Time: How I Changed my Relationship with the Invisible Tyrant

I had known for many years that I had become a victim of time. I always felt that there was never enough time to meet all the deadlines that life and my profession demanded. ‘Tempus fugit’ and ‘time waits for no-one’ were haunting conceptual spectres which dominated my life and, in spite of being clever enough to work out some excellent time management strategies that were much commended by my colleagues, the truth my body revealed, indicated that I was exhausting myself with my breathless and compulsive ‘hamster on a wheel’ existence.

My body no longer resonated with the daily sleep/waking cycle and I could not sleep without medication. This was due to neither caffeine nor alcohol consumption because I disliked both. It was attributable solely to time and work pressures; pressures I responded to by pushing myself and by analysing everything with extreme levels of mental energy, always with an eye on the clock. I was living like the manic, breathless White Rabbit in Alice in Wonderland as a complete victim of time.

This changed when I was introduced to the idea of living in and to a rhythm. Re-connecting with rhythm was like finding the most essential part of me that I had inexplicably completely lost until I began to make some very simple changes presented by Universal Medicine.

The first step in reclaiming my natural rhythm was to breathe a gentle breath and feel my own naturally gentle energy. This offered me a choice in stressful situations – I could choose to engage with the stress of a demanding situation or I could choose to breathe my own breath and remain in my natural rhythm. This diminished the stress of work demands enormously and my ability to remain unperturbed was commented on by many colleagues.

I no longer felt a victim of time and deadlines or indeed, a manager of them. I simply began to be unaffected by them.

I next learned that by adjusting the timing of my sleep/wake cycle, my body could re-connect with a more natural sleep pattern. Almost immediately I was able to quit the sleep medication I had been taking for over 10 years by simply having a non-stimulating wind-down routine in the evening and going to bed considerably earlier than had been my habit. I wake up much earlier also and with a gentle vitality I have never experienced previously. I found more often I could take my time to do things, and at a pace which was far more loving and supportive of myself and my body. For the first time in many years, I was able to take pleasure in living in my own body.

I was then delighted to be introduced to the menopausal rhythm which is governed by the cycles of the full moon. Just like its sister rhythm, the menstrual cycle, the full moon cycle has its rhythms of expression and discarding as well as a natural pattern of activity and rest. It is an ongoing joy to align and explore how these lymphatic rhythms feel in my body and relate to what is going on in my life on a monthly basis. Far from being a time to be consigned to the scrapheap, the menopausal rhythm reveals to me the myriad ways in which I can deepen my relationship to myself as a living, rhythmic being.

By connecting with the cycles of the full moon, I have experienced a deep confirming of how I am in a rhythmic relationship with rhythms that are very much larger than I, and oh so much more expansive than our tiny wee concepts of time.

Living as a rhythmic being allows me now to observe how I am moment by moment, daily, monthly and yearly. I now see each year as an opportunity to deepen my relationship with myself through living a naturally rhythmic life.

I still work in a very busy profession but I have learned to take moments to re-connect with my rhythms. No longer am I the victim of time and its apparent pressures. Time is now my instrument to develop these natural rhythms within my body and to feel the harmony that is there when I participate in cycles that are greater than me, and yet somehow, are mine to claim.

I have a profound sense that there are yet more rhythms to unfold and cycles with which to engage.

It all feels so lovely; I love rhythm and rhythm certainly loves me. Living as a rhythmic being has allowed me to change my relationship with time completely and to set aside my former ‘hamster on a wheel’ existence. The more I work on my rhythm, the more I master relationship with time and the more I develop my relationship with me.

I am a rhythmic being and I live in a rhythmic world.

Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Coleen Hensey, BA (Hons), Teacher, Tamborine Mtn, Queensland, Australia

1,184 thoughts on “Time: How I Changed my Relationship with the Invisible Tyrant

  1. ‘I no longer felt a victim of time and deadlines or indeed, a manager of them. I simply began to be unaffected by them.’ Just this one line in a whole blog of gems has given me a far deeper understanding and appreciation for the importance and power of a healthy and natural relationship with time.

