717 thoughts on “The Force Behind Rage”

1. Observing and being aware of when we choose the energy of force is to know that we have made that choice. This offers the choice to come back to yourself and choose harmony.

2. In this understanding it explains why some people have road rage, and why their enormous reaction to another driver is very out of proportion with what has actually occurred, as they have been building up emotion and pressure within themselves for a longer period than just one road trip.

3. Everything about what you have shared RBS for me was about the importance of observing and being willing to understand, so we don’t react to or become hurt by another’s inability to be themselves, and the resultant loveless abuse we may have witnessed or experienced through another. That observation and understanding, as well as not condoning the abuse, can support us to not be affected by and then become part of such cycles of abuse where we too become a medium for the same loveless force. I really appreciate reading this today, it’s very beautifully expressed with honesty and openness, thank you.

4. How important is it then to choose wisely which energy we align to, ‘I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’

5. Understandably war and aggression stands out and can be felt by many as it is very invasive into our aura but what if the do gooders and this falsity is even worse and we let it go and not feel the ensuing harm because we consider being good as okay?
   This opens the door to us living in a way that is true and appreciating the essences we all come from and letting people in, in the most natural and intimate way so we feel the harm no matter where it comes from.

6. Yesterday I got to feel how I had been carrying the energy of rage within me. It felt toxic and if not addressed definitely would of materialised as a serious disease. It felt lifetimes old and I feel so much lighter and at ease within myself for starting to let it go.

7. To avoid that deeper and more intimate conversation with ourselves is an abdication of responsibility to ourselves and the wider family and community we are part of.

8. Making space to understand what the frustrations that we live with are so they do not feed the rage that comes through us in moments of explosion is an opportunity to address rage on a much deeper level.

9. A very powerful sharing on the true harm of abuse and violence. Your understanding and awareness around this is super important to bring to everyone’s attention, as too many have settled for some abuse as being ‘normal’, and this is causing deep problems in our society on a daily basis.

10. This is a great conversation to start. If we are innately loving as human beings and capable of acts of great love and care then how is it possible we can be so violent and cruel? There must be something that comes over us or into us that can make human beings act in such inhumane ways.

11. Rage is one of the classic reactions, made all the more terrible because of the force that comes with it. But it has many related reactions and each one can be felt rising up and taking over who we are, the love we are, the vulnerable, beautiful people we are. We no longer see clearly and that is to everyone’s detriment.

12. No one is violent by nature – I agree – yet violence is globally happening every day of the week. I very much appreciate this very honest and personal account of your experiences, it initiates some great questions, such as, what turns someone from a gentle, sweet amazing human being to a person who could harm another – it’s a question well worth exploring.

    1. One of the contributing factors that can cause a person to be violent could be that they have not healed their hurts, and that their hurts have been triggered.

13. What a great blog RBS and it is super cool that you are beginning the conversation about rage, abuse and violence in this way by being so honest about your own experiences. We do need to look beyond the obvious harm in abuse and deepen our understanding of what is occurring and how a human being can be so hurt or lost in themselves that they are capable of harming another human being.

14. Understanding that we have free will to choose the energy we align to is a great step in understanding why we act or react in one way or another.

    1. It is a choice to react, or respond, and could that choice affect what energy runs through us?

15. When unresolved emotions build up they reach a point of exploding unless we are able to resolve the issue either by communicating what is going on, or by understanding that the anger we feel, is being fed to us through an energy that we have aligned to.

    1. Yes, it is so important to communicate and express what is going on for us, and that can lead to a whole new level of understanding.

16. If rage is released after a long time emotional build up, then the responsibility is to not wait for this build up and to address it immediately when felt. No one can ever push or hurt us, this is the responsibility we have to be aware of, we create as well as un-create everything in our lives with energetic responsibility or there lack of.

17. Rage is an energy I know well, it comes from not expressing what is felt and that suppression gets accumulated for years or even lifetimes of feeling being compromised (our own choice to not express) and we then blame this on a focal point, towards another who has to also work at their pattern of accepting abuse. What rage presents is—if we ignore and disregard our own feelings long enough due to the ideals accepted, then we are being extremely uncaring to the deeply preciousness that we are. And the only result that can come to this is to direct abuse to another. The lack of care to ourselves is what grieves is and it is exploded in how we treat another, most of the time towards our closest people as there is the accepted ideal that we can abuse family. So can’t we see that the gold that comes from a so-called horrible or fearful situation is the expose that we are governed by so many ideals that take us away from ourselves and the result of that would always be far from love. In the process, we start to return to ourselves, the us that we deeply miss.

18. Once understanding sets in and we are back to being ourselves—for we have chosen to feel and be the deeply caring us, that we are able to feel and care for another.

    1. Absolutely, spot on.

19. This explains why global politics is so hard, why as nations across the world we still find difficulty in working together, because at the end of the day, there can still be a protection in place that can take both sides out of normal rational thinking and in to extreme acts of violence.

20. Understanding that it is possible to heal, and to actually become whole, even if our life has been dominated by violence and abuse, would seem absolutely unreachable to many. And yet in the process of returning back to who we truly are even deep abuse can be healed.

21. I am fascinated to read how you felt an energy enter into your body to act in rage, and can very much relate to frustration building up towards rage. For me, it has a lot to do with denying my vulnerability and hurt, and holding back expression. I can feel how toxic that built-up energy is and how that becomes an entry point for a force to attack and take charge.

    1. Expressing is so important, in many ways, ‘I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment, rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time’.

22. Being forceful with another person is unnatural. On our own, we cannot be. Yet, if we leave ourselves behind, we may find situations in life in which we enter a relationship with a force that in exchange of submission to it, promises us to take care of ourselves. But while it helps us to take care of ourselves in a certain level, it devastates us in a deep way. When we start resorting to it, it owns us and when that happens life provides us with extensive opportunities to use it.

    1. Its a great point Eduardo… if we use that force once then we are more likely to use it again, and the consequences of living in that reaction are devastating not just for us but also for the people around us.

    2. So true, we seem to be constantly assessing what will keep us safe from that hurt, what will ease our pain. In this case it is possible to see that getting ‘revenge’ for the pain inflicted on a loved one, might ease the pain of being vulnerable and feeling powerless to change what had been done. Yet, when the moment of rage has passed, there is the deeper ache of asking how you could have used the same force as the original assault when you knew all along it was not right. That is an ache that stays a lot longer.

23. You have brought a lot of understanding to how a person gets to the point where they can commit violent acts. Feeling unsafe, separate and untrusting seem to be key. This understanding is very much needed to allow people to restore and clear these behaviours and ways of dealing with life’s challenges, instead of further developing them in the prison system.

    1. It would be great for the whole world to have this understanding, then people may start to realise what is behind a lot of killings.

       1. Could it be possible that we are run by energy, and we have a choice of which energy we allow to enter, and run our bodies, ‘The thoughts were quite shocking and I could feel at the time that they did not come from or belong to me.’

24. A great reminder Brendan, we always have a choice to either respond or react, taking this responsibility is life changing and supports to deepen all our relationships.

25. This is a powerful blog offering great insights into the force of rage, and how easily it can enter our bodies if we allow ourselves to separate from love and truth. When we understand how energy works we can then make choices that support us to stay aligned to love where abuse and rage cannot exist.

    1. I agree Anna. Not understanding energy, (as most of the world does not) we see the behaviour as who we are. We might feel guilt, self-loathing, shame etc as a result which only creates a bigger opening for the energy of rage to enter.

26. Rage is an extremely destructive emotion that is the end of the line for our unresolved frustrations that have accumulated – so we actually have a responsibility to actually address them before we explode.

27. ‘I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’
    This brings understanding and the responsibility to stay connected to our true core or seek support if we can’t do this ourselves.

28. “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage.” The energy of force that is behind the abuse harms the perpetrator as well as the victim.

29. We like to think that we are in control of everything, even when we are reacting to something like in the case of rage. Yet this is not the case and realising this is truly liberating but very disturbing to the part of us that wants to keep thinking that we are the controllers of everything.

30. This blog is deeply healing with the honesty it is written from – this force of rage sounds akin to a ‘red mist’ descending over the eyes and brain that closes down all reason as the force disconnects all awareness of the body, only the instinct for survival at any cost is what plays out.

31. It feels like that by being in disconnection to ourselves, we open up a space for energy to come through us that can damage other people either physically and/or psychologically for a long time to then do the same to others because as you say: “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage.”. And thus we have a great responsibility in being loving with ourselves, letting ourselves feel what we feel, talk about it with people, express our love and care and be the loving tender person we are. So we don’t leave ourselves and thus a space for evil to come in.

32. Rage is more than an explosion of constant building and momentary disconnection from the body. It is the result of a pattern of movement in disconnection from the body, due to the fact that we have said yes to abuse.

33. As there has been a rise over recent years in domestic abuse and violence it definitely feels needed to open conversations such as these, about the patterns of behaviour that can overcome us and the energy in which we move in. It is also important to note that there is always a trauma felt at a point in someone’s life that then stays within their bodies far after the event has occurred. Without an open forum to discuss what may be going on, violence and abuse will continue to escalate without support.

34. Great call to start conversations about violence and the rage that we are all capable of letting rip through us. Until we are willing to be honest about this nothing will change. Recognising that these events do not come out of nowhere and being willing to track them back and supporting, in particular, our young men to access their feelings so that they do not need to bottle them up where they are more likely to be expressed inappropriately are all necessary steps to change the direction we are going in as a society where violence seems to be increasing and so many appear to feel they are powerless to change this. We all have the power to change our own behaviour and inspire other to do the same.

35. ” We all have a responsibility for our own actions, to begin to understand ourselves and others at a much deeper level and finally begin to break these very old and extremely harmful patterns and behaviours so we may once again return to the tender, loving, caring and compassionate beings that we truly are, innately so.”
    This is very true and this day will come, and the more we work on whats true the quicker it will happen thanks for sharing.

36. Thank you for your honesty, RBS. You’ve provided a profound level of understanding about rage and how the release of it isn’t commensurate necessarily with the incident per se but is the aggregate of a series of unresolved reactions from the past that will out eventually, when sufficiently triggered. Developing this understanding in ourselves and others can assist us in managing our emotional reactions to ensure we are not carrying around lingering time-bombs that can have far-reaching impact on the lives of others.

37. How important is it to be aware of the energy we allow and choose to run our bodies, ‘if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’

38. This blog is a treasure that brings a very needed light into the violence and bullying subject. It’s clear that the person who bullies has been bullied before. This situation comes from a somehow ‘anger chain’ that just can be broken with the honesty and awareness that come from love… as only with love it is possible to understand the origin of abuse and stop the violence trend.

39. I know exactly what you are saying here RBS about the violence and abuse of the movie environment. People desire to be surrounded by sensation and sound to numb their overwhelming pain, but the onslaught that comes from such a situation is very harming. It is as if we are deliberately saying ‘yes’ to being attacked sensorily. You could feel that as a young sensitive teenager – and it probably would have been difficult to express how you were feeling for fear of being ridiculed or told you were not ‘man enough’ to take it. On those extremely rare occasions that I see a movie it is shocking to feel nowadays the onslaught of the previews and ads, even before the movie starts.

40. Lives of many people are heavily affected by the abuse that is brought to them in any shape or form independent of the severity of the abuse that is done to them.

41. Anything that is not love is not acceptable in our lives and feels horrible if we are honest, a lack of harmony, a seemingly insignificant example of self abuse, the list could go on and on.

42. A great lived example of the fact that rage is simply the symptom of a much deeper emotional issue, an issue that would have been held in the body for a very long time. It goes to show that we cannot hold back these unexpressed emotions forever, eventually the emotional ‘volcano’ will blow its top, often with unforeseen and disastrous consequences.

43. Wow RBS this is an incredible documentation on the disease of rage, resentment and frustration – all the ramifications and knock-on effects that pass from one to another like a contagion. I love how you say that we are naturally not violent or abusive being but tender, caring beings who carry a certain fragility. Truly rage can never be justified, and is the result of a big build-up.

44. This needs to be talked about and brought into the open it can be healed and stop being so prevalent in our society, ‘Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence’.

45. What you describe makes it very clear that the seemingly superhuman strength with which blows and kicks are delivered is bigger than us and comes through us, as the willing vessels and executors that we can at times permit ourselves to be.

46. It is a great point you make about rage building up in the body. It is a holding back of expression with all the little things that builds this tension. I know this within myself that the more that I express in the moment the less I am carrying and less likely I am to react as I did when I was younger, where every slight or hurt I had felt would come out all at once completely taking the other by surprise; as they had no idea this was how I was feeling as I hadn’t express anything along the way at the appropriate time.

47. ” I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time, often for months or even years, until it is finally triggered by a deep emotional reaction to something and we explode …” This supports the saying that it is the last straw breaks the camels back’.

48. I have had this sensation where a rage has gotten hold of me.It does feel like it enters your body and I have felt propelled with a force either physically or through the words I use, it heightens adrenalin and I have gotten righteous…I have not thought clearly and it has been one track to proving the other person wrong. This is energy, a choice of energy in how we are mentally and what we choose to express, it can stop if we make our life about dealing what hurts, if we do not, we have holes and where there are holes enters energy that is not us.

49. It’s taken me years to see that my anger, aggression and rage isn’t inherited, nor is it learned. It may be up to the parents, partners, etc if it is tolerated or not, but at the end of the day it comes down to the individual. It takes great honesty and introspection or awareness to begin to address why this happens.

50. I am no stranger to rage, and it seemingly comes from nowhere, but that isn’t true. Getting to the root of its cause so that we eliminate it would be a great thing. This blog opens up the conversation and bringing understanding to ourselves and others is important in the process.

51. Rage, fury and the force that both come through with is always a possibility within us. Being finely tuned to what our bodies feel like and what hurt feels like in the body, not just the physical but emotional hurt, really helps to not let that force build to the point where it explodes voluntarily or involuntarily. There is so much to learn from what you have shared here.

52. “Rage never comes in a moment, rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time” – wow. It can’t be good for our body to be storing such harmful energy like a time bomb. What if it doesn’t go off? Would that energy be let out somehow? Perhaps through illness and disease?

53. Through presentations of Universal Medicine, I have come to appreciate that every moment counts. I don’t live my life like that yet, but am working towards it. When I read this, I can see that every moment does count because we can ‘accrue’ things in every moment if we are not aware, and as in your case, frustration was accrued and then came out in rage at times. If we build more daily check-ins with ourselves, and more of a connection with our bodies and our well-being, I think we could pick this stuff up more easily, lessening the outcomes of these outbursts.

54. As men we can find it difficult to express our feelings in connection with our bodies so we react instead and bottle things up until we cannot hold it any longer resulting in bursts of rage sometimes directed at the person who has nothing to do with it in the first place. Learning to honour our sensitivities and fragility is a start in order to develop more intimacy with ourselves and all our relationships with the world around us.

55. It’s very revealing and transforming the fact of not identifying ourselves with the emotions we sometimes express. By being more observant and willing to come back to our tenderly innate nature, there is no harm possible we can express.

56. Yes identifying that there can be a force that comes through us can assist us in knowing that we are vehicles that has energy that flows through us all the time, so it is up to us to determine what type of energy we want to align to.

57. Interesting reading RBS… Interesting parallels with my own youth as well…. Hating violence, being bullied, and then cracking and handing over in your words… I became very familiar with that handing over feeling and started to integrate it into my being so to speak to the point where I made it my business. It was not until meeting Serge Benhayon and opening up to exploring the internal depths that I was able to realize what was actually going on… and the process of healing to be able to be started.

58. When we live in our hurt we are trapped into perpetual victimhood and unable to live the absolute love we each know deeply we are. It is imperative therefore that we deal with our hurts as they arise, heal,and let them go.

59. This is such a powerful blog to read and you highlight some very important points RBS around abuse and the forces we can allow in if we disconnect from our true selves. The steps you took to understand these forces at play and to begin to heal this is deeply inspiring and supportive for anyone to read.

60. Such a deeply thoughtful article here on a subject that is all pervasive, casting a a dark shadow on all of us in one way or another. We have all felt to various degrees the evil of abuse. All of us have been through conflicts, wars, times of aggression, whether it was in this life or in previous ones. And the world today is rife with abuse – from wars and terrorist attacks to abuse in the family household, and abuse of ourselves. It leaves a painful scar because abuse in any form is contra to our innate truth and nature. We are made of particles that know harmony and love, and anything that is not that, hurts to the core.

61. What a beautiful insight into not only rage but any energy that we let in. Once we let it in, it can seem like it controls us and we are lost to it. Addressing the energy itself is only partly effective. To fully address it and heal, taking a look at how and why we let the energy is the key.

62. The awareness and understanding that is shared here is monumental in today’s world where many think it is their right to retaliate with rage. Reading here and clearly being shown that it is a choice to choose the force of such an emotion albeit one from built up frustrations, is offering everyone the opportunity to look at this very real human issue, violence, in a way that may actually begin to break its hold on humanity.

63. I’ve always known the phrase ‘he wouldn’t hurt a fly’ (oft used by ‘surprised’ friends or relatives when a loved one has committed a violent crime) was a lie and this article explains why. We’re all capable of everything and anything, including murder and rape, if we are disconnected enough from ourselves and others.

64. RBS, this is a beautiful invitation that holds no judgement of another who wishes to expose the same evil. You have managed to express in a way that shows we are not the energy that comes through us but a vehicle for it. When viewed in this way we are able to observe how it happens, and find the root cause that has created the opening for this energy to come through. Becoming aware of our choices and realising we are the ones making them is true responsibility.

65. Similar to when children have tantrums, when you get fixated on something and allow in a force of rage, hurt, frustration, ‘I want my way’ etc. it’s difficult to pull ourselves out of or reason with it. You’ve posed a really interesting question; could this be because the force doesn’t necessarily come from us but what we’re choosing to align ourselves to, i.e. that rage isn’t a trait but a force we can allow through?

66. There is such a force that can come through when we go into rage, or anger, so what you have shared here RBS is so important and very honest in your awareness that you can feel is that the force that can come through isn’t you. That it is actually something that is coming through you, that it is not a part of you at all. So in the honesty, there is the capacity for a change to be made.

67. Thank you RBS for being so honest to share with us, we are shown the effects of abuse on oneanother and we can learn from this to no longer let it go that far with our behaviors.. To support ourselves to let go of them and break the old abusive cycles. Once one admits and is honest about their behaviors and have the willingness to let go – we can evolve from them, as they are no longer been given the power to – hence it will have no force to continue from.

68. RBS, I recognise from my own past experiences finding it hard to watch films with violence in them and for many of my adult years could not understand why they would want to make films like that and where would the ideas have to come from, and most importantly I knew deep down that man was capable of such atrocities, and this is what I did not want to see.

69. RBS, I have observed this rage in myself and others and notice that for me it is the result of me not expressing what I am feeling and so there is a build up of frustration that can eventually come out as rage. I notice the effects on others that rage has and how harmful and scary this can be to witness. If I have been in rage it feels absolutely awful in my body,

70. Great blog, it is incredible when one does feel a force come through us, we can sometimes feel that and have awareness that it totally not us. I have felt this, not to the level of rage, but definitely when I am being argumentative and not wanting to let something go, or wanting to be right. It never serves anyone, ever.

71. It’s interesting to read and see this type of thing from another angle. We often hold blame or judgement on someone going into a “rage” or violence outburst. Others may go into shock also but any of these ways keep us away from possibly what is really going on. If we look at these incidents in isolation then we only see the rage in a moment and don’t consider anything more deeply. A quote from the article and I agree is, “I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment, rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time, often for months or even years, until it is finally triggered by a deep emotional reaction to something and we explode in a moment of rage” That means we all have an opportunity or a choice to see it coming from a long way off as no one just gets into a rage, it builds over time.

72. Before anger, an outburst of rage or extreme violence even is agitation because there has been no expression of joy or love, which is what is naturally coming through us.

73. I know the absolute energy of rage you speak of, when weilding this force there is an absolute knowing that it is being directed towards another and is making an impact. But then after seeing its consequences its esy to see why it hurts us. What is even more revealing is that to express such energy we have to be already removed from our natural sensitivity, because the moment we felt that energy arise it would hurt us, and we would never allow it to be passed on but as things build up we choose hurt instead of love and rage becomes the chosen expression.

74. I love that you have the awareness to recognize and feel that the harm that we are capable of is not us but something we align to in that moment… yet still our responsibility as to whether we choose it or not. Harm in any form is not okay and it is up to us to allow it or heal what allows us to choose it.

75. A feeling of being incensed equates to me to a choice to be able to say “enough is enough”. This feeling is different to rage and rather than being something to be avoided, it is something to be honoured.

76. The moment we say yes to an energy that is not love by way of not dealing with our hurts, allowing them to accumulate and wanting to bury them, we have no say as to what the outplay of that energy will be. That moment when we ‘lose it’ and burst out in anger is like a dam that has ruptured in the sense that we are unable to gauge the course that the raging torrent will take and who it will annihilate in the process. Thus we must return to the initial entry point and be willing to see and feel the hurt we have buried deep within us. By being very tender with ourselves and through observation and understanding we are better able to come to a place in ourselves that holds the truth of who we are and from here ‘seal the door where evil dwells’.

77. “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage.” and unless we take responsibility to heal that which is not of our true nature, we keep meeting life tainting our experiences through these undealt emotions once we embark on this process we get to know more of the love that we are.

78. This is an astounding sharing RBS. I read this blog today because I have been feeling enraged and frustrated to tears over a situation that I have perceived to be unjust and I have wanted so much for the perceived perpetrator of this injustice to be called to account. When I find myself revelling in thoughts of this person receiving their just deserts I too become aware that I am no longer myself and I have observed that I am behaving like a caged animal ready to metaphorically bite anyone that comes too close. You remind me that I am not caged or vulnerable. I am powerful and I am made to live love. Any rage present in my body or mind is there because I have chosen to blame another rather than take responsibility.

79. Rage is definitely an emotion that builds up over time that is fed by our unresolved frustrations and resentments. But what I am learning more and more is that underneath all of our emotional reactions there is always an unresolved hurt that is the root cause and ground zero.

80. ‘The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage. It makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear.’ These words are so true and while we accept abuse as something that just happens in our society it will always shadow our every move and play with us while it reeks even more of its ugly damage and causes the creation of even more hurts that just leads on to more abuse. And so the cycle continues.

81. Deeply gorgeous blog, even though the subject itself ; rage (the force behind it) is a horrific state, but to come closer and deeply feel this fact, that this rage is not us, never was – is absolutely worth connecting to. It makes us realize that our actions may carry hurts, past pains and feelings of discomfort and even trauma, and that those unresolved hurts, feelings and issues can build and build once we set ourselves over it and deny what it is doing with us when we do not heal them. A beautiful example of how when looked at rage, we must never judge ourselves but simply feel what is underneath..

82. It is a beautiful understanding and wisdom when we can see the energy controlling a person before we see the person themselves.

83. Thank you RBS for sharing your story, yes I agree, we do need to start the conversation about rage, anger and what roles that are playing in our society, but also to bring into that conversation what energy is. This will change the conversation, not taking away responsibility, but to assist in bringing understanding to all involved.

84. It changes everything doesn’t it when we look at abuse from the perspective that every person is by their true nature loving. This then opens us to a deeper understanding, we can drop the labels we hold people in by their choices, and begin to see the mechanics behind how we can all become abusive to ourselves or others. I personally felt quite a lot of stubbornness around how I hold others who have bullied or abused me, there is that feeling to label and hold them a certain way and not separate the true loving essence of the person from their actions, and be open to understanding how they got there. I can see by holding the hurt I hold people a certain way and this also means I hold back my love – which is me holding back my true essence. This is the legacy of hurt – it’s cycling around over and over and we withdraw from ourselves and life. It’s a tricky business this abuse and yes we really need to talk about it at length and in great detail.

85. “… I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time” – when people go into ‘road rage’ it is never about the incident on the road, but something else, a build up of frustration that is triggered by a small incident. A person who has frustration building up in side them is a ticking time bomb just waiting for something to set them off and the it is BOOM!

    1. So true Sandra. Rage makes no sense when we focus on what ‘set it off’ because we are actually in reaction to choices we have been making for eons.

86. It is truly interesting that we all hold specific qualities that are deeply disturbed by specific situations (for example deep sensitivity massively disturbed by violence). When this happens, we tend to cease honouring ‘the’ quality we represent and go into massive reaction in a quality that we truly hate.

87. ‘Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us.’ Very true and to be able to understand we have to heal our own hurts and acknowledge how we love to be with each other and support each other to choose the energy of unity.

88. Realising that thoughts, feelings and actions, which are abusive are not us but an energy that has entered is life changing and a vital tool in breaking the cycle of abuse.

89. Highlighting the harm rage causes brings home the fact that unless we deal with our deep hurts the potential for rage or any other harmful emotion to surface is always a possibility.

90. Rage is often the result of not expressing and suppressing our frustrations over a period of time until we can not longer hold it for only the smallest incident to trigger an explosion of abuse. This is an important conversation to be had as a community in order to support men of all ages, as they need to be able to express their feelings in an environment that is not judging them but more understanding of where they are at.

91. Unfortunately it is very true that our rage is often so blind that we are completely disconnected from what impact we are having on ourselves and others with no sense of control or reasoning.

92. First of all movies are almost if not exclusively focused on causing some form of emotional reaction in us. What you shared about you lashing back at your brother is so common in movies where the bullied gets revenge and as an audience you feel yeah serves him/her right. But it’s all deliberately made for us to become emotionally roused up. Emotional energy is not something good even though some might think it is. It’s what makes us do these out of control things that then leaves us feeling like what the just happened. Great catch up with calling out these thoughts not being your own but you calling them in because you felt hurt or not being able to cope with the situation. Very insightful, and a great sharing, thank you.

93. I agree RBS there is a huge force behind rage, I have observed people lash out, explode about the smallest thing, as you say it’s not the moment but the build up to an event when the force is unleashed, and working out what causes the rage in the first place is the greatest start to understanding why we explode.

94. This is such an interesting insight that you offer especially when we are having many discussions as a community on the best way to support young men and violence and an understanding that violence is a stand alone issues that exists with and without alcohol and substance abuse.

95. Violence is the one thing that put me off the most. Yet, there was a time in my life I was quite angry. Reading this blog, I remembered how I used to prepare myself to fight in some situations. It was all silent and invisible. Nonetheless, it was a clear violent outburst inside my body. It even laid out a sequence of how the fight would come about. Yet, the character imaginarily fighting was not really me. I never identified myself with him.

96. Many would describe this rage to be something beyond their control and many who would ordinarily seem quite mild in their demeanour can suddenly snap – makes me wonder what is festering underneath, what words have been held back and then like an explosion it acts out, leaving the person bewildered and in disbelief that something so destructive could come through them. Then of course by then the result of their actions can be devastating.

97. Also on this same spectrum are other behaviours like being passive-aggressive, or the false niceness – manipulating others by seemingly being ‘nice’, but hiding away the force and emotion behind it.

98. Violent thoughts and violence hurled is violence first directed at ourselves for not being in connection. When there is abuse, whether self directed or externally directed, it is a wandering off from the love that we are, and to address this it is to be honest and to once again Choose Love. What that feels to me is just be super gentle to ourselves and deeply care for ourselves to begin with, with tenderly tendering to body, would we still be able to harbour harmful thoughts?

99. ‘The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage. It makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear’. This is so true RBS and it is time we began to discuss this fact with integrity, honesty and a commitment to bring understanding and break both the domino and ripple effect of such abuse.

100. When we fly into a rage it is the fury of our unresolved emotions fed by our unresolved hurts that all come tumbling out in an overwhelming avalanche…. and the ripple effect of this action can be really quite devastating to all involved.

101. It goes to show how important it is to express our feelings – to talk about what is going on for us and not to hold it back or put a dampener on it. When we hold back what is there to be shared, it builds up within a body a great tension over time, that will at some point, seek an outlet or escape. It is not too pleasant being the recipient of a backlog of unexpressed feelings nor the person wielding such force.

