Our body shares so much with us and is so intelligent, but how do we make contact with its communication again? Why do we avoid all the signals that it sends, and how do we recognise or feel those signals?
Babies and little children are pure and honest and they show us clearly what their body communicates. Gradually this changes because she/he is imposed upon by the outside world: what can and what cannot be expressed, what is allowed, what is not allowed, how to behave, dress, etc.
Such outside influences made me uncertain when I was a little child and I didn’t know anymore who I was and what I felt. Of course my body sent me all kind of signals, but those were usually avoided, and not recognised. Like the times when I fed myself with a lot of food, especially with sugar, in order to not feel what my body was communicating.
Most days I was tired and miserable. One day I told myself that this was not the way I wanted to live. I started to eat less sugar and that was the beginning of a healthier life.
That same year I began Esoteric Yoga and I met Serge Benhayon via Serge Benhayon TV. I felt immediately that his Livingness made sense. I learned step by step to not be distracted by ‘negative thoughts’ and how to listen to the wisdom of my body. This allowed me to connect to a huge level of self-care and how to take the time to sit down and listen to how I really feel.
- Where does it hurt in my body (pain)?
- How tired am I, or not?
- What quality do I hold myself in during the day?
- What time do I go to bed?
- Have I skipped a meal, or eaten too much?
- Did I take the time to go to the toilet when first impulsed? etc.
Very consciously listening to the body is the first step and then especially when recognising these signals, to connect back with it. I felt it was important to do this very lovingly and without pressure from myself that something should or not should be a certain way. I now allow myself to feel everything that my body communicates with me without judgement. I am learning to observe – instead of absorb – all that does not truly support me, and that allows me more space in my body and more love with myself.
For example, when someone shouts at me and I don’t know what it’s all about, I breathe gently in and out through my nose, and feel what the other person really is attempting to communicate. Maybe it could be that he/she is tired, had a bad sleep or feels not very well and the shouting is nothing personal but all about the feelings, such as frustration, in them.
By practising this each day I build with myself a trust and bond and I deepen the connection more and more with my own feelings.
This builds the foundation of self-loving quality back into my life, a quality that will be naturally for me and for all others equally. What supports me when my ‘self love’ drops is that I stop, reconnect and feel, so I can deepen further that enormous self-care and love.
Allowing this from day to day brings more flow and rhythm into my life – it’s more natural, my body feels less protected because there is less hardness in my shoulders and my back. The openness and space that I feel gives me a lot of joy and love for myself and for everyone around me.
Through listening to all that my body communicates, I have found that there is a whole body intelligence constantly informing me how to be in harmony with my own body and all others equally so.
By Christel Delcroix, Belgium