Appreciating the Stillness Within and Sound Around Me

I recently had a moment where I felt for the first time how there could be absolute stillness within me amongst the many sounds of life: cars, trucks, planes, television, people, children, animals, you name it, there is constant sound that goes on around us.

This feeling of being in stillness is something that most of us rarely get to feel or experience because of the busy-ness of life. It was not until recently that I got to feel there could be absolute stillness within all that goes on around me.

At first this was one of the oddest experiences I had ever felt: children playing around me, friends having a conversation and a pot sizzling away on the stove. All of this and yet, whilst I stood there amongst it all, there was a sense of complete stillness within and around me.

I had not ever truly stopped to appreciate this before. Sure I had felt it briefly but never had I actually stopped to allow myself to appreciate it to the level that I did that morning.

It was the most beautiful thing I had ever felt. A complete stillness, as if the whole world had stopped, as if time stood still and was no longer a factor in life, as if I had all the time in the world.

I realised in that moment it had been the appreciation I had been missing, something I had chosen to overlook and ignore for such a long time.

It was not something I had given a lot of thought to: life just happened, how I was or lived simply was. It was from this level of appreciation I was able to feel something I had never felt before – the stillness both within and around me.

In my body there was a relief, a letting go, and a complete surrender to all that was and is. The stillness I felt within me had been there all along and is always there, I had simply chosen to ignore it and fell into the traps of life – traps that kept me in a momentum where I did not allow myself to “stop and smell the roses” you could say. And wow, what beautiful roses they are when we truly take the time to stop and appreciate.

In this stillness came a new appreciation for myself and all those around me: being able to feel the absolute joy and beauty in people, children, animals and nature, blessing me in every way.

No longer pushing through, looking past what was directly in front of me, but now feeling how the appreciation in all that is supports me to hold, deepen and develop further the amazing connection I have with myself.

Allowing me to appreciate myself is to love the woman I am and to love, understand and appreciate all others. We are all unique in our own way, but what we all have in common is the absoluteness within that we hold in our hearts.

No matter how we choose to live, the inner quality that lives within our hearts never leaves, it is always with us, supporting us no matter what, without judgement or criticism.

Within this stillness I could feel the strength of this inner quality, the inner being that supports us to be all that we are, if we so choose. And yes, it is a choice, a choice we must make for ourselves, one that no-one else can force us to make, a choice that needs to be made by and from us.

The appreciation has since supported me to live in a way that is free from complication and overwhelm, forever bringing ‘stop’ moments to my day, even though they may be only for a second, constantly reminding me that the stillness is eternal: it never stops and it never leaves, no matter how busy or noisy we may think things are, there is a stillness within that outweighs whatever it is that goes on outside of us.

A stillness within, where time has no measure, with the inner heart making the decisions – decisions that are in line with and supportive of the body: a body that now feels soft, supple, tender and delicate and yet at the same time stronger than ever before.

As I sit here writing this, the sound around me goes on: a television, an electric saw and a cement truck in a backyard, a toddler singing, a baby eating and our daughter playing piano, and yet the stillness within is stronger than all else.

It is with the loving support and sharings of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon that I have been able to reach this level of appreciation for myself and all that I am surrounded by. I know this appreciation will continue to develop and deepen as my own level of self-appreciation does.

It is time, time to stop, feel all that we are, all that we are surrounded by and appreciate the stillness within the all.

By Nicole Serafin, woman, wife, mother, hairdresser, Tintenbar NSW

Further Reading:
Stillness
Anxiousness, Stillness, God, and Me
Appreciation – A Pathway to Love
What is the Science of Appreciation and How Does It Evolve All of Our relationships?

1,103 thoughts on “Appreciating the Stillness Within and Sound Around Me

  1. Very beautiful how connecting and appreciating the stillness within actually connects us with all that is around us.

  2. I can feel how there is really no need for searching the stillness but simply allowing myself to settle within me and appreciate all that there is. Thank you Nicole.

  3. Thank you Nicole, you offer us an view on greater appreciation. When we don’t have it we talk badly, but even when things are truly going well, we find it hard to stop seeing the negative. Hence, appreciation in our lives is absolute key and allows us to sink deeper, feel more ourselves and the other and actually grow respect and love with each other.

