Energetic Responsibility at Home – Spaciousness & Simplicity or Clutter & Complication?
Imagine you feel you know all there is to know about yourself, then something happens to remove the blinkers from your eyes and totally exposes how you’re truly living. This is my story.
I’ve known for a few years that I’ve wanted to do something to my flat, but I didn’t know where or how to start. I had lived in the same place for over 25 years: a lovely one bed in London in a neighbourhood I’ve come to love. On the surface there appeared to be order, but was there?
With most of my stuff hidden from view in cupboards and storage boxes, I convinced myself there was, as I wasn’t forced to look at or deal with it every day. I was not a hoarder. I did not have a problem. And yet the flat felt stagnant and full… something was not right. I believed all that was needed was a face-lift, re-decorating and additional cupboard space.
It is often said that when the pupil is ready, the master appears, and so it was for me. Guided to seek help, I sensed the person best suited to support me, but didn’t contact her for two years. When I did, it took another six months before we finally met.
In the meantime I started the process of clearing one cupboard in my bedroom containing photographs, letters, cards and mementoes spanning 60 years. It was an emotional journey as I re-visited different stages of my life and the various guises adopted along the way: girlfriend, partner, radical black activist, feminist, silk screen printer, carnival mass parade dancer, devoted martial arts student, yoga student, Hindu guru devotee, management consultant and tutor of many subjects. I went through everything and set aside items still relevant or loved for myself and family. Three black bin bags of discarded waste or re-cycling sat before me. Feeling virtuous, I emailed my teacher to be and confidently proclaimed the clearing almost complete and that I was ready to meet her.
When we met I found out how deluded I was!
My original call was for support with home design and re-configuration. My practitioner very gently and honestly shared her way of working, what felt true for her and would best support me. I felt intuitively to go with what was offered. Her approach took me back to the fundamentals: it was clear, unequivocal, direct and loving. Above all, she had the sensitivity to feel where I was stuck, a warmth and a way of phrasing questions that compelled me to feel more deeply. She steadily took me a through a process which supported me to feel the true impact of how I had been living. At this point I still had no idea what was coming, and how deep we would dive. At the end of the first session, the blinkers were off. I felt raw, exposed. My life had been changed forever.
The simple yet profound method was designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute. I discovered the scale of the task, and the process became symbolic of my life and choices.
Did I choose truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard? I was presented with energetic responsibility in a very practical and real sense. As I felt the neediness behind many of my purchases, it became much easier to discard them. It was a revelation to feel how much of what I had accumulated was superfluous to need, not true and not serving. At the end of the very first session I felt drained, raw and vulnerable, yet inspired. For example, I discovered I only needed 10 of my 30 plus jumpers. And the ten I chose were those l loved. The rest were re-cycled. Once the clearing was complete, clothes and other items were placed in my wardrobe. It felt spacious, everything visible, loved, beautiful and ready for use. My heart expanded and felt light.
I learned that everything has its place and to return it to that place after use. This meant no longer spending time fishing for things but to know exactly what I had and where it was kept. Nothing remained under the bed, on the floor, above cupboards or behind doors.
This was the first of eight sessions: bathroom, hallway, living room, office, kitchen. One face to face meeting, seven via Skype. The process remained the same – to work in a way that allowed me to see the ‘big picture’ and feel the particular cycle and pattern I was in that had inhibited me from connecting more deeply with how I was living and feeling. The process was exposing, at times brutal, as I struggled to let go of things, resisted and clung to beliefs held for decades. All these items – clothing, bags, shoes, bedding, linen, fabric, jewellery, cosmetics, folders, files, laptops, computers, phones, crockery and more, most superfluous – had become a form of protection. Protection from how I truly felt about my life, regrets, disappointments and sadness. On the surface all was well and resolved, but I needed to physically discard the past and its related emotions before I could move on.
