Mowing the Lawn – With Tenderness

Mowing the lawn with tenderness is a bold statement, and something that I thought I was already doing – until last week. I had decided I would mow my lawn in the very early hours of the morning, before the sun had risen.

However, I decided to nurture myself with an esoteric yoga session before getting up; I then rose from bed in the early hours and enjoyed my morning routine of gentle exercises. Exercising in this way I find is very supportive and allows me to drop more deeply into my body and feel more clearly what is there to be felt.

So after breakfast and feeding the animals I decided it was time to start on the lawn.

The moment I made that decision I felt my body tense up – it felt like it was preparing for an onslaught, an attack – like it had to harden to do this. To be honest this surprised me as I mow the lawn regularly and I have not felt this before.

On feeling my body harden I could have gone with not mowing the lawn at all, citing that it is too hard on my body. However, to not mow the lawn did not feel right, so I decided to continue on with my plans. Now, my lawn can be a challenge to mow as it is on a hill and has some rather difficult spots in it. For some time I have been doing half of the lawn one day and the other half the following day: this is because by the time I have finished half of the lawn I have felt quite tired.

This day though, when I felt my body tense up I acknowledged it and made the choice to be tender with my body as I prepared myself to mow. I honoured my feet and treated them with the utmost tenderness as I put on my socks and boots.

I then walked down to get my mower out and start it. For a while it has been difficult to start, however this day it started on the second pull.

I began to mow and found myself choosing to mow differently to how I normally do, dividing the lawn into smaller pieces and for the most part going across the hill instead of up and down it. Of course this is not possible over the whole lawn, but where it was possible it felt natural to do this.

I also felt myself being very caring and loving of my body as I walked behind the mower, finding myself actually loving my lawn and loving what I was doing. Now this was rather remarkable as always before it has felt like a chore, something that I had to do, not something that I loved.

I mowed half of the lawn and as I had been doing previously, I felt to stop and do the remainder another time. This day however I didn’t feel tired in the way that I had before, instead I simply felt that my body had done enough and if I continued I would be dishonouring what my body was telling me.

This whole experience was very poignant for it has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness. This is something that I am now beginning to explore. I am beginning to realise that my rhythm of living is actually loving and tender.

It is now a few weeks on from my wonderful experience of mowing the lawn with tenderness. And with that I can feel I am tender and the feeling of living this way is exquisite. There is no perfection or any need to be the same as I was yesterday or any other day; there is simply a feeling and knowing that I am tender.

As I continue to explore this feeling of tenderness each day, there is a joy and a lightness within me. I am forever grateful that I chose to mow the lawn with tenderness that day.

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

by Leigh Strack, Receptionist, Eungella – Queensland – Australia

Further Reading:
Tenderness: Its Remarkable Ways
To Rub my Eyes – The Discovery of Tenderness

685 thoughts on “Mowing the Lawn – With Tenderness

  1. To stop when it feels right to do so – that’s gorgeous, even if it means the task isn’t done, I love that listening to the body had such an impact on you, as it can for all of us.

  2. What I love about the body is that when we are listening and willing to work to its rhythm with every next step it reveals us more we can let go of.

  3. I can so relate to the body hardening up in anticipation of an event/action. It’s like the body’s auto-response kicks in as it recalls the past experiences, and registers what is coming as something that it needs to battle against. What I can feel from your sharing is that it is not about re-writing the body’s memory with a more palatable version, but allowing it to connect and express from and with what is innately true, by us getting out of its way.

  4. I have always used a lot of push and drive to get through life especially with more physical tasks, what you share here Leigh is gold and reminds us of the quality in how we move makes a huge difference not only to how our bodies feel but the loving imprint we leave behind.

  5. This is a great example Leigh of how breaking up what feels like an overwhelming job into smaller tasks supports the quality of the outcome.

  6. A great blog to read thank you Leigh for sharing how bringing tenderness into what we are doing brings so much joy and fun. My garden at the moment is quite neglected because I cannot working it in the old way of rushing and pushing my body until it reacts, as I learn to develop tenderness with myself i will be able to bring this to my garden with asking for the much needed help this is required for me to be more loving to me.

    1. Yes, there is so much beauty in this, the imprint we leave behind is felt by everyone and all, and if it is done with love and care it is so very welcoming and beholding of us all.