  2. I love your appreciation of living in cycles and how as we choose to do this, we connect to something far greater and grander, more universal than anything we could ever imagine when stuck on the ‘hamster-wheel’ of time.

  3. ‘I am a rhythmic being and I live in a rhythmic world.’ Beautiful words and choosing to align to the rhythms of the world enables us to let go of feeling a victim of time. Letting go of the victim mentality which has caused me so much stress in the past allows me to bring so much more of me to whatever activity I am undertaking.

    1. I have trapped myself in the ‘victim’ idea and feeling imposed upon by the concept of time brought a lot of reaction into my life. I agree beautiful words, honouring how we feel rather than acting from our head, allows the natural rhythms and cycles that are there to be felt and observed and so honoured.

  4. Sometimes when I get caught in should do’s I can now reflect more on how I am actually feeling, and my breathing. Observing how I am breathing has allowed me to feel space and spaciousness around and within me. I am less beholden to time and the stress and reactions I had around the concept of it.

  5. I am currently part of a group who share how they use the Our Cycles App http://www.ourcyclesapp.com support their awareness of their cycles…”I have experienced a deep confirming of how I am in a rhythmic relationship with rhythms that are very much larger than I” Sharing my experience and listening to others share theirs has allowed me to reach a deeper appreciation of who we all have apart of large cycles the occur it the universe. It has been a confirmation that we are part of something much grander than we often allow ourselves to feel.

  6. Hello Coleen and this, “Living as a rhythmic being has allowed me to change my relationship with time completely and to set aside my former ‘hamster on a wheel’ existence. The more I work on my rhythm, the more I master relationship with time and the more I develop my relationship with me.” Time is a funny thing and how I relate to it is even more amusing, well sometimes not so amusing. I hold out time to be how I measure myself, on time, tick and not on time, cross and so the gauge of a ‘good’ day is closely related to how ‘on time’ I am. As you are saying and the more I am aware, time isn’t the real deal I have made it out to be. It’s important for obvious reasons but shouldn’t be the guide on how you live. Time needs to be used as an equal part of the overall and not stuck out the front as the most important. My relationship with this is constantly changing and here we are again at a point of change, thank you Coleen.

  7. I still occasionally get caught up in chaos and being busy. Thank you for the reminder of how simple it is to come back to our breath and the natural rhythms patterns and cycles.

  8. Changing my relationship with the invisible tyrant of time has been gradual but the more I re-connect to me and my innate knowing of what activity feels true to undertake next, the more I loosen the shackles of constant clock watching and feel ruled by it.

  9. It is amazing how time feels like it expands when we allow it. Getting off the hamster wheel is a choice we can make at any time but unpicking what makes us choose to be controlled by time has, for me, been something I have needed to revisit on an regular basis. In this I have found having the support of others and the Our Cycles app has been enormously helpful in reconfiguring this relationship and reminding me that I am responsible for my choices and empowering me to choose differently.

  10. The concept that time governs us is a completely untrue perception, like you explain so well, nothing can actually govern or touch the natural rhythm inside us. Learning to live connected and tapping into our own rhythm changes how we experience time, it no longer becomes a governing factor, but something we can easily navigate while remaining true to ourselves.

  11. A hamster on a wheel existence, it feels like so many of us live in this way, and yet at our fingertips, our breath is a simple Gentle Breath Meditation as taught by Serge Benhayon that can slow life down and make us feel more at ease in our bodies. It is unlike any other meditation I have experienced in that it checks us more into life, doesn’t take us away from it.

  12. Your blog Coleen, reminds me that there is so much more behind time, that time actually withholds me from living with the cycles we are under. When I let go the factor time in my life, which for 99.99% is in fact causing all the stress I experience, I enter space, a realm in life where my body feels at ease and in that I can feel a joy, harmony and rhythm that is so natural to my being and I now can say I is a realm where I belong.

