Yearly Holidays – no longer Taking a Break from Life, but Enjoying Me!

Every year I get away with my family to an overseas holiday location: I have been doing this for so long that I have lost count of the amount of countries I have visited, the number of sites I have seen and the tours I have been on.

This yearly holiday was built up to be another exciting adventure that had been planned months before, even though I never actually read what I was doing and where I was going until the days leading up to my departure. All I remember was planning the trip to get away and take a break from life.

When I caught up with friends over the Christmas break I was frequently asked, “Are you going away for the holidays?”, to which I would excitedly reply YES and rattle off another exotic location or destination far, far away.

I calculated that, in my many years of travel I have logged up a great many miles and covered just about every continent in the world. Over time I noticed that my trips gradually decreased in length from two months, to several weeks, to a week, when I was often wondering why I was travelling in the first place?

Was it something to do with appreciating historical landmarks, natural wonders, meeting and connecting to the local people or was I trying to take a break from my life? These questions would often resurface and I couldn’t quite understand why.

Recently I returned from a short holiday trip overseas with my family. Whilst enjoying the sightseeing and connecting with the gorgeous local people, I just didn’t feel as though I was truly being or enjoying me. I engaged in all the tourist activities, relaxed by the pool, read a book, visited historical monuments… but felt as though my days were not being fully lived. I noticed I was getting very tired during the day, napping regularly and often looking for excuses to eat, even though my body was clearly showing me I wasn’t hungry. I could feel in my body that something wasn’t right.

The vitality that I know myself to have was gone. It didn’t make sense – I was on my yearly holidays!

I noticed that the typical tourists’ day consists of:

  1. Sleeping in,
  2. Heading down to a late breakfast with a smorgasbord of food and drink,
  3. Being driven around by a local tour guide to a tourist attraction,
  4. Returning to the hotel for lunch,
  5. Swimming in the hotel pool followed by more drinks and food by the bar,
  6. Afternoon nap,
  7. Shower and dress for pre-dinner drinks,
  8. Late dinner or an evening out in the city.

Although this was the rhythm of the holiday crowd, I felt as if I was missing my usual rhythm. I felt out of whack and wasn’t truly enjoying myself… I wasn’t truly enjoying me… I felt like I was putting the needs of others first as a way of not disrupting the status quo, to keep things light and happy on the surface and to keep up with the holiday spirit. Did I have an ideal or a belief about holiday etiquette and how a holiday should be?

But the question that kept repeating itself was… “What was I wanting to get away from and what in my life was I wanting to take a break from?”

I then realised….

I realised from my experience on my recent holiday that I was living the rhythm of the ‘yearly holiday’ and not the rhythm that supported me. I could now see that I was taking a break from me so that I could live the holiday rhythm. It was much easier to plod along with everyone and fit into their holiday rhythm rather than feel how great my rhythm was for me. Even though it felt great choosing what was right for me and my body (which was very different from others’ choices), I didn’t want to stand out and look like the odd one out. But then I question myself, “what was I actually wanting to blend in with?” Late-nights out? Overeating? Sleeping in? Indulging in food several times a day? When I looked at it like this I was able to break the craziness of ‘trying to blend in’ and I felt the power of my daily rhythm and the absoluteness it brings to my body – so why wouldn’t I want to let this shine out?

It became clearer…..

By day three of my 10 day long trip I got my STOP moment! I felt sluggish, heavy and there was a level of irritability that was slowly being felt. I realised then and there that I needed to stop following the rhythm of a ‘typical (yearly) holiday’, as it no longer supported me. I chose to come back to my natural daily rhythm.

I woke and felt to make this holiday not about ‘a getaway to take a break from life’, BUT about taking the full me on this trip. I brought back my natural rhythm in the day and went about living and enjoying me in each moment.

Once I claimed that the way I go about living my daily rhythm was truly about what felt great for me, things started to shift. I no longer felt the need to do what others wanted whilst on holiday. I spent more time listening to what felt right for me and how I wanted to enjoy this holiday. My holiday rhythm is actually the same as my day to day rhythm because there is nothing to take a break from or to get away from except me.