  7. When we feel something inside us that invites us to change our movements (that is to withdraw from where we were and from where it was natural to be), we have to say yes to it for it to be able to change our movements. Otherwise, it does not happen.

  8. It feels great and is very supportive when we bring a different quality to what we are doing, how we are doing it and then clock the effect on our physical body and how we feel.

  9. Gorgeous to return to this blog and feel the grace that we can live with when we move in connection to our bodies and be guided by the truth that resides therein. This is true power as the quality of tenderness reflects our true way of being.

  10. Nothing beats the smell of freshly cut grass or the feel of a freshly mown lawn. I always loved feeling this as a kid and doing the lawns once a week just to keep it all in order. These simple pleasures are soon overlooked when we don’t take the care of ourselves in the process.

  11. I love the look and smell of a freshly cut lawn but I don’t like mowing it myself. That aside the article is bringing us to feel what and how we need to be at any point, connected to how we are truly feeling. It doesn’t matter what we do but the quality we are when when do it is important. No matter how many times this is said there seems to be always another part or level to feel or see.

  12. Tenderness is a lovely quality to bring to everything we do, and feels so much more exquisite for our body than how most of us function on a day to day basis.

    1. It sure is Lorraine – I agree, well said. When we move with tenderness there is a depth of realness that supersedes the mere functionality of how we generally move through our day.

  13. What an amazing thing to see Leigh, that we can finish something because we are tired and can do no more or we can finish it because our body feels for now it is enough and to honour this. This is subtle but very different the first is pushing to the limits while the second is about being in quality with and honouring the body, a very important distinction.

  14. This is a great reminder that there is nothing that we cannot bring the quality of tenderness to – for example – how we lift something, hang washing, move the lawn, wash dishes, make beds, approach the office desk, pick up a cup, drive our car – can be felt by everyone all of the time (even if seemingly unaware of it. What a gift for humanity and the world if we all chose to live this way.

  15. What a lovely sharing and great reminder that we can choose tenderness in everything we do, ‘This whole experience was very poignant for it has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness.’

  16. Tenderness is indeed a lovely way to everything, and quite new if you were always doing things as a chore. Doing things with tenderness is a step towards doing things with love, that can only come when we do things in full connection with our heart.

  17. Quality is not a word we often think about in relation to how we do things, yet it is the absolute answer to the horrors of illness and disease we now experience in our world. Bringing a quality of love and tenderness to all of our actions changes how our body feels and functions, as well as placing into our world that there is a known quality, a steady, sure and absolute way of living, for all to feel.

  18. What becomes very clear with your experience here is that it is not about either doing it or not doing it but that it is the quality we are in that not only changes how we feel but also the quality of the outcome.

  19. Leigh I enjoyed reading your blog. It makes me consider all things I do on a regular basis and the expectation I have that because its the same task, I should automatically do it in the same way, but this is not the case. Each day and each time I come to do a task, everything is different and it’s great to stay open to doing it in the way that is needed in that moment.

    1. It never ceases to surprise me as to how, if we ask, there is another, more streamlined, easier or fun way to do a task. Yes absolutely, each time we come to a task, everything is different.

  20. Something so simple and profound. There is another way to go about life, a way where we honour ourselves and allow ourselves to be the tender and delicate beings that we are.

  21. Thank you Leigh. Ever since I read your blog the first time, I find myself reminding me to mow the lawn “with tenderness”. It makes a huge difference to just stop and respect my body.

  22. Awesome blog Leigh as I wouldn’t have thought it was possible to mow a lawn with tenderness, but you have proven me wrong as anything we do in life can be done in tenderness if we remain connected to this quality and don’t harden up in anyway and the best part is we leave behind a beautiful imprint that is a blessing for all to feel.

  23. Thankyou Leigh, I have not read this for a while, today I have been inspired to bring more awareness to how tender and loving I can be with my daily tasks. I have also found that Esoteric Yoga sessions naturally connect me to these qualities and support me to bring them into my daily living. It’s quite an amazing modality.

  24. One thing I have noticed when doing something that would generally tire my body out is, it’s the disconnection from my body which is causing the most tiredness not the action itself.

    1. I have noticed that also Kim, my tiredness has a lot to do with the quality of energy I am moving in and whether or not I’m connected to me, my body and my essence. If I am checked out in my mind or rushing it has a big effect.

