767 thoughts on “Communication: What is Actually Coming Out of My Mouth and How Do I Truly Sound”

1. Zofia I totally understand what you are sharing here in that, our voice is much more powerful than what is actually being expressed through our mouths. I have noted this when I’ve had on-line counselling sessions and at times recorded it and played it back. My voice has changed. I can actually tell it’s been submissive, been in victim mode, angry, nice, flat etc. But at the same time, there has been moments when I’ve projected it with such authority and absoluteness, it is beautiful to hear and feel.

   I would also add that as our awareness increases with how we express, our hearing changes accordingly too. We then pick up how another is just by what we hear and respond from a different angle, instead of adding to their issues.

   There is more to our senses than the physical aspect. It seems that our senses have their responsibilities but they also feel more than what they see, hear, taste, smell and touch. Worth pondering over.

2. Zofia, I love how you have highlighted how the full embodied and authoritative voice is the one that resounds the universe, whilst the un claimed voice is hollow. This is my experience too and I find that now even greater awareness is afforded to me when I speak or express in any way.

   1. I recall years ago waiting at the train station and a random woman came to talk to me. What I observed was as she spoke about the state of this world, I found myself being drained more and more and in the end I had to move well away from her, as the depletion was very notable. It was a two way thing, me not being in my absoluteness and for this woman, her neediness of needing to be heard. Wow, there is more to life than living and breathing!…

3. LIFE – four letters that if claimed and lived from the Soul allow expression to be in its fullness: “With this, it was strikingly evident to me that communication is so much more than being about how we say something or what we say.” – it has all to do with how much we have claimed life lived from the Soul.

4. “And that if our voices do contain all our lived-choices then aren’t these choices super-powerful ‘tools’ in regards to clear or effective communication and expression?” – How we live and the choices we make are being communicated to everyone constantly. This is a huge responsibility if we really stop to think about it and as Zofia has shared, an amazing tool to use to reflect the responsible choices that we have made in life and continue to do so.

5. Great points Zofia – and I too know that I react to seeing photos of me of recordings of my voice, or videos and I think it is strange to see myself as I have these pre-concieved ideas of how I ‘should’ look or sound or move etc. But what I like about the point you are making is that we can tell there is a part of us that is ‘restricted’ and it is this holding back that we sense as we know there is so much more to be expressed. What a blessing to see this and know it so that we can then let it all out to the best of our ability.

6. Thank you Zofia, what a delightful read. I am working with an esoteric practitioner around presenting and the next step in our sessions is to look more at voice, so this is perfect timing to read today. I honestly hadn’t considered that everything I am living and aligned to is coming through my voice – makes perfect sense though. In a basic way I can hear changes in my voice and expression so I appreciated the detail you gave around what our voice could communicate. It’s another level of energetic responsibility for me to look at, thank you.

7. I am about to be recorded so this is a timely reminder to express all of who I am, nothing more, nothing less.

8. Just recently I had to interview someone and then use that interview for a class assignment and I wasn’t really looking forward to listening to how I sound when I speak. On one hand, it was easier to listen to than it would have been in the past but I noticed that I sounded like someone I’d made a judgement on a few months back. What I found interesting about this was the way this person spoke irritated me and I couldn’t stand her voice and yet here I was sounding very similar. Now I wonder if it was the reflection that I didn’t want to look at or another layer of lack of self-worth by not wanting to accept how I sound.

9. The words that come out of our mouths are simply little packets of energy, packets that hold what we are wanting to communicate, but at the same time holding everything we are feeling and everything we have lived up to that moment in time. So, by using our awareness and not just our ears, we can get a truer sense of what is being communicated; always very revealing indeed.

10. When we don’t like our picture or our voice there’s a reason why – how can we not love what is authentically us – unless somewhere along the way that authenticity has been compromised or reduced or changed.

    1. Beautifully said, Meg. Then when we don’t like something about us, it is no longer about fixing or improving it, it is about undoing that which is stopping us being who we are.

    2. A great point and sharing Meg, have we lost, or compromised, our true self, and so dislike the false version of ourselves.

11. I want to talk to myself today to hear what I sound like.

12. I love listening to meetings where there are several people sharing…the tone and cadence everything changes depending on the energy we are in and where we are at….some comments can bring the group down and others lift the whole energy of the group….we can learn so much from these play-backs.

13. I have had something similar happen to me about a video where I saw my reaction coming through it was so great because I could see how harming this was. I have also had the opposite happen where hearing an audio interview I was amazed at how lovely and warm I felt it was very confirming.

    1. That is great observation and observation is what brings us awareness to deepen our love.

14. Our voices give away so much about how we are living and the state we are in at that moment. I am having expression sessions with Carola Woods and it has become very clear when I am letting my body be like an instrument, resonating with divinity or when I restrict or control what comes out. The latter feels like I am polluting myself and my environment. Whereas the former leaves me feeling open and light and I can feel the healing ripple effect of the vibration of my words.

    1. Awesome experience Fiona – we get instantly boosted or instantly dropped depending on the quality that we allow through us.

15. I have recently began facilitating flight attendants in my workplace for a new aircraft type, speaking all day has bought a different awareness around my voice and the quality I am speaking with, and the responsibility we bring whether we are presenting, conversing one on one, or speaking to large groups.

16. Our voice carries a vibration that holds all that we have lived. The quality of sounds which is a vibration through our voice can be either healing or harming, so it makes sense that it can be pretty revealing when we hear the sound of our own voice.

    1. Our voice reflects so much about how we have been living.

17. I often hear people say they do not like the sound of their voice. After reading your blog Zofia, it makes sense why this is so because our voice reflects how we choose to live and what energy we choose to align to.

18. It is very brave to come out from the corner and allow yourself to be seen, especially when the hidden corners of life have been so comfortably sought. But I just know that this is the way forward for us all, for each person on this earth to stand up and out and remain seen for all the beauty and glory that we all are – the true beings that we are.

19. We cannot escape the fact that all we live is reflected in every way we interact, our eyes, the way we use our face, our movements and our voice.

    1. So true Annelies, and we cannot hide energy, it is always there for everyone to read and when we are open to reading energy we cannot be fooled by any movements or expressions.

20. The lack of self judgement within this blog is very refreshing to read. It is a loving honest open approach to understanding oneself that always offers a deepening. Self judgement is the bat that one takes to themselves that crushes any opportunity to awaken our deeper senses.

21. I’ve experienced both being amazing at a recording of my voice and being horrified – yet same person, same voice, it’s a hundred percent down to what is going on for me at the time and my choices and my willingness to speak the truth or not before the recording.

22. It is way too easy to leave our body when we are exposed to others. It is way too horrible to do so. Being out there without being fully present in the body gives us no anchor to our movements. Without an anchor we are hopeless.

23. What we hear is more than just the words, but how we have been living is also being communicated – wow, nothing can hide really. No wonder so many of us choose to numb ourselves so that we can just stay at and deal with the surface level of our communication when our preference gravitates towards irresponsibility.

    1. And knowing that there is nothing we can hide offers us a choice, a choice to be totally honest and open to others or to ‘numb ourselves’ which in the end hides nothing, as on an energetic level, all is felt. This is a form of science which we would all benefit from learning and living as children.

24. Why are so many of us so awkward and shy about seeing and hearing ourselves?

25. How many of us have listened to a recording of our own voice and thought – ‘eep is that what I sound like?!’ I like the point you make about it not being our voice per se that we don’t like but more so a reaction we have to the reflection of how we are living and the depth to which we hold back. This makes perfect sense, because we are naturally designed to express from the depth and warmth of who we truly are (our Soul) and to in any way hold this back will register as an abuse/reduction of this divinity. It is a work in progress for us all.

26. I find it scary at times what comes out of my mouth. I can feel to say one thing, say it yet it comes out completely differently and instead of being an appreciative comment can have a massive sting to it. I find this happens when I am not feeling enough myself and so am not backing myself with what I am saying and so add more words which completely change it from the love of the initial feeling to the action of the words.

27. When we open our mouths everything we have been living up to that point is expressed and felt, we can either be healing or harming with the tone and quality of our voice.

28. mmm very interesting. We communicate so much beyond words and it is all felt! Building a relationship with how we live means less focus needs to be placed on how we express because there will be a consistency and transparency across it all.

29. Recently I have come to the realisation that often the way I communicate can be a bit half hearted – in that I say something but hold back a little so don’t quite deliver all that is there to be shared completely. In turn this allows an opportunity for what I say to be misconstrued and misunderstood. There is much learning here for me to be open to as the quality and fullness of the way we communicate is so important in fostering and nourishing our relationships with not only others but equally with ourselves.

30. So much is communicated in the energy of our words, which is picked up not only by the ears of the listening person but by their whole body, our whole body is in communication all the time.

31. It is utter illusion to think we can communicate without the imprint of our unhealed hurts

32. Our voice and our whole body is an expression of the way we are living.

33. There are some things we do not want to see and we block them and restrict access to us. We may not want either to really hearing us while we speak so we pay attention to something else instead of to the everything about the delivery and what it transpires.

34. It is true we communicate so much more than we realise and also pick up more than we acknowledge. It is interesting sometimes to watch an audio of someone speaking without the sound on and you can hear a lot just by their movements. For example, are the trying to convince you or impose their opinions on you or are they simply presenting?

    1. You can learn so much from observing in this way. The hooks to buy, be convinced and fall for are so familiar that when they are not there, it feels odd because it isn’t pulling you, it leaves you be to listen and engage in your own space. If you don’t want to engage on that level it could even be classed as boring – what a missed opportunity.

       1. Ha Lucy you make a good point, without the hooks and jingle jangles the simple tones of clarity may indeed be classed as boring.

35. When people have this window of awareness open that you are talking about, when people actually feel the quality of the voice in their body, they had the opportunity every time they speak to feel where they are actually coming from… It can be, if you choose, a fast track of personal evolution.

36. I understand the ahem, I have recently been doing video recording of me and to hear and see me after is indeed very telling. It so shows how I’m being in my day to day and that in fact nothing is hidden, but here’s the thing I can stop and address this or I can gloss over it and continue, and often I do the later … the question really is how willing are we to address what we see and find, do we bury what we notice or actually look at what it’s presenting? A worthwhile and an uncomfortable read today.

37. The beautiful thing is that – there two ways of communicating – one that get things off our chest or gets us recognition – and one that speaks for another, from something deeply heartfelt. And it isn’t always in the one liners or big note scentences, it is in the everyday flow.

38. Awesome blog. We can’t hide anything no matter how hard we might try. It makes me want to listen to a recording of my voice and do a reading on myself 🙂

39. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living.” and so we get to feel the level of responsibility we have when we communicate as we possess within ourselves the power to either heal or harm another depending on the choices we make in life.

40. Everything that we are aligned to, at any point in time, comes through our voice.

41. I’ve recently become more aware of people’s voices – is it a deep resonant sound from inside someone’s body, or something a bit thin and tremulous which I notice when someone is less than connected? When I notice the difference in myself its extraordinary how they sound, and it informs me of exactly where I’m at.

42. The ageless wisdom – is our saviour light , our key to heaven back to our Soul. Simply because it offers us the re-connection to all the wisdom known and needed to live again on this earth in our current excistence.

43. I may have to come back and read this one again! I used to hate the sound of my voice but I have started to noticed that I can hear in my voice how I have been living and have appreciated the subtle changes rather than waste time berating myself.

44. Our voices can give a lot away when we speak, like speaking really fast, or with a higher pitch, or a tone that has threads of frustration or whatever in it. You can also feel the depth and beautiful feel of someone who is speaking from their truth, their whole body is talking and it also ignites fire within ourselves.

45. How we have been living affects all of us, that includes how we speak and what we say, ‘The full, spacious and deep resonate sound of an equalising authority-lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area’.

46. Very well communicated about communication. Love is all about lots of communication. You cannot go wrong in the detail and spelling it all out. This way there is an understanding.

47. Communication is much more than how we say something, but more to do with how we have been living, ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.’ Absolutely.

48. Its so much more than words that are being communicated when we speak. I enjoyed reading this blog again Zofia.

49. This is another factor of responsibility we should be considering – our voice is a vibration. As a vehicle of expression, we are responsible for what energy we connect to therefore to be expressed, and our voice carries a unique vibration in which that energy gets expressed.

50. Awesome blog and perfect timing for me to read this Zofia as I have been listening to my voice recently on some audios and I could clearly feel the times when I was speaking from my mind or trying too hard versus when I spoke in connection with my body. The difference was so obvious and a clear marker of how healing it is when we speak from our livingness rather than from any need or investment.

51. Not many speech specialists would teach that all your choices and the quality of energy these hold are the keys to true expression.. I wonder if this is also the key to true confidence? Knowing and living with the authority of living true and loving choices offers a solid platform to then present ourselves from no matter what the circumstances.

52. Thanks Zofia, I enjoyed exploring all you shared here, and appreciated this line about how we can express verbally by “just being the all-natural-unaffected-me.” I know how it feels when I just let myself be me, and how it feels when I’m not connected and I’m protected, needy, or unsettled in some way. We can sometimes forget to appreciate how lovely it is and how much we bring by just being our simple selves, voice included.

53. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” – This is such as great point, that what we are communicating comes with how we have been living and our energetic state of being in that moment rather than just the meaning of the words themselves.

54. This totally explains why many of us never want to hear ourselves talk. We then have to hear and feel all that we have lived, which can be very revealing.

    1. Yes true but it can also be a great confirmation if we have been living lovingly 🙂

55. I am tempted to record my voice and listen to what I can hear beneath the words. A similar thing happens to me when I see photos of myself. I will sometimes be shocked and ask myself ‘do I really look like that?’ Lots to ponder on here.

    1. Same for me Debra. I sometimes hear my own voice from a recording and realise what I think I sound like doesn’t match the recording. I think it would be fun to do a voice recording every day of how I am feeling and see if the sound changes in relation to how I feel.

56. I love what you are offering in this article Zofia, I haven’t really paid much attention to the way in which I communicate or the quality of my sound. It is so great that you highlight the responsibility we all carry with the way we speak and that it can either be harming or healing for the listener. Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic and inspiring me to explore this further for myself.

57. Its what I am noticing in my own voice and also in hearing voices of others, especially in meetings online where you don’t see the other persons. It is always the way we live that comes through us and our voice will always let us hear how we are with ourselves in the moment and what we have lived upon that point. Your blog is very inspiring to deepen the relationship we have with ourselves because like you say we need ‘to be seen heard and listened to and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there to be captured by photograph or audio and enjoyed by all.’

58. Zofia I love how you have expressed the responsibility we hold, every time we utter a word, how often do we stop to truly feel what we have delivered, and why it was delivered that way?

59. An honest and inspiring blog. Love the attention you bring to the detail here Zofia on the sound of our voice and how the various tones reflect exactly what is being lived – past hurts, frustration, anger, joy, harmony.
    “In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!”

60. Thank you for this great blog Zofia. The voice carries such a potential to either heal or harm and it is something we are all doing most of the time – speaking! It is incredible when you think about it. We could be healing the world the whole time. It doesn’t mater whether we are talking about the price of vegetables or delivering a momentous speech – the only thing that matters is the love and truth in the quality of our voice when we deliver.

61. People say a picture holds a thousand words – so how many words do words hold? Photos are revealing, and we can see and understand what is behind the smiles by looking at the still frame of movement, the eyes especially are a giveaway of how a person is feeling. Listening to a voice recording is different because it is capturing the actual movement, it’s not just a still shot, it’s energy in movement and therefore a lot more going on that we can read and understand if we listen beyond the words.

62. Hearing is a bit like seeing. In the same way that we do not really see what is in front of us but a filtered/distorted version of it, the fact that we do not listen how we sound when we speak and hence live in a sort of bubble that is not really aware of our voice and its power operates as a filter/distortion too. That is why pictures and audios are so revealing. Is that the real me?

63. Great blog Zofia, our voices are a reflection of how we live, and heard by others it is either harming or healing, depending on the depth of our hurts or the depth of our love.

64. A powerful reminder Zofia of what comes out of our mouths has a lasting affect on ourselves and those around us. I had a few cringe worthy moments this week when my family and I was looking through old family videos. When I heard myself talking or yelling etc. I remembered where I was at in an instant. It was very controlling, protective and full of beliefs and ideals and was awful to feel. We can either weld so much of what we are not or allow all that we are to come from within us out when we express.

65. What a great blog – I love the way you describe the science of our sounds Zofia. It is true we can react like a animal startled, at the tone and way we actually express. I feel this occurs because we know the true quality and vibration we can bring, but prefer to think this is always happening. The uncomfortable truth is there is a great deal that we say, every day that does not come with the vibration of Love and truth. I am starting to feel having read your words, that whilst it might be confronting to start with, it would be awesome to tune into everything that we put out – because it all illustrates whether we are truly being ourselves, or not.

66. Everything is a reflection of how we choose to live from day to day. We cannot ‘fix’ the quality of our voice, it exposes every moment of holding back the power we know we are as does our movement and in effect our whole body. We reflect either the love of God or of creation.

67. Many years ago I used to get very irritated with people who used to speak slower and with quality, and in addition resisting being gentle there always seemed to be an internal struggle, which I can now see as coming from being stubborn and irresponsible, but knowing all the time that was where I was heading and that it was inevitable. Now that I choose the gentleness more consciously and value it greatly I can feel the benefits and the quality it delivers in other areas of my life, including the quality of my voice.

68. Some years ago I went through a phase where I became super aware of how what came out of my mouth, in particular when I shared in a large groups was of such a lesser quality than what I experienced within and wanted to share before I spoke – I regularly found myself cringing. This revealed to me how much of a disconnect there was between the Livingness in my body and what I thought and felt. Since then I have paid a lot more attention to my body, what I eat, how I move, when I take a break and so forth and the gap has reduced significantly. I am starting to find that I can verbally express what is within and that is very joyful and well received.

    1. The same also applies with how I move because we communicate even more with our movements than we do when speaking and we also say a lot when we don’t speak!

       1. Very true Nicola, we communicate far more with our ‘non-verbals’ than what we say, therefore our movements are super powerful.

69. A great expose of the awareness that is possible should we choose it and the responsibility we have to not choose to live less than we are in any form… for to do so means that it is only the less that will and can ever be expressed and therefore the more that we deny both ourselves and everybody else.

70. I love how you share that the quality of our expression comes from the way we are choosing to live. However we might try to create a polished speech for instance, it is still our livingness that delivers it. This is awesome to feel Zofia, thank you.

71. It takes great honesty and willingness to see and feel a reflection like that as you did Zofia and I am glad that you did as it is a very important topic for us all to look at. How we live does affect our voice and what we are communicating is far more than words – energy.

72. It’s so true Zofia, we can either express ourselves from our fullness or from our emptiness – I am beginning to realise and accept that there is nothing in between.

73. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” I too have never enjoyed having my photo taken or hearing my voice played back to me after a recording. A point to ponder on deeply. Thankyou for this Zofia.

74. This is a great topic to cover Zofia – as how we speak, how often we speak and what we speak about are all reflections of how we are living – ie what energy are we choosing to let run our bodies.

75. It is amazing the difference of quality in pictures of when one connects and knows their true beauty to when one is self-abusive – absolutely amazing. I have seen this in my own as well as many many others within the student body of Universal Medicine.

76. I am struck not just by the healing benefits for others when we speak our truth but also for ourselves as we communicate from love and let go of past hurts and reactions. The healing power of sound in action.

    1. Even though it has been quite uncomfortable at times over the years to hear another express truth to me about how I have been living or something I have been doing, it resonates so deeply in every cell of my body, and I can not deny that it is absolute and love.

77. ‘Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice.’ This is so revealing and such a powerful learning for me as I too have always avoided hearing my spoken voice and cringed when I did. Of course I was reacting to the reaction I could hear and feel in my voice. I have had lots of frustration about how mangled my communication could often be and hurt that people were not ‘getting’ me but this really brings it back to my awareness that actually they are receiving the quality or not of my livingness and the more I express my truth the clearer my communication becomes and any misunderstandings are easily sorted without the need for reaction.

78. Loved reading this, Thank you Zofia

79. Zofia you present a great point of reflection here. I know there is a different quality to my tone, pace, and even what I say when I am deeply connected to myself – I feel the voice reflects me. However if I am anxious, distracted, or otherwise not myself this too is reflected in my voice. In fact those who know me will comment on the change, and inquire ‘what is up?’

80. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.”
    A great conversation to have with ourselves and listen to the rhythm that we living in.

81. I love what you share Zofia. What you say and when you say it even if it is honest and true can be misinterpreted or the effect made null and void simply by how you say it as the expression of such variables as your tone, body language and general disposition all collectively have an massive effect on our clarity and our ability to communicate clearly and lovingly.

82. When I pay attention to it (not always but working on it) I can instantly feel where I am at within myself by where my voice is coming from. What I mean by that is if my voice is up in my throat and coming from my head, I know I am disconnected from the rest of me and therefore not in my full expression. If it is resonating beautifully in my chest, sending vibrations down my arms and legs I know that I am expressing from and with all of me. The quality and feeling of the sound is completely different.

83. Thank you Zofia for bringing awareness to the fact that how we are living comes through in our voice.

84. Wow this is a brilliant description of what you were able to read in your voice Zofia, and how it revealed what was happening for you and how you were living. Amazing: ‘It was easy to hear restriction in my voice, the over extending or pronouncing of certain words; intonation to make a point, convince, or sell [most probably from years of being in the sales profession]; the subtle hook of stimulated excitement causing speediness that creates a distance between me and those I am conversing with. Most pertinently and clearly heard was an unresolved hurt and reaction from a work situation that had been occurring at the time of the recording. Wow! … there was no getting away from hearing these unspoken elements, feeling the quality they delivered…’

85. I’ve noticed a difference in the quality and sound and pitch of my voice that varies depending on whether I am speaking the truth or not. When I speak the truth it comes out strong and with power, and when I am not speaking the truth much weaker and softer – it’s fascinating!

86. ‘Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.’ This is gold Zofia, your whole blog exposes how we communicate can either harm or heal. In the past I know I have also squirmed when I have heard my voice on a recording, if we remain open and don’t judge ourselves there is a lot to learn from the quality of our voice and how we are living.

87. “Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.” I am sure if more people would be aware of this fact and also that we all can feel the energy behind the spoken words all of the time – most of us would chose to live differently e.g. more self loving, more appreciating themselves and others, more responsible . . .

88. This is a great article zofia, so much for me to ponder on, such a difference in my voice when I am holding back, as to when I am with myself expressing. I will be much more aware of the quality of my being when i am speaking. A great revealer of how I am living my life.

89. Brilliant article Zofia. I love it even more this time I am coming back to it and re-reading it. Real quality! The quality of our voice is so revealing of the quality in which we live life. I can feel this morning how tender and full of love my voice is compared to the strained and jagged sound that it was transmitting yesterday. It is a joy to speak and feel the emanation of love. The voice is an extraordinary sensitive revealer of the music or dissonance of our body. There is nothing we can hide!!

90. Zofia, I am so glad you have exposed this about the voice and all our lived way is in its sound. Expression is everything and everything is known by all. How exposing and confirming. The ability to respond to life with love is on show physically, as it is auditory. Great story Zofia, thank you.

91. Good article that you have written Zofia and I share many of your feelings around expression. I find it very interesting that our voice illustrates the quality of our life choices

92. You have brought up so many great points! Our voice carries all of the qualities that we are living in our life, and the need to perform or say something right is holding back our natural expression which is the joy of us! The key I have found is to always be aware of energy and respond to questions and situations by reading energy first.

93. As well as being aware and responsible for our expression, it is wise to be aware that we are feeling and experiencing the full package of livingness of anyone and everyone whenever they express, whether it be verbally, singing, writing, moving and even not speaking – all these are expressions. We all know how often an angry person can express with a smile or in soft tones and that what is presented is not always as it may first appear. When we don’t discern the true energy we get knocked by what we have allowed in without discerning.

94. What a wonderful blog Zofia, it is so true what you say. I too remember in the past once hearing an audio of myself and having it exposed to me just how much racy-ness there was in my voice. I had not felt it myself inside, but there was no denying what I heard – it was a shocker. After that I really looked at how I was living my life and became much more aware of the quality and responsibility of what, how and when I expressed.

95. A great wake-up call here. To note that there is no place to hide, that pretence is futile, because it comes out in our eyes, our walk and also our talk. The way we live and how we feel is reflected and can’t help but be evident in all we do. When we consider just how much we rely on spoken communication to present ourselves, make ourselves understood and express how we feel, then it makes sense that all that we are gets communicated in the timbre, depth and vibration of the voice, even when we think we’re doing a great job of disguising the truth. The body – and by extension, the voice – never lies.

    1. Yes, a wake up call indeed. I feel like I have been offered a great key though, because the level of anxiety we live with as normal could be addressed by taking a moment to see if we are living a transparent life or trying to live to a picture that is not true. Offering a moment of reflection could change our movements sufficiently to offer ourselves more ease within our bodies and thereby lessen the anxiety.

