Two years ago I started my own business. This was a really scary thing for me at the time. I was 19 and just fresh out of school so still developing my confidence, both on a personal level and when it came to me in the world of business. My school friends were all still very much a part of my life, affecting every choice that I made so I felt as though I was still there at school, kept in a bubble. I made a slight commitment to build my business but was still very much affected by everyone else’s opinions. I did naturally work well with people so of course I did well with my business… but something happened. After two months and business going great, with lack of support and negativity from my friends on what I had chosen for myself, I freaked out…
From the outside it seemed like I was doing just fine; on the inside however, I was living off anxiety and nervousness. I would hype myself up to call someone or visit someone. The huge sugar addiction I was relying on to keep me going throughout the day was making me feel very racy. Every time I thought of speaking to someone about my business I would get sick in the stomach; every time I made a call and they were too busy to talk I would feel as though I’d failed. I started to focus on all the things I was ‘bad’ at (when in truth I wasn’t bad at any of them). I started to get frustrated, and disappointed that all of a sudden I wasn’t doing so well: I was consumed by doubts and self-sabotaging thoughts… I was losing confidence in myself.
With all of this going on, it got too much. I was sick, exhausted all the time, not looking after myself and no longer enjoying working in my own business, so after only two months I stopped.
2 YEARS LATER
Over the past two years I have been attending workshops and courses by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. I realised that I was not living in a very joyful way, and even though I stopped my business I still lived with the same anxiety and nervousness, fuelled by the intense sugar amounts I was consuming. But with the support of the Esoteric practitioners I started to change some bad habits.
It was approximately two months ago that I completely gave up sugar. Having lived so long with sugar as my driving fuel, it took some weeks for my body to recover from the ‘pick me up’ that sugar would give me. I realised how tired I was and started to make more loving choices for myself – which included resting when I was tired and not pushing through – or reaching for sugar to save me. I had to start feeling my body; it felt exhausted and I was only 20 years old!
Through small changes, and the decrease in my sugar intake I noticed I had more energy – I was able to wake up earlier and felt amazing throughout the day. Now no longer suffering from nervousness all the time, this change also gave me a confidence in myself, a steadiness.
Three weeks ago I was at work and I thought to myself “it’s time to go back into business”. The impulse was so strong I couldn’t argue with it and the doubt couldn’t sway me. I felt so much commitment in the decision I had just made and decided to re-imprint how I have previously worked in my business. To start with I decided that a balance with work/study/social/family and ‘me time’ was extremely important as I didn’t want to crash and burn like I had done previously. So I spoke to my whole family and told them that this would take some time to get the momentum back and that I have a busy time ahead and might miss some family dinners. I organised with my esoteric healing practitioner to have regular sessions to ensure I don’t lose myself in the process. I’ve committed to doing business training and development so that I am prepared. Most importantly I have accepted that not only do my customers get the benefits my business can offer, they also get me. My commitment to myself to support myself is key so that they get ALL of me in FULL.
SO WHAT DOES THIS LOOK LIKE?
This for me means waking up a little earlier; preparing or cooking dinner to take with me if I’m going to be home later; bringing a change of clothes to change into after work if I am unable to go straight home, and resting when I need to so that I can be an example to those I come in contact with and who chose to work with me. To show that it IS possible to work full time, build a business part-time, study part-time, while still having time for my family, my partner, and most importantly time to nurture myself.
This has been such a beautiful journey, learning and growing my confidence and my business, and I thank Universal Medicine for their support. I am not perfect and I still have the occasional doubts but they are never as strong as they were two years ago and I can’t hold onto them for long. Each and every new day brings another opportunity for me to bring ME to the world, and in doing this it has been amazing to see how the world supports me back.
