Appreciation of Life and Ourselves

Have you ever stopped to really appreciate yourself, your life, and everything around you?

I thought I had been appreciative, that is until I had a recent health scare that made me realise that there was still so much in life that I took for granted – things that I just accepted as a normal part of my day, without stopping to truly appreciate how amazing my life really is.

Lying in bed at night in the silence of the darkness, with the glimmer of the moon lighting up my home with just enough light to make out what surrounded me, I observed the simple things, like hearing the crickets, and the sound of our children rolling over in their bed via the monitor next to my own. Sounds that had become a normal part of my day and night, but sounds that I realised were not always going to be there; ones that I may not always be here to hear.

There was a sadness that overwhelmed me, a feeling that I was not yet ready to leave this world, that I still had so much to do.

It was then that I realised I was living with regret, a feeling that deep down I knew how to live in the fullness of who I am but thinking there was no rush, that I had plenty of time to do so later.

But why wait – why not just get on with it and live the love that I am now, instead of waiting any longer?

So once again a health scare has caused me to stop and appreciate on a deeper level how amazingly blessed I am in life, with an amazing family, children, partner, and friends. Why is it that it takes the possibility of dying to truly bring me to a stop?

Why is it that we wait until we may lose something that is precious to us to stop and really appreciate it? Why is it we do not make the choice to live each and every moment in absolute appreciation of everything that we are?

I knew all of this, the questions were not new, I had asked myself these before. So why is it I still choose to hold back?

After my few days of pondering, I came to realise that it is not just dying I am afraid of: it is the fact that I have not truly lived all of me, and the sadness was from the regret of holding back and having not lived in and from the absolute glory that I am.

I realised that I can now make the choice to live me in each and every moment, re-connecting to my body and making choices from there, without fear of what others may think or perceive, and no longer shying away from potential jealousy.

When I pass over, no matter when that may be, I want it to be with no regrets, but with the appreciation and love of a true life lived in the fullness of who I am.

A life that has been blessed by so many and so much, with the ongoing love, support and reflections from Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, a man with the utmost love, patience and understanding; a man without whom I know I would not have these moments in life that allow me to go deeper in my connection to myself, to then be able to continue appreciating how amazing life truly is.

by Nicole Serafin, Woman, wife, mother, hairdresser, Tintenbar, NSW.

Further Reading:
What Is The Science of Appreciation, and How Does It Evolve All of Our Relationships?
Appreciation – A Pathway To Love.
Appreciation, Appreciation, Appreciation….

1,153 thoughts on “Appreciation of Life and Ourselves

  1. “When I pass over, no matter when that may be, I want it to be with no regrets, but with the appreciation and love of a true life lived in the fullness of who I am.” I think deep down this is what we all want, to know that we have lived each moment in true connection with others and have not left anyone with any doubt of the love that we are.

  2. Appreciation is so important. What a loss in this world where we have forgotten what true appreciation is about, where we are now walking without or with very little appreciation of ourselves and others.

  3. Nicole your appreciation of Serge at the end of the blog is very true for me also, I now have so much that is truly loving and supportive in my life from that Serge has provided by way of workshops, presentations, tools like the Gentle Breath Meditation, and the complementary to medicine Esoteric healing modalities. My life now how so much love and joy in it, despite ongoing challenges and difficulties, because Serge has supported me to restore my connection to me, to my true essence and soul – and there’s still more love within me to be experienced and lived. Serge is a true beauty of a man.

  4. A message: ‘After my few days of pondering, I came to realise that it is not just dying I am afraid of: it is the fact that I have not truly lived all of me, and the sadness was from the regret of holding back and having not lived in and from the absolute glory that I am.’
    Isn’t this all the attitude we are missing in life?

  5. The fear to death is from the fear to truly live fully and to know and live multidimensionally rather than just physically. What does this look like? No idea so just live each moment as full as possible, as loving as possible, not holding back any truth felt, a deep trust with the body, with a posture and movement that do not hold back.