102. I know this rage all to well, not only from having experienced it myself but also at the hand of another. There is a distinct change within the person whereby it is as if they are taken over and they are lost in the energy and the outcome of destruction becomes all consuming. Is it any wonder that our jails are full of men and women who have succumb to this energy and often say ‘something came over me’.

103. This is a beautiful example of the extent to which our actions are the end result of a succession of things building up to it, both visible and invisible ones.

104. RBS – as you share we are not violent by nature – we all hold a tenderness for each other. And I agree with what you share here – that if we start to talk about abuse, to be honest, to get to know ourselves beyond reaction and judgement, then we can start to change abuse and how extreme it can be behind closed doors.

105. those words touch one’s soul – especially that last paragraph. Brilliantly said: ”I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.”
     This is the key to many of our issues in our world today. Let’s deal with them. As you say, lets truly start a conversation and bring up the stuff we need to heal and not be afraid for it so. Let’s expose every ill behavior we know we have acted from.

106. When you put together rage and war, we have a circumstance where the beliefs of one country are fought for, but what rage is also in play at an individual level, and what are the consequences of ultimately being asked to engage that rage and fight for your country.

107. Rage is scary, both to be on the receiving end and to have that energy run your body. I can remember when that happened to me on one occasion, and it was scary to experience that energy having a grip on me.

108. This is a wonderful blog explaining how it comes through you and not from you. I also appreciate the way you shared Michael Benhayon’s question about how long it had been building up. This is incredibly helpful to me in many areas of my life thank you for the honesty and as you say, let’s have more.

109. Rage is something we often face and can be startled to feel being expressed through us because we do not often realise consciously at that moment that that energy is actually sitting inside of us. This shows how most deal with our issues, bury them and hope they go away as we manage life, but they always have to come up somewhere as all our hurts must be healed at sometime.

110. I’ve felt that blind rage a few times in my life… and while at the time I could see it was a response to a set of conditions there was this definite feeling of allowing another energy in that took over and I became posessed of great strength but at the same time with no sense of consequences. Dangerous and intoxicating stuff, that was the product of allowing issues inside me to build up unchecked.

111. ‘…rage never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time..’ It’s so true that the consequences of rage end in tragedy but if we open the conversation to acknowledging what really goes on and addressing those moments we discount and brush over until the last straw breaks the camel’s back then this constant cycle of abuse and injustice will cease. .

112. I used to support people who had this force take over their body. It was very scary and the person was no longer there. Their eyes glazed over and one had to look to keep everyone and them safe because their actions were no longer theirs. This was an obvious example of when energy that is not love runs our bodies but I’ve got behaviours that are not loving – so where do I and how do I let this energy in? Is it so familiar I feel it is part of who I am and I am constantly opening the door to it?

113. It is amazing what we are capable of when we run with our thoughts – essentially we can turn into animals, well worse when you look at the atrocities in the world. The more we see ourselves as purely vessels for energy and that our thoughts are not our own the less we will attach to and identify ourselves by them.

114. It is great to have the awareness of the true energy behind something e.g rage, sadness, misery, bitterness .. there was an energy there first that was not stopped, cleared or healed so goes on to manifest to the next stage the more physical or emotional sign or symptom. This is what Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine teach .. to be concious, aware, discern and feel energy first and how our moment to moment choices affect this continuously. Since attending the Universal Medicine Sacred Esoteric Healing courses I have truly understood and cleared a lot of ill energy that was stored in my body which had been built up over time such as anger and sadness. You have said and shared much here, how we are not innately evil but it is an energy that comes through us, that wars or abuse do not just stop with the victim but can go on to affect families and communities and how also traumas can stay in our body from incidents for a very longtime, lifetimes, until truly cleared. I agree with you, we do need to talk about violence and the affects of it particularly as we seem to be seeing more of this at the moment globally.

115. It is always our choice which energy we align to, that of love and brotherhood, or of prana and separation, from there we are simply vessels for that energy. ‘I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’

116. Your article gives a great understanding of what can lead people to harmful acts against others- how thoughts can enter that then take you away from your essence and through your hurts your actions are justified.

117. An article of great substance… Addressing an issue that is endemic in our society now. It’s like a giant boil under the surface of the skin of humanity… Every now and then interrupts like recently in Orlando, with the mass killings, we see it in our streets in road rage, and in the domestic violence that an enormous percentage of our society cops on a daily basis. We really do need to talk about this, to bring it out into the open, because it is then lurking and unless it is addressed will truly poison our society beyond even what we see now.

118. It is great that you were aware that an energy was called in, and questioned this, understanding then gives us a choice, ‘What was this energy that I called in and how did I know to do it? It felt both familiar and scary at the same time. I knew that this energy was both harmful and dangerous as I had observed it many times in others, and always felt scared when I felt it and saw the results of this rage in action.’

119. I find being around someone who is very angry or in rage to be very frightening and intimidating, even though it was not directed at me in these instances, and have even had a few quiet tears in the past when these situations occurred.

120. A very interesting account of abuse, how we can take it on and perpetrate it, RBS. – and all through hurts that we carry. Nothing can be hidden or compartmentalised. This shows how addressing and healing our hurts has such an enormous ripple effect on everything in our lives.

121. What you bring out here RBS is how our hurts can essentially own us and take over if we allow them. Serge Benhayon has spoken for a long time on the fact that we are not our hurts, but if we let something fester and we don’t call it to light and call out how we are feeling, then absolutely our hurts can become bigger than we are. As you have explored, it is so important to understand what is behind our behaviours and reactions – in this case the violence – because then we can see how it is not actually us.

122. Since first reading this blog, I have noticed how much of life circulates around the emotional experience, with the build up of rage playing a big part.

123. “Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence.” These are very important conversations to have, RBS, and through them may we reach the understanding that you speak of.

124. As RBS has shared, it seems that so many of us might be capable of going into rage and violence, if pressed enough, and it seems the first step is that we lose ourselves first, lose our connection – and make a deliberate choice to allow the reaction, and thereafter what happens can be shocking afterwards – that we could do things we never ever thought we were capable of, and might deeply regret. So it is necessary to understand those first steps and how we allowed them to happen.

125. I’ve witnessed many people “exploding” – and it never makes sense in the context of the situation. It is often not the situation itself, but the fact that it has triggered an un-dealt-with emotional pain that has slowly been building over time.

126. War is not exclusive to itself. It is in essence no different to sport, or an argument between spouses. It is just the extreme of what can happen when we don’t deal with our stuff on a global scale. But reduce it to its essence, and it is no different. The reasons are the same. WW1 was the result of nationalism, or belief that one nation was superior to another. WW11 was the result of nationalism and a superiority complex that one race was greater than any other. Violence in sport between fans is the result of one team thinking they are superior to another. Violence between two human beings is because ultimately one feels that they are more entitled than another. Even in the case of revenge, one is justifying their actions by saying that their pain is greater than their ability to understand that in essence, the person they are seeking revenge on is ultimately just as lost and just as hurt, to the point where they have no regard for their actions. And so on. Break it all down, and you come to the conclusion that whilst ever we celebrate the illusion that we are different according to our beliefs, race, religion or gender, there will be violence, and there will be the potential for war.

     1. Why are we the only species that are the same but individually unique that discriminates against each other? Zebras are all different, but the same and they don’t start wars. It is that thing between our ears and the giant hole below our nose that has the greatest propensity to start wars!

     2. Sure Adam, the potential to abuse one another with the extremes of going to war, do come from the separated way we live and that we feel ourselves different or even superior to one another. Until we come to a point where we will see that holding on to these false beliefs is the root cause of all the abuse in the world the abuse will be there in all its gradations and will continue to devastate the lives of many people and possibly all of humanity as we take the ripple effect the abusive situations have on people into account to.

127. I have always been very frightened of rage – not just because it is so foul to witness or be on the receiving end, but because I have felt the force of it when I have let it explode in me, knowing that it knows no bounds.

128. This force that we can allow through us really needs to be spoken about. I’ve experienced it in myself and it’s been quite scary as has being around people who have let it run through them and are no- longer themselves so can do things they would never do. To understand that we are not this energy or what we do when we let it run riot through our bodies, but that we are responsible for the energy we choose to allow in.

     So often we demonize people for their actions but this doesn’t support them to become aware of what’s really going on -it just keeps them labelled as less good than another when we are all equally amazing and equally have this choice to live it so.

129. “So there it was: I was shown in an instant that if I was pushed emotionally beyond a certain point, I was capable of having evil thoughts and potentially harming another human being.” Absolutely RBS, I know as a mother of 3 young children there have been occasions where i have felt close to beating my children, in this I have felt a kind of relish in seeing it play out, for if we get lost in emotion we are all capable of abuse, even murder.

130. “We were both shocked at what happened and it changed something in the way we saw each other, for in this instance, we had both been in the same devastating energy, and we had both had to feel the horrible reality of the resulting damage that you are faced with when the rage is over.” Such a great blog RBS, accessible to all, I can so relate to this horrible reality that one feels after the rage – when the body downloads the verocity and power of the energy that it just opened up to – the shock of what we are capable of – in these moments we know how physical abuse and even murder play out.

     1. Yes, the fall out from letting the rage torrent through us is awful – a bounce back onto us of what we have expressed.

131. When we truly and deeply consider abuse one uncovers the fact that it comes in many guises and can be very subtle in it’s manifestation, but nevertheless it is none the less harmful than obvious violent abuse. So the importance of becoming aware of our actions, our speech, the tone of our voice, perhaps even the look we give another, sarcasm, put downs that are excused by the expression ‘I was only joking’ become obvious, and give us much to consider when contemplating abuse in our every day lives and how we play a part in it’s continuation and acceptance.

132. The fact that you could feel the cold hard energy of reaction come in and that it was indeed ‘not you’ or not at all a part of your natural essence holds the key to the fact that we are all recipients of energy – as was taught by Einstein lifetimes ago. There is a responsibility that we all carry to remain connected to our innermost essence and not become entangled within emotions or to deal with them when they arise, because left to their own accord they follow and live with us each and every day. Like dormant creatures, when we leave openings of undealt with issues in our lives they can compound and rear themselves at any trigger. What you have shared in this blog reminds us of our own responsibility to bring understanding to ourselves and the science of energy that we live and breathe in.

133. A great blog that exposes the fact that rage or violence are not our natural ways, but more so something we allow in when we get hurt, threatened or emotionally super charged . Very thought provoking !
     As a society or humanity there is much to learn here as the viscous cycle perpetuates like in our hunger for gladiator type sports. Its here where we allow so much violence or rage in these contact sports where a scrap and a brawl is considered ok and a quite normal way to let off steam or express that we don’t want to be pushed around etc. For me learning responsibility for my actions and to observe and not absorb as well as a more spherical understanding and not taking things personally – like James Bond said leaving me only shaken and not stirred into choosing rage and the explosion that comes with that choice.

134. ‘The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage.’ – this is so true – we cannot measure our effect on people by the surface level alone, for abuse can harm in far more ways than a physical cut or bruise, and so to can a smile or an act of true love heal a person in far more ways than we can imagine – no matter what it is we put out the ripple effects it has are far greater than we like to take responsibility for.

135. This is deeply honest and supportive writing RBS, it highlights how thoughts can come in and build up over time. It makes me consider how important it is really that we don’t create an environment that necessitates young people to harden and become competitive animals to survive and get on. Such environments create a shutdown of our feelings and leave things unexpressed. I can relate to the experience of not feeling safe to be gentle and tender as a boy and how that builds into a shyness and a frustration with the world that has seen me have quite violent thoughts pass through my body, never acted on, but there nonetheless, always building from the expression that is held in and not shared and released.

136. You bring such a depth of understanding to what rage is, and as I read your piece I can feel and understand more that each of us can tap into that at any time and when we do so, there’s an absolute coldness and disconnection to how we are, to ourselves and to others – we literally become possessed. You mention how rage doesn’t occur in an instant, that it’s a build up over time and this is where our responsibility comes in, to catch those moments of frustration and hurt before they build to a rage, to lovingly support ourselves as we do and in doing so we close any windows for rage to come in.

137. “I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.” – A very clear expression and understanding what happens when we ‘lose’ it – a build-up that becomes like a pressure cooker and when the lid comes off, we do not recognise ourselves afterwards. It’s a horrible experience and one I have known in the past too. Thanks to all the work and teachings of and with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, this is now a thing of the past as I have come a long way in embracing now who I truly am, resulting in a much deeper awareness which energy I will engage with.

138. Your list of examples of our disregard for everyone and thing that has caused us to separate from ourselves and blame someone else is well ingrained. We are born tender, loving, and it is a new beginning that life suppresses, reprograms and makes us like all the rest to become the new normal. We have free will and can choose to return to who we all are and show the world there is another way.

139. We often say that someone has an ‘anger’ problem or that they are an ‘angry person’. But what if this is not really true? From what you share RB it is clear how we call anger in to cover up and numb the incredible sensitivity that we have underneath. So rather than an angry and sad people what if the truth is we live on this earth with 7 billion+ highly sensitive beings many of whom have just forgotten that delicacy is the core and innate part of their being?

140. That was a profound response from Michael Benhayon about the flitting rage you had experienced, asking you to “feel into how long the frustration had been building and what was at the core of it.” Your realization that something like rage does not just happen in the moment, but is built over time and triggered by something, and the fact that you had already sensed that in those moments something comes over you and you are not your own self, shows what a powerful support is provided by Esoteric Medicine since it supports people in understanding the energetic aspect of life and finding a way that truly supports us being the naturally loving and harmonious beings that we are.

141. What I find so amazing about rage or outrage is that it can suddenly come when one has not experienced it for a very long time. Allowing this emotion to have reign over a situation can be very destructive to relationships and it is well worth catching it an naming it straight away so as not to perpetuate that ‘frequency’ of agitation or conflict to gain momentum. I can nearly always see now how an energy comes through one’s vulnerable spots (e.g.. maybe feeling excluded as a family member) which then makes sure in fact that you will be excluded!!! I will no longer let that energy have its way and dominate anything. All of us are deeply loving and beautiful beings, living, moving and being in God’s love. I now choose to understand what is happening for both myself and the other person.

142. An invitation to really examine what is behind and underneath rage, what is so uncomfortable to feel that we can let the force that wants to attack take over and run the show; and this is happening more and more on our streets at night where people are capable of attacking perfect strangers and even kill them, if the rage is allowed to run its full course.

143. How extreme must the pressures be in this world that such a gentle tender boy, a pacifist, and one who wished to avoid war at all costs be driven to such outbursts of rage, violence and bullying. This is just one example of a great malaise that is affecting all of society – the hurt and protection so many, if not almost all, walk around in every day, bracing and hardening or attacking outwards in an attempt to not get more ‘hurt’ – if we could realise that the only harm was in that hardening – becasue in that we disconnect – taking us ever further away from the truth of who we are – this is the real harm we visit upon ourselves and if we learn to reconnect back to that truth, we will see that no-one is actually capable of hurting us in truth.

144. It is easy to see how being bullied for a long time and feeling trapped in that situation can either lead to a person harming themselves or snapping and unleashing the force of rage – the force which comes through them is so strong physically and in that moment the person is unlikely to stop until the energy is spent, often describing a feeling like something came over them or they were blind to any other choice in that moment than harming another.

145. What stood out for me was the recognition that the energy that produces that rage is not something belonging to us and that RBS recognised clearly something enter and then taking over. With this awareness in mind, we can look at where else in life we allow something other than what we truly are, namely love, to take over and create harm within us and others, and this does not have to be physical either. Words, looks gestures they all do the same thing.

146. To realise and understand that aggressive behaviour is not us and to choose to look behind the emotions to see how they arose is truly liberating. It is a great insight shared here.

147. Another subject of life that is not discussed but can be instead dismissed as a so called natural experience of growing up. That was how it was explained to me as a child. Many bruises later that yes hurt at the time but, what was left inside of me was far worse. Such a whirlwind of confusion/turmoil of not understanding such outbursts from another, of which later I too joined in with and reacted in similar ways. Thank you for being so open/honest RBS of your own experiences and bringing to the table and offering that this is another energy that we allow into our lives (our bodies). Abusive behaviour which can go to extremes if left to its own disturbing pathway of devastation and separation.

148. Great blog exposing how harmful thoughts can enter the body; that they come from outside of us and not who we are. We are vessels for either divinity or evil (never both at the same time) to flow through us and the key for me is to remember this truth knowing that it is not them when an abusive or evil act is carried out.

149. This latent rage exists amongst many men, especially with a life of not being met as children, with no blame of course. Then what exists is the result of an equation that precipitates the choice to use fists, anger or battle to ease the tension that is bottlenecked inside one’s body.

150. If we became more honest and aware of how our everyday living plays out in our emotions, and how we express those emotions in either anger, rage, or arguing for example, we might see that there is a pattern that we live in that we need to change.

151. What I especially love about this blog, is how rage is described as a foreign quality to the naturally gentle person that RBS is, and that we all are. So it is not something to be accepted as normal, because it does not feel normal in our bodies, this is important and very much worth listening to.

152. You describe a way of living RBS that has a common thread to many of us, learning not to express and later exploding with rage. I don’t remember the bullying as such but I was very closed down in my expression and very defensive in my reactions. It is a really interesting journey to unpick these patterns of behaviour knowing they are not us at all but how instead we can easily connect to the love that we truly are.

153. It is quite incredible to recognise that there is a definite change and difference in the energy within our body. From feeling steady, and having that sense of ourselves, to a reaction to something. Simply recognising …”I felt an energy enter my body, and suddenly I had the strength of a bull…” in itself exposes that we are subjects of energy, and ultimately we do have a choice to let it over run the body or not.

154. ‘I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’ You offer such a beautiful insight into human behaviour here, it reminds me of the analogy of a garden and its innate loveliness, but if it’s not tended to and nurtured can quickly become out of control and overtaken by weeds… a bit like our connection and our relationship to ourselves, it requires constant love and attention.

155. When I was young my reaction to situations was to bottle things up and say nothing – this often erupted into rage. That seemed to be my only way of communicating. Since I have discovered Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon’s presentations of the Ancient Wisdom, I have learnt so much about myself and how to re-connect to who I truly am, which isn’t a raging shut down woman. Through learning to love and nurture myself and to be present with myself in my body and feel everything life presents, my responses are far more loving both to my own needs and with others.

156. I have experienced rage in my life! When in my twenties I met someone whom I became very close with who turned out to be full of rage . This was the first time I ever experienced rage being let out upon me and it was a shocking and devastating experience. After a few years of this I began to occasionally get rage-ful myself – but what a terrible experience it was, it certainly didn’t work to bring love and understanding to a situation. Later in life I began to see a very close link between frustration (which I was very good at – especially dealing with government bureaucracies which did not have people’s welfare in their intention) and the explosion of rage that could follow. Now I have learnt that all I have to do is lovingly express what I have felt about a situation and the pressure never builds up to explode. It is the simple science of energy!.

     1. Thanks Lyndy, love your reflections. It’s time that we begin to teach the simple science of energy to young children so that they can grow up with a true understanding of the way it is.

157. ‘the rage builds over time until it is triggered …..’ – I am pondering what is it that contributes to the build up and what is our perception of the world, relationships, beliefs, ideals, images that we hold that create the understanding we hold that causes us to allow anger, rage, frustration to the degree it is released in such a harmful way. This brings deepening understanding that it is something we choose because it is our choice to hold on to images that are not true about ourselves, others and life. What would it be like to say no to all images or old beliefs that we hold and to surrender to the moment that is with us and choose to hold ourselves in love and meet what ever is there? When we come to every moment knowing we are already enough, that we are already amazing then there is no room for anything to separate us from that, and the outcome can only be more about love. We live is a world where as a population we are being driven by a way of thinking that promotes separation thus setting up competition, comparison and jealousy, a way that invites humanity to see themselves as less. What you have shared RBS shows that we can all support each other and all of Humanity by stopping and checking in with ourselves about what is really going on and making a different choice. Thank you for this inspiring and honest blog.

158. As a parent the feeling of rage is so utterly devastating and I would then going into a cycle of feeling guilty in
     the end my child was so confused had no clear boundaries it would set off the behaviour again. Learning to parent from a response to the misbehaviour rather than when I had enough made all the difference. I began to take more responsibility for how i was being and what I was allowing to happen around me.

159. I have experienced rage and how disorientating it can be. It doesn’t play out for me physically anymore, but I can still relate to the build up of resentment, which is always good to deeply feel and address.

160. I have always been so horrified and ashamed by my flashes of rage – confused about them being my responsibility but also feeling it wasn’t me at the time. This article is a great support and insight.

     1. Thank you for sharing this, I have felt exactly the same way and I’m sure there are many, many of others that feel the same. We are never free of these feelings of shame, guilt, sadness or hurt until we bring understanding to them. Everything that is being offered by you and others is helping to deepen our understanding so that we can finally begin to break the cycles that keep us feeling that this isn’t me. We are so blessed to have the presentations of Serge Benhayon which reveal the simplicity of the fact that everything is because of energy and it is our responsibility to choose which energy we are aligning to in every moment. All insights and understanding begin from this one simple fact.

161. There seems to be a great fascination with watching people fight. The various so called sports where people literally beat each other until one is knocked out defy any sense or reason. It is really assault, but it is watched by millions worldwide and celebrated. No wonder fighting is so easily taken up by young boys or men to ‘fix’ a situation, it becomes the default action and one that causes great harm to many.

     1. I love your observation Matthew. We are constantly fed images of both men and women treating themselves with complete disregard, smashing themselves and each other. I watched some young boys playing rugby on the beach recently and was disturbed by their determination to prove their toughness and in the process, hurt each other. Unfortunately the reflection of fighting to ‘fix’ a situation is offered to us from the playground to the most powerful governments in the world. The results are always the same, more harm, more devastation and more separation. It is so inspiring to hear so many express what they truly feel about violence.

162. It is never OK to harm another! Even if we think we can justify aggression if we have been bullied for many years by another, because we feel without us standing up for ourselves in a physical or verbal way that nothing will change. How can we lead by example and be heard when they will not listen to the other party expressing their feelings and hurt? If this is the case seeking support and help in some way, such as counselling, may be the answer to protecting ourselves from these attacks.

163. I have seen so called victims rile up another to a point where the other blows his/her lid and lashes out in a rage. Often the one in the rage is seen as the ‘baddie’ when in fact the victim has an equal part to play in the situation.

     1. Great observation Marylouise. The frustration that builds to rage over time, comes from a lack of understanding between two people, and both are feeling the tension and the lack of connection. We have different ways of dealing with this inner turmoil, some continually badger the other in an effort to get what they are wanting and others withdraw and avoid the other in an attempt to not feel the disharmony. Neither expression is loving or offering the other what they truly seek, to be seen, heard, met and understood. It is an awful reflection of just how far we have strayed from living in loving relationships when we continually blame others and refuse to look at and take responsibility for the part we play.

164. ‘…my thoughts returned to the perpetrator for a moment, but this time I wanted to understand what could have possibly happened in his life to drive him to such harmful behaviour towards women.’ This just goes to show how we naturally seek to understand others and have compassion for them, even those who carry out actions which are so wrong. Deep down we always know that they have been affected by something from outside of them and that they are in themselves not ‘bad people’.

165. I was in a class today and we were talking about bullying type behaviours. What I have observed is that we still tend to personalise these behaviours or we label the person based on their behaviour. What is not out in the open is that a behaviour is not who the person is, it is a behaviour that that person is choosing to protect themselves or control a situation. We have all made choices that we know to not belong to who we are. Anger and rage are 2 such emotions that I know I go out of my way to avoid in feeling, they are very unpleasant to feel. I am very pleased to now understand that they are a result of an energy that I have allowed in, which certainly gives me the ability to make very conscious choices about how I am living.

166. Abuse has been around for as long as we know and unfortunately, will probably be with us for a while yet. What I can do is to be honest about my own experiences and invite others to talk about their own experiences so we can all bring, without judgment, some awareness and honesty to this extremely disturbing and harmful aspect of human behaviour. This is indeed a great start RBS, if we all start to take responsibility for our part and start talking as you say about our experiences with rage and angry outbursts, as everyone can attest to that when you are in the grasps of that emotion, it does not feel normal and you are usually regretful after. We all know deep down it is not normal but have accepted is as such, hence, the problems we have now.

167. Thank you RBS for opening up this conversation about rage. I grew up being a victim of rage quite often- it scared me and made me not trust those close to me. Instead of communicating how I felt following it I bottled up the emotions. I know I too experienced rage on occasions from not expressing, and allowing my deep hurt to fester. It really is such a harmful energy and can be quite destructive. But I now know that anger or rage is not me and therefore I have a choice to let it in and control me or not.

168. I had an experience recently where I did not express how I was feeling at the time, and I let it build up. It was only about half an hour, but by the time I did speak up my expression came out in one big harmful burst. It showed me how the force of rage builds so easily if we do not express how we are feeling in the moment. Experiencing this it is easy to see how so many people give themselves over to rage. If feelings have gone unexpressed they are uncontrollable when they finally come out.

169. For many years I used bullying, manipulation, anger, rage and control as a source of protection, they were my survival tools. These tools worked for me in a way that kept me alive and breathing, I had a false sense of security thinking I was safe because no one wanted to come near me. In reality I was technically alive but I felt dead inside the force not only behind my rage but all of my coping mechanisms as so aggressive. It wasn’t until I came to the meet Serge Benhayon and his presentations of the Ageless Wisdom that I learnt to re-connect with my true self and discovered how to love myself deeply and let go of my hurts that my life changed. I found the more I learnt to love myself the more I could accept love from others and allow love into my life.

170. In disconnection to the super tender, caring loving beings we are deeply connected to each other and to nature, we open ourselves up to an energy or force that is deeply harmful both to ourselves and to others. We do have a choice of what we allow to impulse us forth in life, but in order to be able to choose we have to be prepared to be very honest about our life’s and what we have been choosing up to this point, we can then unravel and let go of all the false images and ideas of who we thought ourselves to be, then we can embrace all the love and glory of who we all truly are.

171. The honesty and deep self-reflection in the way you express about rage RBS, is where we all need to go as humanity, as we are all equally and collectively part of all the horror, violence and wars in the world. It is time to stop pointing a finger at others and see that we are all responsible for the murders, rapes and in humane way we treat each other and the planet and environment we live in. When we act in any way is not deeply loving and caring firstly of ourselves, and all others, connecting deeply to all and everyone it is an act of violence and perpetuates the violence in the world.

172. The way you have described rage RBS is something that accumulates or builds in our bodies and emotions over time RBS makes a lot of sense as why it then comes out with so much force and is a bigger reaction than is needed to a person or situation. It feels like a huge lake of frustration and pent up feelings that have been dammed up, and suddenly the dam breaks, and all the force of the water gushes out, causing much harm and devastation.

     1. Absolutely. This article also gives me the insight to see the dam I build and the rage and frustration I accumulate.

173. When we understand anger and rage as a force or energy that we allow to come into us, it allows us a little distance from what usually is something that that we feel have no control over, feeling like its something that just happens to us, and that it is the because of a person or event outside of us that triggers us, or makes us angry or enraged. In order for that force or energy to enter us, we have to have been living in a way that is not deeply honouring of ourselves and not connected to our bodies, movements and expressing honestly to others what we are feeling.

174. Being able to not identify ourselves by our actions but instead see them with clarity as a choice of energy really helps us to take full responsibility for them without getting stuck in old behaviours. Thank you RBS for your great insight here.

175. This is an incredibly power-full blog RBS – on many levels. It is one of the most revealing and insightful articles I have read on the subject of violence and exploring the energetic force behind it. And also exploring the root cause as you write here – “It brings up a great sadness, regret, and if you allow yourself to feel it, a deep hurt. We had now felt the extent to which each other would go to avoid and defend feeling the depth of our sadness and hurts.”. In those 2 sentences you expose the root cause of rage, abuse and violence – it is our sadness and hurts that we dont want to feel and can go to any lengths to not feel it.