96. Thank you Zofia, I really loved reading your blog, it made me realise how much I read from listening to another person’s voice, but I am not so consciously aware of how my own voice sounds and feels. It’s time to record my voice and feel into what my voice has to offer me and others.

97. Our voice is a give-away of the energy we have in our body. Nothing can mask what is going on when we are attuned to the sounds we are making. It is a great tool for realising what is going on in the world, and not taking on its flow, which could be exhausting us and we don’t even know.

98. Amazing! Our voice reveals so much about the way we are living, and the tone of our voice shows whats really going on inside us. a great tool for when we are out in life and find ourselves “waffling on” about something.

99. It is amazing when we apply our listening skills our communication skills with our voices/expression also have clarity.

100. When I hear my voice or when I see myself in a photo and go ‘No’ – it’s not a confirmation of how terrible I sound/look and judging myself, but it is a knowing that what I am being encountered with is the fact that I am living holding back.

101. I know that ‘Is that what I sound/look like?’ moment of realisation that made me cringe and not want to be captured on photo or recording. There are many who train and perfect the way to present themselves, but there is something very special when someone lets themselves be seen for who they are and speaks from their lived authority.

102. Zofia this is such a brilliant blog to re-visit, recently I became aware of how I spoke on the phone at times with a tension like I was attached to another understanding me. This awareness has been an eye-opener and allowed me to notice other interactions where I need something from another instead of enjoying and allowing for a true connection with another. This line really stood out for me and is a great reminder for me to take into my day -‘When we realize the effect and responsibility we each have living and communicating with lived-love, and as we deepen our livingness towards this, the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous.’

103. We simply can’t hide. Everything we have chosen for ourselves can be heard and felt in the sound our voice.

104. ‘… behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.’ Great reminder and inspiration to regularly check in with ourselves through the sound of our voice.

105. I am becoming more aware of what comes with the words I speak. Even if the words are well chosen not to offend or hurt, what comes out is exactly how I am feeling at the time. I’m realising how important it is for me to be honest about this so that I am not communicating mixed messages i.e. saying one thing but meaning another.

106. I have been experimenting with my voice in the classroom. I notice when I am competing with the noise of the classroom my voice is harsh and strained It actually requires a lot of force to speak like this. My new thing is to ask for quiet in my normal voice. Although it is quieter, the students actually respond better to it and will stop talking sooner. It is an invitation to listen rather than a command.

107. This has truly struck a ‘cord’ with me, while reading this blog this morning. Listening to others speak I can feel the different tones in their voices and how some soothe, some revitalise, some agitate etc. Pondering on the power of this will unfold gently what it all has to offer deeply. Your comment Zofia – ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living’ is very powerful in it’s offering as not only the words are exposing but also the actual tones and vibration of the voice itself. Thank you for initiating yet another unfolding for us all.

108. Re-reading this again, I am struck by how much we communicate all the time. Certainly more than we realise, and people are affected and influenced by so much more than the mere words we are using – its the tone, speed, volume and of course gestures, but more than that its the energy behind it. The intention we are speaking in and with that predicates it all.

     1. I agree, and it brings a level of responsibility that is a little daunting if we are, once again, trying to be perfect! If we can see our expression as the end result of the choices we are making and the movements we are living then it inspires a whole body and whole life approach rather than compartmentalizing it and, essentially, abdicating responsibility for what comes out of our mouths or is seen by others.

109. Thank you Zofia, the impact our voice has is enormous, sometimes I choose to be aware of this and other times I feel I don’t want to hear how my voice is reflecting the state I am in even when I think can hide what is bothering me it is heard in my voice. We can never not be responsible for what we are expressing and express we do with our whole body and our voice is a very powerful and beautiful part of this.

110. Inspiring again to read about how our voices reflect everything that is inside us, indeed all that we are comes through our voice, and how amazing it is that we have a marker of connection and truth actually built in, like a GPS or nav-sat of conscious presence.

111. This is a good point.
     Its not that we don’t like the sound of our own voice but we have all the stuff revealed to that we communicate every single day.
     This is what we don’t like.
     I have to admit in the past I avoided hearing my own voice recording.

112. “..taking greater responsibility in delivering effective communication that has love at its core and as its impetus. Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.”
     This is such a powerful statement and really does up the stake for that word Responsibility. Thank You Zofia for spelling it out and sharing how important our voice actually is and what it means.
     Who would guess that a deep buried unresolved hurt can come up when we communicate but from my own experience I have to agree as I know it is true.
     Years ago I was recording for radio and the trial was played back and NO I really did not like my voice and I could clearly feel where I was at because it was how I was living at the time – a bit fast paced and my body was hard from protecting myself as the world was crazy and I did not want any more hurt to get inside.
     Thank God for Serge Benhayon who really has the tools to clear our hurts and Live a life that is true so we can communicate with true power. I am learning and living in this way now to the best of my ability.

113. I so enjoyed reading this sharing this morning Zofia. It gently reminded me of when I see others and I ask ‘How are you feeling today’? The response is often ‘I’m fine’!!!! Not because of the words that they use but more of the tone with their voice which, actually reveals so much more. Asking the question again (through their choosing) the truth starts to be shared, body postures change and clear changes in the tone of what they then express is much clearer and honest. I recognise this in myself as I used to be exactly the same once. As you share ‘the way I was living was being reflected in my voice’. Big time.

114. When we listen to someone else we hear so much more than just the words and so it has to also be true that others hear and feel so much more of us than just the words we speak. Am I speaking from my head or is the truth of all I say coming from my body? This is also true of the words I write.

115. ‘…when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with..’
     This makes so much sense Zofia – how often do we talk with friends about our family or partners and say everything we didn’t say at the time? Our friends or anyone else we may speak to, bare the brunt of our reactions and unresolved hurts. It’s really about dealing with what is presented to us to evolve in each and every moment. Like saying NO to loaded communication and asking that person to say it another way.

     1. ‘…when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with.’ This is why it is our responsibility to watch what and how we are saying things. I used to think it is just the words harming others but it is everything we don’t say that is even more harming.

116. ‘In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!’ – I love this! Our body does not lie and we cannot hide the fact of how we live.
     It’s all a giveaway, how we sound, the way we walk or dress or move – it’s all expression that exposes how we are with ourselves.

117. A very powerful blog, Zofia! Reading the voices of others tells us in fact so much about them as it reflects how they feel, how they live and how expanded or dense they are. We can immediately know if they tell the truth if we really feel the quality of the voice and of course, we can also read very much in paying attention to our own voice. When I am with myself and with my body, I can feel my voice in my whole body like a warm, resonating wave and my expression feels very strong then.

118. Thank you Zofia for this important reminder that ‘what actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living’. The truth is we can either harm or heal through what we say and how we say it.

119. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” Wow these are powerful and revealing words if we really choose to take responsibility and listen to all you have shared Zofia, thank you.

     1. That way of living, our movements, our breathing and the energy we choose to allow in and through our bodies creates a certain vibration or frequency and that is precisely what is communicated all the time – no matter what the words are.

        1. Yes Simonwilliams8. I have felt safe in focusing on the words. if they are well chosen, my message will get across, but there is so much more to it, and actually the words are secondary to the energy that comes with them. I love science so it makes sense to me that how we are feeling and living will create a certain vibration or frequency within us that then gets communicated through our words.

120. Hi Zofia that was an awesome blog with an amazing revealing “Boom”. Your wrote: “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” How great is that! We all can feel very clearly how we are living – so there is no way to play a role or to wear a masque – we are all naked – so to speak – no that is not a bad dream that is the reality and we have to deal with it. Now I too understand why I do not like my voice recorded – it is time to face it and not to ran away . . .

121. “When we realize the effect and responsibility we each have living and communicating with lived-love, and as we deepen our livingness towards this, the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous. And so with this, absolutely, why not then take the time to slow down, invite people to be in-time with us, come out from the background, be seen, heard, listened to, and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there to be captured by photograph or audio and enjoyed by all.” Beautiful said Zofia.
     We need to become more aware of the way with communicate with another in regards to the energetic responsibility but also about our communication patterns how much do we really listen and take time to speak with people.

122. Zofia, I absolutely love this powerful blog. You have shared so much wisdom and there are many points of truth that are absolute gold. Today (as I will definitely be reading this again) this one stood out mostly for me – ‘when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with, leaving communication and our voice not clear or free.’ As this for me highlights the responsibility we all have with what we are choosing to share of ourselves. That essentially within our hearts we all have the wisdom of knowing who we and the truth that is there to be shared. And when we choose to connect to this, to our love within and live this in our lives ‘the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous.’ Thank you Zofia as this has been truly healing to read.

123. Zofia, I feel as if I have just had a most profound lesson on expression, communication and reading what comes out of mine, and other peoples mouths.
     Your blog is so insightful, I know I will be revisiting!

124. “With this, it was strikingly evident to me that communication is so much more than being about how we say something or what we say. That the ‘how’ has nothing to do with quietness, loudness, politeness, the great choice of words, but instead that its finesse, or lack of, is constituted by the actual way we choose to live life.” This struck a chord with me because I can feel the difference in the way I communicate based on what’s going on in my life at the time which in turn is as a result of whether I’ve chosen to honour and nurture myself or whether I have chosen a path of disregard – and understanding that all of this can be felt by another. As much as I try to conceal how I’m feeling at times I know I very rarely succeed.

125. Zofia this is profound! Blows out of the water the previously preferred modes of hiding behind the ‘I’m shy’ notion of being with life, revealing it is merely a state of holding myself back. Why?! For what purpose is there to keep from myself or the world, all the power that lays within the connection to all I am.

126. Thank you Zofia for this reminder that every expression is equally important and the influence we have by either being who we are or a lesser version because of our emotions. I can relate to how I did not recognised and even disliked my tone of voice when I heard it back in a recording. And of course it is what I have lived upon that point what I get reflected and what I donot want to hear. I will be more aware of my voice from now on and use it as another marker for living my truth.

127. What great insights into our voice and how we sound is because of how we live, in other words, our choices on a daily basis; can be heard through our voice and how we speak, makes complete sense to me. Thank you for sharing Zofia.

128. Zofia I loved what you’ve written here. Great to bring attention to. Possibly this is why we don’t like photos of ourselves?… Because it shows us a reflection of how we have been living.

     1. And video is the most revealing of all as it has the picture, the voice and our movements. No hiding there…

129. A great and very revealing contribution, another confirmation of the fact that nothing is without its very own impact and consequences, that everything happens for a reason and because of something that has gone before or concurrently – absolutely everything matters, down to the smallest detail, whether we like it or not.

     1. A lovely reminder Gabriele; absolutely everything matters, down to the smallest detail. Will take this into my day….

130. Zofia, I often find that I am listening to how I sound when I speak, I am getting a reflection as I speak, when I speak from the love that I am I can feel it in all my body. It feels like a warm, gentle loving feeling coming out of me, I can also feel the difference when I speak from another place. Your blog bought a much deeper awareness. Thank you.

131. Zofia, it’s so easy to get caught in the words we speak, but really it’s the quality of how we speak them and I know my voice really does reflect how I feel and actually how I live, even though that’s not something I’ve always wanted to acknowledge (I’ve expected to be able to perform on tap at will, without taking into account that everything comes with that, how I’ve lived, what I’m carrying in my body). And I’ve done it very deliberately by living a reduced speeded up version of me, and not that full one which is spacious, gracious, and wants to truly meet the other; with this way it’s less about outcomes and yet things get done with ease and less effort. So one to remember, voice is no different from touch, if I’ve been hard of course it comes out in how I touch things, but it’s also there in how I speak!

132. “In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway”! – Me too Zofia!
     Recently, I have become more aware of how I feel communicating with others that have ‘standout’ quality in their voices. Reading this blog has allowed me the full understanding and acceptance of why that is.
     As I build a deeper, loving relationship with myself I’m choosing to change what and how I eat, walk, paint my nails, open a tin, sit, stand, lay, drive, type, smile and speak. (to name a few)!
     Thank you for sharing Zofia, I am inspired not only to stay on track but to use my voice as a marker of my choices.

133. Thank you Zofia, Great sharing I can so relate, the hardness that I hear in others was also heard in a old phone greeting of mine. The tension just comes thumping through, not supporting and in fact harming.Great to see the amount of awareness and care that can be brought to the simple act of speaking and how much others can be affected or supported by this.

134. A great question Zofia .. “if our voices do contain all our lived-choices then aren’t these choices super-powerful ‘tools’ in regards to clear or effective communication and expression?” Worth asking, in respect of what choices are we making and how are we making them, that will determine the quality of our interaction with everyone.. I love the level of responsibility this presents as a possibility, not as a weapon to be critical with, but just what level of awareness and responsibility we can bring to this communication, and with everything in life.

135. Hi Zofia – thank you for bringing this important topic to the fore. Although not thinking about it extensively, from experience I can say when I am deeply connected there is a strong resounding quality in how I am speaking – there is depth with no force. But when I am disconnected it can become weak, light, quiet, and empty – there is no self-fulfilment, so in turn I require this from others (which is very imposing). It’s about claiming me more in life and so when I speak I will be claimed and expressive in myself- more and more.

136. I Completely agree Zofia, I often listen/use the sound of my voice to see where I am at, in terms of being me and comfortable in my own skin. When something is troubling me my voice is always strained and somewhat harsh – it is a stand out for me and others notice also.

137. Great blog Zofia. A beautiful reminder of the extent to which those around us can feel, through our verbal expression, the quality of our livingness.

138. Wow, what a powerful and incredibly beautiful article Zofia. I really appreciate the depth of what you shared and the revelation of when we listen to a recording of our voice or really connect to what comes out of our mouths so much is revealed about how we are living from moment to moment.

139. What a brilliant and honest blog about an important topic. I have always been extremely self conscious about my voice, feeling very vulnerable and almost scared when speaking to groups. Maybe it has to do with what I feel could be exposed through my voice, as you suggest in your blog. The more in tune with me and my body I am, the more confident, spacious and natural it feels to speak to or with more than two people at a time. This is a great eyeopener and the topic begs for more reflection and awareness. Thank you, Zofia.

140. I agree Ariana, there are times when I have said something and then questioned where it came from as the words and way I said it just didn’t sound like me. The great thing is once I have noticed this then I will find a different and more gentle way to communicate what it is I want to say.

141. My judgment of myself naturally extended to my voice, how could it not. Some time ago I read a blog about someone lovingly recording messages for themselves. I was very inspired, and had a go myself. I was very loving and tender in how I did it, because I was aware of my judgment. When I listened to my recording I was blown away by the tenderness and love that I could hear in my voice. It was not what I had expected at all. This showed me that yes, my voice will be hard and dominating if that is the energy that I am in at the time, but it is not who I am, and equally, my voice can be tender and loving, and at times it can be very strong, deep and true.

     1. This is a great idea Catherine; I will try it out and practice reading the energy that my voice is conveying
        I will remember to be very loving, tender and honest as I feel the energy.
        Thank you Zofia and Catherine for highlighting “what is actually coming out of our mouths”

     2. That sounds like a great thing to do and I will definitely give it a go. How amazing to experience the living and clear energy in our voice rather than the old judgment of how we think it is or has been – when our voice changes with our level of presence and clarity, and quite often one moment to the next.

     3. This is such beautiful loving thing to do Catherine – I am inspired. Funnily enough I had to change my voicemail message to day at work and it took a few goes – to pause feel me and speak with love and authority. Each time the differences can tangibly be felt when replaying. We feel everything.

     4. Wow Catherine, I have never quite considered the extent of which I have judgement over the way that I sound, but what you present here is truly quite profound – that the source of the way our voice sounds come from within the quality of which we are in at the time

     5. Love this Catherine. What a great idea to check the sound and energy of our voices and hear the difference to when we are connected to when we are not.

142. This blog exposes the truth about the voice and sound……very timely. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living, And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” This is a powerful truth you have shared with us all. I have realised for myself, when I speak from all of me with presence……… my voice speaks from my whole body and I can feel my voice resonating from my heart.

     1. When I am speaking from all of me, it feels like I am at one with my body. There is no separation, like when I am ‘in my head’. Just a gorgeous flow throughout my whole being.

143. A truly huge blog, Zofia, exposing the truth behind the illusion that we can feign until we’re blue in the face, but our expression never lies and more alarmingly, can be so easily read through what we utter, write or convey. We take every bit of ourselves into each moment – including our emotions – so we reflect out exactly how we’ve been living. A real case of ‘Nowhere to run to, nowhere to hide’ and we’re deluding ourselves if we don’t know it so. True responsibility indeed.

     1. So true, everything can be heard in our own, or another’s voice, including any attempt to make our voice sound ‘better’, so as to mask any emotions such as anger or feelings of being lesser. It is all there, and very transparent. Its funny that we ever invented lie detectors, because we really have absolutely no need for them!

        1. “Its funny that we ever invented lie detectors, because we really have absolutely no need or them!” I love this simple observation Catherine. Lie detectors are obviously there to make us doubt our own innate ability to feel the truth. As you say, when we are connected to our inner-most everything can be heard “in our own, or another’s voice” and we are our own lie detector.

     2. I like the way you have used the word ‘alarmingly’ here. I know there are times when I think I’m getting away with covering up what is really going on with some nice words or a slick presentation but this blog definitely lifts the lid and exposes I’m not getting away with anything!

144. ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness’ – in turn, the quality of our livingness holds a degree of truth – a reflection of how ‘true to ourselves’ we have chosen to live. The truer our choices, the greater the reflection, for all.

145. Wow, as beautifully written as it is powerfully exposing of the responsibility each of us has in the way we live… harming or healing with our livingness that lies at the core of each expression.

146. Thank you Zofia! Very insightful! A year ago or so I became conscious of changes in my voice (at least I became very self-conscious about this). I realised that when I go into contraction (holding myself back), my voice is different, produced by a sort of knot in my throat. There is so much holding back that I can feel that my voice loses presence and power. Actually, this is only a reflection of me without presence and with no power. My voice just reflects how I feel in my body. Another interesting thing is that sometimes my throat gets suddenly all blocked and starts clearing. This tends to happen when I talk to someone who offers me a clear reflection that allows me to process in my own body and clear what does not honour what I am being offered.

     1. Thank you emfeldman for sharing about this feeling in your throat because I also have funny feelings in my throat sometimes and I never really payed attention to that and felt deeply into what it means and might offer to me.

147. I noticed while ago that I look different on the photographs taking by different people. Could it be that I choose to be more open and show myself to one person and hide away from another?
     I like to listen to people’s voices, expressions-it’s fascinating how much they can tell! The same with my own voice changing according to the situation or the audience I am talking to. It was just observations.
     Now after reading your article, Zofia, I become more aware of the measuring I put into my communications and importance of my livingness. Thank you.

     1. Brilliant awareness, elenalight!

     2. Thank you for sharing Elena and great reminder to pay more attention to my own and other people’s expression.

     3. Yes, we do allow ourselves to be seen more by some people than others and it would be amazing to change that so we are prepared to let everyone see us transparently for who we are.

148. When I feel into expressing myself I am aware that there is a lot of measuring happening when I allow myself to make a difference with whom I am talking to. As soon as I tune into the fact that we – including me and my audience – are equal I can’t do anything but deliver from who I am. Beautiful blog Zofia – to watch carefully and deepen the awareness of where I am at when I speak with someone or get photographed. In simple words: a reminder to surrender.

     1. Being photographed has been my pet hate for years, never sure what image I was projecting, or supposed to be projecting. Last week I had to have a photo taken for an identity card – and its the best ever! The child that looked the camera in the eye and was who she was at that moment, nothing more, nothing less, is coming back. Her voice is being heard too, every time the words come out with no editing, and I say what and how I feel, and surprise, surprise, when i speak that way its always from my heart, so its loving and supportive, even when its a truth some may not wish to hear.

        1. Wohh… What a beautiful sharing! It is to feel what you have been at and that you could feel the joy of being you and you claiming it whilst being photographed! Thank you*

149. Funny I hear so much more in others voices yet don’t even want make a voicemail message!! Busted haha…. it was great to read of another level of responsibility.

     1. Oh! I can so relate to what you say here Jaime – indeed, another reminder that of the responsibility we each have to ‘walk the talk’ as they say.

150. ‘In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!’ An inspiring line Zofia and a great reminder that once we express in one way or another, we cannot hide the quality in which we live.

151. You present great truth in this blog Zofia and I love your honesty which seemed to start from you realising,
     ‘Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice.’ What unfolded from this realisation and the depth of awareness you came to, is truly amazing. And as you have shared, we either express from our fullness or not.

152. Great blog Zofia. I am making a note to self as well. Am I speaking from the life that I have lived or am I speaking from self? Speaking with clarity without any appendages? I have felt and feel when I am speaking without the ‘baggage’, my voice resonates around my heart and lungs, similar to a humming sound. When speaking with the baggage comes a squeaky, high pitched voice with lots of throat clearing, in fact, speaking from this place gives me a sore throat.

153. I love this blog. It is a great reminder that everything can be heard and felt within sound. It’s a great marker to take into life. I find myself noticing how my voice sounds and relating it to how I have been feeling and what I have chosen for myself that day. I can hear whether I am playing it small or claiming myself, feeling down, disappointed or frustrated or full of joy. My voice tells me and everyone around me everything.

     1. ‘My voice tells me and everyone around me everything.’ When we notice something is going on in our voice we can choose to stop and lovingly feel what is there instead of blaming it on a cold or something and push through. No coincidence that I came across this blog at a time something is clearly going on in my voice.

     2. You have made me consider so much more about the importance of listening and feeling when I am around people and being responsible for what I put out through my expression.

154. Well spoken Zofia.

155. What you say Zofia really resonates with me as I know my voice changes to reflect different situations, whether one to one, in a group or on a microphone and this in turn feels like a refection of the way that I am living. And it also depends on whom I’m with. Time to really and truly look at how I’m living every moment. Great exposing.

156. Wow Zofia – what an awesome reflection and reading of yourself from listening to an audio. What occurred to me as I read your reflections, is that we can impose equally in our listening too, or we can be the observer, allowing the other the space to ‘hear themselves’. In my experience, the latter is very healing too.

157. Reading this again I realise just how much I am informed by a person’s voice when I speak to them on the telephone. Our entire lives are presented all at once, not verbally but in the tone and quality of our voice. Our voice gives as much, if not more, information than our body language. Thank you for bringing this conversation to the table Zofia, it has supported me and many others to realise just how powerful our voice is and if we truly take care of ourselves, what a beautiful healing we can deliver to others when we speak with an open heart.

158. A great subject for reflection and discussion, so true what Otto shared earlier, ‘The way you open the door to a room will change the first words that come out of your mouth when you enter the room. But don’t take my word for it – try it. Go on. Try it. It’s amazing. Well, it amazes me! And then after it has amazed me it makes me realise the depth of my responsibility. Because what if it wasn’t just the way I opened the door, but actually every single other movement and expression that leads up to me opening that door?’ A fun experiment that shows the extent of our responsibility. Our every movement affects our energetic state of being, and from there how we express in every way.

159. Zofia you have revealed there is a lot more to the voice than what we see on the surface. A few years ago I started to sense the difference in someone’s voice when they are being really honest I can hear the really harmonious resonant vibration that comes like a smooth flow with the sound of truth. Now that I have heard it I can tell when its not there, when the voice is harsh or breaking up I know It is not truth. As you say “the contrived and engineered versions of us struggling to fit the perception, image or ideal handed down and invested in from things such as our background, upbringing, accent, education, job, title, position and so on” all this stops my voice coming through with that harmonious resonance I know is truth.

160. Expression is everything! And your article clearly demonstrates that we have a choice of energy to align to which will produce:
     “1. a full, spacious and deep resonate sound of an equalising authority-lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal; or
     2.The emptiness or throaty, tin-sound reduction effect from living an unequal half or measured life bound by constraint, restraint, speediness, arrogance or loud confidence”.
     This then comes down to responsibility – for our words can be either healing or harming.
     Thank you Zofia for showing this very clearly and simply.

161. Reading your article helps me to reflect and understand why all through my life I’ve had many ongoing issues about being understood, finding it difficult to express, fights about what was or wasn’t communicated. No wonder! All the layers of unfelt emotion, the pulls of varying beliefs and obligations, the overwhelm, the reactions to every thing in life that I never recognised nor explicitly expressed that made my speaking so loaded energetically. And as we constantly receive and communicate energy with all, I can see why interactions with people have been intense and complicated, not to mention confusing.
     Thank you Zofia for a very revealing, honest look and sharing .

     1. Yes, I can also see in myself that whatever I hold within, magnifies the energy. All that is not expressed in clarity will find a way to come out with drama, confusion, etc. The body does not forget…

162. Great point you have presented Zofia. This would mean that how we live is not only presented when we communicate by voice but expressed in everything we do as well, since we carry everything we do with us. The way we live is on display for everyone to see and we use this to express with.. It would be a wise investment to suss out the way we are living.
     I loved reading the clear-cut difference between these two:
     1. The full, spacious and deep resonate sound of an equalising authority-lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal; or
     2.The emptiness or throaty, tin-sound reduction effect from living an unequal half or measured life bound by constraint, restraint, speediness, arrogance or loud confidence.

