570 thoughts on “Abuse in the World”

1. Very true Jane, ‘If our body had a voice it would say so much about abuse – it knows every moment of abuse’. Our body can teach us so much.

2. Standing up and shouting from the roof tops (freedom of speech) has opened the door to everyone being able to verbally abuse others and this form of abusive way of talking to others needs to be understood for the debilitating effect it has on those who are not discerning enough to understand that everything comes from an energy, and thus it is very easy to takes these things personal.

3. Abuse is kindled with the way we treat ourselves. If we do not treat ourselves in a truly gentle and nurturing way then it can become the norm to treat others in the same downward spiral.

   1. So true Mary. How we treat others is always reflective of how we treat ourselves. And we can always deepen our own self caring and self nurturing so that a look back at how we (I) used to treat ourselves can today appear to have been almost abusive.

4. Social media has been hijacked by some people who feel they have a right to ‘free speech’ . What they have to say is not ‘free speech’ it is a way for them to relieve themselves from the pressure of the tensions they may be feeling in their bodies. The use of drugs, Alcohol, food, cutting etc.,seem to be not enough any more, the tension is too great because it is so raw and in their face. They can feel their own lack of self-love and harmony in their lives and that may bring up comparison and jealousy towards anyone that is seen to be successful. This comparison and jealousy drives some of them to the most barbaric acts against another fellow human – being.

5. I have been noticing it in the work environment that when a behaviour which is missing the hallmarks of care, inclusivity and responsibility in any way is allowed to go unaddressed and unchecked, under the guise that it is not that bad, the behaviour invariably slowly builds. In the end you end up with something very obviously destructive on your plate that you can no longer ignore and you need to deal with.
   It is unwise to wait until we get to an extreme expression before we choose to address it. Nipping anything that is not of the highest quality in the bud is far more caring and responsible for everyone involved.

6. “Men tend to be more physical when they abuse, but women can use acidic words to abuse others emotionally: both of these can inflict long lasting effects on others.” It is so often this verbal abuse that goes unseen, and can actually be way more harmful than physical abuse as there is nothing physical to ‘show’ other than the mental torment and pain that goes on for the abused.

7. There seems to be a lot of stories in the news lately of young women being raped and then being abused even further by the justice system when it comes to them testifying or sentences being handed out. It seems as though the justice system is there to protect the guilty and make it harder for people to speak up and to tell the truth of what happened. How is it the justice system can go against truth and protect the guilty; how is it that we have got to this point.

   1. Yes and even more this year in the UK when the CPS (Crown Prosecution Service) are either not proceeding with cases or they don’t have ‘sufficient evidence’ to convict the perpetrator. It is known that often when these people re-offend and get caught – it is discovered they are multiple abusers…. so many more women ( and it is usually women) suffer needlessly.

8. Its the regular and repeated definition that makes its mark the most when I was reading that. Yes a single sentence can harm someone for a lifetime (you can’t sing springs to mind), but equally what about the tiny bits of abuse we allow everyday for 50 years (what we eat, the way we move, our level of conversation) and the impact that can have on our bodies.

9. It seems to me that we tend to think of abuse as something worse than our every-day…something out of the normal…something that pops out as seeming extreme. Which means that, when our standards have dropped as low as they have, we could be living with abuse 24/7 without even recognising it. This is why standards our so important; raise the standard and then the abuse is exposed.

   1. Yes, accepting life as ‘normal;’ can actually be accepting abuse in our everyday – be it at home or at work Just because its accepted everywhere doesn’t mean its ok. Hence as you say its so important to set our standards – and keep to them – even when those around us drop theirs.

10. “there is no smoke without fire.” This is simply not true and I have seen the media start fires where there hasn’t even been an ember.

    1. So true Otto. I too have seen untrue ‘evidence’ that has been manipulated. So easy to take something out of context and present it as a true fact. Plenty of fires begun from a grudge that can wreck honest and respectable people’s lives. We know of suicides form cyber bullying. We just nee to keep on calling it out – the abuse it truly is..

11. If we knowingly do something that is more complicated than it need be even that is abuse for it unsettles us.

12. Great point about the offshore companies – it is basically bending rules to create a pocket where rules do not apply, that would even allow dishonouring of truth in order to call it just.

13. The levels of abuse in the world are escalating at alarming rates from the extreme to the subtle. Either way we are all sensitive to this and the outplays whatever they many be are harming to the all.

    1. New forms of abuse are appearing in the world, we need new laws to prosecute all of the perpetrators.

14. Thank you Sue… Abuse in any form is a travesty against the very nature of who we truly are.

15. To me, abuse has always been championed. From witch hunts, burning women at the stake in the name of religion to what we have now – cage fighting women and men for the entertainment of others… So really, nothing has changed, we are still abusing and abuse is still accepted and enjoyed by others.

    1. I agree Rachael and it seems at times the more we abuse ourselves for somesort of gain the more we get rewarded by others.

    2. Abuse is being enjoyed – that’s so true. We may want to argue this, but looking at how we have been carrying on, there must be something in us that finds some value in getting tantalised and entertained by abusing and being abused.

       1. That is sad Fumiyo, ‘Abuse is being enjoyed’. Anything that is not love is a form of abuse, that means there is a lot of abuse in our world.

    3. It’s a sobering thing to contemplate Rachael. Do we enjoy the abuse of others so that we can ignore the abuse that we are inflicting or tolerating. As long as someone else is having it worse….It’s a classic excuse for not taking responsibility.

16. The fact that we live in a human body and to glorify it above the Soul already can be seen as abusive because we are from Soul and to live in utterly neglect to this is possibly the seed fo all the abuse in the world.

17. That quote Sue sums it up completely, so long as we keep our heads under the sand and ignore any kind of abuse in our lives then nothing will ever change. I know for me I was ignorant to it all, well I played it so like this until really seeing how it is rife, abuse is everywhere and we just turn a blind eye. The more I am seeing it I can see how important it is to say no to it. The more I do this the more I can see how this is having an impact. We create our own world.

    1. Very true Natalie, we can continue to turn a blind eye to abuse and what is happening around us and ignore it and think or hope it will go away but nothing changes or we can start to say no to it and only accept love in life. And slowly we will see the ripple effect otherwise things will simply remain the same.

       1. If we continue to ignore the abuse, and do not call it out, then that in itself is a form of abuse.

18. When we actually look at it the abuse that goes on in the world at the moment and probably has done since man knew he had free will, from an unkind word to extremes like the holocost, why have we not learnt that it gets us nowhere but in fact takes us further from where we are supposed to be.

    1. Possibly the abuse is already in us neglecting that we are so much more then the life we have created for ourselves as a society and therefore can spread so widely in all its waywardness.

    2. Or is it that we are still thinking too much about this one life that we are in, that we don’t consider the long term consequences of what we hand down to the next generation or for our next life. We seem adept at being irresponsible in this life we have now, and that means we allow abuse, and we abuse with equal abandon.

19. Absolutely agree that it’s super important not to dismiss abuse wherever we see it, and including also how we are with ourselves – the kind of dialogue we allow to run in our mind when we see ourselves in a mirror or compare to others or to ideals we’ve picked up for that is a foundation also for making abuse normal when really it is the opposite of our true nature.

    1. Yes, it’s no surprise there is abuse out in the world when we can o so subtly abuse ourselves as per your example of looking in the mirror and either compare or not appreciate what we see. Does a rose feel bad because it’s not a daffodil? The very question seems absurd, yet we do it all the time – Eg not feeling good enough, which is a form of abuse that can feel so normal we don’t even think of it as abuse.

       1. Any slight form of running our self down, self depreciation, being excessively modest, instead of appreciating and enjoying our magnificence, is a form of abuse.

20. I feel its abusive to be seeded to always be perfect, and therefore expect others to be perfect. This kills my understanding of where others are at and accepting them. It also prevents me not enjoying myself in what I bring.

21. There is abuse in almost every workplace every day, with people complaining about one another, conniving to get their own needs met, or simply the self-abuse of not caring or honouring ourselves as we override our body to get the job done. Our workplaces have a long way to go before they are places that do not allow abuse.

22. After a recent world cup football match, where a team lost I was informed by someone that they were delayed in London because the taxi was late due to rioting in the streets! Because the team had lost people had decided to vent their feelings by damaging cars and property. Where are we as a society that gives some one the right to feel that they can carry out such wonton abuse?

    1. I agree Mary. And I dread to think what happened in the homes of those people when they arrived home. It has been reported on social media that when a team loses a football match the incidence of domestic abuse rises in homes. Very shocking. What sort of society are we raising our future children to live in?

    2. I agree Mary it makes no sense what so ever that just because our football team has lost or won that we can then be wreckless and damage whatever is in sight for no apparent reason and definitely no justifiable one. For me it also shows us what happens when we add alcohol into the mix as so often we can then do completely out of character behaviours.

23. The phrase ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me’ is actually a curse on society because it takes away from the fact that words can be a medium through which extreme abuse can occur, and it’s important we speak up about it and don’t beat ourselves up for feeling hurt or affected by it because it ‘shouldn’t hurt us’.

    1. Yes Susie W – words can indeed be a curse and it may be easier to get over a physical blow rather than hateful words which can infiltrate us for a long time with the abuse they can engender.

24. Abuse in any form should never be accepted, the more people call out and stand up against abuse, opens the doors for those who find it more difficult to stand up for themselves to find the courage and self confidence to do so.

    1. I agree Sally – the more people speak up about abuse the more others may feel encouraged to do so too.

    2. Absolutely, it is time to say ‘no’ to abuse of any form.

25. What little things do we let slide? Do those little things add up and we end up with what we recognise as abuse? If we, any one of us, had stepped forward to comment on the little things we could have let slide, we might not be in the position we are now where we are desperately trying to work out how to deal with the levels of domestic violence, corruption, war, murder and rape that we have.

26. Yes, if we don’t express what we feel and see we are standing by and enabling abuse It’s great to start clocking it within ourselves tho’ and saying to ourselves, ‘that is evil’. For years I would just check out and not want to see the abuse around me. How many of us do this as children in our families? And if we did, we got shot down. No wonder so many of us learned to keep quiet.

27. So true. What would our liver say if it could talk, for example with the copious amounts of alcohol that it has to deal with. It goes on working even when the body shows it’s not coping. Yet once the hangover is finished what do we do? Why have another drink…… when we feel ‘better’.

28. Brilliant point Jane – this highlights how developing an honouring and loving relationship with our body and being is essential for us to say ‘no’ to that which dishonours our connection to this quality, as such develops a solid foundation in knowing what then is abusive.

29. We have accepted abuse, subtle or otherwise, as a normalised lowered standard in our society. And as we have allowed this standard to be normalised we too can raise the standard to honour what we all deserve to respectfully live together. I agree that it is time to stand up and be counted, and this begins now with ourselves and how we live our everyday lives. Saying ‘no’ to any form of abuse in our relationships and lives is the true movement that will be the bedrock of true change in raising the standards to a true and honouring normal that supports us all to live our true potential.

    1. Spot on – and clocking when we abuse ourselves too, which we may not even have considered as abuse until we wake up to our sensitivity.

       1. It is important to notice when we abuse ourselves, how can we say no to abuse from another if we are in fact abusing ourselves.

30. Abuse is a pattern of movement of someone who is disconnected from his/her body, hence from his/her heart, therefore, from divinity, who engages as a human being with another one, degraded to being just a human being, in a way that forces disconnection from his/her body, heart and divinity upon the other person. The only way to produce a similar pattern than yours that also works for you (even if not truly) is by sheer force.

31. And do we abuse ourselves? How many of us would view our ‘small’ self destructive behaviours as abuse? It all starts with the personal.

32. This is good

33. The movement of us as a general population to stamp out abuse is at a glacial pace. Only yesterday I was reading about rape allegations in our local Universities. It seems we all accept this behaviour, but as a woman it is completely abhorrent to me that our young women who attend a place of learning are subject to one of the ultimately most demeaning forms of abuse, seemingly as a norm. We have a long, long way to go to start saying no to abuse.

34. It can be and is so easy to withdraw from life and others when we start to really see quite how much abuse goes on from the small so called innocent comments to the more extreme forms. We feel the shudder in our bodies from the lack of love and so we have learnt to harden up to protect ourselves from it but what if actually staying open with our hearts and feeling it in full is the best possible protection possible? It would mean we would actually fully feel what is there and so get to understand it and then respond to what is going on rather than reacting.

35. I agree that in the world today abuse and corruption that has always been there is becoming much more obvious and coming up to the surface. It seems like things cannot be hidden so easily. Also as the general levels of tension in society increase we are also seeing more corruption as people try to find security and try to compensate for the tension and the dysfunction they are feeling is occurring in society.

    1. Yes, corruption is not so hidden these days – and people are being called to account. There is power in the many becoming unified and saying no more and not in my name. .

    2. It is abhorrent the forms of abuse that occur in every part of life, yet great that these ways of behaving are being exposed, and called to account. When are the Catholic Church going to be accountable for how they have accepted and condoned paedophilia, simply moving an offending priest to another location?

36. “It is time for everyone who finds any form of abuse abhorrent to stand up and be counted.” – a great call out Sue and one that is very needed if we are going to bring the change that is needed. If love is to reign on earth then abuse of any kind needs to be stopped, within ourselves and within our relationships.

37. Great question, Richard, it feels as though there is a convenience in our current understanding of the word ‘abuse’ and what it means for us. However, anything that is not loving is abusive – accepting this truth certainly changes the ‘comfortable’ landscape for us all.

38. In order to suppress how we are feeling, we dis-connect from our body, thereby cutting off our connection to the truth and the immensely loving, unwavering support that our body offers us, always. We are choosing to abandon ourselves and make something or someone else greater than we are.

    1. Yes and we have to stop this dis-connect because there is so much just waiting for us the moment we are ready to listen.

39. It takes 2 people for a rape to happen. It is the responsibility as well as the emptiness of 2 people that this event can happen.

40. Doing nothing is really not an option, it cannot be or we cannot complain about the world we have. Now we cannot do everything, but what we can do we must do and it must start with taking care of yourself so you are fit and well to stay the course.

    1. Yes Lucy – it all starts here – with me – then in my home, my school or work place and onwards. Staying quiet is no longer an option.

41. The normalisation and acceptance of abuse in the world and with ourselves and each other is enormous and our bodies feel it all and speak to us loudly but we have chosen to not feel this and stand back and accept what is going on by not calling it out. A great blog and reminder for us all to see the abuse and bring this to attention starting with ourselves and our own markers of truth and love.

42. The abuse that has been thrown at Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon has definitely been not free of smoke but there has been no fire!
    Maybe it could be said that the fiery ways of Serge Benhayon and the Students of The Livingness has caused smoke to come out of the ears of some?

43. Words can indeed hurt us and you don’t have to be on the receiving end either; just hearing someone else getting the abuse is enough.

    1. Yes because there is a threat that it will soon turn on us, particularly if we speak up. The threat is equal to the violence if the end goal is to silence.

44. Abuse sure does take many forms, I went to fill my van up with fuel yesterday and I observed the constant abuse drivers were hurling at each other and thought the energy of all that abuse has to go somewhere and it ends up coming back to the abuser eventually, so in actual fact any abuse we throw at another is essentially self abuse anyway.

    1. So true, Kevmchardy – the abuser hurts themselves as much, if not more, than the person they are abusing. The more we abuse ourselves, and each other, we raise the standard on what becomes our norm and eventually, what becomes acceptable in our society. There is no space whatsoever for any kind of abuse when we are honouring the divinity of who we all are, none.

45. We often accept abuse when we sign a contract for work, we accept being shouted at by our boss and in many places we are expected to work late with far longer hours. We can be absolutely miserable, have our confidence knocked and not believe in who we are anymore. A Mother recently described her daughters’ work as being like a caged animal. How is it that we have got a world like this? That we have allowed this level of abuse to go on as normal? What would happen if we valued and treated every single employee as precious and equal human beings? What would our levels of illness and attendance be like? I do not know the statistics for absenteeism from work, however I do know it is extremely high so is it not best we each took responsibility for ourselves and started to say no to abuse even in its slightest form?

