Being told at the age of 28 to either have children now or risk the chance of never having them was not something I had counted on happening.
Nor had I expected to be told that even if I did by some slim chance conceive, the chance of having a normal, healthy pregnancy was slight, and that the birth would be tainted with all sorts of initial problems, as well as the fact I may not even be able to carry full term due to the scarring and lesions that previous operations had left on my cervix.
Basically, if I did conceive there was the potential for many problems to follow, more than most doctors wanted to deal with.
Sure, I thought maybe one day I might have children, but it was not something that I had spent a lot of time thinking about, or planning. To be honest it was probably the last thing on my mind, more something I avoided than contemplated.
The reason behind having to make that decision was due to ongoing recurring Progressive CIN 3 Cervical Cancer, which is the last stage before Chemotherapy is used as a treatment. The doctors instead do Laparoscopies and laser surgery to remove the cancer growth.
This treatment began at age 18 and continued until my mid 20’s, having 6 monthly check-ups to keep track of how the growth was progressing.
Then I had cysts rupturing on my ovaries, and with the doctors looking at the female history in my family it seemed inevitable that I was heading down the same path – one that would lead to a hysterectomy, but in my case possibly before I even had the chance to have children.
I had a choice: I could continue living the same way, and end up heading down the same path as the other females in my family, or I could change the way I lived and create a new way of being.
I knew something had to change; it was the ‘what’ and ‘how’ that took time, patience and commitment. I looked at every aspect of my life – making choices in how I ate, the times I went to bed, the way I socialized and who I socialised with, as well as the way I was at work. I was great at placing everything and everyone else first, so taking time for me and truly looking after myself was a challenge. Knowing I was worth this loving care and nurturing took time for me to accept.
Beginning to look after myself and taking responsibility for my choices and the repercussions of those choices, constantly being open to more, knowing that I was the only one that could change the way my life and my body was, I gained an understanding of the choices I had made and why I made them and slowly I was able to change the way I lived. This is not something that ever stops…for me it is an ongoing development and commitment to myself and to the way I live.
After 5 years of changes and adjustments with the support of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I met a wonderful loving man, ended up in a relationship, and after 3 years of marriage we decided to have a child.
I had spoken of my past, the issues I had and the possibility that I may not be able to have children; we decided to take the chance and see how it all went.
We spent 8 months having counselling sessions with a Universal Medicine practitioner addressing our ideals, beliefs, expectations or anything we may have felt to do with having a child, our relationship with ourselves, as well as with each other.
Both of us made the choice to commit to parenting without imposing or expecting our children to be anything other than who they truly were, growing up without feeling they have to be anything other than themselves.
Both my husband and I also did hormone tests to see where our bodies were at on a physical level. When the test results came back we were both surprised – my husband felt he had more chance of falling pregnant than I based on our test results.
But against all the odds, all that I had been told, all that my body had gone through with my operations, cysts and treatments, I was already pregnant.
I continued having regular sessions with Serge Benhayon during this time. I also introduced Esoteric Breast Massage, which I had with accredited female Esoteric Practitioners, and I had an amazing pregnancy: no illness, no health issues or complications, and the birth followed suit. Our daughter was born one day early with the support of my husband, a wonderful midwife and friend who arrived just in time. With no complications as per the original fear that the doctors had when I said I was pregnant, I had a trouble free labor.
I know that if I had not made the changes in my life to support my body, take responsibility for my choices and to look deeper at all that I had chosen to avoid and bury in my life, things would have been very different.
I was 36 when our daughter was born – she is now 6 ½ and we also have a 16-month-old son from an equally beautiful and complication free pregnancy.
Now at 42 ½ years old and 5 months into our 3rd pregnancy, we are going against all the odds in more ways than one when it comes to the medical profession – we are expecting our 3rd child, and again, it is a truly amazing experience, one that is a true blessing and confirmation of how far we have come.
For me, the key has been continuing to deal with, take responsibility for, and change the way I was living – looking at every aspect of my life, with the support of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine, the Esoteric Practitioners and the Esoteric modalities.
It was with this support that I was able to make the changes in my life, to become pregnant against the odds and go on to live the life and have the family and relationships I have today.
