Breakdown or Breakthrough?

In a world obsessed with the pursuit of happiness – an ever-elusive destination we live in a constant search of, but never seem to arrive at – having feelings that your life is moving in the opposite direction can be a very scary prospect. But is there something very necessary, honest and real about going through an apparent breakdown that could actually be an opportunity for a breakthrough?

Learning to cope, to be resilient and ‘keep it all together,’ are skills we’re taught to develop as children, with boys in particular feeling the pressure to ‘toughen up’ and ‘soldier on.’ Whilst these can appear like they’re serving us in the world and bringing the acceptance we’re desperately seeking, could this lack of expression actually be holding us in a prison of suffering, when being vulnerable could be the key to emotional freedom?

As everything is energy in this world, our emotions – much like electricity – are also pure energy, just differing qualities of it. We tend to think we can just brush them aside and move on, but these feelings like frustration, anger, grief and sadness have to go somewhere, and that somewhere is in the deeper layers of our body where they are held until such point that the tension becomes too great. Enter illness and disease – the Soul’s way of clearing out our unresolved baggage.

We’re baffled by the sudden deaths of seemingly healthy, happy people dropping dead with strokes, heart attacks, aggressive cancers and the like, but could there be more than bad luck going on here? Based on the fact that “Everything is energy,” Serge Benhayon expanded on this with the understanding that “therefore, everything is because of energy” (Serge Benhayon, 1999), this means that everything in our lives is a result of choice, and the choice to not feel what’s really going on inside us makes us ill.

In light of this revelation, could our apparent breakdown actually be our body’s ultimate spring clean, shedding the layers of what doesn’t belong to make way for the new? Like the calm after the storm clouds have passed, there is a deep settlement in the body when someone allows themselves to feel and let go, like a sigh of relief – “finally I don’t have to carry this anymore!”

Like a dead weight around our ankles we drag our unresolved hurts into every situation, reacting not to what’s right in front of us but to everything that has been thus far – all the moments we’ve felt abused, abandoned, neglected, invisible and unsupported. What can appear like a cosmic dagger of attracting the same old situation time and time again is not a punishment from the universe but can be viewed as a helping hand to get us to look at what’s really going on so that we can resolve our hurts and make a different choice going forward – i.e. the opportunity for a breakthrough.

If we each committed to this process of reflection and healing and took responsibility for our reactions rather than looking to others, our lives and our relationships would transform in every way. As “Everything is energy, and therefore, everything is because of energy” (Serge Benhayon, 1999), there are no pockets that aren’t affected by the past hurts we carry. What can often seem daunting about this reality of energetic responsibility is actually the key to emotional freedom… or better said, freedom from our emotions.

These emotions can feel like they are part of who we are, like being an angry or sad person, when in fact they are just an energy held in our bodies, the apparent difference between people only being how deeply embedded they’ve become. The key to healing then is about giving ourselves and others full permission to feel and let go without the imposing beliefs of it not being ok to cry, or that we are too sensitive.

Looking at little boys and girls it is abundantly clear that we are each equally sensitive and fragile, regardless of our gender. The cultural bias towards it being more ok for women to express how they feel but not men, has unsurprisingly led to the ever-increasing gap in rates of depression and suicide, with an alarming 76% of the 3,027 deaths as a result of suicide in Australia in 2015 being men (1). This statistic alone is calling for a drastic change in the way we relate to ourselves and each other.

Rather than trying to ‘put a lid on it’ and keep things appearingly functional, we should be encouraging one another to speak up and let the tears flow. The letting go is the healing and a very necessary part of someone’s growth and development. Without full acknowledgement of how much we’ve been affected by our past hurts and traumas, we can never truly move forward and embrace new experiences and relationships. The breaking down of our layers of protection is the key to letting people in and living a more love-filled life.

By Alison Coleman

References:

  1. Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) Catalogue 3303.0 Cause of Death Australia, 2015

Related Reading:
The Importance of Expressing Truth
Sensitive – We All Are It
Real Men Don’t Cry

508 thoughts on “Breakdown or Breakthrough?

