683 thoughts on “House Clearing with Purpose ”

1. I love what has been shared in this blog, wisdom, understanding and an inspiration to go deeper with getting rid of what no longer serves us.

2. Kehinde, this has come at a perfect timing as I have been feeling our apartment is no longer serving my partner and I. There is a stuck-ness about the place and I’d like to get a hoover and vacuum everything out! There needs to be more order and I need space to do this. I know how the place feels when we go to the simplicity of everything, it feels spacious and there is a lightness about the place.

   It feels there comes a point when things have to change and it may not be how you want it to be, but what is needed. I cannot wait to take the apartment to the next place and find the appropriate practitioner for it.

   Thank you Kehinde for the inspiration…

3. Understanding that what we do in life leads to anxiety and depression and the drugs that we can then rely on to subdue these emotional qualities. By de-cluttering our life and cleaning out the physical things in our house then follows to relief a lot of tension, because our bodies can then also feel that we are more open and relaxed as we create space with the help of others/working in brotherhood, and thus our expression and what is going on for us is shared allowing healing of our issues. Is it any wonder we are confused about our place in life when we live in a way that piles things into tinnier and tinier place with the thought that one day I will need that and how this plays out in our mind.

   1. Greg you are so spot on, ‘the relief of tension’ is something we do not realise we are in, until the tension is lifted and the body feels it.

      We need to be doing this regularly as it is a fitness level we need to get to and even by changing the furniture around could be the only thing we need to do, to shift what is lingering in our homes and our bodies.

      1. I feel this is relevant in what Kehinde shared, great understanding, ‘ was designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.’

4. I love the feeling that comes with throwing stuff out. When I hesitate it feels like a blockage to letting things go and prevents a flow in life. Sometimes I unblock that flow and other times hold onto the item. But I know it’s only a matter of time before that goes too.

   1. Also great to feel why the item was purchased in the first place, ‘ As I felt the neediness behind many of my purchases, it became much easier to discard them.’

5. Letting go of accumulated clutter and you feel a weight lifting off your shoulders and you are free to move with a lightness of step.

   1. Absolutely Mary, and this light-ness takes the reactions out of our movements, so we have the awareness to be respond and not impose our values on others.

6. “Did I choose truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard?” A great question, reading your blog today I can see how a home would reflect so many of our choices and what quality of energy we were (or still are) aligned to. Everything shared here Kehinde feels like a simple, practical, yet very powerful process, thank you.

7. It is easy to purchase things out of a need, out of a desire to not feel or to fill up an emptiness inside. But this purchase then stays with that energy and hence confirms that emptiness within. Whereas an purchase done with purpose is there to support us till such time that we feel it no longer serves and then it moves on to another who can use it with purpose equally so. That is true re-cycling with purpose.

   1. Exactly, what is the purpose of the purchase, ‘ It was a revelation to feel how much of what I had accumulated was superfluous to need, not true and not serving.’

8. Spot on Kehinde, our home is like our body and caring for both is so important, and one reflects the other.

9. Kehinde, what a gorgeous sharing and one where you openly talk about how raw and confronting it can be to allow a clear out, a detox and to allow more of you to simply be.
   Your sharing is deeply inspiring and I too can feel how much I still have allowed an accumulation of things that no longer serve, yet I am holding onto with a ‘just in case’ approach. This creeps in so fast, and yet it is a form of protection. So freeing to realise this and then to allow oneself to let go and be as a lived experience.

   1. Yes, it feels good after a clear out, but I still can hold onto ‘stuff’ just in case, more letting go is definitely needed.

10. Sometimes it can be difficult to shift old habits and behaviours and this is when support can be very helpful. This could be from a practitioner, friends or family. People are often more than happy to help, all we have to do is be open to it and the support is always there.

    1. Support is wise as there is much to look at when getting rid of old possessions, ‘I needed to physically discard the past and its related emotions before I could move on.’

11. I’ve really enjoyed reading this again, there is a wealth of wisdom and understanding to be had from what you have shared. As we make our return back to living the love we are it makes sense that areas of our life that reflect the emptiness, neediness, attachments, etc, like our house and contents, will show up as needing to be changed to reflect our new, true way.

12. This beautiful and very inspiring blog was just what I needed to read today as I can feel that I have another clutter clear of my house beginning to be called for. I have done several over the last few years, and whereas in the past I would have said that I don’t need to clear out even more, the next layer is becoming very evident and cannot be ignored. It feels like shedding another one of the many skins I have taken on in my life, and to peel them back, one by one, is the most spacious feeling, not just in my home but in every part of my body.

    1. Awesome Ingrid, you are inspiring me to approach 2 cupboards in my kitchen I have been avoiding. They are the two corner cupboards where it is difficult to reach and I am a bit scared what I might find in there, haha… it’s time to clear them out and give them a good clean, reorganise and de-clutter.

13. ‘Without realising it I had chosen to see what I wanted to see – not the whole, not the true big picture of my life.’ Such a support when someone gives you space to come to your own understanding of what is needed, in order to go through a process where you choose to see the whole which makes it simple and joyfull.

    1. To step back and give oneself space to see one’s own life is indeed a blessing as with space we are able to spot more easily those things that no longer support us. Once this has been seen and noted, then we are ‘armed’ with the choice to make a change. Hence realizing what is needed as change is one of the first steps in any change we make for not knowing what to change does not allow for the next step of the actual change. Then of course there is the commitment to make the change and hold this consistently so.

14. How we look after our space, arrange the furniture and the items we have in our space can either support us to be ourselves or it can create tension in our body energetically and due to clutter and disregard. We can often assess how we are feeling by the state/condition of our living space, and I love exploring this observation in my own home. Using what I see as a sign and an opportunity to remind myself of what is really going on, for example if I feel overwhelmed my house tends to be messy and disorganised. When I feel deeply loving, my house reflects this too. So, what are we communicating to the world with the space we occupy?

15. I love what you say about feeling the loveliness of what you have chosen to keep. It feels like assigning each item of possession with a renewed purpose. I am feeling inspired. Thank you, Kehinde.

16. Spaciousness is so incredibly important… In our bodies, in our homes, in our hearts, and in our minds.

    1. So true Cjames2012, we forget what this feels like when we have been so used to living with denseness and it is when we see someone reflect and live with spaciousness that we get to feel how amazing it is to let go of denseness and choose spaciousness. It could be a process to embrace spaciousness but it is one that is absolutely worth taking.

    2. Nailed it Chris, Spaceiousness is key. It is something we all crave, perhaps without realising it.

    3. Spaciosness feels lovely when we allow it, ‘Spaciousness allows the new to be brought in and lovingly chosen.’

17. I wouldn’t say I have a lot of stuff physically, but then I think of digital possessions. Photos, videos and files are still energy that can clutter.

    1. That’s a great point, Leigh. And all the emails that are just sitting in the inbox as well. Every now and then I spend some time deleting or filing them away, but I am realizing that this is something that needs my constant attention for them not to become just another dumping ground.

18. It makes perfect sense that our homes reflect what we live and what we do choose or have been choosing, I love your sharing Kehinde and how you’ve opened your heart, your home, your eyes and how the love could pour in whenever you choose to let go of some of the old.

19. Decluttering is magical, it brings space, light and clarity. I love the openness it allows and the room then for love to fill.

    1. I love it too Christine, and I realise the space we live in is not that dissimilar to our body, when we declutter and discard things we no longer need it opens up space for more love to flow.

    2. I love how the space feels after decluttering, and know another level of decluttering is needed.

20. Great sharing Kehinde, it is easy to fall for clearing of a few items in the belief that, that is all there is to be done, yet when we start to delve deeper we realise there is a whole heap more to clear, and as we do we feel so much more space in the body.

21. Thank you for the amazing reminder about how sacred our homes are and their relationship to our bodies, I wonder if it could be said that if we treat our bodies with the utmost respect then that respect would translate into everything we touched, including our homes.

22. “The biggest revelation was my lack of awareness of how I had been living.” This is the thing that stops me being arrogant and thinking I know it all! I am forever finding there are fresh layers that come to my attention when I am ready to see them and address them.

23. Order is always space and is independent of physical space. That said, it is possible to create space within a very reduced space that is created when we surrender to a space that is as vast as boundless.

24. Thank-you Kehinde for sharing the intimate details of your healing. I just recently commented on another blog asking the question, why do we hold onto things that we no longer use or need? You offered here it is from a protection, I am holding onto things in my life to feel safe and secure. That I have some sort of life, that I have some thing to show for my life. You have taken the blinkers off for me also.

25. Perfect timing for me to happen upon this wonderful article. I can feel another round of decluttering and refinement coming on.

26. I have often joked that Justin Case needs to start paying rent as he lives in so many of our homes and often takes up the most space!

    1. Love it Sarah, Justin Case has been a partner of mine for a long time and the irony is that I think I am saving money by him being there!

       1. I have taken a while to wake up to the fact that “Justin Case” is definitely not helping me to save money either. Quite the opposite, he entices me/us to spend money we in truth don’t need to, and, in the process, we become weighed down, figuratively and literally, with all his excess baggage. And we all know how much that excess baggage can cost us when we are traveling, and how heavy it is to cart around!

27. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ Beautifully said Kehinde, to treat our bodies and homes as both precious and sacred brings a flow and order to our life that is simply divine.

28. I loved reading this blog and to re-read it again from time to time.

    I find decluttering is forever being refined and there’s always more to discard that no longer serve, whether clothes, shoes, gadgets etc, the list can be endless.
    I’ve found doing any clearing in a loving way leaves an imprint then doing it because the home is bursting through the seams and then it’s a chore.
    Thank you for the re-inspiration.

29. Wow Kehinde, by letting go of the old it feels like you pretty much have a new home without moving residences.

30. The great thing about house clearing, is how fantastic you feel afterwards inside yourself, and where your thoughts and direction are so much clearer to feel a sense of purpose – purpose is feeling what to do/what steps to take with the new found spaciousness.

31. Such an inspiring read, decluttering feels like a huge job and I can see from your blog how essential support was. It’s fascinating what’s actually underneath the clutter, although it may be different for each person it’s been great to read what came up for you Kehinde “I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.” I can certainly relate to this as it’s one way we fill in the space around us to not feel the emptiness we have lived.

32. When we clear a cluttered space, our body responds so evidently by feeling light and clear

33. It really is extraordinary what we hold onto… and always such a relief when we let go.

    1. Imagine if we instead held onto our true selves? We would then bring space. 🙂

34. When we actually do clear a cluttered space completely, it is only then that we can see something far more clearer…. yes, I agree… the biggest revelation that it shows us is the ” lack of awareness of how I had been living”.

35. It’s inspiring to read blogs like this because we all know the areas in our homes we have been ignoring and have conveniently been putting off for another day – even when the things that need to go are in plain sight.

    1. Yes Julie, we do in fact know, we just pretend to not know so much that we convince ourselves we don’t know. Very clever, because then we don’t actually have to do anything about it!

36. It’s amazing how we can live with things for years and then begin to feel uncomfortable with them, knowing that they no longer support us but are keeping us attached to a past that is no longer relevant for us and is actually holding us back in an unnecessary comfort or familiarity.

37. Our body is constantly clearing what is not needed so why not our home, if our home is an extension of our body and how we live. Today feels perfect for me to start clearing my wardrobe and starting afresh and this also coincides with where my body is and the next level it is ready to go to.

    1. That’s great Alison, and we can start with little bits at a time, a section of the wardrobe, one drawer in the kitchen, it doesn’t have to be big and overwhelming, we can bring some fun into it by doing it in smaller sized chunks.

38. When we clean the house we create a new flow that then supports us to be in more flow ourselves. It is a win-win situation.

39. It can be confronting when we dig under the surface of the nest we have made for ourselves at home. I find habitual ways and compromise of our worth become almost invisible in our home. It is such amazing support to have someone who can assist us through looking very honestly at our home and what is not equal to our worth. Once cleared out, you can instantly feel the difference, the extra spaciousness and confirmation of our essence.

    1. That’s true Fiona, the way our home is and the items we keep become our normal so having the support of a fresh set of eyes to guide us into a more loving home space may be necessary. I hadn’t quite looked at my home as being a confirmation of my essence (or not), it makes sense though.

40. Recognising that our house is symbolic of our body, how clear and spacious our body feels when we attend to decluttering, redecorating / upgrading, and how it is a Sacred space to come home to every day, offers great awareness that everything about the way we live is energetic and very inter related. With this insight, we also discover great purpose to keep attending to and refining the way our home environments, never wanting it to become stagnant in pockets of our home, because as we evolve, gather more awareness in life, so too do we want our home environment to reflect this.

41. Our lives really do reflect our relationship with ourselves, so revealing when we are willing to explore this.

42. A little bit of love changes everything, and lays the foundation for more love to flow.

43. Great job! Nothing is irrelevant when it comes to energy. We are borderless and I love what you have shared here about why we buy what we buy. Has it been out of neediness, recognition or to numb and distract us? We can all learn from what you have shared here.

44. ‘a ‘just in case’ approach to life’ is something I can very much relate to and I feel how we can get stucked when we don’t let go of ‘old things or way of being because just in case we should need it. It keeps us where we are and there is no space to appreciate what is coming next with this billboard of ‘ be carefull you’ll never know what will happen’.

    1. I get caught with this one and often wonder why it is still there, where it comes from and how I can move beyond it. I realise that this is most likely why it keeps coming back, because I want to get beyond it and am not prepared to look at the why in more detail.

45. It is interesting to consider that in essence we all can exhibit aspects of hoarding when we don’t deal with our unresolved emotional issues.

46. ‘I was inspired to break this pattern and begin to bring love into my home and life.’ and that is how we can be … breaking our old ways and bringing love in and you remind me of the reality of this … it may involve letting go old things and ways, for without doing so we do not have space for the new, the love.

47. Support, we can never have enough support. Knowing we need support and then asking for support is very self-loving and can open many doors on the inside as well as on the outside…

48. All roads lead back to the body, so whether we are decluttering or changing and refining our diets, and/or changing our movements, has it not all been impulsed from our wise bodies?

    1. Fine tuning so that more of the quality that comes from within is offered out to the world.

49. Amazing to consider that our possessions could actually be holding us back in our life. By hanging on to them we are still bound by the emotional ties that surround the events that they portray, and we keep these emotional ties going which prevent us from truly moving on.

50. I can feel today the appreciation which has been lacking that is needed in my every step to declutter and re-imprint my home. I have come to realise that no matter where I am at in the process of bringing a greater love into the home and therefore a spaciousness within my body it is vital that I appreciate myself every step of the way.

    1. A gorgeous reminder Caroline, that wherever stage we are at with letting go of what we are not, always to remember to appreciate all the baby steps we are making which eventually leads to evolving and expanding.

51. As I move into a new home, this has many points that support that move. Do I really need that, is that going to make it into the place I’m living, is it coming out of the box to sit deep in a cupboard or can it stay in the box and be taken down the recycling centre? I can feel the attachment to things, and then its a question of picking my way through to the truth, and a bit of support along the way is highly recommended!

52. Yes I am in the process of clearing my home and it feels great to clear the ‘stuff’ I hold onto for those ‘just incase moments’, love how you shared about having more than one of items when we may not need them.

53. It’s what happens to our bodies when we really start to clear out the old that is very interesting and very revealing.

54. Cleaning any part of the house when done with a purpose can leave one feeling that not only does the place physically change but a weight has been lift in how the room may have felt too.

55. “I have huge appreciation for myself for being prepared to dig deep, clear what needed to go and in doing so, expand my awareness and understanding.” – Truly appreciating ourself is a bedrock for change that genuinely supports us unfolding more of who we truly are.

    1. Agreed and we are dealing with long held patterns in situations like this so it is so important to appreciate in order to allow the expansion the space to embed as a new normal.

56. ‘I learned that everything has its place and to return it to that place after use. This meant no longer spending time fishing for things but to know exactly what I had and where it was kept.’ Completion and order supports simplicity in life.

57. Thank you Kehinde, nothing like a good clear out to free up spaciousness. I am feeling another shedding coming on after reading your blog.

58. It’s a nice idea that the home is interlinked with the body. But it’s quite something else when you discover it’s the absolute truth. Why do we leave messes and accept dischord in our possessions? Why do we take on emotions and habits that get in our way? It seems it’s all to hide how amazing we are inside – it’s high time as you show Kehinde that we let simplicity speak.

59. A great refresher of our home being a representation of our bodies. We actually did a clear out this weekend and found there was a lot of stuff hidden behind doors. It was a reflection of not being totally open and so it felt great to nominate that and clear it out.

    1. It is amazing how many things we can keep in drawers or behind closed doors that we forget about and leave until another day but all of that affects us. For me it feels like a dragging down knowing it needs to be done. I know for me the clearer my space is where I am living the clearer and lighter my body is. It makes such a difference, and often we only feel it once we have cleared the space as it is like we are blinkered before. And I always go – why didn’t I do that before?! Perhaps it could be that it also means I have to take this lightness out to the world and show them all the love I truly am without holding back, as there is now no excuse to be less??!!

60. There is something very beautiful about the support we can have in clearing out our houses. Because another person can offer you a perspective that perhaps is not always so easy to see. Having another person there, while you clear and discard is very beautiful, because this offers a support to take the clearing deeper and transform it in to a truly healing experience.

61. It is such a great thing to seek the help of others and be open to what is suggested as many of us are stuck in our ways and aren’t willing to see the necessary steps we need to clear our path.

