Years ago I attended a talk where the presenter spoke about taking one thing in our lives and making it consistent: a thing that we choose to do every day, and then build on this. That day I chose to start by folding my face washer and placing it either over the taps or now on a holder in our new home.
In the four years since I started this I have consistently folded my face washer every day. It is something that I have not faltered on, but in that time I have not built on other things with so much commitment… or that is what I thought.
I realised how this tiny little thing that I had chosen to do every day was actually quietly and consistently building with each choice that I made.
Once I make a choice to do something – like lovingly folding my PJ’s and putting them under my pillow each morning, or folding the dishcloth to wipe the bench – there is such a strong pull to do it every day, that if I choose to override what I feel to do, my body speaks loudly, giving me the opportunity to make a different choice.
By building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made.
Appreciating my Choices
I had not appreciated what a difference it was making, but this morning I felt the enormity of how it has been trickling into every facet of my life. I had been judging myself because I had not consciously picked other things to build on.
I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life. I have been quietly building on other things without really noticing. Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.
All these things are a true reflection of how I have been living.
For me this is now very obvious in my home. I rarely have these moments where I am super-organised and then it drops. I may still have moments where things can slip, but they are pulled up pretty quickly. Every little thing I do is building on my foundation.
When I appreciate all that I am now choosing in my life – all the loving ways that make my day and the quality I am living in – I see things differently. By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me. The quality that I live in and the way I live, not just seeing the end results on the outside, I get to feel more of me on the inside.
I had been telling myself for a long time that appreciation is the key, but I was not really appreciating me, it was just words. Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.
I now know in my body, what it feels like to build consistency. Slowly building an appreciation for all that I do, even folding my face washer. By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.
When Simone Benhayon suggested to choose one thing to do and choose it consistently, I had no idea that it would have such an impact on my whole life.
Really, it was one little thing! This one little thing has shown me so much. It has reflected my level of commitment and consistency in all parts of my life, including my relationship with others.
By Denise Cavanough, Living Expression, Brisbane
Further Reading:
Sunrise and Sunset – The Dawning of Consistency
Organising my home – Choosing Order Over Complexity
Harmony
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
I liked reading the simplicity of this blog. This “one little thing” is actually bigger than we think as it has a rippling effect in every part of our lives. It’s not just about our lives, but about everybody else’s that it impacts in many ways than just the one positive way. To me, it shows the responsibility we have in the way we live is for the ALL.
Once we build a consistency in this “one little thing’, then another, “one little thing”, is added and so it builds so much that it is our daily ritual that one day feels awful if we ever break it.
There is more to life then the small things in our lives…
“Really, it was one little thing!” The magic of that one small step that offers us the way to appreciate all there is to appreciate.
I need these reminders of appreciation. Because in these appreciations we are reminded of the magnificence of where we once came from.
Appreciation comes after we are living in the Joy of our divine essences or being Soul-full as these are one in the same it is up to us all to align to our Souls and the blessing of wisdom it shares with us all equally.
Denise, I love how you have talked about appreciation being key in so many areas especially stopping to appreciate ourselves and each step we have laid down as a platform for true growth.
Holding a certain rhythm that comes from a gentleness in the way we are with what we do can indeed build a foundation that we can then stand upon and grow further.
Denise, this is very powerful indeed: “I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life.” – one choice can impact us in such a supportive way hence we cannot underestimate the smallest of things that have the power to shift thing in a big way,
Appreciation holds many keys to life, like also letting people in.
I too have experienced over the years the changes that have occurred simply by being consistent with one thing. It spreads to all other areas of life in the same quality.
Love this – such a valuable observation of the way that life is not about big complicated ideas and plans, but its about simple things done consistently, that trickle down into everything that we do.
We begin with approaching one thing in life in the most loving way we cab and we bring that to ourselves everyday, it can’t but have a ripple effect on the way we approach the remainder of our life.
Consistency of loving choices will support building that love in our bodies, ‘ building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love ‘.
I agree Elizabeth, the consistency built with one simple choice has a powerful flow-on effect throughout all areas of our lives.
I love this blog, I am inspired to commit to this each day and build greater consistency each day and to feel the difference this brings.
When we only focus on what we haven’t yet mastered, we totally deny ourselves the joy and beauty of everything that we already are, and all that is to be enjoyed and appreciated
Appreciation holds so many keys to our evolution.
Appreciation in our lives is key, ‘When I appreciate all that I am now choosing in my life – all the loving ways that make my day and the quality I am living in – I see things differently.’
‘By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.’ And it asks us to live from moment to moment and accept the quality we can live in each of these moments by being aware of these simple choices we make that make up the whole.
Appreciating on a regular basis is such an important component of our lives.
What if the lesson of consistency begins with one small thing? As an incredibly inconsistent person you’ve definitely got me interested here and inspired to choose one thing and stick with it and see what happens from there.
This also shows the importance of simplicity because if we notice our lives are not quite right we definitely will get lost when trying to change everything at once.
Great point Lieke, little steps of change support us in a simple and focused way and are less likely to lead to overwhelm, and thus there is more of a solid approach. A bit like the story of the hare and the tortoise racing each other – slow and steady is very powerful.
The saying ‘from small acorns big oak trees grow’ comes to mind, when we consistently do one thing that supports us we start to appreciate it and then without thinking we become more consistent in other things and our consistency builds up and gives us a great foundation.
“I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life” A realisation that every choice we make affects the next … and the next.
Gorgeous to read Denise, it is in doing the small things in life with consistency that a solid foundation can be built little by little, just choosing one thing to be consistent with leads to more consistency in other things that we may not be aware that we are doing.
Being consistent in appreciating ourselves is a wise choice, ‘By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me.’
Consistency without control, consistency without imposition, indeed consistency with love is so profoundly different.
The beauty I feel in this is how the body has taken autonomy over mind, and movement was taking place without the mind’s dictate, and what was left for the mind to do was to clock, appreciate and confirm.
I love what you share here as I can feel the appreciation in your words through the process of looking back of what has become an absolute normal for you.
Appreciation brings such a lovely feeling, ‘when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.’
It is a great reminder how just having one thing that we consistently do with love supports us and slowly it expands into other areas the more consistent we are. I also find it helps keep me on track and focussed when I have more of a structure to life.
Choosing one thing and consistently tending to it leads to bigger and more things, to one’s whole life and the universe eventually.
Building consistency changes the way to build quality in us and helps us to change the quality of our movements.
Lots of new activities and ways of being I no longer do and I have been judging myself as having very little consistency but today I began to count the things I have changed and been doing for several years and surprisingly there are quite a few. So I would like to appreciate you and your writing of this blog for I am now appreciating myself more too! I would like to add that I am aware how much some of these changes have positively impacted on other people and I am sure the ripples keep going out far and wide all the time.
These tiny things are one of the most effective ways to grow quickly. Doing just one specific thing, however small, with awareness and love every day creates a marker that we can draw on at any time we choose to.
I agree Christoph, it gives us a foundation to then go forward with rather than always feeling we need to start again. And then more we do it the stronger it becomes. Just like say with weights at the gym, the more you consistently you do them the more strength you build and so it is only when you stop for a bit that it feels like you are starting again. Otherwise each day you are building on the previous day.
“By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.” – I used to always look for the bigger things that I had done to appreciate in myself, but recently it has been an eye-opener to notice that there are so many qualities that I possess that are really naturally amazing and so beneficial for myself and others I am in relationships with, and that there is actually no ‘doing’ in any of these things. Also, it is so true that all the ‘little things’ actually build upon each other when we start with a simple thing (like doing my connective tissue exercises) and soon we have built a ‘new norm’ of self-loving acts throughout the day without even really trying.
Gorgeous, there you go, we can see how truly implementing one true aspect in life can shed light on the rest and be considered to change too! How profound this teaching is.
Spot on Danna – it is like a ripple effect, no matter how small the first choice was or is.
We underestimate how powerful consistency is, the more we commit to being consistent even the smallest of ways there is a beautiful flow on effect that can be felt far and wide.
I love what you are presenting here. We all have a consistency in life with things we do, how we live, but it comes back to are the things we do supporting us in our health and vitality and wellbeing or are they smashing us? And what you show is that we can start with little steps to introduce loving and supportive actions to our daily rhythm that have an enormous effect in all areas of our life.
We think change has to be some big fanfare don’t we, but change comes from doing one thing consistently and letting that impulse and that footprint build in other areas of our lives. It doesn’t have to be big at all but it has to come from a willingness to lay a foundation of truth.
“It doesn’t have to be big at all but it has to come from a willingness to lay a foundation of truth.” I love these simple truths.
I love what you have shared Denise, I started too with the making of my bed each day and taking the time to smooth out the wrinkles, and when I do it feels so beautiful in my body, “Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me. “
It’s so easy to miss the fact of those little things we commit to and their ripple effects in our lives and how even if we slip we quickly feel the outcome and have a base to come back to … a great way to care for and parent ourselves.
Thank you for sharing Denise and for me one of the things I am consistent with is sharing an appreciation text with a friend every day and that has been so supportive of building more consistency in my life as I am offered the opportunity to reflect on how much there is to appreciate in my life and areas for expansion with no beating myself up when I slip back into old behaviours.
When we actually embody what we say and do there is a real solidness to our intention and quality of movements.
And that supports what we say and do, allowing us to embody more, saying and doing more …
There sure is so often we/people can be full of words but without action they are meaningless and actually more harming. It is far better to be honest and say you are not going to do something than pretned you will and not do it.
Yes, when we do that it is already a quantum leap towards truth as we do not hold ourselves any longer in the ideals we believe we have to fulfil but honour ourselves at where we are really at and how life really is for us.
Simply honouring ourselves and what we are feeling is such a leap as you say towards truth as so many of us are brought up thinking we need to conform and fit certain pictures so deny and override what we are feeling.
“when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside.” Appreciating a consistency builds a consistency of appreciation.
A agree Mary and it is a reminder to appreciate myself and also others more! 🙂
Appreciation is simply the energetic understanding we are more than physical and thus an inner-smile from the inner-heart.
I love this blog and I agree. I do one thing each day for me that also lifts the house and that’s giving the kitchen bench a shiny clean after dinner. Just tonight I clocked how it felt when I cleaned. Have you felt something that is like rain falling from the Heavens. This is how it feels when I wipe the bench. The consistency reminds how to bring heaven to each moment.
When I am consistent in one area of life it helps build that consistency everywhere. When I have a wobble or create an issue it unpicks that consistency and likewise goes everywhere. But it can be restitched everytime I return to my ‘one thing’.
I have noticed that it builds consistency elsewhere but there is a ‘love bar’ and as I build more consistency in other areas of my life I notice earlier and earlier where that consistency is dropped by anything that hits the ‘love bar’ at which point I go – RIGHT that is IT!!! it makes me giggle sometimes at how much the love of my body calls me back with such dedication and then I realise how truly loving that is and perhaps I should stop paying so little attention that I get to a place my body has to call me back with such clarity.
I love how choosing to be consistent with one thing and committing to it allows for that to grow into other areas of my life, thank you for making me aware to appreciated the consistency.
Bringing a Loving focus to one thing consistently as you have shared Denise makes a Loving impression in so much of our lives, these Loving ways of living reflects in so many other aspects of our life.
I’m appreciating how consistency allows another to trust in what they feel and the more consistent we become the more they can trust.
Yes… consistency and presence definitely build trust. One of the most valuable commodity there is in relationships
It truly is amazing how powerful it when we consistently commit to love, or being loving in one aspect of our lives, how the awareness of what is loving and what is not naturally flows through in to every facet of our lives.
“I rarely have these moments where I am super-organised and then it drops” That is so cool to appreciate as that is what many people often struggle with consistency and you just shared how you can do it. By starting with one thing and then it naturally comes in other parts of our life. It is like when we start to feel how lovely it is to care for ourselves that we naturally love to do it in other parts too without it being a chore from our heads, and also that letting it drop will not feel nice so we don’t, or change it back very quickly if we do.
Building consistency through a little something (which may be huge for us) helps us to feel that we can support ourselves through it and it is only natural that we end up naturalizing that movement of doing things to support us and apply it widely and lovingly.
I have noticed how I now neatly fold my dishcloth and gently hang it to dry, this feels so natural, loving and supportive. Whereas I used to just throw the dishcloth down on the bench and move onto to something else without any awareness of my movements. In the past few years my consistency to bringing more awareness to my movements, to my body and to being more loving and gentle has transferred to the small details of every day life. And, this is gorgeous to appreciate.
‘Every little thing I do is building on my foundation.’ And this will never stop when we appreciate all these little things like you’ve described. It is in every detail in our lives, what is It? The quality of love we choose because of the consistent attention and commitment to all we do.
When we choose to do one thing we actually need to commit to, it brings in a rhythm of consistency and so will the places of inconsistency be more revealed. In a way this is inspiring as it reveals to us all the areas where we can bring more attention to , so that we can build even more of a foundation and consistency.. How beautiful is that.
It feels a bit like in taking one thing and focusing on it it’s given you a whole new and deepened appreciation of all the small moments in life. How many people pay attention to the way the dish cloth is folded? But what if it’s these small moments and small details that dictate the overall quality of our whole life..?
Consistently appreciating our choices that contribute to our quality and loving way of being is a wise choice, ‘By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me. The quality that I live in and the way I live, not just seeing the end results on the outside, I get to feel more of me on the inside.’ This is lovely.
Our consistency — is key to every movement within our lives. the more gentle and supportive we make our movements — we build consistency and the more space we give for more… (expansion)
Consistency is a key quality in our life in order to support us to truly develop or deepen our expression of who we genuinely are in all aspects in life. It’s not about being rigid or repetitive just for the sake of repetition but about building a consistency of quality in the way that we do things that allows us to build and expand on.
This is an inspiring sharing Denise, and so important to appreciate our consistency, ‘Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.’
I have built consistency in one area of my life, I would now like to bring that consistency to another area that at present has no consistency.
“By building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made”. Love this Denise. Starting out with one small thing can build a ‘chain reaction’ as you stated, that can then lead onto other things and so consistency builds.
Showing us the consistency of living love that is important in all our relationships.
I have been offered the same reflection – since this project (call it my project) my life has changed. More consistency is building in my life, by my own choice – to start small consistently by one thing every day. This is a testimony of how much we can change – the power is in our hands.
Thank you Denise, your story continues to inspire me. I have realised again after reading there are new consistencies in my life to be appreciated, and also that I can find moments where more can be added.
As we build consistency, we build a strength with in turn supports the consistency.
I can look back and appreciate how much more consistent I have become in the way I live. Equally there is still a lot of inconsistency to be worked on… and more and more I notice the difference.
As we live with more consistency in our lives we build a foundation that supports us during times when we feel shaken by what is going on around us.
I have found exactly the same thing – that by focusing on just one thing, everything else starts to fall into place. If I start to think that the one thing is not enough, that I need to be focusing on the ‘bigger’ issues, then everything starts to fall apart pretty quickly. Focusing on one thing – feeling my feet on the ground – has helped me to build a relationship with my body and feel more connected to everything and everyone around me.
Consistency is a quality that is sorely lacking for many people in a positive way. They may have consistency in watching TV, or eating chocolate, but do they have consistency of self-care, and self-love. It is something that can be changed easily by as you say just choosing one thing to be consistent at.
I really enjoy folding clothing and it is something of a running joke in our house that my partner and I sit on the floor and lovingly fold each others clothing. It not only gives us a loving feeling within but it also feels so awesome when we are placing it in our drawers. This has now flowed into the way we fold and place our towels, linens and blankets in the linen cupboard, but so many other areas of the house. It’s amazing how the quality of our connection to our bodies expresses a quality of energy that is not only seen, but felt in full appreciation of the gesture first made. Consistency and quality truly are a match made in heaven.
I agree. Committing to being consistent about bringing awareness and a quality of presence to one thing in my day has totally turned around my relationship with myself… the first up being a kernel of self worth and respect.
Denise, I loved the simplicity of the one thing you chose to do and how that rippled out. Appreciating the simple choices we have made in our days is something I am developing. In switching away from the negative (which I was very good at) I can now see how much there is about me that is to be celebrated.
How beautiful it is when something specially introduced becomes so solidly part of our normal and that is how we keep upgrading and resetting our standard.
Taking the time to fold your face washer every day would not seem of great importance to most people as it is only little thing that you have chosen to do, but having also committed to take the little steps I for one know how powerful these simple and consistent choices can be. They may be the smallest building blocks in our daily foundation for life but as with every other block, big or small, they are as equally important.
This is so true Ingrid – attention to the consistency of the tiny details is an equally important part as the big steps, in the re-building of our inner foundation.
I love the strong pull to come back when we veer away from what we live and how making a commitment to do something consistently supports us to be consistent in other areas.
I love what you are sharing here Elizabeth of the importance to stop, feel and connect to the incredible messages from our bodies. So often I focus on all of the uncomfortable feelings whilst skimming over or completely dismissing joy which ultimately is a choice not to feel.
The more consistently we live the standard that we know is true and needed, the more we can back ourselves in what we feel and know. This builds an incredible trust and confirmation in ourselves and all that is being communicated and received.
The path to true re-connection with self is a simple one and that is what you have shown here Denise. It takes only one small choice and by making a commitment to that you are honouring yourself deeply, you are claiming the absolute value of all that you are. This has been inspirational to read and a easy to take and to apply to life.
I love returning to pajamas folded with care as it feels so lovely to put them on ready for a restful nights sleep.
I love coming back to your blog Denise because it allows me to appreciate the consistency in the fine details of my day and how these seemingly little things actually make a grand difference in the overall quality in which I live my life day to day and that’s very beautiful to feel. Thank you.
Building consistency in our true qualities is something worth investing in.
A few months ago I put into practice doing one thing consistently. I wobbled a little at first until the point where it became a part of my day and now like you, if it is not done I feel disorder or out of sorts in my body until it is done.
The more we hold ourselves with love and appreciation the less space there is for any self bashing or criticism.
The simplicity of choosing one thing to commit to, especially something as seemingly mundane as folding a face washer could make you easily overlook the enormous ripple effect this can have. I have found this in my life too, a gentle, no fanfare building of consistency and a body that wont let me take short cuts on these loving rituals.
Consistency and appreciation – thank you Denise and bloggers for showing the life-changing benefits of these activities, One thing I love to do every morning is to make my bed, and now I am realising why I love to get into it at night, as it is reflecting the care i gave it in the morning!
I absolutely love to fold my clothes and towels which is probably from my many years working in fashion retail. It feels so lovely to sit and connect with how I move my body to fold the clothes and the quality felt when you see the pile of folded clothes is one of appreciation and love for the care taken. Building consistency in our daily routine, really does build a solid foundation for how we live and that is hugely inspiring for others to witness.
I need to appreciate the things I do consistently much more often, I’m too quick to focus on the negative.
Yes, myself too Gyl. I recently attended a presentation where we were discussing the importance of appreciation and I realised that in the break I had had a huge amount that needed appreciating but I had come back to my seat and dismissed all that had just happened. It shocked me as I realised how quick I am to criticise whilst still effectively ignoring moments of appreciation.
Imagine if we chose to be consistent with our appreciation of ourselves and others – how life changing this would be.
Anna, this is a great reminder for me today to observe how much I am appreciating myself and others. As if I can be critical of myself then I am being critical of others.
If we can do one thing consistent – we can do all so, and it is just a matter of commitment. Using our free will and choice to be true is all that we need to honestly do.
It is very inspiring to read how a simple act can become a fulcrum of change with one’s life…. And this is definitely a message that needs to go out into the world, as so many people feel totally disempowered.
The art of true appreciation is to always appreciate the details of your life. Never overlook the little things, however small. We all bring so much to this world and I am learning it is not in the big things but all the little things that allow the big things to be.
Choosing to be consistent is an amazing learning to see how we resist consistency! But how when we truly feel how consistency supports our solidity, then we can’t resist being consistent.
It is the every day simple things that are equally as important as everything else in our lives. I am learning to appreciate these little everyday things and taking much more love and care with them which makes a huge difference.
A great reminder that appreciation must never cease – for it is in every moment and expression we must confirm our amazingness and all that we bring.
Thank you Denise, I have had a pattern of wanting to introduce certain things or new ways into my life but my expectation was too high, I expected being able to remember these new ways through most of my day. Recently this has changed and I have chosen to have just one area of my life everyday where I remember to introduce a new way, and I bring it into this one area consistently without any pressure for it to spread out to other areas. Taking pressure off myself has allowed me to consistently enjoy my new way or quality and it actually feels amazing, even if it’s only 5 minutes a day. For example I straighten my bathroom towels with love and tenderness for myself and the quality I do this in feels amazing – it changes the whole quality of my bathroom and I am met with my own tenderness every time I use my towels. The more I consistently do this in my one area, without pressure, the more it feels natural to be like this. It’s such a different feeling to simply enjoy doing something consistently in one area without any expectations or pressure.
“Every little thing I do is building on my foundation.” I am just starting to really get what you are saying here.
I recently attended the Lennox Head Universal Medicine retreat and am also on a Esoteric Yoga program right now, and in both of these, it was highlighted that EVERY LITTLE THING/MOMENT COUNTS (my captilization, not theirs 🙂 ) because as your say here Denise, it builds foundation and keeps you with you.
Sometimes when I have not been paying attention to the moments in between, ‘all of a sudden’ I can find myself grumpy, or out of sorts, and it can be hard to work out why/where I lost it because I was not with myself, or present in those moments.
But when I am with myself, and there is a harmony in that, and as soon as I start to feel the move away from that, I go OK…what happened and it is easier to work it out.
The moments in between hold so much for us. Now walking to the car, to the office, even walking from one room to another, these are moments we can really come back to feel our movements more deeply and appreciate the beauty that we are in every cell of our being.
I have found the consistency in my life builds a solid and steady foundation. Having this in place means that when things come along that try to knock me over my footing is steady and I know my foundation inside out.
Yes and even if we are knocked off track we have something very solid to come back to.
I can totally relate to this, I started something new recently to do consistently and it was huge the impact on how I felt with everything thereafter. The thing that I struggle with is then building upon that platform and bringing more consistency to all areas of my life, but I guess as I write this its just about adding one more new thing to do daily. keep it simple and consistent.
“I have been quietly building on other things without really noticing.” I love this as it shows how effortlessly life unfolds when we choose to care and are willing to be loving with ourselves.
It seems life is currently never ending consistent patterns repeating themselves. What are these consistent patterns communicating to us? My sense is they are asking our attention to the quality that we bring to everything we do. When there is a connection to a true intention of purpose with self care and love at the core of awareness then the consistent patterns of self doubt and harm start to fall away, replaced by consistent choices of building a foundation and frame work of deep self love that offers evolution into consistent patterns based on these movements – forever inviting us to expand our qualities.
Beautiful Denise, ‘By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.’ I can feel how I have not been appreciating all of the changes that I have made in my life and how important it is to do so. The little details make such a difference, I can feel how amazing it feels when I fold my washing lovingly and place it in the drawers in a careful and loving way, my drawers feel gorgeous and it is a joy every time I open them, I feel inspired to build this into other areas in my home as it feels so supportive.