     Awesome.

163. Zofia, this is a beautiful sharing. It’s so true that all our choices stay with us and are expressed in all that we do.

     1. It certainly is Kate, we are indeed an accumulation of all our choices.

164. “Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.” thank you for sharing this, and for highlighting the importance of being present with my interactions with others.

165. A few days ago someone said:” I love my voice, how it sounds, I can listen to myself speaking all day!” It was coming from the person who truly loves herself and takes good care of herself and others. I agreed, the tone and intonations of her voice was soothing and healing.
     As many others have, I have been noticing how the tone of my voice changes depending on audience, my mood and time of the day. But I never thought about connection between it and my livingness. Now, after reading your blog, Zofia, I can see clearly all the measured expressions and inconsistencies and I am willing to bring attention to my daily choices and their effects. Thank you

166. This is such a huge topic Zofia. Thank you for starting the conversation. What has been coming to my awareness recently is how much space we allow others to express when we are communicating. I have noticed how we can either talk over the top of each other or allow the space and therefore equality when talking with others. So much is always happening!

167. The reflection we get from our body is really a blessing – if we take it like that. Thank you Zofia!

168. ‘Constantly we’re making everyday choices either to live the free, real-us, natural and loving, or as the contrived and engineered versions of us struggling to fit the perception, image or ideal…’. Herein lies the root cause of many of mine and society’s ills. Deep appreciation for Serge Benhayon for his continuous, undeterred lived expression of who we are and what this human life means. Thank you Zofia from Asia, for your spot on reflections and inspiration to stay true and never to stop seeking our true nature.

169. I just love your words here Amita, invite people to be in-time with us, come out from the background, be seen, heard, listened to, and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us. These words are so appropriate for me at this time, as I am choosing to do just that more and more, inviting people in to be in-time with me by way of me holding myself with grace and allowing them the grace to know themselves back by that.

170. Hi Zofia, thank you for your awesome blog – there was much in there for me to ponder on, bringing me to more of an awareness of the essence, the quality and the energy of what comes out through the mouth via the vocal chords. There are times when I hear the flawed resonance of how I speak on occasions, usually at times of self doubt or lacking in confidence when I have allowed that energy to make its’ presence known.
     I feel to read your blog several more times – reminding me to connect to me before speaking.

171. Otto this is such a practical tip on conscious presence thank you. When with myself the next choice of what I say will come from truth and love and there is no need for protection.
     How beautiful would all our voices feel and be if every time everyone opened their mouths, expressed sound from such awareness. It would be heavenly.

172. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” What a wonderful revelation you have shared Zofia. Thank you 💝

173. A great blog Zofia, How often are we aware of what we say and how we say it and the hidden undertones that come out of our voice that we are not always aware of. I can hear in my voice and the words that I use that I still very much hold back from really expressing who I am, measuring and contriving what I say so that I don’t have to show all of me. When I write this it seems crazy but it is a pattern that has suited me for most of my life so that I don’t have to stand out and shine. The expression program with Simone Benhayon has been amazing to feel how I hold back; there are no quick fixes or solutions to this, it all comes from how I live and the choices I make to change what is a very deep and old pattern of holding back how I express. What Otto Bathurst expressed is gold; it is the movements we make leading up to the expression that can determine how and what we are going to say…..how I walk, how I open the door…..I will take this into my day.

174. I recently attended a discourse with Sara Williams in London and I was reading from one of Serge Benhayon’s awesome books. The words sounded hard and forced coming out of my mouth at first, I could feel how tight my chest was and my heart rate was up and jittery. There was a kind of pressure around the outside of my body. I forged forward before Sara brought in a pause for reflection. What came out of this was that I was reading in the energy of my day – I had brought the entire thing into the discourse with me – frustration, a desire to fix/save, an effort to get stuff done, achieve a desired outcome, make things happen, judging. Ouch! And others could feel it in my voice – it felt hideous. And I could feel their stuff too – the pressure around my body, the judgement. After this was all exposed in discussion, the entire situation shifted. The physical discomfort disappeared, my voice sounded round and resonant and lovely as I read on and as nothing was forced, it felt energising to read. I didn’t want it to end. Not only did this expose the responsibility we have for the quality in which we chose to live and to express (which is being felt all the time), but it also reiterated for me the responsibility to notice when I am ‘off’ and to do something about that rather than simply forging on. All exposed through the voice – so powerful.

     1. I have attended Sara William’s discourses too Jennifer and it is a wonderful opportunity to learn to speak in front of others. To have the support of the group without judgement and feel held in a space where you can read out loud is an amazing experience. I could hear the contraction in my voice and how I held back from presenting me in my fullness. Learning to read in a way that is in a rhythm, not rushing or trying to get the words out or reading ahead of myself and wanting to get to the end, but with a natural flow that allows space in my body. We are not taught this at school, I remember reading things out loud in parrot fashion without really being aware of me or what I was reading.

175. What a conversation to begin, Zofia, there is just so much here for everyone. Your blog has opened up loads of stuff for me. Thank you

176. I started to notice this in particular with my kids and how imposing my voice is when I want them to do or not do something and express from a place of control. It must feel hideous to them and it rarely results in a desired outcome. The opposite is also true – when I speak from a place of connection, my voice is so different – deeper and more resonant and feels like it comes from my chest not my throat. It is actually really lovely and it feels awesome and supports the flow of family time. For me, the key is connection – something to keep working on.

177. What a great blog there is so so much in it. I need to keep reading it over and over a few more times.

178. This blog is brilliant. I found it so helpful and exposing of my choices. It really made me reflect on what I have been putting out to the world, Is it a me with free flowing, loving expression? or is it something else?

179. When we open our mouth and the words come out, how often have we wanted to take them back because it didn’t come out right, from the words we used to the way we said it, but we can never take them back they have already been said and heard. We have to take responsibility for every word and that starts from taking responsibility for the way we live and making sure our Livingness is from love and all about love.

180. Zofia, I love this blog, I remember years ago when I would be taping my voice for a message on my phone, I would re record some many times as I could hear so much in my voice, and it didn’t matter how many times I did it , it would not change. But to now feel my voice is reflecting the way I live. I now have an instant awareness when I hear my voice.

181. Very powerful blog on an important issue: speaking, something we do the whole day without even noticing how we express our words. It is indeed important to start becoming aware how we express ourselves. Just feel what we say. That in itself, in the moment, can give us an indication if it was spoken freely or with hurt, emotions or any other contracted way. For today my voice is going to be my point of attention. Just to practice this. Let’s what I will notice….

182. Thank you Zofia for this lovely reminder of the importance of the quality of our voice and expression. I am preparing for a presentation currently and had been getting a little lost in what I was going to say, now as I prepare I am bringing it back to the quality. Thank you.

183. This blog is a brilliant reminder that we’re constantly making “everyday choices either to live the free, real-us, natural and loving, or as the contrived and engineered versions of us struggling to fit the perception, image or ideal handed down and invested in from things such as our background, upbringing, accent, education, job, title, position and so on – all of which create false senses of worth and therefore offer false or incomplete communications that are far from having healing effects.” My voice has been the ‘product’ of the latter – my job and title have greatly influenced the way I have been expressing and, also the quality of the voice in that expression. I have been a teacher for the past 40 years and can really relate to the ‘teacher’s voice’ I use in public – such a far cry from my ‘private’ voice and one that I now recognise may have harmed rather than healed all who I expressed to. Thank you for your blog Zofia, it has really awakened me to the energetic consequences our voice and expression has on others.

184. Today i was listening to a recording of my voice and I could feel my voice was very clear and beautiful when I was connected to my body and the tenderness came through. The tone changed when the full connection was not their and I could feel a hardness. It just shows how different our voice sounds when we are connected and when we are not.

185. The importance of expressing with our voice, with what words we use, the tone of our voice and the feeling/s that comes from that expression has such an effect on not only our own bodies but also for those who are listening to us. This realisation really got me to feel much more deeply into how important it is to feel first then express. The actual tone of my voice changes completely and the speed in which I talk also is very evident if I allow that busy mind to take over. Thank you Zofia a great blog to bring back awareness to our own beautiful voices.

186. I first read this blog a few weeks back and really loved what Zofia was sharing. I began to be more aware of my voice what I was saying and how I was saying it. I could feel the tension in my voice, the strain to be heard and liked by others – instead of just being me and speaking with my true power. Thank you for starting the conversation, it has certainly made a difference in my life.

187. When we understand that every moment feeds the next and that there is always a cycle of sorts playing out, it brings huge responsibility to the forecourt. Understanding this we can see why it may not be so pleasing to see ourselves in photos or hear ourselves on recordings, for it is more than just a snapshot, it highlights our livingness, and it is unescapable.

188. This is awesome Zofia, “In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!” this shows nothing can be hidden if we let ourselves feel what’s within what is being voiced – it’s a huge reminder that we have full responsibility for the way we are living and what quality we actually offer others.

189. I so enjoy coming back to read this great blog – It gently reminds me that when I simply present my truth the sound of my voice resonates deeper from within my chest and up into my throat and is released with a softness and a roundness to the outcoming words expressed with no tension in my body. The complete opposite happens when I express in haste and the words come more from my head (thoughts not feelings) my body is tense as is my upper throat with my words flowing quickly. Such a difference before expressing to just stop and feel first.

190. Another example of how we bring all of who we are into everything we do. It reminds me of something I heard long ago – the microcosm of the macrocosm; every little thing is a reflection of the whole. So much opportunity to be aware of how I am living and what I bring to another – an ever deepening process. Thanks Zofia.

191. Thank you Zofia, It is very revealing listening back on recordings of our voice and the way we express. It can be very exposing about how I am living at the time, either living with love and fullness as you say or contracted and meak. We can’t hide how we are feeling as it is all revealed in our expression.

     1. Brilliant article Zofia! I feel as if I am re-learning how to speak, express and hear anew and not be so fooled by that which ‘sounds good’ but actually doesn’t energetically feel good. And now the opposite is happening: I am having fun singing together with a student who is a beautiful singer. She is loving hearing what is starting to come out in my voice (could we even go so far as to say ‘true sexy’?) and I am still cringing at the ‘imperfections’. So now I am have to learn to discern the energetic beauty without being put off by the various breathy, croaky accompaniments, which used to be a big ‘no no’ in singing experiences in the past. I am so grateful for this opportunity.

192. It’s so true Zofia that we do not often speak with our true voice. It is covered by protection and emotion and personas which mask our genuine nature. When I speak with my natural voice it feels and sounds amazing and very beautiful. When I speak in any other way it feels awful and tells me there is something I need to look at or clear. The voice is such an amazing marker.

193. This is a great blog, it was really exposing to me, as I freak out if someone puts a microphone in my hand and I always find it really strange if I do hear a recording of my voice or hear it coming through speakers.

     1. I am exactly the same kevmchardy. If I heard a recording of my voice I thought it was someone else. Did I really sound like that? And as for picking up a microphone and speaking into it…No way. It gets easier with the more confidence I build in myself and when I do speak with the microphone I am not so surprised at the sound of my voice. The hard part is having the courage to request the microphone.

194. I have noticed how my voice can sound quite hard and protected and what effect this had on people, but on myself as well. When I am really open, vulnerable and completely me, my voice just sounds so lovely, sweet and delicate. Completely different.

     1. Yes the sound that comes out is always a marker for where I am at. I notice very much so that when I have had a realisation about where I could live more deeply from and start to express, my voice has a deeper resonance and is much richer. However I know too, as you express Marietta, that when I am in protection the hardness in my body is reflected in the harshness in my tone – not something that I am proud of or to beat myself up about, but something to watch out for as a signal to make a different choice.

     2. A great observation Mariette and I relate to what you share here. Sometimes I catch myself if I say something that comes out a bit harsh and I really feel the harshness in my body. A great reminder of the responsibility we have every time we open our mouths.

195. Lately I am singing more and getting over my shyness that comes with this. This week I actually sang twice for friends who had their birthday and I sent them a recorded whatsapp, me singing for their birthday. I usually would never do this but now I do and it just feels so lovely. When I sent it, I can not listen to it, I can only do it afterwards, so I have no idea how I sound. When I listened to both of the recordings afterwards, I noticed how loving and sweet I sound. I can really feel the difference in my tone of voice, which can be hard and protected, yet more and more, my voice sounds so sweet, delicate and with so much love.

196. Over the last couple of years I have become very aware of the quality of my voice and how that is a reflection of how I have been living. A dry, squeaky voice lacking confidence, trying to hide, frustration, anxiety they are all there to be heard, depending on what is going on in my life. I also hear the clarity and strength in my voice which is also a reflection of how I am living, moment to moment. This voice is beautiful to hear and feel in my body. It comes from my body and it is sometimes a simple choice about which voice I want to hear. Thank you Zofia, you have written a beautiful, honest blog.

197. As you expressed so beautifully “In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living”. I can really feel that for myself now – there is an ease with communicating with those around me when I live in a way that is more self-loving not only the quality of my voice but with the level of how I truly listen to others – this really brings a clarity to what true expression really is. Thank you Zofia.

     1. Beautifully written Marion, ‘there is an ease with communicating with those around me when I live in a way that is more self-loving not only the quality of my voice but with the level of how I truly listen to others – this really brings a clarity to what true expression really is.’ reading this makes me aware that when I am living in my natural rhythm and in a self-loving way, my voice is naturally sweet and without any force or trying to be liked or accepted, I notice how expressing in this way isn’t tiring and feels lovely in my body, a contrast to how it feels when I’m living in a less loving way and there is a force with my voice and i often then end up with a sore throat, feeling empty and tired and less able to be truly listen to others.

198. It looks like Asia has its own healing power of sound practitioner, as what Zofia is writing about is one of the foundations of presenting to people the opportunity of rediscovering their own true voice. But what is wonderful is that this amazing observation is not coming from a musician or a specialized voice therapist, but someone who is simply observing the livingness of sound, and feeling what is true or not …How cool is that!!

     1. ‘feeling what is true or not…’ – these words have had a big impact for me – I’m finding myself asking ‘is this truth?’ ‘is this me?’ when I’m speaking from a place of control. Thank you

     2. I agree Chris, Zofia and what she brings is very very cool – or I should say: HOT!

199. Awesome blog Zofia, thank you. I heard my voice on a recording recently and I actually liked it which surprised me because I certainly haven’t in the past. The voice that I express outwardly with can be heard and felt differently dependent on how I am in that moment, just as the voice I can hear in my head when I am berating myself or if i’m being appreciative of myself will be heard and felt differently by me.

200. So true Zofia. Everything we live is in our voice, a reflection of who we are in any given moment. And we have the power to choose the quality of energy we express from. Self observation is great – my voice (and my whole being) expands and resonates when I speak from my body, or feels flat and thin when laced with any need, mental stress or tension. A huge difference to feel, and a great marker to be aware of.

     1. This is so true Jenny and i am learning to feel hear and acknowledge the same through my own observation of myself and my voice. The resonation and power when speaking from my whole body feels amazing and is in deep contrast with speaking not from this but from my head and not my true knowing. Our true Voice is very powerful and is so often repressed in us since we are little to be quiet and not heard and thus we grow up not expressing our true selves but small empty part of who we really are and this can hurt us.

        1. I agree tricianicholson, ‘Our true Voice is very powerful and is so often repressed in us since we are little to be quiet and not heard and thus we grow up not expressing our true selves but small empty part of who we really are and this can hurt us.’ We now have the understanding and the choice to express fully all of who we are, and how we live has a huge impact on this.

        2. When i grew up the victorian adage ‘little children should be seen and not heard’ still held some credence in society. Thank God we don’t think that now. Lets hear more of those young voices speaking clearly from their true knowing.

201. Meeting others without judgement or expectation and letting them see all of ourselves without holding back is making an incredible difference. Suddenly there is room for trust and true openness as there is no hidden agenda in the room. As you stated Zofia: „the healing benefits this offers another is tremendous“.

202. Zofia, it’s fascinating observing how my voice is. I notice it is more clear and strong, when I am feeling clear and strong within myself and conversely weak and fragmented when I am unsure of what I am saying, when I am being polite or nice and not actually saying what I fully want to say. I used to have a very quiet voice, people would struggle to hear me, it was as if I was apologising for speaking instead of claiming that I have something important to say. It is amazing the difference.

203. I can still get quite anxious about speaking up, especially in a large group, but I heard a recording of my voice recently and hardly recognised it as my own. So I’m learning to stop the old protection and express from feeling my body, not from my head.

204. I totally relate to your central message here, Zofia, that our voices carry precisely the quality in which we are living. Awareness of this brings the awesome choice of living from our love, or choosing a life beset by emotion, drama, numbness or disconnection.
     For me, it is truly lovely to listen to and hear the quality in people’s voices who are choosing love. I have recently been attending quite a few online audio meetings and, at times, have been so taken by the loveliness in some people’s voices that I have difficulty tuning into their words!

205. Great blog Zofia, thank you. Hearing ourselves on audio and similarly, seeing an image of ourselves is a great way to address anything we may have been avoiding or possibly not recognised, or even a great opportunity to appreciate ourselves. It is a great reflection.

206. Zofia you have made it so clear what is going on behind the scenes of all that is said and communicated. Every moment and every choice we have made up is being expressed. The responsibility and therefore power we each carry is incredible.

207. “Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice.” When we learn to discern and feel energy, something of a work in progress for myself, we can then read between the lines and know with which energy we and others are expressing from. Is it love – or not?

208. ‘What a great opportunity this audio provided in which to accept and appreciate more fully how the way my own life – or anyone else’s – is being lived’, what an amazing revelation and tool for a path of living a life of understanding, awareness – healing.

209. Thinking about the affect of our voices and listening to my own I started to hear my accent. There is the remains of a public school upbringing mixed with some London vowels every so often. I realise that at times I can sound very superior and distant when I do not feel that at all. The accent seems to carry the energy of generations of the upper class English, and it tightens the jaw and stiffens the whole face. But with that comes the ingrained attitudes that produced it. I realise it puts barriers between myself and others, and it is more than just the accent. They are inextricably linked.

     1. Wow Joan, that is a whole new area of exploration about the energy that may be carried in different accents. Sounds like it needs a blog!

     2. i agree, Joan. Some accents do place our throat, mouth, jaw in certain positions that pre dispose us to certain accompanying attitudes, thoughts and emotions. However I also feel that speaking from love integrates all of that into a harmony so that it no longer is relevant, or even exists!

210. When I was 10 years old I had the opportunity to audition for the local youth choir, but turned it down, as I did not like the sound of my own singing voice, even though being told how good it really was. I remember being offered a leading role in the Pirates of Penzance at school. I did the opera but in the back of the line up, so no one could see me.
     Forward it many years on, and I now totally regret it. Our voices are a gift from God to be used to the best of our abilities.
     I am now in a choir again and loving every minute of it. Voice not as good, but the sound that comes from within is really heart warming.

211. At the end of your blog you list 2 versions of how our voice might sound, the energy behind those two and the physical manifestation of our bodies in each of those two expressions. It’s brilliant this. And reading it (over and over) I can actually feel my body change as I ‘relate’ to both versions – and I’m not even talking, I’m just reading!! What I also like is that it really is that simple. You are either with yourself and in your body, or you are not. I really appreciate this blog Zofia (thank you) as I do many of the comments – anything that gives such a clear and practical marker is a true gift for all of us.

212. Zofia, this is my second read of your blog. It’s revealing to read it again, and the second time around I get the point completely. For years, actually ever since I can remember, I’ve been a good actor. Getting up on stage to perform was never an issue; nor was putting on an act socially, but when I strip myself of facades and polish I absolutely am left with the way I live every day. That I’m sure is why I too have had difficulty in wanting to hear or see myself in recordings, because how I’ve been living would become so glaringly obvious. May this become much more an opportunity to heal than harm, being willing to present the raw version of myself.

213. Thank you Zofia for your sharing. the most obvious one for me is when I want to record a welcome message on my voice mail and have to do it over and over again simply because I don’t like the tone of my voice. I can assure you that the easiest time I did it was after a retreat in Somerset with Universal Medicine presented by Serge Benhayon, for me that was a revelation…

214. A great sharing, thank you.

215. I’m only just getting to understand the depth of this subject, Zofia. ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness’. I know this is so true, but it feels very exposing at the same time, because I am just recently realising how judgemental I have been in my life. But the great thing is that I will be able to know how I am changing by hearing a difference in my own voice.
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216. Brilliant article, brilliant comments – shining light on the detail and responsibility we have in every moment. I have felt this as a burden at times – the responsibility I mean – but when I let go of the trying can only feel the gift of each moment as an opportunity…each step laying the path for the next, each breath making space for the next, each thought a chance to re-write history. A little key note for me is to dispense with regret and guilt and let my past choices be the inspiration/learning for the next.

     1. Thank you for this Matildaclark. This is something I struggle with, regret and have guilt around my past choices. You have re-inspired me to view these all as learnings and inspiration for the next.

217. Heard loud and clear Zofia, thank you. And as I type I can feel the restriction that so often accompanies my communication. Inspired by your honesty and the Teachings of the Ageless Wisdom I can feel behind all the ‘stuff’ that gets in the way to a freedom and voice that heals all.

218. I have also had the opportunity to here my own voice on audio speakong about various subjects I love.

     What I noticed with the feel of my own voice is how much I played down my insecurity and knowingness to come across more easy going, likable and relatable. I grew up on a cane farm in far North Queensland and the very culture of “she will be right mate” don’t care too much about anything was within my voice diluting the important message of women’s health and wellbeing that I was presenting. WoW!! How much do we twist and change from our true feelings to fit in or be liked by others, well if you have been like me, a fair bit.

     1. Rebecca that is so true I totally relate to that.. change my expression to each environment to fit and be accepted. Not to stand out to much or ruffle anyones feathers. I have started to free myself of these impeding beliefs and boy oh boy do I feel a lot more me, stronger and solid in who I am.

219. My awareness and understanding of my voice has deepened from reading your article. Thank you Zofia.

220. Wonderful self reflection and observation!

     When people are talking AT each other rather than with each other the physical sound is so different than when we are talking WITH each other. The harshness of the impositions of mental constructs and the way we have defined ourselves by what we think we know, rather than who we actually are stands out like a sore thumb!

     Does this not then also completely blow open what ” Good Singing ” is?

221. An excellent blog enabling a greater understanding to the responsibility of living a life with love and that love being reflected through our spoken expression.

222. It is quite lovely to feel how as I have changed, becoming more loving and accepting of myself, I can actually hear this quality in my voice. I can also feel this in others voices. It is a vibration that is being communicated, and as you say Zofia one which carries all that we have lived up to that moment.

     1. I agree Victoria it is good to appreciate the changes made and the actual change that occurs in the body and voice.

223. I love rereading your blog Zofia, it clearly demonstrates how much we are feeling all of the time and the fact that we can feel so much in a voice that is unspoken. I can hear exactly where I am at with myself from the quality of my own voice. Thank you.

224. Zofia, this is absolutely amazing. To truly be responsible for every word, expression, and the energy we say it in, and what can be felt. And so with this, absolutely, “why not then take the time to slow down, invite people to be in-time with us, come out from the background, be seen, heard, listened to, and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there to be”.

225. Our voices do communicate a lot, more than just the words we are speaking!

226. Great blog Zofia and a really big one for many of us to consider. I would say when I hear my voice that it disappoints me as it is never as full and clear as I know I can be. This makes me now say, well thats cool as thats where I am at but its not how I am going to be. Changing how we sound is about developing the way we live, the more I take care to express how I feel and care for how I live, the more fully my voice will continue to grow. That is awesome to know.

227. A power read – we all use our voices, most of the day, every day! I could feel the truth for myself in every word here Zofia .. ‘In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!’ I had a situation at work yesterday that amplified my livingness and reading this blog could not have been more timely. Awesome and huge. What responsibility we have. Our livingness is reflected in each moment!

228. I enjoyed rereading your article Zofia. With the realization that how I am living, with emotions being expressed through my voice, gives me a deeper understanding of why I do not like hearing my voice on recordings. Thank you for the great reminder to truly listen to my voice and express from the true me.

229. Zofia its fascinating how you can read the quality of your voice, unpick the various patterns and hurts the lie within the speed, intonations and cords. What therein are we listening to when we switch on some Indie rock, hip hop or country blues? The lived quality of the vocalist, the band packaged into a musical score?

230. Wow Zofia, what an amazing awareness and realisation you have had. Methinks I will be more aware of listening to myself and what comes out of my mouth and how it comes out of my mouth. Thank you.

231. This is also a great reminder that we are always leaving footprints through our expression even when we do not see it. I find the snapshots provided by voice recordings and the visual pictures are great in allowing me to feel the impact of my footprints.