  6. Wow Nicole, your health scare sounds like a blessing, it supported you to stop and appreciate life, where you are and what is around you. Your sharing is reminding us to appreciate life and to not hold back living the fullness of who we are.

  7. Sometimes we get too busy capturing and freezing a moment as if that is the highest point and nothing will ever supersede, but what if there’s so much more to unfold and be revealed? Makes me realise appreciation is not where we stop and marvel and plateau, but only a point of confirmation, to embrace what is here in its totality, therefore already be accepting of what is next.

  8. ‘…it is not just dying I am afraid of: it is the fact that I have not truly lived all of me” – this really is a fundamental line. We can be so easily saddened by the choice we make to hold back, and then regret.So why do it? why put ourselves through that if we know it will create a gap.

  9. Appreciation is such a powerful antidote to regret, which can so easily obscure our awareness of beauty, love and fulfilment in our life to the point where we experience life in unhappiness and depression. Appreciation of the little things is the medicine to begin the journey home to our true state of harmony.

  10. “But why wait – why not just get on with it and live the love that I am now, instead of waiting any longer?” Oh so true. And bringing that appreciation now into my daily life has brought so much joy and a sense of fulfilment into my life with also the knowing that this will only deepen and expand.

  11. Your blog Nicole explains to me why so many people I know, including myself have a fear around dying. But if we live a full life where we have been living the fullness of who we are and our life was filled with appreciation and love, I feel there would be no sadness or regret when it is time for us to passover. You have inspired me to appreciate everything in life, every moment and to live expressing all of who I am more and more.

  12. There is so much about life to appreciate, even in the very simplest and mundane things, when we bring the loveliness of our livingness to all of life, this is what feeds us back.

  13. When we don’t develop appreciation in our day to day life we miss out on the wonderment and growth it can bring.

    1. Yes, I agree Susie and when we miss out on this we can feel the tension in our body from living a lesser vibration and from holding back expressing the grandness that we are.

  14. It is interesting how a health scare provides an opportunity for us a stop to reconsider our life and our choices that makes us realise how easy it is to take things for granted and not appreciate how far we have come and how much we are able to learn and evolve from when we are consistent in choosing to love and accept ourselves.

  15. Thank you. This reminded me of times when I was incapacitated and not able to function and how much I take for granted now. This blog is worthy of a stop moment to reconnect more deeply and appreciate and confirm our own worth.

  16. Passing over is such a sacred and precious time where we are given increased awareness to review and heal what has not been healed from the way we have lived throughout life, as we appreciate more, day by day what is given to us and the healing that is on offer, we need not have any regrets when it comes time for us to pass over.

  17. Thank you Nicole, your words are very heartfelt and have touched me deeply, including, “When I pass over, no matter when that may be, I want it to be with no regrets, but with the appreciation and love of a true life lived in the fullness of who I am.” It’s true that for human beings it can often be a health crisis or even the reality of a terminal condition that causes us to really reassess life and realise what’s important. As you share, through appreciation becoming a way of daily life, we can begin to value all we have and live the fullness of our essence and of the love we truly can be now.

  18. It was great to read this Nicole I can also feel how I am not currently living my full potential and where I am holding back in expressing all the love that I am consistently so.

    1. Hear, hear Cjames2012 and this blog along with your comment inspires me to appreciate every moment of my day.

  19. “It was then that I realised I was living with regret, a feeling that deep down I knew how to live in the fullness of who I am but thinking there was no rush, that I had plenty of time to do so later.” Reading this feels like a clarion call to be present, connected with myself in the moment rather thinking of what I need to do or will do next.

  20. “why wait – why not just get on with it and live the love that I am now,” When we think time is running out we realise we haven’t given ourselves space to be all that we are all the time.

