Affirmations or the Livingness of Love

In our world there are lots of self-help guides and books, presentations and recordings to help a person lift their self-esteem, self-worth or overall and general positivity towards life. These can be an accumulation of many so-called ‘loving’ words and affirmations that one can say once or twice, or be recalled repetitively throughout the days, months or years to come.

Affirmations can be telling ourselves things like, “You are good enough,” “You are beautiful,” “You are positive, happy, amazing, worthy, successful etc. etc.,” and even “You can do anything.”

But does telling ourselves we have all these positive, easy-going and highly desirable traits and talents really work? Does it feel real? Does it last? And do we really live it? Or are these words really just presenting to us the knowledge that if we tell ourselves repetitively that something is true about us, we will eventually believe it?

What if a true affirmation was actually something that was felt in our own bodies, already known absolutely and just simply remembered as a configuration within our every living cell: that we are already everything – that we are already enough.

Would it be possible to then use our daily words and personal appreciations to simply support and confirm this, and never to just tell ourselves what we are? There would be no need to label ourselves with words that describe who we want to be, leaving us thinking that we will reach our goals or get there someday; thinking that if we repeat affirmations many times, perhaps even sticking them to our fridge, we will one day believe it about ourselves in full.

Could it be that our number one and true affirmation is that we are love?

We don’t ever need to teach ourselves this nor try to recall it as knowledge – because we already are love, it’s just a simple fact.

With the choice to stop and to feel who we are, in our own bodies, in this very moment, is it possible that all anyone ever truly wants is to be love and to be loved? If so, there would be many places in our daily life where we would look for this love and one of the most obvious places is in the way we speak to ourselves; including what we tell ourselves about who we are, what we are good at, what we are worth, how we look, what we are capable of and, perhaps, even what our purpose in life really is.

The most common conversations we have daily – if not moment-to-moment – happen within our own heads. Our internal dialogue is where such affirmations happen, driving and striving us to be better or to achieve personal development, growth and success, but does this drive to be greater someday actually work for us and most importantly, does it feel natural, easy or truly loving?

There can be great simplicity in the relationship with ourselves and this begins with knowing who we already are, from the very inside of our own bodies, within our hearts. Our bodies know when something feels hot or cold, good or bad, and so they definitely know when words are just words and are not truly felt or lived in full – when they are not a part of our Livingness.

It is true there are many writers, presenters and courses that one could seek out to support themselves in affirming who they are, and changing how they would like to live. But a true and loving affirmation cannot just be found on a calendar page or a magnet on one’s fridge, or through words spoken at you by another.

When the love we are is simply a fact that already lives inside us, we can then live each day knowing and confirming this as our truth through the choices we make to accept ourselves in full and appreciating the wisdom we hold in our own bodies.

By Cherise Holt, Nurse, 32, Brisbane

Further Reading:
Who Am I?
Appreciation, Appreciation, Appreciation
Appreciation – A Pathway to Love
Livingness

1,069 thoughts on “Affirmations or the Livingness of Love

  1. A great reminder that the truth is in our bodies not from affirmations from the mind ,as we learn to feel our way and give less power to the thoughts of mind we can connect our natural order .

    1. Feeling rather than thinking has been super powerful for me, it has allowed me to understand and appreciate who I and all are without getting lost in my head. I feel I have connected with the natural order of the universe, a natural flow.

  2. Like Cherise I have discovered over and over again that those pictures in my mind and the mental dialogue that accompanies them, some of which are attempting to affirm a way of living and some negating, all only serve to separate me from my body. In doing so, they prevent me from connecting with the activity of love that naturally flows when I make life about connection and the quality of activity I can bring to each moment.

    1. Hi Simon. I can relate to what you share here for me all the value in life stems from the relationship I have with my body and movements.

      1. Yes Simon, it is the way in which we stay connected to our bodies and our deepest form of knowing that supports us throughout every aspect of life. Our connection, once felt, is the most precious feeling we can have and yet the total opposite of this is to live disconnected, separated or in isolation from our otherwise deepest part of who we are; this hurts us deeply as we can never ignore the fact that we know connection and to not be with it in life is a tension that can’t be not felt.

    2. Being aware of the picture we have in our minds is powerful, and some of them do come to attempt to hold on to ideas we have about our lives, and some come dressed up and pretty if not alluring. But it is the quality of them that for me has been how I began to assess them, how do they feel and I have felt this through being connected with my inner heart and observing…it makes all the difference.