By Rebekah Muntelwit – Age 21 – Mackay QLD
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
I loved reading this blog and the confirmation for me was this sentence, “To show that it IS possible to work full time, build a business part-time, study part-time, while still having time for my family, my partner and most importantly time to nurture myself”. THIS is what I needed to read as my life is about to change with working full time, studying an MBA, moving house and eventually setting up a part time business. All needing to be constellated so that a flow can commence, observing the moments when drive or a need to get things done comes in.
This shows that when we are with ourselves and unaffected by the world’s calamities, we receive energy that supports us to do more, without going into the doing of things.
I love how life can and will support us if we allow it, our responsibility is to know who we are, and remain this.
This blog is inspiring, and great to read how Rebekah followed her strong impulse.
Commitment to life and work does require commitment to looking after oneself with the equal care – otherwise you cannot have a long term successful outcome.
Sometimes we can fear our own success – especially when it comes so easily and others are not comfortable with what you are reflecting to them.
Henrietta I’ve come to realise that we can also develop a fear that if things aren’t how the majority behaves during University studies or taken out by that force, there must be something wrong with us. Can a person be that steady in themselves and trust that everything will be given to them and there is no drive to get things done? Absolutely!…
Rebekah, this is very inspiring to read – there are not that many 19 year olds (let alone 40 year olds) who are ready to throw themselves into a business with all the responsibilities that it entails. Having experienced what you have experienced has certainly allowed you much growth with the willingness you have had to see what was needed to make changes for it to work.
“Each and every new day brings another opportunity for me to bring ME to the world” The joy in what you write here is palpable and very inspiring.
A business built on a foundation of truth with no sweetners required.
” I was consumed by doubts and self-sabotaging thoughts… I was losing confidence in myself.” We aren’t taught to support ourselves or others by being appreciative and confirming, navigating the turmoil we can feel within ourselves is not easy. I can relate to allowing outside influences to change my decisions, once I stop trusting what I feel I am usually then very open to negativity pouring in.
To build ourselves, builds whatever business we’re in.
Beautifully said Kehinde – the investment in ourselves cannot but spill out to all others.
“Most importantly I have accepted that not only do my customers get the benefits my business can offer, they also get me” – this is very important and applies to all of us whatever profession/activity we engage ourselves in, and it makes so much sense that we build a foundation that is self-loving and self-nurturing in many ways.
Businesses are the people that own and run them, it’s literally what they are. Sure a business can be made up of good products or a great service idea but the actual fabric of the business is the people, the people are the living breath of any business.
Building a strong foundation of care and nurturing for self is always important, ‘ I decided that a balance with work/study/social/family and ‘me time’ was extremely important as I didn’t want to crash and burn like I had done previously.’
Taking responsibility for how we live creates a work ethic we can take with us and when self-employed is very necessary to develop a great business. So as you have shared Rebecca, any thing can happen when we have a true attitude to work along with a rhythm and diet that supports us.
When we introduce simple self care principles into our life it is amazing the ripple effect this has on others around us.
Yes, other people see and feel the care and nurturing we bring to ourselves, ‘This for me means waking up a little earlier; preparing or cooking dinner to take with me if I’m going to be home later; bringing a change of clothes to change into after work if I am unable to go straight home, and resting when I need to so that I can be an example to those I come in contact with and who chose to work with me. ‘
Very cool Rebecca a great read for anyone going into business with themselves. “My commitment to myself to support myself is key so that they get ALL of me in FULL.” When you consider your business is based on how much you are bringing all of you the rest is the mechanics in how that needs to look. Love it — inspiring and, “Each and every new day brings another opportunity for me to bring ME to the world, and in doing this it has been amazing to see how the world supports me back.”
Rebekah I love that you didn’t give up on your business, but took the time to build yourself and it naturally began to happen again. It reminds me that our own personal foundations and solidness is not just important but a vital part of whatever we do.
Sugar has become such a normalised part of our diet I have to wonder how many people question it’s role in their health and emotional issues? When I look back over my life I would say that sugar led me to feeling really racy and also anxious. The body is much more settled and in an equilibrium without it.