  25. Beautiful how you created your own flow through bringing tenderness to your movement, and mowed the lawn in bite size pieces rather than having an expectation that you needed to do it all in order to get the job done, when we do things from feeling our own tenderness first, things like mowing the lawn don’t seem to be anywhere near as tiring because we move with our body, rather than pushing or driving our way through.

  26. I really relate to how we can go into tension before launching into certain motion or activity, and I can feel how so long I have been overriding it, ignoring the built up that has become the residual hardness – which is contra to the natural, true quality of my make-up. My body is asking for forever more tenderness to be brought back in, and your sharing here is so timely and very inspiring for me.

  27. This blogs show clearly that our body knows and is a clear marker for us to follow. When we wonder in our minds in what is best to do, we are not fully connected to our body and with that in disregard with it and perhaps in disregard with causing it to suffer pain and exhaustion.

  28. To realize you can choose and hold onto doing things with tenderness regardless of how difficult they may seem is profound… for so many of us lose ourselves and harden in the face of a challenge but as you have shown it is sometimes the hardening that makes something a challenge.

  29. “This whole experience was very poignant for it has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness” Beautiful Leigh. I have still found that i tend to ‘get things done’ believing I can be ‘tender’, ‘still’ etc when I have accomplished all I need to do – Crackers! Starting out with the quality of tenderness and then ‘doing’ changes everything.

  30. When we lovingly prepare ourselves for any task the task is always attended with far more integrity and grace than whenever we rush to just tick that box off.

  31. I love that not the mowing of the lawn has become the focus but the way you are with yourself. This is enormous and as it shows it is then not important what we do, as our body finds a way to do it that is according to its rhythm and movement, making every task at hand a joy for us to experience as we feel in sync with ourselves and moving with ourselves.

  32. When we perform any task from a place of self love and gentleness, it is a whole different experience – as you prove from your mowing example. Pretty cool to know we can do this in any of our daily tasks.

  33. Reading your blog again Leigh supports me to choose tenderness in everything I do as much as possible, without perfection but through listening to my body and connecting to this beautiful quality you are sharing-tenderness. I notice when I am gardening a similar tension appears in my body and I am learning to not use my body in this way by being more aware of how I am feeling and then adjust accordingly.

  34. This shows that there is never a routine within a repetition of something as every moment counts and how we are with ourselves.

  35. Through building a relationship with our bodies, we develop an awareness of how our bodies are feeling and as such we are presented the truth of when we are not being ourselves, when we feel tension, feel ourselves hardening or feel that we are bracing ourselves in protection. And through this awareness and honesty we are able to make a choice; to return to the being in the quality of our essence and move in honor of who we are with the very next step or not. What you have shared Leigh beautifully highlights how we can live in the graceful power of who we are, when we move in honor of our tenderness, and how natural this actually is for us.

  36. This is a beautiful reminder for me to be tender with myself and honour what my body is communicating to me. I notice when I am gardening and pulling out weeds, I tend to go into hardness and want to get the job done. I can feel my body harden but often ignore it and carry on. By being aware of how my body feels is great, so if I choose to approach whatever I am doing with more tenderness and choose to be more gentle on my body, I would be less tired, less likely to hurt myself and be able to enjoy and love what I am doing. I am learning to not make gardening a chore but a loving way to nurture the plants and myself.

  37. A beautiful example of the mower showing how we push ourselves when undertaking routine tasks that we perceive as a chore. When we chose to be tender with ourselves we are no longer fighting the task and pushing, it becomes part of the tender rhythm of whatever we are doing.

  38. ‘I am beginning to realise that my rhythm of living is actually loving and tender.’ My downfall can still be to regard an activity as ‘hard’ rather than approaching it in the flow of my rhythm and allowing my tenderness to support me as I undertake whatever it is. The more I see my day or even life as a whole the less this happens but old habits can still creep in unnoticed when I am tired or have been taking less care of myself. A beautiful reminder that it is never about the activity but how we approach it.

  39. So often I have avoided gardening (and then gone at it way too hard and too long) because I start to tense up with the thought that it is hard work and my lower back will hurt by then end of it so before I have even set foot in my garden I have pre-judged the activity. It is so lovely to read how you made different choices and the outcome was quite different – it is not about the activity it is how we are with ourselves and we always have the opportunity to start afresh. Thank you for the inspiration to bring tenderness to my mowing and gardening in general.

