moment, we say ‘yes’ to shining the light God, of who we all are in essence, in this world. We say ‘yes’ to living the joy our true purpose.

  26. In the rejection we also have to take notice that complete silence can be rejection as well. The ingoring or dismissal of whats occured or of our feelings or others. Acknowledging and accepting ourselves can also be silent in words but like rejection it is still ‘speaking’ with movement. Looking into anothers or my own eyes and connecting, releasing tension in the body, smiling, walking on the balls of my feet with a bounce are just some ways of accepting the love I am.

  27. A beautiful and empowering reminder that every moment offers us a choice to accept and embrace more of our true selves and the love we are or to reject ourselves and live far lesser and in separation from what we know to be true within.

  28. We do have a choice in every moment to accept our selves, our innate love, and what we bring to life, or put ourselves down; by accepting our love within the more we give permission for this love to expand, ‘To accept this love, to say YES – that is me, is to allow the ever-unfolding, ever expanding, mighty, without end or diminishment, Way of Love to be.’

  29. I love the simplicity you bring to everyday living. No fuss, no complication back straight to the way it is.

  30. This is beautiful Adrienne, and makes so much sense “It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection…” This is a choice we make in every moment. I can honestly say that in the past my response time used to be a split second to reject myself and others, and there was hardly any acceptance. Before Universal Medicine I thought acceptance was like accepting things you don’t have any control over, like it was always negative or bad. Now I have a completely different awareness and knowing of acceptance, not always saying I choose it, I feel more steady and a settlement in my body when I accept and the opposite when I reject.

  31. How lovely to share your experience of the fuller meaning of ‘acceptance’ and how it can play out in your life, ‘it’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection – each choice I make turns on one of these taps and I end up swimming in the awfulness of doubt and abuse OR the silk of my knowing it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it – now, as I am – and living in a way that honours that precious wisdom.’

  32. Acceptance of ourselves is definitely a choice presented to us at every moment, when we choose to accept ourselves for who we are we build a foundation of self worth, and when we choose not to accept and berate ourselves we slowly destroy our own foundation.

  33. Adrienne thanks for expanding my view of what acceptance is, and the appreciation that can then naturally follow.

  34. Having read this blog again, I am feeling the power of acceptance and to bring a deeper awareness to so much more I can accept and appreciate like in this simple example: ‘I can accept this and say: YES how great am I, if that was simple, what more could I do?’

  35. Such a profound and wise blog… To bring it back to the nitty, gritty of everyday life, to see how we either accept all the love and the huge and amazing support that comes with accepting love or we reject love and invite more struggle and complication…. It’s a no brainer but then those old ingrained habits die hard and don’t want to let go so easily…. That is why I keep going back to the courses and presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, which have been an amazing support to clear and heal my loveless choices, which has created space for me to make different choices….

  36. Very powerful words Adrienne, thank-you: “It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection…”
    Do we really want to sit in a bath – i.e. a regular, habitual, daily way – of self-condemnation and judgement? Never seeing the totality of who we are, and ever-looking for our shortfalls – as a means to keep ourselves diminished and small?
    As women in particular, these traits can be so very strong, and oftentimes subtly influencing our every move… This is such a powerful analogy to bring, to wake us up out of the self-abuse we may have well yet been allowing. Thank-you.

  37. ‘The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.’ This is gold Adrienne and a beautiful reminder to take into my day as acceptance is key to deepening the relationship with ourselves and with others.

  38. What I can also feel is that accepting is about being okay with what we can feel – even if it doesn’t match the pictures of how we want or need things to be. Indecision comes from not wanting to feel the truth of something because then we’ll have to act on it. When we accept what we can feel, we free ourselves from indecision and are able to move forward.

  39. Thank you Adrienne.. reading this I can see how even the slightest doubt or question about whether something that went well is complete, ready or okay is a rejection. When we accept ourselves and all of our choices, without needing it to be perfect or to ‘get it right’, there’s an understanding, a movement forward, and an evolution. When we’re doubting our choices then we’re on the fence, wavering, and it’s an exhausting place to be.

  40. It is our every right to accept the love we are, it is who we are, and being ourselves is what brings the richness, magic, and the power of brotherhood to this world we currently live in together.

