When it comes to the nitty-gritty of daily life, I’ve been discovering that acceptance is a choice we have that is present in every moment and with even the smallest awareness of this choice, the grandest love opens up.
I used to think of acceptance as something reserved for obvious things like accepting invitations, offers or requests, but presentations by Universal Medicine (UniMed) and Serge Benhayon inspired me to pull back the curtains on acceptance and I began to see that there was much more at play.
For example, when…
- I complete a task at work and it has gone so smoothly and effortlessly that I feel like I have not ‘worked’ on it all.
I can accept this and say: YES how great am I, if that was simple, what more could I do?
Or I can reject it with a dose of doubt or self loathing: you’re obviously not working hard enough, you better check it, something must be wrong, things are never that easy. You’re nothing special, a monkey could do that.
- I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed.
I can accept this and say, YES – let’s go for it.
Or I can reject it by recounting my shortfalls, mistakes, all the not-good-enough, shameful, guilty things that prove I’m not that good yet and I need to try harder to make myself better and more… acceptable.
This is how
I accept or reject the love I am,
every moment, every day.
It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection – each choice I make turns on one of these taps and I end up swimming in the awfulness of doubt and abuse OR the silk of my knowing it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it – now, as I am – and living in a way that honours that precious wisdom.
As I allow myself to become more acquainted with acceptance, I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not.
The more I accept the love within
the more love within there is to accept.
Like in the examples above, present in every moment – no matter how it might be disguised – is the same singular invitation, presented over and over again: to accept or reject the love I innately and incorruptibly am – and that we all are, equally. To accept this love, to say YES – that is me, is to allow the ever-unfolding, ever expanding, mighty, without end or diminishment, Way of Love to be.
Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
By Adrienne Ryan, Brisbane, Australia
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
In a moment in my life where I am in another job, I am continually battling with this acceptance and rejection. And even with the mere writing of this comment, I was placing rejection at the forefront and acceptance at the back. Just goes to show how I’m tapping or ’swimming in the awfulness of doubt and abuse’ more often then not during these uncharted times. When we connect to this imperfection, there is no perfection in anything if we stay with what is within.
When I read, ‘it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it – now, as I am’ bought it home to me, how hard I am and have been on myself.
Thank you – today is going to be a different day.
Life is so much more joy-full when it is simple. Every moment I can accept or reject the love that I am. Simple.
Adrienne, I also love how you have said that we either accept something or if we do not accept something then automatically we must reject it. And in and with rejection comes all kinds of complications. However, each situation is an opportunity for us to explore why we may not have accepted something as there might be a hurt to be healed underlying – and this is the blessing to discover and work with so that we may then accept and grow.
Henrietta, I can freak out seeing an email with terminology and structure I’m unfamiliar with, or re-read it and make the space to understand it. What I’ve observed is the set up of someone vomiting through a simple email communication, to have the ramification on another. For the another, is to sift through the vomit unscathed and respond with an absoluteness and simplicity.
Thank you, another realisation…
Acceptance is not a ‘must have’ in life but it sure makes life so much more beautiful to live when you have it and can embrace life and all it brings.
Love it Adrienne – it is so true that acceptance is a key ingredient in life – and it is certainly about deepening this constantly – in other words it does not ever really stop so we might as well learn to be good at it 😉
This a beautiful piece of writing, and reminder to accept the love we are in every second.
It is always our choice, to accept ourselves, or not; I love this example, ‘It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection – each choice I make turns on one of these taps and I end up swimming in the awfulness of doubt and abuse OR the silk of my knowing it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it – now, as I am – and living in a way that honours that precious wisdom.’
Absolutely Adrienne, accept, appreciation and alignment is a responsibility accountable to no one but our-selves as we turn it on or off depending on the energy we are aligning to.
“Or I can reject it by recounting my shortfalls, mistakes, all the not-good-enough, shameful, guilty things that prove I’m not that good yet.” How much do we apologise for ourselves? The ideals of perfection so impose onto the beauty we are, the continual learning we are in, and the enjoyment of just being with ourselves as we return to our soul.
When we can’t accept something, it prompts us into a motion, like we have to do something about whatever is deemed not acceptable, and even an itchiness in the mid-back can drive us crazy if we start fighting it. And it feels like there’s a bit more than a conscious choice there that is woven into our response/reaction as I can feel the denseness that refuses to give way to simple allowing of what is.
Wow this is gold Adrienne
“As I allow myself to become more acquainted with acceptance, I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not.”
So we cannot be a victim of life and so we take responsibility for our own inappropriate choices.
