Anxiety – a Global Condition

I recently visited family on the other side of the world. It was a long way to get there – three countries and a total of three days. I travelled standby with a young family and had to interact with a lot of people in order to secure getting on various planes.

There were some challenges along the way, but nothing that was not insurmountable; in fact, mostly it felt like an exciting adventure we embarked upon.

However, it could easily have given rise to an enormous amount of anxiety for me; especially because of the fact I was travelling with two children. But I have been addressing my anxiety for many years and now have tools to support me. So what could have been a tense journey was not at all tense for me… it was amazing confirmation of how I have supported myself out of what appears this global condition of anxiety.

As I continued my visit and travelled around, I was interested to observe these phenomena of anxiety; in fact, I observed a deep, deep anxiety that most people appear to be in. And it led me to continue to keep observing and gain a deeper sense of what actually lies at the root of anxiety.

What I could sense, and I have continued to since, is that people feel almost fearful. But fearful of what?

People appear fearful of not knowing how to be; they appear to be experiencing a deep unease and disconnection to a sense of who they are. There appears an unsettlement, a distress and a scrambling panic that ensues.

What I often observe is that when an interaction with anyone else then occurs, an intense anxiety seems to present as we worry that we are not going to be liked; we scramble to connect with the person in front of us but can only do so on a superficial level. Underneath the surface physical dialogue, there appears to be another silent dialogue occurring, which actually speaks the loudest. This expression seems to be communicating things like, “Do you like me if I say this, or act like this, or take on this opinion, this posture…?” And all of this creates a haywire communication; it blocks a natural connection. Each person in the interaction is distracted in the hidden communications, obstructing any opportunity for a steady stillness for true connection and interaction to occur.

An analogy would be like sparks of electricity or energy trying to connect. But it’s all going haywire. This to me explains why we seem so lost and at such unease with ourselves, because we are not actually being ourselves.

I’ve walked this journey and lived in intense anxiety all my life, and I am still fixing up the physical and psychological toll it has taken on my body.

But during the past few years I’ve dedicated myself to a knowing and loving of who I really am and it is this intention to know myself which has led to a deeper ease and self-confidence to be more myself in daily life. There’s always more to deepen and fix, but through self-care and self-loving choices, and supported in particular by Western and complementary medicine – including the Universal Medicine modalities, – I have deepened my acceptance of myself, and I am now far less anxious.

What felt like a very complicated journey was actually very simple, because scratch the surface and there I was. I’d spent so many years willingly giving my sense of who I was over to the outside world to layer over false identifications, the ‘me’ part was hard to find. But finding me I am!

And you know why it is so important to take this journey? Because, if one person in the interaction has an understanding of who they truly are and is steady in that, in a non-imposing-up-yourself confidence, then the other person is supported to connect to who they are. Back to the analogy; when there is just one solid wire emerging to connect with – and not many flailing all over the place – it is easier to make that connection.

It takes a while to shed the false layers of who we identify ourselves as. Education, media, even misguided parenting (with all best intentions), lead us often to feel that we need to be someone or something else. What I am learning is to see the ‘real’ person, and in that I’m more able to support others to make a connection to that true sense of themselves.

Could anxiety simply be not living all of who we really are? We can turn the tide and make the changes. It is possible. I have the scars and the joy to show for it…

By Anonymous

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826 thoughts on “Anxiety – a Global Condition

  1. Anxiety can indeed spread like wild fire between people, as it does too with animals. Just like your analogy of sparks of electricity, it just takes one member of a flock of birds, a herd of cattle or a shoal of fish to sense there is something wrong and the rest will feel the anxiousness and react in the same way almost immediately. And we are no different. But when we stay connected to who we are we do not get affected in the same way.

  2. It makes sense when we have a world and society that is predominantly living from the mind that we separate from knowing our true selves and feel a constant anxiety and unsettlement. If we connect to our body without the distractions from outside of us we are able to listen and honour the stillness we hold within that develops a true steadiness and settlement to our whole being.

  3. The ability to hold and be with ourselves in the moment, builds confidence and lowers the anxiety of needing to be anyone else than ourselves.

  4. The bottom line is we have to get far more honest about anxiety and be truthful in how we actually are feeling about it and expose it as it seems to almost be a true gauge of how connected or disconnected we are from ourselves at certain times.

  5. Whenever I/we leave ourselves, our connection to our bodies and the presence with the moment we are in …anxiety is there. There is nothing more gorgeous that to feel at ease in ones body and being.

  6. Yes of course anxiety is a global condition for if we are not really connecting to who we truly are we are bound to be anxious. It is like swimming along side the boat without realising that we just need to hop it.