62. Without a doubt, every time I look at what needs to be de-cluttered, to improve the flow of my home, then I feel it in all of my life. These two components are linked, how we live at home and how we feel in life.

63. “Above all, she had the sensitivity to feel where I was stuck, a warmth and a way of phrasing questions that compelled me to feel more deeply. She steadily took me a through a process which supported me to feel the true impact of how I had been living.” This is the power of Jenny Hayes, she is truly remarkable and I highly recommend having a session/s with her. It is not about what’s right/what’s wrong, what looks good/what does not, it is about what is true for you and that can be hard to reach on your own as you say Kehinde, we are often blind to the way we are living.

64. “Above all, she had the sensitivity to feel where I was stuck, a warmth and a way of phrasing questions that compelled me to feel more deeply. ”
    This line really sums up my experience with most Universal Medicine long term students and Practitioners. I have always found it hard to explain because it is quite subtle to the untrained eye but the quality in which you are asked things by students of The Way, makes every question that you may have once struggled with in the past, seem simple, it is like remembering that you have all the answers you ever wanted

65. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ Looking around I see that I have allowed clutter to build up again. I love order and harmony in my life but how can I have that if I don’t have it in my home…and in every part of my home? As kevmchardy said earlier this is a process and it is honouring of ourselves to do what feels true and not just go along with something because we have agreement in our heads but not the whole body saying yes and likewise it is not for us to judge how we are but observe, read and lovingly make changes from that awareness and appreciation.

66. Dear Kehinde,

    Gorgeous to read your blog today as I am in the midst of sessions with Jenny Hayes. I have had 2 out of 3 sessions going through my wardrobe and it has also been an incredible process. I too had ‘prepped’ my wardrobe and discarded what I thought was the bulk of it, and was ready for the session.

    Wow, I had no idea how much ‘stuff” I still had in my wardrobe that was not true. It was a raw process as well for me as I stripped back the stories about why I had bought something and saw so clearly (well not always!) the patterns I have about buying clothes, how I wanted to be seen, recoginised, and thought of.

    I re-cycled over 170 items of clothing and now my wardrobe feels the most amazing I have ever felt it….beyond what I could have even imagined. Highly recommend these sessions if/when you are ready.

    Love, Sarah

    1. Our lives really do reflect our relationship with ourselves, so revealing when we are willing to explore this.

    2. Wow, 170 items of clothing recycled, I am inspired

67. I’ve moved several times in the last few years and each time it’s been an opportunity to reevaluate my possessions and what truly serves me, and what I’m just holding onto. Each time it feels like a shedding of accumulated layers and there’s a lightness and actually a joy at letting go of stuff, and allowing more space.

    1. I have found the same Bryony, it is amazing quite how much stuff we accumulate which we do not actually need. Having recently downsized a few times it has been great to let stuff go that I have not needed rather than hanging onto things as a just in case. Things change and we change, the question is do we and are we willing to reconfigure our lives as a result and so embrace all that is on offer or do we want to keep the old with us?

    2. Thats a great point Bryony, moving has a natural way of discarding what we no longer need, but if we don’t move for 25 years there is not that same opportunity to clear the emotional ties of what certain objects represent that keep us held in the past and stop us from moving on.

68. Amazing to read how objects can become substitutes for self-love, because this shows how, to choose an object to replace self-love, there would need to be an awareness of self-love in the first place.

69. Such a great reminder that the imprint of energy we buy stuff in remains, with every item of my clothing I can feel my intention when I brought it and whether it was to advance me or to distract myself or indulge myself – and it matters it really matters and effects how I feel when I wear it.

70. Bringing delicacy into our home feels very potent for me at present, and I am loving brining the detail to that.

71. What do I allow in that gets in the way of me expanding? Catching those moments when I feel myself contract and resist from seeing the bigger picture feels very supportive. What if I were to see and feel the bigger picture in my every movement? Oh my… this feels good and very expansive in my body taking me deeper into the knowing of what is possible.

72. Thank you Kehinde for sharing. I too have been and still am clearing out that which no longer supports my family and I. It seems to be a gradual process of letting go saying yes to what comes up in the moment and not have an expectation of what I should or should not clear out.

73. When we declutter our home space it feels just like having a full body detox, which shows us clearly how everything – life – is energetic.

74. Order and things being in their place are important to me, it supports a settlement in my body.

    1. Totally agree Lorraine, and then that feeling of space that comes with it and around it is pure gold.

75. When the time is right we will all shed the unnecessary baggage we carry with us. I find it interesting that you put off calling Jenny for two years. Had you got in contact sooner the time may not have been right and some of the things you got rid of may not have been ready to go. I got rid of all my cds before I was ready and if I’m honest I was gutted for a long time.

    1. Yes, good point, we may feel the pull to attend to something, but there is a time factor that when honoured, ensures a complete clearing / healing to happen

76. Wow Kehinde, such a beautiful journey of self discovery, I’m so glad you shared this with us all as it brings an opportunity for us all to look more closely into our own homes and what we are holding there.

77. It is so true that many of our purchases are motivated by the need or desire to look like the pictures we are fed by society, rather than feeling into things which are supportive or bring out our inner beauty.

78. “…Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness….” Yes, coming home at the end of each day after being at work, has more meaning and purpose to it when you recognise the sacredness of the space we call home.

79. It can be so very revealing if not somewhat uncomfortable to have someone take a close look at how we have been living especially if we have been choosing to live with our ‘rose coloured’ glasses on so we can’t see the full and honest picture. But if this observer comes with nothing but love and no judgment then it becomes easy to take those view altering glasses off allowing a true and transparent observation of our life and the way we are living; and with honesty comes change.

    1. How very true Ingrid. But having the support of someone who comes with no judgement whatsoever it becomes possible to see things that have been around us for years, in a very different way and then suddenly it becomes simple to let go of any attachment we may have had.

       1. So very true Sandra… it is as if we are seeing through new eyes.

80. Wow! This feels like such a huge process. We can have a superfluous relationship with ourselves that our home and buying patterns can reveal if we are courageous and honest enough to look. I have also been doing clearing out of clutter recently and it does make you appreciate the things you keep so much more.

81. Very inspiring what you have shared in this blog Kehinde, and great that you felt why you purchased items in the first place, and how this helped with the letting go process.

82. Reading this again was like having a session and it made me think about many things that I had not thought about since the last time I read it. We moved from a flat where we didn’t own anything onto a boat which over a number of years we filled with stuff, then progressed to a two bed flat which then got filled and now we have a three bed house and I can’t believe how much stuff we have. A very inspiring read but this time I will make the time and space to start the de-clutter .

83. Simple reading this blog has invited me to be honest every time I open my wardrobe, and feel what is looking back at me.

84. The house is our body in repose. So, our house will only help to confirm the quality of the impress we have set our house with. It is easy to see how uplifting it (saying yes to a higher quality impress and dumping what does no longer belong), can only help.

85. Kehinde, what struck me in your blog is how much you allowed your practitioner of life in and how there was no resistence in truth to what she was revealing to you. This shows a true willingness to learn and grow.

86. Having just moved into my new home I am enjoying the process of feeling what to keep and what to clear away and also where items will be placed to create harmony and clarity. My partner and I love our new home and any new item into the house is only chosen if we both agree we love it and will have purpose and support for our lives. House clearing is a lovely opportunity to discover more of who we are and what we choose to keep and discard to bring clarity to our surroundings.

87. Nothing like hidden clutter to make things feel stagnant.

88. Lovely to come back to this blog and feel the spaciousness and the inspiration to continue bringing clarity to my home, my body and my life.

89. I am about to embark on a second stint of house clearing, I love the feeling I have when I return to an area of my home that has been ordered.

    1. I love this too. You can feel the difference after a good house clearing, there is a sense of spaciousness and order that makes you feel more settled and at ease.

90. The space in which we live is a great reflection of our body and what we choose to put in it around it or on it. Everything respresents everything.

91. What is expressed here has been the trademark of Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine from the word go: “There were no bells or whistles or any super high feelings after the session, just a steadiness and stillness within that allowed me to feel my own power and grace that I held as a woman but had hidden from the world”.

    In fact as a practicing complementary health practitioner the very first workshop blew my whole concept of what it was to be helpful and loving (which at that point was one that created dependency) to one of taking responsibility for my own expression and reflection and letting that quality inspire others to live the same quality if they choose.

92. When our movements align with purpose, we feel the pull of whatever is needed for us to evolve.

93. I was at a friend’s flat yesterday and I was deeply inspired by their organisation and use of their small space. Everything had its place, even within the cupboards objects were beautifully packed. Nothing superfluous was stored as there was no room to contain anything that did not support. Everything was neat and tidy, but beautiful positioning of certain objects that enhanced the living space. It was simply a joy to feel the quality of how they lived.

    1. Sounds very inspiring Rachelmurtagh1. I love it when I walk into someone’s house and get met with love, order and simplicity, it is like a masterpiece of artwork on canvas but in 3D space.

94. Today felt very different and the only thing I can put it down to is that I put all the laundry away. There was a feeling of completion that wasn’t there normally.

95. What a great dose of honesty this is – and a very simple way to live and lay the foundations of our home to truly support us. I love how you went over the value of each item, appreciated it and re-positioned it. That is really a spring clean!

96. Was I moving with… ‘truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard?’ How we move in life precedes the results.

97. All we have to do is say Yes to what is next and the rest is taken care of.

98. Kehinde what a great blog in sharing that there are so many facets of our lives we keep under cover so that we show others that we are coping, yet the overwhelm is obvious in our space and how we move and support it from the overcrowded cupboard that is obvious to the dishes we leave undone. Everything does have a space and purpose just like us.

99. Wow Kehinde, “to embody spaciousness, purpose, simplicity, order and love into my life” through the process of clearing out what was no longer needed sheds a huge light on the importance of how we treat our homes and live in them.

100. It is interesting how when we do not feel enough in life or try to deny the emptiness we feel, we can often accumulate more than what we really need. Just as you said you felt into the fact the you only needed 10 of the 30 jumpers you owned.

     1. Jenny, your comment here says it all, we compensate for our lack of self worth by acquiring more and more possessions or for others it’s money, recognition or status. When we know our true worth all of this is immaterial.

101. Sounds like an amazing process of transformation, creating space in ones home and body for more expansion.

102. There’s nothing like the feeling of de-cluttering cupboards because even if we think we cannot see what is inside, we can feel it. And when the items are gone, and order has been restored there is this spacious feeling which makes the room feel larger.

103. This is a very key point – that when we do not live our fullness we seek to fill the space with objects, trinkets, ideals and beliefs that are all various forms of physical, mental, emotional and energetic clutter. This is how we bury the light of who we truly are and how we then allow so many versions of ourselves to parade about on the surface in place of the real us.

104. In my recent clear ups I’m always surprised how much stuff I still have. Most of it is from the “I may need this sometime’ category. I am discovering how much security these things seemingly offer which shows there is potential for a deepening in my relationship with myself and the Universe, as the latter will take care of us the moment we surrender our need for security.

105. It is beautiful to see the reflection of how we are with ourselves through our home. I know I have already gone through several adjustments in the past years and I feel another one coming up. The more I come home to me, the more my home will reflect this.

106. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ Your blog is an inspiration to truly feel into if my home is expressing me and my sacredness and although I am de-cluttering right now, there is deeper layer coming to the surface to clear and let go of.

107. Clearing the space we live in can make a huge difference to how we feel. I know when I clear a space at home I feel so much lighter and clearer myself.

     1. Jennifer, I agree when I clear a space in my home or work, that is great difference in how I feel and my energy levels are more. Its suddenly as if I have had a boost of energy and I feel lighter too.

108. “Held on to items I didn’t like or use because someone dear to me had given it to me.” How often do we do this…?! I can remember as a child being told to not be ungrateful if I commented that I didnt really like something I had been given. So I learnt to just put it to oneside but never really knew what to do with it. But what message are we giving to another if we accept something that we dont really want/like and then hold onto it to please them? Surely its better to be open and honest about gifts rather than to end up with a lot of items in your home that you dislike or have no use for, that basicslly end up as clutter.

109. Yesterday I walk into my house after work and the floor had been cleared with a lot of focus and love and the room felt so spacious and I felt like I was being offered a new way of walking on the floor/in life. This was very beautiful to feel and appreciate.

110. I know from my own experience that no matter how well stuff is hidden away and kept out of our sight so that we can present a flawless facade, there will always come a day that we are confronted with the effect this way of living has on us.

111. Any activity and action done with a purpose and intention for us all to deepen in our relationships with our inner hearts is a movement done in evolution.

     1. Beautiful what you share there Jenny, how our everyone movement has a purpose to support our expansion. So to be aware of our movement, where they are true and supporting expansion or not.

     2. Beautiful jennym – thank you for your comment. When purpose for the All is sensed referring to some areas of my home I have been resisting to clear, there is no holding back as I get to feel my responsibility towards the whole.

112. Spaciousness allows the new to be brought in and lovingly chosen. Yes Kehinda, in the most beautiful and enjoyable way.

113. ‘Our home is a representation of our body. What does it say about me if I only express from the surface, not my deep true self? What does it say about me if I keep things hidden away behind closed doors? ‘ Well said Kehinde, and so very valuable to ponder on.

     1. It is amazing how much we think and are led to believe we can keep things to ourselves or behind closed doors and how what we do will not nor does affect others. It makes for more sense that everything we do has an impact not only on our bodies and the quality we live with but also then to everyone we meet. To think I could get really angry or annoyed with someone say at work and then come home to my partner and be super loving does not stack up yet is something most of us have done.

114. It is amazing how much stuff we can accumulate that we rarely use and just fills up space in the cupboards. Iknow for me their is a vast difference when my room is clean and tidy to being in a mess – the whole feeling is different. Yet I can find it a struggle at first to start cleaning with a bit of resistance to it the moment I do it is like giving my body a spring clean as well!

115. It is super supportive to ourselves and everyone else to be open and aware of who can best support us with what ever it is we require support with. We all have different strengths and can deeply complement one another if we are humble and honest enough to receive it.

     1. I so very much agree Samantha and it is so very important that we honour each others strength and weaknesses.

     2. So true Samantha, being humble enough to understand this, allows us to let go of control and create space for expansion, with the support of others.

116. And what we are really clearing out are our patterns and behaviours which are our blocks that prevent us from moving forward. We hide and stash things from ‘another time’ to bring out and reminisce about . . . bringing back old feelings . . . like how we can hold on to old hurts and memories to bring out and lament about and stash away again not quite dealt with or never dealt with as this is how we have identified ourselves and we hold on to this identification with a grip to be reckoned with.

117. Three years ago we were getting ready to move and downsizing, and we had inherited a house full of stuff from a house clearance including appliances and what I had acquired over 20+ years because I need one of those. The biggest piles were my tools and they were the last to let go of. There was also the over 1500 DVDs, all gone now. Even my TV now has a new home. Life is a whole lot simpler without mountains of stuff.

118. “Did I choose truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard? I was presented with energetic responsibility in a very practical and real sense.” Love the true purpose that is presented here Kehinde… being energetically responsible for truth, beauty and love in our everyday life is amazing.

119. A very powerful healing and clearing Kehinde.

120. Everything in our home can either carry purpose and be there to support us or it can carry an energetic weight that impacts us and imposes upon us. Often we can have our blinkers on in our own home and we get used to things as they are. But when we do feel into each item, how and where it is placed, how it affects the home and so on, it is a great thing.

121. Sometimes even just clearing a section of the house or a cupboard where the clearing is not visible changes the feel or the space in a room, where the clutter was effecting the otherwise space there could be

     1. I agree and what is shows is how everything is important and everything matters. Why would we want to have disregard in one area of our house when it could be an area of love? And the more space we have around us the more we are held by it rather than having to struggle against it.

        1. I agree – the house can reflect the way we approach our life and mind – do we leave little pockets our minds where we allow self-abuse thoughts or fantasies or judgements of others, just like we leave draws messy or corners unorganised in our homes?

        2. So true Rebecca, for me the questions arises how much love am I willing to be? ie. will I settle for less and as such keep the pockets of self abuse or will I only say yes to what I know is love and use love as my guide and teacher rather than trying to be anything else?

122. I am loving the growing understanding of the deep connection between my home and my body. My house clearing that was going along well came to a grinding as a result of demands from another part of my life. And once those demands were complete it wasn’t my home that continued to have the clearing it was my body, and at a very deep level. That clearing is almost complete so I feel that I can return to the house clearing very soon and that I am looking forward to, while keeping focused on the ebb and flow of this beautiful and natural inter-connection.

123. Beautiful Kehinde, today I am having a gathering of people and reading your words I can feel that I can let them in, in the way you describe so they can see all my foibles, concerns and quirks, without barriers or hurts. For then they can relate and support me to move past these old ways. This transparency is for any occasion or place – for it’s the way of the universe.

124. ‘I have huge appreciation for myself for being prepared to dig deep’… I love this as a point of inspiration for appreciating what unfolds when we do explore deeper into ourselves and how we behave and feel and then, going for it again… like what is the next layer of discovery?

     1. Yes the more we go deeper, the more to let go and discover different layers we are working through. This in itself is a process of expansion and evolution>

125. A beautiful confirmation of space and the importance of how we live and the honouring of this and the love we are with the continual expansion this allows us in our lives .