  4. Beautiful Nicole, we don’t need to sit cross-legged and meditate for hours to reach stillness, I tried that and I always felt tension in my body. Stillness is forever within us waiting for us to connect to, when we embrace and live this quality we feel how simple and easily life can flow.

  5. “I know this appreciation will continue to develop and deepen as my own level of self-appreciation does.” Appreciation is self-perpetuating and ever deepening once established.

  6. This blog is a great reminder to appreciate the ‘stillness within where time has no measure’ as the world around us tries to tease and lure us back into its fast paced and unrelentness momentum.

  7. When we have negative self critical thoughts, these are very harming to our bodies, whereas when we
    appreciate ourselves, this is very nourishing for all the cells of our body, and the more we appreciate, there becomes less space to self-bash.

  8. When we’re overly focused on getting tasks on our to-do list done and ticked off, could it be because we’re not connecting to this stillness, this feeling of space within us, that doesn’t demand anything of us and just allows us to be? Always our choice: identify with what’s ‘out there’ – getting things done, complete, ticked off – which yes, is important and does contribute to our wellbeing, but not when we’re overly identified with those things, or, connect to our bodies and that absolute knowing of who we are, through feeling that space and stillness within.

  9. I experienced this sense of stillness the other day while with a group of people who were conversing, I felt a part of the group but at the same time I also had a sense of looking on and observing while feeling the stillness within me.

  10. I love how bringing awareness to any form of rush or raciness in my day, it can be changed in an instant by simply pausing to observe it and choose to ‘drop into’ the innate stillness within. Esoteric Yoga continues to be an amazing foundation for this to deepen. http://www.unimedliving.com/yoga/stillness/stillness.html
    “The stillness I felt within me had been there all along and is always there, I had simply chosen to ignore it and fell into the traps of life.”

  11. It is like we can be constantly going and going in our days, even when we sit still inside it can feel racy and this is very tiring. We need this stillness in harmony with the motion and a true moment of stillness is my day can be way more vitalising than a nap on the couch.

  12. Yes, Nicole, I have experienced something similar recently, and very much enjoyed being in complete observation of life in all of its interactions and movements, not separate from it but very much in my own space and quality of being within it all.

    1. Same here Janet, and it occurs in the early hours of the morning. I work in the community and I start work early when most people are still sleeping. It is at this time that i feel all the stillness around me, and when I feel the most settled in my body. Work in progress to maintain this throughout my day!

  13. Nicole, thank you for sharing this, it is very beautiful to read; ‘The appreciation has since supported me to live in a way that is free from complication and overwhelm, forever bringing ‘stop’ moments to my day, even though they may be only for a second,’ what you are sharing feels very tangible and inspires me going into my working day, knowing that no matter what is going on around me I can always connect to my stillness within and that I do not need to get caught up in the busyness.

  14. To realise that there is this enormous depth of stillness within our body, and that we walk around with this right under our nose, everyday, is like discovering an ‘Aladin’s Cave’ within… The wealth of this realisation is priceless, and one that makes us appreciate our body and how we treat it, with so much more honouring, value and respect.

  15. I was recently reading about how sounds affect people. For example studies have been done showing that people playing loud music or speaking loudly on trains make other people angry or sad and this can last for hours afterwards. I am sitting on a very noisy and very late train right now and appreciating the reminder that being affected by things outside of us is actually a choice.

  16. I had the wonderful experience yesterday of walking home from work after a heavy snowfall here where I live which brought the whole town and area to a standstill. There was a real sense of stillness in the air and I could see how it was an opportunity for everyone – adults and children alike to stop and reconnect with the stillness that is always there but often neglected or ignored in the constant busyness and hubbub of life.

  17. Self appreciation is the nourishment our bodies love to receive as opposed to the usual critic and self bashing voice in our head that drives and pushes us to do more….whether our bodies are tired or not.

  18. As a kid and sometimes as an adult these days I would get sensory overload from everything around me. These days when it happens and everything is “too much” it’s because I have lost my connection to my body and the Stillness within. A lot if not all of the buzz of life’s antics comes from a place that lacks Stillness and this gets (if isn’t already) out of control very fast. This busyness disturbs our sensitivity.