Yes, I agree from my experience too. For it brings a moment of satisfaction and “high”, whilst we know that the “low” will follow shortly thereafter; meaning that it was never truly a high or true energizing moment anyway.
We are subject of forces that affect us. There is no doubt about this.
Rebekah love how you gave yourself the permission to re-imprint the old ways in which you operated. It was a very humble choice that enriched so much your business and life. It makes me see that there is always an opportunity to look at honestly how we are living and make the needed adjustments to bring ALL of us in FULL to the world.
Spot on Inma – offering ourselves the space to grow and learn and not be hard on ourselves is one of the greatest gifts we can offer ourselves and all those around us too.
It’s interesting to observe how we can drain ourselves till the exhaustion at a so very young age. By reading your experience Rebekah I’m realizing how nurturing and rejuveneting is applying the principles of Universal Medicine. No matter the age, the place we live in, the profession and business that we carry on…It inspires us to bring all our potential in to our community, work place, friends, family…is this commitment and purpose in life that make me realize how amazing we are and how much it’s needed our presence today and everyday. Thank you
“I have accepted that not only do my customers get the benefits my business can offer, they also get me. My commitment to myself to support myself is key so that they get ALL of me in FULL.” a beautiful sharing Rebekah understanding how supporting ourselves supports what we do and what we bring to humanity, the gorgeous you.
“or reaching for sugar to save me.” That is a great way of calling eating sugar or anything when we feel tired to pick us up. It is a saver but it is never sustainable. We have to learn to trust again that we can live in a way that we have a body that is consistently vital and does not need sugar, drive, nervousness or caffeine to keep going.
I’ve been learning how exhausting being in drive is. I may have an impulse to do something but instead of feeling what the next step is, I go into drive to get it done. This is largely because I have pictures in my head of how it should look and be.
Your blog is amazing, it reminds me that our steadiness in life is everything, if we can achieve a steadiness within ourselves and a balance or an equal proportion of importance with all aspects in our life then we are set with a pretty solid foundation for whatever is ahead of us.
“Not only do my customers get the benefits my business can offer, they also get me” – this is hugely important to remember. We are often driven by an outcome and forget the fact of energy that how we are comes with everything we do, and true success is not about hitting a perceived goalpost, which keeps moving anyway, but it is about retaining and expanding the whole of who we are.
And bringing all of you in full is awesome, ‘My commitment to myself to support myself is key so that they get ALL of me in FULL.’
Contstantly were are asked to be more: more love, more connected to our truth and more aligned to Our Soul. We often can go against to that which pulls up higher and so create frustration and eventually resentment. It is to see the barriers and let them go, surrender to what is there inside you calling you to be that and more..
‘Having lived so long with sugar as my driving fuel, it took some weeks for my body to recover from the ‘pick me up’ that sugar would give me.’ Wow it’s interesting how much we can use sugar to get us through the day when in fact it is draining us and depleting our energy levels in a huge way.
What I find interesting Rebekah is that by decreasing your sugar intake you were able to get up earlier and had more energy during the day – ironic that our minds tell us it’s the opposite and that we need sugar to get through.
The body is a much quieter communicator than the mind but always truthful.
“Each and every new day brings another opportunity for me to bring ME to the world, and in doing this it has been amazing to see how the world supports me back.” learning to nurture and support ourselves first, allows us to bring the all we are to everything we do and to everyone we meet.
The importance of nurturing oneself cannot be underestimated. To give the best of oneself to others one first has to give the best to oneself.
“Each and every new day brings another opportunity for me to bring ME to the world” No selling required, just a continuous free gift.
Moving forward require building a foundation that supports us. Otherwise, it is just a dream that ends soon.
Yes giving up sugar can be a challenge at the beginning especially if we are relying on it to get through the day but so worth it in the end. I used to be addicted to sugar as well but since gradually weaning myself off it I have never felt more energy or clearer in my mind and body.