      1. We have pictures and images behind everything Samantha and I agree with you that it is through discerning the quality of energy that they come with that allows their exposure and supports us to build more deeply a life built on transparency; of both ourselves and all that we see and feel around us. To not hold an image or a picture is simple when we make it about quality first and move in this quality which harbours zero judgment, ideals or beliefs of any sort.

  3. ‘What if a true affirmation was actually something that was felt in our own bodies, already known absolutely and just simply remembered as a configuration within our every living cell: that we are already everything – that we are already enough.’ Thank you for this true definition Cherise. If everyone read and felt these words, the affirmation book shelves in our book shops would either slowly gather dust or be taken down. A great replacement then would be the purple books by Serge Benhayon.

    1. It is a very powerful quote, it is spot on, I feel this in my body when I read it. This is the way to live and know truth and love to feel it from within.

      1. Yes, it’s a very powerful quote that I feel throughout my body. I can feel truth. Samantha thank you for reminding me of this true and powerful way to live and know truth in the everyday.

  4. Thank you Cherise for a beautiful blog, to simply live the love we truly are that is what life is all about. It is so simple, but the mind with it’s self talk can railroad this simplicity as it has had lifetimes of running our bodies. Appreciation of who we are is a powerful way of building love in our bodies.

      1. Yes Fransisco, and it happens so naturally when you don’t think about it, simply be it.

    1. Appreciate is a key that opens up our ability to feel love within and express it, the more we appreciate the more we build and know love and the divine within. I have felt an expansion within my body through appreciation, it is a tool and true affirmation that brings the knowing of divinity and our relationship of being with and from God in to everyday life.

    2. Appreciation is powerful beyond measure Jill and it constantly deepens when we give our focus to nurturing it as apart of our rhythm. The mind and self talk is completely imposing, we would not allow another to talk to us in the way that we communicate within our own heads and yet we allow this imposition to continue. Staying with the connection of our quality and our movements with this is the key to not being owned by thoughts and knowing this, developing it in everyday life, is one of the (many) greatest things that Serge and Natalie Benhayon have ever presented.

  5. “When the love we are is simply a fact that already lives inside us, we can then live each day knowing and confirming this as our truth through the choices we make to accept ourselves in full and appreciating the wisdom we hold in our own bodies.”- so beautifully claimed and truthfully expressed Cherise.

    1. What we all want to feel is confirmation that we are already love and we always were enough (we know this deep down we just haven’t had it confirmed to us). This knowing of being love has to come from the feeling in our body. This is what we need to develop a relationship with rather than the many thoughts that come and go.

  6. It feels like you have nailed something here, in that there is a massive difference between affirmation and confirmation – an affirmation is the bringing in of something outside of you to try to make you that too or to convince you to believe it, whereas a confirmation comes from within you, and confirms the truth you already feel inside you.

      1. Yes I agree esteraltmiks. The clarity in Meg’s expression is very powerful presenting us with the Truth, undeniably so.

    1. Affirmations are doomed to fail if the body they are being spoken to doesn’t feel it or know it as its reality. If you feel tired and run down and tell yourself you are a dynamic, energetic person, you know it’s not true because your body tells you so. All the affirmations in the world can’t change this. What would be so bad about admitting you are tired, taking steps to change whatever is draining you and developing a body that actually is vital?

      1. Fiona it’s another seemingly ‘good’ thing to be doing for ourselves, but in actual fact it’s just another layer over what our body is showing us needs healing deeply, and positive thoughts might block out the reality but it is all still there… When our car breaks down we ask ‘ what has caused the problem, and that’s where we can start to ask the same questions of our bodies, and with our bodies seek the appropriate assistance from one who understands the truth in our connection.

    2. Meg what you have shared is beautiful, confirmation comes from within, the truth felt inside. Affirmations come from the outside trying to convince you to believe it.

    3. I love what you write here Meg and agree with you but it takes some dedication and commitment to knowing what is true within you. ie. When someone pays you a compliment about how beautiful you are, if you dont know your true beauty within, you can say thank you but also scoff it off in a way (oh not really, its just the way I did my hair etc…) but when you know the beauty that exists within you (as it equally does for all woman) a compliment is confirming what you know. But that can only come with a commitment to know that we are already everything and the only place I have been able to truly come to that is through Universal Medicine – any other teachings have felt forced.

    4. Totally Meg. Affirmations have always felt like painting over mould – and I’m always scared what I’m trying to hide will start showing through. I want to hide all the stuff that doesn’t feel great that I have felt inside of me, not realising that it is only energy I’ve let in and it’s not actually me.