46. I agree, the range of what we deem as being abusive is a forever refining thing. Eventually perhaps we will find it abusive if someone is not living in their fullness and beauty because they are robbing the world of seeing and feeling it when it’s direly needed.

    1. I love this concept that living anything less than the love that we are is abusive.

47. “Young people (and adults for that matter) need more education around abuse e.g. exploring what abuse includes, and the need to respect others and themselves, and also to understand the laws regarding abuse.”
    For young people today there has been a lack of role modelling from their piers, as you say Sue it feels like we need to explore together our relationship to the intricacies of abuse and self abuse and in doing so be inspired to take greater responsibility for our interactions.

48. Misuse of the body is easy when we override the messages that are being communicated and yet they will always turn up in another moment for us to hear and maybe re-connect with and live what we have always known.

49. The abuse we have normalised in our society is shocking, but what about the self-abuse we allow on a daily basis that we turn a blind eye to?

    1. Absolutely and it’s because we abuse ourselves so much that we are able to accept or turn a blind eye to the abuse that we see around us.

50. I think partly why we have tolerated/ condoned/ excused abuse for so long (and with that supported it to proliferate) is that we haven’t really let ourselves see it or see the impact of it and so many things that are abusive have been dismissed as just being part and parcel of life, no big deal, just the way it is… But the more we can truly open up to seeing the consequences of abuse in all its forms and expressions and not just brush it off or ignore it the more we can shine a light on something that certainly needs exposing and bringing to light.

51. When I hold back from delivering what’s needed I get hurt. The changes in my life are quite immediate. So if you find things are rough, painful or getting hard it’s great to stop and take stock of where we may be shortchanging the world.

52. Yes Sue – where there is fire there is smoke. Meaning that we need to see more clearly by being willing to see where the smoke comes from and where it plays out. To stand tall and actually speak up when it comes down to any form of abuse (big or small).

53. I have seen that there is a stigma attached to being abused that makes people less likely to speak up. What I have also felt is the sheep like energy of people, wanting to be on the ‘winning side’ and not stand out. For instance, when there is bullying occurring, people stay quiet, glad that it’s not happening to them rather than stand up to the energy.

54. In my work place abuse is rife amongst many of the staff but because they do it with each other they think it is the ‘norm’. I call it out but they do not want to see the behavior as abuse.

55. Abuse is becoming more normal and at the same time more apparent. And we have a tendency to not speak up from the little things which leads us to not speaking up to the big things. But what if we started to say no to any tiny bit of abuse within ourselves – what would that look like as a foundation to saying no to anything less than this.

56. It seems that as abuse, violence and hate-crimes in the world escalate, we are also witnessing a light starting to be shone on what has never truly been considered as abuse before – or it was never spoken about openly as being abuse. An interesting reflection, but we have so much further to go in seeing how we allow abuse to propagate from the moment we accept anything that is not Love .

57. If we were to make life more about love there would be less abuse in the world.

58. There is so much abuse in the world, it can feel unmanageable and sometimes it makes the smaller abuses seem okay or nothing worth dealing with in the face of other horrific issues. But what if each small brick is what builds the massive monuments of abuse we see in life.

59. Abuse always comes first from leaving the place of absolute adoration for ourselves. Lack of self worth causes all types of abuse to ourselves and others.

60. It is definitely a minefield out there Sue, and the longer we hold back from calling out abuse the longer it festers and eats away at the very integrity of our society.

61. This is a very needed conversation for we have normalised putting ourselves and others down. We have also normalised competition often at the expense of others, rather than confirming and appreciating our equalness in essence.

62. Thank you Sue. Your concise article highlights the importance for everyone to call out abuse and say No, starting with ourselves and this will ripple out to others and how we are in the world with each other.

63. The world is full of abuse but only because we allow it in our own lives. Choose to not have abuse in our lives and our world will change.

64. There is abuse in the world to such a degree that we cannot fathom and would not even believe if we knew the many ways it comes about. My understanding of abuse is naturally deepening all the while I bring the ways of love into my everyday.

65. Abuse is everywhere and I find it can be so easy to blame others without 1st saying ok so what am I being shown? why is this happening to me? The more I do this and take responsibility for my part the less I get affected by what is going on around me. We are here to be love nothing less.

66. There are so many subtle ways of abuse, when we don’t adore the person standing in front of us and we speak to them with anything less than that – we are abusing.

67. When we start to self-love we start to see what is not love and is thus abuse or abusive. With the current iceberg of abuse in our world it makes me think that as a race of human beings we must (oddly) have an aversion to love or to being loving only because if we didn’t then our world would not be the quality (of abuse; lovelessness) as we experience today. When there is no fight, aversion, distraction, numbing, deflection, but instead an awareness and embracing of what we innately are; love, then our world will change to mirror this naturalness.

68. We can’t deny with abuse being everywhere that it is something only a few people do but have to look at our own lives and how we are all living that produces such an environment full of abuse.

69. By beginning with very simple self-caring acts, like going to bed early, eating foods that are nourishing and light, moving our bodies gently, etc. we can begin to then only accept those self-loving acts as our new normal and thus any abuse will stand out more and not be tolerated. This starts with our young children in our homes and schools, as it is now not really taught.

70. Each time I go to the gym and observe women running on the tread mill, I feel with each step they take is an absolute assault on their bodies. To them they are getting fit but for me it feels like are abusing their delicate body. Abuse comes in all different ways, often in the guise of getting fit and healthy…ironic isn’t it?

    1. We are sold the image of fitness in the world but let us stop to not focus on the body only as the eyes tell a very different story of what is truly being lived.

71. Abuse has always been rife and today, people are more willing to jump on the bandwagon and call it for what it is, especially when it leads to acclaim and even celebrity status. The question is whether we are willing to address abuse in its at times most subtle forms, i.e. when we abuse ourselves by what we ingest and engage in and, more often than not, call ‘normal’.

72. Something that I have been pondering on is how under the guise of ‘doing good’ or even ‘public good’ is how this can be used as a platform to abuse another or to try and make another less or as a platform to criticise another and the decisions that they make – all of course is abuse.

    1. So true Jennifer any form of critique is a judgement and has to be abusive and the thoughts that contrive these “platforms,” it must be they live in a house without fire alarms.

73. Sue abuse is everywhere, and the most common form is self abuse. Different forms of self abuse can be hidden in ideals we celebrate such as being a ‘good’ mum or dad and placing everyone and everything before our own care, or pushing the body to extremes in the name of a trophy or other accolade for sport or study, etc. Whenever we push or neglect the body, or even speak to ourselves in an unkind way we are in self abuse. I was also considering the way I used to stuff myself at all you can eat restaurants, we would not eat much through the day and then overeat at the buffet at night, which would have placed my digestive system under enormous pressure, another form of self abuse in a sense because it’s a misuse of the body.

74. The abuse that happens on the internet is deeply shocking, there is no other way to look at it other than abuse, it is inexcusable and horrific. And I feel that we have a long way to go to rid our communities of its nasty presence.

    1. I agree Shami, our standards have horribly dropped, such abuse on the internet is like war and words are the weapons used. Cyberbullying and abuse on the internet are a huge energy that seems to be getting bigger.

    2. I agree Shami it is but it is just indicative of where as a society we are at. It is just magnified online because we can seemingly hide behind closed doors and psuedo names. The more we see anything less than love as abuse the more we will not tolerate what is not.

75. Yesterday, for the first time and in the community I’ve lived in for thirty years, I was abused on the street. A man was walking, I stepped aside to let him pass he stepped back into my path and slapped me against my face, his aim missed its target and knocked off my glasses. What was important was my response. I’d been walking my walk when it happened and felt nothing: no anger, no fear. I simply picked up my glasses and walked on without looking back at my assailant. We all meet abuse in life, what matters is preparing our bodies so that when it comes we know how to respond.

    1. Thank you Kehinde for sharing this experience of abuse and how you responded, what a huge event to have come your way.

       1. Thank you Melinda. Forces come our way in many different guises and attempt to knock us off our path and diminish us. To walk in a body of love supports us to hold our resolve and not allow anything to bring us down.

76. Speaking up about abuse can be confronting, and makes us aware of beliefs we hold one of which the desire to be liked. Once we align to purpose, our attachment to being liked dissipates and we’re impulsed to express truth regardless of consequences.

77. A real understanding and sharing on the abuse in the world and how it effects us all. A brilliant sharing much needed to bring about a change in awareness and the abuse in the world offered to be expressed and called for what it is.

78. Honesty is such a refreshing place to start when we want to make real change.

    1. It sure is Andrew and the more honest we can be about what we are feeling and seeing the more we will hate what is going on and have no choice but to make a change.

79. What also needs to be said also is the abuse known as bullying starts so very young at school and the kids won’t say anything for fear of being branded a tell-tale and also a lot of the teachers don’t seem to want to be involved. Any sort of abuse needs to be addressed and spoken about, nipped in the bud so to speak so we don’t grow up in a culture of it.

    1. Kev it also starts with societal attitudes that foster abuse in the young. Sometimes there is an attitude when boys are aggressive or rough physically or verbally with others that ‘boys will be boys’. I also experienced long term bullying at high school in the 80’s and the teachers were aware of it and rarely stopped it or spoke up about it. We all contribute to abuse even if we don’t actively feel we abuse others, as we can foster it with beliefs, and also by being bystanders or accepting it as normal.

80. Are we not in abuse to ourselves when we train a bit too hard in the gym and harden our bodies; eat a bit too much every meal; eat the foods that don’t agree with us because they taste good; drink liquids which poison us but get us accepted in the crowd; keep quiet to not cause waves; shut up when we should speak up for Truth; not go to the toilet immediately when we need to; shop or travel a little too much when we want to avoid dealing with Life; are we not abusing ourselves and others when we do this and have we honestly stood up and acknowledged this too? Without critique but in deep understanding that abuse has become so rampant and normal that it remains undetected, but it is affecting everything in our lives.

81. It has been an interesting observation that after several years of doing my best to live as loving and honouring as I can, I noticed the bar for what I consider love and decency has gone up and similarly many things I used to consider ‘normal’ in life I now consider quite abusive. Life forever brings us opportunities to expand and evolve, so many of us keep changing over a period. It is great to observe these areas once in a while to re-assess our current understanding and relationship with life.

82. Abuse happens in its macrocosmic and microcosmic ways…we all have our own definitions for abuse and have set our standards for it. And hence it is for each of us to realise the standard that we have set and where that lies – but in truth there is only one standard that is True, and this is the one that we are all evolving towards and with that does not allow an ounce of abuse, but only ever holds us all as the equal divine beings that we are.

83. To tolerate abuse IS abuse.

84. Abuse is very common and some people are just looking for an opportunity to abuse and it is important to live in a way that minimises those opportunities.

85. The abuse among school children today is shocking. Undealt-with trauma can lead very young people to drugs and self afflicted pain and suffering, even suicide. As this blog says it is so important that we address these issues now and not hide from the brutal reality of our times.

86. In a nutshell what all this is exposing is the lack of true love and care in which we hold ourselves and each other. If one considers that we are all love at essence and anything less than love is abuse, we as a society have fallen very far and have a very long way to go to return to our truth.

87. I have been accepting all kinds of levels of abuse at home and with friends for most of my life and I have also been an abuser on many levels. Yes, its not so nice to admit it but if we don’t even start there, then how do we change anything. And if we can’t start with ourselves, where do we start. We can’t point the finger when we still partake in the abuse and if we stand back and watch, we are just as responsible as the abuser.

88. To increase the awareness about abuse we need to raise the level of love known.
    How can we otherwise recognise it.

    1. Yes, so simply brought to its truth, how can we recognise abuse when we do not hold love for ourselves.

    2. Yes, the more love we experience the more abuse in all its aspects becomes very visible.

89. It is great that we are admitting that there is more to abuse than the obvious extremes. We are such sensitive beings, even if we don’t act like it, so anything that creates disharmony between us or in the world is what we feel as abuse.

90. Fact is we underestimate greatly and turn a blind eye to how very abusive we live our lives.

91. The moment you deny or reduce your awareness you add to the corruption in this world.

92. Truth only asks to be expressed. It does not ask to be understood or agreed upon. It does not feed on niceties. It does not ask for anything in return.

93. I am coming to understand that I have not really understood the level of abuse that I have accepted as normal or not abusive.

    1. Me too Jennifer, and I was thinking that if I had a bruise for every abusive word that gets expressed to me at times, I would look battered.

    2. I agree Jennifer, abuse is so normalised in society and in our lives that we don’t even know we are doing it.

94. ‘The more our awareness is raised, the more we tend to see abuse.’ – Yes, and we can bury our heads in the sand but the level of abuse will still be the same.

95. Staying silent when we have the words and have been impulsed to speak up is debilitating and crushing in the body.

96. ‘Men tend to be more physical when they abuse, but women can use acidic words to abuse others emotionally: both of these can inflict long lasting effects on others.’ – The level of cruelty that absue often comes with is shocking and seems to forever increase.

    1. Yes it is so painful to feel and witness these word of acid that you speak of that we are capable of. It’s so horrible that we would even want to communicate in this way towards or about others. Very painful indeed.

97. ‘Doing nothing’ – the seemingly easiest way to deal with a situation we feel challenged by and or would like to avoid. Only problem: we can’t avoid, only ignore and the consequences will catch up with us anyway.

98. When others falsely accuse another, is this just a smoke screen to hide something in themselves and obscure any quality’s of the person they are pointing their finger at?

99. It is very revealing that we only call the consumption of alcohol by someone we call an alcoholic abuse but not anybody else who consumes alcohol. If something does harm to ourselves does it then matter how much we consume of it or use it so that it is abuse to our own body? Or is the harm done anyway but it is just a matter of time when the harm is revealed? This actually shows how we are playing with time and with that very much are fooling ourselves.

100. Verbal and emotional abuse are unfortunately very common nowadays even though the societal rules have changed it is still often not easy to change the status quo. Most if not all of us have experienced the assault felt by some level of abuse and have buried these feelings as it felt unsafe to explore them. We are slowly changing and yet the social norm is still not to address these incidents. When will we ever learn…….

101. The greatest abuse is self directed and it is to not speak up about what needs to be said—Truth.

102. ‘Abuse is also seen in other areas such as in the sporting arena and nowadays on social media. This latter has even driven people to suicide and is deeply shocking.’ – The level of pressure to live up to pictures and ideals in today’s society is relentless, and the suicide statistics are increasing accordingly.

103. I agree we need more awareness and conversations about the root of the abuse we see, all of it festers and snowballs, none of it just appears, we can shift things if we step back with honesty and see how we got here.

104. The expansion and state of abuse in our world is deeply shocking and being exposed more and more in all its forms and there is a growing alarm that things need to change and standing up and calling this out is all our responsibility for ourselves firstly with an honesty and love that can change our quality and lived expression.

     1. So agree Tricia and even more so with the horrific abuse currently occurring in the USA where children are being forcibly removed from their parents if they come over the border from Mexico.

105. So many sensitive young boys are told to ‘toughen up’ – yet look where the world is – so much insensitivity and not only to others but to ourselves, with all the copious drink/ drug and obesity problems to name a few. Girls are theoretically ‘allowed’ to show more sensitivity and ‘allowed’ to cry, but when I was at school it wasn’t cool to cry and so we covered up, pretending all was ok, when it wasn’t. Thus we denied our own sensitivity. Hence we allow abuse to flourish, as we abuse ourselves by denying our own true feelings.

106. ‘To use something for a bad purpose…’ – often we may not even be aware that we are abusive as we consider it as normal because others do it as well hence, no bad intention behind it we are conscious about necessarily, but the abusive effect speaks for itself – there can be no harm without a harmful action, and no harmful action without a harmful purpose, and no harmful purpose without a harmful energy. We need to track it back to its root before we can set ourselves free from the abusive cascade we allow the moment we choose the energy to govern us.

107. ‘It is time for everyone who finds any form of abuse abhorrent to stand up and be counted.’ – Agree, I’d say it is high time for everyone to stand up.

