Being Chinese – Being True to My Self

I was born Hong Kong Chinese.

I have never liked being Chinese because it never felt natural, but I have lived most of my life feeling trapped within the picture of what being Chinese meant. I was always looking to run away, to be any nationality, to live in any country but to be where I have incarnated to be.

What I wanted to run away from was feeling that the cultural traditions of being Chinese were not true, but I did not want to take responsibility in expressing this fact. In my observations and exploration I realised that there is no truth without first expressing in honesty.

In the Chinese culture, when a baby is born, because of its preciousness, the elder generations would call him or her ugly because of the belief that when a baby is adored she or he will start to be proud and therefore die.

From birth we are not confirmed of our innate worth of being alive by generations who do not know, and probably have never been confirmed, of their own worth either. Our ingrained way of expression is self-deprecating, convoluted and complicated; it is reflecting the lack of simplicity and love that are natural to our heart.

We are born into a culture where it is the norm to not accept self-worth and therefore the choice to evolve into our true being is very limited.

Being small and to hold back from our true worth is taught from young to be our normal way. From an early age we learn to not express truth for the sake of appearing humble.

The pained expressions of women, showing signs of being demure and quiet, in the Chinese culture is considered beautiful. Silence is considered a virtue.

Children grow up hearing one thing which means something else. It is a cultural norm to say something and to mean the opposite, without choosing to be aware that whatever is expressed does not simply go away, no matter how it is meant to be interpreted.

Women still choose to whiten and brighten their skin to escape being yellow. As a culture, we are looking up to the West and other cultures in lifestyles and fashion styles. Inferiority is the other side of the coin of control; when we do not honor our own worth, we are sold out to the supremacist consciousness, we use it amongst ourselves and to those we feel we can control. Control is in our blood from the lack of control we feel when lies make up the foundation of our existence. Equality is not a lived truth in us.

Many feelings are kept unspoken – we call this keeping words “in the heart” – but the truth is, what is from the heart cannot ever be kept mute by our body. Because our expression does not reflect honesty, our protection thickens. When we hide and do not share, we hold back transparency and true reflection. We do not learn from each other but keep everyone at bay.

In disconnection with ourselves, we live disconnection with others, but we call this being conservative. Anger is built from feeling truth but not speaking out. I know for a fact that my yellowness in complexion comes from the fact of what I have internalised and not expressed.

We retreat into our mind, far from the truth of our body. When we form our consciousness based on what is not true, we do not like ourselves very much and value is not something we feel in our blood. We never feel good enough, and to compensate this we compete and work non-stop to prove that we are the best. We convince ourselves that this is success, and so we continue this legacy by being dishonest to our bodies, but we make sure we look good on the outside and we do this very well. We tell ourselves it is all well worth it, by redefining success to be how we appear externally and how much money we have.

We earn the recognition that the Chinese are powerful; we think we are invincible and can reclaim the gaping hole and emptiness from our foundation by a constant drive of seeking externally, yet that is far from the truth. Our unworthiness remains no matter how much we have achieved. We do not in truth feel any more value in ourselves even with the infinite monetary zeroes in our banks.

Our bodies suffer and we further comfort ourselves that this is okay with all the forms of indulgences and entertainment we choose as our normal to not commit to life, and remain in the biggest comfort of all that “everyone is doing the same.

For many years I have lived most of the above.

I met Serge Benhayon and attended presentations by Universal Medicine (Australia) in 2012 – a time when my ingrained patterns of looking up to, and outside of myself, were still strong. I felt aggrieved that I lived so far away from where the Universal Medicine presentations and clinics were based, as after all these years I had finally found the first and only teachings that truly made sense to me in a world that did not make much sense.

The purple books of Serge Benhayon were the first teachings that I connected with, and the books touched me deeply because what I know within my heart to be true, is expressed in them. The books did not teach me what to do or how to get from A to B, but they, as well as Serge Benhayon, inspired me to live my every day in deeper awareness and self-love, and from there my entire life gently but completely changed.

