To Observe and Not Absorb

Recently I have started to appreciate the energetic changes in myself, and how I work with people. I was reflecting on my career in health and social care and thought back to the days I used to absorb everything. I was literally a human sponge for any emotion that was flying around; the more intense, painful and heavy the emotion, the more I seemed to attract it! 

I often was in deep sympathy with my clients and would want to take away their pain; this meant I jumped in the well to save them, leaving us both stuck in the mud.

When working at hospital I would feel absolutely exhausted, drained and often sad. After work I would think of the patients I met that day, often waking up in the night worrying about something I said, or how I could have made it better for them.

This absorbing of emotions did not just happen at the hospital… I used to absorb the bus driver’s frustration, my friend’s distress, my parents’ expectations, the anguish on the news, the angst in the shopping center the list goes on… no wonder I was a nervous wreck!

As you can imagine, having all these emotions flying about the place and me acting as a sponge absorbing them left me quite confused as to who I truly was.  The boundaries of who I was and who was another would become foggy – I would be left feeling out of sorts and agitated. Sometimes I even came away with the symptoms of my patients.

All this absorbing of others’ emotions was leading to a path of illness and disease.

I could sense this and could also see this in many of my colleagues who were stressed and burnt out. Thankfully I made a stop. I knew if I continued the way I was going I would end up mentally, emotionally and physically very ill.

So what happened?

I was introduced to Universal Medicine and it was here I learnt about the Gentle Breath Meditation™. I learnt about energy and how to discern it – that is, how to still feel it, but to not let it in and affect me.

“Taking other people’s stuff on creates 80% of illness and disease in this world absorbing others people’s stuff is poison, which you cannot debase so easily to heal. By Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings and Revelations A New Study for Mankind, page 486

This has been life changing and a true miracle for me. I care deeply for all those I meet and now to the best of my ability live by the principle ‘observe and not absorb’: this allows me to be a 100 million times better carer, reflecting true love and healing rather than emotionally wanting to save someone (= exhausting!).

This is of course a constant work in progress and sometimes I still find myself absorbing the energy around me, but thanks to Universal Medicine I have an array of tools I use to help get me back to me.

The Gentle Breath Meditation™ is a fantastic tool to help keep me centered, in touch with who I truly am, and focused on the present moment. This allows me to give the best to those I work with without draining myself in the process.

By Samantha England, Health and Social Care Assessor, Norfolk UK 

Further Reading:
Gentle Breath Meditation in Daily Life
The Gentle Breath Meditation™ & Discovering my Inner Self

1,340 thoughts on “To Observe and Not Absorb

  1. There is a real focus on the other person and their care and wellbeing when I absorb, instead of starting with me and my connection and letting everyone take care of themselves. It doesn’t mean there is a lack of care from my part, just not an emotional attachment. I can’t say enough how destructive sympathy is, I know we consider it a form of care but it’s the main reason I absorb another’s pain, emotion or distress. That doesn’t help either of us. The body really reveals what the truth is about words (like sympathy) and the energy behind them.

  2. I agree Samantha, the Gentle Breath Meditation is a fantastic tool that we continually have on tap to support and nourish us throughout life.

  3. Powerful sharing. The unfortunate reality that in today’s world many don’t yet know the fact that we absorb the emotions of others. Just having this article on the Internet is bringing the awareness of this very real fact into the minds of us all.

  4. Learning to hold steady, to just observe what’s going on around us without getting emotionally attached and/or entangled is a great support to ourselves and others. When we get emotionally wrapped up in stuff, it’s easy to lose ourselves in it and the steady reflection that we could offer to each other- the reminder that says there’s more to you than your emotions, and your emotions aren’t an intrinsic part of who you are- is wobbled. Observing and staying steady is far more loving than wading in and attempting to fix everything, hoping to make ourselves feel better. Observation doesn’t mean taking no action and not speaking up, but bringing understanding to a situation so that everyone can see their part more clearly and we can tap into that sense of knowing just what’s needed in that moment.

  5. To be sympathetic towards another one must hold the upper ground, a kind of supremacy that is looking down and pitying another without reading the situation or bringing any true respect or understanding to the the other. Not so noble when we look at it like this.

  6. An inspiring blog Samantha. Observing and not absorbing is a great antidote to exhaustion and the sticky, cloying energy of sympathy that pulls everyone down.

  7. Sympathy is a shocker as it is so harming to everyone and as you so beautifully expressed Samantha it simple keeps us all stuck in the mud. And why we jump in the mud to ‘save’ someone has to examined as we need to identify what is in it for us; what are we getting out of this?

    1. Good point kathleenbaldwin. We can learn a lot about ourselves and our behaviours if we we are willing to look more closely at the how and why we respond or react the way we do. When we get to see what is in it for us we can go deeper still and root out those ways of thinking and being that inhibit the great love that there is for us to share.

  8. There is such a difference when we can observe life and not absorb life, and in this observation we can respond rather than react, and in that response, we free ourselves and others and support each other in a way that is not imposing or exhausting.

  9. “This absorbing of emotions did not just happen at the hospital… I used to absorb the bus driver’s frustration, my friend’s distress, my parents’ expectations, the anguish on the news, the angst in the shopping center, the list goes on… no wonder I was a nervous wreck!” This is such a great listing of things we absorb. We are very sensitive beings and can feel what is going on with others, which is super great and it is so very important to acknowledge and honour that and then it is so important to understand that we do not have to take on what is going on around us but can observe without being sucked into the (e)motion or counter it with another, but simply feel. And it is amazing how much more this helps another and ourselves. There is clarity then and a beholding love.

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