There was nothing to get away from as I was truly enjoying being me.

What did this look like?

I decided that I would choose what to do in the day rather than waiting to hear what others were doing. This meant that I didn’t feel like I was a ‘party pooper’. I joined my family on sightseeing trips, I also made choices to return to the hotel if I felt tired and needed to rest for a while. I made changes to the way I ate and waited to feel whether I wanted to eat instead of eating because we were heading out for a meal or everyone was getting the afternoon cravings for a sweet treat.

I carried healthy snacks and water for longer journeys in boats, trains and buses and always took an extra piece of clothing to keep me comfortable and warm. I honoured myself by going to bed when I felt tired. I noticed and appreciated that my hotel roommate would turn down the volume on the TV and respectfully turn off the lights to not disturb me. These simple adjustments during the day made me feel so much lighter as I was returning to my natural rhythm and playful self.

Yes, I must admit that it freaked out my family when I woke early (whilst on holidays!!!) to start on work projects on my iPad. I retreated to the bathroom as it was the only quiet space that would not disturb the others in the room whilst they slept. With a cushion as a seat and a blanket placed lovingly in the bathroom bathtub, I set to work: I felt at home even though I was miles away. Other days I would nestle myself into comfy couches in the front foyer or find a quiet spot near the pool for a while before returning to enjoy time with the family.

Yes, the family remarks came thick and fast as to why I was “doing any work whilst on holiday”.

  • You should be relaxing it’s a holiday.
  • Why are you doing that now?
  • We’re on holidays to get away from work.
  • You’re supposed to be having fun, not working.

All these questions had popped into my head well before they were asked of me. Yes, I did ponder on these but my body gave me the answer loud and clear; spending some time on the projects I am involved in actually wasn’t work at all and I realised from this holiday it actually supported me.

‘Connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold.’

If the day’s unfoldment included implementing my natural rhythm that supported me from home then I needed to look at and build it into my day and way of being while on holiday.

Taking this trip helped me realise that I don’t need to take a break from life when I am on my yearly holidays. I realised that when I am living the way I feel to live, it doesn’t matter where I am and what I’m doing – it’s about how I’m living in that moment. I came to appreciate how much I enjoy travelling and holidaying with my family and that there was no need to ‘get away’ or switch off or change who I am, even though I was miles away from home. I still enjoyed all that was on offer and by reconnecting to my natural rhythm I felt the same vitality as I did at home.

I now know how to avoid feeling sluggish whilst on holiday.

I have come to realise that:

  • My yearly Holidays are what I choose them to be.
  • Holidays can be a way to ‘take a break from life’ or ‘get away’ or Holidays can be an opportunity to enjoy what the world has to offer by bringing the full me to every day and moment of my trip… and therefore to fully enjoy being me…

Thanks to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I have come to know and feel the importance of living truthfully and bringing and ‘being’ the real me into each day… including my yearly holidays.

By Anonymous

351 thoughts on “Yearly Holidays – no longer Taking a Break from Life, but Enjoying Me!

  1. Beautiful Anonymous – you help us see with greater honesty that how we are is within ourselves is always with us, wherever we go. Although we can attempt to escape, how much greater it is to accept and develop a loving quality in our every day that we bring to any destination or country. It seems the only thing we truly need a holiday from is living in a way that is not loving.

  2. I love travelling abroad, but these days I prefer to do so if I have a purpose – like seeing relatives or research or for other work related reasons. Then take a day off to see the sights or just to rest and rejuvenate feels wholesome and not an escape.

  3. A great sharing, no matter what we do, what is going on, it is remembering to bring,
    ‘the full me to every day and moment of my trip… and therefore to fully enjoy being me…’.

  4. Anonymous thank you for a great blog. I have just come back from a month holiday and I know the value of keeping to our daily routine whenever possible. The need to blend in does not have the same hold on me as it did in the past. Living my own rhythm allows me to maintain my vitality whether on holiday or in my daily life.