  13. Love that you have found that you are a rhythmic being. It makes so much sense as we are living in a world and universe that is impulsed by rhythms and cycles and we are simply part of it.

  14. This is beautiful to read and know the depth of importance of rythmns in life and the huge restricitions time and pressures effect us in our lives if we don’t live with our knowing cycles of life. Your changes and choices are very inspiring and the whole concept of time changes everything ” I love rhythm and rhythm certainly loves me. Living as a rhythmic being has allowed me to change my relationship with time completely and to set aside my former ‘hamster on a wheel’ existence.” The more I work on my rhythm, the more I master relationship with time and the more I develop my relationship with me.”

  15. Time exists to show us how out of sync we live to the Universal rhythm we are held by, but do not live to. When this is mastered, there is only space with enough time allocated in which to complete the task at hand. When we say we want ‘more time’, want we really are saying is that we want more space, because there is a part of us that knows how constrictive and discordant it is to move against this universal harmony and not with it.

    1. Thank you Liane! That explanation of time truly resonators with me. I have been working on my rhythms and it has reduced my stress level and body tension like nothing else.
      I understand that everything happens for a reason, I just need to be open what the message is.

  16. Time can be our tyrant or can be used it as a marker to evolve back to where we come from. Time does not bring us anywhere as it is only an indicator of where we are in our evolving back to Soul. Using time in this way is a wise thing to do otherwise it will live us and keeps us moving against our natural flow.

  17. Interestingly, as I read the last words about being a rhythmic being living in a rhythmic world I could feel the ebb and flow of being in water, how it makes me aware of all being from and in the same space. It reminds me of a feeling I get when I snorkel, of all living in the same water-like environment and the stillness and order of that as reflected by fish. Then lifting my head out of the water and feeling the detachment, hearing the noise and feeling the coldness of being separated from that steady ebb and flow of an order naturally coming from stillness.

  18. I can feel the pressure I put on myself to constantly be doing things, or giving myself a hard time mentally, self bashing if I am not. There is a very clear battle between my head and my body. My body is saying I am enough. Sometimes I find it very hard to live from my body, as I have lived from my head for so long.

  19. Changing my relationship with time is still ‘work in progress’. Some days everything feels effortless from being in conscious presence with my body and other times, more challenging as I have allowed my head to be ruling without connection to the body……..the day is rarely smooth and harmonious then.

  20. I too had felt that I was ruled by time, that life was a race against time, in a straight line. However, through the Ageless Wisdom Teaching as presented and lived by Serge Benahyon, I have re-discovered how time supports me to explore the rhythm of the cycles that we are part of, and how this is an eternal guide as to the quality of love that I to live with from moment to moment, day to day, year to year through honoring, embracing living in rhythm with these cycles that we are intrinsically part of. I realise now that time is a friend reminding me that every moment is a cycle of returning, offering the opportunity to deepen our relationship with the light of our Soul (who we are).

  21. Like giving up any habit it is difficult to give up if you are giving it up for nothing to substitute its position.

    Without proper appreciation, trust and honestly renouncing time for the cycles we live in will be a very hard sell.

  22. “I no longer felt a victim of time and deadlines or indeed, a manager of them. I simply began to be unaffected by them.” So many of us struggle with deadlines and feel time is against us. But when we stay present in the moment it is amazing how time opens up and we can complete all we have to do.

  23. Slowly but surely, my awareness of the relationship between my body and the harmony in the natural rhythms and cycles of the universe is deepening. As Serge Benhayon presents in his workshops (and I now recognise from personal experience), we are going nowhere, as in the illusion of a straight line from A to B, but simply around and around in circles, repeating the same things over and over again, until we chose to align to these cycles and live in accordance with them.