    1. I can so relate to your comment Helen. I do exactly the same. I live on 15 acres with lots of tress around our house. There is constantly leaf litter everywhere and I have been avoiding clearing it because I go into making the task seem like it’s too big in my head. Every time I go outside I have a little reminder to do a section at a time but I ignore this message. Really, I don’t have to go and clean out all of it at once but like what Leigh shared, I find very supportive, is to lovingly work on a section at a time and use this opportunity to connect with myself and with nature. This blog and your comment is inspiring me to do this today. To clear the leaves and put them in my veggie garden a bit at a time, doing it with tenderness, love and then the paths will feel amazing to walk on.

  40. What you share is great, if we go about our day that we need to complete tasks then we creating them as chores and that already feels heavy and a burden, but when we go with the intention that we will honour our body while we go through our tasks it no longer feels like a burden.

  41. My first thought on reading this was a pondering on the difference between Australia and England. In England the population density is so much greater and no matter where you live, if you were to start up a lawn mower before dawn you would have dozens of very unhappy neighbours and many cross words would be spoken. I love the message in the blog of the massive difference if we do something like mow the lawn with deep respect for our body and staying tender in the process rather than choosing to harden to get the job done. The hardening is such an old pattern but a great one to change.

  42. It goes to show Leigh, if we change the quality that we do our tasks in it is quite possible that they will become simpler and often far more enjoyable to complete.

  43. I find, when I do my daily tasks because they have to be done, they become a chore and I feel drained very quickly. On the other hand if my intention is to perform my tasks, honouring my body and how it is feeling, I don’t get drained and I feel all that I do supports me, to live my life with more harmony.

  44. Beautiful Leigh, I can so relate to being and honoring my tenderness in not just the mowing of the lawn but in all that I do. Your story is a great reminder. Thank you.

  45. It’s fascinating how, when we acknowledge the body, where it’s at, how it’s feeling and then match our actions, pace and gentleness to what it needs, then our tasks and issues seem to go way more easily. It’s a form of respect and honouring that then cuts both ways (and not just on a lawn!)

  46. Leigh I appreciate your sharing, and have realised that we can be tender in whatever we are doing throughout the day. I mow the lawn too, and take it a little at a time, but to do so with tenderness is such as change from ” having” to do it and choosing a different attitude makes all the difference.

    1. This morning i went for walk and it was very cold here in Germany. I choose to feel my whole body and choose to feel my tenderness and walked in that quality. It was very beautiful to focus on the quality of tenderness and the cold did not matter any longer but me confirming with every step my tenderness – delicious!

  47. This blog is very beautiful Leigh. It shows that if we start the day with an established quality, it serves as a foundation for the rest of the day and offers the space for greater and deeper learnings throughout our day. If you did not have that foundation you would not have connected so deeply to the power of mowing with tenderness and care.

  48. During the retreat in Vietnam we learned to connect to a quality through the gentle breath and feeling our fingertips and to choose this quality for whatever movement we are doing. And than to deepen this quality. For me it was about tenderness and delicateness and to allow this quality to be in everything I do and therefore confirm it in my body.

    1. As I read your comment Janina, I can feel the importance of being present and fully in and with our bodies, so that we can enjoy our tenderness and delicateness in our movements and in how we connect with those around us.

  49. Now this was rather remarkable as always before it has felt like a chore, something that I had to do, not something that I loved.“
    Reading this i realized what a set up it is if we see chores like mowing the lawn or cleaning the house as something we have to do but not really like or enjoy doing. Because we set ourselves up to do it in way or quality which is in resistance and therefore harming ourselves.
    I often cleaned my house with frustration as i often waited until it was dirty and than i was frustrated about not taking care at earlier time and having to do it all together. But today i can also see it as take care of the place i choose to live in wanting to have it clean and tidy and beautiful.

  50. “I can feel I am tender and the feeling of living this way is exquisite. There is no perfection or any need to be the same as I was yesterday or any other day; there is simply a feeling and knowing that I am tender.“ Life is changing once we allow to drop our hard shell and feel the tender sweetness within us.

  51. This is a beautiful tender piece of writing Leigh and it shares how nothing is grander than the tenderness we hold within. Thank you.

  52. Thanks Leigh for sharing your experience of mowing the lawn with tenderness, which is a great reminder for any task we do in life. I know when I go to clean the house I sometimes get into the busyness of it and my body tenses up, but when I choose to work with a certain quality and tenderness my body feels a lot lighter and the work becomes a joy not a chore.