108. Abuse in the world is being fostered when we become complacent about calling out abuse, for example it is when we see it happen in the most subtle form and we let it slide and not expose abuse for what it is. But this only enables abuse to grow, circulate and fester when we do not put a stop to it. As a society we seem to be more open to address the extreme forms of abuse and brush aside the subtle ones. But in the world of energy, abuse is abuse no matter how big or small. If we all understand this, it could change the way we address abuse on a global scale.

109. The amount of abuse we accept in our lives and tolerate from ourselves and others is enormous as is the abusive ways practiced by society today. A great questionl for responsibility to be taken by us all calling this out and saying no for enough is enough in every way for there is another way to live one of love joy harmony and purpose which our body loves and thrives on.

     1. So agree Tricia. We can abuse ourselves in subtle ( and not so subtle) ways and not consciously realise it is abuse, because it has become our norm.Ditto from others, often a close family member. It all starts in the home – witness the shocking amount of domestic abuse that often remains hidden on account of shame.

110. Robin Hood did not put up with the abuse and corruption, it is no different today. So why have we not seen the same games being played today. Or are we playing dumb by being numbed from virtually all we do, then we get the thumbs up because we are all in the same game, which is denying our true divinity?

111. Yesterday I was moving a piano. Getting frustrated as it didn’t fit I pushed it and scraped the floor. I felt like the symbolism of how we push our own instrument (our body) regardless of truth could not be ignored!

     1. Pushing can only ever be a force, whereas a pull is an expansion.

        1. I love this comment Steve, there is such a difference in the quality of these two movements, the first imposes, the second calls us back to live our true nature.

     2. It’s beautiful how things are reflected back to us in this way isn’t it? When we listen everything is willing to communicate with us to support us to re-learn what has always been known.

        1. Very true Michael, we are constantly given an opportunity to learn, grow and develop from pretty much everything which is shown to us. Either making a mistake or a bad choice if we learn from it it helps seal that door of temptation so we no longer fall for it again. We are re-learning how to live the love we are and the more we do it the more tangible we see the support we have to return.

112. ‘To treat with cruelty or violence’… no-one in their true state would choose to do this… it is such a deviance from our natural way that abuse is part of our lives.

113. When I look at the word ‘abuse’ it strikes me that it could be a shortened form of the words ‘abnormal use’ meaning that anytime we are using energy in a way that is not our natural divine quality to do, say or think something then we are warping or distorting that quality and hence ourselves.

114. We only tolerate because we have become numb… If we were not numb, desensitised, we would cry out with one voice, enough, stop what is going on in the world and simply feel the devastation

     1. This is so true Cjames2012, I have witness this recently how easily someone can see abuse as normal because they have become desensitised by it due to accepting abuse in their lives. This happens frequently and every time we do not address abuse and arrest the energy, it will simply add strength to the energy of abuse that is circulating our world.

     2. So true Chris.

115. “Young people (and adults for that matter) need more education around abuse e.g. exploring what abuse includes, and the need to respect others and themselves, and also to understand the laws regarding abuse.” Yes I only can agree Sue we need more education around abuse at school therefore it would be wonderful for our kids to have lessons at school to learn more about abuse and all what comes with it.

116. ‘Young people (and adults for that matter) need more education around abuse e.g. exploring what abuse includes, and the need to respect others and themselves, and also to understand the laws regarding abuse.’ and this would need to be provided by those who are open to this fact and therefore also taking responsibility for this in their own lives.

117. Social media has accelerated the abuse and we can blame it, but we are the ones choosing to use it in this abusive way. It is so easy to say ‘no more’ and make the changes ourselves, and then the ripples grow as others see this.

     1. Yes, change starts with each of us making individual changes in our choices and as you say the ripples go out. And then standing up and saying ‘no more’. But as long as the demand is there it will be supplied….

118. Some abuses we are witnessing today is like stepping back in time, to the dark ages or have we really left the dark ages?

     1. Yes, makes you wonder about human evolution doesn’t it – we are seemingly standing still.

119. Anyone who has been disconnected to their bodies have accepted abuse and have hurled abuse. The process of calling out abuse is a process of returning to self-love and self-care.

     1. Great point, it certainly is. Abuse is basically anything that is not love. When we understand this, it is then easy to spot abuse and it is then up to us what we do about it. Abuse is the opposite to love, and it also has many layers to it that can be clearly identified when we have a deeper relationship with love. Also being willing to see all the abuse in our world is a loving step and we as a society do not do this enough.

     2. I agree, we firstly have to become aware of our self- abuse, the myriad of ways in which we do this, and not only the overt abuse, but the subtle an insidious abuse. Until we uncover this within ourselves we will continue to perpetuate it with ourselves and others.

120. Abuse can be sticks and stones used to break ones bones, or it can be words that are acid that etch their scars in the unseen layers, or abuse can be of the silent kind where nothing is said but everything is withheld. We know innately what abuse is, and it is time we allowed ourselves to see this, and know that there is a different way to be.

     1. Yes, awareness and honesty come first… it is hard to changes things when they are kept under cover.

        1. Yes Matilda, I agree, without awareness and honesty change is impossible.

121. There are so many definitions of abuse and so many different standards that people have around what is acceptable ‘abuse’ and what is not. This is crazy! Really something should be clear on either being abuse or not. But how is it that we have allowed this standard to slip and the meaning to slip so that it obscures it completely? This is a very devious way that has allowed society to accept lower and lower standards without stopping to question it – but it is never lost, as it lies in our hands to change this and bring back a true standard of living that does not allow abuse in all its miriad of ways and miriad of standards!

122. Any ill thought we have towards ourselves is abuse.

123. It is time to be the change we want to see in the world. We have an opportunity here to look at our own lives and our own behaviour and ask if we allow abuse and if so what stops us from calling it out in the moment. The building of love in our bodies is what builds a foundation and knowingness that we recognise what is not loving more quickly. It is only by having a foundation of love in the body that we will be able to call out what is not love in the moment without the defensiveness that leaves the door open for justification to get a toe in the door.

124. Emotional abuse or bullying can arise in many ways and can take place in the home, workplace and/or within families, in fact anywhere. It is paramount that we call it out because in doing so we not only support and treat ourselves with the respect and love we deserve but we also support others too, even if they choose to dismiss it.

125. There can be abuse in any conversation unless we take care to come from a place of love and respect.

126. The fact that something we could say or our actions could lead to another person committing suicide should make us all completely stop and consider how the way we move, think and behave impacts the world – and could it have a detrimental effect on another? Or do our actions contribute to making the world a more loving and respectful and caring place to live? Your blog is a great reminder that every action has an impact and it’s down to us what kind of impact we choose to have.

127. A simple scroll through Facebook will show the level of abuse we allow between ourselves and the level of abuse we label entertainment.

     1. Abusing one another for entertainment… that is proof that we are properly off track.

128. There is no smoke without fire is a saying we have in Dutch as well” ‘Where there is smoke, there is fire.’ I recently realized that this is a deep belief ‘There must be something wrong with this person, otherwise there wouldn’t have been this abuse.’ is a common extra comment that goes along with the saying. Only it is an – incorrect – excuse in certain cases of abuse. The person turns out to be innocent, but because of the smearing his/her life is ruined. We indeed need to look deeper. Any abuse should be not accepted and we should indeed educate our children ánd ourselves on abuse and its ill effects on us.

129. I see from what my young daughter tells me about what goes on in the playground that abuse starts at an early age, its quite unbelievable how mean these kids can be to each other especially to those who maybe shining a little brighter. It seems to be a set up to start building that protective wall to lessen the hurt which we all know doesn’t ever work.

130. William Blake was onto something here… the fact is the we as a society allow abuse – we turn the other way, want it to be someone else’s problem, don’t speak up. And so it is allowed to be the normal by our inactivity. We excuse this because it is what we have grown up in, or there are literally billions on social media so who are we in all that enormity. The answer is that we are one, that can inspire many, through the way we choose to live.

     1. “And so it is allowed to be the normal by our inactivity” or is it allowed to be the normal by our activity? As pretty much all of us are in the activity of ‘The What is Not’ is it not that and that alone that makes all abuse possible?

     2. Agreed. I am starting to see this is the set up as well – target one at a time till enough people have turned the other way and then if by chance a mistake is made and a whole community is targeted there will be enough momentum of turning the other way that there is less chance of the uprising, or the outrage having any real impact. The momentum of turning the other way and fear of standing out will be too great. Having been one to turn the other way without appreciating that was what I was doing is now a bit of a ‘gulp’ moment.

131. It came to me after reading this blog today that we have lost the connection with who we naturally are, delicate, sensitive and tender beings, no matter if you are a woman or a man. As when we reconnect to this inner quality then it will be impossible to behave ourselves anymore in any of the abusive ways, whether it be subtle and hidden or very obvious, people are behaving themselves in today.

132. Leave alone the many cases that still happen under the radar, go unreported. Part of our normalcy now, yes?

133. I just heard this morning that bribery, one of the main ingredients of corruption, is also called ‘facilitation money’ if it happens abroad and in smaller sums; it is then a deduction allowable under Australian taxation laws. So we don’t just have bribery, we have officially sanctioned and legalised bribery and nobody bats an eyelid.

     1. I am not surprised – the level of corruption, ‘legalised’ or not, that goes on in the world while the governments and we, the people, look the other direction, is ridiculous.

134. Self-abuse, regardless of how it plays out, I feel is the underlying cause of all abuse, if we cannot be loving, nurturing, understanding and gentle with ourselves then it is highly probable that we cannot always extend this to others.

135. Imagine getting a violin and using it to mow the lawn. We’d turn around and rightly complain about how terrible it was at the job. But all the time missing what it was made for. This is what we are like with our body, an instrument that is divine.

     1. Love this analogy!

136. Abuse starts with the thoughts that are created by whatever we allow ourselves to align with.

     1. So true Jenny, it is a simple choice that guarantees either love and truth or abuse and harm.

137. Feeling what is true and claiming this means we do not accept anything but love. It can be our own self judgement and mistrust of the truth the body communicates that allows for abuse of self and abuse of others

138. When we get an understanding of how abuse works it is an absolute curse, that takes our energy and it is not as we think it is as on an energetic level there is so much at play. Any words that are just thrown around are not showing decency and respect but are imprinting us, which is cursing with an ill energy that then needs to be healed. Being responsible, which is understanding how being divine connection brings the love we all are, so we never use a word that has not been considered for its full ramifications for our-self first, thus self-cursing and then for other.

139. It is the abuse we accept that makes us denigrate ourselves for not standing tall for who we are – the love that is our true being.

140. Anything less than expressing love is abuse but are we ready as a collective human race to accept this energetic fact?

     1. Any ill thought we have toward ourself or another is abuse…….but how many people are ready to accept that thoughts, energetically, constitute abuse? I feel it will be a while Andrew before we are ready as a human race to accept that expressing anything less than love is abuse, and that this is indeed an energetic fact.

141. There is so much to look closer at in our lives. We have become so numbed out and distracted by the world affairs and the extremes we as a whole of humanity have gone into that we are blinded to see how much abuse we allow in our daily lives.

142. Often, that inner self-critical voice can be more abusive than the abuse we would allow from another.

     1. I very much agree, and this shows that it starts with ourselves, every single one of us, to say no to the abuse in the world by saying no to the abuse we allow ourselves to be in.

     2. Yes, and when we have low self worth we tolerate even subtle abuse from others. Once we no longer criticise and abuse ourselves we start to see it everywhere and wont tolerate it around us any more. Then we need to express it so.

143. The fact that suicide has been increasing all over the place, we are not alarmed by it and the media is not even reporting it as news, in itself is a huge reflection of how we have numbed ourselves to life. In fact I often hear a throw-away explanation about the train service is slow ‘because of a person under the train”! How on earth can such news be announced in the same officious tone as when ‘there is a signal failure’, and people just carry on their conversations, busying themselves with their gadgets and eating their snacks. Conversations such as these are important so that we start to reconnect to the love, care and tenderness within us. Without that we end up living like robots.

144. The no smoke without fire can damage a person who is completely innocent of what they are accused of. They can be forever tarnished with a false reputation and the excellent work they were doing put to a halt.

     I remember a teacher being accused of sexual behaviour with a female student. The accusations were malicious but caused great stress and undue suffering for that teacher. The ‘no smoke without fire’ belief is so damaging. The fear of people believing the worst even when found innocent, people will compromise themselves in life. Teachers won’t stand up to pupils that threaten them with false accusations. But where does this lead us?

     I’m not addressing abuse if we let it slide and it accumulates. In this example, the pupil doesn’t learn respectful boundaries. This affects their relationship with themselves and also society – they may think they can get away with anything and may become more wayward.

     This teaches me compromising on calling out abuse doesn’t work. So even when there is the possibility of being accused of something and this sticking, taking a stand against abuse is the only way we will come together and no longer accept all the abuse we currently do.

145. If we don’t call out abuse when we see/feel/hear it, then we are allowing that abuse… it is a responsibility of each of us to call it out in ourselves and each other.

146. When we stop abusing ourselves, we no longer tolerate abuse from anyone else.

147. It’s true that acid attacks and acidic words can both have an enormously damaging effect, and that we need to consider what we are allowing up and out through our own mouths because no doubt expressing abuse and acidic words has a physiological and chemical impact on our body.

148. Abuse is multi-layered. There’s abuse that reaches the headlines ‘ acid attacks’, ‘black young men killing each other with knives’ and then there is racism and institutional abuse. The later sealed away in secrecy protected by terms like ‘Home Office.’ The abuse of British citizens of Caribbean descent recently hit headline spot, but has been going on for years and now known as ‘The Windrush Scandal’ The experiences of Caribbean migrants invited to work in the UK in the 1950’s to support post-war Britain. British citizens ( but black) legally entitled to live in the UK, have had basic rights to work, be housed, receive medical treatment taken away; been separated from families, kept in detention centres and deported. All a direct result of government policy to create a ‘hostile environment’ towards immigrants. This is state endorsed abuse and right it has been publicly called out and condemned.

149. Could abuse be a part of the natural world? Many species are dominated by Alpha males and females, and how did they rise to that position? Are we less than six degrees of separation from the animal kingdom?

150. Has not our entire way of living become an abuse of us individually and collectively? In realising this we can start to change the choices we make to come from something known within us which consequently brings self-regard in our movements and therefore less and less abuse over time.

     1. By abusing ourselves as individuals we simultaneously abuse the collective. We and Life are One and the same.

151. I agree I feel or see this type of abuse every day and it flips me out how people can care so little about their environment and this does go back to the rule of thumb of the matter that anything less than love is abuse and discarding unused anything without thought is far from a loving act.

152. Abuse of any kind can leave us with long-term effects, for example, there are many people who suffer from anxiousness without ever really knowing why. Either the abuse is ongoing and is accepted as normal, or it is from childhood and the details often forgotten. Patterns play out in our behaviours now.

153. The less we abuse ourselves, the more we will not tolerate abuse from others. The cycle can only be broken if we stop the self-abuse.

     1. A super simple programme Elizabeth, one that we can all follow. No big and small, just start with personal responsibility and then see how that grows.

154. ‘Abuse is also seen in other areas such as in the sporting arena and nowadays on social media. This latter has even driven people to suicide and is deeply shocking.’ This is not to be underestimated and people are actually taunted and encouraged to harm themselves and even take their own lives in the abhorrent abuse on social media.

155. I had a very powerful lesson on the importance of leaving the space you are in with the love and care that you would like to find it in. A few years ago I was at a workshop and after I flushed the toilet there was a piece of toilet paper that hadn’t been flushed away, the queues were very long, I deliberated, but left it there and the person behind me, walking into the cubicle I was leaving was the presenter, who I greatly admired. I immediately felt the dis-honouring of myself and that other person as I knew I should have taken the time to re-flush, it doesn’t matter who was behind me, everyone deserves the same quality of care. Sounds like a very simple example, but it had a very profound affect on me. Now, whenever I am in a toilet anywhere, if there is paper on the floor, I pick it up and flush it away and leave the toilet with love and care for the next person.

