A Study on Commitment and Energy

Lately I have made an in-depth study on what commitment truly is. Last year somebody shared with me that they felt I was completely withdrawn from life – not committing to life in full.

At first I resisted: “Who me? I have started up several companies, been successful in my career, have many friends, I was on television, radio, wrote columns in newspapers. How can you call me withdrawn from life?” But in truth I was. It took some weeks to fully admit this unpleasant truth.

Several things had happened in my life when I was young, then one final big tipping point event a couple of years ago and with that, I made the choice to withdraw from life. I decided that life was too painful to be in so I believed it was better to withdraw from life, even with little money to support myself, rather than committing to life in full. It was not a clear conscious choice, but I can see now it was still a choice.

In light of this revelation I decided to study how commitment really works, and return to leading a fully committed life. I had discussions with people about it, sessions with Esoteric practitioners and read inspiring articles like Commitment to Self –Commitment to Life  and A True Commitment to Work, Getting a Job… and Life.

 From here I started to re-commit to life, starting with some simple, practical things. One of the seemingly simple exercises I did to support all this was going for a ten minute walk every day. I began with focussing only on feeling my hands and my feet as I walked as a way to support myself to develop conscious presence. I also found that really paying attention to how I felt in my body when talking with people supported me to stay connected to myself – which was not my usual way as I tended to focus my attention on the other person or people I was with, or just lose myself in the story I was telling.

Another thing – and there was quite a list – was when I was sitting behind a computer, was to not ‘disappear’ into the screen. Always feeling my body, whatever part that might be.

 Recently I had a realisation of another way of how commitment truly works. I had an awful day at work; actually and more correctly, I chose to have an awful day at work by choosing to not commit. I resisted the work that was there to do as I thought of it as boring and arrogantly considered myself too good for it. I did not work with 100% dedication and I secretly started sending out and answering private emails and doing personal things for myself.

What made it worse was that I still believed I delivered good results. Basically I thought I could get away with this – and indeed management did not notice – but in truth I couldn’t, not with the energy I was allowing to run my body, which was definitely not commitment or love. I became slow in my actions, my body felt heavy, and it did not stop when I left work.

 At the end of the day I felt powerless and somehow a bit stupid as well. I walked in an unstable way and felt light in my head. This was not how I normally would feel, or who I knew myself to be, and with this I knew I had let another energy affect my body.

Later on with the help of a true friend I realised deeply how commitment really works.

I realised that when I choose to not commit to life in full, it creates an opening for ‘negative’, that is, unloving energy to enter. But when I choose to commit to life in full, the energy I feel in my body is very different – it is loving, solid and light. Therefore it is my choice that can seal off openings for this unloving energy to enter. This case at work was very huge and clear. But it also works with seemingly small things like doing the dishes, answering emails and cooking.

When I don’t commit to every aspect of my life in full, I allow unloving energy to enter. For example, when I choose to not commit in doing the dishes, but I do them anyway because I have to do them, but now slower and with an indulgence, this contains the draining and unloving energy that is not supportive to true commitment.

Therefore all of the choices I make, the quality of energy I choose to do them in, and whether I am fully committed or not, has an impact on my work, my energy levels, my relationships, my body, other people… on everything.

Leading a committed life now means for me to be fully committed to myself first, knowing there is nothing selfish about that. What this means is that I make it my priority to honour what I feel, treating my body with respect and care, as I would my best friend, and listening intently to what it is telling me. The commitment to the things I do is equally important, but always comes second.

With much appreciation to Serge Benhayon, his family and the many students of The Way of The Livingness, who show me what it means to fully and truly commit to life. Thanks for your reflection!

By Willem Plandsoen, MSc, sales professional and student of life

Further Reading:
The Ultimate Commitment To Life
Taking Responsibility and Making A Re-Commitment To Life
Commitment To Self – Commitment To Life

879 thoughts on “A Study on Commitment and Energy

  1. In this blog Willem mentioned loosing himself on the computer, and this is something that I have been observing in myself. For instance if I go onto a social media site and get too engrossed in the articles or looking at videos, then afterwards I do not feel as committed to getting on with my day in a purposeful manner. The same also used to happen with the tv programs, no different just a different format.

    1. Yes, Julie, I too get side tracked from work when I am on the computer, and end up not doing what I planned. I think I will have to set myself a time limit for social media sites in particular.

    2. Yes I recognize that too Jullie. It can even happen by looking at one mail or text message on the phone. It is impossible to disappear into a text and not allow an energy in. We are not at home so to speak. You might say, one text. But it does have an impact on the energy in our body.