126. I have noticed that when i have felt in the ‘doldrums’, one of the ways of addressing this feeling is to look and see what in my house needs some attention and order, then tidy and organise this area. It could be folding up the washing, changing bed linen, vacuuming, or tidying my wardrobe up (to name as few), It is quite awesome how this activity is so restorative to the body, highlighting just how symbolic our body is reflected in our house.

127. This exposes how every area of our lives is affected by the way we live, by our daily and moment by moment choices.

     1. And that every area of our lives matters… it is one life.

128. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ So true Kehinde. Stepping out smartly dressed but leaving a trail of messiness behind in our house has an effect on how we are in our day.

     1. Jenny this is a great point to bring awareness to “Stepping out smartly dressed but leaving a trail of messiness behind in our house has an effect on how we are in our day.” if we are living like this what are we bringing to the world, lots to feel and ponder on>

129. Equally important as cleaning itself is appreciating how it changes the quality of a space, which offers a new foundation of how you can live there.

     1. A great reminder Susie, we raise the standards of our home when we clear and clean the space.

130. Our home is like a real foundational place for us and a great reflection as you share here of the way in which we set ourselves up to express in all other areas of our life!

131. What I have observed is that when things get complicated, I have allowed some disorder in. When I clock this, I stop, and look around my room and its so clear what needs done – there are things I have left lying and not put away in their place.

132. There is no end to the possessions we can fill our lives with just to substitute the lack of deep care and appreciation of ourselves.

     1. I know what you mean Eva, I use to be a person who would buy things all the time, if I was bored I would go shopping, I would buy cloths that I never wore. Now that has changed, I hardly go shopping as there is really nothing I want to buy. When I do go its because there is something I actually need.

133. “I learned that everything has its place and to return it to that place after use.” I love the simplicity of this lesson and its something I used to emphasise to my children when they were growing up so they always knew where to find things. Plus its a great metaphor for life in general.

134. When It comes to house clearing and bringing order and purpose its incredible the difference this makes to the way that everyone feels and the way it ripples out into the lives, the work and the family of those whose house has been cleared. I know this from my experience where when we see what in our home needs adjusting, tweaking and moving it open up and allows a flow of simplicity in many areas of life.

135. It is interesting how there can be order and then there can be control. With order there is divine simplicity, with everything in its right place according the support that you need in order to evolve and to learn more about who you are. With control that order is stifled and yet everything on the surface may look right or even perfect, but there will not be any flow in the space that allows you to expand.

136. I have spent most of this life gathering stuff like a snowball rolling down a hill that had no bottom. I can relate to you’re ‘Without realising it’ list; I have been there done that! It has taken me over three years to finally see the wood and the trees and what they are not doing for me. Now, my excess stuff is like weeds in the lawn, easy to spot and remove without a second thought.

137. I love this blog Kehinde, so very inspiring, I have so much paper work to sort through and shred, a job Ive been putting off for eons and I know just how good it will feel when I have completed it.

     1. I can relate to this – sorting out paper work can easily end up being put off as not being as ‘important’ as other work, which of course is a complete illusion.

138. It is interesting to consider what all the gathered goods in life do to us on an energetic level. Not only do we end up with a messy home, cluttered with stuff and difficult to move in, so too do we create a stagnation in the natural flow of energy that would otherwise make life simple and a joy.

139. Clearing and making space in our homes, can change the way we move around them, how we move has a such a definite impact on how we feel and how we relate to the world.

140. Possessions as a way to protect ourselves, a veritable buffer and shield – but there is nowhere to hide, not really.

141. Why is it we think that when things are hidden from view they don’t matter? We may not argue for example with our partners on the street but be willing to vent our frustration at home when nobody can see. It is the same for full and untidy drawers. If the drawer is shut and looks tidy but inside it is rammed full then it fits the picture and looks good except every time you open the drawer you are reminded of the way you are living with lack of care, the lack of quality is felt and reflected back to you every time you open the drawer. I’ve lived like this for years, feeling like I can get away with it, which I can’t. It is only now, that I am being more honest about the way that I am living and dealing with my ‘stuff’ that I am becoming so much more aware of how everything matters.

142. Great to read this as I have been feeling for sometime that a clear out is due.

143. When we let go and clear the many distractions we have sought, it becomes so much easier to listen and respond to all our wise bodies are communicating, creating a flow of moving and expressing from one moment to the next.

144. A awesome gift to self; start clearing out your own mess ( the stuff we keep/hoard but no longer need). This has a ripple effect on all areas of your life.

     1. Yes, and it does not need to be a huge event… simply bringing the awareness of our accumulated clutter into our days and approaching every drawer/shelf/cupboard with a willingness to freshen up and discard… step by step, one thing a day.

145. This is key here I feel Kehinde “Our home is a representation of our body”. This is an eye opener and I would say required reading for us all!

     1. That is a great point you mention Roslyn, so clearing our house is actually a healing to our body too and you can say is good medicine. So lets all get a subscription for that.

146. Going through and discarding our old stuff is like clearing away the cobwebs of the past.

     1. Yes, it feels so refreshing to do and gives us energy for what’s next.

147. I still have further to go with my pattern of letting go of holding onto things that may be needed, or holding onto items just incase, a form of control instead of surrendering and trusting.

148. I have moved quite a lot of times. From small houses in big ones and also vice versa. With every time I was able to feel very much, what do I really need and what not from all my possessing. And it was my style of living, my circumstances and my attachments or freeing of certain situations which helped me to decide. For example why would I need a lot of plates and cutlery if I don’t have the opportunity or the intention to invite so many people? I had periods in my life where a lot people were in my house and others where I didn’t want or need that. Life is ever changing and it is much easier to handle only things you need than hoarding things you think you can need. When times comes again for things you would like to have again, because you need them truly, I experienced that you will have the money and the offer to purchase or inherit them again.
     One rule which helped me a lot: everything you really need in your life, has a place to be stored. This makes clearing, cleaning and having an overview very easy. New things coming in may need a bit of time to settle down and get a place in your house and your life. This is for your belongings but also for happenings in your life.

149. What I find so beautiful is when we clear out our houses is the direct reflection it has on our bodies and how we live . We find these neglected cupboards or pockets of our home that have cluttered and yet what we can also ponder, is do we also have areas within ourselves where we hold protection or old behaviours that hold us back from the clarity and spaciousness we feel when we can let go and discard these barriers. Our homes are always a beautiful point of reflection to learn and grow as we feel ready to explore and deepen more of who we already are.

150. Awareness comes from allowing ourselves a stop moment. From there our life can change dramatically if we so choose it.

151. Everything has a place and there is a place for everything. This is something I have found is a natural ‘rule’ that can be lived by, not in a way of controlling or being in control, but in a way that allows the natural flow of things.

     1. I have come from OCD to learning to let go and allow a flow. I have always known that order supports hugely, but simply gripped it too tightly to try and stabilise my inner storm from the outside.

152. Kehinde, I love this title; ‘Energetic Responsibility at Home – Spaciousness & Simplicity or Clutter & Complication?’ I know how very different these two ways of living feel, I feel deeply inspired to clear my home, knowing that this will allow more clarity and spaciousness in my life – very beautiful.

153. ‘ On the surface there appeared to be order, but was there?’ A great question Kehinde, and to be applied in all aspects of our lives.

154. ‘It was an emotional journey as I re-visited different stages of my life and the various guises adopted along the way: girlfriend, partner, radical black activist, feminist, silk screen printer, carnival mass parade dancer, devoted martial arts student, yoga student, Hindu guru devotee, management consultant and tutor of many subjects’. There are so many cycles we can move in and out of. Some healing, some harming, but all we can learn from and be inspired to step into one’s potential, making it real.

155. It’s such a great feeling when you have a huge clearing out of stuff from your house. Not only does it create physical space but a huge energetic shift as well as making way for what is next.

156. A probably unexpected way of getting to know oneself better, but it makes sense to look at the result of our way of living to get a reflection of how we live and from there having some distance to look at ourselves.

     1. Yes Alex, it was an ‘unexpected’ and profound way to know myself more. Always worthwhile to pause and feel spaces we live in and how they speak to us. Once we clear one area, another presents itself to be examined. We also need to be aware of the ways in which we clutter our bodies with distractions: food, TV, radio, chatter, rather than fully embrace spaciousness and stillness in our inner home. This is the next for me.

157. Love what you have shared Susan, and could it be cleaning out and down sizing never stops as the process unfolds we unfold so more is discarded? So we need to be honest and feel deeply the “clarity of the situation at hand.” Then as we lighten the load we can expand.

158. Knowing that clearing out the house brings spaciousness and simplicity as you describe Carmel, encourages me to get on with it and complete it. We all can feel how the state of a messy room affects us, it is brilliant to have been given a bit of a nudge from you to get it done, thank you.

159. I am in the process of preparing for a move and there are boxes and things in disarray all over the house. I find it discombobulating, not at all great and I literally can’t wait to be in a space where everything is ordered again!

160. ‘On the surface there appeared to be order, but was there?’ – A question that could be applied to many different areas in life, we learn from an early age that it serves us to show the world a facade and not the truth of who we are, which is why we see it as normal to have things hidden or tucked away in the material aspect as well as in the physical, emotional and mental or any other aspect of our life.

     1. Very true Eva, children are naturally open and expressive, something happens as they get older, these qualities shut down and the facade begins. Symbolic to have few cupboards in our inner and external homes. To have everything, clear, accessible and transparent simplifies life, supports us to flow with life rather than against it.

161. This week I have been experiencing the same thing Susan and Kehinde, I found that I was seeing myself through a filtered distortion of who I was in the past, that was not me anymore. It felt horrible, like a coat on me that didn’t fit nor suit me anymore, had too many pockets with things in them and buttons galore, but I was still trying to squeeze into it. Discarding the weighty old coat can sometimes be tricky as we have gotten so used to it and dont see how ‘out of date’ it is. Once we let it go we see that what we are wearing underneath is simple and shining and fits like a glove. Just like the clearing we do in our homes.

162. Love having things in their place it brings such a great foundation for us to then be very steady in our selves as there is less opportunity for that feeling of chaos.

     1. Me too Vanessa – I need things to be in their place and love the feeling of space and order that it gives – if there is ever chaos in my home there is also chaos in my life.

     2. Yes, I agree. We cannot hide in the chaos but get to see more of what is going on and how we can affect change.

163. Surely an example of the more there is to life in even the most mundane of things and thus bringing to life the quality it needs to have for us to be who we are.

     1. Alex I agree. There is alchemy we transform the mundane into pure gold.

164. When I bring purpose to anything I do it immediately creates space for more to follow, it does not matter if it is clearing out clutter or putting out the bins.

165. The level of detail you were prepared to go Kelinde to is inspiring. The home is a great reflection for how we are living in our bodies and it is an empowering process to clear out and simplify…ongoingly.

166. When your home is furnished simply and only with what you need it is a super supportive space to live and be in.

     1. Yes Julie, this is the essence and beautifully expressed: our home becomes a ‘super supportive space to live in’

167. Just reading your blog makes my body feel like it has had a spring clean too… Its quite amazing isn’t it, (and yet obvious at the same time), the symbolism and energetic relationship between our house and body … I Am very inspired now do a spring clean of my own simply from how it feels in my body through reading your blog.

168. ‘Our home is a representation of our body.’ This says much, but interestingly we don’t approach our homes with this awareness, although it makes sense as a bigger reflection of our choices and the way we live.

169. I’ve observed a kind of control behind the attitude of wanting to have everything that I might need in a house. The ‘just in case’ or not wanting to ask for something when the situation comes. With this attitude I fill the space where I live with things that are not really needed, and I’m losing the opportunity of opening myself to spontaneity or a sharing with others. Now that I know about this pattern, I’m working on it to be more confident and open to ask for something for example to a neighbour, and I’m enjoying the opportunity of connection with others. Every situation offers to us so much to learn, grow and share. I’ve discovered that I have very lovely people around me and this is something really beautiful. I used to think that I had to do everything alone, and this is not the case. In every interaction there is a lot to share. So less things and more connection is a good choice to make.

     1. Amparo, it is powerful to become aware of our patterns as you have and reach out for help. There is learning in every activity when we are open to see. ‘I used to think that I had to do everything alone’, I can relate to this and like you discovered there’s strength in asking for help and opening ourselves to others.

170. Whenever we clear anything, whether its a cupbaord, a room, a garden or our workplace, there is always an energetic shift that allows the space for so much more to be delivered. We should never underestimate the significance of this when its done with purpose, regardless of how small the task in hand may be.

171. I love the honesty and detail to which you describe the process; it is real and relatable and makes me reflect on how I am living and considering a de-cluttering myself. Obviously it is so much more beneficial and also on many more levels as I have been aware of before – very inspiring.

172. “…Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness…” Yes, the space we live in is an immediate reflection of the way we live with or without regard of ourselves.

173. It is so great to just have the things we need and love in our house and no excess of ‘stuff’. It makes life much simpler and a lot of fun too.

174. What a cleansing and clearing you have had Kehinde! As you describe it I can feel my own clutter and how it is a reflection of the way I live my life at all levels, and the depth understanding and awareness open to us. It feels like you are healed of so many past behaviours and do not need to go there again.

     1. Thank you Joan, It certainly was transformative and, and incredibly healing with many past behaviours and attachments discarded forever.

175. Sounds like an amazing process.

176. This whole process sounds like a transformation and what a blessing it was. Being settled with spaciousness and not wanting to fill it up but to enjoy what this space offers you is a huge healing. Thanks for sharing.

     1. It is so interesting to note that when we stop to take stock of how we live and feel the difference there is always an opportunity to make this the new marker that in turns brings new patterns of behaviours that don’t truly support us and are there to work through.

177. And when we have spaciousness in our homes this ripples out to everything, as I’m learning the spaciousness is with-in.

178. One of the things that inspired me the most when reading this blog was leaving ‘empty’ spaces in the cupboards. So often when there is ‘space’ I used to tend to want to fill it in with something else. Reading this sharing made me pause to consider if and what needs to be filled in. Deeply inspiring.

179. ‘As I felt the neediness behind many of my purchases, it became much easier to discard them.’ – Love it – in many ways such simple awareness, and yet it makes all the difference.

     1. Love it too Eva, the realisation of buying things out of need to fill in the emptiness within.

180. When you think about it you get to clear out all the aspects of your life as you moved through each room in your house.

181. I have come to adore clearing things out; keeping cupboards and drawers fresh, purposeful and spacious. Reading this article though there are certainly little shady corners (a box of photographs and old invitations for example) that need attention. Thank you for the inspiration to ‘go there’.

182. What a wake-up call Kehinde, it is so lovely to read it. “Did I choose truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard?” It is so easy to fool ourselves, and we still keep the blinkers on until someone like Jenny comes along and all is exposed. You show a great example of the depth to go to change some of our previous choices.

183. “The simple yet profound method was designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute”
     Self love substituted, avoided through the accumulation of possessions, fascinating point to consider Kehinde, i am struck by how few possessions we truly require to support us to move with the lightness and awareness that is our true way of being.

184. It is a beautiful experience to have a true Esoteric Practitioner assist you along the way to healing what is ready to be healed, this to me is true community, where we all support eachother to grow and deepen in our relationships with ourselves and with the world.

185. “Without realising it I had chosen to see what I wanted to see – not the whole, not the true big picture of my life.” I can so relate to this selective awareness as I am sure many others can. It is almost like we have different degrees of honesty but in truth not observing the whole of our life with the utmost honesty is simply choosing to live a lie. To strip back our life as you have done, even though it left you feeling raw at times, is the only way to let go of the old and un-needed to make space for that which truly supports an authentic way of living.

186. “The simple yet profound method was designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute. I discovered the scale of the task, and the process became symbolic of my life and choices.” We as a humanity are object obsessed. I wonder if what you reveal here about not loving ourselves deeply enough and trying to use objects as a substitute to fill ourselves up, is part of an undetected,debilitating plague infecting the whole human race. Could it be what is stopping us from living in our true fullness.

187. Super cool and inspiring… I felt refreshed and more spacious simply reading this article and I love the fact that you acknowledge and appreciate your willingness to ‘go there’ with this process – thank you, Kehinde.

188. We continue to clear and reconfigure our family home, we are changing and evolving and it is necessary for our home to also go through this process to support us. This is a very practical choice to observe how we live, it’s benefit is deeply energetic supportive and nurturing.

189. ‘I have huge appreciation for myself for being prepared to dig deep, clear what needed to go and in doing so, expand my awareness and understanding.’ I can see why! sounds like this was a massive shift for you – I would love to hear more how this progresses.

190. “Sixty years of photographs, the equivalent of five bin bags, reduced and lovingly held in a single, beautiful folder.” I remember doing this myself and wow did it feel great. Photographs can hold a lot of energy.

191. Our homes just blossom with some TLC… a scented candle, a bunch of flowers, a good clean and tidy up, our homes love the attention.

192. I love a good clear out. It is a time to reassess all that we have lived and acquired to this current point in time and feel whether it comes with us into the next cycle or needs to be ‘left behind’. There is such a simple magic and great beauty in this, especially with the understanding that our homes are a representation of our body.

     1. Thank you Liane for your wisdom, this sheds a bright light on how to see our home, and how to be within it.

     2. I agree, and the more I make it an ongoing process, the freer and less encumbered I feel.

193. There is always more space – we are forever expanding and evolving.

194. I feel very inspired by this article to feel into myself and my home deeper. I already feel there are certain beliefs I have taken up that are due to be released and know exactly where these have their evidence in my home for me to look at. Thank you!