176. Thank you RBS for this very raw and honest blog. I found it frightening to read your account of rage and how when there is a build up of frustration it can be triggered in a flash, even in a gentle person like you. Compassion and understanding of the reasons a person can unleash pent up frustrations in such a violent way is important as it allows the space for us all to take responsibility for our actions and calling in a force to ‘protect’ us at unimaginable cost to others, much more than the visible physical damage caused.

177. Wow! Thanks Again RBS, the depth wisdom that is present in this blog is amazing.
     My brother and I also had running battles that one day came to an abrupt holt – we just stopped the sparing, which was how all our fights started.
     The great revelation and healing I have taken away from re-reading your blog is that I was always in control and have up until this moment not realised how much control was still dominating my life.
     A great point is that, “the lack of connection, understanding and control leads to that point in time when the explosion and resultant harm takes place.”
     I am in gratitude to you and Serge Benhayon for opening this can of worms that I used to call life. As I unfold more and more of the ‘what was never me’, true healing is the result from me being more connected to my inner-most and no longer owned by “control”.
     For more on Serge Benhayon go to;
     http://www.unimedliving.com/search?keyword=SERGE+BENHAYON

     1. It was such a power-full healing yesterday I felt to re-read this blog again today. I could really feel the violence that was in my body from all the movies and TV that I had accepted as ‘Okay.’ I was slowly numbed to these violent images even though my body has always felt and jumped or moved as I felt the impact of violence on a screen. The truth is until I learnt to observe and not absorb, through the sharing by Serge Benhayon, my body was full to over-flowing with images that in no way held me in any love or harmony. Is it any wonder billions of people have difficulty re-connecting to love when our bodies have taken on so many lies and lying images that disconnect us! This is bullying and abuse at it’s worst, because it belongs in the world of make-believe or movie world, and it is totally controlled by all the emotional images, which abuse and riddle our bodies with non-loving energies. Thank God for Serge Benhayon and his teachings from the hierarchy that have shared how to be love or how to re-connect to love so as to no longer absorb these emotional images that have plagued my body in the past.

        1. I find myself back again re-reading this blog and finding a deeper level of healing. ‘I considered myself a pacifist, a gentle guy, one that always avoided fighting at all costs, although there were a few exceptions.’ These thoughts have also been mine over my life. In hindsight I was scared of dying after watching my father die when I was nine. My sadness and anger definitely took me further away from love. Watching people die without an understanding of the truth about dying is heart wrenching. Re-connecting to love is such a blessing for all involved – it simply dissolves anger and fear.

        2. ‘Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us.’ Agreed RBS, and through us re-connecting to our inner-most it is only then we get a complete understanding of another’s issues, and with this realisation we know it is their journey, thus their free will to choose a path of re-turn, when they so choose!

        3. ‘To break these very old and extremely harmful patterns and behaviours so we may once again return to the tender, loving, caring and compassionate beings that we truly are innately so.’ I find myself stumbling and finding my feet as I once again return to read these words. Violence or to violate someone’s space with a known or unknown intent to abuse is abusive. I used to consider myself to be a loving person and justified that because I would not hit another or I knew I could kill them and didn’t. What happens when I verbally abuse someone or have evil thoughts about them? Either way those actions or thoughts hold no love. There may be people who feel the love-less energy from another and some may even commit suicide because they have felt the lack of love from others?
           So what hurts the most: being smashed in the face and you saw it coming and did not duck, verbal abuse or someone else thinking ill of you? If we get angry or bitter and hold someone in that, a super sensitive person feels the ill energy and may have no idea where it is coming from as we cannot stop feeling energy! Hence, I was doing no one any favors by not hitting them in my twenty (20) years of doing security. At times I had some not-so-nice thoughts about people. Running someone down only left me in the place where I was judging them for no good reason, not that there is ever a reason to judge another.

        4. Even our most well-intended words if they do not come from love, are an attack on another. The need to help is just another form of control and never has any true love. ‘Harming another’ disguises itself in many ways and only when we reconnect back to the love that we innately come from, do we stop inadvertent harming. Even the most loving words when spoken to a person who is not ready to hear them, are actually not coming from love. Love would understand by reading the person, and hence know exactly what the person needed to hear to evolve.

178. Thank you RBS for this honest blog. I am working in the health industry and sometimes patient describe exactly what you have experienced: “I felt an energy enter my body, and suddenly I had the strength of a bull.” They explain that they love it to have such a strength because with that they were untouchable in their family and that they were able to help their siblings or mother. You wrote: “Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence.” With my experience I only can agree because without this understanding most of them will keep on living with this force.

179. Great sharing RBS how the need to control the uncontrollable builds to immense frustration and can lead to bouts of rage or I would assume illness as well. Further more, you bring the understanding that this need is only there in the first place because of not choosing the love and care for ourselves and others that brings to our world a natural, unconditional, non controlling way of being.

180. A great call for honesty and truth around this all-pervasive subject, RBS. It is eye-opening to read your account of the emergence of your own rage as a young man, your feelings about its force and learning how to control it. Your explanation that rage is an overspill, an explosion of unexpressed anger buillt up over many moments, be those minutes, hours, years or decades, makes absolute sense and it would serve humanity well to explore the true cause of rage as it is omnipresent in our world and often shocks the perpetrator as much as the victim once it is released.

181. Abuse is not only when there is violence. Violence and rage is the accumulative result of everything that does not feel true in the moment but has not been expressed until the tension has to be expressed in a violent way outwardly. But each and evey moment when this tension is not expressed it is already abuse to ourselves (which can be covered up but in truth already in our every expression with others) and the creation of an impending drastic abuse. So what is our responsibility in all this? Being aware of every occasion of abuse (self or other directed) and saying no, thus turning the momentum of abuse back to that of love.

182. When we meet with situations that we find cruel and distressing, the distress I have often found in my own experience is the fact that this is happening because I have not lived and moved in the consistency and responsibility to express what is true and loving. Hurts exist and run the show in this world, because we have not chosen love to be our normal.

183. Family violence is receiving a great deal of attention is Australia at present but we are yet to have genuinely honest discussions about the nature of violence and the roles of both perpetrator and victims in domestic violence. This blog is a step in the right direction. It’s rare to hear men speak with such candour about their relationship with rage. Thank you RBS, you do us all a great service.

184. I too have always found war movies disturbing – as a teen particularly so. The sad, often unnecessary waste of human life is difficult to swallow. Yet as a species we resort to war time and again: in fact we are perpetually at war somewhere in the world. We are very good at repeating the same mistakes over and again!

185. I love that the issue of the difference (or lack thereof) between perpetrator and victim is opened up here. At the end of the day, they represent two sides to the same coin, or two points on the same spectrum, Once the victim, over time RBS became a perpetrator as well. The energy we draw on when we are rage-ful is available to everyone should the openings for it to come through be present. Rage is a force we can draw on if the circumstances are right.

186. Powerful blog, thank you very much RBS. I’ve felt something similar to what you describe on two occasions in my life, once as a pre-teen and another as an adult and yes, on both occasions it was the result of pent-up frustration and on both occasions with males. Having said that, on the second occasion the anger I expressed (perhaps this is different in quality to rage) was able to cut what was coming through the other, so it is possible there are times when this is required.

187. The force of rage is harmful and can be extremely hurtful. The forces of niceness is equally harmful, yet not as easily seen or perhaps felt.

188. It does so often feel like you can’t get out of a way of being in rage or anger, we swirl around in it with thoughts feeding the justification of why you are so angry when you can see that the energy that entered keeps feeding the anger/rage this isn’t about abstaining from responsibility rather the opposite the more we expose what is going on and what we give our selves over to in total irresponsibility to be in the rage the more we will become much more responsible for the original choice of the energy choice.

189. “The thoughts were quite shocking and I could feel at the time that they did not come from or belong to me.” this I feel is so key to understanding life and being responsible for what energy stream you choose. When we are able to depersonalise it we can deal with it much more effectively than when we are in the middle of something going around in circles.

190. The few times I’ve been on the receiving end of rage, I have felt the physical shock in my body,where I know my senses have been jarred to the core and it takes time for my equilibrium to settle down again. Living in the world, we are attacked in many situations in this way. It’s very healing and claiming for you to expose this and many will now also be able to open up to describing similar feelings, knowing they are not going to be judged. Another great blog to refer to is in Medicine and Serge Benhayon where there is an article on our secret medical history, this is what you are exposing here.

191. It has been rare for me to have ever been on the receiving end of rage, but when it is unleashed it is a forceful fury to witness and of course can be very damaging. I have learned that rage is simply an extreme form of frustration within self that has been built up with the same choices over time and is that person’s own reaction to them which has very little to do with others but simply can be triggered by them. When we understand this it supports to catch those early frustrations and to give voice to them so that they don’t build within the body. Allowing ourselves to say to another that it is not acceptable for them to bully from a place of empowerment rather than passively accepting it is an example of this.

192. “I felt an energy enter my body, and suddenly I had the strength of a bull.” What is interesting here is that you acknowledge that ‘an energy entered’ and then you then changed. When we understand that everything is energy and that we call in energies we understand that it doesn’t come from us but through us. As such this supports us with the awareness that this is always a choice we can make or not “so we may once again return to the tender, loving, caring and compassionate beings that we truly are, innately so.”

193. The aggressive actions of men is something that unfortunately boys are exposed to and seen as an option to get their way. The ‘tough guy’ image is sold in many movies and the good guy in the movie often has to fight their way back. Exposure to this way and even a fight amongst boys is seen as a rite of passage from boyhood to manhood, confirming that aggression is an option, when it should never be an option.

194. It is really terrifying to see a man go into this rage. I recently was on the receiving end of someone who had gone into this and although it wasn’t physical, it was still very shocking and I can feel I now have a level of distrust with this person that is hard to shake.

195. The force that is behind the expression of rage and frustration is very powerful and can easily hook us back into being anxious, shaky or fearful if there are old unhealed hurts lurking around that have not been faced and dealt with – thus the merry-go-round of lack of safety and trust continues, making us prime targets for abuse to be invited back in again. Cutting the energy is key to ending this cycle.
     “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage. It makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear”.

196. The moment I am in just the smallest reaction against another – it is a reflection for me that I am caught. Caught in the illusion of ‘right & wrong’, caught in ideas & beliefs, caught in the prison of separation. To come out of this prison I have to open up again, I have to connect. It is like there are two worlds in offer: one where we exist in separation and the other where we are connected. I choose my world. Every second. Again and again.

     1. Well said Sandra for I am realizing more and more how our emotional reactions are always indicators that we have not read nor understood the situation.

        1. Or…we have read and understood exactly what is on offer and react against it. And for these reactions – to hold what is on offer away from us – we use emotions.

197. Wouldn’t it look very different if we educated and supported the young to truly stay connected with themselves? To help them build self-awareness and grow a strong and natural sense of who they are, so that rather than explode they can come back to this knowing in every situation needed.

198. I find it interesting to observe how much more insidious and brutal the movies are than they were 40-50 years ago, back then you could somehow see that it was not real, that it was a movie. When I was a teenager I used to watch some western movies called Trinity, and there was nothing in these movies that felt scary eventhough they were fighting all the time. Then in my late teens I went to see a movie called Rosemary’s Baby, about exorcism – and it scared the living daylight out of me. I was schocked by this experience for many many years afterwards and it made me scared of walking in the dark, which I had never been before.
     It hit a nerve in me that was very vulnerable and from what I’ve seen, most of the movies today are having this psychological sophistication to them, it just goes under your skin. How does this affect us in the long run? What is it doing to our young?

199. ‘Many of us grew up feeling the effects of a century of wars and the devastation and separation that still deeply affected individuals, families, communities, in fact, all of mankind.’ – and unless we come to true healing and harmony we can stay in reaction to that way of life and continue to live from protection and defence.

200. Esoteric Healing has shown me whenever I carry an undercurrent of rage or anger, that I am resisting feeling a hurt. If I acknowledge this and be as loving as I can with myself the sadness begins to arise and when it does I appreciate my choice to feel it. It is the most beautiful thing to allow myself to feel the sadness because it always confirms how sensitive and caring I truly am, as I let myself feel it.. it begins to dissolve and I am left in the exquisiteness of my clarity and beauty.

201. The phenomenon as such is familiar and known, that we mobilize forces in situations of pressure, stress, danger, survival etc, but usually it is understood as drawing from something inside of us not yet accessed like a sleeping virtue or natural strength. That is true to a point but imprecise and hence misleading and an misinterpretation of what is really going on. Yes, there is something inside us before we call in e.g. the energy of rage, as you describe something leading to such moments like built up frustration, but neither the energy of frustration nor its excessive expression we know as rage is of our own innate making, both are called in due to the absence of who we are in the first place, and that is where we have to start if we truly want to give a stop to evil acting out.

202. Thank you for illustrating so precisely how an energy enters that then makes us act the way we do and then afterwards wonder or are even shocked how we could do something like that as also others who watched us recognising how this was so different to whom they know us to be. The idiom “What’s gotten into you?” clearly proves that we all know this to happen.

203. The devastation people are left with after acting out an energy that is not who they are can be very disturbing and cause even more trouble than the preceding act. From an energetic point both belong together and complete each other to keep one in the loop of its control as both come from the same source of energy or consciousness guaranteeing that we don´t reconnect to our innermost source where our true beingness resides.

204. To start with that it is not who we are who does violent, aggressive acts is already a game changer and knowing that there is no action without an energy first is well demonstrated by your experience. The simple awareness of discerning the energy behind a thought or action, ie. the energy producing it reveals how we actually function, the choice we have and who we really are.

205. My experience of rage as a teenager and young woman was always a sense that what I was doing was not ok but also a sense of power and justification I felt powerless to stop. Since letting go of my child hood hurts and learning to love and nurture myself I find while I am full of love there is no space in me for rage.

206. When we first experience the massive force behind rage we are usually quite shocked as we often have caused a lot of damage. Some people can develop a taste for it when their hurts are very deep and they dismiss the damage as minor but that is one of the worst ways to live – ready to explode without regards to the consequences as, when you drink from that cup, you have little control about what you do and what happens.

207. This is an amazing blog, RBS. In violent crime situations it often seems hard to understand how someone can hurt another. Yet I can feel that the way I talk to my children at times is abuse when it does not come from love but rather from frustration that can, and has, escalated into rage. “The damage caused by abuse ….. makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear.” Thank you for starting the conversation.

208. The greatest tragedy is how desensitised and resigned to violence we as a society have become. In that it is only extremes of murder, bombing and terrorism that seem to even get mentioned on the news, yet every day there is violence and abuse in homes, relationships, schoolyards, and workplaces. We need to reassess what we have been willing to allow that is actually abuse and which is harmful to everyone.

209. As you have shared, the harm of assault goes deep and can affect people in so many ways, loss of confidence, erosion of trust and difficulties in relationships, as we can get trapped in the cycle of protection and shut down. In this we can lose the connection with ourselves and from there everything we do, say and think is changed. So it is not just the person who is affected but every relationship, every person they meet is impacted on also – so looking at the ripple effect throughout the community, we could say everyone is potentially scarred and damaged by violence.

210. When we bring it back to energy, there is energy that either pulls us together or separates. There is enough energy that teches us separation, it is everywhere and the energy that can undo this is joy.

211. Thank you for opening the conversation RBS on the often hidden subject of abuse, particularly in families….the following sentence “I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time,” Experiences through my childhood and teenage years built an anger and rage that would spill over into my life later on, and as you express RBS it is a very frightening and almost uncontrollable energy that often is out of proportion with the present upsetting circumstances, is always very depleting and exhausting and followed by much regret. Over time this anger and rage subsided, partly because I started to understand the circumstances behind the perpetrator’s behaviour and also I started to see the hurt and damage I was inflicting. Although my rage and anger was more verbal and throwing of objects and not as physically imposing or violent, it was by no means any less damaging emotionally and energetically to people I loved dearly.

212. Abuse of any kind is not okay and we all have to come to this understanding.

     1. And the only way we are able to register the various levels is by developing a marker of tenderness and care for ourselves first.

        1. Absolutely Johanna, without our own markers from reconnecting to love and “tenderness” we are lost in illusion, which is usually self abusive or at-least it was for me.

213. When rage enters, we feel momentarily powerful, and justified. Then, the moment after it is expressed, we are left in the regret of what we have done – unless of course we justify our actions behind the facade of anger, a wall that allows us to hold onto our grievances so that we do not have to feel the consequences of our reactions.

214. We often hear of stories where people have acted out in a rage and ended up in jail, only to say that they never knew what got into them and I can truly understand this having experienced myself the force and strength that can come through us in those moments. It is very scary at the time, especially when the realisation hits that you were capable of causing someone extreme harm, and in that moment there seems to be very little control. There’s more going on here than meets the eye.

215. We all have things, and thoughts that regularly pass through our minds, and weird things at random times. Could it be that we become a living radio receiver at times, and we pick these pictures or actions? There was in older movies and cartoons about the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other whispering in our ear. I have not seen this example of what happens to us, daily used as humor for a long time? Has the battle been won and the good has finally been defeated or have we become pacifists? The answer is Yes, RBS the true conversations around violence need to begin in earnest or the war is over.

216. To understand that the violence and rage are not truly us, nor is it truly the one who is directing abuse towards us, is crucial. for then we can know we are not completely broken or damaged, but in essence pure and untouched – and in reconnecting to that part of us, we can connect to others in their essence, which begins to dismantle the vicious cycle of destruction that so many of us have fallen prey to.

     1. Beautifully expressed Annie, I love it, and I can feel the truth in this so much. Knowing that rage is not who that person is; it’s an energy pulled in to fight back, but where does that lead to? More fighting, more rage, and so on. Or we can choose to see that the person attacking is attacking out of their own hurt; and underneath, in their essence, they are equally untouched and pure. We can choose to relate to each other from that essence and our lives will turn around, because we have changed the source we are running ourselves from.

217. Thanks for sharing your story, it is a huge example of how bullying and control so often has at its source a protection from the hurt and pain of being bullied, to do whatever it takes to not ever allow that abuse towards us. and it shows that understanding is what is needed in every situation to truly get to heal what is controlling us.

218. Yes lets begin to open up the conversation about violence. I can so relate to your journey RBS. At times I too have had situations similar to your experience. There is something to do with the disconnect of our true gentle self. As situations happen we don’t express or are heard of how it feels and upsetting some thing is. Eventually we disconnect from us and a connection to something that is alien to us coldly takes over. Michael suggesting how long has it been building is another clue. The building of pressure. Until it vents like a volcano. Volatile and spectacularly short lived.

219. The moment you sat on your brother and realised what had just happened there is a moment isn’t there where the deep sadness is felt. It can go one of two ways…defending the behaviour because you have been hurt so it was justified to hurt back, or apology and a choice to address the choices that led to the explosion.

     1. Well said, Lucy, we can choose at any moment. And we have the responsibility to choose wisely.

220. Yes I totally agree it would be life changing if we all started to communicate and be honest with what is going on in our lives openly and discuss and review absolute any reactions that we are in. Speaking about what is coming up will support clarity and expose the emotional reactions we let take us over.

221. I get to experience people’s rage over the phone at times. The voice may start out being soft and polite, but the moment you pick up the phone you can feel the anger and rage. I am learning to observe another persons choice so that I don’t re-act and literally get poisoned by all that emotion. If I hold steady it gives the other person a reflection of another way and therefore a choice they can also make.

222. ‘I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’ – Great observation RBS, and it can happen in the seemingly ‘smallest’ of ways .

223. I can very much relate to rage, it is definitely an emotion i have run riot at times. I am so glad to know its origins are long term, it makes sense as to why it explodes in the way of the “straw that broke the camels back.” I am surprised by the ferocity that comes through me, and once its out, the rage settles and i feel back to normal. This happens far far less than ever before, but its a devastating experience and one that should be respectfully understood and worked on.

224. The subject of rage is significant for us all. Not all of us would have bashed someone else over the head or driven into another car etc, but All of us would have felt a moment where we are lost and owned by emotion and not ourselves. That is us calling in rage, do we choose to make it physical or does it stay energetic, there are consequences with both choices. Energetic intent I would suggest does more harm than obvious physical pain.

225. Not expressing how I feel allowed space for thoughts of rage to come in, feeling not heard, seen or understood. Learning to express myself and supporting my children to do the same, if they feel to, it has been marked how loving they are together and with me, and me also. Expressing ourselves, not bottling up or holding back, prevents thoughts of rage taking root.

226. I know how addictive rage is, it is no different from caffeine, cocaine or alcohol, you do it once you feel a false sense of control, and so you do it again. Defeating the rage that I had grasped hold of in life as a way to feel righteousness, was deeply healing and transformative. I felt empowered, I know true power.

227. This sentence is one most can relate to. ‘ I felt an energy enter my body, and suddenly I had the strength of a bull’ We do know this energy is not us. The way you have described it explains the strength of the force and damage that can come through us if we are not taking responsibility of being present with ourselves.

228. How great to bring such a deep level of understanding to the roots of our outbursts. From this we have the tools to actually do something about it. Thank you.

229. RBS I have been someone that at many points in my life have allowed that Rage and abuse you speak about to come through me, I’d always seen this as me, as a fault and problem – yet the more I understand it comes through me the more I see it as a choice I make. At first I found this very challenging yet the more I would look at this I would see the great responsibility that we all hold to live who we are, to be honest and truthful and learn to observe what is going on in life. I also felt that when I’ve allowed that Rage in, it wipes me out for a long time after I feel completed drained/exhausted in my body – so it shows the extent of the force behind rage.

230. It is very telling RB the apparent strength that anger brings, like a huge shield we can wield against the world and one another. We make think we have might, but all that has happened is we have absorbed this fight and sadly carry it with us like a huge great weight throughout life. What’s even more powerful than the bash, the crash the punch and the wallop is the after effect on our relationships. For we then curtail our natural way and subscribe to the agenda of fear and never frolic and express the way the Universe intends. This is the unseen wounding of which we all have become casulties.

231. So important to recognise and nominate that which affects us initially to prevent the pressure building as our capacity to store these away inside of ourselves decreases until there is nowhere left for it to go but out again.

232. It feels like rage is the result of holding back and bottling up what we feel until it gets to the point that something insignificant will tip it over and there is the explosion of rage. Learning to express from our bodies is the way to heal and to connect to our innate nature of tenderness and gentleness.

     1. I agree. Rage is the pent up inexpressible and finally when it comes out we do not have any control on the how, force or volume it comes out with.

233. Awesome RBS, discerning why people are like they are brings a greater understanding. There is a bigger picture that once seen brings more awareness into play and therefore we have a choice to know how to deal with it. I experience energy around me that sometimes is furious (and this is not coming through people) so why is it there? I astutely take note now and use this as a confirmation for me to go deeper to where I am at, if it is others around me where are they at, and why that type of energy is there? It is better to walk around observing it than to absorb it.

234. This is a deeply insightful piece of writing and should be available to many. This line – “I called on this rage energy a few more times and it scared me more each time as I had become a strong young man and felt that I had the potential to kill another from this state that once called in, I could not control” – left me wondering how many men (and women) sitting in prison right now for murder or for causing grievous bodily harm could relate to this comment. It shows us that we can call in an energy that it is not naturally ours when we disconnect from who we are and from there we are capable of anything and often beyond our control in that moment. But it is always our choice to build a loving foundation and knowledge of who we are so we can choose to be with our own energy and not other energetic forces as your profound piece of writing shows.

235. Thank you RBS, well said. the silent build up, or cover up, that culminates in rage is great to clock. As Serge Benhayon says ‘Expression is everything’ and the body holds all that we do and don’t express. No hiding anywhere! And so acknowledging, accepting and expressing as we go is essential.

236. You have highlighted the importance of communication and understanding in all our relationships. No matter what the relationship circumstance is, if we are not fully communicating everything we feel with the other and hence choosing to hold things back we are in effect bottling up emotions but also love. It all has to come out at some stage and like a bomb, rage is an explosion of it

237. When people act out with rage or any emotion for that matter what are we teaching each other in those moments of disconnection and what impact is that having on the world.

238. Thank you RBS for sharing your own personal experience with ‘rage behaviour’ – very insightfull. Some years ago I experienced a moment of rage when I witnessed a person be abusive to a teenager in a wheelchair. I was present but the parents and other family members were not. The problem was that I swallowed my feelings of rage at what I was witnessing and offered a lame excuse of an acid-laced comment by reaction and left the scene as I felt I would literally burst if I stayed in the presence of what I experienced was the imposition of one over another, the other being totally compliant without the ability to be discerning. The result for me was about 10 days later I experienced the presence of painful facial shingles. I guess I learned that to even swallow the energy of rage is very harmful to the body. Thank you for your blog and for your open-ness. I realize now after being at the presentations of Universal Medicine, hearing the wisdom of Serge Benhayon and learning about the energies that are passing through us continuously, that we have a choice to be or to remain connected to our innate loving essence, and if there is something of truth to be said, it will be there to be expressed from love and not from rage.

239. When we watch a movie or TV we think that we are just watching with our eyes images and listening to sound with our ears, but if that was true why do the things we watch affect us so much in our bodies and manipulate our emotions so much? I have often felt my body deeply disturbed or agitated or emotional when I watch TV or movies which makes me wonder if we are actually drinking energy from these mediums that if we are not alert to it, we can absorb into our bodies and have much more of an impact on us then we realise?

240. I remember feeling a similar way when I first watched a violent film when I was about 12. I was very shaken by it and it haunted me for ages after with the images of graphic brutality and suffering and pain. I also remember thinking that it was weird that I could be this sensitive and that if the world was full of these types of movies than it must be ok and I must be the abnormal one. It has only been as an adult that I have begun to learn to reclaim my sensitivity as the most natural thing in the world.

241. So every step we take away from our natural expression is the building of a volcano that we can cap for a certain amount of time, even to the point of making it look dormant, but the boiling and turmoil is still there.

     1. This is what is so scary about this. We can’t physically see what we are doing to ourselves, so we are dishonest about how we are feeling and lie to everyone around us.

242. Your awareness of being overtaken by an energy that is not your true nature is so beautifully explained here RBS. If we can begin to raise children with this understanding about energy, and have the conversations that you have opened up here, children will begin to feel their tender power and value themselves for who they are, not needing to defend or protect themselves.

243. You reveal here a cycle of abuse and our causal and consequential disconnection that can dominate our individual behaviour and relationships at all levels. Understanding everything is energy is the key, and we can start to understand and heal our own hurts step by step. This feels very important because as a teenager I used to feel the force of rage a lot and although I never was physically violent towards others, I enacted it by obviously enraged mannerisms like slamming the door and I hated myself for it. Somehow I knew it was not the true me, but I didn’t know how to be the true me either.

244. It is eye opening reading about you observe, recognise and call out the force and energy that you found accompanied the emotion of rage each time it came up for you, and that you were aware of its potential devastating impact. It would be invaluable if we were all educated in developing such awareness and understanding about rage – and in fact all emotions.

245. We all have our ways of protecting ourselves from others, we either contract and hide away, or we lash out and react physically. Both are forms of protection and equally as harming. So great RBS that you have brought some awareness and understanding to what actually happens at those times so that this topic can be something for us all to ponder on and feel how we are within our own selves at certain times and how we can change.

246. Rage is shattering to experience as perpetrator and victim, the harm that comes form the guilt and shame lingers as hacks away at self worth – we are so much more than this energy that can pass through us, yet it tends to define people.

247. What is interesting here is how we can use rage and anger to protect ourselves, to cover our hurts and fight our fears. In one moment being a victim and in another a perpetrator of the one thing we hate most being powerless and hurt.

248. This blog so beautifully describes how our undealt with emotions can fester and reappear over and over again through our lives until we stop and have a look at our hurts.

249. I like the reality of this article, and the points that have been raised around rage is something we all in society have to look deeper into, as we just have to acknowledge the ever increasing violent acts that are commited.