In the final stage I re-placed items after feeling the true value of each. This was very powerful. I got to feel the loveliness of items I chose to keep. This process, that seemed to be about my home, revealed to me the many times in my life I’d settled for less. I was inspired to break this pattern and begin to bring love into my home and life.
The biggest revelation was my lack of awareness of how I had been living. Without realising it I had chosen to see what I wanted to see – not the whole, not the true big picture of my life.
What was called for was a new perspective and willingness to discard all that was superfluous and untrue. Instead of bulging kitchen cupboards, I now have spacious cupboards and two empty ones. One wardrobe is no longer needed and will be dispensed with. Sixty years of photographs, the equivalent of five bin bags, reduced and lovingly held in a single, beautiful folder.
Spaciousness allows the new to be brought in and lovingly chosen.
Without realising it, I had:
- Become a consumer addict and accumulated things I didn’t use or need (3 dinner services, 3 vegetable peelers, 2 blenders, 2 sewing machines and more).
- Adopted a ‘just in case’ approach to life and bought extra just in case something got lost, broken, or there was a natural disaster or war!
- No sense of what I had because I had accumulated so much and couldn’t ‘see the wood for the trees.’
- Held on to items I didn’t like or use because someone dear to me had given it to me.
Self-expression at Home
Our home is a representation of our body. What does it say about me if I only express from the surface, not my deep true self? What does it say about me if I keep things hidden away behind closed doors? This process opened me up to a whole new way of being.
Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.
I have huge appreciation for myself for being prepared to dig deep, clear what needed to go and in doing so, expand my awareness and understanding.
Thanks and gratitude to Jenny Hayes. She guided me to clear my home with true purpose and understand that the process was for me and an expression of love. She inspired me to embody spaciousness, purpose, simplicity, order and love into my life.
This blog is inspired by and dedicated to Serge Benhayon.
By Kehinde James, London
Related Reading:
Making Space
Cleaning Up My Mess – True Self Care or Keeping Up Appearances
De-cluttering my Flat and my Life: A Forever Deepening Amazingness
The Truth about Serge Benhayon 
I love what has been shared in this blog, wisdom, understanding and an inspiration to go deeper with getting rid of what no longer serves us.
Kehinde, this has come at a perfect timing as I have been feeling our apartment is no longer serving my partner and I. There is a stuck-ness about the place and I’d like to get a hoover and vacuum everything out! There needs to be more order and I need space to do this. I know how the place feels when we go to the simplicity of everything, it feels spacious and there is a lightness about the place.
It feels there comes a point when things have to change and it may not be how you want it to be, but what is needed. I cannot wait to take the apartment to the next place and find the appropriate practitioner for it.
Thank you Kehinde for the inspiration…
Understanding that what we do in life leads to anxiety and depression and the drugs that we can then rely on to subdue these emotional qualities. By de-cluttering our life and cleaning out the physical things in our house then follows to relief a lot of tension, because our bodies can then also feel that we are more open and relaxed as we create space with the help of others/working in brotherhood, and thus our expression and what is going on for us is shared allowing healing of our issues. Is it any wonder we are confused about our place in life when we live in a way that piles things into tinnier and tinier place with the thought that one day I will need that and how this plays out in our mind.
Greg you are so spot on, ‘the relief of tension’ is something we do not realise we are in, until the tension is lifted and the body feels it.
We need to be doing this regularly as it is a fitness level we need to get to and even by changing the furniture around could be the only thing we need to do, to shift what is lingering in our homes and our bodies.
I feel this is relevant in what Kehinde shared, great understanding, ‘ was designed to bring awareness to the degree in which I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.’
I love the feeling that comes with throwing stuff out. When I hesitate it feels like a blockage to letting things go and prevents a flow in life. Sometimes I unblock that flow and other times hold onto the item. But I know it’s only a matter of time before that goes too.
Also great to feel why the item was purchased in the first place, ‘ As I felt the neediness behind many of my purchases, it became much easier to discard them.’