195. Our homes and possessions and even the arrangement of pieces needs to keep up with how we feel at any time. I find it is necessary to constantly refine and clean out, as what served me yesterday may no longer belong.

196. If we treat our homes like the sacred spaces that they are, we are constantly being blessed and supported to be more of our true qualities within.

     1. So true – our homes are a direct reflection of our inner space.

197. What you share about settling for less has really stuck with me. I know I’ve purchased many cheapish items that weren’t quite right as a temporary measure which I then end up hanging on to for years out of guilt or necessity. Now I have a better understanding of the set up I have created.

198. I love the brining of aware ness to the ‘purpose’ of our homes and in doing so the reflection they can offer about where we are at.

199. A beautiful account of how clearing our houses clears our life also and the energetic fact of this that feels so spacious light and a joy in our hearts and bodies and I have found it is a constant process with the clutter of everyday life to let go of also.

200. “I have huge appreciation for myself for being prepared to dig deep, clear what needed to go and in doing so, expand my awareness and understanding.” Love the appreciation you bring here for yourself Kehinde… it is so important to appreciate ourselves – we move internal mountains through this!

201. A great blog, showing how much benefit there is from bringing awareness to a situation. This applies elsewhere as well and to other advisers – a great principle to simply bringing awareness as an adviser or consultant.

202. Love what you have shared Susan, and could it be cleaning out and down sizing never stops as the process unfolds we unfold so more is discarded? So we need to be honest and feel deeply the “clarity of the situation at hand.”

     1. Wow! I appreciate your great wisdom Susan, as every aspect of life fits with what you have shared. It is easy to throw things away but until we “learn and grow” life just repeats in a different street but the same address!

203. ‘On the surface all was well and resolved, but I needed to physically discard the past and its related emotions before I could move on.’ – How true Kehinde, having gone through a process of letting go myself, I realised how much was sneakily hidden behind the surface, the oh so familiar facade. It is incredibly freeing to let it go.

204. Kehinde, this is really interesting; ‘On the surface all was well and resolved, but I needed to physically discard the past and its related emotions before I could move on.’ I can feel how I have held onto things that I no longer need, that are from the past and are not supportive of how and who I am now, it feels very freeing to clear these out and have only things that are supportive and true for me now, thank you for the inspiration.

     1. Yes, and how easy it is – we just need to do the physical part with awareness and it is done.

205. “On the surface there appeared to be order, but was there?” A great question and one that can be applied to any aspect of our lives really. It can be pretty easy to keep things looking smooth and organised outwardly, but once we start unearthing what is under the surface it’s not long before we find something that needs some true loving care and attention in order to be able to let go of what is no longer needed.

206. When we are impulsed by purpose, everything changes.

207. What do we physically carry around with us, just in case? We have; wallets, purses, keys and phones this the essential items then it expands. What is in our cars for just in case? Then the biggie is what do we carry around in our heads. When clean the junk in our heads of everything we no longer need, we get lighter and shine brighter.

208. Thank you so much for sharing, wow to sit and feeling how we are living and how our house is a reflection of our body. Its inspired me to go and look at my house and what I have got hidden behind doors and cupboards and wardrobes.

209. Thank you so much for sharing this blog, it is truly inspirational and insightful. I can feel very deeply the purpose of being honest about what and why something is in a cupboard.

210. We may ask what is house clearing without purpose besides the obvious moving of physical objects? Could it be that while moving things we stuff the space energetically with the lack of purpose? As there cannot only be absence of purpose there will be some other intent and energy present.

211. Absolutely Ariana, l’d say you’ve done that beautifully already wouldn’t you?

212. Yes I agree, it’s a great opportunity to cull possessions and de-clutter when you move house. I moved from a whole house to having one room essentially, with space for my furniture, but very little storage space otherwise… that was the most substantial cull l’ve ever done and felt amazing. l’ve continued to be pretty ruthless when it comes to hanging onto things I don’t use or need… especially clothes. If I don’t love it or don’t wear it for a year… it’s gone.

213. Amazing, and by committing to the way we care for our home we become aware that the home is also a place of evolution not just for relaxing.

     1. Very true Harry, well said…”home is also a place of evolution not just for relaxing…” Having your home set up so that it is also a nurturing environment goes hand-in-hand with supporting evolution.

     2. Love your insight Harry. I’ve also noticed that when I clear out my own room the other members of my household can feel the difference and it creates a chain reaction. The choices we make affect everyone whether they are seen or not.

214. It’s amazing how our environment reflects and influences how we live. If we have allowed a lot of clutter and complication due to the way that we live, this is then the environment that influences us every day. When we take time to clear and create our space with care it’s amazing how much of a difference this has. I know I can think more clearly, have more energy and feel more inspired.

215. I love your honesty Susan, we can be good at playing ‘hide, but not seek’. Feeling ‘something is not right’ is a great place to be and presents an opening for us all to ‘delve deeper”. To walk free of all pictures and expectations frees us to be who we truly are. .

216. I have lived most of my life with clutter & complication, and I am almost there with spaciousness & simplicity! I am now living a lighter life.

217. Absolutely Ariana, I love this ‘so all of our life has the same one simplicity?’ Clearing internal baggage an essential part of this.

218. This blogs shows clearly to me that the level we clutter our lives with material goods is actually a reflection of how we are from the inside, contracted and afraid of living life in the space as it presents itself every moment of the day.

219. I have been looking for a misplaced document the last couple of days and I cannot believe the amount of paper work I have accumulated over the years which desperately needs a serious cull. Can’t wait to go through it all and sort out what is still relevant.

220. Brilliant Kehinde, just recently I was feeling simarly. My room felt old and stale and I don’t mean it smelt 🙂 at the same time I invited some family to stay and have use of my room for a few days. In this process it became clear to me the things that needed to be cleared out and change. How beautiful and how confirming of the fact that when we open up to others we receive so much Love back.

221. I am in the midst of doing a huge filing job at the office this week and it feels awesome. It didn’t feel awesome at first as there was some sort of energetic obstruction I had to get through to make myself do it and that felt pretty heavy, but now that I have got through that it is great!

     1. Yes I know that feeling Nicola, I can have that with accumulated piles of paperwork, each of which I know requires some sort of action before I can put it away. No matter how up to date I think I keep, I still always seem to have a little pile happening somewhere on my desk 😉

222. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ Love how you say this Kehinde, and appreciate how powerful it is when we honour this reflection.

     1. Wow this is a power statement for one to feel and connect too, our home is a vessel of self-expression and this is really something to honour.

223. Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness. Absolutely Kehinde, when we live holding ourselves and everything in this way, that gorgeous claiming is a gift back to everyone.

     1. I can agree with that Julie, actually we have to understand that our home is an expression of how we are from the inside. If our house is cluttered we actually express that we do not live the possibility of spaciousness sacredness has on offer.

224. It can be quite confronting to realise that whatever space we set up holds a certain imprint and configuration that we then return to again and again. So when we open the door and go ‘home sweet home’ as it were, we are also arriving into whatever set-up we have left for ourselves – is it a nest we have set up to be all we can be, nurturing, supportive, deeply restful – or, is it our comfort stop, the hideaway place where we shut out the world and our own eyes to what we don’t really want to see and know…
     It’s confronting because it says a lot about what we are choosing day to day, moment to moment and how we can never escape from the energy we call in – even in the ‘safety’ of our homes. But as confronting as it is, it is also very empowering to go there, to have that honest relationship with ourselves and allow those ‘ouch’ moments to come up – and often, all that is needed is that awareness and realisation that then shifts and turns things the quality around.

225. A deeply inspiring blog Kehinde – opening up to a deep level of intimacy with another and accepting that there needs be no perfectionism in our life, only a harmonious flow within the spaciousness that is always available.

226. Out of sight does not mean out of influence for if everything is energetic then even things we have stashed or stored away can affect us on a daily basis.

     1. Yes exactly Andrew, there’s nothing like opening a drawer or cupboard and being met with simplicity and order… and conversely nothing quite like opening it up to find the stashed mess we stuffed in so that it was not evident in the room. The thing is, both are felt and affecting the room regardless whether the door is open or closed. Walking past my son’s closed bedroom at times in the past was testimony to this being true… it was easy to feel if disregard and disarray were the order of that day.

     2. Great point and I had the need to enquire about renting a storage shed the other week and so I contacted some local agents to get a price. They all told me the same, even though we have so many storage sheds around our area there wasn’t a single one available and in fact there was a waiting list you could go on. One of the agents said that with houses, house blocks and streets becoming smaller more and more people are needing external storage and so hence the demand far outstrips the supply. So it goes into this comment that not only do we have cupboards these days but many have external storage areas where they hold things and so one wonders what in the future this will create for us.

227. One cannot underestimate the intimacy of this process Kehinde, to allow someone in to the detail of your drawers, your life, your livingness would and could be very exposing, it sounds like Jenny remained steady in reflecting back at you all that you needed to see, a master mirror you could say….
     I can feel how you have cleared your space to become more intimate with yourself, and in turn those around you get to celebrate and appreciate more of you….its a win win

     1. I agree Lucinda this job of supporting someone to make the necessary changes in their living space would require great sensitivity, understanding and firm love and from this beautiful blog it would seem that Jenny who supported Kehinde definitely has these qualities.

     2. Love your expression here Lucinda, and your insight. ‘A master mirror’ is an apt way to describe what happened. Jenny connected with me in a way that made intimacy easy. It was the most natural thing to share all of me with her, had moments of resistance, but once I understood the true purpose of our work to gather (session 1) I was a delighted and open book.

228. “I had Adopted a ‘just in case’ approach to life”… I know this one very well! Having lived in the middle of the countryside as a child, and often getting snowed in in the winter (which was quite common back then!) along with having parents that were from a war generation, the whole concept of making sure we always ‘had enough, just in case’ became deeply imbedded in my own approach to life. Having stopped to ponder on this I relaise how much I still do this and how much of a security blanket it is. Thankyou Kehinde for highlighting yet another aspect of my life that has yet to be unraveled!

     1. Sometimes we cling on to the past or hold on to beliefs that not even our own, it becomes habit and form of protection. Great to re-visit with clear eyes, see where we are and open ourselves to unravel what is really going on.

229. Kehinde, it is very beautiful to read about you clearing your flat and how this feels, I love this and find it deeply inspiring and can feel how amazing this must feel to clear the clutter and choose each item that then comes into the house; ‘Spaciousness allows the new to be brought in and lovingly chosen.’

     1. Yes Rebecca very profound and healing to discover I had the power to bring love into my home, body, life through everyday choices and discard all else. This spaciousness created invites us to continually expand. Truly amazing.

230. “Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness…” Your blog is super inspiring to feel the spaciousness that your home, and you have become.

     1. This comment grabbed me to read this part, “Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.” It had me reflect how I treat both of these and how I then allow others to treat them, “utmost sacredness” is the benchmark and you can see that it’s not something that you achieve, more you consistently unfold as you become more aware of how things feel. Just from reading this it has inspired me to turn my awareness up a notch on the regard I have.

231. Imagine only choosing in life that which supports and confirms the exquisiteness of who we inherently are. Wonderful reading how instead of holding on to the many items that were collected from one need or another, you chose to keep only a handful of the ones you really loved and found supportive. A lovely example.

232. This also confirms how much there is to learn from literally everything in our lives, the daily things offer us great opportunities to evolve.

233. That was also my greatest lesson growing up – to put things back where they came from so as to be able to find them again next time – but what I have learned since then, is that there is also a flow and order to how we organise the house that take putting something back to a whole other level of consideration and quality.

234. There is a huge difference between reordering mess, and a proper clean (and cleanse) of the Home.

     1. Love this Susie and made me laugh. Shifting stuff around and just put it back again, keeps us exactly where we’ve always been. Definitely not the same as the deep cleanse and clear out that leaves you feeling infinitely lighter and clearer when completed.

235. I thoroughly enjoyed reading an account of journey to powerful self-expression. For me, every time I get rid of unwanted things from the house, body feels lighter and breathes better. I can totally relate and appreciate your every evolving transformation! thank you for sharing!

236. It is beautiful to feel the space we create when we discard the old that no longer supports where we are currently at. The space communicates and allows for what is needed to take us forward.

237. I love pruning the trees and bushes in my garden for the same reason. It allows for a healthier plant, fresh growth and a beautiful abundance next season.

238. I notice I have the habit of buying extra, just in case, but sometimes I forget I’ve got stuff, and end up buying more of the same.

     1. This brought a smile Debra, it’s one I remember from my past. Now I know exactly what I have, this habit is consigned to the past.

239. “No sense of what I had because I had accumulated so much and couldn’t ‘see the wood for the trees.”
     This is so true Kehinde how blind we become to what we don’t want to see, amazing to have these fresh eyes to support you to see the lightness with which we can truly live.

240. I know i need to do some clearing out soon and the prospect is one I am really looking forward to – the opportunity to clear and let go and make space for who I am now rather than the person I was

241. The things I feel to clear out now are not always the old things. I have recently found that some of the items that don’t feel like they are truly supportive are fairly new but I just know it’s time for them to go.

242. Amazing to hear how much you could throw out when you live in a one bedroom flat. This blog has inspired me although I don’t feel I will go as far as reducing my jumper collection even though I live in Australia where we do not need them so much!

     1. … although you never know one or two may jump out 😉

243. It is the denseness of the shadows (what we hide from view) that paralyses the expression of our light. Transmutation of the dark to light begins with the choice to let go of that which we have held onto to feel safe and secure.

244. It was interesting to read that what got revealed here was a lack of love expressed through accumulating clutter. This can be a very common build up in homes and it is great to have that reading on it. It has made me reflect on areas in my life where there is clutter and looking at what I am not choosing to allow in.

245. When we allow for space, we can then expand into it.

246. I love this blog Kehinde, clearing out anywhere always feels like we have swung a door open and let the light in. The space then feels like a breath of fresh air has blown through it and no longer holds the heaviness of the stagnation that we have allowed to accumulate. The stagnation that has weighed us down in more areas of our life than we realise.

247. Gosh, you’ve taken de-cluttering to a whole other level Kehinde. I moved states about 7 months ago now and I got rid of A LOT. But after reading this, I’m realising that actually….I’ve definitely got some ‘ just in case’, things lying around in almost every room…It’s interesting just to ponder on why. Of course there is a practicality with some things, but with others, it definitely feels like a stagnant and unnecessary collection.

248. Beautifully inspiring sharing Kehinde showing the dedication and love needed to really clear out our homes and our lives with the simplicity and space that comes from true order and how our body really benefits from this in every way with a lightness and joy.

249. It’s amazing what can unfold from just starting with sorting through one cupboard!

250. If I might add Shirley-Ann, releasing regret, is a clear and loving choice.

251. Amazing Doug. Moving house is a perfect discard, superfluous stuff. Imagine with 99% discarded how much more space and love is left for you and how light your body must feel. Also inspiring to know we can achieve the same without changing addresses.

252. We do all know on some level what our next steps are, but sometimes unable to make the changes our bodies are calling for because it feels uncomfortable or overwhelming. But we are not here to lead comfortable, safe and mundane lives, sometimes the only way is to feel the discomfort, and in the feeling of it – it melts away as you expand and allow more of you to shine.

253. There is a great sense here of spaciousness with time. It took two years to contact her, then another six months to finally meet. And even then the actual process of clearing seemed to be very slow and methodical, allowing plenty of time to reflect and ponder, with this continuing it seems well after the event and into your daily life now.

     1. Well read Shami, the thread of change as you say was spacious in time, effects profound and everlasting. And even as one phase is completed, expansion into the next is presented.

254. This blog has been hugely inspirational for me. I could really feel all the pockets of stagnant energy I have accumulated through various material things I have held onto in our house, even though any visitor would think we have a very neat and orderly home. It shows how much I have in a way hidden away the clutter and used this to hide the true state of affairs in my life. So thank you Kehinde for helping to expose this way of living in protection for myself and I’m sure many others. I think I’ll be giving Jenny Hayes a call quite soon!

     1. Thank you Michael. We can be masters of self-deception. Great you’ve become more aware of your own hidden pockets and willing to go there. Jenny guides you gently and lovingly each step of the way.

255. wow Doug that is amazing. I just got an image of you as a cheerful big red balloon heart that needs a string to stop it flying away as your body must be so light now 😉

256. Fantastic sharing Kehinde – I am inspired to clean out our garage which I have been wanting to do for ages!

     1. Thank you Nicola.Your garage call for loving attention, is in essence your soul calling you. With Jenny’s precision, all areas came into view and were cleared. There is really no end to the love we can give ourselves.

257. “Our home is a representation of our body.” an interesting point to reflect on here, is in my home how many draws do I close that are messy and full of stuff i don’t want to look at? How often in life am I doing the same with my body..

258. I love clearing my home and getting rid of things… For me it is a practise that I am fairly good at from moving so much but even so, there is always more to let go of… its amazing what we accumulate and hold onto.

     1. Same here Rosie, I have used all my moves as an opportunity to let go, sell, get rid off, so much stuff and felt the huge benefit of the deep cleanse in how much lighter I felt in my body and how much space I had created in my life for the future to flow to me.

259. When we evolve all the space around us expand so we also expand along with the Universe, then the micro has an affect on the macro! Great article Keninde, as we all have so much to learn about who and how we all evolve and as the old saying goes it all starts in ‘our own back yard’.

     1. ‘micro has an affect on the macro!” This is the essence Greg. We’re clearing not just for ourselves, but for humanity.

