Breakdown or Breakthrough?

In a world obsessed with the pursuit of happiness – an ever-elusive destination we live in a constant search of, but never seem to arrive at – having feelings that your life is moving in the opposite direction can be a very scary prospect. But is there something very necessary, honest and real about going through an apparent breakdown that could actually be an opportunity for a breakthrough?

Learning to cope, to be resilient and ‘keep it all together,’ are skills we’re taught to develop as children, with boys in particular feeling the pressure to ‘toughen up’ and ‘soldier on.’ Whilst these can appear like they’re serving us in the world and bringing the acceptance we’re desperately seeking, could this lack of expression actually be holding us in a prison of suffering, when being vulnerable could be the key to emotional freedom?

As everything is energy in this world, our emotions – much like electricity – are also pure energy, just differing qualities of it. We tend to think we can just brush them aside and move on, but these feelings like frustration, anger, grief and sadness have to go somewhere, and that somewhere is in the deeper layers of our body where they are held until such point that the tension becomes too great. Enter illness and disease – the Soul’s way of clearing out our unresolved baggage.

We’re baffled by the sudden deaths of seemingly healthy, happy people dropping dead with strokes, heart attacks, aggressive cancers and the like, but could there be more than bad luck going on here? Based on the fact that “Everything is energy,” Serge Benhayon expanded on this with the understanding that “therefore, everything is because of energy” (Serge Benhayon, 1999), this means that everything in our lives is a result of choice, and the choice to not feel what’s really going on inside us makes us ill.

In light of this revelation, could our apparent breakdown actually be our body’s ultimate spring clean, shedding the layers of what doesn’t belong to make way for the new? Like the calm after the storm clouds have passed, there is a deep settlement in the body when someone allows themselves to feel and let go, like a sigh of relief – “finally I don’t have to carry this anymore!”

Like a dead weight around our ankles we drag our unresolved hurts into every situation, reacting not to what’s right in front of us but to everything that has been thus far – all the moments we’ve felt abused, abandoned, neglected, invisible and unsupported. What can appear like a cosmic dagger of attracting the same old situation time and time again is not a punishment from the universe but can be viewed as a helping hand to get us to look at what’s really going on so that we can resolve our hurts and make a different choice going forward – i.e. the opportunity for a breakthrough.

If we each committed to this process of reflection and healing and took responsibility for our reactions rather than looking to others, our lives and our relationships would transform in every way. As “Everything is energy, and therefore, everything is because of energy” (Serge Benhayon, 1999), there are no pockets that aren’t affected by the past hurts we carry. What can often seem daunting about this reality of energetic responsibility is actually the key to emotional freedom… or better said, freedom from our emotions.

These emotions can feel like they are part of who we are, like being an angry or sad person, when in fact they are just an energy held in our bodies, the apparent difference between people only being how deeply embedded they’ve become. The key to healing then is about giving ourselves and others full permission to feel and let go without the imposing beliefs of it not being ok to cry, or that we are too sensitive.

Looking at little boys and girls it is abundantly clear that we are each equally sensitive and fragile, regardless of our gender. The cultural bias towards it being more ok for women to express how they feel but not men, has unsurprisingly led to the ever-increasing gap in rates of depression and suicide, with an alarming 76% of the 3,027 deaths as a result of suicide in Australia in 2015 being men (1). This statistic alone is calling for a drastic change in the way we relate to ourselves and each other.

Rather than trying to ‘put a lid on it’ and keep things appearingly functional, we should be encouraging one another to speak up and let the tears flow. The letting go is the healing and a very necessary part of someone’s growth and development. Without full acknowledgement of how much we’ve been affected by our past hurts and traumas, we can never truly move forward and embrace new experiences and relationships. The breaking down of our layers of protection is the key to letting people in and living a more love-filled life.

By Alison Coleman

References:

  1. Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) Catalogue 3303.0 Cause of Death Australia, 2015

Related Reading:
The Importance of Expressing Truth
Sensitive – We All Are It
Real Men Don’t Cry

685 thoughts on “Breakdown or Breakthrough?

  1. Sometimes things need to be pulled down or deconstructed and rebuilt from the foundations up. Our way of constantly tinkering trying to improve things has never worked but we prefer to remain blind to this fact.

  2. Thank you for this explanation and I very much agree a breakdown allows us to clear things we have been accumulating and carrying along and when we accept this wash of clarity as a support and do not shame ourselves we can move on free of this package, instead of when we hold on we drag ourselves back into old habits.

  3. When we use a breakdown sensibly we have to conclude that our free will is at times not as free as we thought and then come to the understanding that we have to surrender instead to the stillness within instead of using willpower to truly break through.