Sometimes takes honesty to accept Love because it presents Truth which is not always comfortable to see. But the more I surrender to the fact that I’m part of something greater the less difficult I find in accept it. Love never imposes, but simply presents to me an insight, a revelation that supports me to learn, grow and evolve.
When I am not accepting myself my stomach twists into a tight knot. At feeling this I used to just eat to cover it up but today I sat with it. I realised a part of myself that I have been rejecting for a long time kept coming up over and over again and today I made that choice to accept myself. It felt great to honour what I felt and soon as I did the stomach pain subsided.
This is profoundly shared Adrienne – thank you. In my experience in exploring this I also have found that acceptance is about love and our choice to accept the power of love that is who we are or resist honoring it. As you have shared in every moment we have the opportunity to honor who we are and create space for more love to be lived or we resist it and shut down to the power that we naturally are.
“As I allow myself to become more acquainted with acceptance, I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not.” A beautiful realisation which shows how very powerful we are and how simple life can be.
It is a beautiful process you have described Adrienne, to be aware of whether we are being rejecting or loving and appreciative with ourselves, and that once we begin to nurture the essence of love we are within there is always more and more love to discover, “The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.”
Acceptance is huge, and what Adrienne shares here is a beautiful understanding, ‘As I allow myself to become more acquainted with acceptance, I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not.’
‘I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not.’ Beautiful Adrienne, so simple yet powerful if we live this everyday. Living with pictures and expectations we easily get disappointed or let down, living with acceptance we surrender to life and don’t react we only respond to what is in front of us.
Well shared Anna and Adrienne – acceptance of what lies in front of us and what presents to us allows us to simply be with the situation and know how to handle things, but it certainly does require us to drop all expectations and pictures. To do this is very freeing indeed. I personally find it easy to say but not always easy to do as it is very exposing to have expectations revealed or a need to control the outcomes shown to us. And yet this is what is needed for us all to learn, let go and evolve.
I was having a similar conversation with someone today where they were talking about taps but sharing rather then acceptance or rejection it being either prana or fire ‘It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection – each choice’. It is just a choice. I am seeing more and more in the last few days just how much I currently do not accept or appreciate what i bring even in the smallest of things.
Adrienne, your simplicity of expressing acceptance, have given me the opportunity to review how I have been understanding acceptance in such a narrow view. It is a reminder that it is a moment to moment acceptance of what life presents to us on a daily basis.
Thank you Adrienne, this is such simple but powerful wisdom to live by, and it places the power back into our own hands for how we feel in life by observing whether we accept or reject ourselves.
Acceptance, hence what we accept, is related to confirming/expanding our self worth or its lack thereof.
What more lovely to accept and expand than our love, ‘The more I accept the love within
the more love within there is to accept.’
Spot on Eduardo – in acceptance we grow and expand, as it is a part of ourselves we are embracing deeper. And this is the gift.
Today I will be very aware of accepting the love I am, the grandness I am in especially the moments that feel so common. Great inspiration.
Great reminder to start the day with, Adrienne. It is so simple, but the importance of accepting is overlooked. It is also a way of appreciating, and if we don’t do that regularly, our self-critical part will fill up the space when acceptance and appreciation is not applied.
That is so true also of how we are with others, our criticism is there when we do not appreciate those around us.
Super inspiring to read Adrienne. I will put this critical disk-jockey to the side and start accepting how great I am more as a natural way of being.
‘to accept or reject the love I innately and incorruptibly am – and that we all are, equally’ Thank you Adrienne, for reminding us that the invitation is never not there, but is constant. We either accept the invitations or we reject them. I enjoyed reading your description of the ways that we can see the completion of a task and the choice in that moment to accept or reject. I could really relate and really see the simplicity of that choice.
“The more I accept the love within
the more love within there is to accept.”
Acceptance is precious and wise indeed, and so powerful in its ability to wipe away our self-loathing.
We are held by such great care when we accept that love not always comes in the way we expect it to come. We are always supported to choose from the tap of our own knowing and live from our innate wisdom inside.
I can so relate to that ‘even a monkey can do’ thinking. Those thoughts are so poisonous. It feels like accepting myself first as the love that I am, the magnificence of it, needs to be founded before I can accept the peripherals of whatever happens as the result of my actions.
And the manifestation of the love you are is so present in you life Fumiyo. Could it be that because it doesn’t come with the stimulation of a high we don’t recognize this?
Yes, this is something to be conscious about, thank you Adrienne, as it is like you describe so easy in every moment to to fall for the doubt and complication.