  21. Thank you for your blog Nicole, if I were to die sometime soon I know I would have regrets at not living all of me and what I bring but like you I have the opportunity to change all of that, live with more love and appreciation with no holding back of who I am and what I bring.

  22. It is beautiful to realise the great potential we all have to live the amazingness of who we are in essence. And the more we explore and develop a deeper connection to our essence, to who we are within, then more our lives are enriched from the inside out.

  23. It is often say that we have choices while we live but we do not have the same possibility regarding death (unless we decide to terminate our life or do something harming to ourselves). But, this is not true. We can choose to die in the regret of what did not happen or in the appreciation of what did happen. If we do it in regret we set in motion a movement that we will regret at some point. So, moving in regret only calls for more regret until such time that we stop this because we realize that we regret moving in regret… a few lives down the road…

  24. It is so easy to take life for granted. I have found that the more I appreciate my life the more I discover there is to appreciate and the fuller my life is.

  25. No matter the situation in life the more we appreciate ourselves the greater the learning and evolvement we have and the deeper level of love we accept and embody of ourselves.

  26. It is easier to appreciate everything in life being offered, once we appreciate ourselves. And that could be ongoing once we start appreciating the seemingly little things, like feeling the gentle flow of love once we move being connected. How I bless everything I do with this love, and seeing and feeling that is the key in life.

  27. An important realisation Nicole. We often don’t realise that the regrets we hold onto can very much affect the dying process and that the remedy is appreciation. Appreciation of everything. But this cannot be a mental process for our appreciation needs to be lived, moment by moment. So understanding that every interaction, moment and event is there for us to bring out what is within and live who we are. Even if we don’t necessarily like what is happening and what its bringing up for us, there is always a deeper purpose to this.

    1. I agree with you Greg, appreciation is very powerful, it supports us to not go into comparison and jealousy, it supports us to evolve and in turn, it supports people around us too. Appreciation is an important ingredient in life, without it we can feel very miserable, dull and lifeless.

      1. So true Chanly, one’s deepest-humble-appreciative-ness of others is what we can bring and it cuts the comparison and jealousy as the thoughts about another do not get a look-in.

  28. Being in the moment allows us to feel what is there; what it is we’re feeling and observing around us and if we do not judge or criticize whatever that is that comes up — we offer ourselves space. Space to see, grow and evolve, by letting ourselves be and discard that which is no longer serving us or humanity..

  29. It can initially be a challenge when you are confronted by the fact that the quality of your choices in how you live, are noticed by others and sometimes disturb others, bringing things up for them to look at and examine in their own lives. This is where a consistent and deep sense of appreciation holds us steady. It’s not about not making mistakes or being perfect. But it is about expressing who we are, without holding back because of what someone else may think or say.

  30. We can mistakenly think that appreciation is only deserved when it’s something big or unusual, or something we or others do. But as you say Nicole, there are thousands of tiny moments very day which when appreciated, brings a surrender, space and expansiveness into our bodies so we then have room for even more appreciation. It’s a wonderfully practical science that we then get to feel is a movement, not an action or a doing. We are in the flow of the Universe.

  31. A great reminder about the sadness that eventually comes from delay, when we don’t commit to life in full with all that we are in the now.

  32. I am just understanding that no matter the occurrence or event that being in appreciation of each and every moment (regardless of what it is) supports us to known that each moment is there to bring out who we are, without measure. Our choice in each moment is where we can get caught in regret.

  33. Go for it Nicole, and along the way inspire everyone else to equally live in their amazingness, it is who we are, ‘I realised that I can now make the choice to live me in each and every moment, re-connecting to my body and making choices from there, without fear of what others may think or perceive, and no longer shying away from potential jealousy.’

  34. Completion in all we do is an important part of appreciation especially when it comes to people passing over. When we have fully expressed all of the time so we have no regrets then we have closure with everyone and therefore no need for emotional outpouring. So grieving or feeling sad is not needed as we feel complete with our-selves and others then can we move on knowing that we may completely appreciate what another has bought but to also appreciate they have moved to a different cycle in life.