      Whereas comfirmations are feeling the truth of who I am. As I appreciate and allow myself to expand all the other stuff that isn’t me, that feels yukky gets pushed out leaving me. No fear of mould coming through!

  7. We can become very very humble whenever we are given a thought that truly serves us, knowing that it is then that we don’t follow affirmations that lead us astray. Once such a truly serving thought is given to us, all we have to do is choose it. And it dawns to me that these serving thoughts are given to me all the time…

  8. I have been pondering on the great harm caused by affirmations for awhile, so it was very confirming to read your blog. I was brought to this realisation listening to a person one day, talking about being positive and using affirmations, They appeared confident on the outside but I could feel that the affirmations were being used to bury how they were really feeling – scared of being sick, feeling they have to hold it all together for the family etc. There is such a healing when we honestly accept how we are feeling, rather than constantly trying to be more.

    1. This is so true. It is one thing being inspired by someone or something, a gentle nudge to show you there is more, yet it is quite another telling yourself you are something that you are not. In doing so you take away the honesty and the integrity so needed to truly move forward in life.

      1. I agree Jenny, living honestly really allows us to accept things as they are and vice versa. This enables us to makes choices to learn from that which is presented to us each day.

  9. I used to think (hope) that affirmations worked before Universal Medicine. They made me feel temporarily better, like a little shot of sugar. But it never changed anything within me and really just covered up the emptiness that was there. I have since discovered my body is the most amazing lie-detector and affirmations definitely set the lying needle off.

  10. One of the most harmful things about affirmations is they keep you on the illusionary wheel of not feeling enough and needing to be more. There is always something else you need to do, be, improve to be enough but when you get there you find there is more to do. This constant chasing of the carrot is exhausting! Before Universal medicine I thought this was the only way life could be. But as I reconnected with my body, I discovered this lack wasn’t true and there was a vast ocean of loveliness waiting to be re-discovered.

  11. If a true affirmation is something that is felt in our physical bodies, then how far do we have to go to numb our ability to be affirming of who we are. What practises are in place that keep our bodies unable to feel the truth?

  12. Affirmations keep you in a world of illusions, by giving your power away to your mind and making yourself believe things will come true. It’s a trap to keep you caught in the mind away from the body.

    1. So well said Amita. We can’t make things happen magically, there has to be a reality there. There is nothing more real than the physical body, so why not live the way we want to live through the body instead of ‘thinking’ and ‘wishing’ how we would like our lives to be.

  13. Cherise, your blog reminds me of something truly important: that it’s about developing a relationship with ourselves and not about using an outside thing (be it an affirmation or something else); that the true gold is in developing and building that relationship with ourselves and allowing ourselves to feel and know what our bodies are communicating to us.

  14. The difference between speaking about something and living it is significant. If this would be really understood, humanity would close down its current Universities, the so called Meccas of knowledge and instead teach to truly nurture our bodies, our markers of lived wisdom.

    1. This would be a marked and profound change Felix, what would life be like if we were truly living from the wisdom of our bodies first and foremost before anything else? The way in which the whole world and every system now works would naturally change as those that run it, those who attend and everyone in between would have Universal truth to bring to us all and thus a truly intelligent way of living.

    2. The difference between saying something and living it is apparent in the way we parent too – ‘do as I say not as I do…’ Even then ‘do as I say’ changes with moods, making it very confusing and meaningless.
      We all have to look at ourselves and make the way we live our daily lives worth inspiring others.

  15. Affirmations are there to fill the gap from us not living in connection to our natural way of being, to comfort us from the deep unease we feel at being separate from the love we innately are. Once we make the simple choice to be open to the essence that is and has always been inside of us affirmations are exposed for what they are.

  16. Then felixschumacher8 our Wisdom would come from the true connection and reflection from each other, if as you say ‘ we lived from our wisdom’ Is it possible this is how it was in times gone by and we have just been caught in the illusion of progress coming from knowledge.

  17. There is a huge difference from what comes from the mind to what comes from our inner heart. We can tell ourselves something over and over but this doesn’t change how we deeply feel and the way we are with ourselves.

  18. I love your words Cherise – ‘Could it be that our number one and true affirmation is that we are love? We don’t ever need to teach ourselves this nor try to recall it as knowledge – because we already are love, it’s just a simple fact.’

    1. Absolutely Cherise and Jenny, we are love we come from love so confirm and appreciate we are all the living Sons of God, because God is love how could we be anything else, no affirmations just a simple Livingness.

