Jealousy

The word ‘jealousy’ has been used to describe how we feel in relation to what another is doing. I am now coming to sense that the true feeling here is envy and so enviously is how I lived. Deeply and bitterly so, I was envious of what others did and had in their lives.

For example, envious of those who spent their days away from home working, that other people had better lives than I, better cars, bigger houses, more friends, even envious of how others could feel at ease whilst I felt constantly ill-at-ease. This list could go on for the whole page, but suffice it to say that I lived in a constant state of envy… it was never far from me.

Hiding very sneakily behind this envy was the true jealousy that I had not considered until recently: what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.

My focus was instead on fitting into the life that I had. In living this way I then compared my life to others, – the comparison coming because I could feel deep within that there was another way to live that fully supported myself, and in so doing, actually would have supported all the others in my life.

Yet I was not choosing to follow this inner, subtle, yet very loud guidance that was being offered to me. So, I held back on accepting, embracing and integrating into my life what I felt deep within.

Over the past couple of years I have been observing any moment that I felt jealous and have then considered why it is that I was jealous of that person in that moment. I have begun to explore what choices I have felt for myself that I had not fully claimed and integrated into my life, and then began to do so.

As I integrate my true choices into my days, slowly but steadfastly I am adjusting the way I live my life. One of the most significant choices that I have made is to accept only love in my life. This is a very personal choice that I am discovering doesn’t have anything to do with another, but is ever-present in how I personally care for myself. When I made this choice I immediately felt that what needed addressing more than anything else was how I held myself, how I thought about myself and how I treated myself.

The difference in my life in the past 10 months is vast. I feel my grace daily, there is an acceptance and love of others that I had not ever before considered was even possible, let alone now to be living. I love myself deeply and this grows every single day, at an amazing pace as I see everything in my life as God gently nudging me to take the next loving step.

I am not yet fully clear of feeling jealous of another and this is something that I am acutely aware of. No longer do I berate myself when I feel it, but instead surrender to the love that I have within and understand it. These moments are now stepping stones, taking me to an ever-deepening love and understanding of myself and others.

When I now feel jealousy coming from others there is this sense of knowing why each person is living like they are. With this understanding there is a sense of grace in my body that holds us both in the love that we naturally are. The feeling of grace is full and encompassing, steady and strong, offering a space for jealousy to be let go of and our true loving light to be set free.

It offers a moment in time for us both to surrender more deeply to our own love and to let go of the falseness that jealousy offers, to instead claim our true power and strength and leave us with a knowing in our bodies of the harm that jealousy brings, as well as the feeling of space and freedom that is felt once
this energy is seen for what it is.

I celebrate every day the difference in my life, and the joy I now feel in my days – none of which was possible until I made the choice to live by the very basic principle that lies at the base of that which Serge Benhayon presents, “to live the love that I am”.

Thank you Serge Benhayon for living the love that you are.

By Leigh Strack, Reception/Administration, Goonellabah Australia

Further Reading:
Jealousy
The Evil Effect of Jealousy
 How a Dog Taught Me About The Poison of Jealousy
A Life of Comparison

1,108 thoughts on “Jealousy

  1. The moment we compare ourselves with another we are setting ourselves up to find fault with us or them in someway. We are all great at some things and not so good at others. It would be crazy for example for me to be jealous of a musician who has spent their life mastering what they do whether it be song writing, singing etc.. or equally say a tennis star who has practised hours on end and for me having done none of either to expect to be equally as good – it is absurd really yet is something we can easily get caught up doing. Often we need to make things sound absurd to see the ridiculousness behind them.

  2. Yes, jealousy is truly coming from seeing another making true choices for themselves that we have not been willing to make for ourselves. Understanding this brings clarity for either if you are sensing you yourself are jealous or when you feel jealousy coming at you.

  3. Thank you Leigh – it is huge to note that building more love in your body was what has stopped the envy and jealousy you once felt. it is so important we get to the bottom of why we feel the way that we feel.

  4. Thanks, Leigh, for sharing this revelation – “what I was really jealous of was the choices that others had made to support themselves in the way they wanted to, something that I was not choosing for myself.” I have also found that by choosing to deepen the love I have for myself, I am not missing out on anything as I feel the love expanding within my own body.

  5. As a woman, I know what it is like to give and receive jealousy – and it does really affect me and others. This sharing is so powerful because it is you wanting to go there and understand what is behind jealousy and know that it is just us comparing without appreciating we are all making different choices.

  6. Jealousy is something that has to be constantly fed and developed, because with out all of that effort it would simply disappear.

    1. Very true, we get to see and feel all the choices we have made whether they were loving or not! And so now are where we are as a direct result of them, not as a punishment rather a form of learning. So if we see another has more or something we would like we can be inspired by the choices they have made and so can also make similar choices.

  7. Jealousy works best as a threat as it stops those who are targeted from being in their fullness as, the moment they express more love and truth they get attacked. However, this attack is ultimately empty.