  1. “If we each committed to this process of reflection and healing and took responsibility for our reactions rather than looking to others, our lives and our relationships would transform in every way.” The more I confirm myself, the more I know myself and when people fling stuff my way about me that is not true I am able to read what is going on and not take it on and react. Appreciation and confirmation are key to building a strong foundation where ill energy cannot enter.

  2. I know that my body responds physically to the way I live. My cycle for instance is a perfect example of what can happen if I choose to burry for a month. I usually get zero symptoms now with my period due to the way I live but if I have a month that I am emotional and I rush and I don’t take care of myself, my breasts will get sore leading up my period. Illness does not just appear out of thin air, it is there to communicate and clear out past choices.

  3. ‘These emotions can feel like they are part of who we are, like being an angry or sad person, when in fact they are just an energy held in our bodies, the apparent difference between people only being how deeply embedded they’ve become.’ i is great to remember that emotional energy is not us, we are just letting something through that we have let in.

    1. It is here when we need to make sure we are seeking for true support and help, to deal with the underlying cause to avoid self harm and find a way to express what we are feeling. With expression we can then find a truer and loving way to live.

    1. Very true Victoria. It’s important to appreciate that what is being ‘broken down’ is what is getting in the way of this undeniable unity. When this is the case, it is indeed a beautiful healing that is taking place.

  4. One of the most obvious useful and practical ways to feel the letting go of the layers of protection is to keep letting go of the tightness in our face… It has a remarkable effect on our awareness, our energy, and our body

  5. As you say we have a whole world pursuing happiness, wanting it as a permanent feature in their lives. But happiness is a temporary emotion and emotions are always a rollercoaster. So the whole world is pursuing something which is impossible. Not so intelligent. To understand why we should be wanting joy in our lives rather than happiness the Unimedpedia explains what joy really is. http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/unimedpedia-joy.html

  6. ‘Breakdowns’ give us a much needed stop moment to reflect on all our choices that has taken us to that point.

  7. Our so-called breakdowns can be our greatest moments of change, often when we are in the mud very deep we really have to start to be honest with what we are doing in the mud and how amazing it would be to be out of the mud. In this realisation we can commit to getting out of the mud because we are now aware of being in it, if we are willing to be honest and take the next steps.

  8. ‘The letting go is the healing and a very necessary part of someone’s growth and development.’ – Indeed it is, if we are not willing to let go of that which is holding us back, whether it is physically, emotionally and/or mentally, there can in effect be no true change.

  9. I have found that the greatest growth comes when there is a breakdown of what is not working in my life. Without the breakdown, I wouldn’t be able to see it as I am like a hamster on the wheel, continually running to try to make it work. Managing life is not what we are here for and certainly a reduction of the love and joy we can be living. So, although its uncomfortable at the time, from the mess comes a new truer way of living.

  10. Our body is like a house, if we keep filling it up with junk and rubbish that doesn’t belong we will end up with many issues, one of them is the ability to walk from A to B, the flow is blocked for example by rubbish. So, similar to our body, if we accumulate excess of emotions, hurts and undealt with stuff, our body, mind and general health suffers. Often the state of our house is an indication of what is going on in our body.

  11. There has been a lot of emphasis in enduring difficult situations and being stoic and yet we miss the point sometimes that different responses are needed.

  12. I don’t know what anyone would call it but I certainly went through a stripping away period in my life which whilst the withdrawal was surely not healthy it was a time of preparation letting go and moving on, making ready for what eventually changed into the life I live and love today that I wouldn’t have had where I was originally if I had not been prepared to make big changes.

  13. I know when I have felt safe and encouraged to feel what I have buried in the way of hurts with practitioners of the Universal Medicine modalities it has been astonishing to feel how much I didn’t even realise that I had allowed to foster in my body. It is life changing when we truly allow such a healing to take place and I personally have felt physical alignments and my body feels so much lighter and freer because of it.

  14. More often than not, when experiencing an illness or disease we would call success that which is the regaining of health and vitality, but what if success or true healing is the breakthrough in consciousness of that which has led the person to become ill in the first place and to be open to live more from the heart regardless of their time here on this plane of life.

  15. I’ve recently been speaking to someone about an illness they have – and in this conversation, we spoke about the possibility of that illness being onset by an old pattern they were living. They agreed and saw that it is about their movements and breaking the cycle of abuse they have allowed for 20+ years. It is still their choice what they do next, but if what they do is break the pattern, then that is so healing for their bodies.