  19. “… the love we are is simply a fact that already lives inside us, we can then live each day knowing and confirming this as our truth through the choices we make to accept ourselves in full and appreciating the wisdom we hold in our own bodies…” Solid gold words here Cherise, thank you

  20. It is the state of our bodily movments that determines what quality of thoughts pass through us. When it is the quality of love that we move in, this is the natural affirmation that would fill our entire body including our minds.
    Repeating an affirmation just from our heads without the support of our bodies simply does not work as our body is one whole unit, and cannot be compartmentalized.

  21. Cherise I can remember being a bit obsessed with affirmations. I once read a book with a list of affirmations and I fell into the trap of saying some every day as I thought they would improve my life. This lasted about half a year until I cottoned on to the fact nothing was changing. Fast forward a few years and my life has dramatically changed, I now know myself to be love and there is no affirmation and trying involved.

  22. We have , built within every human body , a living affirmation of our true selves, and that affirmation is within the gentleness of our breath …. It is like a secret that waits within us all, , simply waiting for us to turn within, feel that affirmation of a direct and true connection with our hearts, and to live in the way that this guides us.

  23. ‘When the love we are is simply a fact that already lives inside us, we can then live each day knowing and confirming this as our truth through the choices we make to accept ourselves in full and appreciating the wisdom we hold in our own bodies.’ The simplicity of this is so beautiful. We are returning to a love that is already within us.

  24. So well said Cherise, I used to have affirmations all over my house. Sticky notes on mirrors, notes on the fridge and for I while I used to hang them up outside the shower screen so when I was having a shower I could read them over and over again! This just makes me laugh now, I thought if I said them enough, then I would feel what I was saying! Trying to make myself love me more… how backwards that was. I only had to connect to my body and feel the love that I already am. I found love in my body, not in my head – saying things over and over again, never helped me to feel this love or appreciate myself more. Thanks Cherise.

  25. ‘I am already enough’ my body knows this but I choose to not listen sometimes. Affirmations are futile unless they come from a lived love in the body and not a grasping, needy mind.

  26. The problem with these affirmations without feeling is that it already starts from a point of feeling not enough instead of from a point of knowing that we are love, no matter what happens. This will always lead us to feel not enough as the ultimate affirmation or confirmation we are looking for is feeling our own love, who we truly are.

    1. Great point Lieke, affirmations that people say to themselves or instructed to say to oneself in the mirror, are ‘always’ coming from a place where we aren’t good enough, there is something wrong that needs fixing. It is never positioned that we are 100% love now, and our job is to discard all that which is not love, that is key.

  27. The idea of being all-knowing Sons of God whose bodies are constantly communicating to us how we need to be and what we need do, and that we are completely responsible for everything that happens to us is very hard for us to grasp. I think it is the responsibility factor that mostly trips us up and leads us to seeking heaven outside ourselves.

  28. Affirmations are a way to try to outsmart ourselves. A part of us trying to outsmart the whole of us. A more intelligent way might be for the part of us listening to the part of us that gives us true feedback – our body and then not affirming that experience but confirming what is already there and to build on that foundation.

  29. ‘does this drive to be greater someday actually work for us and most importantly, does it feel natural, easy or truly loving?’ I love this question. It exposes the whole illusionary cycle of perseverence that then leads to a temporary, short-lived ‘success’ that then must be bettered by the next ‘success’. Exhausting! Learning that success is connecting to who I am and living this in my life, learning to accept the evolution that living from love brings – and yes, feel like a fledgling learner.

  30. When ” …the love we are is simply a fact that already lives inside us…” is realised, then we also realise that this quality about us is more than enough. No more trying, proving or competing required.

  31. “What if a true affirmation was actually something that was felt in our own bodies, already known absolutely and just simply remembered as a configuration within our every living cell: that we are already everything – that we are already enough”.
    Beautifully expressed Cherise, so much in this sentence to ponder and inspire; very wise indeed, thank you.

  32. These kinds of affirmations put the cart before the horse. They say “I want x and I can achieve x by saying ‘I already have x'” even though that is a lie. Much better to affirm what is true and already worth affirming and to build on that. That actually works, permanently.

  33. “There can be great simplicity in the relationship with ourselves and this begins with knowing who we already are, from the very inside of our own bodies, within our hearts.” If only we were taught this in school, the fact that we are everything now, which really is simple, that everything is about our connection and knowing who we are in truth.

  34. Loved this one especially the affirmation of you can do anything …. Mmm well I did and many times but where’s the small print that says, yes you can but maybe check in with your body ‘cos perhaps it’s actually not for you to do and might leave you lying on the floor in a million pieces!! The small print is not so small when it’s your body talking.