  35. There is so much to appreciate that we continuously take for granted. I always find this when I’ve hurt a finger and realise how much I use that one finger in a day.

  36. This article makes a great point and one I can relate to, like it is nearly exactly the same as I think. There is always this tomorrow thought. You have this feeling to do something and then you put it off until tomorrow and as they as it’s not that ‘tomorrow never comes’ but it is like that, tomorrow becomes an endless repeat of tomorrows until the point you walk to where you have no tomorrow or a limited tomorrow and you attempt to fit in all those delays. It’s like having a bank of tomorrows stacked up and then you are carrying them with you. When you come to the end of this life or the fear of the end then you regret stacking the tomorrows that high or stacking them at all. Some of us go into ‘do’ mode and try and get the tomorrows done or taken care of but we miss the point, the quality we are is where it is at and however you walk to where you stand is where the true care is needed. Life is an endless movement and when we can be warm and appreciate that then when it’s the end it will be an expanded celebration of what you did in the step before.

  37. I find that I can swing very quickly between being ultra appreciative of everything that I have and my life, to dismissing it all and berating myself for not being where I think I should be. This has got far less of a pendulum swing, as I’ve grown steadier over the years. As soon as I remember that I’m exactly where I need to be, and stop comparing myself to some invisible marker of ‘should’, then things settle again. The quickest way I can get myself back into that space of appreciation varies – sometimes it’s a walk, talking it through, writing, moving differently, singing.. anything that brings me out of my head and the negative, self-critical thoughts, and back into my body where there’s no space for the negative thoughts to take root.

  38. Living with regrets can be a heavy burden and it is through building appreciation and acting on our impulses to share from the depth of who we truly are that we can let these go and embrace the glory of who we are and all we have to offer. This is still a conscious unfolding process for me and has been a massive learning curve to recognise how much I hold back and how this prevents me from appreciating myself and the wonders of my life.

  39. why not just get on with it and live the love that I am now, instead of waiting any longer? Yes, yes and yes, I have held back my love for so long which felt like living in a straight-jacket with chains…The joy I felt in sharing myself and not holding back (when the straight-jacket slid off my body) felt wonderfully expansive and very playful – we are allowed to have fun, lots of fun as we go about our every day!

  40. Isn’t it fabulous to appreciate the smallest of things in life, in fact it is almost always the small things, for they make up our days, and the more we appreciate what is before us the less room we leave to be consumed by false struggles such as anxiousness and worry.

  41. You can never have to many reminders about the importance of appreciation – this blogs serves that purpose well.

  42. This sounds like a great plan, ‘to live each and every moment in absolute appreciation of everything that we are’.

  43. Living with regret can be very overwhelming, we can allow feelings of negativity to take over and run our lives. But what you have shared here Nicole are the hallmarks of how one can really take responsibility and bring joy through appreciation.

  44. How blessed are we to have moment like these where we can start to wake up and live again. It is so hard to see how it takes moments like these to realise we are so often sleepwalking through life.

  45. We are held by the appreciation (that is love..) that surrounds us and that we choose to re-connect to in our bodies, a choice that comes from a free will to break out of the illusion of loveless existence – as we all know that there is a grander source – one that is love, beholding us all no matter the lovelessness in our world.

  46. I wonder if that’s what happens to us when we get to the end of this life or when we have a scare in the same way. Is it possible that this ‘regret’ is actually us feeling all the points in life we have left incomplete? It’s not a bucket list scenario but more about going about every moment and living it in full to the best you can. For me when I have felt a feeling similar to this it’s been a view of what I haven’t lived fully that hits my view. For me this is a confirmation that every moment is important as the next because when it comes down to it they are all recorded energetically within in.