250. ‘I knew that this energy was both harmful and dangerous as I had observed it many times in others, and always felt scared when I felt it and saw the results of this rage in action.’ – I too have been both at the receiving end as well as in rage myself, and it is so true I did know it was harmful and dangerous. It is crazy how in spite of that, we choose to act it out.

251. Great point Susan, in that the rage is a ‘secondary emotion’ – therefore we can start to look underneath the rage at what is really going on rather than thinking we have an anger issue.

252. I’ve found, when we live in a way that doesn’t honour our true self, we are creating our own hurt, we are dismissing the love that we are in place of an image we’re fed from outside ourselves, believing this to be ‘better’. How can anything be better than being ourselves? From this deep hurt comes anger, the hurt is a constant reminder of the choice we have made to not be our glorious selves, to not speak up but to suppress how we are feeling, to be something other than our true self.

253. It’s great to be able to see that the force behind the rage is something that is not naturally part of us and something that is called in, rather than identifying with it.

254. I have witnessed young men being violent and aggressive with each other and am feeling that maybe the anger and rage comes as a result of all the buried hurts, from the battering they have received in life forcing them to be someone that they are not. The suppression of that joyful little boy, full of gentle sensitivity who cares so deeply but has been taught through life that this is not the way to be, when in truth it is exactly the way to be.

255. Having worked in secure units where rage can be quite instant and dangerous to many it is really interesting to observe how a person is not with themselves. It makes so much sense that if we are not present with ourselves then we allow energy in which can then act out in devastating ways. Your blog represents where future research should go when looking at the cause of rage and violence. Thank you.

256. These are wise words that rage never comes in a moment. It seems like it does as one minute you are normal, and then the next there is rage, but what has occurred is the cause of the rage has been building for some time, often with what is felt never expressed (as it should have been), and smothered underneath logic that denies it from being voiced. Expression and the choice to not suppress our inner feelings is imperative.

257. I can in this lifetime, remember five times when rage had bubbled up in me and spilled out, and this is a process that builds. In the prison service here in England there is a pecking order of; Governors, Officers, Catering staff (that are also officers) Administration, inmates and then at the bottom the maintenance department where I worked for a long time. We were like the fly’s on the wall that were never seen but saw everything. The guests respected us because we fixed what they broke. I have seen caged rage that is like a trap door spider in its quickness. The acts of rage at the prison were like a light switch on then off. The energy behind the actions of violence was sitting on the couch watching TV waiting inside of them, waiting for a trigger. These were the dangerous ones. The majority had had, an energy that was running through them that made them guests at our hotel that came and went like a safety flare, but the damage caused could not be undone. The difference between them and anyone else was a very thin line when we chose that energy to flow through us with its full force.

     1. Thanks Steve for sharing your experiences in the prison system. It would seem then, that the prison system does little to support those that spend much of their lives there to break the cycle of rage, rather it may just fuel it further

258. I love your sentence that we are not hurtful by nature and how rage builds over a period of time, This shows it is not natural to us, it is something we take on from outside of us. This understanding can support anyone who feels it building inside them to feel it’s force and choose to let it go.

     1. Absolutely agree gillrandall and it also completely removes judgement of others from the equation, because it means that no-one is inherently bad or evil, they are simply choosing to allow an energy to flow through them at that moment to produce the act we know is hurtful. Yes there is a responsibility for all of us to know this and to choose wisely, but we are actually inherently love and harmony by nature first. So we can call out the choice or behaviour as hurtful but not the person.

259. I have been shocked at how far I will go to defend a hurt or a sadness and how blinding that can be. In that moment I am both a perpetrator and a victim. What a great description of the explosion of feeling that can be present in our bodies.

260. It is indeed sharing’s such as these that reveal the deep abuse that runs rampant within society and within our lives. To shine a spotlight on abuse and to explore why we allow this to be an accepted norm is needed as to is sharing our understanding and learning of abuse and of life to support others to recognise and heal these ill-patterns and ways in their lives and inspire a resounding no to abuse in any form.

261. Expressing our feelings openly and honestly is natural when we are very young but it isn’t encouraged, in fact as we grow up it is discouraged, as adults around us are shocked by what comes ‘out of the mouths of babes’ when in truth we need to heed what is shared. There is so much we can learn from our young if we were to treat them as equals.

262. It is very clear from your sharing RBS how emotions allow an energy to come through us, especially when we have a hurt that isn’t expressed, however what your blog also reveals is the power of choice we have in every moment – we can choose harmful energy or we choose not to harm.

263. This really exposes how important it is to deal with issues as they arise, to express how we feel and how hurt we are, so they do not bubble and brew away until one day they explode in rage.

     1. Yes this is a responsible and evolutionary way to live. I love it when I approach days with this willingness to learn.

264. I agree RBS let the conversations continue to deepen;
     “Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence”.
     An exposing blog to read; the key being for each and every one of us to take responsibility to heal our hurts and behaviours.

265. We as humanity have some steps to take indeed when it comes to dealing with our hurts and emotions. Your blog RBS is a very supporting way to bring awareness to what is truly going on.

266. Beautiful RBS how you discovered how this rage works and the willingness to understand what is going on exactly. I have recently been giving a workshop at a school with a class of 11 and 12 year old’s. It was interesting to see how not one of the boys actually liked fighting but did feel the pressure from society of being cool and punching each other. One boy shared that he found it really ridiculous that when a boy cries that they would be called names. The girls in the class mentioned how they found that they couldn’t play games with boys like they used to when younger, because they were playing so rough now. What I noticed is that the boys as well as the girls actually didn’t like the rough and forceful ways of being with each other.

267. How many children have grown up as you have RBS, from the tender open child to a man in protection and hardness and holding the weapon of potential rage and violence as a warning to others not to push you. How much does the world suffer because of the protection we all choose. and what if we were to choose differently.

268. the reaction and aggression we can feel only feeds the harmful dynamic.. and often the resentment and anger builds up inside because we have not expressed at the time when something has happened to us in the moment.. If we could all learn how to express openly and honestly as you have done RBS, then we have at least the potential for understanding rather than an inevitable explosion or implosion of pent-up emotion.

269. This is a powerful blog that exposes the hidden messages that rage just comes out of nowhere. There is a reason for every actions and the willingness to stop and feel where it came from is the responsibility.

270. It really highlights the importance of expressing how we feel, and also supporting others to truly express – both as children and adults. When we try and contain everything we feel without ever being honest and speaking from our sensitivity, it’s no surprise we can erupt with all of the words that were so simple in truth; yet have become poison due to being trapped within our own bodies.

     1. Great point to reflect upon Kylie. I can recall a point in time around the age of five when I chose to begin holding back my expression, the consequences of which can be felt in this blog

271. Thanks Ariana, a great point that you present, that it is not simply shouting out what we want others to hear, but rather about the quality of our expression that allows us to be heard and understood

272. Thanks Jane for presenting true psychology and in such a concise and simple way.

273. What your sharing is super interesting because so many people are super sensitive and feel the hurts of the world – the suffering and the pain. Is it possible that this rage, anger, dismissiveness is us not wanting to feel and being in reaction to the world.

274. ‘if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’ – absolutely, in dis-connection we are a hole for whatever energy that’s around to pour through us.

275. Thank you for your awesome blog RBS on a subject that needs to be discussed so much more. The teachings presented by Universal Medicine have enabled me to appreciate the depth and extent of abuse in my own life and all around me, anything that isn’t true is abuse.

276. We tend to view life as very basic 3 dimensional events. Someone gets angry or goes into a rage and hurts someone else in that is that. But it is great that this blog raises the question of could there be a force behind our emotions that in our moments of disconnection enters us to give us thoughts and actions we would never normally do? This would change the way we view any harmful or criminal act.

277. What if we were not abusive by nature despite the obvious prevalence of abuse everywhere? What if it came from an energy passing through us not from us per se? An energy that we can choose to allow into our bodies or not.

278. What a great point that any abusive act causes harm that we can see and harm that we cannot see which can last a long time after the event. And that it erodes trust and connection between each other.

279. So many gems in your blog RBS, this one stood our for me today ‘if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’ Wow that statement is gold and reminds us that when we disconnect from who we truly are there is a deep hurt that can easily attract forces that are harming. How different the world would be if everyone was taught this from a young age.

280. Everything out there represents what is going on within me. Taking the lid off my own hurts and behaviours with loving understanding will support us hugely to change what is going on out there. It has to start with me.

281. RBS your article powerfully reveals that no one is born with rage inside them, it is something we allow in. I have felt many times throughout my life such feelings come up, exactly as you have described where it is evident that what is felt isn’t me. Going deeper and looking at the root of why we allow such emotions in is key as it can be seen so clearly that in that moment we have chosen to disconnect from self rather than to feel what is truly going on. I agree RBS it is time we begin the conversation about abuse and rather than point the finger actually begin to take true responsibility for the choices we make and what we let in.

282. Thank you RBS, your sharing is one that many people can relate to. We have accepted rage and expressions of anger and frustration as part of life whilst if we would be truly honest and honouring to ourselves, it has no place in our society. Your blog is contributing to making a much needed change.

283. “We were both perpetrators and victims. ” It is great to acknowledge that a lot of the time this is going on, we are not just victims or perpetrators, we usually are both and honesty is needed before we can make a different choice.

284. “What really hurt was the awful feeling of that moment when I felt a change in my brother, from being a person that I could reason with, to someone who was so disconnected that he was unable to see or hear me.” This is a very strong and tangible example of the blinding force that can come through when we disconnect from ourselves, and we become powerless to have a say over our own behaviour.

285. “I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.” If we can identify the ways that we disconnect from our essence and why, we can understand it more when those around us disconnect from their essence.

286. These are words of great wisdom..”Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us.”

287. I know that everyone can experience rage, regardless of your gender, but there does seem to be a particular aspect to the rage that men can go into. Mainly because it so often has a physical aspect to it, which gets expressed more easily either towards women or other men. The ‘blind rage’ phenomenon is more commonly used to describe the actions of a man than a woman. It begs the question, why? Is it because it is more socially acceptable for a man to be tough and angry? Or is it because men become so pent up from burying their hurts and not having role models to support them to express what they are feeling that they end up feeling rage in the first place?

288. Talking about anger or rage as an energy that enters us when we disconnect from ourselves brings so much more understanding to what is taking place. It helps us to understand that we are responsible for the energy that we express with and the impact this has on others.

289. ‘…if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’ – Energy can certainly harm but it can also heal, it depends on which energy we run by – and it is important to know that we have a choice.

290. “We were both shocked at what happened and it changed something in the way we saw each other, for in this instance, we had both been in the same devastating energy, and we had both had to feel the horrible reality of the resulting damage that you are faced with when the rage is over.” What is profound about this statement is that probably every person who reads it can identify with a moment in their life when they to have felt this. It begs the questions. Where does this other damaging energy come from and why do we allow it in?

291. Violence is in no way natural to us, and as you shared when we’re young we tend to reject and react to aggression and harm. As we grow older we learn that violence and rage are mechanisms used to gain power and control of situations, ‘let out’ emotions, threaten and so forth and especially boys/men feel they need to join in on this to fit in. It’s important to understand that no person is born violent, and that if we choose to go against the trend and stay respectful and understanding then we show that there is another way.

292. “What really hurt was the awful feeling of that moment when I felt a change in my brother, from being a person that I could reason with, to someone who was so disconnected that he was unable to see or hear me.” This is not an uncommon experience RBS, but it is one that we don’t readily stop and challenge enough. We have sayings like “blinded by rage” that fully acknowledge what is happening to us, yet seldom do we stop to question why and say that this is not acceptable. Its time now to ask those questions, have the conversations and empower us all to realise that this is a choice we make because we don’t want to face our real responsibilities in life and that there is another way to handle our emotions so that they don’t dominate our extremely caring natures.

     1. Thanks Rowena, I am deeply inspired that so many are contributing their wisdom to this conversation.

     2. Great point rowenakstewart, upon looking at it from this angle it seems strange that we have not stopped to check what force is running us when we feel so far away from ourselves in these moments.

293. What you have presented RBS is deeply insightful and profound, with such immense understanding expressed from your lived wisdom. You should be presenting courses on this. Seriously.

     “Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence. We all have a responsibility for our own actions, to begin to understand ourselves and others at a much deeper level and finally begin to break these very old and extremely harmful patterns and behaviours so we may once again return to the tender, loving, caring and compassionate beings that we truly are, innately so.” Hear here!!

294. While I don’t recall an experience of rage expressed outwardly such as yours RBS, I was trapped in a pattern for a very long time, where I would inflict rage upon myself inwardly very regularly. I was a chronic nail biter and was literally eating myself as an expression of self-hate and loathing. It’s the same energy, and similarly built up over many years of bottling up my hurts. It wasn’t until I was able to see that I was not my hurts, by connecting with the deeply sensitive and beautiful being that I am, that this long term, distressing habit simply faded away.

     1. Thanks Stevie for sharing your own personal experiences with rage. It is so extremely important for us all to remember that the violent outburst that we can ‘see’ as rage, is only the tip of the iceberg, an iceberg that is ALL deeply destructive. Beautiful to hear how re-connecting with the beauty that you are allowed you to clearly see that we are not our hurts or the behaviours that we adopt to avoid feeling them

     2. Great insight, that it is when we understand and connect to the truth of our being, that from this essence we can deal with and let go of all the destructive emotions and patterns we have loaded ourselves up with , but which are not actually part of us – and from this connection learn to live the truth of us.

295. I too have left cinemas feeling traumatised by sound surround and 3D entertainment experiences, and no longer seek them out. We have to be really checked out of our bodies to not feel the assault that they are.

296. Not knowing and honouring who we are, leaves us wide open for all manner of energies, that are not us, to enter our bodies and wreak havoc.

297. A timely reminder that we are all deeply sensitive, tender beings, at our core. If we as a whole, were to remember this, and live from this, wars would simply not be a part of our reality.

298. ‘History can offer countless examples, from the personal to global level, that confirm the extremes of the harm that we can perform when we choose this ill energy.’ Yes it can although we do not always look at it like this. In the blindness we have even championed the result at the end justifying the horror of war.

299. Anxiety can also lead to anger as we can get ourselves caught in such an anxious state that it build to frustration and then anger.

     1. Well recognised Amina. I have only recently felt the way that I call in the energy of anxiety to avoid reading what I have already felt, but choose not to be aware of. This caused me great inner turmoil and frustration, and as we are now aware of, frustration, or the un-willingness to understand what is being presented to us, is the seed of all rage

300. Getting angry takes so much of our energy and never deals with any of our issues, I used to use anger a lot to cover over how I was feeling and/or to not feel but actually it is much more supportive to stop and take a moment to feel and call for help if we feel it is needed.

301. “Abuse has been around for as long as we know and unfortunately, will probably be with us for a while yet”. We fight each other everywhere from rage to insecurity to jealousy and many more emotions. We hurt ourselves in the process and cause a great disturbance for those surrounding us, be it family or even neighbouring countries. The abuse can be subtle or just plain obvious, but either way so terribly harmful. When we fight, the ultimate in responsibility is to know deep down that there is a fight occurring within ourselves first and to take the pedal off to retaliate or throw the first punch.

     1. Thanks Matthew, yes jealousy and abuse is everywhere. This makes it even more important for us to be a true reflection of responsibility and work on the fight within us. Universal Medicine’s recent re-presentation of the Four Noble Truths offers us all an incredible set of tools to expose the inner fight and bring awareness, connection, reading and transparency into our lives

302. Thank you for sharing openly and honestly. I have been around close people who suffer the same experience, they build up this frustration, over months or even years and as they are unable to express, something small or being just tired can call in an energy and that person becomes someone completely different. Firstly I thought it was something I was doing wrong!, but with support of Esoteric practitioners, I realised it was an energy being called. I have talked about it and these people are more aware, of what is happening, and so to dissolve a situation, they now walk away reconnect to their body and come back.

     1. Beautiful Amita, it is inspiring to hear how your understanding of what leads to rage has allowed others to become more aware of the energy they are choosing. Surely this is the way that we will finally break the cycle of abuse and harm, with love and understanding

303. Thank you for the understanding that you have brought to the triggers and impact of rage. Your observation: ” If we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.” shows how it may not be a pre-meditated thing, but we do have a responsibility in how we live that opens us up to the energy that through us inflicts great harm.

304. I remember the horror of ‘action packed’ movies when I used to watch them. I used to try and fit in and would spend half the film with my eyes shut or behind a cushion, to try to avoid feeling the rage. There is no way we can connect to our tenderness and sensitivity and watch these types of films without feeling it. Your experience of how rage has affected you is inspiring for us all to feel in to our own experiences, RBS.

305. Our aggressive behaviour is a way to avoid feeling our own hurts but it perpetrates more hurt, it doesn’t make sense, so why do we do it? In my case it stops the trigger – stops another person from reflecting back me to me at a deeper level. I can manipulate situations to keep everything shallow. I am horrified at how often I do this and am slowly learning to allow those deeper feelings to be felt.

     1. What you share is very honest, very beautiful and very inspiring for us all as we begin to explore the hurts we have all harboured for a long, long time

306. We are not born angry aggressive or a bully these are things that we learn and acquire as we go through life and by not dealing with our hurts causes us to protect ourselves in what ever way we can. If we are pushed as in your case by your brother’s bullying RBS then there comes a breaking point of no return where we lash out. Becoming more aware of our hurts and how they affect us so that we stop the build up from happening can be the start of breaking some very old and deep rooted patterns and behaviours. We are responsible for our actions and it is great that you are opening up the discussion and looking at what happens before the rage and looking for the root cause, as you say “Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence.”

307. It is worth understanding how a lack of expression in the first instance, let to this building of emotion in the body and how carrying this frustration eventually led to an explosion of rage. I know I have felt this in my life and it came from this idea that I had to keep things nicely going along without rocking the boat. Things that should have been dealt with, weren’t. Rage gets people in trouble. It causes life long damage that can change everything in an instant. This force is ready and willing to create havoc within a life at any time. Our power lies in the expression of what is needed exactly when it is needed.

308. Thank you for sharing your story, RBS. Its quite a potent memory that remains when we have experienced something (like the surround sound movie you went to) that shatters our innocence or loving view about the way we see or understand the world. Its interesting how events in life erode this natural innocence away and can make one more protected and less open to expressing love

     1. Hi Johanne, for me it felt like there was already a deep hurt around violent behaviour, and what played out around me in life, simply triggered an energy, a hurt, that needed to be healed. I could now add, that my resistance and struggle with allowing myself to feel my hurts and deal with them, has been far more damaging than the original hurt that I was avoiding. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and the wisdom, modalities, writings and the Way of the Livingness that he has presented, I now have been able to experience the love and support that is available for all of us to deal with and clear all that we have held in our bodies that is not from us or true to our innate loving nature. It is in the letting go of what we are not, that allows us to openly express all the love that we are, as we no longer have hurts to protect

309. It is our responsibility to choose to be consciously present with ourselves so what we express is all of us leaving no room for the expression of anything less.

310. This is so important to acknowledge. Often these symptoms are not the root of the problem but subsequent reactions, built up and created, layer upon layer of the original hurt.

311. This is so beautifully written. I can almost relate to every word, this is deeply inspiring. Thank you for sharing this RBS

312. It’s amazing to talk about and see how things build. We are often shocked when something appears to come out of nowhere but as you are saying the signs were always there we just all drove straight past them. This can expose the depth of our relationships and care for ourselves and others. It’s great to know a lot of people but are we growing those people and relationships or are we coming back to the same point to tick a box almost and make ourselves feel good.

     1. I love your analogy Ray. At least by having these conversations, we can support each other to be more aware of the signs, bring an understanding to what may be going on for us when we see them and empower ourselves to know that we always have a choice to put our foot on the brake or the throttle, either way, there will be a consequence that is already known

        1. The choice is absolutely ours to put our food on the brake or the throttle great analogy rgs008 and as you say there will be a consequence either way that’s for sure and this is just the reminder I needed this morning. All choices have consequences.

313. Thanks RBS for the honesty with which you share and for an insight into the violence we are all capable of depending on the energy we choose to align to at that time.

314. How significant it is to have such insight and self awareness when it comes to your own behaviours and patterns – it would be an enormous support to start early and educate every child to understand this very important aspect of life, self awareness.

     1. Well said Eva. I have found that by sharing my own insights and awareness with children, it is quite amazing what they then begin to share of their own experiences. They certainly are wise beyond their years and will offer this wisdom when we see the truth of who they are and treat them as equals

315. The experience of rage both from us and to us is a difficult one. The presence of rage signifies a deeper issue, perhaps lack of speaking up, or deep hurts. Whatever the cause the rage can be a clue to know that something does need to be addressed, and I have found the Esoteric modalities impressive at resolving such issues.

316. ‘The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage.’ We have to see what is truly going on and take our responsibility for our own behaviour and way of living before we can change this cycle of abuse and violence everywhere.

     1. Beautifully expressed Annelies. It is very refreshing to find those willing to take responsibility for the way they live in a world where everyone is looking for answers outside of themselves, the result of which is of course, no change or evolution at all

317. What you make clear to me RBS that it is important to stay connected with that vulnerability and tenderness we all carry in us because if we fail to maintain this connection as from how we react to the world and the violent acts that we are witness of, we in a way align to that abusive way of living and do not see it for what it actually is. This then makes that we are influenced by this energy that is actually driving all that abusive behavior and with that we are part of the game. Dependent of our level of disconnection we can then become puppets of that energy and can perform the violent acts which we never would do when we are fully with ourselves and connected to our inner hearts. And that to me is the way for humanity to return to, to return to a way of living where we will simply not allow any abuse or violent act from another. And as you say RBS the abuse will be with us for a while as there is a momentum involved, but it is up to us and any individual to stand up and say no to these evil acts as by doing so we inspire others to do the same and this eventually will spread around the world.

318. Rage definitely feels like an energy that wells up and overwhelms us. Looking at where it comes from, both as an external force that we call into bodies and from the perspective of what unresolved issues we are still carrying that enable us to be triggered into outbursts, is a very worthwhile exploration indeed. Especially worthwhile in light of the increasing rates and degrees of violence on a worldwide scale.

319. Abuse abounds in society at every turn and whilst we are quick to gauge it in others, we seldom choose to see it in our own lives and what we accept or dish out to others. Honesty such as what you have brought to the table in this blog is a needed start – to honestly cast light on ourselves and illuminate the shadows where we retreat, hide, cower and seek comfort until they are no more. To heal our own self-abuse will quickly reveal the greater and deeper abuse that we all live with and in.

     1. Thanks Deborah, I love the way you have so clearly highlighted the importance of the responsibility that we all have to look at our own self abuse first. This is so powerful

320. What you share here is pertinent to all. The line of perpetrator and victim – are they really that different?
     We swing from one to another with such familiarity and yet our True home is taking full responsibility for the energy we live in any moment and the choices thereafter.

321. I have always found any form of violence in films very upsetting and disturbing. I remember when I was quite young watching a so-called comedy called ‘The 3 Stooges’ and they behaved horribly to each other, constantly bashing each other over the head with various objects. I didn’t enjoy it one bit and felt quite anxious and couldn’t wait to get out of there.

322. Gosh you explained ‘the force behind rage’ so well RBS – you covered almost every aspect with an extraordinarily well-developed insight at such an early age. I really appreciate you sharing your experience and understanding which has, in turn, given me a much better understanding. I have a very steady temperament and don’t often get angry but I have never felt enraged. Whenever I witnessed other people exploding with rage I found it very disturbing and frightening and would steer clear of them.

323. The enormity of knowing that our emotions come through us and are not from us is revelatory. This is deeply empowering and enables significant change in our behaviour when we stop thinking we are our emotions and can instead feel the truth of our innateness.

324. RBS I know when I’ve allowed myself to let the force of rage through me its like I don’t know myself, like something else completely takes over and the things I do or say are the complete opposite of who I am. After I feel depleted, drained and a wreck, I can’t understand how it has been possible or even why I allowed that. The fact is when I am not connected to myself I am capable of anything, it can be very disconcerting and scary to realise the damage and destruction that I can cause by allowing rage. It destroys life in so many ways.

325. This is such an important conversation to start and to bring awareness to the forces that are behind any abusive or evil acts. Thank you being so honest and open in your sharing as this brings understanding as to why people act in this harmful way when in truth we are all naturally tender, loving people. We all have a responsibility to deal with what hurts us so that we can withstand these forces at play that can seemingly take a hold of us when we are triggered.

326. ‘What really hurt was the awful feeling of that moment when I felt a change in my brother, from being a person that I could reason with, to someone who was so disconnected that he was unable to see or hear me.’ – Isn’t it fascinating that these emotions can affect us so much, to the point where we cannot really think, hear or reason with others. What you’ve shared here captures why we really have to address thoughts and emotions of rage, as they can become all-encompassing and cloud our clarity, affecting both us and others.

327. Surely the reflection that war offers us as a race of beings is that we are not as sane as we might like to believe. Is it not as clear as day that killing each other is crazy? Perhaps the insanity runs so deep that we are all affected by it and never consider the bigger picture that we are being shown here. Perhaps we need someone truly sane to come in and reflect back to us what true sanity is – someone like Serge Benhayon. That he has been subjected to abuse, hate, ridicule and abhorrent lies is another reflection of our insanity as a race. Just as the way we have treated other truly loving beings in our history is too. Thank God we gave up crucifying people – physically at least. It seems though that we are still not averse to crucifying others energetically.

328. RBS, I can feel how important it is to have understanding about why people commit cruel and violent acts, ‘Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us.’ In society we see people that commit these acts as ‘evil’ or ‘bad’ people which then separate us and them, this creates a fear and does not allow for healing for people committing the crimes, they are labelled as ‘bad’ or ‘evil’ rather than their being an understanding of what may have happened in their lives – some pretty awful things probably – to have led them to commit these crimes.

329. I have experienced this energetic shift myself and also witnessed it in others. An obvious example is when under the influence of alcohol. Many years ago I can recall being on a tube train in London, on my way home following a night out after work and definitely under the influence of alcohol, having some very dark thoughts that were totally out of character for me. It was shocking. ‘Where did that come from’ I recall thinking to myself. Then there are occasions when I have seen others change completely when drinking, Suddenly it seems they become someone they are not when sober, behaviours once again are out of character, some become very ‘dark’ at that time. I have no doubt that an energy comes through people at this time which is something I would have been very sceptical about had I not seen if for myself – but today I am certain it is true.

330. There is a very powerful offering in this blog about the importance of understanding. The moment we go into judgement we are lost in the mire of emotional reactions but to bring understanding to life is an act of true Love. To me, understanding is never losing sight of the truth that is the essence of us all – that this essence is primary and that anything else that happens is secondary. Someone who loses themselves in a rage or other emotional extreme has ‘lost themselves’ as in they have lost the awareness of who they truly are and of who we all are. To hold ourselves and others in this understanding is to me, truly healing. This does not mean passively accepting abuse and doing nothing about it but it means first understanding that those involved are lost to themselves. If we understand rather than go into emotional reactions we have a chance of stopping the momentum of the abuse and not perpetuating the energy of it any further.

331. Rage is an extreme version of all the frustrations that have built up along the way. I know that I can easily hold on to frustrations without dealing with them in the moment. This usually leads to a bit of depression, but left to fester too long and the energy of this becomes very strong and the potential for a rage-full outburst is apparent. Even if the outburst does not happen the energy seeps out in little ways such as having a dig at people or moving in a rough way. This is still harming for those around me. We have a responsibility to take care of how we are feeling and deal with it and express it, otherwise we leave ourselves open to a force that can take over and do a great deal of harm.

332. The force behind rage is enormous and quite shocking to feel both from within ourselves and from others . Living a life from unexpressed emotions is very harmful and this needs to be more openly expressed and seen and a true responsibility for ourselves to be taken. If we were honoured in our expression from young and allowed to be who we are we would grow up so differently and lovingly and the games and violence would be accountable for and we would not be exposed to what we are today in our homes so available and lived that is very shocking and unloving in every way and not a true reflection of the love and tenderness we all are.

