Letter to My Body

Dear Body,

We have had 33 years together so far and I really just want to take the time to appreciate and thank you for everything you have done for me… despite my frustration with you in those times where you are not ‘complying’ with my wishes. I am really beginning to understand that you are helping me, getting my attention to let me know that the way I am living isn’t our natural way.

You have constantly communicated to me when things are not going so well and need to be looked at and have equally told me when I am on the right track. I must apologise for all the times I don’t listen to you when you are trying to get my attention: this must be hard work so I appreciate your patience and unwavering support.

We both know full well that when I was a child I was awesome at listening to you – it came out so naturally. I reaped the rewards of living this way as I had so much fun in you dear body and felt so much joy, playfulness and silliness; I loved my family and close friends and I loved to explore in the paddocks and bushes, make huts in the trees, connect to the animals, dress-ups, play with my brother and sisters and race around on my bike. Life was simple. Good times.

But as you may remember, as the years passed things started to get a bit intense and it began to feel not as easy to be with you. I got caught up in the emotions and the unease of life and felt unable to hold you steady through all of this. But I mean, let us be honest, no one is perfect and I did what I felt I could at the time.

I can remember things started to go a little pear-shaped around 8 years old when I got caught up in trying to be perfect. Perfection I have since learnt is extremely destructive and takes you down a slippery and very unpleasant path. But as much as I allowed it to consume me at times, it didn’t consume you.

So as the years went on with all these outside forces of life presenting themselves daily and my perception of them, – thinking what I had to do, who I had to be, the ‘good girl’ mentality, the pressures of society’s ways, – the discontentment I felt within me and those around me really started to take its toll. I wasn’t able to stay steady in high school as well as I had hoped and it was a struggle throughout much of my teenage years, as you dear body are well aware. You always let me know with that underlying sense that something wasn’t right. Thank you, dear body, for if it wasn’t for this I may have never questioned things.

That underlying depression and anxiety I felt as a teenager and when becoming a Mum, that was you wasn’t it? Letting me know that there is more to life and that too often I was giving up on my Joy. The way I was living was not working all the time and you made it clear many times throughout my life with many messages physically.

I am sure you can remember these particular bodily signs, messages and feeling of unease well:

  • Those constant cold sores you kept giving me as a teenager? I mean come on, that wasn’t fun but I get it, it was you communicating that I was in a constant state of being run down and that I needed to look after myself.
  • The short time I dabbled with an eating disorder and I got so thin and our skin lost its glow. The unhealthy looking body was your way of screaming out – Look! This is not ok. My mind was telling me one thing but you dear body were clearly telling and showing me the truth.
  • The years of digestive issues, as painful and uncomfortable as they were at times, was your way of letting me know the food I was eating was not supporting us and was making us sick.
  • Being sick and exhausted the next day after drinking alcohol. How could I forget the time you put blood in my urine? Thanks for that very loud and clear message of drinking far too much than my body at 17 years old could take.
  • I especially appreciate how clear you were when I was with the wrong men. Trust me, I heard you loud and clear despite my mind’s need for attention and affection trying to convince me otherwise.
  • The white spots you have put on my nails to let me know I am lacking and not absorbing zinc very well. Nice work!
  • My ‘Perfection Ideals’ when becoming a Mother. The anxiety this created made a ripple effect down into you dear body, and I could literally feel this tension running down my arms and inside my chest, almost in my heart. Thank you for this feeling as it was this that kept telling me that this type of tension is not healthy and that it doesn’t need to be this way.

I now know dear body it was purely you communicating to me that I needed to change my ways and connect back to you; to get out of my head with all its chit chat and nonsense. I understand now that by truly listening to you, we are a team for an amazing life together.

And my gosh how exquisite and right it feels when we are connected, at ease and completely filled with my true self –– sounds corny but it’s true. My favourite way to connect more with you is being present with our movements, as I am now, feeling how lovely our fingers feel typing this. And I really notice the difference, how we feel better when we have taken the time to care for us, whether it be healthy delicious food, the Gentle Breath Meditation™, early to bed and early to rise; it feels awesome as it allows a more connected and purposeful intention going into our day. I have also been noticing how I feel more me, open and confident when wearing and choosing clothes that we feel great in and not clothes that have just been thrown on you in the morning.

