How do we know as a toddler how to and when we are ready to walk? Of course we see others are walking, but that does not show us the mechanics of how to do it and we do not know when they began – for all we know, if we do not have young people in our sphere of life, it is possible they may have started this process later, in teenage years.
Could it be that we are connected with our body and we get the wisdom/intelligence from our body that sends us the message to begin the process, and so we do. We start by standing and we may fall down, and up we go, then we fall again and again, always giving it another go.
Many of us are like bulldogs, we do not give up and we just keep on until we have mastered it. We do not consider we have made a mistake and are wrong when we fall, we just get up and give it another go. Then we move a foot and leg and then another and then we fall and then we give it yet another go. We keep listening to our body and follow without questioning, with loads of enthusiasm and committed to the whole process. And bingo! … before we know it we are walking. I was observing this process with a toddler recently and the joy in his whole being when he took off was so beautiful to see.
So what changes? How is it that as we get older, when we try new things we don’t have the same attitude as we did when we were toddlers? What happens; why do we no longer see things as a joyful learning process but go into right and wrong. Often we go into ‘wrong’ if we do not get it ‘right’ first off, and then at times we just give up… pitiful really.
When we reconnect with our bodies we re-establish the type of relationship with it that we had when we were toddlers, where we just knew our body held the wisdom/intelligence and we listened to it. There is no right and wrong when you are in your body, there is only an opportunity to learn and develop.
So let’s come back to what is our natural state of being and begin again to enjoy and celebrate any new ventures we embark on… as we did when we learnt to walk.
By Mary-Louise Myers, Complementary Healing Practitioner, Goonellabah, NSW, Australia
Further Reading:
Listening To Your Body
The Body Speaks Loudly But Am I Listening?
The Body Knows
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
Enjoy and embrace the process of learning, ‘There is no right and wrong when you are in your body, there is only an opportunity to learn and develop.’
Serge Benhayon in his every move inspires us to retrace our steps and walk in the glory we come from.
Our body knows when it’s time to start walking….so what else does the body tell us it’s time to start?
The body is wise and guides us through life, ‘Could it be that we are connected with our body and we get the wisdom/intelligence from our body that sends us the message to begin the process’.
The way we take off when we walk establishes a pattern for us to follow in our next step, so a steady absolute focus that is absolute then can follow in the way we then walk.
I love the simplicity of this blog, and so spot on about toddlers, the joy of learning something new with no hesitation, so felt by all around them. As we become older, the mind kicks in and feeds us what we can and cannot do and how it will be etc. It kind of over rides the body that is communicating the absolute truth.
It’s a whole new life when we listen to the body’s intelligence, we are energised and even the mundane thing is joy filled. There is no right or wrong, there just is a way to be with the body that will support us throughout the day, if we are willing to go with its flow.
When we are connected to our bodies in the way that small children are, we get to experience once again how secure we feel in the knowing our bodies communicate.
Michelle so true, children do feel secure in their bodies, as we become older, we often feel the opposite. Unless we have the loving and understanding support from adults, who nurture and support that our bodies communication is more important than our minds. We are far from this reality…
Getting things right or wrong is such an intense part of the education process, we begin attributing our worth to doing well with knowledge, and then the agony of right and wrong is taken into adult life. It can be quite crippling, and it’s so different to how young babies are, embracing the joy of what they are learning and focusing on the joy, not on the so called mistakes.
Absolutely Melinda, Joy, comes before appreciation, and thus every step that follows in that True expressing brings us more light to reflect and then as we walk that we deepen our Love by walking our True origens.
Right and wrong can be quite crippling, ‘ why do we no longer see things as a joyful learning process but go into right and wrong.’
It certainly helps to see the learning process as a joy instead of a chore or one where we have certain expectations placed upon ourselves. When we are free to learn in a way that allows space and confirmation, the learning does become something we all want to be a part of.
There is a wisdom and an amazing body intelligence that lives deep within us all – and I love the example here of the toddlers, for from their body they know exactly what to do and how to do it. A great example for us all to come back to and give permission for that intelligence to be re-awakened again.
Yes, no right or wrong, instead just embracing a learning process, ‘How is it that as we get older, when we try new things we don’t have the same attitude as we did when we were toddlers?’
I watched a short film clip of a baby Giraffe attempting to get up on its legs it was very uncoordinated and it took some minutes to get up on its feet. It was moving in pure instinct and I wonder if this is what humans have lost our instinct using instead our minds which is not anywhere near the same thing.
I absolutely love the fact that, “There is no right and wrong when you are in your body, there is only an opportunity to learn and develop”. When you come to this point in your life – it sure took me a while – it feels like a heavy weight has just been released, with the agonies of right and wrong making way for the truth of the lesson we are being presented with, along with the knowing that the choice as to what comes next is totally ours.