333. It is like if we do not express what we feel – this not expressed words stayed in the body and are in a way waiting to be expressed. More and more unexpressed words are following until the body can not deal with this type of energy anymore and had to let it out. This can be through illness or disease or through rage. I prefer now to express immediately to the best of my ability as this is in fact more healthier.

334. One of the reasons I stopped watching British soap operas, was because of their apparently limited emotional vocabulary, centred round anger, rage, resentment, bullying. Rarely do they portray characters who are emotionally mature, sensitive, gentle. Its a sad testament to see how toxic these programmes are and yet they seem to attract the highest audience figures. People fed a daily dose of rage, wanting more of the same. We do need to open and honest about rage and what feeds it, without exploiting it for gain.

335. Are we ready to admit that we call in the energy of rage and that it is not something just happening to us? Are we ready to have discussions on this level of honesty?

336. This is a great confirmation of how we are all at our essence “tender, loving, caring and compassionate beings” and that evil does not come from man but ‘through man. Knowing that we are each capable of the moments when extremely unloving thoughts come through is a humbling realization, what Michael Benhayon’s question clarified for you, that such an outburst “never comes in a moment, rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time” invites great responsibility in the way we choose to live.

337. The example of the extreme thoughts that can come in at times, show me that anyone of us is capable of having these thoughts. It is like they are a frequency just sitting there waiting to be tuned into. In other words, we all have the choice at all times to go into rage or have thoughts that can harm another. It’s just whether we tune into that frequency or not.

338. By allowing ourselves to feel the full impact of our unloving choices hugely supports us to not choose them again. Whereas if we deny how we feel, pretend it didn’t happen or even worse convince ourselves that unloving behaviours and choices are OK, we then are more likely to repeat the same ill behaviours and choices again and again.

339. I could relate to how you felt about the war movie. I remember being very upset by war movies or where people harmed each other. Even though I felt all this I didn’t feel there was an opening to discuss this with my family. If they took me to see a war movie, I assumed they were ok with it and that was just part of life. Instead of honouring my feelings, I turned this on myself and decided I was too sensitive and I needed to toughen up like adults seemed to have done.

340. I also experienced bullying as a child. I was often gentle and disliked any form of conflict but I was living in an environment that was like a constant war zone. I remember the first time I went into rage when I was a child the thought of ‘enough was enough’ came up loud and clear. I too recall the shock, the sadness, the pain and deep hurt I felt after going into rage. I remember saying to myself afterwards as I was lying in a heap sobbing that I never wanted to feel that way again. It felt so awful, I didn’t feel like myself, I was scared that I was able to tap into this force of rage and I knew it was a very harmful way to react. What stood out for me was I knew that rage wasn’t me, it felt so foreign and cold and how much it hurt to go into rage. By allowing myself to feel what I felt assisted me hugely to not choose rage.

     1. The devastation after feeling rage can be huge. If we are able to connect to this and allow these feelings to come up it helps us know that it serves us no purpose to ever choose this again.

341. I really appreciated this personal exploration of rage. For me it very clearly highlighted the importance of expression and the consequences of suppressing it over many years. I could feel all those times when the bullying occurred and the feelings that were not expressed. Add that up over 13 years and you have a time bomb. Rage can’t just come out of nowhere. It has to be a build up of all the pent up unexpressed feelings suddenly exploding, like a cork being released from a bottle with a bang.

342. Thank you RBS for sharing so honestly your experience with rage, I have never liked anger, rage etc, I felt very scary of it. On one occasion in my late teens I experienced and out burst of rage, I didn’t want to hurt anybody, only maybe the chair, but this outburst frightened me, it was as if it came out of no where, and so out of character for me, and it had never happened since. These words of yours are so true, “I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time . . . ”

343. I was very interested by the title of this blog. It seemed important to use the word ‘force’ when referring to rage as it indeed feels like a huge force. It is like a tsunami, building in the depths of the sea to come out of nowhere, devastating everything in its wake in a moment and then it is gone.

344. RBS your title ‘the force behind rage’ is so apt. I have felt rage many times in my life; in my early twenties I felt livid a lot. It is indeed a force, an unquantifiable torrent of unpredictable energy that rolls through the body. I can understand how this energy results in physical violence, the physical violence feels like the slapping of a vicious tail, the energy’s exit point from the body causing the limbs to attack either ourselves or another.

345. Thank you RBS. its interesting to note how you knew that the rage and thoughts that came with it were not your own. A great testament to how everything is energy, including our thoughts. and when we let our emotions get the better of us, disconnect from ourselves and loose understanding for another, any energy can enter.

346. It is the abuse we let go unchecked that builds the force of the rage that eventually erupts through us. This is made up of either one big hurt that is long buried, or the myriad of seemingly little hurts that are overlooked and over time, accumulate into one enormous hurt that becomes so huge we think we have to build a fortress around us to protect ourselves from feeling it. It is this ‘fortress’ we build that becomes our deepest prison, for within its walls we cannot feel the love we so innately are and that we would naturally express had we not fenced ourselves in and others out.

347. This is a great and worthy conversation starter, thankyou RBS. The abuse we put up with has no power over us if we see it and name it for what it is. This you have done with no blame or justification, but with great sensitivity, openness and honesty. This is much needed because often it is our shame that trips us up and prevents us from going deeper in exploring the bind our emotions can keep us in.

348. When I grew up I remember being very astute as to when a person’s hurts got in the way of them being their natural loving selves and a force entered and burnt through them like a fiery rage. I can feel this in myself too but much less so than when younger. To consider the barriers we put up between us to protect ourselves from this force is the same as the force allows me to see that fending fire off with fire only makes more fire, harming more people and burning ourselves and the bridges connecting us in the process. Bringing love and greater understanding heals the wounds we inflict upon each other.

349. The phrase “What on earth has got into you? This is not like you.” comes to mind when reading this amazing and revealing blog. When rage explodes, there is is very obvious, completely alien energy running through someone and in that moment, they are not the person as we know them – the features change, the eyes can even change colour and look quite sinister, flat and hard. The disconnection from our innermost essence leaves us wide open to be taken over by this very volatile and ugly energy. Frustration and resentment builds like a pressure cooker and suddenly has to explode with rage because nothing has been expressed sooner.

350. Just because the rage doesn’t play out, doesn’t mean we are not in its accumulation phase..

     As a whole we have muted ourselves immensly – I mean no one truly wants to live with abuse, yet the world is riddled with it. Bullying exist in our education system and all industries. There is always something happening to someone in the world almost constantly. All this is a reflection of how much we have muted ourselves. If everyone in the world spoke up about just one exhibit of corruption.. it simply could not go on. I know when I speak up and address something that I haven’t in a while, as much as it feel great to break my self imprisioning silence, it always comes out a bit loaded with an inner fury of having not done it sooner.

     So yes I agree, lets talk about the violence even if it is just felt and not bought to full expression, let’s expose it so that we can no longer use it to hurt ourselves or each other anymore.

351. If we do not allow ourselves to express what we feel, eventually it will be expressed in a manner not of our choosing.

352. It is incredible what a force gets unleashed when we sit on an internal volcano of unexpressed emotions. Thank you for the precision and clarity of your account.

353. Everything matters is reinforced in your sharing here RBS. I want to understand more deeply and take more responsibility for the truth of this statement – when I feel it’s enormity I am blown away by the possibility it holds.

354. I loved the honesty in this blog – so often we pretend or excuse our abusive behaviour or thoughts without ever considering that it actually feels foreign to the body and to consider where and what this stems from and to come to a place not of dismissing the behaviour, but of understanding it. It made me consider a situation I once experienced at work which resulted in some unacceptable behaviour which escalated well beyond what it needed to, but which could have been resolved by some understanding on the part of both parties for what the other had experienced along with communication to express the hurts that had been triggered, rather than react in abuse to them.

355. This is so revealing RBS, we all have an absolute responsibility for our actions. Not only our actions but the quality of energy that supports loving action and that which allows actions that are not from love.

356. You describe very clearly what happens and how people are capable of displaying such vile and abusive acts towards others. You also describe very clearly how this continues and builds when we react to an abusive act instead of bringing understanding as to why it has happened.

357. It’s interesting how you have a definite specific memory of when you changed your defence to attack as a 13 year old, it must’ve felt very overwhelming to you to be reacting so differently. You describe very clearly how you have always known it’s not you, it’s a force that has come through you. People can use this force in the same way to win sporting matches, run marathons, there is an internal rage that can take over the body. It can be felt in many forms, but has no control over us when we hold a connection to ourselves.

358. Rage comes from emotions that are left unchecked, that is what I gathered from reading this, and so it makes sense that we must make choices to not leave parts of our lives unchecked. It can be for example when a work colleague does something that we disagree with, do we let it go or do we express our feelings, it is also part of managing life, bringing that awareness to how events affect us and definitely not just saying i’m ok as can be our want to do, certainly mine over the years.

359. The ability you had to notice and observe the feelings of rage come over you BEFORE you ‘lashed out’ or translated them into physical actions is incredible – although there is much to consider in terms of how those thoughts are allowed in, and how the body gets into that state, it appears many people may have not learnt to ‘clock’ these feelings and thus would immediately turn violent without consideration of how it would effect themselves or others. This is an inspiring blog that could support them to know their body on a deeper level and learn to do this.

360. I so often see bullying in families in public – at airports, in supermarkets, and that is accepted as ‘normal sibling rivalry’, or ‘strict parenting’ but it is abuse, and your article reminds me how much goes on behind closed doors. It is only when we understand how our hurts can drive our reactions that we can learn to let them go and begin to treat everybody with respect.

361. RBS, i can relate to taking on this energy and the awful feeling that we are left with afterwards, I used to get angry with my son and could feel this coldness and rage, my son would get so upset and i would feel so awful afterwards that i stopped this, it felt devastating.

362. This is a huge and brave article. Brave in the sense that it brings to the open a whole new approach to the way we view our outbursts. It brings responsibility into the frame and we can either choose to take this up or continue to pretend we are unwitting victims of random circumstance.

363. RBS thank you for sharing such a deeply personal story that asks us all to reflect on the level and type of abuse, rage and anger that we’ve allowed in our lives. One part that stands out for me is the fact of the abuse, the rage, being something that builds. So all those times we may try and cover up, hide or bury a feeling we are in fact fuelling the possibility of rage. It makes you appreciate the importance of being open and honest with everything.

364. What a revelation to realise the real consequence of un-dealt with frustration and rage, that it can build to such a point that we abandon all reason and allow such a force to dominate us. It explains why we are able to perform such atrocities on our fellow beings, because this force separates us from our extremely tender and deeply caring nature. Thank you for opening the conversation, it needs to be shared far and wide.

365. Dear RBS thank you so much for sharing so openly about your experience with rage – it helped me to get a deeper understanding what rage really is. Following sentences was gold for me: “I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time . . . ” So it is the best medicine for us to be open and share things than to swallow them.

366. This article serves as a reminder to look at the pockets of frustration and abuse at any level that may be in our own lives.

367. Its very scary to think that people can call on and even enjoy the energy behind rage and that we are all capable of letting it in if we do no stay connected to ourselves.

368. Every one of us is capable of rage, anger and abuse when we identify with and let hurts and emotions rule.
     Thank you for your blog RBS that brings awareness to this issue. That we call in a force when we are not aligned to our nature, which is love, brings understanding to how it is possible. It may be difficult at times not to react when we experience vile behaviour but when we do this only ever adds to the abuse. There is always a deeper awareness and understanding we can bring and communicating and expressing what we feel is key.

369. Wow, this is profound to read and re-read. Sometimes we are so deeply hurt that we see no alternative but to protect ourselves in the most extreme ways. Violence and abuse goes way beyond the physical. It is a contagious disease that can quickly spread through society and quickly engrain itself in the ways of men (and women) for generations to come.

370. As I re read your blog I could feel the fear that I go into if I am around anyone that is in rage and it affects me so strongly. It is in those moments that I react instead of being able to observe the situation. I go into fight or flight too and then none of us are able to be the point of reflection, the light at the end of a dark tunnel. I am learning not to react but it sure is a work in progress.

371. I remember growing up having to watch a wrestling show every Sunday lunch when I was young.
     I hated watching men hurt each other, even though I was reassured by my brothers that it is all a show.
     I also felt sick in the stomach having to watch it whilst eating.
     And following lunch my brothers would try and imitate the wrestlers on the TV, which always ended up in someone getting hurt. Today we have violent video games. What impact does this have on young males when they are adults?

372. RBS, the thought of taking a young teenage boy to a violent movie with’ surround sound’ is horrifying, and it happens frequently. As you testified: ‘I was shaken (literally) and left the cinema feeling quite disturbed, but unable to express what it was I was feeling. I actually wanted to cry. I did not like violence in any shape or form and seeing people being hurt and killed really upset me.’ I wonder if your grandmother actually consciously registered how you were feeling and talk to you? We as a society need to question what we ‘feed’ our young people as their ‘daily bread’. I have exited the movies when I could feel the assault of the sound and images (which most of them do at some level) and rarely go now, but it would have been a different situation for a young teenager.

373. Rage often stems from a seemingly trivial incident the incident is just the straw that broke the camel’s back and is often unrelated to what is really happening in that moment. When we hold on to our hurts they build up and fester away in our bodies like a boil under the skin until something triggers them to erupt. Our underlying hurts are our responsibility to nominate and release before they manifest into physical illness and dis-ease.

374. I read this blog yesterday before I went to work and for some reason after a small trigger at work when I first arrived I went into rage like I have not experienced for many years. I managed to put a lid on it to some extent but could feel the drive behind venom in everything I said and did. My body felt hard and fury I could feel inside of me was scary. It reminded me of how I lived day in and day out in the past decapitating everyone I came across with my tongue. After feeling into what I was experiencing in my body for a while trying to figure out what was behind it and looking of the trigger I could feel was going into beat up so I stopped took a few breaths and brought myself back to my body then went for a walk with myself. I felt myself come back to myself almost instantly and let go of trying to analyse the situation.

375. For the past couple of days I have felt pretty rage-y. Something I can’t usually connect to or describe myself as. Understanding energy, I have been acutely aware of the force driving this yet that does little to stop the choice to feel it. Even the pain and torment through my body when feeling this way was not always enough to cut the choice to connect to this force. I realised it was easier to allow this pain and discomfort to play out than to feel what was really going on beneath the so called rage – for in that I would have to surrender. I knew it was only a choice to stay fighting, trying to control the situation, and stay rage-y, or to chose gentleness and understanding with myself. As soon as I recognised this, even saying it to myself, the rage dissipated, the force was gone, and I was connected with the true me again. Sometimes these situations can spin us out so much, but it serves us well to remember it is only energy and just a choice.

376. We cannot harm another without firstly harming ourselves; and ultimately we are always harming both ourselves and others at the same time, and never one without the other.

377. it is deeply disturbing to go into a reaction that you know is definitely not you by nature. I love the way Michael Benhayon brought to your awareness the fact that these reactions are built over time. It is our mini reactions in every moment that we choose not to express the truth that is there and what we feel that builds up to a monumental outburst of not being ourselves. The mini subtle moments of frustration are as equally damaging, and in fact the cause of the louder ones.

378. Great point RBS – what happens when we disconnect and are not ourselves ‘ I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature, but what I have experienced both as a victim and as a perpetrator, is that if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’

379. “…if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.” This is an amazing insight into what happens when people are violent and that it is “not them” when these acts occur. This does not diminish the responsibility that people have in relation to their behavior. Rather, it increases our responsibility as we are responsible for maintaining our connection so that this energy cannot enter.

380. It is the greatest responsibility and respect to observe consistently our quality, and the way we are coming across as a creation of being how we’re holding ourselves in life – with ease or tension for example. Not being aware leads to a non-expression, and ensuing disharmony like rage or lock down to affect. I know that when i don’t express something that really needs to be expressed, and keep hold of it, it discombobulates me or i get an instant headache. My quality changes and i can get easily agitated/reactive, which feels awful. As soon as i clock this for myself, and understand what’s gone on the valve like tension releases, and i come back to my quality – clocking ‘quality’ is completely essential for harmonious ways of living or working with efficiency.

381. A great point you’ve made about your brother and yourself being both the victim and the perpetrator. A person doesn’t deliberately abuse or bully other people without first being a victim themselves.

382. I never went into rage for I always knew I had the ability and strength to kill someone, especially when the Vietnam war was beamed directly into our house with pictures of people being put to death with a gun to the head. For me, as the elder brother who was much stronger and fighting was just a game we both played but I was always playing more than my brother, because he would quite often go on attack mode, which made me laugh and usually then with a quick hit etc. it would be all over with my brother crying I had hurt him, he forgot this was only a game. So where did this game start, was it the gladiators or even further back to when we separated from being the Son of God thus allowing in another energy. War being the end result of choosing an ill energy two people my brother and me were at war with each other at times, which could then also turn into us being peace-full, but when watching a violent sport on TV the games would begin again and the game was on again between us which could lead to war. Peace will only ever be momentary, but now with an understanding of being in re-connection to my inner-heart I now a choice to be love, which bring me to a Livingness of being truly harmonious. A harmony that makes it impossible to go to war!

383. I, like most people, have always disliked conflict and situations where I am confronted by aggressive people but I came to realise that it was not the other person in the situation that concerned me – it was me. This being due to the feeling of rage that I know I have had the capacity to channel previously and of which I was also aware of the potential to cause damage and destruction. Having made so many changes in my life, step by step, I am now more aware of the factors which contribute to the buildup of energy needed for it to erupt as rage. Catching everything super early, not discounting anything that I feel and expressing what I have felt feels to be the key.

384. It’s easy to identify with our thoughts and emotions as belonging to us, as though we own them and they are a part of us rather than seeing them as a choice like you have RBS. But to see them as a choice, rather than an identity, makes it much easier to be discerning of what we are thinking and from what energy we are expressing.

385. The Force Behind Rage is something we have all witnessed, and at times succumbed to, it has just been accepted that something comes over us when we loose it, but no one ever questions where the force stems from and why it is often a sudden burst of rage, often leaving the person depleted. We know that rage usually stems from an underlying, pent up unexpressed hurt, but not until the teachings of Serge Benhayon explained energy can come through us, which explains the immediacy, the out of character strength that comes through with rage. If we ignore the hurts we are leaving an opening for that other energy to have its way with us, which is not our natural expression at all. This blog RBS has a teaching that will expose and answer age old questions around violence, aggression and rage, benefitting all that read it, thank you for this sharing.

386. This blog brings great understanding to those who choose to be victims or perpetrators of abuse on all levels, but it does not excuse the behaviour – rather, it calls them to account and to take responsibility. We all have a responsibility all the time to discern the thoughts and energy running through our body.

387. Thanks to Serge Benhayon introducing the fact that everything is because of energy – we can now be confirmed in knowing what enters our body when we disconnect. RBS, I wonder if without Serge’s teachings would you have had and been able to share such gorgeous clarity on what was going on when you called in a flow of rage into your body? It is clear to me now, that the vilest perpetrators out there have the deepest, oldest and most un-dealt with hurts.

388. Living in the world as it is today, I am observing so many practices, distractions, entertainment and substances that constantly invite and encourage us to separate from the connection to who we truly are. When we are connected to the innately loving, tender and compassionate Being we are, there is no way a harmful action, thought or word can be expressed. There is much for us all to do in addressing the things that lead to separation and a responsibility to be lived by those that have re-connected, to reflect the different choices that are available and can be lived. Thank you RBS for this open, honest and detailed blog of which we all can feel the truth. We can all identify with having had the experience of the victim, the perpetrator or both and are proof that an end to this chosen behaviour can be acknowledged and changed.

389. I love your description of what you felt and knew the first time you called rage into your body. It shows the depth of our awareness. We can then choose to shut off this awareness, but it is always there.

390. ‘The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage. It makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear.’ Yes, this is absolutely true. Not only do we feel unsafe but in order to counter that, we do whatever we can to protect ourselves from others…even if we think we are good with people and think we allow people in, we actually make sure that they are an arm’s length away to avoid as much potential hurt as possible. This is what separates us, and in fact doesn’t protect us from anything, as it keeps us isolated from truly connecting with people.

391. This is such a powerful blog and you absolutely dissect rage. What rang so true for me and which is something I have not always wanted to see is that rage doesn’t come from nowhere, it builds over time until a snap point and then bang, the rage is there and it’s beyond reason. I have experienced this in me in the past and it’s completely without reason and absolutely devastating (although at the time I didn’t want to feel it). Now feeling it again after reading this blog, I have a new understanding that if we do not address those little things over time and take responsibility we allow that opening for rage, and every little thing counts and if not addressed it gets loaded onto another situation or person. It tells me to take care in each moment, and honour what I feel and to catch those moments where I don’t and be honest about them. Thank you for an awesome blog.

392. Great article. The aftermath of rage can be devastating as you say and because of this avoided. Having conversations like this out in the open can be very healing and offer so much understanding as to where the rage comes from.

393. I can relate to being completely taken by an energy that has caused me to experience pure rage. In the moment it feels as though I am possessed, crazy even, as this uncontrollable feeling passes through. Rage is nothing like anger, it’s very next level and it’s super dangerous. There was a time where I would not have taken responsibility for calling that energy in, and blamed the person or circumstance on me reacting that way. Today though, I have the awareness around each of those times, and I can feel the desperation I was feeling and how I did in fact call that in, as it was often a cry for attention because I hadn’t felt seen or heard.

394. This is a great explanation of the process that happens with rage. That it isn’t something that happens in just one moment, but is an energy that is built over a period of time until we get to a breaking point. Dealing with the energies that play out for us such as frustration, anger, a lack of expression, not feeling our hurts are a way to address the energy of rage from what is its source.

395. It is very true that we need to talk about the violence and abuse in our society as it has become more and more an accepted way of behaving. This is happening because we are allowing the subtle forms of abuse to remain and be unaddressed. If we do not arrest this force that currently runs through our society we will continue to see more and more extreme behaviours playing out. Our children are learning that this is the normal way to relate to each other, themselves and manage the distress they feel (from the abuse that they feel ) for example, self-harming of young people is on the rise at a frighteningly rapid pace. We need to talk openly and honestly about what abuse actually is as no-one truly enjoys to be violated be it self-imposed or otherwise. This force is not our natural expression as is evident by the distress and unsettlement that follows when we are met with it or have allowed this force to run through us.

396. This is such a powerful teaching RBS, you have given us a clear insight into the source of unexpressed emotion that builds toward rage. I also feel rage can be used to cover up true feelings and holding back full expression in not allowing their sensitivities to be seen, rage can be an decoy so as not to let people see the real sensitive you. Growing up in some cultures, it is NOT OK to be tender, sensitive and caring as a man, but it was acceptable to be loud, angry opinionated, dominating, all to hide the fact that you are very intuitive and read others very well but no one reflected a different way to be.

397. I remember growing up with the feeling or fear of going to war. I discussed this with a few people and Australia is considered the ‘lucky country’ and so I would dismiss the fear or feeling based on these discussions but it would never go away. In other words no matter how much sense something made, this feeling was always sitting there underneath. I had never thought about why this feeling was there and it was there from very young and so had nothing to do with my upbringing or surroundings. You could say it didn’t make sense and based on that is why I would dismiss it. This article has ignited this feeling again and based on what I know it is there to be ‘looked’ at. Thank you RBS for highlighting some of the many things we carry with us and at times are unaware of.

398. It strikes me RBS that we are in our infancy of understanding and actually dealing with this type of energy and expression in the world, from the most overt violence and abuse we accept in certain countries or amongst certain factions of society, to the smallest and seemingly insignificant expression in our day to day goings-about with one another.

     1. Thanks so much for the care & depth of your responses regarding this very real & destructive issue.
        I agree Jenny, we are at our infancy in regards to truly exposing all there is around abuse. I am inspired that so many are willing to go there with an honesty & will to share with others

        1. Yes and we are in our infancy when it comes to returning to an understanding of how far we have strayed from what abuse is in fact. De-sensitised as we are, there is much healing to do before we begin to feel again the extent of abuse in so many subtle and daily exchanges, including those we allow from ourselves in the way we move and speak amidst the many choices made that are unloving in their varying degrees.

399. Thank you RBS for his very powerful piece of writing that exposes for us all the immediate and continuing damage that comes from rage and abuse in general. You have shared so many revelatory points such as the fact that abuse continues to impose and affect another often long after the actual incident is over. This highlights how abuse is a force that enters the body and takes over. But what is also revealed here is how this is allowed by us to occur, through our hurts that are not addressed. This is the opening this force requires to enter and play out the evil behaviours that exist in our world today. It is through honesty that we are able to see how the abuse that exists all around us on a daily basis, the subtle and the not so subtle. It is with this same honesty that we can address and let go of our hurts so we can then speak up and say ‘NO’ to the force of abuse either wanting to come through us or at us through another.

     1. Thanks Carola, for your beautiful and very concise summary around the energy of rage. My feeling is that as we bring more awareness and understanding to humanity, more and more will say no to abuse

400. There is a ‘tipping point’ I have experienced when the hurt is so much I was open to an energy to pour through me. It was the most disturbing experience because all these thoughts and words where coming through and while I knew it was coming through me I also new it wasn’t me from my essence. I could then understand why people seem to be able to become revengeful and very nasty or even vile. There is a mass of that energy just waiting to have an opportunity to explode and create havoc through us when we choose to let go of our own divine connection.

     1. The level of violence and harm that is now coming through people is indeed shocking. It is also a reflection of the amount of force that is being offered to attempt to counter the enormous, ever expanding love that we all naturally are

401. RBS this is the second time l’ve read your blog and it was just as powerful as the first. I was particularly struck this time by the clarity in which you reflected on how you were as a boy, the gentle innocence that was part of your nature, and then the overcoming of this by an energy you could feel became the rage. It is very powerful to understand this as energy moving through the body, rather that an essential part of who you are.

     1. It is so so important Jenny. I agree. We should be taught this as toddlers and absolutely in our education system.

        1. Being taught about energy from a young age and the fact we are subjects of it, which means we are moved by it, given thoughts, ideas and impulses by it, in fact everything we do, say and think is because of energy, would indeed change everything.

402. In the build up away from our essence we can get to a place that we can’t even recall our connection to love and doubt there is even a god, I know I was one of those people. How deeply sad to live not knowing our core divinity.

403. Fascinating article, you describe so well the moment of rage being enacted and how horrendous it is for everyone involved, including the planet – if we really understood the impact of our emotional outbursts on the universe we would really take much greater care to feel the hurts as we experience them rather than letting them build up inside us and explode. Under all anger is hurt. So simple yet we travel so far from how we really feel that we call it rage when in truth it is hurt.

     1. There are many many very hurt people in the world when we look at the types of behaviours and emotional outbursts that take place today. Coming with this understanding is so important.

404. What you share about rage makes so much sense RBS. When someone goes into a rage, it can sometimes be at a seemingly minor incidence – take road rage as an example, the reaction to another driver that is often way out of proportion to what actually happened. It is not the incident that a person goes into rage about that is the issue, but the long stream of other incidents where little things that needed to be addressed weren’t, something wasn’t said at the time, etc. The incidents may be unrelated and with different people. And so, when someone goes into a rage, it is like scratching the surface of a wound that looks ok, but underneath it is festering and just waiting to erupt and often takes the person who goes into the rage by surprise, as it does the person on the receiving end of it. So going into a rage, shows very clearly that there are unresolved hurts needing to be dealt with.

     1. We do together really need to look deeper at this as a whole. Looking and understanding the unexpressed things and the energy/force that gets called in in these moments when we have left our selves and the rage is able to be there. Being with ourselves and expressing all is the key but one that as a whole we do not live or are even aware of consciously in many cases.