  2. Committing to life fully is about being in life in full but at the same time not being at the mercy of life but instead reading the energy behind everything and responding from that place.

  3. We justify any thought as long as we understand it fits into our current set of ideals. When we are starting to understanding commitment to life in full our spirits take advantage of any glitches, which are our ideals and beliefs, so that we are do not truly align to or be obedient to God. With a deep understanding of our true values, which is all that we know as being divine, so we can become obedient to a true way if living. This is so supportive to everyone we encounter and this is an obedience to God so we have the ability to not enjoin the vibrations of creation.

  4. A great realisation you have shared Willem, in choosing to commit in full to life we must first choose to commit in full to ourselves by honouring what we feel within our body and being consistent in choosing to build our level of awareness and quality of presence with everything we do.

  5. Thank you Willem – this blog has been powerful for me to read and supported the expansion of my understudying of true commitment to life. I especially appreciated your comment – ‘Therefore it is my choice that can seal off openings for this unloving energy to enter’.

  6. I love your study, for me commitment is an interesting one I can say from my head yes but then can find myself holding back. However when I factor purpose in everything comes alive and I am fully committed!

  7. You mention here about the choice to withdraw from life, and how even though it was not a “clear and conscious” it was still your choice. This reminds of the default modes that we can all have in reaction to what life is presenting at the time causing choices to be made that are perhaps so engrained they are not even picked up or noticed. But I am aware how important it is to never judge ourselves for these choices and to always come to these situations with understanding – for who we are, the lessons we have yet to learn, and the journey we have each been on so far.

  8. For me commitment comes down to the energy I choose to align with, be it the energy of love, or what is not. When I chose love, commitment is an easy flow the has a continual pull towards purpose in all my moves. When I choose what is not, I feel exhausted, life is hard, and I make every movement a battle against myself.

  9. Energy can be very subtle at times, so if we choose not to be aware of energy, we can often wonder why are are feeling a certain way, for example feeling tired but not sure why. But when you commit to life in full, and being as present as you can in your body, you can become aware of different types of energies and how they effect your body. Like you become your own scientist – aha! when I do that, this happens! and when I do that, that happens! Study the cause and effect of your own body. Cool stuff.

  10. Thank you, this is confirming that being committed to our bodies 100% is what supports my conmmitment out in the world. Awesome:)

  11. ‘Getting away with it’ is a great tag line for the spirit – as it think it’s gets away with it’s choices and what it creates but, in truth, we never get away with anything as our bodies are a very precise record keeper of every movement we make and whether that is true to our being or in line with the separatism that is around us.

    1. So true Rachel the spirit loves to think it has got away with something and has the upper hand but when it does this it is working in the arrogance and separation of itself and this eventually gets exposed once we start to be more honest and take steps to commit to life. This is when we learn there is no such thing as getting away with it.

  12. Love this very simple and clear blog about commitment Willem and it is such an important thing to discuss. Great point you make here that commitment to life starts with commitment to self care and self love otherwise it becomes just about the task rather than the true quality the task is done in.

  13. Thanks Willem for writing this. What I read served as a reminder that when I look after myself & my body, it is then easier to do the things that are there to do for me in life.

  14. Yes its amazing how committed we can appear to be to life as you describe Willem , been on TV setting up companies etc doing , doing . But this is where life is controlling oneself . Commitment to life is where one is committed to ” their ” life no matter what it is. Working on total commitment of self to ones own life , bringing all that one is, to all that one does even washing dishes.

  15. This blog still resonates so strongly with me Willem, thank you for all that you wrote. For a long time I have seen commitment as interlinked with tasks, actions and things that you do. Today I am feeling commitment simply is a choice to stay connected and present with yourself. All else, projects, choices and goals flow from this state of surrender and grace. How often we try to run away when all we actually need to do is remain in full and stay.

  16. Not committing to life is very draining, but when we truly commit there’s endless energy to do what we have to do, with a loving quality that sustains us all the time.

  17. What I have found when it comes to commitment is, if I don’t make everything about energy first then my commitments falls away.