        1. So true Kehinde, life has no boarders.
           As our body changes because we have let go of our ill patterns it is felt by the macro the ripple effect.

260. We are amazing when we let go of all the unnecessary baggage we insist on carrying around as adults – its hard work and exhausting, when we could be living with such simplicity and lightness of being, and love, and joy, and… so much more!

261. Baggage from our past can include physical baggage that is attached to emotional baggage and we carry emotional baggage from our past relationships and all our past hurts. They affect our relationships today and can cause us to react to every little thing if we are not careful and observant.

     1. Yes, there is so much emotional stuff caught up in our physical stuff… and then we wonder why we hold onto it… or why it feels so much more spacious when we finally let it go.

     2. Good point Carmel, we can accumulate clutter everywhere in our house, car, office, body, emotions, head … everywhere.

     3. Yes Carmel, when we clear our own baggage we have less to dump on others

     4. Yes, there is emotional stuff caught in the physical. Something for me to looking at , it is time I unpicked both to give a deeper clearing.

262. Absolutely beautiful expression Kehinde, the power of removing items to provide space to feel more it a wonderful thing to explore.

263. Thanks for high-lighting the part that regret plays – very worth looking at the un-dealt with emotions that can be infused into possessions, or anywhere there is a gap in our self-worth.

264. There is great opportunity to make space for ourselves within our homes, and thereby we have the space to expand and evolve.

     1. Beautifully expressed Heather. It’s as if once space is opened up, expansion begins and the next presents itself immediately. Both humbling and magnificent.

265. What a beautiful and revealing blog. We can use our homes to hide in or we can be all of us in them. When they are cluttered up and filled with other things, there is not the space to be free to be ourselves.

     1. I love this Nicky “We can use our homes to hide in or we can be all of us in them” so true on many levels….. It literally makes sense to me that our home is a representation of our bodies, the common ways we hide in our homes are paralleled in our body.

266. Sometimes I feel I can be the opposite. I throw away things perhaps too easily but that is probably the other side of the coin or something…

     1. I might add Shirley-Ann, releasing regret, is a clear and loving choice.

267. We can accumulate so much in the desperation to fill the void from not living in connection with our bodies. From jumpers to emotions, habits, patterns and go-to’s – we can have an array, an assortment of ‘stuff’ that relieves us from the otherwise emptiness we can feel.

268. I had never thought of a mass of possessions being an indicator of lack of self love, but often things are bought to make life ‘better’ in some way, when all we truly need to do is feel inside to everything that we already are and have been right from the start.

     1. It’s incredible Carmel, how all those possessions held on to for decades, now gone, have gone and are not missed. What remains is spaciousness, lightness and clarity. They symbolised emptiness now replaced with love. I’m still getting use to the magnitude of what happened.

269. I remember clearing out my old photographs. It was a ritual that was done with vigour, glee and almost hate. I wanted to rid myself of my past persona’s, but none of this was done with the love that you have described. I love the love that you brought to this process, and that this held you every step of the way.

     1. Thank you Rebecca, One person suggested I throw all old photos in a black bin bag without looking at them. This didn’t feel right for me. I re-visited, held, and released each with love. It took longer to complete, but felt way more supportive and honouring of me. When completed, I loved and appreciated all of my life.

        1. I’ve got two boxes of photos. They tell me so much about how I was choosing to live and my relationship with them, (with me essentially) is changing too. Once I used to look at them nostalgically, then critically and now lovingly. I’m not ready to let them go, the reflections they offer are still uncomfortable at times and show me they can support me with greater acceptance and understanding of my choices. There may come a time when what’s there is no longer relevant, is me holding back from my future , perhaps I’m already there but I’m not going to force myself. The dialogue is well and truly there though.

        2. Karin, I can relate to the process you’re going through. it’s great you’re connecting to your photos and dialoguing with them. It is a process and as we change, so to does our relationship and attachment to them. There is no must do, or rush, or force, the next will unfold in due course.

270. Love it. Deep clean and deep cleanse & polish, so everyone can see through the windows and get a clear reflection of themselves!

271. Thank you, Kehinde, for sharing the process of preparing yourself to let go and step into the fullness of who you truly are. What a celebration!

     1. Beautiful Janet. It has felt like and I’m still celebrating.

272. ‘On the surface there appeared to be order, but was there?’ – I love how you chose to delve below the surface, Kehinde. Just because we hide things in attics and cupboards doesn’t mean that they are not affecting us energetically. Since reading your article I’ve been inspired to start a clearing of my own, which I know will be one of very many as the layers get lovingly pulled back, revealing that there is yet more lying below.

     1. Absolutely Alison, you got it. Cupboards, closets, attics, garages, anything hidden from view – needs our attention as this is where pockets of energy sit, stagnate and drain, if we let them. It is a healing process to go through things at your own pace, step by step until each layer is revealed and cleared.

273. There is just nothing like a good clear out and de-clutter… I find even those who never do it still lament the fact. I suspect it is a universal truth that simplicity and order support us in life in many significant ways.

     1. Yes Jenny, it’s true nothing like a good clear out. Bringing simplicity and order into my life has been truly a magnificent gift to myself. I love the spaciousness it offers and end to complication.

        1. I couldn’t agree more Kehinde… the moment I start feeling distracted and unfocussed, the first thing I do is de-clutter my desk. Lots of incomplete things on it affects my ability to get on with whatever l’m needed to do and stay focussed with it.

274. I had a similar experience this year clearing out our garage – I was surprised just how tired and emotional I felt going through old photos and possessions – it was obviously a very healing and clearing experience for me and my body.

     1. Yes Andrew, it is draining to go back and through old photos and possessions. Remembering that as we do, we’re connecting with energy held in each item and of those times. Even more reason to release them. Rooms (including our bodies) feel infinitely lighter and more spacious each time we clear and de-clutter and brings simplicity into our lives.

     2. We don’t realise to how much we are holding onto until we start to clear things out and re- organise what we feel we need to keep.

275. Kehinde you have reminded me of just how much emphasis I have placed on the things I have done in my life and how much I identify my self through these activities. I have adorned my self with all these labels and cluttered my home up with all the related stuff, which having now connected to my gorgeous essence is so clearly rendered useless. What a relief it is to relinquish, clear out and make space for the new.

     1. Love this Rowena, I haven’t been one for showing what I have done, never got the degree framed etc but there is definitely a holding onto what I have ‘achieved’ as some sort of accolade and giving me value rather than deeply appreciating what I am at my essence.

     2. Beautiful observation Rowena. We can hang on to previous roles and wear them as labels, but it takes us nowhere. The real gold is when we connect to our ‘gorgeous essence’ as you have done.

276. I smiled when I looked at the list of various ‘guises’ you had over the years. I tried many too over the last few decades, and then collect memorabilia associated with each phase.

277. What a great insight, inspiration and honesty you bring to this blog Kehinde. To understand and bring a deeper level of awareness regarding hoarding from this angle of lack of self love being substituted with filling up the emptiness within, with external clutter and possessions.
     “The simple yet profound method was designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute”.

278. “She steadily took me a through a process which supported me to feel the true impact of how I had been living.” This is the true work of a practitioner, to take us through a process to feel that the way we live has an impact on everything we do in life, and be able to offer a deeper understanding that there is much more going on than we at first realise. It can be immensely revealing and healing if we are willing to go there as you did Kehinde.

279. Sounds like you left no stone unturned, I would never have thought to rid myself of unwanted photos as they do hold so many memories of good and bad times.

280. Moving house three times in the last five years has contributed greatly to us clearing mountains of items from our house, and looking back it makes me wonder how I could live with a loft and garage packed full of things. I remember feeling quite overwhelmed with it all and in desperation would often attempt to throw things out and re-organise, but nothing would work.

281. Space is the name of the game in which clutter is the enemy.

282. When asked, most people will say that when they clear out their home they can actually feel a clearing in them; they too feel lighter and more spacious. So, with this understanding why then do we keep things we don’t need, hide things under beds or cover up things so we can pretend that they are not actually there? If it’s the same in our bodies then no wonder life can be a struggle and very complicated. Living in a home with a foundation of simplicity is way more enjoyable than living in the complication that we often choose to live in, both in our home and in our body.

283. You most definitely do feel this spaciousness and light in the body, when you have cleared and discarded the ‘stuff’ throughout our house, and so true are your words … “Our home is a representation of our body…”

284. This blog will be a go to for me whenever I feel the need to acquire more or clearing my home. Thank you Kehinde!

285. What a blessing it is to read your blog!, thank you for sharing. I love how you reveal the relationship of protection and the neediness behind many purchases.

286. I have loved being inspired by the detail in what you’ve written Kehinde. I realised that I didn’t have to accept keeping items just in case but knowing they didn’t ok – like literally with the case of a free duvet cover given when I bought a new bed that was made out of materials that felt awful. Or room perfumes that smelt yuck but were given to me. So no longer abiding by the belief that everything has to be used til it’s gone or shabby and warrants replacement. If it doesn’t serve, it doesn’t serve and that is more than reason enough.

287. “spaciousness allows the new to be brought in and lovingly chosen. Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.” Loved the blog Kehinde thank you for so honestly sharing. I am looking at my home as an expression of my life and see where changes can be made to feel the spaciousness and simplicity, so beautiful to regard my home as sacred, I feel this way about my bedroom so I want to carry this feeling throughout my home.

288. When we view our home as a representation of our body, it’s a sobering thought to ponder on exactly what we’ve created within our four walls, what we’ve allowed and what we’re reinforcing on a daily basis. Creating space in the home is a truly powerful cleansing and healing process, requiring us to look closely at our choices, to read the truth about what we’re cramming into our cupboards and to address the reflections on offer back at us from their contents and their (dis)order. A regular clear out is a healthy part of caring and maintaining our home, not just to create spaciousness and order, but to relieve ourselves of the heaviness of carrying the past with us like a snail dragging a massive shell.

289. Life can be so transformational when we are prepared to dig that little bit deeper, to love ourselves enough to be totally honest and transparent.

290. An orderly home allows us to live an orderly life in the disorderly world.

291. “The biggest revelation was my lack of awareness of how I had been living. Without realising it I had chosen to see what I wanted to see – not the whole, not the true big picture of my life.” what a fantastic awareness to come to and appreciate how we can think we are living truth and love only to really look under the hood and feel how we keep patches of unlove all over the place. The holding onto things literally holds us back and yet we don’t think it does until we let go of them and then realise the weight we’ve been carrying.

292. Beautiful blog, Kehinde, – this is a great reminder. I’ve continuously cleared out from my wardrobe, but there’s always more to go, that just doesn’t serve me anymore. The more space, the more there’s room for love.

293. A great example how we can live well – very well even – and how there is so much more even then. That is actually good news!

294. We are each the energetic equivalent of a rag and bone man, dragging all manner of clutter and rubbish around with us.

295. There is a beauty and order that is deeply felt and supportive.

296. I have been really noticing how if I let things get messy I don’t feel a settlement in me. I can also feel if I have to much excess of something it creates complication. Keeping life simple and spacious certainly has a harmonious flow to it.

     1. Yes and I notice that if my home has become untidy then it is a direct reflection of the way I have been living.

297. ‘Our home is a representation of our body.’ So most rooms and cupboards are organized and spacious, but not everywhere. There are places in the house, and thus my body, where I keep piling up things and stuff and my office could certainly do with a clear out.

298. I’m making my way through my flat de-cluttering and tidying up and I love the feeling of opening a drawer that has been organised and ordered. I get a sense of spaciousness every time I open the drawer.

     1. I agree Fiona, when opening a drawer, cupboard or room that has been lovingly and harmoniously organised, it feels like I am receiving a blessing back from it when seeing and feeling the order and sense of space within it.

299. I love the choice to feel the true value of each item you chose to keep. I notice my relationship with food keeps changing over time, so it makes sense that my relationship with everything else might also change and if I reassess I might not choose to keep them.

     1. Yes Golnaz It’s beautiful to feel the true value of each item. And when we change we can lovingly release our attachment to items that no longer serve us. After re-deocrating and re-configuring my home, another layer of stuff revealed itself to be released. It evolves, as we evolve.

300. Wow, this is amazing – you put it so simply, how our choice to keep things can actually be a way to fill the gap in our lives where we dont choose to love ourselves.

301. This is what clearing our stuff out is all about. Going to a deeper level of what our stuff truly is. I had an amazing, ground shaking, spirit running clear out of my house today with a super powerful woman. Having to feel the disregard and move it in physical belongings was massive. It seems I opened a can of worms and now I’m looking forward to putting them in the garden and watching the rose’s grow.

     1. Awesome Kim, Sometimes we need a powerful guide at our side. Well done and enjoy watching the roses bloom.

302. Letting go of attachments has been a huge part of my healing, and although my home is now comparatively spaciousness I know that this is an ongoing process. I enjoy clearing my home and feeling how much more supportive it feels.

303. I have found that simply moving one small item, or clearing a table has the power to completely reimprint the energy of a room. This morning I simply moved three objects in my bedroom – straightened them up and touched them with care and presence – the energy of room immediately felt lighter and more expanded. To take this much care in an entire house not only heals and feeds us back but has the power to feed back and heal an entire street!

     1. Super cool observation Michelle, Taking care of the small things ‘with presence’ as well as the whole has the potential to heal the world.

        1. It’s interesting, isn’t it how we all feel that to change the world we need to make grand gestures or go into action. But what if changing the world simply starts with the quality we choose to live in in our homes; simply by living with care, presence and regard, taking loving care of the small details?

304. It makes a huge difference when we clear clutter from areas in our home. Not only does it create space within the home but for us also.

305. I love the feeling you bring Kehinde that that space made allows a different feeling to come in. That feels like not only the physical space made but also the space you have allowed in your body to appreciate how you are changing your value of yourself. It shows it is not just about clearing out, the truth you describe is.. this journey was “designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness,”.. It feels like a massive journey, thank you for sharing it.

     1. Yes Gill, it was huge, so much carried over several decades, to finally, say enough and let go. And now there is space. It’s a stunning transformation. But there’s more to come as this opens me up to receive and be guided directly by the universe.

306. Yes, Kehinde, we collect things along the way that support our identification in different roles. I too have shed these previous attachments, realising that I do not need anything to be all of me.

     1. We do Janet and a blessing when we’re able to release previous material attachments and identities and simple be ourselves. It is as you say, ‘I do not need anything to be all of me’.

307. Bringing “awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.” This is a huge realisation and requires a deep level of honesty, truth and humility to acknowledge, accept and honour this. In your blog, Kehinde, you demonstrate all this and the evolution such commitment brings. Thank you for sharing and it is very inspiring.

308. It’s incredible what reflections we get presented to us from life, it can be a corner, cupboard, draw, a pocket, thoughts, emotions, storing what does not serve us, your story is a great example of this.

309. Thank you Kehinde – I have huge appreciation for you being prepared to dig deep too – so inspiring!

310. Taking responsibility for all parts of our life, which includes our home is super important. If we are more responsible in one area than another then all areas are in stagnation.

311. I love the exposure here. It wasn’t merely about chucking old stuff out, it was about the love that was needed in every step of this process. Very humbling an very lovely.

312. What a journey you have been on clearing your home. Its made me realise how symbolic my home is and that the way I live is a reflection of my relationship with myself.

313. No matter how many possessions we have, they will never replace the true value of who we are. What a great exercise to do Kehinde, to be able to see and feel and understand for yourself why you have what you have in your home and to get rid of what does not support you. Inspiring.

314. ‘I learned that everything has its place and to return it to that place after use.’ – I can feel how dis-honouring it is of our selves to avoid this step, we are constantly being reminded of our dis-regard when we leave things out, not to mention the time wasted trying to find them.

315. Our home is a reflection of our relationship with ourselves and if we are living in rush mode all the time with never enough time, we will never make the time to give our homes the attention it needs, which actually would support us in every other area of our lives.

316. ‘At the end of the first session, the blinkers were off.’ …. we are all uniquely constellated to support each other so beautifully when blinkers are getting in the way. The loving, clarity and prompting from another can be just what we need to see what we have been avoiding.

     1. Yes, they can often see clearly what we can only vaguely feel – but our vague feeling gives others the opportunity to provide clarity as we are looking for clarity. If we don’t look for it, they can’t provide that clarity.

317. It is very important to see our patterns and to give our selves the opportunity to heal our behaviours before we pass over. What a joy to experience de-cluttering your home and enjoying the space within before you go so that what you carry with you is a spacious quality rather than a heap of inner clutter!

     1. I love this Rowena, thank you.

318. It is really great to realise that everything matters and that there is an energy behind everything we do that either holds us back or supports and holds us. So with everything we have in our cupboards or wardrobes, even if it is not visible the energy of them can always be felt.

319. I don’t consider myself a hoarder, but if I’m honest I still have way too much stuff and probably don’t need half of it so I feel its culling time once again but this time with a difference after being truly inspired by yours Kehinde.

320. It is amazing what we keep as part of our identity – at one stage in my life my bookshelf had all of my studies and other activities on it: Engineering text books, counselling text books, self help books, management training booklets, cartoon drawing teach yourself books, French, German and Latin dictionaries, English Grammar Books, Comedy poems, Peanuts cartoons, Goon Show Scripts, the Bible, the Koran, Ordnance Survey maps, Books of Birds, Wild Flowers and other things to observe, Children’s books, artist books, gardening books – all of my life was documented in books. Now I have a collection of purple books – all the rest have gone.