It is through the consistency of appreciating ourselves and carrying that quality in all our movements that we get to know God within ourselves.
Beautiful comment Francisco, I am hugely inspired by what you’ve shared.
“I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life. I have been quietly building on other things without really noticing.” Yes I have this same feeling of appreciation and consistency found in the way I take time to remove my make up and wash my face at night. I use a lovely soft terry towel headband to hold my hair back while I wash and cleanse my face and the way I place it on my head offers me a moment to stop and reflect on my day and it then flows into how I fold my clothing away and put on my pyjamas. It’s like one step of simple consistency and care flows into the next. A beautiful confirmation of love in its simplicity and the foundation for which it is built. Thank you Denise.
This is so beautifull how one small thing that is done daily with consistency can quietly build a foundation for the rest of our life ‘I realised how this tiny little thing that I had chosen to do every day was actually quietly and consistently building with each choice that I made.’ and its so simple! You are speaking about something that came up for me today from a swim session with Simone Benhayon yesterday (Simone Benhayon is truly Amazing) and that is consistency and then from speaking with a friend today appreciation. Thank you for reminding me just how simple it is 💕
It’s impossible to build or deepen a quality without first appreciating the fact that we are already that – that we are already all the love we seek and it is only a matter of appreciating it, connecting to it and expressing it in what we do. It’s great to have markers of where this, our true inner qualities, are being expressed as it highlights the areas where our movements or way of living does not match that marker and more attention needs to be given.
Beautiful to be inspired by this blog this morning and be reminded that it is how we are in everything that determines how our life unfolds. It is the quality that we bring to everything and the consistent connection and reconnecting that allows for this consistency.
Consistency is like a thread, delicately yet deliberately woven through life.
Learning to be consistent is huge and definitely ought to be one of those life skills that we get taught by our parents and our teachers. Being consistent and being responsible go hand in hand and together they support us to build a loving way of life. The more consistent I am the more connected I feel with myself and with others.
With every choice we make we are building a quality in our bodies from which our next choice is determined. So it makes sense to bring our awareness to making consistent loving choices, starting with something simple. As from here, we build a foundation, as you have shared, magnifying a loving quality through our bodies as a marker of what is true, of who we are, through which a consistency of love develops naturally and begins to naturally progress in to all areas of our lives. A great example of how there is great power revealed in the details.
Consistency is like the cement between the bricks. It meticulously holds everything together, regardless of what is going on around us.
A big learning for me has been that being consistent is not about sticking to a routine and being rigid about it, but it’s about keeping coming back to choose the same quality so it may look different at times and that’s perfectly ok.
I consistently used to find ways to procrastinate, entertain myself and basically distract myself from what was truly meaningful in life. We can all relate to a level of consistency, the question is what is the quality of what we are being consistent about?
That is a great question Vicky. The first step in building a loving consistency is to observe and be honest about what the quality of this moment shows about what I have chosen to be consistent about.
Consistency is the key to the esoteric way of life. For it is consistency of quality of movement more than anything else that creates the energetic momentum that then creates the foundation for true change. It is not actually that difficult to connect to a marker or state of being that inspires us, and will actually improve the quality of our lives, whether that marker be by way of gentleness, tenderness, or indeed true fire (or the energy of The Soul). However, holding it is a different thing, and that ability is determined by your ability to be consistent with whatever your level of awareness of what true fire is. Don’t live what you are aware you CAN live, and you won’t be able to live it.
It was lovely to read the blog again, and what I feel now that consistency helps to build a true and strong foundation, so when a storm or wobble comes along, the foundation is there to keep you steady and gives a moment to reflect on the strength of what has been built. We have been recently feeling some great storms and wobbles, but as I keep coming back to the appreciation of the consistency of choices over the years which I have been building on slowly I can feel the strength of truth.
Consistency feels to me like it builds the knowing you have a foundation, it builds it so deeply in the body that it supports when there is a wobble or a stressful situation comes round. I had not appreciated the importance of this till making a choice to take a deeper look at my foundation and what is consistent and what is not.
Consistency builds a foundation that backs us up so we can deal with any situation that might arise with ease and simplicity that comes from our ability to surrender to the divine.
I love how this works too Elizabeth. When I bring more consistency to just one area, I can feel the ripple effects everywhere. There is no such thing as a small change, as what appears small is never small at all.
The enormity of offering ourselves moments of consistency and the knock on effect they can have on our lives cannot be denied. They are indeed like threads that quietly and lovingly stitch our lives together, offering us another way of moving that is deeply supportive in building a foundation that allows us to continuously expand and appreciate the more that is available to us should we want to embrace it.
It is awesome Denise how seemingly small and simple changes can impact on our life to a much deeper level than we at first realise. When I stop and truly appreciate the hundred and one little ways that I have changed my way of living over the past few years it is stupendous. Sometimes it can appear that the changes in our life are having little impact but they are slowly and incrementally shifting our consciousness to become more aware and willing to make life more simple and wonderful.
Beautiful Denise, you are showing us that by committing to one thing, opens up the floor for consistency in all of our life. So we are offered to equally commit ourselves then to the rest of all things equally so. Of course this is our choice, but because we had chosen it once before, it is more easy to do it again in other aspects of our life (yes also the tempting or the ones we have been avoiding doing!).
These may seem like little things, carefully folding our clothes, our washcloth or towel. Keeping the clothes in our drawers in order and neatly placed, holding objects gently yet firmly, opening doors with conscious presence, all these little things add up to an orderly and more harmonious life and something we can appreciate ourselves for.
I have a tendancy to focus on all the things that are inconsistent rather than stopping to appreciate all that IS consistent and seeing how this consistency is building.
Love it Fiona. Now that’s another thing to bring consistency too – truly appreciating all the consistency!
The more I appreciate the little choices, the more I appreciate how much constant support and love there is to receive.
There is love too in the details – every moment, every expression.
The more I appreciate the more I am coming to realise that it is not something to dip in and out of but something to build as a constant, which supports me to let go of doubt and uncertainty.
Denise, I read this blog a while ago and since then I decided to lovingly fold my pyjamas every day under my pillow and every morning I am reminded of your experience. It’s a delight to come back to it again to reflect and observe how much my life has changed since making this commitment, thank yiu for sharing this gold.
thanks for sharing this blog Denise and the importance of appreciation. We are truly amazing, and by appreciating all that we are, even when doing something simple like folding the face washer, it brings a massive change to our day. And now to apply this to all aspects of life.
‘I realised how this tiny little thing that I had chosen to do every day was actually quietly and consistently building with each choice that I made’. Beautifully said Denise. All of our choices not only accumulate but also feed each other. Great blog.
‘That one little thing’ consistency can make enormous changes in how we are with everything. Building a rhythm of consistency with gentle exercises every morning brings an appreciation of my body and how I move every day.
This reminds me of ancient parables wherein it is always consistency through which there is resolution and destinies unfoldment
I too am realising how amazing it is to consistently appreciate ourselves, others and life. I am beginning to feel that appreciation is like our medicine, if we embrace a good dose of it every day it builds on a quality and emanates this beautiful quality throughout our every cell.
Love the way that we can each be uniquely authentic to ourselves.
Denise, thank you for sharing about consistency and the simplest thing can show us so much more that we could imagine. I use to feel that I was not consistent in life but what you have showed me that there are things that we do in life that we take for granted. I have always been consistent in making my bed in the morning with love and detail, everything folded neatly in my cupboards, everything in our apartment is in its place and each day I have not appreciated the consistency I do things, instead I have being focusing on the things that have not been consistent. It is easy to forget to not appreciate what we bring.
Consistency brings order, harmony and joy, a beautiful expression of our Soul in appreciation of the all in divine love.
Beautifully expressed Kathy. I am learning to also appreciate the things I do well and consistently and allowing myself to appreciate the quality in how I do things, move and express more and more.
And the more we are appreciating ourselves and our qualities, the more we are able to appreciate the qualities of those around us.
Thank you Denise. I usually make my bed first thing every morning but this morning I felt out of sorts and left it undone. Soon after I misplaced my engagement ring and as I was trying to find it again I felt to make my bed with love. Even though I knew my ring was nowhere near the bed I knew that bringing presence to this task would help bring everything back to order. A few seconds later my partner found my ring in the kitchen. Consistency supports us in many ways and when we let go of things that support us it creates much complication and stress.
I was at a course recently where people had experienced such a beautiful connection with themselves, and again there was this yearning to keep this connection, and a feeling of not knowing how to. It was here again that we talked about consistency and attention to detail as the foundation upon which we can build… It really is excellent advice.
It is so important to confirm and appreciate our self-loving choices, movements and expressions as this is what allows the consistency to build.
It is interesting to consider that it is those simple little things in life that can bring such a big change in how we are with ourselves and others in our every day lives. That reveals once again that our obsession for the great achievements in life is actually not it.
The entire universe is contained in our every move that is made with all the love that we are. Thus, no matter how seemingly small the gesture, in this case the folding of a face washer, the depth of God’s love and the magnitude of this is felt for the exquisite beauty that it is. Our job here on Earth is not to shy away from such simple expressions of our love but to whole-heartedly commit to deepening such movements, for just as there is no end point to the Universe, so too is there is no end to the depth we can go in reflecting back to the world the majesty we are. The only way to dispel the shadows is though the consistency of our love lived.
I too have been consistently doing one thing a day for over a year and am noticing how this has supported me to be consistent in many other areas of my life, for instance my ward robe, desk, bedroom and living space is always in impeccable order now, 6 months ago this was not the case. So much has changed from committing to consistently doing one thing a day.
I know what you mean – the body expanding and radiating in appreciation. When my body feels like that, I know other times when I thought I was appreciating myself or what I did was just me telling myself to appreciate. It really is different.
With the New Year just begun, I have come back to your blog and the idea of doing one small thing and committing to it feels very doable. I haven’t decided yet what it will be so I will ponder on it today.
Beautiful reminder to keep things simple, in the simplicity we can see how every little thing can make a difference. When we bring consistency to the smallest thing that commitment and flow is felt through other things. I have noticed too, that having brought consistency to little things around the home, I can feel it has supported in other things and areas of my life.
Taking time to really appreciate yourself, and to allow yourself to feel that appreciation, is such a gift to yourself. It can take you out of hardness and of drive that we live in so much. That drive to always be doing something, fixing something, working on something often comes from not thinking we are enough as we are, but this is not true. We are amazing just as we are. The body alone is a work of God. There is much to appreciate about ourselves.
I have heard it said that to live life to the fullest it can be is to make everything one life which means no part is less and no part is greater and everything you do effects the quality of your whole life. I can feel this here. One little element of consistency lived has supported other aspects of life to also be more consistent and Love if to match that choice. There really is no on and off switch when it comes to the quality of our choices. What we choose in one area flows through to the next simply by the flow of the quality that made it so.
When a loving commitment is made and held as part of foundation, what I’m starting to get a sense of is the spaciousness that opens up. It is not part of time or effort it simply is and I’m discovering there is then more ‘time’ to develop something else that is truly supportive and have this in the foundation, it too then opens up space. If I lose the loving simplicity and connection to my rhythm through choices that are less supportive then the spaciousness shrinks and I’m back to working with time. Observing and appreciating this awareness is really key, along with how I feel in my body.
Denise you have inspired me to look again at the joy of consistency by firstly appreciating where I am consistent and what that brings to my life, and also adding in more things to do consistently. Thank You!
I also find the keys to our connection is consistency with appreciation and a true purpose for quality in these movements. This has been really helpful for me to not go into overwhelm with tasks and lists that swirl around in my head. A great blog thank you.
Yes Kelly the quality of our movements I’ve discovered is essential, loving gentle, and harmonious for all. The ripple effect is part of the responsibility.
It really can be that simple. It is our dedication, our commitment to ourselves that is shown up here. And most of us can let one simple activity like opening a door, or brushing our teeth or folding our facecloth be a consistent reminder for us to be caring and loving with ourselves, allowing a quality to develop that can impact on all areas of our lives if we let it.
Such a beautiful reminder to keep things simple by being present in the ordinary everyday things; also being steady and consistent in completing these things.
Thank you Shirl, when I read your words “being present in the ordinary everyday things” I could see how I’ve been influenced by the New Age spirituality to aim to get out of life…as if enlightenment is separate to the ordinary, everyday tasks. But what this spiritual consciousness does is separate human beings from their inner presence which is delightful to feel no matter the task. It’s the false entlightenment hooking away from being in life, or the de-light-ment of being deeply committed to every part of life connected to and moving with our beautiful inner essence.
The other things that is very supportive and nourishing is to be met by our own loving imprints. So when we for example consistently leave something lovingly folded in a harmonious way that is exactly the energy that greets us when we return to the object. So if you fold your clothes lovingly then love is what you dress yourself in. Equally if you throw your clothes on the floor or treat them with disregard then that is what you put on when you get dressed.
Same applies with other in that if we bang a door then that is the imprint we leave for the next person or if we walk in anger those are the footsteps we leave behind. It brings a whole new understanding to responsibility, which in my experience is actually a joyful understanding when we connect to how much we can offer to others simply from the way we move!
Well said Nicola, looking at it in this way does bring a whole new responsibility to everything, and the quality of our movements. It seems that for far too long we have been ignoring the effect we are having on each other by being irresponsible with our movements, and is the flip side of not appreciating how the quality of our movements can change the world.
Something I find interesting is that initially when we do something loving it can seem to be like a task but when we consistently do it we start to build a momentum up and it becomes natural and a pleasure to do. It is like we initially have to work against our old unloving momentum and effectively rebuild our foundation and movements. And the more we do this the more supported we are by our consistency. So it is a case of not giving up at the 1st hurdle and knowing that if I really dedicate and commit myself to love that whilst it may or will not be easy slowly it will return to being my natural way of being and I will actually be supported to be more loving with myself.
What a beautiful reflection Denise, very inspirational, thank you;
“Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside”.
We often recognise how chain reaction works in a negative sense, sayings like misery loves company so forth…. But it is less common for us to appreciate how big an impact these positive small changes can have on the rest of our lives. We are trying to sell our home at the moment and in this time we have been very consistent with keeping it clean, folding our towels with extreme care, our beds made with precision, it has felt amazing, it has inspired me to want to continue this way of living even after the sale of the house, for each time you come home, you are blessed by the consistency you left behind.
One choice that has had a huge positive impact on my life was the choice to put myself first and take good care of me instead of putting all others first. This has been life changing and now I love giving to myself as I find I have more to give!
Taking care of the ‘little things’ and the details on a daily basis is super important and allows space and order and for life to flow…..
Consistency is like the backbone in the body. It holds a solidness that is impenetrable. The moment there is inconsistency and the effects are felt, I get to appreciate just how much consistency offers and on so many levels.
One loving choice can change everything and when that is practiced consistently the ripples have no end. Beautiful sharing. “I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life. I have been quietly building on other things without really noticing.”
Hi Denise… I got the email for this blog a few months ago but along with lots of other blog notifications, I haven’t looked at it until now. I decided this week that rather than get overwhelmed and try to read a million blogs in one day, because I do want to read them, I would do one per day. It may not be five, but it IS one! I’ve been doing this consistently and it has taken the drain off, the overwhelm and pressure I was feeling from having let a backlog building, just knowing its there cause me huge frustration and ultimately exhausts me! Now I can trust the fact that I will steadily read one per day and my inbox will begin to clear, feeling each moment and really appreciating each blog I read rather than rushing through like it’s just another expectation on my to do list. So no coincidence that I should read your blog today! Also makes me appreciate all the loving stuff I do without even trying, the folding of face and dish cloths included!
We get so used to hanging out with ourselves and the way we go about our day that it is easy to override everything that goes into making up our quality and way of living. Part of consistency is to consistently appreciate ourselves and those we have in our lives that are equally supporting our consistent deepening and evolution.
I so agree, choose one thing and do it consistently. I have noticed the steadiness of that one choice spreads. I have also noticed that when I have a wobble, there is the consistency of my choices to bring me back so I am less hard on myself for the wobble. It is simply what it is and a learning.
Appreciation is the key, even for the smallest things that we do, often it is the smallest thing that we change that has the most profound effect because it changes everything.
Yes Denise, we can play games and think and pretend.. but actual truth will come from our body only. So when we live in connection to our body we will appreciate because it is natural. So no head game or tick off the box, will do it at the end.. We all know that. Now we need to search it, search for our Soul, search for a deeper connection with ourselves. But how? One way that helped me this life was through the workings and teachings of Universal Medicine – which brought me back home.. And continuously I am re-learning my own self, connection, body, spirit and Soul.
Pretty cool, and I’m sure there is a science to this as well. It sounds super easy and I guess it is. Sometimes we think the answer to our problems has to be hard work and our lives turned upside down (maybe) but this sounds super simple and obviously it worked out very well.
Matts that is a great point, that we think change or life has to be hard work, but it can actually be one or more small loving changes done consistently that eventually sweep up the whole of life into that same love.
Yes I guess the “less is more” saying can be used here : )
Developing consistency, along with appreciation and trust in oneself, creates a foundation which in turn builds appreciation for and trust in others. All of this expansion starting with consistency in the smallest of things is truely amazing and inspiring.
Scientists have recently discovered with physical training that you can achieve tremendous gains in fitness by simply performing a few high intensity but very short training sessions each week, Why this is groundbreaking is that it was previously thought that you needed high amounts of training to achieve high results. It may seem I am off topic here, but my point is that whenever we wish to change our life, with think it has to be this monumental shift. But the fact is that it is the little movements, the little changes that can actually end up having an effect that is inversely proportional to the original investment. In other words, give yourself 5 minutes a day with yourself – really with yourself. Cherish yourself, appreciated, dig deep. You will be amazed at the effect that can have on the rest of your day.
Thanks for the invitation Adam, I just did and it did feel amazing.
So true Adam, we tell ourselves that in order to make big changes we have to invest an equal proportion of hard work to achieve the results when even as little as 5 minutes really with ourselves has such profound results. Yes, a beautiful invitation to start my day with me.
I love your sharings Adam, thank you for this reminder.
This is awesome what you have shared here Adam, thank you.
Small steps made with consistency can amount to huge shifts. I love your expression of having a ‘smile on the inside.’ I know exactly what you mean and it is the most delicious feeling.
Small steps are the building blocks, without the foundation our walls would crumble.
Sometimes it takes us to drop our supportive routines to see how much they actually helped our lives.
All my life I have felt that I needed to make major changes to make any real difference and it’s beautiful to now realise that simple loving actions can soon turn our whole life around. It’s not about making dramatic statements but about small incremental adjustments that tenderly nudge us in the direction of a deeper commitment to love.
I am discovering that true appreciation goes hand in hand with consistency.
What a great and simple blog, thanks Denise! How fascinating and beautiful is it that one small choice made has been solidly building throughout your days and weeks, to now be something that is foundational for you and very supportive. I find that when I do drop from my consistency with such small choices it is very apparent immediately and my lesson from reading your sharing is that there is no need to hold the judgement over myself for doing so, but instead embrace my appreciation for how far I have come in the first place and the simple fact that I do know the quality that I bring to life and how profound and precious it is.
You wouldn’t think building consistency could be so hard but once you let go of what you think you ‘need’ to do and get into the rhythm of it and you don’t do what ever it is, you really notice the difference and how much that it really does effect you.
Consistency certainly is the key to building and expanding upon what is already being confirmed – a wonderful thing!
The more consistency we build the more we get shown. I love this as it continually inspires the next step.
Amazing blog! It brings to light to me, the fact that if we do not live with consistency in one part of our life, NONE of our life can be consistent
I realise I need to put more attention on this, ‘By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.’
This is lovely, and is inspiring me to bring this into another area of my life too, ‘By building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made.’
Denise, I love the simplicity of what you have shared regarding consistency. How one thing builds to the next. How easily our lives would evolve if consistency with all things, became our way of being.
Reading this has me looking and appreciating the consistency I do have and the areas where it has slowly and gradually built up, and when life does get difficult they are there to support us if we choose to focus on the quality more in that moment.
This is a topic that I know well too Denise, I was the king of non-commitment and constantly made choices where I didn’t have to be responsible. I started with small things like making my bed and from there it grew into more responsibility, like a full time job. Now I choose to commit to me and my relationship with myself, A beautiful, unfolding commitment to life.
Thank you Denise. I have been working on building more consistency in my life in the past few weeks and I have been more inconsistent than ever. I am starting to see that inconsistency is not simply about doing something every day, it is about the quality that I bring to what I do too and this quality is vital to appreciate. I can see now that I overlooked the relationship between consistency and appreciation and I feel appreciation will assist me greatly in my quest for more consistency.
Once we make the first commitment to consistency there is an ongoing unfolding and I hadn’t realised this in quite the same way before, Denise. I know I have changed my life so very much and I don’t always appreciate each little change I make. I can become caught up in focussing on the areas that need some attention and forget the countless things that I have committed to do. At times I also lose sight that I am a human being and not perfect – perfection is just an illusion on this plane of life. Consistency brings a new depth to our lives and allows us to feel our amazingness as we become more committed to having a relationship with ourselves.
I agree Denise every little thing we do consistently builds our foundation, and the more consistent we are the stronger our foundation becomes. I have found even with building a consistency with one thing changes the way I do other things, and as I appreciate those changes I am able to make more loving choices.
What a great way to describe how appreciation actually works in the body – ” now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.” Appreciation works wonders for us all.
Consistency is everything, for it is through consistency that we either embed our patterns or alternatively move ourselves back towards our true selves. One of our downfalls as a society, and why we continuously repeat the past is that we are remarkably consistent in being inconsistent. We pause for a moment to admire the sunrise, but then the next moment we are caught in the rush to get to work, leaving behind a feeling of beings that otherwise would serve us for the whole day and beyond.
Appreciating our choices is key and confirms all that is true in support of our next choice.
It’s very easy to say we appreciate something or someone but like any words or actions sometimes they can feel empty and hollow, lip service so to speak. But when our words and actions are communicated from our hearts in the fullness of their expression they feel far more honest, reliable and consistent and can actually inspire and lift us all.
What a beautiful sharing Denise, thank you. Building a foundation through consistent loving choices, however simple and tiny they may be, is certainly what is needed in a world where disregard and disconnection is rife.
Being consistent in the quality of one task for me has changed how I relate to other areas of my life. The task may be fixed to a certain time or place but the quality is not fixed and this stands out more in the areas that lack this quality equally so.
The great thing about Consistency is that even if we depart momentarily from it, all that we have consistently built is the very foundation that forever calls us back.
Awesome point Deborah. You remind me to appreciate each and every consistent and loving choice that I have made.
Each consistent loving choice allows us to share and express more love – and the world needs more love!
By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly. And being able to see the bigger picture brings so much understanding, acceptance and trust and from that space everything just flows to you and life becomes super simple and very expansive.
I love the simplicity with which you illustrate a profound truth Denise. I have struggled with consistency most of my life (except for a few bad habits that I tenaciously have been clinging to). However I have noticed that I have been building more consistency in my life, and that needs to be appreciated as a work in progress too because as you have demonstrated, every choice builds (or pulls away from), the foundation that has already been laid.