  16. Recently someone was sharing with me how they were close to a breakdown and had been to the GP. While they were sharing they were holding back tears that they clearly wanted to shed but held strong not wanting to feel vulnerable, which reminded me of how we think we need to be strong and not show how we are truly feeling, even though I had felt for some time this person not really coping. We see this kind of behaviour as a failure, but to me in that moment, it was a great point to be at for them because it had brought more honesty and we all need much more of that in our lives so we can start to heal.

  17. I have recently had the feeling of past periods of being low in my life despite the fact that life is better than it has ever been this time round – this shows me clearly that this is a clearing of the old feelings which have been buried.

    1. That is an awesome feeling, if you realize you could let go of a big package… And getting the feeling that it will never end, letting go of things, that make you individual.

    1. I love this Kathleen. And although the light that comes in is exactly what is needed for true healing to take place, the readjustment in the body on every level can be a painful and uncomfortable process. But eventually there is a new balance as the light touches and reignites every cell, culminating in an inevitable breakthrough.

  18. Breakdown or Breakthrough? – in the end it comes down to being a choice, ie. one´s own responsibility to either moving forward and evolving from what has caused the crisis or to giving up and stay buried under the rubble of one´s own irresponsibility.

  19. If we look at the ever increasing levels of suicide across the world, it seems clear that as a society we do not know how to truly deal with the challenges that we face in life – we are not raised or supported to have the tools to be able to work through our issues and express in a way that doesn’t bottle up the problems until the only solution that people feel is left is to take their own life. This is where blogs like this are so important because they show that there is another way to be.

    1. Tragic indeed that taking ones own life would be considered a solution. Without letting others in or letting ourselves be seen we keep the illusion going that we are separate, that what we do does not have an affect on all of us. It is our collective responsibility to support ourselves and ask for support when needed.

      1. While we remain divided by the constructs of society that confirm us as different we will never truly heal much of the suffering we currently see

  20. The healing can come more naturally when letting go of the need for perfection, as in ‘keeping it all together’ for whatever reason. We are sensitive human beings and this is worth celebrating not denying.

  21. Based on the wisdom of this blog life on this planet would be worse off if we did not have illness and disease which is the bodies way of clearing energy and the universe’s way of correcting our waywardness.

  22. The key being – the less protection the more our love can be lived. its protection that kills love, although love cannot be killed, but it can be imprisoned by our protection. Our love forever is burning within.

  23. ‘Learning to cope, to be resilient and ‘keep it all together,’ are skills we’re taught to develop as children, with boys in particular feeling the pressure to ‘toughen up’ and ‘soldier on.’’ The harm in this is clear to feel when you understand the results of not expressing what is felt from life in this way.

  24. Sometimes we have to breakdown in order to break through something. The breakdown can occur as a gentle surrender or a fight within ourselves that will eventually lead to letting go of what is not working for us.

    1. We use so much energy when we fight against the surrender, stubbornly holding onto our hurts, blame and protection. This is very harming for our bodies.

  25. I personally don´t see it as a curse when someone or myself gets sick at all. Actually every moment in life your body offers you reflection- it is just a natural result, if you don´t listen, you have to be made to listen.

  26. We so often judge something like a nervous breakdown as a really bad thing for someone to go through instead of seeing it for the absolute blessing and possible point of healing that it can be.

  27. Our fear of breaking down and the social attitude towards being seen to be not coping are two of the main things (insidious and cruel) that discourage us from feeling and expressing what we truly feel and observe in the world. This leaves us all in a state of deception, pretence and lack of honest connection.

  28. “These emotions can feel like they are part of who we are…” It’s interesting to reflect of the extent to which we allow ourselves to be identified by past hurts – I know I used to hold onto such emotional hurts and looking back I can appreciate what an indulgence it actually was and the negative affects it had on my body.

    1. Yes, I really identified with being hurt and the fantasy of look at all I’ve come through and how I’ve survived against the odds (!!!) I had abandoned my essence and used emotions to fill up the emptiness. Reconnecting with me means I now feel how toxic emotions are in my body and invite them in less and less.

