The Big Picture of Saying No to the Small Print

These days just getting a new e-mail account comes with reams of terms, which realistically, most of us in our exhaustion, apathy and acceptance of how ridiculous it has become, just sign without reading it all: but recently, I had a different experience. We just got a new insurance company to cover our new-to-us car.

I set up the coverage and paid for six months on the phone. Two weeks later I got the official ’application package’ where I was to put my signature in all the right places – but there was a clause in there which had not been mentioned before I started the policy with the payment.

The Small Print

I was to sign to allow myself to be a target for the worst kind of telemarketing. It said I did not have to sign but “…in order to complete the purchase and ensure the rate and effectiveness of the client’s desired insurance coverage…” they would need permission for the telemarketing… so basically, they were saying that if I did not sign, my premium would increase (as much as they wanted to increase it) and there would be no guarantee that they would take care of me if anything happened which is not a clause I wanted to accept, so I took a moment to consider my choices and feel what to do.

The Choice

I could do the easy thing and choose to compromise my own sense of what is right in order to sign it, keep my cheap rate and go about my life – but in doing so knowing I was allowing another big company to get away with ‘business-as-usual,’ in other words – bullying, blackmail and the oppression and abuse of many people for the profit of a few – or I could just deal with it and say “No.”

I was tired and I had lots of other things that felt important for me to take care of, but I could not sign (agree) to this and let accountability ‘slide’.

In my cancellation letter, I included my reason why. They still wanted to charge a $50 cancellation fee but I explained that when I agreed to the policy, they had not disclosed this stipulation. Six phone calls and over an hour of being on hold later, they waived the fee. The fourth representative was genuinely caring – she got me to an advisor and she made sure the fee was waived.

Throughout those phone calls I kept coming back to who I am by breathing gently and bringing my awareness to my body (so I would not slip into my old patterns of frustration) and I actually felt how lovely it was to be me and to be on the line with other human beings and that was beautiful. I found another company, more expensive, but worth every penny.

The Big Picture

Through the teachings of Universal Medicine, and as a result of being inspired to develop more and more self-care and love for myself and to take responsibility for all my choices, I have realised that everything is an opportunity to learn, understand and connect with myself and others.

Had I not had the role models and the support of people who are walking the talk, I’m sure I would still be missing these beautiful opportunities to deepen this love for myself, others and life on the whole and would still be struggling in an existence that previously made little sense to all that I feel inside. Had I not known people who are truly adhering to the deepest integrity found within us all (living in accordance to our inner most essence), I know I would still be contributing to my own un-wellness and to that which does not feel right to me about how we live in the world.

If we think we are safe or protected because we don’t live under a dictatorship, we need to look around. If we think we can sit back and expect to be treated with respect and fairness, because ‘we have democracy’ or money or a job or whatever… we need to look again and ask ourselves “What if life is about learning to take deeper levels of individual responsibility than what we have been doing?”

Corruption and oppression will continue to reign from corporations to the people and between people on personal levels all around the world for as long as we go along with it.

I am not advocating any mission, agenda or revolt, however I feel a responsibility to not allow abuse that I am aware of (including self abuse) to go un-named. I feel that when I accept less than respect, it is a loss for everyone, as this gives the world the message that we can do business or ‘get by’ at the expense of our humanity.

Coldness, separatism, oppression and harm will continue between people unabated until we claim that there is another way and live to show this other way by not leaving what we truly feel out of the equation in anything we do. In other words we can and will make a True difference when we no longer compromise on what we know is true for us all in order to stay in a form of social comfort.

I have drawn immense inspiration and support from Serge Benhayon and my practitioner Bina Pattel, who are living this other way by openly being and expressing from the fullness of who they are.

By Jo Elmer- Concord, CA USA

Further Reading:
The Importance of Expressing Truth
What Happens When We Do Not Speak Up?

771 thoughts on “The Big Picture of Saying No to the Small Print

  1. Great question, “What if life is about learning to take deeper levels of individual responsibility than what we have been doing?” Attending to the detail in life affects the greater whole from the inside out.

  2. It is wise to read the ‘small print’ so as to be fully aware of what we are ‘investing in’. I have been caught out before, and it was a great lesson in accepting my responsibility in the situation while not backing down on voicing the truth in the lack of transparency in this instance.

  3. Good save there Jo! How many of us would blindly sign ‘in good faith’ or apparent apathy and unwittingly feed the corruption at play here? That you were able to pick this up and hold steady to what felt true for you while remaining in connection with yourself and others during the process is such a simple but huge step for us all because it shows us that we do not need to accept abuse in any form and that by saying no to it we in fact say yes to love and greater levels of it.

  4. This blog has raised my awareness about the need to take time to look into the finer details of things so thank you.

  5. In the world as it is, full of corruption in every area, this blog demonstrates how important it is to read the small print, as at the end of the day, the consequences can be very big indeed. Unfortunately, though, sometimes the small print can be full of company or legal jargon, hard to understand and so easy to give up on, but as you have made quite clear it’s worth taking the time to fully understand it.

  6. Perhaps it is a difficult thing, to see that there is corruption in the many different layers of life. Because I reckon that many of us, us people who live daily regular lives, do want everything to be simple and clear. To not have hidden untruths or malice anywhere, and to be able to see all that there is happening without having re-interpretations of the facts given through a glamourised veil of hidden agendas.