Letting go of accumulated clutter and you feel a weight lifting off your shoulders and you are free to move with a lightness of step.
Absolutely Mary, and this light-ness takes the reactions out of our movements, so we have the awareness to be respond and not impose our values on others.
“Did I choose truth, beauty and love, or neediness, recognition and disregard?” A great question, reading your blog today I can see how a home would reflect so many of our choices and what quality of energy we were (or still are) aligned to. Everything shared here Kehinde feels like a simple, practical, yet very powerful process, thank you.
It is easy to purchase things out of a need, out of a desire to not feel or to fill up an emptiness inside. But this purchase then stays with that energy and hence confirms that emptiness within. Whereas an purchase done with purpose is there to support us till such time that we feel it no longer serves and then it moves on to another who can use it with purpose equally so. That is true re-cycling with purpose.
Exactly, what is the purpose of the purchase, ‘ It was a revelation to feel how much of what I had accumulated was superfluous to need, not true and not serving.’
Spot on Kehinde, our home is like our body and caring for both is so important, and one reflects the other.
Kehinde, what a gorgeous sharing and one where you openly talk about how raw and confronting it can be to allow a clear out, a detox and to allow more of you to simply be.
Your sharing is deeply inspiring and I too can feel how much I still have allowed an accumulation of things that no longer serve, yet I am holding onto with a ‘just in case’ approach. This creeps in so fast, and yet it is a form of protection. So freeing to realise this and then to allow oneself to let go and be as a lived experience.
Yes, it feels good after a clear out, but I still can hold onto ‘stuff’ just in case, more letting go is definitely needed.
Sometimes it can be difficult to shift old habits and behaviours and this is when support can be very helpful. This could be from a practitioner, friends or family. People are often more than happy to help, all we have to do is be open to it and the support is always there.
Support is wise as there is much to look at when getting rid of old possessions, ‘I needed to physically discard the past and its related emotions before I could move on.’
I’ve really enjoyed reading this again, there is a wealth of wisdom and understanding to be had from what you have shared. As we make our return back to living the love we are it makes sense that areas of our life that reflect the emptiness, neediness, attachments, etc, like our house and contents, will show up as needing to be changed to reflect our new, true way.
This beautiful and very inspiring blog was just what I needed to read today as I can feel that I have another clutter clear of my house beginning to be called for. I have done several over the last few years, and whereas in the past I would have said that I don’t need to clear out even more, the next layer is becoming very evident and cannot be ignored. It feels like shedding another one of the many skins I have taken on in my life, and to peel them back, one by one, is the most spacious feeling, not just in my home but in every part of my body.
Awesome Ingrid, you are inspiring me to approach 2 cupboards in my kitchen I have been avoiding. They are the two corner cupboards where it is difficult to reach and I am a bit scared what I might find in there, haha… it’s time to clear them out and give them a good clean, reorganise and de-clutter.
‘Without realising it I had chosen to see what I wanted to see – not the whole, not the true big picture of my life.’ Such a support when someone gives you space to come to your own understanding of what is needed, in order to go through a process where you choose to see the whole which makes it simple and joyfull.
To step back and give oneself space to see one’s own life is indeed a blessing as with space we are able to spot more easily those things that no longer support us. Once this has been seen and noted, then we are ‘armed’ with the choice to make a change. Hence realizing what is needed as change is one of the first steps in any change we make for not knowing what to change does not allow for the next step of the actual change. Then of course there is the commitment to make the change and hold this consistently so.
How we look after our space, arrange the furniture and the items we have in our space can either support us to be ourselves or it can create tension in our body energetically and due to clutter and disregard. We can often assess how we are feeling by the state/condition of our living space, and I love exploring this observation in my own home. Using what I see as a sign and an opportunity to remind myself of what is really going on, for example if I feel overwhelmed my house tends to be messy and disorganised. When I feel deeply loving, my house reflects this too. So, what are we communicating to the world with the space we occupy?