So, my dear and truly amazing body, I trust you can feel my absolute love, respect and appreciation I have for you – though I am sorry I may not always show it and live it, you know I’m working on it.

Here’s to the rest of our lives with our Mind and Body working as one, in union with each other. Here’s to our life learning more from you and understanding; your unique way, illness or accidents or whatever unfolds before us, they are simply messages that I can choose to listen to and not regard as an inconvenience. Here’s to our life embodying you as MY body with a forever deepening care of self-love and accepting every part of you, for all that you are, just as you are, warts and all!

And most importantly, just simply knowing and claiming the absolutely amazing team that we are.

With Lots and lots of love

Me Xoxoxoxo

By Anonymous

Related Reading:
The Body’s Intelligence
Dear Me: A Letter to My Relationship with Me
What Does My Body Know?

564 thoughts on “Letter to My Body

  1. Our essences share so much when we are open to listening and although we may have shut you out the moment we return you are their ready to return us to our most natural way of living, which is Soul-full-ness.

  2. I LOVE this blog, I wished I had read this letter years ago as my relationship with my body was that of hardness and abuse, whether with food or exercise, it was unloving. So it was a no wonder I had constant colds, coughs, chest infection and so forth.

    Your best friend is your body and nothing else, it is by your side all the time and will never let you down. And there’s a communication it speaks just like the young child who would listen to it, it is always there and will never let you down.

    There is some discernment throughout our ageing years and if the foundations are there, then we will treat our bodies just like the way we would care for our Porsche’s, Audi’s etc. It is never too late to re-develop that loving relationship with your body, it will always be there till the day we take our last breath.

    1. I agree something every teenager should read. It would have supported me loads if I read this when I was a teenager. Of the importance of these reflections ✨

  3. Reblogged this on and commented:
    I love this blog – “So, my dear and truly amazing body, I trust you can feel my absolute love, respect and appreciation I have for you – though I am sorry I may not always show it and live it, you know I’m working on it.”…..

  4. Over the years I too have learned to love myself up so much more and I can certainly feel the difference. Our society does not teach us to be self loving and self caring in a true sense – instead the self care is mascaraded as a tick box system of making sure one has exercised and eaten their vegetables like a to do list rather than making it about what the body really responds to. But knowing this, we can make the changes ourselves and bring more of a connection with the body and what it really is asking for to be looked after.

    1. Henrietta spot on, our world sees self care in a bog standard system, exercise, and diet and that’s it and I was one of those who thought that was it as well, till my body gave me my stop moment. Our unhealthy thoughts pollute us and our bodies too and be discerning of this too.
      True self care requires that connection to oneself before connecting to anything else…

  5. Funny that when we start realising all the ways we have been abusing ourselves and our body! But from this it follows how simple it can be to begin the path of self love and self care so that we re-awaken the body’s awareness and begin to listen to its communications. What a blessing to re-discover this and begin our return.

  6. I can so relate to the freedom we had as children as our parents were so caught up with their own stuff we were allowed to run wild and we did. But then going to school and growing up took its toll and I stopped listening to me. But there were times when you were so loud and insistent that I had to listen. I remember my psychologist suggesting I tried yoga as a way of dealing with my anxiousness; I tried it once and my body absolutely rejected it. There were so many times I got the loud No but I also knew how to override the No and that was by drinking alcohol; there is something about alcohol that totally obliterated the messages that you gave me. Thankfully I don’t drink it anymore and this has allowed a much deeper relationship with me, it’s like going back to my childhood again and having that open communication.

  7. The more I appreciate my body and how it has held and supported me through my life and a lot of wayward choices, the closer I come to really honouring myself as a reflection of the love that is innate in us all.

    1. Well said Matilda – for it is one thing to feel what the body needs, and another to ‘honour’ what one has felt in other words put into loving action what is needed to complete what has been felt.

  8. “most importantly, just simply knowing and claiming the absolutely amazing team that we are.”
    There can be no harmony with others if there is first no harmony within.