Building consistency is no different to viewing the bricks that are placed on the foundation of a home. Each brick shows the level of consistency there needs to be to bring a solid foundation. Each brick is a reminder that our repeated consistency make the foundation stronger and stronger and that each brick is a symbol of the steadiness that this consistency provides us when times can be challenging.
One thing that I appreciate myself for Denise is my consistency in doing the Our Cycles app. This is something that I have resisted, seeing it as a chore, an obligation and a tick box exercise, asking myself what is the purpose. After chatting with my friends I came to the realisation that the app was an opportunity to connect with me, if only for a few moments, and take stock of how I was feeling during the day and how I took moments to nurture and care for myself, and note any feelings that came up. It all turned around very quickly after I made the choice to build on the consistency and create an intimate space for me at the end of the day, and build on the consistency of that, without any end result, only the purpose of building the relationship with myself. And day by day, as I build my consistency it has become a joy not a chore.
Sometimes I can be really hard on myself for the slips I have and yet when I look back on my life I can see that like you Denise I have been building more consistency in my life. Yes, it’s not perfect but oh, so different from how it was a few years ago. I can feel that I have so much more consistency in the way I connect to my body and stop and take care if I knock myself, whereas at one time I would have pushed through and hardly been aware of the way I moved. Once I began the path back to honouring who I am I may stray from time to time but the pull to come back to me becomes stronger and more powerful.
It is crucial to keep in mind that it is the small moments and detail that make up our lives. I love your description of how these small choices built something very solid and tangible, “this tiny little thing that I had chosen to do every day was actually quietly and consistently building with each choice that I made.”
This is a great suggestion for everyone to try, and as you say Denise, consistency creates a solid foundation that can be built upon to include all the little details and choices we have to make. It feels so effortless to live like this – things definitely flow more and tasks can be completed easily as they become natural movements in our day.
The power of consistency is so underrated, its simplicity is frequently ignored but consistency absolutely builds the structure and foundation we would like our life to be.
Sometimes the overwhelm of the changes I would like to put into place in my life become too much for me especially when I attempt to change too many things at once and I slip back into the same old patterns. I love the simplicity of what you offer here Denise and how baby steps are key to building a solid foundation to creating a more loving momentum in our lives.
`Nowadays, I can relate to what you write Denise on feeling appreciation in the body, rather than giving it lip-service and thinking about it. What a joy it is to appreciate true appreciation!
“Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me”.
‘Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside’ – this is a great way to describe the effect that building consistency can have on our life. When we develop a constant relationship with various things or activities, like sewing they hold everything together and create a strong foundation to fall back on.
It is amazing how quick we can be at thinking how badly we are doing or that we are not doing enough instead of being able to truly appreciate who we are and what we bring and do. So it is beautifull to read your appreciation with one small thing you consistently do everyday and how in turn this has changed many other things in your life.
At times it seems easier to focus on where I am not consistent in bringing the fullness of me to each moment, It really works to appreciate where I am building that consistency of conscious presence and allow for even more.
It is truly amazing how one little thing can lead onto other things in our life to be consistent, but what stands out for me is why we are not taught the benefits of being consistent and how it can affect our lives in a positive way. Thank you, reading this has helped me to look at the areas in my life which have slowly become consistent.
For me the shift came when I felt the impact of having a rhythm and consistency in my life – the steadiness that is founded from which I can confidently step into my days – until I felt that, the idea of consistency sounded burdensome and boring.
This is a beautiful example of how having a view of the big picture supports our attention to detail and vice versa. If I see myself as an integral part of humanity, playing a part in the direction we head, then my responsibility is clear and the details that make up the quality of how I live my life are really important.
Hello Denise and I love the title of this blog, “building consistency”. I see no pressure in the ‘building’ and like many things it’s a part that will need a foundation. The foundation comes from appreciating what you already have built before you attempt to step off into ‘more’. As is obvious for any building, it needs a foundation and the quality of the foundation sets the quality of the building that stands upon it. Anyone can build but to have the ‘building’ stand the test of time, appreciate the foundation, no matter how small it may seem.
I love the fact that even the simplest action when lovingly done makes such a profound difference and we turn it into a consistency, miracles happen.
What is so clear in this blog is how everything is EVERYTHING and not a single aspect of our lives is any less important than any other. When we bring greater quality to one aspect it supports all other aspect to also be at such quality.
Consistency is so deeply important in every aspect of our life and to be discerning as to the energy we are consistently living. For we can develop ill-patterns and behaviours by consistently living an energy that does not serve us just as easily as we can consistently choose Love and our true flow.
What grabbed me in your blog was the notion that when we truly appreciate, we get to feel more of who we are on the inside and not merely the set of outcomes we’ve achieved for ourselves on the outside. It points to really allowing ourselves to feel the appreciation we hold, to embody it as it were – and then our connection with ourselves deepens as a result. All this from some simple, consistent, regular small things. Well worth the commitment, because it means we’re committing to ourselves and from there to the impact we have on all those around us.
I really appreciate how consistency is just an end result of having made choices continuously, and it’s actually very low-key in its movement. It’s a bit like drip feed. I am beginning to wonder how there might be a trap when ‘being consistent’ is hung up as a kind of goal. It is a confirmation of unwavering investment that can only be appreciated in hindsight.
“By building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made.” When we make life about evolution, any choice that goes against it feels like slow motion. Or if we do not expand that quality into other areas of our lives, again it feels we have come to a slow or stop. Perhaps this is the reason that we choose to avoid evolution, because we know that it reflects to us what responsibility means.
Consistently choosing to do something in a certain way does build it in our bodies and you can certainly feel when you have not chosen to allow enough space to do that thing in the same loving way, as your body tells you loud and clear, and that loving, purposeful choice, then becomes part of the next moment.
I have the last month been working on building another aspect of consistency into my life, and it has gone really well – it is another thing I do that I know supports me in my day, it is a moment to check in when I do it, because no matter the route my day has taken or how it has gone, it will always reach the same point at around the same time at the end of the day, and at that point I can consistently check in with myself and the day I have had.
It’s simple. These choices, no matter how small, are ultra supportive and loving even when we do them once. It’s easy to feel that, it’s a no brainer. Thus, it stands to reason that doing them lots of times would be even better.
It is amazing how powerful consistency is. We think that one simple movement does not effect the next but it does. And then the more consistent our movements are the more we find that our movements will and do support us.
How can we trust ourselves if we do not bring consistency into our lives? Consistency offers us a foundation and something to build on. The consistency that you you are sharing here Denise is a consistency of being present with yourself in whatever you are doing and by being completely present in one small action we begin to feel how lovely this feels and how it supports us and we naturally begin to bring this quality to other movements and activities.
Each step consistently taken builds the foundation for the next and the next.
Denise, this is a very powerful offering. Consistency is not just something that supports us to hold a certain level of quality for ourselves. Most people have difficulty trusting people at some level and it is through the observation of people being consistent that we learn to trust again. Consistency is in fact hugely powerful and very healing for those around us. So when you fold the face washer, Denise, you are not only doing so for yourself, your commitment to that action actually offers an opportunity for healing to everyone around you.
It’s the consistency to commit to these little movements that has a beautiful flow on effect to our entire lives, which is so lovely to feel and appreciate. It’s the little fine movements in our detail and how we do things that creates a quality that expands our way of being. Very cool indeed.
I have been caught with the words appreciating, just saying the words but not truly appreciating them in my body. I have just begun appreciating to take stop moments and in the moments been then able to appreciate myself and how much I have changed in the way I love myself and make more loving the moments for myself.
“Every little thing I do is building on my foundation.” This is massive what you share here Denise. Every little thing we do builds a foundation for us to stand upon and what we do, depends on what kind of foundation we stand upon. Do we build a foundation that keeps us solid and steady and ready for life? Or do we build foundation where we feel knocked about by life? All of these trillions of choices that we make in our days, add up. So it is not only the ‘devil that is in the detail’ there is also ‘God in the detail’, and we can choose – all the time – what foundation we create to stand upon.
Its important to build consistency but even more important that it’s consistency based on a quality that is true, a quality that is akin to our tenderness, preciousness, our warmth and depth of care that we all deserve to have as a normal in our lives. Building a consistency based on this quality deepens our knowing to the point that it becomes unwavering again as to the divine origins we come from.
The more I appreciate me the more I want to appreciate me… it feels such a natural thing to do.
I love how we are always held by the power of such simple choices. It shows me time and time again that it is the so called ‘little things’ that are actually much bigger than we choose to see. In fact everything we do or don’t do has equal importance.
There is a known quality that very confirming when a loving consistency is chosen. Life flows in rhythm, and there is a steadiness that holds us in times that may be more challenging.
Being consistent in our rhythms allows us to set the foundation for life to flow where there is no need to rely on the intellect only on our innate quality of who we are.
‘I had not appreciated what a difference it was making, but this morning I felt the enormity of how it has been trickling into every facet of my life. I had been judging myself because I had not consciously picked other things to build on.’ Something I can relate to and I guess a lot of women are struggling with appreciating our choices. I know for myself I can judge myself as not being good enough instead of seeing there is always more but I am already everything.
Consistency is everything. It is what solidifies our choices into a momentum that eventually becomes our lived way of being – whatever that lived way is.
It is so easy to fool ourselves into thinking that we are our problems, or that our faults are in the majority, when really there is a wealth of foundation of love inside us, and the rest is just a layer on top. In essence we are love and this is something we can always come back to, even when we falter or choose to not live this.
This simple and practical example of building consistency shows me how every aspect of our life is interrelated and that each aspect affects every other aspect. This can be a support, as in this example, or it can undermine when the behaviour or activity is not supportive as it has an impact across the spectrum of our life.
This blog has really prompted me to pay attention to my everyday movement, and it has brought much joy in confirming and appreciating the way I am living. So, thank you, Denise.
In my experience there is a ripple effect when we bring commitment and consistency into one aspect of our lives – just as you say here Denise. We get to feel what it means to be committed to something and it builds from there.
What I am appreciating more and more with regards to my relationship with consistency is how I am choosing to be with myself when I have an ‘off’ day. Rather than being self judgmental and allowing that criticism to pull me down, I’m choosing to look at where I derailed myself, what got in the way and how to best support myself to allow the love and light to once again flow through me.
With the smallest of things a consistency and commitment can be built that inspires, informs and supports us beyond what we could believe was possible. Thank you, Denise, the proof is in the pudding as it were.
I have found that by building consistently in one area or thing that within a short time this ripples out into other things in my life. The key is to stay aware and appreciate the changes unfolding. Though the flip side also is that if I let go of something steady in my foundation this means other things in my day unravel and are affected too and this can be when I’m left going ‘why is everything going wrong?!’ This is interesting as it is not really everything – it is because of the first choice to let go of what matters – consistency.
It is wonderful to appreciate the feeling of building consistency in all my movements. To imprint these movements with a quality of sweetness and gentleness allows me to further surrender to what has been there all along, love.
Building consistency builds trust – trust in yourself and also trust in the capacity to feel others and feel situations and know exactly what is needed and when.
“Building consistency” on a quality of living and the appreciation of that feeling are 2 things that are ongoing in my life. When I say quality of living I perhaps should spin it around into living quality. It’s not about cars or houses or money but more how you are with yourself, the way you move in each moment. I have noticed there is a tendency for me to have one day on and then one day off, meaning the consistency isn’t there. What I am seeing more and more is the ongoing nature of this ‘living way’ and how even when you have ‘nailed it’ there is room for more depth. The dedication to the way you move, the living quality you hold for yourself and everything around you supports you to stand wherever you need to. We don’t need to be better at things as all this and more is taken care of from the way you live, the quality of your movements.
Building consistency together with appreciation creates a foundation of love and truth.
It is the consistency of a certain type of movement that gives us true free choice. Move with the grace of your divine origins, or at least in replication of that, and you will be bestowed with the awareness honouring of your true light. Move abruptly, and with haste, and you will only know what you are allowed to know.
Adam, those few words of your expression “Move abruptly, and with haste, and you will only know what you are allowed to know.” caught my eye as I was reading the comments to Denise Cavanough’s beautiful blog, and I was held in the energy of what these few words were portraying and I could not but read and re-read again and reflected upon the momentary awareness of my own movements and was held by the revelation felt within that this could be a very good place to look at my own consistency – in the awareness of the quality of my movements. Simple but quite profound I feel.
I love this true appreciation you describe Denise, words can be very hollow sometimes, but feeling something makes it a known in the body that can be returned to. I love the feeling of the body expanding with a smile on the inside which it radiates all around us, that sends tingles throughout my whole body and our commitment to consistency encourages that to flow.
Consistency creates space and saves time as the more consistent you are you do things without having to think about it. I waste so much time and energy, which equates to space, thinking about what needs to be done and when to do it.
Building consistency is a foundation of purpose to us. Being in a rut in life is just a pattern that repeats itself and never goes’s anywhere. Purpose and consistency allow us to evolve.
What a great sharing and exercise to bring into your day, ‘taking one thing in our lives and making it consistent: a thing that we choose to do every day, and then build on this.’
Consistency is what is lacking in our society today. Life is so fast and changes so quickly, that we are able to flit from one thing to another, but this doesn’t lay a foundation for anything rock solid in our lives. I used to do lots of things but i was never consistent in any of them I would pick and choose how my day would be, my life looked busy, but I had no true foundation to fall back to when things went wrong. Consistency has been one of the key elements in turning my life around and I no longer flit from one thing to another in an attempt to be superwoman. I have found without consistency in my life that I have not been able to truly commit to anything.
Building the consistency of something in one area of our life helps us to bring the same focus to all areas of our life, and the quality of what we can live can be there with everything throughout the day.
Consistency is really key in living in harmony with our essence. It is incredible to feel this within when chosen. And the effect it has when this consistency is broken. This brings a learning everytime again. And the beauty is that we always have another choice.
I love reading your blog again Denise. From what you’ve shared by focusing on one little thing, slowly building on it with commitment and consistency you were able to bring this quality to other areas of your life. Through sharing your experience I feel you have inspired so many of us to appreciate our amazing qualities and keep building and expanding on them.
This just goes to show how powerful it is to be consistent no matter how small the gesture may be, or seemingly insignificant and that everything matters.
Building consistency, builds consistency and the impact on my life of this ever-developing rhythm is remarkable, making space for more than I could have possibly imagined only a few months ago.
It can get overwhelming sometimes knowing that we need to make changes in life but they seem too big to achieve so it is easier to give up and continue in the same rut of life but as you have shared Denise, these changes can start with something simple in our daily living as it is our willingness that starts to create a different momentum of more loving choices in life that allows us a new foundation to let go of old limiting patterns and behaviours.
Yes, once we learn how to make lasting changes, over time we can tackle larger and larger changes should we wish to do so.
“Really, it was one little thing! This one little thing has shown me so much. It has reflected my level of commitment and consistency in all parts of my life, including my relationship with others.” This clearly shows that everything we do, no matter how big or how small, matters and if we make the choice to live by this principle we will discover the truth of these words.
When you have a level of consistency in your life and you drop it (ie don’t fold your face washer) it gives you a marker, a moment to stop and ponder what is going on. Without consistency, you can feel like a face washer in a washing machine, tossed around by life, feeling out of control. Thank you for sharing how one loving choice has had such an impact on your whole life.
…and who wants to be tossed around in human life when we are reminded by the fact we actually always have an opportunity to build consistency.
‘I realised how this tiny little thing that I had chosen to do every day was actually quietly and consistently building with each choice that I made.’ So true Denise, and before long our body naturally embodies the Love we bring to it though our daily movements.
Yes, that has been my experience as well. A small constant change radiating into all aspects of our life.
It’s easy to give ourselves a hard time about being inconsistent but reading this blog has me realising that there are so many areas in my life which I have consistency, so thank you for the reminder to appreciate.
Wow Denise I have realised through reading this how many small things I have brought this consistency and commitment to true care into and in am continuing to build on, for in fact those simple things I had never even considered in appreciating about myself, I have been looking at only the big changes I had made and not the everyday small changes, which actually lead to the bigger changes so thank-you so much for opening me to feeling a true appreciation for myself and to Natalie Benhayon for the recent session I had with her where she expressed to me how she had seen and that I needed to really appreciate the changes I had made in my life and I’m now really beginning to do this.
To be able to stand strong on a solid built foundation where you have committed to a certain thing in your life and to feel the enormous impact that it has on the rest of your life you get to appreciated how valuable it really is.
I lived for so many years without really knowing that consistency was needed in my life, I would flit from extreme resolve to never do xyz again, and then not be able to live up to this, and then completely slip back into old patterns worse than ever. Now all I do is focus on what I am building, and I consistently return to that focus if ever I should waver or fall off track.
I was just appreciating the chain of consistency I have built, with doing the practical, like bed always made, rooms left tidy, dishes always done, kitchen clear and clean. But what I just found is I am not so consistent when it comes to a commitment to a project, often starting out committed but being distracted with other commitments that I let override the original. I realise I have a lack of commitment to myself that perhaps has not been committed to consistency.
Building a strong foundation comes from a consistency and appreciation. The quality in our consistency is what builds a true foundation.
Since reading your blog I have been inspired to commit to ensuring I have a fresh carafe of water in my bedroom at night. I had bought two carafes (to interchange) as a gesture to myself because I didn’t like ugly water bottles in my room but hadn’t been using them consistently. Whilst I was very tired last night I nonetheless made sure that the water was changed. What was noticeable about it was that my movements were much more connected and I felt still, nurturing and expanded…
I have come back to this blog because I have found that consistency can have many different layers. On the surface I can see and feel that I am consistent, yet little inconsistencies creep in to mean that my consistency is, in fact, not so consistent. My choice at the moment is to be aware of those moments of inconsistency and ask what happened before the moment itself to lead me to alter a way of doing something that I know really supports me. So I am building consistency in paying attention to the inconsistencies and lovingly steering myself back!!
I love how the appreciation of consistency helps to unleash its power. I appreciate that you have taken the time to share this with us all, we are enriched by how you have expressed this.
Appreciating ourselves throughout each and every day, is a consistency worth living.
Appreciating my choices for the majority of life was just occasionally being lucky. The rest of the time was a bit of numbed comfort and dodging the bullet from ill choices. The consistency of appreciation I now have for myself is a world away from my past. The body is the true marker of how I live… we just need to feel the effect it has on us and celebrate our-self.
‘By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.’ I was drawn to this blog this morning because I feel myself to be very inconsistent yet reading your blog I began to appreciate what I have brought into my life and how my general attitude has changed over the last years. I attend to the detail in my life so much more and work, dare I say it , in a more consistent way. It feels good to allow myself to feel this appreciation and at the same time not get complacent but to continue building the consistency.
‘Slowly building an appreciation for all that I do, even folding my face washer.’ I can feel he truth of this and from your whole article I am able to feel this in myself and appreciation is a way of life that, like you say, is akin to a warm smile within.
Consistency builds more constancy through rhythms and rituals we choose in our lives. Consistently being present in my body in all that I do and appreciating being with me supports me to be consistently present with others in all of my interactions.
“I now know in my body, what it feels like to build consistency. Slowly building an appreciation for all that I do, even folding my face washer. By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.” It is astounding to see how simple it really is to build consistency, so why do we make it so complicated?
Committing to a consistency in rhythm is so great in that very quickly all the little game we play with ourselves get exposed – games that are directly designed to sabotage and keep us from stepping forward and unfolding the truth our power and grace.
Committing to the simplest things in life is profound.
From the smallest thing such as a seed a huge tree can grow so when we consistently building anything into our rhythm that is loving I have found it builds me like a tree with the foundations to be able to stand tall!
One thing we can always count upon is that our choices ‘consistency’ show us where we are at and whether they have been choices to support us or to hinder us in life.
I love this line, Denise – “Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.” What a beautiful and practical way to describe the process of bringing the consistency of loving movement back into your body. This is where it is really at in terms building love, which is carried through to all relationships.
Building consistency in my life from the simple little things in the detail and quality has brought so much to my life too and allows a deep feeling of contentment and flow and it is the appreciation of this brings that an expansion and love also. In times when I allow things to build up and feel to much it is this appreciation and the details connected to and the movements I make that helps support me to come back to the simplicity and love within.
It is the consistency of movement that gives us the consistency of thought.
Every little movement towards love is a movement towards heaven. Appreciating these movements allows us to take the next step.
The greatest feeling or experience is only momentary without a way of living that can generate a quality we can live consistently.This is only possible with qualities that are true to our being and a rhythm and movement that is an expression of this quality.
I started with putting a warm face cloth on my face at night, it was something my body loved.
It’s pretty amazing how the combination of appreciation and commitment to consistency can turn how we feel around. It can feel odd and unnatural to start with, if we’ve been running with judgmental thoughts about ourselves for a long time: it’s like we’ve trained ourselves to see the things we’re not doing well, and discount anything that we are doing well. But appreciating what it is about us that we bring to our relationships and the world starts to change the focus and builds a steady foundation within. The more we appreciate, the more we realise there is to appreciate.
Beautiful Denise to hear of this and build one particular thing into our everyday to focus on. I too have felt appreciation to be key and it really is a sense felt within our bodies. It can’t just be the words said, it has to be felt, it’s a movement. I’ve found it’s also not something you come to at one point in the day it’s an ongoing sense felt in every move. “Expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.” So true.
It is astonishing how one thing can radiate and does radiate to effect every other aspect in life.
I find that consistency starts in the little things. And its those little things that then lead to so much more.
That is a really inspiring blog Denise. I will look at simple things I can make consistent in my day to day as I can see what a great support it is.
Isn’t it insane that such joy is so simply accessible to all of us. Literally mind-boggling when you truly consider that against the infinite plethora of distraction and self-medications that we have invented and invested in to try to bring us joy. Proof in fact that we all know it…otherwise why would we pursue it so rampantly?
’I had not appreciated what a difference it was making, but this morning I felt the enormity of how it has been trickling into every facet of my life. I had been judging myself because I had not consciously picked other things to build on.’ – This is such a great reminder, it is easy to forget the difference ’little’ things actually make and not appreciate it as we don’t see it as being enough.
I find that appreciation is very powerful. It means so much more than we commonly believe. To appreciate is to consciously choose to give our power to the expansion of something and if we choose wisely, this is life changing.
Even just one small thing, consistently done, it builds a foundation upon which the next movement gets executed, which then invites another then another… It really makes sense of how our life gets woven and the anything we might like to sprinkle on top to make it look a certain way is just a mere decoration.
This also reveals how important appreciation is in our lives… it supports us to value ourselves and what we are doing which then supports us to continue with the consistency – they go hand in hand.
Your blog shows how important consistency is in our lives Denise… and how one small act which may appear insignificant can have such a huge influence in our lives.
Since reading your blog Denise I have started folding my pyjamas and placing them under my pillow. It’s also made me look at other things I usually dismiss where I can bring in more self-appreciation.
Denise I love the simplicity of what you share and how appreciation is much more than just saying it from the mind. I used to appreciate myself in a mental way – like ticking all the boxes, there was no truth behind it, when we begin to embody our appreciation this feels amazingly light and spacious in our bodies.