Love that description at the start, of how when we look to the outside world for confirmation, recognition, success then we are puppets on a string we have no control of, dancing to the whims of the good day or the bad day. However, when we build that appreciation in ourselves it all changes… instead of being the hungry ghost that needs feeding from the outside, we become the beacon of light that people are inevitably drawn to.
Very beautifully expressed Simon. It is so true that the basis upon which to build a solid foundation is self-appreciation.
If we don’t have a connection with ourselves we will always look outside of ourselves for confirmation and than we are very vulnerable for others opinions. The great thing to know is that it is not really the negative energy that is coming from the outside that is the problem but that we are allowing that negative energy to be there in the first place when we are not choosing connection with ourselves.
This is incredible Rebekah! How many people can actually commit to that much without burning out? Asking for support is the best thing in the world, and it works like nothing else does. Each one of us is a powerhouse and capable of enormous things, and there’s a way to do it and enjoy it.
It is amazing what is actually possible when we make the choice to self-loving, committed and organised in life. When we get support along the way so then we are able to constantly have this ability and for it not to be just a moment of being focused. Appreciating that the little things we do for ourself make a huge difference.
To have the impulse to start a business so young is already something to appreciate. I can see where I was at that point and while I am in business now that wasn’t were I was at that age. To see the wealth of knowledge and wisdom this article holds shows me with no doubt that whatever the author does it is already a success because of the dedication to the quality of how she is with it. So many businesses are built literally on the backs of people and while they have a huge potential we get lost in the doing and dis-guard the being. I take a lot from this article and can appreciate how it is to be in business in this way.
I agree, this is such a mature and brilliant approach to life – how can you not succeed when this is your starting point?
There is more to business than to make money and produce products. There is You in your Fullness. Without this essential piece what operation is the business outputting? If you are not inputting the correct investments into yourself the output will not be what is needed. Success is in the heart.
Great to re-imprint how you had previously run your business, to build a steady rhythm in your life that supports all you do, whilst still keeping your attention on your body and how that is feeling and listening to its many messages of wisdom.
I love your responsibility and commitment, ‘My commitment to myself to support myself is key so that they get ALL of me in FULL.’ Wonderful.
It is a beautiful wisdom to live by.
Rebekah I really like how you organised yourself the second time around so that you were supported by your new rhythm, family, healing practitioner and business training. That’s inspiring, and a great foundation for your business.
There is endless opportunities to bring our fullness to the world. Some are super simple and just flow like magic. Some are more with training wheels and wobbles. These are also magic to be appreciated as they unfold.
I love what you share with us Rebekah. I saw how often we can set ourselves up to fail because we don’t set ourselves up to succeed, and often that means taking the time to look at what is practical and what actions/support do you need to take.
You show us beautifully how you decided to support yourself the second time around to give yourself the best chance of succeeding with your business. And it feels like in one way it does not matter what the outcome is, you wont exhaust you or lose you in the process, so you have succeeded in any way.
The only truth is what is going on in the inside. The outside is way too easy to manipulate at will.
It is so empowering to commit to life as that what I actually read in this blog. It is not only about all the things we have to do in life but actually to live it in full and with that we present a being to all that whe do that is inspiring to others and shows that there is another way of living possible and no job or task at hand too much and not able to fulfill.
Making the commitment to bring ourselves in full to every person in our lives, the ones we know well, or even not so well, our work and ourselves opens up an amazing quality of support reflected back to us. We say yes so the universe can back the yes.
Loved reading your blog Rebekah, I have found that by making more loving choices my confidence has grown and by taking the time to change the way I live, definitely pays me back.
Letting purpose guide our lives brings with it an amazing ability to achieve more than most. Could this be that to live life without purpose leaves us empty and needing to spend time doing things like video games, television or nights out to sweeten our purposeless life. But with purpose, we are full and look for what we need to do to fulfill it.