  24. “Re-connecting with rhythm was like finding the most essential part of me that I had inexplicably completely lost until I began to make some very simple changes presented by Universal Medicine.” I love your words here Coleen, reconnecting to our body’s natural rhythm allows a natural flow and steadiness of presence with ourselves that allows spaciousness to unfold.

  25. ” I could choose to engage with the stress of a demanding situation or I could choose to breathe my own breath and remain in my natural rhythm.” So empowering Coleen. What do we choose?

  26. Isn’t it amazing how stepping away from being a victim and or manager of time has allowed ‘For the first time in many years, I was able to take pleasure in living in my own body.’ I too have experienced this pleasure in living in my own body again, like a child naturally does, and the feeling of joy that is returning as a result of living in the rhythm of my own body is quite simply, awesome.

  27. The hamster on the wheel existence is a mentality that brings no quality or supportive rhythm to our lives. It also totally underestimates the power of the cycles that governs our bodies, daily lives and the world around us that if we honor and live in accordance with nourishes us from within.

  28. I love how you compared yourself to the breathless whilte rabbit out of Alice in Wonderland for it if we’re honest most people live like this… consumed and controlled by immaterial points in time we give importance all the while denying the body that takes you to them. It is deeply empowering to have tools as you have described, that support you to remember what is important and learn to remain unperturbed within your own rhythm and therefore responsive instead of reactive to life without losing yourself to these outside forces.

  29. Hi Coleen, how exquisitely simple. Three steps and your life changed and the reflection to all those around was felt. The Gentle Breath, Sleep/wake Cycle and the Rhythms of the Moon – this is something anyone can simply make the choice to follow and already the body express vitality and openness.

  30. It is a blessing to live to the rhythms and cycles that naturally impulse us, then time becomes a companion and not the deadline or moment to catch.

  31. I was introduced to the cycles of nature and the universe at a very early age but not to the fact that I am a part of these cycles, they just appeared to be something that existed outside of me; no wonder I seemed to always be at the mercy of time. Finally coming to understand the cycles of my life, and the cycles I live in and am inextricably part of, has changed my life immeasurably and time is no longer the enemy – well most of the time!

  32. It is great discovering that there is a harmonious way to live that works. When we or things feel out of order or out of synch it is usually a pointer to us being out of rhythm and needing to bring awareness to some aspect of our life – our body is a great indicator of this.

  33. ‘Time is now my instrument to develop these natural rhythms within my body and to feel the harmony that is there when I participate in cycles that are greater than me, and yet somehow, are mine to claim.’ I love this Coleen, to use time as an instrument for a greater purpose, the rhythms governed by the universe. And yes to claiming the cycles for ourselves, such a support to feel we are part of a grander whole and held by its wisdom.

  34. There is a kind of chaos inherent in a pressured life and bringing a gentle breath and a sense of rhythm to this feels so much more spacious and restful. There is a feeling of settlement in the body that creates a foundation from which to work and although we may have a heavy workload when there is this feeling of spaciousness we know everything will be done in its own true time.

  35. Surrendering to the natural cycles we are a part of and not being driven by time allows us to feel when to do things instead of trying to get things done from a listed mentality. In other words, there is a natural order and flow to life and our obsession with time can rupture that connection.

  36. My concept of time is changing constantly. When I am not ruled by time there is a space, a stillness and a clarity. When I leave this rhthym, the pressure and stress of time is there waiting. Instantly the feeling in my body changes.

  37. When you read things like this you are woken up at different points, like this, “I next learned that by adjusting the timing of my sleep/wake cycle, my body could re-connect with a more natural sleep pattern. Almost immediately I was able to quit the sleep medication I had been taking for over 10 years by simply having a non-stimulating wind-down routine in the evening and going to bed considerably earlier than had been my habit”. 10 years of medication to let go of but just doing something so simple? It begs the question what else can we do. Many people I have seen turn many things around by opening up to the possibilities presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine including me. The pressure we place on ourselves that then allows the world to impact us is considered normal and yet it’s actually far far removed of where we should be. It’s great to read an article where people are returning to a way of living that actually supports us all and doesn’t run us all down the same rabbit hole.