By Nicole Serafin, 42 years, Tintenbar, NSW
672 thoughts on “Pregnant against the Odds – Taking Responsibility”
This is lovely to read again especially this statement, ‘the key has been continuing to deal with, taking responsibility for and change the way I was living’ is key to all our ailments and diseases. Being responsible is such a powerful thing to be able to live in this world. It makes us accountable to not just us, but everybody else that lives on this planet.
The world would be a different place if we all lived from this place more and more.
Absoulutely Alison, bringing Love True-Love into our way of living definitely is a goal-post shifter.
What a De-light it is to feel the depth of what you have shared Nicole and that it takes more than one to carry a baby full term and the team of support you had has definitely given you a remuneration of gratuities that your family has had bestowed upon us all because of the Love you have obviously obtained and shared.
I agree Greg, it takes two to bring a baby into this world, it takes a community to bring the child up. Now that’s bringing a child up…
“I looked at every aspect of my life – making choices in how I ate, the times I went to bed, the way I socialised and who I socialised with, as well as the way I was at work”, is saying that you took responsibility and made the commitment to live your life differently to how you used to live.
So in every moment we have a responsibility to live from this foundation and in this its like that boomerang, it comes right back at you irrespective of the way you are living. Something for many of us to think about…
Conventional medicine can give us an idea of the future based on the underlying causal energy not changing or even taken notice of. Change the energy causing the situation and what occurs physically is, in my experience, beyond anything I could imagine.
Modern medicine has its outplay and thank goodness we have it. We are have not quite mastered or understood the outplay of the root cause of our illnesses or ailments and really looking at the energy behind it. For many they don’t want the responsibility and rather be fixed, or we can bring that deeper level of understanding and life is received differently.
I know which I would rather have…
This is amazing and I personally feel should be widely available for all couples, partners single people.
“We spent 8 months having counselling sessions with a Universal Medicine practitioner addressing our ideals, beliefs, expectations or anything we may have felt to do with having a child, our relationship with ourselves, as well as with each other.”
We are all daily witness to the fact that there are many children in this world who are struggling because their parents are struggling with trying to live. Because of the way we have set up our society that you are born, then educated, get a job, get a girlfriend or boyfriend, get married, have kids this way of living appears to be set in stone along with your born and then you die. This way of being has fudged the fact that we are here to evolve and not fill the time in between having children that are not wanted but are seen as part and parcel of package of life we have bought into.
The what is possible, is beyond our realizations and expectations, so why would we limit ourselves to the impossible, when the possible is there ready to be expressed. What we need is our time to heal and allow in the impossible!
“For me, the key has been continuing to deal with, take responsibility for, and change the way I was living – looking at every aspect of my life, with the support of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine, the Esoteric Practitioners and the Esoteric modalities.”
Support from Serge Benhayon and universal medicine added together with your own medicine – self responsibility made the mx into a miracle. Awesome to here Nicole.
Our body communicates so much to us – it is a matter of us listening and heeding what we hear and hence caring more and more deeply for ourselves. That is in effect what the body communicates to us in its myriad of ways – look see and feel what you are doing and how you can do this differently so that you can bring that much more love care and respect for the vehicle that enhouses us.
The key is to be open to being more and more responsible in our lives, not in a weighed down way but in a way that embraces life for all that it offers.
Bringing back self responsibility is key in all aspects of our life, ‘the key has been continuing to deal with, take responsibility for, and change the way I was living – looking at every aspect of my life’.
Amazing how we can turn things around when we commit to really loving ourselves up and also with a sense of knowing that can only come from and through the body. Thank you for your sharing Nicole!
I don’t think we fully comprehend how much our daily choices impact our health and wellbeing, and in many different medical conditions including fertility. This is a very inspiring story because it shows no matter where our body is at we can make changes and contribute again to our health and wellbeing, just as ignoring our body has contributed to our lack of health and wellbeing.
It is a very inspiring story, showing how powerful our choices are, and we always have a choice, ‘I had a choice: I could continue living the same way, and end up heading down the same path as the other females in my family, or I could change the way I lived and create a new way of being.’