    1. I am avoiding deepening the level of tenderness that i am in moving my body with not the care that is possible and often harden or push my body. Even there is already a lot of tenderness there which i can appreciate. Is it possible that in avoiding to live in a deeper quality of tenderness we avoid showing our sensitivity and fragility..

      1. I think it is not only possible that we avoid showing our sensitivity and fragility, but a reality. To allow ourselves to live from our sensitive, fragile, vulnerable selves, we have to break through the constructs of growing up that sees such rawness as weak and emotional. The more I surrender to my tenderness, yes the more sensitive I am, but at the same time the stronger I am in my body and myself. This supports me to continue to develop my tenderness, expanding it across as many aspects of my life as I can, knowing that even this is constantly expanding and changing.

    2. I agree Anna,
      The joy of being fully in my body as I move while cleaning my house has a profound affect. I no longer get the vacuum cleaner caught, I no longer bang and crash at things and I dance with the mop. Most of all when I am done I feel the tenderness in my house that I have worked in and this tenderness then supports me for the coming week. I love feeling my tenderness around me as I move through my home.

      1. This brings a new approach to activities like cleaning our house which many people don’t like doing. We have the choice to imprint our home in a quality which supports and nourishes us and others. Joyful to imagine you dancing with the mop Leigh 🙂

      2. Just hoovering my floor with tenderness and care! Walking on it feels amazing, Leigh, thank you for sharing you beauty and lived experience with us.

      3. Just participating in a Chris James workshop (singing and expression). He invited us to sing very tenderly with no pushing. I realized much i avoid to feel the level of tenderness and fragility that i am. But i realized that i can give myself the permission to be tender and to show this to other people no longer wearing a mask or going into hardness to overplay my innate qualities.

      4. During the workshop with Chris James i also realized that i can feel very vulnerable in one moment and then switch into function mode, this is something i have trained myself in. It is in a way playing a role, doing what ever needs to be done but not staying in connection to feel myself or others. And this is not the way i want to continue living. Understanding that it is a strength to be tender and fragile.

  53. Thank you Leigh for sharing how we can choose to be tender and when we honour ourselves in this tenderness we confirm our true selves and learn to trust this natural way of being.

  54. It’s been quite a while since I last mowed the lawns, but I do recall what it was like and that generally speaking there was not a lot of tenderness and gentleness in doing this, and I can now feel that this came from wanting to get the job done and therefore often ‘pushing through’ regardless of feeling tired, hot or sore etc. This is a great reminder that we can bring in gentleness to whatever we are doing and how different it feels when we do..

    1. Agreed Angela,
      It is amazing how much more pleasurable a job becomes when we are tender with ourselves when we do it. Something else I have noticed is that in my tenderness I am focused and with what I am doing and often this means I am completing the job with such ease and awareness that it takes less time. An awesome phenomena that I continue to appreciate.

  55. When we connect to our natural tender selves within and honour this quality of connection we can bring a tenderness to everything we do.

  56. Sometimes it is the mundane routine tasks that offer us the greatest lessons. We approach a task in a certain way because that is how we have always done it but it is lovely to stop and be gentle and the mundane can become very special and an opportunity for self-care and self-awareness.

  57. Great Blog leigh, It presents clearly how the chosen quality of being affects what and how we do tasks like mowing the lawn.

  58. What I really take away from your blog today Leigh is that we can choose the quality that we do things in. Hardening up to mow the lawn may have been normal for you but it was not a given, it was a choice, just as choosing tenderness that day. I am gradually bringing more attention to this and so to read your experience is really supportive, thank you.

  59. Wonderful Leigh your blog is very inspirational for me so thank you so much for not holding back about your great experience with mowing. I love what your share: “This whole experience was very poignant for it has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness.” I could observe in me the same tendency to harden up if I am about to do a thing that seems to be a bit difficult for me. With what I have read and felt in your awesome blog I can now explore as well my other way of being with it – wunderbar.

  60. This morning I turned a tap on in the garden using too much force, and my thumb immediately responded by forming a red lump and feeling sore. So I am re-reading your blog Leigh, as I get a lesson from my body now whenever I am not being gentle and tender. It is so much wiser to choose tenderness in the first place, thank you for sharing your experience with mowing the lawn.