Such beauty and wisdom in this blog Adrienne, this line is gold and something I will enjoy taking into my day with me ‘The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.’
‘Or I can reject it by recounting my shortfalls, mistakes, all the not-good-enough, shameful, guilty things that prove I’m not that good yet and I need to try harder to make myself better and more… acceptable….This is how I accept or reject the love I am, every moment, every day.’ The power of accepting ourselves in every moment is that we accept the love that we are, everyone’s divinity. This shows that acceptance is no small, lightweight player, but a power filled tool/ modality.
‘I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed.’ I was listening to my friend talking about being pulled on a sleigh in the snow by 12 husky dogs. His sleigh was going slower and the guide knew how to even up the speeds of the sleighs just by changing one of the dogs in the pack. Bringing a different dog into that pack changed the whole thing. He said that each dog brought something different to the pack – whether it was steadiness, leadership, team work, speed etc. We can find ourselves in so many situations where we feel so different to everyone – and that is just what is needed – our equality and the uniqueness of what we can offer in quality at that moment.
Simone that was really beautiful to read, thank you for sharing, it expressed so clearly to me what we each bring and how different it may be, but that is why the group can work so well together, so there is much in each of us to appreciate in ourselves and each other.
‘I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed.’ When I read this it made me feel how much what we bring is the very thing that is needed in every situation, and I feel I understand the importance of us being ourselves more and more. It’s not just to ease the tension of not being ourselves that we hold in our bodies (which is huge in itself) but it is because we bring something that no one else can and that is why being ourselves is so needed.
Berating ourselves for our imperfections instead of appreciating and learning from them is one of the greatest tricks in human life to master. But once we are aware of and can accept this fact we can make huge shifts in how we understand and care for ourselves and others.
Thanks for your comment Suse, it’s so true. I’m not fantastic with numbers but I’m great with words, sometimes I feel embarrassed about my numbers thing but I’ve just realised I’m not here to be perfect or have all the bases covered – just be me and love what I bring. I often ask my partner to step in when there are lots of complicated figures to work through, and he does the same thing with me for sorting out documents that need to be written as he is not that strong with words. If we were all “perfect” we’d be like islands not needing to reach out and work together in the beauty of brotherhood.
The beauty in this is that every day we learn so much from both our own and others imperfections … but within this is also the knowing that we each have strengths and weakness unique to ourselves and this removes the need for us to compare.
“The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept” pure gold. It is like opening up a tab wider and wider.
Yes so true Willem and with this how much so we really accept the power of all that we are and are here to reflect, and the impact our reflection and Livingness has in this world?
Acceptance is a double edge sword. On the one hand, there is the most conscious act of acceptance which may open up space. On the other hand, there is the acceptance of energy grabbing us and bringing us down in the name of whatever. There is a lot in this word.
When I accepted a certain situation recently ( which I had created), this allowed me to respond and not react which is a deeply ingrained and very old pattern of mine – going into reaction. Now I have a new marker and more awareness. When I react, I give my power away, when I respond, I am claiming my power and my knowing that I am more than enough to deal with whatever life presents to me! And that feels amazing.
Recognize that Jacqueline. Acceptance allows us to see the truth of it all – that could be painful or challenging – while reaction often is a defense mechanism to feel the truth.
I had not consciously been linking acceptance to truth. No wonder we have been avoiding acceptance- it is very powerful.
Thank you Jacqueline, what a great comment, just the inspiration I need at the moment to bring acceptance into my life when I’m reactive. This is a beautiful line also and what a reminder – “When I react, I give my power away, when I respond, I am claiming my power and my knowing that I am more than enough to deal with whatever life presents to me!”
Acceptance brings me back to simplicity every time, as accepting allows me to surrender and to stay gentle with myself which always supports me to know my next steps.
That self doubt absolutely loves to rear it’s head on the daily. More and more I’m noticing how effortless life can be, whether at work or anywhere and yet there is still an ingrained belief system that if it’s not hard, it’s not working, or if there is no struggle, then you mustn’t be doing it right. It’s a very big thing to crack, but I’m slowly chipping away at it.
After reading your comment Elodie, I got the awareness of just how effortless life can be and is… but having chosen struggle and complication all my life, now and then this still creeps in, which really throws me out, and is a great sign that I am out, so then it is back to keeping things simple, and all becomes clear again. Like you I am also craving out a new way of being and living.