  29. When we are feeling the rawness and edge of life and our hurts we are often in a much more real place to be able to heal and move forward.

  30. If not everything would mean something, ie. have true meaning that makes sense in the context of what life is all about, the principles and laws that make the universe what it is and the way we live by the choices we make, we wouldn´t need to ask or even have a question about anything. But something deep inside knows the answers already, the questions arise from the disconnection to and longing for it.

    1. Spot on Alex, our connection to our inner-most brings a deeper understanding of who we are and then we have no need for a question as it is lived and known! Unless the question is for the expansion of humanity then everyone can evolve from the shared wisdom and Love.

  31. From young we are constantly taught how to manage life in order to get through challenges that we are presented with, this not only has a detrimental effect on our bodies as we need to numb ourselves in order to not feel what truly is going on but also delay the flow of our own evolution as we resist to surrender to the flow of the soul.

  32. ‘What can appear like a cosmic dagger of attracting the same old situation time and time again is not a punishment from the universe but can be viewed as a helping hand to get us to look at what’s really going on so that we can resolve our hurts and make a different choice going forward…’

    Last week I had a whole catalogue of events to reveal a hurt I realised I’d taken into every conversation, every meeting, every workplace, relationship etc. I could see how I’d been given so many opportunities to heal this but had chosen to avoid it and bury it – at great cost to my health, finances and relationships. But that’s a great learning too, as is letting go the protection and surrendering to whatever is there to feel including my loveliness and feeling how all the yuckiness isn’t me.

  33. If resilience isn’t it and I don’t believe it is, then what is this idea of being resilient doing to us? It seems like it is burying deeper the problems we have that abound in society that are causing the need for resilience to be touted as a solution. But it’s a band aid that will eventually lose its stick, and there in front of us will be all the issues that we can only address by accepting and appreciating vulnerability and openness in our relationships. This isn’t wishy washy but crucial to our health and well-being. It is also a natural progression back to a state of being we should never have walked away from and that will actually allow us to evolve in our communications with one another without being dominated by comparison and competition.

  34. What you are sharing here Alison is really quite revelatory, in that not everyone joins the dots as to why and how we react the way we do in each given situation. I know I have certainly reacted to many situations not truly understanding my own hurts that were triggered as a result of a situation or from an interaction with a person. But it is on reflection, learning to feel what is deeply held in my body and sometimes seeking support from a practitioner of Universal Medicine Therapies, that I have been able to feel and heal what was there to heal.

  35. Sometimes these stop moments are really needed to halt an ill momentum that has been driving us for years. It forces us to look at something we have denied or buried and gives us the grace to move forward without it, baggage free.

  36. We have not even begun to scratch the surface of what illness and disease actually are and that there is a much deeper reason than the diet and genetics. Yes they definitely play apart, but when we start to look at our own choices and the part we have played and the impact that they may have on our own body, then the body needs to clear this in some way.

  37. ‘The key to healing then is about giving ourselves and others full permission to feel and let go without the imposing beliefs of it not being ok to cry, or that we are too sensitive.’ Sometimes we become so familiar with patterns and behaviour that were created as a form of protection or survival that we actually convince ourselves that we are them.. Hence why it is so healing to get to know ourselves first and foremost by our unique qualities and not what we feel.

  38. Maybe everything that seems like a breakdown is actually a breakthrough… a discarding of an old pattern, habit, behaviour. Its perhaps just the way we choose to look at things in life, something happens and we can either regard it as a ‘pull-up’ or if we take it personally, it has the potential to ‘drag’ you down. There are so many opportunities in life to learn.

  39. A willingness to be vulnerable instead of protected opens us to truly understand any situation and person and it allows us to always learn and heal and deepen our relationship with ourselves, others and life.

  40. When we are living from our True expression, which is our Tenderness and Fragility is there any way we would “toughen up and soldier on,” as we feel our connection to our inner-most essence, which brings clarity to how we express. Whilst it appears when we “toughen up and soldier on,” is serving us in the world and bringing the acceptance we’re desperately seeking, could this lack of expression actually be holding us in a prison of suffering, when being “Vulnerable” could be the key to emotional freedom? So opening our heart and feeling vulnerable from our True expression of Tenderness and Fragility, is allowing what issues that are going on around us to be felt for what they are and not reacting in any way. This is the True way to “breaking down of our layers of protection” and this “is the key to letting people in and living a more love-filled life.” Life is about relationships, so therefore expression and when we open our heart and let people in our expression changes therefore also our relationships so we know longer are making “the choice to not feel what’s really going on inside us” that is “makes us ill.” So as you say Alison we can all feel that through our True expression we can “truly move forward and embrace new experiences and relationships.”