During the past 4 years I have come to accept that my Soul reincarnated in my birth place, Hong Kong, for a reason. And that reason has nothing to do with not being worthy, or that it was my loss (to be far away from Universal Medicine) to be born here.

In fact, it was such a loving opportunity for me to live step by step in deep patience and tender acceptance of my developing self. Throughout this deepening and ongoing process, I have realised that being physically far away from Universal Medicine can only mean that support is already where I am at.

The deepest support has come from my body and the lightness of joy that I know is within me. I started to understand through my own experiences as to why we do the things that we do, and what impact these ‘cultural’ choices have on us collectively as a momentum that has carried on for ages. But I also see how, although this momentum feels so strong, the connection that we can build with ourselves is even stronger than the force of a whole culture.

The power of this connection is never forceful; in fact, it is deeply joyful and light! Most importantly, when I take the responsibility to consistently express truth in all my delicateness, vulnerability, imperfection and power, this is the support to keep me going and a reflection being offered back to my whole culture.

Our culture is associated with a feeling of heaviness and being not enough, but this is only so because as generations we have avoided expressing in honesty – not because we do not know honesty but because we have not taken the responsibility to say what we truly mean or live who we truly are.

When I deepened this relationship with myself, I deepened the appreciation of being Chinese and the opportunity this has given me in re-discovering the deep connection with myself. There is no more need to run from my birth place or from my culture anymore, in fact, I wake up every day in joy to live the purpose of being born here.

The truth is I am not just Chinese, as no culture, nationality, color, religion or background can change the universal feeling I know within me.

What is experienced in the Chinese culture is not special to just the Chinese, it exists in other cultures too, and how we live in our culture affects all cultures. Every culture has its own specific consciousness from the collective choices of its people, and that we have to accept. The layers and layers of cultural prison we are held in, of which we are not initially aware, begin to show themselves when we live deeper the words that our hearts know, and layer upon layer they can also be gently released.

No matter how I look on the outside, where in the world I was born and where I am living now, what language I speak, deep inside there is something which does not distinguish me from everyone else, and this quality is who we all naturally and equally are.

Being physically far from Universal Medicine has asked me to live the responsibility of expressing the truth of who I am in my daily life and what a huge gift this is.

By Adele Leung, Creative Director/Fashion Stylist, Hong Kong

Further Reading:
Magic of Knowing… We Are All One and The Same On The Inside
Countries in Comfort

520 thoughts on “Being Chinese – Being True to My Self

  1. Adele, you self reflection, penetrating deeply into your culture ‘Chinese’ with the sword of honesty and coming to truth has liberated you from the shackles of culture and you are able to live who you are as a universal person. As you shared it was because of Universal Medicine you began to understand this because there was a contrast from what is true to what is not. It is simple, we know it within, if we choose to go there. Culture can ‘blind’ us into believing this is it and covering the pain of deep down, knowing it is not true.

  2. I had a similar situation where I have lived my adult life away from where I incarnated, it was a different society but with its own culture pressures that I didn’t fancy or feel confirmed in. Recently I have reconnected to the divinity of my incarnation into that land and it feels amazing to realise the purpose of where you are born and the honouring of that constellation.

  3. I love the level of acceptance and openness Adele that you have for where you were born. Leaving no stone unturned you reflect a powerful path back to the soul and true purpose.

  4. ‘We are born into a culture where it is the norm to not accept self-worth and therefore the choice to evolve into our true being is very limited.’ I am learning more and more the power of appreciation and self-appreciation and how this stops self-criticism, allows a settling in ones own skin and a quiet contentment to occur. To stifle whole nations, as we do, by the upbringing of its citizens to devalue themselves so that they live with permanent underlying anxiety is to surely halt the evolution of our planet?

  5. So many layers that culture adds on top of what is naturally there from the day of birth. Thanks Adele for sharing our journey and for showing the world it is possible to reclaim that natural connection, beauty and strength.

  6. “Responsibility to consistently express truth in all my delicateness, vulnerability, imperfection and power” – we don’t see such qualities together often! Yet from reading your blog it is evident what a potent mix they make, not just for yourself but gracing everyone around you as well.

