Countries in Comfort

There are many people in countries in our world today who love to talk about the standard of living statistics or the ‘best place in the world to live’ because their country ranks at No. 1 in the world.

I know I have bragged to others about how great it is living in my country, the luxury of it, the beautiful countryside and mountains of Norway. This is not just appreciating the beauty of our country but gloating and supremacy; of both deserving the luxury we live in and being better than other countries further down the list.

I am here considering this and realising how this attitude may be arrogant, indulgent, individualistic and inconsiderate. The focus becomes less and less about community and working together for the common good of all, instead shifting more and more to how good a life an individual can attain, or the individual family, or just smaller groups, no longer caring for the whole, just about the self and one’s closest.

With these values, greed, self-image and materialism can take over.

We call it ‘the good life,’ a high standard of living, but is this truly living or is it just an existence, one in comfort? For instance, becoming more disengaged from one’s true inner values, thinking that material wealth collates to happiness and that happiness is the ultimate goal in life, instead of realising that life can be about true love, joy and harmony.

In my experience, no true joy has been found in material wealth, only fleeting moments of happiness never sustained, always followed by a come down, a dip or a depression.

With true love for oneself and all of humanity, comes joy and harmony with no need or craving for the next hit of happiness, just living life in a constant flow of contentment.

It would seem that many of us thirst after material possessions: to own at least one house, maybe more, a winter cabin in the mountains, a luxury yacht, cabin cruiser or chalet by the sea, or all of the above – a Mediterranean villa, new cars and motorcycles, several holiday trips per year, the latest technologically advanced computer equipment, this season’s latest fashion in skiing gear, bicycles worth $1000’s, expensive wines, whiskeys, cigars and cognacs.

In this, are we not then teaching our children the same material values and the same excessive lifestyle – actually teaching them to be exactly who they are not, spoiling them completely?

We are not supporting them to hold their kind, loving, considerate, harmonious, joyful and generous nature, often leaving them alone in their rooms to be parented by TV, Internet, on-line gaming, Facebook, App this and App that, death metal, gangster rap, etc. Is this type of lifestyle a responsible way for us to support our younger generations?

The race to attain material wealth can lead to the fact that we are no longer listening to what our own bodies are communicating to us as we go into competition and stress, living trapped in our minds instead of a truly healthy, loving and joyful life.

Given that we are living in so much comfort, then why is illness and disease on the increase?

Consider what is happening to the ageing population in Norway. By the time we get to our 50’s – or 40’s and even younger – we are getting sicker, with more and more cases of mental illness, cancer, diabetes, stress, burnout, etc. If we take a moment to consider a few examples:

  • New cases of cancer in Norway are climbing through the roof. Between 1954 and 2013, the number of new cancer diagnoses in men has more than quadrupled and in women the number of new cases has more than tripled. There are no signs of a slowdown in this trend. [1]
  • Diabetes cases in Norway are increasing at an alarming rate. In 2014 roughly 4% of the population were taking diabetes medication and it is conservatively estimated that there may be somewhere between 2% and 4% more cases undiagnosed. [2]
  • Mental illness affects between 30% and 50% of the adult population in Norway, at some time during their lives. [2]

This begs me to ask the question, “What is it about the way we are living that is giving rise to this upsurge in ill health?”

Is it that we don’t seem to think it can happen to us, until it does?

People are more afraid of being killed by terrorists than the real killers listed above.

What I’m talking about here is not just the abuse we submit our bodies to, with our overeating and alcohol consumption, but also our disregard for our bodies – how we use them as an instrument for our own pleasure and self-indulgent habits. These irresponsible habits are our lifestyle choices that are causing the rise in ill-health.

The fact is that this tsunami of ill-health flooding over us is bankrupting health services around the world, causing even more ill-health for those working within these overloaded systems.

If we consider this along with the comforts that are being sought by some, e.g. luxury lifestyles with yachts and holiday homes being prioritised over and above personal health and wellbeing, are we not collectively out of balance?

Moreover, in our comfortable way of choosing to live, I observe little effort is being focused on our own responsibility for the prevention of the tide of illness and disease.

The simple act of taking a moment to ponder on how we are living our lives, considering how we can best care for ourselves and others, could help us all to live in harmony together, in a greater state of true health and feeling the joy of life. And if we truly consider this, we might come to the conclusion that every person on the planet is the same as we are, no matter their colour, religion, nationality, gender, age or size.

We might also conclude that material wealth is not our true happiness, as happiness is always temporary until we get the next fix, be that a new car, a glass of wine, a great film, a sporting event, a sugary delight – they are all forms of temporary happiness.

Living a privileged life in a beautiful place may make us feel better and more deserving than others, but while we bathe in comfort we are detaching ourselves from humanity, taking part in material competition with each other, isolating ourselves instead of living together in harmony with everyone.

Ignoring the true messages our bodies are giving to us is compounding in its effects to produce an ever-sickening global population that none of us can escape, in spite of our wealth.

Inspired by the presentations of Serge Benhayon, which I feel offer a genuine way out of these worldwide health issues that are embedded in the lives of all of us.