Love reading a conversation like this because feels very close to me. I also have chosen complication, drama and not feeling good enough over simplicity in the past. Today I’m appreciating the fact of being aware and responsible of what I choose in my day to day. I’m learning and observing how easy is falling in to the doubts…sometimes the more ease and lightness I feel the more ready is my mind to send a ‘yes but…’ or ‘perhaps you are not doing it right…’ A key for me is keep connecting with my body and to feel what’s true and what’s not. Discarding what no longer supports me feels very empowering, it’s a choice that really honours the beauty that is inside me, and all of us.
‘I allow myself to become more acquainted with acceptance, I come to understand that nothing just happens to me, rather everything in my life comes from what I choose to accept or not’. Now that’s called talking plain and simple, taking responsibility.
I have a moment where I feel I am enough, it matters that I am here, there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something and just being me is all that is needed. Very wise, we all matter and everyone equally has the power to return and walk the path back to Soul – what differs is our journey and the pace we choose to travel.
“knowing it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it” and the more we accept the love that we are the more we come to appreciate an equal love in others.
I love the simplicity you present here, there is a choice in very moment, to stay with truth and simplicity or to go into the many stories of creation and complication.
“The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.” This is the exquisite truth. I know because I have discovered and felt it to be true myself.
I indeed observe that the things I do great I take for granted, when I feel great and feel that love inside my self I take it is as normal, while when something goes wrong I tend to get critical on myself. Not acceptable:-)
What an eye opener Adrienne. I will go experiment and report back to you. Is it that simple? If this letting the love I am grow and expand?
Thankyou for this piece of writing. It is always lovely to read about the blossoming of love and acceptance.
In accepting the love we are in every moment, we say ‘yes’ to shining the light God, of who we all are in essence, in this world. We say ‘yes’ to living the joy our true purpose.
With acceptance, our mistakes and stuff ups have less volume, less of a hold on us for self bashing as we are able to see the value in what we bring.
In the rejection we also have to take notice that complete silence can be rejection as well. The ingoring or dismissal of whats occured or of our feelings or others. Acknowledging and accepting ourselves can also be silent in words but like rejection it is still ‘speaking’ with movement. Looking into anothers or my own eyes and connecting, releasing tension in the body, smiling, walking on the balls of my feet with a bounce are just some ways of accepting the love I am.
Thank you Leigh, I hadn’t looked at those moments where I shut off from dealing with some part of myself as rejecting but it is, as love is always waiting there arms open with no judgement, just acceptance, complete understanding, and the wisdom to help me through whatever is coming up
Saying Yes continuously to Love or to your grandness is saying no to abuse or a lesser way of being.
Yes, the abuse naturally has no place when we accept our grandness and say yes to the love that we are.
It doesn’t get more clear than that Rik, thank you.
We do have a choice in every moment to accept our selves, our innate love, and what we bring to life, or put ourselves down; by accepting our love within the more we give permission for this love to expand, ‘To accept this love, to say YES – that is me, is to allow the ever-unfolding, ever expanding, mighty, without end or diminishment, Way of Love to be.’
I love the simplicity you bring to everyday living. No fuss, no complication back straight to the way it is.
Yes, it is that simple, we either accept love or we reject love in all our moments throughout the day, and each will have very different outcomes.
This is beautiful Adrienne, and makes so much sense “It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection…” This is a choice we make in every moment. I can honestly say that in the past my response time used to be a split second to reject myself and others, and there was hardly any acceptance. Before Universal Medicine I thought acceptance was like accepting things you don’t have any control over, like it was always negative or bad. Now I have a completely different awareness and knowing of acceptance, not always saying I choose it, I feel more steady and a settlement in my body when I accept and the opposite when I reject.
How lovely to share your experience of the fuller meaning of ‘acceptance’ and how it can play out in your life, ‘it’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection – each choice I make turns on one of these taps and I end up swimming in the awfulness of doubt and abuse OR the silk of my knowing it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting to the enormity of love within and accepting it – now, as I am – and living in a way that honours that precious wisdom.’
Acceptance of ourselves is definitely a choice presented to us at every moment, when we choose to accept ourselves for who we are we build a foundation of self worth, and when we choose not to accept and berate ourselves we slowly destroy our own foundation.
Adrienne thanks for expanding my view of what acceptance is, and the appreciation that can then naturally follow.
Having read this blog again, I am feeling the power of acceptance and to bring a deeper awareness to so much more I can accept and appreciate like in this simple example: ‘I can accept this and say: YES how great am I, if that was simple, what more could I do?’
Such a profound and wise blog… To bring it back to the nitty, gritty of everyday life, to see how we either accept all the love and the huge and amazing support that comes with accepting love or we reject love and invite more struggle and complication…. It’s a no brainer but then those old ingrained habits die hard and don’t want to let go so easily…. That is why I keep going back to the courses and presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, which have been an amazing support to clear and heal my loveless choices, which has created space for me to make different choices….