156. “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” – and we have been very compliant in doing exactly this for a very, very long time, with the exception of a few. It’s now time for us all to take responsibility together. If we stop enabling the abuse to continue, it can’t exist.

157. The more I accept my sensitivity and softness, the more I open my eyes to what abuse is and the more I see it’s in many aspects of our lives.

158. Jane as you share on a purely financial basis we are all bearing the brunt of the abuse, yet its clear we allow some abuse in areas we don’t feel are a concern to us as that then means we get to be abusive in parts of life we don’t want to bring more care and love to.

159. Essentially it all comes back to loving our selves, intimately, so that our internal barometer of what constitutes true respect and integrity in this world is set on max and nothing less is tolerated. Still an ongoing lesson for me personally, but one I am very appreciative to be on thanks to meeting Serge Benhayon, who re-established the bar for me through his exemplary behaviour.

160. We need more conversations around the emotional abuse and how much of a deleterious effect this can have on us. From the way we speak to ourselves and then to others could do with us closely observing the energies at play when we do this. For at times the words can seem ‘ok’ but the energy delivering those words is not, and we can get confused by the words and not read the energy of the abuse that may be coming our way.

     1. The tone of our self talk must be one of the most abusive offerings we can dish up, throwing it right into our own faces.

161. The extremes of how women use acid words to abuse and men use violence is horrific, but everything that is not done in a loving way comes under the heading of abuse in one form or another.

162. And the longevity of words phrases said to you can be crippling casting a shadow over choices made often from a throw away comment we tend to latch onto the critical and give it traction.

163. Recent experience shows that often good men not only do nothing but in reaction to fake accusations jump on the train of accusation through actively withdrawing off previous support. True cowardice gives evil its air to breathe.

164. The first definition means that it is not about the action, but about the intent, and this is what we must read and present as being unacceptable.

165. Our unresolved hurts are the greatest cause of conflict, disharmony, corruption, abuse and illness in the world.

166. The fact that abuse on social media has driven people to suicide shows how forceful the energy behind words can be. We are either choosing to express with love, or anything and everything that is not love, the latter is divisive, manipulative and evil… I look forward to the day when only love is chosen to communicate with one another.

     1. Words have the same impact on the physiology of the body as being physically hit, it is a total lie that words don’t hurt in the same way as being hit, in fact I would say it is worse as words go over and over in your mind making it maddening.

        1. I agree Vanessa. The old adage ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me’ is so wrong. We can get over a physical act – bones can mend – but vile words reverberate in your head and can scar for life. Both forms of abuse are evil.

167. Choosing and allowing my body to re-sensitize, that is letting go of the protection, hardening and withdrawal brings up the imprints of abuse that I have buried and stored as at the time I didn´t know what else to do with it or not wanting to realize it for the abuse it is. It is like a dormant sickness that now can come to the surface to be felt, become aware and let go of.

168. “Abuse in the World” – is all of what you share in your post Sue, and made possible from the lack of regard that we hold for ourselves in how we live ordinary life for example, simply leaving a dirty dish out, living in messiness, not tidying our rooms or office spaces, desks … essentially, in not paying attention to quality we are leaving behind as a trail it is easy to see how come abuse does happen. When we clean up ourselves of the many small or minute abusive ways of living and working, so too do we clean up abuse in the world.

     1. So needed to read this Zofia. Off to put some cups in the dish washer!

169. Why are most movements against things that are abusive and things that do not feel right, lead by young persons? They are like shooting stars expressing what is not true. They are worn down by the friction as they enter our atmosphere or the values and beliefs of others. How many times do they become comets and return again and again but fade quickly from our memories? What happens when a comet hits the earth, and we say, how did that happen!

     1. That is a very interesting metaphor, by the time we get the comet and life has to change we have buried our heads in the ground for so long even though the writing was on the wall. We don’t have to let things get to the worst case scenario.

170. The calling out of abuse is a gift to our bodies and our whole life changes when we do so. We say no to the abuse that has been made normal and yes back to love in our lives.

171. Listening to the news yesterday and the fall out with AMP, the corruption that has been going on within the banking arena for years, the cover up – hearing the admission that a Royal commission should have been called way earlier by the Government …… this is a reflection of the bigger picture for us as a society. Yes, the government should have acted immediately rather than turning the other way, but the responsibility lies with us all to take part in dis-abling the corruption and abuse that we are all currently feeding by staying silent.

172. Agree Sue, none should let lie abuse of any sort. We have been silenced for many lives when it comes to speaking out against abuse, but in the 21st century we have more support than ever before to speak truth and not be persecuted.

173. we often see abuse as something that is done to us by another, or only to ourselves when in extreme mental distress or illness. But if we look at our lifestyle much of what we do is a form of abuse, a cigarette is abuse to the lungs, alcohol is abuse to the liver and the kidneys etc, etc, overeating, the wrong foods, too little sleep, stress, checking out….they are all assaults on our bodies and thus ourselves. In fact not until we live in line with what our body is asking for and in line with our natural way and quality of being we are in self abuse.

174. Abuse so clearly starts with ourselves but how often do we consider that aspect of it? when we think about emotional abuse and and bullying we don’t often think of the way we talk to ourselves or are with ourselves as being abusive. We might just feel down or lethargic without consciously realising we’ve been bashing ourselves with our thoughts all day. Bringing more awareness to what we’re actually thinking and feeling is the first step towards changing it. And the more we make appreciation and love our focus, the less stuff the self abusive talk and behaviours has to hold onto, until we start to no longer want to choose it.

175. This accepted definition of abuse “To use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse” and “To treat with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly” leaves the definition of abuse open to personal judgement and relative value, – whereas what is abusive, is in fact anything that does not come with the living stillness of love.

176. If we are not expressing with love, it’s abuse, if we are not moving with love, it’s abuse, if we are not treating each other with love, it’s abuse …. whilst we may not have ever considered this, in these terms, that doesn’t lessen the truth that it is. It’s important for us to be aware of what is going on around us and how we are contributing.

177. Suicide statistics should be published monthly, locally and nationally to wake us up from the fog we cover up these issues with. When we are not even seeing this extreme behaviour as worrying, there is a very serious problem with society.

178. We live with abuse every day. It is a sad state of affairs that this has become our norm. If we do not recognise and say no to the abuse that is present in our own lives it is impossible to stand up to say no to abuse on a grander scale. How can we condemn something that we have not dealt with ourselves? Saying no to abuse starts with looking at how we treat ourselves. If there truly is no abuse in this then we have a foundation from which to speak.

     1. Well said Rebecca. And therein lies the problem. To date abuse has been called out by ‘well meaning’ people, who have not consciously understood that by not aligning to the fiery energy of God, that they have, by default aligned to the very energetic source from which all abuse is born.

179. We have a long journey ahead of our selves to really nail the abuse we have allowed to exist at every level of society. When we bring our focus to restoring our personal integrity, it empowers us to tackle the abuse from the ground up, “grass roots” tactics that can have a huge impact on the quality of all of our lives.

180. Can we just be with this for a minute ‘Few women have experienced no abuse at all in their lifetime – be it ever so subtle.’ This is true but should not be. A momentum of abuse has been building over eons. It has been accepted, tolerated, denied, ignored. We are all responsible for this.

181. It is hard to relate to someone consciously deciding they are going to spray acid in people’s faces but, if we look at our own lives, we can see the abuse we inflict upon our own bodies every time we move, eat or speak in a way that we know is harmful… and this is where it begins.

182. Is the greatest foundation of the abuse that is everywhere, us not calling it out and remaining silent?

     1. Or is it even deeper than that, are we dismissing and normalising the abuse so we don’t have to feel the responsibility of knowing we should be doing something about it, calling out the truth of what is truly going on.

     2. Absolutely Steve, for how can the abuse be arrested if not called out, because it isn’t as if the abusers themselves are going to start calling themselves out.

     3. Not saying no, is saying yes.

183. The reflection of abuse in any way, shape or form is a call to look at how I am treating myself. Am I truly loving and treat myself with the love and respect I deserve in all areas of my life? How am I with myself when I am on my own? Do I abuse myself when I feel I have contracted because I have put up with the emotions and hurts of another and instead of observing I have absorbed? As I pause and reflect on every moment in my day and I have to say there are many, am I truly loving with self in each moment and giving to myself or is there so much more love and depth I can go to, to love me and hence truly love everyone?

184. We seriously need to look underneath the abuse to find out where it is and always has come from because you would think it would be so much easier if we all choose love, cooperated and got along without all the unnecessary abuse that is so normalised in society.

     1. Agreed it is easier to choose Love .. so why do we choose abuse? We definitely need to look underneath to clear the rot.

185. Our perception of what we call abuse is changing and to me that is because we do allow more love into our lives. Love simply reveals everything that is not love, so the more love we live the more of that what is not love will be exposed such that we can correct it and eliminate these activities or behaviours from our whats ‘normal’ and acceptable list.

     1. I agree Nico, there is more love in the world today than ever before and that has to bring to light that which is not love, as a consequence all the abuse within ourselves and within our societies is being exposed so that it can be corrected, allowing us then to evolve to that which we truly are.

        1. The only problem in the revelation of the ill ways in our behavior and in our societies is how we act on this increased awareness that has come to us. Do we react to it and quickly find a solution or do we gonna sit with it for a while and start to really question the problem at hand and response from our inner knowing, from our inner heart and start to completely change the way we live from there instead.

        2. Yes, that is the crucial question Nico….How will we respond?

186. No matter what media we look at, newspapers, radio, the internet, social media, TV we can find the abusive attitude of people there expressed in all its different shades.

187. I agree with you Sue, education on what abuse is and the deteriorating effect it has on us individual and our societies is needed as the more awareness we have on these matters the more love we can let into our lives.

188. As long as we look outside of us, abuse will be a major part of our world. It’s only when we start to see the outside landscape is just a reflection of the inner environment that we will start to be responsible and loving with ourselves.

189. With us all not living the one truth, so to do many not following the same level of what abuse is. The day we all follow the one unified truth is that day we will see how much abuse we live with everyday. For many (including myself) this is more than we wish to see.

190. ‘Young people (and adults for that matter) need more education around abuse…’ – yes, we all need to raise the awareness of what abuse actually is, how it starts with the little things that we tend to conveniently overlook or put up with, consider to be normal or have other excuses for. But when we honour our sensitivity we feel how much the slightest abuse hurts, that we register it and know exactly that it is not harmonious to who we are by our very nature. Hence along with awareness we need to re-sensitize, i.e. to re-awaken our natural sensitivity that has been dulled by accepting the unacceptable.

     1. And the more we do this we create more space for our loving foundation to expand and the abuse becomes glaringly obvious. As you share, the little things we have chosen not to be fully aware of, we can no longer accept in our day to day lives – we start to shift our normal to a place where abuse cannot exist.

191. The lack of integrity we currently have in society is pure abuse, and I know that as a bystander for many years, and to a degree still now, I actively contribute to this.

192. ‘It is time for such abuse to be called out.’ – Great call Sue, I’d say it is time for ANY abuse to be called out. Something for us all to ponder is – are we doing it?

193. To call out abuse is to be prepared to be deeply honest with yourself as it has arisen out of an ill way of living of which the majority of us have been a part therefore we may be exposing ourselves and our own lack of responsibility and not just the actions of another.

194. How hard and how consistently do we all have to work in order to create a world that is saturated in abuse when in actual fact love is all there is?

     1. It feels like it starts with our rejection of our selves in our choice to disconnect from our truth, our innate wisdom and instead seek guidance from outside ourselves, laying our selves open to whatever energy passes through us, as opposed to choosing the connection to our soul and living the divinity that we are.

195. “If a woman or man’s job is predicated on keeping silent when either has been harassed and abused, this should not be tolerated in the 21st century.” well said, it seems like a very backward position to be in when we are still having to not speak up about the truth even though not doing so is killing us.

196. Understanding abuse is a global responsibility, as everything we do affects the all. And The All is the universe, as we are not isolated within it, we are a part of it and what we contribute as a race of beings is accountable.

     1. You bring us here to the bigger picture by reminding us of the grand picture we are part of. Our lives here on earth are just a tiny speck in the entireness of the universe.

     2. Well said Shami, and what a big pill to swallow when we finally realise and accept that every move we make here affects the entire universe…

197. Any abuse of the systems or industries, is an abuse of us all – we are all the end recipients and worse off for it. We can’t abuse and expect it to stay within the laboratory, corporate building, financial institution, casting studio or 4 walls of our home, energy doesn’t work like, abusive or otherwise, it affects everything and all of us.

198. Abuse is a topic that needs to stay in our conversations until it is accepted by everyone that we have allowed it to be in every aspect of life without standing up to say NO.

     1. And we need to be calling it for what it is, really digging in to the detail, looking in every crook and cranny; and doing this to the best of our ability with no judgement, no regret, no guilt and no grudges. It’s not easy and takes time…but just the initial step of calling it what it is – Abuse – is a powerful setting of the bar at a level way higher than humanity is currently living.

199. “Abuse in the World” – exists because (oddly) it seems we rate it over love, or a loving way. We see or regard abuse as a way to get ahead in life, to become successful through poor behaviour, attitudes, one upmanship, or do anything that is abusive, corrupt, manipulative, controlling… essentially what we think we can do to avoid being trampled over by another; whereas in truth and deep down it is not abuse but love that is desperately yearned for.

     1. “whereas in truth and deep down it is not abuse but love that is desperately yearned for.” Yes. I haven’t met anyone who above all does not want to be met and be loved simply for who they are.

200. If we take a global view of events in this way, it is evident we have lost all sense of our self worth and self esteem. One day we will realize that whenever we launch into another person, we are just annihilating our selves. When we focus on restoring our personal self worth, we establish core benchmarks of true behaviour and respect that have a knock on effect and gradually enable us to re-build love within our selves and then our wider society.

     1. Well said Rowena, if we lived with true self-worth we would not be able to abuse anyone whether ourselves or others. Amazing how much change comes from re-connecting back to ourselves and making this a way of life.

201. Any form of abuse starts with self-abuse. We wouldn’t be able to do others what we are not doing to ourselves first, in a way or another, and this is possible because we see abuse as normal and acceptable in our life. Maybe we have learnt it, maybe we have seen it, maybe we have allowed it… In any case there is a choice of not honouring ourselves enough to say NO to anything that is not love in our life and so we open the door to abuse. The quality we accept as a marker is what becomes our life.

202. When I read this blog I am becoming even more aware of how abuse is in the littlest things and that we can constantly feel it and are constantly confronted with it. In every moment there is an opportunity to say no to abuse. From with ourselves and the self-bashing thoughts to denigrating of other people or the physical abuse we may witness.

     1. I agree Lieke – abuse is a sneaky thing that has become normal, especially with the way we mis-treat and dishonour ourselves.

     2. Lieke so true and that abuse is rife within our daily lives, homes, community, workplaces, schools.. its very rare to find anywhere that is free fo this abuse, but that normality does not make it true or something we should continue to allow.

203. We tend to avoid looking at how we abuse ourselves with food, overeating, filling ourselves up with junk food, drinking liquids that make us racy or damage our liver, because we use food to dull our senses. It is a form of body bullying, knocking ourselves senseless. And the advertising is also abuse, trying to convince us that it’s healthy to eat foods that dull us.

     1. But possibly it is because we are dulling our senses that the abuse is so much in our lives that otherwise, if we would choose to not dull our senses and make other choices in life and on food, would be deeply caring without any room for abuse to enter.

204. I agree often people stay silent so they don’t become the target of abuse that they experience happening around them. At the same time I have also experienced people joining together to falsely accuse another and make them the scapegoat.

205. As we clear away the abuse, there is more space for the love.

206. ‘The more our awareness is raised, the more we tend to see abuse’ – very true, the more we engage in life and allow our selves to observe what is truly going on around us, with this heightened awareness also comes a deeper and more expansive understanding which provides a supportive and loving platform from which to express whatever is there to share. No ‘trying’ required, it’s all there.