     1. Golnaz, what you have written here is a very good point and one that we can easily choose to ignore as it is not ‘seen’. Thank you for the reminder.

     2. I like the way you describe our expressions as footprints that we leave Golnaz. It makes me consider what kind of footprints I might be leaving and thus, just that little bit more aware of how important it is ‘how’ I express.

232. Everything you do or say of course comes from the quality in which you live. That is a huge responsibility I needed to be reminded of. Thank you Zofia.

     1. I totally agree Bernard, it is great to be reminded of the ripple effect we have on all others by the quality that we live our everyday in all that we do and say.

233. “. . that when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with, leaving communication and our voice not clear or free”, can be a life changing revelation as you have discovered Zofia. For the majority, their voice is their main way of communicating yet we are never taught from child-hood that our voices do not just carry sound, but that they also carry the energy of all our stored hurts and emotions and words can often do more harm than physical abuse.

234. ‘Communication is the way we choose to live our lives’. Great line Zofia. It shows the depth of our responsibility and our communication is the marker. As we are in this world with many others, speech is the most common way to communicate on a daily basis. What is we were to feel our words when we speak? Just as a check: were these words loving or not? If not, we can make a choice. If yes, there was a healing moment there.

235. These days there is a palpable tension when expression is held back. A beautiful yet uncomfortable learning experience to feel this, I wouldn’t want it any other way.

     1. I have found the same for me too Matthew. When I hold back my expression I feel great tension in my neck. It is uncomfortable but beautiful to be willing to listen to the wisdom of my body. It is like our bodies are our own self help guide if we are willing to be honest and listen to the messages we receive.

236. Great blog thank you for sharing. I quite often can hear how my voice changes when around different people and how I’m feeling.

     1. Like you Anna I too can hear and feel my voice change when I am around different people and in different situations and after reading your comment I am realising it is well worth starting to note and become aware why.

237. I love the thought, Sofia, that ‘if our voices do contain all our lived-choices then aren’t these choices super-powerful ‘tools’ in regards to clear or effective communication and expression?’ This is great, not to beat ourselves up with, but to reflect on our choices and what we feel with this information. This is the first step to making any changes, we need to feel it first.

238. It was only recently that I went out with relatives for a meal and was presented with an opportunity to express what I really felt in response to a flippant remark made about my expressing the food choices I decided on with the waitress. It was an amazing feeling in my body to not hold back from expressing my truth. Before Universal Medicine/Serge Benhayon came into my life ,and in particular more recently when I have begun to express more, I would have held back and carried another hurt along with the many others. To feel clarity in my voice while expressing flows so naturally and, as you shared with us, ‘reverberates’ around my whole body. Thank you Zofia.

     1. Marion, this has been the same for me too. Before Serge Benhayon’s presentations I had spoken my truth very little, creating illness in my body. Now that I am expressing so much more, my body is healing, and committing to expressing myself more every day has accelerated this so much.

        1. Ruth, that is beautiful to read, such a clear and powerful example of the power of expression. When we spend time in groups it is obvious to see the lack of expression we in society are held back by, as for so many we have grown up to shrink into a compressed version of what we are really able and want to say.

239. Since reading your article the first time Zofia, I have noticed how my voice can change.If I want someone to agree with me, my voice can become pushy and it feels as though there is a force there and I have noticed how I can loose the sweetness in my voice and my voice becomes hard, it’s great to be aware of these changes, thank you.

240. A great blog Zofia. Our voice reveals much and I notice that if I feel a bit out of sorts my voice goes all over the place. I also feel in my body when I say something, perhaps in agreement with another when I actually don’t feel it is true. A great indicator and a work in progress to express truth in line with how my body feels.

     1. I totally get what you are saying Beverley how it is a massive indicator when my body contracts and I have not spoken the truth that I know and have felt. But when I do speak truth the feeling is so confirming and awesome that I know its super powerful and it is me.

        1. I can definitely relate here Natalie & Beverly I am learning the importances of speaking up and actually saying what I feel without holding any judgement on myself of what I should say.

     2. I can recognise that Beverly – the voice is very revealing and it is not something that can be ‘covered up’ without a lot of force. It’s yet another way our body is telling us that something is not quite right.

241. Great blog Zofia- so much to consider. As I was reading it I recalled a job interview I had recently where I felt my answers to their questions were apt but the whole time I could hear and feel the strain of convincing in my voice. In this instance we all missed out on the real and confident me and I know my voice was a give away even if they didn’t register this consciously it was surely felt energetically.. Thank you for the invitation to slow down and deliver the truth and love within me- I am reinsured once again.

242. I love this blog Zofia ! Thank you for bringing so much to my attention. (I’ve never liked the sound of my voice……..) However now that I have started to sing a little I am for the first time in my life beginning to appreciate the sound of my voice.

243. Wow Zofia, what you have shared is really big, it helps me take more responsibility with how I treat others because I’m not just talking when I am communicating but I am expressing all of me, and all of the unresolved tension I have, not just the good bits I want to share. With digital photography I can delete a photo of me I don’t like (super quickly and not deal with what the picture is reflecting to me), but with communication and speaking it is out there, no time to delete, the quality has been registered by another and it can affect them…this sure is a an inspiration to step up my consistency with living lovingly.

     1. Zoesherrin the metaphor of the photo is really powerful and show how casually we take expressing…thinking it’s no big deal, but as you say there is no taking it back. Once its out there we either enjoy the grace or have to mop up the mess.

        1. I danced with that mop for quite some time and after reading this blog have been inspired to hang it up. Every second is everything so with that as my foreword, movement and expression is key to living in harmony. Attention to my details of expression is on.

     2. Zoesherrin, this is so true – the article is such an important reminder of how much everything we put out affects the whole that we are all part of, it being near or distant.

244. What a fascinating article Zofia. I remember listening to recordings of my voice when I was younger and being totally amazed at what I sounded like, it was nothing like I imagined. Even now when I catch snippets of my voice on recordings I am amazed that this is how my voice resonates. But what you have revealed here goes deeper… the quality and the importance of every word spoken. When we are able to discern between that which is love and that which is not, every nuance screams out too… the importance of and in absolutely everything.

245. Communication in the spoken word is often considered to be the words we use and what we are saying, how we say it and so forth. Yet you bring a deeper dimension that communication is more than this. It is also in the sound of our voices and how so much is revealed. This brings a quality to our communication of words, and even affect how people listen to us or even react to us….. Very powerful and how multidimensional it is!

246. Thank you Zofia for this beautiful and very inspiring blog that has offered me a very different view on my voice and how and why I am verbally expressing the way I do – amazing.

247. This is an awesome blog, Zofia. It really highlights how our expression is a reflection of all of us, not just the part that we want to show everyone else. We can use smooth words or even train ourselves so that we can fake the appearance of being “calm cool and collected” but the truth of what we are living is being broadcast every every moment.

     1. Yes I totally agree with you Naren, this blog is awesome and that however much we may train ourselves to create a particular image it will always be false and transparent if how we have lived is not congruent with it.

     2. Yes Naren, this is so true and Zofia has highlighted it beautifully, there is no hiding place from the tone and expression that comes out of our mouth, it says everything about how we have been living. I know how much fuller my voice feels and sounds when I am consciously aware and feeling bright, this always relates to the lifestyle choices I have been making.

     3. Well said Naren, ‘Our expression is a reflection of all of us, not just the part that we want to show everyone else’. That’s why it is obvious when someone is trying to ‘be nice’ or if I have been upset or been grumpy, and I meet a friend it feels false to say ‘yes I’m fine’ and put on a smile/’brave face’.

     4. That’s so true Naren – I have an image of the election vans with loudspeakers! Since reading this article I’ve allowed myself permission to hear how I am more -so a great way to hear when I’m not with myself. I’ve been hearing how other people sound and been more aware of hearing people’s way of living in their voices.

     5. I agree Naren, and often we do not listen to ourselves. This was brought home to me by a friend who said to me, ‘ you have changed, your voice on the phone is more positive’. Zofia’s article is so clear, we cannot disguise our true feelings.

     6. Absolutely Naren, so true what you share here.

     7. Beautifully said Naren for it is true, when we speak our bodies act like a microphone that indeed broadcasts to all not only how we are living today but how we have lived yesterday.

        1. Indeed Suse. What we choose to broadcast to the world through our voice, our body language or what we express through making anything is based on the choices we make of how we live every day. What we express is then shaped by those choices, always.

248. The most interesting thing I have found about speaking the truth is I will have a urge to say something and the mouth opens and its like my ears are hearing what the mouth is saying and then sends it to the brain. These are not ‘I think’ moments these are the ‘I feel” moments when speaking to others.

249. I’ve recently realised how I have avoided listening to myself and even looking at photos of myself because I don’t like what I hear or see. This article has really allowed me to feel how it is important to explore the details of what I don’t like, seeing that it’s the ways that I am not myself and how I hold back. Giving myself the space and time to explore these will provide the awareness to change these things to be the amazing me and not hold back.

     1. Very true for me too Danielle. I’m wondering about installing, as well as 6 mirrors, a Glorious Music Karaoke machine 🙂

        1. Haha that’s awesome Andrew I would be up for that, as long as it had the option to voice and video record so I could enjoy watching myself later!

250. Zofia your article has crystallised something for me. Gyl my daughter always reflects to me when my voice changes and asks what is happening. It happens often when I want to announce or request something I’m not sure others will feel comfortable with, so it’s prevalent around children. I make myself small and hold back and have no authority. When I feel deeply connected with myself I can feel the resonance, power and beauty of my voice.

251. I can really relate to your words here, Zofia – “…the subtle hook of stimulated excitement causing speediness that creates a distance between me and those I am conversing with.” In these moments the connection to oneself and the other is lost, and as you say it is a mode that is commonly used to keep our communications from being intimate and expressed from everything we are.

252. What an exposing but very healing situation Zofia. I recently did a speech in front of s semi-large audience and could feel how much I was speaking from a deep place of stillness but was also restricted in movement, full expression and joy and vitality in my body. As you share, a great indication of how we are living in all of our life and if we express in full or, if we are only delivering a small part of ourselves on different occasions

253. One of the things that really pulled me in to Universal Medicine was the voice of Serge. The sound, the energy, I did not really understand at that point, but I could feel the quality, the depth, the truth. Also with practitioners like Sara Williams, the first time I had a session I was struck by her voice, the lightness, the sweetness, the love, and the difference and exposure of my own voice. How much we can feel in the voice is absolutely incredible.

254. Its really interesting to re-read your email Zofia, I can particularly relate to what you have written here, ‘a reduced, speeded up version affected by what had been going on at work with the need to ‘perform’, to be worth listening to, to prove a point, instead of just being the all-natural-unaffected-me.’ I know that I can do this,that I often speed up what I’m saying, i do this so people won’t get bored and I laugh and try it make it funny or exciting as if my natural voice, saying what I feel too say is not enough and needs to be changed in some way, great to have this highlighted, thank you.

255. Thank you so much for sharing this Zofia. I’ve had this same experience recently of hearing myself recorded – as part of a business meeting. And oh such horror at the force I heard in my voice as I tried to convince the others of the validity of my points. A common theme I seem to keep coming back to is “I’m not being heard/understood” – so much so that it has become an expectation I place on others when speaking and consequently I’ve realised much of my verbal communication has become laced with this. Then there is the raciness of my delivery reflecting the state of my nervous system wound up in preparation for some unconsciously perceived threat. Aaargh what a mess! It’s so wonderfully free-ing to clock all this and thus begin the process of letting it go. As the quality of how I live increases, so does the strength and acceptance of my connection to the all, such that trust begins to blossom, the insecurities and hurts of the self fade, and I begin to re-present God on earth. And when God opens our mouth… watch out!

256. On re-reading your blog zofia, it brings me back to the importance of really focussing on my voice and how I express but also remember to not go hard when I catch myself and then make a judgement on that. The times that I have spoken from my livingness and truth, there is such a sweetness to my voice that washes over me and the person I am sharing with, that feels amazing. Love in expression, is everything.

257. Zofia I love what you have revealed here: “how we truly sound is from this livingness”. What struck me is that when we hear ourselves speak on the recording for example, we KNOW the way we live and can pick out how we are putting that out there by the way we speak and the words we use, but to everyone else they don’t know our livingness as well as us, or at all – what they think is being presented to them is YOU, when you know that it is not actually the real or all of YOU. So when does it come time to take responsibility and show the world ALL OF YOU by the way you speak, through your livingness?

258. Zofia you speak so eloquently about a science that no one is immune to and we are all subjects of. The science of energy.

259. Zofia this blog has once again brought forth our great responsibility, our interconnectedness and the power we have to heal all, in how we choose to live.

260. When I reflect on my day yesterday I remember I noticed at some point my voice was very soft and nice and I felt that it was not really me, I was holding back my power and strength. This blog really reveals that I may have been holding back in how I was living up until that point I had to speak. Thank you for sharing it is quite revealing our voice!

261. It’s great to highlight the responsibility we have in the way we choose to live our lives and the effect this has on the greater whole. An awesome reflection listening to your audio Zofia, incredibly revealing and an opportunity for all of us to pay deeper attention to what is coming from us when we interact on any level.

262. Zofia what stood out for me is what you said here about ‘a reduced, speeded up version affected by what had been going on at work with the need to ‘perform’, to be worth listening to, to prove a point, instead of just being the all-natural-unaffected-me’
     Knowing that so well and how disembodied I become and yet it only takes a moment to come back to me and take responsibility to deliver from love rather than impose, thank you Zofia you have absolutely inspired me to go forth and no longer at any moment deny people the presence and glory that is there for all of us.

263. Thank you Zofia, your call to ‘…come out from the background, be seen, heard, listened to, and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there to be captured by photograph or audio and enjoyed by all.’ is heard loud and clear 🙂 To allow yourself to express openly and clearly in all situations is a gift not only to yourself but to also to others as it allows them the space to do the same.

264. A very interesting blog Zofia, that makes so much sense. That the way we live our life and with everything going on in it is reflected in the the way we speak.
     Thanks for that.

265. Great blog Zofia, it makes sense that when we speak or are spoken to, we hear the words but somehow they don’t feel right – they don’t match up to what is being said. Often I have experienced this for myself and for others, what I am hearing or feeling is the unresolved tension in the body, being expressed. Even if the person is trying to be sincere, the quality of this sincerity doesn’t always come through..

266. Thanks Zofia, it was great to re read and have another reminder of how expression is everything. How everything we do and how we chose to do it, affects all our ways of expressing. It gave me a light bulb moment where I thought, of course my voice carries all of my past and me, it makes perfect sense. It brought more awareness to how much I affect another with my voice; it’s sound, tone and the energy it carries.

267. Zofia, I have started to appreciate in recent times, my true voice. How it feels when my voice comes from me feels totally different to when I lose this connection. Also how easy it is to connect with others when they speak from their own livingness. Thank you Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and Zofia for your expression of words.

268. Thanks Zofia, I realise now why I never liked hearing my own voice.I was hearing the hardness which was reflecting how I had been living.

269. ‘Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy,’ …… if we choose to express in our fullness what we are feeling, we are sharing wisdom, if not, we are harming, us and those around us, and in so doing, contributing to the stagnation humanity is already swimming in.

270. “To realise and act on this important fact with conscious attention is therefore a crucial step towards taking greater responsibility in delivering effective communication that has love at its core and as its impetus.” Zofia, this blog is so absolutely full of effective communication that has love at its core and as its impetus, so much healing and responsibility to be felt.

271. “Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.” Zofia this feels like a big reflection to us that we can no longer lie or hide. EVERYTHING can be felt in EVERYTHING that we do.

272. I remember once recording my voice on my mobile answering service. I must have taped it about 10 times. I didn’t get what was going on, but what you have expressed is a clear indication of what was going on. I could hear myself holding back, my voice
     was so soft that people would often ask me if they had woken me up. Zofia, such an amazing blog with so much more to feel.
     Thank you.

273. Rereading this blog Zofia, it has made me ponder on how important it is to be in living in a way that supports us communicating in a loving, tender, truthful way and not from reaction.

274. You have such great awareness and courage Zofia, to listen to and feel everything that comes with your speaking. Thank you for pointing this out so clearly, I will be focusing on the way I am in each moment, knowing that will be what others receive when I speak.

275. Thank you Zofia, a great article and so true. It is always easy to hear what the voice has when we get upset or stressed etc, and it gets higher pitched but as you say what about all the times it has the unresolved in it, or the hidden agenda? Bringing the livingness of us out into the world via the voice is a responsibility for everyone to consider and being more conscious of that fact during each day is something I will be looking at more closely.

276. What struck me with this blog Zofia, is the reminder that everything is interrelated and everything affects everything. You can’t have anger with one person and it not affect the way you are with another, the way you talk or the way you walk. Conversely, if you have love with another, this can be shared and felt by others. You have highlighted the importance of every choice we make contributing to the whole of who we are.

277. I do love this beautifully expressed blog Zofia. I have noticed the healing power of our voice when we speak our truth – the voice is a tool for healing. I guess it is the energy of the sound behind it, an energy that carries fullness and lived-love.
     I have noticed that my voice has deepened over the years and it is warmer, more gentle, more intimate and more precious.

278. Thank you Zofia for your valued sharing. I have not really taken into consideration before that the recorded voice could expose so much of who we are and where we hold back our expression. Having been a corner dweller as you mentioned you had, I can relate to the not wanting to be seen or photographed and to know now that everyone who hears each of us knows just who we are and our choices by our revealing sounds.
     From now on I will be aware when I share that in truth I need to come from love and share all of who I am.

279. It is true that our voices carry the quality of energy that we are living. I am now more aware about this after reading this blog. What I am finding is that yes all my previous choices are right there and can be heard and felt when I open my mouth, but every time I speak it is also an opportunity to choose the energy with which I want to express.

280. Yesterday I had to leave a voice message on my new work phone it was so interesting to hear back how I made myself small and sounded unconfident. I delated the first recording stood up breathed in and felt me. The second recording sounded so much better, you could feel the strength in my voice and I felt like I was addressing every body equally so. This was a great exercise for me!

     1. I know this one well Samantha!

281. I feel you communicate something so often overlooked, the power of healing through our own voices, for ourselves and other people. As you say “absolutely, why not then take the time to slow down, invite people to be in-time with us, come out from the background, be seen, heard, listened to, and no longer deny people the presence and glory of us there…” Our voices express everything that has been lived, when we attempt to hide it, than that to is felt. I am fascinated by sound and the use of our voices and how this can change through people claiming and expressing who they truly are. Thank you for sharing this blog.

282. Wow ! This is so power-full, immensely inspiring and so well written ! I had never looked at expression from that angle, and you are so right ! I will be aware of this from now on, and what a great tool to develop more presence and awareness in living the love that I am and bringing that into my expression. It feels so joy-full.

283. This is a powerfully honest blog Zofia. Thank you for sharing. I had a very similar experience recently. I needed to have a photo taken of myself and when I saw the results, I was initially shocked to see the protection in my face. As with your voice, there was no denying it, no hiding from it. I knew it was there, I knew I was living with this mask over my hurts, but seeing it so clearly was a big stop moment for me. And once I was able to accept it as a truth I was then able to open myself up to dealing with it – because whilst we remain in judgement or denial of these things, then we are locking ourselves in, preventing ourselves from evolving. This is what is so powerful about your blog Zofia. Both the honesty and also the loving acceptance of it. Seeing everything that the photograph was showing has initiated a huge shift in me and the way I am in the world.

     1. This is such a great revelation with your comment Ottobathurst and Zofia’s blog about using the feedback offered from auditory and visual recordings of our expression to build on and evolve to a fuller expression. Until now my response has always been to cringe and leave it at that. When such opportunities come again I will treat them very differently.

     2. Absolutely – the reflection of what we see in photos of ourselves is hugely revealing. Sometimes I can see a totally different person – and I’m like – that’s not me! And sometimes I see a beauty and a universality that actually surprises me. In both photos I am the same person, but have just different feelings at the time, and have made different choices that have led to those feelings.

     3. A powerful comment Otto. It is a big wake up call to either hear or see our protection so clearly in our voices or our faces. Both are great ways to help ourselves to be honest, accepting, and open the way to dropping the protection.

284. Makes perfect sense that how we’ve been living comes through in how we express, especially in the quality of content we speak.
     Thank you Zofia, your blog has offered me a stop to feel the true quality of my expression.

     1. Yes Julie, Zofia’s blog is a great stop to feel the quality of our expression.

285. This blog shows a lot of courage and self-awareness. For many years I shied away from listening to the sound of my own voice and for Zofia to not just stay with it but actually hearing what is there is remarkable.

286. Wow – thank you so much Zofia. Yes Rachel, like yourself I now have a deeper awareness as to why I too don’t like hearing my own voice – I can hear all the unloving choices! It’s so clear now. What I have been blessed with by reading this blog is the understanding that my livingness and the quality of how I am with each and every detail of my day is reflected in my voice. It has brought me to far greater responsibility.

287. I am so glad you have written this blog as it is a fascinating, life changing area to talk about. How much are we aware of how our voice, tone, sped and intent affect others. We could say that sound pollution is highly under rated and that as a society there is much “street sweeping” to be done when we acknowledge and feel all the intricacies that you present here Zofia. I have also had this same experience where I am speaking and I can feel how warm and expanded my tone and vibration of voice is where people can let go and be held in the love of how I am speaking or when there is a tightness or convincing hook in my words and sound.

     1. Rebeccalpoole I love the ‘street sweeping’ that you talk about as there are many pockets that has piles of rubbish. This is such and over looked expression that we live with daily and it fantastic to have a reminder on the importances it holds. The way we express is one of the key elements in being who we are.

288. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” this is a powerful realization to make and encourages me to choose to express from my body with love and understanding not my head which is tainted with my unresolved hurts.

     1. Francisco it certainly makes you re-consider all the times where we are told to recite and come up with the perfect presentation for work. What I take from this blog is no matter how much you may try to perfect that presentation what really matters is if how you’ve been living as that is actually what is being felt. Perhaps we try to control the way we sound or what we say to cover up what we are really feeling – i’ve certainly done that many times. I like what you’ve say about expressing from the body with honesty rather than the head with all its hurts as it shows its all possible.

289. Thank you for sharing your understanding it has awakened a deeper sense of responsibility and awareness around expression, I had never considered that our voices carry the way we have been living.

290. So true Zofia. The strength and potential of the voice is huge. We can choose to speak through everything we are not, our hurts, ‘issues’ etc and keep ourselves stuck in that. Or, we can choose to speak from ourselves, what we feel is true and offer the amazing power of healing that speaking truth can do for ourselves and everyone we are in contact with.

291. this is an awesome blog that shows us more of our level of responsibility to shine in the world. It all gets back to our choices and there’s no faking livingness.

     1. So true Amanda, Livingness cannot be faked and the impact of our voice on others is either healing or harming. When there is something unresolved in us and/or we hold ourselves back, it’s kind of like hanging out our dirty laundry as it’s there for all to hear, experience and feel through our verbal expression. This offers me a much greater awareness of the enormous responsibility we have in the living of our everyday choices.

292. Reading your article Zofia I have become much more aware of my voice, Thank you.

293. I recently chose to read aloud at an event; I was part of a group reading out to a fairly large crowd.
     I had many beautiful reflections from my participation but the one thing that was amazing for me was my voice …. I felt truly connected and had an authority I had not heard in my everyday voice. In the past I have toned down this voice in fear of sounding too strong and possibly afraid of when I use that voice of how it is perceived – I notice I modulate, or soften, it depending on who I am with.
     It was a WOW moment to realise this, and a Glorious experience to feel the effect in my body of my choices to be self loving and tender and to speak from my heart.

     1. Well claimed Merrilee. You spoke with authority and it was so easy to hear you.

294. This is a great blog Zofia. I can really relate to what you are saying. There is a lot in it, much for me to feel into and be aware of in my expression or lack thereof.

295. Super powerful expression here Zofia, you truly clarify the importance of our livingness. As you say, it is expressed in everything we are, including our voice. I can see for myself that in the times I choose to hold back me, my voice does not carry the strength, clarity or truth I know I can and do express. Instead what others get is a quiet, held back expression that seems wishy washy at best. Thank you for offering this awesome reflection. It has definitely got me feeling the power of our expression.

296. RE-reading your awesome blog Zofia, I am looking at this amazing paragraph which starts, ‘It was easy to hear restriction in my voice, the over extending or pronouncing of certain words; intonation to make a point, convince, or sell . . .’ What a clear and honest documentation of how you were speaking in that moment. The voice is like an open book that can be read by any who care to feel and observe. Everything is there for the listener to know what is truly being said. Thank you Zofia for this revealing detail!

     1. ‘The voice is like an open book that can be read by any who care to feel and observe. Everything is there for the listener to know what is truly being said’. This line really stood out for me Lyndy, as a simple reminder that when we listen from our inner heart, we can hear what is actually being said.