There is a certain momentum and energy behind consistency that evolves us, however, as you have shared Denise, appreciating this particular type of energy is key in building consistency as when we appreciate something, we clock its value and what it is offering and then it asks us to go to the next level in that particular energy.
When I read this Denise I get the sense of the quality of consistency that we choose when we commit to doing something, however small, consistently. There is then a quality of consistency that we can take with us into every aspect of our day. Appreciating this consistency allows for an expansion of it.
It is great what you share Denise as it helps us to appreciate where we are supporting ourselves in the small choices we make everyday. Then we don’t feel like we haven’t gotten anywhere. I am allowing myself to see how I have become more consistent also in very simple daily tasks.
I love how profound changes in our lives can have a very subtle domino effect. So what is great in this example is how starting with the commitment to consistency has led to a series of changes that really make up a new and loving foundation. It is the simple, staple things that really do matter and seem to ground us.
In spite of making some off choices yesterday around food which did not support my body I have woken this morning supported by the consistency and steadiness of my rhythm… appreciating this seems to be the way to not let critique about yesterday get any time centre stage.
Great point Matilda, any judgment even the smallest type brings with it the energy that can knock us off our feet. I am finding when I consistently bring responsibility to the loving choices I make that any critique does not a foot in the door.
“I had been telling myself for a long time that appreciation is the key, but I was not really appreciating me, it was just words.”I can relate to this, for quite a while i have been saying the same an not appreciating myself. Appreciation is the key.
The quality of consistency I commit to is equally reflective in all areas of my life when this is chosen. There is a natural flow, as you beautifully express here Denise, “Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.”
I had been telling myself for a long time that appreciation is the key, but I was not really appreciating me, it was just words. Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me. Yes, true appreciation nourishes our bodies from the inside out, I agree Denise, and there is a vast difference between knowing something from the head, to knowing it from your bodies lived experience of it. Such a lovely sharing Denise, your gorgeous self is felt here.
Love what you say about appreciation – that it’s too easy to get seduced by the word and not experience the deed.
So often we can focus on that which we’re seemingly not doing but it’s wise to pause and realise how far we’ve come and to appreciate that which naturally falls into place because of our commitment to a different quality and way of being.
Consistency is something I find I am constantly building and applying to different areas of my life. It is made up of lots of small rituals that support the consistent quality. It’s the quality in the ritual that determines the consistency, not just the fact that I have completed something.
To build consistency does not mean to repeat something every day (or so). It means to commit to a kind of quality constantly. To repeat is trying to hold onto something. Getting comfortable and safe. But consistency does go with the flow. One is for expansion and the other not and our life reflects us what we do/chose.
Denise this is such loving expression about how the little small choices, chosen consistently in a loving way, build a life based on love. Very inspiring!
When you decide to do something consistently say for example never leave your bedroom until every thing is in its place at first you need to make an effort for the first week or so but after that it is a part of your rhythm so you naturally do it without even thinking about it and it becomes such a part of your life you cannot remember doing it differently…this is the power of consistency.
I have used opening and closing doors with presence and with a quality of tenderness in my arm and and upper body. It is amazing how much this becomes a whole body experience and ripples out into the day and also how work colleagues feel it and choose it themselves, without any prompting. So the power of doing this one things consistently has shown itself to me to be ongoing and expanding.
I use this one too Simon, its very symbolic with the door representing our entry and exit into the world and choice of quality we take into the day and return to.
The journey of building consistency seems to deepen and grow constantly by the appreciation of allowing it to be simple building blocks of Love. This feels never ending, in a beautiful way that shows us the more we open up to this possibility, the deeper the rewards of steadiness and consistency of each day becomes..
Every detail consistently lived becomes the foundation that will either support us or crumble beneath us.
Building consistency is like an ant hill. When we remove what is not needed and put it outside of us our foundation expands.
There is really so much more to us than the physical acts that we are able to perform. Just allowing the possibility of the dimension of love in my thoughts lights up my body and my joints work immediately smoother, there is less bumping into things and less noise from what I do.
Your blog really highlights the importance and huge support of appreciation. I have been appreciating my consistency in certain areas of my life and know without a doubt that I can bring the same consistency to all other areas of my life, it is a matter of choosing to connect to all of who I am and living from that in my everyday life, without perfection but with acceptance, understanding and honesty. Appreciation is truly amazing as it supports us in every way.
Building consistency has nothing to do with rules. I’ve tried and still try to put ‘how to live’ in a certain structure. What should I eat, what time do I have to go to bed, how should I eat. Letting (slowly) go all of these ideals, beliefs and pictures is very liberating. As a parent I’m often in awe with and feel inspired by children when they show the most beautiful and natural way of adhering to life’s rhythm’s, yet not from any ideal or belief. (as a side note, this isn’t always the case as they too choose to not adhering to the rhythms of life.) The example that’s with me is sleeping until the body’s telling that it’s time to wake up – when that’s possible. The body’s very clear in communicating this and children often cannot but respond to it. We’ve overwritten ourselves that many times that we’re numbed to an extend that we won’t even notice a lot of communication. And in doing so, we’re living against a constant building of consistency.
Building true consistency comes from our body and appreciation for it makes us feel joyful and almost naturally expanding towards expanding our consistency. Simply because the imprint of all we do is done with such loving grace that we’re naturally choose to expand. I’m aware that there’s no straight line, but what I do see within my whole life that there’s so much change occurred in the last couple of years, that I can honestly share that this expansion is indeed a choice, but also has come ‘naturally’. Not fighting this and indeed appreciating it is for me the key.
Once we’ve chosen another level of (self)love, we cannot deny how lovely it feels. We can overwrite it, but not denying it as we’ve experienced the feeling of the action we undertook. I love the simplicity of this example and have actually never been aware of the profound effect this has on everything else in life. As if this awareness is taken to all aspects of life. Being aware of one thing, makes us aware of other things in life as well. Building consistency is like building awareness.
Wow, how simple life is. Just take one thing, make it consistent and the rest will build from there. Sooner or later. So true. I’m not the best in organizing my home, but I can tell that I’m catching up on this behavior as my body indeed calls for action very naturally. In the past I would overwrite it, where now I can even feel the joy in doing the task at hand. How different then in the past, where I could be called lazy.
Sitting here on a camping site, writing this comment, makes me instantly aware of the fact of the consistency I’ve chosen to do so every day. Just as I’ve chosen to cook for myself several times a day. It’s lovely to appreciate this and in fact how dear this consistency is to myself. How this gives me a foundation within my life. A foundation to build on. A foundation that I can call me. I never realized how precious and dear this is to me.
Appreciation is a really amazing and transformative thing which now has a well prepared place in my life, built on with consistency. Appreciation and consistency complement each other very effectively.
It is a great reminder that everything matters, it all counts and builds on the next moment. The seemingly small tasks are as important as the ‘big’ ones.
I love this blog as you’ve beautifully and naturally made consistency and appreciation one. To truly appreciate all the things that I do consistently every day is something that I’ve not done for a long time. I’m starting to see and appreciate all these little things people do for me and I do for people. There’s so much to appreciate. And as is shared in this blog, I cannot but smile too. True appreciation makes life simple and natural and worth living!
I have been consistently coming back to this blog because I love its simple practicality and the feeling of natural love and care. Today these words stood out “Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.” Isn’t that gorgeous?
We make our life about doing a million different things, seeing a hundred different cities and places. Yet what if the true difference we are here to explore is not in landscape or environment, but in expression and quality? Consistently practicing an act over again, gives us an amazing opportunity to go deeper with enjoying and loving what we do. This is the ‘difference’ that matters in truth. Thanks Denise, with your support I can see how through this consistency we can evolve – and this is the moment for me to enjoy more.
The power of consistency can be seen in nature. Water has the power to carve through rock due to its consistent flow.
It works both ways. If we consistency do something that is not supportive then it becomes a bad habit. Equally, when we consistently do something loving and supportive, it becomes a loving part of our day.
I have found that by making a commitment to this expression program each day has allowed me to openly express with honesty with everyone I meet. This has made a huge difference in my life whether in be at home, at work or in public.
I love the consistency that we can bring to our daily rituals, it makes a simple task feel deeply nurturing and supportive in our busy lives.
It is amazing when we do things to nurture and support ourselves and so turn them into a ritual rather than something we reluctantly have to do, so even the smallest of things becomes a joy and pleasure to do!
It is a wonderful reminder that every little thing done in the quality of love contributes to my foundation; that is to say that nothing I do is not worthy of love. This is huge! Thank you Denise for sharing such an inspiring blog.
I am becoming more aware that it is not about how much I can get done in the day but the quality of my presence.
When we have been pushing through the day, we can feel a discontentment of how much we still have to do, and can feel overwhelmed. When we appreciate our day, our quality of energy in the day and all that has been shared for us to see, there is a feeling of acceptance, and the consistency you describe supports us to appreciate and feel this Denise.
When we can appreciate every detail with an open heart and really feel how amazing it is when we make all these seemingly little choices but how in fact they are the intricacy that binds us together and holds the deeper connection with ourselves and what we know Love to be. This is what I call Super Cool.
Denise, I love how consistency, even the smallest things builds and builds. It supports us hugely. The 1st few steps may seem hard or challenging but when we keep at it everything changes. And conversely when we drop consistency everything falls to pieces.
Eleven years ago before the Way of the Livingness, my consistency was just a pattern of bad choices. I was just a plane spiralling to the ground. It was not until I stopped making ill choices and started to feel what effect they had on my body, could I began to appreciate how far away from my true self I had wandered.
I had not ever really appreciated the power of consistency until I met Simone Benhayon. She has consistency down to a fine art, but what’s more, is that this is not something she keeps to herself, Simone shares what she lives and she is there for you in support because, as I have come to learn, consistency is actually a very natural way to be and all we are doing when we return to it, is to dis-card all those choices and behaviours and activities which disrupt your natural consistent flow and rhythm of life.
Hello Denise and I love this, “By building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made.” So what you are saying is that if ‘you’ are in each moment then this creates time and space. The deeper you connect in each moment then the more time and space you have. I have found that in each moment if I allow it we are called to be more. I used to think this ‘more’ was related to me doing something but now I see this is related being more of who I truly am. In other words we aren’t machines to pump out this or that but we are more a vessel for energy. So the quality of how we move is important and related to what we choose next. If time or the day is getting away then this feeling relates to how I am moving. Time doesn’t change and so how does it speed up or slow down, this relationship is for us. The deeper you are connected to the moment you are in, the slower the clock appears to go. Move into the getting this done mode on Monday and you will turn around and it maybe still Monday but it will be the next week.
I can sometimes get to the end of a day and not find anything to appreciate. These are the days when I have pushed through without regard to how my body is feeling and only focused on what didn’t go well. When I take the time to pause in my day and stay more connected to my body, I am always able to find something to appreciate. Physical rituals like folding your PJs are great practical tools to build this connection to your body.
It is interesting sometimes and something to reflect on, why it is I can focus on what I haven’t done when there is so much to appreciate!
Consistency and appreciation make the perfect combo… both supporting and inspiring each other.
Super blog Denise as it has got me thinking! I too have been focusing on one thing for a while now and got into the rhythm of opening a gate (which I do most days) gently and tenderly and being present with myself. I left it at that occasionally noticing at times I would do other things with presence but I was focusing more on those moments when I wasn’t with myself. I am inspired to appreciate myself deeply especially when I open and close the gate today and how this simple act has a knock on effect throughout my day.
This is such a great blog, Denise, I get more and more aware of how consistency supports me in my day to day life. It reflects to me how inconsistent I sometimes am with being consciously present and to learn that my rhythm plays a big role. Consistency is the foundation for this.
This blog came to mind this morning. You know when sometimes you wake and you wish it to be yesterday. That’s how my morning was today, but what is that about. Was it because yesterday was a day off and today is work? or is it something else. For me I felt that I didn’t stay in yesterday enough, I didn’t simply appreciate where I was and who I was with deep enough. So it makes sense that the next day you miss that, not the people or the place but more the fact of you. If we continue or consistently appreciate and stay with every moment the best you can the ‘less’ you feel you miss. I know it may sound strange but this is my experience, the more I feel ‘in’ each moment then there is nothing to miss because I’m there all the time, sounds and looks simple and yet we spend a lot of time running away.
I’ve been given this advise a few times. Pick one thing to be consistent and present with, just one thing. I’ve ignored this advise on several occasions, and tried to pick many things, because I felt that 1 thing was not worth while. I know now, that it’s not about quantity, it is about quality. It is an illusion that more is better, it does not allow you to form a foundation in the way you’ve described here Denise. There is something very deliberate about choosing one thing to do in complete conscious presence everyday, and it can literally be anything…blowing your nose, putting your socks on or making your bed. There is something for me to consider here.
Denise, I love this blog post! I love that you realised how much there was to appreciate about your choices. It really is inspiring, because it is so simple, and yet has such an enormous impact. I have forever been hard on myself about all the inconsistencies I have. But, if I look at how much I’ve changed just through being conscious of looking after myself, there is a lot to appreciate.
It is an illusion to think that we could do only one little thing in our day consistently. In order to get consistent with the one thing we have to build consistency during our day towards this one thing. So we end up being consistent – consistently so!
‘Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside’ – I love the way that we gradually evolve and lovingly change these long held patterns and replace them with a way of living that is more harmonious and supportive. The notion of a thread quietly stitching our lives together expresses with such clarity the way that I feel when I reflect how much my life has changed. There are no major dramas just a series of small changes and movements that are forever offering us free passage back to divine wisdom and universality.
Appreciation of self builds a strong foundation that you can fall back into when you have a wobble, it holds you and you cannot drop too far, you can wipe off the dirt and get back on track, ready for what ever the challenge is that lays ahead.
So often we try to change many things at once, and get overwhelmed and then disappointed with ourselves that we have failed somehow when we don’t manage to keep it all up. Focusing on being consistent with one little thing enables us to not set ourselves up for failure, but simply focus on one little thing.
“I had been telling myself for a long time that appreciation is the key, but I was not really appreciating me, it was just words.” I was just appreciating how when our appreciation is true it becomes a part of us and we take what we truly appreciate with us wherever we go or who ever we are with, this then inspires what there is to be appreciated.
Rhythms and rituals, so prevalent in human society everywhere, such powerful things that we perhaps do not fully understand as yet the full impact that they place on our lives and our health and well – beings.
It feels to me that underneath our behaviours and our problems and issues there is a constant, steady essence that never wavers. Connecting with consistency in simple practical every day things allows us to connect more with this essence.
I realised yesterday that if we don’t appreciate and confirm all the little times when we feel good or at ease with ourselves then life can easily become only about the things that are not going well and we keep ourselves going in a bit of a merry-go-round.
I have come to learn the love and importance that comes from quality and consistency in the smallest details of my life and all this brings as a support and foundation to be appreciated joyfully from Simone Benhayon the Benhayon family and Universal Medicine too.
The gradual building of constancy exposes the very illusion of time.
It is incredible how we even the smallest of loving choices has an impact on everything else and how making that a consistent choice has a profound impact. It is a great reminder and makes a lot of sense since “Everything is Energy, and therefore everything is because of Energy – Serge Benhayon” so ensuring we have chosen loving energy however small we may think it is, has an profound impact on the foundation of everything.
‘By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me.’ Sometimes we gravitate to areas of perceived ‘lack’ or failing and ignore all the lovingly consistent choices we’ve now committed to. This morning, I paused to acknowledge them in my own life and got to feel and appreciate all o me.
I love how consistency in the quality we bring to things is a warm commitment to ourselves and it is a foundation for which life unfolds in how we in turn care and nurture our connection.
Another important point with consistency is a consistent commitment to truth – to find what is not truth in our life and to perceive it in full. We then have a choice to continue with what is not truth or not.
Consistency brings in a foundation with which so much more can be built upon … committment, care, self-love, expression to name a few!
The power of choosing one thing consistently is reflected so well here, highlighting that EVERYTHING matters.
Choosing consistency offers me a deepening in my commitment to life.
Consistency can provide a scaffolding to hold us steady and bring us back in times of stress. I have found focussing of the quality of how i do something rather than the task is a great reflection of where I am at.
The pull to do something every day – built and established through consistency, gives us a very stable foundation to build upon
Denise, your words are prompting me to take stock of the choices I’ve made, how I have over time built more consistency. Some challenges that seemed huge at the time are not so big now. Of course there’s always more consistency to bring but also always more to appreciate. There’s never too much appreciation.
Dedicating ourselves to what is true and committing to take the steps that are needed provides for great joy in consistently paving each step and making it our always.
Hi Denise, your comment – ‘ The quality that I live in and the way I live, not just seeing the end results on the outside, I get to feel more of me on the inside’ has brought a new ‘known’ to me. Living consistently allows all the distractions to drop away and when that happens then all that is left is what it feels like to be truly ‘you’. I had not realised this until, that this is what it is all about. The end result being able to find yourself again after situations, foods or people impose restrictions that aren’t true. Everything is energy and everything is because of energy and finding and living consistency support this.
Consistency allows us to create a new foundation in life which supports our movements and choices to be more of who we are, and feel the power and level of responsibility of the reflection we offer the world around us.
I can feel how much consistently doing things that support me in a caring way help me to be able to handle bigger challenges that may spontaneously come up in my life, because of the foundation that has been built by committing to doing those loving and supporting actions every day. On the flip side, the days that I may not hold that consistency and not do those things, I feel like there is a void and have felt a bit wobbly when met with a similar challenging moment.
Hello Denise and you have hit on two key words for me in life, appreciation and consistency. These two words or should I say the activity of these two words in your life can be huge. Just when I think I have them nailed another part is there to see where they can be applied. Appreciation in particular at this point is loud and without the consistent building of it things can become a little rocky.
The good part is that both appreciation and consistency can be practised.
Yes Denise, these loving rituals give us a point of reference for our day – ‘oh I forgot!’ or ‘I did that in a beautiful way’. They help us know how we are going. The more of these points we embrace and build into our day, like how I sat in this chair, or type on this keyboard, the more data we have to show how we can support ourselves. And over this whole process we get a sense for our own, true inner consistency – a quality that is you, or that is me. Then we can consistently choose to go deeper with this in our day.
I always thought that I do lack in discipline but reading your words have me realise that I actually have a very strong rhythm when it comes to consistency.
When we commit to one thing we are really saying yes to committing to ourselves and to life in every way. We are confirming that there is more and that we can live more deeply. By committing to this one thing every day we are confirming that we are in with wanting to evolve. We are renouncing past choices not just with our hearts but with our bodies in the action of the doing.. This platform can’t but deepen our foundation of self love and therefore deepens relationships with all and all activities as we take more of ourselves to them.
Consistency also builds trust with ourselves and trust for others that observe our consistency.
What you have observed and described here Denise, shows how everything is in everything and when we complete each moment with the fullness of who we are, we leave imprints of love.
Consistency brings great ceremony into our lives and with this the connection to the Universe and the grandness that we are.
Building consistency is key in all areas of our life. Whilst it is important to focus on one area to begin with, if we stop there then we are limiting the potential of a supportive base across the board.
To bring the focus back on our connection to our innermost and its quality allows us to drop being so focused on outcomes and appreciate rather than identifying with what we do.
we can so easily focus on what we are not getting right rather than appreciating all the choices we do make that are self-loving and honouring of ourselves.
Simply beautiful Denise, I can feel all the little imprints that we can leave as we build consistency in the quality that we move through life in.
‘I had been telling myself for a long time that appreciation is the key, but I was not really appreciating me, it was just words. Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.’ It is one thing to think we know what words mean, then another to understand them and to feel them for ourselves, such as you have here.. this is The Way of The Livingness.
Building consistency in our lives feels great Denise, because it supports us with everything we do. We come from that depth of the foundation we have built. I am noticing that my consistency can run out around tea time some days, so it is great to read this and continue to work on keeping that consistency throughout the whole day. By returning to my bed every night, which I lovingly make every morning, I can feel exactly where I am and return to all of me for sleep throughout the night.
Denise what I’ve found is a number of things I now do consistently and reflecting on your blog has made me appreciate the real support they offer. If I’m feeling a bit wobbly whenever I turn to something I do consistently I feel more solid in me. One thing I noticed is my consistency of preparing my clothes to wear before having a shower, its something I’ve done nearly every day for the past 4-5 years and means I feel completely supported when I get dressed. It’s just one thing that sets me up for the day. The question that now comes is how great would it be to bring that to all areas of my life.
Building consistency daily in these small ways not only has an impact on our own lives but it also gives others an opportunity to see how consistency can benefit others. It is very gorgeous to come home at the end of the day, when I have left the house having beautifully made my bed and cleared away all the dishes. Two very simple daily tasks, however the contrast to how the house feels when I come home and this is not done is enormous, and has a huge impact on the rest of my day and consequently the following day.
“Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside” I can feel this too Denise, I love the thought that it is not just about our outer appearances, that our whole body is being pulled together from the inside by being consistent in life.
Without appreciation I am very hard and judgemental on myself and others. Appreciation builds closeness and connection to oneself and to others, its the like the oil in an engine – it make it run smoothly and prevents the friction between us.
Thank you Denise for sharing your experience, i see that with consistency, it builds appreciation slowly in all areas of our life’s and that steady building emanates out to all that we do and our interaction with other.
Reading your blog has come at a perfect time for me, as I am in the process of building self appreciation again, allowing myself to fall from that.
I love how reading this blog has brought my attention to just how important the little details are. The more we pay attention to and love the details, the more the dots join up and one day, as you have done Denise, we realise that we have renewed ourselves and our lives by consistently loving the every day details that in the past went completely un-noticed and un-appreciated as we walked through our day.
My observation of myself this week has shown that breaking consistency in one area can have knock on effect on others.
Densie, I have found this article to be very inspiring, I can feel how amazing it feels to do these things, ‘lovingly folding my PJ’s and putting them under my pillow each morning, or folding the dishcloth to wipe the bench’, when I choose to lovingly do things such as these and making my bed or arranging things in a certain way then it leaves a very gorgeous imprint.
It is loving of ourselves to be consistent, and consistency builds love.
Simply expressed Rebecca and profound. thank you
Building consistency is like railroad tracks that help you get to where you need to go. Values and beliefs can be pipes that will get someplace but we are confined and not always sure of our destination till we get there?
After reading this blog I found myself looking at the areas within my own life where I have consistency and appreciating the little things does make a difference to how we feel and go about our day.
Denise I just want to say how much this blog has inspired me to appreciate the consistency I have built in my day, before reading this article I had no idea how much constancy I had actually built in my life and it had gone unnoticed and unappreciated. After reading this I have started to deeply appreciate the regular rhythms and routines I have in my life and how they support me.
If we lack appreciation we open the door for issues with ourselves and others.
Yes by doing that one thing everyday you have been building consistency which is not determent by the things you do but it is a way of living that is very supportive in every part of our lives.
Yup, well said, Doug. There is no exaggeration required when we feel the enormous impact of building consistency and appreciation in our lives.
This is a great point of inspiration to park any disbelief I might have and simply commit to being consistent with one small thing in my day. I am going to choose something I do every day and just open up to being aware of the quality I do it in and therefore what I am laying down to revisit later…
Appreciation opens us up to an inner wealth that is naturally within, no different to the blooming rose, who simply emanates beauty for being what it is, a rose!
