When I was a child I often heard the expression “little white lie”. It was used for justification when children caught and called out adults for telling lies. Adults often responded with “it’s a little white lie,” which was supposed to mean that adults could tell lies when the intention was somehow ‘good’, like not telling the full truth to a child in case it was “too much for them,” or doctoring the truth to an authority to smooth relations and not get into trouble…. How dreadful is that?!
I remember feeling angry and indignant. I remember feeling betrayed because the ‘little white lies’ were being told by adults who always sang the praises of honesty and telling the truth.
I felt the lie of the adult judgment that kids are too young to understand. I was even asked to tell ‘little white lies’ myself and that felt like an awful betrayal of my natural sense of truth too. I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.
As I matured and understood more of life, I saw more and more lies. The lies that were not spoken or written, the subtle cunning lies, the lies composed of manipulations of circumstances, appearances and also communications such that everything was a lie, even if no-one could have pointed the finger at any individual component.
This latter technique is used globally by criminals, media, corporations, in fact anyone who wants to ‘stay clean’ while manipulating things to their advantage. Then there are the lies that are not spoken or written but are conveyed with body language – a particular movement of eyebrow or mouth – to sway another.
It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.
I remember once seeing an interview with a young politician who’d been caught lying on the job. His face looked slightly hurt and innocent as he said, without ‘batting an eyelid’: “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” Boy, oh boy, what do you say to that?
Have we fallen so far from truth that we need to have every thought, word, action and expression written down in a ‘job description’ of life before we feel compelled to tell and live the truth?! What happened to our natural sense of feeling lies when they are there and calling them out when they are felt, like we did as little children?
A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.
From there, anything can be understood and worked out between people. There are no hidden surprises, no doubts and no ‘grey areas’. With truth, we are at home and we are safe. With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting. Unfortunately the whole of society’s workings have come to rely on lies as the lubricant that keeps the ‘machine’ going – as the foundation upon which the entire house of cards is built.
What are we going to do to replace that shaky foundation with the solidity of truth – real, capital ‘t’ Truth?
Are we going to make the telling of lies illegal and arrest everyone who is guilty? There would not be enough people left free in the world to administer all the jails!!
What if we were to come back to using our in-built lie detectors to feel and call out lies wherever we find them? To widely share all we have learned about truly connecting to that part of us that knows lies from truth as naturally as breathing? And what if we support each other – family, friends and strangers alike – to do this; to express immediately without fear of retribution?
We CAN do this. We can turn our world around by helping each other make the choices that can clear the ‘grunge’ from our lie-detectors (our bodies) and give us a crystal clear feeling for truth and for lies when we encounter them. The best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth. Even when it is ‘tough love’ or ‘tough truth’ it is giving ourselves and others the whole of what is required to base choices upon, to learn, evolve and grow.
Denying any part of truth is to short-change us all, deprive us of our full potential.
How can we clear our lie-detectors? Our bodies are matter and matter obeys energy, the energy of consciousness. Therefore our material lives are also a consequence of the energy of consciousness and how it governs our choices. So we need to look to energy for the cause of our self-created problems.
Our inbuilt energy detectors are where we need to do the work first. It is our souls that we must learn to connect to in order to refine our detectors. The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.
Since our consciousness governs all our thoughts, choices and actions, could it be that by connecting to our soul and allowing that to be our presiding consciousness, we can feel truth accurately and live every moment of life more truly?
I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it. I am very grateful to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for helping me to bring the clarity of it right to the forefront of my understanding, and to inspire me to choose to clear my lie-detector and evolve towards expressing my soul’s truth as a consistent way.
Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.
by Dianne Trussell BSc Hons, Goonellabah, NSW, Australia
Further reading:
Truth
Truth – I Can Feel it in My Bones
Spirit or Soul? Learning the Difference through Serge Benhayon
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
Dianne, I agree as a child I recall deep down inside feeling when something wasn’t said right, the body language spoke louder then the words itself. But there is this notion that little people (children) don’t posses the truth and yet, if they were allowed to truly voice, so much wisdom would come through them.
The world is one big fat lie and when the truth is presented, there will be someone or something that will do what ever it can to shut you down. Thats the sad part, so in other words be hidden from the truth of it all.
We can do our part in this white lie then, we can either continue our merry way or we present the truth when it is called for, without any expectations.
I’m learning more and more that lying doesn’t get me anywhere and if anything, it feels worse on my body, it actually cringes as I have gone against the grain of expressing the truth. The more I come from my truth, the more I becomes sensitive to it and pick it up in an instant.
The next phase in my awareness is to just allow others to be, and call it out when it is called for, no more no less.
The world is full of people who lie but when we look at life, it is designed for us to believe those lies, until we awaken that this isn’t it. The signal? – Is that constant searching that this isn’t it and there’s more to life then what is in front of us. And only then will the truth be revealed upon us and we get to see life from a different spectacle.
Now I’m experiencing more and more systems that are placed to continue that spiralling of white lies. If we take any policies from any industry, they are designed/written in such a way that the company are protecting itself more then another, hence the volume of pages of small writing.
So where to next? We keep presenting, not accepting this within systems, so we chip away to erode the rot that lies within everything. It isn’t from reaction but from the love that needs to be bought to it, that’s all.
Absolutely, let us all say no to lies, and yes to truth, ‘Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.’
What a great topic, I could feel the normalisation of lies and how saturated I too had become with the presence of lies in my life, and how insidious it actually is to state that it’s “just a little white lie” which actually infers that lies are good. How confusing for children in their absolute knowing of the truth, we actually corrupt them and each other by introducing lies.
Yes, it’s either truth, or a lie.
From little lies we build upon it more little lies, and in the end we are one big fat lie.
When it comes to truth we can and will feel it in our bodies, it is indescribable, there’s a settlement and there are no doubts, or if’s, it is that simple!..
White lies are a convenient truth, a manipulation of the situation to suit our needs.
The reason why we need so many rules and regulations and guidelines everywhere is because people have forgotten and left behind common sense and common decency and instead adopted versions of life that are so far from the truth of what we are actually capable of living.
“Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” – as a collective, there is so much of what we live that is an untruth and because of how many live like this it has become an accepted norm.
Life is forever offering us opportunities to deepen our awareness, expression and connection to our Soul. And lies – whether large small, black, white or purple, it doesn’t matter – all of them are to keep us from facing what is on offer….. what if the situation requires us to be (shock horror) less closed, less self-centred and less irresponsible and instead embrace and express our magnificence from the heart? Quick bring in a lie to create a fog and distract us with a manufactured story.
The trouble with lies – little or big – is that they invariably require another lie to cover up the first lie.
And the person generally has a sense that they are being lied to!
At times we don’t like to hear the ‘tough truth’ or experience ‘tough love’, but sometimes that’s what needs to happen for us to snap out of what we are in and to gets some clarity on the situation.
Well said Julie, tough love is actually supporting us to grow and evolve and does not keep us capped, but of course tough love is still a deeply holding love that always is there to offer its warmth and remind us of our amazing divine origins that we have simply forgotten to live from.
I would rather hear the truth anytime, I have always hated lies.
How far are we willing to go to see the extent of the lies we tell everyday, including the ones’ we tell ourselves. Even the seemingly simple ones. “Hi how are you? – Good thanks?” We either play down how amazing we feel or we are simply not honest that we might be more tired today than normal. We really do need to look at every moment.
Interesting how we can play something down and even justify something, even though it may be a lie. A lie is a lie no matter how it is dressed. Perhaps to it reflects our own levels of discomfort and places we don’t want to go to.
I love this statement: ‘There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives.’ it is time to hate what all these lies are doing with people and the world we’re living in.
We have dropped standards and accept ‘little white lies’ as normal, this is more harmful than many care to feel.
So true Doug, we seem to have become so accustomed to the lies that we accept it as a way to protect someone from hurt. I have known people who make up lies and believe what they say, but everyone around them knows that they are lying. From all angles, it seems like we enable each other to keep the lies going and then when someone is blunt enough, to tell the truth, we get all bent out of shape and say they are rude. I think we have to get used to hearing and speaking the truth again; it certainly would simplify life.
In a world where lying has become so ingrained and the use of the “little white lie” considered to be normal we can feel almost helpless as to where can we start to bring about change. But if we made the choice “to come back to using our in-built lie detectors to feel and call out lies wherever we find them” we will ensure that slowly this accepted ‘normal’ will begin to be dismantled. It may take some time but how wonderful the consequences will be; living in a world that is firmly held on a foundation of truth.
Lies are never little: we belittle ourselves by lying to the point that lies do not feel a great deal anymore.
Yes we as human beings build society by what we allow, accept and deem as normal. Let’s collectively make it something that is true and not something that hides the truth.
Our body is knowing of so much, we can be aware of so much more than we let ourselves be. There is great evil in being complacent with life and not calling out in full what we feel and can pick up on.
It was incredibly confusing when as a child you were told to tell the truth but all around you adults were lying all the time. And of course, if you dared to question it you were told that ‘little white lies’ were okay. What a hypocritical view of the world we must have begun to develop. As I share with the young ones around me today, no matter what the colour, a lie is a lie and is very harmful to the liar as well as to the recipient, whereas the truth simply flows on out, no effort just a simple and natural ease and no one gets harmed in the process.
No wonder it’s so hard to express truth and truth only when the entire world is built on the foundation of lies which can be easily exposed if truth gets its way and would be too inconvenient for the whole setup. And if we have had enough of lies and want truth it is every one of us that needs to ask for it by giving it to ourselves first.
As a society, we have normalised lying so much that now it is considered the norm and part of our acceptable standards. What is alarming to note here is that if a lie is normal how far can a lie go to be heard as abnormal?
It can feel so uncomfortable when we wake up and realise that our movements have been and are a lie but through feeling the uncomfortableness, we begin the journey of discarding the lie held within the body, to live what we know is true.
A lie is a lie. It is that simple no little and no white.
The little white lie is the perfect excuse for any spirit avoiding responsibility.
Children are seeing lies around them all of the time and boy it is beautiful when they express them! I love it even when they call me out! We can learn so much truth from our kids if we choose to listen, acknowledge and confirm what they are sharing.
How can a lie ever be good for that is a complete contradiction to the actual meaning of the word.
When I was young I had plenty of examples around me of people telling ‘little white lies’ and indicating that it was okay to do so. No wonder those lies, which I had come to accept as relatively harmless, began to creep on into my life. These days I am so much more connected to myself and as a result I simply cannot even consider lying as my body tells me instantly and loudly that lying no longer acceptable, and definitely never needed; the truth is all that there is.
Little white lies are often accompanied by quite a lot of rationalising and justification – a sure sign something is not quite right. Truth on the other hand needs no explanation.
Just imagine, as one got older and older, that truth became more and more palpable, that we were able to start to feel more and more and more. A fairytale? Quite the contrary this is exactly the way it can be, indeed the way it is.
“Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” With lies there is always something to hide but when we live with truth we are open with nothing to hide.
The little white lies thing exposes the extent to which adults have naturalized lying to others and to themselves.
Yes very exposing Eduardo of how far people go to avoid the truth.
We really need one another to identify the insidious lies we tend to live as when we are in the lie we are not able to see we are living in it and therefore really need that second pair of eyes.
‘I felt the lie of the adult judgment that kids are too young to understand.’ … this is huge and exposes how we parent and are with our children … we see them as blank slates to be moulded rather than the knowing beings they are, with (like all of us) and innate ability to detect lies from truth.
Lies are lies no matter what end of the spectrum and the body feels an untruth at all points.
It is in the job description of every human being to be honest because our bodies continuously resonate with the vibration of truth.
‘I remember feeling betrayed because the ‘little white lies’ were being told by adults who always sang the praises of honesty and telling the truth.’ I also found this confusing when I was growing up. So at one moment adults were being un-truthful, then later they would be explaining to me the importance of telling the truth always. But when I would explain that that was not what they are doing, it was not very well received.
It’s interesting that people who tell the truth may be considered rude, imposing or intense, and those that side with the little white lies may be seen as easy going, likeable, and easy to get along with. Ouch! We have created a society based on the comfort of not sharing the truth, and as a result it could be said that are standards of decency have had a major drop. All those lies we collectively tell are the glue that holds together a very unreal society, a fabrication of the fullness we can all live together.
For a child to feel what truth is actually like is so important… It helps them to redefine who they are in this world of this information.
When we allow ourselves to we can feel how uncomfortable those ‘white lies’ are. Trying to maintain bigger lies is exhausting but the little ones I’d say are worse as we accept more and more of them and they pile up, becoming our life. We basically then are living a lie.
Living a lie has certainly become the ‘truth’ in this world, that is, the reality of what we consider a normal human life. Many are obviously living a lie whereas many more are living in a way that looks good but when properly examined are not actually living true to themselves. It is the latter that we ought to really look at for otherwise we will continue to have a world that functions but lacks any true purpose.
The more we only accept and express truth the less space there is for lies.
Our body is the greatest lie detector there is yet from childhood we are taught, with the best of intentions, to trust in something else. How ironic is that?
We are actually taught from a young age that to tell the truth is rude. By doing this we are setting a foundation for society based on lies. Just a little lie is no different to an outrageously big one – it’s either truth or it’s not.
I am puzzled that we as adults, supposedly the wise ones in society, can place the words ‘little and white’ in front of the world lie and think nothing of doing so and the impact this lie has on others, especially our young ones. Children are naturally honest and know when they are being lied to, but it feels like they gradually get worn down by the reflection of the dishonest way of living from those around them and eventually adopt the ‘little white lie’ as a normal part of their lives. There is absolutely nothing normal about lying.
Truth is truth, and a lie is always a lie, no matter what the colour is.
It is the intention behind what is said that determines whether what we say is true or not. Much can be masked by the words that we speak and if we do not learn to read energy and discern truth from lie, then we leave ourselves wide open to be played by the forces that seek to veil such truth from us all. Also to note that truth delivered void of love is not true truth but a version of it designed to lead us astray.
Truth is a much, much greater word than what we are taught. It is not about right and wrong, it is about a quality of being and expression that is based in love.
So very true, Heather. In everyday practice truth is really an opinion, which may or may not be based on supposed ‘fact’ that in reality is relative and not a universal truth.
There is a lot to consider here Dianne, including re-establishing a relationship with the truth and how that feels in our own body. We have become so clouded and polluted ourselves by allowing anything but the truth to flow through us.
Little white lies are toxic, I speak from the experience of being a child and hearing the inconsistencies, feeling the lies in what is said by adults and feeling hurt and unsteady. As a child and adult I want the truth, however it comes, I do not want to be blinded with lies and unsure of what is reality. This can happen when adults do not speak straight and honest with a child. As a child we start to deny our inner knowing of truth when we hear adults we Love and care for lie, white or not. Love is not hiding the truth, Love is speaking the truth.
I always hated when I was lied to, you know the truth and anything less than that feels terrible, ‘ I remember feeling betrayed because the ‘little white lies’ were being told by adults who always sang the praises of honesty and telling the truth.’ Pure hypocrisy.
Well said Lorraine, children lose the trust and respect of the adults when they conveniently lie so much. To lead by example would be a far greater choice for adults so as children don’t feel confused by the mixed messages by adults.
The little white lies (Father Christmas is a good starter) become bigger lies and these become a normal way of expression of our life – not a great foundation for honesty, responsibility and integrity towards ourselves or others.
‘His face looked slightly hurt and innocent as he said, without ‘batting an eyelid’: “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” ‘
“Denying any part of truth is to short-change us all, deprive us of our full potential.” and not only that but is in itself a lie. Withhold the full truth is to lie even though we try to deny and justify it.
White lies pervade so much of our lives. When I consider them, I always think of the lies we tell our children, particularly the ones about Santa Claus and the tooth fairy. What purpose do they serve?
My body has always known that a lie is a lie not matter how small. To me it goes hand in hand with the saying ‘all in moderation’, which to me is a great saying if you wish to not take responsibility; as is a little white lie.
This has been really interesting to ponder, because I know that I definitely tell white lies, I tell myself that It is to protect another person, not hurt their feelings etc. But in actual fact, what i realise is that telling white lies usually is to protect myself.
We can only live the lies we are living if we defend this life of lies as being the natural way of how humans are.
I am starting to unravel yet another layer of understanding around lies. There are just so many ‘suitable truths’ that we take as truth but are, in fact, lies. It can shake our very foundation to realise how duped we have allowed ourselves to be – or is it just me?!
No Lucy, it’s not just you. I am shocked by the depths of some of the lies I’ve exposed that I tell to myself. They are devastating.
Very true Dianne, a lie is a lie… and once this is felt in the body, it is impossible to express even the smallest of ‘white lies’ without feeling it instantly. There are times when the full truth, or a depth of honesty is not required, but this is discerned by whether or not another will be supported to evolve by the full expression, or harmed by it if premature or unnecessary for their needs. This can only be felt in the moment from a body that is clear of it’s own agenda to protect, hide or impose something from or onto another. The head can only attempt to calculate what is appropriate and can never truly discern from a clear and open place.
Great you mention about honesty being in a job description! The implications of this is huge as there is so much corruption in the corporate world and in business in general. People are purely in it for self interest and that is the only thing lies can support – the covering up of your own selfish greed.
Living truth takes commitment and dedication, as well as understanding and detachment. Living truth means constantly developing, being willing to discard and evolve, and knowing not everyone around you will like what you offer, but nevertheless living truth is the foundation from where all else comes.
A lie is a lie but sometimes we can get so separated from our selves and the truth that we perceive a lie as the truth and the truth as a lie – and therein lies a big mess (pun intended).
Great blog Dianne, I can and do still tell little white lies, I feel that as they aren’t hurting anyone that it is ok. Or i am telling the lie so that I don’t hurt someones feelings, or i do it so that i can get myself out of a bind in some why. But having read your blog i realise completely, that a lie is a lie. That it doesn’t matter how big or small, it all matters.
Great blog Dianne. “Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.” It seems that telling white lies to children is more common, in order to ‘save’ them from the harsh realities of life, yet children can read energy and know when they are not being told the truth.
An awesome blog Dianne exposing the truth about the little white lies adults use to free themselves from any responsibility or accountability for their behaviours. The more we learn to express the truth without holding back the more our reflection will empower and confirm to others to also make this loving choice.
Just the heading of this blog brings a reaction in my body. I had many moments in my life when little white lies were told and my whole body knew the truth was being twisted. I still encounter people who try and pull the wool over my eyes and twist the truth, all in the name of protecting themselves. When we are living only for our own gain and not for the all, the value of truth gets diminished and we live with a lack of true integrity and responsibility of our words and actions.
You touch on something here about your body having the reaction, knowing the truth was being twisted, for me this is the key. Our bodies know truth inside out, it can pretend it doesn’t but actually, the body is our marker of truth and that is what we have to re-connect with in order to ensure, we too, do not fall into the ‘little white lies’ way of living.
It seems to me that many of us find it almost easier to lie than to tell the truth. I was one who learned by example to tell those “little white lies” and lived like this for many years although I am sure that there was a part of me that wasn’t too comfortable with this scenario. These days I can’t lie, it hurts too much, and it probably has always done, I had simply built a wall around that feeling so I didn’t have to face the truth, the truth that I have finally returned to and now choose to live in every moment.
A powerful and very inspiring blog Dianne. You make it very clear that there is only one way for us to live and lies (however small), have no part of this.
“Truth is the bottom line”.
By this blog you bring truth, the understanding of what we possibly feel that is missing and – how we truly belong to truth and that when this is not lived or considered, we become unclear and emotional in life. As if truth is lived in full by all of us – life is a swimming pool of clarity.
There cannot be a good intention behind a lie. The intention behind any lie is always to hide, to misrepresent, to manipulate, to create images in the head of another one that are false.
It is true, the cognitive skill that champions telling lies as a cognitive skill, is differentiation. Yet differentiation clearly allows us to think as an individual and therefore create a reality that is able to manipulate, misrepresent and hide reality so that it is a reality that suits the individual better.
I totally agree that If we were to connect to our souls – then we can only know truth and we can discern in an instant as to what is a lie. We seem to have learnt how to switch off from calling out even a white lie. And I can see and feel the harm in this and how it creates a hurt and a distrust in others.
I love that we are all working on our IED’s, because as you say Dianne, without our Inbuilt Energy Detectors we are at the whim and fancy of all the illusion in this world
Our lie detector, it’s the muscle that’s been left to go saggy in the back ground. A muscle that if it were strong, it would have to be responsible and do much work so others can feel their own sag. For many it’s the responsibility/work that will come that is the avoidance of building this muscle.
‘With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting…’ this is so true and makes everything so complicated. I am still clunky with truth as I practise it over the pattern of lies that have been my modus operandi for a long time, but the even the clunkiness is refreshing as I get a sense of the unwavering simplicity of truth.
I can feel how damaging it is to introduce an idea that some lies are ok. It just makes no sense that the truth can be diluted in any way.
If we examine a lot of human life we will see that behind a lot of actions and words are intentions which are not so obvious, sometimes we are living with already preconceived outcomes in mind and forget about the common expression of truth.
Why is it that we try to pass off little white lies as being ok, because when we start to use little white lies, it teaches us that it is ok to not tell the truth, when the truth is what we should be building as our foundation that way we always know who we are, and at the same time who everyone else is as well.
The hypocrisy of demanding children tell the truth when we want them to but then asking them to become complicit in ‘white lies’ and also shutting them down when it is uncomfortable to hear the Truth that they are expressing is staggering. No wonder children are confused and feel the only way is to shut up and enjoin the merry-go-round of lying that has become the acceptable way to function in society today. As adults we need to own up to our own level of dishonesty and support children to express themselves truthfully however inconvenient this may be.
This is a great call to clear out our own in built lie detectors and come back to Truth. It is easy to feel overwhelmed by how much lying there is in society but we all have the power to connect to our Soul and feel clearly the damage that is caused by choosing a ‘little white lie’ to avoid rocking the boat. This is a deeply ingrained habit but one that I am committed to working on as I become aware of the damage not just to me but anyone that I try and ‘protect’ by being less than truthful. It is always felt and the lack of transparency has a detrimental effect on any relationship. If I am asked a direct question who I am to judge whether the other person is ‘ready’ to hear the truth or not? The arrogance in my judgement reveals the lack of equality in so many interactions throughout my life and has a horrible impact on my body so lots of excavating to do…
It is not so long ago that I was still choosing to be blind to the lies that abound in life and, as I wake myself up to the pervasiveness of lies in all areas of life, there is a sense of inspiration in the seeing that makes me willing to do whatever is required to bring truth back.
‘With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting. Unfortunately the whole of society’s workings have come to rely on lies as the lubricant that keeps the ‘machine’ going – as the foundation upon which the entire house of cards is built’. – love that Dianne! It is hard, yet gorgeous to imagine a world that is deeply and unwaveringly honest…that asks us to be more and address everything as we go… so you not only know where you stand but what is needed at any point. We have a long way to go but it should be a world that we should aspire to… but as you said it starts with us and our willingness to be nothing but transparent.
There are conscious lies, and then there are sub-conscious lies. Then there is lying to another, and lying to oneself. So, yes, the world is supported by much that is not true, to the point where we do not even question it. And so the only way out of such a predicament is to be willing to be aware – energetically aware first and foremost, for that is the most potent indicator that what stands before you is not what you think it is.
I too was taught that telling white lies was ok if it saved someones feelings from being hurt. It used to be so easy for me to be dishonest in such situations. Little – and some not so little – white lies are everywhere – nowhere more evident than in the politics of today, especially in the USA and UK currently. “Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.” Beautifully expressed Dianne.
The lies we speak are the truth we are not willing to live. Once truth is lived and becomes part of our daily movements, it becomes increasing difficult to allow a lie to enter for to do so creates great discord to what is otherwise the natural and harmonious flow of truth (the light and love of our Soul) that we are able to express when we live true to our essence. In other words – lies create great disharmony within the Universal Order (love) we live within and that lives deep within us.
The simplicity of this statement, ‘lies create great disharmony…’ makes so much sense of the discord and complication we live in, that are so far from our totally natural innate relationship with truth.
Beautifully expressed Liane and a great reminder of the fact that even the tiniest white lie creates disharmony in the greater picture of Universal Order, thus affecting everyone, all of the time.
Politicians are our elected representatives of whom i would expect upmost honesty, integrity and commitment to those that they represent and to support the very foundations of our ethical and legal fabric of our society. That one caught in a lie stated “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” is both appalling and unacceptable to me.
‘There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives’ – We have accepted little white lies in many areas of our lives and still today we are accepting them – what is it within each of us that we allow room for these and how are these little white lies keeping us in comfort?
Just the heading of this blog made my shackles come up, one thing my body has always known is that any lie little or big was not right. When one stands in their truth before another, any lie is exposed, as the reflection of what is true can not help but be felt, exposing a lie for the evil it is.
Lies seem to be deeply embedded into our culture. People can advertise products incorrectly, or embellish them with ideas of how they can change your life, we ourselves can ignore our body and keep eating when full (essentially lying to ourselves), politicians can make promises and not deliver, newspapers can present stories with an angle to blatantly or subtly insinuate lies…..the list goes on and on. It’s quite exposing to look at lies like this and consider just how many times per day I am also not completely honest or truthful. Lies have an image of being harmless and the norm of life but they are anything but.
When our body detects a lie, whatever the colour, it is trust that is lost together with truth.
Our bodies know truth so why would we confuse children or anyone else for that matter with little white lies. Telling little white lies lead to children doubting what they feel.
Lies are lies, little white ones or big black ones it doesn’t matter they all lead to separation from ourselves.
Imagine if job descriptions stated that “…honesty to the core was essential for this position…” imagine if this was the essence of marriage ceremonies, if children were nurtured to the point where they trusted life enough and were inspired enough to be totally honest.
I had an interesting moment with a white lie situation with my son the other day. There was something he knew that it was important his friends didn’t know. I asked him to say something to cover it up and he wasn’t ok with it. He knew he had to keep it secret but he wasn’t ok with lying. He then suggested he would just not say anything. It was a beautiful moment as I realised his commitment to truth – be it big or small, truth is truth.
I wonder how many lies are a result of people feeling they cannot make a mistake, or publicly be vulnerable? Ive noticed people can be ashamed about their imperfections and prefer to protect themselves by lying about their mistakes and covering up how they actually are. I feel it would be great for all human beings to understand that being perfect is impossible and being ourselves, mistakes, warts and all, is perfectly OK.
Lying at it’s fundamental core is simply a deep form of protection so that one is not exposed.
I felt a small knot in my stomach while reading this, questions like “how honest are you really?” were coming to the surface and boy oh boy am I trying to avoid feeling it! Great read, thank you for this!
As hard as it is to stomach, what you have presented here Dianne is 100% true. We cannot accept these subtle, insidious, self-driven lies and “part-truths” to continue to run riot in society. Of course, the only way to address this is by expressing in absolute truth… Something I am not yet doing – super irresponsible. Thank you for your ‘stop moment’ blog
In all honesty this is the second time I have read this blog, its been a while since the first time but this round was completely different to the last read. I actually felt myself feeling a little defensive for the white lie, feeling like there are times that perhaps it is inappropriate to tell all. I have a unique situation with the father of 2 of my children as I have never told the kids how much their Dad and his friends have attacked me and my family over the years, when my kids ask about him I do not go into detail or divulge this information with them, is that lying? It doesn’t feel like lying, it feel like being sensible…not sure if others agree? Or if I am just kidding myself…but I think that truth is something that we move in, we know in our bones, if it is walked and lived words are a small part of what makes up this truth.
Interestingly what you have shared here is one of the recognised reasons for justifying white lies, protecting others. I wonder if you are protecting your children but you are also protecting the father of your children because on some level you possibly know what he and his friends are doing is truly horrible and below them, they are bullying. Their father is not the man you would like your children to think he is. Yet I wonder if this disempowers them from making up their own mind and making a choice for themselves. as adults, we have to be accountable for our behaviour just as a child does, therefore what we teach if we can bring more honesty is accountability for our expression. It is a good question anonymous.
“The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.” I have a whole new level of appreciation for this blog reading it this time around. The quote I shared above is profound as it shows that we know each and every lie inside and out and we as a collective humanity are complicit in the facade. Lies for me have always been about protection and like all ‘protection’ they are in fact the thing that is truly harming us. When we connect to our soul there is nothing to fear and the lies dissolve around us.
Great how you shine the spotlight on the way we manipulate our young to accept lies as an everyday part of life so that they perpetuate the myth. Depriving people of truth stifles their potential for evolution and with that being played out all over the world, merely creates global stagnation. Just as importantly, our own bodies eventually become affected by the lack of our own true expression, of saying how it is and what needs to be said. So everybody loses in this illusion of ‘playing nice’ and not rocking the boat. Truth is the only way.
Honesty with ourselves is a great place to start, even with tiny everyday things. We then begin to see the extent to which we rely and need the little white lies to get through our day. “How are you?….I am fine” is a typical line used by most of us most days. The thing with these is that we all know that the “I am fine” is not fine at all, but we don’t make any moves to change it or support anyone to be honest either. Because it’s safe? What would happen if we all started to be honest? We would realise that we actually don’t need a safety net.
Yes it is such a big picture that on one level it cannot help but be daunting , but if we start with the simplest steps, for example being truthful privately to ourselves, then the big picture can start to take care of itself.
The hypocrisy in our world is staggering due, in part, to the overwhelming acceptance of ‘little white lies’; your blog highlights this beautifully Dianne. The summary you present here says it all;
“A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line”.
Lies only last for so long, eventually the truth catches up with everyone
I have never felt comfortable with lying, it’s like rubbing a cat the wrong way, it goes against everything the body feels and yet your words really stuck with me “I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.” We have practiced over time to allow, defend, justify and accept the tension that comes with expressing lies. And expression is not just what comes out of our mouths like you say body language can lie, even people who are trained can fool lie detector (polygraph) equipment. But we can’t fool our bodies and if there is a tension in my body – what lies are being accepted or their existence in my life defended or justified as being better than a compared alternative? Thank you Dianne.