321. I love re-reading this blog – there is so much to feel into about how we choose to set up our lives and from what intent. Is it to hide away and protect ourselves or is it to support ourselves to be all that we are… Your blog is inspiring me Kehinde to go deeper into that reflection and start to pick out more and more of those layers with my own home and myself.

322. An old saying that, the difference between men and boys is the price of their toys, is not far off from the truth. When I was young collecting baseball cards was something could afford on our weekly allowance. I had known someone that owned a card collector shop and had a signed Babe Ruth card in a safety deposit box as the star of his collection. Hanging onto things that we place a value on doesn’t denate its real value to others. The illusion of worth is in the hands of the holder. When we hold ourselves as our most valuable asset, we are golden.

     1. Steve your last sentence touched me – ‘When we hold ourselves as our most valuable asset, we are golden.’

     2. Beautiful, Steve – “When we hold ourselves as our most valuable asset, we are golden.” One of the most common problems I see with the young people I work with is that they do not value themselves at all.

323. “Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.” Wow Kehinde that is really something to ponder on. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with clearing your flat – I am definitely inspired to do the same!

     1. Yes, this is a profound acknowledgement and one that if we honour is transformational and life changing.

324. As human beings we have a tendency to ‘dense up space’, be that through physical or emotional clutter. Once we make the steps to reduce this, we naturally feel lighter as we are now free of the self-imposed density and the heaviness (protection) it offers. With this sense of lightness comes more space and with space comes more responsibility, as we now need to move in a way that honours this quality and does not hide it. For it is through this space that we begin to tune in to the wealth of universal wisdom that is being communicated to us through our bodies – a sacred vehicle through which the light of the Soul can express.

     1. I love this Liane, ‘ For it is through this space that we begin to tune in to the wealth of universal wisdom that is being communicated to us through our bodies – a sacred vehicle through which the light of the Soul can express.”

325. I can feel how supportive it would be to have someone with you as you clear out your home Kehinde. I’ve noticed since reading this blog that when I look around at some items in my own home, and knowing they need to go, I can feel that part of me that wants to hold onto them – justifying them being there for some underlying reason I have yet to catch … and its that reason that someone like Jenny would catch!

     1. Absolutely, Paula. It was the same for me too. Jenny had a way of working that snapped me out of sneaky attachments and sentiments and brought me back to truth.

326. It is very true that when we are ready, wiling and open to learn, so it will be that we will recognise the learning that come our way everyday.

327. Holding onto the past closes the door on the future and what it could be.

328. It was inspiring to read this as it supported me to reflect on areas that I can bring more attention to in my life and things that I am holding onto that no longer serve and that I can let go of. In the way my space is set up but also in patterns I have held onto.

329. I know what you mean Kehinde when you share how we can continue along in life and not realise what we are choosing is the very choices that keep us locked in an way of being that is contracted and not embracing all of who we are. To get support from someone that can identify these and lovingly bring them to your awareness is a life changer for sure.

     1. When we sincerely ask for help, everything constellates to bring you the support we need. To meet someone who gets you, connects with you and holds you through the process as my guide did, is heaven sent.

330. It is a joy to re-read this blog again Kehinde. Through this powerful de-cuttering program you have stripped not only your possessions to a minimum but also let go of emotions and old patterns to re-claim space within your body – what a beautiful preparation for the divine expression to flow through you in full.

331. I was inspired yesterday to clear out my cutlery drawer and the drawers in my bedroom. It felt great to go through them and let go of stuff that was not being used. I found many things I kept because I thought ‘just in case I need it’, these items stood out like a sore thumb after reading your blog Kehinde. I am amazed at how easy it is to clutter up my home because I hold onto things just incase instead of letting them go and trusting, because things often come to me when I need them. I realise keeping life simple is so much more loving.

     1. You said it Chan Ly ‘ keeping life simple is so much more loving.’

332. Great question – “Did I choose truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard?”

333. What would life look and feel like if we considered as Alexis expressed that clearing out our homes supports our bodies to express our true purpose to express our souls.

334. Allowing someone permission to sort through every corner of your life with you, in my eyes is extremely brave. You have taken a home you love and turned it into a home that truly represent who you are. I had so many feeling whilst reading this, curiosity, inspiration and fear. The fear is considering that I may be next… I cannot express in full my admiration for what you have committed to. When you clear a house out like you have, you can smell it in the air, so clear and fresh and spacious.

     1. Yes Sarah, this is how we are called to be in the world. open, transparent, fearless.

335. We also have this solid structure and base to take into our jobs, in the world. I realised after reading this blog and then contemplating my own home, a very powerful reflection was presented, from one room in particular, to start with, my office. It was the only room that had a sense of being completely neglected, dismissed, discarded, disregarded. These words describe how I have been feeling and grappling with, while job hunting and building a new career for myself in my life. This room is reflecting for me a great truth about my life right now with regards to my service in the world. There is no foundation of true purpose in that room, therefore not any within in me. What a revelation. I see now where our work truly begins and extends out from – from within our homes!

     1. Beautiful Irena. To begin to see and feel what is in our home, connects us more deeply with ourselves.. It’s great your office now calls you, whereas in truth it is your soul that calls.

336. Inspired to go through my paper work, there is so much we can simply let go of. And the benefits are enormous.

337. That sounds like an amazing journey where you deeply honoured yourself and were beautifully supported! How awesome.

338. We can certainly hide things in order to not see the disharmony, but it is always there. A bursting drawer is always a bursting drawer. Whenever I clear out a space in the home or at the office, it totally changes the dynamics of the space.

339. What a great step to make for yourself and in that also share it with other like this. I relate to a lot of what is said and the fact that when we collect or accumulate things it creates a blind spot in our lives and before to long we keep adding and adding and adding to it. I can see that every time I clean out around the house I always feel fresh and the house feels lighter. From where I currently am in life this article has inspired me to clean out again, even though I may think I have just done it not that long ago. There is always room to make more space.

340. “to clear my home with true purpose and understand that the process was for me and an expression of love. She inspired me to embody spaciousness, purpose, simplicity, order and love into my life.” It takes courage to go to this deeper level within our homes, however it is so worth it. We get to see ourselves much more deeply in this process and we realise how truly amazing we really are. I can feel in your blog how transforming this was for you. What an incredible journey was had by you, simply by attending to the objects situated around you, in your own home, never mind venturing out the door, and when you do, what a more magnificent you is presented to the world. This is feels miraculous and as you say life-changing.

341. There is always a deeper awareness available, never is a clean-out completed I’ve discovered. I’ve had a few the past few years and I know I’m avoiding the next – and it is plain as day to feel what is called for. Thanks for the deepening inspirational reminder as to the true purpose and symbolism as to why it is a loving expanding choice to follow through with sooner than later.

342. What would life look and feel like if our sole purpose was to clear the body to make way for God?

     1. There would be a lot more space within and out if our every move was for such divine purpose.

343. Like you make space for more love and the light that is within to shine out.

344. What a beautiful realization that all the items, all the things we have in our house can be a form of protection, almost like eating can be a form of protection. Getting things out of cupboard can feel very naked and transparant, especially if you are used with hiding things from being seen.

     1. Very true, I feel this is quite a revelation to see that we keep and hoard things as a form of ‘protection’.

     2. I can really relate to not wanting to go ‘there’ as I know it will expose things I am protecting, so it is awesome to read this and be inspired.

345. Kehinde I loved this! I was on the edge of my seat for what was coming next, brilliant sharing and inspiration. While I was reading different places in my house kept popping into my head and I’ve been one who says how much I love to declutter and clear out what is not needed…but there is so much more. I let go of so much moving to a new country however I have accumulated a lot back. A weekend project with purpose!

     1. Same for me Aimee, after reading this blog I got straight into clearing out the drawers in my kitchen and bedroom, I had a lot of fun. They need constant clearing out I reckon because it is very easy for things I don’t need to creep back in. I love clearing out stuff and it doesn’t take as long as I think it does and it feels so supportive and clear once it is done. I am starting on my office next.

        1. It is awesome how one person’s story inspires others to make changes in their own life. I spent the majority of the weekend taking everything out of my kitchen putting it on the benches, table and floor to really see what we have accumulated. There was so much that didn’t need to be there, I could feel many of the purchases were from a need and a not wanting to miss out, and with that the kitchen felt heavy. I purchased some pieces that keep the benches tidy and orderly. I’m also feeling the office is next.

     2. Super cool Aimee. I loved Kehinde’s style of writing and was also at the edge of my seat whilst reading the blog!
        I love the purposeful approach to clearing rooms and declutering – this sharing is very inspiring and it opened up already some space on me as I am contemplating more and more what and how much do I really need.

        1. It has brought my attention to all those things I keep that in truth irritate me or make me feel drained when I contemplate moving them on. They are the signs from the body I need to listen to, as it keeps it simple when decluttering… you could change the saying ‘out with old, in with the new’ to ‘out with the old, in with purpose, space and simplicity!’.

346. Reading this as I am clearing out one big cupboard is so revealing and supportive. It’s amazing what energy an object comes with. Paperwork reflecting all my choices, hopes and dreams. When I moved away from Cornwall, a place where a whole well of comfort lay for me which I can still find myself lamenting the loss of that comfort, I moved in a small car doing many journeys. I thought I’d left so much behind but there was so much I brought with me. It’s a little like at the end of the horror film when you thought you’d got away from the creature alien etc. only to find them at home. And it’s not like I haven’t been through this cupboard many times. But today very much noticing the I paid money and I will use all that paper that I will never need in my life ever! Or letting go of the ‘ proof’ I am ok because a teacher said so, or the work I did to qualify as a teacher but never pursued and am still paying the student loans for. Lots to let go of but seeing the emptiness behind the purchases and coming to accept where I was is all part of the process. As is knowing some items I am still holding onto, which maybe short lived as I ponder whether these items are serving me or whether I am reserving a part of myself for later to paint that painting, make that jewelry.

     1. Karin, I love your analogy of the horror film where we imagine we’ve left the alien behind only to find it is still with us. But what an opportunity. You’re now feeling the emotions behind your choices, this is good. but don’t let it overwhelm you. There can be many layers and stages to clearing, each one prepares you for the next, until its completed. No rush, all at your own pace. Keep it simple, step by step.and over time you will find the alien no longer exists and your home filled with love.

347. Love this! I have boxes of stuff sitting in my garage. They haven’t made it to the cupboards yet, and this is exactly what I needed to read. Thanks for sharing this beautiful piece Aunty K! ❤️❤️

     1. Ijay, lovely to see you on line. Great you found it relatable. Have fun with the boxes in your garage and remember to feel the value of each item, and only keep those you truly love.

348. Last year we moved into a smaller apartment and had a huge clearing and we did let go a lot of stuff we did not need anymore or in some cases in never truly needed. We now live here for 9 months or so and there is another round of clearing coming for my wardrobe and my office. So what you’ve shared here is super inspirational. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ I just love this Kehinde!

349. It is amazing what we can hide away in cupboards and well done for clearing yours

350. Lately we have been clearing out our home and the spaciousness that has been created is profound. It is as if it is a new home and it has made me realize that I have not been appreciating the true beauty of the house and how it supports us in every way.

351. ” She inspired me to embody spaciousness, purpose, simplicity, order and love into my life.” Wow this is so awesome .

352. Thanks, Kehinde. I really appreciate your honesty in being willing to expose that in the past you have accepted yourself as less than you truly are. What a massive healing process in returning to the beauty and simplicity of being purely divine.

353. Life’s reflections heal when we are open to and willing to see what’s true.

354. To compensate for lack of living in my true fullness, I can feel how the accumulation of some possessions along the way is to fill the gap, but of course they do no such thing. No wonder we feel attachment to these things, because we think they bring a feeling of being all we are, when in truth, they expose how we have been living.

355. I can feel the space you have chosen for yourself Kehinde – deeply inspiring and deeply beautiful.

356. I have recently had an experience where I became more aware of a pattern of how I was living and how much I was in the pattern without realising it – it is a very healing process to go through this if a tad uncomfortable!

357. Our home is the base from which we go out into the world so if it’s a solid structure with supportive foundations we have have an amazing platform to take out into the world.

358. I’ve often found that when I come back from a holiday – when I’ve only had/needed the bare minimum – that I can easily clean out my clothes. It’s a new perspective. This process sounds like it would have shifted a lot of the old, both physically and within you.

359. Loved reading this again today. It is so inspiring that I have started to make a pile of clothes that really no longer resonate. I know they are part of a past the I can release and say goodbye to. This feels very liberating and sets me free to move on less encumbered.

360. It’s interesting how ordered and tidy a place can look but open a cupboard and there it all is tucked away, the hung on to’s and collectables. I have had this, it was a great reflection of how I was living, hanging on to upsets, hurts, beliefs that didn’t serve me living me.

361. I love how even clearing out a drawer ir a cupboard can make such a difference to how a room feels and also how powerful this feels in the body. When we create space around us on a very physical level, we cannot understimate the impact this has on us internally, as well the ripple effect it has that goes way beyond the four walls of our own home.

     1. The same goes with the garden… raking. mowing the lawn. sweeping the steps or entrance, is part of the rippling effect of how you enter and leave the home.

        1. Absolutely Natalliya. In fact any space that we clear and clean, whether its at home, at work, indoors or outdoors, it all has the same ripple effect on us, the rest of the environment, and everyone who comes into that space.

362. I love how you’ve described clearing through different rooms as ‘sessions’. Everything that is an opportunity to heal is in essence a session, even if it’s as simple as cleaning, a conversation or long shower.

     1. Love your comment Susie, the approach to healing in all that we do. Although I always loved having a shower or a bath and had associated it to a certain degree to ‘clearing’, it was not until I read your comment that I am considering the potential for healing in this activity.

363. Thanks Kehinde, I can’t wait to start clearing out my cupboards and getting rid of the spares, duplicates and all of the excess things I have. With space there is clarity and purpose.

     1. This blog has made me seriously consider my cupboards and what I actually need, even though I have moved often and easily let go of unneeded stuff – I can feel there is more space to be offered.

        1. Interesting Johanna, I am also open to consider how much do I really need, even that I often discard things that have not been used for some time. The other day I had to ‘empty’ our toilet as we were having some works done on it and I was impressed with how much I had to empty, even that it looked organised and tidy. On rearranging the items back, I chose what was really necessary to be in there and voilá, some space opened up and the toilet feels lighter!

        2. Interesting this – somethings lift up the place energetically and other makes it feel stuffy and stale. The things I buy that I really feel like having seems to last very long.

364. What a beautiful learning process you have been on, Kehinde. It feels like your flat is now a truly beautiful, graceful space that supports you to go even deeper in your self-relationship? What’s next?

     1. The most spacious one bedroom in London I’d say. Thank you for an amazing sharing.

365. Kehinde, what a story. The way you write speaks of the depth that you went to with this. What a glorious process.

     1. I agree I love the depth and honesty.

     2. Agree Rebecca, this was exactly what I felt – that I was witnessing the whole process such is the openeness in Kehinde’s sharing.

366. I think it’s great how you committed to looking at what your relationship was with all the things in your home – being open to seeing attachments that didn’t feel true and with that deepening the level of love that you hold yourself in, freeing yourself up from the past to be more fully you in the present.

     1. It’s very inspiring. When I think of all the apartments in big cities such as London and hear how you Kindhe have taken such a responsibility for your space in an apartment – I think wow, what a blessing not only for you, your body but for your whole building.

     2. Yes amazing to think that just by holding on to certain possessions and objects we are hanging on to the past and all its emotional ties.

367. Yes, ‘hidden from view’ does not equate to ‘order’. Well said Kehinde and something to ponder for many of us probably…but certainly for me.

368. Thank you Kehinde for sharing your personal journey of exposing the illusion in which you had been living. It is very humbling as it is a clear reflection as I, and I am sure practically all humanity, lives in some level of illusion of their perception of themselves and their world.

     1. Within our own homes, many keys, many secrets, many surprises, many revelations-if we are truly willing to see.

369. I love the feeling of a house when it has been decluttered, fresh, light and open and appreciate how our home is such a powerful reflection of our bodies. When I take care with what I choose to put inside, hold onto and lovingly care for in my body, it becomes very natural to do this in my home too.

370. “Our home is a representation of our body. What does it say about me if I only express from the surface, not my deep true self? What does it say about me if I keep things hidden away behind closed doors? This process opened me up to a whole new way of being.”
     I agree with you Kehinde putting things away in the shed out of the way may be asthetically pleasing because there is no intrusion on the eye but if everything is energy is it the wisest thing to do? It was suggested to me that I move some paint pots from the porch to the shed in the back Garden but too be honest it felt as though to do this was somehow like shoving something unsightly under the carpet so it wouldn’t be seen. This makes no sense to me so I’m leaving my paint pots were they are. They are a constant reminder that I need to make space to paint the inside of my house.

     1. Oh I can relate Mary, by hiding things away out of view we then create a lack of completion which is felt as stagnancy and something that is always in the back of your mind.

371. I sorted out my garage a while ago with the support of friends and the difference it made to me was enormous. Not until I clear something do I realise how much I have been holding on.

     1. That’s so true, when we are buried in our stuff it’s very hard to see. As soon as we start to let go we gain clarity and awareness of our patterns.

     2. I agree, Sue, I’ve observed there can be quite a dis-array that occurs when we have too much stuff, both physically and energetically. We had a wonderful w/end clearing out two areas in our house and it was amazing to feel the difference afterwards. Not only in how the spaces looked but more so how they felt. I found myself re-visiting the rooms throughout the day, just to feel how gorgeous they were.