  7. So many in every nation around the world are captives of their own culture. As you say Adele, they tolerate it and accept all the entertainments and distractions it offers at the same time as resenting it, yet I am sure like you deep down they know the truth but are scared of losing their identity because they have covered their hearts with protections in order to survive. To let go of the attachment and risk feeling vulnerable, to follow the heart and step lightly, brings a distance and an ability to recognise the illusion. Only then are we free to live within it and love our fellow brothers, and serve in love. When our home is in our inner hearts we can live anywhere, as you have so beautifully expressed.

  8. This is a very powerful uncovering of the effects of culture on us and the world and the undermining it offers. There is also an informative and honest look at the Chinese culture and the lack of honouring and foundation that exists here and every where in its own unique ways. The true love, oneness and appreciation for ourselves and all we are is clearly offered to us by Serge Benhayon and the Ancient Wisdom and is far bigger than everything else we could ever be offered far grander far deeper and far more magnificent than we can grasp as human beings.A beautiful sharing Adele offering so much understanding thank you.

  9. Imagine if we were all to drop these distinguishing points of difference and come back to the truth that we are all equal in essence.

  10. It is beautiful to feel how we all have incarnated into the place we can learn what we need to evolve. The support that is there in this is incredible to feel and enjoy the learning that is there for us.

  11. We are all exactly where we are supposed to be in every given moment learning exactly what we need to learn. It is our choice on whether or not we take the opportunity to grow and evolve from each experience, or not.

  12. It is a deep learning on presence when we just meet life as how it comes, without going ahead of ourselves to extrapolate what may happen or to dwell in the past of what could have been, but simply be walking every step in presence, while being aware of everything that is felt. There is never any difficulties if we lived in such a way, therefore, every issue or challenge that comes up is a result from us being out of rhythm towards what life has offered to us, and so to move back towards alignment, being present and responsible is the way.

  13. What a beautiful sharing Adele and also such a beautiful claiming within yourself for who you are, what you innately stand for and expressing from that. Love your parting comments being “No matter how I look on the outside, where in the world I was born and where I am living now, what language I speak, deep inside there is something which does not distinguish me from everyone else, and this quality is who we all naturally and equally are.”

  14. ‘We tell ourselves it is all well worth it, by redefining success to be how we appear externally and how much money we have.’ I was always brought up to believe that success was related to how much money you have, and now I know that success comes from the inside and is nothing to do with anything material.

  15. ‘What is experienced in the Chinese culture is not special to just the Chinese, it exists in other cultures too, and how we live in our culture affects all cultures.’ This is so true Adele, because the more we become integrated with those beliefs the stronger that belief become.

  16. I feel the culture we are born into has been chosen in order to provide us with the lessons we require to evolve. We can lovingly embrace these lessons as the true gifts they are or we can choose to rebel against them, and retard our own evolution. Adele it is very beautiful to read how you are living You in Hong Kong and are not inhibited by the restraints of the Chinese culture.

  17. I have felt the same Adele Leung as I too could feel the pressure of identifying with my cultural background. I would often be named by my ancestral roots even when I would introduce myself as Natalliya. There so much identification that comes with cultural diversity but how are we diverse? The work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine has shown me that we all come from the same source and that living this truth leaves no space for cultural differences or separation.

  18. I loved what you have shared here Adele and what you have claimed within you against such a consciousness, one that is, as you say, complicated, convoluted and incredibly self deprecating. Also saying….. “We are born into a culture where it is the norm to not accept self-worth and therefore the choice to evolve into our true being is very limited.” Yet you have connected to you and the truth of life and love, such a credit to you and I am sure an absolute inspiration to all of whom you meet.

  19. Being born and living in Hong Kong does present you with ‘such a loving opportunity for me to live step by step in deep patience and tender acceptance of my developing self. ‘ How great that you are embracing the opportunity for evolution that this presents.