By Christopher Murphy, Kindergarten Assistant and Universal Medicine student, Norway

[1] Kreftregisteret (Institution of Population Based Cancer Research) (2014) Cancer in Norway 2014.

[2] Folkehelseinstituttet (2014) Folkehelserapporten 2014. (The health of the population report 2014, The Norwegian institute of public health).

Further Reading:
Why We Should Not Hide In Comfort
A Comfortable Life Versus A True Life
Comparing Myself To Others

896 thoughts on “Countries in Comfort

  1. ‘the good life,’ The illusion of the ‘good life’ is thinking that it is better than someone else. Comparison and competition sets one against another. Living a true life is to live in harmony with yourself, those around you and in equalness with all.

  2. It’s a great point that when we live in a comfortable country without civil, political or other unrest, we can be lulled into a comfort that excludes being aware of and responsive to what is happening for other people, including people in other countries. Also material wealth and comfort can divert us away from the very real reality that we ourselves are not living as we truly are, and are disconnected from our innate love and joy.

  3. Focusing on emotions and material objects completely cuts us off from understanding that life is energy first. Comfort to me is anything where I can kick back and seemingly ignore the energetic factor of life. Being aware of energy isn’t without tension, far from, but it does come with a whole lot more freedom, joy and aliveness than being comfortable does.

  4. Part of the bigger picture here is to look at how the current system of education forms a foundation for materialism, happiness and comfort. During schooling we are encouraged to compete and compare with each other and place value in what we can learn so we can ‘be something’ in terms of job and career. This can only lead to the never ending chase for happiness and material comforts, because the true richness of our being has been negated and we have become separated to it, and this, our being, is the only source of true contentment.

    1. Making life about the external, the outside, and forgetting our inner being does not lead to contentment, ‘becoming more disengaged from one’s true inner values, thinking that material wealth collates to happiness and that happiness is the ultimate goal in life, instead of realising that life can be about true love, joy and harmony.’

  5. I have just spent 2 days at a place where people go on holiday thinking it’s a holiday but its just another place to check out and over indulge in whatever it is they fancy. There are massive changes taking place energetically but because we seemingly refuse to feel life from a purely energetic level we are killing ourselves literally through illness and disease because we do not want to admit that we are so sensitive to the energy that we actually cannot stop feeling that we bludgeon ourselves to death rather than admit we can feel energy and actually the energy we are feeling most of the time feels awful and that we actually don’t like the mess we are in.

  6. Thank you Christopher, when we feel we are privileged, deserving and “ how this attitude may be arrogant, indulgent, individualistic and inconsiderate,” as all are judging others to be a lesser version or not as eligible and this type of judgement or comparison is not evolutionary and thus these disease statistics as you have shared.

  7. It’s true Christopher, we need to get real about the outcomes of how we are living life, the only issue is that when everyone else is doing the same we can see it as normal. That is why it’s so important to have these conversations, and to live in a loving and self caring way to show a new kind of normal to people. I know in my community I’m considered a bit weird because I don’t drink alcohol, but I’m also showing people that it’s not ‘just how life is’ or how life has to be.

  8. On reading this I reflected just how much things have changed. How much I have changed and also how much the world has changed. My belief or mind set growing up was predominately about getting ‘there’, you know, the steps … good job, nice car, nice home, great partner, able to go away on holidays etc. This was my mind set because this was what was reflected to me by many around me. I am so glad this has changed and even though now I have a nice car, beautiful home and job I absolutely love I know this is not it, on the contrary this is not it at all but is the reflection of how much I am loving me. The world however has got worse. There is more poverty, more stress, more ill mental health, more domestic violence, more violence, more abuse, more illness and dis-ease, more corruption, more greed, more wars … the list goes on. So is it now not the time to see that ‘better’ does not work and that instead we take it right back to the very basics and make it about love, people and how we live? I am not going to wait for an answer here as I know the truth and the answer is Yes we very much should be doing this and I deeply appreciate that now the many I know do reflect this not only back to me but inspire me to live my truth and be all that I am in order to support those around me 💫

    1. ‘Better’ this, or that, does not work, ‘The race to attain material wealth can lead to the fact that we are no longer listening to what our own bodies are communicating to us as we go into competition and stress, living trapped in our minds instead of a truly healthy, loving and joyful life.’

  9. Just as “money can’t buy you happiness” it can’t buy contentment and settlement. Nor can having no money at all. I’m finding that nothing physical or material can bring me contentment or a well-being, only connecting to my essence can bring that.