“I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it.” I know exactly what you mean Dianne in relation to Truth. The moment you hear it you know deep within that it is so – that it is in fact a known and confirmation we already do know the moment it is presented.
At what point does the little white lie become corruption or is it corruption from the outset?
These little white lies are more harmful than we care to admit because they undermine the fact that we know truth by sowing seeds of doubt.
That a politician who is elected to represent the people can claim after been caught out in a lie that “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.’ is clearly a lie in itself and makes me wonder how many others in positions of power think in this corrupted way also.
You have captured the feeling of what it feels like when you listen to a presentation or talk from Serge Benhayon…”I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it..” Exactly! Its the common sense, the ‘yes, i know that’ thought, yet it takes someone (Serge Benhayon) to actually say it for the clarity and access to, understanding so much. It is an quite amazing experience, and, it shows that there is a one unified understanding deep within us all.
Yesterday I was swimming with kids in a public pool. You have to be over 9 years old to go in the hot tub. I had two of my kids with me (one of whom is only 8). The lifeguard came to ask me how old my child was. I said 9. A lie. Straight up lie. And it felt and still feels horrible. It’s irresponsible – if something happened, then insurance would be invalid. It’s selfish – if every eight year old got in the hot tub, it would be too busy so why does my child get special treatment. But the worst part of it was the separation it caused between me and the life guard. He could feel that it wasn’t true. He didn’t bother to challenge me, but he could feel it and so now the ball of lies is rolling. I lied to him, it becomes more of his normal, so he lies to another, or just accepts the hurt of being lied to as a part of life. You may say that this is a tiny lie. But what I felt yesterday is that the size of the lie is irrelevant. Anything that isn’t the truth hurts and separates.
Yes Otto, so true. A lie is felt by another and there is a smidgen of sadness at the colluding. The child who witnesses the lying realises that truth is then conditional to what we get out of it. I remember us buying build up trainers so my daughter could make the right height for a whole load of rides at a theme park. On that day we taught her how to manipulate the system. Not my proudest moment as a parent.
Or is it more that in these moments we are eating separation. One rule for one, another rule for others…or that they are just that little bit more special than others. And slowly this builds up.
What I get from this blog is that we as a society have accepted so much lies in our lives that we do not even notice anymore how painful this is. Living anything less than the truth is painful, even the seemingly small little white lies.
I agree, the ” little white lies” we used to hear regularly as children always felt dodgy. I love how it’s now being confirmed how off that approach is. I always thought Santa Claus was a form of parental control to mask the fact they don’t know how to get responses they can handle from their kids.
Yes I agree and well said Dianne, When we are with deep connection to your souls we are not able to be fooled or swayed in anyway. When we are out of line we are confused and flippant with our decisions,options and behaviours.
Thanks Dianne, it seems that the connection to our inner knowing is the key to discerning truth from a lie . . . in fact this is the only true tool in this world of half truths and little white lies that can never be fooled and totally be relied on.
I remember one of my children feeling very hurt when she discovered that that tooth fairy didn’t exist and it was us all along putting money under her pillow. She was visibly upset that she had been lied to. It made me wonder about the reason we do this and the potential harm. I remember discovering as a child that Santa Claus was really my parents, but I went along with it for many years because I wanted to continue to get extra presents. It suited me to be complicit in the lie. Some would say it’s harmless, but I seriously wonder.
I for one have certainly been guilty of many ‘little white lies’ to some not so ‘white’ or ‘little’ and by this I mean nothing that externally would even look like a lie, but nonetheless something expressed or not expressed (verbally or non verbally) that was not the full truth. This is the meaning of lies that we need to come back to – anything that is the absense of full and absolute Truth.
” Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” you’ve pinned pointed this so well. our lives are a complete lie as we cover up who we are with all the things we are not. trying to hide away from each other.
Diane, your forthrightness is palpable, as is your penchant for truth and nothing but truth. What you present here in this blog is how truth can be watered down gradually, like an escalation of sorts, till it turns into a complete untruth and yet is still heralded by some as the truth. But the original and untouched truth remains and cannot be completely hidden from the eye of the one who discerns with care. When we lie, even the smallest and ‘whitest’ of lies, it is the beginning of eroding our relationship with truth and with ourselves and those around us. It is the beginning of a compromise that holds no one as equal. It serves no one. So the sooner we can catch ourselves with this ‘game’ that we can end up playing without necessarily being fully aware of it, then the sooner we can make a choice to stop and instead bring the quality we deserve to ourselves and others.
Connecting with the deeper inner part of ourselves is undoubtedly what Universal Medicine is offering to us all… And then to, from that connection, start to be able to feel, as Dianne says, where truth is and where it is not
Dianne, life is indeed built on lies, and it all starts with those little white ones you call out here, and it builds over time so that another lie is used to justify the previous one, and it all gets very messy and complicated, hence our world now. Truth is so much simpler, and no requirement for any justification or need, it opens things up for us all and ultimately give all of us a spaciousness we lack when we live a life based on lies.
‘I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.’ This is truly horrific – the thought of inculcating in every successive generation from an early age the art of lying. Because in doing so we take away not their innocence but their knowing and from then on, the new normal becomes an acceptance of low-grade lying and a requirement to do this well when you have to, because it’s expected you will have to. Lying would appear to be now firmly established as part of the required portfolio of survival skills for being human.
There is no such a thing as a little lie. A lie is a lie. Calling something a ‘little white lie” reveals how much we try and get away with things, how deep it is within most people to avoid responsibility.
Just imagine….. we are born knowing how to feel truth; it is innate within us. And then as parents and mentors and teachers, all trying to do our best really, start to expose even the youngest to untruth.. then we can actually grow up so surrounded by lies and distortions of truth that we can lose touch with this most basic of awarenesses.
The opportunity to live with truth as our compass has been there for humanity for aeons… Once upon a time it seemed like this was only there however for a small somehow mystical group, as has been recorded for many thousands of years. Now this opportunity is as always with us, and it is now patently obvious that this is absolutely open for everyone to experience.
The human body is the ultimate lie detector, it knows to the nth degree what is true and what is not … it is simply have we made the choices to be able to listen to its ‘read-out?”
Yes thanks Dianne for another great article,seperation from ouselves has come from lies
Thank you Dianne, here here I agree it’s the whole way we have all been brought up. Nobody (adults) wants to feel their discomfort so they lie, and as kids it used to do us in, so to speak. But then it was like we got taught or coerced to just allow it and go with little white lies, pretty sad really. Then we feel terrible for telling a lie and it just feels so yuck in our body.
Thanks Dianne, I was one for telling those white lies, thinking that they were not so bad or not harming anyone but the more I feel how energy works the more I feel how harming lies are to us and others.
Yes Chris me too. I have had them said to me and I have said them and neither feel right in the body.
Thank you Dianne for a very powerful blog, I am finding how dishonest my past way of living has been, avoiding truth by not speaking up, holding back, with not wanting to create waves, and keep the peace. Learning to feel what I am feeling and honestly expressing this is a work in progress. As a child I told white lies mostly to avoid getting into trouble to keep safe, I am now coming to understand that “With truth, we are at home and we are safe.”
A lie is a lie and truth is the bottom line; two simple statements Dianne with very powerful messages for us to live by.
I also loved what you so clearly and wisely expressed here;
“Since our consciousness governs all our thoughts, choices and actions, could it be that by connecting to our soul and allowing that to be our presiding consciousness, we can feel truth accurately and live every moment of life more truly?”
An awesome Blog Dianne, showing that the term “little white lie” is a part of the web of lies we have accepted to have in relationships with ourselves, with each other and with life itself. Not being honest with oneself is living a lie. This has an impact on everyone around us. I am exploring this through learning to be truly honest with myself and with others, other than I ever have been before. So I start to realize the impact of the seemingly “smallest” dishonesty on myself and on every of my relationships! It is so huge. The “little white lie” in truth is a switcher to harm and getting the situation worse on that basis. From this experience I agree, when you say: “With truth, we are at home and we are safe.” no matter what this truth looks like.
Reading through others comments, I could feel how we are taught as children that people don’t want to hear to the truth and that we should water the truth down. This becomes a foundation we then live with that filters out to every aspect of life where the truth then is not lived in full as for fear that others might not want to feel it.
So true Brendan, even with such a obvious word as lie. To me it’s such a clear cut word that say’s ‘wrong’, I find it incredible that we have managed to bastardise it to mean something that is ok. All so we can turn our backs on responsibility.
“Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” Gob smacked, I agree Diane, where has humanity got to if we need to have responsibility written on paper in a job description.
I remember reading a book on child development when my child was young. It was saying that when a child starts to lie they have reach a developmental stage where they realise they are separate from everyone else, because they realise the thoughts in their heads can’t be heard by another. To me it shows a point of separation from the all. A point where we start to buy into the lie, that we are all separate and that our actions don’t effect the all.
Awesome Dianne, a call out to all to speak their truth so a solid foundation can be built. A foundation where all would feel safe as there would be no room for lies, or irresponsible behavior. Lies all come from one’s lack of responsibility which in turn come from the lack of love one is choosing to live.
Excellent topic to write about Dianne, a lie is a lie no matter how small. As you have stated the world is built on lies and a good start in turning things around would be connecting to soul and expressing truth
“It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” Thank you for exposing the lie Dianne. It is crazy when we really bring our attention to just how false our world is, and what is more crazy is that everyone deep down truly knows we are not living true yet we keep going pretending it is all ok.
Yes we do fool ourselves, and yes we do make life complicated!
How often have we felt ourselves watering down the truth for fear of hurting someone, or telling someone what they want to hear to feel better about themselves? But a lie (even a ‘pretty lie’) hurts them more.
And have you experienced holding back for fear of being hurt…. because sometimes when you’ve told the truth you were punished so painfully that telling a lie seems safer, but it never feels OK?
To call out another’s lie is a loving thing to do and a blessing, because they may not know and it gives them the opportunity to observe and correct what they are doing. The same when others do it for us.
Hardest of all is to identify and admit to ourselves our own lies! What could hurt more than to discover we are not living, speaking or acting in Truth? Is that one of the reasons most of us are hurting most of the time?
Although, there are no little and big lies, we still think that they do not hurt as equally. This is only the case, if we have a very limited (material) version of life. In a world of energy things are different. A lie is just a lie. On top of this, a lie is very reflective of a way of living that is not founded in truth but in manipulating the others to create images and situations. This, in turn is a symptom that we are not willing to go all the way. That is why “the foundation is always wobbly and shifting.” “With truth, we are at home and we are safe.”
If we could all simply tell the truth I’m sure life would be less complicated. Thank you for sharing Dianne.
It is also interesting that by not saying anything we can fool ourselves into thinking we are not lying or by giving an impression of something that is not true, without actually saying it so, is lying.
The problem with settling for any level of lies whether little or huge, malicious or well-meant, deliberate or unconscious, it all means we are doing exactly that, “settling” at a level we feel comfortable at. It requires us to cut off from the honesty of what the situation actually reflected and make up a suitable lie about it. We end up stuck at that level. However the nature of life and the universe is forever unfolding, and we are forever being shown Truths that can support us in deepening our life and evolving. When we are stuck in games of little white lies and half-truths, we have in effect opted to stay blind to this amazing support of expanding and instead have chosen to just keep circling blinkered in our own little made up world.
Your words are divine nectar Dianne. “..expressing my soul’s truth as a consistent way.” Yes, this is it – for ‘my’ soul’s truth is everyone’s truth. It is unified – there are no ‘grey areas’, places to hide, devices with which to obfuscate…
A lie is a lie is a lie is a lie.
And the truth is the truth.
My how we’ve been sold such monumental ‘lies’, such as that there can be ‘many truths’ and that there ‘convenient truths’ (all hogs wallop), in the effort to perpetuate an existence that is untruthful, and justify our self-serving ways.
Hear, hear, to the deepest appreciation for Serge Benhayon and the work of Universal Medicine, in continually opening our eyes to the complexity of lies we have all been complicit in weaving – and offering us once again, the absolute truth.
Wow, Dianne,there is so much here in the language of Truth.
A lot to re visit and feel.
As a starter, I could feel myself trying to squirm away from the Truth, that if you are not being absolutely honest or aware, let alone speaking the absolute Truth, then you must be lying, no matter the degree or shade.
I was recently talking with my 10 and 13 year old daughters about the meaning of ‘ white lies’. There was laughter and pause to consider that somehow you could say something untrue, but somehow these were supposed to be more acceptable than a ‘ lie’ about something that could be criminal or morally wrong.
‘Truth is the bottom line.
From there, anything can be understood and worked out between people. There are no hidden surprises, no doubts and no ‘grey areas’. With truth, we are at home and we are safe. With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting. ‘
I suddenly understand when my daughter had said she can’t trust me and she doesn’t feel safe. She says I lie all the time. Up till this point, I hadn’t understood her choice of words.
I haven’t deliberately set out to deceive her, but what is now abundantly clear, is that her Meter for Truth has been more clear of Gunk. What I am saying to her is not clear as my point of view keeps changing.
I haven’t bothered to feel what I really feel about something, I speak from murkiness, lack of awareness.
Hence she doesn’t feel safe with me, there is no foundation of clarity. It is all just lies to her.
Thank you for the Absolute light of Clarity here.
Michelle thank you for your honest share. What a great reflection provided by your daughter of the responsibility we have in our expression. It is so easy to let go and speak from the murkiness thinking it doesn’t matter, especially when it is with a very familiar person. yet as Dainne says “It is our souls that we must learn to connect to in order to refine our detectors. The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.”
As adults we simply talk too much from our heads, say things how we like them to be and how we think they should be, but do not live this way. As adults we have accepted and have found many coping mechanisms to live that way but as children not saying what is true to us goes against our nature. So instead of holding our children small by saying they are too young to understand it would be very wise of us to observe them and hold their way of being as a guiding light as how simple and true the world had once been for us and connect back to it and relearn to express from truth.
Well said Esther. How many of us as children were told ‘we shouldn’t say such things’, when the “such things” were actually truths that flowed so naturally from our innate connection to truth and God’s love?
To not erode such purity and clarity of true expression is a responsibility every one of us holds – whether words of truth come via ‘the mouths of babes’, or another adult or peer.
Truthful Dianne that was very beneficial to read your amazing blog. I too could always felt the little white lies and learned to accept them from other and from myself. To get the understanding that I am hurting others and myself even with a little white lie helped me to claim it back to be honest and truthful to the best of my ability.
“Our inbuilt energy detectors are where we need to do the work first.” this is gold and it highlights the importance of connecting to our soul and also of caring for our bodies in a way that we are able to discern what is coming from love and truth and what is not.
Spot on Francisco, connecting to our soul and caring for our bodies is the first step and sets the foundation for Living in accord with the Way of the Livingness.
The importance of being truthful with oneself and others, to me, is that along the way you find that what you once thought to be the truth, can sometimes later be recognised as a lie. That we are continually evolving our level of honesty within ourselves and unfolding what truth really is, how it pertains to the lives we lead, and the absolute richness it brings to everything. If we don’t allow this unfolding of the truth within ourselves, we will never get to discover the glory of reality.
truth has a resonance, a tangible feeling and quality, that, once known, becomes the marker for life, as everything else falls short once truth is experienced.
Beautifully said cjames2012.
One thing I struggle with is answering more than ‘Good, thanks’ as a social nicety when someone asks how I am and it doesn’t feel like 1) they really want to know or 2) they, or I, don’t have time to give more detail than that. Do I override their resistance simply so I can make sure I don’t lie and get to also fully express what is there to express (that feels self indulgence) or do I just continue to be perfunctory? Or, do I change my answer and say “I’d love to tell you how I really am but I sense now’s not the time for either of us”? And what response do we give to strangers? Suggestions welcome for this is an everyday white lie used on countless occasions and it’d be great to find a way to be more real with it when it does come up.
Incredible sharing of truth Dianne, I like your writingstyle. What I felt from this blog is : that once we let in any white lie, which can be sneaking in very silently, is getting in the way of our one and only truth. What I can sense from that is that once we allow that little white lie to enter, we actually allow the whole truth to be less. Therefore it is from such importance that we never let anything come in the way of our one and only truth. Therefore it is either whole, or not whole at all.
One place I have noticed that little – and sometime not so little – lies seem to have become the norm is commerce. I have noticed that in commerce people spend a great deal of time second guessing one another like a game of poker& maneuvering themselves into a more advantageous position. This is a million miles from the example of absolute truth, transparency and care that Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have shown is possible with clients, with staff, with suppliers, with other businesses alike. Their success financially as well as in honouring and serving people as attested through winning the people’s choice awards 2 years in a row, shows that like everywhere else in life, truth, care and honouring of people is the way.
What you have exposed here Golnaz is an enormity of ‘accepted practice’ that actually has no justification for its existence whatsoever – with Universal Medicine being the living proof that no such sell-out to truth and coercion of the consumer is needed in order for a business to truly serve humanity and flourish.
Brilliantly said, and the absolute truth observed in every aspect, from my own association with this business over many years now also. Thank-you.
I know that when I do not take full responsibility for my actions and have the arrogance to think that no one has noticed, or I have gotten away with it, or made an excuse and then my body just feels out of sorts, there is an uncomfortable tension which I will do anything to get out of. Then maybe I will start to get thoughts of being bad or self bashing in some way, but I have never felt great after lying – it just doesn’t feel right.
One thing I have realised of late though not everyone is capable of discerning absolute truth and that ability to get to the absolute truth is linked to one’s awareness. For example, it is possible for one person to believe they have perceived the truth of a matter, and for another to read into the same matter a deeper level of truth. Perhaps we need also to accept this is so.
So true Victoria, what is our ‘absolute truth’ one day may be an even deeper level of ‘absolute truth’ a day, a week, months or even years later as we continue to evolve. Even more reason to ‘live the future now’!
Institutional and organisational lies are fascinating. In Australia we have seen some magnificent, entrenched and utterly evil lies of this kind roll out via the investigation into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse. It’s interesting the degree to which institutions – many church-based – will go to cover up their wrong-doings.
Little white lies and big, black fat ones are just points along the same continuum.
The phrase ‘little white lie’ appears to be less noxious than just ‘lie’…but I like to call a spade a spade. Watering down, flowering up, softening or whatever else we do to words, the intention behind it is the same. A lie is a lie – full stop, little, white or otherwise.
Sandra if we never watered down what a lie is then everyone would know where they stand. Otherwise from young we are saying to our children, who naturally feel that everything that is not true, harmonious and deeply loving is a lie, that its ok not to be true. Because its “little” its ok? I remember being told its ok to “say a little white lie from time to time” – the problem is that soon escalates to living a lie all the time.
Absolutely agree David, once we allow “a little white lie from time to time”, it does not take long before the little white lie becomes a bigger white lie until it eventually becomes a big black lie. Rather like putting a frog in boiling water – it will jump out, but put it in cold water and gradually heat it to boiling point and the frog will cook as it does not register the incremental increases – or so I am told!
Well said David, Sandra and Anne. Once we give permission for the lie to enter, it is akin to saying yes to the vampire crossing the threshold into your home – you effectively have no control. Until that is, you renounce the initial lie in the first place.
Once let in, the falsity must be continually fed – and so we justify, we lie more, we avoid and we attempt to numb ourselves from its reality.
Drop into Stillness, and it can no longer be… Is it any wonder that as a race, we so avoid ‘being’ with the true sanctity of our being, and would rather keep running on drive and nervous energy so as the lie we are living – in separation to the Soul and God – is not exposed?
I fully agree with you Sandra, there is no gradation in lies, a lie is a lie and we only pretend that a little white lie is less harmful then a lie that is lived on many levels in our societies and businesses. Allowing the little white lies into our lives is paving the road to accept or to become less aware of all the lies that are around in our societies. |when we would return to the honesty of a 3 year old child we would come with the right questions as why things are as they are as we will feel they are not right and based on lies.
Using the phrase ‘little white lie’ shows how we’ve used words in an attempt to change the meaning of a word. When we say ‘that’s a lie’ – bang, you feel the truth in that phrase. When we say ‘that’s just a little white lie’ – the words ‘little’ and ‘white’ attempt to make it more innocent but the more I feel it, the more I feel the insidiousness of using this phrase.
Dianne, the importance of this blog is gargantuan! A lie is a lie no matter what. There are big ones, small ones, fat ones and tall ones but at the end of the day they are all untrue. Knowing or connecting to that part of us that can spot a porky from a mile away is a gift we can give back to ourselves, then others and it will be the very thing that can turn around this circle of nonsense the world is caught up in. Imagine a world of truth for a second. Ask someone like Saddam Hussain “do you have weapons of mass destruction? He replies, “no mate I don’t.” You feel into it for a second and know he is telling the truth, Ok so we can’t use that excuse for going in and bombing the crap out of him.
Little white lies seem so ‘little’ but they really are a strategy used to avoid honesty and truth.
And it feels to me that those lies are also to avoid an open heart and true intimacy. I hold the other in distance.
That discovers the truth of ‘mean well’. It is a lie and the opposite.
And every lie no matter how little brings us further away from truth, endorsing with every step that lying is ok, thus creating us a new normal on which we stand to allow then more ‘little’ lies, that are in fact now bigger lies because we are already further away from truth, to be told and become our truth.
Great Blog Dianne. The little white lie that absolves us from our responsibility to tell the truth.
That phrase “little white lie” covers a multitude of sins (to coin another phrase)! But actually, it’s often to cover up something we don’t want to admit to – even to ourselves. Those flaws, mistakes, guilty feelings or inappropriate/bad choices aren’t going to disappear even when we try to cover them up with a little white lie…far better the truth, then we have something to work with.
Nice observation Rosanna. The lies we tell ourselves and tell others about ourselves are worth catching and examining.
Yes I agree Rosanna that a little white lie is a way of not being honest with ourselves and feeling better about something, when really the most loving thing we can do is be honest. We really have avoided responsibility in that moment.
Dianne it would be fascinating to know exactly what happens to the body when we lie. I know that when I have lied in the past it has felt like a force coming back towards me, almost like I am hitting myself. The person who I have lied to must also get covered in a noxious gas, not to mention the poison that must also get released into the atmosphere.
My experience too Alexis, a lie feels like a poison in the body and it sticks, you forever try to get rid of the stench; but no amount of covering up, distracting from it or trying to prove it to be right makes it go away. So what a relief when you finally admit to it and are able to let it go!
Great point on both counts Aleixs. What is the impact on the body? And could lying – and all other noxious human behaviours – actually have an energetic impact on our environment?
For me it feels like a disorder to lie and this disorder attract more mess and so on and so on. The lie I did pay out like a rope to make me safe, create more ropes and at the end it shackle me tight. No space to evolve here.
You have highlighted the existence of a “sliding scale” that we apply to truth Dianne…as though truth can be measured and delivered according to a convenience that suits our needs. Yet truth is absolute. It simply is what it is. It is only a very deliberate way of thinking that can foreshorten it and reduce it to a shadow of all that it is.
I agree Rachel, it is a sliding scale and every lie we allow slides the scales further and further from the truth.
I love your description of a ‘sliding scale’ we apply to truth Rachel. Yet truth is absolute! Simple!
Truth is an amazing support as it will let us live just what we are instead of trying to stage a play around lies.
It is a life of simplicity and ease, without the constructs of lies, stories and trying.
There is no agenda, no outcome – rather absolute surrender to all that is.
Yes Michael Kremer, truth is an amazing support, and very liberating too.
Now mater how hard one may try to clean up a small little lie, the amount of time and effort to support that action is like a cancer that over time grows to a point of the original lie is lost in the framework that has supported it. What a mess for not telling the truth!
So well said Dianne and such a beautiful level of honesty and openness in what you’ve shared. There is a level of secrecy in lies that needs to be exposed and worked on with people for us to become a harmonious community once again. No more secrecy no more lies ..
No more secrecy is essentially the same as saying ‘let’s go straight into the sub-text’. We all live with underpinning or unspoken streams of thought, that everyone is feeling all of the time. So if we stop pretending there is a constant subtext within us and say it how it is, imagine how great that would be! Everyone knowing where they stand all of the time!
This would be amazing if we were all indeed able to clearly share what we were feeling and how we are going all the time. Sometimes I am so worried about how I am going to be looked at, or that I am going to be yelled at that I do not speak whats in my heart to be said. We need to appreciate ourselves so much and truly understand the depth of fear that we each feel from when another yells at us. At times it is ok for us to withhold but when feeling sensitive the power of another raising their voice is outstandingly earth shattering.
It is incredible how many times you may come to points in your life where a little white lie ‘won’t matter’, but as you say Dianne these little white lies over time as you said are holding us all back from the truth. The truth that is there readily available for us to share with each other. What is it that we are trying to cover up? That we are not ‘perfect’ or you don’t want to be caught out on something and it makes you look silly or bad. Unless there is much you are trying to cover up and well, that simply does not feel good, so best for the truth in those situations too.
‘With truth, we are home and we are safe.’ So true 🙂 i know as I know how unsafe, wobbly and desolate a life built on lies feels like. A large part of my life I had invested in images, lies about myself. Afraid to be me, I just created a lie for the outer world about myself. It turned out to be a lie towards myself, a selfmade prison built up from the concrete bricks of lies I was spreading. I have never felt so alone. Since I stand in truth now I truly feel at home with myself and with everybody around me. I don’t need to hide myself in lies, big or little, a lie is a lie. And the side-effect is that I can detect a lie, whether from my mouth or someone else, easy now. How? It makes my body wobbly and uneasy, a familiar feeling which now is my marker of (non)truth.
I think if asked, many would confirm they have an in-built lie detector but we have come to accept, as just an everyday part of life, that it is ok to not express the truth or take any responsibility for what we express. This has only then led us to be in more separation with each other and stay in the protection we have built up around ourselves.
I agree elizabeth – how many times can we tell someone isn’t being fully honest when we ask them how they are, or how many times do we lie to cover something up – they seem small but when we let them pass we set a precedent for all other lies
Such great points Rebecca and Elizabeth. By not calling ourselves and others to account by exposing lies and revealing the truth we set up a pattern of expressing and being that leads to separation and protection, The crazy thing about it is this is so opposite from how we truly are or want to be.
I have noticed, when I lie and when I find others lying, that it creates this constant level of anxiety and stress in the body, a knowing that you have said something not true, and the feeling of the consequences of that.
I experiment these days with just one thing: being with me. I choose being with me. And it happens that I am feeling my innocence again and the stillness of just being. To let go of control feels such a relief and makes my life easier. It is my choice to go with what is truth – no matter the circumstances, reactions from others or whatever. Our life on earth can become so impressive and complicated that it can look like it is important, and it is in a way -because how we live can lead us back to who we truly are – or hold us back on our way there. But life on earth is not what we truly are, it is what we have to master to return to our natural state of being. That, we have to do together, because we are designed like that and lies, control and other stuff like that do not support our oneness, our truth, our equality – they separate us. And that is what they are designed for. That’s what I call evil.
As you say Sandra, feeling our innocence, stillness and letting go of control allows that greater alignment to Truth through being who we truly are, and feeling and seeing everything.
Lying has become so ‘normal’ in society, whether it’s on job applications, exaggeration in conversations or little white lies. I love your line ‘I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it’. I have lied to others and my body knew it and felt it every time, so there’s no getting away with it. It’s time for us all – for the normal to be that Truth be brought back into the world.
So true gillrandall. White lies form the basis of all miscommunication and in our world today how often are we facing situations where something has been communicated but not made clear or seemingly not told at all even though another can say ‘that is what was meant by what I said’?
So true Joshua, our lies, even to ourselves lead to much miscommunication and unnecessary hurts that lead to us distancing ourselves from each other rather than seeing the true connection that comes from expressing the truth. Even when the truth ‘hurts’ it offers us an opportunity to stop, reflect, feel and learn.
I can feel from reading your blog that the best medicine for our whole body and being is truth. It shifts and discards everything that is not true from and out of our bodies. Like you say it may be ‘tough love’ or ‘tough truth’ but in the end I would rather have truth and feel uncomfortable by being exposed living a lie than be left in my own illusion.
Lieke I get a sense of the importance that being truthful has on your health as well, that as we build more love and more health in our body we build more truth and vice versa. At first it may be the obvious areas we start to be more truthful about and that has a great health benefit, but it never stops as there are always more refined or hidden areas of life for us to bring truth to and with that our body becomes more healthy as what is not truth comes out.
“In the end I would rather have truth and feel uncomfortable by being exposed living a lie than be left in my own illusion”. These words ring so true Lieke. If all of humanity felt the same way and lived it, life as we know it would be very different and we would move closer to having Heaven on Earth – ‘As Above, So Below’ would start to be a reality!
Dianne, I love what you have shared here, and with your own unique flavour. What I felt reading your article is how much distrust there is in the world, and how this is a result of all the lies and dishonesty we are living. We all feel this and so find it difficult to trust in a dishonest world. The other point you made very clearly is how the truth is something we know energetically and we know this through our connection to our soul. That is undeniable, so it is about reconnecting to our soul and expressing more truth – thank you. I really enjoyed reading this.
A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! Hear hear Diane, this is black and white as it should be.
´Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.´ Your blog exposes the lies we all have been living. We lie and deny what is really going on inside and outside of ourselves but the good news is that there is a different way.
To me the essence of little white lies is – sometimes it is ok to veil the truth from people because it might hurt them. But really what they offer is a way to shut down to truth ourselves. We stop expressing the truth, it is not long until we stop feeling it for ourselves. On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to feel the truth and sit with it, holding another as love, a way to express truth will always come that honours both ourselves and the other – perhaps even a look or even just sitting with another in silence allowing them to feel the truth of what has unfolded. So with practice and not accepting in any situation that truth must hurt another, our expression grows richer and deeper and more loving in our lives.
It is true if we take a moment and begin to consider the amount of false information and deceit that is around and that we are part of it is truly shocking “It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio.” Yes it is uncomfortable to feel the depth of it, but also being truthful about what is occurring can be a deeply illuminating and freeing experience. A conversation well worth developing, thank you sharing this perceptive and conscious breaking article.