    1. Yeah sure we can do anything, but we need to ask ourselves a few accompanying questions: Is it true for us? At what expense to our health or our bodies? Is it of true purpose, quality and value to us and those around us? and Do we seek to ‘do’ from an emptiness, a need or a rush or even out of distraction to not be aware? There are many, many, questions we could ask ourselves and the truth is that true truth and wisdom is held within our bodies and does not come from the thinking mind, riddled with expectations and images. And so without a Livingness – a true connection to ourselves we are left ‘thinking that we know’ until such time that we begin to feel for ourselves again and live the awareness and ability to read energy as we did so effortlessly as children.

  35. The amazing thing is that every moment and every movement we can either confirm the amazingness we are, or convince us of the opposite, it’s simply an every-moment choice.

  36. Cherise what a powerful way to look at confirming ourselves as who we are rather than telling ourselves something in the hope that we believe it. I love the simplicity of confirming something, of being able to appreciate what we bring, which so often we don’t even stop and consider.

  37. Many years ago I would say daily affirmations and from my experience they do not work, I was searching for something outside of myself because of the emptiness I felt within. Learning to appreciate and accept myself has been key to deepening the love for myself and all my relationships and then confirming this has been simple and easy.

  38. Accepting and appreciating ourselves is key, confirming that we are love, knowing this deep down, this knowing of being love has to come from feeling this in our body. ‘When the love we are is simply a fact that already lives inside us, we can then live each day knowing and confirming this as our truth through the choices we make to accept ourselves in full and appreciating the wisdom we hold in our own bodies.’

  39. I used to repeat affirmations daily before I came across Universal Medicine but I found saying them from my mind with no substance, an effort to sustain. Today I know who I am; my essence is love and when doubt creeps, I say ‘No’ and confirm myself of this love. Having felt and experienced both I can say there is a vast difference between the two simply being affirmations come from the head and the livingness of love comes from the body.

  40. From my experience Cherise this is so true, “But does telling ourselves we have all these positive, easy-going and highly desirable traits and talents really work? Does it feel real? Does it last? And do we really live it? Or are these words really just presenting to us the knowledge that if we tell ourselves repetitively that something is true about us, we will eventually believe it?” I for a long time watched the up and downs from this type of ‘positive talk’. It was like you would talk yourself up only to fall down again to talk yourself up again to fall down again, the yo-yo of life. At some point you would give it away only to find another way to try and do the same thing again at some point. Universal Medicine supported me to smooth this yo-yo out and now it’s nothing about positive or negative but I keep an eye on my thoughts to see where they have me headed. I bring simple awareness to the quality of my thoughts and then reflect this back to how I have just lived. My thoughts follow the way I am, the way I live and equally the way I live follows my thoughts. The only true choice we have is the quality of how we live.

  41. On the back of that, if this is true, “The most common conversations we have daily – if not moment-to-moment – happen within our own heads.” Then this is the relationship we should bring the most attention or dedication to. Knowing that how we are with ourselves will impact on how we are with someone or everyone else. This is true for me, the relationship with myself in any moment reflects how outwardly my relationships are. In other words take true care of yourself and everything else will be taken ‘care’ of in that same quality. Thanks Cherise.

  42. The origin of the word affirmation comes from the Latin to consolidate, strength and confirm something that already exists. Hence if affirmations are used to establish something that we do not already have, as in the New Age approach, then they are just lies that we tell ourselves.

  43. I used to use affirmations to make myself feel better, but they never lasted. I would feel good about myself for a moment then move onto feeling like a horrible person again. It wasn’t until I re-connected to Love that resides in me, in all of us, that I began to hold a level of Love for myself more consistently. There is no affirmation that comes close to this, because once we re-connect to the Love that we are, we simply just need to live this. This is what fills us up, the Truth, not something we hope is the truth, and repeat to ourselves over and over again hoping it will stick eventually.

  44. True affirmation is our connection to our inner self,feeling that deeper love the confirmation of that. That is the true foundation for any affirmation. The appreciation of that is huge in its self. I found when I use to just read affirmations that did not feel true, when I started to connect to the feelings in me, with the love in me, that’s when the true appreciation and confirmation was felt.

  45. “There can be great simplicity in the relationship with ourselves and this begins with knowing who we already are, from the very inside of our own bodies, within our hearts” The simplicity of this is just gorgeous – thank you 🙂

  46. Having a deep appreciation of ourselves is far greater than any external affirmation as the appreciation confirms us from the inside out. Thank you Cherise.