  10. We have a connection to our place of birth, to the place where we live too. I get so touched when visiting the mountains in Bulgaria – their majesty and beauty is truly out of this world. For a while I used to deny this connection because I thought it’s not a good thing to feel that way about a country, I thought that feeling this way enforces separatism and therefore it is a bad thing. But what I have come to realise is that I am not enforcing separatism by appreciating what’s around me, the connections I have in given countries and loving the atmosphere. What endorses separatism is thinking that this country is better than that country, that because I am Bulgarian I am somehow a better woman than all other women, that because I am Bulgarian I ought to marry a Bulgarian man and have Bulgarian children – and this can apply to any country because these are the beliefs ingrained in us from little. We are taught that our country is the best one, better than all the rest & therefore other countries are worth less, other people who come from those countries are worthless. There are wars between countries today because of something that happened hundreds, if not thousands of years ago. I know in the Bulgarian education system we were taught that Turkey is the reason behind our suffering, that because of their unfair rule & force at the time Bulgarians were brought down on their knees and all of the goods of the country were taken. This happened almost a thousand years ago, yet many still hold a grudge, still despise people who have Turkish origins. This is only bringing separation between two cultures who are so similar and have have a very harmonious living. I have met Turkish people whilst living in the UK, some of them were my neighbours. Their warmth and care was undeniable, they embraced my family and my family embraced them – it was beautiful to have neighbors who care for you, share meals together and always have their door open just in case you forgot your keys (like I used to do sometimes) or wanted to play (like I did always). Identifying with a country of origin is so old, yep let’s appreciate what’s on offer but never use the good sides of our land of birth to bring down another or a group of people.

    1. Viktoria this is beautiful, it could easily be a blog or an article somewhere – delightful to read and get to know more about how you feel in life and your experiences.

      1. Thank you Melinda, you’re right – this might as well have been a blog haha

  11. Perhaps what we perceive to be a ‘good’ life is not so good after all. To have a certain standard of living doesn’t build true joy. Clearly looking at our population we have higher rates of mental ill health and general higher rates of illness and disease than ever before…. clearly how we are living is not matching up to our beliefs about what a good life entails.

  12. Reading this makes me consider how much more people are living in ill mental health because just making it about luxury and more and more possessions isn’t this also possibly to be seen as ill mental health? The illness of wanting more than we truly need to care for ourselves and the others around us.

    1. Caring and loving oneself is a great start, ‘With true love for oneself and all of humanity, comes joy and harmony with no need or craving for the next hit of happiness, just living life in a constant flow of contentment.’

  13. The true riches in the world will only ever be found in connection to our Soul, nothing is needed when we connect to this divine truth and love.

  14. I really love your sense of humanity here Chris – yeh our lives can be amazing, we can live in amazing places but what is going on for everyone else – from close neighbours to people in countries where their lives are at risk. It doesn’t seem right to live with our eyes closed to the reality of what is actually going on.

  15. We all are the same regardless of our physical appearance, beliefs we hold or where we live on this planet we call our world.

  16. When we could look to the earth from heaven, which in a way is our origin, we sure would say that all this comfort is only a distraction of the true work we should be doing as a human species on this planet earth.

  17. ‘People are more afraid of being killed by terrorists than the real killers listed above.’ such is the power of the abuse of the media – that loves to stir up emotion rather than report on true and healthy ways to be with ourselves and one another.

  18. That which is given to us is not given to us for self gain but to give back to everybody else and neither can we contain our love just for ourselves and a selected few. We are part of a grand whole, the universe, and not an individual hermetically sealed blob that can do whatever it wants.

  19. If we only thirst for things to have and try to get them we will never understand the true value of ourself and the importance of the work we do working in a society and therefore being in service for humanity. We can want so many things but they won’t fulfil us if we do not know, appreciate and bring in full to the world our whole worth.

    1. Esther I know someone who constantly wants something is never satisfied or appreciative of what they have, it is just not enough. But as you say we can want so many things but that doesn’t fulfil us as my friend is a great example of dissatisfaction of life. They have no understanding that true wealth comes from within because they have not experienced that in life. This fulfilment cannot be given it is something that is within us that we have to reconnect to, as it is the wealth of the universe.

  20. And when we are crowing about how good we have it, we are very subtly flexing our indifference to others and our small picture. The world is so much more than this great town, or this great country. Its about individual people making up a 7 billion person humanity where all have the same potential, and our equal responsibility is to encourage everyone to be everything we are.

  21. Living in the perceived comfort of individual wealth of possessions we have to face the uncomfortable truth that others are living less to provide the illusion of having more.

  22. “In my experience, no true joy has been found in material wealth”. I agree I have found that those with material wealth often lack the warmth and humility that many with limited means so warmly cherish.

  23. You describe a society choking on ostentatious material wealth while its inhabitants are starving themselves of what truly counts in the pursuit of fickle happiness.

  24. Doing well, and living a “good” life, will not ever be truly good unless everybody will that same quality of life. And quality of life is not based on materialism, but on the fact if there is love, harmony and true brotherhood. Everything else will leave an unsettlement in the body.

    1. The unsettlement in the human body you mention can be clearly observed in all the wayward behaviours of people but too in all the illness and diseases, people develop.

      1. The statistics for illnesses and diseases continue to rise, it may be worth asking ourselves, ‘What is it about the way we are living that is giving rise to this upsurge in ill health?’

  25. I live in HK where materialism is king and a big chunk of life is omitted and ignored when money and materialistic seek is all we devote our commitment to. The actual act of this choice causes immense tension because by nature we are multidimensional and we are a whole not in compartments.

  26. It’s true Christopher… The world is broken, no Band-Aids will fix it, until there is a fundamental paradigms shift of awareness … Enter… The Way of the Livingness.

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