207. I agree that people…”… need more education around abuse e.g. exploring what abuse includes, and the need to respect others and themselves, and also to understand the laws regarding abuse.” There is a need for common decency and respect. It very much exposes the state of our society when we have to educate people about abuse… that we are so disconnected from our bodies that we no longer recognise abuse, which our bodies constantly read and receive, and need to be educated on it.

208. This definition of abuse…“To treat with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.” (1) is commonplace in every person’s life… it is in our self-talk and the way we treat ourselves on a daily basis – it may not be outwardly, physically violent but the energy of our thoughts and the way we treat our bodies can be just as harmful.

     1. ‘…the energy of our thoughts and the way we treat our bodies can be just as harmful.’ Paula this is very true! We haven’t begun to break up all the different forms abuse can disguise itself in. There are the obvious ones which we are aware of, but we haven’t begun to accept the way we abuse our own bodies through the way we treat it or by our thoughts. We haven’t begun to dissect and discuss the abuse we allow through work and systems everywhere, like education, NHS and the corporate world.

     2. Wow, this is so true – how can we possibly have standards of relationships with others that are loving when our own self talk is so abusive?

     3. A powerful point Paula, realising that cleaning up our own act and not allowing this self abuse has to be the first port of call.

209. Is it possible to live a life that is mostly based on decency and respect?
     What would life be if we simply stopped all forms of abuse and settled for the “fire” that comes from connecting to our essence? Seeing there is a group who live in connection to their essence and they are the Students of The Way of The Livingness and they have stopped all forms of abusive behaviours to the best of their ability we already have a model that we can all see today about how living abusively-less works.

     1. Definitely Greg, the Students of The Way of The Livingness show us that it is possible and how joyful and purposeful life then becomes. A way of living I all my life was missing and in truth hurt me to the bones.

        1. Before Universal Medicine and The Way of The Livingness numbness was all that existed for me and therefore I had no idea about the bones in relationship to my hurts. Understanding that our connective tissue is also our bones and through true healing as is available with the Sacred Esoteric Healing modalities I now feel, which is a blessing that I will also take into my next incarnation. So next life I will therefore feel more and hence be able to express a deeper level of the Love we all come from.

        2. That is true Greg, before I was with Universal Medicine there was a deep hurt in me that I did not want to feel, therefore I was continuously busy to numb and avoid feeling the hurt. A hurt that I found later to be as deep as in my bones but at that time chose not to feel because it asked me to become honest with myself for the choices I myself had made in life.

        3. It is not only that we “do not want to feel” it is the energy controlling our spirit that keeps us in the dark, which is about the truth of who we are and so that ill energy, keeps us in the “dark” I hate that energy. It is that ill energy who is telling our body to bury the hurts so we become numb.

210. It is the inaction of those that are not directly affected that feeds the energy that perpetrates the abuse: “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”…

211. Thank you Sue for an expose on Abuse – and great to explore the many facets of it so that we are not fooled by the normalisation of abuse in our world!

212. Sue, it’s great to raise the subject of abuse and for this to be talked about and explored. I can feel that even the subtlest form of abuse is harmful and should be called out for what it is.

213. A few people I have known considered they were being abused when someone pointed out with loving purpose the fact that they were abusing themselves by their choices and expression. So good straightforward honesty and truth delivered with integrity and no blame can be mistaken for an abusive attack. Perhaps this is because the true meanings of the words “love” and “abuse” have actually been abused themselves through the years and come to mean what people feel comfortable with.

214. “Emotional abuse is seen in both the home and the workplace in the form of bullying behaviour.” For me I find emotional abuse much harder to deal with because it is usually constant if not incessant and wears you down so that you begin to accept it as being normal, whereas physical abuse is more obvious and shows the marks, and therefore cannot so easily be ignored or hidden. Once abuse is truly felt in the body and we begin to register it as something that is not acceptable, it then becomes much easier to recognise all the areas of our life that we have been complicit in allowing abuse, and begin to say no to all abusive behaviour.

215. Imagine if we did not allow any self abusive thoughts, how different would we be with ourselves and how different would we be with each other?

216. I agree more education would be great on the different levels of abuse, and one thing that I have come to realise is that we actually do know what is abuse and what isn’t but we don’t want to admit it because we have been feeding it to ourselves and don’t want to feel the pain and hurt that it has caused.

217. Absolutely Sue, “Many people in positions of power have thought they can have their cake and eat it too”, isn’t this what every human being is doing?! Finding ways to get away with whatever it is they can, for their own gain (at another’s expense). The lack of responsibility and integrity is something we have normalised, we can no longer just place the focus on these extreme cases of abuse.

218. Yes, it is important that we talk about abuse, and bring it into the light. The more we share, the more we support others to be aware of abuse that they may not have even been aware of or seen it for what it truly is.

219. We often see abuse just as the physical and not the emotional abuse that takes place all the time with our use of words but what I have become more and more aware of is the abuse that we do to ourselves on a daily basis that we are often not even aware of. The self criticism and the putting oneself down is abuse and abuse that isn’t spoken about enough.

220. Shifting awareness on what abuse actually is, is an eye-opener! The moment I entertain a negative thought this is abuse, whether it is towards myself or directed at another person – let alone the moment when I may choose to shut down and then harden my body. I literally have no idea how many times I have abused myself in this way and yet in this state I am also abusing others by not letting them in. What we do to one we do to all, so if I am in anyway abusive towards myself others are going to receive that.

     1. Very true Michelle. I love the level you have gone to in this example. If this was our foundation of what abuse to not accept in the world then the majority of our societal problems would not exist. Our issue then probably would end up being how much glory and joy we allow ourselves to live.

        1. I like this Johanna, but why would we accept having an issue at all? If we can be the glory and joy we innately are why would we choose to create an issue that simply isn’t there?

221. Some people think that swearing is a normal part of everyday language and it is for some, but to a sensitive body, swearing feels awful and is abuse.

     1. Yes it does. Swearing is quite a contracting way to express because often one or two lazy swear words are use often and repeatedly so in place of expressing what one is really feeling. I say lazy here because swear words are used instead of a person making the effort to read situations, feel their body and how it affects them and then express the correct and true selection of words and phrases to thoroughly address the situation and energy of what has played out for them.

     2. Swearing is created to harm and control – I’d say that those who don’t find it awful, are very disconnected to their own sensitivity and natural response.

222. I agree, Sue, that the #MeToo media forum is a positive step in exposing abuse, but we have to be careful that the sensationalism of it does not detract from the responsibility we all have to call out abuse in its smallest forms on an everyday basis.

     1. What you share makes sense, Janet. Its the smallest everyday forms of abuse that leads to the more extreme version. By calling out the small stuff it can’t build into something bigger.

223. Saying no to abuse takes saying yes to love and this is being called for more and more in the world and really does make a difference as we start to acknowledge the abuse in our lives and make changes allowing the exposure and non-acceptance of the abuse that is rife everywhere in the world with the internet becoming a major player in this field.

     1. Saying no to abuse is saying yes to love – I love this Tricia
        And saying yes to more love allows us to see and call out the many levels of abuse. The more we take responsibility and deeper we go the more we see and feel what does not belong with our innate inner heart and natural way of being.

224. The level of abuse that exists on platforms like TV and cinema is quite shocking. The dramas and films we produce in an attempt to portray ‘real life’ so often are just normalizing abuse. What we are actually doing is glorifying our disregarding behaviours and sending out a message that it is quite normal to live like this, soap operas being one key example. Every where we look we are fed the same message, until we meet blogs like this that cut a window into a true world of absolute integrity, trust and respect, qualities that are such a joy to embody and live and deliver lasting joy. Why aren’t we peddling this on TV instead of “East Enders”?

     1. I so agree Rowena. I remember someone recommending a TV series to me, they even loaned me their CD’s to watch it, but I couldn’t even finish the first episode. There was so much swearing, it was like a physical assault on my body and I had to switch it off. It allowed me to feel how very desensitised we have become to behaviours that are so foreign to who we truly are, but we just accept them as they have become so ‘normal’ – as in prolific.

225. “The recent allegations against Harvey Weinstein in the USA movie industry is but the tip of the iceberg.” The depth of abuse that lies below this and society in general, is certainly going to be something that will prove just how big that iceberg is.

226. “Until a few years ago it was a brave woman who stood up for truth and called out anyone who abused her” – yes, until we start learning to truly, truly love, we only sit down in abuse.

227. Something i’m experiencing at the moment is that there is almost too much abuse to see and call out, I find it overwhelming. I know I am responsible for my part in exposing it but there is a part of me that just thinks “what’s the point!”. My focus then turns to that the point is: people are hurting. And I can not and will not stand idly by whilst my fellows are in such a reduced and compressed form of life.

228. Abuse is not the fault of men. It seems that many people are pointing fingers straight at men saying that they are to blame for almost all of the abuse in the world, but in order to have a society today where not only sexual harassment occurs but many other forms of discrimination, assault, violence, financial abuse, cyber abuse and murder, it obviously takes both genders and us all to tolerate this. Responsibility starts with us and what we can do to stand up against abuse but more importantly live a life that role models respect, decency and true care.

229. There are the abusers and the enablers of abuse, through their silence. I am not sure if the enablers are much if much at all more virtuous than the abusers.

     1. Yes very true Christoph in the sense that we as a society must be working together to have such a high level of abuse tolerated and allowed for it to be there like it is today in almost every facet of life. Therefor there are no victims in the sense that we all have responsibility. I am not saying someone who is raped is responsible for that but we as a society and how we work together have to look at how we are with each other that we have people who rape, murder, are cynical etc.

230. I agree Richard it is the calling out that is so important, because people can keep on abusing for years unless they are pulled up on it, just look at Harvey Weinstein or the latest one Bill Cosby.

231. When we keep silent about the abuse we are experiencing, even for the slightest abuse we may feel, the abuse will continue to reign over us and have its toll on our bodies from us allowing it to exist.

232. Is it possible abusive behaviours come from a lack of self-worth, and to feel our essence, inner-most or the Esoteric, which are all one and the same leaves us in no doubt of who we are? So we are no longer looking for something out-side our-selves, thus all abusive relationships are then felt for what they do to our body, and we can start to shift the way we perceive abuse from our essence at every level, which allows us to correct these behaviours. Then it becomes obvious that to expand our essence and thus self-worth is because the ‘abusivety’ of any description has been shown for the lying disconnecting way of living that it is, and what it has brought to us all in so many areas of our lives. Connecting, living from our essence, self-worth and being Soul-fully connected are all deepening our awareness of what life can bring thus allowing us to deepen our understanding of who and what living through our inner-wisdom is about and how true that this way of living feels in our bodies.

233. The more we increase love the more we get to see abuse; they relate to each other as diametrical opposites. Hence to erase abuse we need to raise love; saying no to abuse is saying yes to love.

     1. I love this Alexander – saying yes to love, we are setting a new standard to live by and we will start to clock any abuse immediately.

     2. It is quite shocking when you say yes to love to see how much of the world is not love.

     3. Building love then builds the blocks to hold the depth and quality we can all live as one. No one being more or less, but bringing more rather than less.

234. Abuse is rife in humanity, it is just that we have lowered the bar and what would once have been known as abuse is now just ’normal,’ we need to bring the bar back up. Anything that is not love is abuse.

235. More and more the conversations are happening with regards to what constitutes abuse. In my job as a carer, I have often been asked to scrub someone’s body harder, and there have been occasions when I have refused because of the hard plastic washcloth they use. I just couldn’t bring myself to abuse someone even at their request. Then there are other clients who tell me how gentle I am with them and appreciate it.

236. There is soooo much in the world that shows the lack of love we have chosen as our foundation. If we start to list the many ways, we will soon realise that there is no area of life that is not touched by this. So easy to go into overwhelm, give up, blame others or go into drive. Yet what I have been noticing is that the most significant impact is made by those who choose to commit to living a life of love, care and integrity and who by that inspire hundreds of others to do the same.

237. What a powerful quote to end on, Sue. What does speaking up mean though? I have held the perception that in order to make change in the world I ought to be standing amongst thousands of people, scrunching my fist – yet, that can feel unnatural at times. I’m asking myself questions, and as everything else in life, standing up for truth first comes back to me and the moments when there is nobody around. If in those moments I allow myself to cut corners, how can I simply flip a switch and stand in front of a crowd to preach? It does not work. But, if we live an honest life, where we are truthful with ourselves first and foremost, expressing honestly with others is no longer a big deal.

238. There are many types of abuse and for far too long we have perpetuated them by not being willing to look at our own abusive behaviour towards ourselves and others and therefore have been complicit in the more extreme forms that inevitably arise when we do not call out abusive behaviour as soon as it happens.

239. Is it possible that we don’t like to call the abuse out, in case we become the target focus of that abuse? Yet, in the not calling it out we all get abused anyway in the societies that we live in because of its pollution. If life was a pool of water, then the water we swim, (live in) is rank. We live in a putrid stench of our own making, but refuse to accept and see it for what it is, by pretending it’s not there.

240. Sometimes I clock that the way I have been moving and the choices I make result in the thoughts or spoken words of abuse sometimes to myself and sometimes towards others. It doesn’t happen so often but on the occasions when I do I immediately feel the impact that it has on me and any others involved. But I am also starting to understand how that has an impact on everything.

241. I’ve been noting of late just how the rise of abuse, particularly at work in regards sexual abuse is now so visible that more and more women are talking about what has happened to them in normal conversations to find such similarities, whereas before conversations would have most likely been kept quiet or secret because of shame or embarrassment. Sexual abuse is now becoming easier, higher profiled, out in the open, and that the more women start to realise and heal the lack of honouring they’ve held of their bodies, and begin to connect to the delicateness of their bodies that hold a sacred quality, that in retaliation to this quality abuse has never been so easier, or so in our faces.

242. Thanks, Sue, the quote says it all really. I spoke to the director of my organisation yesterday and was the most truthful I have ever been with him about what I observed going on with the staff, exposing a lot of irresponsibility… it felt amazing and the truth was actually well received.

243. “To use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse”. When everything in life either harms or heals it can be said that all that it is not of true purpose, is in fact abuse. Having this understanding does start to highlight the fact that so much of what people choose to do is in fact abusive to themselves or others.

     1. This a very important point you raise Michael. It signifies the responsibility we all have to live a life of true purpose.

244. “However, my feeling is that corruption has always been there but we are now finding out about it more.” I absolutely agree, and we also tend to point our fingers to the obvious corruptive ways of others but need to look a little closer and admit to and call out our own corruptive ways, because the little ways feed and lead to the bigger ways. This is something we still need to understand, that our every move counts and contributes to the world’s state of affairs. Thus it is the quality and the true intent that is behind our actions that really count. We like to go for the extremes and see them as the bad in the world and thus excuse our comfortable lives that we can do what we want as long as it is in a moderate way, but with that we are corrupting ourselves and the truth we know deep inside.

245. What we accept in the outer world is merely a reflection of what we accept within our selves. When we detox our inner world of self abuse, in the form of internal thoughts, habits and emotions, we will experience incredible changes in our external environment.

246. “To use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse” This really shows that how when we are keeping ourselves up too late, drink not enough water or don’t go to the toilet when we have to is actually a misuse of our body. Just like we can misuse words to abuse another we can abuse our body by misusing it.

     1. By not loving in our glory and our natural way is actually using our bodies to ‘bad effect’ and therefore abuse to ourselves and others because of the lesser reflection we offer.

247. It is just so disturbing if we look at all the abuse that is rife on this planet, all of which is just not necessary if we were to choose love over all else. Love is so much more fun than all the abuse!

     1. Agreed Kev. There is so much joy waiting for us when we let go of living and allowing the abuse we have succumbed to.

     2. Spot on kevmchardy

     3. Why is it that many are more comfortable with abuse than love? why have we normalised abuse instead of love?

248. “However, ‘abuse’ is being recognised as meaning so much more in the media today.” I’m not sure I agree with you on this one…or rather, would offer taking this further. It’s one thing to talk about ‘abuse’, to use the word freely and yes, maybe the word is more common nowadays and is affiliated more readily with certain behaviours. But, until the word is truly understood and until the bar is set at a level of absolute zero, until the standards of how we live and communicate with each other are set where they should be, then we can use the word as often as we like and nothing will change. As is the case; companies, homes, governments, relationships, schools, religions etc…all of them are riddled with abuse.