I paid the price for getting my daughter to tell a bit of a white lie on a train once to avoid having to pay her fare. I told her to say she was 4 instead of 5 if anyone asked her, as 4 and younger rode for free. She soon met the little girl sitting next to us and answering the question of how old she was she announced in a loud voice I’m 5 but my daddy said to say I’m 4. Honesty is definitely the best policy.
I am 100% with you Dianne – “A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.” There are no grey areas or anything, truth is truth and that is that. And it is in the deliverance of how we communicate truth that will make a difference to ourselves and the people we get in contact with.
Karina, as you say, “truth is truth and that is that”. As with every aspect of our Livingness, truth continues to deepen so that what is our absolute truth one day may be a deeper truth as we evolve. What we can do as Students of the Livingness is to ‘live the future now’ and express absolute truth so that it stands as truth for the next hundred years or so. No holding back.
What you say is so true Anne, in the past I have accepted ‘little white lies as convenient ways to deal with life but the more I deepen my awareness and express truth so many more lies are being exposed which no longer feel OK with me.
Very true Elizabeth… there is a lack of responsibility – and also a lack of respect and care for the person(s) we are lying to.
Great blog Dianne – you have really smashed through the accepted belief that there are varying shades of truth and lies… that some are OK and others are not. For me, and as you have expressed here, there is only Truth – and what is not. Our bodies are exceptional markers of this and will always communicate what is true and what is not – we just need to pay attention, and be open to really seeing the truth of any situation.
Very true Mary. As children we really can distinguish what is true and what is not, simply because we are not checked out or constantly distracted, and thus can read what’s written all over people’s faces from observation. Over time we notice just how much adults and people around us say what is not true, and ourselves then feel the need to lie or manipulate in order to be accepted and fit in with the world.
Your blog touches me, Dianne. In a way that I myself did judge the world, everyone in my family for not reflecting me truth at all. Cause “little white lies” were accepted. And even in truth, as one may feel themselves to absolutely be in, there might still be a lie underneath. Unconsciously. But if whatever truth is individual and not true for everyone, it isn’t true. But as you say: all we can do is claim truth at the best of our awareness. I’m on board!
The level of dishonesty in the world is almost unmeasurable. We really need to be able to value honesty and truth as expression and to be able to hear it when it is said to us.
Lovely said, Felicity. And further more the honesty with ourselves first, to expose where our hurts, demands and expectations, beliefs and conditions are buried. That’s supportive too.
Pondering on these little white lies I feel that each time one is told, there is a robbery of truth. I then pondered deeper. For example, very time I leave work early, but take the full wage, every time I give less than all of who I am to a task or relationship, there is a robbery of truth. Little white lies, without a word being said.
As you have so wisely written Diane: “all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are”, so what brings us to a place that we begin to lie when we are this truth? Has our true expression been so deeply buried that we are unable to share with others what we really want to say so we choose to lie to cover up, embellish or distort the truth? If the truth is what we inherently are then we must be harming our bodies horribly so each time we lie. We as adults must take responsibility for teaching children to lie, as within the innocence they are when young there is only room for the truth.
That’s a great point Mary and after many years of pushing truth to one side things can get very murky, and at one point I found that I was questioning if I actually knew truth at all – I did of course, but it just took a little bit of coaxing to admit to myself and trust what I was feeling.
Little white lies are totally insidious and feel terrible. When I know I am being lied to I feel totally disrespected. It is so much better to simply be honest about everything even if it feels difficult to do. Everything can be dealt with if we all know the truth.
“Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” These sound like the words of someone who doesn’t take care of themselves and in return.. Just doesn’t care in general. I imagine it would be very difficult to work in a team environment where attitudes like this are active.
Absolutely Abby and it also exposes the lack of responsibility we than have, by hiding behind a job description even though from your head to your pinky toe you know that it’s just not right to lie.
Dianne I used to tell lies and it always felt really awful after I did it. Looking back I realise I would tell a lie to protect myself or to make something more acceptable so people wouldn’t judge me. I now am completely committed to expressing the truth which includes admitting I have done something wrong or when i behave in a way that is not loving. This has been very freeing for
me as its now okay to be wrong and I don’t feel bad about myself. There are lots of things behind why people lie and reconnecting to the fact it is safe to share the truth no matter what sets a new foundation for us all.
Little white lies are so insidious. We know when we or others have told a big lie but a little white lie can creep under the radar, go undetected by many and be acceptable to others! Little white lies are like seeds that enable big lies to grow and hence lying becomes part of the foundation for life. Thank you Dianne for exposing the evil of lies and calling for “no more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.”
Everyday I am learning about little white lies. Today I felt how often I feel anxious – this part isn’t new – but what is new is the fact that I actually never acknowledged this. I was fighting against it, ‘trying’ and ‘doing’ whatever to get the anxiousness away. Rather than allowing myself to feel the anxiousness, let it go and surrender more deeply to myself. To me the simplicity of this is almost too grand, but it makes a huge difference for me.
The whole advertising industry is based on selling an idea. That idea might be that we would be better off if we buy a particular brand of washing powder. For it to work, they need to first make us feel that we have a lack of something. They do this by first selling us an ideal so amazing that we could not possibly attain it. We then feel that we are not enough and boom we fall for the marketing. It’s all very clever. But it would not work if we didn’t feel a sense of emptiness in the first place. So perhaps the best way to see through a lie for what it is, is by making sure that we navigate through life in the fullness of ourselves, not wanting, not needing to be fulfilled by anything outside of us.
The whole process of ‘selling’ images to people has a lot to answer for. What comes to mind predominantly for me is the perfect body shapes we see on TV or in magazines that people try to live up to – without any appreciation of how these images have been manipulated and are in fact ‘a lie’. How many people have struggled with eating disorders because they are trying to create this perfect image in themselves? What you say here Jinya is truly important – when we start with knowing the innate fullness of ourselves these temptations hold much less allure – if any in fact. The true inner wholeness does not need an image to live up to for it is already everything it needs to be.
White lies have made the world go around for quite some time now. We all react to the more obvious levels of corruption that we see around us, but rarely do we consider that the smaller lies we all live are what supports such corruption to flourish. After all, the circumstances may differ, but the principle is very much the same.
I was watching a programme about the complexities of the brain, and within the first 5 minutes, the presenter dismissed any useful connection between the heart and the brain, making the brain the most important organ. She then spent the rest of the programme analysing how the brain can go wrong in people with obsessive compulsive disorders. We all know the brain is complex but without the connection to the heart, it’s like a ship without a sail, in separation, it is lost.
‘I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.’ This sentence stopped me in my tracks this morning as I realised how many times I trained to force myself to be okay with things when my body was telling me loud and clear they were not ok. Listening to my body and giving it a voice has had a powerful and positive impact on my life.
Once upon a time if I had read the phrase, “…all lies are a violation of the truth…” I would have felt uncomfortable and scrambled to justify how this was in fact not correct. But I can see how living by the truth that “…all lies are a violation of the truth…” asks us to be responsible at a level that can make most uncomfortable and that is what it was for me. As I was reading this phrase today I realised that I no longer feel uncomfortable with this level of responsibility, in fact I absolutely welcome it!
I love knowing that our bodies are the greatest lie detectors ever invented. Our ignorance of this is only paper thin. Our stubbornness about listening is a harder nut to crack. Whilst my journey back to truth ebbs and flows there is ever more letting go of the learnt behaviours (accepted, ingrained lying) and the appreciation of the simplicity of capital ‘T’ Truth emerging.
“The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.” When truth is spoken from the purity of our hearts we feel it as a stillness, an expansion and deep connection heart to heart body to body. This registration is irrefutable. The mind may try to deny it but, we are always connected to truth and each other heart body and soul. Only a mind in separation can lie.
Reading your blog Dianne gave me a brand new appreciation for my body and how well it works as a lie detector. We cannot in fact get anything past the body so how important is it then that we care for it?
Super important and super expansive. I know that for everything I do that says I am listening to, and taking care of, my body I am supported back tenfold for the next step.
Spot on Elizabeth, that makes so much sense. Taking detailed care and being loving towards our bodies allows the body to become more feeling, and therefore more knowing of what exactly is going on.
Absolutely rosannabianchini and Elizabeth Dolan, our bodies feel the energy of what is true and what is not.
A great reminder Elizabeth about the importance of caring for the body. For one who has disregarded their body for a large part of their life, this really brings home how caring for the body can affect every little corner of our life.
So true Elizabeth and not only to detect lies of others, but the lies we tell ourselves.
When we lie it feels like we are putting our bodies through an old fashion washing machine and wringing out and squeezing the very truth of who we are. There is nothing what so ever that feels good about lying and it sits there not going anywhere. Leaving us feeling very dense to carry around in all that we do. I have tried a couple of times lately to say or do something that wasn’t fully the truth, even holding back and not presenting, doing or saying the whole truth feels like we are lying. But I physically can’t do it anymore. To know and feel this is a massive confirmation that their isn’t an smidgen of me that wants to either. Truth all the way, as I know that it is all I want so who am I to filter the truth for another?
Yes, well said Natalie. The notion that we ‘get away with lies’ is a lie in itself. When we truly feel what is going on in our bodies we get very clear feedback all the time. Your description of putting ourselves through the ‘mangle’ is very apt, thank you.
How wonderous our body is and who would have thought we were so well equipped with our own inbuilt lie detector at our very fingertips, or as it were, within our inner hearts. It certainly gives our overrated and over used minds a run for their money.
Yes, the mind that constructs all the stories is no match for the knowing inner heart.
Dianne the little white lies are ongoing and at epidemic proportions! ‘What if we were to come back to using our in-built lie detectors to feel and call out lies wherever we find them?’ Imagine that? And imagine how much healing would occur if we all started to express more from the truth that we already know?
What I realised today is that the moment I choose to go into any kind of ‘solution energy’, I am actually telling a white lie. I became aware of that when my daughter was sharing a story about one of the children in her class. Rather than connecting to her, I ‘read’ her and started explaining to her why the child in her class did what she did. But, in doing that, I completely disconnected from my daughter, who had after all just told a ‘fragile’ story from within herself. When I realised this, I talked about it with her and she confirmed that.
I’m appreciating myself for the chance to see the effect of disconnecting from myself, but on the other hand I find it almost unbelievable and embarrassing how many little white lies I’ve been, and still am, telling to those that I dearly Love… I can feel the sadness of this.
That we do actually have ‘built in lie detectors’ is a wonderful revelation, and it is there all the time, giving us read-outs on everything around us ( and within us ..! ☺) it really does simplify life.
Yes Cjames2012, I have always marveled at that but never really understood it until I came to Universal Medicine and realised that we are aligned to the truth and the Universe which does not lie. Our bodies are naturally truth-telling and that is why it feels uncomfortable when we lie or hear lies around us.
Even the term “little white” is sickly. It feels patronising and imposing and I don’t want it near me.
Yes what does that term mean “little white”? Is that suppose to mean it’s more pure? Perhaps I could assume then it’s more deceiving and more tricking.
Beautiful Dianne. It it very true that no matter the magnitude of the lie, the fact that it is not honest hurts just the same. Being lied to by a friend or parent so that they can “protect” you or for smooth sailing doesn’t allow for harmony in the relationship. The little white lies are about comfort. Comfort comes at the expense of truth and evolution/growth.
“Since our consciousness governs all our thoughts, choices and actions, could it be that by connecting to our soul and allowing that to be our presiding consciousness, we can feel truth accurately and live every moment of life more truly?” Like you Dianne, “I know I knew this even when I didn’t know that I ‘knew’ it”. Once felt, it is like a long forgotten truth in the body. Thank you for this call to ‘live truth in all realms of human life all the time’. It is achievable if we all commit to the truth together.
When a lie is huge and absurd, it is like gross abuse, it is obvious, you can see it and call it out. It is when we let the more subtle lies and the more subtle abuse slide through that we insidiously erode away our sense of integrity and dull our awareness. Our ‘normal’ slowly descends into a web of untruths and deceit without us even noticing it.
Well said Golnaz, and so true – when we let little things like ‘white little lies’ slip past us and in, then it really is abusive as it is done on the sly …
I agree Golnaz, harm is still done when we ignore the ‘little white lies’ however we would often prefer not to see it.
It’s uncomfortable to feel that a large reason as to why there is so much lies is because most gave up on truth and speaking up for what isn’t ok. From young we lose trust in our own feelings and what we know to be true based on these ‘white lies’ that are told, the perfect way to sabotage a child’s innate ability to read situations and people. Thank you Diane for your profound article that inspires many to sit and feel the truth of what you expose and what can be done to change the tide.
Dianne your amazing and expressing truth turns on all the great lights. There is nothing shinier than truth. Living a life with no more lies – wow this is the life that many are choosing thanks to Universal Medicine. The universe doesn’t lie.
The universe doesn’t lie… This is huge. Of course it makes absolute sense, but it is a huge truth to consider. It can only be and wait patiently for us to sift through the lies we have created.
That’s great Joel, to understand truth as an energetic quality of being that we can choose to align with or not, an energy that holds all equally, waiting for us to reclaim equally our own divinity and harmony with the universe. It brings a whole new simplicity and understanding to life.
Well said Simone / the universe doesn’t lie – it only reflects truth one way or another. Truth always surfaces, inevitably, we can only delay admitting it for so long.
One of the great harms of little white lies is that children are very sensitive and aware when something does not feel true – so to tell lies and justify them makes a child very conscious of the fact that something is wrong with this picture, but because parents and other adults are such huge figures in a child’s life they will more likely make themselves wrong or shut down so as not to feel the disparity between what they feel and what they are told. We are also teaching a child not to trust, themselves and others.. so while it may seem benign, there may be deep harm to the trust and openness of the child, and who knows how that will translate growing into adulthood.
This is a great point Annie and it is clear how trust in ourselves, what we feel and how we feel to act have been lost for eons. A foundation that would serve us all well should we actually focus on our own connection and observe ourselves and our actions as our homework.
Absolutely Annie, beautifully expressed. I can relate with what you say here, and it certainly was a contributing factor to me not trusting and shutting down, the harm these little white lies cause goes wide and far.
Great comment Annie, great harm is done to children through lying to them, and inevitably creates another generation of people who accept lying as ok, because everyone does it.
Little white lies told to children, leads to children who learn to tell little white lies, which leads to adults who believe it is ok to lie, little white ones or otherwise.
Yes Rosemary, and the truth is that children can feel it all anyway, there is a double edged sword by telling white lies to children it is letting them see that its ok to shut down what they are feeling and also there is the great hurt they feel of being lied to as well.
Excellent point Annie, I agree that we can’t be sure that such practices don’t result in harm for children well into adulthood, we set them up to think dismissing how they feel is the only way forward.
This is a definite possibility Felicity..”we set them up to think dismissing how they feel is the only way forward.” and the beginning of self worth issues.
Very well said Annie.
Great comment Annie, I was feeling the same thing. How denying a child the natural feeling of truth they have, by indulging a lie, only serves to create uncertainty and doubt. They begin to feel they cannot trust their own highly in tune radar and eventually shut down, or feel there is something wrong with them. If we all had this awareness of the effect of lies on children, perhaps more effort would be made by adults to be truthful.
Wow Annie, this is a beautiful sharing of the impact of telling lies to children which I had not truly appreciated. When we lie to a child the child is very likely to make themselves wrong or shut down which inhibits the trust they have for themselves and others. Our idea of protecting children from the truth is in fact so often the route cause of the harm yet when we do deliver the truth to a child we can often be amazed by the ease with which they accept what has been told.
I love this blog Dianne. We try and fool ourselves, protecting our hurts by lying to ourselves and therefore to others. What is confronting is that many don’t seem to want to know the truth of what is actually going on.
Wow Dianne, your expression here about little white lies is very powerful and so revealing
The hypocrisy in our world is quite staggering, it takes humanity into a very dark confused place.
What I am also learning; on another level to lying; is to express the whole truth, not leaving anything out, whether consciously or unconsciously.
When my life was lived as a lie, I felt caged and small. Now that Truth is my guide and friend, life is like clear spring water, open, free and all knowing.
How amazing to see our soul as our inbuilt lie detector. When I read your blog Dianne, I re-lived the experience of telling lies and how it feels in my body. It always felt bad, really awful, my energy would collapse and I knew I had let myself down. My conscience was always there, letting me know what I did was wrong. People tell lies, to mask inadequacies, I know I did. Connecting more to my soul, I no longer seek perfection and accept all of me. I openly admit to vulnerabilities and weaknesses, no longer concerned by how others see me.
‘A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.’ I agree, there are no grey areas, it is very much black and white, you either tell the truth or you lie no matter how little away from truth one strays.
Excellent point no lie is small – the impact is still felt no matter how insignificant it seems.
Yep, Felicity – absolutely. And no matter how small the lie – it will always rock the foundation… because only Truth is solid.
‘The best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth. Even when it is ‘tough love’ or ‘tough truth’ it is giving ourselves and others the whole of what is required to base choices upon, to learn, evolve and grow’ And yet people are afraid of speaking up, being honest, saying things as they are, as I once was. Now, the more I express truth, the more it becomes a natural way for me. I’ve found that people crave honesty and unadorned speaking. And when given with love, is often heard and appreciated.
Well said Kehinde – yes, where expressions are given with Love, the ears of the heart open up in appreciation.
Yes I have found this to be the case, although I used to find truth very hard to hear or speak because I didn’t want to depart from “being nice”. Now I can see how needed and refreshing ‘nice is’
Yes, same here kehinde2012. I have found that too. And I have been paying attention to when I find it easy to express truth, and when I do not. There is always a reason about self protection or comfort where I hold back truth – but as Dianne has beautifully articulated in this sentence – truth is needed to learn, evolve and grow.
What I have found fascinating with truth is that even though it may not be want I want to hear, it always confirms what I have already felt and know just may not want to admit. So it confirms me and what I have felt rather than making a big deal of the situation I may have gotten myself into! Truth simply states things the way they are and brings far greater understanding and clarity to life. It takes away any doubt and unsureness.
It is great Shirley-Ann as it turns any reaction I may want to have on its head. So now rather than seeing peoples words as criticism I am far more open to understanding and learning more. I can then feel whether of not what they have said fits in and is truth or not. As opposed to stubbornly standing and stating, no I am right!
Yes James, I too feel that truth brings clarity to a situation where sometimes I feel something in my body that I know is not truth but it takes the exposing of what is really going on to bring the understanding to my awareness.
It is amazing how when I honour what I am feeling and choose to fully see what is going on how much clearer the situation becomes. Our bodies are great for letting us know when something is not quite as it should be, as soon as I feel unease I know something is not right but it is then my choice and responsibility to do something about it rather than to continue on and ignore it!
Since reading this blog I have been struck by the fact that ‘the truth’ is different to ‘all the information’. For example, if someone requested information from me and it did not feel true to give them details I would not give them this information. This is an important distinction for me as I find that it can cause harm to myself and others when I confuse the truth with information. Over time I have felt that relying on information as the truth is an unloving formula that I have used to feel ‘good’. This awareness has allowed for much more truth in my life.
Awesome insight Leonne. I know what you mean here… it’s like withholding information is in itself a lie, and sometimes we over-compensate by giving too much information – all we need to do is feel into our bodies about what is true – and deliver that.
Well said Brooke – I have absolutely felt that sometimes withholding information is a lie and sometimes giving information (facts) is a lie too. It is great to know I can rely on my body to tell me what is really true.
Yes Brooke, when we feel the truth in our bodies we can really discern between information and wisdom.
Could it be that when we think that we are protecting someone by telling them a little white lie, that actually we are also lying to ourselves? Could the truth be we are not protecting someone else but protecting ourselves in the comfort of not ‘rocking the boat.’
Yes I think we get caught up in not wanting to hurt others feelings. Yet the dishonesty is hurting us all in ways we just don’t see straight away.
Yes, I can relate to that Felicity, by sugarcoating and not expressing the whole truth with others it harms. The more truth we live in our lives the less place there is for the dishonesty and lies.
Very well said Jane. Because when we ‘rock the boat’ – it is uncomfortable for us also… so it’s easier to stay in the comfort of the white lie.
The harm of white lies is greater than we know yet it is played down in an innocent tone. These lies become the norm and then it is difficult to read between the lies and the truths. This great blog is a reminder that a lie is a lie. It’s as simple as that.
Yep that is where it’s at, not wanting to rock the boat’ and most likely fearful of reaction of the other, therefore back to that word ‘comfort’ …
Ahh yes… How we modify what comes out of our mouths in the name of comfort. Imagine if we all lived like Jim Carey out of Liar Liar, when he couldn’t but speak the truth of the matter! We’d all know where everyone stands very quickly; which I would dare say would be much different from how the majority have painted things to be previously.
I think so Jane! It’s more that we don’t want to go there ourselves because it will be too confronting for us to have to talk about it – not for them.
My little white lies were just me letting me off the hook of taking responsibility for any choice I was making at the time.
Yes mine too Elizabeth and it took me a little while to understand how harming they were, so rather than say it, laugh about it and carry on, I had to stop myself and make a decision about my behaviour and if I stood by when I heard others do the same. Now, I feel it is important to clarify if I am not clear about what is being said.
Yes, Jane- I feel accepting little white lies exist because of not wanting to ‘rock the boat’ – but in doing so we are allowing dishonesty to become the norm; this is harming us in ways we don’t see.
‘Truth is the bottom line’ – allowing myself to feel and surrender to it is like sinking and falling through layers upon layers of lies to finally hit bottom like the ocean floor in 10.000 metres depth and from there seeing all the masses of water (lies) how they move and flow and spin around themselves in a complex self-preservative netting we call life.
Maybe that´s why we sometimes need to hit bottom to see clearly.
Love what you’ve expressed here Alex and having the weight of all those lies on top of us is hard to swallow but honesty is where it starts and truth will allow us then to ascend back to the surface again to feel and breathe the light of who we are.
I like the allegory of honesty being the digestive agent to accept our past choices, taking the responsibility to take care of the consequences and finally clearing out everything that is not truth so that only truth is left to be with, ‘the light of who we are’ as you put it so beautifully.
I agree Alex sometimes there is great clarity when we do hit rock bottom, it gives us a moment to stop, reflect and sees things differently, it is humbling and creates an opportunity to look at everything and start to make different choices.
Yes, it is the turning point where we finally say enough is enough and choose to take responsibility instead of buying into comfort and ignorance. Quite stupid we could say, that we tend to wait until the suffering is too much before we are willing to make changes, but that shows how strong our investment is to be individual and the arrogance of acting out MY will in ignorance of the greater all we are part of.
So true Alex… I love your analogy, it is surrender that allows the ‘bottom line’ to be felt, and from there, the web of lies can be clearly seen. And if we don’t deal with what hurts us in life, we cannot surrender, hence can’t see the bottom line, and can’t get to Truth.
It’s a process of ongoing mastery dependent upon our Will, isn’t it… Are we willing to align to truth, i.e. God’s Will, and thus allow the surrender and the inherent ‘going deeper’ that we may truly connect with the ‘bottom line’ of absolute truth? Or do we avoid, resist and fight – preferring to remain in the complex netting described so well by Alex.
Clearly we all know both ways of being, and it is in the honouring of the way of truth, that the great ‘balance’ shifts to once again align our beings to God’s Will and Love – a place from which there can be no lie, however ‘big’ or ‘small’. And without doubt, humanity desperately needs this balance to shift, for the current waters are murky and complex in the main indeed.
Yes well said Victoria… l’m discovering a lot about Will lately, and the fact that everything around us reflects precisely where we have that Will aligned. It is not possible to fake it… truth is truth and no matter our attempts to twist lies to make it appear the truth… it is fruitless.
Yes absolutely Jenny Ellis. There is no ‘faking it’ or ‘coming close’ to truth. Truth is truth.
And I would have it no other way than to have what is not true laid bare, that the truth may shine forth.
Beautifully put Alex, it is really easy to deny the rot when there is an investment in it giving you the life you live, I meet some very honest people who have very little in their lives and have made some poor choices, but they can smell suitable truth also known as ‘bs’ a mile off.
I found myself driving through the town yesterday when I passes the local butcher – on the side of the wall I noticed their massive huge sign had been painted a deep blue with gold writing and it read ‘ the best quality butcher in …. ‘ – before I could even think the words came out my mouth ” Thats not true” which confirms our body knows the truth before we can even think.
So true gylrae, and considering the fact, that we mostly have learned to override this knowing so quick and consequently, a deeper understanding of exhaustion and the illness and disease rates is able to unfold.
This blog needed to be written Dianne Trussell – thank you. If you want to get down to it it’s either Truth or a Lie. Reading your blog and looking at humanity there is no support for the truth as a whole or much at all individually. I work in the health industry and the way I work is to honor my body and serve within the system my truth. I cannot really approach my boss and say this system does not support everyone. He might agree if I expressed it right, but it would be to overwhelming for him to try and change it. The best thing to do is work in the honoring of all and let them feel it and make the changes when they register it needs changing themselves. If people want to continue to lie then that’s their choice. There is no ‘white lie’ – it is not the Truth and therefore not Love.
How confusing it must be for kids to be told not to lie and then see adults constantly lying here, there and everywhere. Even when they know it’s not ok, kids learn from how they observe adults behaving so no matter how much you try to tell them not to lie, unless you walk the talk it means nothing.
Absolutely Laura, I can remember how that felt as a child, to have the adults in my life lie to me, when at the same time telling me that you must never lie. I hated it, and it felt insulting, I could always smell a lie, and knew when I was being lied to, it insulted my intelligence that they thought I was not aware of their behaviour.
So true Lorraine, it’s actually quite dismissing of children and their natural intelligence, they pick up on everything, how crushing to be treated with such lack of care and respect.
This is brilliant Dianne…”It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.”
When you put it that way it is truly alarming.
If we don’t say no to something we don’t feel is right or true, then we are in fact saying YES to it!
Continuing the little lies allows us to stay in the comfort of what we have created as our life and to not have to acknowledge the truth that is ever present at the threshold waiting for us. I am seeing now, that it is through the little lies we run with and allow, that we are accepting a level of untruth that allows the greater untruths to flourish and thrive. Through these lies, the darker life and corruption gain firm foothold to prevent the whole world from knowing the truth.
It is amazing to imagine a world without lies – how different it would be! I am feeling how incredible it is that we all have the opportunity to choose this for ourselves if we want to.
It is great to have this all put down on paper Dianne for all to read. I have an image of you standing up in court and speaking with true passion to the jury and judge about truth! Our life on earth has been one big lie and thanks to Serge Benhayon we have at last become aware of the lie that has held us un thrall for aeons – the lie that life us about ‘me’, that we are meant to be here on earth, that we can build an earthly paradise, that competition is healthy, that it is okay to abuse and be abused . . the list is endless. WE at least now have a chance to feel the love of truth and the truth of love. Thank you Dianne.
“The most loving thing we can bring to another is truth” this is profoundly true and something to remind ourselves of regularly as any lies is always felt and acted upon even when subconsciously.
‘I remember feeling angry and indignant. I remember feeling betrayed because the ‘little white lies’ were being told by adults who always sang the praises of honesty and telling the truth’
Here, here. I too recall the feeling of betrayal and was reminded at times ‘don’t do what I do, do what I say’, it all felt awful.
white lies, little lies, big lies – they come in all guises. But, the truth is we have all told them little or big! As soon as I’ve done this dastardly deed it is truly felt in my body – which never tell me lies. In the past excuses or a justification of why I’ve done this comes readily prepared with ease – worryingly so. No more excuses, honesty is the best policy especially when love is at the heart of the matter – there is no escaping truth. In your words Dianne “Just one big light of Truth”.
This is a great article Dianne and something that may seem small to many is actually very huge if we look at the big picture. Lying is a huge subject and ‘white lies’ have been the accepted ‘norm’ across the board, a way of protecting people, family, friend, work colleges etc… However there is not differences with a white lie and a huge lie as they are all presenting a false fact about what has occurred, when we as a whole understand that when we are living from our essence then truth is are number one step in what ever direction we go.
Dianne thank you for bringing light to the little white lies we are brought up with as acceptable ,when in truth we know they are not inside and flinch when we hear or say these .Looking at it this way is very revealing as to how we have lost our honesty as a very way of being and justify the reasons to both ourselves and others.
Well said Tricianicholson. It is super revealing and makes me consider my own lack of honesty in the way I choose to live and the justifications at play
This blog makes me stop and look at what lies I make acceptable. The little ones I tell to myself each day to justify certain behaviours that I know are not supportive, but I want to do them anyway. This feels like quite a humbling process and I am aware that it requires more honesty to be able to see the full picture.
Yeah, I also tell myself those little lies, in those moments that I know I am not making a loving choice or that I have behaviors that are not supporting but I tell myself that is it ok, for this time, tomorrow I won’t do it again etc. It does require a humbleness and also a deep acceptance of where I am at.
Exactly Shami, denying our truth however big or small is a lie. Your words confirm to me what I already know, though as you have shared deliberately choose to override my body with my mind is dismissing my truth and therefor saying yes to a lie. So if I am saying yes to this, what else am I saying yes to?
That is a great thing you brought to light. How often do we tell ourselves little white lies to justify that we are not living all of who we are? It is absolutely one to become more truthful about.
Agree Shami Duffy, the extent to which we have lied, and have lived/do live life as a lie believing it otherwise, is as deep as the ocean. It’s not just about these superficial or surface lies that we pick off and may feel good about ditching, but the biggest lie that’s there underneath holding all the others in place. Creation.
Yes Shami, this blog certainly supports me to go deeper in exposing those lies in areas where I try to kid myself; those areas where I lack commitment and make excuses to justify myself in getting away with it!
In those moments the truth can still not be hidden. When justifying certain behaviours the truth is there so strong and stable and does not waiver. We try to come up with many justifications to get around it, and we can kid ourselves, but the truth is always felt. Being honest with ourselves can sometimes be harder than with another.