  18. When I started to truly re-commit to life, it made me question how on earth did I choose to not commit to life in the past and for so long? Because the feeling of committing to life is incomparable to anything less than this commitment, it is so solid and empowering, now knowing what this means I would never exchange it for anything else. But I did choose for so long to not commit, and to not feel this amazingness that I can give to myself, and it seems crazy but true that it is me who has chosen to hold myself back in the fullness that could have been my normal every day. There is no shying away from life when we commit, it does not mean that life will be perfect, as the point is not to have everything the way we want it to be, but it is to be in life and to deal with life with the natural quality that we are, a steadiness and a gentleness, stillness and understanding, there is always joy and lots of honesty and humbleness. Life is about us expressing our naturalness and that is to commit being ourselves first in its presence.

  19. “I realised that when I choose to not commit to life in full, it creates an opening for ‘negative’, that is, unloving energy to enter” – this is a very important fact to remember. I choose not be here in this body, something else will. Thank you, Willem.

  20. I love your list of very do-able things Willem, like going for a walk feeling your hands and feet and feeling how you are in your body when talking to other people. Commitment is very much about being fully present in everything we do.

  21. Willem so much of what you write about is very practical. ‘I also found that really paying attention to how I felt in my body when talking with people supported me to stay connected to myself.’ This is an area where I know I can lose myself. The few times I have focused on staying with my body whilst talking to others has made a huge difference. I have the opportunity to practise this and will start today as I don’t live alone and we also have people coming round for lunch.

  22. I thought I comprehended this blog when I first read it a while ago – yet it has been made so unmistakably clear to me since then that there literally is nothing you can neglect, nothing you can ignore or prioritise higher, or prefer, it is all literally one life. And everything deserves consistency, care and nothing but Love. Thank you again my friend Willem – it truly doesn’t pay to short change life and that begins first of all with my relationship with me.

  23. Any task can be a joy when we bring ourselves fully to it. When we resist and withdraw by not fully committing to life we drain our own life-force.

  24. ‘Another thing – and there was quite a list – was when I was sitting behind a computer, was to not ‘disappear’ into the screen. Always feeling my body, whatever part that might be’ Thanks for the reminder. I know that I can lose touch with my body and then lose touch with myself. Staying in touch with my body means I am always present and I can feel the flow and interweaving rhythms, life becomes a symphony and I am there in the orchestra, playing my part.

  25. I love this Willem, it’s tipping what we perceive as commitment to life on it’s head. One could almost say in this state one is committed to not be committed, by filling life with temporal activities there is no space left for truth.

  26. Commitment to ourselves first and foremost allows us to be committed in the other areas of our life. If our commitment journey does not start with ourselves and we are trying to be committed in the rest of our life, we do not have a sound foundation from which to build this from.

  27. Great article Willem about commitment thank you, commitment to myself was never a part of my life it was always about others, it has taken time and I am still learning to be consciously present and committed to being with my body, how beautiful it is to now know that “Leading a committed life now means for me to be fully committed to myself first, knowing there is nothing selfish about that. “

  28. It is amazing how we get sucked into thinking we are committed to life by the things we do and not what we bring. I have found that the more I commit to me the more I am willing to be part of life, and not just a bystander, measuring how much I put into life and participating only when it works for me.

  29. Building commitment and consistency in one area first, so there is a strong foundation makes sense; then this can be brought to another area and building a stronger foundation.

  30. It was great to read this blog again, especially these words as i am becoming more aware of what you have expressed ” I also found that really paying attention to how I felt in my body when talking with people supported me to stay connected to myself – which was not my usual way as I tended to focus my attention on the other person or people I was with, or just lose myself in the story I was telling.”

  31. Are we committed to manifesting images of how we want life to look or are we committed to what energy we are aligning to and the quality of how we move through life? Both may bring the same outcomes, but the body that arrives at those outcomes will look very different.

  32. I feel at times I have lost that commitment to life and have just allowed myself to drift. But having connected with The Way Of the Livingness and its presenter Serge Benhayon I know now the importance of commitment in all areas of Life.

  33. “I realised that when I choose to not commit to life in full, it creates an opening for ‘negative’, that is, unloving energy to enter. But when I choose to commit to life in full, the energy I feel in my body is very different – it is loving, solid and light. Therefore it is my choice that can seal off openings for this unloving energy to enter” – really great insights here Willem, agree and seeing that commitment is – being committed to your body and ensuring nothing that isn’t of fine quality enters it.

  34. Commitment can be interpreted in different ways and it is worth really considering what that word means to us and how it equates in our life – are we committed to an ideal/ belief or picture about how we think we and others should be in life and how does that feel in our body or is there something more – a commitment to a quality of being that we can consistently develop our expression of in all areas of life…

  35. “Leading a committed life now means for me to be fully committed to myself first, knowing there is nothing selfish about that. ” If we fully commit to ourselves first we are then fully able to commit to others and to projects in full too.