I love what you say about feeling the loveliness of what you have chosen to keep. It feels like assigning each item of possession with a renewed purpose. I am feeling inspired. Thank you, Kehinde.
Spaciousness is so incredibly important… In our bodies, in our homes, in our hearts, and in our minds.
So true Cjames2012, we forget what this feels like when we have been so used to living with denseness and it is when we see someone reflect and live with spaciousness that we get to feel how amazing it is to let go of denseness and choose spaciousness. It could be a process to embrace spaciousness but it is one that is absolutely worth taking.
Nailed it Chris, Spaceiousness is key. It is something we all crave, perhaps without realising it.
Spaciosness feels lovely when we allow it, ‘Spaciousness allows the new to be brought in and lovingly chosen.’
I wouldn’t say I have a lot of stuff physically, but then I think of digital possessions. Photos, videos and files are still energy that can clutter.
That’s a great point, Leigh. And all the emails that are just sitting in the inbox as well. Every now and then I spend some time deleting or filing them away, but I am realizing that this is something that needs my constant attention for them not to become just another dumping ground.
It makes perfect sense that our homes reflect what we live and what we do choose or have been choosing, I love your sharing Kehinde and how you’ve opened your heart, your home, your eyes and how the love could pour in whenever you choose to let go of some of the old.
Decluttering is magical, it brings space, light and clarity. I love the openness it allows and the room then for love to fill.
I love it too Christine, and I realise the space we live in is not that dissimilar to our body, when we declutter and discard things we no longer need it opens up space for more love to flow.
I love how the space feels after decluttering, and know another level of decluttering is needed.
Great sharing Kehinde, it is easy to fall for clearing of a few items in the belief that, that is all there is to be done, yet when we start to delve deeper we realise there is a whole heap more to clear, and as we do we feel so much more space in the body.
Thank you for the amazing reminder about how sacred our homes are and their relationship to our bodies, I wonder if it could be said that if we treat our bodies with the utmost respect then that respect would translate into everything we touched, including our homes.
“The biggest revelation was my lack of awareness of how I had been living.” This is the thing that stops me being arrogant and thinking I know it all! I am forever finding there are fresh layers that come to my attention when I am ready to see them and address them.
Order is always space and is independent of physical space. That said, it is possible to create space within a very reduced space that is created when we surrender to a space that is as vast as boundless.
Thank-you Kehinde for sharing the intimate details of your healing. I just recently commented on another blog asking the question, why do we hold onto things that we no longer use or need? You offered here it is from a protection, I am holding onto things in my life to feel safe and secure. That I have some sort of life, that I have some thing to show for my life. You have taken the blinkers off for me also.
Perfect timing for me to happen upon this wonderful article. I can feel another round of decluttering and refinement coming on.
I have often joked that Justin Case needs to start paying rent as he lives in so many of our homes and often takes up the most space!
Love it Sarah, Justin Case has been a partner of mine for a long time and the irony is that I think I am saving money by him being there!
I have taken a while to wake up to the fact that “Justin Case” is definitely not helping me to save money either. Quite the opposite, he entices me/us to spend money we in truth don’t need to, and, in the process, we become weighed down, figuratively and literally, with all his excess baggage. And we all know how much that excess baggage can cost us when we are traveling, and how heavy it is to cart around!
‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ Beautifully said Kehinde, to treat our bodies and homes as both precious and sacred brings a flow and order to our life that is simply divine.
I loved reading this blog and to re-read it again from time to time.
I find decluttering is forever being refined and there’s always more to discard that no longer serve, whether clothes, shoes, gadgets etc, the list can be endless.
I’ve found doing any clearing in a loving way leaves an imprint then doing it because the home is bursting through the seams and then it’s a chore.
Thank you for the re-inspiration.
Wow Kehinde, by letting go of the old it feels like you pretty much have a new home without moving residences.