‘Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practise to deceive’, comes winging back to be when I read your blog Dianne. It’s such a slippery slope isn’t it? Is withholding the truth as bad as telling a lie? Sometimes people do this to spare others pain, so that their intentions are good…….but, to use another old expression, isn’t the road to hell paved with good intentions? I think one of my favourites amongst these oldies is:” Tell the truth and shame the devil”.
I heard yesterday some stats that said most of us lie at least twice a day. A sobering thought. I remember as a child telling an outright lie in school. I felt so bad for the rest of the day that I couldn’t live with that and went to telling the teacher, fearing the worst. What I recall now is her appreciation for me speaking the truth ( she knew anyway….). Yet ‘little white lies’ are put into a different category. Yet a lie is still a lie. Interesting how we justify those small fibs, to salve our conscience.
It’s true that we can feel when someone is lying – even the little white lies can be felt. They affect us more than we care to think.
We all have the in-built lie detector. But after being told lies as a child and where I wanted to believe people I learnt to override my lie detector. Even now as an adult I find it crazy that people would lie and I still fall into the trap of wanting to believe them. If I call out the lie for what it is I have to admit that not everyone lives by truth and I find that hard to admit.
So true and so not necessary. If the Little White Lies subsided the spaciousness between us would be beautiful. We would begin to truly connect. 🙂 🙂
Reading people’s comments on this thread it is becoming clearer and clearer how I have invested much in the past in “little white lies” – these have come in the form of telling part of the truth but not the whole truth, leaving out just a miniscule ounce of truth and passing it off as truth. I can feel now how evil this is. Truth is about the whole complete truth, not leaving anything out.
Also how the lies that we have built our very existence on this planet on are the fundamental reason why there is so little trust within our brotherhood. We can all feel that a lie is a lie, and even if we are not consciously aware of this, it is felt in our bodies on some level, so if someone either tells us a lie, all the way from a blatant untruth to a deliberate omission, we feel it and know they are lying to us barefacedly. Our trust is rocked and if we don’t call out the lies we move on to our next interaction carrying with us the hurt from the previous one – and so it goes on. Before we know it we are untrusting of all our brothers and sisters, and humanity becomes the enemy. Whoever devised this as a way to keep us separate and from living with Truth is a warped genius, however, even this most brilliant of plans cannot succeed in the face of us claiming back Truth and not accepting any form of lie in our lives. Truth will out and the power of Truth is absolute.
The truth is whole. What differentiates a big lie to a small one? No percentage of truth or near truth is truth unless it is the complete truth.
Love what you said Kylie so true, The truth is the truth, there’s no variation.
Just feeling here how lying through omission is equally as devastating as outright lying.
Awesome blog Dianne. The only way we will put a stop to the lies that are everywhere is to start being totally honest, and as this develops, being truthfull with ourselves. As we learn to feel this in our relationship with ourselves, we will then be able to feel, recognise and have the strength to call out the lies we feel going on around us, thus supporting others to do the same. It all starts at home – from within.
Absolutely Lucy. The more clear we are, the more we can see lies for what they are and as we develop confidence within ourselves we can then call them out. It is indeed an ongoing process of being totally honest with ourselves.
I find it pretty shocking how lying is so deeply ingrained in society that to call it out for what it is often results in being ridiculed or attacked verbally and energetically. There are so few people who live from absolute truth and accept nothing less, that our perceptions have become skewed and sadly, all too often, the Torch-bearers of Truth who have and still do grace the world with their presence and reflection, are hit with the full force of the fury of those who want to hang on to their ‘little white lies’ at all cost. We get so used to telling them we start believing them ourselves and so to be exposed in our white-lie telling brings about a full on attack and outright denial.
Wow Dianne that really bought me back to my childhood. My dad would look into my eyes and know if I was lying, I could not get away with anything so I found it best not to lie, and I could live free. I must admit I did learn to lie to myself and justify these lies and corrupt my life. Now I am untangling myself from those lies, and it is very liberating.
Very Cool Bernard. Untangling the lies takes time that is for sure. We have been imbued with them for eons. Time to unshackle the Sons of God.
Dianne I found this blog really eye opening. It is true in many cases of Lying people often think they are protecting someone from being hurt. But we fool no one and there ends up being more subterfuge because we have to hide the truth. Thank you for a thought provoking sharing Dianne.
Very true Roslyn. When we lie it is easy to come up with an excuse, such as ‘I was just protecting someone’, or ‘the truth was harsher than the lie’ – but nothing can change the fact that lying is dishonest and manipulative; hiding the truth should never have become the norm, and every time we lie (no matter how ‘small’ it may be) we are adding to the consciousness that believes being dishonest is acceptable and okay.
I am sure someone famous once said a lie is always a lie no matter how black or white that lie is. We can dress things up, bend the truth and say what we say because we think we are protecting someone from the truth (there’s a statement), but I am sure this is not the highest way people were ever meant to or can communicate.
Yes I agree Roslyn this blog really shook me up as I thought about how acceptable we have made these little white lies in our lives. It seems to be so normal for society to allow this. Imagine Big White Truths-now that would be a welcome turn-around!
A race of human beings, we have become so used to the lies of our so-called leader and those in power, that we have given up on and or turned our back on the truth. Life has become about compromise, even in our own home we don’t speak up, not wanting to have conflict, with one another, but by doing this we create a tension in our bodies as we can see the lies that others are saying and living, and also our own lies, in stark contrast to the truth we feel.
This is utterly despicable and shocking…”I remember once seeing an interview with a young politician who’d been caught lying on the job. His face looked slightly hurt and innocent as he said, without ‘batting an eyelid’: “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” The audacity of that politician and lack of respect for others of whom he is entrusted with so much power to be of the utmost integrity and honorability. How did we let it get so bad?
It doesn’t feel right in my body when I lie to a child protect them, what am I protecting them from I have to ask, as the lie itself is harming them.
Exactly Thomas well said, what are we protecting people from when we tell them lies, I would say nothing, so could it be we don’t want to face up to self responsibility – that’s why we tell lies in the first place, for our own comfort?
Well said Gyl, comfort has so much to do with it!
It becomes very obvious when put so clearly – lies are comfort.
Well said Thomas and it is not only children. I remember how on my father’s death bed I must have made a comment to indicate that he was dying because he said to me: “people don’t die from one minute to the next you know” and I replied “of course they do!” and once I had acknowledge the truth he completely relaxed and expressed his fear of how his partner would manage and I was able to let him know that she would be taken care of and with that he let go another whole level and died. The point being that before I arrived (having just flown in) everyone had been so called protecting him from the truth but the truth gave him a tremendous freedom and allowed him to die with dignity and presence which is in fact a blessing.
This is beautiful Nicola, thank you. I’ve been discovering the entire ‘no go zone’ of gently and lovingly addressing the reality of mortality. But I stay with the truth and when called for a response I do so in the most connected way I possibly can.
And what do I try to protect myself from when thinking that I would need to protect a child from truth with a lie? Could it be that we shy back from realizing the truth in full extent and its repercussions that may become even more clear in the eyes of a child?
Exactly Thomas Scott, the lie harms them and the one that is lying. And the truth is that especially children have already felt that that is a lie. And this is how we teach children that lying in acceptable behavior, although they have felt the ugliness of it.
‘Are we going to make the telling of lies illegal and arrest everyone who is guilty? There would not be enough people left free in the world to administer all the jails!!’ And you could probably count those people on two hands!
I had the realisation not so long ago that so much of my life was being lived based on lies. These were not substantial lies but as you describe, little white lies. Many of them were lies to myself, some of them were lies to others and some where not the whole truth (the same thing as a lie). Since then I have started to work on expressing the truth and eliminating the lies with the awareness to address it every time I notice something untrue slipping in.
We tend to complicate life with lies and half truths, and inevitably it comes back around to deal with again. The simplicity of speaking the Truth and saying it ‘as it is’ may be confronting but in the end it’s what is needed to be expressed and our bodies cleared of the ill energy. Telling the Truth also builds trust and can open up much deeper conversations and connections, it can also just be simply the Truth lived which in itself brings up a lot about justifications and comforts we accept which in fact are ‘little white lies’ also.
I agree with this merrileepettinato – that lies and untruths though I would say there can be no such thing as a half truth is only try or not – that yes these complicate things and keep coming back round until they are truly dealt with. When we speak truth it is simple, it’s clear, it doesn’t come loaded, there is no need, agenda, emotion, trying or convincing – it is what it is – there is no imposing with truth. Living truth allows another the space to feel their truth.
“The best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth.” this really resonates with me as I can see how I grew up holding back from expressing what I felt to be the absolute truth so that I wouldn’t upset others around me or because I felt they would not be able to cope with truth but this did not help anyone as it capped everyone involved from their true potential. As you mentioned Diane, the most loving thing is to express our truth even if it is “tough”to receive for the other person as long as it is done with love in our bodies we are allowing the other the opportunity to be more of who they are.
What you express here, Francisco, brings it back to the huge responsibility each of us has to evolve each other constantly. If it is not evolution it is a lie.
Oh gosh, writing that is quite shocking as I just start realizing the enormity of that truth.
This sentence resonated with me too “the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth.” I didn’t know what love was until recently when it came to me that expressing truth was the most loving thing I could bring to another. I came alive feeling this truth in my body. What came next was expressing truth lovingly and something I am developing every day.
This really sat me back in my chair as you stated what is actually obvious – that the lies in our society that we accept as the normal – far outweigh the truth. That is very profound and shows how far gone we have actually allowed ourselves to become.
It’s so true simplesimon888, it’s made me stop and look at where I still accept or even dare I admit tell lies to myself or others – even in saying yeah I’m okay when really I feel to express something else. any part of holding back is a lie as we are not expressing our truth.
The truth is something I value deeply but your comment Gyl has got me pondering. How truthful am I? Me holding back is me not bringing my fullness and is that then a lie of who I am? A part truth? …Thanks Gyl.
Yes indeed, and in fact sadly we are so far from Truth that most of us don’t even know what it is anymore but we can at least start with honesty. Truth Unimedpedia- http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/Unimedpedia-Truth.html – provides some free audio and quotes that clearly present the energetic quality and truth of truth!!! which is a member of the Soul family.
Dianne, thank you for exposing how widely spread lying is in our society, and how much we have come to not only accept but incorporate it into our lives. We have strayed from truth and in that are accepting lies on an everyday basis. As you say the truth is known in our body and if we so choose we can return to this within ourselves and from that live it and accept nothing less thereafter.
we say white lies are to ‘protect others’ but really they are to make it easier on ourselves.
True Carolien, “easier on ourselves” in the sense that we use these to avoid self-responsibility.
I agree Angela but i also felt the aspect of not choosing to know. How often do we say white lies to children’s questions because we do not want to stop and feel the real answer? Let alone take the time to express what we truly feel. It is a brush off and in that we create a whole new generation that learns to do the same and not express the deep inner wisdom that is there for all to connect to.
Dianne I love how you liken our bodies to being ‘our inbuilt energy detectors’ and that here is ‘where we need to do the work first.’ A great place to start, because that is where we feel if something is not right. If our energy detectors are sluggish, stressed, numbed with heavy food, exhausted or off balance with alcohol, they wont be able to discern the lies from the truth so well. It really does make sense to look after the vehicle (the body) that allows us connection to our soul.
We are so accustomed to lies, be they little or big, however a lie is a lie. We have become used to living with them so when someone stands up and tells the truth they stand out. I know if I have gone along with something that does not feel right then someone calls it out, I feel embarrassed that I stayed quiet and so was complicit in allowing the lie for fear of rocking the boat. Thank you Dianne for bringing up this topic for discussion.
A lie is a lie and the inner heart always knows whats true and whats not so lets let the heart discern.
I’m with you Joe. ‘Let’s let the heart discern’
Really since advertising on television was introduced back in the 1950’s, no one can really feel they can trust anything as advertising seemed to be to the official license to lie, manipulate, exaggerate and corrupt. It is therefore extremely important in the current day where such corruption is so rife to stay connected to our own “built in lie detector” as you mentioned Dianne.
I agree in a world where there are lies at every turn you definitely need your lie detector and also the will to stand up and speak the truth endlessly.
Absolutely Kathleen and we have accepted it without much if any protest. marketing is the business of lying and the corporations know it. We can complain about it or blame the corporations but who are the ones that have allowed it? How much did we temporally gain from it and how much did we lose in integrity and responsibility?
I agree Carolien, we love it as it as we love the images that get fed to us. We love the distraction and the fantasy of being able to purchase something that we believe is going to change everything/make us better, even though we know by experience that it won’t, it doesn’t and it never will.
I agree Kathleen it is a pretty strong cycle of looking outside of ourselves then being fed hope of change without having to make big changes to how we live. it is a pretty secure arrangement this way.
Yes Katie, when does telling a little white lie slide into lying altogether? What if we needed to speak the truth and it was appropriate for the other person to hear the truth, for their own understanding and development. Perhaps we choose the convenience of the white lie to protect ourselves from the reaction of the other person? Is it possible that the reaction is part of the other person getting to what they need to get to? Could it be that the white lie is for us not for them?
A child can feel the energy of everything that is going on, if something heavy has happened in the family the child will feel the heaviness, and how each person is affected. If the child is told a white lie in order to protect them from the truth it is actually not protection at all because the child has already felt it. Now the child feels incongruence between what they felt, and the white lie. What is a child to do? Believe the white lie and begin to distrust their feelings, or stick with the reality of what they know is true but feel betrayed that nobody has bothered to explain the reality of what was felt.
We can all feel the truth and we know when others are being dishonest, children included, their radar for truth is astute. So, why do we feel telling children ‘white lies’ is OK? Perhaps we feel we are protecting them when in some way when the reality is we are asking them to discount how they felt which is undermining their innate power to discern.
Some great points raised here Bernard, the child feels everything, and as you say if a lie is told it creates incongruence in the child between what they felt and what they were told. Is this partly the reason why our children start turning down their clairsentience?
You make a good point here Bernard, as we know that children can tell when we are lying but would they know why we are holding back telling the whole truth about a situation. Wouldn’t it be simpler and less confusing for us and the children, if we were up front with our explanations and wouldn’t they then learn that it is actually ok to speak their truth.
Thank you for sharing your delightful truth about white lies, Dianne! I particularly like this sentence: “With truth, we are at home and we are safe.” Your blog reminded me to continue deepening being totally honest and true to myself, how I feel, what I want, don’t want etc, and then bring this into the world. Yes, we are definitely depriving ourselves of our full potential by not being truthful. Not to mention how we imprison ourselves. Truth = free.
It is a worry when you cannot trust our elected members to be honest. I saw a documentary on the 1975 Whitlam dismissal and they played back interviews and comments from the time. The politician’s of the time had strength in their convictions and spoke clearly leaving no doubt where they stood. In contrast to today when what they say is skewed, full of escape clauses and disclaimers, and they do not have the same strength of conviction. This shift in the clarity of communication happened so slowly and gradually I did not notice, it took a 25-year flashback for me to notice the difference.
‘Little’ is a gray line to make something that is not true…more true than not true. You can have your little what-ever coloured lie but white infers purity, more smoke. Ever known someone to be a Little: drunk, stoned, sick, pregnant, late for work. With what we have in our arsenals now the atomic bombs that ended WW2 are considered little. A little white lie will always be what it is…a lie
There is so much to say in response to this article, it does truly expose the fallacy of ‘lies’ of any sort. I know as a child I was hurt by lies, the ones that where because you won’t understand or because adults tried to protect themselves and be ‘right’. I am a parent now and I express the truth as much as I am able, it feels so important to share this with my children. So much in the world is illusionary and false and having support at home is so important. I am open to talking about my own choices what is happening in the world and all those childhood myths that they come home from school with. I can feel that my children trust me, not to be perfect but to be as truthful as I am able and I can feel this this inspires and supports them to do the same, in fact it feels like they were born to be truthful and often the world starts pressurising the choice of dishonesty. I am inspired by them to live with truth. I am supporting what is already there, a willingness to understand and be truthful about themselves, life and what is concerning in the world.
A ‘truth bomb’ if ever there was one Dianne. Your comment about the ‘job description’ rang true for me. Do we really have to add the expectation that people be honest into a job description? In my line of work it is rather akin to saying ‘It is required that you do not abuse our service-users’. What does it say about us as a society when we have to rely on a ‘contract’ to define how we should behave? What has happened to our innately loving selves??
This shocked me too as I had never heard of a job description stating what to me should be obvious and foundational to the integrity and operation of any business. As you say richardmills363, “What does it say about us as a society when we have to rely on a ‘contract’ to define how we should behave?” This simply exposes how far from truth we have gone and it is high time to return to that truth.
Indeed Richard, it is a sad state of affairs when we cannot simply take honesty as a given in our job roles. Surely love should be the basis of how we interact and behave in everything that we do.
I agree James, I have also found that holding back is a lie. It is the same energy. Interestingly that is why it feels so horrible in the body.
To tell the truth is something that is innate in all of us. To be at the point where unless it is in your job description you do not feel the need to tell the truth, must be a very painful place to be.
I agree Richard, never heard such things, when you take a job on, that should be the norm, you should be honest in your job, you should not need to specifically have it written in a contract, what is happening to our society.
I absolutely love anything you write Dianne Trussell and this post delivers so much for anyone who is ready to step up and out of those little white lies.
Since I can recall, I am so into Truth and I always squirmed at choosing to tell small lies and then the uncomfortable feeling got big and fat as I had to do more lies. One thing I discovered was lies were hard and I couldn’t sleep with a clear head.
Today I am known for walking and talking Truth with a capital T. Call it tough love which I do very well, I am relentless for speaking out and it has not made me popular but it has made me real. Truth feels free and expanding inside my body and lies are complicated and boring. Many people who know me say that my unwavering commitment to Truth is like fresh air. I agree it certainly is fresh clean air but there is more..
As you mention Dianne about connecting to our soul – well this is where I am at right now. There seems to be more I am being asked to speak up and express Truth with. I know this is how I will evolve.
This week – actually saying the absolute Truth of why I did not mail my sister her birthday card and it could have gone 2 ways but I knew that I had to say it. Well it was well received and this confirmed that Truth is the only way and it has inspired me to keep expressing the Truth no matter who it is or what the situation is. Say it as it is and keep it simple – thats what works for me.
Hi Bina, you are a breathe of fresh air to me, and very popular in my books (of truth) !! You are an inspiration to meet. You and how Dianne expresses lays out how truth cannot really be stopped !!!
I want to add to what you said how terrible lying feels in my body. I struggled for many years and also the recent 10 years when I had a marker of truth – ‘knowing I was a Son Of God’. Once I renewed this lost absolute truth, I found it difficult still to honor this knowing. To express from this space in a world that totally rejects you in this knowing hurt too much for me to really commit. My truth even when it was confirmed to me was still a lie. My point is WE ALL KNOW the Truth but we choose not to show it.
Universal Medicine has taught me many ways and tools to live my Truth in a world that lies constantly and not be effected by it.
“The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.” Indeed Dianne at what expense have we have disregarded this sixth sense, our ability to connect to our inner most and feel the purity of what is true has been cast aside in preference for the brains filters which are mixed with a whole host of human emotions, attachments and investments. We know truth we simply choose to complicate, delay and ultimately avoid our responsibility.
Even when we don’t lie but are not really expressing what we feel by finding excuses not to upset another person, it feels awful.
It is so important to be honest with each other no matter if it’s a client, partner, or work colleague. As we feel everything, we can not hide the truth.
Yes, a little white lie is like the thin end of a wedge… it’s a part of the whole lie made to seem OK. And when i think about it in this way, I realise it’s either a lie or its not… the ‘little white’ part of a lie doesn’t make it a truth… or an excuse to not call ‘a spade’s a spade’…
Reading your blog I realized how normalized these “little” lies are in my own behavior. It’s a way of getting by unnoticed in this society as an “outsider”. I’m well on my way to not lie to myself anymore, which is the first step. Now to not hold back my truth out there in the world is not so easy. I have to learn to discern when it is of service to call out a lie, and then to do it with the right energy. I have made many mistakes that backfired, but when I can keep my head out of the way and stay connected to the true me, I am sometimes surprised and amazed how open and perceptive people are to the truth. That confirms that everybody innately knows what is true and what is not.
Anything that does not confirm us as love first and foremost is a little white lie.
True Julie…which is actually not so little after all:)
It is alarming how complacent we as a society are when it comes to lies. We all know the state of humanity is built on lies but it’s gotten so out of hand we’d rather ignore it and talk about those lies that only directly affect us.
What if we started to call more of these lies out, and hold ourselves and others accountable for the lack of truth being spoken, lived? It’s just as you say Dianne, very possible to turn this around. We need to be constantly calling it like we see it. No skills required there.
I really like the idea of talking to close people about lies and to support each other in brotherhood to express really everything that we feel without fear. All people lie all the time, we learn it from our parents and life seems to be much easier when we use lies. But IT IS NOT OKAY. Not for our body, not for our soul and not for our evolution! But there is nobody who reminds us about this important fact. We`re just told that lies are ok and this is a big lie itself!
I agree, Marika, it’s a pretty sad reflection of where we are at as a society … “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.” ….. it’s actually nothing to do with a job description, it’s something that should be innate in how we live together as people, like breathing.
I also never really worried about `white lies`. They were normal to me and I bought into the idea that they are needed to not make people sad, angry or worried. I believed that it is loving not to cause negative emotions in other people and always telling the truth seemed to be so uncomfortable anyway. I didn`t realize that all of that was just based on me not wanting to feel my hurts and wanting to protect other people from feeling their hurts. But if we do not feel our hurts we will never address and heal them. So lies actually bury our hurts.
It’s too true that these days we accept lying as common place and acceptable. I see it daily especially in sales and the manipulation of how sales figures are presented to buyers – it s ugly and manipulative but we accept it without any real questioning. After reading your blog Dianne I am inspired to bring more truth- sorry that’s capital T Truth from here on.
Thank you Diane for putting a spot light on one of the “things” that have gone on for eons yet is brushed aside as a small thing. As you say a lie is a lie…doesn’t matter what colour it is, it is the intent that counts. I agree when you say “connecting to that part of us that knows lies from truth as naturally as breathing…” It’s never too late to choose the truth and it is so much simpler to live with.
This is a great call Dianne, “A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.” This couldn’t be more clear, or more true. It needs to be stated and expressed. Thank you for doing it.
I remember those little white lies as a kid and asking what the difference is, the story I got was protect someone from being hurt or not telling the truth because they cant handle it saying what they want to hear, the list goes on … So you can imagine confusion when a child does it and gets scorned for what they’ve been asked and sometimes told to do. We don’t need to imagine we’ve all been there in both sets of shoes
Good point and I certainly remember the confusion between what the adults were saying was okay and them turning around and accusing the kids of the very same thing they had just condoned and justified.
I don’t remember it but it must be devastating when as children, we feel the confusion between what we know is true and what we are told by the people we love and who love us and the two don’t match i.e. we are lied to. Also, as children, when we told the adults what we were feeling and they didn’t believe us i.e. we were told that they thought we were lying. This is devastating as children and sets us up to not trust what we feel and know is true.
Hi Sandra. Yes, as small children growing up, when people around us and even our loved ones begin to share from the energy of their mind the reaction we feel is distressing, for it is full of emotion and totally with out love.
Whereas we are impulsed from birth from the energy of our soul which is nothing less than pure love and the difference is humongous.
It is so true – we tell our children so many little and even big lies, thinking somehow this is okay when we at the same time try and teach them that honesty is important – slightly mixed messages!
What a great blog Dianne. I remember very clearly hearing the phrase ‘little white lie’ as I grew up and adopted it myself despite knowing it wasn’t right. It seemed to be a way of justifying behaviour or actions that I knew weren’t truthful but suited me…and that’s what I saw when others used ‘little white lies’ to shrug off disonesty. It’s a way of feeling better about ourselves when we do something dishonest…justifying it, telling ourselves it’s ok. Thanks for bringing this subject up Dianne – it’s an opportunity to see if there are any little white lies I still tell myself these days.
Very true Sandra. Calling a lie little and white is just a way of trying to make ourselves feel better, and hide the dishonesty. The lie itself is bad, but by trying to manipulate the situation and make the lie hidden and meaningless we are just magnifying it’s affect to our body.
Awesome blog Dianne, great to read and get a strong understanding on what impact our lie’s have as little or as big as they are and with everyone including ourselves. This sentence jumped out at me – “Our bodies are matter and matter obeys energy, the energy of consciousness. Therefore our material lives are also a consequence of the energy of consciousness and how it governs our choices. So we need to look to energy for the cause of our self-created problems.” This really does answer and explain a lot. I remember Serge Benhayon first teaching the two different energies we allow in and through us. Super important Truths that has been covered up or ignored by lies – interesting!
Children pick up on this hypocrisy in adults from a young age, and it creates confusion and mistrust when they see and hear the people around them saying one thing to them, and yet they behave in another way – and sometimes the exact opposite way.
Yes Paula, children look at what we do not what we say.
I have observed when people tell lies and are found out they often plead innocence or argue an alternative point of view in defense, it is almost as though they are claiming they didn’t know it was a lie, and so I realise that very often many people are deceiving themselves and have no idea that they are doing so. We can tell ourselves “little white lies” to make things easier for ourselves, and also bury the truth inside us so we do not have to stand up and own it. It can become insidious. I feel that wobble you mention Dianne, when I find myself trying to cover up a truth about myself. Claiming our own truth makes it so much clearer what is truth and what are lies.
The little white lies are also found in my head, I tell them to myself sometimes, little excuses, thoughts of justification, even the lack of self-worth is a little white lie that I tell myself to hide away from my full glory.
This is so true and profound Felix thank you for raising this. It’s amazing how the tentacles of chosen behavior spread so far and deep that we don’t even realize. I love what you offer, anything we tell ourselves that isn’t supportive of the divine we are from is a lie.
That is so true, Felix … the lack of self-worth being a little white lie …. I don’t feel it’s been such a little lie for me, I’ve given it way too much air time in my head.
I can definitely relate to this Felixschumacher…although when compared to the glory that we actually are, these are enormous lies that we have taken in and swallowed, hook line and sinker.
Oh yeah Felix, how awful are the self-lies! And that’s only the ones we ‘know’ we are telling ourselves! What about all the ones we are telling ourselves that we don’t even know are lies? How are they limiting us? I used to lie to myself about my personality, but I thought it was true. Then I woke up and realized I don’t have to be an introvert – it’s a choice. Thanks Serge Benhayon, never would have pegged it without you! How are our self-lies wreaking havoc with our expression, relationships and way of being with other people? It bears delving into….
You make a great point here Dianne about “how are our self life wreaking havoc with our expression, relationships and way of being with other people?”
After reading your blog and commenting initially I was put on the spot and in what I felt was a tricky situation. It wasn’t really but I wanted to ‘help’ this person. First I let go of my need and then the Truth was clear and I knew I had to express it. It was that simple.
Your blog just kept coming to me that even a tiny white lie was not going to work and so I picked up the phone and in my usual style bluntly said No and then brought an understanding as to why I said No. The person thanked me and said they were blown away by my integrity. I replied that every single lie, big, fat, long, short, small is clocked by my soul and even if nothing happened my soul knows it did. That of course includes any tiny lies that come from my head as Felix talks about.
I hear what you are saying here Felix, I catch myself doing this as well, the mind is a tricky thing, when if we are not careful we can pull the wool over our own eyes.
You are so right Kevin – that mind of ours is a tricky thing. I sometimes have a good chat with it and tell it to bugger off and stop trying to pull the wool over my eyes. What helps with my clarity is when I mind my own business – in other words get on with what I know is needed and say No to things that will distract me. All of this is simple if I continue to go to do my foundation stuff that supports my body like going to bed early, walking with no agenda and taking the time to feel, prepare and eat what my body needs for that day.
That way I know I am supporting my body which then becomes my radar for lies whether they are in my head or something going on outside of me. Our body is such an amazing lie detector if we know how to plug in and hold the stillness which is disturbed with any lie, any size in any moment. We have all the answers as its all inside of us equally.
I’ve always thought I was an honest person as I hate lies and have never really told them. What I have become increasingly aware of is the fact that I have in this same time period (from birth growing older) become increasingly dishonest with myself. In this, the reality is that I am actually lying all of the time. This is huge for me to feel and to deal with, as I slowly express all that I feel, not just the parts I think will be ok.
Indeed Felix these lies no matter how small, begin with us, a dialogue between spirit and soul, the complication and deviation of the mind or the simple, impulse voice that springs from the body.
Yes me too felixschumacher8. There are many little lies that slip through and I can only be as honest as I choose to be, until I am stopped in my tracks to look at something that I am using to make my life harder for myself.
I know Felix – If we are telling our selves little white lies then we are denying the truth of who we are. So when I catch myself lying to myself, whether that’s in a passing thought or what I say to someone, even how I behave or the quality of a movement, then I can remind myself: this is not me, and take the opportunity to choose Me instead.
Good point you make here felixschumacher8. I can convince myself about all sorts of things just to avoid the truth of the matter.
Felixschumarcher8, I find these lies are the most insidious ‘white’ lies in my life – the lies that I tell myself about myself and choose to believe. I have been finding that I can base so much of life on such lies – and it can go on for ages and ages until either a loving friend, or a significant event in life wakes me up to it.
You get straight to the point with how to not (or to stop) telling lies, big or small, and that is by connecting to our Soul. I agree, let’s stop messing around, and causing a further mess and just head for Truth and the Soul. What I can feel as I right this is in making the choice to do this I will inevitably have to feel all the times I did not speak the Truth, seek the Truth or stay connected to my Soul. We always have a choice .. Let’s choose Truth.
‘A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude!’ This is so true, and if it’s not fully, 100% the truth, then surely it’s a lie. And what I have realised recently is that we don’t just lie with our mouths, we lie with our whole bodies. If I hide who I am from you, if I make myself small so you can’t see my beauty or power, or if I change myself to fit in – I’m lying to everyone. We all lie so much more than we realise, and we are so dishonest that we’re not honest about being dishonest!