372. Great blog Kehinde. “I was inspired to break this pattern and begin to bring love into my home and life.” Me too! It would seem that de-cluttering is an ongoing process.

     1. I agree with you Sue, de-cluttering is an ongoing process, and when we read blogs like this that inspire, all of a sudden the areas within the house that are being ignored suddenly feel very imposing.

373. This is very honest Kehinde. I feel there is a lot of self love and equally to you I have started decluttering a year ago with Jenny and this start brought up a lot, what now I realize I need to go deeper with as there are still many behaviours which are clutter in my body.

374. Thank you for sharing Kehinde. What has occurred to me while reading this is that there are areas within the home that I am always on top of but there are other pockets that do not see the light of day.

375. It is interesting how resistant we can be to clearing out our cupboards and draws, hanging onto old memorabilia that no longer have any true value other than past memories. The crazy thing is that once we have done it we can feel how amazingly supportive it is and how much lighter the home feels. As our home is a reflection of our body it is interesting to then feel what areas of our lives we are holding onto that we are in resistance to letting go of.

376. Kehinde, I love reading this, even though it makes me realise that on the surface things look fine but underneath there is not the level of care and nurturing that there could be and that often my home becomes a mess and work is put first, this is true for my body too and so I can feel how my home is a reflection of my body, great to be aware of this link; ‘Our home is a representation of our body. What does it say about me if I only express from the surface, not my deep true self? What does it say about me if I keep things hidden away behind closed doors?’

377. I have recently finished five years of shedding a lot of unneeded things from my life. It starts with cherry picking the easy stuff, I don’t need five of those so I will keep the two best in case I lose or break one. My DVD collection that at one point was over 1000 took years of reluctantly getting rid of a few at a time and finally went as a free job lot of the last 50. The space I have created around and within me is great, freeing up what I held onto for so many years that had no purpose.

     1. Piece by piece, layer by layer, we peel away the facades, masks, crutches and protections to reveal the true glory that resides within.

378. Beautiful Susan, to remove the filtered lens and see what is there to be revealed is a breakthrough and deeply healing.

379. The joy and spaciousness created when we have a good clear out is superb and although I have done this many times to be honest never to the degree that you have here Kehinde. Note to self this will be the winter of great clear outs.

380. It is interesting that you felt clearing out to be much easier once you had connected to the neediness that had driven some of your purchases. It’s all about energetic awareness and once we connect, everything flows from there

381. De-cluttering is like spring-cleaning… very, very good for the Soul

382. Great stuff Kehinde! I’m going through a similar process, not with decluttering my home, but examining the ‘objects’ – the thoughts, feelings, actions and behaviours – that have made up my life and the patterns these represent. It’s an interesting and sometimes unnerving process as I examine what’s in my metaphorical cupboards and I’m only part way through it, so I’m looking forward to a cleaner, clearer home.

383. Kehinde I am very inspired by what you have shared, and also the depth and purpose that was there for you to understand why items were purchased and held onto. It wasn’t about getting rid of stuff but getting rid of energy that was not a true part of your love and energetic integrity. I will have to read this a few times to take in the many gems shared here. One of the things I really appreciated is that there can be a sense of shame about how ones house actually is, and with that a sense of stagnation to even attempt a declutter, but your story shows it can simply be about love and much evolution as we backtrack through the items and clear what is now not true for us. Thankyou Kehinde.

384. This is inspirational as I am about to clear and de-clutter my house (my sacredness and my body) starting from today and I could feel waking up this morning the heaviness of feeling back to the past and that I want to delay this but feeling into it deeper, I am appreciating the sensitivity of my body and will give it all the space it requires to truly express itself. I do not live on my own and therefore the relationship with myself and with others are crucial for this project as well.

385. You have been such a source of inspiration for me, Kehinde, I am starting my clear out today! I’m actually really looking forward to it and it feels gorgeous to be doing this from a loving impulse, rather than out of frustration or overwhelm. I can feel it will be a process, there are many layers to peel back one at a time, but that’s ok. I would rather do this in my own rhythm than feel pressured by others to be ruthless. If there are things I don’t want to throw out, it doesn’t mean I won’t, but it’s important for me to feel ready to do so, with this comes a responsibility for me to allow this process to happen, through being gentle, loving, letting go of my protection and allowing myself to be vulnerable. Then I can truly know why I am wanting to keep something and whether it is supporting me to do so, or not.

386. Loved reading this- my house is a mess, there are piles of things ready to get rid of and a procrastination at doing so because I want a return on my investment in things I could have read I never needed in the first place. Teaching books I haven’t opened, clothes unworn, expensive shoes too small, wetsuits for seas too cold to swim in even when wearing them. I have considered putting them in the attic but I know I would feel them there. Compared to what I used to have there isn’t much there but I know another clear out is needed.

387. ‘…then something happens to remove the blinkers from your eyes and totally exposes how you’re truly living.’ …. the joyful laugh of the Kookaburras did this for me this morning! I heard their beautiful song and was suddenly aware that I had missed them for some time now, yet I’m quite sure they haven’t been silent these past mornings. It allowed me to appreciate how much magic I can miss when I become consumed by what’s ‘going on’ for me, and those blinkers pop up.

388. “Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.” How beautiful and honouring to treat our homes and our bodies in this way… perhaps family relationships would be far more harmonious if the focus of our home life was sacredness.

389. What an amazing process Kehinde. Did I choose truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard? This is a question that will stay with me, and I must say, made me slightly cringe as I get a sense of the significance in these juxtaposed words.

390. I love this ‘It is often said that when the pupil is ready, the master appears’. This might just be what I need … help decluttering. I feel inspired from what you have shared.

391. It is very supportive to continuously clear and clean out our homes, not only on the surface but inside our drawers, cupboards and look at how much we keep that is not really used or needed, to discard and let them go. Holding onto stuff that we don’t need can quickly build up and make it harder to sort out. Bringing order, simplicity and love into our homes supports us to feel more spacious, clarity and stillness.

392. Kehinde amazing, feels so great to feel the expansiveness of a full clear out, in all the places we often cover over but don’t let go of.

393. I have often joked that there is an invisible tenant living in most homes who should starting paying rent – his name is Justin Case. He sneaks in every so quietly and bury’s himself into cupboards and spaces without you even noticing some times! Glad to hear you offered him an eviction notice!

     1. Love this Sarah 🙂

        1. Me too!

394. Love this blog Kehinde! I am great at clearing other people’s homes but when it comes to mine I find it a very slow process . . . just finish a good clearing and then I feel it is time to start again as I can see I haven’t gone deep enough and there is always more to go. There are so many levels of clearing as it is an ongoing endeavour and I seem to be only willing to go so far in one go. As the home relates to the body I can clearly feel how a good clearing is a shifting of old patterns and behaviours and how liberating this actually is.

     1. It’s funny what you’ve shared Kathleen because I am exactly the same. As I was reading this blog, I realised how much I hold on to that really needs to go. It feels like there are many layers to discard when it comes to decluttering and cleaning out our house. I feel inspired to start clearing out my kitchen cupboards this morning.

     2. So true, Kathleen, clearing one’s home and oneself is like peeling away the layers of an onion.

     3. Kathleen, I know what you mean “and I seem to be only willing to go so far in one go” it can be a confronting, draining and exhausting process, a little at a time is the way. it took me several months to get from A-Z but infused with a powerful impulse, almost urgency, I was compelled to continue until all was completed. Constant refining will continue, but clearing goes super deep and touches all areas, clearing in the future will not be onerous.

        1. Kehinde, thanks for sharing that it took several months as this not only becomes very doable but as you say with the constant refining one realizes that there is really no end to it just like there is no end to clearing the body of old patterns and behaviours until all our imprints are divine.

395. Love what you have shared Kehinde, as cleaning out or down sizing never stops as the process unfolds we unfold and expand our awareness. So the more choices that support our Way of living and for most this start with the basics decluttering as you have, the more we only learn to live with basic essentials in Life. Basic essentials does not mean we need to struggle in life as what ever is required for us to expand energetically we flow to us.

     1. I love this Greg, ‘Basic essentials does not mean we need to struggle in life as what ever is required for us to expand energetically we flow to us.”

396. We can easily become complacent, ‘used to’ and accept the state of our living environment, but we have the opportunity to grow and expand all the time. It is so amazing to find that when we re-fresh clean, sort out , or even simply move things around, everything lightens and shines and a completely new platform to live from is instantly there.

397. Love what you have shared Susan, and could it be cleaning out and down sizing never stops as the process unfolds we unfold so more is discarded? So we need to be honest and feel deeply the “clarity of the situation at hand.”

398. Absolutely LOVED reading your sharing Kehinde. Your lightness, playfulness, openeness and steadiness is deeply inspiring. And more so, you opened your house and yourself for all to see -it was as if I was with you before, throughout and after the completion of the house clearing.

     1. Thank you Priscila. I loved sharing my transformational journey with you.

399. This so beautifully shows how everything is connected and how there is everything for us right there in front of our eyes, we simply need to choose to go the first step and a whole insight and understanding unfolds.

400. We don’t tend to realize – or we should say more accurately we don’t want to realize – that every item we have in our homes carries an imprint. The quality in which we purchased an item is the quality we take home with us – and so everything in our home is communicating volumes about where we are at with ourselves and what we are choosing.

     1. Beautiful shared Katerina, we are living with the joy and love, or the clutter and complication of energetic imprints.

401. Gorgeous to read Kehinda, I am inspired to go deeper within myself and my home, though I have cleared out some stuff I realise there is more, time to bring more love into my body and my home “Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness” I love these words thank you for sharing.

402. Kehinde thank you deeply for sharing this – it’s an amazing revelation for all of us. As you beautifully write; ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ This has inspired me to consider at a much greater level what are the hangers-on in my home, the crutches I have in the cupboards and in my wardrobes that keep me stuck in old patterns. I can feel the heaviness of them even as I write this!

     1. Katerina, you have introduced a powerful metaphor “crutches”. This is how it was for me. When I removed all those crutches propping me up, I found I walked fully and supported without them. Each crutch removed released an old pattern. And even if I re-visit one from time to time, it’s with awareness and feeling the attachment weakening.

        1. Reading the word crutches just gave me an aha moment. We are perfect, whole and complete in essence, yet we hold on to things, beliefs and an array of pictures of how life should be etc. as crutches to keep validating and propping all of those ‘things’ up, as if they are real. All this then keeps us ‘hobbling through life’ actually believing there is something wrong with us and our bodies. And around and around it goes . . . until an inspiring article like this one comes along, presents the truth and offers us the opportunity to see what we are doing to ourselves. Thank you, Kehinde.

403. I have thinned out the stuff I was holding on to massively over the last few years and whenever I go for it, there is an exquisite expansion of the space within me, so curious that each time I make it such an ordeal to take the next step. Thank you for the great sharing, the insights and the inspiration.

     1. Golnaz, great to hear you’ve ‘thinned out the stuff you’ve been holding on to massively for years” . In my experience it can take time and several rounds to finally let go all the stuff we hold on to. To keep one, is like a magnet for more to come in and reside. We can use the ‘exquisite expansion’ you speak of to inspire us to continue until every corner is cleared.

404. Very inspirational Kehinde. I too have been clearing out but after reading this I feel that there is more to do!

405. Kehinde, wow I loved reading this, it really makes me realise that my home does not feel clear and supportive in the way that it could and that I do not treat my home in this way; ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ Very beautiful and deeply inspiring, thank you.

406. Whats going on inside our houses reflects what’s occurring in our body. This understanding I find very supportive when I clean something and feel more space within me. It also helps to bring understanding when meeting a person in their home as the quality of the home gives away the quality in the body thats behaving in a certain way. Our homes can bring much insight in this way.

407. Making space within our lives allows for great magic to happen – on many levels.

408. Purpose in something as simple as house cleaning , can set us on a very amazing powerful journey back to the love of simplicity we all have.

     1. Love it Harry, purpose in everything that we do, 24/7, full-time!

409. Absolutely – when we call for the Truth that we know, it will find its way to us in many forms.

410. It’s so important to me that everything in my house has a value – it has a purpose and practical use. Because everything is energy everything holds an energetic imprint which means it holds an energy that is in my house and therefore in my body effecting how I feel. Once I started to value myself the quality of my possessions are now of the same matching quality. They stand out if they don’t belong. I agree “Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.”

     1. ‘Once I started to value myself the quality of my possessions are now of the same matching quality’ This is gold Rik. After refurbishing and re-configuring three rooms at home,this is now confirmed in my own life.

411. What a beautiful process Kehinde. Its quite incredible what we work through and literally clear when we clear our homes. It feels something that has been and is very supportive.

412. You have very much inspired me to truthfully look at things I have kept and the reasons why Kehinde.
     I know there are things in boxes in my garage that I’ve kept just in case I want to do art again, or in case I need something electrical, or out of fear – if I throw it out I’m bound to need it…even though I haven’t for the past 7yrs I’ve lived here! It really is about being totally honest with ourselves – in all areas of our lives.

     1. Yes Paula, we have to be honest with ourselves. I released art and other craft materials held on to from twenty years ‘just in case’ I needed them, but never used. It’s supportive to ask ourselves ‘what feels true and serves me now’ rather than follow imagined pictures we have in our minds.

        1. I love the wisdom and guidance your words hold, Kehinde. ‘It’s supportive to ask ourselves ‘what feels true and serves me now’ rather than follow imagined pictures we have in our minds.’ Those pictures again! There’s so much to consider from this aspect around what we possess in our lives. Thank you.

413. “The simple yet profound method was designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.” What a profound statement – yes – we all collect something in avoidance of self love, whether it be possessions, cars, friends or even books and knowledge. the one common underlying factor is the avoidance of connecting with oneself! It is inspiring how you opened up to discarding what you had collected, Kehinde – I’m now going to check my own rating, too!

414. Wow, this is totally inspiring Kehinde. I have always loved ‘spring cleaning’ and so enjoy going through wardrobes, cupboards and boxes etc clearing out what is no longer used… however this most certainly takes clearing out to a much deeper level! To feel the emotions items have been bought in, and why they are sitting wherever they are in our home i.e. as protection, is a whole other level of spring cleaning – winter, summer, autumn and underground too!

     1. Yes Paula, aligning to purpose and feeling the energetic quality of each item transform the activity of clearing.

415. What a fabulous blog Kehinde. You have gone deep with the clearing of your home and taken us deep in the process, giving us an insight into what is actually being cleared when we have a spring clean.

416. Hi Kehinde, this is such a powerful blog, I am looking around my house and pondering – I am now in a shared space so some of the clutter is not mine, but we are all responsible, so there is much I can do to clear my side of the relationship. ‘the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.’ These are the words that resonated with me today.

417. I find that if there is anything that is kept even if it is not used or seemingly in the way of our life is still something not energetically cleared and hence is something that inhibits our expression of love. It is a pattern we tend to use when we are holding onto the past yet deluding ourselves we have moved on.

418. ‘Our home is a representation of our body’ and in delving into all the corners where we are holding onto unnecessary clutter we expand the space not just in our home but in our body which I am experiencing at the moment as I focus on sorting my office space which has been stagnant for years. It is amazing to feel the contraction that has been holding me back lift and how in letting go of all that no longer serves space opens up in so many other areas.

     1. Helen, Office spaces come with their own energy drag and emotional weight. Great you’ve chosen to release and open up space in your office and other areas. One step at a time, one area at a time, with no rush, simply with dedication and love.

419. I can feel how once you got to the energetic reasons underneath why you were holding onto possessions, it was a very deep journey of learning Kehinde, and you have moved now to a very different more loving place inside yourself. It exposes how I have superficially cleared my house without feeling the pattern of how I have been living less lovingly with myself, so this is a great example for me to feel, thank you.

     1. Gill, my first choice was also to superficially clear my home, but nothing changed. With support I was shown the depth I had to go for the change to be transformative. Tremendously healing and a huge blessing.

420. Super blog Kehinde, thank you for sharing. I love how we are always being offered a reflection of how we are living and that.. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ this is so beautifully honouring,What you have shared shows the deep healing that can take place with support.. and growing awareness of ourselves.

421. What an impactful realization you got reflected by your house and your belongings: ‘I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.’
     There are so many ways to cover up our feelings of emptiness. I didn’t realize this is one of them, thank you for sharing.

     1. It certainly is Monica. Clothes, for example for me became a form of protection, I kept buying when I didn’t need to. What was I trying to prove and who to? Underneath I had a self worth issue and feelings of emptiness, felt I needed more, whereas in fact I am already everything with nothing to prove. A huge release to feel this and begin to appreciate my true worth and understand that less is more.

422. The one you mention about keeping things because someone gave it to you is such a classic one. That there can be a level of guilt that you can’t throw it away or give to someone. Once I got over this I started to see how much that this had on a subtle effect on the temporal level but energetically it was suffocating me.

     1. Natalie, this one often gets overlooked: holding on to things given to us and feeling guilty to let them go. Great you were able to feel the ‘suffocating’ quality of this attachment and let it go. I struggled with this one at times, until I connected to the emotion I was holding on to. Once I did and released it, it became easy to let go of the material item.

423. I love the lightness and clarity that comes with clearing out a space, where ever it might be. It is refelcted in our bodies as we let go of our ‘stuff’, and it really does allow everything that takes place in that space to flow naturally as there are literally no obstacles in the way.