The great thing about house clearing, is how fantastic you feel afterwards inside yourself, and where your thoughts and direction are so much clearer to feel a sense of purpose – purpose is feeling what to do/what steps to take with the new found spaciousness.
Such an inspiring read, decluttering feels like a huge job and I can see from your blog how essential support was. It’s fascinating what’s actually underneath the clutter, although it may be different for each person it’s been great to read what came up for you Kehinde “I lacked self love and because of this was not truly living my fullness, but had accumulated a mass of possessions as a substitute.” I can certainly relate to this as it’s one way we fill in the space around us to not feel the emptiness we have lived.
When we clear a cluttered space, our body responds so evidently by feeling light and clear
It really is extraordinary what we hold onto… and always such a relief when we let go.
Imagine if we instead held onto our true selves? We would then bring space. 🙂
When we actually do clear a cluttered space completely, it is only then that we can see something far more clearer…. yes, I agree… the biggest revelation that it shows us is the ” lack of awareness of how I had been living”.
It’s inspiring to read blogs like this because we all know the areas in our homes we have been ignoring and have conveniently been putting off for another day – even when the things that need to go are in plain sight.
Yes Julie, we do in fact know, we just pretend to not know so much that we convince ourselves we don’t know. Very clever, because then we don’t actually have to do anything about it!
It’s amazing how we can live with things for years and then begin to feel uncomfortable with them, knowing that they no longer support us but are keeping us attached to a past that is no longer relevant for us and is actually holding us back in an unnecessary comfort or familiarity.
Our body is constantly clearing what is not needed so why not our home, if our home is an extension of our body and how we live. Today feels perfect for me to start clearing my wardrobe and starting afresh and this also coincides with where my body is and the next level it is ready to go to.
That’s great Alison, and we can start with little bits at a time, a section of the wardrobe, one drawer in the kitchen, it doesn’t have to be big and overwhelming, we can bring some fun into it by doing it in smaller sized chunks.
When we clean the house we create a new flow that then supports us to be in more flow ourselves. It is a win-win situation.
It can be confronting when we dig under the surface of the nest we have made for ourselves at home. I find habitual ways and compromise of our worth become almost invisible in our home. It is such amazing support to have someone who can assist us through looking very honestly at our home and what is not equal to our worth. Once cleared out, you can instantly feel the difference, the extra spaciousness and confirmation of our essence.
That’s true Fiona, the way our home is and the items we keep become our normal so having the support of a fresh set of eyes to guide us into a more loving home space may be necessary. I hadn’t quite looked at my home as being a confirmation of my essence (or not), it makes sense though.
Recognising that our house is symbolic of our body, how clear and spacious our body feels when we attend to decluttering, redecorating / upgrading, and how it is a Sacred space to come home to every day, offers great awareness that everything about the way we live is energetic and very inter related. With this insight, we also discover great purpose to keep attending to and refining the way our home environments, never wanting it to become stagnant in pockets of our home, because as we evolve, gather more awareness in life, so too do we want our home environment to reflect this.
Our lives really do reflect our relationship with ourselves, so revealing when we are willing to explore this.
A little bit of love changes everything, and lays the foundation for more love to flow.
Great job! Nothing is irrelevant when it comes to energy. We are borderless and I love what you have shared here about why we buy what we buy. Has it been out of neediness, recognition or to numb and distract us? We can all learn from what you have shared here.
‘a ‘just in case’ approach to life’ is something I can very much relate to and I feel how we can get stucked when we don’t let go of ‘old things or way of being because just in case we should need it. It keeps us where we are and there is no space to appreciate what is coming next with this billboard of ‘ be carefull you’ll never know what will happen’.
I get caught with this one and often wonder why it is still there, where it comes from and how I can move beyond it. I realise that this is most likely why it keeps coming back, because I want to get beyond it and am not prepared to look at the why in more detail.
It is interesting to consider that in essence we all can exhibit aspects of hoarding when we don’t deal with our unresolved emotional issues.