     1. Otto – I love what you have brought to the table here. It is a great acknowledgement of the variety and levels of abuse we have in our world and until these are address from a point of complete love then there will always be threads of abuse filtering through all areas of our society. It is each and every one of our responsibility to take the steps needed.

        1. Peace does not eradicate war; we have had many times of peace, but they are always followed by more war. In the same way, tolerance does not eradicate abuse.

     2. Otto, I love it when you write and express like this. We really do need to set the standards and abide by them because just talking changes not a thing!

249. “How come we have tolerated abuse for so long?” Is it possible that this is because we are part of that abuse and few have the humility to call themselves out. Far more comfortable to have something to point a finger at, than having to tidy up our own back yard.

     1. Absolutely, and if we own up we then also have to take responsibility and not continue with the same behaviours.

250. The fact that Bill Cosby was recently convicted of multiple rape charges after a lot of pressure from groups like ‘me too’ shows that when people come together with conviction and claim what they know is true, the evil of the world will be exposed. These groups and their success will also inspire others to come out and not be fearful of the usual threats and intimidations that many times suppress these revelations.

     1. Well said, Michael, what I was questioning when I heard about Bill Cosby’s conviction was, how many people knew what was going on, or even had strong suspicions, but chose to keep quiet, thereby enabling the abusive behaviour to continue.

        1. On one level people find it shocking when the truth is revealed, but what I find more shocking is the fact that so many people knew but no one spoke up. It is a common thing that happens everywhere and really, those that standby and do nothing are just as guilty as the ones doing the nasty in the first place.

        2. I have no legal back-up for this claim, but my answer to your question “how many people knew”…A LOT. And then let’s talk about Harvey Weinstein. We are all responsible. All of us. Women too – because I can assure you that there were just as many women who knew of his behaviour as there were men. Many of those women are the same as those that now feverishly back the #metoo movement. I’m not pointing any fingers – just calling on us all to be humble and honest about what we have allowed, so that we can then move forward. And since we are talking #metoo, I offer a different spin on it – me too, yes I am responsible as well for I have allowed and actioned abuse at home and in the work place – obviously not to the same degree, but wherever I have talked down on someone, taken advantage of them, used my position to gain something…even in the most subtle and seemingly innocuous way – that is abuse, and it all adds to the momentum and is a foundation on which these more extreme forms of abuse can then grow.

251. One of the more subtle forms of abuse happens in the bedroom, where you hear stories of women in the olden days who were told to ‘lie back and think of England’ implying that the man will have sex and the woman must simply put up with it. When we truly feel our bodies, anything that is not absolutely equal love feels horrible but we submit because we think we should.

     1. I think a lot more abuse than one wants to admit happens in the bedroom not just in the olden days but in the current days too.

252. When we’re all connected to the sensitive beings that we are we know what abuse is inside and out. We all have an innate urge to call it out and say no but fear of upsetting someone stops many of us. We’re taught not to rock the boat, to be ‘rude’, taught we have no right to say anything, we look around and no-one is speaking or if they are it’s in reaction and often as abusive. So what I did was try to ignore that something was there to be said, tried to deny and accept the abuse, even call it love!!! Now it’s returning to feeling what’s not love and saying something – even if there’s nothing to be said at the time there is acknowledging what is really going on as that acknowledgment in itself changes the dynamics of life. It makes a huge difference acknowledging abuse when it is in action and saying no.

253. The suicide rates that are happening daily around the world due to abuse, be it online or offline, is seriously alarming and in a modern world that we are supposedly living in, where we are that much more advanced when we stop and be honest, it is the worst we have ever been with regards to deaths, abuse and level of respect for each other. It’s time to turn back time and bring back the key principles of how we are meant to be with each other, loving and caring not matter what sex, religion, race or hair colour.

254. As a society, it seems we have become very adept at misuse. We misuse words, in fact we even make words up, and it’s worth considering what we are actually doing when we do this. We are bastardising the true meaning and essence of that word and reducing it to mean something so much less than what it truly is. Therefore, that’s what we are then living with, our understanding of what many words mean is a deflated version of the truth, so we are all missing out and the rich fullness that those words can bring.

255. Every time we say or do something abusive, even only slightly, and we don’t call it out and the person on the receiving end doesn’t call it out, it is almost like we lay it down as a layer we then stand on, as if to say okay, I am comfortable or okay with this. As time passes we lay down more and more layers, some thicker than others until we are so far removed from our previous position we can’t comprehend the true depth of the abuse we have accepted to reach the point where we begin to recognise some of the layers as not being okay. But we can’t just take away one or two, we have to strip the whole foundation of society back to the starting point of no abuse and not stray from it again

     1. Being in comfort is a form of abuse – a form of abuse that many probably would not consider as such. Being in comfort breeds complacency and it is complacency that has allowed the rot in our world to continue when we come from truth and living true then there is no space for complacency.

256. “In complete contrast, good men can and have been smeared by people calling out abuse when such men have lived exemplary lives. ” Exactly on both sides of the table, abuse comes in all angles – when people start to live in a way that is not abusive they often receive more abuse from others who don’t like them doing that.

257. “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” This is great Sue and much unraveling can be done from this blog. So from reading this blog and then considering the energetic truth that the word ‘abuse’ brings for us I feel it is a curse, which we are continually applying to our-self and then also others and by doing nothing or even putting a sugar coated-supposed-fix this does not work as the lack of integrity along with the lack of decency and respect has become so clearly obvious from our current social issues. Starting to do something that will trump “evil” has to start from understanding the true power of what Love can bring and how to live in connection to our essence so we understand what Love feels like in our body, and then from a place of love we can feel the insidiousness that anything less will bring to us!! Then the disdain we have for anything less than Love will build on our Love, as Love becomes the focus in our life rather than the abusive behaviours. Maybe Love needs to be understood as a deepening awareness and the disdain or hate we have for abuse will quell abusive behaviours and bring us deeper levels of Loving behaviours.

258. Abuse is a daily occurrence for most people, the problem is we don’t see what abuse is and so aren’t noticing it. It starts with our own self abuse.

259. There would be no-one in this world who has not been abused by another at some point in their lives – no matter how subtle the abuse may be, it is still abuse. And that doesn’t include the self-abusive way we treat ourselves on a daily basis. Abuse is common-place in this world and it starts with each one of us calling out abuse in our own lives which then inspires others to do the same.

260. We have an awful lot to learn and re-imprint particularly with the thinking that the way a woman dresses herself means she is asking for sex! Where on earth did that come from in the first place, definitely not from Love. As others have shared in the comments I too was aware of abuse growing up, reading and hearing about it but I just wanted to bury my head in the sand. Like I would say how bad it was and then in the same instant forget about it and carry on with my life. One of the many things I truly love about Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine is they are not afraid to go there. And they go there! Outing pretty much all the abuse and corruption that goes on in the world. And when they do this I sit up more, I listen and have started to take my head out of the sand along with many others. Abuse only continues because we as humanity allow it to. The more we do not tolerate abuse or corruption the less room it has to be here in the first place.

     1. Thank you Vicky this is great what you have expressed, and may I add that as our self-worth, which is the appreciation of our divinity is realised we naturally extricate our heads, so we see clearly those things that are transparent thus abusivety-less.

261. It’s thought by some that staying silent is an innocent ‘non contributor’ to abuse, when actually silence allows the perpetuation of abuse and is a major factor of why it exists in today’s society.

     1. Speaking up against abuse can also be abusive, dependant on how it’s done.

262. Abuse is very degrading to a human being. All the extremes has never really bothered me because in truth they are obvious to keep away from. The real abuse I see is man or woman having a need to be recognised by another. When this is not met all hell can break loose .. hence the rest is our history. Basic respect and decency starting with ourselves is a great starting ground for each and everyone. We are responsible for any abuse that comes away. I have proven in myself the more I deepen this love for myself this is what I naturally pull my way.

263. Great to highlight the impact of emotional or psychological abuse, I think we can discount the effect of words, be they written or spoken and the venom that can be behind them…

264. Abuse is rife at work amongst my co-workers and it is the ‘norm’ to be this way with each other so no one has been calling it out. There has been a culture that it is just ’the way it is’. I have started to call it out and needless to say I am not liked by many. They hate the fact that I will not stand for the way they talk to me, each other and the residents. Interesting times ahead!!

     1. Awesome that you are addressing this and not being intimidated by those who wish to silence you. There needs to be more recognition that it is only when we start to challenge abuse in whatever form that the tide will start to turn and others will come alongside us when they feel how solid we are and that we will not waver from feeling the truth of what is really happening and being willing to call it out.

265. Why do we all allow so much abuse in our lives… Is our lack of self worth so low as a humanity that we make it normal?

266. Abuse has become so common and ‘normal’ that respect and decency is rapidly disappearing in our world.

     1. Yes, one can say it is almost fashionable to be rude and disrespectful.

        1. Sadly this is true Esther, especially at schools this happens a lot. Students cheer for each other when they show disrespect to fellow students or teachers. This is not normal but it seems our society is accepting it as so because it can feel like a hard battle and something very difficult to change. But the truth is we do have the support and wisdom to do something about this, reverse the trend and start to bring back decency, respect and love.

267. ‘How come we have tolerated abuse for so long?’ A great question to ask! Why have we? With each amount of abuse, we accept and say yes to, another deeper form of abuse develops and in this we have a sliding scale that is forever getting worse.

268. When we consider the level of cyber abuse that currently floods our internet, what does this say about our levels of mental and emotional health if we not only allow this to occur, but actually pump it out in the first place? What a gross indictment on the state of humanity it is for us to even have allowed this to occur in the first place.

269. I like this definition here of abuse as ‘bad purpose’. We really have to be honest about everything we say, think and do and whether its purpose is to support. love and evolve each other or bring each other down and hold each other back.

270. Yes, Sue, we need to keep calling out the evil of abuse in all its forms, because the less we accept it the less it will be seen as the norm. Universal Medicine is leading the way in exposing the rot of society so that we can return to our innately loving nature.

271. If we abuse ourselves then is it possible we don’t see abuse in other people so it doesn’t get called out until it reaches a point where we can say that’s abusive. I feel if we really want to tackle abuse it has to start with ourselves first.

272. Sue, this is a great quote; ‘A quote attributed to Edmund Burke I am inspired by is: “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” This makes me realise that actually the doing nothing and not calling it out is in itself abusive, because we are standing by and allowing the abuse to happen. Unless it affects us directly in society we so often do not get involved. I can feel the importance of us all standing up for what is true and calling out what is not ok and allowing our society to be built on love and truth.

273. “Men passing this off as ‘a joke’ when it is anything but, can no longer be used as an excuse” and equally too when “being [too] sensitive” (about the joke/banter) is used as a way to demean the receiving person who can and does feel the abuse energy of the comment; having a sensitivity for abuse is having a regard for our body, for life and for people. No wonder there is so much abuse in our communities when we do what we do to our bodies by the disregarding and dishonouring way we live life to then so easily pass off the same to another human being.

274. Because abuse has become the norm, it doesn’t mean that we have to accept it or tolerate it.

275. Too many of us are too comfortable and unless an abuse is affecting us directly in some sort of way we are not so keen to get involved but if everyone stood up against abuse, abuse wouldn’t stand a chance.

     1. Very true and very exposing at the same time. We pretend it has an iron grip on us. We pretend it is unavoidable, part of society, something we just have to live with. Well, we don’t and what you say is spot on; it wouldn’t stand a chance. And so I have to look at myself and my own moves; am I standing up against abuse at every opportunity, whenever I see it? Am I ensuring that not one of my movements or expressions is abusive? The answer to both these questions is a NO, and it is because of the comfort that you are talking about.

276. “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” This is simply not true, in fact in its untruth it contributes to the perpetuation of abuse by not being true. It also attempts to direct our attention away from the responsibility that every single one of us has, to just a handful of ‘good men’. Even the word ‘good’ is not true. The reason why abuse is able to proliferate in our world is because we don’t call out what is not true and this sentence is part of what is not true.

277. Thank you Sue for calling out what abuse really means. What got me is: “The more our awareness is raised, the more we tend to see abuse.” The question arises: What made most of us blind to being aware of it?

278. Great you write about this Sue, as abuse is everywhere if we allow ourselves to become more aware of this. We then start to see it in all aspects of our lives, in our relationships and in how we have organised businesses, schools, our societies, the way we communicate, the food we can buy in the supermarket, what is written in media, how we differentiate beween races, cultures, aging. etc. the list can go on, our lives are imbued wit abuse in its many gradations.

     1. So true Nico. There is abuse in probably all areas of our lives at some level.

        1. That is what I do observe Sandra, we can say that the abuse we can see in our societies is a reflection of the loveliness we live with otherwise it will have no right to exist.

     2. That is an interesting point you mention Jane, from a greater understanding on the subject of abuse we no longer are victim of it anymore that otherwise could be felt as an inextricable part of living human life.

279. Anything that does not come from our soul already is abuse to our being. As only few people live from their soul but from their calculated mind instead, abuse is part of human life in its many gradients.

280. To take one step that is out of step with God is abuse.

281. To call abuse out without calling it out in ourselves first, is in itself abuse.

282. Abuse takes many forms, siblings fight each other – I have often seen the little one tease the big one until the big one finally reacts and then gets told off for hitting his or her younger sibling. We wind each other up, setting ourselves up for an emotional drama that we can engage in. All our emotions do is feed the consciousness that doesn’t want us to live in harmony, that feeds on our separation from each other.

283. It is true, there is little difference in physical and verbal/emotional abuse. In fact, non-physical may be worse as the symptoms are not obviously treatable.

     1. With physical abuse our body is able to heal on a surface level but what lies deeper is a poison that can stay in our body much much longer and if we do not clear and heal the abuse that is beneath the surface it can affect us in more ways than we realise.

        1. What I did for years was bury the abuse, not even realising it was the abuse that I was burying so when I did decide to heal my hurts, I had to do a lot of un ravelling as there was a lot that I had put aside to not feel or deal with and with it all muddled together, it was massive at first to go there and work through it all but well worth the effort as it doesn’t own or affect me anymore.

284. ‘To treat with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly’. This sentence made me stop and feel how abuse and cruelty are repeated, accepted and allowed as normal.

285. Abuse can only carry on when we cower to it. It is important that we stand up to it whenever we see it, not with confrontation which adds to the pool of energy abuse is from, but with the greatest level of love, understanding and care with which we can muster.

286. With responsibility comes absolute honesty but not judgment, rather allowing the space so we can uncover what we have allowed that does not belong, nominate it for what it is and let it go.

287. We all talk about the horrendous acts that are going on in our world today, but in so doing, we hold them at arms length, with a detachment, thinking that we are not culpable and have had nothing to do with the abuse as we weren’t physically there or a part of it. In order for anything to change, our starting point is to be absolutely honest about the fact that if we allow any form of abuse in our lives, we are allowing abuse – however big or small, energetically the energy of abuse is all the same. Therefore, we are all culpable if we are allowing any form of abuse as we are allowing the energy to continue and circulate. This understanding empowers us to address the energy at play whenever we feel it, knowing it is not the individual, rather, the energy working through them.

288. It feels like society is bursting at the seams with the amount of abuse that is being exposed and this will only continue. We have to see the depth of the depravity before we will be willing to change it.

289. ‘The more our awareness is raised, the more we tend to see abuse.’ Great point Sue – What we consider to be abuse can be relative to our situation .. it is very sobering to be seeing, more and more, the depths of abuse that we have allowed in our lives.

290. When reading about how women, after being raped, can be questioned about their clothing and if they were ‘asking for it’, this shows very clearly how much abuse we have let into our society for this to even be a statement.

291. If we truly want to stamp our abuse in full we need to be willing to see the full extend of it. I know I used to think of abuse as a word that only covers the extreme situations and that it would be exaggerated to use it on anything else. But as my awareness grew so did my understanding of abuse and now I know it to be as subtle as not allowing someone to be who they are in full.