Very powerful words Adrienne, thank-you: “It’s like having two taps to choose from to fill my bath – acceptance OR rejection…”
Do we really want to sit in a bath – i.e. a regular, habitual, daily way – of self-condemnation and judgement? Never seeing the totality of who we are, and ever-looking for our shortfalls – as a means to keep ourselves diminished and small?
As women in particular, these traits can be so very strong, and oftentimes subtly influencing our every move… This is such a powerful analogy to bring, to wake us up out of the self-abuse we may have well yet been allowing. Thank-you.
‘The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.’ This is gold Adrienne and a beautiful reminder to take into my day as acceptance is key to deepening the relationship with ourselves and with others.
What I can also feel is that accepting is about being okay with what we can feel – even if it doesn’t match the pictures of how we want or need things to be. Indecision comes from not wanting to feel the truth of something because then we’ll have to act on it. When we accept what we can feel, we free ourselves from indecision and are able to move forward.
Thank you Adrienne.. reading this I can see how even the slightest doubt or question about whether something that went well is complete, ready or okay is a rejection. When we accept ourselves and all of our choices, without needing it to be perfect or to ‘get it right’, there’s an understanding, a movement forward, and an evolution. When we’re doubting our choices then we’re on the fence, wavering, and it’s an exhausting place to be.
It is our every right to accept the love we are, it is who we are, and being ourselves is what brings the richness, magic, and the power of brotherhood to this world we currently live in together.
“The more I accept the love within, the more love within there is to accept.” How perfectly simple, wonderful and beautiful it is when we accept and appreciate that we are love.
It is deeply empowering to know that what we choose to fill ourselves with – acceptance of the love we innately are, or resistance/rejection of that truth, it is always and forever our choice to make. For whatever we embrace we then walk and our life is then the quality of our choosing.
If I shy away from accepting the amazingness I feel and saying ‘Yes, that’s me’, I am instead saying ‘Yes’ to something else to fill myself with, I don’t just stand there empty handed.
A very timely read as I have just finished a work function that opened up new ground and was quite amazing and afterwards in different moments I had some thoughts of appreciation and then some thoughts of how do I improve this, what next but these thoughts came with no appreciation of what was.
“there is something I bring, equal but different to everyone else’s something”. What a beautiful reminder that as humans we are all equal to each other, but yet we all have our own uniqueness to bring to this world”. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if this world was ready to accept and honour our uniqueness, that “something” that is quintessentially ours, and ours alone.
Adrienne I really love to swim in “the silk of my knowing it’s not about being perfect” rather swimming in “the awfulness of doubt and abuse.” This simple example gave me the possibility to let me feel what I do if I chose not to accept the love I am. It feels like accepting me is in the long run so much healthier and joyfuller for me.
I have been practicing accepting myself for a while, with more focus and consistency in the past 6-7 weeks or so, and I can honestly say, it is changing my life in amazing ways. I am enjoying life so much more, I am expressing more fully and with greater depth and consistency, I am saying ‘yes’, when before I would reluctantly or half-heartedly agree to something, or flat out say ‘nope, not doing that”. In short I am living in a more responsible way. And all because I have been accepting the many wonderful, amazing and powerful things about me instead of dismissing them out of hand. Great for me and equally great for everyone else too!
“The more I accept the love within the more love within there is to accept.” Love this Adrienne. We do have choice in every moment, tho it doesn’t always feel like it. The more I accept and then appreciate me the more I come to love myself and can thus love others to the same degree.
It is such a powerful and liberating knowing that in every moment I have a choice, and that choice, which is totally mine, is to either “accept or reject the love I am, every moment, every day.” And then this knowing expands to the deeper understanding that therefore there is no one to blame for what is going on in my life; the responsibility for the quality of my life and how much love I allow into it, is mine, and mine alone.
This is truly gorgeous Adrienne. Acceptance and appreciation seem to go hand in hand. When I think of acceptance I know I see it as being about accepting my imperfections and foibles but you remind me that it is equally important to accept my grandness. Thank you.
Acceptance and appreciation of who we truly are brings us the responsibility to say ‘yes’ to all that we are. However, this also brings the responsibility for truth and to speak up and not accept it when we are aware of all that is not love in ourselves, others and the world.
Thank you Arianne, this is true how we tend to reject that which will allow us to connect more to the love that we are and I feel we do this to avoid the responsibility to keep evolving as once we say yes to love we are always being asked to be more.