  7. Anxiety can be a crippling condition for many people around the world, as we begin to connect more from within ourselves we begin to build an inner confidence and this naturally builds a foundation that we move with which allows the anxiety to subside, until we no longer have anxiety in our lives.

  8. The bottom line for me when I observe anxiety in myself and others in life is that we can’t DO life from our head. It’s like we are all walking around as these heads without bodies trying to feel, deal with and navigate life. Of course that would put anyone into a state of anxiety because without the connection to our whole body, we do not have the tools to navigate what we need to, to respond to life the way it’s asking to be. The mind is just one aspect but shouldn’t be given the role of ‘boss’ – it’s totally under qualified.

  9. Anxiety is a condition that is rife in society today, debilitating many people. We are seemingly at a loss as to how to deal with it, so when something comes along like the Way of the Livingness, that offers support through empowering the person, then there is something to be looked at.

  10. Anxiety is a global issue that could be remedied if we were to listen to and adhere to Serge Benhayon’s teachings on what anxiety is really about and how we can deal with it individually and as a society that can support those with anxiety.

  11. I loved your phrase about ‘finding me’, it does not really need to be a ongoing search for the truth of ourselves outside of us, rather an inward journey of self acceptance and self love.

  12. We have become so used to a constant anxiousness in our body that most of us find it rather unusual and scary to live without, as crazy as that may sound.

  13. The disconnection to even a sense of who we are and the disconnection from even the own body leaves us with no true anchor in life. We are unsettled, and without settlement, we have no place to return to. We live in the anxiety of what may life have in store for us. A true killer.

  14. In essence we are beings of love, love is everything that we are and here to represent. When this love is not part of our movements we feel a loss of sense of who we are, an emptiness, a falseness and ultimately the lovelessness we move in feels abusive a desecration of who we are and it is this that is very unsettling. I have found, as I have in the past experienced and lived with intense anxiety, that developing an honoring relationship with that love I am within has allowed a greater connection to knowing all that I am, to living with this connection and feeling the joy of the fulfilment that moving with this quality brings to not only the life I am living but to all the relationships I share.

  15. I have often observed the level of magnified anxiety people are in when they travel, especially at airports and stations. There is a stressed, rushed, fast paced tension with being on time, being late and beating the crowds. What if changing this dynamic is as simple as connecting, feeling the journey and making more space and time needed for what is ahead?

  16. I can relate to anxiety and wanting to be accepted after noticing underlying feelings of trying to work out what people wanted instead of just being myself. A great line highlighting your healing journey “I have deepened my acceptance of myself, and I am now far less anxious.”

  17. The use of a mobile phones has increased dramatically, its so easy to grab it and look something up, message, listen to music, talk, play games etc … basically distract oneself at any particularly moment when out in public. I wonder if this is a handy band-aid mechanism used to subdue the global condition of anxiety?

  18. Great analogy about the electrical wires. I feel like that sometimes when I have a session with a Universal Medicine practitioner. If I am not been me for a while, and go into an anxious state about that and feel myself flaying around a bit, the practitioner is usually super steady and them, being there to support, so it is easier to bring me back to me and then the issue I had to bring to the table, usually isn’t such an issue. But gosh it feels like it when I am flailing about.

  19. Beautiful point made: ‘Could anxiety simply be not living all of who we really are? We can turn the tide and make the changes. It is possible. I have the scars and the joy to show for it…’
    Our disregard makes ways for more dis-regard to enter. So we are to simply living who we really are — being in regard of ourselves, so that no disregard can enter.

  20. I love the way that you have described this ‘needing to be liked’ way of communicating that is based on a deep level of anxiety. It is exposing too, and perhaps inspires a deeper level of contemplation for when this is happening without my even knowing it.

  21. I wasn’t even aware that I would go in to a kind of anxiousness when tired to get through the day until it was pointed out, there are many forms of anxiousness and they can strike at many different times. It is something that I am more aware of these days and if I’m honest I still don’t have a handle on it, especially when it comes to speaking in public.

  22. Life shows us the truth of our every choice – but if we ignore our responsibility we’ll see life’s events as random and fearful. Anxiety comes then from denying our own awareness and part in this world. We are not a victim at all.

  23. Also when travelling one is surrounded by anxious people and it is quite easy to get affected and caught up in this oneself if one doesn’t work at not allowing it all to affect you. Remembering to breathe is a great tool for this, come back to you true breath. The free gentle breath meditations available on Unimed Living are a huge support with this, especially this one:
    http://www.unimedliving.com/meditation/free/meditation-for-anxiety-and-stress/beating-anxiety-gentle-breath-meditation.html

  24. There is so much in this world that isn’t true, yet we subscribe to. Existing in ideals and beliefs will naturally make us anxious, because it keeps us distant from Love.