  36. It is so important not only to have those that inspire us but also to deeply appreciate that we have these reflections around us. ‘Inspire’ means to ‘breathe-in’, therefore true inspiration is allowing the other to ‘breathe their own breath’. The more we can reclaim our true breath by virtue of living true to all the love that we are, the more we can inspire others to also return to the one and the same love within them.

    Thank you for the inspiration Willem!

  37. I have several different jobs and if I let one take dominance over another I can get in a muddle, giving my power away. First in all of these jobs comes myself and the quality that I choose to live in and from.

  38. When we commit to something and bring our full focus to it there is a steadiness and a focus that occurs that allows us to be more present in our bodies. The more connected we are in our bodies the more we can enjoy the quality that we bring to everything.

  39. Willem its great to see how my day, week, month and all the relationships and way I feel in those moments differs depending on my level of will and commitment to life. I’ve also been experimenting with how I move each day and if I feel a bit ‘off’ then instead of going into that ‘off’ moving with greater presence, focus and the ripple effect this has. In fact its like a level of clarity opens up for me and life becomes much simpler.

  40. It’s so easy to think that we are committed based on output, or how many things we are involved in or get done, but commitment, as is being explored here, is firstly our commitment to the quality we bring. Our body is therefore like a space we are responsible for and if we are not committing in full to the quality of that space, then it makes sense that the quality will be lesser than it could be.

  41. True commitment to life begins with knowing that we are a Son of God and then living every moment, to the best of our human capability, completely devoted to the return to such majesty.

  42. Commitment never stops and thus, we have an opportunity each and every moment which energy we align to. And thus, it is always our choice how we feel afterwards, be that drained from ‘cruising’ or energised from everything that commitment delivers.

  43. We can pretend that we are committed to life and make it look good but in truth it is a whole body commitment. We can’t dip our toe in when we feel like it, it is constant and never ending, and any lack of commitment will show up in our body, how we move how we speak and how we live our life.

  44. Committing to life and ourselves in full in a consistent way is important for everyone, ‘Therefore all of the choices I make, the quality of energy I choose to do them in, and whether I am fully committed or not, has an impact on my work, my energy levels, my relationships, my body, other people… on everything.’

  45. Commitment to life starts from committing to what will be in life, my body that allows a certain energy through it and into life. So it’s my responsibility to be aware of the energy I allow into my body and into life.

  46. Like taking a holiday in a sunny location we like to think our momentary escapes are pleasant reliefs. The truth as you show Willem is they are actually times when we open ourselves up to emotions and fears, thoughts and desires that just aren’t right. Perhaps bring present with our body would not be so ‘hard’ if we let ourselves realise the toxic effects of when we check out? We wouldn’t drink poison or chemicals straight in a glass so why leave connection and bring pollution in?

    1. Ahhh only one correction there Joseph we do drink poison on mass in the form of alcohol, our desire to not feel the impact of our choices is in most cases stronger than the desire for truth and connection.

  47. Loved reading this again, so much to take from your sharings. Mostly I feel really awful if I become vague and not present. Which is pretty awesome if you think about it, it means that we are connected and committed a tad more than I was appreciating.

  48. Building and establishing love and commitment starts with self first, only then can we take it out to the world, ‘Leading a committed life now means for me to be fully committed to myself first, knowing there is nothing selfish about that.’

  49. This is still one of the most beautiful blogs I ever read. It puts into simple terms the art of this life and the sweet way that commitment works. Thank you Willem for illustrating that to be present and fully connected to our body and senses in each moment is what commitment is.

  50. Willem I have exactly that same experience as this “when I choose to commit to life in full, the energy I feel in my body is very different – it is loving, solid and light. ” it changes ones whole approach to everything in life as its shows its how we are with whatever it is in question that really matters.

  51. It has been my experience that we can move ourselves out of life or we can move in and with life, but the biggest challenge of all is in what pictures there may be about each way of living. Because as long as you are controlled by a picture, trying to seek its outcome, then whether a person is in or out side of life, the picture is determining the quality and the depth of that lived way. This has been my experience of withdrawal and commitment and their relationship with truth.

  52. I am going to try the practical tips that you tried Willem, such as staying in my body when I am speaking with others as I get lost in what we are both saying. This stood out for me ‘I make it my priority to honour what I feel, treating my body with respect and care, as I would my best friend, and listening intently to what it is telling me. The commitment to the things I do is equally important, but always comes second.’ so our most important job is being with ourselves and then the tasks at hand.