424. “when the pupil is ready, the master appears” – Love this Kehinde! But what if the ‘master’ and opportunity is actually offered to us all the time, and really we only choose to see this when we are ready to ‘go there’ and then the activity is constellated from there… Thus is it possible that we are the creators of our own delay?

     1. Absolutely Susie, ” we are the creators of our own delay?’ Opportunity is always offered, but we often do not see. The marvel is when we do and are ready, life constellates to bring us the support we need.

425. A super practical route to self-expansion. Thank you Kehinde for you transparent expression that will reflect to very many.

426. ‘I learned that everything has its place and to return it to that place after use.’ There is such a beautiful simplicity in this. I try to live as clutter free as possible and it really does make life more harmonious to know exactly where everything is so that the flow of the day is supported and clear.

     1. Yes Michelle, living clutter free makes life more harmonious and brings flow to our day.

427. After the second country move, I was living with a dear friend for a year. Her partner had commented that he did not know anyone who had all their belongings in one room – my bedroom. Yes, I love to travel light!

428. I do love to clear as it is such a cleansing process. Twice I moved country and could feel what an opportunity this was to let go of the old and anything I was holding onto that no longer served a purpose. This was also great preparation for the new beginning in the new country, and with so much space created in my body and in my life, everything that I needed just flowed towards me effortlessly.

429. Kehinde I love the connection you make between the body and our homes, and space vs what we’re holding onto. Knowing that there are no cupboards or under the bed spaces where we stuff away everything that we don’t want to deal with, no parts of our body that we’re not willing to be familiar with and to know what’s going on in, feels like a very light, open and transparent way to live, where we let go of protection and aren’t afraid of letting people in.

     1. Absolutely Bryony, no hiding places, all open and transparent.

430. Living in a spacious uncluttered environment with simply what you need and love and what supports you is not to be under-estimated. We know how amazing it feels when we have a big clear out, or a big clean, what if our clutter actually effects the way we feel every moment of the day and drags us down if we don’t deal with it?

     1. Great question Meg “what if our clutter actually effects the way we feel every moment of the day and drags us down if we don’t deal with it?” We sometimes delay confronting clutter and bury our issues, but they never go away. Far better to breath and begin the work, we feel so much better when we do.

431. I can feel that my house is ready for a deep cleanse and this article is a great inspiration, confirmation and support. Thank you Kehinde.

     1. Elaine, when we’re ready, purposefully deep clearing our homes becomes easy. If the task feels to big or onerous, its worth asking for help, as I did.

432. I really love this, Kehinde. What you share here is so timely and relevant to where I am at. And as we evolve, we grow out of what once supported us as there never is perfection.

433. Kehinde, These words jumped off the page to meet me
     “The biggest revelation was my lack of awareness of how I had been living. Without realising it I had chosen to see what I wanted to see – not the whole, not the true big picture of my life.”
     How many of us live a reduced life because we only see what we what to see and disregard the rest.

     1. Spot on Mary and a great question to ask ourselves. We see what we want to see so if we are happy to stay in our comfortable, irresponsible ways we will see the results of this as confirmation of our choices and further cement ourselves in it. It takes a willingness and commitment to evolve to open our eyes to the truth of the way we live.

434. I love how you felt the spaciousness and openness within yourself when you de-clttered your home. It is only when we start the process that we realise how much we hoard things thinking because they are hidden away that they don’t matter. Each item comes with its own energy if bought in need or to fill something lacking in our life all add to the stagnation and heaviness in our home. We recently cleared our the garage and bought some shelving and the difference I feel now each time I go in the garage is huge, Before it felt muddled and covered the whole floor now there is a spaciousness and lightness and it is now a joy to open the garage door.

     1. Alison this is lovely to read. Yes it’s every room, garages, cars, sheds, gardens all wait for us to come in and clear up our act. And when we do, in walks joy.

435. An inspiration for making space to feel who we truly are without the accumulated clutter.

436. This turns around the notion of having an “empty” cupboard. When we truly connect to space and spaciousness, then we have a choice. We can either fill our cupboards with material things or fill them with space. One choice causes congestion and stagnation, the other fills our home with fresh air, space and light that nourishes our body, heart and soul.

     1. Beautifully said Rowena. We can indeed choose to fill “our home with fresh air, space and light that nourishes our body, heart and soul’.

437. Thank you for sharing, Kehinde. Having just gone through a house move to much smaller one and with an expressed decision to de-clutter I can relate very much to what you have shared – going through photographs, items from inheritance, etc. which all bring up mixed emotions. And as I unpack I am sure there will be yet another layer to expose, all in all though it is a tremendously healing process.

     1. There are always more layers Jonathon and no need to rush. Re-visiting those hidden pockets is an opportunity to feel where we are with ourselves and ask how far am I willing to go, what am I still hanging on to here? When ready, love becomes our only choice, everything else discarded. And when we do, spaciousness and lightness replaces the heaviness that comes with emotional attachment.

        1. Yes, so true Kehinde that there is no need to rush for when one is ready the next layer is revealed and with it the discarding and a returning to deeper love.

438. There are so many ways that we can use as an excuse for holding onto certain things in our lives, all needs by the spirit and a desperate desire for holding onto self identity.

439. Very inspiring Kehinde, thank you. How true that our homes reflect the way we live and are in ourselves. Much to ponder here.

440. “Her approach took me back to the fundamentals: it was clear, unequivocal, direct and loving.” This is great, to not just approach the surface but look at the fundamentals and if they are solid. We can feel everything that is in a cupboard even if we do not see it. I think if this would be more consciously known this would save many people expensive home make overs!

441. Thanks for taking us through your process, Kehinde. What a transformative and life changing experience. I have been meaning to get round to my office cupboards for ages and feel inspired to do so. There is nothing lovelier than feeling the space left with a good clear out done.

442. Beautiful blog Kehinde. A lightbulb went off for me when you explained the way possessions can be used to fill the void we create by not loving ourselves.

443. Thankyou Kehinde, I really love the way that you start with thinking that all the flat needed was a face-lift and how this opened the door so much more, first with asking for help from such a skilled and loving practitioner, but then by actually being open to see what has really been going on for you and how you had been living and not in a critical sense, but rather in a revelatory way in that you are so much more have so much more to give.

444. Kehinde, you write so beautifully and I am so inspired, I really cannot believe the stuff we acquire that is not needed in our lives, all the access baggage we build up in one way or another. I feel the time has come to also get lovingly ruthless and do some clearing of my own and do the jobs that will beautify our home.

     1. Chan Ly it is as you say: to “look at every area of my house with new eyes’ and “pick one area at a time”. The process can be loving and certainly not one that can be rushed. For me seven sessions fell across several months and allowed space in-between to sort, choose and discard. Feeling the quality of each cleared room, inspires us to move on to the next.

445. Knowing exactly what we have and where it is and that everything has a purpose is taking love to the next level.

446. Thank you Kehinde for your inspiring blog and wow what a transformation? Everything you’ve shared has inspired me to look at every area of my house with new eyes. There is a lot of clearing for me to start on and the best way is to pick one area at a time. I will be reading your awesome blog again and again for sure.

     1. Chan Ly, it is as you say, to “look at every area of my house with new eyes’ and “pick one area at a time”. The process is loving and certainly not one that can be rushed. For me seven sessions fell across several months and allowed space in-between to reflect, sort, choose and discard. Feeling the quality of each cleared room or area, inspires us to move on to the next.

447. Wonderful Kehinde, no easy task but wow, what a healing you allowed. I can only imagine how differently it feels every time you walk back into your flat or open a wardrobe or cupboard. There’s something very liberating about living with simplicity and order.

448. Kehinde such a stunning blog. The transformation that you initiated and subsequently went through as a result of clearing your home is quite remarkable. I have long since felt the support that comes from the order that I keep in my home but it is only relatively recently that I have started to apply the same dedication to my workplace. I am at work for 40 hours of my week and so it has felt incredibly supportive to let go of feelings about ‘why should I be the one to clean the workplace?’ and simply get on and do what’s needed, in order to support not only me but everyone else that comes into that environment.

     1. Cleaning the kitchen area at work has now become part of my ritual of going to get water.. I used to just ignore it and feel slightly annoyed at the disregard that it had been left in, but then realised that I was just adding to it by doing so. It feels great to let go of ‘why am I the only one doing this’ type thoughts, re-imprint the whole area and leave it feeling amazing for the next person, and the same with bathrooms, and it inspires others to do the same.

     2. Yes Alison, there is no distinction between work and home, everywhere we move is our home. Imagine the difference it will make to bring the same dedication to your workplace as your home. Everyone benefits and will be inspired by you.

449. What we have been living with Day by day and has been right under our nose, we don’t pay attention to until we deeply uncover and ask the questions. A wonderful sharing thankyou. It’s amazing to have a process of letting go of our beliefs and attachments.

     1. Every aspect of the way we live tells us everything about the relationship we have with ourselves. This blog has made me examine the way I use, arrange, purchase and display my possessions in a whole new way.

450. It’s interesting that when we can feel, energetically, something needs to change, our immediate response can be to re-decorate, freshen the place up with new paint and maybe a different colour. I love how you allowed yourself to dig deep, being very open, honest and vulnerable, which enabled you to clear out what no longer supported you. Thank you for all that you have shared, it’s incredibly supportive and inspiring.

     1. Alison, this is a common error: to settle for surface sprucing up,which takes us nowhere. rather than deep clearing I’ve just completed re-decorating and furnishing my home, this took me to another level of clearing I hadn’t expected. As someone said, “It’s as if you’ve moved into a new home”, that’s how complete the transformation is, extra-ordinarily beautiful. The deeper we’re prepared to go, the more we’re offered.

451. ‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ – I love the honouring of our selves in this statement. I can feel how full my house is with so much ‘stuff’ that I really don’t need or want. This gorgeous blog is a brilliant catalyst to actually start what I have been feeling to do for a very long time.

     1. I agree Alison – this blog is a real catalyst for a deeper level of change in choices and way of living

     2. Beautiful Alison, There is often a point when we feel ‘ready’ to go there and when we do, are supported all the way.

452. When we truly feel into our possessions, whether that be clothes, make-up, furniture or knick-knacks, a lot of it gets bought or acquired from a neediness, from sadness or elation – none of which support us.

     1. True, and letting these things go and replacing them with the things that support us and offer us expansion is a very self-loving thing to do.

453. Awesome sharing and very inspirational blog Kehinde. Recently I gave away most of the cloths that I had been keeping incase I put on weight, it was very liberating and supported me to accept my body as it is now. And my wardrobe feels so much more spacious and since reading your blog I for see round two of clearing happening real soon.

     1. I’m fascinated by this comment marylouisemyers. Imagine if we were carrying that kind of ‘what if’ attitude in multiple areas of our life, how heavy our load would be. It reflects in me the choice that I have to either be tentative in my moves ‘just in case’, or to be fully claimed and front-foot because ‘this is who I am’.

        1. Agree Otto it makes such a difference when we fully embrace who we are and what ever we are doing and not second guess ourselves for one moment. I am presently in a process of fully embracing my new direction, incorporating aged care into my life.

     2. Yes Mary-Louise, when we live in the now, there is no space for ‘just in case’ . And hugely important to accept ourselves as we are. Like you, there is always round two, and three and four as we constantly refine.

        1. All these comments remind me of a conversation I was having about insurance – an expression of “just in case”. Live life to the full, with absolute responsibility and insurance isn’t needed – we are in God’s hands.

        2. Yes Otto, we are indeed in God’s hands. To live with this understanding and responsibly, we find that all is and will be provided.

454. ‘As I felt the neediness behind many of my purchases, it became much easier to discard them.’ This takes letting go of things to a whole other level, and bring a greater understandings to the things we have and keep around us and I can feel how if I truly look at why I bought something things become so much simpler and hoarding really isn’t an option. Thank you Kehinde for your very real and raw sharing.

     1. Yes Monica, saying goodbye to the need, not just the item, is healing.

455. When we bring purpose to what we do, whatever that may be it opens up so many other opportunities that would otherwise be hidden from view behind the fog of doing something with no purpose.

     1. Powerfully expressed Sandra ‘the fog of doing something with no purpose” Purpose inspires and brings an energetic quality that is light and expansive. We’re impulsed from within to lovingly be in life, get things done, not just go through the motions.

456. I use the excuse that because I live in a small flat that I do not have space for everything but when I think about the proportion of things that get used on a regular basis there is heaps of space!

     1. Like you Fiona, I’ve used the same excuse in the past. When we pare down to essentials and things used on a regular basis we create more space for ourselves.

457. This is quite something, clearing out my home has started and it feels so lovely when I open up one of my drawers to find everything in its place and plenty of space around it.

458. This blog shares a lot about why we collect and store things. It is so much more than a form of identity but a symbolic pattern that comes up to show us where we are not being transparent. Thank you for your deeply honest sharing.

459. Absolutely beautiful Kehinde. You show us all the super power of letting other people into our world – quite literally. We might be confronted by the mess they get to see, but they actually help us to bring to light everything that is not right. Do we prefer to continue on with our head in the sand? Or open up to accept the truth of what we are all here to do? I know what the answer is for you and I.

     1. Joseph, thank you. Asking for help in the first place and knowing I couldn’t do it on my own, was the first step. Inviting someone into your home is very intimate and exposing, but as you say, “they actually help us to bring to light everything that is not right” and support us to understand the true value and purpose of every single thing.

        1. Asking for help is huge and can make us feel very vulnerable and exposed but the beauty on offer and and accepting it are worth their weight in gold.

460. From what I have observed while clearing homes is that we use objects the same as we use emotions. We use them to fill as much space as we can as to not feel the immense love that we are. When the space is felt evolution is on offer and most of the time we are fighting this fact.

461. Thank you Kehinde. It is a courageous and powerful journey to undertake, one that raises ancient and un-dealt with emotions on the way but what an immense healing it brings. Such a beautiful way to really appreciate the quality of our selves and our expression when we make space in our homes, releasing what no longer serves us, physically, emotionally, mentally and energetically so that we can make way for the new within us.

462. I love this Kehinde, and what you have discovered, so gorgeous. I have moved several times in my life and every time I have less and less stuff, but even then, I’m sure there is more to be cleared.

     1. Yes Julie, there is always more. To consciously clear, brings more love into our lives.

463. Loved reading your blog Kehinde and to feel the spaciousness you have embraced within yourself and your home.It feels awesome!

464. “Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.”
     Love what you say here, it is very true.

465. Reading your article Kelinde I felt the clearing you went through very clearly :). I Love this process and yet I am finding there are layers to it, once some things are discarded the space opens up and others appear to be discarded. It is very like the clearing that takes place in the body when we let go of behaviours and ways that do not serve us, there is a constant refining taking place.

     1. Absolutely, Victoria, it is an ever refining process.

466. This is a fabulous example Kehinde of seeing everything as an opportunity to deepen our relationship with self and connect to the spaces around us and see the bigger picture. The micro details and what we hold onto always effect the macro details of our lives and the world we live in. Allowing ourselves the joy and space to be all that we are allows for more letting go and a deeper love and appreciation for the bigger picture and our place within it. Thank you for the inspiration.

     1. Love what you say here Kelly, ‘The micro details and what we hold onto always effect the macro details of our lives and the world we live in” Seeing the bigger picture, rather than minuscule ones we create in our heads, really makes a difference. We are not clearing our homes for ourselves, every ounce of stuff we let go of lightens the load in our bodies and the world we’re very much part of. Our responsibility goes way beyond our personal lives and homes.

467. I have recently moved into a much smaller living space and so enjoyed reading your blog just now Kehinde. I have been thoroughly enjoying the process of refining and feeling what is true to have in my space and what to discard. It has been quite a process as there has also been a lot of reflection required but it feels so lovely to have only what is needed and loved and everything in its place. The simplicity and beauty of this is something I am appreciating every day. And yet there is still more to refine, it is an ever unfolding process as we also unfold and evolve.

     1. “it feels so lovely to have only what is needed and loved and everything in its place.’ I feel exactly the same Jeanette. And as you say, the process of refining is ever unfolding. The invitation to deepen and bring more love into our lives is always present.

468. You are an inspiration Kehinde ! Thank you for sharing your personal journey of house clearing and I feel I see things much clearer now too. There is some pockets of “stuff” I need to sort through in my own home so you have inspired me to start!

     1. Thank you Roslyn, Great you’re aware of your pockets of ‘stuff”and inspired to start. As is sometimes said ‘”leave no stone uncovered”. Full benefits are felt when the whole house is cleared.

     2. Great to be aware of ‘pockets of “stuff”” awaiting your attention. There can be many stages to this. I’m reminded of the many times I tried to, but couldn’t let go of certain personal possessions because I was attached to what they symbolised. I would pick them up, ‘reminisce’ and hold on to them.. To arrive at a place within myself where I felt the associated emotion I was holding on to in the here and now, made it easier to release and move on. Once released, home and body is cleared..

469. Absolutely love this Kehinde and the timing is perfect as I am in the middle of a clutter clearing of my house. It’s not big, but it has been bulging at the seams with items and such that I have been carting around for what feels like forever. I am loving the liberating feeling that comes from letting go of that which no longer has a place in my life and the incredible associated feeling of spaciousness not only in my home but in me. You have now inspired me to go even deeper!

     1. Beautiful Ingrid, It is indeed liberating to let go of things no longer needed and the feeling of spaciousness at home and within is divine. There are many different levels to de-cluttering, I love your willingness to go even deeper.

        1. Just as there are many different levels of depths we can go to within ourselves. A direct reflection I would say.

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