I feel that more often than not, we can easily ‘put ourselves down’, never be good enough, and the list goes on with having a negative relationship with ourselves. But to appreciate ourselves, cut ourselves some slack we will start to feel a confirmation of our value and a sense of expansion…a whole different experience to the negative attacks we put on ourselves and then go into protection to not feel the pain of it.
How often do we take the time to appreciate ourselves, that could become part of our commitment to consistency.
Great sharing Denise, it shows how building consistency is something that grows into all areas of our lives and becomes our foundation, a commitment to ourselves.
Self appreciation really is the ‘glue’ that embraces and brings a fullness to life
I love the feeling of consistency and ritual that you have shared here Denise. When I have incorporated consistent rituals into my life I have found that this supports me to be more consistent in all aspects of my life and it supports those around me in their consistency too.
Completion and consistency work hand in hand!
Consistency also opens you up to seeing more things in your life that may be holding you back and your then able to move through those things with loving grace.
‘By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly’ – This is so true Denise, and the appreciation we develop for the little, consistent things can build to the ability to appreciate the bigger picture and our role to play in the world.
Simple changes can make a big difference in our lives and this can work both ways, either to support ourselves or not.
‘…it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made.’ I too have felt this miracle many times. I say miracle because often it’s felt like one when I’ve chosen what’s not loving and then to be blessed with the grace of what is. Love holds no judgement or prejudice.
It makes sense that bringing consistency to one thing would bring consistency to all things as we cannot action anything in isolation to anything else. Thank you for sharing you experience Denise.
It is in the smallest of movements and actions that we get to understand true divinity.
Appreciation of our consistency is key to allowing our commitment to deepen and expand. I often think appreciation is hard, yet as you say Denise it is just a choice to stop and feel what is there to appreciate, without the mental search of it.
Thank you for this blog title Denise which is a reminder of how important it is for us to build consistency in our life with what supports us in Truth.
I have an understanding as it was once said to me that building a life of consistency is a life of True Responsibility. They were words on my fridge door for many years and the bingo I started to live in this way and today I know that my unwavering consistency is what holds me steady.
On a practical note if I am on a later shift and feel tired I somehow feel more energised if I stick to the routine like cleaning the kitchen sink. It does not drain me and this consistent stuff really works.
Same with writing blogs or comments it is now an integral part of my life and I make a choice to stay consistent and I got that from Serge Benhayon.
Appreciating the fact that we can change is an incredibly powerful gift to give to ourselves. In that appreciation of myself for those choices, however small they may seem to be, I am letting myself know that I am actually the master of my life, not a victim of circumstance.
Everything in life is a true reflection of how we have been living. “All these things are a true reflection of how I have been living.” Developing the awareness and appreciation, and honesty and acceptance around these reflections allows us to grow and evolve.
Consistency is really key in what you describe here; it helps us build on something seemingly minute and eventually make that the all there is and it is a part of, in the very same quality and with the same dedication.
It is amazing how supportive consistence and routine can be – it is what we are taught young children need, but to me it is never something we grow out of – although I hated school, I loved the routine it gave me, that is not replaced by work. It is the consistency of what time we get up and go to bed, of dinner and cleaning the house etc that gives us the steadiness in our day to day lives.
I agree Rebecca and I have really noticed just how much my kids respond to consistency, particular with us as our parents. Any time we are not consistent they feel lost at sea and you can sense a mistrust starts to grow inside of them which leads to protection and guardedness. When we are consistent (without perfection of course but most of the time) it builds their trust in humanity which will serve them well when they grow up into adults and have to face the wider world on their own two feet as it were.
Consistency has always been a challenge to me, but I have found that by committing to a small thing there is a ripple effect, just as Denise describes.
Amazing! When we build consistency it’s easier to feel when we go into a race, and can stop patterns of self sabotage before they take hold.
I agree harryjwhite that consistency builds a marker in our bodies that we can register or feel and then anything that moves away from that consistency stands out more and we can catch our behaviours and patterns earlier.
It is very cool to appreciate that you are setting up things that support you to develop other things rather than only seeing what you have not done etc. We are so used to thinking critically of ourselves that it is then reflected in how we are with each other in hard unloving ways. So ergo the more you appreciate and are loving towards ourselves the more loving our exchanges with others will be.
“I had not appreciated what a difference it was making, but this morning I felt the enormity of how it has been trickling into every facet of my life’, I smiled when I read this, Denise. I know only too well how easy it is to look at all the areas in life where I could be doing more. Allowing the time and space to really appreciate myself, and the changes I have made over the last few years is incredibly powerful. I love the deepening relationship that I have with myself and, therefore, with everyone else.
‘By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me.’ It’s great to link consistency with appreciation. Appreciation for ourselves can tend to feel intangible, hard to grasp. But by anchoring it in consistency, which can take on a more physical expression, we can take moments to enjoy our commitment to routinely undertaking a particular task. A very simple, yet effective way to build both aspects, for they are self-perpetuating.
‘Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.’ What an absolutely glorious phrase, Denise. Straight from heaven. Content-wise too, for as you say consistency has a ripple effect that echoes throughout our lives and surely into the lives of those around us. I have always noted my husband’s consistency and have learnt much from simply being with him and around him… it has most assuredly rubbed off on me.
‘I had been judging myself because I had not consciously picked other things to build on.’ It’s amazing how self-critique and self-doubt and not to mention judgement can come in oh so readily. Here we can be building something beautiful on the one hand and tearing it down with the other. Developing a consistency of supportive activity of the mind is a type of consistency also worth developing.
Agree, Victoria, and that is where appreciation comes in, yes?
‘By building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made.’ I love this description of consistency and the going into slow motion. This aligns with what I too have experienced when I am in the quality and solidity of my consistency and ‘beingness’ – of being unified in thought and action and building a steady rhythm or ritual around a particular task. It is super-supportive and very foundational, as in it holds a quality of steadiness from which I can grow and develop even more consistency in more areas of my life. It is self-seeding!
I remember Simone telling some of us that going for a walk could be a daily commitment. Doing this has been very supportive to me in building a consistent relationship of care and dedication to myself. It allows me the space to feel more how I am in my body and to deepen my connection with my body. Freeing myself in this way I am open to the Magic of God and can celebrate the touch of my foot on the ground as it lights the way.
Beautiful, Denise how you show in this blog that consistency in any one self-loving thing we do, builds consistency in our whole day. The knock on effect shows that everything depends on the detail of the energy we are in, every moment of the day. Small steps, small details, everything really does matter.
What came to me this morning is that simple and small loving actions carried out consistently help to build the same loving quality in our bodies.
Denise I love your sharing and today this jumped out “I had been telling myself for a long time that appreciation is the key, but I was not really appreciating me, it was just words.” It is so true, there are often things I may say or try to convince myself of but I don’t actually live them. Appreciation is one of those things that you live or you don’t, in my case I can fully relate to having it just being about words and not truly appreciating myself. Its an ongoing process of development for me, but I am slowly bringing more and more appreciation into my life.
I constantly find it incredible how doggedly committed I am to things in my life that hold me back or don’t support me to be me, and yet when it comes to things that do support me there is not as much commitment to being consistent. Something to ponder on that one..
I have been committing to going for a ten minute walk on my own every day now for sometime with the purpose of connecting with me and connecting with my body. It has been amazing to feel how powerful it can be to put yourself on a program, however small the thing is, and just commit to something that supports you with consistency.
This is beautiful Andrew, and inspired my to reflect more deeply on why I have stopped my daily exercise, rhythm. This happens particularly when working away when I observe how I’ve bought into ideals and beliefs that limit me and tell me I’m too tired, don’t have enough time, can’t walk outside. All untrue. A daily ten minute programme, whether to walk, exercise in my room or swim, built consistently would re-connect me with my body and can be introduced into my daily rhythm.
The significance of the detail and how it supports a much bigger picture – I love this article Denise, thank you.
I know I have a certain consistency of rhythm or flow to my day that I have committed to building up slowly and if I have a day where I do not commit to this flow it really stands out and the whole day just doesn’t seem to flow like the others. This then helps me appreciate just how much of a foundation I have actually built but perhaps have not realised fully. Sometimes its the ‘oops’ that is necessary to really appreciate what is really already there.
Denise, I love what you are sharing here, ‘By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.’ I am finding this also, I have recently been working on appreciating how I live and the changes that I have made in my life, previously I did not appreciate these loving things that I was doing, now I do, I realise how much I have changed and how strong and consistent my livingness is, appreciation has been very important.
Somewhere in the comments on this blog, the word completion stood out for me and brought the awareness of how completion has also been very much part of re-building quality and consistency in daily life and, until now, I had not appreciated the power of this.
There are odd times that my rhythm get’s a little out of order and simply stopping to appreciate how far I have come with consistency in many apparently small ways, soon restores the quality of a supportive rhythm once more.
Your experience reminds me of a Chinese Proverb “the longest journey begins with the first step”. Its the little things that matter, that when consistently lived and applied steadily built, day by day a new quality in our lives. Thank you for the reminder Denise, that changing our lives does not have to be a radical shake up, it can if we choose be a steady process of quitely changing the way we do our everyday chores and activities, with focus, presence and genuine care. Every little imprint of love soon mounts up.
Living in a world that is full of lack of appreciation for most things, and the one at the bottom of the list is usually ourselves, there is no real foundation! The simplicity is in the small consistent actions that become the cornerstones of a real foundation that supports other choices we make, and that also support others around us.
Truly inspiring. You got me pondering what simple thing I could commit to every single day no matter where I am.
One of the things I have been focussing on is bringing consistency to how I ‘meet’ people, whether I already know them or not. Allowing myself to be completely open, wanting to connect with them, however briefly. I’ve always enjoyed observing ‘people’, wondering where they are going, where they’ve come from, what is going on in their lives ….. now I’m finding out for real ….. I’m loving it and it’s enriched all my relationships no end.
With commitment and consistency, we are able to feel more of our true selves in each and every moment. Not only does this provide us with a marker, which is constantly moving, allowing us to feel when we dip below where we know we can be, there is a pull for us to go deeper, to peel back those layers of protection that have kept us hidden away, to share all of who we are, no holding back ….. after all, what are we waiting for? What could be better than feeling, sharing and living the divinity of all that we are, always?
Once we know how to be consistent it is a relatively small step to consistently choose love and to express love.
Reading this article and the comments, I am starting to feel it’s the choice to come back to my connection with me (which is also my connection with love and God and all of us) by consistently choosing an action whereby I choose this quality. There most definitely is a science to this that cannot be denied.
Consistency teaches me that the smallest of choices make the biggest difference.
Consistency feels great to develop.. the more consistent I am, the more settled within myself I feel.
A great sharing – consistency is not just in our doing but in being – our every expression.
We often fail to appreciate the details – the every step we take and have made and the difference we bring to our families, friends, workplaces, communities and the world. It is well worth stopping and appreciating ourselves deeply and building upon this base.
Great practical advice – to take one thing and consistently apply this to our life…from here, this will flow into many more hours and build a foundation for life.
I don’t know I’ve really appreciated how consistent I am with some things and how they support me. Time to look at this and then see how being more consistent in other areas will support me greatly too.
I had something that I was being really consistent with and let it slip because I felt I had so many other things to do…I’m feeling the affects of this so as of today, am recommitting to it.
What i have noticed in my life is by working on consistency in small things and rhythms, it has supported me to develop a truer and more solid foundation.
‘I attended a talk by Simone Benhayon where she spoke about taking one thing in our lives and making it consistent.’ Simone has shared so much gold over the years and her clarity on life is like no one else I know. Her practical approach is down to earth and very real. She has had a profound affect on my life.
Very true Denise – by consistancy we allow space and by space we allow a field of love to live from – instead of the angst and contraction. There is no need to put yourself aside as all the magic is within you – and by virtue of being consistent with for example one thing in your life , we set mountains – can you imagine if we expand to more than one?
I realised from reading your blog again Denise how I am really good at consistency in certain areas of my life but not choosing to apply the same consistency to other areas where it will hugely support me and my family. The word consistency seems to come up a lot for me. Like when I talk to friends about parenting, the word consistency pops up many times. I appreciate now that consistency is like the glue that holds the foundation of life. I realise without consistency things simply doesn’t flow and I can then easily stay stagnant and heavy. I am forever building on applying commitment and consistency of love more and more to my life and I can feel how this will support not only me but everyone else around me.
Hello Denise and ongoing for me this is huge, “I had not appreciated what a difference it was making, but this morning I felt the enormity of how it has been trickling into every facet of my life. I had been judging myself because I had not consciously picked other things to build on.” It would seem that if we don’t ‘consistently’ go to appreciate the detail of how things feel or how things have changed then if feels like we go around in circles.
This is such a beautiful way to go about building consistency in our lives. I know that for me, as I have built consistency in the little things, this consistency has flowed to all aspects of my life. Consistency provides a foundation and strength for me.
I wonder if the key is to not make the one thing too big in the beginning? As soon as I read this blog I thought, I want to do that with my wardrobe. I have this pattern where I will have a clean wardrobe for about 2 months and then it slowly gets messier and messier. It feels like no matter how much I try, my clothes are destine to become messy eventually. But the simplicity of the wash cloth as made me consider that maybe I need to take baby steps and then once I build that, tackle the bigger things.
Sometimes we calibrate our consistency and commitment to delay our growth and evolution and to avoid letting people see the amazingness of who we are, because once others know, then there is a responsibility to live this everyday (consistency!). Our consistency and commitment in life supports us to embrace responsibility.
Appreciating the steps already made, the commitment we have been bringing supports us to take more steps and to deepen our commitment.
Consistency helps build anything, the good and the bad. I know that in the past I was pretty consistent with some not so healthy behaviours and lifestyle choices. Now I am making different choices. Consistently!
Building consistency is such a great guidance and supportive foundation so if things do come up that want to create a little uncertainty they stand out. Then it is clearer and simpler to choose what is truly supportive or not.
How amazing to see how by folding your washer, your life unfolds in a beautiful manner based on that foundation of consistency. You committed! And in telling the story you have inspired me to commit to one thing and to do it consistently.
“Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.” So beautifully put Denise. I love how you share your appreciation has been expanding; I too have found this. Before it felt like more of an appreciation of ‘doing’, whereas now it’s a deep appreciation of the quality of me in all I do; in essence a deep appreciation of the divine quality of me.
Simple truths Denise! This blog has been confirming for me. Over the past few days I have become more and more aware of any lack of detail and consistency and how this impacts on the way things flow – or not! Thank you!
“By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me.” This is something that I would never have even considered prior to being introduced to this also by Simone Benhayon. But what I have found like you Denise, is that the more we build on the little things in our lives, like the folding of your face cloth, the more we start to take that quality and consistancy into other areas of our lives. Then over time we can look back and see how much has changed, because we have chosen to change the way we are willing to take care of ourselves.
The consistency of such a simple act as folding your face cloth has stopped me in my tracks as I realise that there is a consistency in my life – and I was not appreciating all these simple actions and how they contribute and build in my life. Today I will be more appreciative.
I keep coming back to the power in the simplicity of this blog. It is very revealing for me how simplicity, far from being shallow, is in fact deeply profound and spherical in nature. The wisdom contained here is huge and is really felt on many levels. The support of the simplicity personally gives me permission to stop trying and to simply be, allowing me the grace and space to be still, to connect and to feel. There is a joy in this and a lightness that is divine. Really gorgeous.
Thank you Michelle for your comment – it has opened me up to feel the true power of simplicity. I have a sense of how supportive simplicity is in my life but until this moment had not fully appreciated the depth and profoundness.
Who would have thought that by choosing to fold a face cloth consistently in the same manner would lead onto other areas of life following suit – reading this has me looking a little closer at my own consistent little ways.
Thank you Denise, for this beautiful reminder that every detail counts and how the small consistent choices that we make support us immensely – something that I need to appreciate more, so a timely reminder!
Everything has to start somewhere, and when we build anything with consistency and purpose, it becomes like the tiny seeds that mighty oaks start as. Without consistency, our life can become the dandelions that are left to their thing unchecked.
Great point Steve and I know that sometimes when faced with the enormity of what I know I need to change there can be a tendency to ‘freeze in the headlights’ and not do anything. But simply beginning with something, however small and apparently insignificant, is a start and from little things big things grow.
There is much to appreciate when we are consistent with our daily rhythm and routines, which I have found brings such simplicity into my day, and my body loves simplicity and flow.
A beautiful example and reminder that appreciation is an energetic quality we can connect to within ourselves, a quality that lights up our bodies, puts a twinkle in our eyes, a spring in our step and brings purpose to the day.
A friend once showed me how she lovingly puts out her clothes before she showers so that they are there ready to put on afterwards. The tender way she laid them out was amazing, not only did they look lovely, it felt gorgeous getting dressed. Such a simple thing to do but makes a difference to how I feel, so I do that every day now.
Consistency is so important to build love in one’s life and body, but I realize more how often I am consistent in taking the same unloving choice like, for example, eating more than my body needs. To turn this harmful consistency into a loving one requires a consistent and loving discipline.
It seems that it is beyond our imagination what consistency brings into our lives. As we are connected to the all, the stars and the planets and the universe, I understand that consistency is part of our being as I do never see any star or planet doing anything else than being consistent in shining or travelling around the sun.
“By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me” – this is such a great statement. I can feel how consistency is the ability to keep coming back to imprint our movement with the same intention, and how the lack of consistency comes from the lack of self love because we have somehow decided to take a rest from choosing love for ourselves.
Consistency is indeed one of our responsibilities. I am learning to be more responsible with this as I come to understand its value.
I too appreciate that the quality that we do things in is essential for the consistency to have its value- I know the more I do things with a focus on the quality, the more I impact everything.
In some ways the folding of the washing can be a bit of a red herring because in truth the ‘what’ we do is not the important bit, it is the relationship that we have with life at the moment where we are being consistent that is the significant part. It is the deep honouring within the action that is registered.
Consistency isn’t tricky in that if we have done it once, it makes sense we are able to repeat an action. What does bring us undone is not appreciating its value, and not committing to making this the ALL.
It’s such a revelation when we first come to it, that doing the same thing over and over does build much more than is seen if we view it as nothing more than repetition. Consistency is crucial for many reasons and is needed for anything to truly build as is shown in this blog.
Building consistency is only helpful if the things that we are becoming consistent with are supportive because if they are not then the consistency will act like cement.
Denise, I can feel your gentle commitment coming strongly through your words. Simple as you say, “one little thing” but like any little thing, it can start off small but become larger as it gathers momentum. An inspirational sharing thank you!
One of the things that I love to do after my morning shower is blading the water off the glass and tiles in an anti-clockwise direction. Like others have shared, it has become part of my routine like brushing my teeth and I can’t not do it now, even if I find myself a little pushed for time. The added bonus is my shower stays sparkling clean for ages.
I read this blog and yeah “I’m cool, I am consistent in things” however, there is one thing I do each day that I am consistent in but I see it as a chore because no other person in my house does it the way I do it and its not ever appreciated by anyone. I know, feel and see what wonder-full job I do and what difference it makes to the whole house. I therefore need to fully commit by appreciating how I do it in the quality I do. Its not a small thing like folding a face washer but it is one thing I consistently do and more appreciation is needed now and when I do it!
We all know that making a choice that’s truly supportive and loving for our bodies feels amazing, but imagine what this would feel like if we did this every day and were consistent with it… It’s a great question to ask ourselves of why we avoid doing this.
“Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.” What a testimony to building consistency coupled with appreciation is – this simple exercise can be passed on to another once lived and fully felt. “By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.” Appreciation is everything – every move, every facet of awareness that you hold that is how far wide and vast appreciation can and should go. If I’m not feeling so good I know before that feeling I have not been building and appreciating myself in all the moments before.
I love your gorgeous reminder to Appreciate our Choices. I am amazed at how many little changes I have made when I took a moment to stop and really appreciate them and, of course, myself.
Sounds like a great experiment, I might try it, I suppose it makes sense as everything is connected. We often can make things too big, overwhelm ourselves in all we want to achieve. This simple exercise feels like it cuts that approach and allows true change to develop in time.
If bringing awareness to one small thing in our living day, and consistently choosing to move with Love can bring such a powerful change to one’s life and the relationships shared, imagine the change in the world that will come the more we all bring awareness to how we live and choose to move more with Love.
Great to appreciate the ripple effects being consistent doing one small thing daily has on us, especially when it is done with love and care and is honouring of who we are. It feels like it is building a foundation of love in our body.
I couldn’t help but smile with you when you said the appreciation had become a feeling inside of you and it was this that was smiling from the inside out. I totally get what you mean as I too have started to really feel this and the one thing I have been working on is not changing this feeling to suit who or what is around me. Keeping bright and enjoying what is in me not matter what.
By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me. Absolutely Denise, consistency is the key and appreciating ourselves and what we are choosing for ourselves is a huge part of our foundational self love.
It is so true Denise that appreciation is paramount in building consistency. As through appreciation we develop our awareness of the loving choices we make and as such confirms all movements made in honor of our Divinity through which our body of Love solidifies it foundations.
This is very gorgeous Denise and beautifully highlights how every move we make impacts every aspect of our lives thereafter. So to be aware of the quality we are in when we move, and choose the quality we want to move in is empowering, as we realise that we are responsible for the quality of the lives we live. And the blessing is that every moment we are given the choice to move with Love or not. So it is always our choice to move with the consistency that Love is.
It is amazing the power that comes from such seemingly little actions such choosing to be consistent with one small action a day. Through our choice of moving in a way that honors the love and truth of who we are, every day, we build a quality in our body that is a marker of what moving with truth and love feels like. A marker that then guides us to know whenever we are moving in a way that disregards this loving quality.
It’s always the small things that make a difference and it’s often these we don’t appreciate and take for granted that we do.
I find that when I’m consistent with something, it becomes a natural part of my day, just like cleaning my teeth and I couldn’t not do it, as it would feel odd not to do it. One example is doing dishes – either washing them up or putting them in the dishwasher after a meal…I don’t leave them until the morning or until I get home from work if I’ve cooked in the morning. This is something that I’m really consistent with (not perfect!).
There is a real tension that can develop when we ignore the natural consistency and rhythm we have been building, not as a form of trying to keep control but from the feeling that order and flow are no longer there.
“I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life”. Again another example of how every thing is energy and working on one area of our life has a knock on affect and supports the other area’s of our life.
I enjoy the simplicity of what you have shared – that the smallest step towards supporting ourselves can change everything and inspire our next steps and those of others.
How true this is- that it is important to appreciate ourselves and the choices we are making and also how far we have come and to continue to confirm this foundation upon which we then build.
It is very easy to think that we appreciate ourselves for what we do but this is can be more at a mental level as it is only until we live in constant appreciation for that which we know requires no doing but just the beingness of who we are which we express through all our movements that we create space to live more of the love we innately are.
Repeating a small task each and every day, consistently, offers an opportunity to check in and feel how we are in our bodies, being aware of any small changes from the previous day. It allows the space to appreciate all that we are, the delicate way in which we are folding our face washer, or whatever we are doing, equally if we feel a little wobbly, we have the choice to then go deeper with this and look at what may be triggering this change before it affects us any more.