  5. Yes, take away the indulgences with food and not eating late and the day starts to look very different! It is not all about checking out. Every day is in fact the same: weekdays, weekends, holidays, just the actual activities will differ.

    I like that you don’t dismiss the idea of a holiday altogether because I feel that having dedicated time with my family is a necessary ‘coming home’. But the purpose is very different, with a focus on connection.

  6. Such a great blog Anonymous, what you share here about holidays is so true and would challenge the beliefs and ideals most people have around what a holiday is for them. I work in the travel industry and what I find most interesting is how many people travel to escape, and then they discover you can never really escape and everything you are and have lived to that point is with you always. Your version of a holiday is a refreshing way to travel, not to escape but to truly connect and enjoy being ‘you’.

    1. The holiday game is to distract and escape from work and life, it also is a huge business. Since I am claiming my life in full I don’t have any desire to go on a vacation, maybe I will go for a holiday again, but not to escape from anything. I go to work with joy and love the connection with people.

  7. So many great points here how the popular choices (like the holiday diet) we make while holidays explain that saying – needing a holiday after the holiday. Although I have to say I always thought that saying was for the over enthusiastic tourist that rushes from sight to sight or city to city, or trekking at high altitudes in harsh weather so it was great how this blog challenged a few more of my holiday fantasies. So while my holiday fantasies are getting a shake-up it is also a good time to take a peep at how the same ‘break’ attitude can be there in my everyday life – like the relief of watching a movie or hanging out with family and friends but checking out.

  8. Hey Anonymous, I have to say your holiday description in the ‘before-all-of-you days’ sounded like a nightmare to me. Even on holidays I just can’t overeat, sleep in, stay up late, get driven around, indulge, etc, but I know that this is the ‘normal’. I haven’t actually ‘gone on holidays’ for eleven years! But if I ever do again, I will certainly embrace what you have shared about maintaining my natural rhythm, and including ‘working’ on projects I’ve committed to, because there is so much joy in them when in rhythm that they don’t feel like ‘work’ at all. Keep on en-joying (‘to put joy into’) your holidays!

  9. I can relate to the sluggishness and never feeling vital when I was on holiday with my family. We stopped going on holidays for a couple of years because it didn’t feel needed anymore. Just as you say ‘I realised that when I am living the way I feel to live, it doesn’t matter where I am and what I’m doing – it’s about how I’m living in that moment.’ Last year we went for a holiday but made this holiday about deepening the connection in our family. We stayed in our rhythm, worked on our projects and loved the extra time we had to connect with each other and the place we were and we enjoyed ourselves more than I can recall from any other holiday.

  10. I remembered this blog, later this year I am going away on holiday for the first time in many years and I can already feel me think of this as a ‘holiday’ in old sense I used to see it. What you have reminded me here is beautiful in that it is not a holiday away from my connection with my self but for me to stay re-connected to myself and loving choices. Thank you.

  11. Very inspiring Anonymous. It is so true – why should we change our natural rhythm, just because we are holiday. This doesn’t make sense at all. I loved to read how you took care of yourself. Often the “stop” is so important, just to feel, what is really going on here and after the stop to make different choices as you did.

  12. For me, holidays are not something I am craving for. If I end up in a sunny place in the middle of winter, it can be really enjoyable only if I am able to take my home rhythm with me on holiday. ✈️

  13. Hi Anonymous, your blog dispels many beliefs around the ‘Annual’ holiday or “holidays’ in general. When tiredness or exhaustion is felt the first thought is to take a break from work, to get some ‘me’ time. This often involves a completely different rhythm to our regular one and includes all the rings you have mentioned. Recently I have been feeling that the old way of seeing and taking holidays no longer fits for me and you have articulated beautifully how we sabotage ourselves by living the beliefs of generations gone before us. Time to re-imprint the true meaning of ‘Annual’ holidays by bringing the love of who we are, free from the distractions that consume us at other times.