292. What if the subtle forms of abuse we allow in everyday life, the abuse of our body, our partner, relative employee, or employer, is what makes if difficult for us to stop the excesses as all the little bits add up to the big?

     1. It makes me wonder how much do we as a society use the more extreme forms of abuse to distract ourselves from looking at the more subtle forms of abuse? I know a lot of people would not tolerate extreme forms of abuse but are we prepared to address and put a stop to the subtle everyday forms of abuse, like overeating, not listening or honouring our body, being impatient, frustrated, etc? Abuse of any kind will contribute to the energy of abuse, and therefore our abusive choices will feed this force that is currently driving humanity apart.

293. Sue thank you , for it is so true what you share. Right there truth is for us all to see and act on. To stop that which is abuse and move on with purpose and truth. Love the way you are so clear and real in this blog, thank you.

294. Thank you Sue for your up to date account of the abuse we have in our world. Being aware of and addressing the abuse we are in with ourselves opens our eyes to the degree we have in our world today, and in doing so begins the change we so deeply need for us all.

295. It is almost like the abuse can’t be hidden anymore and or any longer. Deep down inside each of us knows the truth of love and brotherhood and we all feel the hurt when this is not being lived. Our bodies can’t take it any longer, the levels of illness and disease are an indication of this too. Abuse often starts with ourselves and with our bodies.

296. I agree that it is really important for us to call out abuse – to renounce what we can see and know from within us just isn’t true or even simply respectful, because the more we normalise abuse the more prolific it will become…

297. You’ve raised a great point here Sue, that abuse is never a ‘joke’, and there is no spin you can put on it to make it acceptable.

     1. ‘Banter’. Well ask the person on the receiving end if they found it funny? In front of their mates, they may manage to force a laugh, but truly…when they are alone…thinking about it…and all the other ‘banter’ that has been thrown at them…not so funny after all.

298. “How come we have tolerated abuse for so long?” That is a really great question and one that we may avoid if we are not prepared to look at all the many ways in which abuse can occur.

     1. One of the main reasons why we’ve all tolerated abuse for so long is because we all know that our individual and collective choices are the reason why abuse is able to exist in the first place and who wants to point the finger at themselves? “Not I”, I hear you cry.

     2. It is a great question and requires absolute honesty to answer and sometimes it is the complete opposite to what we would first think. I can see how abuse is used as a form of comfort, playing less and feeling protected in a way by keeping ourselves down. It’s important to get to what we are personally choosing to then be able to look out at what is happening in the world without judgement or drive to fix it. Each of us eliminating abuse from our lives, is a foundation to support others to see also what is abusive in their lives.

        1. It’s also something we can distract ourselves with in that we have to deal with it and manage it instead of simply shining in all our glory and dealing with what comes of that. It can be comfortable to play less that the all we are.

299. Until attending Universal Medicine presentations there were areas of abuse in my life that I did not even recognise as abuse previously.

300. Reading this I agree that abuse needs to be called abuse, called out and defined by our ability to feel the quality behind actions, words and thoughts. But the question for me becomes Where do I stand by and do/say nothing and WHY? What does the shutting down of abuse ask of me? What is my responsibility?

301. The extremes of abuse seem to be escalating but even so, the smallest abuse, even down to our own negative thoughts, is all abuse. We have the possibility that we can live without this by our choices, so it feels senseless that we choose this. When we change the micro, we also change the macro.

     1. Agree, addressing abuse needs to start with being willing to see it in our own lives in the subtlest of ways. How we are with ourselves, and those around us.

302. The ‘do nothing’ stand is very much part of the slippery slope for abuse to continue.

303. We are dealing with abuse just as we do with comfort, both are commodities we exchange by agreement and arrangement.

304. When we look up the Latin meaning of abuse we start to get an idea of the roots of the word and that it is more like a-curse-that-keeps us from the connection to our essence, so we ‘waste, squander; abuse; misuse; use up; spend; exhaust; misapply (word); curse;’, then is it to waste or squander what we are as divine beings in a way of misusing who we are, so we feel exhausted, or in other-words we are cursing our-self to not be in our essence..

     1. Thank you for this Greg, it puts a new clarity on abuse and self-abuse. Any time I self-judge or accept abuse from another etc., I am cursing myself not to be in my essence – makes sense! The way you have expressed this supports me to feel the foundation I live on and to keep confirming this as my priority.

305. We are all perpetrators of abuse for not living the truth of who we all are and make no mistake this provides the foundation for every other form of abuse to exist.

306. There is a horrific amount of abuse going on in the world and we tend to think it is new, but it’s not. Abuse has been going on for centuries but kept behind closed doors. Now, with access to social media, more and more is being exposed. We could go into overwhelm and say ‘what can I do?’ and end up doing nothing, or we could start with our own lives, and for me that is the place to start, making sure I am not abusive with my voice tones, not reacting with emotion and not judging anyone.

     1. True Carmel. We only have to look at the amount of abuse against children in the Catholic church that has been exposed in modern times to know that it is not a modern phenomenon but something that has probably been practised for centuries. Likewise, with all other forms of abuse – it’s just that the ugliness of it all is now being seen. In the face of this we could just simply give up or we could admit how wrong it feels and look to calling out how we firstly abuse ourselves and then how we abuse others. Not accepting abuse in our own lives is the only way that will inspire change.

307. Abuse has become so common place within society today we often don’t even question it and put up with it instead sweeping it under the rug so to speak. So few are willing to speak out and reflect the truth but how long can such a massive lie continue? The bubble has to burst one day.

308. Physical abuse is obvious, the other abuses that you identify, Sue, are no less harmful and in fact can be said to be more intense because they are subtle and not so easily recognised, hence all the more important to call it out.

309. “In complete contrast, good men can and have been smeared by people calling out abuse when such men have lived exemplary lives.” This is such a good point, and it is the reason why so many of us keep quiet. There is so much fear about having our reputation smeared that we keep quiet and allow abuse to continue.

310. Many today accept intolerable levels of abuse without question. A recent experience prompted me to challenge abusive treatment by a trade company. I chose to do so not for compensation: money was not the issue but the way another human being (myself) was treated. Made worse by the casual, everyday way it was done, without even a flicker of awareness at the level of disregard and harm caused. To speak up, brings attention to and makes another accountable for their behaviour, to do nothing condones it.

     1. Abuse is one thing but then to dismiss it casually as if it were nothing is another huge step away from the essence of who we are. I think I find this more shocking than the abuse itself! Great that you brought this up and called it out.

311. Until we see the level of abuse we ourselves live with and accept we will not see the extent to the levels of abuse in the wider community.

     1. And we only see the level of abuse we live when we start to love ourselves and bring more honesty to our patterns and behaviours.

     2. Yes it all starts with self-abuse first.

312. Equally we can be disfigured by emotional abuse, it can stunt our self worth, infect our relationships and over time corrupt our true posture and movement.

313. The only reason why abuse festers is because of the lack of love. The love that is initiated within a family is what founds a home to found a society and world.

314. Abuse is literally everywhere in every day life, it’s in the person who lets their weight get out of control, or the relationship that’s much less than loving, and these are the “smaller” examples of abuse, not to mention how we physically hurt each other, bully each other, disrespect one another. We need a whole new revolution on how we approach abuse and I agree, we need to stop looking the other way and stand up for what is not right.

315. It’s not uncommon for women to go to parties and find that they have been raped while drunk or have had their drinks spiked. These women are not going to come forward and complain because they will be judged.

316. On the WEB search; ‘here’s what the sun is actually doing to your skin’. Is this not the same what acidic comments do to us without ever being seen? What if we had a camera that would show what verbal abuse does to our bodies, what would it expose?

317. Abuse is rife everywhere right around the world.It is like our new normal and the art has become to dodge the bullets as best one can rather than stand up against the abuse itself and get to the bottom of it.

318. Yes!

319. Wouldn’t it be such an amazing turn around if we started to hear about more and more loving acts in the news instead of all the abuse that goes on. When are we as humans going to say enough is enough. I hear about how mean and abusive young girls can be towards each other from such a young age at school from my daughter and this seems way more prevalent than them being loving and caring for each other. Is this because it is and if so why? Why does there seem to be more abuse going on generally, or is it that is just what we hear about?

     1. To me it is that we are becoming more aware of the abuse as abuse has been always there and was kept covered and hidden. But nowadays more and more abuse comes to the surface and is visible for who wants to see it. The thing is however, what do we do when we see it, do we close our eyes for it or do we call for action and stop accepting any abusive behaviour at any time?

320. A wise man once said that comfort is the bedrock of evil. As evil is anything that does not come from the essence of who we truly are – which is love – evil has been around since day dot. That we don’t see it shows us the degree to which we have crafted a way of living that cushions us from seeing the real horrors of the world and the extent of the abuse, in all its various forms and guises, we have allowed to permeate our way of living.

     1. Or, have we just become comfortable being the three monkeys of; see, hear and speak no evil?

321. We have the world we have asked for and that means that good men and women have stood by and not spoken up when something that was not of truth happened. It is as simple as that, but how long are we going to keep looking the other way?

322. The more aware we are of what belongs in the pot of abuse from the depth of love we live then the more we are able to call it out. At times others may not be in understand or agree or even resist this knowing – however it does not mean we need to shy away from addressing or speaking up. A person may be know that love includes not imposing and being their full self just as they walk past another person. So this person may consider it abusive if someone comes up to them in need or expectation or aggressive in their walk. The important thing is to read the energy before us and address that if needed and not personalise.

323. A super blog Sue that really ignites the call to action to do something about the abuse we do all see and have somewhat accepted as normal life as we complacently stand back and even complain about it.

324. I agree the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will can never hurt me” is not true. As I wrote in this Unimedpedia article: http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/truth-in-words/the-deadly-danger-of-words-should-we-be-licensed-to-speak.html – that refers to that exact saying, words may not break your bones but they will cause far greater damage.

325. Yes, agree… “corruption has always been there but we are now finding out about it more…” Awareness is becoming greater in more and more people these days, which is why what has seemingly been glossed over can no longer lay hidden but be seen and exposed.

326. “The more our awareness is raised, the more we tend to see abuse…” Absolutely. And awareness is raised through self-love and observation.

327. This is an exemplary article.
     Abuse across the board in any form needs to be talked about much more. We, as a humanity, unfortunately will not halt it until such conversations are had and the true harm fully exposed.

328. The Financial Times commented recently that Facebook should be held accountable for its ads, many of which go up with no human intervention and many of which are abusive and misuse people’s names and likenesses. That seems to be beyond the pale – Facebook being paid to help abuse. What about unpaid abuse?

329. Abuse exists in many people’s lives but how many of us are willing to put a stop to it and expose it for what it is? When we see someone not hold back from exposing abuse for what it is, would we choose to stand by them or would we choose to sit back and say nothing? The reason abuse is so prevalent is because we have said yes to it for far too long as a race, and at this time, more so than ever before there is a strong call for us all to stand up to abuse, to expose every aspect of it and give power to our voice to cut the energy that feeds abuse.

330. The scope for abuse has widened drastically in recent times, especially with the internet and social media but more so with the acceptance that many forms of abuse are now the norm. As you say Sue, we may not like it, but we don’t do anything about it.

331. Most of us do not like to admit that we abuse ourselves and certainly not to the extent that we do.

332. When we look at abuse, we often try looking into rules and regulations to determine whether something does qualify as an abuse. Is this the way we go? It doesn’t feel like that to me. Hiding behind the so-called rules and regulations already set to sustain the system itself rather than the well-being and benefit of its affected and wielding them as the very reason why things should be (tolerated to be) a certain way is an abuse. There is no love in that.

333. I was listening to the radio on my way home yesterday and I came in on a conversation talking about a current survey that has shown women don’t feel safe walking on the streets of Sydney at night. A man contributed to the conversation by saying that if women go out dressed ‘all lit up’ what do they expect. I hate comments like that, I hate the society that can allow a tender, loving boy to grow into such a misogynistic man, who can be so dis-honoring of himself and women that he is capable of making a comment like that.

334. I would suggest all that has been presented about Universal Medicine in the media is a form of abuse because there has been no integrity in presenting the truth.

335. I have read something similar to this “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” (2)’ and its true.

336. There is so much abuse around and the final quote captures why, good people have stood by and done nothing, for many varied reasons. There is much more awareness around abuse and it’s harder to hide but we still have a way to go before we understand that abuse will continue until we all begin to look at abuse in our own lives, where we perpetrate it, and where we tolerate it and become more honest about exposing it both in ourselves and others. We are making a start … we have a way to go.

337. Discerning what is love and what is abuse starts with our bodies: if we have numbed ourselves to feeling anything, we numb ourselves to feeling what is love and what is abuse. The obvious ones stand out but it then feels trickier to detect the more subtle forms of abuse- and we then have created the perfect excuse to not take responsibility and stand up against it.

338. Yes, Sue. If we are absolutely honest about abuse in everyday life, we could say that abuse is happening all of the time in one form or another, until we start to honour our bodies and take responsibility for the ripple effect of our thoughts, words and actions.

339. Yes we do need to speak up. And first we need to be honest with ourselves about how much abuse we have ignored and allowed. When we really feel it for what it is we may feel strongly enough to do something about it.

340. “The more our awareness is raised, the more we tend to see abuse” I have recently completed the 2018 Universal Medicine Australian Retreat and one of the reasons I attend each year as more and more of my awareness is raised, the blinkers come off and I see more and more of many things, and abuse is one of them. I see more of the abuse that we do to our selves and to each other. This is important because I also see the grandness that we come from and the huge gap between the grandness and the abuse and from there comes the purpose to live more of my grandness, and less of the abuse.

341. It is a great step forward that some of the abuse in the world is being called out and more and more is being exposed and uncovered, but we need to ask ourselves how are we living our lives, are we contributing to the abuse by the way we are treating ourselves or not, as all our actions add to the pool of energy either for harming or healing.

     1. Great point Jill. Just by is each examining our own lives of what we contribute to and accept as abuse – we are in fact making a great start to changing abuse as a whole.

342. It is incredible how many excuses we have for abuse to not have to call it abuse even though it is.

     1. So true Lieke… because we don’t want to face the enormous amount of abuse in the world, and that we have been an integral part of it all.

     2. To excuse abuse is abuse.

        1. Yes, very simple.

     3. There is no end to the line of excuses we make for ourselves and also go the abuse we accept from others. The excuses keep us in the complacently of not taking responsibility and from also not truly letting ourselves feel the extent and rot of the abuse we allow and excuse. I notice that the more I let myself see the more I become aware of the range of abuse in my life, the world etc

343. Abuse is prolific in the world and it starts with the abusive way we hold ourselves in that allows this to fester everywhere else we see it in life. I don’t tolerate certain abuse now the more I have honoured and loved myself compared to the enormous amount of abuse I allowed when I was incredibly abusive towards myself. Yes we all need to say no to any form of abuse, anything less then love, in ourselves first and then every where else.

     1. This is the beauty of building love in the body and honouring ourselves. It then becomes the foundation and standard to what we hold as love therefore it becomes easy to see what does not belong with that standard hence is abuse. As our marker of cherishing and love deepens so too does our radar for abuse widen.

344. Sometimes when we look at the extent of the abuse that is in fact in society, I have heard people question ‘at this rate, is everything abuse?’ and to be honest when abuse has been allowed to develop and grow as insidious and underlying as it now is, we have to accept that actually a lot of life is based either outright or in an underlying way, on abuse.

     1. The answer is YES pretty much the whole way we live and express is abusive unless we are being truly loving in the energetic sense of the word: http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia/word-index/unimedpedia-love.html

        1. I agree Nicola and the only reason that we can’t see that almost our entire way of life is abusive is because our yardstick with which we measure what abuse is, is actually abuse itself. Abuse can’t call abuse out, only love can.

345. Yes you only have to speak to any adult about certain incidents that happened to them in childhood at school or in the home to understand how these emotional scars can stay with people their whole life and continue to influence their behaviour years later.