I find if I bring my focus to one activity or task each day I learn much and this one simple act expands out and has an affect in ways during my day I do not expect. Thank you for the reminder.
Details lie at the foundation of everything. When we take care of the details, everything else just flows.
Appreciation has shown me a lot of great things that I am already doing. If I do not appreciate the ‘normal’ reaction is a constant flow of feeling not good enough. So I found appreciation is a key to feeling the truth of life and taking charge of how I am living.
Consistency is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, it’s an honouring and a celebration of all that we are, an acknowledgment and confirmation of our love for ourselves and, therefore, for everyone one else also.
‘All these things are a true reflection of how I have been living’ – it’s the details in our lives that show the truth of how we are choosing to live.
“Once I make a choice to do something ….. there is such a strong pull to do it every day, that if I choose to override what I feel to do, my body speaks loudly, giving me the opportunity to make a different choice.” I feel this too. It’s pretty darn amazing really. I have had times when I have actually walked away from something and then had to go back and sort it out as the disturbance in my body is so great. Love that my body is always calling me to live the responsibility that is my natural expression.
The simple process of choosing to repeat a simple action again and again is a for me a holding mechanism, it gives me an opportunity to claim stability and steadiness. Once the mechanics are ‘locked in’ then the next phase is quality. Again a simple choice.
The ritual of consistency is very powerful. There are details that I attend to, similar to yours Denise, that I never let go of, and they grow into more and more loving ways. And as you say, the natural pull from my body is so beautifully strong, my cells cry out for and celebrate order.
The ripple effects of one daily choice are so huge and vast. Just imagine the ripple effect on humanity if one person makes a tiny consistent loving choice.
Being consistent with one thing each and every day can support us in so many ways, and it builds a strong foundation and rhythm to fall back on if our days become busy, tough or issues arise.
“Once I make a choice to do something … there is such a strong pull to do it every day” – Reminds me on the pull I feel to give my home and everything in it an order. ‘Things’ need a ‘home’ a place where they belong to, so it is clear and constellated where they come back to if taken for a while. This brings some order into my l surroundings and for me this order is like arms I am held with – if it is an order that make sense and serves the purpose of love and harmony.
Pure gold ‘I realised how this tiny little thing that I had chosen to do every day was actually quietly and consistently building with each choice that I made.’
I love how sinple this is.. Often when I have felt I have needed to change I become overwhelmed how to address this in all aspects of life. You have offered the key of simplicity here in building a solid foundation that will then support you back in life.
The more we admire, respect and honour how we are with the little things – the more the big things don’t seem so big, just another moment where we can choose to be more Love.
I totally adore the word ‘consistency’ and can feel the power, beauty and stability in allowing this word to live in my life. I want to see the word everywhere, my computer, the fridge and rear-vision mirror – not as a discipline thing telling me what to do, but a reminder of the potential on offer to live life in a rhythm and flow.
What I am realising is that it is our daily habits of what we do and how we do them, that can either degrade our way of being and reduce our connection with ourselves and everyone else, or can build and support our being to feel more connected, expansive and settled in our bodies.
I know for me that when the going gets a bit tough, it is the foundation of those little self supportive or self loving rhythms and rituals that I have been building and the consistency that these offer, that I fall back on to support me to come back on track more quickly.
I can relate here to the habit of only focusing or noticing the things that are not going well in my life, or when I slip up, rather than noticing all the little things that are changing and developing into a greater joy, understanding, consistency and vitality in my life. Appreciation is definitely worth working on and developing in itself.
Appreciation is a huge key to building a steady consistency otherwise what will be the sustaining force?
agree Amina, appreciation is substituted by recognition in our education system, no wonder self-love, self-appreciation, at first, is a challenging lesson to grasp.
How little we can appreciate consistency, because it just becomes something we do, and we can forget how significant and powerful a daily commitment is to something – it is a daily commitment to ourselves.
Is this not, in every aspect of life, how we build a foundation that is stable and supporting us? Businesses that begin by aiming big invariably over expand too quickly and without a firm foundation go bust, whereas those that begin from small and simple and develop slowly, flourish.
I totally get what you are saying about appreciation. On learning more about this (appreciation) at first it felt like something I had to ‘do’ and would come from my head. Anything that comes from our heads is way off track, it is the body that is the key for expression. Without judging or trying but in being honest where I was .. in that it felt like I couldn’t really appreciate, this naturally started to shift and change for me and now I can appreciate from my body. I love this blog about consistency, such a small change in a daily routine, done with consistently, can change everything else ✨
Its the second time this week that I have read this article and I really appreciate the simple but wise teaching in it.
When I read the title of this blog and consider the subject of ‘Building Consistency’, I have such a strong sense that this is where it is at, in terms of us learning or rather re-learning how to live in a way that builds and embues our living ways with an expanding awareness of how the little things make all the difference, and have a ripple effect out into the whole entire world.
Completion, commitment and consistency work hand in hand!
Greg I have just read a comment that spoke of the importance of consistency and commitment but now that I have read your inclusion of the word completion, it feels complete. Not only that but completion is my weakness and so now I know what to focus on. Brilliant, thank you.
I like how you realised that you were in fact more consistent than you gave yourself credit for, it is so easy to focus on what needs developing rather than appreciating and building on what is already there.
True Vanessa, even when we nominate something abut ourselves and previously outside our awareness, we can appreciate the new awareness gained.
“Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.” I love this line it really depicts how it is to appreciate it is a body felt experience not words!
We cannot underestimate the little things we do to support ourselves that really do make so much difference
“I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life.” Allowing love in one’s life is amazing and so beautiful to read your journey with this Denise very inspiring. I also find these little details of consistency so supportive and if I let it drop it feels such a loss and unsettlement in my body and dishonouring of myself and everyone and is felt immediately.
Denise, I was reflecting this morning how much I would avoid doing loving things consistently, it’s ironic that the one thing that does build and support us the most is the thing we avoid. Yet things like sleep rhythms, food choices and movements during my day that I do, constantly provide an incredible strength for me.
By bringing an awareness of doing something every day consistently, brings a focus to that particular moment. It can be so easy to go though the day in auto pilot not being fully aware of everything we do. I know if I let something slip whether it is because I am in a rush or choose to over ride, thinking I might do it later, I know that I have dropped the ball so to speak, and that there is something for me to look at. Consistency along with commitment are two of our many building blocks that support us in living life fully present and aware of everything around us..
Alison I love how you have mentioned that commitment and consistency are fundamental building blocks in life. Commitment builds consistency and consistency builds commitment.
‘By bringing an awareness of doing something every day consistently, brings a focus to that particular moment’. I feel this too Alison, If, at any moment we’re unable to recall what we’ve just done, it tells us we’ve been working or living without awareness, or being consciously present..
What strikes me in reading this is the simplicity. Not so much in what you are doing but more in the choice to do it. It is such an incredibly simple choice. In a world that is getting every more inundated with a plethora of choices within every single facet of our lives, it can become very over-whelming. Thus the joy of the simplicity of this choice. We need stuff like this to cut through the quagmire, the veils and veils of complication that we have en-wrapped ourselves in. That to me is the the hidden power within this. It reminds us that it truly can be very, very simple and this is a glorious tonic for the exhausted masses.
I agree simplicity is so key Otto to making any real changes in our life. Keeping it simple and very practical has always supported me when faced with the overwhelm or momentum of the choices I have made and the apparent difficulty of making different choices that perhaps go against the grain of what the majority are choosing.
I agree, when there is complication, it’s always a sign for me to see what is getting in the way, to peel back the layers and feel into what is really going on.
Accepting that Everything is energy and Everything is because of energy, when we look at what is going on ‘energetically’ it enables us to clearly see the truth. It’s that simple and what brings complication is how we allow energy to affect us and work through us.
Small is beautiful, and bringing commitment and consistency to the small details, lays the foundation for bigger changes.
Kehinde your comment made me realise that the bigger changes that you speak of are actually a culmination of all the smaller ones.
I know the power of consistency in my life. For example if I sleep well consistently I feel so much more vital and ready for life than if my sleep pattern is all over the place or the quality of my sleep is not good. Consistency builds a solid platform from which to live life.
One thing that just jumped out at me is that to build consistency we have to appreciate and confirm our choices – otherwise what base or foundation are we laying. By confirming and appreciating the choices we have made we are solidifying our foundation which then further supports our consistency. The rest is then a choice!
Our potential is huge, more than we can truly fathom. I know for me when I feel the depth of love I am from I can get a little overwhelmed but I also know I am merely scratching at the surface of the stupendous amount of love we are and are from. So what if we all lived this love – everything would change.
Establishing a consistent, loving rhythm in my everyday actions I have found challenging to maintain. However, choosing committing to consistently completing small tasks each day has definitely supported me to develop love that then radiates out into everything I do.
The key is to do just one thing, something we do several or many times a day. Opening a door is a good example.
Since reading this blog I have come to appreciate all the little things that I love bringing my full attention to each day, both at home and at work that have supported me to establish a beautiful quality in my day-to-day life. And to appreciate and welcome the fact that there is no end to this, that I have so much capacity to cherish more and more of the little details, so that graudally all the dots join up and the bigger picture naturally emerges and keeps expanding.
The power of consistency is huge, I am really beginning to appreciate how supportive it is to apply consistency with love to what I do, the way I move, communicate and express to others. To build my relationship with consistency is what I am working on right now, starting with the simple things and learning to embrace simplicity.
When i feel consistent, i feel in keeping with myself, a strength and togetherness. If someone or something is consistent like the universal truth and love that Serge Benhayon presents through his own Livingness, it’s something to trust because it’s solid time after time. It is our inconsistency with universal consistency that has created the errors of this world and trending downfall of humanity when we look at the news stories that chart the/our deviation from such consistency. Consistency then becomes the bedrock of salvation.
You have given me much to ponder on and inspired me to do a ‘stocktake’ of my areas of consistency and self- appreciation – without the whip!
Simone Benhayon is a remarkable woman. I see many of the things she does from the other side of the country and how it supports a lot of people in Australia. This is one example of the support that is ongoing on many levels. It also leads us to see there is much to see in the detail of things and life. When we bring a detail it’s like more comes to light and in that we understand more of what is around us. Appreciate the detail that life already surrounds us with.
Thank you Denise for providing me with exactly what I needed to read this morning.
I feel like I’ve always struggled with consistency but this is showing me how to do some thing seemingly small that I can commit to daily and feel how this feels in my body. Indeed there are loving choices I make daily that I can begin to appreciate more deeply like my walk before work.
Thank you for the reminder that nothing is too small, that everything is everything and nothing is nothing.
Wow Denise, you’ve really made me realise just how crazy all the self judgment is as I relate to your story. You’re absolutely right. By appreciating these small changes we commit to making, without perfection, we open our eyes to all that we have to offer and already do in our day to day lives. This is something I definitely have to build on. I am so great at berating myself…what a waste of time and energy.
Building our consistency in small loving details, builds our love for ourselves that becomes unfaltering. It’s building a way that we can feel how our love never leaves.
“Commitment to being consistent, deepens our commitment in everything.” This is so true, with consistency everything else folows,
It is wise to consider what one is being consistent with – be that supportive or non- supportive ways.
Either ensure a foundation – one that is true and one that is all but true.
Consistency ensures a foundation that will support us in the whole of our life.
Goes to show that every detail matters and is part of a greater flow and whole.
Building consistency and a quality with the smallest of everyday things – for example, sitting down and enjoying thoroughly and lovingly brushing my hair morning and night, has supported building a deeper relationship with myself in my daily living way of living.
Thank you Denise, I too have found the more commitment I have in life the easier it is to build consistency which then creates a lovely flow where it is ok to let go of patterns and behaviours that have been holding me back and embrace more of who I truly am.
It is indeed amazing how by being consistent with the little things, we gradually and naturally start becoming more consistent wiht the bigger things in our lives. It is interesting also that we can be consistent with things that don’t necessarily support us, but find it much more challenging to change our behaviour and become consistent with the things that do! You give us a great example of how this is possible Denise, thank you.
The consistency of the fine details of our daily lives holds such a loving quality. How we fold our clothes, make our beds and brush our teeth all play an integral role in how we move through our lives everyday. Everything is indeed everything.
Appreciating and valuing ourselves allows us to connect and communicate the wonders of the Universe.
“It is something that I have not faltered on”….that is the key to consistency. To make it not-negotiable so the mind can’t do its’ “but but but, you know you want to do XYZ etc…” and I love simple and easy by folding a face-washer. I think deep down we all know we need to build more consistency in our selves (the way we eat, the way we move, the way we are at work etc…) but it can feel quite overwhelming how to do that.
Your beaut blog Denise shows a really simple (yet powerful) way to build consistency.
It’s quite amazing to truly feel and appreciate the quality that has been laid in the consistency of the little things that support and confirm our loveliness and true worth. There are moments if I let the consistency slip I start to feel less anchored in my purpose and solid in my body. This is when I really can feel how truly supportive it is to be with the detail and the way this flows into all of life. The attention to detail is confirming of me in every moment.
We are taught that there are important things and not so important things. But in truth, everything is important. I still think that I can get away with things that people can’t see me doing, but there is a ripple effect with everything. The responsibility is there. It’s just up to us whether we accept this responsibility or not.
This is a beautiful blog Denise. It is a lovely reminder about consistency and that consistency is built from the little things that we do each day. Our life too, consists of our everyday things more than it consists of the occasional ‘big’ thing. Being consistent in the little things allows for consistence in all things.
Consistency and appreciation, then appreciating the consistency – dancing between the two develops love.
I love the fact that something so simple can be so profound – who would have thought that by folding your face cloth everyday would lead onto other areas of your life reaping the benefit of your consistency.
Building consistency with, and appreciation of, the smaller choices we make in our lives, allows us to build a loving foundation which has a flow on affect in other areas of our life, as well as the lives of those around us. Thank you Denise for this lovely blog.
I have consistently been making sure when I leave a room that it is back in the same order I walked into it at first I had to keep reminding my self to do this now Ido it with out even realising I am doing it…the power of consistency.
Being consistent with, say a task, was at first a commitment I needed to make and then the more consistent I became with what ever the task at hand was, it became a part of my rhythm, becoming something that I naturally do daily.
Such a great reminder that even the smallest things done consistently have a major impact on building a solid foundation and how from personal experience when I get busy,lazy or both and let these little things slide life can rapidly get pear shaped.
Consistency is the key. I am very consistent about leaving my home clean and tidy so everytime I walk in after a day at work, or being out, I walk into how I’ve left it.
The power of consistency and simplicity – a great example Denise.
How one seemingly little things does miracles, what a wonderful blog. You have inspired me to make a choice today and do that every day. Something small, but actually something big!
Who would have that thought lovingly folding a face washer consistently everyday could have had such a flowing, unfolding and beautifull impact on all other areas of your life! Thank you for sharing this it’s given me a moment to stop and appreciate the everyday little consistent things I do like lighting a candle every time I come home. What Simone Benhayon lives and teaches is gold. Since attending Universal Medicine courses, workshops, events and having Sacred Esoteric healing my life is not only more consistent in how I live and my relationships there is a steadiness and solidness there as well. For someone that always wanted to run away and never committ this is definitely worth appreciating!
Just today I was reminded of how important building the foundations of attention to detail actually is. It is actually the basis of my commitment to myself.
The body develops a memory for our consistent choices, and this is so whether they be supportive or non supportive choices and activities. Your description, and the use of consistency, commitment and appreciation to build a supportive way, demonstrates how simple it can be.
I love this Denise and can totally relate to all that you share. For me I see it the same the converse way with habits. They are only that – habits, something that doesn’t support us but we choose consistently to do. After making a choice not to do these things only a couple or few times consistently before long the movements from my body change and I find myself no longer compelled to choose them or make them anymore. Consistency rocks!
This is so interesting Denise. All our actions magnify out, it is lovely that something chosen to consistently do, lovingly, can hold you with such amazing support.
for me my next focus of consistency is going to be exercise – one thing that drops in and out of my routine a lot, but something I know is unmeasurably supportive. Building consistency in other areas of my life shows me I can’t make the commitment, however it is of note that exercise is to support me – its not something directly for anyone else although indirectly others do get the benefit, and so therefor it is a commitment of consistency to myself.
I used to think I couldn’t hold that consistency you describe Denise, how could I remember to do a little thing every day? But as the consistency grows, I’ve realised now I don’t need to remember it, that’s the point; it flows all by itself. The rhythm then develops and there is a warm glow that can be felt in the body of the choices we have chosen to make building the consistency in our lives.
It can feel like committing to the little things is tedious but what you are sharing is that the simplicity of something like folding a face cloth consistently, with presence every day are anything but tedious.
It is interesting how we can allow our minds to focus on what we are not doing rather than appreciating what we are doing. Learning to appreciate even the little things has made such a difference to the quality of thoughts I now have and it has attuned my radar for self criticism.
Great point here about appreciation, that (even) the small loving choices and changes we make are to be appreciated and can be very powerful. We grow up believing that only those major things are to be appreciated whereas it is the small and often consistent ways that have the power of water over time, who’s drips can erode rock and change the shape of how it looks.
It’s amazing to know that we have the power to build a strong foundation for ourselves simply by committing to being consistent with one small thing.
Lovely blog Denise, a great reminder that building consistency does not have to be about the big things in life, but about taking the small things in life and building on them. This is really supportive because it can be so easy to go into overwhelm when we hear the words commitment and consistency, when in fact they are very much words that could be part of our everyday language.
Denise, I love how you took one simple thing and made the commitment to bring consistency to it, and that day by day that consistency began to flow on to other parts of your life, sometimes without you even realising it. The foundations we build by this consistency naturally become strong and continue to expand with our commitment, being there to support us in times of challenges, holding us until we stop wobbling. How amazing that one little face washer offered you the potential to change your life!
There is much to appreciate in this blog Denise- One small step building the foundation for another step and then another and on reflection we find a stronger foundation has been re-built with our daily choices.
“I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life”.
Gorgeous to re-read this, ‘By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me’, since reading this article the last time I have been really appreciating what I have been building consistently, such as waking early, showering gently, dedicating time to read articles and to comment on them. Before reading this article I was doing these things but not appreciating them and myself, now that I am much more aware of recognising these little things that I do consistently everyday I feel much more appreciative of myself, my life and feel much lighter, more confident and more lovely.
Consistency is foundational to building a body of light that works in service of all humanity. Inconsistency is the hallmark of the small irresponsible self, unaware of how each action or inaction affects the All.
“By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.” Denise this is something that I often overlook, today after being inspired to take an honest look at my life and the way I have lived, things are very different to the past. It can be easy to take that for granted but its when you bring in an appreciation for the little things that you really start to see the fundamental life change and quality of each day. It shows the way we take care of ourselves really does pay off.
I observed yesterday how after building a consistent rhythm in one area of my life for 14 days, I allowed in a thought that led to me choose to break free of an old pattern. I reflected on what happened and be came aware that consistency begins within first, in our sense of self and thoughts. Its is fundamental to consistently release ideals and beliefs that can sabotage our commitment to any one thing.
Wow – this is inspiring Denise, it’s amazing how one small act, or one small choice can permeate through our whole lives and ask us every day to be more of who we are.
It’s so true that the commitment and consistency of choosing one small thing is reflected throughout your life including in your relationships. I have noticed that the more consistent I am the more other people can rely on my steadiness and it removes the drama and ups and downs that used to be part of my daily interactions.
I appreciate, Denise, how you bring this level of commitment to relationships as well. I am pretty good at being consistent with the practical details of my day, but less so with relationships because I do not always call out what does not feel true in the behaviour of another, or make sure that I express exactly what I feel without holding back. There are constantly areas of life to go deeper with, and your blog has inspired me to look at the way I am in relation to others with greater focus.
Thank you for sharing how commitment to consistency in one aspect of your life had an impact on everything else and how important it is to appreciate the choices we are making. In the past I have often focussed on the things that I am still not choosing to do consistently rather than appreciating how much more my life flows because of the consistent choices I am increasingly making in lots of different areas of my life and beneficial impact this has on my body which flows with an ease through the day rather than under the tension of protecting myself from the impact of my old choices which caused a lot of stress.
Building consistency in my life has been both ways. Most of my life I slowly and consistently built the wall around myself to the point where it was virtually impenetrable. It keep, everything outside of me out and all of me inside my fortress. I have lost my wall over the last few years, and only the ancient ruins of some past structure remain. A well and a tower are the same; one is buried, and the other allows you to stand on top and see farther and take in more and appreciate how far we have come
It is amazing how building one small thing consistently every day allows for consistency and commitment in all areas of our lives almost by osmosis!
I love how through this lived experience you can show us all that making changes in our lives can be done very, very simply just by choosing one thing to commit to, to make sacred in our day. Thank you.
Consistency and appreciation make a really powerful combo if we want to make changes in our lives and it is brilliant to hear about the impact of this even with what we might consider to be the small details.
I have found that too, once I have chosen to do something lovingly and I have clocked and feel what this is like in my body, there is a natural pull to want to do this all of the time.
It is the appreciation of these simple things in life that make life connected and brings the stitches together!
bringing consistency to something so simple as folding a face washer, and how it is life-transformational – amazing. It is these moments where we are fully present, and in appreciation that we learn so much and grow, as if all the space around us and within us is filled with God.
It makes sense that if we do one thing consistently with appreciation for who we are each day it allows for the same quality and care to be given to another, and so it builds on. Thank you for your lovely sharing Denise. Very inspiring.
It goes to show how everything is everything, and nothing is nothing. Every single choice counts.
Commitment to being consistent, deepens our commitment in everything. It’s as simple as making the choice to do so.
I have found that consistency and appreciation are like the foundation to supporting myself in any situation. I love that you started with something so simple like folding a face washer. It is a great reminder to appreciate the way we do the most simple of tasks.
It is really quite simple. Doing one thing with awareness and hence with love and care, makes it easier to do something else the same way. Doing two things with awareness, makes it easier to do a third…
Introducing the importance of appreciation with consistency was a powerful reminder to me that consistency is about quality and not only quantity.
Bringing consistent care and love to the details builds a solid foundation of love from which our life flows.
‘By building this foundation of consistency it feels like I am held with such love that my body goes into slow motion until I choose to again commit to the loving choice that I had previously made.’ I know this feeling of slow motion! I particularly feel it when I start to rush, I suddenly feel a sense of urgency to finish what I am doing, but my body does not react, it stays steady, not responding, asking me to stay with myself as before, until I finish. The beautiful part is, it’s as though time expands in that moment and I am able to finish without rushing and without being late. When I allow myself to surrender I am blown away by the divine wisdom of my body.
The word surrender is key for me here – it is so incredibly transformative to be letting go of (surrendering) old patterns of behaviour that do not serve or support me (rushing, being seen to be efficient, being in the next task rather than present in the present) and feeling the steadiness build as I do this more consistently.
‘Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.’ ….. for everyone to feel. It’s very magnetic to feel this in another, we want to draw close and understand what it is about the person that is pulling us in ….. it’s the love that we all crave. The love that we all are, equally so, we just need to be reminded that it’s there, waiting for us, always.