        1. Your reminder that when we listen from our soul we can understand much more than what is actually being said. Therefore when we speak from our soul our voice comes out loud and clear with an amazing power of healing for ourselves and those who listen.

        2. I love this, its a powerful reminder to listen to my own voice. I know I can often pick up those little nuances in others voices that tell me something is not as they say, so it follows that listening to, and feeling my own voice, to see the level of my own connection. Thank you Zofia..

     2. I agree Lyndy. When I take the time to feel into the words I am saying I so often hear the tone change when I hold back. I have also heard others reply by saying your voice sounds funny. A reminder by all when I am not speaking from my truth.

        1. Yes Natasa, I became aware of my voice the other day when speaking with people, it sounded squeaky and high and felt up in my throat, my throat felt tight. I paused for a moment came back to feeling my body and my voice deepened became louder, stronger and was resonating beautifully in my chest and heart. It gave me much clarity with this.

     3. Lyndy, this is such a great point. If we are playing games, manipulate, convince etc it is all there not only in the voice but in the energy that is being delivered – yet this is the game that we as a society seem to accept as the norm.

297. What a gorgeous description Zofia. I remember being so upset around aged 7 when my voice seemed to change from resonant and whole to thin and tinny. Listening to recordings of my voice was painful, I could feel no me there any more. Thank heavens for Chris James I had the opportunity to reconnect to the natural beautiful voice I had left, and boy oh boy, when I’m deeply connected with me, the voice that vibrates through my heart and whole body is simply divine. A massive marker of the level of connection and often a really uncomfortable one.

     1. The quality and depth that i can go to when i sink into the heart and speak from this place is so Hevenly. For me, there is nothing more satisfying than doing this and feeling my whole body expand and express!

     2. Yes I too greatly appreciate what Chris James presents and hearing the difference in my voice when I am connected. When I’m not bringing all of me all I can hear myself sound is so not me, my voice is no longer coming from my body and feels really distant. It’s no wonder then that no matter what I say it’s not really heard. But when I’m coming from me what’s being said is heard and felt.

298. A lovely sharing Zofia. So many of us do not know that how we speak is a contrived and held back version of ourselves to accommodate different circumstances and ways we think we need to be with others. There is so much rich and pure liquid gold within all of us to express and share, we just have to say yes to letting ourselves be ourselves and know that is absolutely more than enough.

299. I love this quote, I enjoyed saying it out loud…”The full, spacious and deep resonate sound of an equalising authority-lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal,” I felt it reverberate around my chest..greta how you write about how our voices express how we live. I can feel how my voice has changed as I have began to claim myself more and I can feel that the squeaky, tightness that it once held is lessening, my voice is becoming more deep, full and gentle. Very interesting blog – thank you.

300. What a read Zofia, inspiring and so much to consider and bring into our lives. When I read “why not then take the time to slow down, invite people to be in-time with us” I just felt my whole body go – yes – then I felt the responsibility of ensuring that what my body is offering is a lived harmony as opposed to a constructed calm! I see many who are very adept at the swan routine (myself included) grace and calm on the upper body and feet going ten to the dozen out of site to keep up 🙂

     1. A beautiful differentiation between adopted ‘calm’ and living true harmony Lucy. The charade of the one cannot compare with the truth of the other.

301. The extent of what responsibility truly means: that it is everything all of the time, without breaks or time-outs, consistently expressing, always reflecting, always presenting. Expression and responsibility go hand in hand. It is my/our choice now to grab these with both hands!

302. “Carrying within our speech vested interests, emotion, control, convincing effort, to sound good or intelligent, to get something back, win others round for their approval or acceptance of us?”
     Thankyou Zofia, always presented at the right time.
     I was talking (now feeling) AT someone yesterday, who was not getting what I was trying to tell them! I just felt how I had vested interest, she was not feeling anything because I was reflecting an emptiness in me, a trying to fix. And how clearly this stood out for me as I read your blog.

303. It is interesting but I don’t usually like the sound of my own recorded voice either and I usually find it sounds different to what I expected it to sound like. Which makes me wonder, if it sounds different to what I believe it sounds like when I listen to myself speak at the time,then how consciously present am I really in the moment with my body to not notice these emotional undertones every day?

304. Yes, its a daily beautifull “exercise ” to connect to our heart first and speak from there.
     I agree, it then sounds, feels and vibrates
     with loving stillness and sweetness !

305. Its a very thought provoking blog Zofia – thank you. What I was struck by is how I moderate my voice in different circumstances, measuring how I want to express. There would be a big difference between how I might talk at work where I ‘need’ to come across with the authority, and then at home if I am relaxing. The same moderation happens with different people depending on how I feel about the relationship, particularly if I’ve had some difficulties with the person or I am holding them on a pedestal. So it reveals to me that I live in this crazy world where practically everyone gets a slightly different version of me! Its impossible to maintain consistently.

306. Your blog is a very inspiring read thank you Zofia and shows how just a simple task, such as listening to one’s self can be a journey of discovery, awakening and healing.

307. Great read and reminder before I head of into my day – expression is everything.

308. Zofia what a great blog. I teach for a profession and I have recently been given the opportunity to have one of my lessons recorded so that I could watch the replay. I froze at the offer and then delayed doing it for a few weeks. What was I afraid of? Reading your blog has made me realise I would be facing how I had been living and maybe there were going to be things that I would not want to see. Anyway, I finally said yes to it, and by saying yes I feel I have opened up to seeing all of me and facing what ever will be revealed, warts and all. I still have not watched the replay. I know its going to make me uncomfortable to say the least.

309. “Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice.” A great point Zofia. Our voice can sound so different at different times – the pitch, the tone, the timbre, the quality – all change, depending on whether we are with ourselves or not. ‘Expressing from our hearts’ – as Gyl says, is so important.

310. I just love the way of playing with my own voice and taking this as a reflection of where I am at during the day. Thank you for the inspiration, Zofia.

311. This article has inspired me to be more aware to check where I am when I speak to others and the responsibility of expressing from love.

312. When I hear my voice, sometimes what is in the way of feeling my voice is an expectation of what it should sound like. So before reading all that it is, there is a judgment. For example, my voice is not manly enough or deep enough. Like we get influenced by the glossy men’s and women’s magazines about how a body should look, there is an influence on what we have heard from the perfect radio voice or tv presenter. How is it that I can cringe at my voice when I know there is a high level of self love and appreciation already within me, am I missing that part and focusing on something else or letting something be in the way of hearing the grace of who I am? I can feel that my voice is particularly sensitive and can change in tone or fullness, a great marker to my momentum and how I’m running my body on a day to day basis. Zofia, your blog says so much, thank you for putting it on the table.

     1. I agree Matthew, there can be such a huge expectation we place on how our voice should sound like. I know for me whenever I place an expectation on anything it means I miss the beauty of it and what it may be showing me. Being more conscious of my voice and the way I speak is a great marker for the way I have been living.

313. This is beautifully exposing, and shows the level of responsibility we need to own. Knowing that all our choices and how we live is reflected in our voice, makes it impossible to deny that our ‘private’ life has a very real public impact.

     1. Good point Golnaz – we are presenting all the time, expressing all the time, and that is having am impression on the world no matter how big or small. Which begs the question of what are we choosing to express?

     2. Great point Golnaz, so true but often hard to accept.

     3. A depth of honesty and responsibility many of us run away from, but one that is well worth stepping up to as it benefits everyone. I know I have met people who have no private or public face, where they are the same with everyone and you just trust them, even if it takes a while as you are communicating with someone who is open and transparent and is hiding nothing in their lives.

     4. Oh yes Golnaz…great point. Any of those sneaky little behaviours that we think nobody will know about are echoed in all our movements and communication. Big note to self!

314. Zofia, this is great, a reminder for me to really look at how I am living, as this will have an effect on my communication with others. Also, that it is my responsibility to communicate in truth.

315. Gorgeous Zofia, I like it a lot. I love to speak and hear more about true communication. I remember talking about communication at school, and the limited way it was be described and talked about. Feeling and hearing what you offer us , expands my sight of what communication actually means…so much more than the words or how you pronounce them. It is all about energy, so whatever energy you feel that there is being revealed while someone talks, this is lived and communicated by that person and this is how someone receives this. The importance of making sure you speak in a way that does not harm another or yourself of course is very important. Thank you Zofia for shining your light on this subject that needs further discussion.

316. Over the past few years I have had the opportunity to be a part of presenting on a video and on stage. What this showed to me is just how amazing and awesome I am. It gave me a chance to ‘see’ myself from a totally different perspective, to view myself as others may do. I had a good long look and what I saw I loved very much. It really brought home how truly great I am and brought a whole new, and much needed, level of appreciation for myself, because others expressed it to me but I didn’t really believe it. It felt like this was the final piece for me to know – I rock!

     1. I love the power in your comment Alison – wow!!! Very inspiring. You do rock, your presentation recently on stage was awesome – you were so confident, natural and lovely to watch and listen to.

317. This is such a revealing blog Zofia. I hadn’t thought about the fact that it is not , how we sound, whether we are nervous or not standing on stage etc. but what we actually have to share from our inner most ! The energy we are in when we speak comes through as does the truth. To put ourselves aside and come from the heart, with no judgement.

     1. It’s interesting you should mention that nervousness that I sometimes see from people on stage. To be honest it is not that which makes the difference to how I feel about the presentation. If they are being honest, speaking from what they feel but have a few jitters because it’s not what they are used to it can still resonate deeply for me, whereas a well polished sales pitch (and I find this from the pulpit as well) slides off and I will not really listen because it lacks that heartfelt sincerity.

318. I’ve really enjoyed reading your article Zofia – How we communicate and express using this amazing gift is very revealing.

319. Yes great observation Zofia. I’ve noticed that my voice sounds different at times… just as sometimes you can look in the mirror and don’t look ‘quite right’, we know when we’re not feeling 100% and it shows in our voice, thoughts, movements and faces.

320. I recently learned for myself that truth can’t be heard, it is felt – even if it’s delivered orally. So it makes perfect sense that what we live, or the level of love we live, is the level at which we deliver in our expression: “Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice”.

321. You are absolutely right Zofia. I for one, absolutely communicate with a consciousness that there is potential for me to be misunderstood, that what I say might be too confronting, that I might hurt or annoy the other person. As much as I feel like I’m moving past pleasing others, In actual fact, I’m walking on eggshells a large majority of the time. I think this may have something to do with me not always feeling trusting enough of myself to know if what I’m about to say is a judgement or an observation. Therefore absolutely capping my own expression for the sake of staying safe…in my corner.

322. Zofia, It is great that you have explored how the way we live directly effects the quality of our communication. I love to hear in someone’s voice a strong harmonious resonance that feels straight from the soul, that is when I know they are speaking the truth.

323. This is amazing Zofia, what a beautiful read, thank you. Since reading your blog I have taken note of this myself and it is astounding to recognise the effects on others and relationships when we are not expressing from the truth of who we are and a life lived lovingly.

324. Zofia, I had not appreciated how much our livingness is reflected through our speech but of course it would be. I am very uncomfortable listening to my own voice because it is so exposing of the way I have been living. Thank you for highlighting this I can now bring my awareness to it.

325. Thank you, Zofia, there is no escaping the truth of this powerful blog, as our livingness (or lack of) can be felt in every word.

326. Zofia good on you for having the courage to actually listen to yourself on tape and then share so openly your experience of listening to your own voice. I’ve been working with my voice for a few years now so am now very aware of how my voice changes, and how it feels in my body, depending on the quality I’ve been living. When I’m expressing in full from a connection to my inner heart my whole body resonates and tingles – there’s no mistaking it. Expression is also effortless. I can also easily hear and feel this in my son (and others). When he is speaking or singing from the heart his voice is gentle and beautiful, but when he is excited or sharing some knowledge he has learned he speaks more quickly and there’s a sense of forcefulness in his voice and I often feel I’m being imposed upon. It feels to me that if the eyes are the window to the soul, then the voice is a reflection as to how we’ve been living our connection to soul.

327. It is incredible how different the two different types of vocal expression feel in the body. You have described this so clearly Zofia. Just another way our body is always communicating to us loudly and clearly (if we are all ‘ears’) what is truly going on.

328. I have done something yesterday I have never done before and this is singing a song through Whatsapp (you can record with this and then send it) to this beautiful man that I am just starting building a relationship with. I sat on the toilet of the airport and felt like singing this song by Elvis Presley ‘love me tender’. Just for the record: this is something I would never do, let alone think about doing. But I did, yesterday, and it felt lovely. I listened back to what I had sent, I was quite curious, and I could really feel the sweetness in my own voice. It was lovely to hear and to realize that our voice tells us everything. Very freeing experience for me.

329. ‘Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice.’

     What just struck me reading this paragraph is, that saying I dislike my voice or how I look in pictures or in the mirror, e.g. simply criticising myself, is actually only a distraction to what is really going on, in the sense of: what choices have I made that I do not like reflected in me.
     Thank you Zofia.

     1. Yeah – wow that changes everything. There’s nothing we actually dislike about ourselves – just the reflection of what we have chosen, and the effect that has had on our bodies.

330. This is a really important sharing you are offering so clearly Zofia thank you. Realising the effect and responsibility in comunicating from our lived love as we develop this and the healing benefit of this offered to everyone and ourselves is the truth and a real gift to the world. Very exposing of communication and voice and the harming we are all doing otherwise. The depth of true love lived by us is not only heard but clearly felt by all.

331. Thanks Zofia, great to raise this. When we naturally speak truth we can feel our voice resonate in our body. It feels hugely different to feeling our voice stuck in our throat – which is a great reflection that we are in our head and have disconnected from ourselves and our body awareness.

     1. I completely relate to that feeling Jenny – when I’m not expressing truth, holding back or telling lies often my voice can get stuck in my throat. I’m not a very good liar, as I find it impossible to maintain the naturally powerful quality of my voice when telling half/truths or lies.

     2. Very true Jenny. I was sitting in a group of people the other night and one of them started talking and you could tell that they were feeling nervous. But when they connected to the truth of what they were saying their voice changed completely and it was beautiful to watch the real person come out, and there was a real wisdom that they shared with us all.

332. Great blog Zofia! Thank you! Years ago I ‘hated’ the sound of my own voice on recordings but since re-connecting to my self and beginning to express from a quality that is not hard, or holding back (still a work in progress!!) I have found that I’ve enjoyed listening to my own voice on recordings – and I note my tone has changed a lot – I’ve even discovered I can sing lol! I love how you’ve really brought out how the underlying quality that you are living in is felt and heard through voice and affects all – your blog is a timely reminder for me.

333. What an amazing contribution, I am inspired to take more care and awareness with my expression. Thank you

334. I have always noticed that my voice is deeper and richer after healing sessions when I have deeply connected with myself. I’ve also noticed that whenever I put a welcome message on my own answerphone, when I replay it what I hear tells me how much I am not living that connection. This also reveals to me how often I pick up the phone and speak to others without paying attention to how present with myself I am, and how they have only my voice to listen to, and my energy to feel through the expression with that voice. This gives me a great responsibility, and listening to my own voice speaking can help me to stay present.

     1. Very true joanchristinecalder. Speaking on the phone highlights the energy in our voice, so what a great moment in our day to stop and observe and feel what we are actually expressing.

335. Zofia, what you write is so very true. I remember being shocked hearing the racy breathlessness in my voice a few years ago. In more recent times, through my work with Universal Medicine and my deeper connection with myself, my voice has changed significantly so whereas once I cringed at what came out of my mouth I now enjoy it. We are also all very sensitive to the tone in a voice and I heard a great 2 minute audio of Serge Benhayon speaking on this here: http://www.unimedliving.com/voice/editors-choice/how-spoken-tones-affects-us.html

     1. Hi Nicola, thanks for sharing the audio recording. I’m going to have a listen.

     2. Thank you Nicola for posting this audio link. I just listened to it and loved it. I, like most people am very sensitive to the tone in a voice and can easily get guarded if it sounds harsh or judgemental. We definitely can feel love or the lack of it in our own voices and in the voices of the people around us.

336. Just read your comment Gylrae. So true what you are saying, there is a difference in the vibration through the vocal cords. With tension and holding back, it’s tighter and harder and the pitch is higher. With love, there is a warmth, fluidity and richness and the tone is deeper.

337. What an amazing and inspiring article, Zofia, thank you. ‘In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!’ I have never considered this perspective before, but I certainly do not like the sound of my recorded voice, now I have a deeper understanding as to how my voice and the intricacies of how I express affect those around me, in addition to what I am actually sharing. I can feel the call to go deeper with this and take more responsibility with my livingness and in turn, how I express. ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness’.

338. This is a brilliant reflection Zofia. So true. Thank you.

339. This is pure gold what you have realised and shared and makes total sense. It brings another awareness of how Serge Benayon has shared ‘everything is energy’ and we cannot hide from our voices and what they reflect. I have never liked hearing myself or having photos taken and with both have felt that is not, now I know with more clarity why … because I am not living all of me!

340. This is a powerful article Zofia, it has given me much to look at and be aware of in expressing myself. A deeper understanding in how I am living is felt by others through my voice. Thank you.

341. Love your blog Zofia. I definitely notice that my voice changes according to how I’m living, how confident I feel or how reserved I’m being with the people around me. If I’m in a crowd of friends at school, my voice is often hard, with an edge to it to ensure people listen to me. At home sometimes I lower my voice and put little effort into expressing as I want that time to be comfortable and ‘relaxed’. Your line really stood out for me – ‘In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!’

     1. Great point Susie about the difference between being at home and out in the world, how we change to suit a situation, never just being true to ourselves and our expression.

     2. Great insight Susie. I’ve noticed a difference in how I speak in different situations…it is exposing how I’m not being the ‘true me’ but a version of me to suit and please others in different situations.

     3. What a helpful and revealing insight. I’m going to play with checking this out with me. I know my voice is waaaay steadier across different scenarios than ever before, (living in the UK I was once a total chameleon with even my accent completely changing depending on surroundings!), but now I’m curious to check out these more subtle variants in different settings…

342. Since reading your article previously I have become very aware of how I am communicating and have realised that I am doing what you have written here, ‘Carrying within our speech vested interests, emotion, control, convincing effort, to sound good or intelligent, to get something back, win others round for their approval or acceptance of us?’ It has been great to be aware of this and change it when I notice it happening.

343. The more aware we choose to be and the dedication to developing ourselves at exposing what we are not is key for our own and all’s evolution… This is a great tool to be able to check in and see where we are at, thanks Zofia.

344. It’s been a real wake up call for me, reading this blog, reaffirming what I already know but taking it to a new level, in that everything we do, think, say matters and there is no hiding from that fact.

     1. Well said kevmchardy “everything we do, think, say matters and there is no hiding from that fact”. And with this brings a huge responsibility.

        1. I often wonder what difference it would make if we could ‘see’ the quality of what we are expressing rather like our breath on a cold day.

        2. It is a similar thought to imagine being like a fish in the sea, when we move or speak we create ripples which then spread outwards touching everybody else. We are responsible for those ripples and just because we are on land it does not mean they not happening. Being in a swimming pool you can get to feel those ripples bouncing back off the walls. I know for me being able to tangibly see the quality of what we are expressing would bring a far greater responsibility and accountability to my words and actions.

     2. I also agree kevmchardy, as I am now aware, from reading this blog and the comments, I can already feel what is there in my expression, there is no hiding!

     3. No hiding from the fact indeed Kevin. This only hurts us more, and in turn everyone else too. No one truly lives in isolation, it’s an illusion, we cannot get away with being reclusive so why not become responsible for all we do, say and think because the alternative is more of the same unloving choices and not living in a way that we know we can.

345. Wow, when you come to think how often we use our voice, how important then is it what you have shared Sophia. I’m sure most people experience their voice changing in different situations and relating it to the not only the emotion of the moment but the whole way we are living is huge.

346. Zofia, what a very revealing blog. I have just been at the Universal Medicine Australian Retreat and observed during our group work the very many different ways we express ourselves when speaking. I became so aware of my own voice – it’s tone, it’s gentleness or not sometimes, the volume and most importantly I asked myself if I was consciously present before speaking. You have expanded on this for me. Thank you.

347. A wonderful summation of the responsibility of speaking, which is either healing or harming according to our lived experiences.

348. What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness. This is such a beautiful and accurate summary of our voice.

349. As much as we think we can hide from the world we cannot as the moment we open our mouths and speak everything is there and exposed. The interesting thing is do we discount our initial awareness to voice or do we hear what we think it should be like, based on who is speaking. This is the real ‘reading between the lines’.

350. Zofia, what you have written here is a show stopper and the show of course is life, communication and all we say. Many years ago I heard Serge Benhayon speak about the same thing but I need to hear wisdom hundreds of times in so many different ways so I thank you for an awesome post, written in a way only you could have written it. I have heard my own voice for many years as I was working in a teaching role, I could feel the restriction in my throat and how wrong and awful it felt for the words to come from my throat and not a deeper place, perhaps one that resonated from my heart. Feeling this at work daily lead me to Chris James as I knew something felt very wrong with this, unbearable even for me. Chris James introduced me to Serge Benhayon and his living, loving way. I absolutely love the accountability we are called to in this post Zofia – thank you, I could read this many times over.

351. Thank you Zofia, this is a very thought provoking blog for me, I am at present looking at my voice and feeling the constriction in my voice when I am not with myself. I am so aware of the beauty that comes through when someone speaks from their heart.

352. Wow there is so much in this article Zofia. When I re-read it, I always find some new revelatory detail! Here is one: ‘ if our voices do contain all our lived-choices then aren’t these choices super-powerful ‘tools’ in regards to clear or effective communication and expression?’ The fact that every choice we make affects the quality of our voice is HUGE. Our body so clearly and accurately reflects every detail of the way we are living – it not only reflects our disregard or lack of self-worth, it also reflects the loving relationship we have with ourselves, with God and with others. What a amazing feedback this is!

353. Well said Zoffia,

     I have also found it a struggle to listen to a recording of my voice. Why is this so difficult I have asked myself ?
     What I have felt is a contraction away from me embodying who I really am in essence, and as a result my voice is expressing in a way incongruent from who I am and yes I agree it sounds terrible.
     What I have also experienced when I choose to be with me in expression is a grace and flow of words with felt pauses that are not uncomfortable but full of connection.
     And authority, yes I have felt that too, and from that I would have to add,
     WE ARE MUCH MORE POWERFUL THEN WE GIVE OURSELVES CREDIT FOR !!!

354. Thank you Zofia for sharing such insight, you are so right the way we choose to live or the quality of energy we choose to live in we express to all as a spacious supporting love or harm with a force of reduction of the true grandness we are.

355. Thank you Zofia for this enlightening blog. It is something that I have been feeling in relation to my voice and your blog puts into words many of the things that I had been feeling. Thank you for expanding on this topic really and bringing home the point that expression is everything and that absolutely everything is energy. Using our voice as a marker of truth gives us so much to feel into and reflect on. Thank you for this inspiration.

356. Thank you Zofia. Reading your blog reminds me of the responsibility of how my expression affects myself and everyone around. I listened to my answerphone voice message tonight and it felt very shallow with some ‘niceness’ thrown into the mix. I could feel that when I recorded it I had spoken in a way I ‘thought’ i should rather than connecting to myself and having fun simply expressing all of me knowing that many people will hear the words when they call.

357. I love how reading this blog yesterday has made me very observant of my voice today and how I’ve lived I can hear. There is nothing that is not an expression. It’s wonderful to be able to hear how I am living – I hear in my voice a call that I can be so much more in touch with the loving rhythm and livingness within me.

358. These are great reflections on voice and tone. Just imagine to start a singing lesson like that! What a difference this would make in the world, instead of trying to train your voice with straining exercises… and then hearing that pressure when you are in the opera or turn on the radio.

359. Hello Zofia and I agree there is a lot things in just the simplicity of what we are merely saying. It is great the responsibility you are bringing to this and we need to be careful at times not to approach things from being too critical on ourselves. It is much simpler to bring more responsibility to something by appreciating the ‘what we are’ rather than the ‘what we are not’. I am not saying that this is what you doing here Zofia but when I read your blog the word “appreciation” kept coming to me. I have found no matter what is happening or what has been done if the intention comes back to appreciating what is there first then the next step into ‘sorting’ things out is always easier and lighter. There is real power in appreciation and it seems to create space for you to see things differently. For someone like you Zofia who is normally “preferring to sit conversing in the corner” to listening to voice on audio and now writing a blog is a huge step, thanks for sharing.

360. What a thought-full blog Zofia! I listened to my answerphone message and was surprised that it was my voice – is that what I truly sound like or was I ‘putting on a voice?’ So much to think about in this article. In the past I remember changing the way I spoke to fit in with whoever I was with at the time! Maybe the actress in me was playing a part to fit in with the play but now I am more me and if I catch myself adapting to others, I come back to myself and feel much more comfortable as a result.