  47. One of the choices I have made recently is that of ‘ letting go’, and I have found that the more I let go of everything I was hanging onto that no longer serves me, the more I am able to accept, allow and connect to the wisdom within my body which is then easily felt and expressed….

    1. A simple choice ‘to let go’, allow or give ourselves the permission in any circumstance is a healing one and I love what you share jacqmcfadden04 as the clarity within our own bodies that is there always becomes much more easily accessible and lived.

  48. This is great, affirmations are only from our mind, while when we truly feel deep into who we are we get to see the beauty that is there only needed to confirm but never only to affirm..

  49. Things which require effort usually do not work. There is a difference between effort and commitment, one is an expression of what is already within us, and the other requires all sorts of things to be justified.

  50. This is lovely Cherise, ‘When the love we are is simply a fact that already lives inside us, we can then live each day knowing and confirming this as our truth through the choices we make to accept ourselves in full and appreciating the wisdom we hold in our own bodies.’

  51. It is important to confirm and appreciate that we are love, this could simply be in ways like, ‘ in the way we speak to ourselves; including what we tell ourselves about who we are, what we are good at, what we are worth, how we look, what we are capable of and, perhaps, even what our purpose in life really is.’

  52. There is something naturally ‘absolute’ about us that we can connect to at any moment and this is a profound and exquisite understanding to have; because from here, we are able to walk, talk, move and speak (communicate in every way) from a place within us that is more solid and naturally confident, unshakable so. There’s no place or time to go into doubt when we come from our absoluteness and so this is a concept that each and every one of us has the worth and potential in exploring more and more.

  53. Its great that you bring up sticking affirmations on your fridge and trying to convince yourself you will get to this, as you say it is not something that comes from the outside, it is knowing the truth of who you are on the inside and allowing this to be expressed on the outside.

  54. The world we live in is full of pictures and images of how things should be, how we should be and what everything should look like. But these images are a set-up to make us think that we are beginning from a starting point where we are ‘less than’ before ‘we get there’; but where are we getting exactly? It’s like a dangling carrot that is always moving and always designed to keep us in the ‘less than’ mode and way of thinking. The illusion that this way of thinking holds us in is thick but there are definite ways to not get caught in it and actually bring ‘true love’ and thus ‘truth’ back to our lives. One way is to redevelop our natural ability to be aware of such pictures and to claim what is true and what is simply a picture or placed expectation and another is to move in a way that is not about the mind running the show or about listening to the constantly fed pictures, but instead move from a connection within our bodies that ‘already knows we are everything’ and that any ‘less than’ energy has been exposed for the set-up and picture that it always, always was.

  55. Saying particular words or sentences over and over does not necessarily mean you are actually living the qualities of those same words….

  56. At 13 I started at a public school where it seemed to me that many were arrogant and held an air of superiority over me anyway and perhaps over everyone. This eroded my already weak self confidence. I used my 20 minute walk to school to remind myself that we are all equal and that I was no less equal than anyone else. This affirmation helped me to pull through rather than sinking but how more powerful would it have been to know that I was love.

  57. We may try to convince ourselves with affirmations that we are better but this brings zero solidity or foundation to our way of being as there is no truth in what we are telling ourselves to be like from our mind. Without connecting to what feels true from our body we are unable to live from the quality of our natural inner rhythm that knows and responds to love.

  58. The key for me has been to keep deepening my connection to my body, choosing not to let my mind take over running my body and being honest about what I am feeling. The more honest I am the more clarity I have and the more open I am to trusting what feels true from within.

  59. Awesome Cherise. As we begin to see the truth of what we are not it is vital that we appreciate the truth of who we are too. As you say, this true beingness does not have to be created for it already is but we do need to appreciate and nurture this innate essence.

  60. I’d say this is a case of Quality rather than quantity! Even if we repeat words over and over to ourselves if we haven’t connected with the quality inside us then it doesn’t really help…

  61. Words can take on any meaning we want them too – and many words have been made to mean something they are in fact not. Affirmations feel really empty to me, like there is no relationship to anything, just a hope or a ‘fake it till you make it’ attitude.

  62. We need to re-deveop trust for ourselves and in this reacquaint ourselves with the absolute knowing that we hold for what is true and what is not. Unshakable is the ground for the one who stands tall in this knowing and lives it to the best of their ability, in full, every single day.

  63. Love holds such clarity and richness and we all know it deep within, as it is a part of our every cell and particle of our bodies. There is no affirmation book big enough to support how huge our love is.

