Life Can Change – If You Want It To

If someone had told me 15 years ago what my life would be like today I would never have believed them. Sure, everyone’s life can change – if you want it to – but never in a million years would I have believed just how much my life would change, and how absolutely incredible a journey it would be.

A life lived with drugs, alcohol, working long hours, a busy social life, disregard and disarray, constant stress, overwhelm and complication, was once all part of my day. This was considered and accepted as “normal” – or what I perceived as normal, and sadly accepted as my life – for a while anyway.

The way I lived was confirmed by those around me – all living with similar if not the same issues faced on a day to day basis. So with this confirmation, and having nothing else at the time to go by, I plodded along until such time as I began to feel there had to be more to life. I could not keep going the way I was.

My body began showing signs of exhaustion, no longer coping with the stresses and pressures of a failing relationship and a stressful yet successful business, along with the usual challenges of daily life. I was great at being able to forget about the day and my troubles over a glass of wine, a joint or a catch up with friends, all of which was only ever a distraction and a temporary fix. All the unresolved issues that I felt and lived with never went away – they were always there, only being pushed aside temporarily until the distractions I chose wore off and a new day began, always with the same issues still lingering.

Now, fifteen years on, after making different choices to no longer live in the avoidance and arrogance, I have instead chosen to deal with my issues and what I feel in every moment.

The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity. I have made these life changes by:

  • Making a commitment to myself to give up the alcohol and drugs
  • Living a life of simplicity without the complication and disregard
  • Taking responsibility for the choices I make and how I live, and honoring myself and my body
  • Introducing self-care into my day – creating a rhythm that supports me to be able to feel how every choice I make affects and impacts on my body
  • Looking at every aspect of my life – from the time I choose to go to bed, the food I eat, to the way I look after myself in every moment
  • Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.

 It is through observing and feeling the level of love and integrity that Serge Benhayon and his family live with that has truly inspired me to commit to changing the way in which I live and the choices I make.

Yes, there are still things that come up (as there is for everyone, I would not be human if I said I was not challenged occasionally), however the difference now is the way in which I choose to deal with the challenges that lie ahead on a daily basis.

With all that has been presented and shared through Serge and Universal Medicine, I am now aware of the choices I make and how they affect not only me and my life, but all those around me as well. By constantly looking at and feeling what I have chosen and whether it supports me, I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect, knowing at times I will make mistakes and that is ok too.

The appreciation I have for my life, family and those around me is endlessly deepening and one that I would not change for the world.

My commitment to myself is one that I am forever working on, constantly making sure that the changes I have made are supportive of the way in which I choose to live: honoring all that is felt in and around me, never taking for granted all that I am and all that I have, as I know that without the constant ongoing commitment and support from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon I would not be where I am today.

Yes, life can change – if you want it to.

By Nicole Serafin, Age 42 years, Tintenbar NSW, Australia

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585 thoughts on “Life Can Change – If You Want It To

  1. I constantly hear people saying that they have no choice, and that it’s too late to change. If I have the opportunity I take the time to share with them that from my lived experience I have come to know that there is always another choice – we may just not like what it is -, and it is definitely never too late to change. In the last 11 years I have been making many choices and changes in the way I live, and now at 66 I know that there are still many more to come, and those I look forward to as the quality of my life is now so much greater than it ever has been.

  2. A great reminder Nicole how powerful and life changing our choices can be when we choose to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving, enabling us to be able to take responsibility and handle the challenges that we face along the way that become opportunities to deepen our relationship with ourselves and with others.

  3. It is a choice to deal with our issues but what I do know is that those same issues keep returning and presenting themselves sometimes in uncanny ways which can be uncomfortable yet at the same time so supportive and healing to my body and wellbeing.

  4. “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it” – this really stood out for me. For a long while, for me, life used to feel like a long stint of suffocation, and I so longed for its sense of perpetuation to cease and I sought the answer in withdrawing from it and not participating. That never worked. What was lacking was my commitment to myself, to love myself for who I was, and I am still working on it.

  5. “The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity” beautiful to re-read your blog Nicole, Taking responsibility – not a word that many want to embrace – for our lives, is key to making life style changes that support us. Accepting where we are at and appreciating ourselves is important also.

  6. It can be so easy for us to get into a momentum of just living life as it is each day and not question this even if we are not happy. It can sometimes take a major incident to wake us up out of this. It is great to choose to wake up from it and start to make changes without needing the major incident to do it.

  7. Temporary fixes such as ‘a glass of wine or joint’ only serve to distract us from the hurt of our unresolved issues that will always linger and shadow all that we do until we fully address them and let them go.

  8. It is awful how self-destructive we can be in our lives and yet fit in and are considered ‘normal’ because everyone around us is doing the same thing. It’s a parallel for much of life’s games and falsities really, for as long as the crowd plays the same game, we can all continue with the charade that it’s all good. Underneath our bodies are screaming that it is not a true way to live. Once we re-connect to something of truth, the game begins to reveal itself though and we find ourselves with choices to continue playing the game, or to live something of truth. Thanks for the gorgeous example of having made that choice yourself… very inspiring Nicole.

