A Study on Commitment and Energy

Lately I have made an in-depth study on what commitment truly is. Last year somebody shared with me that they felt I was completely withdrawn from life – not committing to life in full.

At first I resisted: “Who me? I have started up several companies, been successful in my career, have many friends, I was on television, radio, wrote columns in newspapers. How can you call me withdrawn from life?” But in truth I was. It took some weeks to fully admit this unpleasant truth.

Several things had happened in my life when I was young, then one final big tipping point event a couple of years ago and with that, I made the choice to withdraw from life. I decided that life was too painful to be in so I believed it was better to withdraw from life, even with little money to support myself, rather than committing to life in full. It was not a clear conscious choice, but I can see now it was still a choice.

In light of this revelation I decided to study how commitment really works, and return to leading a fully committed life. I had discussions with people about it, sessions with Esoteric practitioners and read inspiring articles like Commitment to Self –Commitment to Life  and A True Commitment to Work, Getting a Job… and Life.

 From here I started to re-commit to life, starting with some simple, practical things. One of the seemingly simple exercises I did to support all this was going for a ten minute walk every day. I began with focussing only on feeling my hands and my feet as I walked as a way to support myself to develop conscious presence. I also found that really paying attention to how I felt in my body when talking with people supported me to stay connected to myself – which was not my usual way as I tended to focus my attention on the other person or people I was with, or just lose myself in the story I was telling.

Another thing – and there was quite a list – was when I was sitting behind a computer, was to not ‘disappear’ into the screen. Always feeling my body, whatever part that might be.

 Recently I had a realisation of another way of how commitment truly works. I had an awful day at work; actually and more correctly, I chose to have an awful day at work by choosing to not commit. I resisted the work that was there to do as I thought of it as boring and arrogantly considered myself too good for it. I did not work with 100% dedication and I secretly started sending out and answering private emails and doing personal things for myself.

What made it worse was that I still believed I delivered good results. Basically I thought I could get away with this – and indeed management did not notice – but in truth I couldn’t, not with the energy I was allowing to run my body, which was definitely not commitment or love. I became slow in my actions, my body felt heavy, and it did not stop when I left work.

 At the end of the day I felt powerless and somehow a bit stupid as well. I walked in an unstable way and felt light in my head. This was not how I normally would feel, or who I knew myself to be, and with this I knew I had let another energy affect my body.

Later on with the help of a true friend I realised deeply how commitment really works.

I realised that when I choose to not commit to life in full, it creates an opening for ‘negative’, that is, unloving energy to enter. But when I choose to commit to life in full, the energy I feel in my body is very different – it is loving, solid and light. Therefore it is my choice that can seal off openings for this unloving energy to enter. This case at work was very huge and clear. But it also works with seemingly small things like doing the dishes, answering emails and cooking.

When I don’t commit to every aspect of my life in full, I allow unloving energy to enter. For example, when I choose to not commit in doing the dishes, but I do them anyway because I have to do them, but now slower and with an indulgence, this contains the draining and unloving energy that is not supportive to true commitment.

Therefore all of the choices I make, the quality of energy I choose to do them in, and whether I am fully committed or not, has an impact on my work, my energy levels, my relationships, my body, other people… on everything.

Leading a committed life now means for me to be fully committed to myself first, knowing there is nothing selfish about that. What this means is that I make it my priority to honour what I feel, treating my body with respect and care, as I would my best friend, and listening intently to what it is telling me. The commitment to the things I do is equally important, but always comes second.

With much appreciation to Serge Benhayon, his family and the many students of The Way of The Livingness, who show me what it means to fully and truly commit to life. Thanks for your reflection!

By Willem Plandsoen, MSc, sales professional and student of life

Further Reading:
The Ultimate Commitment To Life
Taking Responsibility and Making A Re-Commitment To Life
Commitment To Self – Commitment To Life

939 thoughts on “A Study on Commitment and Energy

  1. We could see commitment like a tank, if we give 100% of us then the tank and everything we do is full of us, but if we only give 40% then what is the rest of the tank full of – if it’s not us?

  2. Willem this is such a brilliant blog because you have shown that it is in the little details that we give ourselves away by not committing in full. Your example of not committing to doing the dishes; but doing them instead in a way which drains you. We do this all the time all day in the smallest of details and so is it any wonder by the end of the day we are so tired that we reach for the glass of wine or bar of chocolate.

  3. I love what you are sharing here Willem, it makes so much sense and is super important for all of us to know. Everything we do either supports us to be more present and vital or distracts us to then drain us.

  4. What are we commiting to comes up for me? Are we commiting to being and bringing our all? And what does this ‘all’ look like? It is the ‘all’ that society wants and demands us to be so we can be super successful or is it the ‘all’ that is simply us being ourselves and bringing this innate love and joy to everyone we meet and everywhere we go?

    1. Yes, I like that James, because we can be so called committed, and very much so even, but what are we committed to. It is the love that we allow in our lives that counts, nothing else, as love will then be the determining factor in everything we do.