  41. We tend to think of life as a linear path, with the name of the game to get ‘better’ every day. But what this means in reality is we grip on so tightly to our habits and past-times that we allow no room for things to change. In my experience life actually works in a circular way, so things get ‘worse’ and get hard before they get healed. So the true art of being alive as you show Alison, is to steadily embrace what comes our way, knowing we are supported with love to let things go and change.

  42. It is super interesting because when we seem to hit rock bottom we feel it is the worse thing ever and have shame with it. When we allow ourselves the breathing space to learn and be and see that what has occurred is not great but from the choices we have made then it is very liberating because we can learn from this and then choose to do it differently.

  43. In order to build a new foundation, much needs to be dismantled first. If we resist this process then we will often get a shakeup in much the same way a storm clears the air we breathe.

  44. “Like a dead weight around our ankles we drag our unresolved hurts into every situation…” its no wonder that realtionships break down, as long as we keep holding onto to the heaviness of our past hurts.

  45. When we let go of our protection we not only develop a deeper relationship with ourselves but with every one else in our life as well.

  46. A breakdown feels very uncomfortable and painful emotionally and often physically, and as though we are being pulled into a dark hole we cannot avoid. But can we? As you say, Alison, there is a way, if we could be encouraged to continue to be aware of our feelings and express them the way we do as young children. I remember growing up
    in the days when your true feelings were kept severely suppressed so that in the end I didn’t know what they were and mistook the emotions for feelings, which of course, leads to highs and lows, and some of the lows leading to breakdown.

  47. As someone once shared with me, “sometimes we have to break eggs to make omelettes” that is, we can feel like we are going backwards but really we are not at all, just going through a necessary process.

  48. It’s revealing of how much as a society we erroneously try and hold on to pictures about what life is, that a breakthrough is very often hugely resisted and not even considered. Rather, a breakdown is regarded as a nemesis not even worthy of talking about unless it’s under a hushed voice that talks of the misfortune of the other.
    This is where as a society we cut ourselves hugely short and place ourselves on a trajectory that cannot but have hardship along the way.

  49. ‘Like the calm after the storm clouds have passed, there is a deep settlement in the body when someone allows themselves to feel and let go…’ I love this analogy and having been through times like this can feel the quality in the stillness following such a period of life.

  50. Conditioning ourselves from young to ‘soldier on’ and to ‘steel up’ and ‘deal with it’ are already many steps away from honesty and seek only to cement a well-worn override function to our body’s naturally loving-us-to-the-core ‘true’ feedback mechanism.

  51. It doesn’t really make sense that we feel that we need to protect ourselves from others as after all we all belong to one big family. But maybe once we have been hurt in some way by only one person we may begin to build those walls just in case someone else hurts us as well and so the layers of protection begin to grow. To come to know that we are actually able to heal this hurt and release it from our body is incredibly liberating and I have found that then there is no reason to keep those walls of protection around me anymore and once broken down it feels safe to let everyone in.

    1. We learn that life forms us, that every experience moulds us and forms our character. But what you show here is, that it is not about life forming us but us bringing us to the world and not wavering from our inner knowing and quality. Yes, take life’s lessons as a learning but never dismiss our own worth and thus power we bring.

  52. What you bring beautifully to the fore here, is that it is ok to show that we are not perfect, that we have hard and difficult times, that we sometimes or more often struggle, that we feel sad and things do not seem to be working for us. Because if we do not acknowledge that and allow us to feel what is really going on with us we will keep chasing ideals and beliefs how life and we in it should be.

  53. “As everything is energy in this world, our emotions – much like electricity – are also pure energy, just differing qualities of it. We tend to think we can just brush them aside and move on, but these feelings like frustration, anger, grief and sadness have to go somewhere, and that somewhere is in the deeper layers of our body where they are held until such point that the tension becomes too great. Enter illness and disease – the Soul’s way of clearing out our unresolved baggage.” Such wisdom offered here, and it’s what many people don’t realise about how energy works in the body. If more people understood this we would have less rates of illness and disease.