  61. Thank you Leigh for sharing this inspiring reminder. That regardless of whatever is task is needed to be done we can always choose to move with the tenderness of who we natural are.

  62. This is a great reminder for me to read today. As so often I would start off in my tenderness particularly when working on bigger jobs in the garden then little by little I would allow distraction in. Now I have started to ‘nip this in the bud’ as during those moments it is so easy to push my body physically to over stretching, over reaching and heavy lifting etc which in turn can result in pulled muscles and pain.(my body revealing the truth of my choices) So to keep tuning in and feeling that inner tenderness the job gets done with no pushing or pain – what a difference.

    1. That is beautiful Marion.
      What you say here is also how I am now working with my body and yes the difference is marked. I love my body dearly and am way more in tune since I made the choice to stay with it and to support it in very practical ways. As you say no more over stretching or over reaching. Simply positioning my body how it needs to be so that it is fully supported as I go about what I am doing. The honour I feel in doing this is very stilling.

  63. Perfection in the way we live is unattainable, as we will always slip up and make mistakes at times. However, if we are predominantly choosing to support ourselves lovingly then imperfection becomes easy to accept as being just a part of our ongoing learning.

  64. i love how such an unlikely job as lawn mowing can be used to express tenderness. This is ground breaking, there is a way to be with ourselves no matter what we are doing. We cant blame the activity or our ‘lot’ in life, we always have choices.

  65. I’ve always rushed mowing the lawns like it’s a total inconvenience and there are better things to do with my time. What those better things are I don’t know, as all it comes down to is a lack of responsibility for my lawns. I don’t even care for my lawn mower. When I’m finished I just turn it off and put it straight back into the shed, I don’t even bother hosing the grass off it. Wow I can really feel the energy of how I have been mowing my lawns in and it feels awful. Oh my gosh what other jobs around the house do I do in this irresponsible energy? Thank you so much Leigh for exposing the way I have been living, I’m going to go and get my mower serviced 🙂

    1. Dear Lindell,
      I so giggled at how you have been mowing the lawn. I too used to resent it and rush it.
      I have always cared for my mower, though the energy again was knowing I had to do it and as I was tired from pushing myself to get the whole lawn done in one go, it used to be with annoyance. So yep I giggled. Why ever do we treat ourselves this way, as I do still have to stay aware and observant, for this momentum still sometimes arises. Yet another opportunity for me to address it in another aspect of my life. Knowing tenderness and constantly choosing it, even on those days where my body feels battered, actually especially on these days is setting up a different momentum that I can now choose with much more ease.

      1. It’s all about learning and understanding who we are. Once we are aware that we no longer hold our stillness and we choose to reconnect – well it’s a learning curve isn’t it until in time we choose stillness permanently because to not be still would feel absolutely horrible in our bodies. It feels horrible now as I’m still learning but I am yet to understand why and what it is doing on a grander scale.

      2. Dear Lindell,
        Yes most definitely, it is a learning curve, everyday another something is felt and offered for me to bring stillness and acceptance to. As you say it is uncomfortable, but not listening and responding is even more hurtful in my body. What I love is that I am now understanding there is no perfection, just a growing and expanding love.

  66. “need to be the same as I was yesterday”. This is a great comment Leigh. If I have a really good day, one where I’m really connected, I try to repeat yesterday to relive it in the new day and it never works and I wonder why I can’t recreate it. Thanks to your blog I now know to just stay connected to me as this connection has no days or nights, it just is.

  67. Just coming back from an amazing retreat with Chris James about true expression with our voice and body. We were invited and reminded to reconnect to our innate tenderness and drop our protection and masks. Often during the week-end men and women were encouraged to face each other and sing from their hearts and without a masks. This was deeply healing to feel the equality between men and women and that i do not need to protect myself from men. That men and women in their essence equally sweet and tender. That is the way to let go of our hurts and to live love with our partners, friends, families.

  68. “This whole experience was very poignant for it has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness.”
    This is huge Leigh what you express here in this blog. Really there are no reasons why we should not honor the delicate and tender essence that we are and not compromise it. This is something we need to learn and embrace once we allow to let go of hurts we have experienced and feel the love in our hearts and share that love with others reconnecting to the tender and sweetness we are.

  69. What would society be like if we didn’t mow our lawns? A disaster! Hence even these seemingly mundane tasks require our full loving commitment, for they are equally as important as every other thing we do throughout our day.