The little white lies are also the promises we make to each other and our children. How often do we actually say something that we then later don’t do. I know myself as a very honest man, but as I am becoming more honest I do see how I tend to say or promise things to my daughter, which I then later don’t do. I’ll give an example to make it practical: recently we’ve been exchanging video’s with each other so I asked her if she would like to receive a video every morning from me. She told me yes and on the 2nd day after this ‘promise’, I realised that I completely forgot. It’s not that this is wrong, but what I learnt from it was to be aware of what I say and promise. And that if I change my mind, that at least I can let her know. And this is just one little example. There are many. While writing I actually feel that a promise is something that’s not loving in the first place. There’s a demand in it. There’s not a lot of Spaciousness. And for me this could and has been a burden… I have to do this or that, because I ‘promised’ so.
I was in a situation recently where a dynamic was needing to be addressed and they needed to say how they were feeling and members of the group were sharing how frightened they were and that they didn’t want to do it. This was a relatively safe environment with no threats or intimidation but it was amazing to see how foreign and dangerous it was to express the truth.
There is a saying that states ‘read between the lines’ or should it be ‘read between the lies’. The energetic vibration of a lie hurts the one expressing the lie much more than they realise, no matter how little or insignificant the lie is.
I agree Matthew, a lot of the time we have to “‘read between the lies” whether they are the lies of others or the lies that we tell ourselves. The lies that we tell ourselves are often so insidious that we fully believe them and don’t even think to question them. This is why healing is so important to uncover the lies that we are running with within ourselves.
Great point Matthew Brown, well said and I love the suggestions of ‘reading between the lies’, how very true.
Well said Matthew – when will we begin to see that politeness is just well polished and currently acceptable lying – saying your fine when your not, not making a fuss when someone is rude, doing something you don’t want to do to fit in or keep the peace, the whole ‘the customer is always right’ mentality that allows staff to be abused and have no way to stand up for themselves – this is all a form of lying we have yet to acknowledge.
I feel an instant trust in people every time I hear and feel someone stand up for and represent truth. The truth is unforgiving because it casts no judgement yet comes with such a beholding and absolute strength which is a powerful reflection to receive, especially if you haven’t been living in accordance with the truth being presented.
Abby we can feel the Truth no doubt, I love your line ” it comes with a beholding and absolute strength which is a powerful reflection to receive” . Truth is felt and registered at a profound level with every particle in our body such is the connection and knowing.
One of the first things I feel to consider when it comes to truth and lies is that there may actually be such a thing as truth! A lot of people feel that everything in life is relative – some like to refer to Einstein in support and I see this lack of clarity about truth everywhere, particularly among those that have strong minds.
Hi Dianne. What is happening that so many of us want or like the buffer that the ”white lie’ gives us? When does it start the choice to lie rather than sit with the discomfort that ‘truth’ brings? This is very challenging and very confronting. The false belief about the ‘okayness’ of telling little white lie goes very deep. It is so true that – ‘The best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth’. Yet another falsity has been named and exposed, thank you Dianne.
You have raised something here ch1956 that made me take notice and that is the discomfort that sitting with the truth brings. Just like telling lies can lead to more lies, so sitting with the truth, leads to more truths being uncovered. Maybe we dont want to look at how we have avoided the truth for so long because we will have to sit with that ‘discomfort’ and deal with what we have been avoiding.
“How can we clear our lie-detectors? Our bodies are matter and matter obeys energy, the energy of consciousness. Therefore our material lives are also a consequence of the energy of consciousness and how it governs our choices. So we need to look to energy for the cause of our self-created problems.”
Dianne what you say makes sense- that you for explaining this concept in a simple scientific way for all to understand.
We come into this world complete, unbroken ready to just be. We have an inane view of the world to start with and things we feel and know are wrong are painted gray for us to try and figure how that works. We adapt and enjoin the world in the end a majority times and fit in. We can return anytime we wish to our original self by freewill and choice to the package we arrived in… it may be like an old book at times, well read and a bit dog eared but the content is still there. Truth has and will never have no down sides to it
‘We come into this world complete, unbroken ready to just be.’ I love your opening statement here sjmatsonuk! We have the opportunity to recognise our truth despite the lies that are fed to us. The trick is to trust what we know as we grow and to recognise the truth not only within ourselves but what is reflected to us. Thank God for Serge Benhayon and his respond to the call when he recognised the truth.
‘Little white lies’ – By adding ‘little white’ to the word lie does not in any way make it okay or smooth over the fact it is still a lie. I’ve always felt that I told the truth (and nothing but the truth) but in truth that is not true!!! When it comes to food choices I still manage to tell those white lies and convince myself that at times that certain foods that I eat are okay – so why does my body feel bloated or heavy at times. Because I smooth over with excuses and manipulate the truth of what my body is sharing with me. In your wisdom as you share with us Dianne “Denying any part of truth is to short change us all, deprive us all of our full potential”.
Dianne thank you for this blog. At the beginning I felt the indignation and frustration within myself at the extent of the overt as well as hidden lies I witness everyday around me in society, and how it is treated as a matter of course. And it has felt an uphill battle trying to correct this dishonesty around me as well as within myself. I loved how the article includes how we can develop our personal inner lie-detector, or rather ‘truth-detector’ by connecting more deeply with our Soul. Because at that point I saw how of course that is the answer, and from that place there is no ‘battle’, judgment or frustration. But there is the clarity of a vast potential to live a life founded on Love, Truth and Harmony within us all and nothing less than that does not even register as making sense.
“Expressing truth in every realm of human life ” – Dianne I agree this is what we can do, it is our responsibility, starting with ourselves, and thank you for explaining how our bodies are matter and matter obeys energy, so we can’t get away with anything that is not truth, it will affect us and others.
Wow! Diane you have blown me out of the water with this blog. What is written here is so powerful. You have exposed lying on every level and the impact the culture of lying has. An amazing read.
Thank you Dianne for shining the light on lies. Lies are lies are lies as you have so eloquently presented here. I loved his line amongst many, ‘With truth, we are at home and we are safe.’ There is no residue with truth. It is clean, clear and light. An awesome sharing and I am more committed to calling out truth for myself after reading your exposé.
Bernadette so am I, what is very apparent is that growing up after White Lies became the normality it was not long before I started to believe my own lies. In effect conning myself into a false reality based on lies. With that their is no stability, no foundation, just covering up lie after lie. The power of truth is an incredible freedom within the body. No wonder we live in such anxiousness when much of what society says and does is based on lies.
Yes David, it makes sense that anxiousness is pandemic! How could it not be when we have never been truly supported to express the truth? Our bodies, being the truth barometers that they are, have to respond in some way to the abuse that we treat them with. Lying goes against our natural way of being. We are stunted, misshapen and contorted by lies. It reminds me of a plant that is deprived of water, nutrients and light. It stays alive but it is small, its leaves are yellow and it never blossoms. Ouch, I can still feel a knowing of myself in that description!
Truth is truth and a lie is a lie…there is nothing in between, no matter how little or white they may seem.
A Magnificent blog Diane, and this makes so much sense..”Our bodies are matter and matter obeys energy, the energy of consciousness. Therefore our material lives are also a consequence of the energy of consciousness and how it governs our choices”… So we can clearly see how our body ‘cops it’, like responds to the vibration of either truth or lie… surely the consequences would be either dis-ease or vitality?
When I was a child I still remember knowing when a lie was spoken. I’ve chosen to speak complete truth with my children and confirm them when they ask if another is telling a lie and they have felt it. I found that by not being confirm with our own knowing when we are small, it made me confused to know the truth as I grew. We have so much trust in our elders we don’t wish to believe that they would tell a untruth.
That is so true Kim Weston, it is very harmful to raise a child with such hypocrisy because we have such innate trust in our parents and elders. It causes deep confusion when we can feel a lie but am told its the truth, talk about getting our wires crossed!
That’s right Rowena, and the beginning of distrust in others and ourselves begins.
When the human spirit chose to separate from the One that is the Soul and in that sought another way to be – a lie was born. This lie was then added to by more and more lies of various shapes, sizes and densities, all supporting the human spirit to be ‘the truth’, ‘the one’ and indeed the ‘higher self’, when it most certainly is not. We could say that this was our very first case of ‘identity theft’ and from this point a whole manner of lies were given the ‘go ahead’ so long as they support the spirit in its self made creation and do not expose the game that is here being played. We live in a world of lies because we seek comfort in them, for without them we are left to feel the absence of truth, the love and the Oneness that we have walked away from. It is this that is our deepest hurt.
Exactly Liane, from the original lie came all others. In fact life on earth is a lie. Black is white and white is black. Up is down and down is up.
Liane I love the way you just get right to the core of where these ‘white lies’ all began, and the fact of the comfort we derive from cushioning the truth that we are not as yet willing to stand in nor be confronted by. Thank you.
Absolutely true Liane, and adding to that, the fury that is unleashed on The One who stands up for Truth and exposes the lies we have chosen to make our reality, is so vicious and dogmatic that even after eons of the Truth being known, humanity as a whole is still choosing to live in and from the original lie.
So we lie to protect ourselves from the pain of having left truth. What then do we want to protect our children from – from losing their truth, their innocence, to not experience the same pain? But how absurd to try so by telling a lie then. The child reflects what we have lost and hence our own pain.
100% agree Dianne, a lie is a lie not matter how ‘little’ it is. I quite often have this conversation with a friend as someone quite close speaks ‘little white lies’ often. To me I feel betrayed, almost like I’m not trusted with the truth.
A lie is a lie no matter how we justify it a little white lie or a big fat lie. Lying to myself by justifying my behaviours I have in my life with or without the conscious awareness that there is a behavoiur that I am justifying or a pattern in my life that is not true until the light bulb moment.
Sometimes when I sit with an issue or an energy I can feel in my body that doesn’t feel true I can’t feel into it enough to get to the core of it because I have been living the lie through the energy of that lie is so ingrained. By identifying the lies I have lived for possibly life times to keep me in comfort, a comfort that is actually very uncomfortable. I can’t change what I won’t acknowledge.
Great point Margaret – the ‘comfort that is actually very uncomfortable’ – absolutely.
Wow great article Dianne, uncovering the truth of ‘little White Lies’ I also remember them from my childhood, being told that they are not really lies at all! I have also used them myself, for which I had no idea as to the damage I was doing until I went to a presentation by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. A lie is everything that Truth is not, no matter how small.
“It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” This is sadly so true Dianne. We have become so accustomed to living these lies, that we have forgotten what the look, smell, taste, texture and tone of truth is. And so we allow our senses to become bludgeoned by all that is not truth, for it would seem that we have become so scared of the truth and our natural expression of it, that any old lie will do.
I LOVE every word you have shared here Dianne, thankyou. ‘Blurring the lines of truth’ is lying. Telling a ‘little white lie’ is lying, so is ‘stretching the truth’, ‘embellishing the truth’ and withholding the truth. Truth is truth and in that, it is absolute. It cannot have a piece of it taken without corrupting the integrity of the whole. Therefore, the very notion of a ‘little white lie’ is in fact, a great big gigantic black lie, with not a tint of white in it.
Yes Liane, very well said.
So really we are more used to hearing and telling lies than Truth! Gosh we really need to turn this ship around then, how crazy is that and what is it we don’t want to see?
My thoughts exactly Liane…we convince ourselves they are nothing, and endearingly refer to them as little and white…yet when we know all that truth is, they are indeed, as you say, gigantic and black
Beautiful Liane. Taking comfort in a ‘little white lie’ upholds the image of being ‘good’ whilst fertilising and watering the very roots of every evil in this world.
Hear hear Diane, “Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth”.
…and we can simply begin by listening to our inner built lie detectors, our bodies.
Great comment Victoria – no more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth’ and yes, by listening to our bodies, our inner built lie detectors, we simply honour all that we are and everyone we meet.
Thank you Martin. What you have shared is super important, in that by telling lies we are giving up on life, and keeping ourselves, and then as a consequence others, in an insidious holding pattern, without a way out. I can certainly feel that has been the case for me and how being honest and truthful is actually a lifeline.
I remember my family talking about white lies – and how they made it OK. They made it OK for them to tell them, but insisted I didn’t and that didn’t feel right at all.
Family like to call them white as that sounds better than a black lie, a lie is a lie full stop, whatever colour.
This is a great blog Dianne. I can’t help but reflect on the many lies that I have told and I clearly recall the difference in my body from speaking the truth. It’s like chalk and cheese. The effect in my body was the same whether it was a big lie or a “little white lie”, which is interesting to consider. What I have been noticing recently is the tension that I hold onto is ginormous and I use all my energy to do this, hold onto this force. It’s like trying to pull someone up a cliff on a rope. Telling the truth is very different. There is no tension in my body. The question here is why? Why lie? I have done this to protect myself…from reaction, from feeling the truth, not wanting to see what is right in front of me, to pretend everything is ok, to not want to feel hurt. So does this work? In one word no and I know this because of what I can feel in my “lie detector” – my body, which is very loud sometimes. It’s a beautiful process of learning to trust what I feel and then speak that, speak the truth that is offered to me in every moment,
Great comment Jennifer, this feels so true to me ‘ Telling the truth is very different. There is no tension in my body’, when i have told a lie my body is in nervous energy or anxiousness and feels very tense – not wanting to be found about. I have told little white lies to my son to ‘protect’ him and it never works, he can see through them completely and it becomes so complicated and impossible to keep the lie up. After reading this article I can feel how destructive lies are.
Brilliant to read your exposure of the ‘Little white Lie” Dianne. When we really open our eyes and ears it is amazing how many little white lies get told. By not speaking up we have fed the lies and allowed them to grow unheeded.
Absolutely Alison, the greatest lie is the one not spoken, the one where we keep quiet.
Sweeping lies under the carpet and painting them as acceptable if not tolerable does not a lie change. Truth is simple, uncomplicated and easily exposes our false ways.
‘Truth is the bottom line’, the starting point, the absolute minimum. It won’t happen overnight but it requires enough people to stand up and be counted regularly and consistently; to be committed to exposing those elephants we know, see, hear and feel in every room and every corner. Without this, we’re pretty much doomed to continue down the slippery slope to the deception-fuelled abyss, with no-one to blame but ourselves and our tolerance of what we know to be wrong. Anything for a quiet life? I don’t think so.
You are so right Cathy “anything for a quiet life” – isn’t that why we don’t bother speaking up and saying the Truth when we know we hold the answer or the words that will bring about true change.
Wanting a ‘quiet life’ guarantees we will not evolve and not saying anything is really saying something because you are confirming its ok to tell little or big fat lies whatever suits your agenda. I made a choice to not settle for the quite life. I replaced it with a real raw simple life. This means say it as it is, be prepared to not be popular but know that if you connect to your soul as Dianne talks about in this amazing blog, then you won’t be concerned with what others think or say about you.
Truth is so clean and clear and so I join you Cathy in exposing those ‘elephants’ in every corner you speak about.
You are so right Bina, by not speaking and remaining silent to maintain our quite life… speaks volumes.
Truth can not be medaled with or re-configured to suit an agenda or personal gain – Truth just is. Honesty can still be tampered with in the name of expression as one persons honesty may differ to another depending on the level that person is honest with themselves first. I know Truth is inherent to us all, equally so, and our path to feel that is to surrender to the fact we are equal to that light.
This is a blog about connecting to the soul consciousness, which is something that has been around for centuries. Again and again we are given the opportunity to connect to this, and to learn from it. Dianne has done a tremendous job here in making these very ancient teaching accessible for us today, in very real and simple terms, so that we may all benefit from her understanding of the universe so that it may support us back.
The thing I have felt with lies is that the require maintenance and record to keep track of so as to not be exposed down the line as false. As a child I remember this urge vividly, the little lies that ‘didn’t harm anyone’ but made my story way more interesting to my friends. As you’ve said so clearly Dianne, ‘A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! ‘
I felt this and knew the harm I was actually doing to myself in my flurry of exaggeration that built momentum to lying about how I felt, what I like or things that didn’t even happen.
Great blog Dianne, there was no mistaking after reading this that life is full of little white lies. The stonkers stand out a mile, but it’s the little white ones (that we convince ourselves are ok) that are the most damaging. They can be long-running and become how we create our day to day, upholding beliefs and ideals. So the little white lies I tell myself can excuse the way I really feel, and therefore all the while I’m ok with this personalised version of truth (this lie!), I’m actually avoiding being honest, and the truth of what’s going on moment to moment. The little white lies sustain the big lie, that we are not living the truth of who we are.
As I started reading this there was a feeling of certainty that lies are actually everywhere, and I have felt them my whole life, and had similar responses to you Diane, how could there be so many willing to lie?, and realized that these white lies had also infiltrated my own life. It feels quite devastating to the child in me, like a build up of so many times recognizing expressions that were not true, and this includes expressions that were not love.
What a wonderful calling out Dianne. It appears indeed that humans have accepted that the foundation of our societies and institutions are based on lies; it is where corruption is allowed to creep in. It has been accepted as ‘normal’. And it has been like this for thousands of years. Humanity feels overwhelmed as to where to start. But starting with the awareness of the devastation and repercussions of the little white lie as you opened your article is where we start. We only express truth and only accept truth and we open ourselves up to feel the truth and the extent of the lies around us. By simply being the reflection in the world of something true, is in itself the beginnings of building a new foundation.
This blog has brought to light for me all the times I hold back the full truth, it is amazing what excuses I can come up with for not saying 100% truth. This is where the insidiousness of being ” nice” can come into play. How awesome would it be if from an early age we were encouraged to tell the whole truth rather then to learn how to cleverly negotiate around politeness and political correctness.
Thankfully with the help of Universal Medicine I’m unravelling these in built behaviours re learning again not to hold back my truth.
I agree Samanthaengland and Dianne with all you say about lies and telling the whole truth and not dancing round it to keep everyone happy. A beautiful much needed sharing on the way we live and the real importance of expressing truth for ourselves, everyone and the world. How amazing will that be for us all to begin to be able to be totally out there and honest with each other and the joy felt from this truth expressed from inside . For we all know when both ourselves and others are not telling the truth and how horrible that feels .
A great subject to write on and deeply exposing of the extent of the corruption of truth. I always remember a line from a popular TV programme/movie years ago when someone said, ‘You lied’ , to which the person replied ‘I didn’t – I just wilfully participated in a campaign of misinformation’ – something I feel we have all learnt to do, excessively so, and just accepted as part of life – it is like our entire life is a campaign of misinformation! Definitely time to not hide from the truth, take responsibility for it and speak it.
Love this blog, Dianne, it is very exposing, but such truth. I agree with you here, “The best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth. Even when it is ‘tough love’ or ‘tough truth’ it is giving ourselves and others the whole of what is required to base choices upon, to learn, evolve and grow” Absolutely, I just recalled something that happened when I was quite young. We had a dog, a lovely kelpie cross, but he was always escaping from our yard, over a 6 ft. paling fence, digging down uner the fence (my Dad put sheet iron down into the ground to stop that), but somehow he kept getting out. As an adult, I know that a kelpie is a working dog and needs to have much attention and really have work to do. Anyway the dog disappeared one day and I was told that he had run away and they could not find him. Of course many years later I found out that they had taken the dog back to the person who sold it. Looking back, I can feel how hurt I was that I was told a lie, how much better would it have been for my understanding, even though young, if I had been told that the dog was not happy being in our back yard and he needed to have more freedom on a big property. I feel children can understand these things if it is explained lovingly. Truth for me has always been very important, and I have never been able to successfully tell a lie, even a little white lie, my face would always belie the truth.
I love this sharing Dianne. The example you give about the politician is a great example and it is also a great reflection of where we are at as a society. The fact that we accept that some politicians will tell lies and that’s just ‘normal’ shows that this is also what we have come to accept in our lives. If we lived by truth then when a politician came along he/she would immediately be called to account and we would not just accept this. The fact that we just accept that this is how it is reflects that we are okay with this because we don’t want to have to call to account the areas of untruth that we are living in our lives.
Similar to the ‘little white lie’ is our ability to bend the truth – ‘just a little’ to suit what we need to get from a situation or a person. Our seeming ability to alter the truth – that is create a lie is taken for granted the world over moment by moment – more proof that we avoid the many laws of the universe like that of incarnation and responsibility for the lies we create are what we bed ourselves down in night after night, life after life.
Yes Lee those little white lies that we bend the truth with to get an advantage in a situation or over another person are bad enough, worse still are those little white lies we tell ourselves with impunity
Wow Nicholas Bason – the constant lies we tell ourselves with impunity. That is huge and I wonder how many of us are prepared to unearth them?
Absolutely Lee, just like Chinese whispers it gets out of hand very quickly.
“It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world” – this is so true – we need only to look at one of the most accepted social lies which is the “How are you?” “I am fine” conversation that goes on every day for many. How automated is it when we reply ‘good’ to how was your day; or ‘good’ to how are you? This often just sets up a white lie and then also in the process bars people out – keeps people away from what you try to ‘protect’ them from: your honest and open you that may just feel a little vulnerable in being exposed. Diane’s blog here helps us to ponder all the facets of life where we bring in the lie, often without even realising it!
That’s so true Ariana. We’re taught it’s ok to disregard what we feel to be true when we are very young and if we do this our abuse detector becomes muddy.
When I was young I can remember a mix of emotions; bewilderment and a sense of betrayal and injustice at being told not to lie but being lied to, fear of not fitting in and surviving because I feared being unable to grasp when it’s ok to lie and not, but most damaging of all, excitement, here is somewhere I can get away with things and not be called to account – a huge lie, I’ve not got away with anything as my body will attest to.
So now, no matter how many lies later, I can choose to connect with my soul and to detect my own lies which are damaging myself and others simultaneously.
There are two great points here Karin that I hadn’t considered.
‘The fear of not knowing when it is okay to lie and when it is not and the most damaging but exciting at the same time, where I can get away with things and not be called to account’.
This sentence is history in the making Dianne – “Since our consciousness governs all our thoughts, choices and actions, could it be that by connecting to our soul and allowing that to be our presiding consciousness, we can feel truth accurately and live every moment of life more truly?” The more I allow my soul to be my guiding light the truer my life is becoming. The more I connect with my soul the more transparent my life is. There is no place for lies.
In connection with our Soul we cannot but be in the presence of absolute truth. We return to the truth of who we are, which is what all the lies are an attempt to cover…..why would we want to cover who, in truth, we are and then literally live daily a lie?
” I was being trained to force myself to be okay with telling lies and learning how to justify what I knew was wrong.” I agree, Dianne, that the training to express less than the absolute truth begins in childhood, as you say. We have, as children, a very clear and open connection with our bodies that allows us to feel very physically when lies are expressed. Interesting, then, how we then train the mind, through education, in the conversation skills of lying so that it can become a fully participating member of the tissue of lies engaged in by society at large. Allowing the natural responses of the body to be expressed throughout childhood would have some clear implications for this state of affairs.
It is interesting when we start to get honest about lies, I realise I lie a lot, in the fact that I hold back what I feel, know, play dumb and that in itself is lying, lying about the truth you know is there to be lived by everyone.
This is huge, because the implications are so far spread. I do it too, and in that I hold back the truth from those I love and cherish, known and unknown, by trying to protect them and be nice, when in fact my choices end up hurting them even if not directly so.
Great comment Vanessa. I just realise how I can lie to myself too by not being willing to listen deeply to what my body is so willing to tell me.
Its great to expose the subtlety with which lies infiltrate – and your comment exposes yet another layer that even holding back a truth simply perpetuates a lie, and so we are just as complicit in allowing it to continue.
I can remember as a child and adolescent being told by my parents to just come up with some ‘white lie’ or excuse when I was confronted with an awkward situation that may have either been embarrassing or resulted in me having a serious consequence for my actions, (such as forgetting to do a school assignment or not doing something I promised someone I would do). As a parent now, I can see how perhaps my own parents were protecting their own self-image as a ‘perfect parent’ by suggesting I control situations and look perfect to the outside world. However, the truth is that it was only stopping me from taking real responsibility for my life, and setting up a system of covering up the truth with ‘white lies’ that was effectively blaming others for MY actions. Of course, I went along with this as it was the easy way out, and realize now that those little lies are just as damaging to eveyone as the biggest lie in the world. On a global scale, we seem to have the same situation, where corporations, politicians, and whole government have been hiding lies with lies, and thus not taking responsibility for their actions, and if we all say no to this way of living, it can eventually spread on a macro scale.
Hi Dianne, your blog is a great exposing of what we have accepted life to be….an acceptable lie. I love and agree what you say with ” the best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth. Even when it is ‘tough love’ or ‘tough truth’ it is giving ourselves and others the whole of what is required to base choices upon, to learn, evolve and grow. This also exposes, being ‘nice’ and because you do not want to ‘hurt’ someone with the ‘truth’ so we lie. How absurd when you see it for what it is.
The normality of the little white lies when we are young is the predisposition to the bigger and more crippling lies and secrets that seep through society and relationships as adults.
Your so right Dianne, Our whole world is built and held by lies, Its the fabric of society. The people that are honest are easy targets and are shot down quickly. I have seen this happen in the work environment. But there is change occurring and I can see and feel a strength in being truthful. People are wanting it. They are tiring of the lies. A very revealing blog. thank you
A body of lies can never amount to anything healthy Dianne so I am with you. All lies (white ones included) are of no real use. There is a higher way for people to communicate with each other and your blog lays out the foundations for this more evolved way of being and expressing.
We have indeed accepted lies as normal and have allowed ourselves to live lies, so it is no wonder there is so much protection and mistrust in the way we relate to each other and live in the world today. I agree Dianne that truth is fundamental in building a foundation of love and trust. It is the only way that we can reflect and confirm the love that we naturally are to each other. And the essential first step comes from choosing this truth for ourselves, choosing to connect to our truth within by choosing to connect to our soul. As you have powerfully said – ‘The soul of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking.’ As from this point we can begin to truly live in harmony again.
Thank you Dianne, just gorgeous, it is time to clear away the grunge from our internal lie detectors. Universal Medicine is clearly all about the body, returning to our natural ways of be-ing and to express this in full in a world that is stuck choosing the opposite. You have given the all Dianne, the way it is now, and the plan to change it all. Thank you.
And like you say, the truth is there is no barometer for justifying ‘lies’. A lie is a lie, and it is the complete opposite of who we are, so it is evil. When truth is lived, it is known.
A great expose of the worlds foundations…foundations that are ever shifting and tenuous. Its little wonder so many people are anxious, stressed and exhausted these days…it takes a lot of energy to maintain a lie!!
We all know and feel lies and the impact this has is underestimated. Every lie is exactly that: a lie and fills up space in our bodies where there could be love = truth.
Precisely Monika, what a crying shame it is too, that we fill ourselves with lies when we are in fact made from the essence of the most awesome love, which should by rights be our all consuming expression. Dianne’s article certainly puts a sharp focus on those ‘little white lies’ that we try to convince ourselves are so innocent, yet in truth are so devastating.
I love what you wrote about ‘little white lies’: “we try to convince ourselves are so innocent, yet in truth are so devastating.” Yes there is nothing innocent about a lie, or a little lie regardless of how hard we try to convince ourselves: a lie is a lie and we feel the devastating consequences in our body.
I am constantly blown away but TRUTHs ability to unite people. When people come together in consensual agreement based on an absolute truth nothing can shake them.
Yes this blows me away too. When truth is spoken it unites people. This is what is meant by ‘One Unified Truth’.
So true Abby and Rebecca. This is the opposite of a lie which has already divided and separated people before it is even spoken.
That’s such a cool observation, and spot on, the truth unites people like nothing else. I notice you can also get the opposite, people who stand together against the truth.
Very true Ariana. Although kids are very much in connection with their bodies, they are trained out of it to be able to believe everything that adults say. As adults we have the responsibility to express the truth and also to support young people to hold onto their discernment.
Absolutely. And we also have a huge responsibility to allow children to feel comfortable expressing what they feel- the truth as they feel it. Perhaps a few more white lies would get exposed.
I love how you mention at the end Dianne that we all know we are actually living a lie. It is a reminder that the soul is always waiting there for us to reconnect and return to living the truth of who we are. The body as you describe is also there as a marker of truth holding all our choices lived in separation communicating that there is another energy we can choose and live from.
There are not too many topics bigger than this and skillfully much has been said here. The lies that abound in the world have such a strong foothold they are now normalized, accepted and or resigned to. The magic in this piece of writing is bringing the enormity and complexity of lies back to individual responsibility – where else of course do the lies begin and therefore end unless this is examined and the lies seen for what they are in our own lives?
I agree totally Deanne, individual responsibility and a deep examination of the enormity and complexity of lies in our own lives are the first steps back to truth.
Thank you Dianne for sharing your words, as far as I can see lies are created to hide behind the belief that the person or persons telling the lie are not going to get what they want from what the truth offers. A lie is a manipulation and an attempt to control and create an outcome of benefit to the liar, one of recognition, identification or gain and once bitten into that sweet fruit it is very hard not to be swayed by its moreish delight and tell some more porkys (lies), until the body that has had to endure the reduced life of containment as a liar cannot walk another step without the open grandeur of truth.
It is great Dianne to put forward this proposition that truth is possible as our way of being, even in an existence built on lies. Union is our purpose and truth is the carrier pigeon.
I remember as a teenager seeing through all the lies and not understanding the world that we lived in. I reacted to this and rebelled. I hurt myself in the process of reacting by turning my back and withdrawing from society and people. Essentially I too began to live a lie that was far from the love that I am. It has been through the presentations of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that I am choosing to reconnect back to the truth and love that I am.
A lie cannot ever be spoken without being lived first.
We live the lie of firstly not being who we truly are, and naturally our body is infiltrated with an energy that is not true, and expresses itself accordingly.
Great point you are making here Kylie! How we set ourselves up and allow an energy that is not us (a lie) to run our lives. This is how we start to bring disharmony into our bodies.