  54. The idea of a breakdown being an opportunity to regard it similarly to a snake shedding its skin, releasing the old layers of protection in order to reveal the new being beneath, feels a beautiful way to view breakdowns and in fact all illness

  55. There’s a lot of illusion in our society that we need to stay ‘protected’ which stems from not trusting to let people see who we truly are in fear of losing control and consequently our self made facade. A facade that keeps us limited and in separation, eventhough on the surface we may seem to have it all together.

  56. I love what you have expressed Alison, deeply confirming of all of us and how life is. Letting go of protection and allowing who we truly are out…very beautiful.

  57. If we have an idea about what we think love should look like and if our partner has a different way of being loving then not only do we not register his love we get hurt and go into protection because his way does not fit the picture we have. We need to expose the ideals as they prevent us from being in loving relationships.

  58. When we repeatedly suffer the same hurt time and time again what are we not looking at? What patterns are we stuck-in? Until we stop and assess and feel into the choices we are making, to cause our life to be a scratched record that never ends, nothing will ever change.

  59. Life without emotion, the so-called bad and good has a consistency, which becomes as you have shared Alison, a way of living that is “letting people in and living a more love-filled life.”

  60. We have moments all the time where we can breakdown or breakthrough, it’s a constant choice with how we want to deal with life. I’d say the 2 qualities that can help us the most in these situations are honesty and humbleness… and a total lack of criticism.

    1. It is an area where we can go into deep self-loathing and subsequent self-doubt which then makes us feel small and powerless, which all in turn perpetuates the untruth that we are worthless or not worthy of love. A downward spiral in motion.

  61. We have to first understand that we are multidimensional beings. A physical vehicle controlled by an wayward incarnated spirit and also with a soul that is who we really are that is calling us back to our original truth. Then if we can understand this we can see how a breakdown may serve to stop the waywardness and the self abusive behaviours and offer us an opportunity to evolve out of the waywardness.

  62. When something stops us in our tracks, it is a great opportunity for a breakdown and a breakthrough to change a way we may have been living and moving that got us to that point. It is great to realise and embrace it with surrender.

  63. It is a common way of living projecting to all that we have everything under control. That all is sorted and fine and dandy. The facebooks, instagrams and twitters of today are a way of telling the world everything is all ok in our worlds. But the more we try to hold onto things to be all fine, the tension that is being created in the body is huge. At some point it has to break and in this we are offered an opportunity to learn and choose differently.

    1. Yes, Natalie. So many of us strive relentlessly to present this perfect front online, but things are beginning to crack under the tension as you say.

  64. The breaking down of our layers of protection is the key to letting people in and living a more love-filled life.
    Absolutely Alison, and we all need this to take place and sometimes breaking down is exactly what is needed to get to the truth of us and feel vulnerable for healing to then start.

  65. I had a moment when I realised that I am absolutely miserable and that there is no way I am willing to go further down this cold and lonely road. Only then was it that I turned back to Truth and claimed it as my path.

  66. “In light of this revelation, could our apparent breakdown actually be our body’s ultimate spring clean, shedding the layers of what doesn’t belong to make way for the new?: Yes, good question it does make a lot of sense and I can see how this could be possible.It is a moment to stop, take stock and review the past situation and what was actually there to be seen and felt.

  67. In some way, we do have to do the work on ourselves, to breakdown the self imposed ideals, beliefs and behaviour patterns we have constructed which is in the same effect breaking-through to feel the freedom and spaciousness of living beyond these constraints, rules or judgments.

  68. “The breaking down of our layers of protection is the key to letting people in and living a more love-filled life.” And how different and gorgeous it is when we do start really letting people into our lives.

  69. Thanks, Monica. I love your simple and accessible description of illness and disease, how the tension of our unresolved emotions builds up in the body until it gets too much. The clearing of this disharmony can only be healing for us.