This is inspiring Rebecca and the lesson of your experience can apply to many situations in life. It has helped me better understand how to land my next job.
The Esoteric is fantastic to start connecting dots and things that lay people may find to be totally unrelated may turn out as being totally related and helps us to understand a lot and to change the way we move.
Thank you Rebekah, it’s inspiring to hear of the changes that you’ve made not only to the way you approach your business but to all parts of your life. I can see how when we commit to truly being who we are in what we do then everyone benefits.
Thanks for sharing your journey Rebekah and giving an example of a life fully lived.
Your writing is so refreshing! I love the line “Each and every new day brings another opportunity for me to bring ME to the world” this is such an amazing way to look at every new day we are presented with, and to not ever waste the opportunities that day brings.
It’s interesting to contemplate how our physical choices in life can actually undermine our confidence – the sugar addiction described here being a case in point.
It is so gorgeous and inspiring to feel how the changes and commitments you made to honoring you and your body has become the foundation that supports you to stay with yourself as you work, study and develop your business. And how this foundation is what allows you to continue to explore being and bringing more of who you are and your steadiness, to your every day.
This is amazing – we look at the title of this blog “Developing Confidence in Myself and My Business” – and it’s not about getting qualifications or skills or whatever we can arm ourselves with, and it is all about taking care of the ‘me’ that does business and life. Awesome.
A great blog to read today as I was looking back at this time last year and how I was assailed with doubt over some big decisions I had to make, how I allowed friends to sway me and how I sometimes knew that I was going against what was true. We can get so focussed on something that that becomes the be all and end all and other parts of our lives take a back seat. Bringing a balance into our lives so that no one part becomes more important than another is so vital and supports us in living a full life. Also the more we look after our selves and bring a deepening care into everything we do, being present with ourselves, in our bodies, the easier these decisions are and the less we tend to doubt ourselves.
Elaine thank you for your comment, I have been bringing focus to certain parts of life to the exclusion of others instead of holding them all the same with me in my fullness and soulful quality as the central connecting point.
Gorgeous Rebekah, thank you for sharing. As a wife, householder, part-time student and operator of two businesses and more I relate very much to what you’re offering here around the need to build a steady rhythm in my life to support all I do, with extra attention given to my body and how it is faring. Without our health, there can be no true success, as a wise woman once told me!
So many people commit to their job but forget the most important part – themselves. I love that you have come to recognize the importance of committing not only to your career but of supporting yourself fully so that everyone you meets get all of you in full… and a reminder and a reflection of a person and body that honours the whole and not just a part.
Great timing for me, as I am in a process of relaunch a business. What i feel is starting with a true foundation and building it slowly, nurturing and honour myself along the way, is going to be more supportive. It is about being true to my body and with that comes confidence.
An addiction to sugar and using it as a driving fuel in our body to hide our bodies exhaustion is an extremely common issue for so many of us today. It is also something that we need to be honest about how it is affecting us all.
‘Most importantly I have accepted that not only do my customers get the benefits my business can offer, they also get me’. Add the incredible you to a product or service and you are adding a service to humanity.
In the same way Plato said that we have to consider the whole when dealing with a body part, we have to consider the whole when a person goes into business. There s nothing in his/her life that is not relevant to it. It is not only the product they sell. It is also how they live.
Perfectly expressed Eduardo.
Thank you Eduardo this is why the Esoteric Practitioners Association has the highest Code of Ethics and Conduct in the world because it’s about our whole life not just how we are in the clinic or treatment room or one part of life.
‘Each and every new day brings another opportunity for me to bring ME to the world, and in doing this it has been amazing to see how the world supports me back.’ When we bring Me to the world it doesn’t matter what we do but about the quality we bring and I agree there is so much support, it all comes towards us the moment we choose quality above all else, never in perfection but as an everyday chance to learn to be in the world with who we are.