Absolutely Judith, people actually feel the truth then react because it is not what is considered as ‘normal’!
It’s interesting that in general we struggle with telling the truth, more so than telling lies. That tension of ‘oh, I’m going to have to tell the truth here’ exposes that what is being lived is a lie, and hence why it is so ‘confronting’ to tell the truth (because it is exposing that you have been lying)… and this unravels the reel of consecutive lies leading to that moment.
Thank you Dianne for this very real and truthful blog exposing the way we have lived in the world and the lying that has become acceptable .Even when we know truth as a child the little white lies and shown to us as acceptable and everything grows from here. The honesty and truth that we know inside and is our foundation can be lived again now as we start to do this for ourselves in the little things and build from there in our oneness lovingly thanks to the loving support and inspiration from Serge Benhayon his family and Universal Medicine.Together we can bring back Honesty and true integrity through the way we live to the whole world lovingly and support our true evolution.
We learn to stretch the truth (ridiculous phrase) and tell convenient lies from our peers, our parents, politicians. It is so normal that even when you have politicians exposed for lying while in public office, instead of them being jailed for a criminal offence.. it is something that we allow them to talk their way out of. Its incredible what we have allowed, and we need more guiding stars like Serge Benhayon to light a way back to how we truly are.
Just being aware of “little white lies” we can see they crop up everywhere. Take for example yesterday, there were so many people including myself who said they were “fine” “going well” when the truth is many of them were not. To me growing up I understood its always better to say things are fine because its whats expected but really this is just another suitable white lie that means we don’t need to really connect and express with another person, in turn we end up ignoring what we feel. So if we don’t share a basic truth like how we feel how can we possibly expect to the rest of what we share or talk about to not be littered with “little white lies”. The ruth is “a little white lie” is any from little and anything from harmless.
This is very true David, since reading this blog I have become very aware of when myself and others are lying and by saying we are “fine” when actually we are not is a clear lie, I have noticed how children pick up on this and copy this behaviour, my son says “im good” when i can see he is not, when i open up and am honest for example by saying “im tired” it allows him to say how he is really feeling too.
“It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” This is so true Dianne, thanks for starting this discussion as it is something we seriously (but playfully) need to look at . What is going on here?
Absolutely Judith, people actually feel the truth then react because it is not what is considered as ‘normal’!
“A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.” Such a true statement Dianne. In recent years more and more corruption is being exposed as the lies no longer hold up. The lie that is beginning to crumble is the realisation that technology and medicine alone are not are not the answers to health and well being. That there needs to be another way.
The little white lies are quiet deceptions to self and others stand out like a pink elephant when children are around. When I found my body feeling shifty if I was about to tell a half truth or omit the truth – aka a little white lie aka a plain lie, I knew I could no longer live like that. My child knew the truth and deserved truth at all costs, truth told to her and I deserved being true to myself.
This is beautiful Dianne, and so important for all of humanity to get. I know that I have the opportunity to be truthful at every moment and when I choose not to be, it is a slippery slope downhill from there, no end is in sight. What an awful web we weave when at first we do deceive…
To me, to lie is the trying to control. But…control is an illusion. We can (and do) choose energy, which is running through our body and mind. There are just two types of energy – one connects us to our soul and divinity and the other…not. I know that if I choose my soulful energy I am not ‘in control’ of what I say – I let come through what is needed to be said, to serve all. If I choose against my soulful energy I am also not ‘in control’, because then, although I belong to what I truly am (soulful), I am connecting to something I am not. This ‘what we are not’ is fed by an energy which I would call evil – because it holds us away from who we are and so also away from evolving and coming home again (back to the divinity we truly are). (More about evil: http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/unimedpedia-evil.html)
‘With truth, we are at home and we are safe.’ Beautifully expressed Dianne and I can really feel how so much of the anxiousness that governed my life until recently came from living multiple lies, many small but some not so small and the impact that this had on my body was immense.
Absolutely gorgeous Dianne – your way of sharing about clearing our lie detectors is Gold. There is so much to this blog – from the way adults justify those so called ‘little white lies’ – as a supposedly harmless and necessary bending of the absoluteness we are taught of ‘never lie’ – all the way through to are we living the truth of who we are in our day to day lives – or is lying the norm and beyond – and for me the highlight that our bodies are matter and detect lies when accustomed to living with the energy of truth, anything less than that stands out. A fabulous fabulous blog again from you Dianne – lighting the way.
Diane what you share is absolute gold, and a lot for us to all ponder on. Simple truth a lie is a lie and that’s it. We all need to be speaking 100% truth from the connection of our soul, as our soul never lies. Once we start living, breathing this way of speaking the truth, our reflection and magnitude will start the ripple affect for others to feel and speak the truth too.
I agree, when we express truth it has a ripple affect with others.
I know someone through work that doesn’t believe a word anyone says, as he lies so much himself he just presumes everyone else does as well. I wonder if this started from being told lots of little white lies as a child which then became a normal part of daily life. Being able to feel and express truth will really bring a well needed change to the world.
It’s so awesome that you have written an expose on the truth about little white lies Dianne. I too have grown up with ‘little white lies’ being accepted as ‘good’ and very ‘acceptable’ by one and all. Later in life we become so distracted with the ‘big’ and ‘real’ lies that we don’t seem to clock or consider all the ‘little white lies’ – they seem to slip under the radar. I love your very strong and true statement that “A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.”
Very well said Tamara, ‘we become so distracted with the ‘big’ and ‘real’ lies that we don’t seem to clock or consider all the ‘little white lies’ – they seem to slip under the radar’. It is so true that we are sometimes just up for exposing the ‘big lies’ in the world, an example being the media and the obvious corruption in politics and education, but when it comes to addressing the everyday, ‘little white lies’ we say all the time, which are in fact just the same as the ‘big’ obvious ones, we dare not expose or admit to them.
Naming a lie by colour such as ‘white’ is what, supposed to distinguish it as ‘unseen’? That somehow it can be passed as being ok? As you say Dianne, ‘a lie is a lie’ and the only mask it holds is to that of Truth. Be it tough or not, love will always be sweeter than any comfort a lie offers. I’m in!
Another great article Dianne. Everybody knows that everything is built on lies but nobody knows how to deal with it and only a few know that we are part of the problem. It would be something else if the foundation of life as we know it was built on truth. And this can be initiated with us connecting to our own built in lie detector and expressing from our truth breaking free of an old consciousness that has previously held us.
That built in lie detector being the fact that we can feel exactly what is going on, no matter what age we are or whether we know the details of what is being talked about. Our bodies are a tuning fork for truth if we but pay attention to it.
There really isn’t a difference between lying quietly to oneself, or speaking it out loud to another. If I reflect on the number of lies I’m essentially telling myself every day when I’m overriding all the messages my body is sending me, it’s not pretty …. it’s ok if I eat this, it’s tiny and it won’t matter ….. um, yes, actually it will matter, and you know it matters which is why you’re trying to justify having it by saying it’s tiny. Once we start with the bending of the truth, choosing not to see the truth in what’s being shown to us, we are at the top of a very slippery slope. It then becomes a natural extension to share the lies, enjoin with others in the lies, all the while convincing ourselves that it’s not so bad as everyone is doing the same thing ….. how crazy is that. Of course it’s bad if it’s a lie, it isn’t the truth.
Great point Alison that we support each other in lying and think: “it’s not so bad as everyone is doing the same thing”. Every ‘banding of the truth’, every dishonesty, every lie I think, act or say is supporting the world-wide illusion, the ‘not being ourselves’. Every lie in fact supports our non-integrity and so its harming all the time – everyone.
‘I remember once seeing an interview with a young politician who’d been caught lying on the job. His face looked slightly hurt and innocent as he said, without ‘batting an eyelid’: “Nowhere in my job description did it say I have to be honest.”’
As shocking as this is, it clearly exposes our level of acceptance for ‘bending the truth’, otherwise known as lying.
And another one of your awesome blogs Dianne! Quite funny for me to see that you just wrote it as only yesterday. I was reading in one of the ‘purple books’, in fact in ‘A Treatise on Consciousness’ by Serge Benhayon, about the ‘Essence of Consciousness’. And so I am fully in alignment where you say in your blog: “Since our consciousness governs all our thoughts, choices and actions, could it be that by connecting to our soul and allowing that to be our presiding consciousness, we can feel truth accurately and live every moment of life more truly?” – And yes we can feel so much more clearly and accurately as I am finding out for myself more and more. Thank you for your beautiful expression,
I am imagining a world where one day we will be so in tune with energy and in reading each other (feeling truth) that it will become pointless to lie at all as it will be known instantly!
Great blog Dianne and a much needed topic of discussion. Truth expressed feels so powerfully steady in the body and lies feel very shaky and wishy washy. The difference is feeling that and then expressing when truth is not felt. That is where I know I feel the ground gets a little shaky at times and there is more awareness to not hold back truth as we are here to evolve and with this we can move mountains.
I second that Kelly, great blog about the unacceptable that is accepted as a way of life for many. Those ‘ little white lies’ are everywhere, and have always made me feel uncomfortable. They are supposed to oil the wheels of life and make things easier, but they don’t, they lead to mistrust, misunderstanding, and missed opportunities to truly connect with another.
Very true Diane, “Truth is bottom line”. Imagine if this ruled business strategy, direction and growth instead of solely profits? I know one such organisation and Founder who lives the Truth of Business, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, that have laid a blue print for what is to follow.
All business and workplaces Zofia. There goes gossip out the window if “truth is the bottom line”.
Love this line here Diane: “It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world” – say no more. All rise to Truth.
Absolutely agree with you Zofia, “All rise to Truth”.
Feeling deeper into your blog Dianne–when we begin to be honest and expose lies we have told before in unawareness, it is a choice to ourselves and to the world to step back into a life of Truth. Truth may not feel comfortable, especially when we have lived too long ignoring it; what we have chosen as comfort is in-truth not comfortable at all, but we are cushioned by the like-mindedness of many others, a bubble that has to be sustained by exerting huge amounts of force to not know and not be the true us, so as to not feel the enormous tension from this choice. A white lie is a lie and when a white lie is accepted as okay, it holds the whole of humanity back in saying it is okay to lie about who we truly are. If we do not feel how much tension this is in our bodies, there is more honesty to live. If we feel a lack of acceptance from feeling this tension of our combined choices, there is more love and understanding to express.
…” We are cushioned by the like mindedness of many others”. This is great, for it shows how we have accepted less, the non-truth, by looking outwards to others instead of staying firmly connected to all that we feel within.
As you say diningwithoneandwithlove, any lie is stepping back from the truth. Looking at nowadays world in observation I see many lies that are unconsciously or consciously kept alive among humanity, all because not to be faced with the truth that this way of living is holding back. The holding back of the truth that is felt as a constant tension in the body if we allow ourselves to feel it and not choose to numb it away by any means of distraction, addiction to substances or food and such. If we have the courage to truly feel what tension we hold in our body because of the lies we live in everyday life, we will stop choosing for the lies but instead will live our lives in truth and in accordance with how our body feels.
We can choose to lie but the truth is always felt. A great article Dianne on how we have sold out on truth for what is less. In choosing to hold back the truth we hold back our growth and development and that of others.
Absolutely Annie – ‘we can choose to lie but the truth is always felt’, and it makes sense for us to then turn to distractions and comforts like TV, sweet foods, alcohol etc. in an effort to stop feeling the truth, and numb ourselves. This fact is super important to realise, because it allows us to address something like a sugar addiction by looking at the WHY rather than just trying to solve/fix it/stop eating sugar.
Great Dianne, I have found it easy to see lies in the world, but not so easy always to see what lies I have been living in my life that I masqueraded under. As you say building a solid foundation in our bodies helps to develop within a personal radar for feeling and knowing when something doesn’t feel true – this is the best support I know for establishing a platform from which I can really see the patterns and lies I run without conscious awareness of it.
So true for me as well Annie – it always appeared much easier to point the finger outward rather than bending it back towards myself. Thankfully every day we have choice and that’s all it takes to make a change!
So true Annie, our bodies are great lie detectors, but it is very uncomfortable at times to fully feel what they are reflecting to us, so we choose to not be aware of all of it.
A very important point you have raised here, Annie C, I agree, it is “not so easy always to see what lies I have been living in my life that I masqueraded under”. Big ouch here for me. Yes, I need to build a solid foundation in my body to help develop a personal radar for feeling truth, to help me really see these patterns and lies that I run without realising. Truth is paramount.
Our bodies are so honest in all the ways they communicate. My body often lets me know instantly if I make a choice that is less than true.
I completely agree that through connecting to the soul, our innermost, through the way we are with ourselves and our body is the way to find the lies. More and more I am detecting the lies that I have allowed to run my body and my mind, sometimes it is quite alarming to realize, but those alarm bells help with the commitment to keep being true.
If we ignore our personal radar and do not work to become more conscious of our lies, there will be consequences. Maybe not right away, but eventually. I experienced a situation 8 years ago where the consequences were immediate and pretty awful. Scenario: tired after over-working, lyiing in sun on beach with partner and his visiting 8 year old. He asked me if I could look after her while he went surfing. My body said No – it wanted to lie down and rest, and I felt it was important for the man to take responsibility for spending time with his child. But I said Yes, from my head, wanting to be ‘agreeable’ and ‘helpful’. 10 minutes later I was showing the child how to ride little waves in the shallows on her boogie board. A sudden ‘dumper’ grabbed me and rammed me into the bottom sand head-first, almost breaking my neck with a terrible crunching sound. In fact I thought I had broken my neck. I came up bleeding, nauseous, in pain, practically passing out all the way to the car, and had to go to hospital (very carefully) for X-rays. The radiographer said my neck vertebrae looked like a hastily thrown-together stack of books, they were so out of kilter, and my neck has been out of sorts ever since. I have learned that our neck carries the energy of our expression. So for me, my ‘lying expression’ resulted in an injured and painful neck. Lesson learned!
DIanne, ouch, it’s true our bodies can relay back to us very clearly when we persist in ignoring the constant signals, usually in the form of a big stop, and broken bones if necessary, while it can be painful and momentarily annoying, its also great as the alternative is continuing to allow a far deeper harm into the body. But I am also slowly learning that this is not necessary if we allow love to be there in the first place, and treat ourselves preciously, heeding the signals when we are errant, and grow through love and grace instead.
In a world where lying is the norm and this very much includes the people voted into power, it is wonderful to be so inspired to clean up my act, that there are no little white harmless lies.
Absolutely Karin and the best place to start is with cleaning up our own act and this will then create a ripple effect out into the world so that Truth becomes the norm.
Hello Helen Elliott and Karen Barea and I like the direction you are heading, “the best place to start is with cleaning up our own act and this will then create a ripple effect out into the world so that Truth becomes the norm.” We can complain about this and that but how does our backyard look? As you say Helen, it all starts with us, thank you.
I agree with you Karin as I have voted for people in the past who promised to use the national lottery money for the NHS and education, only to find out later that it wasn’t possible to use the money in that way – that political party would have known that but used it as a tool to get in, knowing that it was a lie. Using lies to gain power only builds mis-trust in the system and those running it.
I feel the same Karin, after reading this blog I’m feeling to ‘inspired to clean up my act’, I have told ‘little white lies’ and these never feel good, even though i can convince myself they are harmless, it always feels awful in my body, and so this is something that I really feel is important to work on – no more ‘little white lies’, only truth.
I agree Karin, I find it hard not to react when I read about another corruption scandal, particularly when it comes to the misuse of Government funds, or people using their position to line their own pockets, at the expense of everyone else. It makes my blood boil. However, this blog has really opened my eyes for me to look closely at my own choices. If I can’t put my hand on my heart and know that I never tell lies, even to myself, then I am also contributing to the lies that we all take for granted. Ouch.
Lies create a delay for every one, because what needs to be dealt with usually does not get faced. If I am not honest with myself I delay dealing with what’s happening for me, which I eventually must deal with at some point. Lies are a waste of our precious time to move forward together.
well said Melinda, lies are a waste of our precious time and as you have pointed out, lies create delay and avoidance of dealing with what is there to deal with. I have lived most of my life being dishonest with myself which kept me in that self abusive cycle….as that was the energy I was choosing. When I met Serge Benhayon, I felt the truth of all he presented which has greatly supported me to find my own way back to truth, which is coming back to living from my body instead of my head, and still evolving.
Great point about the delay for everyone created by lies and for me a big one has been not looking at the truth behind my habit of procrastination – definitely a waste of precious time!
Lies are just the justification we use to not get honest and deal with our hurts and issues. We think that the delay we cause does not matter but in reality we just intensify the denseness and protection we are accumulating in our body and causing more illness that the body will eventually need to clear.
Great point Melinda, we are prone to using lies as an escape but in truth there is no escape, only delay. We are just kidding ourselves thinking we can get away from things like truth, love and science as they are one and the same, there are laws that they are aligned to: what goes up must come down, what goes in must come out, thus we may trick ourselves into thinking white lies save us from a situation or make it easier but we never truly escaping anything, it will just cycle back around.
Hello Melinda Knights and thank you, “Lies create a delay for every one, because what needs to be dealt with usually does not get faced.” We go around in circles and it only appears we are going somewhere when in fact we are still in the same spot. Why are we here, on earth, to build big buildings, fast cars and great electronic equipment? Or are we here to ‘right every wrong’ or more accurately ‘bring the truth to every lie.’ What if our sole purpose here was to undue every mess we have created? Then we would need to look at every point of untruth. I agree Melinda and when there is truth, there is a flow, an ease and a simplicity to life. With every other point other than truth comes a complication, a tension and an angst. It’s time for truth and that’s what life is about.
Absolutely Melinda it is so revealing how we are playing a game = but even that is a lie, we pretend we don’t know what is occurring energetically and that is the greatest lie as we all feel everything so we cannot not know, we are just choosing to not know and lie to ourselves about the facts! It’s time to get real and get honest.
Very true Melinda. Lies create road blocks for us to move forward together. Lies get in the way of true and harmonious relationships and eventually need to be uncovered as you say.
Melinda, I can feel the truth and the power held within these few words “Lies are a waste of our precious time to move forward together.” – which brings to mind we can always begin with being more astutely aware if we, any one of us, are inadvertantly believing we are fooling ourselves when we do not own up to any un-truthful behaviour patterns that we may personally still have that are begging to be addressed.
This is a beauty Dianne. Starting with a white lie, ranging all the way to your experience hearing the politician state his take on things, you’re observant to the fact that untruths do underpin our society. This may feel overwhelming or sensationalist to some reading your article, but I would say this is because it’s way too much responsibility to step-up to the fact, that gross untruths are what we have all become familiar and comfortable with. Great job at being a whistleblower to the blinding obvious: that too many are living partial truths, which means they are living a lie.
Yes I agree. We as a society have become very familiar and in fact too familiar with gross untruths being acceptable. But for what and why?
Whistleblower Dianne most certainly is.
Great point, Oliver: partial truths are still lies, yes, as they represent neither the clarity nor the absolute truth of a situation: hence, they still fall short of acknowledging what is there to be seen, observed and felt. They lay down a slightly fuzzier imprint for future lies to be based upon, even if their immediate consequences seem less extreme than a full on lie. Perhaps all full on lies once started life as a “partial truth” ?? So they still play a huge part, long term, in the perpetuation of lying. It all starts with that one little white lie, whether it be in relationship, in business, in education, in philosophy or in religion.
This is an awesome article Dianne. You bring up so much to ponder on but this sentence caught my eye:
“Denying any part of truth is to short-change us all, deprive us of our full potential.” There are so many scenario’s for this in our day to day encounters but if we hone our in-built lie detector then we can heal much for ourselves and others by expressing from that innate place of Truth within.
WOW!!! Dianne this is fabulous writing and absolute GOLD! So many gems in here like – ‘A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.’ This phrase has stopped me in my tracks to consider how much I will tell a small white lie to avoid social gatherings, or when not wanting to hurt someone else’s feelings. In reading your blog I realise when I do that they are missing out on ME and I on them too and all of that energy then sits in my body like poison; I have clearly felt how it is a violation of the truth. Thanks for sharing this with us. My whole perception of what ‘white lies’ mean has changed forever!
Yes I agree Donna, Dianne’s article has brought home to me how much I tell ‘little white lies’ to myself let alone other people. It really doesn’t matter whether the lie is small and white or a great big whopper, we have made the same choice to not voice, address or take responsibility for something. We all deserve that bottom line, absolute Truth and with the support of Serge Benhayon and all the Universal Medicine practitioners, I am gradually making my way back to that bottom line, in all I live and do.
How absolutely true, Donna, “A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude”. There is no getting away from it, that is the absolute truth, we can’t argue it. The truth is the truth, and a lie is a lie, and we can’t change it, just live the truth. So simple really isn’t it.
I was stopped in my tracks too Donna, it became evident very quickly on reading, that lies are everywhere. It feels quite horrible to know that I have also been a part of it, in my own life with myself and with others. But also knowing that this is changing, thanks to Serge Benhayon for presenting the facts about the truth and lies, so that we can eventually feel it for ourselves, and make other more truthful choices.
When I hear or see a lie it helps me tremendously to look at the person in full and to notice why they are lying. A lot of the time I then feel compassion and can respond from that compassion rather than from reacting to the choice of that person to lie. It is a work in progress but I find it really helpful whenever I manage.
This is interesting Christoph because having read this and commented I am feeling the enormity of what we lie about to ourselves and this point you have made brings me to loving me and understanding myself more rather than bashing myself up which is another lie because it is comfortable and part of the game to do this, rather than take responsibility and lovingly make a choice to fully see everything all of the time.
I have had this experience also Christoph, when you can feel what lay beneath the lie and then don’t react to the lie, so can bring a greater understanding. It doesn’t mean I have to accept the lie, but there is no need to react to it.
That is beautiful, Christoph, then the other person gets to feel held in your love, without judgment, which may inspire them to feel safe enough not to lie the next time. What a gift.
Thanks Dianne, lies are everywhere and they hurt all of us. As well as making my contribution, I recall being able to feel the amount of lies in the world without understanding what I was feeling, it wasn’t until I read one of Serge Benhayons books – ‘The Way It Is’, that it all made sense to me. Through the presentations of Universal Medicine, I have come to understand the importance of feeling energy and my in built lie detector is even more sensitive now. Also understanding the importance of staying connected to my body has made it easier to make better choices in caring for myself, which allows more of who I truly am, which in turn makes me more and more aware of just how great this life can be.
The body always tells the truth. I know that I can often tell myself lies, that something is OK when in fact it is not. My body is always telling me the truth but I can easily over ride what it is saying with my mind. This therefore highlights again the importance of the connection to the body.
At this point here Donna, we may need to ask ourselves – how harming are lies for our body? What state of being is our body left if we lie? If our body feels truth and is connected to truth, but we feed it with lies – what consequences does it have on our health? What consequences does it have for others and their bodies?
True, If we are honest I feel we all know and have experienced the consequences of the ‘lies’ we tell ourselves. We only need to look at our overall health statistics to see we have been letting our heads rather than our bodies guide our choices. The beauty is the body is very willing to support us and when we re-connect with it.
Thank you Dianne – another refreshing subject to bring to the fore of our awareness. I had almost forgotten this specific aspect of my growing up years and the “little white lies” that were admitted with such a coy expression upon the face of the one telling the ‘untruth’. Why ‘white’ anyway? – did that make the lie appear a little cleaner than a black, purple or brown lie? There was also the term ‘fib’. It was indicated that a ‘fib’ wasn’t so bad but to be called – and to be – a ‘fibber’ was a term to deflate someone, but didn’t quite carry the forceful accusation of being a ‘liar’. Interesting isn’t it, the different levels of imparting an untruth and its levels of allowance at that time. It was almost regarded as indicating a level of societal acceptance to tell a ‘white lie’, indicating some mark of maturity and position. Amazing isn’t it, but when it comes down to it, a lie, is a lie, is a lie and thankfully with our ever developing awareness through our innate knowingness and willingness to call it out, and by attending the Ageless Wisdom Teachings at Universal Medicine it feels like we are finally dragging the murk up from the depths to be revealed and exposed by true Truth.
How interesting Roberta that you brought into this the term ‘fib’. I remember this also as not being so bad as a lie! Wow, so many levels of untruth that were seen to be better than lies! A little white lie almost seemed like a conspiracy that was o.k. As Dianne said, ‘Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.’
Humanity has waited for someone to be living the truth of the Ageless Wisdom and present that for us to wake up from the dishonesty we have been living. Thank you Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.
Hello Roberta Himing and I agree, the ‘white lie’ was still sitting with me as well. I figured the ‘white lie’ was the ‘pure lie’. Thank God for Universal Medicine and the Ageless Wisdom Teachings http://www.coum.org/about-ageless-wisdom-teachings, exposing all these things and bringing us back to truth.
Thank you, Roberta, for reminding me of all the gradations of lying to which I was exposed during my childhood, too. I remember now how white lies and fibs were basically socially acceptable, whereas to tell a lie brought the full on condemnation of the term “liar.” “Liar” was something to be avoided as it brought with it an incredible force of judgement and social ostracism. What a crazy way to live ….to accept ‘minor’ versions of lying, which lay the foundation for huge lies, and then to submit those who reach a certain peak of lying to the enormous force of judgement, when the lie started out as a fib in the first place!
You express that so beautifully Coleen – one has to laugh at the ridiculous and ludicrous situation that develops from the first choice to tell a ‘fib’. As I used to hear from people some time back “strange animals we humans!!” I thank God that Serge Benhayon is here among us at this time, in this new era, has recognized the rot we have managed to create for ourselves and stood up for the love of humanity and shown us through the Ageless Wisdom Teachings at the presentations of Universal Medicine that we can choose not to live like this – and indeed there is another way – The Way of The Livingness.
So we scratch the surface of our little white lie, and find that underneath it is just as toxic as any other kind of lie. The only difference being that by being more ‘acceptable’ we are more likely to do precisely that… to accept it and so it becomes part of our lives, our society. A truly bitter pill to swallow, coated in sugar to help it down.
No one likes to think of himself or herself as a liar as such, but from what you share here Dianne it exposes how we have come to accept it as ‘normal’ that lies are an inevitable part of life. Great to bring awareness to why we may choose to accept and live less than who we are in truth.
Yes it is quite a step to admit that I have been living a lie… and then take the responsibility and step out of it, which also often involves standing out of the crowd and being seen in the different choices I am making.
Judith it is a big step to admit we have been living a lie, to then take responsibility to change it requires us to make different loving choices. The thing is as lying has been so normal with all the little white lies, calling it out is a huge step, but one that must be taken.
I agree Victoria, living less than who we are is living a lie.
A great point Victoria. When we live less than the truth of who we are and what we belong to we are living a lie.
When we allow “white lies” to become acceptable it fosters more lies, and this teaches children to not trust what adults say, and question what they feel to be innately true in their bodies.
I agree that denying any part of the truth is short changing and stops others from evolving.
Our bodies are one cool lie detector, as Truth is natural within our true hearts. Connecting with our true hearts, everything that is not of Truth feels off. The more we connect with this place, the more we allow ourselves to see the truth of this world, which we have lived and we are indeed living very far from Truth. We cannot stop the choices of another, so when lies are detected by our cool in-built lie detector, we appreciate our bodies for showing us its natural ability to tell Truth, appreciate further the opportunity to expose what is not from Truth, as with the accumulation of these expressed opportunities, we build the foundation back from Truth.
Thank you Dianne, feeling deeper into your blog has just deepened my appreciation and understanding as of why lies are under our radar—for us to express in all circumstances what is of Truth. I have come to realize how powerful these opportunities are when I stopped reacting to all the lies in the world, but simply to express what is true. For every time I do so, the foundation of Truth in the world becomes a stronger platform for the whole world to feel more confident in expressing what is truly natural and clearly detected from our bodies.
I am ever refining the little white lies I tell myself. When I stay consciously present with myself I can feel more truly how subtle these lies can be. If we are not choosing a connection with Soul and being deeply honest in our relationship with us, we are actually choosing (although it appears unconscious) the lies we live and ‘tell’.
I can see these too victoria – we can get so clever and sneaky with the lies we tell ourselves. For me, the lies generally come with some complicated justification, whereby the truth just is. Deepening awareness is such a beautiful gift to be able to see these lies and yes, conscious presence is the way to develop our awareness.
Thanks Dianne, this is a great calling out of the ‘acceptable’ lies that we have allowed in our lives, by writing them off as insignificant or even ‘good’, when in truth they feed the bigger corruption we abhor.
Indeed it does feed the bigger corruption that is so rife. But corruption starts somewhere doesn’t it? It begins when we lie thinking we’re protecting someone or ourselves and making that okay. We have proven time and again it is not okay.
Hello Fiona and I agree. We don’t link the ‘acceptable lies’ to anything bigger. We just think the little lie sits there and it’s only impact is in that moment. But what if “they feed the bigger corruption we abhor”, you would really need to look at every moment. We all don’t like looking at the bigger things play out and at times will turn away or be shocked, but what if the little things feed the bigger things? That would mean instead of fighting corruption we would need to expose the perceived smaller parts, lies are absolutely a part of corruption. No matter what colour the lie is, even good or bad, small or large they all feed the ‘bigger’ things. Thank you Fiona.
Great exposure of the fact that a lie is a lie is a lie and that there are no ‘little white lies’, just handy excuses for dishonesty and denial.
Great calling out Gabriele, that lies of any kind but especially the little white lies are often used to excuse all sorts of things.
‘Handy excuses’- I like that phrasing
Thank you Dianne. I worked out as a young Kid that lying isn’t the answer as it was way more hard work than telling the truth.. Even when the truth wasn’t too good to hear. you have to put on a facade and keep it there — remember your lies and keep up appearances. It is much simpler to live who you are and remain truthful. The whole word is full of little white lies- and it does not feel great.