  9. There are so many things shown to us by the body that our mind can ignore completely, we can be convinced that we don’t know why it’s happening to us but that is because we have let the mind run the show. If we pay close attention, the messages from the body are very clear and obvious.

  10. Having abused myself for years, appreciating my body is something quite exquisite, to feel how sensitive and delicate it truly is and how I have completely ignored this part of me believing instead that sensitivity and delicateness was somehow ‘sissy’ that to get through life I had to be tough, and there’s the trap ‘getting through life’ rather than living life to the full; such a difference.

  11. I have a much deeper love and respect for my body than I did when I was 20. To know what I put my body through back then, and yet it still keeps going, lovingly showing me when I am not being loving with myself or others. I now know that supporting my body is one of the most precious things I can offer myself, so that I can live in a way that then supports everyone else.

  12. When we stop and truly observe and listen to our body we realise that it holds back nothing. Every moment and every opportunity it is communicating. All we need to do is listen.

  13. As I grow older I am appreciating and thanking my body for supporting me in this life. I have not been very nice to it at times, yet its incredible resilience and healing ability has deepened my respect for it. Thank you! I am now committed to taking better care of it now.

  14. This is perfect to read this morning – as I was feeling that the more connected I feel with my body, the more gets revealed to be felt. This is a continuous deepening process of surrender and a very humbling one.

  15. Thank you Matilda… And as the words of the song and you say… let’s care for our bodies
    I Listen To My Body

    I listen to my body it has a lot to say
    It tells me how I truly feel like when to rest and play
    How to eat and when to sleep how others feel to me
    My body is amazing it shows me all the way

    My body feels everything that I say and do
    And just as much it can feel other people too
    And saying everything I feel, I can just be me,
    So caring for my body is where I want to be

  16. Recently I realised how I have not been appreciative of the sensitivity of my body, how the relationship with my body was one of blaming it for what it ‘did’ to me, not wanting to see the blessing of every message it has given me and keep giving me lovingly. So yes to me and my body an absolutely amazing team.

  17. Thanks for sharing such an intimate conversation with your body, Anonymous. I am inspired to read about this sense of joyful re-union – ‘Here’s to the rest of our lives with our Mind and Body working as one, in union with each other.’

  18. The body communicates in so many ways, if we bring our attention to whatever the message is and are honest with ourselves the answer is then beautifully revealed.

  19. After living most of my life not really understanding the power and the wisdom of my body, and as a result not treating it with the love and care it deserves, I have finally come to know that “we are a team for an amazing life together”. This knowing was a long time coming but I am so delighted it has arrived for as a result the quality of my life has improved out of sight as has my vitality and my joy for life. Yes, we are definitely one amazing team.

  20. Being connected with our body has way more benefits that we might understand and I would say it’s the answer to our out of control rates of illnesses and diseases in the world. Like you share in this blog living with our body with the aim to really listen and be guided by it is the most intelligent way forward, has to be. Not listening to the very body we have to live in and with and grow old in will bring us the unhappiness we then might complain about so your approach in this blog is pretty much the answer to a lot of the societal problems we face today.

  21. It is a beautiful reminder of how much we should honour our body, listen to every word it passes onto to us, and most of all, always come from love.

  22. Is it possible that our body is not truly ours but a vehicle to honour and care for that provides a passageway to the Soul and can ultimately set us free?

    1. A significant and worthwhile question to ponder on.
      What if that was the case? What would that say about the intelligence we have been considering intelligent when it dismisses and deliberately overrides the call for greater care and attention through our body? And what would it be like if we did honour our body as “a vehicle to honour and care for that provides a passageway to the Soul and can ultimately set us free”?

  23. The way we talk already is either harmful or loving for our body.
    Each moment matters, each touch, each movement. It is the energy we choose in each moment that flows through our body which can be building love or creating a disease.

  24. The body is our faithful companion; it never leaves us, even when we are asleep or unconscious, and at death, we leave it rather than it leaving us. And then it clearly demonstrates that we are no longer there, that the spirit is gone and that the Soul has departed, this time around.