  9. The title of this blog really grabbed me – “Life Can Change – If You Want It To”. My life is not as full of drama as it used to be and there are many things that have changed for the better over the years but I cannot deny there being an element of coasting where I feel I am being lazy in making choices, and it’s not about making my life more comfortable and all that, but I feel I need to question where the motivation is coming from when I am making choices, and what is it that I truly want.

  10. It is amazing that when we truly stop running and avoiding the choices we have made and instead lovingly choose to feel and address what is there, we have the power to transform our life into one that supports and embraces us.

  11. “I am no longer avoiding life but instead choosing to feel and deal with it, lovingly without having to be perfect”. This is such a powerful message to those of us who have developed a way to avoid acknowledging what our lives are truly like and instead simply pretend we are ok, because to change the way we are living feels way too hard. But as you say, by dealing with the issues that need addressing and knowing that it is not about being perfect, change is not only possible but can happen in a very gentle and surprising way.

  12. I lived life in search of connecting to the world outside me to fulfill me, through lifestyles, work, friends to make me feel like I belonged, and part of humanity, but never did it truly hit the point as at the end of the day I never felt at ease with myself as there was still something greatly missing. In fact I mostly sensed that ‘this’ (whatever I was doing) is not it, and ‘this’ is not true but override this sense. The Ageless Wisdom Teachings as presented and lived by Serge Benhayon have reminded me that everything I could ever search for is already within me, and when I began to explore this world within I did discover the world in which I do belong to, my Soul, through which I can live the fullness of who I am within whatever I do and wherever I am, whoever I am with as best I can.

  13. As we choose to engage more fully with life, staying steady with the commitment to ourselves we also begin to appreciate more and our lives start to change and become more full and yet more spacious at the same time.

  14. It is the most humbling experience to feel just how supported we are when we decide to make changes in our life. The job appears, the house to buy/rent is there, the friends rally, all around
    there is support. Simply because you have made the
    choice, for it is the choice that comes first.

  15. “Life Can Change – If You Want It To”, and this paired with the willingness to deeply care for and learning to love oneself brings a change of quality to life that no outside gain can give us. Nicole the simplicity of appreciation of the daily life you bring is so very solid and yet tender in its application.

  16. It takes a steady commitment to making loving and self-caring choices that supports the whole of the body that then allows true and lasting change.

  17. Choice, change, commitment to life = joy in full measure being abundant in your writing Nicole.
    It is very inspiring to read and appreciate the changes you have made to support this beautiful way of living.

  18. The most valuable realisation I have learnt from Universal Medicine is how much power we have in our own choices, and that we are the ones that create change.

  19. Nicole I loved reading your blog and how you realised that there was far more to life than what many of us accept as the norm, beautiful to read your transformation and feel how much love you now hold yourself with.

  20. The more we develop and commit to our relationship with self the more we realise that life is so much more and that our purpose of being here is to offer a reflection to another of what it is to live from an open heart and not the complications of the head.

  21. Beautifully expressed Nicole. The way you speak of choices has no sense of ‘having to give things up’ and become a major challenge, only letting go of complexity and exhaustion to simplify the way of living.
    “The choices I have made have come from a direct decision to live in a way that is truly supportive and loving – establishing a way of living that allows me to continue to develop a life of love and simplicity”.

  22. This is a beautiful testimony to the Livingness Nicole and when truly lived it is very powerful and life changing on many levels – we can all make this simple choice to align and embrace to this immense love and begin to see the miracles that unfold around us.

  23. The smallest of changes that are consistently chosen, then become a natural part of our daily lives and routine and then becomes a rhythm in the quality brought to everything we do. As that quality of self care deepens from acceptance and appreciation, there is the knowing that we are so much more than just our physical body.

  24. This a really big one to work on “Choosing to love myself for who I am – knowing I am enough just being me, that I do not have to please or appease anyone in order to gain acceptance or recognition.” It’s a very simple way to live to allow oneself to just be who they are – that already removes layers of complication out of life. How beautiful it would be if this was our foundation in life from an early age, supported to be ourselves in family, education, and employment.

  25. When it comes to the teachings and modalities of Universal Medicine, everyday miracles are an ordinary part of life.

  26. Yes, it definitely can change. My life has certainly moved around over the years, and I can confidently say that Universal Medicine has supported me to be aware of my choices and how they impact me and everyone around me. The awareness alone has allowed me to take responsibility for my life and including all the choices I make.

  27. I agree Nicole. My life has also changed significantly. Before I used to avoid responsibility and distract myself from any tensions I would feel by eating way to much and drinking alcohol. The foundation of self-care I have built over the last 10 years means I am actually enjoying life rather that managing my way through it.

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