    1. Absolutely, well said Joseph. I still find beliefs tripping me up and taking me down a road that is completely untrue and away from the love that I am. Having just come from Level 2 Universal Medicine I can feel myself much freer in my body from ideals and beliefs I have been carrying. With the awareness reawakened from this event it is now up to me to live in such a way that these do not enter and interfere as they have before.

    2. And ideals and beliefs always make one feel like they are not good enough because they set the bar always out of reach. We go into striving and changing ourselves to meet ideals and beliefs, instead of being settled in ourselves and being who we naturally are.

  25. ‘Could anxiety simply be not living all of who we really are? ‘ A great question to be asking, I know I have experienced anxiety at different times in my life and the most powerful and supportive thing I have learnt is to stay connected to my body as it brings a steadiness and a solid foundation that equips me to deal with anything that comes my way. The Esoteric Yoga modality and the Gentle Breath Meditation have been key to developing this quality within myself.

  26. Can two people who are trying to be something they are not make a connection together? Not in my experience. The first thing is to connect within, to who we innately are – then that connection with others can happen, because there is something real and true to connect with.

  27. If we accept low-grade anxiety as a ‘norm’, then extremes look much less extreme and higher levels of panic, paranoia and anxiousness are more ‘acceptable’ too.

  28. Yes just the fact that we have got it all materially so to speak, at least in the western world, and there is still so much tension and anxiety day in day out means there is something about life we are not going to and what if it is our essence? Our true beauty that comes from our soul?

  29. Humanity has chronicled it’s many wars, but the one that has gone unsaid is the battle with awareness and our connection with God. Fighting our divinity is a one way ticket to anxiety.

  30. Anxiety makes our body run a millions times faster, our heart races and we hear it beat faster and louder, I have found that whenever I start to feel anxious the gentle breath meditation always brings me back.

  31. Not knowing who we are and being told constantly by everything around us we are not enough can only leave one scenario if you choose to believe it all – an anxious jittering wreck. Yet we try and play it all cool and that we have it together. Freeing ourselves from such a chain and ball is the best gift we can give ourselves.

  32. What you are sharing is exactly what I’ve asked to learn. To let go of all the identities of what makes me important to know this worth is deep down already there from day 1. And to also experience the differences between Living my worth and not and the repercussions.

  33. ‘Could anxiety simply be not living all of who we really are?’ If we are not living our potential and committing in full to all of our opportunities and responsibilities we are indeed holding back so this is a great question for us all to ponder on.

  34. More and more people are admitting to having some level of anxiety that they are living it. This tells us that we are becoming more and more disconnected from our body because when we connect with our body no anxiety can exist because the body has the answers we seek.

  35. mmmmm ‘Could anxiety simply be not living all of who we really are?’ Yes. Funnily enough I was talking about this in my counselling class yesterday it was like as I was saying it it was the first time I was truly feeling this. So with this analogy ‘An analogy would be like sparks of electricity or energy trying to connect. But it’s all going haywire.’ I would say both are of the same, it we are connected and living who we are no sparks flying out looking for acceptance, recognition etc from the outside world so no anxiety. Awesome blog and as someone else shared in a comment that to fly across the world on standby with 2 young children and not feel/be anxious is quite something so yep you have definitely been working on this!

  36. I love coming into contact with people who do really know themselves and can put you at an ease for anxiety not to surface on any level. I then love the honesty which is born out of this and the level footing to complete any task with ease.

  37. Anxiety is a global issue as most people are in their heads rather than being in their bodies. not being in the body naturally causes an anxiety as it is like driving a car whilst sitting on the roof.

  38. I appreciate the opportunity to explore anxiety, what it actually is and how it feels in our bodies… it is a fearful unease that leaves me jittery and exhausted… at odds with everything. It makes no sense to entertain it and therefore total sense to commit to spotting it and letting it go.

  39. If we are not born with anxiousness, why is it that anxiousness is pandemic around the globe in that the majority of us have some degree of anxiousness?

  40. “this intention to know myself which has led to a deeper ease and self-confidence…” This is confirmation of how self-care and self-love are key in the rehabilitation of anxiety.

  41. I love this “and it is this intention to know myself which has led to a deeper ease and self-confidence to be more myself in daily life”. Life is set up so that we don’t know ourselves, and hence breeds an anxiousness as deep down we actually all do know ourselves, even if it has been a while (or aeons) since we last connected to the truth of that.

    1. Yes, to get to know ourselves truly and deeply is the most beautiful gift we can give ourselves. And the beauty about it is that it is never ending but forever deepening.