  19. When you connect deeply to stillness and through it to the pulse of the universe, you can see clearly how our mundane life does not truly belong to that order, while we do but not the physical form we apprehend through our senses.

    1. There is so much more to us than meets the eye. We are multi-dimensional beings, who have access to universal intelligence when we return to a way of living that is simple, truthful and love-full which is the way of our Soul.

  20. Stillness to me today feels like an appreciation of expansion, in movement. When we connect to and feel stillness, we also feel space.

  21. When the internal stillness becomes more familiar it has a clear reflection on the outside that we can often not appreciate. It is a steadiness others find supportive and is a reminder of how much more there is to life than we are living. When I feel it in others I am reminded of the all we are from.

  22. Beautiful to stop and re-connect with this innate stillness, and that this is possible in a world that is not as yet reflecting this quality. In stillness there is space, depth and quality, which is so nourishing to feel and appreciate. Thank you Nicole.

  23. Just before reading this blog I was appreciating how I allowed myself a super early night knowing I had an early start and how much more gorgeous and still I feel for having chosen that honouring of my body.

  24. You have captured so perfectly how space expands when we appreciate the stillness that is always within and around us but so rarely acknowledged. Thank you for your heartfelt appreciation.

  25. This is totally gorgeous Nicole, reading it you offer moments to feel the depth of our stillness and the power of appreciation.

  26. This isn’t a one off,”It is time, time to stop, feel all that we are, all that we are surrounded by and appreciate the stillness within the all.” I have done this from time to time or attached it only to the ‘big ticket’ items and yet what is truly being said is “all” and so no matter the picture or the perceptions it matters not to stillness. I have found my feet again in this way and the awareness this article has supported me with touches deeper into what was being written about. In another way the true quality of this article has allowed and supported me to see and hold the very essence of what is being presented, magic.

  27. I was watching a bird of prey, still hovering above its prey yesterday, and it was as if the world stopped, the stillness was palpable.

  28. This is a very settling blog Nicole – and one that asks us all to look at the grandness and absolute beauty we are part of and from and the fact that we can do that in ‘stop’ moments anytime, anywhere.

  29. “I had simply chosen to ignore it and fell into the traps of life.” This is amazing because it is not always I allow myself to notice that it’s my choice to fall into the traps, that it doesn’t just ‘happen’. I make it that way.
    To acknowledge this gives me responsibility and work to be done.

    1. Yes, acknowledging that it is always a choice that things don’t ‘just happen’, is very empowering, freeing one from the victim mentality that can be so overwhelming.

  30. “This feeling of being in stillness is something that most of us rarely get to feel or experience because of the busy-ness of life. It was not until recently that I got to feel there could be absolute stillness within all that goes on around me.” I feel most still after a session of Esoteric Yoga and it is very much like you describe here.

  31. ‘the stillness is eternal: it never stops and it never leaves, no matter how busy or noisy we may think things are, there is a stillness within that outweighs whatever it is that goes on outside of us.’ … this is just beautiful and I can feel the well of stillness in how you are, and I love how you describe your experience and remind all of us that the stillness is always there no matter how crazy the world, and thank you for reminding me of that today.

    1. That reminder that stillness is a constant, that we leave it, ignore it, twist it often, but it stays as a constant waiting for us to come back to. It is a holding that encapsulates movement and stillness at the same time. The more familiar we are with it, the more familiar we see how vital it is as a foundation in our lives.

  32. “A stillness within, where time has no measure, with the inner heart making the decisions – decisions that are in line with and supportive of the body: a body that now feels soft, supple, tender and delicate and yet at the same time stronger than ever before.” beautiful Nicole. Esoteric Yoga supports me to feel the stillness within myself.

  33. Nicole you have beautifully captured the expansion that appreciation offers. It seems to be the missing link that connects us back to the vastness God.

  34. It was interesting reading this while I have so much noise going on around me, and all I can feel is tension in my body. It’s early morning, and I’m used to the quiet and not ready for the jolts of the clanging in the kitchen etc. I find it difficult to find the stillness within, and realise how I allow external factors to constantly affect me. I make what’s going on around me so much bigger than me, I give my power away to it and almost give up when I don’t like what I feel. I see there is another way to go about it though, and that’s a work in progress.