      1. Yes, make love our basis and foundation and then anything that is not love jumps out and so we have the opportunity to say no to it. The more I say yes to love the more I appreciate everything I have and everything around me.

  5. It’s fascinating how we can make it look as though we’re super committed to life from the outside, but withering away on the inside, or using a huge amount of effort and control to mask the fact that our inner lives are a shambles. But everyone can see, more or less, what’s going on, because you can’t hide energy: it speaks for itself. So when we’re over-working to make it look like we’ve got it all going on, the only person we’re generally fooling is ourselves, and if no one else tells us, at least we can rely on our own bodies to tell us in no uncertain terms what we’re doing to ourselves. True commitment is about showing up and being ourselves in full, bringing the quality of who we are, to what we do. Results and outputs are like a bonus of having committed to bring our all to something in the first place.

    1. Control is a hidden factor that masks itself as commitment personalised but at what levels does this control support the all.

  6. Commitment starts with us, in the way we loving care for ourselves, in listening and honouring what our bodies are feeling, then we can bring all of us lovingly to what we are doing.

  7. I have been a non-consistent commitment person (bit of a mouthful) for most of my life. The days I commit are easy, joyful, productive, connected and just easy really. The days I struggle to commit are hard, long, tiring and disconnected. It’s pretty clear on what days I’m working on living more of me.

  8. Commitment is totally up to us. No ifs, buts, maybes….it is up to us. And we either do it or we don’t. And when we do it, we can always deepen it. And it is quite a blessing when we are thinking we are doing it but we are not, and a loving friend points that out for us.

  9. Commit in full, leaves no space for anything else as you committed in FULL. No gaps. Partly commit, and there is gaps. Simple, wise, powerful.

  10. When we commit to something and bring our All to it the amount of space that opens up for us to complete what is there to be completed is enormous.

    1. Yes Elizabeth, I have found the same although the prevalent idea about older people like myself is that they should do less and rest more and take it easy which really brings a slowing down of everything and the level of vitality drops.

  11. I love what you are sharing here Willem, the more we commit to life the more energy I feel we are given to complete everything that is needed. Much of the world’s exhaustion would not exist if humanity understood how powerful it is to commit to life in full.

  12. The message here is that being committed is being committed to staying connected with our bodies. I am finding that this is indeed the way to enable me to stay committed, open and loving without allowing other energies to enter. A great confirmation.

  13. It is the same with people – I have noticed how I feel with a particular person I usually meet once a week and I can feel an arrogance within me, a feeling of better than. It is easy to say that talking to someone or a particular job is boring and not supporting us but what is going on within to feel this way? Maybe, I am to support this person in some way and by choosing to avoid connection I am resisting the responsibility this brings or if I am bored in my work, maybe I am not valuing and appreciating myself and what I bring to my work? It can be a number of things but whatever it is, it always stems from the relationship I have with myself.

  14. Making it all look good on the outside by seemingly committing to life through multiple responsibilities, yet feeling empty in the inside.. even if we believe this lie ourselves, it’s not long before the body starts to show us the lie that we’re living, through a lack of vitality and exhaustion after all the effort involved. When we do things with true purpose and with full commitment, we feel rejuvenated and revitalised.

  15. The body as my best friend as the way to commit deeply to life, beautiful Willem.
    We can think we are committed when we doing a lot, working a lot but if those actions don’t include ourselves, our bodies, we lose. There is no evolution and like Willem shared from his experience energies flow through the body what is not love.

  16. Beautiful Willem! And a support to read… thing I do come second. First is the commitment to be with oneself, to bring the body in every movement.

  17. A great reminder Willem that we can go about our lives and it looks like we are committed to it we are in actual fact just going through the motions without the fullness and quality of our potential being lived.

  18. I really liked your practical examples, Willem, of how you have boosted your commitment to life by connecting to your body during all those everyday movements, like being at the computer, walking, and talking. Sometimes I take for granted just how simple it is to not only commit fully to life, but to commit fully to love by staying connected to my body which is the ultimate conduit for love when I do so fully.

  19. I really understood from your blog Willem how we can’t commit to life in parts, it has to be in full and in every area of our life. We tend to think we can have our little out moments here and there of letting our thoughts wander, or escaping into the TV or the computer and not see this as being harming or lessening our commitment to being fully present in life.

  20. This article clearly breaks down that commitment to life is not about having the big show as in the best job, or biggest house, or unmanageable loans. It is about the simple every day task that we do to live. How we perform these tasks and with what presence we do them is where we again build true commitment and a way of being with ourselves that naturally seeps into all areas of our lives.

  21. “treating my body with respect and care, as I would my best friend, and listening intently to what it is telling me.” Our body is our best friend as it always tells the truth.

  22. Sealing the door where energy can get in is absolutely key and I am inspired by your tips on how to remain fully awake, focussed and committed.

  23. “I realised that when I choose to not commit to life in full, it creates an opening for ‘negative’, that is, unloving energy to enter. But when I choose to commit to life in full, the energy I feel in my body is very different – it is loving, solid and light.” Becoming aware and feeling the difference between the two energies is liberating and empowering as then one can choose the energy with which one wishes to live.

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