  41. “The more I accept the love within, the more love within there is to accept.” How perfectly simple, wonderful and beautiful it is when we accept and appreciate that we are love.

  42. It is deeply empowering to know that what we choose to fill ourselves with – acceptance of the love we innately are, or resistance/rejection of that truth, it is always and forever our choice to make. For whatever we embrace we then walk and our life is then the quality of our choosing.

  43. If I shy away from accepting the amazingness I feel and saying ‘Yes, that’s me’, I am instead saying ‘Yes’ to something else to fill myself with, I don’t just stand there empty handed.

  44. A very timely read as I have just finished a work function that opened up new ground and was quite amazing and afterwards in different moments I had some thoughts of appreciation and then some thoughts of how do I improve this, what next but these thoughts came with no appreciation of what was.

  45. “there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something”. What a beautiful reminder that as humans we are all equal to each other, but yet we all have our own uniqueness to bring to this world”. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if this world was ready to accept and honour our uniqueness, that “something” that is quintessentially ours, and ours alone.

  46. Adrienne I really love to swim in “the silk of my knowing it’s not about being perfect” rather swimming in “the awfulness of doubt and abuse.” This simple example gave me the possibility to let me feel what I do if I chose not to accept the love I am. It feels like accepting me is in the long run so much healthier and joyfuller for me.

  47. I have been practicing accepting myself for a while, with more focus and consistency in the past 6-7 weeks or so, and I can honestly say, it is changing my life in amazing ways. I am enjoying life so much more, I am expressing more fully and with greater depth and consistency, I am saying ‘yes’, when before I would reluctantly or half-heartedly agree to something, or flat out say ‘nope, not doing that”. In short I am living in a more responsible way. And all because I have been accepting the many wonderful, amazing and powerful things about me instead of dismissing them out of hand. Great for me and equally great for everyone else too!

  48. “The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.” Love this Adrienne. We do have choice in every moment, tho it doesn’t always feel like it. The more I accept and then appreciate me the more I come to love myself and can thus love others to the same degree.

  49. It is such a powerful and liberating knowing that in every moment I have a choice, and that choice, which is totally mine, is to either “accept or reject the love I am, every moment, every day.” And then this knowing expands to the deeper understanding that therefore there is no one to blame for what is going on in my life; the responsibility for the quality of my life and how much love I allow into it, is mine, and mine alone.

  50. This is truly gorgeous Adrienne. Acceptance and appreciation seem to go hand in hand. When I think of acceptance I know I see it as being about accepting my imperfections and foibles but you remind me that it is equally important to accept my grandness. Thank you.

  51. Acceptance and appreciation of who we truly are brings us the responsibility to say ‘yes’ to all that we are. However, this also brings the responsibility for truth and to speak up and not accept it when we are aware of all that is not love in ourselves, others and the world.

  52. It really is as simple as you say, we can accept or turn on the reject tap in any moment and every new moment offers us a new choice, so effectively we need to keep making a choice. And there always appears to be two voices inside us one advocating accepting and the other feeding us doubts and promoting the rejection tap. Appreciation is an amazing tool to assist me with making the acceptance choice to be all the love that I am.

  53. Thank you Arianne, this is true how we tend to reject that which will allow us to connect more to the love that we are and I feel we do this to avoid the responsibility to keep evolving as once we say yes to love we are always being asked to be more.

  54. Thank you Adrienne your gorgeous wisdom is always a joy to read. It’s a simple choice is the tap we turned on one of acceptance or rejection today? I know which one I would rather say ‘yes’ too, for when we accept the love we are it continues to expand and grow more each day as you so beautifully remind us.

  55. It is a simple blog Adrienne but it gives so many tips for life, in each moment we can choose to accept or reject things and this then leads to the next steps. This has and continues to be a great learning for me.

  56. What I love about deepening my acceptance of myself and life is the deepening of surrender in my body – a contentment that feels more and more delicious the more I say yes to it.

  57. Dear Adrienne, I love the exquisite simplicity of the wisdom you bring. Thank you for sharing your insights with us. I cannot help but accept the love that you are and the love that you write with, this in turn allows me to accept and love myself. Thank you, you are the master of observational writing.

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