    1. So true Brendan,
      There are many jobs that simply need to be done and the way we do them is what counts. We can harden, push through to just get it done. Or we can prepare for the job at hand, hold our connection to ourselves and enjoy doing it in our day. The latter feels so beautiful that it has become the norm for me.

  70. I recently gave a session to somebody and realized how instantly i became very caring and tender in the way i treated the person. Afterwards i was wondering why don’t I treat myself with the same love, care and tenderness. This was amazing to realize and this is something i will focusing on. Imagine what quality i can reflect and bring when i embody stronger a depth of self love and self care. Wow!

  71. I love the way all along your blog, every choice you make is based on how your body feels, you constantly come back to your body, and what unfolds of that is very interesting. Just by paying attention and putting your focus on your body and how it feels, not only you have more and more awareness, but also the love increases enormously.

  72. Yesterday I played the piano and caught myself just hitting it hard at times or and not with a conscious choosen quality. Then I reminded myself to play it tenderly. Later I went for a walk with my dog and placed my hand on my collar bones which felt so tender and delicate. With that quality I walked my walk.
    Before I went to bed I send a what app to a friend wishing him tender night. Which I never did before, I always wished good night. This had an impact on the way I went to bed. I prepared my bed with care and tenderness. I put myself to bed with care and enjoyed lying down with me. This is not how I usually feel when I go to bed. But what an inspiring experience to bring my the tenderness into my life in what ever I do. Wow!

      1. Today in a meditation group and at some point was in my head, thinking. So i reconnected to my body in lifting my finger above my leg and very tenderly put them back on my leg. To feel my fingertips with tenderly had such a strong impact on my body suddenly feeling absolute and with me. I repeated it a few time. Amazing the Power of tenderness.

  73. I made a similar experience like you Leigh. When I started to mow the lawn around our house, I actually allowed the mower to determine the pace I was mowing – it is a mower with a gas pedal. But pretty soon, I realized this doesn’t make sense. When I mow, I walk ME and I mow in this pace my body tells me.

    1. Alexander1207,
      It feels so simple when we work with our body. What I continue to notice, is how much easier the tasks I do are, my body holds a wealth of knowledge, with many ways of doing things that I had not thought of before.

  74. Any manual task can be done with tenderness, do I do it all the time? No! but I am a far cry from the crash, bang and wallop person I was years ago thanks to living in a more gentle way in all areas of my life.

  75. This is a great revelation for all, it is never what we do (mostly) but how we do it. I remember Curtis Benhayon showing me how to lift something heavy as I was telling him often I have to do that if I am travelling on my own or in the house on my own – some things practically just need to be done. He shared with me something along the lines of, first honour that you are a woman, that you have a physical and delicate body and from there approach what you have to lift and how you are going to lift it, and take your time.. we then lifted something together and it worked. I have never forgotten this and each time I remind myself that I am not designed to lift heavy things but that I am also capable of a lot as long as I take my time, don’t brace my body, and rest when needed.

    1. Thank you for sharing this terrianneconnors, it is great support, I am often in the same situation, where something just has to be done. It actually feels really powerful to honour myself as a woman first and to support the delicate body that I actually have as I go about lifting and moving heavy things.

    2. This is a great reminder terrianneconnors. I like Curtis Benhayon’s advice here. Honouring me as a woman first in my delicateness and physicality and then moving from this foundation rather than just avoiding lifting things… At times this may be the case, but just bringing it back to honouring me first.

  76. ‘It has shown me that even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness.’ This is so true, I had to do a stock take at work recently which was quite hard work and tough on my body, and lifting a lot of heavy things and I kept going back and back to moving tenderly and the delicateness in my hands. It was tiring but I felt great after.

    1. Shirt, Nathalie and Meg
      This was probably the greatest realisation that I had with my experience in mowing my lawn tenderly. Knowing that I that I am worth being tender with has been instrumental in my being able to be still and choose my tenderness when faced with difficult situations.

      1. There is a deep honouring of yourself involved isn’t there? It feels lovely, and I could also feel at the same time in that honouring, I held everyone around me with a huge amount of tenderness and respect.

  77. A great article Leigh, thank you for sharing that when we choose to be tender and honouring our body, our connection and natural rhythm allows us to stay with ourselves with whatever we are doing.