  8. Appreciating all that we currently have and are is an important step in nullifying the force of jealousy, which focuses on what others have, without acknowledging what they have chosen to be where they are.

  9. Beautiful Leigh Strack, what a revelation, seeing and observing jalousy for what it is – makes it look rediculously small, which it is, and so we can actually love ourselves instead and be open to another instead of continuing this evil and attack that jalously causes, which is in truth not even a small bit of who we truly are.

  10. Envy is a game that helps us to confirm that we are not enough. Jealousy brings a different thing to the table: our true knowing of truth. We do not feel jealous of just about anybody, but of someone who has walked toward truth more than we had. Jealousy is directed towards them, but in truth is against ourselves.

  11. I’ve been noticing my jealousy recently and how horrible it’s felt but coming to an understanding that it’s there to remind me of the steps I can take to be more loving in how I am, starting with me, and to appreciate the steps I have taken. Having felt the poison of jealousy in my body and it’s impact on others asks for a deeper level of honesty and highlights that each of us taking the steps we feel in each moment, for to ignore those leaves the door wide open for jealousy to come in.

  12. This is great Leigh, and may I add that starting out with our Gentle Breath is still a “choice to live by the very basic principle that lies at the base of that which Serge Benhayon presents,” and when disconnected from our essence we can always return to our Gentle Breath as in the Gentle Breath Meditation!
    For more on the “Gentle Breath Meditation” go to;
    FREE GENTLE BREATH MEDITATION
    http://www.unimedliving.com/search?keyword=Free+Gentle+Breath+Meditation

  13. Like this jealousy can really let us see where we are at and, if we are willing, let go of attachments, ideals and beliefs and come back “to surrender more deeply to our own love” From here we can begin to live with ourselves and focus on the love that we are and not get pulled out by what we falsely consider to be more in someone else.

    1. Yes, it is very embarrassing and revealing when we notice ourselves being jealous and how much we have a choice to behave differently.

  14. It blew me away when Serge Benhayon presented, years ago, that jealousy was self fury. But, of course, it makes sense, its so simple! Hold back on yourself, leave others to lead, express etc. and you are constantly on the back foot trying to keep up and watching others through the eyes of comparison. But, be yourself , express when you are impulsed, be in the joy of who you naturally are, and everything is complete.

  15. I never considered how deeply damaging jealousy really is until I heard Serge Benhayon present about it. It is truly horrible to feel it and it ought to be considered equal if not worse that taking a sword to yourself and another.

    1. This is very true, but there must be the willingness to give ones self the grace to first of all, honestly feel it and secondly, steadily, consistently and lovingly eliminate from ones life the choice to allow it in our bodies. For with out this honest process jealously, comparison and envy in all its levels of intensity will continue to impregnate the sea of energy we live in.

  16. I agree that the true jealousy is about the choices that another person has made, not so much what they have. What they have chosen and the reflection they offer is infuriating to the part of us that is convinced that we can’t make those choices. Yet there is this person in front of us who has done it and often with ease. That feels like the rub to me and jealousy is a defence to not letting myself feel that.

    1. It is interesting that we look at others and perceive that they have chosen supposedly ‘with ease’ the choices they have made. But if we look a little deeper we may just feel that this supposed ease is a result of facing the very same, or similar demons that we come up against. So maybe there was not an ease for them, but aacceptance of and dedication to their inner love that has allowed them to drop away the demons and to again live their essence.

  17. I see people around me with many things that I don’t have as I didn’t have the awareness to choose like they did in the past. I adore the life I have now and focus on it. Whether I will have those things or not does not matter because there is no time to think about anything else but this moment. When I feel envious of anyone I have left myself and so I lovingly give myself an invisible hug and come back to the self-connection that no physical situation can give me.

  18. A gorgeous blog Leigh, learning to feel, understand and let go of the energy of jealousy is huge in allowing you to live the love that you are.

  19. Jealousy is an unnatural state that has left unity and brotherhood. Yet it is so ingrained that it is a great question to ask why. Why is it so normal that we berate each other for our potential evolutionary power and we buy into it? Why do we take with such lack of preciousness the relationship we have with evolution?

  20. Jealousy is one of the greatest handbrakes in living a true life. It stunts us completely and does not allow us to grow into the open and loving person that we can be. If we are willing to really look at it, it shows us the choices we have made to not evolve and where we have accepted less. Its a hard place to be willing to see and feel at times. But as you have shown here Leigh it is very possible to let go of jealousy through being honest, open and tender with ourselves. Then we are willing to see more of who we are not.

    1. And allow ourselves to take off all the handbrakes we have created in our minds and live the potential we have felt in full service to humanity and the ultimate evolution of all.

  21. When we observe a person acting from jealously it is easy to see and feel that they are regretting something about their own life and are in total self fury about it. This teaching was first presented by Universal Medicine and it really supports people to not take it personally when people are jealous of them because in truth it has nothing to do with another but everything to do with the person who is being jealous.

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