361. Absolutely Kristy. I totally agree and can relate to what you have highlighted for those who teach. We are always communicating with our lived bodies but when we communicate in connection to ourselves and from our whole body it is totally felt by those who are listening, as it feels and sounds true. This in itself makes learning easier and should probably be something that is studied somewhere.

362. Beautiful and super powerful sharing Zofia. Totally correct and I can deeply feel the truth of when you share about how communication is more than the how and what we communicate but how we live our lives. It makes total sense because that communication is coming from a body, so the quality of that body is exactly the way the communication is being shared.

363. The few times in the past when I heard my recorded voice I did not like it. It did not sound like me. Reading your blog Zofia I understand why. The voice is such a powerful tool of expression that reflects the way we live.

364. This is awesome Zofia – “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living.” I just observed yesterday how much my face, mouth, voice, eyes… well everything really, changed when I left a video message to someone. It shocked me, and I shared it with my family how distorted I became and was not me. Now from reading your blog, I realise because of hurts, issues etc, how much our whole bodies (including our voice) can take on that form. Very powerful what you have shared, thank you Zofia.

365. Terrific blog Zofia. I am reflecting on your words ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.’. I realise that I have been carrying a disconnection between what is lying underneath my words and what I am wanting to convey. Thanks for bringing this to my attention.

366. Expression is everything.

367. Zofia, this is a huge reminder for us all that every time we open our mouths to speak, we can feel how we are in that moment, and how if everything is either HARMING or healing, we have a choice in that moment to stop. I feel my voice is an amazing reflection. But what you have expressed takes it far beyond what I had even considered.

368. A gentle reminder of how we can hold back from who we are in our lived ways, which correlates to the beauty and expression we live out on a day to day basis, or there lack of.

369. Thank you Zofia for a real wake up call of a blog. I was particularly struck by this sentence ‘Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.’ I am now conscious that in the past I have done a lot of imposing in the way I speak and this is an area that I am bringing more loving attention to so your blog is very timely for me.

370. Thanks for a beautiful blog Zofia and for reminding us of how much our expression can reveal about us.

371. Thanks Zofia for presenting such an interesting blog. It helped me to understand something that had been playing out in my life recently. Lately I have had a few people comment on my accent which is surprising because they have asked if I am from New Zealand which I am not, and it was a comment I used to hear many years ago.

     At 13 I moved from one state of Australia to another, in my new home state I felt like my version of an Australian accent sounded very broad and drawn out, cheaper or less sophisticated than the one I was hearing from my new peers. In order to fit in I worked hard on clipping and sharpening my speech to reduce what I perceived as an Australian drawl (Kath and Kim vs Jude and Prude). Further to this – fast forward 9 years and I met my husband and in the extended family there is a wing of South Africans and I loved the sound of their accent so I incorporated a few other aspects into my speaking as well. It got to the point where people would stop and ask me “where is your accent from?” It was then that I felt like I had taken it too far, I didn’t want to be making up a story to explain my accent and I was too embarrassed to tell the truth I didn’t feel like saying “Oh I am doing an Eliza Doolittle from My Fair Lady.” My focus was on changing my speech to sound more sophisticated and it just ended up puzzling people.
     With the comments that came recently I was a little surprised as I thought I had gotten rid of my “invented accent” and spoke relatively normal. In reflection I stopped and looked at what was happening in my life I realised that I had started in a new workplace and was getting caught up in fitting in and so unconsciously out had come my “accent”. So there is a pretty strong pattern exposing a real psychological/physiological response that my body returned to like the pattern or program or energy around just speaking from who I truly am gets bastardised and transformed into something else.
     So desperate to fit in and not stand out I transformed myself into something I was not, rather than letting people see and experience the real me.

     1. Awesome sharing thank you Nicolesjardin. I am sure most of us can relate to this truly bizarre behaviour of leaving ourselves to become something that will be acceptable to others. It is understandable though as it is like the world is set up so we will separate from the real us in order to gain recognition from others and feel like we belong and fit in. Since attending Universal Medicine workshops and presentations I have learnt how to re-connect to the real me and I am finding that it is becoming more normal for me to live from this space than to adopt a persona that is acceptable for others. When I choose to be the real me this then gives another permission to be the real them ~ this is very beautiful :).

        1. I agree Bianca Imagine living in a world with everybody being the real them – How we could truly evolve!

     2. So desperate to fit in and not stand out I transformed myself into something I was not, rather than letting people see and experience the real me. I can easily relate nicolesjardin, as I am sure many others can too, thank you for sharing.

     3. A beautiful blog Zoifa. Nicole I too have had many accents. One for my Mum and one for the kids at school, an Australian accent that fools an English man but never an Australian.
        In South Wales I hitched up to Scotland for a week. When I got back I was dropped ten miles from home and caught the bus and I couldn’t get the bus conductor to understand my pronunciation of the village I had lived in for a year and half, Llanhilleth. In the next valley only fifteen miles away in England they spoke another different and equally unintelligible dialect of the same language.
        I arrived home another time after ten years away and my Dad said to me “Boy, you don’t have to keep explaining everything to me , I understand what you’re saying, I taught you your words”.
        If you spend long enough in another country your speech will evolve into another language. Overall I feel that with all these languages being lost we must have more people speaking less languages which means more brotherhood.

        1. That’s amazing Nicholas – more people speaking less languages which means more brotherhood.

     4. I can totally relate Nicole as soon as I landed in Australia from the UK I adopted an accent to fit in and not stand out. I was always bemused – like having a party trick ready and waiting – to let people know where I was from with my classic line as soon as I got on the plane I let go of my English accent. This was not only barely amusing but absolutely true – I wanted to cut everything out of my life that represented the past and this was right down to the detail of my voice. Amazing sharing Nicole and really exposes how many ‘outfits’ we have ready to change into rather than proudly strutting our stuff in our truly natural one.

        1. Yes Lee, how often do we transform ourselves to the point where we don’t know who we are anymore?

     5. An interesting sharing Nicole which has triggered something for me. I moved from England to Australia over 25 years ago, and over time, my english accent has almost gone, replaced with what sounds like a well-spoken Australian. I didn’t consciously change my accent, but on some level I did so as to fit in. More for me to ponder on…thank you Zofia and Nicole.

        1. Thanks Sandra – It begs the question if we can change the way we speak to fit in what else do we change?

     6. That’s pretty awesome, Nicole, that you became so conscious of what was going on with your accent and your voice and could drop it to be you. I never expected people’s voices to change much, accents yes, as we tend to absorb other styles if living overseas even if we don’t intend to. But the foundational sound of the voice…. I was very surprised when friends told me that my voice has changed very noticeably in the last few years. Then I heard myself on a recording – gosh they are right! My voice has become much clearer and has a different tone altogether than it had before I began the work with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

        1. Hi Dianne, I know that when I am really solid and present within myself my voice sounds so amazing and people have also commented. Sometimes I get excited and want to recreate it but it is definitely not some you can make happen, it comes from a very natural connection to that stillest part of oneself.

372. Wow Zofia – I new our voice was very important but to now take the responsibility of lived love and have that with our voice full is something that I had forgotten. Thank you for the reminder.

373. This is a very powerful blog on communication, you have made many great points here to ponder on, thank you Zofia.

374. This is awesome Zofia and I totally get that when I hear my voice on I can squirm and not enjoy what is being said. There is that ‘I don’t sound like that do I…’ that comes through. What you have presented is even more interesting because it has highlighted for me the fact that everything is everything and the key is to be very aware of what we choose to not deal with as our bodies express everything.

     1. Well said Lee, as I was reading the blog I could feel the grandness of what Sophia is presenting and how there is no way around it; the quality I am living in every moment affects everything and everyone.

375. I remember being told once that because sound travels in waves, when someone is in front of us speaking, we are being bombarded by the waves that they are producing… So absolutely yes, to this article Zofia… even when the words and tone are perfect the unresolved hurts, cut effect us all.

     1. This is so true Joel. So too our movements, when not coming from a place of love and connection seem to cut shapes in the air which then not only effect everyone around us but also seem to get fed back to us, so what we end up expressing is the everything that we ‘are not’ instead of the everything that ‘we are’. This then seems to create a momentum that we can become stuck in. From here I can feel the enormous responsibility we each have both to ourselves and to others in choosing the energy (the love or the not-love) that impulses all that we say, do and move with in every moment.

376. Thank you Zofia, There is a stop moment needed to check in and feel what we are saying and how we are saying/expressing it. This is something I am still learning. A great topic to feel into and a reminder to be present with every time we speak.

377. I can hear it in my voice when I am nervous. When I have been living in an nervous energy it definitely comes out in my voice and my movements. I have also notice my voice changes when I feel connected and still. It is amazing to be aware of my voice and how it reflects exactly how I have been living and feeling. Thankyou Zofia, I love your beautiful reminder.

378. Yes the times we don’t speak are also felt, good point Gyl.

379. I like how you write about excitement and how when speaking with this it creates a distance between ourselves and the person we are conversing with. I find quite often I can talk with excitement and this is something I will now observed a lot closer. Thank you for your reflections.

380. It is so amazing how revealing our voices are. We simply cannot hide. By opening our mouths and speaking we reveal absolutely everything about how we have been living. This is a great exposure that we can then work with if we care to observe and take notice.

381. “Knowing that behind our voice through words spoken or written can be either true power, or instead an imposing force of energy, based on how we live.”
     Even though we might not understand it, most people will feel whether someone is talking from a learnt knowledge or a lived experience. This is the crux of it all, how we live on a day to day basis. The responsibility is huge and can make the difference between inspiring someone or not. Top blog, thank you Zofia.

     1. I agree universallivinguk, most people can feel whether someone Is speaking from knowledge or lived experience, it comes out very differently in the expression.

382. Excellent blog Zofia. I totally get it, when you say how revealing our voices are in showing us the quality in which we are living. Recently when I was reading an article to a friend, that I had written 4-5 months ago, I could feel as I was nearing the end, a sense of urgency crept into my voice, as I rushed to finish what I was reading. This was a beautiful reflection for me, of the energy I was in when I sat down to complete the piece. I remembered I was rushing to meet a dead line, I had set for myself. My friend also felt this, as she shared with me that she felt the ending was a bit abrupt! Our livingness is right there in our voices..

383. It is lovely to come back and re-read your blog again today, Zofia. By opening me up more to the falsity that we can betray through our voices I now understand why I dislike any recording of my own voice so much, that being that I am sensing my own betrayal of who I am. I am often aware that it does not reflect the depth of who I am – it has a sweetness that is not genuine but there to manipulate and please others. I feel inspired to express more freely and genuinely from all of me. Thank you for the inspiration to deepen my awareness.

384. The voice is a very powerful instrument to be used to manipulate, please, dismiss, overpower or to love, speak truth, support. And we all feel where it comes from within ourselves and from others.And I can hear myself switching from tone, for example with a ‘business’call or a conversation at work. Or the way I laugh, which sometimes is overdone, to fill a void that is uncomfortable.

385. Thanks Zofia for opening this subject for discussion. It feels totally true that a persons life can be felt though the tone of their voice and within that also the beautiful healing power that can be felt which gently caresses and soothes one. Very Powerful.

386. Zofia I feel to go and record myself today! I recently noticed after a session with an esoteric practitioner that my voice had changed – I could hear myself talking and it sounded so rounded and real – actually lovely. I had let that experience drift off and your blog has brought it back to me, and magnified its importance. Just love what you have expressed here. Thank you.

387. I enjoyed re-reading your article Zofia, ‘What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living’, I will ponder on this, thank you.

388. Zofia this is a very real and honest blog – I must get onto recording my voice to hear the truth of what it is that I present, live and offer to another and myself. I know when I have spoken in the past in a group environment there has been much that comes up and I can feel the impact that has on the whole group. It is very exposing of where I am and what I have been choosing and not choosing to deal with.

389. This is very powerful. No sign of unresolved issues around this one! Your writing comes from a claimed authority that if you were speaking would resonate in a rich tone and bounce off the walls. Thank you for sharing so clearly how all our choices affect the quality of our communication, and that we can not hide it no matter how much we think we can. To do this simply is to avoid the responsibility we have to one another.

390. Thanks Zofia for addressing this important subject so well. Gosh what a responsibility we have and I agree there is no getting away with it. How you live does affect your communication and for me it is about checking if my voice is coming from my body. When it is, I feel a depth and it feels sound and steady with space between the words. If not, its got a totally different quality and I actually feel uncomfortable as my breathing changes. I am a work in progress but having listened to an old audio recording I have come a long way. Back then all I can hear is the sound of hardness and no surprise at that time, I had a lot of tension in my body because I was on a mission, a drive to do things and make things happen.
     I have not recorded my voice recently but what you are sharing Zofia is very very important and a great reminder for me right now.

391. I love the way of sensitivity and attention to detail in your article, Zofia. Thank you for the reminder to be more aware and more honest in listening to the resonance of my voice.

392. I find the same as well Ariana – it is comical to ‘think’ and pretend to be something or know about something when I am not that or know anything about that and then to believe that the other person will not actually see what is going on for me! We are so easily exposed it is amusing at times. Especially as most of my life I thought I could get away with things!

393. Super awesome blog Zofia and one I will be returning to again and again to read… so many relevations you share around our voice and how we communicate with others which is either harming or healing: ‘ In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!’, this truth is something to deeply ponder on me feels!

394. This feels particularly relevant for me having just attended a retreat and had the opportunity to share with 300 plus people. So many thoughts can come up around why I should not speak up, but I feel what you have shared here Zofia is the truth, that I am feeling deep down my livingness can be more than it is and therefore, I go into self doubt. It is unpleasant to feel that holding back, perhaps more so than speaking up and at least getting my expression out there. Sometimes when I have expressed, I have actually been quite surprised at what it has reflected about my livingness as a great confirmation, rather than a damning one.

395. This is great, Zofia, really well expressed. Do we have a new marker for future readers of Sermons on Saturdays each month?

396. Thank you for this article Zofia. In my work life I speak to many people daily and also at times speak in front of groups. Your article has shown me the great responsibility I have to connect to my inner heart and express from there.

397. Thank you for this timely reminder Zofia – it is a great marker to use especially so because the outcome might be a more truthful, heartfelt spoken response.

398. Thank you Zofia, it would be a great exercise at school to learn to listen to an audio of ourselves speaking from young and learn all of what you have presented. Communication, how to truly communicate, should be a subject on our curriculum.

399. A powerful revelation here Zofia… one that speaks to me in volumes. From early teens I’ve had a deep resonant voice and the many ways it can sound was often an honest and revealing measure of how I’m feeling, what’s going or and how I’m living. It’s hard for me to hide behind my voice especially with people who know me well… including myself of course. In other words when I speak I often know if I am speaking from the real me or not but whether I acknowledge that is another thing of course. In reading your article I realised I’ve not truly given the sound and resonance of my voice the consistent awareness it deserves as a measure of the kind of energy I’m transferring to another. Thank you for the inspiration this article offers in: a) Bringing greater awareness to my vocal expression and b) To adhere to living in a way that builds love in my body and therefore love in my communication with others.

400. What a really great blog Zofia! As I was reading I began to ponder that how we dress or present ourselves to others is another form of communication which reveals as much as when we speak. It’s not the clothes per se, but how we feel in the clothes and once again, which reflects the quality of the way we live. For example, identical twins wearing the exact same outfit can emanate 2 totally different qualities, which we may not be consciously aware of, but that we clock / feel regardless. It is therefore for deep consideration, that the quality in which we live affects ‘every’ thing we do and in ‘every’ way we express, and that nothing ever goes unnoticed by anyone, regardless of whether or not we are consciously aware of this fact.

     1. So true Angela…whether it is getting dressed, walking, talking, closing doors, typing on a keyboard, getting into bed….everything reflects how we live.

401. Zofia, the power in all you have shared here is deeply felt. The magnitude of your voice coming through these words is worthy of great and far reaching audiences. The authority of your expression is thoroughly inspiring thank you.

402. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness”. Thank-you Zofia there is a lot for me to ponder on here, this has made me realise even more the responsibility I have in the way I communicate and as you say it is not only what you say but the livingness behind the words.

403. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” This realization from you Zofia, brings ultimate responsibility to the way we live and how we than speak! As speaking is something we all do a lot every day.

404. Our voice is a release of the quality of our Livingness. It’s interesting how when we listen to our own voice we know immediately where we are at, it highlights just how tuned into energy we are.

405. This article makes so much sense to me! Sometimes I have to re-record the phone messages at my work which means everyone will hear my voice if they need to leave a message and I remember a time where I was recording myself then I listened back and I thought to myself “Oh my, is that what I sound like!?” It sounded like a little girly voice and I pondered this and have now started to look at where I might alter and change my voice to me ‘nice’ and/or ‘polite’. I can now see the affects that those behaviours have on my voice over the deeper, resonating sound of my voice when I speak naturally and with my authority.

406. This is priceless Sofia. I have recently become aware of the difference in my voice when I speak at different times and have been looking into what may be behind all this. You have gone straight to the heart of it – lived love or not.

407. Thanks for sharing your awareness about this topic Zofia. I too just heard a new audio of my voice and was horrified at how intense I sounded – it sounded as if I was trying to be an authority and I was wondering whether to re-record it. Your article has helped me make my decision (a definite yes!) and your information is invaluable.

408. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” About 18months ago I had surgery on my thyroid leaving me with nerve damage to my vocal chords, as I have been aware that my thyroid issues are do do with expression I have been exploring this within myself but your great article Zofia has given me cause to ponder more deeply, thank you.

409. Communication with lived love. I love that Zofia Thank you.

410. Thank you Zofia for bringing so much awareness to this topic. It is true there is nothing hidden in the resonance of our voice, something that has at times made me cringe when listening to recordings of myself. A great marker by which to really examine how I am living from moment to moment.

411. This is a great blog and a great reminder about the responsibility in how we live effects the way we speak. Speaking with investment brings some many tones to our voice that alters who we are. To speak from our true essence would truly transform the voice and the gift to others would be worth it.

412. Wow Zofia – how awesome is this line “The full, spacious and deep resonant sound of an equal authority – lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal”…! The power of healing in that is amazing. It brings a whole other level, and responsibility to expression and how we live. I’m really looking forward to seeing how this plays out in my day, and bringing my attention to how my voice is in my interactions – to be as healing as possible! Thank you.

     1. I agree Amelia, I also felt that to become more aware of how I use my voice in my daily interaction will be interesting to look at and this will deepen my connection to my body and conscious presence. Until now I focused only during singing to really listen to my voice.

413. We all notice when others are holding back and trying to get the words out, and also feel in our bodies when this happens to ourselves. The awkwardness that arises.
     It’s great to hear that in the recorded sound.

     1. Very true Gail. I recently spoke into a microphone in large group discussion and can hear my voice loud and clear. I started off speaking in a very constricted way and from a nervous energy. I can hear the shaky, racy and harshness in my voice and once I acknowledged and continued speaking I can feel my voice change as I acknowledged it and chose to let the tension I was feeling go, it slowly became softer and clearer. Everyone in the audience most likely can feel the tension in my voice and a friend shared that she felt how nervous I was. Everybody probably felt that too. So if they did feel it, how would that affect them? Something to ponder on and it brings a level of awareness and responsibility as how we choose to live is reflected in our voice.

414. Great article Zofia, so much more is communicated through our voice than just the content or subject matter being conveyed. It confirms the presence of the 6th sense and that everything is about energy. A level of responsibility in regards to The Way we live. Everything about the way we live, relationship with self, is presented when we speak.

415. Yes, yes and yes Zofia. I can relate to everything you have written here. The difference I can feel when I am speaking from my ‘I’m not good enough’ voice and my ‘claimed authority’ voice is tangible. Everything we are feeling and living is shared in our voice, in our expression. Great understanding here of this and I am going to keep myself quite aware of how I feel when I am talking, it is a great marker for what is going on for me and what I am bringing to others.

     1. A beautiful comment for an equally beautiful blog , thank you for your inspirations Kate and Zofia. Like all things in our world the energy behind everything including our voices either harms or heals. I love thinking that one day this will be taught to children as part of true education again – imagine how differently they would grow up and how different our world would be.
        Zofia you show us so gracefully how our voices can heal with :
        The full, spacious and deep resonant sound of an equal authority – lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal.
        Just stunning.

416. I love what you present here Zofia, you are posing the questions to allow a deeper awareness into how we are in life and how that is expressed. This really says to me, that there is NO HIDING.. everything we live and do not live is all there in our voice.

     1. Beautifully said, Rachel.

417. Thank you, Zofia, what a lot to consider from reading this amazing article. Note to self, ahem indeed.

418. Hi Zofia, I can so relate to having the conversation with just one or a small group of people being okay and I could handle that, but the concept of speaking to a large group would make me very uncomfortable. I remember when I first started attending Universal Medicine presentations, and when I first held the mic. I was so nervous I was shaking and I could hear it in my voice. When I got on stage to show my before and after photos, my whole body was trembling. http://www.universalmedicine.net/before–after.html
     The same thing applies with photos, I would never be in photos in the past. And if I was, I would put on the fake smile and my lip would wobble and I would just feel so awkward.
     What I love about everything that I have been inspired with Universal Medicine is that these days, I am getting so much more comfortable with speaking out to a big group. I did so with about 370 people at a retreat recently and I was awesome even if I may say so myself and as for having photos… well… I have some amazing photos of myself these days and they are all over the web and I don’t mind anymore because I feel okay with sharing myself with the world. I don’t want to hide anymore.

     1. That is truly amazing Rosie.

     2. Rosie I love that you don’t want to hide anymore cause you are inspiring everyone around you. It is very very powerful to bear witness to another who is choosing not to hide anymore.

     3. The same with me Rosie, I am not comfortable speaking to a large crowd of people but worse still would be to speak on a stage with lots of eyes looking at me ! Horror ! I have a long way to go in that respect !

419. I often stop to feel the resonance of my voice in my body and find it very revealing. It has been my voice, speaking up, that has been my weakness in life, which since my experiences with Universal Medicine, has changed enormously. I love the way you present this as a responsibility because it is true, our living way is what determines the quality of what we present in any given moment, in any mode of expression. We are continually contributing to a pool of measured or stunted expression OR we are stepping out of this pool and contributing to the clarity and truth that comes when we speak and express from our body.

420. Brilliant blog, thank you Zofia. No amount of softness, tone control or use of words can cover up the quality of what we are speaking from, from how we are feeling inside and how we have been living.

421. Thank you Zofia, you have highlighted such a great step in the path of taking full responsibility for our place in the world and the quality of our relationships.

422. Zofia, the first paragraph sparked my immediate attention as I related to it entirely! Let’s just say, you had my full attention. Your blog helped me understand a recent experience at the Lennox Head Retreat where I experienced a way of communicating with others that did not have the “subtle hook of stimulated excitement causing speediness that creates a distance between me and those I am conversing with”. This experience allowed me to feel how imposing this excitement in conversation is to another rather than offer a way of expressing where there is a natural spaciousness within conversation or between people that allows another to breath and be themselves. It felt almost like a time warp and is was beautiful and so very tender.

     Your blog offers me a great opportunity to become more aware in my day to day life of the quality of love in my voice and my communications. Much to feel. Thank you again.

423. Zofia, you have just opened up another can of worms in me that needs awareness. What an amazing discovery. I loved this blog. The truth of what you have presented is massive. It takes our responsibility once again to another level, for us to see how our every action effects the all. It deepens our awareness on communicating, and another reminder to deal with our hurts as they arise.

424. A great sharing Zofia, expression is everything!

     1. A great man shared this – Expression is Everything and it is so very very true.
        Serge Benhayon has presented humanity with so so much that is very very true.

425. Wow.This article packs a well needed loving punch at communication and what really goes on when we open our mouths.I loved the line “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living”. I can see so clearly from your blog that our voice and how we use it, is actually a ‘product’ that we are bringing into the world. We spend so much time on a product (if manufacturing), a painting (if an artist), or a word document (if a writer), or a whatever…. (you could insert any outcome from any profession) to make it right/perfect/what we want etc… but what comes from our mouths can flow freely without anywhere near as much consideration. Wow. Great food for thought, I have a lot to think about the responsibility of how I live what regard to my voice. Thank you.

     1. I agree Sarahflenley, this blog is great food for thought and it makes me too think about the responsiblity of how I live and all that can be revealed through our voice.

        1. you can see why students of pythagorus didn’t speak for the first 5 years! It is so true that the voice carries everything we have lived.

     2. I agree Sandra. Too often I have reacted to the way someone had spoken instead of bringing understanding to where they are at, exposing my need for them to be a certain way.

     3. Great comments Sarahflenley. For me it brings it back to the basics of we either harm or we heal and reminds me of the great healing power our voice can bring.

     4. Me too Sarah. And the product is always the end result of what has been created, so it is again another connection that what comes out of our mouth is a reflection of how we are living from ourselves first.