  53. Fantastic to read this and be so inspired. I actively withdrew from life, lived it in relative isolation and I am still doing this: letting my hurts get in the way of committing to being here 100%. It’s great to be honest about this and keep coming back, keep committing. What’s interesting to me is that there are times when I am by myself in my house and I feel a very clear choice – to be in my house and pretend I’m alone and it’s just me or to feel the truth that I’m connected with all my neighbours, all of us. Very different activities and way of going about things depending on which I choose.

  54. Willem this is a great example of using ‘doing’ as a false disguise for commitment. If the quality is not true than what quality are we moving in? Our commitment to true quality is commitment to life.

  55. Building consistency in our life is so important as it allows us to feel a certain flow and rhythm in life which then allows us to connect with divine order.

  56. “Leading a committed life now means for me to be fully committed to myself first, knowing there is nothing selfish about that. What this means is that I make it my priority to honour what I feel, treating my body with respect and care, as I would my best friend, and listening intently to what it is telling me”

    This is great Willem it is showing us that there such a difference in committing to life rather then just doing life. Commitment to life requires our presence our love.

  57. It is the arrogance of the spirit that thinks it is committed to life but if we allow self into anything we do then this is not commitment to life this is just making sure that we are ok first without considering what this means to everyone else.

  58. Thanks Willem this is such a great and practical blog. For example it is always a great reminder to stay present with my body whilst working on the computer (or anything else) such simple tips and body awareness reminders makes a HUGE difference.

  59. Great blog Willem and very timely for me at the moment for I too have realised how uncommitted l have become to life which I am finding exhausting. You are so right we must start with the small things, I have just come in from washing my van and was finding it very tiring and I was thinking about other things. So a fresh start is needed and I will endeavour to get back on track. It amazes me still how the blog I chose at random was the one I needed to read.

    1. I so agree Kev, a great reminder and focus for me today as had started by just doing things because they needed to be done rather than being truly committed – a lovely wake-up call.

  60. True commitment doesn’t come from a job well done or an ordeal endured but from presence and consistent appreciation. It’s this chain of savouring us and our purpose in life that is the essence not the jobs and tasks. Thank you for this awesome sharing Willem.

  61. Thank you Willem for so clearly and simply expressing how commitment applies to everything one does, not just the the ‘big’ things and by doing so one truly engages in life and it is enriched.

  62. Once you discover and can feel in your body the extent to which you tend to withdraw from life, and you get to understand the trigger, what until then felt only natural, goes under the light to be examined and reassessed. When this happens, it starts to lose the grip that it had on you.

  63. ‘I realised that when I choose to not commit to life in full, it creates an opening for ‘negative’, that is, unloving energy to enter’. I know this only too well and I allowed so much unloving energy to pass through me by not committing to life, and is why my life was always a struggle…But wow, it feels so different when you commit to life in full, its like I have just switched on the car head lights and I can see everything in front of me.

  64. Commitment is consistent connection and honouring our awareness in full. We already have everything we need, all we have to do is stop thinking we are able to pick and choose truth. Thank you Willem for this reliably rich blog.

  65. Appreciating reading this today.. when we do not commit to anything that we’re doing – from the smallest thing like doing the dishes to a bigger work project, we drain ourselves, because we’re doing it in a lethargic, can’t-be-bothered kind of way, making it about ourselves instead of what we’re contributing to the all. Thanks for sharing Willem.

  66. Also true that we can get very good at making it look like we’re fully committed to life, to the extent that we believe we really are, but actually, we’re just going through the motions, making it look good so that we can fly under the radar, undetected. But as you’ve shared, whether anyone else knows if we’re fully committed or not isn’t the point – we feel the lack of commitment in our own bodies, and it feels awful, like we’re dragging ourselves through life. When we commit 100%, the energy we’re in is total different and actually re-energises and re-vitalises.

  67. Discovering the little pockets where lack of commitment lies is really fascinating, in that is quite an eye opener how much we can deny to see the truth if we think our hurts are more important than love for humanity.

  68. I fell for hurt over humanity a few months ago and my body started to show signs and symptoms of a build up of ‘fluid’ due to fighting myself against the truth of what was there to be revealed. It took a session with and Esoteric Practitioner to reveal the holding onto stuff that was at the bases of my holding on to fluid. This would seem like a miracle shift in the medical world.

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