  14. Just happen to be away on holiday whilst reading this and I agree that it’s entirely possible to maintain your regular rhythm when you’re away – this may well include continuing project work – and yet still enjoy all that is on offer. It comes down to how much we place the desire to fit in with prevailing ‘on holiday’ protocols and peer pressure as more important than the commitment we make to our own unique rythmn,something that we know optimises us and the experience our day.

  15. Its taken me ages to figure out holidays… veering from pure escapism from which I always struggle to return (because I was not enjoying my life), to mad cap adventures which would leave me feeling just as exhausted! More recently I’ve been getting better at resting. I love my life and want to be refreshed, rejuvenated, and ready when I return. The holiday provides a welcome break, a bit more space and time to connect and reflect but like you I notice how they are getting shorter as my need to escape is not there any more.

  16. It is a bit weird that I have used holidays in the past to get away from my normal life which shows me that there was something about my normal life that was not supporting and loving and that I was not being truly me. I now go on holiday with me and my daily rhythms and actually find that I do not need to go on holiday to recuperate from life as i used to!

  17. What I find interesting about the process of having a holiday is that for many it is an excuse to give up on truly supporting ourselves in life and committing in full to our day. We can sleep in, over eat, not exercise and do anything we like because ‘we are on holiday’. But what this feels like is a complete giving up on ourselves and this is something I have come to understand is not a true holiday at all.

  18. ‘I realised from my experience on my recent holiday that I was living the rhythm of the ‘yearly holiday’ and not the rhythm that supported me.’ I find this interesting because I feel that we do this in other areas of our lives also. How often do we feel driven with the planned event rather than honour our own rhythm?

  19. Do we use our holidays to get away from ourselves and escape from the responsibilities of our lives or, to continue to build and strengthen our connection and understanding of ourselves and others? Great questions, great blog.

  20. You raise a fascinating issue in this blog – just how easy it is to decide to put aside a daily rhythm that normally supports us in maintaining our vitality when we’re on a holiday from our regular routine. I guess we can never truly get a break from ourselves but then why would we want to when we’re living in a way that’s about making choices that maximise our energy levels and minimise disregard for what the body truly needs?

  21. When we choose to live in a daily rhythm that supports us why would we change it just because we happen to be ‘on holiday’? It is a long time since I have taken an annual holiday but even when I am away for the weekend I find it supportive to stick to my natural rhythm as much as possible whilst also enjoying connecting with different people and places. For me what changed was when I chose to live each moment being as present as possible so that I had far less need to escape anywhere (for me this would usually be into my mind rather than a physical location) as I explored my relationship with myself and my daily life.

  22. Thank you Anonymous, what you explained is very true. A holiday can be a break from the momentum and structure of our lives. Whether it is supportive or not.

  23. I agree Anonymous with all you share, I too used to yearn for a yearly holiday to escape and take break from my life. But everything I was unhappy about followed me on my holiday so it just intensified the emptiness I felt. Learning to live in a true way and have a daily rhythm that supports me and nourishes me has been better than any holiday I had in the past – thanks to the Universal Medicine presentations that allow us to truly heal.

  24. For most of us we choose to live a fairly miserable existence and the yearly holiday is longed for to have a break from this misery, but a far better answer is to change the other 50 weeks of the year, so there is no misery, by choosing to live joyfully.

  25. This is a great read for me at the moment as I was thinking yesterday that I need a break – but a break from what?? I am now looking at my daily rhythm and I know i need to make some adjustments as it is not supporting me as well as it could right now. Such a timely reminder!

  26. Great insights/exposure into the intentions behind our holiday plans – which is normally to take a break from life and then we get caught up in the rhythm and activities of the ‘ yearly holiday’ instead of following our own established daily rhythm and honoring what feels right for ourselves…… Essentially a great reminder that no matter where we find ourselves, staying in our own rhythm is what supports us the most.

  27. A great sharing Anonymous,
    I am about to head off for a short trip and reading your blog is a great support. How simple to remember to hold my rhythm whilst with others. This is so the support we all need to be ourselves and to enjoy our lives, and we are soul-ly the ones responsible for this choice.

  28. Thank you Anonymous. You show the importance of taking you and your rhythm with you wherever you go as to go anywhere without ‘you’ leaves you incomplete.