There’s certainly 2 parts to developing consistency – the first is to work on a rhythm that allows us to actually be consistent, but the second and equally important part is to appreciate what we’ve been building.
That is the microcosm adding to the macrocosm – doing one small thing consistently creates a ripple effect that cannot be ignored, as it informs everything else we do.
Hi Denise, what a beautiful blog to wake up to this morning, thank you. I absolutely loved reading how your commitment to consistently fold your face washer led to so much more. I can totally relate when you shared you initially hadn’t felt you’d given as much commitment to other areas of your life, I can feel this way too, yet when I stop and allow myself to appreciate all the little things that have changed in my life, it’s clear that the ripple effect from being consistent with one thing, however small, is enormous and does indeed form a foundation of love.
Simple consistent truly loving practices are the foundational stones that help to deepen and grow our relationship with ourselves and everyone.
Thank you for this blog – it is easy to feel overwhelmed in life when we have so much to do. Reading this really confirms that we need not stretch ourselves thin in this process and shows how it is always possible to deepen our quality, our care etc.. along the way.
It is so great to feel that once we make the commitment to build an aspect of consistency in our lives there is a potential to build even more. The idea of not having the time goes out the window when we appreciate the quality this consistency brings to our foundation and can feel the pull to action more.
“I can now see this one choice had created a chain reaction that affected every part of my life.” This is gold Denise…because the ripple effect / chain reaction of all of our choices is HUGE. And with every choice, we can either harm or we heal. And then that harming or healing effect is rippled out there. I know when I make a loving choice, it supports me to make more loving choices. When I make a harming choice, I can continue down that path as well.
Thank you Denise reading your blog is hugely supportive for me right now. I have been looking at how I can bring consistency to areas of my life where I find most challenging. By appreciating myself and appreciating my commitment with consistency in areas of my life where I am really great at, I then realised the challenge aspects are areas where I simply haven’t given any attention or detail to. The key is to build on consistency, build on my appreciation and expand on what I already have. It is so simple, once I realised I was making it so complicated and creating issues when there isn’t any and by applying consistency, I know I will no longer have challenges in life. The example you shared with us is so beautiful and I love how you’ve expanded this level of love and consistency to other areas of your life. And when we appreciate what we bring this expands easily and effortlessly. This is what I have recently come to realise and your blog is great timing for me to read.
Life is a reflection of us on both a micro and a macro scale. Building consistency is making a commitment to attempt to ensure that the reflection that we receive whilst doing a chosen task is of the same standard each and every time that we do that particular thing. We therefore receive a reflection that says we have dropped our quality, maintained our quality or improved the quality of whatever it is we are involved in. Reflections have no investment in what they are reflecting, they simply reflect from their absolute stillness.
Denise simple moments in our lives, like the one you described, (folding the face washer), serve both as platforms and as markers. They mark where we are at in a very physical and tangible way and they also offer us something to stand on in order to lift ourselves up to the next level of deepening our relationship with whatever it is we’re involved in.
I love what you have shared Denise. A simple act like folding the face washer then means we leave it with care, as opposed to simply leaving it. Many little acts like this spread our care around the home, workplace or life. That is what we become accustomed to. Then if we do not fold the face washer we can acutely feel the lack of care we are leaving. Consistency is beautiful and sets a caring foundation within which we live.
I have been writing consistently now for a while, it has been amazing. I have been able open up and share more than ever before and I love sharing blogs and reading peoples comments and connecting. This is one thing I do every day, no matter where I am or what is going on. Sometimes I write a lot, sometimes just a bit but I do it just as I would brush my teeth each day. Bringing this level of commitment and consistency has definitely affected other areas of my life for sure.
What a simple choice like folding the face washer or dishcloth or what ever our personal choice maybe brings with it is the focused attention in that moment and this is what I have come to love. This moment means I have chosen my body’s communications with me. The choice has been made to commit absolutely to whatever is happening in that moment and true purpose is lived. Very simple examples that vary for us all but the essence of the moment engaged in brings the quality that is our life.
Simplicity is in the detail and in the consistency.
Building consistency is the evolutionary layering of ourselves.
This is beautiful Denise and shows the power of making a loving choice consistently and how this affects all aspects of our life.
I love too that consistency is in the detail. The little things do matter – how you fold the face cloth, how we come home from work and where we place our bag and our shoes and keys, how we fold the sheets and make the bed. it is never about compromising these things nor rushing them, as the detail is what comes back to feed us later on again.
Denise there is an exquisitely simple, natural flow to the way that you write that makes both reading and soaking up what you share effortless. Such a great article for so many different reasons.
Denise, I love how you have highlighted how consistency is a key ingredient in life. Of course we can be consistent with non-supportive choices too such as consistently not making our bed or consistently not folding the face cloth etc. Or whatever activity we choose we can consistently do it but not with a quality that supports either. But when we do something that is supportive and do it consistently and with a quality that is caring, this builds a foundation upon which we can grow and expand in more ways than we realise. And you have highlighted how powerful this is! Thank you Denise for this beautiful and so powerful reminder.
I have always loved the word ‘building’, it is such a solid word. I use to just relate it to building of physical things and for some reason mainly using bricks? There is a way to build with energy and Denise you have mapped it out here for us. The same results in building physically you can get building energetically and as with all building the foundation is always important. Thank you Denise.
Denise I can relate to this too, knowing that those things I do with commitment and consistency provide the base level of how I may approach or complete other tasks in my day. I can feel how these steady and consistent actions allow me to to feel when something does not feel to be of the same quality, and only when I apply myself in the same way, or from that foundation, do I feel that task to be complete.
I had no idea how powerful constancy could be, in fact when I heard this word mentioned by an esoteric practitioner some 5 years ago I thought how boring consistency sounded. Though I could not have been further from the truth, consistency is the building blocks and the foundation to Love.
This exposes how important the details are in our daily lives… the supposedly ‘little things’ truly count and really do make a difference – they are not to be dismissed.
Incredible Denise, thank you for sharing. I am indeed amazed how one thing of consistency is so strong in its pull that it automatically calls the rest to go higher and be consistent too. What an amazing start and thank you Simone Benhayon for bringing consistency to our attention.. She must have felt it and had the same experience when she first started!
Reading this blog has made me look at what I do consistently… and there is quite a lot – which I had not ever appreciated! Thank you for this reminder to appreciate Denise 🙂
Constant dripping will wear away a stone – the science of consistency.
Consistency has a strength that grows and unfolds, it is part of its science and nature do so hence it is wise to be aware of the things I become consistent with and choose their quality with discernment. It starts small and may appear insignificant but one day it will be big and the consequences will either be benefitting our true well-being or the opposite.
How supportive… to do one thing consistently, and that one thing then has a ripple effect to other areas within our lives – love the simplicity of this Denise.
I know for me too if I give myself the opportunity to truly appreciate something and the difference it makes it encourages me to keep doing it and develop further supportive choices because I can see the impact it’s having.
Our bodies give us such clear messages if we choose to listen to them… they feel the effect of our every choice.
‘…my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.’ When I look back, consistency started with brushing my teeth every morning and night, then putting cream on my feet every night, then making sure the draining board is clear of washing up, and cleaning my glasses before I go to sleep- there are many things I do every single day without fail. These little rituals have become part of my daily rhythm and I feel off if anything is missed out. Building consistency into every aspect of my life is still a challenge, but knowing that I can and appreciating what I do helps.
Interesting enough most are easy with building consistency with habits and routines that are not truly supportive of a balanced and harmonious life but instead very ingrained coping mechanisms. To build consistency with loving and healthy behaviours often needs a deliberate choice and then developing a momentum that at times requires a loving discipline in the beginning. The same science at work with different quality.
There is a beautiful science in developing consistency; it has a certain quality that starts to feed into and unfold in every aspect of our life once we initiate it – the power that lives in seemingly the tiny things.
I have noticed through my consistency i have been able to appreciate myself more as, as i build a true foundation and rhythm in my daily life.
Simplicity and consistency can not be overrated. To me it takes away all the noise, confusion, complication and once again everything drops into a rhythm that sustains the next step in building more consistency in other areas of my life.
“By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.” This has made me see life in a different way, its no longer about self,its about everyone. So appreciating all the little things i can see the changes around me in everything.
Building a loving supportive foundation in the everyday moments becomes a part of life. Then when something is contrary to this in our own choice or external situation it stands out very clearly.
Consistency is something I value deeply. It has formed foundations that I can rely on whatever happens in my day and allows me to see little warning signs if I drop the consistency in a particular area.
This sets an end to all excuses not to appreciate oneself. Everybody has one little thing that he or she does with consistency. And truly observing everybody would be able to nominate the deep impact this has.
I love the wisdom of Simone Benhayon’s when she ‘suggested to choose one thing to do and choose it consistently,words’ It is both simple and practical, when we appreciate the effects of being consistent in one area we are naturally inspired to expand into others.
Like today when pressure to not be late almost found me leaving my kitchen untidy with unwashed dishes. My foundation of consistency meant I could not leave the house until it was done. When I returned home hours later I truly appreciated how much the love I put in to cleaning the kitchen before I left home made my return so much more supportive and inspired me to begin preparing the evening meal.
This is awesome, Denise. While reading it I thought of how even the widest and most powerful river starts out as an unassuming trickle of water somewhere up in a mountain. Looking at it you would not think that that drip of water would have the power to carve out a canyon, and yet it does.
I love how you bring appreciation into the equation, how exponentially more there is of anything just by the simple ritual of appreciation, as with appreciation we actually get to understand and see how much ‘good’, how much grandness there is that we are and bring.
What I take from your blog is that we actually enjoy doing things consistently that bring support to our lives, it is something that our bodies enjoy as it feels very natural to them and is a rhythm they naturally live by.
’When Simone Benhayon suggested to choose one thing to do and choose it consistently, I had no idea that it would have such an impact on my whole life.’ Amazing – goes to show that true power lies in keeping things simple.
’I now know in my body, what it feels like to build consistency.’ – I have noticed that with a focus on consistency in any area of my life, my body starts to respond in a confirming way, it eases the tension that otherwise may be at play and allows the body to relax and be still even when in motion.
A great ‘stop’ for me to read this. I too have not really appreciated how consistency in the small things has been building into me being more consistent and having greater capacity in the seemingly bigger choices in life. It exposes for me how there is not such thing as a small or large choice. Every choice is equally as important as the last, and it is our consistency with the loving ones that will support us in every aspect of life.
Thank you Denise for sharing this. While reading this I thought about all the little parts of my life I am consistent in. A few years ago I would say I was consistent but in a negative and self-abusive way. I now have a marker of making consistently loving choices and it has changed my life with no big bang or fanfare. It really brings home the fact that ill behaviours don’t go away when we focus on them but when I focus on the little, consistent loving choices.
Building your consistency with a simple thing as folding your face washer shows us that every detail counts and that everything is w equally important. Since I know this I pay more attention to details and I have noticed how it asks a level of responsibility that I did not live before.
I recognise this Denise, when I have chosen a certain ritual and I want to skip it my body calls me back very loudly to keep on going in the same rhythm there normally is. This brings me back to my quality in which I choose to do things, with delicate attention and love.
This shows that everything matters whether we do it consciously or not. How many things do we do during the day that we are not even aware of but that are quietly building a foundation we stand on day in day out? So they might be as well little rituals that I am aware of and ‘actively’ go about so the foundation I am building is one of a steady and solid support. Thank you Denise for bringing the importance of the ‘little’ things in life to the fore that build the foundation for anything ‘big’ in life.
Simone Benhayon is one person I know who absolutely speaks what she knows and consistency is one thing she has supported many people with.
‘They’ say “it’s the little things that count” and your blog demonstrates this, Denise.
Consistency establishes a steady foundation of commitment.
“Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.” It’s true Denise that words of appreciation are not it, unless we truly feel them and let them arise from the body with the feeling.
I have also seen the benefits of consistency and how that then feeds me back. My body loves it!
Very powerful Denise, in all it’s simplicity:)
How important is appreciation? I can never be reminded enough of it’s importance in every tiny little detail, which really aren’t tiny at all.
Consistency supports true change – and it can start from the smallest of gestures. It is brilliant to start with the things we do each and every day – in doing so we make our foundations the new normal – which can then extend to other areas of our lives. Consistency is an absolute gift 🙂
Consistency – it can be such a small, yet so profound thing to consistently do one thing every day without fail. I know for me there are a few things in my day I can’t miss doing, and because I have built this relationship with them it has supported other areas. Whilst there are many things I need to work on when it comes to consistency, I know it is possible because I have done it before.
Thanks Denise for writing about the importance of building consistency which is a very important one , and as you say it can start with the smallest of things .As we build more consistency we can also become more confident ,which allows us to become better at making clear choices and decisions . Consistency gives me a solid foundation for the rest or everything else to come from.
Consistency in a true movement is the key to a beautiful, solid foundation we can build so much on.
Your blog Denise has made me very much want to ponder on the small, simple but very significant areas of my life that I have committed to and how these support with the bigger picture, or to look at another area that I can commit to and build on. You have really inspired me. You have shared that evolution doesn’t have to be painful, hard, or tricky with resistance, but easy, natural, super simple and joyful. Beautiful.
Taking a moment to appreciate is one of the best things we can do, that moment of appreciation allows me to clear away all the doubt and the weight I can let hang from my shoulders.
Very cool blog! “Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.” I love how you share how one commitment to something small each day has had the ripple effect of expanding love in every facet of your life and that without you almost noticing a new foundation has been built from which to live life. Gorgeous.
I have done the same with drinking a glass of water. It works really, really well and is very simple.
Such a wonderful example that it is about the quality of the choices we make – and how glorious that just choosing something small that we know is in the energy of love and care slowly but surely pulls the other areas to the same quality.
As someone else has shared — God is in the detail, in the smallest thing and when we honour this the bigger things in life can be held in the same quality.
A foundation of consistency in something is so powerful, I am with you Denise, it is something I had no idea about until I went on a similar program. It not only highlighted where my inconsistencies lay within the program itself, but how this translated to so many other aspects of my life too. Very simple, and very profound, I agree.
Denise, there is such a gentle quality in the way you share your appreciation of the consistency you have built in your life, through your simple, loving choice. I can feel the foundation this has built for you and can also confirm loving choices that are becoming more consistent in my day, which will now be appreciated more fully.
An area of my life where I have been building consistency is through appreciation which is now becoming a part of my rhthym that I love as I can feel how much it supports me to get out of my head and back into my body even when I think there is very little around me to appreciate.
What you have shared here, Denise is very inspiring. Its about paying attention to all the little details in our lives and appreciating how these support us in our daily living.
I love how the areas of my life where I have a consistent rhythm support me to stay steady and how supportive they are to bringing me back to me when I’m feeling a little off.
I could read this blog all day as it describes so much about the rhythm of consistency and how it is natural to be consistent. Making constant choices of course is a part of consistency and the refinement process becomes amazingly enjoyable.
You have got me thinking, which one little thing around my house can I do consistently everyday that will build a quality of consistency throughout my home. It feels to me that the very practical aspect of the choice you made to very consciously fold your face clothes with love, precision and consistency would be a huge support to me. It feels like I still rush to get chores done and although this is not all the time I can feel that the constant rhythm of something practical however small would be a huge support. I feel folding my dishcloth at the kitchen sink will be where I will begin and I can feel already the enormity of what will unfold as it feels like the key to many of my frustrations.
Absolutely amazing blog Denise! “Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.” I really loved this, its how I feel when we are making choices which are super supportive and the magic of life stitches us from one thing to the next, much like a delicate spiderweb, and without trying to achieve something that “looks good” at the end a masterpiece is created and every step is joyfully taken.
Simone Benhayon has also taught me the power and beauty of the consistency in the little details and the importance of this in ones whole life and it is beautiful to look back and appreciate the foundation of this. Thank you Denise for sharing this.
This is magic. From folding the face washer to true appreciation and unfoldment. Love it.
I love this Denise. Such a simple thing but such an enormous effect.
It is gorgeous how the preciseness of the little details makes an incredible difference, Denise. When I smooth out my bed in the morning, I am lovingly preparing a place for me to return to in the evening and can feel it when I snuggle in the sheets at night. We build our consistency with all the tiny details, they really do matter.
Thank you Denise. Your blog makes it really clear to me that we often miss the beauty we are because we are simply not paying attention to it, confirming it and appreciating it. Appreciation is as crucial as commitment when it comes to consistency because we won’t be committed to the quality we do things in if we do not appreciate the way that our unique expression provides support for ourselves and others.
This thing about consistency is huge, I was never consistent with anything, other than being inconsistent…I would call my self spontaneous, I did not like to plan too much or make preparation for the next day, I would leave things where I felt like it and I would not complete or maintain a regular rhythm because I thought it was boring. Yes, I told myself all of this blah blah, but you know what, I love consistency, order and a supportive rhythm and I have building it and supporting myself with it for some years now and it has changed my life. You will quite often hear me say that our gold is hidden in the opposite of how we live, as in our issues and our moans and groans thinly veil our true power, light and shine. My lack of consistency, hid my natural strength for order, and precious, who would have known….I feel more me now and there is always more to unveil.
Every true movement of consistency builds strength and solidness in the body, allowing no room for doubting thoughts.
Denise, I love what you are sharing here, ‘ By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.’ I have been realising recently how important it is to appreciate the changes I have made in my life, before bed I have started writing what I appreciate about myself and to note all of the changes, this feels very confirming and makes me realise how much I have changed and how much care and love and presence there is in my day.
In terms of people and relationships, being consistent with people builds trust and this is something many people have given up on doing in this world. Many people are guarded and on edge, not being themselves – to meet another you fully trust and to allow yourself to be yourself. To surrender and let people in is a truly magical experience and it confirms it is more than okay to be who we are. We don’t need to guard or protect ourselves and with that know there are people who do truly care and love in this world.
Thank you for sharing Denise, quite often we can see the little things as being a waste of time but clearly what you have shown us is how powerful consistency is.
Appreciation is a huge subject that is often neglected and how you are describing your developing awareness of it is very supportive. I feel that committing to one thing and being consistent with it, does build appreciation. I can feel that I have built appreciation within my body, but I do not always express it and confirm it, although there is a lived quality to it. I am practicing to express it more.
I feel like this about completing tasks, acton etc before moving on to the next. I feel like each is a choice and part of my rhythm and when I bypass or rush over something, or attempt to leave it the whole flow of my day changes. An example would be, the door bell rings while I am drying up and I shove the tea towel somewhere instead allowing space to place it back where it belongs. Why is there rush there? It is not necessary, we can make space around us and within us by completing each moment, choice, task and then moving on to the next. And this doesn’t mean slow motion, it means being present and aware of our movements.
I can so relate to this Denise – being consistent in one thing every day can be a HUGE support, and it provides a great opportunity to appreciate that thing about our lives which can lead on to developing more appreciation and deepening the relationship we have with ourselves.
So inspiring to read how one small daily commitment to consistency has resulted in so much change. Thankyou Denise.
“By appreciating all the little things that have changed in my life, I get to see the bigger picture of life more clearly.” As my Granny used to say – in a different context – ‘look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves’!
Denise what a great example of the power of consistency. I too had not appreciated that extent of the fact one thing has filtered through your life even though Simone has also shared many times the importance of consistency. It is also a lovely reminder to look at the little things that I do each day, the things I do lovingly and consistently and get a sense of the ripple effect. I feel I miss appreciating many things.
Your blog Denise amplifies the power of simplicity, how by choosing just one simple thing to commit to every day empowers us to connect to and embody a much greater quality than we can at the time fully appreciate. A golden tip on how to simply deepen the relationship we have with our body and all we do on a daily basis and a true celebration of Simone Benhayon’s simple, loving wisdom that inspires and supports thousands of people to build a dependable loving consistency that flows throughout our lives.
Denise, that is awesome and goes to show how something so small but done consistently can have such a dramatic effect on our lives. It also shows how everything we do effects everything else that we do and how even the smallest thing has knock on effects.
My job takes me out in the world, mixing with all sorts of people in all different countries. It is when I am with these people, or travelling, or whatever that I really get to appreciate the changes that I have been inspired to make by Universal Medicine (and Simone Benhayon). What I need to do though is appreciate them daily – even within the confines of my home where it is all too easy to take these miracles for granted. Because appreciation is one of my greatest medicines.
By just making one choice and making it consistently every day who would have thought what a large impact this would have on the rest of your life. ‘Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.’ Your example shows just how clearly this works.
I just love this line, Denise – “Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.” It describes so perfectly how developing one simple area of consistency can have an enormous knock on effect. Every moment and little detail can be super powerful when we bring a commitment to the quality in which we live.
Building consistency is brilliant. So is consistently appreciating that consistency!
Building consistency is building relationship with oneself.
A beautifully simple example of the joys and benefits of consistency and presence in all our daily task, thank you Denise for sharing your experiences and your wisdom.
The key is to embody the quality the daily ritual confirms and move in that quality thereafter. This helps to expand the realm, the weight and the presence of that quality in our lives.
Having a daily ritual that helps us to confirm and deepen a quality we know to be true has to be immensely appreciated.
Sometimes it is easy to overlook all the changes that have occurred by committing to small tasks, but the appreciation is definitely the key, I really appreciate that most of the time I fold the dish cloth and put it on the taps instead of just throwing it in the sink to get smelly and if I slip up and don’t do it I know straight away and do it next time. This does effect everything like how I put stuff back in my van as it is constantly practicing conscious presence.
Having established this in my life, I pick up very quickly when something slips… just leaving the wardrobe doors open, or not making the bed etc just reflect back being a bit rushed, or overwhelmed. That gives me pause and I get an opportunity to make a different choice. Its a huge support.
Becoming consistent in something that brings us not just back to ourselves but to truth helps us to build movement and momentum.
Committing to something and being consistent with it, day after day, turns that into part of our lives, a part that lives and grows with us.
“Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.” And I smile, too.
I totally relate to how in the past it has felt like words to appreciate myself or what I have chosen but behind that it was empty and there wasn’t a really understanding how much it my choices have been supporting me to be All of who I am. So when you do start to really feel how much each choice does have a huge impact on the whole you can’t but smile from the inside out. Thanks for sharing, its a great reminder on how not to dismiss even the smallest of smallest things because this too has a massive impact on the whole.
What I have found is that consistency builds trust with ourselves, trust with our bodies. Like you Denise, I’ve found that committing to things regularly as part of my day or week builds a foundation within me, and from there it extends to other things. With consistency there’s a flow to life, a harmony. I used to think of consistency and routine as boring, and resisted it for a long time. But I can feel the difference that it makes, and how it supports me to stay steady and solid – and how I then bring those qualities into what I’m doing or where I go.
Denise, this is a great reminder to appreciate more the consistency I have built in my home and with myself.
It is almost like when we commit to doing one thing consistently we feel more confident in ourselves that we can change unloving patterns and behaviors into supportive ones in all areas of our lives. This is really beautiful and I love the simplicity in it.
An oak tree grows from a single seed. You have expressed what happens what grows from a simple action. Over a period it just becomes stronger to withstand whatever comes it way.