     2. So true Sandra, how many warning signs do we ignore before we finally drive off the edge. Maybe its time for us all to talk about the warning signs, bring some awareness and understanding to them so that no longer are they always ignored. The same thing with the unresolved hurts. Most people would be aware that there is some situations or reflections that make them feel uncomfortable, but don’t know what to do with this. By all of us sharing our own personal experiences and how we are healing these hurts, it can inspire others to make more loving choices for themselves and feel supported enough to begin dealing with there own hurts. The love and support that I have been offered by Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and the Esoteric community, has certainly allowed me to be more honest and loving with myself and by reflection, inspired many others to accelerate their own path to healing

405. My daughter at the age of about 4 was with us while we watched Invictus and in that a scrum in the rugby game happened she burst into tears. It showed me how quickly we chose to be numb to how awful anger and rage is.

     1. Great example of how sensitive we truly are Vanessa.

406. “I was shaken (literally) and left the cinema feeling quite disturbed, but unable to express what it was I was feeling. I actually wanted to cry.” I remember watching Saving Private Ryan and what you described was my experience it was actually horrendous and unfortunately no doubt war is infinitely worse.

     1. I had the same experience with that film and could feel that war was infinitely more horrendous than that. The man I went to see it with burst into tears as we walked home, he was shaken to the core, and it felt like a blessing that he did and to have the opportunity to talk about it.

        1. Hi Jeanette, thanks for sharing your story. It is truly amazing the love that we can bring when we live without judgement, but rather live with a love of humanity and true compassion

407. This is a conversation that really needs to be spoken about. I meet many people who have a rage that overcomes them and frightens them in what they feel and behave. Much remorse follows if they allow themselves this honesty. I know it in myself too. Being honest about it being a force we allow in – to not think this force is part of us and judge ourselves or others for what we do as a result – will support us uncovering what’s going on in every day life. The moments we quietly lose it, shock ourselves, grateful we come back to ourselves. Being honest about the hurts we accumulate and how this plays a part in allowing forces in is so needed if we are to stop this cycle of victim/perpetrator.

     1. Hi Karin, you shine light on a really important point. It is so important to bring an understanding to the fact that rage is an energy that we call in, but it is not us. The judgement and shame that we can feel only further separates us from the truth of who we are and from a true connection with others, leading to more frustration, and the cycle never ends. What we are all expressing about this subject will be very healing for many and offers insight to all.

408. If we do not choose to express the love that we feel for each other we are in the end choosing to express everything else which we have no control over. We only control the first choice to express love or not.

     1. We must give truth and love the attention it deserves.

        1. Thanks Johanna, what a beauty-full example of what expression can truly be. This needs to become a bumper sticker for all to read and feel

     2. Spot on. There is only the love for each other to be expressed. All other expressions are less.

409. It is so interesting and beautiful to see how we ‘work’ as in react to situations. If we do not express our feelings about the world, what is going on for us, how we are feeling with people etc, it is going to come in another way that we almost can’t control. So it is very important to communicate, express and talk about how things are for us so we avoid the tension and frustration of choosing being silent to built up.

     1. Like you speak gold. Expression is the key.

     2. Thank you Lieke, that is a super clear summation of the importance of expressing ourselves and not pushing anything down or holding anything back.

     3. So well said Lieke. We have energy flowing in and through us all of the time, so we are constantly being offered the future. To try to hold onto the past causes a dis-harmony and tension in us that always has a negative and harming effect. Rage is just one of the many effects, one that can be devastating when it finally erupts

410. All these violent video games that are being played by young children, imagine the impact this has on them….something worth to talk about.

     1. This is so true. Violence is all around and very hard for our young to have a marker of reality. I noticed that even in schools during computer time students are trying to go on violent video games.

     2. Hi Mariette, it certainly is worth talking about. I don’t know what the long term affect is, but I have observed children playing these games and how they are totally taken in by the energy of the games and deeply disturbed by them for a long time afterwards. To create games for children that normalize violence is certainly love-less in every way

411. Our bodies are amazing we are flesh with conduits of energy that flow through us. The path that the energy can flow through is affected by so many things, how we eat, exercise, sleep, and stress, emotions and how they are stored in our bodies. Everything we do affects the paths that get created in our bodies.

412. This is something I’m sure we can all relate to or have observed, that registration of an out of character moment where we question ‘where on earth did that come from?’ It is true what you say RBS and the answer is here: “if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.”

413. Wow – this is a very frank and open sharing, bringing so much to the table – from exploring our frustration and rage and how we allow it to bottle up, but also the key thing being that it is a BUILD UP and is never something that just happens suddenly out of the blue. Thank you for your honesty – we can all learn so much from each other always.

414. ‘The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage.’ I couldn’t agree more, when we are bruised we know we have been hurt and can see it heal, but phycological abuse can be hard to identify especially when we are living in the dynamic of it (as perpetrator or victim).

415. A truly important sharing RBS and a discussion most needed. You say ’I was shaken (literally) and left the cinema feeling quite disturbed, but unable to express what it was I was feeling. I actually wanted to cry.’ – During my teens I often felt a despair and overwhelm that I was not able to express with words, and this sometimes led to huge outbursts towards my boyfriend. His response was to laugh about it and it left me feeling that I was silly and not to be taken seriously. I have come to realise that suppressing the pain has affected me much more deeply than just the odd explosion, the harm was carried in my body and of course affected everything around me as well. The teachings by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon is the only thing I have ever come across that addresses this important part of true health. Not until we understand that it is an energy that we are opening up to due to dishonouring our initial feeling, will we be able to truly heal these unhealthy behaviours. It’s all a matter of understanding, responsibility and choice.

416. RBS, this blog is a great demonstration of the fact that abusive behaviour does not “come from or belong to me” but that it is an energy that enters the body. This explains why seemingly gentle people can murder their loved ones with no apparent motive. As you say, “rage never comes in a moment, rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time” so if we took care to observe our fellow human beings and check in on them we may be able to support them to deal with the hurt that creates an opening for this energy to enter.

417. Rage itself is a huge worldwide problem, no country is spared. The explosive reactions that come from people is devastating, not just for their life, but their family and the victims of rage, from road rage to one punch attacks. It is becoming a default reaction and they are missing the steps that usually took a while to reach this point of madness. This extreme behaviour is all too common and this blog is great to open up the conversation and to start the process of addressing the issues around this emotion.

418. In my experience of rage I have been at that point when I have not expressed myself clearly or in a real manner nor have I taken responsibility for my part in the situation or what I have brought to the relationship. This used to go on for a period of time and then there would be the last straw and everything that I had held onto as a hurt would gush out! You can lose a lot of friends this way. These days I have learned to express along the way and own my part in the situation.

419. Wow, I can feel how the experience of the force in your body at those times has felt overwhelmingly awful. How you describe it as an energy that’s not you is so powerful to overcome its force. It is phenomenal how you are learning through Michael Benhayon that it’s a build up that we allow (or not), to understand how we an be played like a puppet when we allow this pattern. You are explaining the true reason of the ill way we can behave in society through the understanding of energy.

420. When seemingly simple things trigger rage, you know that it’s actually a result of unexpressed emotions that have built up, sometimes over years. Simply talking about this subject will go a long way to starting the process where we can be open and honest about how we feel in the moment rather than bottling things up.

421. Rage is a huge force that has the potential to cause much harm, I have seen this first hand witnessing a close member of my family lose themselves to rage many times. It is always hard to comprehend how someone so lovely, tender and sweet could commit acts that are so out of character. This family member calls it ‘seeing red’. Once this happens it is impossible to ‘see’ clearly and they are blind to reason, common sense or any other feelings. Consequences are not even considered. They are then left with the resulting devastation, both for them and everyone involved. It is tragic. These episodes have lessened as this family member has become more familiar with the feelings that build up that contribute to the feeling of rage. They have learnt how to express things so they do not build up. Ultimately we all need to care enough about ourselves to want to do this, and be willing to take the time and effort to express how we feel. I have seen first hand the harm that can happen if we let things bottle up to the point of explosion.

422. I have experienced the sudden outburst of rage from myself and also others. There is a lot of shame associated with this behaviour because you know deep down you were responsible for it but that it clearly wasn’t you. The way you explain it RBS makes so much sense. We literally do have to call in a force and totally ignore who we truly are in that moment. Your blog brings understanding to this behaviour.

423. In society we have developed a certain level of ‘tolerance’ for rage, violence and abuse. The devastating conflicts and wars in countries like Syria are still somewhat ‘accepted’ in society, as in we are still not seeing a unified global approach to put an end to the destruction that is going on there, but in my opinion it is equally shocking that we are still not yet fully aware and dealing with the ‘small’ scale violence that ripples through communities. This includes attacks of rage, discrimination, sexual harassment and abuse in relationships.

     1. well said Susie, and the acts of rage, discrimination, sexual harassment and abuse in relationships certainly aren’t small compared to that of large scale conflict, they affect many many people. The fact that these exist must make us ask the question, where are we truly as a species if all of this is going on, is somewhat ‘accepted’ and is quite prevalent! It certainly brings me a reality check to be aware that all of this is happening.

     2. Essentially what you are saying Susie, is that it is like something is constantly brewing under the surface, and is just waiting to explode – and we call this tolerance! We celebrate a form of peace that is really only represented by an absence of actual physical violence – yet at any moment the explosion is waiting to happen. This is not really peace, nor is it a way for us to live as a humanity – we all deserve a far safer and respectful way of living that allows for harmony to prevail.

424. “I know that we are not hateful or violent beings by nature.” This is a great topic to discuss as it seems we just put up with our expression of rage and anger as being who we are. We think we are our emotions. To discover we are so much more than this and that we act this way because of our hurts is liberating.

425. What stands out for me is how we accept violence as such a normal part of our lives and our expression and as such, see nothing wrong in making it part of our ‘entertainment’. Calling in an energy in order to fight our corner or harm another is so common place, yet it completely goes against everything we naturally are, it is not a normal thing to do. It is very inspirational that you have been able to be aware of those moments and then make a decision to deal with this habit, for there are many people who do not stop to ponder or take responsibility for themselves in this way. Your experience and awareness is living proof that we are controlled by energy, so developing our energetic awareness is a vital tool that the more we hone and honour, the more we restore our true values and qualities to the world we live in.

426. Many people believe that anger, rage and abuse is simply part of human nature and is something that will always be there. This simply is not true, our human nature does not have an ounce of aggression, anger, rage or abusiveness in it, as it is love. But under the pressure of hurts and fears we are capable of calling in an energy that make us act and think in this way. To know that this is an energy that is not us is vitally important in the dealing with it and in learning how not to choose these behaviours any longer.

427. R thank you for this beautiful blog offering the world a true insight in the origins of rage and abusive behaviour. Only through understanding what it truly is and the root cause of it can we begin to heal and root this out of our society.

428. It is truly horrible to feel the energy of rage inside oneself as you describe, RBS. If one speaks from truth, expressing what one is feeling as feels something prevents the build of this energy and the abuse that follows.

429. Rage to me is like a ticking time bomb and then when a person is pushed one time too many they just snap. This happened to me many years ago in my twenties and I will never forget how awful it felt and have never re-visited that place again. It’s just not worth it because within a split second someone could seriously be injured, including yourself but there is not one ounce of caring in that moment. The force that came through me was so strong that three guys had to hold me back and quite frankly I am glad they did, because in that moment I was capable of seriously hurting my intended victim.

430. Great article RBS, ‘if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.’ As a young woman when I was on a night out with friends, often when drinking alcohol I would often call this energy in if I felt my friends or me were under threat, I remember shouting and swearing at groups of boys to out do how rude and insensitive they were behaving, as a small framed, sweet, delicate woman this was not like me, it would shock me afterwards that I could behave in this way, reading what you have written about calling in an energy/ a force this makes sense and I can feel how cold, hard and unloving this energy is.

431. What you write RBS is super important from many angles. To understand the build up of frustration that can turn to rage… rage does not just appear, and that you could feel an energy change you, that gave you the strength of a bull, that was no longer you. This is not widely talked about or known and offers an understanding as to how people can go that bit further and physically harm or even murder another person. What you show RBS is that once we allow frustration to escalate the thoughts that run through our minds can perpetuate and escalate the situation until we are completely taken by the energy. I have observed this with alcohol how people become abusive verbally or physically when they start to drink, it is like there is a switch that has been flicked and what was a normal conversation suddenly becomes an aggressive or more abusive interaction. Understanding energy and how quickly it can change us is a valuable tool to have in life and your blog supports and confirms the presentations by Serge Benhayon that ‘Everything is energy and everything is because of energy’. When this is fully understood and taught in schools we will begin to see and understand what really goes on in a person when certain choices are made.

432. A true conversation about violence is really a great suggestion. It is badly needed.

433. This I found significant: “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage. It makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear.” The hurt that is felt, is a foundation of separation that makes it nearly impossible to connect again freely. It lays the seed where we build on what we call LIFE – but what is nothing else than SURVIVING and EXISTING.

434. What is behind rage? I do remember now an episode of verbal rage when my youngest brother informed me that he has lost a very dear, very valuable pen of mine that he was not allowed to use. I felt betrayed, not respected, sad, could not understand why he did what he did, frustrated, felt how unfair was. It took me some time to calm down. The feeling is that a moment of rage is a catalyst for a host of emotions that are in the body and somehow they get connected triggering the explosion.

435. The sheer power that adrenaline allows people to do super human feats has been well documented in emergencyies. What happens when rage taps into this natural and always available resource? The stockpile of this fuel for the fire was needed for running away from the things that were trying to eat us a very long time ago. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, this is one of those science rules. So, love has to be that other reaction and is more powerful for it is complete.

436. “Rage never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time.” The question is why someone would choose to build a pile stock of energy that will end up being rage and not something else.

     1. I believe we have become so disconnected to our bodies that we are not feeling the tiny moments when energy comes in and lies within us. So there’s no way we even register that we are building up these reserves. I’m not sure if asked that anyone would choose to be a rage-y person, but we are so unaware as a society of how life works energetically that we live in so called ‘blissful’ ignorance. Unfortunately this is far from the truth, we do all know deep down, and it’s more that we continue to choose ways in which to further numb ourselves from feeling all that we do feel.

437. It is interesting how in the face of physical abuse, some go into rage mood and fight back, others implode while others go into victim mood. I feel it has to be a connection with physical abuse suffered in previous lives to explain why one chooses what chooses.

438. Thinking of a recent interaction with a fellow student, where I ‘bit their head off’ with my reaction to a simple question they asked. Normally being such a ‘nice’ person, I realised something was wrong and my first reaction was to blame them. It was only when a friend asked me later what was my part in the interaction that upon reflection I realised that I had been asked me a question about an area where I had no confidence and felt vulnerable so instead of allowing my vulnerability and admitting I didn’t know, I reacted aggressively back. Fortunately I was able to return and explain and we cleared the issue, but it showed me how quickly I judge others as a way of avoiding my own vulnerability.

439. Violence is the thing that disturbs me the most. Every particle in my body shakes with horror. I never started a fight in my life. Yet, I was beaten many many times by my oldest brother who was physically stronger. Rage was part of him. It only came to me as split second thoughts of revenge that faded away as fast as they came to me. What was in my body was an absolute incapacity to comprehend why a violent act may have happened and the sadness of it.

440. I remember back at school seeing bullies take a pasting from an enraged superhuman small guy who had been pushed too far, but never knew until recent times or really never gave it a lot of thought until reading this blog that it is the calling in of a force that provides the energy to do this. It has also been a reminder of how powerful being connected to love is, it may not have the same force but it has the power.

441. Hear hear RBS – awareness, understanding and responsibility are undoubtedly needed to be brought into discussions that expose and ultimately end what we have allowed ourselves to participate in, in denial and opposition of the innate and beautiful qualities we actually possess.

442. Knowing that rage is an energy that has been creating and is not actually you is an enormous healing in itself.

443. Universal Medicine teachings and the understanding of taking full responsibility of our actions has been and continues to be one of the most important factors there are in life in my view.

444. This is a very relevant topic and something we do not often talk about and certainly not with such responsibility and openness to seeing all that is really going on. Abuse is and has become a normal way of interacting with others and this is not ok on any level, so opening this conversation up and seeing how we can allow understanding and a way to get to the root cause of this behaviour is an enormous step forward.

445. “Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence”- RBS- thank you for being so honest about your experience with rage and for sharing what you have learnt from it, so others can also benefit from your deeper understanding and awareness. I too have been a victim of rage growing up and know how harming it feels and how it affects your selfconfidence, self worth and trust in others. But thanks to Serge Benhayon and his explanation that everything is about energy I know that it is a harmful energy that someone calls in to allow that person to act from rage or any abusive/ unloving behaviour.

446. It is so good to be able to discuss this topic RBS. I have myself experienced what must be a kind of rage, which I would call more a ‘melt-down’ as it came from frustration and yet wasn’t a loud explosion like a rage. This has happened to me when encountering what appear to be no-win situations with technology, not knowing how to retrieve some document you’ve lost on the computer etc. Now I deal with this situation in a completely different and observational way! I get help instead of have an exploding melt-down over it. The ability to be able to observe and let go any needs or outcomes has saved my life.

447. A much needed topic to be discussed RBS. You write: ‘What really hurt was the awful feeling of that moment when I felt a change in my brother, from being a person that I could reason with, to someone who was so disconnected that he was unable to see or hear me.’ I had exactly this experience with someone close to me whom I met when I was about 26. I had never encountered such change in a person before and it was stunning to register that someone could be a gentle, delightful, funny, sensitive person one moment and a complete insane madman in another situation. I could not reconcile the two people but noticed that the mad persona came out more under the influence of alcohol. It wasn’t until I met Serge Benhayon many many years later that I began to understand that how we are is to do with what energy we are saying ‘yes’ to, and that anger, rage etc. are not the person but an energy that comes through them – vital information.

448. Having expressed rage, I can always remember the moment just before where I know I have choice to give in to it or not and what usually has decided the matter was how exhausted or fed up I was. I would’ve spent a long time trying to connect, express and sort things as harmoniously as possible, but whatever triggered the rage was often relentless in its pursuit of a reaction – like it wants me to fight back and to be honest I’ve given in too many times. What rang true for me in particular about what you’ve written RBS, was when you described that awful feeling that you have when you can no longer reason with the other or connect in any way, to feel that disconnection in the other is going to end in some form of violent abuse. This is the crunch moment really, the moment when we choose to stay with what we know is true and loving or to enjoin the fray, so to speak. That’s why building a rhythm of self-love is so serving, because more and more you give in less and less and hold to that truth within you. Thanks for the call to understand this cycle of abuse.

449. Thank you RBS, for a truly powerful and tender exposure about abuse,

450. Even when you have not had this kind of rage for years, it is still available at any time and if we had a lot of experience with that rage, even letting ourselves be seduced a tiny bit means that within a few seconds or even less there is suddenly a really large amount of rage and force available.

451. Thank you, RBS, for this very beautiful and deeply touching sharing. As I was reading, I could feel residual frustration and resentment in my body that have been building over some period, and it was very healing to read how you have observed and come to understand this energy. Thank you. I agree, it is not who we are, but it is something we are very much affected by, and needs to be understood so that we can learn to deal with our own hurts.

452. What touched me reading your words RBS was how we can learn to fight and use the pre-emptive strike as a tactic to ‘get’ others before they have the chance to ‘get’ us. This approach happens in many ways beyond simply striking someone – it may be even cutting them off or being nice as a strategic weapon. When you explore it like this it is clear to see that there is a much greater extent to the harm that rage causes you and me, and the abuse that has come to be ‘normal’ in our society. It is deadly really, so awesome to say it no longer has to be this way.

453. “It is always awful and never ever justified, but at least I feel that I can relate to what people may be going through; the lack of connection, understanding and control leading to that point in time when the explosion and resultant harm takes place.” I really love this line as it shows a great deal of understanding without justifying abuse in any way, shape or form.

454. Abuse is seen and felt all over the world today and its not just what we see on the news, but also found in the little pockets of our home life, working environments and many other facets of our day to day living. Thank you RBS for sharing your experiences of abuse, it not only gives a greater awareness to how energy can be chosen to either harm or heal, but it also shows us that our responsibility lies in our choices.

455. At first when I was reading this blog and some of the comments I thought that I had never been affected or had never been a perpetrator of rage but as I read on I remembered a few times in the past when I really lost my temper and how mortified I felt afterwards. I remember it felt like a force took me on a ride without the brakes to stop and it being such a horrible out of control feeling. I can understand how this can happen, but I know also that we have to allow that energy in in the first place for that rage or anger to occur and that is our choice and our responsibility and cannot ever be blamed on anyone or anything else.

456. RBS I can really relate to all you have shared, from the slow burn of emotion that explodes in rage, to the moments of coldness where thoughts that are not loving enter because of reactions to other people’s heinous behaviour. I can also see that change will only come about with each person, as they choose to understand the harm of rage and other ill behaviours, and consequently commit to gentleness and love. Awesome to have such an honest conversation on this topic.

457. “Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us” – it takes an enormous amount of self-understanding and self-love to reach this point RBS, and to not react or as more often is the case, the energy of ‘forgiveness’ of such crimes against fellow people. Because forgiveness is only indication of a passed judgment from the forgiving person (who is hurting), it is not and does not offer understanding — and this understanding being from the energetic perspective as you draw RBS, being the essential key. It shows the urgency to deal with stored hurts such that the dark force that can enter a (hurting) person to split and take them over, does not occur and cause long lasting and deep damage.

458. RBS what an incredible post, you write with such understanding it is inspiring to read …. the path of suppression that leads to rage or violence and then in your case, acceptance through understanding. Your experience and words bring such grace and invaluable learning as to what cripples our societies. Understanding really is the gem of living life, as without this we are lost as mankind. The space for understanding closes the gap of separation between us as peoples, and restores the balance that is brotherhood.

459. When we allow frustration to build up in our bodies, then there is no limit to the atrocities that we may be able to enact. That is quite a frightening scenario and very important for us to realise and it is great that you have given examples of how this can happen, RBS. The truth is that when we are in that space, we are not at all connected to our true selves. How often do we hear family and friends of someone who has committed a dreadful crime, that say “that is not my son/daughter, he/she is not like that”. Yes, it is not the true self of that person, but it is through an energy passing through that person that supports them to commit the act. Knowing that there are two different energies that we can connect to and live supported by, is key to understanding just how we are all capable of extreme violence. If we choose to connect to the divine energy that we are from, living from a deep self-love and care for ourselves, we can build a strength into ourselves that helps us withstand the tendency to strike out at another when we have been tempted by the behaviour of another person. I know I have felt this force in the past that came into my body when I exploded in a verbal rage, whereas if I had been connected to my true self, that energy would have enabled me to handle the situation in a much more suitable way for us both. The words that we utter in rage usually add fuel to the fire in these situations.

460. Abuse happens not to cripple us, but to allow us another opportunity to see and re-correct areas in our lives where we can deepen our awareness, expression and responsibility as human beings in connection. Your blog RBS has allowed me to feel how violence and rage is actually all about asking us to return deeper to love.

461. War does not happen overnight. Rage does not accumulate in an instant. Every such act no matter how minute in our lives where we have allowed in or given abuse builds up into an actual physical violent act, an actual devastating world war that did not have to happen if we take back the responsibility to express what does not feel loving and stop that movement.

462. I want to also mention the consistent support offered by this modality and practitioner, “I spoke about it to Chakra-Puncture practitioner Michael Benhayon during a session, and he asked me to feel into how long the frustration had been building and what was at the core of it.”. As you have mentioned this has been my ‘go to’ treatment for the past 4 years and I have never felt better. It’s there to support the responsibility I have in any given situation, relationship or moment, http://www.chakra-puncture.com

463. These energies are so powerful they draw us in, and when we recognise that, we can no longer judge others for their moments of rage. Also we realise we all have a choice, not to join with the other and choose the rage in defence, or judge them for their choice. Building a relationship with ourselves through observation when we feel these energies rising in us, and knowing that is what they are, nothing more than an energy in motion, and we are more than that and more powerful, then we can begin to master them.

464. The instinctive attitude society has on violence and abuse is judgement, but judgement keeps a person within what he has been judged on, judgement does not allow him to return to the truth of himself which is love. Violence in our world is escalating, this is telling us with alarming bells that when judgement or force is the way we face violence with, nothing ever changes. To look at violence in observation and non reaction requires a connection we have with ourselves to observe and not be consumed by our own hurts, but to understand and connect to the deep value and beauty of the other person beyond the abusive act. This is a call for us as a world to deepen the love and understanding we have with ourselves to be able to come to this deepening of understanding to all our brothers equal to ourselves.

     1. Awesome point to make about judgement Adele. So true that the moment that we judge another, we are actually holding them as less and refusing to bring true connection and understanding to the situation. Thanks for sharing your insights

465. This blog is very timely for me as just a few hours ago I shared with somebody how I can feel there’s such rage within me, that I actually do ‘everything’ to cover it up – while all along there’s this energetic ‘game’ played within me. Which is indeed a choice. I know myself now also to be a very loving and tender man, but I can also feel how I hold on to these emotions for some reason. I’m still learning to accept what’s going on inside and allow myself to ‘just’ feel them, rather than identify with them. Where at the same time I appreciate myself for allowing myself to let the guard drop a little more and be honest with myself.

     1. Beautifully expressed Floris. Accepting, allowing, honesty and appreciation, all important steps in bringing awareness to the games that we have been playing and to begin to re-connect to the truth of who we are

466. This was a fascinating read. I could absolutely relate to this feeling of frustration building up and then exploding at the smallest trigger, and then the deep regret and shame that follows. But I had never really appreciated how it was just a build up, and not that moment at all which caused the explosion. this helps me to look at the whole picture with much more detail and to pay attention to those details so that the frustration simply does not build up again.

467. Such a great topic of conversation RBS, and not one that we talk about at all. The detail that you go to really gets the reader to feel and have an understanding of what really happens in those situations and I’m sure everyone can relate to this happening to them in some way through their lives, as I know I can. You also bring in the suggestion of it not being us, this prompts you to feel into those occasions when you can feel yourself change and go into anger or whatever and may help others to acknowledge this is true for them also and they have an opportunity to make another choice.

468. Thank you for going there RBS, this subject almost feels like something we all sweep under the carpet in the hope that if we won’t have talk about it, that it will magically disappear. What you offer is very important, it has made me deeply consider what might be happening at these times.

469. What an awesome conversation of truth to start RBS – thank you for your openness and honesty in your expression. I too have had a relationship with rage and feel that for many people it goes largely unspoken of and apparently unseen by the majority but just how many households does it in fact affect? It feels so important that any behaviour such as this can be discussed out in the open without shame or judgement but instead with the same understanding offered in this blog showing a way to move past old choices and to deal with the situations that we encounter from the love we are rather than the emotions that we are not.

470. We often get caught in a moment and wonder at times where things come from. This is interesting about ‘rage’, “I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment, rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time”. You could say from this that we could never be shocked then if we go into rage because there have been many points of building but we just haven’t chosen to see them. Even the saying, ‘you go into a rage’ confirms what is being said in this blog. That rage isn’t something within you but something you go to.

471. “Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence.”. This conversation has well and truly begun with this fascinating, open and deeply insightful piece of writing about rage. I was transfixed because this deep rage effects so many people – if not all of us. I was particularly struck about the disconnect we have to go into when we use this force and often you have seen people crumble into tears when they have disconnected, used the force, created a terrible act and then when the energy has left the body and they are left to see what they have done, and allow themselves to feel the devastation, they can crumble. It is often what you hear about domestic violence, and it is in the crumbling that the women (or men) bring in sympathy and see the ‘real them’ and stay in the relationship. So much to consider in this compelling and much needed conversation about rage. Thank you.

472. I have often been shocked when pushed to the limit by my behaviour and felt that it is not me. It is like in that moment the force is so strong that you are unable to stop. What I am being reminded of again and again is that every choice matters in every moment as it is all these little choices that accumulate which determin whether we live our lives in reaction or not.