  64. When we live in a way that confirms that we are love, there is no need to talk yourself into anything. You just know and know that this is the same for everyone.

  65. It just doesn’t work trying to tell ourselves something is true when it is not, or that something hasn’t hurt us when it has because it lays a shield that we have a subconscious knowing is false. It creates a relationship with anxiety that can become all to familiar to the point we forget we are trying to persuade ourselves of something. The anxiety stays though…. to stop us feeling completely comfortable in our own skin. Much better to embrace who we are in full.

  66. You are spot on Cherise when you say that affirmations occur in our heads, and it seems directly as a result of believing the rest of what has come before (also in our heads) about ‘not being enough’, not ‘there yet’ etc.
    From our bodies we get to feel that we are already everything… and that is the only confirmation that will truly support.

  67. It is true affirmations only deliver a momentary relief and belief that we are making positive changes but over time the intensity changes and leaves us feeling empty, and seeking again for more answers.

  68. When our head is constantly talking to us, it is easy to beat ourselves up, and affirmations no matter how good they may sound are making us focus on an expectation of ourselves, it is so much more loving when we focus on being ourselves with no preconceived ideas as to what that might look like.

  69. I used to live on affirmations – I’d saying them over and over thinking they would change my life – they didn’t work. I was at that game for many years and my life was a worse mess at the end of that time than it was at the beginning. Making the choice to live love – now that is a different ball game altogether, That has been life changing – transformational. That is the power of The Way Of The Livingness.

  70. Some people are better at listening to what they feel than others, but the bottom line is that we all know, it’s whether we’re tuned in or not. We can feel a situation – perhaps being somewhere that doesn’t feel right or tension between two people. Acknowledging what you feel builds a foundation for knowing what you feel.

  71. I am wondering how many people realise that they are love at their essence, haven’t we all filled ourselves up with everything but love? Before Serge’s teachings I had no understanding that I was love and from love, but so grateful to now realise this.

  72. Affirmations or saying the same thing over and over trying to memorise it can be like a broken record going around and around in your head in a tune of words that you kind of dance to but don’t fully embody and express from your heart… nor bring fully alive in your day to day life.

  73. Such great topic! It is so daring me to be honest and equally all whom read this.. Have we been affirming those things we miss or would like to be lived, or truly appreciating? One who can answer that very clearly is : our body. As it is shared about – that what is lived will be felt, as our body will never lie at all.

  74. It is crazy to believe that we can fool ourselves with empty words. A truth is known only when it is lived… everything else is just a lie to make ourselves feel temporarily better.

  75. “but does this drive to be greater someday actually work for us and most importantly, does it feel natural, easy or truly loving?” I wish the latter part of that question had been asked to me a while back….I used to be a big fan of affirmations – the kinda fake it till you make it – and the question you pose is a great litmus test and if I had asked myself, none of what I did would have passed the test.

    Learning to live the love that I am, can feel a bit clunky at times because I have not done it for a while, but when I connect to it, it feels as natural as the day we were born.

  76. Affirmation is never a word I used, but when reading this, I start to understand that what we affirm is important to realize. That we not just affirm that which is obvious and ‘accepted as normal’ but actually feel within what feels right. As only then we will know its whole and full truth.

  77. Really appreciating the depth you present here with such simplicity. We could be telling one thing in our head, but if that is not what we are experiencing/living, the lie is felt unavoidably no matter how much we tell ourselves otherwise and try to ignore. Disregard we often choose to live with is totally contradictory and negating of what we truly are in essence. What is already here only needs to be felt and lived for it to be affirmed.

  78. So beautifully shared Cherise – surrendering to the knowing of all we already are within is the greatest affirmation and as such foundation for us to live from, through which our livingness, all that we do, is a confirmation of the love that resides within us all.

  79. Spiritual affirmations are needed when we live in separation to the love that we are and thus in this space we search outward for a truth that can only be found within us. And so we set up the futile outward search for love and our true self, our Soul, which buys us more time to stay lost in the mire of our own creation rather than simply feel the love we already are, the magnitude of the love we belong to and begin to deeply appreciate this. Thank you Cherise for these beautiful and truly affirming words that are spoken in and with the great love that we are.