‘I was inspired to break this pattern and begin to bring love into my home and life.’ and that is how we can be … breaking our old ways and bringing love in and you remind me of the reality of this … it may involve letting go old things and ways, for without doing so we do not have space for the new, the love.
Support, we can never have enough support. Knowing we need support and then asking for support is very self-loving and can open many doors on the inside as well as on the outside…
All roads lead back to the body, so whether we are decluttering or changing and refining our diets, and/or changing our movements, has it not all been impulsed from our wise bodies?
Fine tuning so that more of the quality that comes from within is offered out to the world.
Amazing to consider that our possessions could actually be holding us back in our life. By hanging on to them we are still bound by the emotional ties that surround the events that they portray, and we keep these emotional ties going which prevent us from truly moving on.
I can feel today the appreciation which has been lacking that is needed in my every step to declutter and re-imprint my home. I have come to realise that no matter where I am at in the process of bringing a greater love into the home and therefore a spaciousness within my body it is vital that I appreciate myself every step of the way.
A gorgeous reminder Caroline, that wherever stage we are at with letting go of what we are not, always to remember to appreciate all the baby steps we are making which eventually leads to evolving and expanding.
As I move into a new home, this has many points that support that move. Do I really need that, is that going to make it into the place I’m living, is it coming out of the box to sit deep in a cupboard or can it stay in the box and be taken down the recycling centre? I can feel the attachment to things, and then its a question of picking my way through to the truth, and a bit of support along the way is highly recommended!
Yes I am in the process of clearing my home and it feels great to clear the ‘stuff’ I hold onto for those ‘just incase moments’, love how you shared about having more than one of items when we may not need them.
It’s what happens to our bodies when we really start to clear out the old that is very interesting and very revealing.
Cleaning any part of the house when done with a purpose can leave one feeling that not only does the place physically change but a weight has been lift in how the room may have felt too.
“I have huge appreciation for myself for being prepared to dig deep, clear what needed to go and in doing so, expand my awareness and understanding.” – Truly appreciating ourself is a bedrock for change that genuinely supports us unfolding more of who we truly are.
Agreed and we are dealing with long held patterns in situations like this so it is so important to appreciate in order to allow the expansion the space to embed as a new normal.
‘I learned that everything has its place and to return it to that place after use. This meant no longer spending time fishing for things but to know exactly what I had and where it was kept.’ Completion and order supports simplicity in life.
Thank you Kehinde, nothing like a good clear out to free up spaciousness. I am feeling another shedding coming on after reading your blog.
It’s a nice idea that the home is interlinked with the body. But it’s quite something else when you discover it’s the absolute truth. Why do we leave messes and accept dischord in our possessions? Why do we take on emotions and habits that get in our way? It seems it’s all to hide how amazing we are inside – it’s high time as you show Kehinde that we let simplicity speak.
A great refresher of our home being a representation of our bodies. We actually did a clear out this weekend and found there was a lot of stuff hidden behind doors. It was a reflection of not being totally open and so it felt great to nominate that and clear it out.
It is amazing how many things we can keep in drawers or behind closed doors that we forget about and leave until another day but all of that affects us. For me it feels like a dragging down knowing it needs to be done. I know for me the clearer my space is where I am living the clearer and lighter my body is. It makes such a difference, and often we only feel it once we have cleared the space as it is like we are blinkered before. And I always go – why didn’t I do that before?! Perhaps it could be that it also means I have to take this lightness out to the world and show them all the love I truly am without holding back, as there is now no excuse to be less??!!
There is something very beautiful about the support we can have in clearing out our houses. Because another person can offer you a perspective that perhaps is not always so easy to see. Having another person there, while you clear and discard is very beautiful, because this offers a support to take the clearing deeper and transform it in to a truly healing experience.
It is such a great thing to seek the help of others and be open to what is suggested as many of us are stuck in our ways and aren’t willing to see the necessary steps we need to clear our path.