  25. To deepen the connection with myself has been life changing, the Esoteric Yoga modality and the Gentle Breath Meditation has supported me to be more connected and present in my body, allowing me to feel what my body is communicating to me.

  26. We learn so much when we connect and deepen our relationship with the body. I have found Esoteric Yoga is a great support to get really honest with our selves and what the body is showing us. Actually stopping and simply feeling offers incredible insight.

  27. We could write a book, couldn’t we? The constant loving communication the body offers us. Imagine if we responded with such attention and love, we would see a very different quality of life than the one we may settle for.

    1. Yes, it is like becoming your own doctor, biologist and physiologist. There is so much we can know about ourselves and our bodies’ working simply by observing and ‘listening’.

  28. It’s interesting how as a child we are so joyful and in tune with our body. Then as we get older and take on or react to the intensity of the world around us. How can we not think this does not play out in our body and compromise our health and well-being?

  29. I love the inspiration of this letter to your body. The sweetness and relationship building that inspires the development of our every day communication with our bodies and a reverence for the wisdom we have access to when we do.

  30. Our body it is to be respected and cared for deeply. Any ‘ailment’ is a message, a post card, a parcel from our Soul asking us to pay more attention and listen… and find a way that is more gentle, more caring, more loving, with no compromise.

  31. Anonymous, I really appreciate the understanding you bring to true teamwork and sisterhood through connection to the body.
    “I understand now that by truly listening to you, we are a team for an amazing life together”.

    1. And my experience is that our bodies love playfulness and light heartedness even when we are dealing with super important and serious considerations like the built-in behaviours we have that are self-abusive. #teamtilda

      1. go #teamtilda #goteamflenners #goteamhumanity #togetherwegotthis

  32. Our bodies have so much to say, when to wake, sleep, play, when they are tired and when they are hungry. The body simply amazes me and continues to amaze me whether or not I pay attention to it. It is forever dedicated to it’s role and job. I am starting to wonder if, not only should I respect the conversation it is trying to have with me, but I should also see it as a role model for how to surrender to being part of a divine order that knows so much more than my mind could explain? It is not really too hard to answer that one!

  33. This is very different to the rushing mentality that runs our society, when we are always going somewhere but never actually ‘there’ in the moment

    1. And raciness being a sure fire way to damage and ultimately annihilate the body which works in moments, moment by moment, and is never ahead of itself – unlike the mind that delights in and falsely elevates itself by being in several places at once.

  34. The list of how you ignored your body seems so familiar and I noticed another “Oh I am bad and wrong” kind of thought trying to squeeze in. Then I read “my favourite way to connect more with you is being present with our movements, as I am now, feeling how lovely our fingers feel typing this” and I smiled. Regardless of how far we have strayed, it is so easy to make a start.

  35. When we take deep care of ourselves we feel better in every way – such simple wisdom that, when applied to our lives, starts to fundamentally change our relationship with ourselves, and our purpose in the world.

  36. Our body is constantly communicating to us and more so when our lifestyle choices and the way we are living is out of sync with our natural rhythm calling us to listen and initiate change to align us back to harmony and our natural way of being. And how amazingly our body responds when we start to choose to become more loving and caring with ourselves.

  37. Feeling and connecting to the essence of who we are and living this in our daily movements and connecting to our bodies on a much deeper level is now the only way forward for me. Which I love the concept of this being my future.

  38. ‘despite my frustration with you in those times where you are not ‘complying’ with my wishes.’ how much do we force our bodies to do things that in truth abuse our bodies.. when we have all the guidance we need to live respectfully and caring to our body from our body itself, all we need to do is listen.

  39. If I sat down and wrote a letter to my body it would be full of apologies, for the first 40 years of my life I had absolutely no respect for it and I treated it as though their was no consequences to my actions. It turns out it is never to late to turn this around and I am learning my lesson not to let this happen again.

    1. On reflection of my life, my many-years span for my letter would be full of apologies too Kevin. How cruel we are to ourselves when not remembering that we are so much more than human beings and torturing ourselves for forgetting this fact.