  35. That was gorgeous to read Nicole. It gave me a moment to appreciate the stillness within. A moment to appreciate I’m not absorbing what is going on around me but observing, giving me space to smell the roses.

  36. It seems to me that there is a choice. It is busy all around us no question – that is the way the world is configured, its demanding, its what we have grown up with. Yet we have all had experiences where we feel still inside, and I know I can move in the world with that stillness. So do we let the world draw us into its motion, or do we inspire those around us to have a bit more stillness by the quality in which we move?

  37. Appreciation is a neverending path that I’ve just initiated and been aware of it since recently. The magic of this is that there are no timetables or rules for appreciation. It’s always at my hands and at anytime, to explore, deepen and receive what unfolds in my life when I live with appreciation… and the difference that is felt is huge

  38. That stillness within for me is my connection with God and with that connection I stand strong, in whatever comes to me. I now can appreciate that life is an offering for healing, to heal the hurts I have allowed into my life from living to ideals and beliefs instead..

  39. You are right, it is time to stop and appreciate what is inside us, something that has never left us and is there to be re-connected to at any point. Little moments of stop.

  40. What you offer us here is beautiful Nicole and it is so precious to have, to live from one’s stillness despite the busyness and possible chaos around us.

  41. We do get given these gifts, these windows of appreciation where we can stop and look and then be inspired to live in a way that makes what we have seen and everyday occourance.

  42. Beautifully expressed and deeply felt Nicole, this blog highlights the exquisite stillness we can all experince with every choice we make – living this everyday builds a true and loving consistency that has a powerful flow on effect to others.

  43. Thanks for the beautiful sharing of the quality of stillness that is part of everyday-ness. It is surrendering to what is already with-in and is always there no matter what is around. It’s simply a choice – a truly beautiful choice when we give ourselves permission to stop for a moment and appreciate all we already are.

    1. I used to think I could only achieve stillness when meditating in silence or when on my own, with no distractions, but this is not the case. Not that I have nailed it yet, but stillness can be part of our everyday, and I so enjoy those moments when I am connected. For me its worth the commitment to keep re-choosing it each time I forget.

      1. I agree Debra, it is very worth coming back to as many times as required. Like anything I don’t do it once and say I can tick that box because it’s done. I have to allow it to become part of my rhythm moment to moment not days or weeks.

  44. True Stillness is a ceaseless movement that is part of the breath of the Universe, an endless continuum through which we feel our connection with the All we are part of.

  45. Nicole, as by your blog, it gives me the feeling inside me that I can not escape appreciation, even though I tried it and was the most committed to do so (escape).. But I sense from this blog, that the need to destruct, simply came from the lack of love I had carried inside my body for so long.. and that this has nothing to do with who I am. A huge lesson, and a space I am now offering myself to – APPRECIATE.

  46. Beautiful to re-read and feel the changes within myself since writing my previous comment. As I begin to feel the beauty in others regardless what’s on the surface and appreciate it, I am finding it’s impossible to react in that moment as there is only love. What is becoming apparent is that there are so many moments in a day to appreciate but it is not just those moments to appreciate; the subtle feelings of appreciation towards myself which in deed can go deeper are certainly worth appreciating!

  47. Appreciation, I am realising more and more, is what allows us to know and feel that we are so much more that what we think, whereby we can explore the stillness we are within and live this with this steadiness in the world we are in. As you have said ‘…stillness within is stronger than all else.’ – we need only to connect and surrender to it, and appreciate that this deliciousness is who we really are.

  48. I have really felt how much easier it is to appreciate myself when I allow space in my day, along with making self honouring choices, but it is in allowing there to be space, when i am not rushing from here or there, what I am not ‘doing’ something or checking out. It is just allowing myself to be, this naturally allows for appreciation to be present naturally so.

  49. When I was growing up stillness was something unfamiliar to me not that I ever knew that. It wasn’t until recent years I discovered the feeling I lived my entire life with was anxiousness – I had always thought this was a part of me. Chaos within a body that was paralysed with fear was with a body that presented as a quiet shy child.