  29. Were ever we go there we are, there is no escaping ourselves and the turmoil we might think we are escaping whether that be a situation or a person none of it truly is out there to escape by moving geographically because no matter what the situation the root cause is buried with our hurts the hurts we take with us wherever we go until we take responsibility and choose to let them go and having done that the drive to escape dissipates.

  30. Nothing wrong with a holiday of course, but eventually you get to the point where you realise that there is no difference between home, work, holiday etc. and why should there be? After all, it is you that you are bringing everywhere you go. Of course, this is not the reality. For most of our lives, we are like a leaf in the wind, our sense of direction and being affected by everything from the wind to the rain to the caterpillar that is threatening to eat us out of existence. Until you realise of course that there is an inner pulse to life that truly is ours to connect to – that we are more than just physicality, and that within there is a beingness that remains untouched by the world around us. Once you connect to that, physical life does not touch you in the same way. Does that mean you disconnect from life? Don’t be silly. In many ways your commitment to and appreciation of physical life increases tenfold. But you are no longer affected to the same extent by the ongoing drama of life around you. You are, as they say, the stillness in the centre of the storm.

  31. I haven’t had a ‘holiday’ for a long time now, but I can feel how I am needing ‘out’ moments in my daily life quite often, and how I am choosing to check out rather than taking moments to stop and gather myself. A huge difference. Thank you for the inspiration.

  32. ‘My holiday rhythm is actually the same as my day to day rhythm because there is nothing to take a break from or to get away from except me.’ This has got to be the key! It’s interesting how we don’t really ever truly enjoy holidays, because we throw away our rhythm and daily routine, rather than adapting it to a new environment and not taking one big check out from life. After all – when you know how lovely you are – why would you choose to check out from that?

  33. “Once I claimed that the way I go about living my daily rhythm was truly about what felt great for me, things started to shift.” Keeping to our rhythm, regardless of where we are, is so important. We take ourselves with us wherever we go – there is no getting away from me!

  34. There is an image about vacations that is very powerful: you are to break totally with what you do during the year. If you do otherwise, you are not on holidays. Of course, if your rhythm throughout the year hurts the body, you will need a time to stop doing what hurts you. Yet, if your rhythm goes well with your body, all you need to do is to keep it. No need to kill it in the name of ‘holiday is my precious time’. All the time should be seen as equally precious.

  35. ‘Connect to your rhythm and let your day unfold’ when we live this way, there’s no prescription, whether it be a holiday or a weekend it’s all about bringing us into it and finding the rhythm which works for us, not the one based on a picture of what we think we should do. I love how you set up your holiday to work for you and it become about you going about your day in a new place and not the idea of holiday dictating how it should be – this is a great illusion to break.

  36. It is interesting that all too often we going on a holiday to get away from our usual life with the irony being the consistent rhythm of our usual life is actually our strength.

  37. This is a great reminder of the power of choosing what is true for you rather than aligning to what is expected or seen to be normal. In this way the only thing that changes on holiday is the scenery, for you take whatever supports you deeply with you wherever you go… nourishing you more deeply than any illusionary break from life ever could.

  38. “what was I actually wanting to blend in with?” Late-nights out? Overeating? Sleeping in? Indulging in food several times a day? Great question not just for when we are on holiday, but wherever we are, because the feeling to ‘fit in’ or blend in is so common and also because we don’t want to stand out. But doing what feels right for ourselves and following our own rhythm and being consistent in that is what makes life simple and our bodies smile from the inside.

  39. Vacations evoke one ‘universal’ image: this is the time to enjoy yourself and that can only happen if you do something different compared to your ‘normal life’. Vacations, hence, are an utmost ‘me’ time; a time to recharge our energy cells. But if we need a time to do so, says something about how we are living the time when we are not on vacations. We have clarity on the fact that re-charging your batteries need a different rhythm. Why wait until vacations? What if we live in a way that we do not need vacation time to recharge them? What if the need to break away from our daily life is not really necessary after all?