  40. We can wonder and love the harmonies that come with people surrendering back to their bodies and singing together, it is so innately beautiful. And yet the harmony that can be within one body between mind and body is absolutely sublime.

  41. “Here’s to the rest of our lives with our Mind and Body working as one, in union with each other. ” Absolutely, it would have been amazing if I had understood this when I was younger, but it is never too late to change what ever age we are, and live in a way where our Mind and Body work together in absolute union with each other and allow the magic to happen.

  42. It is truly shocking how we have a mind set that says to ourselves to ignore the only vehicle we have in which to live our life. So ethically wrong is this that if it were put forward in a court of law we would find ourselves severely reprimanded. Let’s not wait for the law of our body to override our erroneous way of living in it by delivering illness and disease, let’s take heed as offered above, and honour what our body has to say.

  43. There is so much to appreciate and being in a body that really cares for us and has our wellbeing at heart 24/7 is phenomenal. When we bring care to it what an awesome marriage that makes.

  44. If I am not connecting to my body then what exactly am I connecting too? To have and build on the markers of what it feels like to be connected to my body is without a shadow of a doubt supporting and reminding me that when I am off track and connected to something that is not me that by being honest with where I am at I can be brought back to a marker that I know is true which I have sensed in my body patiently waiting to be connected to within me.

  45. Super cute conversation with our greatest friend. If only we were taught to listen in this way from the start, to be informed and make changes based on how we are feeling and what our body is reflecting back to us.

  46. Yes, our body is our greatest teacher when we stop, feel & are honest with the clear messages it gives us.
    It’s not about beating ourselves up when we slip up & make a less loving or honouring choice. And, it’s not about perfection, because there is no such thing. Surrendering & accepting where we are at are so important. As well as appreciating when we do honour our body, the grace, gentleness, stillness & divine sacredness which is always there when we choose to reconnect to it.

  47. I am beginning to appreciate my truly amazing body too, every moment is a moment to learn and grow from. I no long beat myself up or criticise myself, and this has shifted a life long pattern that held me in a prison of my own making. I am not perfect and things may still creep in but they don’t last because I know I am so much more than any negative thoughts that try to come in to make me feel less than the divine being I am.

  48. Like all great relationships, I am really appreciating my body the more I get to know it. It is my guide in life, for when I am on the right or wrong track. It is also the one that prompts me to notice when I have changed or grown in some way. I can get caught in my fixed idea of who I am or how I live, but my body is ever-responsive and lets me know when some things in my life have to change to match where I am actually at or what I need at that time.

    1. What you have touched on is the consistency of the body to be responsive to the energy we are from. We do not stand still it seems, we are constantly returning to the stillness we came from that powers our every move. Therefore, we could build an awareness and relationship with our body that shares with us when we are fighting that return. I have found it does not want us to stop, but to be obedient to its communications which are always part of a bigger plan.

  49. I love your appreciation here, if we can appreciate ourselves and our bodies and just how finely they are tuned to help us with everything we do – life becomes more an exploration than a struggle.

      1. Yeh I love it when I approach life this way – when it’s more about discovery and exploration nothing seems so bad, it adds in an element of observation rather than coming from self-critique.

  50. I used to be so separate from my body, zero relationship, hardly talked to it…and although I do not have a direct vocal conversation now, I do have a conversation of sorts, it shares and I choose to respond or ignore….to ignore does not support me, responding is healthy, and there has been significant shifts to appreciate through being responsive.

  51. Great to have your list of messages and feeling of unease in different areas of life, and the choices we can make in them, and how your body always showed you in a loving way that these were not true for you. I just love how my body reliably always knows and shows me.. it’s down to me to listen.

  52. My body’s patience and understanding is something that blows me away on a daily basis… even when I do not listen and continue to disregard it, it supports and guides me without waver.

    1. It’s true Matilda how ever much I have mistreated my body it was there to support me, I didn’t always see it like that, my broken wrist was an inconvenience at the time and caused a lot of pain, but now with much deeper understanding of the messages my body is constantly communicating to me I am beginning to really love my body, it’s honesty and loving intelligence, it is now the marker by which I lead my life.

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