Mowing the Lawn – With Tenderness

Mowing the lawn with tenderness is a bold statement, and something that I thought I was already doing – until last week. I had decided I would mow my lawn in the very early hours of the morning, before the sun had risen.

However, I decided to nurture myself with an esoteric yoga session before getting up; I then rose from bed in the early hours and enjoyed my morning routine of gentle exercises. Exercising in this way I find is very supportive and allows me to drop more deeply into my body and feel more clearly what is there to be felt.

So after breakfast and feeding the animals I decided it was time to start on the lawn.

The moment I made that decision I felt my body tense up – it felt like it was preparing for an onslaught, an attack – like it had to harden to do this. To be honest this surprised me as I mow the lawn regularly and I have not felt this before.

On feeling my body harden I could have gone with not mowing the lawn at all, citing that it is too hard on my body. However, to not mow the lawn did not feel right, so I decided to continue on with my plans. Now, my lawn can be a challenge to mow as it is on a hill and has some rather difficult spots in it. For some time I have been doing half of the lawn one day and the other half the following day: this is because by the time I have finished half of the lawn I have felt quite tired.

This day though, when I felt my body tense up I acknowledged it and made the choice to be tender with my body as I prepared myself to mow. I honoured my feet and treated them with the utmost tenderness as I put on my socks and boots.

I then walked down to get my mower out and start it. For a while it has been difficult to start, however this day it started on the second pull.

I began to mow and found myself choosing to mow differently to how I normally do, dividing the lawn into smaller pieces and for the most part going across the hill instead of up and down it. Of course this is not possible over the whole lawn, but where it was possible it felt natural to do this.

I also felt myself being very caring and loving of my body as I walked behind the mower, finding myself actually loving my lawn and loving what I was doing. Now this was rather remarkable as always before it has felt like a chore, something that I had to do, not something that I loved.

I mowed half of the lawn and as I had been doing previously, I felt to stop and do the remainder another time. This day however I didn’t feel tired in the way that I had before, instead I simply felt that my body had done enough and if I continued I would be dishonouring what my body was telling me.

This whole experience was very poignant for it has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness. This is something that I am now beginning to explore. I am beginning to realise that my rhythm of living is actually loving and tender.

It is now a few weeks on from my wonderful experience of mowing the lawn with tenderness. And with that I can feel I am tender and the feeling of living this way is exquisite. There is no perfection or any need to be the same as I was yesterday or any other day; there is simply a feeling and knowing that I am tender.

As I continue to explore this feeling of tenderness each day, there is a joy and a lightness within me. I am forever grateful that I chose to mow the lawn with tenderness that day.

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

by Leigh Strack, Receptionist, Eungella – Queensland – Australia

Further Reading:
Tenderness: Its Remarkable Ways
To Rub my Eyes – The Discovery of Tenderness

698 thoughts on “Mowing the Lawn – With Tenderness

  1. When we look at things as being a mammoth task, then everything becomes tense, our thoughts, our bodies etc. When we treat everything with respect and honouring of how our bodies are feeling, then the support is given to us.

    This quality is in every moment of our lives, and the more often we do this, the more often we become sensitive to when it isn’t. Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate and more is revealed onto us.

  2. Once I experience something in my body it stays with me, far longer than a memory and far more inspiring than any mentally rehearsed mantra to change any behaviours.

    1. The body is the marker of truth, so once we respond to it, it calls out to us more, we then cannot but respond to it, otherwise we are going against it. Against the flow of life that leaves us hard and exhausted and wondering why we feel the way we feel.

  3. This makes me wonder how often we just override those moments when our body lets us know in its slightest movement calling for our attention. How different our day would feel if we could be more aware of and able to honour the truth our body is communicating.

  4. “There is no perfection or any need to be the same as I was yesterday or any other day; there is simply a feeling and knowing that I am tender.” What a great line, sometimes I do feel pressure from myself to be like I was, but I can see the wisdom of letting this go and simply knowing who I am even if I can’t feel it.

    1. We can choose to really enjoy what we are doing, ‘I also felt myself being very caring and loving of my body as I walked behind the mower, finding myself actually loving my lawn and loving what I was doing. Now this was rather remarkable as always before it has felt like a chore, something that I had to do, not something that I loved.’

  5. “The moment I made that decision I felt my body tense up – it felt like it was preparing for an onslaught, an attack – like it had to harden to do this.” I know this feeling so well, it can come up in the most mundane situations like doing paperwork or housecleaning chores. It’s a feeling of having to throw ones self into it all akin to preparing for some kind of attack. And I agree, tenderness and love of oneself and our body is a much better way to be with our daily tasks!

    1. Our body is always communicating to us, if we listen, we then can honour the body’s wisdom, ‘This day though, when I felt my body tense up I acknowledged it and made the choice to be tender with my body as I prepared myself to mow. I honoured my feet and treated them with the utmost tenderness as I put on my socks and boots.’

  6. I love the wisdom of the body and the more we allow ourselves to feel the truth on offer, the more we realise and can let go of the many layers of disregard, hardening and contraction that we have accepted as ‘normal’ that are in fact an abuse to who we are and our natural way of being. Thank you Leigh for offering the opportunity for us to reflect on how valuable it is to deepen our relationship with honouring the wisdom from our bodies so we are guided to live the truth and power of who we are.

    1. To treat ourselves with honour can take various forms. From the obvious attention to detail when dressing, to the less obvious thoughts of whether the better quality food, clothes and so on are worth it, whether we are worth it. The more we feel the worth of ourselves, the more wisdom we have access to.

      1. I have occasionally stopped, and rested, after cutting half my lawn, because my body was feeling very tired, ‘I mowed half of the lawn and as I had been doing previously, I felt to stop and do the remainder another time.’

  7. There is a momentum in the way I treat my body, a momentum of being less tender than my body is communicating, a momentum of getting the job done. I have made steps, already huge steps towards living with more of the tenderness that is within but it feels as though I am asked to take the next step. Thank you for the inspiration to live with and in tenderness.

    1. Even if the task is a bit daunting, we can choose tenderness, ‘This whole experience was very poignant for it has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness. ‘

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