  50. An interesting take on stillness that is a movement. We often think of being still as having no movement at all but what I see is described in this article is a stillness that is moving. A stillness that is a part of every day and very much within the world but not being affected by what goes on around it. From this place it would seem everything is known and you are able to see clearly what is coming and going. I wonder why life is seemingly getting busier and busier or faster and faster, is it because the world knows that if you have stillness you have everything and then the world would cease to exist in the way it does? From what I see everything is geared away from us choosing to be still, all the more reason to dedicate to being still. The world isn’t working and statistics seem to be showing we are getting more and more unwell. It looks as though it’s a great time to read why we are being pushed so fast and possibly try a ‘moving’ stillness.

  51. That is so true Nicole, as we deepen the love for ourselves (so through appreciation) we become more aware of our enviroment and the impact it has and we have on it.. we simply also become aware and appreciative of our enviroment. Simply gorgeous example of how love works.

  52. Thank you, Nicole. Your sharing reminded me of my first Esoteric Breast Massage, well, first ever esoteric of all kinds – and I didn’t know the word stillness back then, but the quietness I recognized and felt despite everything that was going on around me was just amazing to behold. I had no idea what I was feeling, but I remember wanting to stay in that space forever.

  53. Appreciating a moment of complete stillness; how gorgeous Nicole. Allowing yourself to appreciate the beautifully divine woman you are certainly does allow yourself to appreciate the same in others. Thank you for sharing this powerful message.

    1. Hear Hear Shirl Scott – this awesome blog by Nicole Serafin reflects the quality of stillness with every work I read.

  54. Beautiful Nicole. It is very inspiring when another embodies and embraces the appreciation within themselves and within the all and it then becomes another marker to gauge where they are at. I know appreciation is missing in my life and I also know that I cannot truly appreciate another unless I am appreciating me first… it starts with me.

  55. ‘Allowing me to appreciate myself is to love the woman I am and to love, understand and appreciate all others’ Before we can understand others, first we must love and appreciate ourselves.

  56. I love what you have expressed here Nicole; learning to appreciate and claim what we know to be true within our hearts, what a blessing. The choice and the responsibility as to the quality we live is always ours;
    “No matter how we choose to live, the inner quality that lives within our hearts never leaves, it is always with us, supporting us no matter what, without judgement or criticism”.

  57. One of the many qualities of the beauty of stillness is the space we are in, connected to something greater and there is no time.

  58. Very beautiful sharing Nicole – stillness is within us all, and as you have said, we are often not living from this place, but the buzziness of life. I can feel the moment as you share it, still and appreciating this moment of stillness, a moment that can become more and more…

  59. Thank you Nicole for this beautiful reminder, that the stillness is always there no matter what is going on around us.

  60. Thank you Nicole because after reading your blog I can feel that I can make the space to appreciate those moments of stillness I feel throughout my day when I feel absolutely rock solid, yet very gentle and tender.

  61. I had an experience of that yesterday afternoon as I sat outside a busy shopping centre, I just sat – no phone, no distraction. I observed people, noises, but they were just there. I have often felt assaulted in a sensory sense in busy shopping centres, there is the smell, the sound, the visual lures and the energy. It was such a gift to be there yesterday and simply observe all those things, not be affected by them or let them consume me.

  62. Sometimes it takes a stop moment to allow us the opportunity to break the raciness we run ourselves with that separates us from the harmony we naturally are, allowing us the opportunity to honestly feel where we are at and the space to develop a true and deep relationship with ourselves so that we are able to return to the innate stillness within that we naturally connected to as a child.

  63. I read this like a movie, where you look at your life and see all the precious moments you missed because of the rush, but you are there and simply observing it all, appreciating and sharing with us!

  64. Instead of appreciating myself and my life I became very self-critical and lost myself in a drive and busyness to get things done and to feel a sense of achievement to my life. Now having the opportunity to deepen my connection and relationship with myself I am starting to feel the innate stillness that is there, a powerful and steady guiding presence that supports us the more we choose to accept and appreciate our true selves.

  65. How beautiful to read your words today. “The stillness I felt within me had been there all along and is always there, I had simply chosen to ignore it and fell into the traps of life.” I am finding this myself at the moment, that a reaction, worry or distress can feel quite big, almost unsolvable, yet despite it all the stillness is ever present within and undisturbed. It’s just up to me to choose to be with it.

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