473. Hello RBS, your blog has allowed a deeply felt response in me that I will try to articulate. The energy you speak of has been felt and witnessed in others. I understand the power of the rage and holding this in the body has such devastating effects as it comes out in physical expression and also physical and mental symptoms. When responsibility for this energy is acknowledged the opposite and equal force of energy is possible – Love is greater. As a woman whilst the physical expression of rage may not be the same, the extent of how this damaging force comes out can have the same devastating outcomes. What has become evident is that what happens to the body that chooses denial when the energy come in? The overwhelming revelation here is for me the emanating, joyful and expanding energy of Love and how great this is if we choose to re-connect to this and bring it through – thank you RBS for this tender, honest and open sharing, this blog will change much for all that read it.

474. It’s important to have an understanding that those that harm are deeply hurt themselves however that doesn’t excuse the fact that the abuse they hand out is as a result of them not taking responsibility for dealing with the pain. We all have a responsibility to support one another in this for every time we unwittingly hurt others, we are adding to the potential for another to cause harm. We are all deeply sensitive and caring by nature and if we understood this and treated each other with gentleness and tenderness our reality could and would be very different.

475. “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage. It makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear. Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us.”

     This is an extremely powerful insight. To link the end result of violence as being what separates us from fear and feeling unsafe and hence perpetuates the cycle of violence.
     WOW I can really attest to this from my own experience of feeling a lack of trust and feeling unsafe in the World.
     I can feel the enormous healing offered by this understanding and that when we apply this understanding first to our selves, we are able to bring it to others and sow the seeds of true change.

476. I have come to understand rage within my own body much better; it is something I have experienced quite a lot in my life, right back to the numerous tantrums I recall having as a child. For me, it comes from a feeling of powerlessness. By living in a way now where I allow and deeply honour my own sensitivity; which enables me to live with awareness, consciously reading what happens for me and what goes on around me; and learning to accept others and myself just as they are; this feeling of powerlessness is becoming a thing of the past. If I read life rather than be buffeted around by life, and speak up when needed, then frustrations do not develop. It feels like I am letting life in to the bubble of protection I had built up around me and actually being an initiator, rather than reacting to life.

477. Thank you RBS for initiating this conversation as so many of us live with rage as a normal part of life. I have found that understanding rage is hiding sadness has really helped me to understand my own and others explosive behaviours.

478. You have made a great call RBS: We do need to begin true conversations around violence and seek to bring understanding to our selves and each other. The effects of violence are devastating, whether in our own homes or on a broader, more public scale. And yet, this is not our natural way. We need to understand what it is we are so frustrated about and hence what we are struggling so much to accept and hence seeking to control in other people’s behaviour. This is a very deep and much needed enquiry.

479. Dear RBS
     Reading your blog, it was amazing to feel the clarity you have had around this subject over the course of your life; distinctly recalling the times in which you allowed rage to run its course and noting the distinct damage that it caused. To me this indicates the level of connection you have sustained with yourself over the course of your life. And the level of owning you have claimed; that both parties are both perpetrator and victim in seeking to avoid the depth of their own pain. It is this level of honesty that is needed for us to understand how rage takes its course and to begin the healing.

480. Awesome blog RBS this is the kind of material we need our national media to be full off, starting the conversation like this helps to bring understanding and true healing.

481. I work everyday with those who are being abused, have abused and all are deeply hurting. I see the life destroying consequences. Our society which is all of us need to deepen our conversations as RBS has stated, and take it deeper. What is going on that as a humanity we keep hurting and abusing each other in all ways and forms? How have we become so disconnected that this can happen? Why are we not living more from our ‘true nature’ which is love, loving human beings, as human beings we thrive on connection and love, yet so many of us live disconnected and hurt. We go for solutions and there are many but they do not touch this deep seated destructive issue in our world.

     1. Thanks for the depth of your contribution to this conversation Karoline. It is indeed staggering to consider that we are by nature loving, caring and tender beings, and yet we spend so much of our lives harming ourselves and others. Even the fact that we are to protect ourselves from feeling our hurts and being hurt again, by adopting more unloving behaviours, looking for solutions and isolating ourselves even more from others, when clearly felt, tells us that we have lost our way. It is a blessing for us all that the many great Masters keep returning to humanity to show us there is another true and loving way to live, and we are blessed to have one such Master, in Serge Benhayon, that is with us now, reminding us of the divine beings that we all are

482. “Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts …” Understanding each other is key; expressing is also vital. If we allow things to build up, they will explode and if we compound that without considering another’s situation, rage will ensue. Responsibility to be aware of all of this is the foundation of it all. Thanks for such a valuable discussion.

483. Abusive behaviour is not only the extremes of domestic violence, violence in all its shapes and forms and so forth. Abuse is also when we yell at our child, or speak disrespectful to our partner, or bully our colleague. Abuse is harming another, leaving them hurt. Often we bring abuse to situations and others because we have undealt with hurts, and then when triggered an energy is pulled in whether it be rage, a stern voice, defensiveness, smart ‘arse’ comment, and so forth as forms of defence to protect us and our hurts…in this energy there is no care for the other, only agenda is to protect ourselves. I see exactly what you mean RBA in myself and others, how this is not our true nature, but when we live disconnected and with hurts, we can harm others.

484. If your expose here RBS could find it’s way into the men’s health and wellbeing arena, what a tremendous support it would offer! You touch on an aspect of violence that I have not seen articulated in this way before. This is an important documentation of violence, understanding and responsibility.

485. Thank you RBS. I was struck by your connection with and understanding at such an early age of the rage energy that entered you. We innately know it is foreign to our true nature.

486. RBS thank you for sharing this very deeply felt and powerful subject. It is powerful because most of us have experienced abuse and most of us have been victims and perpetrators of abuse, in it’s many shapes and forms. But abuse is abuse as it is harming another regardless of the extent and it does leave an imprint. As you have taken this subject more deeply than only the act but the energy that comes with abusive behaviour, it goes deeper than the act and as you have shared about your girlfriend, it affects the person beyond that moment and your example as well with your ‘bullying brother’, it left an impact on you. There is an energetic component to abusive behaviour which you have shown in your experience. Which i also know from my experiences of abuse i have encountered, the aftermath can take years, and in the healing it is going to the core of the energetic point which is often a very deep hurt of being abused and that violation of another. Often with perpetrators behaivours comes from a deep hurt and disconnection, no excuse for abusive behaviour but understanding how it happens and bringing responsibility to that.

487. An amazing blog about force ‘my usual defense became attack.’ and how anyone can find themselves in this situation if feeling disconnected to their own sense of self. Connecting to that energy becomes a choice and even when ‘pushed’ we always have a choice.

488. It is amazing to have these types of discussions as many people describe the sudden shift felt when rage takes over but few people talk about energy and understand what is behind it.

489. When we see ourselves as both victims and perpetrators we can then bring responsibility to the fore.

490. It is a great thing to realize that we don’t go into rage when we are aware and understanding and that rage can only occur when we are emotional and we allow an energy to take over.

     1. Yeah, that’s a great point Rosie. When we are connected and can bring understanding to a situation there isn’t any room for rage, so it makes it clear then that rage is actually not part of us.

        1. And it also gives us a tool that we can use. If we find ourselves in rage, we need to stop if we can, and bring more understanding. Rage = lack of understanding.

491. Thanks for writing this. I had to really stop and feel and at times I found it hard just reading. I will have to come back and read it again for sure as I know rage has played out a lot in my life and is an area that I am reluctant to look at at times.

492. Because “everything is energy” (Einstein) and further, that “everything is because of energy” (Serge Benhayon), everything we think, do or say has an effect. I have held back expressing what actually needed to be expressed much of my life and have a number of times felt the makings of rage rise up in me. It is a scary thing to feel as you know it is not you, it is something that takes you over. The fear of losing control in that way further inhibited my ability to speak up truthfully and deal with what I was suppressing. I used “being nice”, further perpetuating the cycle.

493. Thank you RBS, this is incredibly valuable for men and women alike. I often speak to people about uncontrolled moments of rage and they will often say, they didn’t know where it came from, it was bigger than they could control. More often than not there is regret and always there is a hurt not being addressed. I have been that person too, I understand. It never makes the result of the rage OK as the devastation it leaves just perpetuates the cycle of hurt but bringing understanding offers an opportunity for a deeper healing.

494. Rage is extremely harmful in the body to both express and receive. We need to truly stop, feel the hurt and express what we are feeling lovingly to truly close the door where the energy comes through. Bottling up our feelings only continues to hold the door wide open. In this instance I’ve found that although someone may be able to control their rage that comes outward, often the rage can also be directed within, leading to self abusive behaviours.

495. I very rarely watch TV now, but if I do I observe my body as I watch. Feel how my body is reacting to what I am watching on TV and it’s very rare (if at all really) that my body doesn’t go into a state of “lock down”. What I mean by that is that I notice my body tense up, there is not a relaxed muscle in my body, I become “locked” into the screen, totally captured and I am unaware of what is occurring around me. Especially with frightening, suspenseful or even exciting movies. I even recall this as a child when I did watch a quite a bit of TV. It’s great to be much more aware of it, which means that I choose to rarely watch it.

496. I know when dark forces enter my being, I am no longer myself. Whenever I’m consumed with anger, rage, frustration, disappointment, anxiousness all of these emotions, I feel ugly and disharmonious. Definitely not me. It is my responsibility to not stay there but deeply reflect until I understand and clear. And if I can’t, seek help from friend or esoteric practitioner to help me get to the heart of the problem.

497. What can I say RBS Wow..A stunning blog that is beautifully humble and honest. It’s so important that we begin to talk about what rage (and other emotions are) an energy we call in. For we know that when we are in this, that it is not us at all. I recall an incident when I was travelling in India we had just gone off a plane, we had negotiated a taxi fare to where we wanted to go and at the end of the journey the taxi driver increased the fare 4 fold. I was furious. I was tired, I was stressed from spending the last 6 weeks in India and I had also been smoking hash regularly here. So I was definitely not myself. The fury that came through me was frightening, as the words came out of my mouth. I was shaking and in disbelief that I could speak to someone in such a way. It even scared my travel partner, who had never seen this before in me. It’s very clear to me now that there are energetic forces at play in life and we are the unaware puppets.

498. Thank you RBS for sharing honestly your experience of rage. It trigged a memory being on the receiving end of rage. As a child I regularly was around people who had periodic bouts of anger and rage, not necessarily directed at any one but related to perceived inadequacies, lack of control, jealousy, resentment and frustration. I lived with these behaviours, often frightened by them because of their suddenness and intensity, but never physically threatened, it was more a way to ferociously attack with words:personal and psychological. For this reason and as an adult, I chose to not have close contact with some people. The harm caused by this separation harmed my body. Had I been introduced to Serge Benhayon earlier in life and listened to his presentations on different energies, I might have understood these people and been more accepting.

499. RBS, thank you for opening up a discussion about this very important topic. If we are honest, I think we can all acknowledge that there have been times in our lives when we have recognised that we can call in a very destructive force to work through us when pushed repeatedly. If we stop and consider this, there is so much that can be understood that is going on in the world in terms of aggression and violence but which could be halted if each individual understood that their reactions are not beyond their control. It is not just at the individual level that consciousness about what is happening needs to be raised because we can also see evidence of it around the world in terms of group consciousness. If we are prepared to honestly look at what is happening we can see that there are some very insidious forces at play which need to be named and spoken about more openly.

500. A very needed honest sharing and opening up of very needed conversations. These are the feelings and experiences that are not understood for what they are or encouraged to be understood. Understanding is exactly what is needed so awareness can become part of our everyday. We live like pressure cookers a lot of the time, building up our frustrations and anger till we can’t contain them any more. Being able to open up in a simple way to each situation is a great way to connect with what is happening and not store it up.

501. This much needed topic of conversation highlights again the absolute necessity for us to look at our relationship with responsibility. To appreciate that in every moment we are choosing only ever one of two choices – love or all that is not

502. Perhaps too, as shocking as it may be for us when rage is released, does drawing upon this force can give a false sense of power for the one calling it in who up until that point has in many cases felt stunted in one way or another?

503. Thank you RBS for sharing this. I think what you said about rage being something that has been building up for a long time before it explodes is important – if we are open to this then there is the possibility of connecting with what it is that caused it on a much deeper level..

504. Perhaps it is that the real conversations surrounding violence, and the rage that fuels such an act have not truly been, as the absence of love and level of hurt is so great that for the perpetrator or even the victim it disassociates us from the truth that it is a force and not of us but through us, as you have so accurately presented RBS. When we can appreciate this fact we can allow for the space to connect to what it is we have given permission to build up unattended.

505. Knowing that the energy of rage, anger, fury… any emotion actually, does not come from us, but through is, liberating, because it means that we are much more than we think we are, otherwise we would just accept it as who we are.

506. Very interesting piece RBS, beautiful that you shared it, I relate strongly to that feeling of having an anger or rage that feels greater than the situation at hand, I liken it a bit to when I used to drink not long before I stopped, the behaviour I would play out would be ridiculous in the context of the situation, yet it was clearly a build up of emotions that hadn’t been released. It seems obvious that if we want to stop the violence we need to create a culture where men express from a young age and never stop expressing, because within that expression we build love and understanding and perhaps could finally rid ourselves of all the macho nonsense that passes for “being a man” and that I must admit frustrates me more than a little.

507. I also loved what you wrote at the start about how you didn’t like the movie with the hard sounds and violence. I still have that and I remember strongly crumbling inside with so much noise and violence. This is absolutely not who we innately are and so much force against ourselves and our fellow brothers is still painful to watch.

508. Beautiful blog, thank you for sharing on this much needed topic. Sharing and observing our own behaviors is a great start to get more awareness and make different choices. For if we express earlier how things are for us, we don’t need to wait so long to unleash our frustration or sadness.

509. “if we disconnect from the caring, insightful, loving people we are for long enough, we can align to an energy that has the potential to make us act in ways which are extremely harmful to ourselves and those around us.” Yes, just like you described, you don’t recognize your own thoughts or behaviors, like being taken over and it simply has to come out.

510. “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage.” This is the truth. We can all feel in our bodies and observe it in the way we are with each other. A bruise, a cut or a broken bone heals after a certain time, but the damage to our emotional and psychological being is far greater and can last a lifetime.

511. It is true, the disharmony is there from the start building ever so cunningly up until it need to be expressed in a burst of rage or anger. This has happened to me so much in my life also and it is always startles me at the moment that burst of emotion is expressed that it was even in there in the first place. Goes to show just how much we bury and hide the emotions building up through the way we live.

512. Thank you for sharing this RBS. ‘The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage’, this is so true and something that we need to be talking about in society. Abuse comes in many varying forms; verbal attacks, physical, sexual, cyber, racism etc. and there is no difference between them in terms of potential harm caused. Accepting moments of rage within ourselves is the same as accepting moments of rage toward others, and if we can begin to realise the depth of effect it has on others then we can begin to understand what it does to our own bodies.

513. This is a very deep, honest and personal sharing. It is important to acknowledge the energy of the perpetrator as well as the victim as this brings understanding to any situation no matter how violent. The rage or anger ,although never acceptable, always has its’ origins far deeper than than the final action and it is this we need to understand.

514. Abuse no matter how subtle it is or well hidden happens a lot in families, between parents and child and between siblings. It is great that you start this discussion and bring such awareness and honesty in sharing your story. Hugely supportive in remembering that everything is a choice, and it is ourselves who chose the energy that either harms or heals.

515. Thank you for such an honest blog that brings so much understanding to what really happens when the body feels under threat. Reading this it is easy to see how it is not the person committing the act but the energy coming through them they are agreeing to in that moment. How you became aware of this in yourself and then could make a different choice is super inspiring.

516. Thank you for your honesty in your sharing RBS. I recall occasionally feeling out of control when my children were babies, and the crying wouldn’t stop, regardless of what I did. Years later, when teaching antenatal classes, I always used to discuss this with the class, advising the parents to place the baby in a safe place and leave the room, in order to regather. I always felt, there but for the grace of God, could go anyone. Since then I have learned so much about energy from Universal Medicine presentations. I can now see how the frustration could build over time, exploding in an out-pouring.

517. This is true RBS – we have to bring to awareness to the energy that runs the abusive behaviour, in order to support any lasting healing and change. With your example of rage, if allowed to run unchecked, we can feel even more separated and isolated and then the energy has further fuel to stoke the fire underneath the rage out of all proportion, to react, erupt and explode with an even greater force, using the excuse of the smallest perceived hurt.
     “The damage caused by abuse runs far deeper than the obvious physical damage. It makes us feel unsafe in the world, erodes trust and separates us with fear. Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us”.

518. A powerful, honest and insightful blog RBS. As you describe so well, the force behind rage is totally shocking and evil, it leaves no room for reason or connection to be made as it unleashes its vile power in full. The aftermath for victim and perpetrator are one and the same in a slightly different form – the effect on the body and nervous system takes its toll over time.

519. Thank you for this inspiring read. It brings much clarity about why people can do things they would in clear mind never want to do.

520. This is a powerful read. This level of rage has a massive impact on those who are on the receiving end of it and those who experience it and it does not come from nowhere. We all have a collective responsibility to deal with and heal our issues around this. From personal experience it can be buried deeply and when it comes up it can be debilitating, understanding that I am not my hurts was a key way forward in understanding my reaction and the choices of others involved.

521. The topic of abuse is huge to reflect on, in both it’s obvious and more subtle forms.

522. The episode with your brother is one of those that would often have been encouraged in order to get you to ‘stick up for yourself’. It is amazing that you were able to recognise that this was in fact not making you stronger, but creating a new and deeper hurt.

523. I can relate to the feelings of frustration and anger simmering just beneath the surface for a long time in my life. I knew it was there, but I was petrified to start expressing it because I was afraid that if I gave it just a tiny window a huge tidal wave of uncontrollable anger would come spilling out. Learning to trust myself, and learning to feel myself in my body began to let the pressure off, but the thing that has made all of the difference is simply expressing myself no matter what. Holding back what I know and feel is to be expressed was what was building the force of resentment and rage. Expressing myself, whether that is hurt or joy makes all of the difference.

524. Very powerful and beautifully written. A call for us all to bring responsibility to the table and to be real and honest about the great harm we are causing to each other…our brothers…

525. This is a great reminder to not only look at the obvious but to also watch out for the details which made the obvious occur. It’s knowing why a garden hose busts, not because it just did but rather there was a blockage in the line which allowed pressure to build up and explode at the tap.

526. Really interesting read, thank you for sharing in such depth and honesty. You have given us such an apt description of what rage is in our bodies, and if we let it build up, in an instant we can trigger an emotional reaction that can completely consume us, and give us the force to not feel something which is hurtful. But as you have shared this inevitably goes away and we come back to our ‘body’, and then we start to deal with life again. Reflecting on the state of rage, we feel how deeply harmful it is to ourselves and to others, it is a terror to our being.

527. That feeling of rage can send shockwaves throughout the whole body. The same thing happens if we have an argument with words I have found – it’s not just limited to physical explosions. Something I remembered when you mentioned about films is how I used to claim to be a huge fan of horror movies, these days such films repulse me as the idea of watching such behaviour is horrible. To live in such a way I feel was in part due to wanting to act tough and not show a sensitivity I have been coming to re-introduce myself and life with. But it begs the question – what is unresolved within us that would led us to live life believing that such harm to each other – films, sport, arguments, violence or an even greater harm: lack of understanding – is acceptable? When we bring understanding to ourselves and understand the energy behind our actions we can better understand others.

528. This also allows healing in full as you are not owning the violence as part of your makeup, but rather a result of having unresolved feelings that build up over time. These can be dealt with once identified, and hence there is no further need for a violent release.

529. I am deeply touched RBS by the level of honesty in what you have shared… such a powerful insight into what lies beneath these violent acts towards others. It was also very beautiful to feel how accepting you are now of the fact this was something you gave over to, rather than something that is fundamentally ‘in you’, as we would normally tend to think. ‘I am a violent person’ rather than, ‘I am capable of a violent act when X-Y and Z line up.

530. Thank you RBS for starting the conversation – your point that rage “… never comes in a moment,rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time…” makes so much sense as these “explosions” of rage often seem out of context to the situation at hand. Reading this blog helped me to understand the outbursts I witnessed as a child.

531. Yes Rachel, you are so right, the energy of war is around us and in us and it doesn’t take much to trigger that fear within us. This leads us to live in a protection as we try to “hide from it and block it out”. The problem is that the energy is already in us, and our protection only prevents us from having the awareness and connection that we need to expose the truth of what we have allowed us to be affected by in the first place, and then dealing with it lovingly. The world simply then reflects back to us, and confirms, the disharmony that we are already feeling inside. Thanks for presenting that blocking out our fears does not make them go away, ever.

532. There is so much uncovered in this blog. To understand that rage is an explosion of pent up frustration over time supports in going back to those early frustrations and expressing them. When we can release the tension though expression it doesn’t need to build up in the body or for it then to escalate into violence.

533. I can relate to this force overcoming you as I had these rage outbursts as a child and as a teenager. They were mostly directed at myself, breaking something or hitting the wall – which just hurt myself – as I was just too delicate a person to physically get into fights, even though I tried once or twice. So I mostly vented through verbal abuse, which felt really awful as well. I never understood what this is about until I came across Universal Medicine and heard Serge Benhayon explain about jealousy and resentment and how things can build up, which is so supportive as with the explanations these emotions can be understood and eventually be arrested.

534. When we call in an energy that isn’t us, our thoughts and actions can scare us because they can be so extreme that when we come back to ourselves, we ask ‘who was that?’ because we know it wasn’t us.

535. Your experience as a teenager, watching the war movie, and feeling physically shaken, shows that war of any kind is not natural to us; a young man going to war has to toughen up and let go of his naturally tender way of being. And even watching it on the big screen shows how devastating the energy of war is.

536. I can very much relate to this phenomena of letting things build up until they escalate. I know that with myself that I sometimes do not address things with people, I postpone it for later or push it aside thinking, don’t be fussy it is just a small incidence, but then there is another and another and at some point I then address it but it comes out with a lot more force and often blame and resentment because I buried it inside and it built up to something much bigger than each incidence in itself was.

537. Dear RBS,
     Thank you for sharing your deep understanding of rage and how it is a choice to let it into us or not. I have had moments in my life where I too have chosen this energy and I never liked the person I became when I did. There was a deep guilt afterwards that felt just as damaging as the rage. The insights you have shared are invaluable when it comes to each of us taking responsibility with how we are with others, and begin to address the core of the level of violence that is in our society today.

538. What a piece of writing this is RBS. As I read each description of what was running through you, I felt the moments in time when I experienced the same. These are moments that I have generally buried, pushed aside with convenient forgetfulness…but there they are revealed in the light of this blog. I can recall going blind with rage…literally blind. Yet everyone who knows me believes me to be a very calm person. In those moments before the rage struck it was like I was drawing on some source from outside of me, like I was sucking a drink in through a straw as fast as I possibly could. How can I put that sensation into words? An elation of sorts, a hot burning sense of might, populated with thoughts of wanting to annihilate. The aftermath, shaking weakness, feelings of guilt and remorse.
     All of my focus has been on the awful aftermath…never the prelude. It is this blog that allowed my to pay attention to the choice to call that strange something in to me…to give me a false sense of power through destruction. I appreciate this so much.

539. This is a big topic for us all, for humanity. As road rage increases, as well as domestic violence, one-punch assaults that can be fatal or leave a person with lifelong injuries, and one of the big ones in Australia – alcohol fuelled violence. We are being shown all around us that there are so many of us in trouble, so many of us choosing to be violent. And what I appreciate most about this blog is that it highlights that being violent, flying into a rage, is actually a CHOICE. Thank you RBS. It is time humanity makes a different choice as you have.

540. Thank you for this anatomy of rage, it makes it very clear that it is something that builds up over time and then gets released when we are not present with our body and somehow taken over.

541. What you share here is about true understanding, for ourselves and others. If somebody assaults somebody, there is reason for him/her to do this. This does not mean that it is acceptable. But If we can bring more understanding to all situations, then there is more openness, trust and a space for healing of our hurts.

542. Wow this is an extremely interesting blog RBS. I can feel the impact that this has had on our life, and it truly begins to explain to me why people I know have reacted in this way – in this rage. It is brilliant the way you have observed and isolated what is going on and let us know how it builds up over time – most likely through not expressing what we feel. Thank you! Looking forward to reading it again.

543. As a child I remember being shown an educational video of the effects of war, more specifically atomic war. The horror and instant, widespread devastation impacted very strongly on me. I didn’t want to see to have to think about the devastation, but it was convenient to pin this extreme violence and harm on ‘war’ – and not have to admit to the war that is going on all.

544. I absolutely loved reading this. As a teenager I regularly exploded with rage seemingly out of nowhere, however, the truth is this rage was constantly building as a result of my reactions to the loveless world I saw around me. I can now see that this rage although understandable is completely irresponsible.

545. Living in harmony is what is asked from us, to not give place for the energies that creat rage and anger to build up. It is a collection of all the times we choose to not speak up, and thus not choose harmony in our relationships.

546. Thanks for writing this blog RBS, when we choose to detach from the innate lovely beings we are for some time, there is a possibility for energy to enter us that is harmfull to ourself and others. It brings a responsibility to all actions we take, and see that they all come to certain actions if we don’t take this responsibility of supporting ourself to be the loving beings we are, living in connection with ourselves.

547. Reading this blogs took me back to moments I have experienced rage in my life. I remember the first time. I would have been about 17 at home, my mother called my name and I screamed WWHHAATT! whist slapping my hand down onto the wooden floor I was sitting on. This moments scared me.. and it really scared my little sister and mum. I was too proud to discuss it at the time.

548. You have definitely pulled back the curtain on rage RBS, an in depth example that will provide insight and understanding for many. Rage doesnt just happen out of nowhere as you say it builds up over time to then express in horrifying ways. It can be undone as you show here with your choice to take responsibility and heal.

549. The rage you share about here RBS is so common — it is terrifying and people hate it happening, but I have seen time and time again how it is then hushed up in an effort to be hopefully forgotten. But of course it isn’t forgotten, and brushing it under the carpet means that it resurfaces again… Only when we start to take responsibility for the abuse we create and allow to ourselves, will violence begin to take a downturn. Until then the violence in our society will continue to reflect the violence within.

550. Thank you RBS for your honest account of your experience with rage and your eventual understanding of the force that is behind it. I could clearly feel how the energy that feeds the rage can build for quite some time, but eventually there is a trigger, a force, that propels this pent up emotion out of the body, often as you found, in the most scary and destructive ways. To raise children to understand what happens when you hold back or deny the emotions they are feeling, and to give them tools to deal with this, would mean that there would be a whole lot fewer adults walking round ready to “explode’ at any moment.

551. I have never been a victim of rage, or, as far as I recall, been a perpetrator, but I can understand the energy being called in, because I have felt myself change – it may be due to what I’ve eaten or drunk, or what I’ve seen on TV or Social Media, but it can also be due to circumstances that create a raciness, a hardness that turns into belligerent rebellion that will do whatever it wants and takes no responsibility for its actions. It is quite scary to feel that sense of being taken over and it is very familiar – almost like a second personality that has been with me all my life – a survival tactic that I learned early on as a form of protection. With greater awareness from refining my diet and observing my own behaviour, I can do something about it, but if I’m not fully aware, it is only when a friend calls it out that I can see if for myself and make a choice to re-connect with my true being.We need to say more about this.

552. This blog is so revealing of what we can allow in, that is just underneath the surface and if we let it build up and we are pushed by another as you were with a sibling, can boil over. I feel this wonderfully explicit sharing is something we could all do to read and understand RBS , young and old among us. What you and all of us let in if this happens is most definitely not truly ourselves, as we all know we come from Love.

553. What you have shared RBS is what many of us feel or have experienced, I know I certainly have experienced that rage at times and not known where it had come from. At times when I was younger, thinking that it was actually me. For me it has been learning and understanding about energy that has been a game changer in how i view life and what ‘comes in’ that creates the angst, anger, rage. Knowing it is not me, but an energy that enters, paved the way to look at life and others in a much more understanding way.