  4. We have to dig to the roots of all the ill that we live with, not only in our bodies but also in our societies. As when we neglect to do this we only give solutions to the issues at the surface but underneath they will fester deeper in our system and cause all kinds of disabilities in our movements that at intervals will erupt to the surface in a disease or extreme violent act.

  5. Sometimes in life things may have to break down in order for them to be re-built. Our pictures have to be smashed (strong word, I know) for us to see through again. Not always, but sometimes the low moments are actually as a result of us getting a deeper understanding and making a steadier step in life – like you say sometimes a breakdown may actually be a breakthrough. We just have to remain open and keep going regardless of the situation.

    1. it is about embracing life in full, no matter what comes to you and to just see each situation as an opportunity to learn and find more of who you truly are.

  6. ‘The breaking down of our layers of protection is the key to letting people in and living a more love-filled life.’ Yes, no matter how vulnerable or fragile we may feel at times.

  7. When something happens to me I can look at as that’s “Terrible”, or I can look at it as “Why did it happen?”. The first way, I have judged it, which makes it difficult to look at what happened, objectively.
    The second way I have a much better chance of learning from the experience.
    Everything happens for a reason, when I can look at things like that, it supports me to hear the message that is being presented.

  8. ‘… or better said, freedom from our emotions’ – My experience of life has been to keep a lid on what I was feeling and when I haven’t I have been undermined and ridiculed for allowing my fragility and hurt to be observed by others. Yet to live as you have expressed here Alison is so simple and once we expose the old beliefs that have imprisoned us, the response from the body is immediate and can be clearly felt.

  9. When something breaks down we do have the opportunity to be honest about what may have lead to that situation and this can be a pivotal time of healing and breaking-through, although it needn’t be an either or situation.

  10. It takes so much energy to keep protection in place… One of the greatest revelations is to feel how much energy is consumed, and when released, to feel the extraordinary sense of spaciousness and energetic freedom.

  11. Recently, on my way to work on the busy street, I saw a man on a bicycle, full of anger, yelling as he whizzed passed a crowd of people. It was very interesting how everyone just carried on their ways, totally ignoring the man. I was almost getting impressed by how everyone seemed to be observing and not absorbing, but no, it did not feel like that. Something felt devastatingly sad in all of that. I recognized the anger that man was enacting as I have done so myself, and seeing how that just repels people was one thing, and maybe I was in sympathy with that man, but I kept wondering whether that loneliness that man was in was just entirely for him to be responsible for. There was something that deeply disturbed me in that.

    1. We live lovelessly in loveless societies, there is a lot one could be angry about but of course anger only harms, nothing of true good can come from it. We are each and every one of us responsible for the lovelessness in society.

  12. Absolutely – and because we don’t let go, we pile up unacknowledged, unexpressed feelings that get translated into some kind of emotion to create a pocket for itself to dense up what could otherwise be just an energy passing through. And it’s just amazing how the body can orchestrate a healing in a timing and manner that cannot be more apt.

  13. Serge Benhayon has often presented on the power of healing hurts that we carry, after reading these alarming statistics on suicide one only has to feel how important and very needed true healing is for the body.

  14. Sometimes we need to break down something in order to break through to a new level of awareness. On the other hand we could just accept what is there to be accepted and then no break down is needed.

  15. I’m learning to appreciate being sensitive to feeling my hurts over situations that could easily be brushed off as ‘nothing’. Stopping to feel what the ‘little’ thing is all about and I see it’s a keyhole into revealing many hurts of many lifetimes sometimes. If I ignore these small incidences and the universe has to offer you opportunities you are hard pushed to ignore.

  16. Great blog that is so practical in its message: without opening up to ourselves – i.e. allowing ourselves to feel what we’re actually feeling, instead of putting a lid on it and pushing it down, we deny ourselves and others deeper connections and relationships and make-do with being on the surface of life – and then constantly looking to distract ourselves from that feeling of emptiness. When we start to feel and express that, life feels richer and deeper, and so do our relationships.

  17. Learning to ‘keep it all together’ as a child gave me the ability to keep everything functioning but in a way that isn’t true for me or actually supporting anyone else. I have seen in people who have various aspects of their lives ‘fall apart’ such as health or work and just how much they grow and blossom from the experience. Living in comfort and security does not allow this to occur.

  18. There is such an honesty available when we are vulnerable that can offer us the option to treat ourselves more gently, honouring our innate tenderness and sensitivity.

  19. Life is very simple when we understand and start from the premise that we are already everything, we are in fact Gods behaving as un-gods!!! Therefore anything that is not of love or our Godly nature is not who we truly are and is something to become aware of, bring understanding to and renounce ie let go off.