Ingrid, I was watching a little baby recently it was having great fun exploring and was rolling on its side and then back on its tummy and you could see how the baby was feeling into this new sensation and discovery. I realised that we have lost this sense of having fun while exploring something new or old. It has been replaced with getting it right first time so that we can get on with the next task, where is the fun in this?
Then I realised that we do not seem to have simple fun or simple enjoyment of life anymore and that is a huge shame as it is there waiting for us to reconnect to.
Thank you Mary for your comment, it’s s great observation and very supportive. The whole business of getting it right first time is very regimented and no wonder people give up, instead of having fun and exploring the new. We’ve made it about an outcome not the quality we do life with.
Maybe also to get the recognition and approval, ‘It has been replaced with getting it right first time’.
Something my dog reminds me of every time we play ball, is how to be committed to everything in life with the same consistent joy and enthusiasm but with zero expectation. Every ball thrown is treated with the same absolute gusto, whether she catches it or not, there is no giving up or giving in – an awesome lesson from a small fury friend of how to live life to the max by applying all of us to all we do all the time, no regrets, resentment or self interest at play.
I find bringing myself back to an awareness of my whole body is really supportive in learning and living life, it’s something that I keep bringing myself back to, to learn and grow.
Coming back to being with-myself, ie fully connected to all of my body as opposed to living just from my head.. was the most solid choice in my entire life because of the way that embodiment changed how I lived life – fuller, with understanding, and with wisdom.
A lovely reminder how easy we learn as toddlers and that it is ok to fall down, it is part of the learning, and then to stand back up and try again, and again, until we have mastered whatever it is we are trying to master.
It is a lovely analogy .. learning to walk… imagine if babies gave themselves a really hard time when they fell over … hmmm i doubt if the human race would be walking at all 🙂
In relation to being a toddler I do not think for one second they worry if another is walking if they are not or how they walk. It shows how insignificant it is that we do when we are ‘older’.
Absolutely not, ‘I do not think for one second they worry if another is walking if they are not or how they walk.’
So many of us are afraid of making mistakes and being wrong and hold ourselves back from expressing what is there to be expressed – it’s crippling us. Accepting ourselves, and each other, as a forever student is a great counter to that very debilitating posture we have long been adopting.
I so agree about the power those ‘mistakes’ have to cripple us, in many different ways. Making any sort of mistake had the most horrible effect on me, so determined was I to be perfect. It has taken a while to let go of the perfection, to realise that there are no mistakes, only lessons, and to accept myself as I am. And I have slowly discovered there was an amazing woman waiting for me, to accept and to celebrate.
And recognising we are all so unique, and what each of us brings is very different, yet needed.
I completed a task today and I actually thought, how did I learn to do that, and I realised that part was from watching other people and the rest was from just knowing. When we open ourselves up to the possibilities we realise that anything is possible.
It’s genuinely freeing to let go of judging our mistakes and labeling ourselves according to whether we think we did something right or wrong and instead see each moment as an opportunity to truly learn and develop.
When we are not in competition with ourselves or others we are always learning how to move our body with a deeper connection to who we are.
Well said Mary, when we do not compare or judge ourselves with others, we are free to listen and learn from our bodies and what they are telling us.
I never once thought that our bodies, being and mind were all connected until I heard Serge Benhayon present at courses, workshops and presentations. It makes sense on an energetic level that they are all interconnected and how one has an immediate effect on the other. So how are we living that supports a vital body that is moving in a way that confirms and honours such a magnificent way of communicating.
As a child I don’t remember a lot of thinking and now grown up I have a lot of thinking. I sense that this is where that big difference comes from because if we just be with our body and how it moves learning is more natural and there is no judgement but when we go think we need to learn something we come with a picture and when we don’t meet up the picture this is where the complication starts.
I love watching how toddlers try things, learn and then move on. If it is working they keep doing it, if its time for the next thing they totally embrace it. And yet as adults, we fight and resist what is on offer and what is naturally next. Perhaps there is much to learn from a toddler.
I am sure there is much to learn from toddlers.
Thank you Mary-Louise, you remind us of what we are capable of living — a whole body intelligence. No longer living in the denial of this intelligence but choosing to live more in the acceptance of what we are capable of living and bringing forward in life. This only when we connect to ourselves, our forever deepening of connection to God.
When we are toddlers, our learnings come from the body. There is a sense of togetherness. We learn on the move. And there is a lot that is about movement. In that there is no right and wrong. It simply is. Right and wrong comes later into our lives when the body ceases to be the source of our learnings and our mind takes over. Coming back to the toddler’s times requires us to be able to re-connect and re-discover to the joy of moving.
It is true that it would be extremely rare to see a toddler give up on learning how to walk. There is something inside of us that tells us we cannot stay crawling around the place forever and we answer the call and stay committed to our purpose. So why do we give up so easily we adults when we can sense that it is time to move on and up in our lives and our bodies are telling us loud and clear that now is the time to change, grow and evolve?
Our intelligence is much greater than our minds can tell.