  20. ‘Inferiority is the other side of the coin of control; when we do not honor our own worth, we are sold out to the supremacist consciousness, we use it amongst ourselves and to those we feel we can control’ This is a statement worth pondering for it lies at the heart of so much angst in our world.

  21. Culture is far from an excuse to hold back, it is beautiful to read your findings, and see that all that is held in this cultural consciousness is from all our collective choices. Feeling the responsibility to grow my love from within.

  22. Wow, I loved reading and learning about the Chinese culture as it has supported me to bring a further understanding to others and the lives and upbringings they have had. Adele you have also supported me to confirm further that each and every upbringing, lifestyle is exactly the same (yet in differing flavours it comes) when it comes to whether a small child is met for who they truly are or not. It’s love or it’s not. It’s healing or it’s harm and there is no in-between or even better or worse at the details. Love is who we are and what we need to be cherished and honoured for and this love is abundant and on tap for whenever we choose it for ourselves too.

  23. Wow, Adele this peeling off the layers of culture provides us with profound insights. I love that you have concluded that all it takes is for us again to listen to and speak from the truth of our own hearts, thus confirming ourselves. We are gently and joyously powerful when we do.

  24. Wow Adele, you’ve really nailed here and for me personally highlighted how by being born on a different part of the planet from where Universal Medicine is situated it doesn’t mean that I’m any less, infact it means the support is here for me to live a life of truth right where I am.

  25. There is a lot of discussion these days about the need to be “culturally sensitive”. Could it be that we are missing the point here and that what is really needed is to know that we are all the same, irrespective of our culture and that what we need to be aware of is just how sensitive we all by nature?

  26. When we reconnect to our Soul we will find that this is so much more powerful than the forces of cultural behaviour we live in, the cultures which we collectively have created in our disconnected way of living.

  27. Culture is such a huge barrier for us as a society, we stand behind our culture, where we are from, what that represents, not allowing us to be able to stand in who we are, what we bring to all. So what you are claiming here is so great, even if you are 1 person, you are starting a reflection for others to feel and understand.

  28. When I resisted my body, I also resisted feeling and developing the connection and relationship I have with myself, as a culture this is how we have succeeded in not being aware. We resist and loathe ourselves, from birth and for our entire lives, this is the honest picture of being Chinese, that we do not love ourselves. But calling that out in simple honesty just means, we can now make the choice to love again. And making that choice for myself simply so, with no imposition or expectation in others, what is reflected back is other people making the same choices out of their own free will.

  29. We are all the same in essence, but every culture comes with its flavor for us to bring truth back. If every culture looks at their lovelessness, it can only mean the world returning closer to love.

  30. Wow Adele – you sure are where you are supposed to be, as we all are I guess. It’s great to realise that we are where we are for a reason and that wherever we are we have the power and strength to be our full selves. Where the light has faded bearers of light is very needed and asked for. Thanks Adele.

  31. Yes Wow Adele, I didn’t know how full on it was to grow up in the Chinese culture. You have undergone an amazing transformation, particularly given the distance you lived from presentations, healing sessions etc. I take my hat off to you… your tenacity and dedication to what you felt was true is remarkable and very inspiring.

  32. Adele thank you for sharing, there is much to learn from each other and different cultures even though we are all the same underneath, I was particularly taken by your words ‘ Children grow up hearing one thing which means something else. It is a cultural norm to say something and to mean the opposite,’ this must be very confusing, and when we don’t express truth, the lack of expression is held in the body and it is part of what makes the body feel heavy, and hard.

  33. You show us all Adele how many jackets we can wear, to cover up and hide the truth and the Love that is there. When we start to stand back and truly question we can see that we really needn’t follow tradition so obediently. How freeing and liberating this can be to see we can change the way we choose to be. Imagine a culture where unity, brotherhood and honesty was truly embraced, one that considered all of us as one human race, celebrating different surface appearances but seeing the connection that lives underneath. Wow we as a world, would then need to let go of a lot of the past, but if joy and vitality is truly where we want to go, well why not say yes?