346. It is definitely horrific to think of acid attacks and the harm they cause but as you say Sue our words can be just as acidic and just as harmful emotionally or psychologically and yet because we cannot see the damage done we tend to believe that these forms of abuse are less harming and more tolerable.

347. We are only at the very beginning of opening our eyes and actually recognising the massive abuse that makes much of our life. It is not that we don´t see or feel it but that we are not willing to realize it for what it is because the moment we do we are asked to do something about it. It is the comfort or arrangement with abuse that keeps us blind by choice.

     1. That is so true Alexander, when we accept the illusion we have created then it is easy to be irresponsible about our choices but when we truly see the illusion for what it is we are pulled to expose it. So, if we ignore what we can feel then this leads us to feel a greater tension in our body.

     2. It is the comfort of our chosen blindness that enables us to live in such darkness when our true essence is the light and love of the Soul.

     3. Very well said Alexander – which of course highlights our utter irresponsibility in the matter.

     4. The desire and effort to maintain one’s comfort is one of the greatest evils in the world.

     5. The extent to which we are willing to go to, to pretend everything is ‘okay’, is extreme, because we love the comfort or arrangement with abuse and don’t want to let it go because this would mean take responsibility and change our way of living.

     6. Yes, it is an arrangement – an arrangement with abuse that makes us as a society tolerate the intolerable.

348. I would even say it can last many life times. When we are not open and transparent when we get emotionally abused the evil can hide in the back. Because of no scaring or bruising it is not as obvious but when I walk in the streets I can see a lot abuse in peoples bodies, even without the obvious physical injuries. We all can see and feel this, question only remains: do we want to see its impact?! And if not, why?

349. It is quite a list you have summed up for us and it seemed it was endless, abuse is in every area of life. It asks for absolute honesty of us all to admit we all have been contributing not wanting to see and feel what was and is happening and what we have allowed in society, and even closer, in our own lives.

350. Calling out evil and expressing in total integrity to yourself will eventually make a change. Staying silent or becoming judgemental etc are the games of the evil. Only absolute truth and love can stop the energy of abuse. Great you are calling out the different ways of abuse here Sue!

     1. Hear, hear Stefanie, there are many flavours of evil and the more we call it out and expose every aspect of it, the more we are pulled to take responsibility for our choices, the way we live and how we interact with people. When we understand that anything that is not love is abuse, this is so simple. It really supported me to see that abuse is in so many aspects of our lives and it supported me to open my eyes and see abuse for what it is.

        1. Well said Chan, every-thing that is not love is abuse, which means that we are all literally swimming in a sea of abuse; therefore to point a bony finger at a few things and call those out as being abuse will do nothing other than keep our eyes on the illusionary horizon, rather than with ourselves, ourselves being the originators of all the abuse that we say we detest in the world.

     2. yes, well called out and for helping us unpeel the layers of illusion and suitable truths that have build up over the years.

     3. The starting point for change is within oneself and being in integrity and truth oneself is the foundation.

351. Just by calling out the abuse for what it is and not turning a blind eye anymore we allow ourselves to see more and accept less of the abuse that is so prevalent and made normal in this world.

352. Is it possible that we misuse our body, to numb and indulge instead of living our light? And if this is so, how can we be surprised at the violence and harshness we see around us in life?

353. Really great points raised here, thank you Sue. With the #MeToo movement there is a lot more focus on how women have experienced abuse from men, which certainly needs to be aired and paid attention to but like you say I wonder equally how much men who have received abuse from women feel like they can speak up and call it out…?

     1. And do women actually feel their responsibility in allowing and putting themselves in these situations of abuse ?!

354. Fantastic Sue, so much here to comment on, but something I woke knowing this morning was the truth of this comment you make, and the depth and vile acts we fire at each other as women, to bring her down dare she reflect the truth of her sacredness and show up the abuse being lived; “Men tend to be more physical when they abuse, but women can use acidic words to abuse others emotionally: both of these can inflict long lasting effects on others.” Long lasting indeed, lifetimes to reclaim oneself from the point of giving up on that sacredness.

     1. We don’t even need to open our mouths to be abusive, a single stare from a woman can be abusive enough to cripple another.

355. I agree Elzabeth, emotional abuse is often far worse as we can play it down or dismiss it. I see it so often in the little comments and remarks that may seem innocent but are far from it. Essentially any comment, remark or gesture we make which is not honouring the love that another is, is abuse.

356. Great sharing Sue, I love the quote; “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” It means we each have to take responsibility for what is happening in the world we cannot simply just let things be and say nothing. Calling out even the smallest of forms of abuse starts to bring a correction to the way we are living with ourselves and others.

357. Great to call it all out Sue as you have so clearly done. We accepted the abuse 50+ years ago, and even still are now as it comes out what was going on through the decades and is still happening today. This is a centuries old pattern, great to expose it and say ‘NO MORE’.

358. I love that you have exposed more on this topic Sue as it is a very needed exposé for sure in today’s society. What I find more staggering though is that abuse cannot occur outside without first occurring inside and given the levels of extensive abuse we are witnessing outside us in the world today there must be just as enormous levels going on in how we live and are with ourselves.

359. Sue, this is a great blog. You are simply calling out what abuse is and that we need to look at what we have accepted. I love the fact you have done so, with not one bit of emotion, anger, resentment or ‘ra ra’. It’s beautifully written. Thank you.

360. There are many abuses we allow in their subtlest forms that we dismiss or deny as being abuse. If we are shut down to these – our first port of call – then it makes sense that abuse is seen and allowed in its biggest and grossest forms out in society – they are allowed because we allow the subtler ones in first, yet to the body, any abuse is registered as such, whether domestic violence or self-judgment. Being aware of the subtle ways I allow self-abuse and in terminating these behaviours brings an authority to the body that then will brook no further abuse from any quarter. It is my responsibility to say no to those ones I allow daily, much easier then to call out the abuses I see every day around me in my home and in my workplace.

361. Elizabeth its so important to bring attention to what you share here, after all when we start to see all abuse as abuse that is not part of the society that we want then we get to really change the world, one choice at a time.

362. In more careers and workplaces than you might think, there is silencing and oppression that takes place through varying forms of abuse. Whether this is harassment, sexual abuse or innuendo, cyber abuse, discrimination, stalking, sabotage etc. these are all things that we need to start calling out, because they are far from acceptable in any shape or form.

363. There are so many different areas of abuse, but we have only taken the extremes and run with them. In the case of rape, we inflict more abuse on the person who has been raped by taking their whole sexual history into account, to discredit them. It’s no wonder that men and women do not want to report being raped when they get treated as the criminal.

364. Overall this brings to our attention that something is up when we are not celebrating each other in full – when we allow in any form of abuse and do so in a way that is directly opposite to the potential of the relationship. It is something for all of us to look at – where do we allow abuse in and what do we get from it.

365. I feel that there is a change happening as abuse in all forms has be going on for aeons, but I have noticed how we are more able to speak up and express ourselves and say enough is enough. There is a long way to go but I feel we have made a start. And it is articles such as you have written Sue that reminds us not to fall asleep again on this issue.

366. Yes, emotional abuse takes its toll – and people are often the most abusive to their partners and close family. We also abuse ourselves, though many wouldn’t classify harsh self-judgement as abuse. But it is.

367. So true Sue. We have tolerated abuse for so long we accept many of these behaviours as being normal but fail to see their true impact. The manner and form of abuses are very wide spread and need calling out, so we can restore integrity to our global, national and individual conduct and hence return to our true nature, to work in respect for all and in the process eradicate the poison of self gratification.

368. Abuse is absolutely rife, and one of the things that concerns me is those in positions of power such as politicians, police, or in those in religion can use their occupation to not receive an equal measure of the law – and in some cases escape it entirely. There is something seriously wrong with the human race and the way we live for so much abuse to be present and even considered normal. We are not born to abuse and other species do not abuse – it’s not our natural way to be.

     1. I agree Melinda. If we find ourselves in certain positions we have been entrusted with them because they are community based roles not so we can take advantage of them and then of others.

369. Sue, great article on abuse. Reading this I can feel that there is so much abuse that we just accept as ‘normal’, such as companies having off-shore headquarters to avoid paying taxes. This is something that I had not considered abuse but on reflection can feel what an abuse on society this is. I can feel there is abuse in the way we can talk to each other and how we can be with each other and even our own self talk that can be abusive. It feels important to be honest and aware about this and to call this abuse out.

370. Sue this is a great crisp read on abuse and its level within our society and our part in it: “The more our awareness is raised, the more we tend to see abuse” – yes increased self-sight gives visibility and vision to everything.

371. I agree, Sue, it is people doing nothing that enables abuse to exist. We can do something on a small scale by making it known when anybody speaks to us in a voice tone that we find abrasive, that that it feels like abuse. Families, partners, business colleagues, we all do it (speak harshly to one another) and it may be ‘normal’ but it is an abuse that does not need to be happening when harmony is our natural way of being.

     1. When we are not who we are, then we support all that is not who we are. One those is abuse.

372. I agree, we do need to speak up against any form of abuse but we also need to bring it back home to us and look at, address and heal, changing our movements on how we inflict abuse towards ourselves.

373. A deeper sadness is that there are laws about abuse. If we lived in harmony with each other there would be no need for such laws.

     1. That is so very true. It indicates a deep disharmony and ill in our society that we should even consider the need for a law to say Thou Shall not Kill, abuse each other etc because who in their right heart would ever harm themselves or another?

        1. Yes, beautifully exposed Mary and Nicola, how far from our truth have we become already that we need regulations and laws to tell us what to do and what not. It exposes the irresponsibility we live in.

374. There is something incredibly powerful about that final quote… the abuse has always been there in one form or another, albeit that we are seeing a new level of exposure of what has always been going on. But as to the why… well that is because at both an individual level and a society level we have learnt that it is easier to turn a blind eye, to let sleeping dogs lie, to allow the status quo to continue but not call it out. At what point will we learn this is not going to change anything?

375. Treat with cruelty regularly and repeat? That describes going to the gym and working out till it hurts!

     1. This brought a chuckle from within Steve. Thank you!

376. You are so right Sue, the abuse may have always been there in many forms but the time is now to call it out as we see it, Harvey Weinstein is a good example and Facebook needs to be called out more for the evil that it is. The bullies of the world need to know that there will be nowhere to hide.

377. “It is time for everyone who finds any form of abuse abhorrent to stand up and be counted’ – totally agree Sue and we have to start in our own lives because when we allow abuse of any sort in our lives then we do not have the energetic integrity to call it out in another.

378. My feeling is that one of the reasons abuse is being called out to a greater extent among all areas of the world and within every aspect of society is that humanity is starting to ask for the truth on a larger scale, as the way we have run this planet with its accepted corruption is bringing our medical industry to its knees with such high volume of serious multi-symptomatic conditions and increased rates of diseases like cancer and heart disease, not to mention suicides going through the roof.

379. The calling out of abuse no matter how subtle is a reclaiming of one’s body and feelings. What it is saying is do not tell me what to feel, this is how I feel and I will honor it.

380. If abuse is to cruelly mistreat, where is the true place that this starts? We think by having a job, clothes and a car we are looking after ourselves. But what if we have greatly dismissed our true delicateness? And if this is the case isnt the way we treat ourselves, like soldiers in a perpetual war with to do lists, seriously amiss? Admit to this and we’ll see the abuse begins inside you and me. Thank you Sue.

381. Brilliant blog Sue, speaking up about abuse is very much needed. We are currently living in a world where abuse has become normal and only the very extreme cases of abuse get recognised and even then, only a small percentage of extreme cases of abuse get reported to the police. I feel it is time for us to all call out abuse in life without reaction but with honesty and truth. I feel we have a long way to go to get to this point but this change is already coming towards us.

382. Abuse can be so subtle and because we don’t open our eyes fully to see what is going on we say it’s not there. We are only just starting to face up to the most extreme forms of abuse but what about they subtle layers upon layers of abuse on men, women and / or children that occur before our eyes on a daily basis which go unmentioned?

383. I love the quote – if we only speak up against evil when it directly affects us, we contribute to its proliferation.

384. How we are in the world impacts all those around us… if we bring deep care and love to ourselves this will naturally flow on to all our relationships, and inspire others to bring this into their way of living too.

385. How we treat ourselves will be reflected in the world around us… so if we are treating ourselves with lack of respect and true decency we will view that as normal for others too – so abuse starts with every one of us.

386. Abuse is being exposed more and more, but we are also using the same mediums to perpetuate and initiate abuse as are being used to ‘expose’ what’s really going on. The media is used as an abusive tool, way of gaining power as well as threatening and defaming others, yet we praise the ability we have now to come together to expose the rot and discrimination that is happening worldwide through the media. It’s like using a keyboard to kill and then immediately afterwards to be a whistleblower and ‘reveal’ the story of the crime. A half-told ‘truth’ is still a lie.

387. I love this blog Sue, I wrote a blog on abuse once because I am amazed that as we start to be aware of abuse on one level, we start to see it playing out in all areas of our lives. It doesn’t have to be the physical blow that is easily identified, but what we really need to open our eyes to is all the little forms of abuse that all add up and that we are all accepting as our normal every day.

     1. Without the little forms we would never end up with the big forms.

388. It really goes bigger than this doesn’t it, where we need to ask, why do people do nothing? How does this enable the abuse? The doing nothing or just living our comfortable lives provides the energy for the abuse to occur, complacency is an abuse itself.

     1. Thank you MW – it is great to bring awareness to complacency being an abuse. Something that had not occurred to me before.

389. In light of what is being currently exposed about the level of abuse of women by certain men in powerful positions this is such a timely question: “How come we have tolerated abuse for so long?” And it won’t be until we are prepared to be totally honest and expose what is behind the abuse that we will get the answer, an answer that I am feeling many in society will not like to hear.

390. Sue it can be so easy to see all the abuse, all the wrong but actually not do anything about it , to think well my life is much better than that or on the flip side to think – hey lets change the world by marching in the road. Yet none of this has helped us really change anything and yet a growing number of people, inspired by Serge Benhayon, have started to live in a way that is deeply loving and supportive and in that reflect back to the world that we don’t need abuse, that it’s not normal. So with all the abuse in the world the best way to show there is another way is, as presented by Serge, Simone Benhayon, Natalie Benhayon and others, is to live in a way that is not abusive. The more I do that, and I am very far from having that my constant, the more I appreciate the power in real love.

391. Great article Sue, it is shocking to consider the extent to which we have ‘normalised’ abuse in its many forms. Be it bullying in the home or workplace, as you suggest or abuse in its much more grotesque forms such as child molestation abuse is abuse and it is time to speak out against it and and make one unified truth our new norm.
     No excuses no justification simply presenting the facts as they are and allowing a voice to all kinds of actions or inactions that continue to separate us and keep us individuals living devoid of love and connection. Thank you Sue for bringing expression to That which is true and no longer an acceptable way of being.

392. We must always remember to bring this back to how we are living and look to the abuse we have allowed in our own lives in our thoughts about ourselves and others in our words and in our deeds. This is the starting point for calling abuse out. If abuse didn’t exist at this level neither would the abuse in the world as this is the collective energy that feeds it.

     1. So true, Kathleen, it’s easy to feel that there isn’t anything we can do about the horrendous acts of abuse which are carried out on a daily basis all over the world. However, abuse isn’t our natural way of being together, energetically, this behaviour has to be fed from somewhere in order to exist at all. We are all contributing to it’s existence in every moment that we accept any level of abuse at all. Therefore, we all have the power to make an enormous difference.

        1. Yes Alison so the question is are we contributing to the abuse in the world or are we really doing something about it by attending to our own pockets of abuse.

        2. This is true yet can be challenging to accept as it requires a far greater level of responsibility that at present society in general does not seem willing to accept. However, if we do not take on this level of personal responsibility no real change will occur. How bad will it have to get before this is realised?

     2. Beautiful Kathleen and equally so, caring and loving ourselves is the antidote. For me personally, the more I love myself the more abuse gets exposed – both in how I am with myself and others, in how I have allowed to treat me and what I have tolerated in society.

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