Dianne, who hasn’t told little white lies? We learn from a young age to pervert the truth to protect ourselves then the lies grow bigger as we move through life. In order to maintain the facade we need to weave a network of interrelated lies which requires constant maintenance. It is exhausting and ultimately soul destroying. The body feels the turmoil. Let’s go back to our “inbuilt energy detector”.
There is no hurt when we are presented with the truth, because it comes with love and has no hidden agenda, or judgement, it just is. There is no jealousy or excuses in the truth and it cannot be made up of only half truths for then it isn’t true. The truth is healing. “WIth truth we are home and we are safe”.
very true deirdremedbury. The truth is really healing. It takes away that tension in our bodies when we can let the truth out or when the truth is revealed in a life situation. We can then just move on rather think or mull over what did not feel right. Sometimes we may react to the truth because we don’t want to be called to account but it is so freeing when we surrender to the truth rather than wrestle it with our minds.
Lovely how you have brought this back to the body Annie – there is a tension when we do not speak up for truth. It festers in our bodies and usually our minds, when it is so much more simple to just let it out!
I like this deidremedbury, and Dianne, “With truth we are home and we are safe”. Life is so much more simple when we tell the truth (may not always be easy) then there is no fear of being caught out telling the lie, sometimes compounding that lie with another lie and so on and on as so many politicians do.
Yes deidremedbury, there is no hurt in Truth, It is only when we hold onto the lies when faced with the truth that we can feel the hurt of our own holding it back.
Such a great conversation you have started here Dianne. Before understanding the difference between spirit and Soul, I thought I was quite an honest person. I occasionally told the ‘little white lie’, but in general, I hated lies. However, from the way I now understand honesty and truth, I was actually far from being honest. I never communicated what I was actually feeling and instead would say what I thought people wanted to hear and what we stop me from being noticed. I am now aware of what I am feeling. I am learning to listen to this voice and actually communicate from here. And actually, my truth is not just about communication, but also about how I express through how I walk, move, everything! I appreciate the signs I receive from my body when I choose not to express from truth these days – it feels terrible! For me, Truth is no longer about just saying what happened, it is about speaking honestly from the knowingness of my inner-most – from the intelligence of my body. To learn more about true-Truth, visit http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/Unimedpedia-Truth.html
Well said Simone, depending on the energy and consciousness we choose, all of our communication, movements and thoughts can be in truth or not.
Well said Dianne, we do know when we are lied to. And it’s important to call it out, with love. Only when we really are starting to hold each other accountable, we will change the mess we’re in as a society. It starts with each of us.
I love this blog Dianne. All my life I have known the truth. Growing up when I expressed truth and/or called out lies I felt the disapproval at best but mostly anger from adults who did not want to be exposed. I learned very quickly how to play the game of ‘little white lies’ and then the full game of living a lie by not speaking up or expressing truth. Now that I have reconnected to the knowing of truth that is innate in me I am beginning to express this as my natural way. It is not always easy as the truth is still not popular and I still sometimes hold back for fear of repercussions but I have learnt that these so called repercussions are nothing compared to the real repercussions of not bringing truth and the true harm that this does to all.
I have expressed the unpopular truth many times too Penny; but really, is there any other way???
Penny, I couldn’t have said it better myself. This was me growing up as well. Thank you.
Beautifully said Penny. We learn to tell lies because there are many around us who do not wish to get exposed. However when we play ball with this we create a world whose foundation is based purely on sand. We then feel hurt and curse the world for being as it is without admitting we contributed to this.
Absolutely michelle819 responsibility is the key to expressing truth and without it we are totally disempowered, blaming the world for how things are. If I do not choose to take responsibility for expressing truth first then how can I expect anything to change. We have to make expressing truth normal again and the first step is to make it our normal.
Well said Penny. One of the ways I’ve lied in the past is by being nice and not saying all there has been to say out of not wanting to hurt another person’s feelings. The ridiculousness of this is that nobody evolves with this, everything stays the same and old behaviours and patterns become more cemented. Being nice is one big lie.
That’s a big one isn’t it Sandra and one I have definitely done myself so many times. Not expressing the full truth or changing things so as not to ‘hurt’ another in fact does hurt as it does not give another an opportunity to know anything different.
And also Penny, it creates complication because the person on the receiving end of the lie, knows deep within that it is a lie and will most likely react, not to what is being said, but to the fact they can feel a disjoin between words and what they feel. When truth is delivered, it is felt and there still may be a reaction, but it’s more obvious that the reaction is to the other person not wanting to hear the truth.
Yes this is a great one to expose Sandra, the lie of ‘niceness’. I am sure many can relate to this as we imagine we may hurt another if we expressed the truth. This as you say this illusion keeps us all stuck in the mud and we do not truly support each other to expand and evolve.
Is not the root of all lies founded from our lack of connection with our Soul? When we separate from our essence everything thereafter is a lie.
Indeed everything we are living not in connection with our soul is a lie, it just feels like the truth because we have lived it for so long and it has become our reality.
This is true Victoria. Very well said.
This makes sense, Victoria. Truth can only come from the connection to our soul. So, when we are not connected we tell a lie about ourselves. So, to understand that we lie when we are not connected in the way that we deny ourselves completely and the truth and love which we know in our hearts.
And it is a lie that we need to justify in order to maintain it – given that we are very nearly completely our essence and yet we focus attention on the small portion of us that is configured to feed the lie.
True Helen, no justification needed when we live our natural essence.
Agreed Victoria. Anything that separates us from our true essence is nothing else but a lie.
This is so very true Victoria. Do we dare admit that most of what we see in life is so very far from this truth. And yet when we feel that connection with our Soul, our truth, everything comes alive.
What an ouch line of truth. Well said Victoria.
I feel you are onto something here Victoria it feels like the worst lie we ever told ourselves but there is an even worse lie and that is telling ourselves we have not separated from god when we know we have.
Truth with a capital ‘T’ is as you say Dianne, the bottom line. The best way I have to describe to someone if something feels like the truth to them is to not think about it but to feel it in their body, perhaps after experiencing the Gentle Breath Meditation when one feels deeply surrendered and still within themselves. To go into ‘thought’ about truth brings a narrow view and from the mind truth can bring relativity and inconsistency whereas we know true truth is absolute, unwavering, unchangeable, all-encompassing and one-unfifying, it comes from our bodies as our consistent markers of our solid and undoubtable connection to the entire universe. Truth is our natural foundation.
When we express truth and not hold back from it we are evolving ourselves and giving others the space to choose evolution for themselves too. What I love about truth is that it is a whole, rounded and complete feeling in my body, it is everything I have always known and once felt poisonously capped from sharing with the world, for far too long. Truth is our way forward in this world and our way back to (as you have shared Dianne) what it is that we have always known.
I can feel what being truthful is like in my body too Cherise. It feels so clear in me, I feel no anxiousness or nervousness or guilt. There is a finality to truth as it cannot be questioned or countered.
So true cheriseholt. Truth brings an ease to the body, space to breathe, it takes all the pressure away and allows us to simply be.
I remember when in the telling of white lies it would mean that things had not been said that should have been. The lying whether little or large meant that unexpressed feelings were now left unsaid and the uncomfortableness about it all would be palpable in the body. Sometimes people live with these lies for a whole lifetime.
What a great article Dianne, one of the many I have had the pleasure of reading, I love how you present the truth and bring science for everyone to understand you are a great spark of the whole!
“What if we were to come back to using our in-built lie detectors to feel and call out lies wherever we find them? To widely share all we have learned about truly connecting to that part of us that knows lies from truth as naturally as breathing? And what if we support each other – family, friends and strangers alike – to do this; to express immediately without fear of retribution?” This is a beautiful message to share with the world. As you say, lies come from a consciousness. So many times I have opened my own mouth to say what is there, and know that it will be true or not true depending on the energy that I am connected to. There is a twinge of something that pulls me up when I express something not true that says … ‘that’s not right you know” … so yes, our body can tell what we are up to.
Yes, Our bodies being the Marker of all Truth – well said.
Since becoming a student of Universal Medicine, I have been learning to live in truth more and more each day. I am now more connected to truth than I have ever been before, learning to discern it, to feel and listen to what my body is telling me (I agree Dianne, greatest lie detector for sure). My body tells me loud and clear when I haven’t been completely truthful and listening to it carefully I can catch myself out, to stop this behaviour and express it so that I am cutting the energy that I have allowed in in that moment to run me. For me, it takes practice, to be fully aware, to be completely honest and own up to it when this happens. It feels great to clear and express what is not true, this is what helps us evolve. None of us are perfect but if we take responsibility and be willing to be completely honest with ourselves first. If we choose not to see or acknowledge that we’ve had a little slip and then lie to cover it up, it is extremely harmful to ourselves and to others. The most loving thing we can do is to live and express truth fully in every moment. Thank you Dianne, a very inspiring and absolutely amazing blog.
You have exposed much here Dianne. Everyone is familiar with ‘little white lies’ and if you have believed in Santa Claus or perpetuated this Tradition then the implication is damning. Little white lies are about getting our way and remaining in comfort, even though we may use the excuse that it is in the protection of another. As I was reading I found there is much to be considered around the use of ‘white’ in this context also, white being good as apposed to black being dark or bad. This has also brought up the whole questioning around the need to ‘justify’ choices we make, to make them valid. Wow, so much has been exposed. You have lovingly brought through an awareness that will change much in this world we are living in and make it ‘Clearer’ for all – Thank you.
Awesome blog Dianne. The little white lie could also include exaggeration. It is true that there are many reasons why people lie and quite often they do a little internal assessment to see whether they can get away with it. Our bodies always react to lies, from both speaking and hearing lies. When a child asks me a curly question I answer truthfully, and most of the time they accept what is said and leave it at that. I can feel the tension that it brings, ‘do I really want to go there’, but when connected to the soul, the words come out perfectly and appropriately. I will read your blog again, for there is much to consider. Thanks Dianne.
Cross examining White Lies this way I can feel how the very name implies some kind of benign quality, a sort of purity. Yet what your sharing makes so plain Dianne is that that the whiteness that they bring is in fact a ‘white out’, a mask that creates a blindness to what we otherwise naturally feel. I love how you put it that with the truth anything can be worked out between people, I agree we can do it.
So true Joseph. Maybe rather than little white lies we should call them what they are: great big fat lies – like any other lie. Has a completely different feel to it 🙂
I love that Joseph: “…a ‘white out’, a mask that creates a blindness to what we otherwise naturally feel.” For me, I have always seen the world of energy in black and white, for there is only ‘what is’ and ‘what is not’, that is, there is only what is truth, and what is not this truth. Hence, this perceived ‘white out’ is actually the greatest blackout we could ever fall for, for in it we are blinded by a light that says that it is truth, when it is not.
A lie is indeed an incredibly unstable foundation to build on, it is that whats keeping us in the illusion of what our lives often are. It doesn’t feel great to truly look at what is going on in our lives and the world when we truly choose to observe, but what I can feel is that building the connection with our hearts is building a very strong foundation to feel what is true and not, and choose to live our truth everyday.
Thank you Dianne. I know my little white lies that I keep a hold of, the things I choose to not be truth-full enough about. it is very revealing when pondering on the fact that I lie to myself everyday with food sometimes, or a certain action that I condone. it is time to get honest and serious about it, starting with ourselves first and how we live each moment of the day (:
True Ben, I do this to myself at times also and eating is a good example. Of late I have been eating some foods that I know are not good for me and I say to myself that if I just have a little bit then I won’t have too much of a reaction so it is alright. Stopping the little white lies starts with ourselves first.
I agree Ben, the little white lies we tell ourselves or others, it is time to get serious about it and expose every area of our own lives where we are not living truth in every moment.
I couldn’t agree more Ben. We can look outside at the big lies being peddled every day in politics, our education system, health system, all workplaces, etc, etc. but like everything else, it starts with us first and we need to get down to the micro little white lies we tell ourselves. One of the lies we all fall for is that we are not enough just as we are. That’s not a little white lie though, it’s a big fat one!
Thank you, Rachel and I can definitely relate to the little white lies or ‘fibs’, as they were called in my family, that were told as I was growing up and how because they were ‘fibs’ this wasn’t classed as lying so they were justified as being ok. As I have learnt through Universal Medicine about truth and reconnecting to this in myself, slowly the lies I have told myself and live with daily start to reveal themselves and then the lies told throughout society are more easily seen.
Yes I am finding this too that the more honest I become the more I see how I am dishonest and it’s pretty ugly. In my line of work it is a criminal offence for people to withhold information or give false information with the intent of misleading our service to believing they are entitled to assistance. When I apply this to myself it’s OMG! whilst I read them the riot act it’s really important that I apply this to myself too in all of my interactions with people. Even telling friends half-truths I am discovering is detrimental and could be considered equally as criminal.
Incredible blog Dianne, it amazes me that most or if not all of us have experienced being lied to or made up lies ourselves. I have certainly experienced both, it feels awful in my body every time I have been untruthful. I remember when my kids were very young, I tried the Santa thing at Christmas time, it felt horrible to trick them that Santa was real and how he visits us Christmas Eve. I couldn’t bear that feeling of heaviness as I watched them open their presents with joy, so the next year I decided that I don’t have to follow what everyone else was doing. I had to tell them that Santa is not real. This was a big deal for most of my friends because they thought I would ruin my kids Christmas experience. Quite the opposite. And forcing children to take a photo with fake Santa at the shopping mall was a definite No, No for me, my kids were terrified of the guy dress up in a fake costume and I can understand why because kids know straight away something is really off and not true. To me, it just didn’t feel loving to lie to my kids just because everyone else around the world is prepare to. So I told my kids the truth. Imagine how devastated the kids feel when they know that they’ve been lied to by their parents/adults, people who they trust were completely not being honesty? If we teach our children to live in truth, I feel we as parents must live that too. I feel it is time for us to take responsibility to live and express truth no matter what, living in truth and love is the only way we can get out of this mess we’ve created.
Completely Chanly88, it’s interesting as now when I look back when I was a child and recall seeing kids with Santa Claus, mostly the kids were typically squirming, afraid or in tears.. it is amazing how the parents responded which was to quiet them down, to not make a fuss, ultimately getting them to sit in the lap of the lie. How many times have we taken on this pattern of behaving as adults when what we feel is not honoured, but encouraged to be the very opposite or lie. Disaster. Teaching truth is truth self-lived.
Dianne, this is just wonderful to see, read and feel. As a child those little white lies you talk of always bothered me, and I really disliked the hypocrisy I saw around me, and how I myself bought into it and still can. I had a huge wake up call recently on lies – I filled out a survey saying I strongly agreed with the question asked (the benefit of research), and then went asked at the end if my attitude had changed (it hadn’t); the question was then asked where’s the activity on that, as in if I say it’s important to me how do I live it, and if I just say it and don’t do anything then this is another form of lying. A bit of an ouch to feel but it brought a whole new understanding of lying and how we lie to ourselves – if I do say something or believe something is true, then how do I live that in my life? How honest am I truly? This is one I will take deeper. And Dianne, it was great to be reminded all over again about lies and how insidious and all pervasive they are.
This is a great point monicag2, are we walking our talk essentially? I’ve been sitting with this one too and I have to agree that it’s not very comfortable, but necessary and important to feel. Not that it’s about being perfect, I’ve tried that and it doesn’t work. I can see how consistently building honesty with ourselves is a great place to start.
Jennifer, your comment made me smile, I know that hunt for perfection you speak of, when walking our talk, it starts with observing what we do and then getting more honest as you say, and being tender with ourselves as we go, hardness just compounds any previous unloving choices we’ve made.
Very interesting Monica what you say here, I’d never looked at it this way .. that the inactivity of something you agree with (whether research, deep care, nourishment, love or truth etc. etc.), but then is not lived out – is actually a lie. Inertia to what we know is true for us and our body, is a lie. Wow.
Yes Zofia, to me it was a big wake up call, and it deepened my understanding of what it is to walk your talk. And how you put it ‘Inertia to what we know is true for us and our body is a lie’ – that captures it beautifully, and this is one I am seeing more in all I say and do. And the key here is our bodies as they provide a barometer for what is true for us. We say many things from our heads without truly consulting our oracle, our bodies – they keep us honest if we listen and honour what they say.
Wow, Dianne what timely comment with so much dishonesty and lying occurring everywhere from the individual right up to the corporate and governmental levels. It would be wonderful if we all had to pass a compulsory lie-detector test on a regular basis. Once I would have said that I was a very honest person who deeply appreciated and valued honesty. Yet in recent years as I have come to a deeper understanding of lies and lying and am finding pockets on a regular basis where I have created a form of life that has been created on the foundation of a lie. In fact, often I have started out by lying to myself about something and then had to create another lie to help maintain the first one and so things have continued to snowball from there. I also now realise just how much lies add a slime to my natural presence and dull me down. Instead of going into self loathing about this state of affairs, I enjoy catching out these lies because I know that while they are my own creation, it is also within my power to take responsibility to clear them and create a clearer path forward.
Well said Helen, it made me realise how far off we are as a human race to becoming super honest with ourselves and others.
Powerful blog Dianne Trussell and one that is well needed. When I read – “With truth, we are at home and we are safe. With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting” I was like oh yeah – ain’t that the truth. So many times when you half speak something, or someone does to you or if they are hedging around the truth – you often want to go – just give it to me straight, tell me all so I know where I stand. It is much more clean and powerful than half truths or little to big white lies.
Very true sarahfenley. I was at a meeting recently and no one held back truth, everyone spoke exactly what was being felt and it was quite amazing really, compared to the being nice to each other and tip toeing around that took place long before. As a result we knew exactly where we all stood and it gave us something all to work with. Keeping it nice was like lying on a water bed and trying to get off…lots of movement and waves, but getting nowhere fast.
‘all lies are a violation of the truth’. I love how you express that no matter what the lie is, it is not the truth. A lie is a lie.
There is no wiggle room here, it’s either the truth, or it’s not. It doesn’t have to be complicated, which is so often where we go when we have tried to justify something to ourselves. When we allow complication, that can often be a sign that there’s an energetic pull away from ourselves.
Well said Alison – pure wisdom to be read again and again.
It is very exposing to look at the lies that are peddled around us. I have always felt that no harm can come from truth – even if it is not pleasant to know. Once you know the truth then you can deal with any situation no matter how unpleasant. If you are told a “little white lie” or some form of dumbing down of the truth, you still have to deal with that version, only you can never truly deal with it because it is not the truth of the matter. Give me the truth any day, don’t dumb it down, and trust that I will be able to deal with it.
Sure the truth can be painful to hear if it has been a long time coming, but as you say Lee, at least it gives us the opportunity to choose differently. Continuing with the lie, or addressing it in a half baked fashion is much worse in the long run as we will just keep going down the wrong track for so much longer.
Awesome package of Truth Lee “I have always felt that no harm can come from truth – even if it is not pleasant to know. Once you know the truth then you can deal with any situation no matter how unpleasant.” it’s only unpleasant for me when I have made an investment in something – and it usually is my intelligence that is saying “I’m right”.
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This whole blog is just pure Gold Dianne! I completely agree with you. Sharing Truths and exposing all the lies together would in the end make a world full of Truth. I’ve never realised that because the world’s not based on Truth, everybody’s feeling unsafe. Of course we do, because no one’s talking from their bodies. The majority pretends. Day in day out. I am very honest, but can see myself often contracting when I am with others. Almost like I don’t dare to be with my body and share from my body. Truth is actually Beautiful. It it the only thing that actually unites us. We can fight Truth for as long as we want, but Truth will eventually catch up with us. Truth is what we feel, in our own bodies, in the world, at work, with collegaes. But in order to feel others, we’ve got to be connected with Ourselves first. Let’s do it, together.
Brilliant! ‘Our body is a lie detector’ this is so true, its easy to feel when something is spoken and you know it is a lie, you just know. ‘No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.’ Amen.
I love your expression, Amen.
This is a reminder that Truth is one of the pillars of living in Union with our Soul. Making a commitment to truth in every small detail gives us access to all the love and harmony that we naturally are and holds each and every one of us in the highest regard and respect.
Small details – yes, good one, Emma! We tend to focus on big lies and big truth, but forget that we are the sum total of every little moment and detail!
Yes Emma and Dianne, those small details is like a nail in holding together your foundation to remain steady when it gets rough. Practically, it’s the way things need to be done to really self-nurture and care for yourself to maintain your quality consistently and continuously throughout the whole day.
Your blog makes an important point Dianne. We have all been raised with this concept of ‘little white lies’, normalizing the twisting of truth to save embarrassment or to get away with something. Once we accept a very small deviation from the truth, we then allow a slippery slide into living with more and more untruths. Now as I write, I realize that too often we are avoiding true expression, the importance of saying things how they are, regardless of the perceived reaction we may receive from another.
It begins with ourselves, how honest we are willing to be with ourselves, when it is just between me and God, when no one else is watching.
Well said emmadanchin, “Once we accept a very small deviation from the truth, we then allow a slippery slide into living with more and more untruths. ” and you are right this truth and honesty has to start with ourselves, for if we cannot be true and honest with ourselves, then how can we in truth, be truth with another?
I also can resonate with what you are sharing ” that too often we are avoiding true expression, the importance of saying things how they are, regardless of the perceived reaction we may receive from another.” I know I can do this myself – but what I have found is it’s when I don’t live from a picture of how I should be saying it, and just say it how it is – then there is generally no reaction.
The little white lies that you can feel as a niggle that it is indeed a little white lie. Our bodies are so very remarkable in the way that they can pick up something that is off. It is actually very incredible to think about how this works. Energetically this is obviously something that disrupts the harmony and the flow of life, where a lie is going against the higher vibration of truth. Our bodies must pick up on the fact that the other is holding something back, causing disharmony in their own body and hence being able to feel that there is indeed something ‘off’ within the comments and our own bodies.
I agree Natasha that our bodies are super sensitive in picking up the energy of lying, and that energy would feel very disruptive and very uncomfortable to its normal harmonious flow. It is our mind that convinces us that lying is justified in certain situations and we then override the body’s wisdom, always to our detriment. Lies complicate and harm, while the truth simplifies and heals.
beautifully said, and I love your line “lying is justified in certain situations” as this is the power of our body. We can feel the truth but that little niggle and thought saying how much it will not hurt, as it’s only a ‘little white lie’ but nothing is ever little when we talk in terms of energy. It is either harming or healing.. and that little white lie then turns into a bigger one with the snow ball effect, causing confusion and mistrust in people themselves and the world.
Dianne,
“With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting.” Wow this is so true. When trying to please another or to impress another or to not get self into uncomfortable situations, it has become inbuilt in our upbringing to gloss the truth a little. Yet every time that I have done this I have felt from deep inside the falseness of this and the constant unsureness that comes when I have not felt the strength of my conviction behind what I have said. So much so that I have chosen to commit deeper to speaking the truth I feel.
“With truth we are at home and we are safe.” This is beautiful, thank you for this amazing blog. It supports me to look deeper at my choices and be more honest.
There are no ‘little’ lies, a lie is a lie. Goes the same for truth, there is no ‘little’ truth, something is either true or not. There are only two flavors.
Exactly Mariette a little truth is still a lie.
Love it Mariette, “there is no ‘little’ truth, something is either true or not.” this is a simple fact.
This is great and very exposing ,Dianne. We all know when we are saying something which is less than the truth. We instantly feel it in our bodies but can quickly override it if we feel to with denial then justification. Many of us are under the illusion that if others don’t know we are telling a ” little white lie” that it is okay. The soul as our “inbuilt energy detector’ knows all and what is not truth is expressed in our bodies. We never get away with it- what ignorance and illusion we sometimes are choosing to live in!
It’s incredible the amount of times I can catch myself lying, in particular saying yes to or about something when I mean no. What is true can be felt in our bodies and so are lies. For me what is True leaves me feeling clear and open and refreshed, whereas with lies I feel unsettled AND wobbly.
We have become accustomed, as a global population, to choosing an energy that is not soul. It is normal to act and think a certain way when in actual fact the lines of thinking are not normal when we access the consequences of our actions. Every day news reports more and more of the same mess. How much of a mess do we need to get into, to realise we are so very far off track.
Thank you Dianne yet another to the point blog of yours. I loved every word of it. ‘With truth, we are at home and we are safe. With lies, the foundation is always wobbly and shifting.’ And yes, we can make a change by coming back to truth step by step to have ‘just one big loving light of Truth.’ (with a capital t!)
I am so with you Dianne- truth is everything for me too. No pandering or little lies are helping noone but seemingly the moment to avoid any reactions.
Your blog says it all- everything is possible by expressing the truth – thank you!
The way we have come to accept the manipulation of language from those in the public spotlight as well as everyone else is pretty devastating. The system that we have chosen to accept is not even designed to accept someone who tells the truth. It is seemingly purposely designed with obfuscation as it’s method of communication.
When Bill Clinton was accused of smoking marijuana in university he famously said that he “didn’t inhale”. That was clearly a lie and it was pretty obvious (I mean, who actually does that?), but had he spoken the truth his opponents would have run him out of office as a drug taker.
Politics is full of such stories as is so many other areas of our every day lives, but for some reason (maybe because our “in-built energy detectors” are so underdeveloped and underused) when we see someone lie, and everyone in their right mind knows that they are lying, unless they have actually said “I’m lying”, we say that it is ok and let it go.
The point that you make here, Dianne, about needing to call out even the everyday lies is so important. We cannot change these big machines of society with a swipe of our hands, but we can change our own lives and what we will accept in them.
YES, this is an amazing topic to talk about and expose as such because no lie is acceptable in any shape or form. A lie is a lie and just because of its seeming magnitude does not justify it full stop. Whether a ‘small’ lie or a ‘big’ lie, it is still a lie and it is simply not true which means we are not being truly honest and responsible in that circumstance.
I love it when someone tells me the absolute truth, as it feels clear – yes maybe at times an ouch, but I still love it. There is no alter motive and it’s not loaded with any emotion.
Me too. And I know for me that not one part of my body reacts when truth is lovingly delivered. Yet at other times when something may seem polished or well worded or if a slight part of it is not truth then my body lets me know. For me I am learning to not throw all that has been said out just because one part feels incorrect or has been unlovingly delivered. I am learning to be open to the fact that there may be some point in what is delivered and to not ignore that if it is going to bring a learning or understanding.
I would also agree a lie is a lie no matter how big or small, or whatever way it is dressed up to be ‘good – no such thing, this is not true – no lies are ever supportive. I would say little white lies are a way for us to not be accountable and take responsibility. A great way to stay in comfort and not expose the rot around us. For me it just exposes how long and willing we have all been to live in comfort. Even the whole santa claus thing – this has gone on for generations.
That is a big one you have pointed out “santa claus”. With my first daughter I played along with this lie until I couldn’t do it anymore, I could not look in that little girls beautiful big brown eyes and lie about it. And when I told her and asked if she was disappointed that there was no such thing, she looked at me and said, as young as she was: “I actually knew that there was something not right with this whole thing so that is not a disappointment. But that you have lied to me about it I really don’t understand.” That was a huge big ouch and a big learning and I told her two little sisters the truth from the beginning and what a joy that is that I do not have to keep up a lie to them that creates more lies to cover up the big lie.
Exactly – what I feel when reading your comment diana1975 is how physically damaging lies are to our whole well being and body. Santa Claus is a huge one, but imagine the damage we are doing to ourselves and others with ‘little white lies’ every single day.
You have also shared the simple truth a child lives by, ” I really don’t understand” – as in why would you tell a lie ?
Absolutely gylrae
I would say it can be easy to see the lies another tells or in the world around us, but the true truth of the matter is to be willing to stand up and call out the lies we tell ourselves ( and at times conveniently believe) and others. The more we live truth, the more the lies will be exposed, world over.
That is a great point you raise gylrae, the level of acceptance we have towards lies can be seen by disregarding that we have felt it is not true but take it on anyway.
Awesome Dianne, I love it – I have to say I do like the words ‘that’s not true’ and have no hesitation in using them.
A lie is a lie, no matter how big or small or with which intention it was made up. Thank your for summing this up so brilliantly Dianne.
Thanks Diane, The lies we tell children, the lies we tell each other and the lies we tell ourselves, all designed to avoid a simple truth…we are so much more aware of what really goes on around us and within us than we want to admit.
True Joel, we indeed ‘are so much more aware’ of what’s going on around and in us but we don’t want to admit, because exposing it is uncomfortable and would call us on our responsibility. It would be like a domino effect. But we are clever enough to have built in a few dominos on our way to stop this. To stop truth clearing our mess.
There is always room for more truth in this world.
This is beautiful Dianne. The truth keeps us safe. No one is too young to understand truth, we can feel it in our deepest self.
I felt all of this as a child also and even now I feel I’m only just starting to admit how much it hurts to feel everyone lying, about all sorts of things from their feelings, their true needs and what they truly think about a topic. The more I don’t lie to myself about what is true to me the more I understand what others are feeling, and don’t get upset by their lies.
One such mass adopted lie is santa claus.
From a very young age I could never understand why parents would lie to their children about a strange white bearded plump man buying them presents? A ridiculous notion (and perhaps telling of how readily we accept lies that we invest in this myth en mass) and I remember feeling – if they would lie to me about something like this than what else are they lying about? The tiniest white lies corrupt relationships between people and dissolve trust.
Yes Deborah, we are really invested in mistruths en masse. When I have challenged the notion of santa claus people can become very defensive about it implying that you can’t “rob” a child from believing in santa claus, the easter bunny etc. What are we really teaching our kids though?
To not be able to trust in adults and in our own parents for starters.
Deborah, it’s stuff like that (Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, tooth fairy) that broke my trust in adults. And beyond that, lying to me like: They gave me a big black rooster and let me enjoy playing with him, let him think he was my pet. But they killed him next day and expected me to eat it! (not meaning to be cruel, just insensitive). And like: giving my grandfather cigarettes as birthday and Christmas presents, when I could see and feel how smoking was killing him and hurting those all around. He died of lung cancer. And on it goes…..
The lies that are aired to us daily on news broadcasts or printed in papers that depict one fraction of the truth and at times a string of lies tied together. We have sat by and allowed what was honest decent reporting to be lost to ratings, papersales and a media circus.