  47. I know what you speak of Nicole, and reading your blog today shines a clear light on what regret is and how in fact indulging the regret without getting truly honest about the fact that we know how to truly live us but we’ve not always done so is another way to delay actually living us. All we can do is continue to deepen our relationship to us and live us in each moment to the best of our abilities, nothing else is asked of us, this is it. And yet we avoid this … could it be that we know the power and the attendant responsibility of who we are, and is it now past time for us to get on with it, not with drive but with an openness and willingness to unpick any areas where we hold back and bring less than who we are?

  48. I’ve had moments like that as well, where I’ve gone oh my gosh why have I lived less then, there is so much to bring my qualities to and I’ve held back. And this has nothing to do with box ticking or needing to visit this place or have a bucket list.

  49. This is so lovely Nicole. We can be caught in the rush of the day and we do not appreciate that each moment is something that is there to observe. I know for me, my focus can still be so much on what I am doing rather than how I am feeling.

  50. When I think I am hungry and actually I am not, I am endeavouring to stop and fill myself up with deep appreciation instead of food. When I have the loving discipline to do this I get to feel how my body is craving this quality not food and I no longer have the feeling that I am hungry.

      1. I have been playing with this and it works for me…..appreciation, instead of the thought of eating something!! With one I surrender and feel nourished, the other takes me into my thinking and away from true movement

    1. Marylouise, thank you for sharing this, I now know that at times when I feel continuously hungry, especially after an esoteric healing session or at times of increased awareness that I can to fill myself up with appreciation (the food of love) rather than succumbing to the temporal food cravings.

    2. Love this Mary-Louise, I appreciate what you have shared and take it on board as at times when I appreciate myself and or other for what has happened around me then hunger is not an issue. Nurturing our body with appreciation and not food feeds us with an appetite for Love that becomes very moreish. Then when it is required to nurture who we eat to nourish the Love we have become because we have appreciated and this is definitely the way of the future now.
      Could it be Weight Watchers should try appreciation before all those fancy diets?

  51. I do recognize that Nicole! The feeling of regret, that I have this potential, and it is not fully lived. That I can have an impact to change the world for the better, and not doing anything. Today, before reading your blog, I made the choice: I go for full service and I go in full for healing myself and NO more indulging. No more regrets.

    1. Yes Willem and to know that there is a possibility that we may all need to say that again and again as the momentum of forgetting this dedication is more familiar than the dedication to living life in full. I am with you!

      1. I agree Willem, Lucy and Nicole Particularly as you have shared Lucy dedication and appreciation fit together so we feel complete and thus at the end of the day we feel the completion of our life lived to the fullest.

  52. I have heard the saying ‘live each day like it was your last.’ You blog is a reminder that life is precious and living each day to the max, not in terms of doing, but in relation to being loving and appreciating everything down to the details you described will help ensure there are no regrets at the end of life.

  53. A beautiful reminder for us to live each day in the fullness of our being right up to our last breath. This morning is glorious here, the birds having a party and yes I am appreciating the divine orchestra and magnificence at play.

    1. So well expressed Victoria, we often miss out on what is happen around us and it is timely to take the time to smell the roses as we appreciate life lived to the “fullest of our being” to the best of our ability. Then when we or others pass we feel the appreciation of the fullness and richness of the fertile expression we have shared by not holding back but have shared how we have appreciated each other.

  54. You make such a great point – I know I am terrified at the prospect of not living my potential and yet every day I make choices that hold me back. This is very exposing.

  55. Thank you Nicole, it is through our movements of constant appreciation that we realise that there is so much more to life, to reflect a way with a foundation of truth and love for all to be inspired and live from.

  56. ‘Why is it we do not make the choice to live each and every moment in absolute appreciation of everything that we are?’ Thank you Nicole, to not live in appreciation is avoiding living me in full and what is waiting for me to embrace.