  42. Anxiousness and the intensity of it is growing in the world and something so relatable to and much needing the understanding shared here of connection to oneself and living all we are. A beautiful way forward for humanity with the guiding light of the Universe .

  43. At work this week there have been many conversations about anxiety that have offered us the opportunity to explore the levels of anxiousness that we accept as normal. Every conversation that explores this honestly, invites us to consider the possibility that we can live without anxiousness and that it is not our normal.

  44. I remember a time when I was constantly nervous and anxious and it was a feeling I cannot settle in my body. The body was not loving and I didn’t want to settle in it. So in retrospect, when I became more loving and caring for myself, my body became more and more an environment I would like to be in and anxiety started to disappear.

  45. It is encouraging to recognise how through the process of self-care, we come into a deeper level of self acceptance of ourselves, and it is this that is the antidote for anxiety

    1. I agree johanne – yet sadly we do not learn to truly self-care from when we are young, so by the time we grow up we see it as natural to put ourselves last, or we treat ourselves with disrespect, hardness and expectations to fit into a picture.

  46. I have experienced and live with intense anxiety for many years, and the unsettlement of not feeling who I am or knowing how to be. I also now know and experience the antidote for this is to develop an honouring connection with who I am within, and through this connection I know everything that I am and that this is all I need to be. Now I know the only antidote to the anxiety of not knowing is to connect to our essence, that which is all-knowing, ever-present and ever-simple as it is our true way of being.

  47. Anxiety is such a global problem – if there is a way to negate it by a deeper connection with ourselves you would imagine everyone would want to make that return.

  48. “What I often observe is that when an interaction with anyone else then occurs, an intense anxiety seems to present as we worry that we are not going to be liked…” It is this deep set anxiety about what others may think of us that so often holds us back from being all of who we are. But if we can come to understand that we are perfectly fine just being ourselves when we stay connected to that inate inner knowing, then any anxiety simply falls away as we realise we have nothing to prove to anyone.

  49. I too used to run my life in varying degrees of anxiety always looking outside myself for confirmation rather than trusting my own feelings. When I learnt to start listening to my body and accept and value myself for who I am my levels of anxiety greatly diminished to the point now that I recognise straight away when I have become distracted and chose to reconnect back with myself.

  50. From the presentations of Serge Benhayon, I have come to understand just how key the quality we breathe in is, as a support to tackle anxiety. By focusing on the tender in breath and out breath through the nose, the body is soothed instantly to a calm, surrendered and gorgeous way of being that is tangibly felt as a whole body feeling.

  51. I find that the thing that sends me into anxiety the most is time. I can feel so pressured by time, and I spend a great deal of my time racing against time. I am aware of the time all of the time and rarely do I lose track of time. It means I’m always on time, and often early, as I hate the stress of thinking I am going to be late. Giving myself loads of time to do things is the way I have learned to deal with this, but if I feel rushed or squashed by time at any time I find my anxiousness rising.

    1. I can relate to this anxiety regarding time, I know I sabotage myself before I have to go somewhere, and in most cases I am going out of the door just a little later than I had planned, or I check at the last moment what time I have to be somewhere and I see I had it wrong, I had to be their earlier and as you can imagine at these instances I get anxious.

      1. Or I should have said, I choose to get anxious by giving the outside factors more importance than the quality I live within myself. By observing this more I get less caught and can even smile to myself when I see the game that is been played over and over again.

  52. Anxiety is something I definately experience alot in my life. I woke up with the feeling of it first thing this morning. It feels to me that it’s a default setting I have for getting through life. It feels there is another option such as choosing to be gentler with myself, choosing to be steady in life, choosing to speak up about my feelings in life and not having a picture of how I am or life is to be. Or I can stay numbed by anxiety.

  53. The moment we breath Gods in breath in a limited way, which stands symbolically for repose, we manifest anxiety in our outbreath, which then affects our action and movement in life. Just one example of how important it is to breath harmoniously and in tune with the universe

  54. I have lived with anxiety most of my life, anxious about all sorts of things, but pretending to others and myself I had things under control, as I have been more honest wth what I am feeling now I am amazed at the degree of anxiousness in my body that had been buried so that I could live up to an image. learning to accept and acknowledge when anxiousness arises has helped me to discard and heal some of it, but there is still more uncovering to do. Realising I have a choice begs the question why am I choosing this.

    1. Hi Jill, I can relate to what you are saying and am finding many different examples in life where anxiety has been pulling the strings. This has manifested in not dealing with situations in life and essentially holding back my expression. These types of conversations are so valuable and should be commonplace in our daily discussions, maybe then people will feel the levels of anxiety they are covering over with distractions.

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