The little white lie is a sugar coating of deceit. It is designed to make the lie more palatable that we may digest it whole or allow it.
But the sugar still rots our teeth! My how deep and broad is humanity’s level of self-deception!
Yes – and how evil is this – if something looks or tastes good, we do not consider the instant and long-term effects on our health.
Truth is the bottom line. I love that. I am sure that it would make for a much simpler world if we were all to live by the truth all the time. Even though I am more honest these days, I feel truth is about engaging with life on a deeper level than honesty. Much of the lies I tell are not so much in the things that I say, but more sneaky – hidden in the way of my being and the lies I tell myself to tolerate what is not truth. The so-called good of tolerating something feeds many of the lies that we all live with in society. It could be called a living disease amongst us and like all illnesses, we get a healing out of it. Perhaps that healing differs for us all, but the main thrust I imagine would be in the realising how lies hurts us all and only truth truly works. How many more lies do we need to come to this in unison?
i feel the same Jinya, the sneakiness and subtlety of the tricks I play on myself are very prevalent in my life. You describe it so well in your comment and I think that you nail the key to unlocking this is ‘ engaging with life on a deeper level than honesty. ‘ We reduce the big picture when we make it about honesty. Deepening our relationship with ourselves and others is the antidote to this human condition.
Wow Dianne this is cracking read and even more than that a recipe for choosing truth that everyone should be digesting.
Thank you Diane for this article. The kowing that we can connect to our soul and every need for answers is not important anymore because a greater knowing and wisdom is available with this connection to true wisdom.
I love this saying “truth will out” because it’s true….it always does…..eventually…..it’s inevitable.
Allowing the soul to express the truth turns the tables over and around. There is so much to understand and live from the souls way and little white lies are a great way to delay the inevitable fact that truth prevails and will come out in the end.
“Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” Such a powerful article Dianne. There is no room for lies and accepting lies in any way, shape or form and it’s just exposing the level of corruption we live in. Anything that is not our divine truth is a lie. This exposes that right and wrong is just a comfortable lie to not have to re-connect to truth.
Great point Rachel, being right does not justify a lie and truth is so much greater than that. We have lost something very substantial in our lives by giving up on truth and we need to claim that back to feel whole and ourselves again.
Absolutely Judith, if we stay in the loop of right and wrong we will stay in the endless cycle of creation. We are living a big lie by not living our divine truth and we spend lifetimes of arguing about right and wrong. True accountability is living truth!
I agree rachelandras, and you also exposed comfort.
Dianne I resonate with your words ‘Since our consciousness governs all our thoughts, choices and actions, could it be that by connecting to our soul and allowing that to be our presiding consciousness, we can feel truth accurately and live every moment of life more truly?’ I know when I am disconnected that the choices I make are a bit off and discordant most of the time, so different to the lovely flow that happens when I’m with Soul.
My Dad encouraged me not to lie by telling me I would never get in trouble with him for telling the truth regardless of what I had done.
Go, Dad! If all parents did that……!
Dianne I love how you write about our in-built lie detector.Everyone is aware of this detector and when it is signalling to us a lie is being told. So the answer is quite simple as you have offered and this is to honour our in-built detector and call out the lies for what they are.
I know that when the impulse to tell a “white” lie comes, it comes from the fear of rocking the boat. We avoid telling the whole truth because we know that it will demand something of someone and we can already feel they are not in support of it; for us to hear the “no” that we don’t want to hear, or it will bring up an issue for them they will find challenging. Rather than face the reaction or let go of the investment we have in something, we find it easier to manipulate a situation to our ends in complete avoidance. Thus the white lie can be seen for what it is – it is not to save anyone “the pain of the truth” but to save us the reaction or the shock waves created by telling the truth as it is.. and so we continue to live in comfort numb to the rawness of what the truth can offer us.
Michelle – that can happen in the workplace too, where employees don’t say the truth about a project’s progress to avoid the wrath of the boss, but it is way better to be honest up front otherwise the consequences can be far worse later.
Too true, Michelle. Sometimes when we tell the truth we get punished so painfully, that telling a lie seems safer, but it never feels OK. Then there’s ‘watering down the truth’ for fear of hurting someone, or telling someone what they want to feel better about themselves. But a lie (even a ‘pretty lie’) hurts them more.
Dianne, I love this – such a beautiful expose of how we live with lies and accept them as ‘normal’. Here are some classic examples:-
How are you? Fine thanks
This won’t hurt, or ‘slight scratch’
OK, I’ll TRY
I’d love to come
And then there’s the myths of Father Christmas and The Tooth Fairy and fantasy novels.
As for politicians – we had one visit us and I asked him the same question three times, each time he ignored my question and answered with whatever it was he wanted to say but made it sound like he was answering my question, which he clearly wasn’t.
Wow Dianne, I can really feel from reading this how much lies have become the gross fabric of our society. Woven like a thick blanket that keeps us all stuck in the depressive merry-go-round that can be observed in so many situations. I love what you present here as the way out of this, and how we can all do it in every day life. By expressing truth to one another, we help another to connect to it and to start to break through the web that has been created, and allowed to run our society. This is so awesome, thank you!
Dianne this is such a powerful, insightful and inspiring blog to read. I can relate to every word you have expressed with great clarity and wisdom and there will be several returns to read this again and again.
“Our inbuilt energy detectors are where we need to do the work first. It is our souls that we must learn to connect to in order to refine our detectors. The soul* of each and every one of us holds and knows the truth, way beyond the consciousness of our brains and everyday thinking”.
Another amazing blog Dianne. Thank you.
I during my life, especially my childhood years struggled with this concept of little white lies. For me a lie is a lie and truth is the truth.
I remember as a child thinking why didn’t adults just tell the whole story and why have they missed a very important bit out or I would think ‘that’s not what happened or how it happened’. I stayed quiet as I got on trouble a few times for exposing the truth publically- so learnt to hold onto the truth because it was safe.
Thanks Dianne – I am blown away at the magnitude and the sheer quantity of lies that occur in all corners of our lives, no wonder it is so hard to deal with the truth as we are just not used to hearing it – we have literally created a false existence and it is clearly not working for humanity.
I can also remember being very confused and annoyed that truth appeared to be a shifting sand rather than a solid rock I could stand on. It seemed that everyone adjusted or changed the truth to suit their own level of comfort or view of the world. As I became an adult I have learnt to do the same but I know now that this is not the way to live and I have committed to taking full responsibility for the truth I can feel in my body if I am completely honest with myself and everyone else.
A lie is a lie. Your body doesn’t know the difference between a lie and a white lie. Both are just as harming and both cause disharmony in the body. What does the colour white have to do with a lie anyway?
Great expose Dianne on the fact that in truth, everything that is ‘not’ truth is a lie, – and as you say, in this regard, there are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ lies for there can be no lies with truth… For me, this truth comes from the body, – and living with integrity in everything we do (whether it is public or not), – is a great reflection of this truth. Serge Benhayon and his family are true role models for me in this regard.
I loved it when you said ‘no more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth’. Brilliant. There does seem to be a comfortability with people lying and many have justifications to the story behind the lie and why they feel it’s acceptable. I often tell students I teach that I never lie and they literally do not believe me. They feel that everyone lies and lying at times is ok and justified. Lying is such a common thing that when we are faced with someone who doesn’t lie we can at times not trust them cause that’s not the norm. We all need to get real and let go of the small and big lies and evolve with truth playing a massive part of that evolution.
“No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth”. Dianne, thank you, I am with you all the way.
Dianne, Bam the Truth is the Truth so let it be known…
As I found myself reading this I was thinking this message is a little bit much I thought, I found myself making excuses why a little lie was ok… then I said what? what am I saying…
As I kept reading I was like yes… What is life about if we don’t honor exactly what is there for us to see / observe / express? If we lie to our self we rob our self from clarity and it taints how we see things not only that it makes it ok to lie to another which harms our relationships but because it introduces mistrust.
Like a wolf in sheep’s clothing the ‘little white lie’ always comes back to bite. And anyone who thinks that they can escape its teeth is sorely mistaken. It is something that one feels in the body, from a resounding pit in the stomach to the slight tension of ‘not quite right’ or ‘I got away with that’. But we never have got away with ‘that’, and unless we acknowledge that, the untruth or lie contracts the body and just burrows deeper so as we can pretend it is not really there. The freedom of speaking Truth revitalises the body and is a beautiful unfolding evolution that deepens as new realisations are embraced.
You’re right, we sure do NOT get away with it, Jenny! Once we understand that everything is energy and everything is connected, there’s no way to imagine getting away with it. Everything we think, say and do (even in private) spreads to all immediately.
Safe to say most great periods in human history where when our inner truth detectors were widely used.
In great innovation and advancement such as the transition from the Dark Ages to the Renaissance. Truth was treated like a commodity, being high of value and seeked out.
Thank you Dianne, this blog is gold. I think no one really likes to live with ‘little white lies’ or big gigantic lies for that matter. I certainly don’t but through living in a world that is built on lies as a child I remember choosing to conveniently go with these lies more and more until I did not quite remember this choice. Thanks to the presentations by Serge Benhayon I have to been able to feel how I have given my power away to all the lies, and now also am freeing my inbuilt lie-detector. Standing with truth in the end is so much more easy than standing with a lie.
More and more I realise there are no grey areas in respect to being truthful, we are either being completely honest or we are telling lies. This is reflected in my body and if there is a tension by not saying something this is often a lie in itself as it is not a full expression of my truth.
Wow Dianne, your alignment to Truth is wonderful to feel in your writing here. Serge Benhayon has always brought Truth and presents with the clarity and knowing from his body. Because of this he has inspired many others… Universal Medicine practitioners and students alike who now hold Truth as a powerful healing tool. “The best thing we can be is true; the most loving thing we can bring to another person is truth. Even when it is ‘tough love’ or ‘tough truth’ it is giving ourselves and others the whole of what is required to base choices upon, to learn, evolve and grow.” This is why I chose to be a part of Universal Medicine, because there is nothing more potent for our world to see, feel and hear, than Truth.
I had to look up the expression: “doctoring the truth” as I had never heard it. English is not my first language, and found that expression weird. Why is it associated to doctors the alteration, fakeness, bastardization of truth? Is it because there was a time when it was acceptable to not tell the patient the whole truth of their fatal illness, and instead let the family decide about telling the truth, in case the patient got worse by knowing the truth, that this would affect their mood and positive outlook so that would deteriorate their condition?
My personal learning is to tell the truth with love, because one can get into being so raw and brutal with truth that it becomes a weapon instead of a loving gesture. And to accept that not everyone is in the same learning or want the same in life.
‘ Our inbuilt energy lie- detector ‘
What a Great concept ! I love it .
Thanks Dianna .
A great blog Dianne. We can all feel that ‘little white lies’ are wrong even though we are taught that they are ok. A lie is a lie, even if it is a tiny one.
Dianne I remember that saying well, it is one that has plagued me ever since. As I reflect on this it seems one of the biggest curses we have and are educated to have. Telling a “White Lie” was accepted when I was young yet over the years the depth and extent of what I counted as a ‘White Lie” went deeper until every part of my life was a “Lie” yet cloaked as not being a lie. Since meeting Serge Benhayon I slowly started breaking down the obvious lies and things started to change. The problem was then that I had the excuse of how much more honest I was being in many more parts of my life. Yet this was just a comparison to how dishonest and how much I had lied – it was not truth. Therefore I can completely see how we can easily say we are being honest when its just the case that we are not telling as deep or extreme lie as either we have before or someone else in society has done. Much to reflect on but as you say “What if we were to come back to using our in-built lie detectors to feel and call out lies wherever we find them?”
Basing ourselves, our lives, our world and our universe has gotten us to the point where even in the face of truth we will claim the true truth to be the lie. But from experience that part within us that does know truth never gives up and my body is more aligned to this part than it is with the lies it has been made to carry. We have our own personalised lie detector and then we start to listen to that above the lies claiming to be ‘the way’ life opens up in ways the lies can never claim solidly as being equal to truth.
Absolutely love ‘Truth is the bottom line.’ I have not been perfect in this and am coming to understand the extent to which I also have lied in life but have been coming back to the feeling that there is no point in living anything that is not in truth, it almost feels as if you are not truly living if you don’t – in denial and avoidance through control and manipulation. Thank you Dianne.
This is an excellent blog Dianne. It is indeed quite shocking how lying is now part of our everyday communication and relationships. There was a time I remember giving myself a shock because I realised how often I twisted the truth when people asked me a question, e.g. ‘what time did you go to bed’.. ‘Oh not too sure, last time I checked the clock it was 9!’ (when I know full well I went to bed at 10).. Although at the time these things only feel like a slight alteration of the truth, they are manipulative, deceitful and plain lying, and this results in a global thumbs up to lying as the normal.
You make so many great points here, it is disturbing when we look at the extent lying has become normal. How can we value the truth so little? How can we have so little care and respect for people that we think it’s only to tell them ‘little white lies.’ Lying to someone, in my experience is never for the safety and well being of the other person, but simply to protect the person lying. It may have become normal but we all know that it isn’t right.
A very powerful blog Dianne. The only way change can be made to societies acceptance of lies, is to bring Truth to all that we do and say.
So true Dianne, I can remember the “little white lies” that would come out when an adult wanted their to get their own way. How confusing to a child to say there are times when its okay to lie and there are times when its naughty to lie. How on earth is anyone suppose to grow up knowing the difference! And the consequence is that wobbly foundation you so rightly identified that we build our societies upon and come to accept everyday. I too am clearing the grunge from my lie detector, with the constant support of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon so that the lies are becoming more and more apparent and less and less acceptable.
We do all know truth inside out when we are children and we cannot lose this. Serge Benhayon has given everyone who hears his presentations, the beautiful gift of having their natural wisdom and knowing of truth confirmed. For many of us this became blurred as we grew up and we started to doubt or ignore this knowing from our body. I used to want to know exactly what the truth was before I spoke up. Now I find that I simply trust and express that something doesn’t feel true, even if I am yet fully aware of why it doesn’t feel true. This has been incredibly liberating and allows for growth in relationships where there was only compromise and keeping the peace.
What a great discussion point Dianne, a ‘little white lie’ whilst appearing to be innocent is still a lie and as you say is still harming. Truth is absolute either it is or it is not. It is not harsh in a dictatorial sense rather in a extremely loving way. Truth calls on us to be love and vice versa in everything that we do. Dishonesty and lies allows the world to continue on with nothing changing. Truth brings a stop to the lies and the deceit and calls for us to make more loving choices.
Thanks for a fabulous posting Dianne. I too remember being told about ‘little white lies’, that they were ok to say. However they absolved the liar from any responsibility. When I lied myself I thought I was protecting others from the harsh reality of a situation, whereas in fact I was trying to protect myself. It became such an ingrained part of my life that I found myself ‘lying’ ‘for no good reason’, except of course there was a reason – to save myself from blame or shame. Before we can get to truth we have to be honest – about everything. I love your final sentence, “Together we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.”
Amazing blog Dianne. When reading it I immediately felt the confusion, a sense of cunning and also being let down when adults spoke about little white lies to me as a child. I asked endless questions about where you ‘draw the line’ with little white lines as I could never see a boundary between what was ok to lie about and what was not. The truth was I knew there was no boundary because no lie is ok to tell. As you beautifully wrote ‘all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives.’
Thank you Dianne, everything you say is so true. We live in a world of smoke and mirrors, many people are obsessed with the image they portray on the outside which is often at odds with what is going on inside. This creates confusion as we can feel the truth but it is not what we are shown. I remember as a youngster feeling very disappointed that authority figures in my life that I looked up to didn’t ‘walk their talk’. I felt I couldn’t trust them if they weren’t telling the truth which left me feeling hurt. As you say it is time for us all to bring back solid truth with a capital T so we can live in a more loving way.
In a recent situation a young person I was with was struggling to commit to an activity at school. This person suggested that ‘we could lie and say I am sick’. It was interesting to see how telling a lie had become an option, how did this young person no older than 10 come to see lying as a way out of stepping up to challenges? The only answer I can find is from the role models they have had so far. Suffice to say that I did not allow the lie and instead chose to stay with truth. This child then did have to face perhaps a rather difficult situation, but they discovered their inner strength in doing so, and they actually discovered how much fun they can have.
Hands up! I’ve told many ‘white lies’ and just as you clearly share Dianne I could feel every part of me when I did so, my foundation certainly wobbled. I had accepted that it was okay to do this from observing other family members being the same to me. No blame here – I’d just fallen for the same reaction to life. So in my trying to ‘save’ another from feeling (what I thought to be a painful reality of truth) there was more damage being created by holding back on truth in the first place. It was like I was judge and jury over a situation before allowing another to choose for themselves what truth was for them. This is a blog to return to and I feel a lot of honesty surfacing to how white lies are still present in some of my daily activities. Thank you Dianne.
Great blog Dianne, how frustrating when somebody is telling a lie when we know the truth. I have heard little white lies as a kid and all I can remember is that they were hurting the same way.
This is a great expose on how the little lies that we all live are so normal, a real cornerstone and the bedrock of society. Convenient untruths that dig us out of a hole in an uncomfortable moment (to stop us seeing clearly how we are living), but that provide no basis for consistent living that can be relied on. If we as a society will do whatever it takes to avoid the uncomfortable truth, then it suddenly becomes very easy to understand how the world, our politicians and society have ended up in the sorry state we find ourselves in.
I can relate to feeling very uncomfortable as a child when I had been told not to say something or when I felt a parent wasn’t telling the whole truth, but at some point it then became acceptable. Never likely children get confused – as adults we are always telling them to tell the truth and then they go to school and get the same message, but we do the opposite.
It just goes to show how this behaviour of telling little white lies or big whoopers, is passed on from generation to generation, which then goes on to build mistrust in others and ourselves.
“A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives”. Thank you Dianne Trussell for saying it how it is, this is something that has become increasingly obvious to me lately is how much it is acceptable in our society to lie when in fact it is so detrimental to our very being and humanity as a whole.
Continuing the little lies allows us to stay in the comfort of what we have created as our life and to not have to acknowledge the truth that is ever present at the threshold waiting for us. I am seeing now, that it is through the little lies we run with and allow, that we are accepting a level of untruth that allows the greater untruths to flourish and thrive. Through these lies, the darker life and corruption gain firm foothold to prevent the whole world from knowing the truth.
If we were to accept en masse what you have shared here Dianne, that a lie is a lie no matter what magnitude and we supported each other to be truthful at all times, it would be so massive, our modern day dictionary just doesn’t have the words for it! Our whole world at the moment is based on lies — little white ones and no so white, while deep down every single one of us misses being at one with the truth that we all know.
The act of not telling the whole truth instead of telling lies can be just as bad or at timea worse than lies. This is you get out jail free card when you are found later that you did know the truth but did not speak just so you could say “but I did not lie”. I have experienced that the most of world lives with lies and almost accept it as a matter of fact, part of daily living. It is fun to tell the truth when people are expecting lies… it disarms them. Truth at times may be hard, but it will never be wrong or out of place.
Dianne, what a fantastic piece exposing how we live our lives in every aspect, at work, with friends and family, behind closed doors. No stone is left unturned when it comes to the permeation of a lie.
“A lie is a lie, no matter of what perceived magnitude! There are no ‘little’ lies, no ‘good’ lies; all lies are a violation of the truth that we all inherently are and naturally deserve 100% of the time in our lives. Truth is the bottom line.” What more needs to be said…
Wow Dianne, it is actually quite shocking that our society is based on lies, reading your article i can feel how true this is, ‘It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio’. What I find more shocking is how I have accepted this as being the ‘norm’ along with most other people, that we have accepted that it is just the way we operate, and we pass this onto our children and so the lies continue. i can feel how we lie in so many ways, with work, friends, family, even if they are ‘little white lies’ they are still lies and not truth.
This gives me a very uncomfortable OUCH as I read the blog Dianne, because you have nailed the Truth of the game of Life I have joined in and played for a very long time. You are absolutely correct, Truth is the baseline we can all come from, how different would life be then? Imagine if a big red beacon lit up over everyone’s head when they spoke anything that wasn’t 100% true? Our bodies can feel every untruth and we hide feeling it because we don’t want to go there and feel the hurts. It’s a simple beautiful journey to make the commitment to feel and speak Truth in every moment every day, I am keeping stopping and correcting myself ‘ no that isn’t True, what I mean to say is ..’
We all know when someone is lying but it is whether we acknowledge that or distract ourselves with something else so to ‘think’ we don’t see it. I remember, like you Dianne, feeling awful when asked to go along with so called ‘little white lies’. There is nothing ‘little’ about lying. It feels like all the lies taint our natural way of expressing truth. It’s also the many many lies we tell ourselves that contribute to covering over the truth. I’ve noticed the more I am being truthful the more lies are exposed all around me.
I agree Dianne, there is no such thing as a ‘little’ white lie, it is a lie and when we realise we have been lied to then trust is lost. Fine tuning our body to be the amazing lie-detector it is allows us to be aware when we or another are not being totally honest and truthful. We cannot be truth-full if any part of what we say is a lie.
Diana what a fantastic article and I love how it has exposed what is going on and what we allow as acceptable when as you say a lie is a lie and does not meet the bottom line of truth. This sentence really jumped out along with a many others. – “It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” – It is up to us to change this and turn this ratio around. Today and going forward my focus will be on when I go to say or accept a little white lie.
Totally awesome blog Dianne. The more of us that can clear our Lie detectors the less room there is in the world for lies . Imagine a courtroom jury being able to feel whether the defendant was lying or telling the truth. There would be no game of who could afford the best lawyer money could buy. It would be down to plain old truth. It would literally be, there is no hiding from the truth. Oh how much simpler the world would be if we all came from truth.
Kev I agree that the world would be a much simpler place without the lies but it would also be unrecognisable ! Imagine for one moment if we could click Our fingers and expose all of our lies,it would send most of us into absolute chaos. How many relationships have lies woven into them ? Is it a lie to say ‘I love you’ when you know you don’t mean it ? Is it a lie to pretend to your family that you are happy when you know you’re not ? Is it a lie to tell your Mum that you love her just because you can feel her desperate need to be told ?is it a lie to tell your boss that you don’t mind staying late when you don’t want to ? Our families, our schools, our relationships with others and ourselves, our police force, our justice system, our society operates on lies. Lies are the grease that keeps things running as they do and to remove them would cause the whole of society to grind to an violent stop. To be clear I am in absolute agreement that we must return to truth but I am merely exposing the extent of the problem.
I have to totally agree with you whole heartedly Alexis,too much truth all at once would probably cause the world to explode. The examples of lies and untruths you have given although great examples are just a drop in the ocean but if a few hundred or so of us could really start living truth at least that is a start. Your examples here Alexis really made me look more closely at where and how I could be more truthful with myself and others, so thanks.xx
I remember a moment when I realised how unaccustomed I was to seeing the little white lies… Someone told me I did something which I had clearly done, but before I could think I said no I didn’t! It came out so fast and I was so ashamed. In that moment I vowed to choose to stop before I responded and stop being afraid to be caught doing something wrong. I found we need space to reassess normal. So first stop… Create space.
As a child I had the talent to point out truth very innocently, which means that I saw things like they are and communicated it. What I learned was that not everybody of the adults was happy with this. The thing about it was that those adults were caught in a lie, which was then exposed. So what I learned as a child was, telling truth (which is just expressing what I feel) is sometimes uncomfortable and brings trouble. But fairly I have to say that there were adults who were grateful that truth had been spoken. How I did speak truth, was just posing a question or discovering something asking ‘what’s that?’ – and with that nailed the untruth. As s child I did not have any motivation to expose someone or anything. I was not outcome driven, it was just a natural expression. Anyway as growing older, I learned to ‘tell little white lies’ too. A sad testimony of our society. But at the end, the clearer one gets with oneself, the easier one can be honest and then speak and express truth in everything one does.
I am not sure I can even comprehend a world where “we can build the confidence to express truth in every realm of human life, all the time. No more little white lies, just one big loving light of Truth.”
I can remember being told white lies and learning very quickly to tell white lies. What a shame the same amount of time and energy does not get put into teaching us to tell the truth and to express what you feel. We grab the opportunity to tell a white lie and never look back to telling the truth – until now.
Great exposure on lies Dianne, regardless of its size, a lie is a lie, and normally which is the case, one ‘little’ lie leads onto the next in the bat of an eyelid….I agree it is our souls we need to connect to re-define our energy detectors, as everything we express from our souls is truth.
This is great Dianne Trussell, our lives are filled with lies as of when we were born. I too have participated in telling little white lies, and lived these lies accordingly. Thanks to the presentations and workshops from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine that I have attended, I have learned that there is a true way of living to be lived that leaves no space for living a lie but only the truth that is there for all of us to be lived. Living the truth of life is that much grander than the restricted life that results form living lies. As living lies does constrict me to a ‘fabricated truth’ for myself that needs to be maintained and kept alive by constantly confirming this lie and by ingraining it in my body, and from there restricting my freedom of movement in everything that I do.
We don’t even realize many of the lies we are telling or living, but they will be restricting us as much as (or more than) the ones we are aware of in our minds. Thus why it’s so important what Serge Benhayon brings: to learn to live in truth, from our bodies, as naturally as breathing.
What I love about this writing Dianne is that you have placed the lying that human beings use to get through life in a far broader context – that of all life. When we explore the nature of matter we do not find lies and deception. Matter does not pretend to be one thing while in fact it is another. It does not send out false signals of any nature, be they “black” or “white”.
Energy is the same it does not deceive, pretend, send out false signals, behave with subterfuge. It simply is.
So what is it about us that we feel that it is OK to lie, with such little regard for the way life is, integrity and the full alignment of our being with all we say and do?
I Love this Dianne. All of what you have expressed here feels like True Truth to me! Very inspiring
Dianne thanks for your expose about lies. I agree that lies are currently threaded through our entire world and it appears to me that this is no surprise when you consider that life as most know it could be said to be a lie itself. It appears to me that this is because most people have been coerced into falsely believing that people are nothing more than individuals, existing alongside other people in a world that has no design -and that one massive lie then leads into a myriad of countless other lies and those interlacing lies are what we call ‘life as we know it’.
This is a great topic to discuss Dianne, thank you for bringing it to my attention. I remember as a child how adults would explain that a little white lie was an OK kind of lie, but how crazy, what lie is OK? And as you have pointed out our culture is fine with little white lies and even big fat ones. I will be tuned in to any sign of little white lies thank you.
I love what you express here Dianne as it is asking us all to take true responsibility for what we feel and how we express in the world. I know for myself it is about bringing greater truth and honesty to what I say, saying what I feel rather than choosing to say what I think others want to hear. Whenever I have expressed in truth I have felt such a solidness in me, whereas a lie just feels false, empty and leaves me feeling as though I have held back from calling out the truth. As you say we all know this, it is now time to live it.
Thank you Dianne, I am beginning to appreciate how important it is to catch those little white lies, and how tricky they can be as they oftentimes, if not all the time, ‘serve’ a personal agenda. Having others around you with a clear lie-detector is actually a blessing, even though it can sometimes be difficult to acknowledge your own lies as much as call out another’s.
“It seems that the human expression of lies outweighs the expression of truth by an alarming ratio. Life has become an acceptable lie in this world.” It is interesting that telling lies (even if they are little white lies) has become our normal and socially acceptable. But as you discuss in your blog Dianne, what foundation does this leave us to live in and by? It is a shaky foundation where the ground is not solid and always shifting. Although sometimes truth may be difficult to hear, it is truth that helps us to evolve. Lies keep us less, they keep us separate, they keep us in comfort. I agree Dianne, time to bring on the truth.
Thankyou Dianne. I remember being young and feeling the betrayal of seeing adults tell “white Lies” and when I told a lie myself it was so hurt-full and I couldn’t hide the fact that I told a lie, my mum always knew. How then can we grow up from having this inbuilt lie detector and tell lies everyday? to ourselves and other people?? its pretty crazy when I consider what we become as adults telling white lies and thinking its okay meanwhile our bodies are feeling every lie and registering what is actually true every time.
This is so well said Harry,
I have always felt it in my body when ever I told a lie. Yet having given the power to self protection or not wanting to rock the boat have been my two particular reasons for justifying lying. Recently I have shared very honestly in a relationship and have experienced that all the fears that I had (caused by self protection and not rocking the boat) were completely unfounded. The truth actually not only set myself free, but also gave the same feeling of relief and freedom to the other. A strong foundation from which to now live.
And lying does produce an anxious response in our bodies, its the same as if we are holding back truth.
Truth is whole encompassing – so it becomes an inconvenience when we try to make it about self with no consideration for others.
My experience when I was young was that people (adults) don’t like the truth. I learned to not ‘lie’ but water down the truth so that it was more palatable and tolerable. But, what you share Dianne is that if it is not the full Truth, it is a lie, and that this benefits no-one – a great reminder, thank you.
Yes I can so relate Carmin, we were taught that it was more important to be polite and ‘nice’ than it was to tell the truth. My granddaughter tells me when she doesn’t like or feels that she will never use something I have brought her. It is so refreshing as I just take it back to the shop and get a refund. When I was a child that was considered rude.
I agree Dianne, it is staggering how the acceptance of “little white lies” has become a part of society; that it’s just considered normal to lie. In the past I was one who accepted this form of lying, introduced to it by those around me when I was very young, and when I lied I was able to justify the lie so very easily: to save someone’s feelings; to hide a truth that was too embarrassing to share; to make me look good etc. But then one day I made a life changing choice and a little white lie that I had been telling for many years was finally exposed and the freedom I felt inside was the most liberating feeling that I had ever experienced in my whole life. At the same time I also realised how damaging the lying had been to my body and to my life. From that moment onward, with the memories of the consequences of the lying always with me, little white lies became a thing of the past as the truth is now what I choose to live.
Ingrid,
I can fully relate to what you share here. Especially the freedom felt when staying with the truth.