  57. “Why is it that we wait until we may lose something that is precious to us to stop and really appreciate it? Why is it we do not make the choice to live each and every moment in absolute appreciation of everything that we are?” Such great questions Nicole. Even after I myself had a health scare i realise just how much I have returned to my old way of being and although am appreciating more i can definitely bring even more appreciation to the everyday things in life.

  58. It is not about what we have not done in our life that we regret, it is about the love we held back, not lived and expressed. It’s like every day, at the end of the day, we come to the end of a circle and our body knows what has passed through, what could be lived, yet not expressed. It is that gap that leaves us empty and we try filling that with food, entertainment, getting drunk whatever. I know because I can have a very busy, full day, yet left feeling something is missing. It is how I live the day/life that determines how I sleep/pass over.

  59. Every moment is precious and worth absolute appreciation. Missing a moment of this awareness sets up the feeling of missing out and a gap is open that can then potentially filled with the sadness of not being all of us and the want to fill it with distraction because we don’t want to feel the sadness and the responsibility that goes with that choice.

  60. I always remember the following quote by Serge Benhayon: “Anything that is done not in truth will always require a correction” so it is for us to look at these health challanges as opportunities to make adjustments in our living in order to keep up with evolution and be more of the love that we truly are.

  61. What a super question: why wait till you do die and then regret that you have not lived the FULL of you, and made life all that it can be, impacting people and the world in a huge way?
    I will write down these lines, and pin it on a wall in our home. Thank you Nicole.

  62. How deeply touching it is to read this blog Nicole. There is true power in the beauty, vulnerability, fragility and grace you write from and this is an inspiration to read. Everything is put into perspective – why live a life filled with regret when it can be embraced in full in every moment and filled with joy.

    1. It seems so silly to make our life about regretting what could have been, when I feel regret I actually make it all about me without taking responsibility for living what I know and feel is true and yes Stephanie, filled with joy.

  63. Just the right artcile to take the appreciation of me and my life, about life in general and all the beautful insights that have been brought to me, to a deeper level. I have really turned my life around, thanks to the teachings of Serge Benhayon. These teachings showed me the way to go, but I am the one that applied them in my life.

    1. The appreciation of knowing that many have discovered the path of self-care and self-honouring as presented by the Ageless Wisdom and Serge Benhayon is one to be pondered on deeply. There is a commitment from within each of us that is needed to reconnect to who we are within, and that is to be greatly appreciated.

  64. It’s easy to see how precious our situations and choices can be/are when theres the potential of it being cut short, be it our lives or a self-caring choice I may drop from repeating in my life. Once I pick it back up, like feeling the benifit of exercise, dropping it and returning to it, theres a moment to appreciate and welcome it back. Makes me wonder why I don’t experience this or appreicate what is already here.

  65. The is a death of sorts in not living all that we are. We tend to fear our physical death – but is the real fear that we will never live ‘all of us’ whilst we are alive?

  66. I have just listened to the Science of Appreciation on Unimedliving and I’m realising that appreciation encompasses not just appreciation of yourself but everything, and most importantly involves intimacy with life and people. Perhaps the reason we avoid appreciation and instead live with regrets, is because appreciation is incredibly powerful and also comes hand in hand with intimacy – which can be at first painful to feel. Your blog Nicole beautifully describes the intimacy with people and life that is at the heart of appreciation and what’s in it for us if we go there.

  67. Yeah, why do we grow up to take everything for granted? We complicate our lives simply because we don’t appreciate the simplicity that’s there before us.

  68. It is true that we hold an arrogance about us that says ‘I’ll change when i have to’ in the sense that I might be totally aware that I have ways I am living that are not loving, and yet I keep testing the waters. seeing how much I can get away with before I’m called to a stop. And yes it is only with appreciating and valuing myself that I am able to start to build a foundation of this, rather than a bank of things I’ve been able to get away with.

  69. Living is to be appreciated and the detail when appreciated is exquisite. Thank you for the beautiful, tenderer and loving reminder to not waste a moment or a breath of what is available to us.

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