426. Yes, the voice and how we sound is very directly related to the way we live and the love we live. It is one of the most obvious reflections one can have every moment, and one of the first changes when one is connected deeply to one´s inner heart, or surrendered deeply into one´s body. I love how you describe that voice as: “The full, spacious and deep resonant sound of an equal authority – lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal.”
     It is an ongoing development to observe the clarity/lightness or the loadedness/heaviness of my voice in every moment, to observe the sweetness, the caring, or the imposing in it. Everything is expressed in the voice, we cannot hide from it when we speak.

     1. Indeed juliamanbos there is no hiding behind our voice as it is so revealing of how we are living.

427. Zofia, reading some comments to you blog I realised the awareness and responsibility I can bring to listening. When pain, sadness, hurt, excitement can be heard and felt in someone else’s voice I can observe this and know that this is something they are feeling. Then I can choose to respond (rather than react) with a greater understanding of where they are at and what they are feeling.

     1. Choosing to respond rather than react to someone else’s hurts etc allows them more opportunity to experience what is happening for them and stops me getting enmeshed with it which I have often done in the past as a distraction from my hurts etc. Taking responsibility for my own expression and not imposing on others feels a much more honest way to move forward.

428. This is absolutely amazing what you are presenting here Zofia, as I was reading I was checking back knowing all the push and efforts and projections I catch myself expressing with. And indeed these are coming from something unresolved in me. I love how what the excess in the sound is a dead give away of the actual unresolved issue and a wonderfull marker and support to feel how we truly are and how to support another. You are amazing.

     1. I fully concur Amber, its a real revolution and something that I will be coming back and reflecting on though-out my day. I also find the trap of using the way I speak and what I say to convince and get an outcome is one I will also be exploring. The blog shows the great responsibility to deal with what is unresolved on an ongoing basis and by doing so what a difference that makes for everyone.

429. I’m really appreciating how my voice is so telling of where I’m at in my day. When I’m not holding myself back my voice has a lovely deep resonance and I feel it is very powerful.

     The other night a dog I knew was barking for a while until I got up, opened the window, called its name and told it ‘stop’. And it did.

     I’ve done similar things in the past, seemingly exactly the same, but it’s never had the same effect because my voice was laced with emotion, irritation and desperation that the dog stop barking so I could then sleep and not have a ruined next day etc. This felt very different and sure the dog could have ignored me but my presence meant it would have taken more to ignore.

430. When I am using my heart voice I can feel the I am deeply connected with my body and very present. It feels lovely.
     I love this article Zofia. Thank you.

     1. I love that Kathryn – Using my Heart Voice, it does feel very lovely indeed.

431. What a glorious blog Zofia, the first part could have been me, I do not like the sound of my own voice as much as I do not like my photo being taken, I feel very exposed… One thing I have noticed is that when I have been deeply connected to my body my voice changes, it comes from deep within my body and it feels totally different and lovely. So this is a good indication for me when as I am dis-connected, that voice seems to come from my throat and becomes very quiet. Thank you for sharing this very interesting blog, I shall re-read often to remind me of the importance of my voice and the effect it has on myself, AND others.

432. What an enlightening read Zofia, giving me much more to be aware of. Note to self, note to everyone!

433. Great blog Zofia which shows that even if we polish our voices and become accomplished at speaking in an even, clear and professional way, we can all still feel the energy or the emotions that may still be present when we speak or sing and we all feel these messages in our bodies all the time and these may contradict what we are hearing with our ears.

434. It is indeed very clear that everything we do has an effect on how we comunicate and speak, living from who we truly are does serve a way of speaking that is all encompassing and always truth. This is very important to realize everything is expression.

435. It’s amazing that how we speak and move reflects so clearly how we live to a detail we can’t even imagine. I’ve had so many moments where I’ve been shocked, or even horrified, when I’ve seen these details in myself. It’s a great moment to actually stop and learn a different way forward.

436. Incredible Zofia and what an ouch for us when we are not living truth and we share that with everyone not just those who can hear us but those who still feel the energetic reverberation of our words. That’s a stop and ponder blog indeed. thank you

437. Sometimes we avoid hearing our own voice because it also reveals how beautiful, sweet and tender we may be. Which can be difficult to hear if we are not embracing it

     1. Very true Joshua. It is not only the un-loving things we may find hard to accept about ourselves, sometimes feeling how beautiful and tender we are can be harder to face, because we have not honoured that within ourselves.

     2. Thank you for this addition Joshua. Your comment and Zofia’s blog raise powerful points, that ask me lto consider my responsibility in life. Our voice carries all that we live on a daily basis, and observing our own response to hearing our voice can support us deepen our understanding of the choices that we are making.

     3. The voice cannot lie, even if we try to conceal, change or hide it. The undertone which carries our voices can always be energetically felt.

        1. Beautiful Lukeyokota. We may lie or try to lie but the quality of truth or not will always be heard in the resonance of the voice.

438. Such a great topic to write about Zofia. It is so easy to dismiss our voice and how we speak as not being important yet our voice can not hide or lie how we really feel. Whether we are loud, quiet frustrated reticent, all comes out in how we speak. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.”

439. What we hold and what we then express is very revealing – great blog Zofia. I had a direct experience of this this week, where I was carrying heavy emotion and lots unsaid and how this did not inspire the other people in the room to feel refreshed and revigorated. I wondered what was up with them and had not looked at and been honest about and owned what I’d brought to the table. A great area for us to keep looking at and communicating about.

     1. I can certainly concur with that Shevon, it is entirely different when listening to someone who is speaking from their heart and body without the added load of emotion, it feels real and lovely and causes no disturbance in the body, it leaves me feeling lighter and is enjoyable to listen to. This applies to some music too, if it is loaded with emotion, it may sound ‘nice’ but it doesn’t feel good.

     2. I can relate to that responsibility Shevon, I have had days where I have made myself unapproachable, a face and manner that says don’t speak to me, yet there is no responsibility in being this way. Fortunately I rarely allow such dark moments to take hold as I see more and more my responsibility to make life about people. I am sure we have all had experience of being around people in a foul mood and it takes a lot to not let another affect how you feel yourself. There is a huge ability we all have to inspire those around us to be more open and responsive.

        1. Absolutely Shevon and Stephen I can really relate to being guilty of sending out emotional laden vibes and using harsh tones that impact those I am living or working with in the past. This happens less now but I still allow myself to be affected by the moods of others and this shows in the ways I choose to express and does not inspire honest communication. Thank you I have been inspired to go deeper with this.

440. Wow Zofia, this is a very honest listening to yourself and an amazing reflection! It makes the fact that ‘everything is energy’ very real and palpable. We cannot avoid the truth of it; our voices are exposing us all of the time.

     1. Lovely point Judith: “this is a very honest listening” – that we listen and how we listen to ourselves and others is precious and worth to pay attention to. It will change our lives.

441. Excellent blog and great description of the fact that the sound of our very voices carries the energy of the way we live. This is the sort of subject matter worthy of a scientific journal article.

     1. Thank you Zofia and Dean, I agree a scientific paper and research to share this valuable information.

        1. Totally agree Dean and Gregbarnes888. A scientific study registering the truthful resonance or not of the voice would be awesome. Police Headquarters would be able to throw out the obsolete ‘lie detectors’ and install the absolute ‘truth detectors’!

        2. Yes Greg there is certainly a truth to tell.

        3. Thank you Lyndy, I totally concur, a truth detector would have a wide application of uses. Imagine if you had one at church and before you got married you had to say I love you? Then at a doctors before you get a note from the doctor to say you are sick you have to pass the truth detector before you even get to see them.

     2. Agreed Dean – The science of the love filled voice.

        1. Yes Simone it is a definitely a science – the science of energy and sound.

     3. Absolutely Dean, it is definitely something that should be studied. Perhaps this would support people to take more responsibility with what and how they express.

        1. Yes True Johanna, There is so much people want to say and get out of there in their full expression yet wait till it’s safe to come out

442. Thank you Zofia, for bringing this rather neglected subject to our attention. Having been trained in voice at Drama College, we learned to “modulate” our voices and did endless exercises for enunciation and breathing and sound. This voice could be used to project from a theatre stage, or present from a platform, but it was a false voice, for performance only. I have met many older actors trained in the old days, the performance voice has become the social voice and either covers up the multitude of emotions lying underneath, or is used with great dramatic effect emphasizing them. However, the intended “cover up” voice in no way does what is intended, it is so false that it becomes very clear the real motivation underneath. It is true, Zofia, we cannot hide behind our voices, they reveal all.

443. Thank you for sharing the revelations your recorded voice offered you Zofia, it’s awesome that you were open enough to receive them.

444. Zofia you present it very clearly the choice to be our true and natural selves and know the love within or the manufactured version to win acceptance from the outside. I can feel the difference in my voice when I am connected to my essence and when I am not. When I’m speaking from my heart and when I’m speaking from my head or from hurt, anxiousness, or doubt etc. It is a reminder for me to come back and reconnect.

445. Zofia, what a great topic, written with such clarity and to the point, I simply love how you express. I can absolutely relate to what you are sharing and there is so much truth in it. How we feel and how we live is reflected in our voice and I can speak from experience that it feels absolutely glorious to speak from a body that is relaxed and unrestricted and confident as opposed to the restriction and tightness that occurs when things are worrying me, arguments or disharmonious situations have occurred and not be cleared or simply because I am holding myself small and hiding.

446. Thank you Zofia. ‘Instead of being the all natural unaffected me’ …I have lots to ponder on here.

447. What a wonderful marker to hear the quality of your voice and recognise that it doesn’t carry the full quality of you. I have had similar experiences when I am singing – the sound may come out sounding alright but it is only coming from my throat and carries with it whatever emotion I am in – Yuk! On the other hand I have felt how powerful my voice can be when the vibration comes from my whole body, holding other people in my heart. None of us would ever consciously want to harm another person. We just don’t know how healing or harming the quality of our voice can be.

     1. That is so true Fiona. We are taught the correct pronounciation and use of words at school and by others, but no-one ever considers that the quality in which you speak, is everything and can either support and sustain us, or, bludgeon us with its unloving force.

448. So true Zofia, I know what it feels like to speak ‘from the head’ but to also speak ‘from the body’. Speaking from the body without vested interests, emotion, control etc but instead expressing the love we have lived, brings a fullness that is healing for others and ourselves.

449. I love this Zofia. Everything we have lived, the quality in which we choose to live and any unresolved anger or hurt is heard and felt in our voice — even if we’re not aware of it. It’s a massive responsibility to accept this, to accept that we (every single one of us) matter greatly and can either offer a healing through any aspect of our expression, be it talking, singing, even laughing, or adding another voice of pain and suffering to an already deeply hurt world.

     1. Beautifully said Katerina. Zofia’s article is one that helps us to understand that how we use our voices says so much more than just the sound that comes out from our mouths and that our responsibility is huge.

     2. Beautifully expressed Katerina and so true,that we all matter, and our expression matters that is our contribution matters and it is our responsilbity to know that we either offer a healing or add another voice of pain and suffering. A lovely reminder.

450. A beautiful article Zofia reminding us of the power of not only our words but what is behind them and the effect that this has on ourselves and others too.

451. Wow thank you Zofia, I absolutely understand what you mean. Lately I have been taking the time to really listen to how I communicate and it has been really revealing. When I am truly listening I have found it to be so obvious when I am out and when I have laced my conversation with needing an outcome. It is so different from as you say “The full, spacious and deep resonant sound of an equal authority – lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal.” When we speak from here the whole of humanity rejoices with us.

     1. Gorgeous Samanthaengland, I have known the power of voice and lately been saying to friends ‘that didn’t sound like me did it?’.
        I am more aware of the contraction and sometimes a real need to be heard or understood. I too love that quote Zofia and will no longer settle for anything less than that deep resonate sound of equal authority. Speaking with our body is true power and stillness in motion.

        1. Yes revans917, the ‘that doesn’t sound like me’ is such a frequent response many of us, including myself, seem to have. So we actually know what ‘me’ sounds like!
           I had a meeting early one morning recently and I needed to listen to the recording for some detail – I could hear and feel how scratchy my voice felt and didn’t like it. Later the same afternoon, after I had integrated a process I had been going through earlier, I had another meeting. This time when I spoke I could hear a grace and clarity coming through, with no need to force anything. I could hear the healing power of the voice. The difference between the two deliveries was astounding.

     2. I like your last line Samantha. Because it re-alerted me to the bigger picture. It is easy to focus on what our voices reflect back to us. But the bigger picture and hence deeper responsibility is to be aware of what how our voices are affecting others. This is huge and should be a big STOP for all of us. It certainly is for me because I know that my voice (voice, not words – words is obvious – but voice has far more power to hurt or heal, and is irrespective of words – thus nice words do not hide the true energy of the voice) has definitely hurt others.

452. Gorgeous blog Zofia. How we live is reflected everywhere even in the vibration of our voice. Something worth tuning into!

453. Fabulous Zofia, I’ve never pondered much on how I speak although I have been aware that when I am with myself and still, my voice is smooth and calm with a gorgeous vibration to it. When I’m frustrated or stressed it becomes quite pitchy. Thanks for bringing a new level of awareness to this.

454. Your blog is awesome Zofia. It makes me think about how sometimes you can hear people’s words but they don’t feel true or like the person means them because, the energy is giving a completely different message. You have beautifully highlighted why this happens and presented us all with a sense of just how high and all encompassing a degree of self-responsibility we could choose to raise to. Lovely.

455. Wow Zofia. You have just taken the responsibility of opening my mouth and making sound to a whole new level. What you share is a very powerful insight,
     and reminder that everything we do and choice made matters. Thank you.

456. Hi Zofia, I love the fact that you’ve started a conversation that forever will ask us to deepen the connection with ourselves. How amazing that our voice is reflecting if we’re with ourselves or not. I also experience that if connected I feel that every word I’m speaking resonates through all of my body. That is a wonderful and expansive feeling. So how important is it than to develope a life lived being connected to our bodies so we can use our bodies as a marker if we’re with ourselves or not.

457. Awesome blog Zofia. I can completely relate to all that you are sharing here – that EVERYTHING that we live can be felt through our voice, whether speaking or singing. I’ve been acutely aware of this my whole life – definitely not ‘perfect’ by any means(!), yet I feel so much in a voice… The voice then, is such an awesome indicator of our true energetic state. If we are willing to feel, and especially allow such awareness and honesty with ourselves… then there can be no hiding or obfuscating from what exactly is going on for us. Similarly, we do feel and know another’s true intent, way beyond the words they say… It’s actually huge, and calls us to a level of very deep personal responsibility and integrity indeed.
     Thank-you for this piece. There is just so much to bring on this subject Zofia. A call to get writing more myself!

458. There is such depth in your blog Zofia. More and more lately I’ve been aware of how I can hear and feel different qualities in a person’s voice – it’s incredible. But what is on offer here, is how I can check my own voice and its quality … much to consider – thank you.

459. Wow, reading your life through the sound of your voice?! That is a game changer for most I imagine. It makes complete sense to me, as I often listen to recordings of my own voice or listen to myself speaking in a group situation. Often I notice a clarity missing in my voice – it sounds throaty, shallow, full of ahems. But there are rare occasions when I hear that I sound clear, open, full, concise, with authority, and when I relate how I felt at the time with how I sound, I see the connection between my livingness and my audio output. This needs to be studied more.

460. Wow Zofia, so much is presented here regarding our voice and what we truly communicate to others from the way we live – thankyou. If we take away all the details such as words, sound and tone etc, what’s left is an energy that everyone is feeling and being affected by every time we speak. I appreciate all the insights you’ve given me by sharing this topic, thankyou. I’ll be back to read again.

461. Definitely an interesting article as voice and sound of our speech plays huge role in how we express, this has given me much to ponder on in relation to where am at in my body and emotional state when I speak. Thanks Zofia

462. Zofia, I love the way blogs come at what feels like the right time, I have felt how I can hear in my voice when something is going on, but what you have expressed takes the responsibility beyond anything I had even considered.

463. This is a powerful piece of writing. Thank you for deepening our awareness of the responsibility we have in communicating and reminding us that energy is everything.

464. On so many points I can relate to what you are saying, Zofia! One day in 1999 someone told me a joke and I laughed. And got a whopping shock – because what I heard come out of my mouth was my mother’s laugh. Wow – what else of my mother’s was there inside me being expressed, instead of me?! How much have I taken in from other people that then comes out in my voice, my body language? Scary thought…. so right then I resolved to start ‘hearing’ myself, and choosing to dig within myself for my own true expression, not something secondhand. When you mention sales history, I don’t feel anyone has to have been in sales to find themselves selling. I could also hear it in my and other people’s voices from years of ‘programming’ – having to justify every thought and action for acceptance, ‘selling ourselves’. In adult life I had the ‘speediness’ problem too –picking up on the excitement of others and getting racy inside, then it was a disconnect from feeling myself and my companions. And then you spoke of the fear of being on stage, being seen – that was me too: up all night with vomitting and diarrhoea the night before a talk… but if you’ve seen me present on stage now that the loving support of Serge Benhayon came into my life, you’ll see the confirmation of how learning to connect to the love within overcomes all these constricted expressions so powerfully…. As you have found and shared here. Great, thanks!

     1. !!! Love this Dianne. I remember my partner telling me I sounded like my Dad. It was a killer blow to me, because what I knew her to be actually saying was that I was in the same state of frustration and judgement that my Dad was often in. As you say, it’s amazing how this comes out in our voice. This is such an important conversation that you have started Zofia and the comments that have followed are hugely revealing and informative as to what is actually at play. What I love about it all is that we have within us a perfect and pin-point accurate measuring device for the quality of the way we have been living. It’s like a constant geiger counter! I’m definitely going to pay closer attention. Thank you Zofia. Thank you all.

     2. Dianne, you have reminded me of a thing I used to do with friends where if we spent concentrated time around one another we would start to take on each others mannerisms and word choices – like we were becoming less ourselves and more a blended personality. I actually noticed myself the other day making a hand gesture like my boss would make and it stopped me in my tracks. I appreciate your description of ‘digging within myself for my own true expression, not something second hand’. I am loving that for myself – even with comments on these amazing threads. If I read the comments before expressing my own perspective, I can allow those comments to influence what I was going to say, but if I express my truth first, then read the comments, that doesn’t happen.

465. Your blog Zofia is so inspirational and full of great wisdom, thank you
     “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness”.
     It is such a timely reminder of the power of true communication and the impact it has on ourselves and others.

466. I remember cringing at the ‘sound’ of my voice in the past. I now know that what I really didn’t like was the hardness that I could sense … it is so true that how we are living comes through everything we do and say (thanks Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine). Nowadays I clock my voice or the way I use words to get a clear sense of how I really am.

467. This is great article Zofia, offering much to consider. Thank you for bringing this to the fore. As you say theer is so much revealed in how we use our voice. We often bring attention to body language but of course the voice reveals so much more. Thank you for the inspiration to listen with more attention and curiosity.

468. You make some great points here Zofia. I know that when somebody speaks I can feel a whole range of things and I have no doubt I am feeling other aspects subconsciously. Over time I have come to trust what I feel and act on that rather than be tricked by the words that are spoken or the tone used to speak them. I am building on this all the time and have found it to be life changing. It beings a great deal of awareness and responsibility.

469. An amazingly perceptive blog, Zofia. I especially love the line “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.” That brings up the incredible responsibility for me to be aware all of the time how I am doing everything that I do in every day – that is, the way I live my life. Otherwise, what I am saying, will not be from the true me. No wonder Serge Benhayon has said “Expression is Everything”.

470. Do you say that, with every word I say, with all of my expression, I disclose how I live my life? How spookily… OR: what a blessing! That imply that a healthy and healing lived life, a life of integrity and responsibility will be radiate through my expression and will have a healing impact on my surrounding. So I choose by how I live (and express), in what way my life is in service for all. WOW.

471. This is a great reminder of the responsibility we have as humans. How we talk = how we live.

472. So True Zofia, if it’s from the Inner-Heart it’s love. If it’s not it’s not, simple as that. Every complication that we have about life and expressing our truth is just to justify stepping out of the fullness that we are. And such a relatable article, thank you for sharing.

473. Wow, what a fabulous article – so insightful. On this first reading the first thing that stood out for me was the insight that the reason for not liking my voice comes not from its sound but the reflection of how I have lived, “Maybe it wasn’t my actual voice I wasn’t too keen on, but more the undertone of reaction, i.e. emotion and ‘hearing’ how the way I was living was being reflected in my voice”.

474. Like Carmin presented this this a great reminder that everything is energy, the energy in us is the energy that will come from us and out towards all others to experience, consciously or not we cannot escape the energy that is all around and through us. What your blog got me wondering about Zofia is if we cringe listening to it ourselves or seeing pictures of ourselves – reacting to ourselves, what are others feeling?

475. Zofia, what a great blog. You reminded me of many things, and brought an understanding I wasn’t aware of previously that stimulated excitement and getting caught up in things can lead to speediness and is a great way to not connect with the person – in other words it’s about the connection to both ourselves and the other and excitement can take us out of that. And of course we’re so much in our society about end results and yet of course our livingness comes out in our voice, how we speak, so yes if I’ve been frustrated, it’s in my voice – I know this, yet I’ve chosen to put it to the side so to speak, getting caught in the function of what I need to say rather than feeling my livingness, me and the other (that’s an ouch). So thank you for reminding me to just come back connect and then feel what needs to be said.

476. Zofia another reminder that we are constantly communicating everything all of the time regardless of if we think we are or not. This calls us to have greater responsibility in dealing with our hurts so that we can offer the world all of who we truly are.

477. Love your blog Zofia.
     “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.”
     How very powerful are these words! We can feel our voice in our body and know if we are in true connection.

478. Fabulous Zofia. Brilliant awareness. I can hear how people live their lives and where they are at in their voices when they are speaking and guess what? They can hear how I live, who I am in my voice. I wonder why I thought that I could get away with no-one noticing when I am not being me. Perhaps I could get away with never speaking again, but then my body’s actions would tell on me. No where to run and no where to hide, guess I’ll just have to be me! 🙂

479. Zofia thank you for bringing an awareness to the fact that the sound of our voice and way we speak carry in them how we have lived. Even if we don’t say what it going on it can be easily felt in whatever words we use. As someone that also was not so keen on their own voice in recordings I am starting to see why that may be the case – it’s not what I’m saying or how I sound but it’s what I’m not saying or any matter that is unresolved and I keep lurking in the background that puts me off.

480. I can actually feel physically and hear the tension in my body from holding back or expressing in a way that is not true to the love, power, grandness, joy, harmony, stillness and truth we all come from. This is picked up by others too, we can feel the stress, anxiousness, reaction, overwhelm in another’s expression, when it does not come from love, in our own bodies,this does not feel pleasant at all, a great and needed reminder to express from our heart, and not hold back.

     1. I now understand why I have always disliked hearing my own voice on recordings. “In my voice I was ‘hearing’ how I lived and the quality in which I was living. What a giveaway!” It makes much sense now! Thanks for the sharing Zofia and the clarity. I know and have experienced the quality of my voice change depending on the quality I am in, either in hardness or tenderness. It would be fascinating to hear recordings of myself in both scenarios and to really feel the effect it has on others when I speak.

        1. Rachel it would be interesting to listen to them side by side. This little “experiment” whilst I get a deep sense of the answer without needing to do it would certainly build an inner confidence that it’s not the way I sound that I don’t like per say but hearing all the hurt and sadness in my voice. It takes something we think we have no control over to being something that through a deep love and care of ourself will naturally change.

        2. Yes rachelmurtagh1 for me too, I finally understand why I always disliked (even cringed) at hearing my own voice played back to me… all I could hear was how empty my voice sounded because I was empty having chosen to disconnect from my body and check out so as not to feel what I did not want to feel as a child. Hearing my voice was always a reminder of what I had chosen….

        3. I know exactly what you mean rachelmurtagh1, I have never liked the sound of my voice when I have heard it recorded but now can see it as a point of reference to understand where I am at and the quality that I am expressing in. Not just in the recorded version either – bring that attention to every time I express is the next step in true communication.

        4. That is so true Natalie, the voice is a great point of reference to understand the quality of where we are at when we express.

        5. Great point Natalie and worth repeating for the expansion I feel; ‘ Not just in the recorded version either – bring that attention to every time I express is the next step in true communication’.

        6. Rachelmurtagh1, I had the same experience. I used to hate my own voice on recording. It definitely makes sense now, it was showing me the quality I was living in, which was not my truth. Great awareness.

        7. Me too Rachel – sometimes in the past I’ve heard my voice on recording or a voicemail and I’ve gone, ‘GOSH! That sounds awful!’. Zofia’s blog has helped me realise that this has much to do with the way I had been living and how i was treating my body.

        8. Same for me Susie. I have so often heard my voice on a voicemail thinking “that cannot be me” as it sounded so different from how I experienced my voice to be when speaking.
           What this has shown me is the great difference between the stage play I called my life and what was truly going on inside of me – a difference between a good life on the outside and hating myself and feeling insecure on the inside.
           The more loving I am with myself, the more my voice does feel like my voice in every moment.