554. “2 women are killed every week in England and Wales by a current or former partner (Office of National Statistics, 2015) – 1 woman killed every 3 days”
     What you have described here is huge RBS, as you say let the true conversation about violence begin – for what i can feel from this blog is that all rage is the same energy it just depends how empty we are when we call it in. Many offenders would identify with the rage as being a part of who they are, yet to understand the fact that it is the lived choices that lead to the emptiness from where the energy of rage can enter is a transformational shift in our responsibility.

     1. Well said Lucindag, let the real conversation about violence begin.

555. Great sharing RBS, it is amazing what we are capable of when we a force in. It is like we become so consumed by an energy that quite literally anything is possible including murder, rape etc.. And all of this comes from not dealing with our hurts. As you say the knock on effects are massive and long lasting. The more healing we seek so we do not carry undulate with things with us the more sense we will come to and the less propensity for abuse there will be.

556. Wow RBS this is an incredible sharing and very profound. It is real and true and brings up the much needed to be exposed enormous abuse that goes on for all of us in the world. The incredible and much needed honesty called for to expose this starts with each one of ourselves as an individual looking deeply at what is going on for us and the frustration that we carry that builds up simply from life. This will have an enormous impact on us if we can do this and can only help support us in how we are living and how we effect everyone and everything . Integrity and responsibility is also called for thank you for an amazing blog to ponder on deeply..

557. I know this force you are talking about. I have felt it in me and it is as if an alien has inhabited my body and has taken over completely and yet there is a shred of me left otherwise I would have strangled that person or thrown that baby against a wall or tried to shake whatever it was out of the other person. The extremely harmful verbal expression would have had even more dire physical consequences. This has been a very rare occurrence in my life so why has it happened at all? Is it because I have held back on my expression in all areas and therefore let the pressure cooker effect build up and give way to this very disturbing behaviour and is it because I have not been choosing to care for myself in a way that would support my connection to a true way of being ?

558. I reckon prisons are packed to the brim with people who have called upon this rage energy to protect themselves. It is not who they truly are but it is something they have allowed and chosen in a moment. The devastation that you felt after being violent must be felt by so many. It is a good call that a moment like this is possible because of a long term build up of unexpressed feelings. It is well worth taking the time to be honest with ourselves and others so that this build up does not happen.

559. Your opening paragraph about the massive effect that the film had on you brought back the memory of seeing a particular film several years ago. I left the cinema feeling as traumatised as if I had been in a car accident. It took me a long time to right myself and I still get flashbacks to the film. And to think that we class it as ‘entertainment’.

560. Thank you RBS, reading this I got a true sense of the force behind rage and how devastating it is to all concerned. With violence escalating in the media and so called ‘entertainment’ it is deeply disturbing to feel how this reinforces the age-old patterns of abusive behaviour and how the levels of fear are also growing and shutting people down from each other. Time to call a halt and begin to address the responsibility we all have for our own behaviour and banish the evil force behind rage to history and thus return to a harmonious way of living.

561. Wow RBS thank you for your most honest sharing of your personal experiences…”Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence.” Yes to this! it seems we have accepted rage and violence as part of life. Understanding why we do this goes a long way to supporting the hurt we carry from it.

562. RBS Bravo for opening up this discussion, these are the conversations that we need to be having around violence. You have, in one single article achieved so much. You have put onus on the fact that it is indeed us that calls in the energy and you have underlined the fact that we have to first be disconnected from ourselves in order to call it in.

563. Thank you RBS your blog is crystal clear and you have written both from the victim and perpetrators view. So much is said here .. how clearly you show the deep hurts that had been buried, not addressed and healed led to your brother’s bullying and eventually your rage. This is really important and what I feel we need to start doing more of, is actually being honest and addressing all that is held within us that is not expressed, let go of and ultimately healed. I used to think that this would be more painful (dealing and healing the hurts) than ignoring it; but from experience and the support and help from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I know now this could not be further from the truth. Feeling and healing our hurts is far far easier than burying them deeper within our body and ignoring or denying them. It is also really interesting that you clearly state the energy of rage is ‘called in’ this makes sense as rage, anger and hate our not natural or innate qualities as human beings. And finally the left and continual devastation wars and any form of abuse leaves for individuals, couples, families and countries; the unseen rivers of scars that again need to be truly addressed and deeply healed. Thank you for starting the true conversations about violence.

564. RBS – you are so right that we do not talk enough about what is behind violence. We seem to look at the end result rather than the lead up, the influences, the history and energy behind actions. And that is so absolutely important. It is easy for me now to say that in the past, in anger, i’ve allowed thoughts that I know have not been my own. Thinking of hurting someone because of how they have acted, or even to allow thoughts of how easy it would be to just jump off a cliff or in front of a car and how suddenly life would end. And these thoughts would come with no context or patterns of depression – they are just an energy I allowed in to not truly feel and accept how I was in that moment. Thoughts seem to allow us to complicate our lives and how we live, and the examples you share here, RBS – show that we can so easily get lost in the what if rather than bringing it back to what is in the moment. And yet we always have a choice in terms of what energy we allow in. These days – if I get a crazy thought, I am much more observational and curious as to how am I living in order to allow that – so i know it is always an opportunity to keep looking at how I am.

565. The moment I judge the person acting out rage this same energy has already entered my own body. It humbles to observe how quickly this can happen and brings my awareness to how I live and move my body in the first place. Would my body not be configured to allow evil energy in, those thoughts couldn’t enter.

566. I know rage, I have experienced it being thrown at me and I have at times chosen it myself. The outcome is devastating because in the resulting shame, depression and lack of harmony there is a feeling that we are less. It takes us further away from our essence of divinity and so it is ‘easier’ to choose it again. Do we go down the road of responsibility or choose the quick fix of emotional high of rage or some other emotion. We crave stimulation to numb the knowing of our separation from our divinity. Responsibility heals and returns us to a knowing of our natural connection with divinity. Responsibility looks and feels different, it is steady, still, humble, it builds trust, it doesn’t shout, soap box or parade, it is just is…and it brings a return of our natural Loving way.

567. It makes absolute sense to know that rage does not come out of nowhere but is a build up of energy over a period. And so it is not simply in that moment of rage that we are choosing irresponsibility but the many, many moments that we have built towards it.

568. When we come to understand that energy is always flowing through us and the way we live and the choices that we make have a direct relationship to the quality of energy in which runs through our body will we then come to realise the deeper level of responsibility that is called for in every single choice that we make.

569. I have to agree RBS that the reaction to a situation is often loaded with much more than the situation at hand. Situations that occur never end well when a person is bombarded with ten or a hundred times the force of this energy of rage or frustration when it probably required only a few words. This is a great blog as it will allow people to have the conversation from not being ‘in’ the rage moment and trying to stop it.

570. I really appreciated how you wrote about your experience of energy and how you have felt it come into your body. Rage can be felt, there is force in it and when it is chosen and it can allow all sorts of harm. We can choose the energy we live in. I personally can fill that righteousness can leap into me. It is one of my things, if I feel something is not honest, learning to pick up on when this comes in has been priceless. I can now feel it takes over my body and I say it is not me and let it go. When it comes in I feel it as a force, it propels me forward and it becomes about self not about the ALL. Being aware of what we choose concerning energy alters how we live and respond to life it is awesome to consider this and ponder what we choose.

571. Brilliant blog RBS full of great realisations and awarenesses for me to ponder on. I love how you share here the importance of bringing understanding to the situation and how powerful it is to explore what is at the root of rage.

572. I have had this experience, after the rage has been there is this “…we had both had to feel the horrible reality of the resulting damage that you are faced with when the rage is over.” I began a few years to decided to not choose rage, I realised it was a choice, I realised I would actually got some sort of emotional adrenaline filled high from going into it. I realised it was deeply harming for my body and others, with out any physical violence. The emotions where enough to do damage.

     1. This is an extremely important point Samantha, there is great harm living with this energy within us, the way we treat ourselves and interact with others. I feel that we could all benefit if this is expanded more so that we bring a greater understanding to how living with rage even bottled up inside us affects us all

573. RBS this article is very interesting to read, ‘I could immediately see that rage never comes in a moment, rather it is the result of energy building in the body over time’, I have noticed this with many unspoken things, I have noticed how frustration can build up if I do not express myself and then it eventually comes out in an explosion and feels awful as it is has been building for so long, nowadays Im expressing what Im feeling much more, if I need help or feel upset I am finding that if i express this then it does not build up.

     1. Great observation that will be very empowering for others to read. We are constantly being reminded of the importance of expression. ‘Expression is everything’ Serge Benhayon

574. I have not thought about this for years, but I had a very similar experience when growing up… of becoming physically strong but my emotions were wild. And when the frustration built it would very rarely boil over. It was scary, as I knew what I was capable of, and certainly did not trust myself when this rage was building – what is so interesting is how you have identified that ‘something else takes over’ an energy that was not me yet had an enormous potential for harm.

     1. Beautifully expressed Simon, this was exactly the case for me, that once I knew the potential of the harm that I was capable of, it eroded the trust that I had with myself. It has only been after many years of being gentle, loving and caring with myself, that I have been able to bring an understanding to this behaviour and truly trust myself again, for I now have a clear awareness of the energy that I am choosing.

575. What an important topic you laid open for all to reflect upon, is this me! Rage is the volcano within us that erupts that can destroy and forever change everything that is near. I worked in a prison for 20 years and had been surrounded by dormant volcano’s mainly but have been present to watch a few erupt, they do it explosively! The years of repressed anger that resides within is just caged. Suicide is just that rage turned on one’s self. What is the difference between the inmates and us when we don’t deal with our longtime hurts and repressed anger?

     1. Thanks Steve for sharing your experiences. It is interesting that you could sense or feel that dormant rage within the inmates, even if there is no eruption. This is a very important point, as many would just see the eruption as the problem, but in fact, living with the repressed anger, is absolutely devastating to our bodies, our minds, to who we are and how we are with others. It is also a great point that you raised around suicide. This is worth exploring more

576. This is such an important topic to write about and instantly triggered some memories of rage moments I have witnessed and experienced myself. It is interesting how the rage seems to come out of nowhere with such a force, but would have been there a long time brewing and can have some devastating consequences. We often read about people loosing it, acting out the violence and then afterwards reporting that they didn’t know what happened to them or that they felt like a different person. Great topic RBS.

     1. Thanks Julie, all of the comments so far, including yours are shedding more light on this important subject, and for that we can all more forward with a greater awareness and understanding about rage and about energy in general

577. It is way past time that the conversation about rage and violence began.I have experienced it first hand also,from others and coming from myself and so I know we are all capable of it if pushed too far. Making everyone aware that it is an energy coming through and that there is always a choice would be a good start and that a lot of people are more susceptible to letting this energy in when under the influence of alcohol.

     1. Well said Kev. Offering an awareness and understanding is what this blog is all about. I have seen first hand what happens when alcohol is added into the equation, the way the abuse and violence are amplified to the point where it can become extreme and devastating. This is shocking and so far from the divine beings that we in fact are by nature

578. This blog is so clearly and openly written. I feel like there isn’t a man or woman alive that wouldn’t be able to relate to it, and for whom it wouldn’t be a massive service. Gosh – if more were able to bring such honesty when observing their behaviours then we’d live in a very different world.

     1. Thanks Otto, it has been others honesty that has inspired me to be more honest, and hopefully I can inspire others also. The Way of the Livingness is in fact, creating a very different world right now. It is worth confirming that this is what we are bringing through our livingness

579. I grew up without TV and whenever I watched it it had a massive impact on me and I wasn’t able to detach it from reality. When I was around ten or eleven we had a TV in a vacation home and my father was watching the news at night where war zones were shown and it brought up in me a massive fear of another war and that my father had to go to war. Unable to express this massive fear I started to hide from it and blocked it out, first of all by not watching the news with him anymore, but it was in my bones and I carried it with me for a long time. What I felt was this constant threat we are living under and the state of war we are in and how it is not the actual war we are fearing but the disharmony we are living under that can result in war at any moment.

580. “Unless we begin to understand what happens in a person’s life to allow them to get to a point where they are capable of committing harmful acts, then we will never break the cycle of abuse and this evil energy will continue to separate us.” This is so true RBS. If we do not identify the underlying cause of something nothing truly changes.

     1. Great point Jonathan, if we do not at least attempt to understand another, then we get stuck in the judgement and blame of another and can never offer a true reflection of what may support them to heal

581. I have felt frustration transform into rage once in my life, and like you it scared me and those around me. On the surface I have always been so ‘nice’ but underneath there has been at times an alter-ego playing out mentally what I really wanted to say to someone who had hurt me. But this would remain unexpressed and pushed down into my body like an unexploded bomb buried by sands of time – hidden but still potentially lethal. Over the years of working on expressing myself, regardless of the reaction that might come from another, I have been defusing and disposing of these ‘bombs’. It’s not easy at times for it does involve standing true to myself, speaking the truth and risking the reaction of another being to reject me or to not like me, which for someone who has put so much effort into being like has been challenging. But what it comes down to is do I want to be liked or to be true, and being liked just doesn’t cut it anymore. The more I am expressing myself, the less frustration and potential for rage I feel.

     1. Beautiful, what a blessing it is when we choose truth over wanting to be liked, feeling safe or playing control games. What you have expressed here really exposes the harm that results from not expressing

582. Another element here is that when another has acted this way towards me I have reacted in ways such as to cut them out of my life, and this reaction has impacted greatly on my body also.

583. I have felt this energy enter my body and it is so far from what I am naturally, so much so that it feels completely alien to anything that is natural and normal and leaves the body feeling exhausted.

584. Thank you RBS for this clear account of rage, I have never heard it explained in such detail – It makes absolute sense what you have observed, experienced and concluded. I can’t recall being in absolute rage but to know how it feels when frustration has build up over time and sometimes years making me act very unreasonable and hurtful towards others. I like your look behind the curtain, instead of just dealing with the situation at hand, to look back and say what have I been festering on and how and what have I been living with that in certain situations things can escalate like this.

     1. Beautiful reflections Esther, and I love that you have revealed that there is a scale of the same energy, from frustration to rage, all of which hurts others

585. If we where to really understand how energy works we would want to be more responsible with how we are living.

     1. Hi Amina, simple words straight from Heaven. SO, what do we get from making life complicated and anything but about energy? Maybe there is a part of us that just avoids responsibility at all costs!

586. RBS a great, much called for piece of writing on a topic we tend not to talk about with compassion or understanding. Abuse is devastating on all levels and completely debilitating. Understanding this can support us to become more aware of the ‘energy’ we choose for ourselves and the implications and consequent outcomes of this choice. The energy we choose is not us, and we can choose another energy at any time. This is the key.

     1. GREAT summary Jenny, yes we are always free to choose, once we have the awareness that in fact, we do have a choice

587. This indeed does bring about an enormous healing for all as it highlights that evil or negative thoughts come from outside of us and not from inside and this is something that most of the world still do not know. Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon are the first to really expose this and bring awareness to this fact and this is necessary for us to really understand.

     1. So true, let’s share with the world what has been offered to us so that all may be offered the same healing

     2. Yes aminatumi and this is enormously freeing and removes all judgement and shame that we tend to carry about our behaviour. We are not our behaviour, it is something we choose and certainly something we need to take responsibility for but that doesn’t mean shaming and blaming ourselves – or others. That just keeps us in the abusive behaviour. Taking responsibility is simply being honest the way RBS has been in this blog and being willing to delve deeper as to why… and in doing so without self-bashing the root cause is seen from a vantage point of love and understanding and can be gracefully let go of.

588. Thank you RBS for your honesty and observations here. I can honestly say that this is something I have never personally experienced. However in your sharing you have given me a much greater understanding about how humanity is able to carry out such extreme and barbaric acts of violence on one another and this is a vital subject to bring to our attention. I have always wondered how any one can harm another, but now it makes perfect sense to me. If we have lost connection with our innate tenderness and naturally caring natures for a huge range of reasons, it becomes easy to allow another energy to enter us that takes over our actions and intentions with devastating results, results that have a knock on effect in destroying the trust within another person and hence causing them to follow the same pattern of disconnection and devastation in order to not feel their pain. There is so much we have to take responsibility for, which includes feeling the terrible pain of what we have done to others and ourselves through our disconnection and to begin love ourselves so much that we will never let it happen again.

     1. Hi Rowena, I too use to wonder how we could actually harm one another, but feel that together we can bring an honesty that will eventually lead to a greater understanding and truth for all. Your ability to make sense of the issue of abuse is inspiring to read. I love how you have expanded this for everyone

589. I also have had similar experiences in my life, the feeling I had in my body when I allowed this energy to run through it was absolutely disgusting. However, whenever I stay connected with myself, the feeling is pretty awesome…

     1. Thanks Alexandre, so true, when we are connected with ourselves, we are absolutely awesome. It is such a blessing that we have been offered by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, that we now have absolute clarity about the type of energy that exists and that we always have a choice as to which energy we are choosing. Serge has taken Einstiens understanding that everything is energy and expanded it into a living tool for the evolution of humanity, a true blessing

590. What a powerful read I can relate to. Whenever I was in middle school and through most of high school, my mother ended up in an abusive marriage, that was physical, emotional and verbal in nature. And whenever he said something harmful towards my Mom and older sister, I was the one who would always defend them and in some ways verbally attack him back. I know this was written more with regards to physical rage, but I think what I dealt with and the way I acted in those moments reminds me of the way you handled your brother’s bullying. And its a scary thing to see yourself acting a way you’ve never behaved before. I know I hope I never act the way I acted with my ex step-dad towards anyone else ever again because I didn’t recognize myself in those moments, and that scared me.

591. Thank you RBS. You show very clearly the harm that can be caused by not acknowledging and expressing how we feel so that frustration and bitterness can foment an explosion of rage as we allow a destructive energy to take over our actions. Sometimes this energy can be a fleeting thought and on other occasions it results in violent action and in that moment you are not yourself, you are out of control because another energy is driving you. The more we connect to the natural tender loving being we are and express how we are feeling the easier it is to be aware of a change in energy and bring ourselves back.

     1. Thanks Mary, I have certainly found what you have expressed to be true for me, that as I re-connect to the tender loving person that I am, my awareness of what is going on within me and around me has expanded enormously, allowing me to clock any changes that I feel as they occur.

592. Oh my. Reading this for the first time I know that there is a depth of honesty to invite in and surrender to that will be life changing for me and many others. I have been both victim and perpetrator of explosions that have felt like they have come out of nowhere, that are certainly more than a single incident ‘deserves’ and that are fuelled by something that has felt ‘outside’ of me (or the other person). Thank you RBS for this incredible piece of writing.

     1. Hi Matilda, it is very empowering to shine a little light on things in our life that feel like they have come out of nowhere. It has only been the reflection of others that allowed me to see more clearly what is not truly me, but has certainly come through me

593. It is quite revealing to feel how rage in form of energy actually enters us and is not something that comes from us. This has helped me to understand that it is not something that belongs to me and therefore I have a choice and with this a responsibility to heal the hurts that open me up to receiving this energy.

     1. What an amazing revelation Rachel, that rage is in fact an energy that enters us, but that we ultimately have the responsibility about the energy that we align to

594. “I was shown in an instant that if I was pushed emotionally beyond a certain point, I was capable of having evil thoughts and potentially harming another human being.” It is sobering to realise that we are all indeed capable of having evil thoughts of potential harming another, these thoughts are fed to us, through one of the two energies and, if we respond and align to it, then we are capable of anything. How important it is for us to choose the right energy to be living with consistently, so there is then much less chance of us actually carrying out these violent acts ourselves. Otherwise, it is so easy to become very frustrated, especially if the behaviour that is being enacted before us has been directed against us many other times, for example if we are being bullied, then the chances are that we will carry out the violent acts that have been passing through our minds, fed from the energy that is not connected to the divine.

     1. This feels very empowering Beverly, you offer the perspective that we actually have a choice of the type of energy that we can align to before the thoughts are fed to us. Could it then be that we become frustrated with ourselves, when we consistently choose an unloving energy, for it is hard to believe that we could ever be frustrated if we are consistently connected to the divine

595. What an amazing sharing here, RBS, and I am particularly impressed by your final paragraph “Let the true conversations around violence begin. Let us bring awareness and understanding to the real force behind rage and violence. We all have a responsibility for our own actions, to begin to understand ourselves and others at a much deeper level and finally begin to break these very old and extremely harmful patterns and behaviours so we may once again return to the tender, loving, caring and compassionate beings that we truly are, innately so.” You have introduced such a very important subject here, you have shared all that you have experienced and now understand regarding the violence and rage that was done on you and by you on others through much of your life. You have exposed what you have yourself been capable of and been willing to look at why this could be so. This is such an important contribution to this subject in all that you have shared, and with others contributing their experience, together we will come to a much better understanding of why people perpetrate such dreadful acts of violence against one another. It is time for this very important conversation to take place. It seems to me that when society comes to understand and accept that there are 2 energies we can choose from to connect to, for us to live our lives in accord with, that will be key to more and more people being willing to look at this subject from a meaningful perspective. Unless we understand this factor, it can be hard for us to understand how people can suddenly erupt and act in such a vile manner. Thank you for your outstanding contribution.

     1. Thank you so much for your comments and for your willingness to contribute to this much needed conversation. I love the way that you summarise the key to understanding that there are 2 energies to choose from and connect to and the perspective this brings to all harmful and loving acts. This de-personalises the subject and allows us to take it much deeper. Awesome contribution

596. For a long time now Serge Benhayon has spoken about how energy comes through us and not from us. Your description of what occurred when you felt enraged proves that this is in fact the case.

     1. So true Elizabeth, we have all felt energy coming through us, we even have commonly used language that describes this; I don’t know what got into me, where did that come from, etc. Knowing this to be true allows us to explore the important details of how it comes in and what quality the energy is that we are aligning to

597. Humanity as a whole has a tendency to look at each other and blame the other for all the ills of the world. What I love about this blog is that it shows that we are all capable of doing evil acts if we do not deal with our hurts. This puts the responsibility firmly back on us to deal with whatever is hindering us from being love. As I read the blog I could feel the potential we each have when we do actually take responsibility for ourselves. Imagine the stupendous acts of love that could then be part of our everyday life?

     1. Beautiful Elizabeth, I love where you have taken this, from our potential to harm if we do not deal with our hurts, to our potential to offer “stupendous acts of love” if we deal with our hurts and take responsibility for our lives

598. When I have experienced rage, it is from a build-up of not expressing truth and standing up for truth. In the past I have often stood in silence when being attacked thinking I was deflecting the abuse but I was in fact feeding it in my silence. Therefore by not putting a stop to the abuse or expressing truth I held a deep tension in my body, with repeated incidents this build up gets so intense that at a breaking point I then allow rage in to unleash the tension. So reflecting back, if I had made a different choice, a choice to stand up to abuse without fear, calling a stop to it by standing in my power and express what is needed to be expressed instead of holding it back, the tension would not be there. I realise now how important it is to stand up for truth and express it consistently never holding back or play it down but truly giving it my all. Always express truth therefore, no tension, no rage and it is really that simple.

     1. This is a wonderful insight into how rage builds up over time and the tension that is felt in the body. Bringing awareness to this feeling in the body can be a key to breaking the momentum before the rage is unleashed. I too have felt that my holding back what is there to be expressed, has consistently allowed abuse of myself and of others and, fuelled the tension and frustration that leads to rage. Thanks for standing up for and expressing your truth now, it feels very power-full

599. You asked us to share our experiences and I remember once working with a woman who constantly bullied me. One day she was standing on the opposite side of the room and said something abusive as normal, but that day instead of ignoring it, this huge red heat shot up inside my body and came up out of my eyes. I looked at her with such anger that she was propelled backwards out through the door. I remember it was quite exciting to feel the power I had to knock someone off their feet with just my eyes. I now know it was not power but force. I now know power to be a quality of my true loving self, whereas force is me in reaction allowing a harmful energy to come through me. These kind of energies are very seductive and appear to give us something we want in that moment, but if we knew the harm we caused and the price we pay for abdicating ourselves in this manner we would know it is a terrible deal to make.

     1. Your sharing offers us all a greater understanding, thank you. Calling in a force to feel powerful and ultimately hurt another is a terrible deal to make. But, we do need to bring love and understanding to what we expected the world to be like, or needed others to be like, in order for us to feel so hurt in the first place. To see another as a threat is very human. To see past the awful behaviour of another and seek true understanding breaks the cycle of harm and begins the cycle of true healing

     2. I can relate to what you say here Nicola “this huge red heat shot up inside my body and came up out of my eyes.” there are people that use their eyes to knock you of your feet along with the venom of their tongue that can cut you to your core, it feels like it rips your heart out. I now know I used exactly the same tools as a part of my rage although I raged physically as well as teenager. It wasn’t until I learnt to love myself and let go of my underlying hurts that people felt safe enough to share with me just how scared of me they were. I was devastated when I learnt this because I really didn’t know I was that out of control and abusive. I actually wasn’t aware I was an angry person.

600. Thank you RBS for a deeply touching sharing. What particularly touched me was the understanding you bring to this subject. The understanding that we are all the same at essence, that we are all loving, sensitive beings and that unloving acts and these bursts of energy come through us but not from us. Whilst we can say it is not us that abuses, we are responsible for what we allow through as a consequence of not being aware and dealing with our hurts.

     1. Thanks Nicola, If we truly wish to return to a more loving way of being with ourselves and each other, it certainly does begin with a greater understanding of the what we are not, the harm and devastation, and the appreciation of what we are, “loving sensitive beings”.

601. Thank you RBS for this amazing, amazing blog. As I was reading your blog I could very much relate to your every word, reminding me of my childhood and experience of abuse. I too have been in similar situations and have experienced rage. The way you described taking on the energy is brilliant, this is exactly how it feels to allow the energy of rage take over, a coldness and hardening of the body, the shock, shame and regret is very familiar. I agree we definitely do need to have open discussions about violence, to understand it and to openly share our experiences so we can heal and learn from it and to understand that we do have the power to not choose this awful energy of rage.

     1. Thanks for honesty and contribution on the subject of rage. It only takes a few honest people to bring an awareness and ultimately an understanding and truth to humanity, about that which has been misunderstood and allowed to devastate us all for aeons.

602. Thank you RBS for such a solid and clear statement on how rage, abuse or violence is a force or energy that enters us when we allow it. The fact is that energy is always passing through us – there is the forceful energy and the true energy of us all. Knowing this and being aware of this fact, in my opinion, is the most important thing to understand as you have shown us. In violent acts it is often said ‘they were not themselves’. How true this is as when we are truly with ourselves and totally connected into our hearts and bodies there is no way we could perpetrate any violence towards anyone as we would feel the devastation in our own bodies first before we sent it elsewhere.

     1. Hi Susan, wouldn’t it be great if we were actually taught as children the facts about energy, that it is “always passing through us” and that we have a responsibility as to which quality of energy that is passing through us we align to and express from.

603. I have always known that extreme thoughts are available at any time and that they can be ridden. You don’t have much control but enormous force available and it is our choice whether we magnify those thoughts or not. When the provocation is very strong it is harder but we always have a choice – the momentum even if very strong, still requires our acquiescence or more than that.

     1. Thanks Christoph, So true that it all comes down to choices, and love the way you present that “we always have a choice”.

     2. So true Christoph it can be very hard when the provocation is very strong and we feel like our life is at stake. This is how it is in some families it’s hard to survive and when rage is the only tool that is demonstrated to cope with life. Calling in this energy does require our consent therefore there absolutely is a choice. In some communities the struggle is knowing there is another choice.

604. This is such a beautiful and honest blog that asks us each to go deeper and look at our reactions to situations in life. Thank you for starting the conversation.

     1. Hi Maree, It certainly feels like it is time for each of us to go deeper. Thanks for contributing to the conversation

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