Rushing through folding up the laundry for example or other everyday things to get to the better parts of life is so missing the point as the rush will leave a horrible feeling within our body, whereas if we put the love into each detail and stay present with ourselves, the body can relax and that feels so different.
I can see from your blog that when I look for stimulation, for the next exciting thing in my life I truly miss out on the joy there is in the simplicity of life.
I love folding my pj’s lovingly and with presence knowing that the loving imprint I leave in the morning, is what greets me when I pick them up and put on my pj’s in the evening.
What I feel when I read your blog is humbleness – to feel the power of simplicity is truly humbling.
It’s a true blessing how powerful simplicity and consistency are. Really the answer to all the complication etc on earth I feel lays in simplicity.
My body loves consistency, with consistency comes order and clarity, thus I can hear so clearly what my body is communicating, and the more I listen, the more it has to tell me.
Mine too. Consistency, rhythm and simplicity.
Divinity is in the details Denise – what a beautiful example!
I agree, the details are divine, I use to ignore the details and I felt an unease and anxiety in my daily life. Committing to the details more and being aware of consistency has deeply enriched and supported all areas of my life. And yes I feel connected with God and my expression of divinity through committing to be aware of the details.
Yes gorgeous. It’s amazing how just one true change applied lovingly and consistently so ripples and expands throughout our lives to other areas. A brilliant yet so simple sharing. Once again simplicity has proved to be so grand.
From ‘one little thing’ to appreciating you is HUGE.
Denise I know exactly what you are meaning and it is for me very confirming to read these words: “Once I make a choice to do something – like lovingly folding my PJ’s and putting them under my pillow each morning, or folding the dishcloth to wipe the bench – there is such a strong pull to do it every day, that if I choose to override what I feel to do, my body speaks loudly, giving me the opportunity to make a different choice.” The power of commitment, consistency and appreciation is so much underestimated – thank you so much for not holding back and sharing your experience with it.
Applying a consistent routine in our temporal, everyday activity, offers us a goldmine, doesn’t it Denise… That ‘one thing’ once mastered and yes, absolutely appreciated, offers us the opportunity and indeed the foundation for the next (or perhaps a whole series of ‘next’). Undoubtedly, it feels great and totally natural – the question is, why have we resisted it so?
Appreciation of ourselves is huge. The more I recognise its value and place in my relationship with myself, consistency is simply ‘normal’. By no means is my life perfect, but today I truly get the sense that if I had have held myself in full regard and ‘wow’ for all that I am from the start, I wouldn’t be living with the complications and inconsistencies I find myself gradually dismantling today…
So true Denise, I also experience that being consistent in adhering to the inner impulses of my body eventually resulted in the appreciation of that consistency I live. This appreciation was not there in the beginning but emerged from understanding and acknowledging what this consistency brings to me every day again. It is like building a foundation of truth that resonates in full with my body and therefore supports me in all that I am and do.
Learning to love and appreciate consistency is such a paradigm shift out of the resentment that the use of this word usually conjures up.
The beautiful thing about consistency that i love Denise, is that it gives (and has given me) a real sense of confidence, and also develops trust in oneself. That same trust then gets trusted by others and builds relationship and connection with people – because we trust a trusted person. So cool.
Denise I also started (and continue) the one-thing a day, and there is not a day that goes by that i have missed doing it, I just cannot miss it (!) or if i have due to being on a flight, then as soon as I get to destination I do the one-thing (stretch my body) Reflecting back now on this as you have in regards the ‘what else’ aspect, i’m really feeling now that it was the consistency of my daily body-connection that opened the door to further body connection through the joy and love Esoteric Yoga and the presence of stillness, which is now a regular feature in my life that was not before present. The absence of stillness is like missing my day’s body stretch. It feels really off when the two aren’t there.
It is true that the little things are huge, really there is no little or big and everything matters.
One of the meanings of the word appreciate is to increase so that makes a lot of sense!
Thank you for sharing, Denise. Beautiful. A great reminder that even ‘one thing’ is never isolated from the rest, and will always have a ripple effect.
I absolutely love this sharing Denise…”telling myself for a long time that appreciation is the key, but I was not really appreciating me, it was just words. Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside…” What a huge shift to happen all from consistency. Its like starting off in first gear, by learning to be consistent, and then quite steadily, you’re driving in 5th or 6th gear, absolutely loving and appreciating yourself. It may start out as just ‘words’ but being consistent in the many small things does assist one to embody this grand beautiful appreciation of ourselves. Thank you for sharing!
Beautiful sharing Denise, so inspiringly simple but makes a huge difference in life. I love your words” By appreciating this consistency I have been building, I get to feel and appreciate me”
Denise, you pass on so much magic in this blog by sharing how powerful one simple consistent thing can be. Starting with a simple task, there is a beauty how the dedicated ritual supported you to be especially present and aware of the care, quality and integrity you brought to this one thing, and how it expanded to other activities and to true bodily appreciation – magic for sure.
I love the power of something so simple and the ripple effect this has had on your life. It just goes to show you cannot underestimate the magnitude of a seemingly small choice to do something loving for yourself and appreciating yourself for having chosen that.
Every seemingly small detail is truly significance in the bigger picture. There is power in the quality of our every movement, as they add to the sea of energy we are all swimming in. Our choices are affecting all of us.
When there is a quality of consistency in our behaviours the body loves it, it is very nurturing and supportive to the natural rhythm and order. Like nature itself we learn to trust and can rely on consistency, just like we know the sun will rise and set each day.
Simplicity of life is found in the fine details of our everyday and the flow on effect this has on all areas of our lives is much to appreciate. Thank you Denise.
Wise advice Denise, the small things we do compound into bigger things
Appreciation is a magic ingredient, that element that makes everything more joyful…
I love the simple practicality of your example Denise. It could be easily overlooked as nothing special in and of itself, but it is the quality of consistency that truly is the foundation that every thing else in life is built upon.
Hello Denise and great blog in many areas. The art and power of appreciation can’t be denied. Just when you think you have it nailed you see another place or level you can take it. Things aren’t as they appear in life on any level and as your blog is saying we are the creators of this.
It’s interesting isn’t it how every area of our life is connected and how making a change in one area and building on it every day then affects other areas.
This, I feel, is the answer to changing our lifestyle, as often we can give up because it feels too much; whereas focusing on one area to change – consistently – is definitely the key.
When we do something consistently and with intention, there is a certain feeling that our body gets used to and so I can understand Denise why your body would speak so loudly.
I have learnt about consistency too from Simone Benhayon. One of the things that I do every night is clean my toilet bowl. On the rare occasion that this is not done, I know that there is something wrong and that I am out of sorts. I then look back at my life and see where I have not been consistent which has lead to me to drop the ball.
Denise, you’ve really helped me understand a whole new level of how doing that one thing consistently changes everything, as you say, there is a pull to do it and your body feels when you don’t, it’s like there’s a gap in the day if it’s not done, and there’s something in how you describe this which allows me to have a whole new appreciation of those little things that you speak of and how they impact, there’s a solidity that is lived that we know deep in us and it’s an anchor for the rest of our lives. So thank you for your sharing, you’ve allowed me to understand and feel what it is to be consistent and how I’ve been living and building this on a daily basis.
What I find so amazing about this blog, is the fact that Simone Benhayon can say some thing so simple and profound that even four years later, the depths of it is still being explored.
Thankyou Denise, you have inspired me to become aware of all the ways I am consistent, and to appreciate those.
Thank you Denise. It is still easy for me to count all the places that I have not yet chosen consistency instead of appreciating all the ways in which I have chosen it. Your article brought awareness as to how one thing leads to another. I’ll be observing my daily rhythm in a new way after reading this.
It’s amazing the difference seemingly small choices can have and the ripple effect out into all other areas of our life.
I love consistency and really value this quality. It builds trust and love and offers a very and firm foundation. I see consistency like rock, standing solid and unwavering.
Developing consistency is a stepping stone towards heaven.
Building Consistency is by far the most solid means in which to develop a foundation that support us, from folding a face washer to extra blankets on the bed each night. Everything counts and the body clocks this all giving us a reminder that it is appreciated and asks us to bring more self care to our body.
Foundations are super important, and yet they are what a fast-paced and modern living ignores as we are only concerned about fast results. So how we live today generally only has the exterior but is not supported with weight and substance.
Consistency is powerful. It teaches patience and the empowerment of taking life step by step (there are no short cuts), because every movement builds onto the next and that is how a foundation is laid.
Our bodies know and respond hugely to a supportive and consistent rhythm. Its like trust is built and it can be relied upon to support us deeply should things get out of rhythm. Kind of like a rubber band which can be stretched in all directions but always returns to its known and relaxed state/shape.
It’s so great to regularly clock those seemingly little things that we choose to do for ourselves that hold true quality and value, as we can easily dismiss them and miss the opportunity to confirm ourselves back through them.
Denise, this is a beautiful and profound piece you have written. The magic of consistency, especially to the finest detail of one small thing, and the key, which I had in the past overlooked, is appreciating. Thank you.
It was lovely to read about how consistently folding the face washer, naturally led to more care and attention to detail in other parts of your life. It’s amazing how this happens with out trying when we establish commitment to self and consistency. It is amazing how our body pulls us to do these things once it is used to having this as a consistent way of being.
Choosing the one thing to be consistent with reminds of the development of presence in the body. You have to start with a strong foundation, of being aware of one part of your body, like your breath or your hands. Then as this foundation builds, like dominos you naturally include more parts of the body and then the quality of your being. The basics of the foundation are always needed, as you never out grow it or move onto something more advanced. You simply keep building and without a strong foundation this isn’t possible.
Doing one thing a day for our self feels quite beautiful to me. So many of us focus on ticking boxes or getting through our days and forget about ourselves. The things we do for ourselves like ‘TV time’ are often not rejuvenating at all. Whereas a simple act like folding a face washer, says that you care about yourself, care about the way you do things and is like a rock that will always be there no matter what else is going on. This steadiness and consistency that only we can develop for ourselves, is something that will support and steady us in life.
I also remember being presented with the idea of committing to one thing a day that you do for yourself, with presence. The simplicity of this program may have allowed some to undervalue it, as I find we often do undervalue the simple things in life. Even though this program of committing to one thing sounded easy, I can recall how quickly people had problems with it. There were days where people ‘forgot’ to do it, or were too busy, or did it in a rush etc. This made me realise how difficult we find commitment and how tricky we are at avoiding it. That was part of the beauty of this project, that it was so simple there weren’t any good reasons why it shouldn’t happen and allowed us to see where and how we let lack of commitment slip into our life.
Thank you Denise for your confirming words for me, There is one thing that I am consistent in every day after reading your blog I realise that there are other things that I am doing consistently also, it is time for more appreciation. ” Now when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.”
Consistency is such an amazing thing to build in our life – once planted, it grows and spreads into every corner if we allow it – I have committed every day to one thing, and that unwavering commitment has supported more than words can say to grow as a person and become solid and steady in life.
I love the idea of choosing one thing and committing to doing it every day. As I reflect on myself, I can appreciate supportive changes that I have made in my life. At times I can be hard on myself for not committing, but I haven’t brought enough appreciation to what is already there.
This is beautiful Denise, this is living proof how even one seemingly small movement can affect the bigger picture. Consistent movements build a foundation that when nurtured become a way of life that is truly supportive.
Consistency feeds us back a self worth that is undeniable.
What a beautiful and practical blog. There is power in appreciation and it needs to be in the so-called ‘little’ things. Thank you Denise.
Beautiful, Denise, it is amazing how you have come to appreciate how much has changed in your life since you started so simply, with the choice to fold your face washer consistently in the same way each time you used it. This is an example of how easy it can be for us to change the whole way that we live through making these quite simple changes, but doing it consistently. How lovely it is for you to realise and truly appreciate how much your life has changed through concentrating on consistency. You have inspired me to also single out one small task to concentrate on doing lovingly each day and build on this consistently.
When somebody asked me about the impact of that one thing that I had chosen to do consistently for 20 months now, I couldn’t stop talking! At some point I had to stop, because time ran out. I could have gone on expressing the vast impact it had. How much more of me it brought into my life…!!
‘Building Consistency’ is simply commitment to being open to saying yes to evolution, once one door opens it leads to the next.
Yes Denise much has changed and it’s to in the small details I have committed to that have been the foundation in commitment that have shifted the direction of my life. That’s huge and to be deeply appreciated.
In the past we were looking ahead to the end results for our rewards, now I realise how that lacked connection to each movement and detail, which I now realise is fundamental to building consistency, presence and appreciation in every moment.
Just a few days ago I reflected on hearing Simone Benhayon say this. Thank you for bringing the awareness of appreciation to this because in it’s simple way it has been life changing. It is appreciating the depth and quality of our own self worth that we stay connected to the detail of the little things. As you say this thread flows through every part of our living way.
I love sharings like this- I can remember Simone sharing this and in reading your blog it inspires me to come back to this as I can feel the potential of what it offers and the quality and consistency it can support me to build.
I too have been inspired by Simone to choose one thing to be consistent with. Before I knew it, consistency was creeping into other areas of my life without any great effort. Being consistent with the small things has helped me develop consistency with the bigger things.
Denise, there is a poetry to the way you write. Look forward to hearing more from you.
This is great, consistency is supporting us to be all that we are. it is a great tool to feel ourselves, and know that that is what we are all about, living life with a consistent quality.
I love this blog Denise, it is a great point you make. I thank you, as reading your blog got me to appreciate all the little things that I hadn’t noticed that have become my way of being just from committing to folding things carefully, whatever they are. In our household we even fold the recycled plastic bags. In fact when nothing escapes a good folding everything feels very taken care of.
Denise this is a very powerful blog. We can sometimes think that making change has to be something big. I love the simple example you have given and it just goes to show how making small changes can have a big ripple effect.
Denise this is beautiful, how bringing consistency into something small, had a ripple effect in other area of your life without you having to do anything directly. I too have noticed this in my life, my one thing was how i prepare myself for bed with using my eye mask or eye pillow. This consistency brought consistency in other areas of my life.
The way you describe appreciation Denise, it feels very physical and tangible, like the warmth of the sun, radiating and touching everyone. It’s a vibration that which when we embody, everything we say comes with that quality. Long may we all walk and talk, move and groove, tuned in to appreciation FM for this frequency has a beautiful consistency.
A simple commitment to consistency and holding a presence and a quality constantly in one activity is actually a commitment to loving ourselves and letting this constantly expand. It’s a commitment to our relationship with God in every detail.
Thank you Denise. This has made me stop and appreciate what has changed in my life since adopting this same approach. The quality in which I do things has also changed as I am more focused and with myself when I do them. It’s like when we begin to care about one little thing we find ourselves starting to care about others.
Powerful Denise – you say ‘I realised how this tiny little thing that I had chosen to do every day was actually quietly and consistently building with each choice that I made.’ – Imagine the changes it would make to the world if we all understood the significance of concistency.
Bring consistency into your life for me in the past has seemed all too much but what you share I too experienced with Simone, choose just one thing and be consistent with it. Never in a million years would you think that this would have any impact on the way you live and feel in life. It soon does have ginormous impact and it certainly does support you do do this in other area’s of your life.
Denise this is beautiful to read and I can feel how important it is to appreciate ourselves. There are many things that I do everyday that deserve appreciation, such as waking early and choosing to be present, and starting my day in a calm steady way and how this really supports the rest of my day and the people that I meet (and myself) to choose to be understanding of others. I can often just take these choices for granted rather than appreciate how loving they are. I agree appreciation is the key.
Beautiful Denise. What a great sharing and how special it is that the little details consistently makes so much difference to ones life, ones foundation and the appreciation of this is also such a gift to treasure.Thank you
If we choose it, as I have been reminded lately, that this same power of consistency is equally reflected by our breath, an exquisitely simple movement that confirms truth.
“Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside.” This is profoundly beautiful Denise – a quilt of consistency.
So often when we choose to make goals, we take on too much & become over ambitious, setting ourselves up to fall. What i love about what you have shared here is that you have given yourself such a simple marker, a small detail, so easily overlooked, a ritual that we would never consider could have the power to alter the way we live.
Consistency is a pearl that Simone Benhayon surely lives by, I can concur with all you have shared with us Denise, the steadiness this delivers is supremely powerful.
Regardless of the endless drama and complication that plays out in the world we have created, the rising sun greets us in all its glory at the beginning of each day – a symbol of nature’s majesty and the inherent simplicity of God’s lived consistency. A forever reminder that ‘consistency is the key’.
‘Consistency is the key’. Reminds me of playing football as a kid and doing drills over and over and over. It was my mantra. But consistency doesn’t always have to be about bettering ourselves in the physical sense, making ourselves faster, smarter, stronger. To share how consistency helps us to return to Love…well that’s a beautiful ‘drill’.
Every movement matters, being it folding a face washer, driving a car, delivering a presentation, the way we eat, the way we move, it all matters. This is because we either move in and with the love we are, or we move against it. As such our every move either has a healing or a harming effect on everyone and everything that surrounds us. Re-learning how to move with integrity so that we are not adding to the harm in the world needs to be a steady process so that we do not get overwhelmed by the task at hand and give up. This is what is great about your example Denise, because it shows the simple profundity that is at play in our everyday life. It may begin with folding a face washer but if that movement is made with absolute truth, honour and integrity as well as love, then it lays the stone for more such movements to follow it. This is how we re-turn back to the love that we are and re-learn how to walk with truth instead of against it.
“I had been judging myself because I had not consciously picked other things to build on.”
Its amazing how good we are at picking on ourselves, rather than opening our eyes to the real magic that occurs within the rhythm of our day.
Feeling and appreciating me is so important- I wish i had of grown up understanding this, instead of always needing to get it from others.
There is no such thing as anything ‘little’.
its incredible how the so called smallest things can make a big difference.
Absolutely, enough grains of sand and you have a beach.
Doing and building on these small things creates an order in our lives that allows for a flow to take place and it can be easy to overlook the appreciation once these things have been in place for a while however it’s worth stopping and checking in regularly and appreciating the seemingly little choices we make.
Making the changes that I may have made on their own is not the answer for me. It is only when I appreciate them in full that the magic really happens. That is something that I am consistently having to remind myself to do. But boy-oh-boy does it work. Choose, commit, appreciate, choose, commit, appreciate…..
Love it Otto, so simple but true, there always has to be a choice that we commit to and then when we fully appreciate our choice magic happens
Ha. Thanks for the Reader’s Digest version of Denise’s article. Choose, commit, appreciate. My new mantra.
I was pondering on what comes first, consistency or presence. When I am consistent it supports me to be present and when I am present it supports me to be consistent, so really it is a very spherical relationship always building one from and on the other.
Oh yes, love this blog! We do often give more focus to the big things in life as if they are more important than all the little things. But the fact of the matter is that a building is built on the smallest of foundations, the tallest mountain is made from the smallest grains of soil and the widest beach is made from the tiniest grains of sand. The quality of the greater is always built from the foundations of the smaller.
This gorgeous blog prompts me to reflect on those things that I do consistently but as yet have not appreciated that they contribute to the whole of my rhythm. Thank-you for this timely reminder.
So true Denise,I know through consistently writing comments every day for a couple of years that this has supported me to be consistent in other areas of my life.
Hear! Hear! Support and an incredible tool for healing issues that comes from being open to reading these blogs and writing comments!
Awesome – I’ve only just started commenting but haven’t yet made it a daily practice. Time to step up my consistency! 🙂
Building consistency develops appreciation..
And consistency is first a choice above all. We choose that commitment to ourselves. Yes, truly worth appreciating!
Denise thank-you for this exquisite reminder of the power in appreciation, it truly is one of our greatest medicines.
What ever Simone Benhayon suggests as a program is gold, you do it and your life transforms.
Totally agree Mary-louise, Simone Benhayon shares great wisdom which time and time again brings profound change.
Super-simple exercise. What an unfolding on what building consistency is with a loving gesture that meets you back in that. It makes sense to appreciate and confirm it in the body by actually feeling yourself doing it. A solid reminder for me to do the same.
Thanks Denise – your sharing reflects how simple it can be to act on the love we have for ourselves and how it re-connects us to what is true. I love your comment – ‘Now my life flows, just like a thread that has been quietly stitching my life together on the inside’.
Learning to be consistent has been fundamental to me being able to work at the capacity that I do now. Like you, Denise, I chose one thing to be consistent with and it changed everything.
Denise – a great look at the importance of the smallest details. We tend to overlook these but as you explore here – it is actually our foundations. The little things we do on a daily basis are exactly where we can introduce a solid consistency and really build on this.
Very true hvmorden – We often find it easy to appreciate the ‘big’ things but the littlest thing done consistently can be life changing as Denise’s story demonstrates.
This is exactly what true appreciation feels like to me – “when I feel appreciation it feels like my body is expanding with a smile on the inside. And it radiates all around me.” Appreciation really is the key to going to a greater level of truth and love within ourselves.
Love what your brought about how maintaining consistency is about appreciating the terms which they are enacted. Because without purpose how can it be maintained?
It is the little changes we make in our lives that add up to a more harmonious and consistent bigger picture and this is what you have shared, Denise. The second step is to appreciate the changes we are making and to not give ourselves a hard time for the times we may slip back. Every moment is an opportunity to be more.
Anne it is so true, every moment is an opportunity to be more. Im so glad I am learning that its all just about learning. We are flawless and awesome no matter what, that never is in question.
Fantastic post! It’s always the little things that count for the most.
Aishwarya on reading your comment ‘fantastic post! It’s always the little things that count for the most’, it really struck me how we are all so focused on the future and as a result the details that our lives are made up of get totally trampled. This is problematic for many reasons but not least because it is the detail that dictates the future. Our future is simply a reflection of the detail.
That’s very well put!
I agree – we tend to focus or distract ourselves with the big things, when really the everyday little things take care of everything else.
Denise,
Thank you, consistancy is the key. There is an aspect of my life that I have struggled with adjusting, (even though I can feel the change is needed) but on reading your sharing I can feel that it is as simple as making the change once, then to accept this change as a consistent choice I now make.
Denise, Wow thank you…just what the doctor ordered! The power in a dose of appreciation – ENORMOUS. Thank you for sharing and highlighting how essential appreciation is as we can so easily brush aside these so-called little things and over-ride or bludgeon ourselves with the other things we do not get done. It blows the lid right off what may seemingly be thought small – done consistently – is actually the BIG thing (the key ingredient) which truly makes a difference to all areas of our lives.
A moment of consistency is a powerful thing indeed. If I am consistently late, consistently annoyed, consistently in a rush etc then what a fantastic reflection I am being offered. Reflections only change when we choose something else, they are, of course, simply reflecting our choices back to us.
I agree, it is amazing Denise how by making a very simple choice to be consistant with one thing in your life on a daily basis, how much else can change as a result. It really is important to stop and appreciate how much has changed in our lives and how much more consistant we are in general having made such a choice, as speaking from my own experience I can be very dismissive about how much has changed for me and can spend too much time focussing on what Im still ‘not’ doing. Thankyou for bringing this to our attention once again.
This is a great blog. God is in the details as an architect once said.