  34. How strange to hear how an entire culture is configured to say one thing yet mean another. Of course in hindsight this is prevalent throughout the world… so why do we choose this peculiar way of communicating? What purpose does it serve other than to obscure, to complicate, to pretend or paint a picture that is otherwise less than the truth. And yet no matter how good we are at playing the game, the funny thing is that we can all feel exactly what is going on under the surface, so all that is truly being communicated is that we are lying. Lying to ourselves, lying to each other.

  35. Adele another amazing blog on how your life has changed since meeting Serge Benhayon, I love your exposure on culture here, whether it is English, Chinese, or Spanish culture if it is not about true love then it really is not worth us repeating it.

  36. I love what you have presented here Adele, thank you for sharing your experiences and for deepening my understanding of Chinese culture. As you have so wisely pointed out, in essence we are all the same and anything that separates us takes us away from who we truly are.

  37. I am inspired Adele, you have turned your whole perspective of your situation around from being one that could justify your lack of self worth to one that it not only truly accepting of it all, but truly embracing and loving it! Goes to show there is much power in a simple choice to appreciate!

  38. ‘We are born into a culture where it is the norm to not accept self-worth and therefore the choice to evolve into our true being is very limited.’ This is true wether you were born in China, Outer Mongolia or in Wales. We are all kept small with limited opportunities, yet we can evolve if we are prepared to step out of the oder or culture we are born into. Yes this is difficult and yes, most of us didn’t do that, but with the understanding presented by Serge Benhayon, we can do just that, which is rocking the world on it’s axis, as you are Adele.

  39. Thank you Adele for exposing the harm and damage we can create to ourselves and others when we choose to live with these cultural ideals and beliefs. They seem to serve to suppress our true expression, our honesty and who we are. Letting go of them in my experience have been deeply empowering, because no matter where we come from or what culture we are born into, we are all equal and the universal language that unites us is the language of love. A very powerful blog, I feel that it is very much needed to open our eyes and our hearts to what is possible when we let go of these ideals and beliefs.

  40. What a beautiful sharing Adele, I love coming back to your blog as it is such a gentle reminder to let go of ideals and beliefs that contract us and to embrace and live the equality, love, harmony, joy and stillness that we so naturally are.

  41. ” Cultural differences” is just another way we have learnt to separate as a society and move away from that which is our natural right of true equality as human beings, the more we choose to reconnect to our soul we know there are absolutely no differences between us as in essence we are all love.

  42. Only when we have disconnected and separated from ourselves, can we even think that we are different because of cultural beliefs or customs.

  43. The impositions of culture and nationality restrict us to conform until such time that we realise that this is not the truth. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine offer a reflection of the Oneness of humanity with each other and the Universe.

  44. When we stop to ponder on it it is surprising how much control and influence cultural bias and myths have on the everyday movements of ourselves and those around us.

  45. It’s amazing how much we accept because that’s just how things are in our culture. I love this line from your blog Adele – ‘When we hide and do not share, we hold back transparency and true reflection. We do not learn from each other but keep everyone at bay.’ Being ourselves is the way forward. We are more relaxed and authentic and thus inspire others to do the same.

  46. It is interesting to read how silence – or not speaking – has been considered a virtue in women in Chinese culture, and yet in reading this blog it is clear that the women who are expected to behave this way have actually never stop expressing themselves, through their facial expressions, the way they move, or simply by the quality of their breath. Even if it has not come out in words, what is being felt by everyone is the truth.

  47. I love that you have turned off the mute button and spoken up and out of the harm of not living the truth that is possible. The illusion that people create, of what physical or financial success looks like, will always have a sell by date, as the truth cannot but expose through the body, one who has fallen for choices not based on itself.

  48. Adele, I love the depth and context you bring to what culture is and how we can be affected by it, and how in fact if we are true we are more powerful than any culture. What strikes me is that all cultures play a game in different ways in how they express, and avoid honesty and truth and that each of us is learning how to live honestly and express the truth we all deeply know. And you’ve beautifully shattered the idea that what is said to mean something else or not said still impacts, this is important for all of us to know, so we live and speak truth to the best of our ability.