  40. I am sure that many would feel as you did on holidays away from home, but would not be as aware of what was going on. That you listened to yourself and understood that you didn’t need to escape from yourself but rather connect back to your own rhythms. There is a lot for us to learn from your sharing.

  41. A very supportive sharing and learning about being with oneself and the difference this makes i love it “I realised that when I am living the way I feel to live, it doesn’t matter where I am and what I’m doing – it’s about how I’m living in that moment.” How real this is and the appreciation and support that comes from our being fully present and not from escaping all that supports us and what that really means. What an amazing change from the escaping and holidays and life can be.

  42. Re-connecting to who we truly are and living that everyday dispels the myth that we need a break or a holiday to rejuvenate for the next round of life. Rather than having our ‘purpose’ split into parts depending on what we are doing or the plans we are making – our purpose is ‘one true purpose’ and that is to live the love we are, holding ourselves in love first and then bringing this into our environment and with others.

  43. Awesome – a beautiful realisation. How lovely it is to realise the simple joy there is in just being ourselves, wherever we are, whatever we do. Taking this into our working day is a great thing, so there is no difference in who we are at work, on holiday, at play, with family or anywhere in fact. I used to hate going on holiday and now I know why. It was because I felt I had to try an be someone I was not and this felt awful.

  44. Great blog, blowing apart many of our ideals around holidays … after all why would we want to take a break from us and our lives? And if we do then how in fact is that addressing our lives, surely it would make more sense to implement changes in our lives which would have more of an impact than any annual break. Yet this is deeply ingrained that we need to get away to recharge to somehow be able to manage life … and in none of this are we truly looking at anything. I find if I go away I love to follow a similar rhythm as at home, it is indeed more energising but as you noted there’s such a thing about working like that – but really why? We can be all we are no matter where we are and do as we feel, after all that’s our freedom to choose!

  45. How often do we hear ‘I need a holiday to recover from my holiday’. We have sold to ourselves the idea that a holiday is an excuse for more indulgence, more excitement, stimulation lots of other things yet sometimes we are relieved to get back to work because we know that what we did in the holiday was actually bringing us down. Time to reimprint ‘holidays’ definitely as every day is an opportunity for connection, purpose and greater service.

  46. We tend to make holidays about relaxing and rather than resting we fill it up with other distractions that serve no purpose other than to allow us a different way of filling up our time or sleeping because we are too exhausted to even enjoy the break. When we have a natural rhythm that allows us to be connected within, the worst thing we can do is change our rhythm and start sleeping in, at the same time convincing ourselves we are enjoying the late nights too, all we need to do is listen to what our body is telling us, and not take a holiday from our inner connection.

  47. My holidays used to be about escape. I would be miserable about coming back home and would always suffer from the holiday blues for weeks after my return. They are so different now and keeping my rhythm whilst away feels great. I still get up early when away and will sometimes bring work to do during that time because it actually feels very supportive and is part of my regular routine. I now look forward to returning home because I have created a life I love.

  48. Great to hear that you returned to living your daily rhythm and felt the absoluteness it brings to your body, as opposed to the holiday rhythm which felt dishonouring and draining, and that by returning to your rhythm you felt so much more vital, ‘These simple adjustments during the day made me feel so much lighter as I was returning to my natural rhythm and playful self.’

  49. ‘Connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold.’ Whether on holiday or not on holiday this is beautiful, year ’round, day-in, day-out advice.

  50. Our body does give us the answers if we take the time to truly connect and listen, ‘‘Connect to your rhythm and let the day unfold.’

  51. This could explain why we have so much trouble coming back from holidays.The fact that we take ourselves so far out from how we normally are that coming back is almost a shock to the system. It’s not that we always need to drive ourselves and have the pressures put on us but it’s about finding a way to ‘work’ that supports us all round. I don’t mean a have a week off every month or anything like that either it’s about setting up our day to support ourselves in each part of it. That way when you are truly supporting yourself there is no need to leave it behind or not do it for a while or have a break from it because it’s how you live, the quality you live and not what you do.

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