Letting go of Negative Childhood Memories

As a family, we were talking the other day about childhood memories – how they stay with you, good or bad – and the part those memories can play in your life for many years later.

I remember a particular day when I was a small child, maybe 8 or 9 years old… a carpenter who was a friend of the family was doing some renovations in our home. He was busy working and I was whistling nearby – I was happy. He made an abrupt comment asking me to stop and I could feel he was grumpy. I never knew if I was whistling too loud, or perhaps out of tune, but I stopped, and unsure of how I felt I just walked away.


But in my mind I have never forgotten this – I have carried this memory for fifty years. It isn’t something that haunts me every day but I am often reminded of it whenever I hear someone whistling. I have felt self-conscious of how I have sounded for all these years, but today I feel free – free to express myself – and I sometimes wonder why it has taken me this long!


I can now look deeper into that childhood memory and see more clearly, from a new perspective, the pattern that formed from this experience. It was something I took on for many years that may have had nothing to do with me – it was something another person was feeling over which I had no control. He may have had a headache; he could have hit his finger with the hammer or perhaps drilled a hole in the wrong place and could have been feeling frustrated… who knows?! But I had always thought it was my whistling that was the problem (perhaps it was, but the point is it doesn’t even matter!).


Now when I whistle, I just smile to myself and I think of my beautiful daughter. She has been inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon, has been attending Universal Medicine events for the last 3 years, and through what she has connected to she has helped me to realise for myself just how amazing and unique we all are, and how acceptance and appreciation are our valuable tools in life. She has inspired me to stop and appreciate what may be happening in someone else’s day, and that there is no need to take offence in a situation or take things personally. I have now been able to let go of this negative childhood memory and allow myself to express freely again.

By M.H, 60, Brisbane

237 thoughts on “Letting go of Negative Childhood Memories

  1. We are very sensitive beings and when we brush aside this sensitivity, it hurts us deeply. That is why for many of us we carry these deep hurts with us for years even lifetimes. These hurts build up and are like layers over our heart so that we cannot easily access the warm love we all come from and then spend years and years trying to find. It’s the most hate-full way to disempower a child that then grows into a cold and hardened adult.

  2. Taking on emotions that don’t belong to us and may have nothing even to do with us is poison to the body. Reading and observing situations, and feeling who we are at our core- that the sense and knowing of who we are is not dependent upon nor defined by anyone else or what we have or haven’t done – helps to stay steady and not absorb absolutely everything around us.

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