  80. This makes perfect sense to everything in my life so far. I tried but it never truly made sense to try and talk myself out or into something. The way I learnt was always a very bodily, physical experience, in other words I had to feel it for myself and no amount of telling or teaching would convince me. It’s the same for trying to tell yourself to be positive or cheer up or be happy or whatever. The moment you have a conversation, even with yourself that is telling you to do something to get you out of something the whole thing is a miss. For me feeling has always been my strength, my make sense of the world that didn’t make sense. Whenever something confused, impacted or sent me in a spin I would need to feel how to walk myself back and the only thing I was able to stand on was the experience I had had. Anything else would always lead me around in circles.

  81. I love playing with words and how they feel and when I feel affirmation versus confirmation there is a real difference in quality. An affirmation feels slightly fluffy or transparent and something that is felt from our thoughts whereas a confirmation feels like clarity and a solid foundation for which we can continue to express and appreciate the essence of where we are all from. Confirming who we are with every breath or step taken is so utterly beautiful and supports our commitment to living life from the quality of vibration we then move in.

  82. Words are just words if there is livingness behind them. So, where is the author of the self-help book writing from? From where is anyone ´learning’ what the author have to say? What truly helps is someone writing what they have to say from their own body, that is lived experience and to feel in and with your body what the author is presenting.

  83. Words are just words if there is not livingness behind them. So, where is the author of the self-help book writing from? From where is anyone ´learning’ what the author have to say? What truly helps is someone writing what they have to say from their own body, that is lived experience and to feel in and with your body what the author is presenting.

  84. ‘Could it be that our number one and true affirmation is that we are love?’ Yes I agree Cherise and your blog is a beautiful sharing, there are many who use affirmations that are ignoring the grand love we are and instead are trying to make themselves feel something from their mind – I know because I said affirmations for many years hoping for things to change. The greatest changes came for me when I began attending Universal Medicine presentations where I was inspired to connect to my body and make more loving choices and through these changes I could begin to truly appreciate the qualities I bring.

  85. “But does telling ourselves we have all these positive, easy-going and highly desirable traits and talents really work? Does it feel real? Does it last? And do we really live it?”

    In my experience, a big fat no is the answer to that question. I used to have affirmations taped to my mirrors, say them constantly, write them down, often each day for a period of time- you name it, I did it!

    And whilst I may have got ‘a result’, it did not last as I did not really live it. I put something ‘out there’ and got ‘something back’ but it was not really me truly living it and it continued the illusion that I had to be ‘better’ to become ‘who I was’.

    Whereas the true confirmation you write of, is learning to live the love that you are, with a deep knowing of that you start to live that, and confirm that you live it and that you are it, then it feels real, a strong foundation to live life from – and in my experience, it lasts.

  86. The difference between a mental dialogue, no matter how ‘meaningful’ and an energetic full body realization of truth and healing, is vast, and once the latter is felt , one could never go back to the former.

  87. Repeating sentences, no matter how ‘positives’ they sound, is another way to check out if those words are not lived first.

  88. Stopping the negative thoughts and self-talk and allowing us to feel instead how much beauty there is about us is something very worth practicing and a true affirmation to ourself.

  89. The thing is, connecting to ‘the love we are’ IS something that requires a deep ‘yes’ on the part of our own will, or yet again, we are left with words that sound good and helpful, but leave us bereft…
    And so we need a means of reconnecting, of making this truth real for us – that this may become our own claimed knowing. The Gentle Breath Meditation, as presented by Serge Benhayon offers a powerful step in this direction – an opportunity to feel the truth that you have shared here Cherise, to arrest the ‘outer bombardments’ and quite possibly, feel that we do have an essence within, an essence that is this Love.

  90. When it comes to exposing the false layer we can place on top of the existing reality of our lives, through the new age/personal development and spiritual practice of ‘doing affirmations’, the promise of “getting there” says it all really. Get to where?
    In doing such a practice – and I did my fair share of it in years past – we are frequently seeking alleviation from aspects of our lives in which we are generally not happy and/or do not feel that we are enough. And/or seeking to ‘magically attain’ externally driven measures of ‘success’ that contain not an ounce of actual love.
    Industries yet thrive upon this… emptiness begetting emptiness…
    Without a knowing of love within our own being and reconnection to the essence within, it is all meaningless…

  91. I used positive affirmations for years, but they did nothing for my lack of self-worth. Also because my own negative self-talk about how I wasn’t enough continually drowned out anything positive i tried to say. “What if a true affirmation was actually something that was felt in our own bodies, already known absolutely and just simply remembered as a configuration within our every living cell: that we are already everything – that we are already enough.” Saying affirmations are meaningless unless we actually feel we are already enough in our bodies. Universal Medicine presentations and practitioners have enabled me to now know I am worthy and good enough, because i have reconnected to who i truly am deep inside.

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