  70. I suspect that the ‘keeping it all together’ way of dealing with life is a big part of the epidemic of anxiousness that people are facing. We are trained to pretend everything is ok, to smile when we don’t feel like it and push any feelings down that may rock the boat. It puts our body into a constant sense of disease as we cannot let the real us be shown.

  71. Holding back our true expression ensures we will remain a prisoner of our own making… for the unexpressed feelings and emotions remain locked within us, forever building to a point where they demand release.

  72. So often we construct things in life that are not true to who we are, but to which we become attached and consider to be who we are – when they break down it can feel like the end of the world but in truth it is giving more space for us to be who we truly are

  73. Unfortunately, most of life is based on survival which separates us from the delicacy, and tenderness, which is innate to us all and sets us up for the struggle and complexity we make life to be. Building a foundation, which is honouring of our sensitiveness is our way back to reclaiming that which is our natural right for all.

  74. Like you share people are obsessed with being happy as the main goal in life. It is so pointless in truth as it is an impossible goal. Much more worthy of time and investment is feeling connected and having a deep ease in your body so what ever is occurring doesn’t squash or elevate you it just confirms or challenges.

  75. I was talking to a male friend the other day, and I can’t remember the details of the topic but the statement I made was that men are super sensitive and my friend nodded and said yes. I realised that this conversation is not the norm – where this is stated and so easily agreed. I think we need to have more acknowledgement of the sensitivity of men, and noticing that during our day and our interactions with them. If we held that as a truth, we could offer that to men more and allow them to bring their sensitivity to the fore.

  76. Allowing our vulnerability such as a breakdown provides a space for different choices to be made where we honour our sensitivity and listen to it earlier.

  77. “Could our apparent breakdown actually be our body’s ultimate spring clean, shedding the layers of what doesn’t belong to make way for the new?” I frequently notice that when as a result of an insight or understanding, my relationship with life in some way changes, that much of what previously was perfectly normal and acceptable, seems to no longer belong to my life. All of a sudden what looked perfectly normal and stable, in the new light becomes unsuitable and appears to be falling apart.

  78. The joy of surrendering and letting go is immense and certainly life transforming and the key to breaking through and allowing love harmony and flow in our lives again.

  79. ‘But is there something very necessary, honest and real about going through an apparent breakdown that could actually be an opportunity for a breakthrough?’ – Indeed there is, a breakdown is an opportunity for true healing and understanding of what needs to shift in our life, as to not go down that same path again. Ultimately it is an opportunity for personal growth and evolution.

  80. I can really relate to this, we get a build up of emotional debris and it is time at some point to clear the decks….”Like the calm after the storm clouds have passed, there is a deep settlement in the body when someone allows themselves to feel and let go, like a sigh of relief – “finally I don’t have to carry this anymore!”” , to be fair I have always felt the light at the end of the tunnel, but there have been tricky times of lows and in these moments I can feel how I can feel lighter and ready for life again when I have reached a critical mass and I have cried etc….

  81. When we react from the bedrock of our unresolved hurts, what has been presented is only ever the trigger but not the cause for our reaction. And thus, it is not ever personal.

  82. This exposes the falseness and harm of simply coping and the real gift and reality of allowing our own natural vulnerability and essence to be expressed and lived.

  83. Alison I really like how you make the difference between emotional freedom and then freedom from emotion. The are actually very different and I know which one I am working towards. The latter takes a much less toll on my body.

  84. “In light of this revelation, could our apparent breakdown actually be our body’s ultimate spring clean, shedding the layers of what doesn’t belong to make way for the new? ”
    I couldn’t agree more, a lot of the time we do not value how amazing the human body actually is, even in disease it has purpose and love.

  85. “could our apparent breakdown actually be our body’s ultimate spring clean, shedding the layers of what doesn’t belong to make way for the new?” I completely agree its often when we have a ‘breakdown’ that we really are able to ‘breakthrough’ our stuck patterns and issues.

  86. Seeing it is as a Breakthrough rather than a breakdown feels so much more open and less oppressive, as you say it is not a punishment but an opportunity to clear often old and long standing hurts. “What can appear like a cosmic dagger of attracting the same old situation time and time again is not a punishment from the universe but can be viewed as a helping hand to get us to look at what’s really going on so that we can resolve our hurts and make a different choice going forward – i.e. the opportunity for a breakthrough”

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