  78. So simple, yet so very powerful! Thank you for an inspirational blog, Leigh. This sentence is key for me, because it applies to everything we do, whether faced with difficult or easy things: “..even when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness.”

    1. I agree Nathaliesterk such an important reminder to honor us as tender and delicate women and men first-no matter what going on around us and “doing difficult things”.

  79. “when faced with doing difficult things, I can still choose my tenderness”
    This is awesome Leigh, such a lovely example of being in our tenderness no matter what task we are doing.

  80. Its not so very long ago that, if someone told me they tenderly mowed their lawn, I would have chuckled in disbelief, envisaging this taking an inordinate amount of time. Now, having experienced tenderness in my own body and knowing how the expression of that tenderness changes the quality in every part of life, I chuckle with joy and understanding. Thank you Leigh, our bodies are treasure troves of truth if we but open the lid, its all there.

  81. Choosing to do your daily activities with tenderness is not only self-loving, but is beautiful for those around you to experience. Thanks Leigh

  82. Isn’t it extraordinary what our body can reveal to us if only we stop to feel what it is offering and honour this – and it is always our choice.

    1. My body is becoming my best friend, the truth it offers to me is far greater than I could ever have imagined. Having the strength to listen and to respond to it is life changing.

      1. This is so true Leigh, our body is indeed our best friend with the absolute truth that it offers us in each and every moment. And as you have shared, as we deepen in our resolve to honouring and living the tenderness that we naturally are, the clarity of its communication becomes more and more refined. So beautiful – thank you.

  83. I can feel the same thing when I know I have a lot to do at work, or if there is a hard task ahead, I find myself pushing through and then feeling exhausted by the end of it all.
    This is definitely something I will bring into practice more and more.
    Thank you.

      1. I can know understand what you describe here Leigh. I had an experience today in a day workshop with Chris James about singing and expressing. He invited us to connect to our tenderness and sing with this quality. I have never felt so much tenderness in my body. It actually caressed the inside of my body. I did not care anymore if i was heard or singing loud enough but just to express with this exquisite feeling of tenderness which flow through my whole body.

      2. That is so beautiful Janina. I know what you mean when you say your tenderness caressed the inside of your body. To fully accept that my tenderness is the true me, that it is not something I choose occasionally or at special events is now highest in my mind. And I find that by choosing to be present and fully in my body, that I naturally feel tender, I naturally feel me.

  84. A delight to read about the choices you made to honour how your body was feeling in relation to an everyday situation such as mowing the lawn. It really goes to show that it’s how we choose to be with ourselves in each and every moment and the degree to which we listen to our bodies that creates the foundation for how our next moment is going to be.

    1. So true Cathy, and the degree with which I listen deepens every day. Living honouring my tenderness has and continues to be a work in progress, one that I am enjoying in full, as I have never before felt such beauty and divinity.

  85. Tenderness, being tender or choosing to be tender is one of the most needed qualities in our society, where most of the things are done the hard way. It changes totally the way of being with one’s body. Thank you for the reminder that we are able to be tender.

    1. I agree Kerstin. What i love so much about the pelvic floor exercises classes you give that you support the body to reconnect to it´s tenderness and that was so very healing and supportive for me.

  86. When I have tended to my garden with care, patience and love it rewards me in so many beautiful ways, not to mention the fruit, flowers, birds and bees. When I have been in a percieved hurry with time pressures, it can almost look like its been under seige. Often the lawn is the last job and it has not always received the same level of care. Your article has presented another dimension to how I can be in my beloved garden. Thanks Leigh.

    1. I am the complete opposite to you Jennifer. My garden is often in dire need of tender loving care, yet I have found this difficult to commit to because I really don’t like the physical difficulty of removing weeds and some horrible take over grasses. I have often said to myself that I would love to garden if I didn’t have to deal with weeds. Just recently I bought myself some pots and have planted a few vegetables on my verandah (the weeds don’t seem to get into my plants that are on my verandah). It was really fun to do this, can’t wait to see how they produce now.

  87. This is a good reminder for me as I mow lawns and do gardening for a living . All of my tasks can be done with tenderness if I am able to remain present. This is something I have been practicing for years but am still by no means an expert.

    1. Yes Kerstin, self care and being tender and gentle with ourselves is the antidote to much of our illness and disease and if not the full antidote, certainly the foundation for engaging any other necessary support to use in conduction with self care.

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