    1. What I love feeling is that the simplicity of life is so clearly communicated to us through our body. We know innately what it feels like to live in rhythm with our body’s natural ways, and even though we might have temporarily moved away from it, our body is always calling us back.

  20. The breaking down of old ideals and beliefs that are considered normal or true, can be challenging, but the breakthrough out of illusion is the re-establishing of a deep inner foundation to live from and well worth re-connecting to.

  21. Bringing the Soul into the equation regarding illness and disease, brings a whole new understanding as to the nature of our choices throughout lifetimes awaiting to be exposed for healing to occur. If not dealt with, this ultimately leads to the Soul bringing in the package of illness and disease to support our return to love.
    “Enter illness and disease – the Soul’s way of clearing out our unresolved baggage”.

  22. Being honest about how it really feels when we live governed by our emotions is where we begin to see that we are the ones, at the end of the day, that have allowed our lives to be orchestrated in the way we experience it, through the quality of energy we are aligning to. As such we can feel then if we are living who we naturally are or not. The more honesty we are willing to live with the more the falseness becomes apparent, freeing us to be aware of the quality of our choices and respond with greater truth and knowing.

  23. If we are open and willing to heal our hurts, to be truthful, honest and transparent there is no need for a breakdown. Breakdowns are the result of the build up of the energy of suppressed emotions that can no longer be contained.

  24. I think a ‘breakdown’ has the potential to literally assist with breaking down false ways of behaviour (ways that aren’t true to our essence) and with that help with getting back to more truly who one is. Not that everyone needs to have a full-on breakdown but also not to see it as a failure if that is what was needed, as it’s what we then do with it that counts…

  25. A breakdown can be a pivotal moment to bring us back to who we are, as at that moment we have a choice to either seek comfort and or answers from outside ourselves, or to reconnect deeply and slowly rebuild our choices from how we feel within, learning what supports us and which choices do not.

  26. “What can often seem daunting about this reality of energetic responsibility is actually the key to emotional freedom… or better said, freedom from our emotions.”

    I can vouch for this, since connecting to the fact the everything is energy and looking at the energetic quality of my life and then taking responsibility for that quality, I am less and less bound by my emotions. And man o man that feels pretty amazing and freeing.

  27. Nature is breaking down at the moment. More than ever have we seen the extreme weather patterns in the last 20 years than at any other time in recorded history. This says a lot but it is crucial to not react to this and observe it for what it is; a clearing of the muck of lovelessness off this plane of life.

  28. Break down is part of the process of moving forward. Yet, we can choose between breaking down layers that held us captive of a certain energetic configuration, or do nothing about the layers and allow the breaking down of the body because of the harm caused by the energetic configuration we are captive of.

  29. The thing about break downs or enormously difficult periods we go through in our lives is that they ask us which direction we want to go in … will we turn inwards and resource from everything we have inside … or … will we continue to look outwards for all the answers we’re searching for?

  30. The times that I allowed myself to deeply feel what hurt was arising in my body and not hold back what was coming up to heal, ended up feeling like I had removed a giant weight or other constructions from my body. This can look pretty messy from the outside, but is worth ‘going there’.

  31. None of our illnesses happen out of the blue, they are the end result of a series of choices that can go back lifetimes. Our body keeps us honest, even if we are not willing to be as such.

  32. Is a breakdown or a moment of things really getting to much a moment that we have deep within us the inner being say ok this isn’t working and now it is time to really feel and see everything that we have been creating for ourselves. Its a moment of choice to continue in the same way or to choose something different. Everything is a choice.

  33. Yes we need to let out the tears when they are there but equally the love. What hurts many people the most is holding back their love and joy.

  34. “If we each committed to this process of reflection and healing and took responsibility for our reactions rather than looking to others, our lives and our relationships would transform in every way.”

    Could you imagine our workplaces is we all made this commitment? The quality would be amazing and the outputs even more…. I know since I have committed to healing and taking responsibility for my reactions, that I bring a much more steadier less reactive human to the workplace.

    1. All of life would change radically if we adopted honesty and responsibility and committed to healing our hurts.

  35. “What can appear like a cosmic dagger of attracting the same old situation time and time again is not a punishment from the universe but can be viewed as a helping hand to get us to look at what’s really going on so that we can resolve our hurts and make a different choice going forward”. The opportunity to let go of something we have carried as a burden for so long is a gift.

  36. The freedom that comes with releasing old hurts and protection is deeply healing, holding onto our hurts creates all sorts of complication and misery in our lives and keeps us further away from love.

  37. Our past hurts that lay unresolved haunt and compromise the quality of how we live our everyday in the present moment big time.

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