  7. This is a lesson for me to hold true to what I value and make that the importance. It also asks me to re-visit what do I value? Something for me to ponder on.

  8. What we do with the small print determines how we handle the bigger picture. If the small print is not attended to then neither will anything else be attended too either.

  9. Each and every one of us has the responsibility to not allow abuse… Most of all we don’t allow ourselves to be abused by thoughts that are not our own, that leads into a deep abuse of this body that belongs to God.

  10. This shows responsibility of us reading the fine print and wanting to know what people are asking us to consent to and why. This is a great example of us allowing the space to actually read consent forms.

  11. When we say No to something we are actually saying Yes to something else. Our Yes means so much more when we can say No because we can then be trusted.

  12. Very inspiring to feel how an opportunity for us to say ‘No’ to something, is an opportunity for us to confirm and offer what we are saying ‘Yes’ to.

  13. The more we all stand up to what we know is wrong, and don’t accept the bullying tactics of companies the sooner these companies will realise that it pays to be honest upfront and transparent.

  14. I am learning to say no to ‘my own small print’. The things I allow that do not support me and that keep me capped. The more I can lovingly say no to myself, the easier it is to say no to corruption, abuse and disregard from others.

  15. If we feel something is not true then we have every right to look at the detail. When we don’t people think they can get away with things. This is a great example of claiming ourselves back.

  16. Sometimes things can seem so perfect, they can tick all the boxes and look and feel just right. It is important to listen to what we feel in these scenarios because it is not about how well something looks, or how many boxes it ticks. If there’s a little part in our stomach that contracts and says “no, please don’t go there” just listen to it, we never know what that little voice can save us from.

  17. How do we act in the face of abuse is a very relevant matter. We all hate to be abused. But not all of us are willing to say no to it. Self worth issues may be part of the equation. Excuses such as ‘I have other more important things to do’ allow us to get comfortable when we submit to abuse. The main problem is how much we have been abused and have abused. Abuse is a daily experience and it is normalized. In spite of it, abuse hurts and we can feel it every time it happens to us. In that our being says clearly to us that this does not belong. It is up to us what to do about it afterwards.

    1. Saying no to any abuse is setting a standard that may not have been expressed before. To get the ball rolling is an offering of nothing less but respect and decency.

  18. We cannot just sign up to somethign without getting the whole of it. Just because we may like, want or need something is not an accuse to ignore certain aspects that I see and do not agree with. It does not mean we cannot do things or sign up to organisations but does mean when we do we need to go in open to seeing everything and not being closed off simply because we want something from it, as in my experience when I put need 1st I become blind to truth.

  19. The many little no’s we say to the myriad of abuses we suffer from in our everyday life, is a giant YES to the love we accept in place of this.

    1. And the more we say YES to love the more the no’s are there without question, rather than being a focus. So far from feeling a no means missing it, it pales into insignificance when we embrace and say yes to the love we are.

  20. Attending to the finer print is vital if we are ever going to be able to master the bigger things in life.

  21. Being honest and listening to what we feel is true and honouring that supports us in evolving through every opportunity we are faced with, the more we attend to the smallest detail the more we support and confirm ourselves.

  22. One of the reasons I reckon we don’t like confronting or calling out corruption in the world is that deep down we know the level of corruption we are living with in our own daily lives. Corruption in terms of twisting or contorting the truth to suit our own agendas. So really stamping out corruption in the world has to start with us cleaning up our own backyards so to speak.

    1. Yes, I so agree with you Andrew, the more honest we get we will start to see how very much we contribute to the exact things we do not like in the world, and the more we allow ourselves to reflect upon our own doings and intentions the clearer we will see the steps that are to be taken for ourselves.

    1. Yes and to stretch the analogy further…reading all the terms and conditions (to the finest detail) we have placed on life that get in the way of us living vital, loving and joyful lives!

  23. Your commitment to the truth of your body is inspiring. Despite the corporate bullying, you honoured what you felt as kept honouring what was true. This in the end is the only way we are going to make any true change.

  24. It is so responsible of us to read what we are signing up for. Many people don’t consider the small print, and then we are stuck in a pattern that everyone else is in rather than feeling the truth of something and honouring our bodies. This is a great example of how we can speak up, and if we don’t, nothing changes.

  25. Wow Jo, reading this I could feel how many moments I have easily given my power away to the small print. It’s designed to make you feel it’s all to hard to stand up to it, so instead chose to bow down and sign the dotted line.

  26. Jo you highlight the importance of standing up for what is not true, to rock the social comfort in society is what is needed as we are continually dropping standards if we don’t.

  27. What if we are here to not be here, and so, if we then look at life what would we do and wouldn’t do?
    A great question for us to ponder in our live. As it shows us that there is so much more, so much more than what we can think of.

  28. Thanks Jo, a great reminder of the importance of continuously reading the small print in any relationship we already have or are initiating.

  29. God is in the detail and life is beautiful in how it allows us to continually embrace that fact or not. It’s up to us.

  30. There are times when we are faced with seeing the small print and the fact we’ve allowed that to be ignored until suddenly we’re faced with a clause and it’s impact. And we are all responsible here in what we allow, so the example give above is a great one … being honest about what we feel, respecting that and acting accordingly and standing up for the truth we feel.

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