  49. Being able to challenge the cultural traditions to which you are born into is never easy, by virtue of the simple fact that there is a pressure not just from one other but from society to adhere to the status quo. It can, however, be done, if one learns to value their true quality, a quality that is not defined by gender, culture, or nationality.

  50. This is a very powerful blog that exposes how conditioned we are by our culture. What it also reveals however is that we can get through the patterns set down by our culture, race, gender etc and actually live true to ourselves. There is nothing grander than living true to the divine spark of God that is within us all.

    1. Very well expressed Elizabeth. Culture is such a strong force that keeps us from being our true selves. This blog by Adele exposes this so clearly and is an inspiration showing that we can break through the conditioning.

  51. It makes sense that these cultural beliefs would have an outward expression, as you have stated ‘Anger is built from feeling truth but not speaking out. I know for a fact that my yellowness in complexion comes from the fact of what I have internalised and not expressed’.

  52. “No matter how I look on the outside, where in the world I was born and where I am living now, what language I speak, deep inside there is something which does not distinguish me from everyone else, and this quality is who we all naturally and equally are.” So very true and something we meanwhile can all explore very actively with all the migration that is going on in the world. It doesn’t matter whom we meet despite all the outer appearances, different languages and customs when we let our heart speak we are all the same.

  53. I agree there is a reason and purpose to where and when we incarnate. I used to find it hard to accept too and kept coming up with some stories to fight the circumstances therefore not commit to life – but it was a battle already lost. Coming to understand life as evolution, everything makes absolute sense and in fact blows me away how perfectly everything is laid out for everyone to find a way back to who we truly are, and we are so much more loved than we can ever imagine.

  54. When I have conversations with people about culture it feels very restrictive, as if saying ‘I am a [culture]’ it reduces the person to a character, to a set of behaviours, to become like an actor and take on a role. For years as a kid I would be proud of being half American, as it was something different to what I was surrounded by, living in England. But over time I started to see and feel more of what comes with that culture and started to detach from it. Claiming ourselves to be a culture feels very small, whereas when I claim being me it feels very grand, bigger than any culture.

  55. I love the expansion I feel when I read that we are not bound to our culture or birthplace as a prescription for how we should be; but that we are born there with a purpose to inspire.

  56. I can relate to rejecting and not accepting my place as a woman early in life. Perceiving that it was a place of weakness in our society compared to being a man. Thankfully, that has fallen away just as you described Adele in claiming fully the life you have been born into and the purpose that you have.

  57. What you’ve shared here Adele about Chinese culture makes so much sense from my own observations of a culture that holds back the vibrancy and true expressions of the people within it. This has been an eye-opener, and I can feel a deeper understanding already as to why it is the way it is.
    And every time you walk, every time you move, every time you speak in the light of your soul Adele, a light that is universal transcending any perceived separation, skin colour or difference, you activate the healing of lifetimes for so many more, even if at this point in time they do not yet know it.

  58. “Our bodies suffer and we further comfort ourselves that this is okay with all the forms of indulgences and entertainment we choose as our normal to not commit to life, and remain in the biggest comfort of all that “everyone is doing the same.
    For many years I have lived most of the above.”
    So true- I used to justify so many choices on the basis that everyone else was doing it. I would look at everyone’s habits and want to assure myself my own health and lifestyle was ok as it was a bit better than others. I have since discovered how much I was fooling myself. I am so glad to know much more solidly what is actually true for me, and to be more committed every day to actually living my truth.

  59. Universal Medicine has brought to my attention the gift of one life. For many years I have had an internal dialogue with myself that is much more honest than what I present to the world. I am still working on this – but I know what it is to be honest and transparent and that is an amazing foundation.