        9. That is a great point Michael the false life, incongruent our voices reflect this and the more we live true to who we are the more everything we express holds that quality.

        10. “The more loving I am with myself, the more my voice does feel like my voice in every moment”. This is so true Michael and as so many of the comments express the quality of our voices reflect the quality of how we have been living.

        11. Yes Jane, I have the same thing with seeing photos of myself. ‘Is that how I look?’ I ask myself. Reading Zofia’s blog and all the comments has made me realize its just a snapshot in time and as you say an opportunity for us to learn more about ourselves and make changes to the way we are living if we choose to.

     2. I totally relate and agree Gylrae Love has a quality that is incontrovertible. It comes with that beautiful grace, stillness, joy, harmony, truth, understanding all rolled into one.

        1. Yes I agree Johanna, a quality that we all respond to. Our voice is a very powerful magnification of our emotions and feelings. When we can truly connect with our inner love and speak with that quality our voices are so sweet and gorgeous.

        2. Our verbal or visual communication is the end product of a series of movements that confirm the quality of the energy that we are choosing to express with. I am just getting a deeper sense of how all this works and your blog is immensely healing for me Zofia. This line lifted a veil: “…the subtle hook of stimulated excitement causing speediness that creates a distance between me and those I am conversing with.” I have always been an excitable and nervous person and so these words help me to feel how I have created a defense mechanism to keep others at a ‘safe distance’ rather than choosing to express from the love that I know myself to be and let others be a part of. That’s huge! Thankyou.

        3. Beautifully said Liane. I too built a kind of friendly, excited way of expressing that could never have been interpreted as ‘hostile’ or ‘unfriendly’ but in actuality created a distance between myself and others, kept me ‘safe’, and did not allow for truly intimacy. All about protection and nothing about love.

        4. Thank you Lyndy and Liane – both your comments have allowed me to connect to that feeling felt around excitable people to see it as a form of protection for them to avoid intimacy and to enable me to understand it’s something I’ve also made use of in the past.

        5. Liane your opening line is a stunner, and I completely agree – the way we communicate and express ourselves is simply the end product of choosing a certain energy to express from. What comes out of mouths, and the way we say things either confirms or exposes how we live.

        6. Yes Susie, yes Liane. Your words are spot on. It’s so super simple and so immediate. The way your open the door to a room will change the first words that come out of your mouth when you enter the room. But don’t take my word for it – try it. Go on. Try it. It’s amazing. Well, it amazes me! And then after it has amazed me it makes me realise the depth of my responsibility. Because what if it wasn’t just the way I opened the door, but actually every single other movement and expression that leads up to me opening that door?

        7. That is so illuminating ottobathurst, how the voice comes from the expression of the whole body, which in turn comes from energy we are choosing to living in. A truly loving expression will be felt as a resonance from the whole body, every cell.

        8. Yes Joan, I find that if I make a point of feeling my whole body as I speak, my voice becomes much more gentle – I’m learning to be more tender in my body and my voice is reflecting that. I’d love to do a ‘before and after’ on voice recordings – I have some from talks I gave years ago, it would be interesting to hear the difference between then and now.

        9. That’s so true Ottobatrust. From your sharing, I am reflecting on, in particular, when I arrive at work. I have noticed that I can feel one way as I am approaching the door into my room and then I can change in an instant, depending on my environment and what comes back at me. But then as you say, its actually every single other movement and expression that leads up to opening the door, so this definitely brings in a whole other level of responsibility indeed.

        10. What you share Ottobathrust is profound. It is amazing to consider that every moment that led to you opening that door could determine not only the words that came out of your mouth, but also how you expressed them, and following that could determine how another person would hear those words and then affect them in either a positive or negative way. This certainly would bring enormous responsibility for the way we live and speak. Great food for thought.

        11. Really well said Ottobathurst and Suzie. We are the final product of all of our choices.

        12. What surprised me the most Ottobethurst is how much I am now enjoying stepping up to that level of responsibility that you describe. It is not a burden but a great call to be more and more true to myself and to see the enormous part that I play in all that is occurring around me.

        13. ‘The way you open the door to a room will change the first words that come out of your mouth when you enter the room’ – this is huge. RESPONSIBILITY. Thank you Ottobathrust.

        14. This applies to every time I sit down at the computer. My voice may not be actually heard, but my expression is. I find it useful to often read out loud what I have written and hear my voice and feel if it is true. How did I come to the computer, in what energy did I sit down, what were my thoughts, how did I touch the keys? My voice will tell me. Thank you Ottobathurst for bringing this to our attention, it apples to every way we express in life.

        15. This is a great realisation Liane about the hook of excitement and how it creates distance between you and others, how this is actually a defence mechanism. It is no different to withdrawing and not saying anything, which is the same form of protection, acted out differently. I have also felt this protection in the overly up beat friendly persona, which is similar.
            It is huge, as we all just want to share the love we are very naturally, and that is more than enough.

        16. Victoria, this is a great comment about how not saying anything is also an expression in the form of protection. Holding back in this way also comes first, from the energy we have chosen.

        17. Jane, this was an old habit of mine, I held back my expression and as a consequence shut down as a child from feeling anything… I thought it was a way to protect myself, in that if I was not seen I would be safe…..how untrue this proved to be, for in fact, by stopping expressing, is what created all my struggles in life and made life so complicated…..which came from the energy I had already chosen, and now I choose a different energy, which is simply, I chose to express!

        18. What a long way away, from complying by ‘being seen and not heard’, to now knowing that not speaking up responsibly actually contributes.

        19. I remember I used to hold back a lot, I used to be seen but not heard. Know I have a great understanding how harming it is to hold back my true expression.

        20. I too have followed a similar path to you Amita in that I remained quiet so as to not upset the status quo but now I am very aware of the harm this creates in everyone and presently my voice and expression are developing as one, in and with love.

        21. Amita, I was not seen nor was I heard, that was my choice, as I held the belief, if I was invisibile, no-one could hurt me…I was in hiding most of my life, and only through attending courses by Serge Benhayon that I have faced my past and then I was able to make different choices.

        22. So true johanna08smith.

     3. Great claiming Gyl and great reminder to all of us that expression is everything.

     4. Beautifully said Gylrae, if I can feel the different qualities that I live in my voice, as sound waves they are naturally communicating that to others all the time when I speak.

        1. Absolutely Jenny, I have kids pull me up on it at work, because they can hear and feel I am not myself, by simply saying “are you okay” “you sound a bit stressed” … now that is love.

        2. Indeed, we are constantly receiving and sending messages which others can instantly feel and recognise as being ourselves or not so ourselves. Children are so beautifully connected and able to feel these communications and do not hold back in letting us know what they feel.

        3. Isn’t that just great, that they share that with you Gyl. The moment we open our mouth and start to speak, we can tell how somebody is feeling. It’s great to reflect this to each other so we make the choice to come back to ourselves and express in the fullness of who we are.

481. Zofia your blog really resonates with me as I have found the tone of my voice is very connected to whats going on for me. I now use it as a marker to check in on whether I can expressing from my fullness or from my hurts and reactions.

482. What you have written here Zofia is truly powerful. What I understand you to be saying is that we cannot hide how we live because it is there in every move that we make, every sound that comes out of our mouth, every interaction we have etc. You are talking about something that we all have known as kids but shut down to as we grew up and that is that someone can present a certain way but underneath it all we can feel what is really going on. I too have had that experience of listening to my voice and hearing all the things you described. Instead of working on my voice to try and improve it I am choosing to be myself in full and that I know will change my voice.

     1. Wow – beautifully said.

     2. Elizabeth you are so right. Trying to fix your voice and ‘work on it’ will never hide the truth of what’s going on underneath. We have to come back to the foundation which is how we live, and as you say by choosing to be yourself in full and making a commitment to living that on a daily basis, how your voice sounds will change to naturally reflect that.

483. Zofia you blog has really resonated with me as I too have begun to notice the impact of the tone of my voice in relation to expressing the all of me. For me, its become a great marker or check in to feel where or what am I really expressing from.

484. Thank you Zofia – I can relate on all accounts to your experience of disliking your own voice.
     I absolutely cringed whenever my voice was played back. To me it sounded heavy and like a man. But I’ve never considered it to be a reflection of how I have been living! Thank you for offering this to me. I love what you say ‘Constantly we’re making everyday choices either to live the free, real-us, natural and loving, or as the contrived and engineered versions of us struggling to fit the perception, image or ideal…’
     I see and know that to be absolutely true, and I’d like to start listening more and more to my voice as I ask to live the real me.

485. Zofia this is a great blog and only confirms the power we have in the responsibility to express our self from our fullness – and the absolute joy and freedom that comes with that, not only in our life, but our body and our whole way of living – which is then equally reflected to all others.

486. This is so true Zofia, and something I have also recognised listening to my own voice. So much is communicated via the voice alone, not even considering all our other expressions that we are constantly communicating. What I have noticed is when I am very connected with myself, my voice has a rhythmic quality and it can be deeper in tone also. It highlights the fact that it is the energy or quality we are in that truly communicates, not the mere words alone. Looking at it this way, we each have a responsibility in the many ways we are communicating.

487. I think most people could relate to feeling uncomfortable at hearing their own voice recorded. I certainly disliked hearing my own recorded voice for many years. It appears to me also that part of what is behind that is that, in addition to what you have said, we do not accept who we truly are. It is from such acceptance, that we can learn to accept the full reflection of what our voice offers to show us about the way we live without condemnation, judgement, or criticism – for the world is not perfect, and neither are we. And whilst the goal of seeking a life of perfection is certainly a flawed approach, living a life based on honesty and awareness brings about a perfection all of its own, the beauty of which is revealed to us in time.

     1. I agree. But it’s not just a recording of my own voice that I sometimes don’t like. I can actually hear myself speaking – live, whilst I am talking, and can hear and feel that what is coming out of my mouth. As you say Adam, they key is not to judge, but to honestly accept the marker of what our voice is reflecting back to us.

488. Wow Zofia – this is a beautiful and powerful presentation of the way our voice resonates with and delivers the quality we live in. As you say our voice is a giveaway and brings us to question, ‘What is it that we are giving or giving away when we speak?’

     I love the detail you give us, the detail about whether we are using this precious instrument to sell or convince, to control or hold people at bay, or infect others with a hurt we hold. It is as if you have held up a very delicate yet powerful magnifying glass to what is happening in the vibration of the tones we speak and transmit.
     I like you have heard my voice and did not like what I heard! Now I will become the scientist in action who tracks what I am giving out so that I hear the truth, or not, of what I say. Thank you Zofia!

489. Beautifully captured in words, Zofia, thank you. It makes me realize how great my body feels when I speak from the fullness I am and live. When there is simply love coming out of my mouth my body feels expanded, alive and flowing. I feel love when I start speaking and love coming back.

490. Wow, Zofia, that was pain-fully revealing. I could feel how much my voice reverberates a great deal of what is not me. I have looked into how I express and the hidden inferences that come through in the way that I can emphasise words, or change the pace of how I speak. There are so many facets to our expression and these gently and lovingly change as I become more open to fully expressing all that I am and more for me to ponder.

491. Absolutely Mary, and when we recognize our voice is loaded we can pause and be aware of what is going on, realising what we are carrying in the moment and calling it for what it is can allow ourselves to come back to love again. Great blog, Thank you Zofia. A call to keep coming back to Love

492. A great topic to write on and a lot of wisdom in what you share Zofia. I have experienced that horror at hearing my own voice on audio before, I was quite shocked by how weak my voice was, as it didn’t project who I am. It is so true for me that the strength of my voice is a reflection of how I live, if I live lesser then my voice becomes weak and my speech incoherent, if I live fully my voice is strong and clear.

493. What a great reflection for us all because we speak a lot. This has given me much to look at when I speak.

494. Thank you Zofia, your blog has made me much more aware of the responsibility we all have when we speak. The energy we are in certainly is heard and comes across to others.

495. Thank you Zofia for sharing. This is a judge reminder of what a friend of mine used to tell me so often. Reading your blog pushed me in front of myself asking me for a deeper commitment and an absolute responsibility for my expression and the lack of it.

496. Thank you Zofia for discussing this aspect of ourselves, which we can easily be aware of and then use to check how we are with ourselves … I’ve been realising that when my voice sounds higher pitched that I’m less with myself and more likely to be in drive vs my deeper voice indicating that I’m speaking from “living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area”. I’m finding that my voice can be an instant reminder to stay with me.

497. Our voices are quite telling, as is our walk, as is our touch and so the list goes on. Everything we do and say is an expression of how we are living and what we are carrying around with us that is unresolved or incomplete, or not.

498. Thank you Zofia what a briliant blog to share and for all you are saying to be appreciated in full. The simplicity of the message that how we live is what acturally comes out of our mouth to be felt brings awareness of the huge responsibility we all have and a truth to what we feel when listening to others, presentations, talks, movies, music and most importantly listenig to ourselves. True Love is everything.

499. Great article Zofia, I know sometimes my voice doesn’t feel right, and when I look at why its usually because I wasn’t speaking with all of me, hiding something, pretending confidence. Another way my body communicates to me the truth of how I am living.

500. Amazing blog Zofia, you raise some great points. I have also been noticing how much I am communicating through the tone of my voice. If I haven’t managed to express my true feelings I can feel and hear the bitterness coming through my words, whatever the words may be. It feels awful. In contrast, when I feel clear I really enjoy my voice. It feels gorgeous and silky as it comes out, and it resonates through and out of my body. Yes it is our total responsibility to take care of the way we are living in order to communicate our true selves to the world. Thank you for sharing.

501. I could actually feel quite a lot happening in my throat as I read this Sofia, so much here to look at.
     Great what you share about quality, and the quality of the vibration in a sound, a voice. When I have been anxious or nervous I have had a tendency to speak rather quickly and quietly almost swallowing my words back. The quality is lacking because I am feeling I am lacking. In contrast I have also felt that when I have spoken with a true confidence and authority I feel as though I am speaking from my chest and heart, the whole body, rather than the throat, everything opens up and there is a lovely humming vibration.

502. This is a great angle to feel the quality we are choosing each and everyday which is expressed through the quality (or not) of our voices. It makes so much sense what you have shared Zofia. Thanks for writing.

503. Its so true Zofia, everything we have lived, everything we think and feel is all magnified in the quality of our voice. Thank you for your very elucidating article. I have always found that speaking to someone on the phone is very revealing, because our voices carry all this information about how we live, how we love and how much we take responsibility for ourselves. I never used to like the sound of my voice, but more recently I have come to like and appreciate it, largely because having met Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, the way I choose to live these days has changed so much.

504. Simpy said Zofia, everything we are and how we live our lives is presented to others through our voice. A beautiful reflection.

505. Awesome Zofia. I’ve definitely noticed my voice changes depending upon the consistency of connection. The fullness of a connected voice feels quite beautiful when speaking and equally feels shallow when imposed upon by life.

     1. Me too Matthew – I notice my voice go through all different stages depending on how I am feeling. I used to hold back a lot and consequently people would find it hard to hear me. I also have found when I have lots to say it sometimes comes out scrambled if I do not give myself the space to say it. I have also learnt that it is not the amount of words I say but rather how and what I say that is important. When I am speaking clearly, it is often very simple, easily understood and there is not usually a long winded explanation that is needed to clarify it!

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507. What an awesome sharing Zofia, expanding the understanding of communication to be a form of energetic expression rather than just the usual decipherable sound, tone, body language etc is huge, explains reactions much more fully and brings in much needed responsibility for ourselves and others.

508. Zofia, what a truly inspiring blog! Our voice is such a remarkable instrument, one that offers us so much in the way of insight and healing. I love the way you have shared how our voice truly reflects our lived experience – our livingness, This is gold, and reminds me of the depth of responsibility I have in how I live and express myself to others – thank you.

509. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.”
     It leads me to recognize deeply the difference between speaking and true communication, the responsibility for our daily choices, for our livingness..
     Thank you Zofía.

510. I am a person I am very much aware HOW someone speaks- I do read a lot out of it since always and I know how everyone does read it unconsciously or consciously. Beautiful how honest you read your own voice on this audio and share this with everybody so that they are getting aware how important it is, how you live, to let go of any reactions or manipulations when you actually open your mouth. Because I am very sensitive to sound I can feel the harm in a voice immediately and when it is opposite I can really bath in a tender voice. For myself I always check in how my voice resonates in my body and I instantly know, where I am at. I love the warm, slow, tender and claimed voice I can have.

511. Thank you Zofia. This articles emphasizes that it is not just the words we use but the energy we speak with that is heard and felt by others.

512. Thank you for this inspiring blog Zofia. It has offered me a different view on how deep my voice relates to my body and my choices. Something very worth pondering.

     1. Yes Michaelkremer2212 I too will be looking at the choices I make and how my voice sounds.

513. A beautiful sharing, Thankyou Zofia. “Simply presenting the love and truth we live……”

514. Zofia you have expressed so beautifully and so clearly what happens when we open our mouths and speak. I too have learned that everything we are feeling, and everything we have lived to that moment in time, comes with the words that we are saying. So as you wisely say: “communication is so much more than being about how we say something or what we say”. It is about taking responsibility for the quality of our expression, and that comes from the quality of how we are living, and being aware that the way we are feeling when we speak will impact on, not only the person or persons we are talking to, but also on ourselves. I feel it is important to constantly remind ourselves that words are not just random letters put together to make specific sounds, they are packets of energy that we deliver, and with that delivery comes a huge responsibility.

515. This is great to read Zofia, what a fantastic opportunity to have your voice recorded and hear ‘what is actually coming out of your mouth’. I’m becoming aware of how I’m communicating and how my throat feels and my voice sounds, I notice sometimes it sounds pushy and imposing if I want someone to agree with me or sometimes nagging and as if I’m talking down to my son if he is doing something I don’t approve of, and then sometimes I can hear the sweetness in my voice and my throat doesn’t feel sore and the words don’t feel forced and my body feels lovely, thank you for writing this Zofia and bringing more awareness to how I truly sound.

516. A deeply inspiring blog Zofia with great insight on communication. The beautiful deep resonance from true expression is like ‘a breath of pure fresh air’ which leaves no doubt about the truth from the speaker or to the listener.

     “Listening to the audio it became evident that when we don’t deal with our hurts, upsets, afflictions or reactions at the time, we just end up communicating ‘all-this’ to whoever we speak with, leaving communication and our voice not clear or free. Then people receive from us either –
     The empty throaty, reduced effect from living an unequal life bound by constraint, restraint, speediness, arrogance or loud confidence…Or…
     The full, spacious and deep resonant sound of an equal authority – lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal”.

517. This is so interesting and timely I have an audio that I have done that I don’t want to listen to! That says a lot. I have noticed many times that my voice can be incredibly sweet and powerful so much so that it has stopped me in my tracks. And just recently my voice felt very steady and was reflecting choices recently to be consistent in my exercise, rhythm of tuning in choices and being much more honest so it was reflected in my voice. This blog Zofia is a great example of how everything is everything and nothing is nothing, all revealed around us and through us at all times if we are willing to listen and feel!

518. I can fully relate to what you said, Zofia. Since I have made the experience to hear my voice recorded which I did not like at all, I use a lot the recording tool on my mobile. And as often the voice mail function. Then I can re-listen to what I said and how. It makes it clearer how I felt in my body or if I was connected at all to myself. It is like a mirror which reveals in what quality I am while speaking. Am I fast insecure or silent – or claimed, self-confident and understanding for example. The more I am connected with myself, the more I like my voice.

519. Wow! It seems so obvious when I read it but it has never occurred to me before. I always cringed when I heard my recorded voice. I am now wondering if it would be different now.

520. Wow Zofia, such a great blog about the extend of our energetic responsibility. Everything has an impact on our surrounding, how we talk, how we walk, how we move, etc. and “living and communicating with lived-love” … offers tremendous healing benefits to another… I love how you describe the beauty of responsibility with this from a self reflective point, but specifically as a responsibility to all humanity.

521. I think most people have or would have a similar experience if they heard their voice on audio, it sounds weird or not how we think we sound, so it’s great to hear some of the reasons you have felt behind that. I don’t think many people look to this level but it would be well worth listening and seeing what we can hear in our voice that we are basically putting out there to the world.

522. Wow Zofia this is such an amazing blog which really blew me away, I am absolutely terrified of public speaking or speaking into a microphone so thats something I really have to look into, I never realised the connection with my livingness. How exposing to hear yourself as you did and your perception to realise what it all meant was truly insightful.

523. What comes out of our mouth is the way we have been living….Thank you Zofia for inspiring and inviting me to take a deeper level of responsibility for what comes with my communication. I am bringing your blog and what you have shared into my day.

524. There’s a wonderful point to consider here too – the responsibility we have in all we produce – be it sound and the way we talk; the way we move and walk; how we cook, do our taxes, shop, watch a movie… all of how we live. There is nothing that does not effect everything, and everyone.

     1. It was reflected to me the other day the importance of paying constant and loving attention in every moment and to everything we do.

     2. Thanks for the reminder Victoria re the responsibility we hold to everyone.

     3. So true Victoria. It reflects back to the truth of our bodies and that our bodies are the true master – not our minds that often choose to be unaware of what we are observing in our body.

     4. You have absolutely captured it Victoria. Everything effects everyone. To fully accept this is also accepting how powerful we actually are.

525. Thank you for sharing Zofia. I love how everything that our body reflects to us means something and can be used as a simple ‘tool’ to support me in seeing how I am living and if this is truly how I would like to live. Which is from my heart.

     1. I find it interesting that our voice and our heart are deeply connected i.e. our voice resonates in our heart and our heart expressed through our voice. Beautiful !

526. Wow, this is a powerful presentation – I love the way you have captured all the nuances related to how we use our voice and what it conveys. I’ve often wondered why I haven’t liked hearing the sound of my own voice and what you lay out for us here makes total sense Zofia. There is much more to our voices than ‘meets the ear’!

     1. I agree Victoria, I have also not liked hearing the sound of my own voice, too much holding back. This brings me a much deeper awareness.

     2. Absolutely Victoria, there is much to ponder in Zofia’s sharing about the sound of one’s voice and the quality of our livingness – there is certainly more to our voices than ‘meets the ear!’

527. Zofia, how beautifully you write about your voice and its reverberations. I understand what you mean that the sound of our voices can reflect and reveal so much about ourselves. This is something that I will become more aware of, thank you.

528. Speaking is a key element of communication. Thank you for bringing more awareness to the quality we speak in. This certainly brings another level of responsibility into play.

529. Hi Zofia, What a timely blog as I was having a sing this morning and found myself judging my voice and expression…There is much here for me to discover…or rather uncover!

530. A brilliant blog, Zofia. Indeed, the way we communicate doesn’t escape the fact that everything is energy, and comes with everything we have lived up to that point. A great reminder for the enormity of the responsibility we hold.

531. Thank you Zofia for presenting me with the fact that our voice reveals how we live our lives. I can relate tot that when e.g. I am asked to give my opinion on some matter I now can feel that I either speak from my inner connection or I speak in order to perform or to prove dependant of how I have lived my life up top that moment. It is actually so obvious that my voice represents all of me all the time, but up to now, I was not consciously aware of this. This article helped me to reconnect to the importance of being aware about of how I present my voice to the world and that it is for me a great marker in showing me where I am at. Am I living my life in full, or did I reduce myself in order to suite a situation of ideal or belief I have taken on?

532. Another reminder that EVERYTHING is energy. Thank you Zofia.

     1. Absolutely. As Serge has often shared, Everything is Everything, and Nothing is Nothing.

533. Zofia, such an enlightening article. It left me thinking that of course our voice expresses all of our choices because the body can never lie and our voice is the heard expression of the body.

534. “What actually comes out of our mouths through our vocal cords is the way we have been living. And how we truly sound is from this livingness.”

     This means no matter how much we rehearse how to speak or present ourselves, we can’t escape the fact that our voices, as is every part of our body, are an indicator to how we have lived.

535. Thank you Zofia for the revelation in the responsibility of living a loving life. From developing love into our human bodies we are then able to express with love from love. This brings greater understanding to the expression, “we are either harming or healing” another for if we are unable to love our-self first, then it would be impossible to truly express love to someone else.

536. It’s beautiful how you show Zofia that every part of us is constantly telling a tale of how we are, not just the selected bits we like to notice or give attention to. We really say a lot more than we think we do. It’s cool how you show that its not the words or phrasing that is the key factor but connection to the simple truth.

537. Amazingly, inspiringly, truthful blog Zofia. Thank you.

     “The full, spacious and deep resonant sound of an equal authority – lived from living love that reverberates around the chest walls and heart area to heal. ” These words will stay with me.

538. Zofia thank you for bringing so much more to listening than our ears alone – it feels like there is nowhere to hide when we truly ‘hear’ what someone is saying in their voice not just their words.

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