Without a doubt, every time I look at what needs to be de-cluttered, to improve the flow of my home, then I feel it in all of my life. These two components are linked, how we live at home and how we feel in life.
“Above all, she had the sensitivity to feel where I was stuck, a warmth and a way of phrasing questions that compelled me to feel more deeply. She steadily took me a through a process which supported me to feel the true impact of how I had been living.” This is the power of Jenny Hayes, she is truly remarkable and I highly recommend having a session/s with her. It is not about what’s right/what’s wrong, what looks good/what does not, it is about what is true for you and that can be hard to reach on your own as you say Kehinde, we are often blind to the way we are living.
“Above all, she had the sensitivity to feel where I was stuck, a warmth and a way of phrasing questions that compelled me to feel more deeply. ”
This line really sums up my experience with most Universal Medicine long term students and Practitioners. I have always found it hard to explain because it is quite subtle to the untrained eye but the quality in which you are asked things by students of The Way, makes every question that you may have once struggled with in the past, seem simple, it is like remembering that you have all the answers you ever wanted
‘Our homes, like our bodies, are vessels of self-expression and should be regarded with utmost sacredness.’ Looking around I see that I have allowed clutter to build up again. I love order and harmony in my life but how can I have that if I don’t have it in my home…and in every part of my home? As kevmchardy said earlier this is a process and it is honouring of ourselves to do what feels true and not just go along with something because we have agreement in our heads but not the whole body saying yes and likewise it is not for us to judge how we are but observe, read and lovingly make changes from that awareness and appreciation.
Dear Kehinde,
Gorgeous to read your blog today as I am in the midst of sessions with Jenny Hayes. I have had 2 out of 3 sessions going through my wardrobe and it has also been an incredible process. I too had ‘prepped’ my wardrobe and discarded what I thought was the bulk of it, and was ready for the session.
Wow, I had no idea how much ‘stuff” I still had in my wardrobe that was not true. It was a raw process as well for me as I stripped back the stories about why I had bought something and saw so clearly (well not always!) the patterns I have about buying clothes, how I wanted to be seen, recoginised, and thought of.
I re-cycled over 170 items of clothing and now my wardrobe feels the most amazing I have ever felt it….beyond what I could have even imagined. Highly recommend these sessions if/when you are ready.
Love, Sarah
Our lives really do reflect our relationship with ourselves, so revealing when we are willing to explore this.
Wow, 170 items of clothing recycled, I am inspired
I’ve moved several times in the last few years and each time it’s been an opportunity to reevaluate my possessions and what truly serves me, and what I’m just holding onto. Each time it feels like a shedding of accumulated layers and there’s a lightness and actually a joy at letting go of stuff, and allowing more space.
I have found the same Bryony, it is amazing quite how much stuff we accumulate which we do not actually need. Having recently downsized a few times it has been great to let stuff go that I have not needed rather than hanging onto things as a just in case. Things change and we change, the question is do we and are we willing to reconfigure our lives as a result and so embrace all that is on offer or do we want to keep the old with us?
Thats a great point Bryony, moving has a natural way of discarding what we no longer need, but if we don’t move for 25 years there is not that same opportunity to clear the emotional ties of what certain objects represent that keep us held in the past and stop us from moving on.
Amazing to read how objects can become substitutes for self-love, because this shows how, to choose an object to replace self-love, there would need to be an awareness of self-love in the first place.
Such a great reminder that the imprint of energy we buy stuff in remains, with every item of my clothing I can feel my intention when I brought it and whether it was to advance me or to distract myself or indulge myself – and it matters it really matters and effects how I feel when I wear it.
Bringing delicacy into our home feels very potent for me at present, and I am loving brining the detail to that.
What do I allow in that gets in the way of me expanding? Catching those moments when I feel myself contract and resist from seeing the bigger picture feels very supportive. What if I were to see and feel the bigger picture in my every movement? Oh my… this feels good and very expansive in my body taking me deeper into the knowing of what is possible.