  60. “No matter how I look on the outside, where in the world I was born and where I am living now, what language I speak, deep inside there is something which does not distinguish me from everyone else, and this quality is who we all naturally and equally are.” It is true we still allow culture, language and in may cases religion that make us stand out and look different and divide us. We rely on our eyes to give us this information but when we come from our inner heart all we are no longer influenced in the same way. We see the person first and foremost their essence and who they truly are. If we could do this all the time we would break down the barriers we have put in place to segregate and divide people by their cultural upbringing

  61. It is through shining the spotlight onto all the limiting and destructive beliefs we hold about ourselves and others that have been imposed through so-called culture and nationalism, that we can finally release such thought limiting beliefs and free ourselves to live who we truly are..

  62. Being true to ourselves is being true to the part we all have inside where purity and love live within regardless of what we do. It is untouchable by anything of the world. Within we are love.

  63. We incarnate into certain cultures and nationalities to reflect a piece of the puzzle that will help bring that culture back to the equallness with others (where there might have been divide before). Through our simple living ways we can do this – once we come to know and embody that we are all of the same pure essence within, we then reflect this in all that we do… and this is what is then passed on to the people around us.

  64. ‘The truth is I am not just Chinese, as no culture, nationality, color, religion or background can change the universal feeling I know within me.’ Connecting to the Universal feeling is knowing who we are, and therefore accepting the way this looks in the detail of human life becomes easy.

  65. “From an early age we learn to not express truth for the sake of appearing humble.The pained expressions of women, showing signs of being demure and quiet, in the Chinese culture is considered beautiful. Silence is considered a virtue.” It is a sad endightment on any culture that teaches a child or adult to hold back its own self worth for the sake of anything or anyone, in a world that professes to be advanced in so many ways and on so many levels.

  66. “We are born into a culture where it is the norm to not accept self-worth and therefore the choice to evolve into our true being is very limited.” It’s incredibly common that it’s considered normal to not like oneself.
    I am so glad to be part of the way of the livingness where loving oneself is considered essential in order to truly love another. We are pioneering this and it’s so supportive for how we live, in time it will be seen as essential for wellbeing full stop.

  67. The words “culture” and “traditions” are often used to mask many controlling and abusive behaviours that we would question if they were not layered with these words. Is this not an example of how we cover, protect aspects of our lives that we choose to stay in recognition or comfort with in order to not delve into our natural oneness with one another?

  68. Very beautiful Adèle. A true inspiration for us all to confirm that no matter what is the circumstances we can build the love within us and start to live it and this way mean so much for a country to reflect all how to live in a different more true way.

  69. We pride ourselves on our national backgrounds yet when we stop to truly look at our difference what is offered is a different slant on the way we are ALL living. There is so much in this blog to consider about the way we can be led to believe that we are better off, better than and better because we are aligned to a specific nationality.

  70. Thank you Adele. Sometimes other cultures can feel very alien and seperate but your blogs smashes that illusion and shows me that every culture is false as none of them accurately reflect our true nature and absolute equality.

  71. Every culture has its own set of social mores and built in disclaimers to make sure it seems, that truly knowing one’s inner nature is extremely rare. It is illuminating to read an in-depth analysis of one culture in this reference.

  72. All the things we think we need to do. So many rules, regulations and lines to conform to. No wonder it didn’t work for you Adele, for all this stuff just limits us and gets in the way of knowing we are light and a spark in a universe of one Love. This is only nationality we truly have. Perhaps we should have this stamped in our passport in case we get off track and drawn back to thinking we are a ‘different’ human being separate from our brothers?

  73. Culture in a way can be one of the greatest imprisoning things in our world – with all the beliefs and shackles to our innate expression that it can come with. Thank you Adele for the clarity that you bring here, without judgement, just a clear observation of what we can choose when we dis-connect from our essence, and also what is possible when we re-connect with that untouched place inside of us and express forth from there in our daily life.

  74. Irrespective of our cultural heritage we have to find our own truth and live by that. Subscribing to a cultural “norm” is actually very harming because we can find ourselves subscribing to all sorts of things that are not in fact true for us.

  75. This was an eye opener for me Adele to see how suppressed the Chinese culture is. Reading your blog you can feel the immense responsibility one has to live all the love they are, and show people another way. By doing this we offer a key to unlock the illusion we are held under. The illusion that we are not equal, divine son’s of God from birth.

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