  38. Time is in fact just a creation of men as it only keeps us locked into the idea that we have to battle time from getting things done in time, to be on time or to fight our ageing over time. It actually all makes no sense as we only do belong to space, the space that surrounds us and is in us and when we live in accordance with that we can use time just as a marker to clock our evolution and nothing else.

  39. “It was attributable solely to time and work pressures; pressures I responded to by pushing myself and by analysing everything with extreme levels of mental energy, always with an eye on the clock.” This is something so many of us seem to be living from, a certain stress level that brings us through the day and then we add sugar and other stimulants and this keeps us going as long as we have to and want to. It is a blessing to come back to our natural rhythm as you describe, that allows us to truly enjoy ourselves in our bodies throughout the day. It is quite a different way of living and it never ceases to stop and is deepening with every self-loving choice we make.

    1. Thank you Fumiyo, your comment helped me to realise how important rhythms are to nurturing – so much is changing daily for the body depending on the rhythm we are in, so too then do our needs and what may be nurturing and supportive.

  40. Just the blog I needed to read Coleen, a beautiful reminder of how supportive rhythms are and that they are forever on offer if we tap into them.

  41. Being a rhythmic person and living in a rhythmic world is certainly a far cry from a hamster on a wheel. Thank you Colleen for presenting this powerful analogy and for the inspiration to live our natural rhythm.

  42. Thankyou Coleen, I had not realised just how much I am living rhythmically now as opposed to living with the linear concept of time and feeling like I am always hurtling towards something – often in great stress! I agree, rhythmical living is “so much more expansive than our tiny wee concepts of time.” I feel that each day is more a circular motion for me, not going ahead in time but coming back to the same place to explore evolution again as a fresh new beginning, and to support me to return to who I truly am – divine and universal in essence.

  43. We run around chasing the never ending deadline of things to do, only to go to sleep to wake and chase them again. Literally like the forever dog chasing it’s tail and yet we seem to only see others doing it and not what we are doing ourselves. I still get caught in the doing or needing to do of life which leads me to chase my tail around and around. It’s like a never ending cycle that consistently needs to be broken or become aware of. It is like because I have done this so many times for so long in so many ways each of those ways needs to be re done or unwound. It’s like an unfolding way back that needs constant care so as not to jump or move again to start chasing the tail. You know when you travel a path so many times you wear a track and then each time you step out of that track if you not looking you may slide back into the old way, consistency is the key.

  44. Living to time has this perception that there is an end, a dead point that will be reached and never have again. The stress that comes with trying to live life fully until each ‘end of time’ or achieve by a certain time is a huge pressure. The more I have learnt about living in cycles, knowing everything comes back around relieves some of that pressure as I know it’ll come around again, to repeat a life lesson or deepen my understanding on an aspect of life. That doesn’t say I don’t work to required deadlines but they are never not repeatable if theres more to learn, and there always is.

  45. ‘I am a rhythmic being and I live in a rhythmic world.’

    There is a rhythm to these very words that echoes what you have presented here Coleen. It’s evident not only in what you have so beautifully expressed but through the very tempo and cadence of your writing – a reflection of the beautiful energy with which you so clearly live.

  46. It is remarkable how our whole thinking and perception changes according to the rhythm and flow we choose to breath and move in. This would be a great part of a true and empowering education from young.

  47. Great blog Coleen, I loved how your changes have supported your body and your life, when we live in the flow of life understanding cycles and rhythm rather than being held hostage of time, we become more productive at work when we are in our own rhythm than when we time watch, because we are already stressed by the expectation of what is in front, rather than enjoying what we are doing.

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