Letting go of Negative Childhood Memories

As a family, we were talking the other day about childhood memories – how they stay with you, good or bad – and the part those memories can play in your life for many years later.

I remember a particular day when I was a small child, maybe 8 or 9 years old… a carpenter who was a friend of the family was doing some renovations in our home. He was busy working and I was whistling nearby – I was happy. He made an abrupt comment asking me to stop and I could feel he was grumpy. I never knew if I was whistling too loud, or perhaps out of tune, but I stopped, and unsure of how I felt I just walked away.

CARRYING OUR CHILDHOOD HURTS

But in my mind I have never forgotten this – I have carried this memory for fifty years. It isn’t something that haunts me every day but I am often reminded of it whenever I hear someone whistling. I have felt self-conscious of how I have sounded for all these years, but today I feel free – free to express myself – and I sometimes wonder why it has taken me this long!

TAKING ON SOMETHING THAT ISN’T OURS TO TAKE ON IN THE FIRST PLACE

I can now look deeper into that childhood memory and see more clearly, from a new perspective, the pattern that formed from this experience. It was something I took on for many years that may have had nothing to do with me – it was something another person was feeling over which I had no control. He may have had a headache; he could have hit his finger with the hammer or perhaps drilled a hole in the wrong place and could have been feeling frustrated… who knows?! But I had always thought it was my whistling that was the problem (perhaps it was, but the point is it doesn’t even matter!).

WE ARE ALL AMAZING AND UNIQUE

Now when I whistle, I just smile to myself and I think of my beautiful daughter. She has been inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon, has been attending Universal Medicine events for the last 3 years, and through what she has connected to she has helped me to realise for myself just how amazing and unique we all are, and how acceptance and appreciation are our valuable tools in life. She has inspired me to stop and appreciate what may be happening in someone else’s day, and that there is no need to take offence in a situation or take things personally. I have now been able to let go of this negative childhood memory and allow myself to express freely again.

By M.H, 60, Brisbane

247 thoughts on “Letting go of Negative Childhood Memories

  1. Some comments said to us in our childhood feel like curses, ones that have been said to bring us down, and then others that have been said because of what the other person is struggling with themselves. We can learn so much when we remember not to take things personally, and be discerning.

  2. Reading you blog MH I feel how we as children can take on what other people think and express about us and how we can carry this negative childhood stuff into adulthood, which can colour our everyday perception of life. This highlights for me the importance of expression responsibly in all my interactions with another whether it be child or adult.

  3. Nobody can make us change ourselves, it’s only us that can withdraw and make ourselves small. It’s great though when we have done this to realise why and how we are never wrong and can let it go and express freely our joy again.

  4. In my experience letting go of childhood hurts hasn’t been a one-off event. It’s been progressive over the years. Currently is another such letting go period and when this happens I see more clearly how the hurt has shaped how I go about my day.

  5. When we let go of the judgement of our parents and all those in our childhood then we have a much clearer view of what really happened rather than what we thought happened. Letting go of the judgement releases us from the ties that bind us.

  6. Incredible when you consider we can carry around and be affected by someone’s loosely made comment for decades. There is learning from both positions here, to express with love knowing that our every expression affects others…and to not take on other people’s stuff. Reading what is going on from a broader perspective also brings more understanding.

    1. Yes I agree Victoria – and this does raise the question of responsibility. In regard to taking on hurts, why is it that we choose to allow hurts dominate how we express or hold back our expression in the world? Why do we deny the power and joy of who we are to be seen and felt in the world?

  7. We are very sensitive beings and when we brush aside this sensitivity, it hurts us deeply. That is why for many of us we carry these deep hurts with us for years even lifetimes. These hurts build up and are like layers over our heart so that we cannot easily access the warm love we all come from and then spend years and years trying to find. It’s the most hate-full way to disempower a child that then grows into a cold and hardened adult.

  8. Taking on emotions that don’t belong to us and may have nothing even to do with us is poison to the body. Reading and observing situations, and feeling who we are at our core- that the sense and knowing of who we are is not dependent upon nor defined by anyone else or what we have or haven’t done – helps to stay steady and not absorb absolutely everything around us.

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